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There needs to be more older women on TV looking their normal age ...so it becomes normalised. You usually see young women on adverts & TV, and older ladies are either not there or have had an awful lot of work done, and look unnatural. I think seeing normal women looking beautiful naturally on TV regularly would go a long way to helping people know it's ok to look your age and not get work done as the norm.
I once saw a recent interview of Sigourney Weaver when she was interviewed for the new movie "Call Jane" and she actually looked her age. You can see her wrinkles and I love seeing that, for once
Lol the brand is to keep ppl insecurities you can sell products, Hollywood does not care about your feelings however you should no what ageing looks like
And with some men saying women in their 30s are used up and jilted isn't helping either. I constantly see male podcaster saying the wall is going to hit the women faster and they will not get attention and will likely die alone. This fear mongering in young women also creates these dangerous beauty standards.
@mariamejawara448 well please enlighten us what's the root of the problem? I mean I've had times where I didn't like what I saw in the mirror, it's called low self esteem. Once you have that situated then you will be FINE Aging gracefully and FINE not trying to be another person.
I've always been fond of Jojo Siwa's approach to fame - being a bastion of positivity and an icon to tell both her peers and the kids looking up to her that you're allowed to stay a kid for as long as you like. The way she's been compared to Bhad Babie, who's her age and an icon for a child growing up too fast, has always spoken volumes.
@@BroJo676 she’s 19. Yes she can legally drive and vote and live alone but she’s still a teenager. We need to stop acting like the day someone turns 18 they suddenly become a fully mature adult with a fully developed brain and the experience and wisdom older people have
The problem is, youth is associated to beauty. (Which we know, you can be beautiful wrinkly and gray. we will never say our grandmas are ugly, and not just because we love them). That's for the Older half. For the younger half, even if they don't look their age, they don't look old. They just look "otherworldly" beautiful. If you don't have wrinkles naturally, good for you. If you take care of yourself that's amazing too, but the world won't crumble because you lived, had emotions and your face testifies of it. It's a blessing.
I think most of the young ones look sooo much older like twice their age, I don't find the look "otherworldly ", the makeup specifically looks soooo saturated and harsh. If I could define the style I've seen trending is "too much and exaggerated "
I can't help but feel sorry for anyone, "celebrity" or not, who feels so insecure they have to literally have themselves cut and re-stitched into another person. No one knows the true long-term effects, physically or mentally of any of these procedures. ☹️
In the USA, medications and equipment have to go through clinical trials. It's no different than any other medication, procedure or equipment for health purposes.
Getting work done is usually a sign of something not right mentally. Some people like if you have this gigantic fucking nose sitting on your face but people get the most schizophrenic advice of "love yourself and also drastically change yourself if you want too"
@Ia Ctr I'm going to lean on the saying of "absence of evidence isn't evidence of absence" I'm not sure people who walk around looking like leather face from Texas Chainsaw massacre are mentally stable but you can believe whatever you wish.
Also something I think hasn't helped is for many many years teenage characters on screen were not played by teen actors. They were instead played by grown adults in their 20s and even 30s. Meaning teens growing up never got to actually see real adolescence on screen. We need teen characters to be played by teen actors. And for them also to be styled and dressed like actual teenagers off screen.
No we do not, the industry is not psychologically safe for teens and children, until it is, I will never complain about a 20something playing a teen. Please please please read I'm Glad My Mom Died.
@@Zucifer8 i know and I am aware. But like it still isn't a healthy thing to have like people in their 20s and 30s playing like 16 and 18 year olds. That is not realistic. And then dressing those characters is like immaculately styles outfirts and giving them perfect skin hair and make-up like thats not how teenagers look. If you have no choice but to hire an actor in their 20s to play a 16 year old at the very least style that character in a way where its believable that they are meant to be 16. Let them have acne and black head and messy hair. Put them in clothes that look like actual clothes that teens wear like jeans and hoodies and converse. And also have them talk and act like how 16 years talk and act. If the actor has to be older then make them look 16.
The fact that many teens look so adult has really warped people's perception as to what people actually look like beneath all the makeup and fashion - and fillers etc. I'm a nearly 28 y/o who looks naturally younger, and some teens today look OLDER than me. This means I get mistaken for 16ish all the time, even by actual 16 year-olds. I just want to look my age, I'd be totally okay with that. :/
Yeah I’ve been mistaken for way younger too, and I attribute it to being near allergic to the sun, being marinated in sunscreen, wearing hats and now masks, and basically living in my cave of an apartment where the only rays I get are the blue rays from my iPad screen lol I also dress younger (more colorful like JoJo) and I really wear makeup at all, except on rare occasions when I wear more classic makeup (think vintage makeup: red lipstick, baby doll eyes, hardly any contour and rarely heavy eye makeup). Also like JoJo, I have been told I act younger too, have a “young at heart” personality, and have “young” interests/hobbies like Barbie and video games. I was told I look 21 when I turned 30 and that was such a big comment coming from a few complete strangers!
It's the same for my girlfriend. She's 28 yo and gets mistaken for 16-18yo because she doesn't wear makeup or elaborate hairstyles, no false lashes, no tattooed eyebrows, no fillers, no tanning and usually wears casual, very simple clothes. All of these things together make her look a lot younger than most teenagers these days.
I got botox and under eye filler at 29, and have been wearing sunscreen religiously since I was a teen because I wanted to ward off aging. The internal pressure to look young is overwhelming. Sometimes I'm thankful I'm not wealthy because I would certainly overindulge in cosmetic procedures to "fix" all of my insecurities.
@@nordette Yes. But absolutely do your research and chose someone skilled in facial aesthetics, like a cosmetic dermatologist or plastic surgeon. Both the good news and the bad news is that it wears off. I had some mild hollowing under my eyes, and I could definitely tell when the filler started to wear off about nine months later. I definitely recommend that if you need it. I went to a facial plastic surgeon for both the filler and botox (due to needing a growth removed as well), and even he gave me too many units of botox, I feel. I wanted a slight lifting of the brows to help open up my squinty, hooded eyes. The first month and a half, I really felt like I had overly pointed, angry eyebrows. They were lifted TOO much. But around two months, when it wore off a bit, I actually loved the way it looked. Four months after botox, I could definitely tell the effects had worn off completely. (The "brow lifting" botox also got rid of my forehead wrinkles, another reason I wanted it. Just FYI, I wouldn't ever get botox specifically to smooth forehead wrinkles because it can give you very heavy brows.) I haven't had either done again, but I definitely plan to once I can afford it regularly.
@@LKYme thanks so much for your reply, I definitely wanted to address my forehead wrinkles. My under eyes have become dark with a little hollowness as of late but im very scared of fillers. Thanks so much for the tips, your right though there's almost no point in doing it unless you can afford to get it done regularly so I'm gonna have to wait...
I'm 32 and bella & kylie look way older than me. To criticize our full cheeks and to have them removed...i have learned to appreciate our fullness cuz its what makes you you
They don’t seem to understand what actually happens to your face when you age, you lose the volume of fat that you had, so to remove it surgically they are just accelerating the aging process. They are also taking the protective layer away from the nerves in their face. This surgery is just as risky later on to important features in your body as the whole floater rib removal thing is. Why would anyone risk doing either? I will never understand.
We need stories of older, single women having interesting lives (and by interesting I don't mean workaholics only, or cougars only). People don't just disappear when they get 50+. We need fun rolemodels that also happen to be old. (I love the Spice Girls because they are mature women with interesting lives, for example.) We need more movies, series, and even influencers who embrace age.
I wish we lived in a world without these beauty standards, without the Jenners/Kardashians, Bella Hadid, Hailey Beiber, and all the others adjacent to them. These “it girls” are trendsetters and their trends are TOXIC to ALL of society. I’m turning 30 this year and feel myself giving into these beauty standards, not wanting to look like I’m aging. We need to accept beauty and aging for what they are. And we need to accept we all have natural beauty that does not need to give into any of these toxic standards that are somehow STILL getting worse after the last 2 decades of my upbringing and shaping of my own beauty standards.
I agree, but 1) there have always been trendsetters and 'it girls' within every era. Unfortunately it's inevitable. 2) I don't think it's fair to say live in a world without the women you mentioned. Has it not crossed your mind that they also are a victim of systemic sexism, beauty standards and ideals, pressure from the public, their fans and their managers etc? I mean look at Bella and Gigi's mum - she didn't stand a chance 😕 Also the Jenners/Kardashians, Hadids and Bieber are all adult women who can do whatever they want to their faces and bodies. It's down to us to not be influenced by them and to heal from whatever insecurity or low self-esteem we have that is making us feel we have to look like celebrities who don't actually mean anything to us
I agree, but the reality is there would be someone else who would take those positions for the simple fact that sadly, money is made off insecurities and wanting to feel like they assume everyone else feels. But everyone has something they don't like about themselves and unless it is ridiculously bothersome and hinders a person's life (I hope anyone reading this understands what types of things I'm referring to), the key to loving yourself is that you have to love your flaws as well. No one is perfect so really, if a person can walk, talk, eat, breathe, bathe, etc, on their own, life has truly been good to you and again, I hope anyone reading this knows that.
It's honestly sad how every part of our society puts pressure on women and men (but mostly women and girls) to look a certain way to be treated differently. It's not just Hollywood
I mean, when we're young, we want to be old (or older). And then when we're older, we want to be young again. Its basically wanting the freedoms of youth without the responsibilities of adulthood. I guess looking "this way" is a way to capture it... somehow?? But like aging, responsibilities don't go away. You are still ____, no matter how you try and dress it up. Edit: Time always moves forward, no matter what.
i think it's just us craving a life without all the social constructs we are forced to live in, tbh. we have created a world where we have arbitrarily defined adulthood at 18, which in reference to science is nowhere near the peak of brain development.
@@Asoftenkameshee I totally agree with you. Could you imagine how much further society would be if the actual infrastructure (and laws) were able to keep up with the times!? Granted, the key is PEOPLE still changing, but at least in my hypothetical, the actual laws would reflect current thinking. A wish I know.
I think it's all surrounding the idea that the "ideal" age to look is around 25...that's why teens want to look older and adults usually want to look far younger than they are. It's very sad because we're only in our 20s for a short time in life and shouldn't be trying to look or seem that way forever, and definitely not prematurely. Honestly, I do not think the reason we want to stay looking younger is an attempt to regain the "freedoms" of youth that we know we can't have again (and people don't usually try to look as young as a teen who has these freedoms anyway). It's all about the pressure from a patriarchal society that treats women like we're disposable as we age.
I am nearly 25 but I look younger and many people comment on it and while it's annoying I don't really care. I don't wear makeup and use very basic high street skin cleansers that costs like £2 instead of £200 and I keep my hair shorter in length. I am not scared of aging or not looking my age. I don't care if I look younger than I am and that means I will keep constantly getting ID'd to buy stuff. I just wanna look like me.
@@natschi13 i wanna walk through the world with my face and my face being the face that i present to the world. Not some filled in face full of chemicals. That's not my face. Thats a face the world is telling me to have. I wear glasses and my teeth are a little crooked and i have a distinctive mole on my cheek and yes I still get spots and black heads. My skin isn't perfect or clear but I don't care. Those are the things that make my face, my face. I have small tiddies, wider hips, chonky thighs and my belly isn't perfectly flat but i love my body how it is. It's not perfect but at the end of the day it is keeping me alive. It is pumping blood around my body, it's taking in oxygen, it's healing wounds and keeping me moving. Yes I wanna keep my body working but I don't wanna change anything about it.
I only use 3 products: facial soap, sunscreen and an acne cream with painful pus. Facial soap: every day Sunscreen: meh... I don't pay much attention to it, I only use it when I'm sure I'll be getting sunlight (which isn't often). Acne cream: I only use it when I get painful acne (which happens once a year).
'Women only have five seconds to be young and beautiful. Before they know it, they’re old and fat and married and wondering where their beauty went.' Eva Longoria, Desperate Housewives
Unfortunately, youth is beauty, and beauty is opportunity. Beauty, or lack thereof, can influence your life in so many ways. It seems we only criticize cosmetic procedures when they have the opposite effect than intended, either aging a person or looking unnatural, both of which take away from someone's beauty, rather than enhancing it.
I have recently decided to stop dyeing my hair. Black hair definitely makes me look younger than I am, but the task of trying to cover my roots every 4-6 weeks was annoying. I am 52, but because I get comments all the time about how nice and smooth my skin looks, I felt pressure to dye my hair to look younger. I am slowly getting more comfortable in my skin as an older woman. It is liberating.
"Act and Look your Age" is good advice - unless you would like to stay employed. Ageism (in both directions) and Lookism can easily impact our income, and how much kindness and respect we get in the world. The solutions on the Take are always so simplistic.
That's a good point. It's kind of hard enough as it is to be taken seriously as a young adult woman, but it's worse when you're a young adult who looks like a child, like myself.
@@mynameisreallycool1 sure lol. I'm 23 but people usually think I'm 15 (I've been obsessed with skincare and anti aging since my teens, I spend half my money on skincare, still hate myself very much, thanks misogynists) and have never been made felt like it was a bad thing
While there was always a lot of pressure on older women to maintain their youthful appearance, I think things have shifted so much with the rise of influencers. There was, and still is, a huge divide between normal people and celebrities, and not aging was something the average person could just chalk up to celebrity magic. They knew it was something so unattainable, they weren't really influenced by it in a way to take serious action. But an influencer's job is literally to influence us to be (any buy) like them. Even if it's just for show, influencers gain and maintain popularity by balancing relatability and aspirations-we see them as us if we were the best version of ourselves. Facial procedures went from being something just for celebrities and totally out of reach to being perceived as aspirational, but still within reach.
Someone I think deserves a shout out is Naomi Watts. If she’s had work it’s so subtle and she is ageing so beautifully and naturally … it’s actually relaxing and relieving to see and watch
Her lips looks like they had filler. Tilda Swinton is a great example of natural graceful aging. I am sure there are more but the fact that I can't quickly name them says it all. The natural aging ladies need more exposure.
I used to feel this pressure a lot during my college days. I used to take the metro and I used to see this very tall girls looking so effortless and mature. I didn't feel this in school. But fresh out of school and starting under graduation programme made me feel like that. Especially since we had very strict school uniform. So soon my college wardrobe shifted from jeans, t-shirts and sneakers to heels, tops with silhouette and makeup. And now I am 26 I don't feel like doing makeup anymore every day. I prefer just a simple sunscreen, mascara and lip tint. And if someone says anything, all I have got is a middle finger for them. I am tired of looking decked up everyday. I just want to look normal with my hair brushed and just happy. That's it
I was thinking the same about Bella. She looks more and more like Carla Bruni. Especially with blonde hair. But 40 years old? She honestly just looks like she's starving. Not enough facial fat.
At one of my school reunions, a former teacher thought I was 19 when I was actually 27. Granted, I had interacted with him more in middle school than in high school, but it still felt weird. I don’t even know if it was entirely because of my looks. My mother and my aunt both got nose jobs when they were young, and according to my mom that type of procedure was relatively popular at the time. Yet even looking at old pictures the difference was not immediately obvious.
Get facials, drink water, 8 hours of sleep, take care of your skin naturally. I would only consider botox when I'm in my 40s or 50s. Not in my 20s or 30s lol
That buccol fat removal thingie honestly looks terrible to me. Someone further down compared it to "handsome Squidward" and I couldn't agree more. I'm so glad I don't care how I look, or that I'm getting older. It will happen to everyone. I'm also glad I'm black. We barely age. ;-) Thanks, melanin! 😀
When I was younger I hated my full cheeks. Now that I'm older I've realized that it makes me look younger than I am Bec you lose volume in the face as you get older which is a sign of an older face. These young celebs aren't thinking or aware how that buccal fat procedure won't be ideal in the long haul.
@@nekomancer09 I never said aging was a bad thing. I actually said the opposite. I don't care how I look, or that im aging. It happens to all of us. They are free to get the procedure and others are free to comment on it. I would never say this to someone personally, but in a general sense, I don't like it. It doesn't look attractive to me. I'm allowed to say that. Getting a procedure done can't be compared with having natural cheekbones like this. it's how you were born. That isn't what this video was about. This video discussed people artificially altering their bodies and that is what others are commenting on. No one is making fun of someone for being who they are. Quite the opposite.
I know right, I've always thought Caucasians age like milk physically. Yet everyone else - Black, Asian, Hispanic, etc - all look more handsome/beautiful as they mature.
I think something that we need to teach is that we dont go through puberty once, but twice. Once when we're teens, and again when we are somewhere between our 40s and 50s. I mean, think about it: during both 'changes' over the course of a few years, our hormones and bodies change, and always in ways that are new and unfamiliar to us, and often uncomfortable. We feel awkward as hell, miss the way things used to be, feel like everyone is looking at us and judging, and therefore feel ugly and dont want to be seen. But I think 'both puberties' are important times to teach ourselves how to dig deep, accept ourselves, and lean into those changes....because both are LITERALLY a natural process!!!
One of them leads to growth fertility and productivity and the other leads to atrophy and decline . I know what one I'd rather "lean," into but its a good observation !
People young people in general I think have no idea what 30 somethings look like. I'm 36 and people are always saying I look younger but I don't 36 just isn't that old! My friends all look great in their 30s!
Of course it's not old , it's not like you wake up one morning when 30 and poof you are an oldie and you should be going straight to a nursing home😂😂😂. In reality 30s are a strange decade of life - you are still young and yet you are changing in many ways . And it's a cool age to be .
The cheek thing at the beginning is giving me: "This will be a popular look in the future." And I really hope we DONT jump on it. Also, I feel like Martha just started smoking pot and gotten less stress and the lines just faded away with self-love and care.
I think Martha just has good skincare and diet, has decent genetics, and takes photos from good angles. Her neck looks like someone who is at least 55 or older. She looks great, but her neck doesn't scream plastic surgery. Not everyone who is 50+ is going to be super wrinkly or have lots of saggy skin. Many people luck out with great genetics, healthy lifestyle and habits, and a lifestyle that prevents premature aging.
She literally has plastic surgery scarring that you can see if you know what to look for. Usually you can tell around the eyes, nose and/or hairline when it's done for rejuvenation. Lorry Hill probably has a video on it!
I think we aren’t realistic on what aging looks like, it’s slower than we think but I think that people 30 and 40 looking really different is weird because they aren’t old
The only plastic surgery I’ve had was a nose job at 15. I had a badly deviated septum and my nose made me a huge target for bullying. I went under the knife for survival 😂 I’m 32 now and the only kind of extreme skin thing I do is a prescription strength, acne medication for adult acne. The rest of my routine comes off the shelf and only includes two other steps.
It really helped with distorted body image thoughts to start watching international shows! You see natural women and it has helped with me accepting myself just as is!!
This was a really good piece, w/ a solid concluding narrative. Helped me feel better. 30s are an interesting place to be, you’re still in your youth, but are you? Idk. But this was nice.
right it makes no sense. Age gracefully by not aging at all-so basically we’re expected do the impossible. Society’s standards are so dumb and they’re constantly changing, so why even let em get to you
I am 47 and am happy and energetic and people think I am 33. I refuse to be a slave to society on aging. Many of my peers look messed up with botox etc and it hurts my heart they felt the need to do so.
In five years or so people will understand 30 somethings seldom look different than 20 somethings. And, I’m 27 and people comment on how young I look all the time. Some of us just look younger/older for our age..
The sooner we stop looking toward insecure, needy people like entertainers as role models on how to age, the better off we'll be as a society. At 58, I've had zero done. It has never affected me negatively. I like being this age & looking it. I stay fit & eat well. Life is for living, not worrying about your looks. It is a lovely feeling to age gracefully. Let go of other people's unrealistic expectations of how you should look & embrace your beautiful self.♥️
There is a difference between trying to look like your thirty something self and aging gracefully like a fine bottle of wine. Three actresses that I can think of that may have had some work done but look amazing not weird and freaky are Sharon Stone, Helen Mirrem, and Tilda Swinton. That is how you age well.
Society is weird. We're expected to advertise which reproductive organs we have with strict dress codes and pronouns but god forbid you show a pore or a wrinkle.
To me, this discussion is a distraction from the real issue: FEAR OF DYING. Most people don’t like to talk about the permanence of death and we know we can’t escape it, no matter your celebrity status, lack of visible pores, hardcore exercise regimen, amount of books written or movies starred in…death comes for us all. I wish these people would show their fans how to age gracefully but I know that’s too much to ask…
It’s not just celebrities, normal people are doing this too. Met a girl yesterday, smart and incredibly beautiful, I’m talking 5% of the world kind of good looks, and at 23, she was talking about Botox. I was like “you’re what other girls get work done to look like!” Another friend of mine, who’s a decently successful up and coming actress in the country, was talking about the same thing, and at 30 years of age, she already looks younger because her face barely gets lines naturally. I don’t know what they’re seeing, I don’t know what it is, I just try to let them know they’re already genetically gifted and they shouldn’t be ruining it because of an abstract idea that people who don’t care about them tell them. Take care of yourselves, look after your skin, eat well, and when age comes, embrace it. No one has escaped it and no one ever will.
I’m one of those people who’s had forehead wrinkles since they were 11. I’d love to just look my age, forget transcending it. It’s sad that people who have so much beauty and access to resources are often still so unhappy 😕
We have major issues in our society. First off, we sexualize children through tv, film, and social media, and social media causes peer pressure with trends that young girls and boys want to join in on. It's not "trendy" to be childlike now, and kids are pressured to grow up faster and even get surgeries if they get body dysmorphia from online trends. It's incredibly sad. On top of that, people tread women and men over 40 as "old" and needing to be scrapped- it's vile and ridiculous. A lot of this bs comes from Hollywood and trickles down into all other forms of media, and the more people will stand up to it and start seeing beauty in every single age (and teaching kids to not rush into becoming adults), the better it will be. Beauty exists in every age. Looking at you, Helen Mirren and Julie Andrews, gorgeous queens. Society at large just doesn't want to appreciate that truth because it's not profitable- it's more profitable to promote wild trends on social media that will get people to get buccal fat removal. Glad to see so many people in saying similar things.
I think the more "mature" look is usually recognized with a style that either compliments sexuality or accentuates it. Tight dresses, more skin revealing, makeup suggesting fertility or just bringing attention to sexualized body parts, heels to accentuate the calf curve, etc etc.
some people age well, some don't, some just have "features" that make them look older even as a kid & some have features that make them look younger..it is what it is...
You know what's interesting to me. Most 'teens' in media are portrayed by actual adults in their 30's with a level of maturity that comes with it. So it's no surprising why alot of teens today are acting away that they feel like it would people take them as seriously as they think they need to be
I'm only 36 but I've never felt embarrassed to tell people my age. I don't understand why (women) find it so "rude". Who gives af? I'm supposed to age. My skin is supposed to sag and get thinner and my hair will change, etc etc. It's natural.
Age discrimination. This is why many women, especially those 35 or older who don't look their age, don't broadcast it. It limits job opportunities. It can also limit romantic prospects, but I feel it's a good thing to know if someone isn't interested because they feel you're too old.
Like how younger 20s and late teens use "you look 30" as an insult. I think I'm more confident and feel better about how I look since entering my 30s...
I sort of disagree about JoJo Siwa. She was acting like she was 12 at age 16/17 because that was her brand. Funny how when she turned 18 and came out, she's suddenly acting her age.
With Milly bobby brown, I think is naturally like that, since she is very young, people have always said she looks older, and I do not understand it at all. She does not look old because of makeup or clothes, she looks old because that is her aura, her facial features are like that and there is nothing wrong about it.
learning to take care of one's skin at a young age is very important as you only get older over the course of time and it's crucial to learn to take care of yourself, but what these celebrities and sm influencers are doing and promoting is borderline unhealthy and cannot be nearer to natural.
This is something my daughter and I were just talking about. Boomers- most of them that have gotten tweeks to full on surgery (not including body, nose, and lips) didn’t start getting things done til they were in their 30’s. The goal was always to NOT to be drastic. Thus over time they would slowly get things done and then regularly get some maintenance done vs getting a lot done in a short period. Boomers aged just very slowly Boomer celebrities vs Boomer everyday people- celebs often get full face lifts at some point. Boomer gen pop- usually just stuck with injections, maybe ONE full face lift if they were wealthy, if money is a non-issue in their lives GenX - similar to boomers mostly waited to start with injecting. However, they started the full lips. Everyone did nose and boobs but usually waited til in their early twenties. Obviously fake boobs. Injections start late 20’s, early 30’s and they never stop. Wanted more natural looking or lighter face lifts. Usually wait til late 40’s for the face-lift light. Millennials - started injects in their late teens/ early 20’s. Get nose jobs young in teens. Willing to do surgery in their 20’s to create a new face. Body work done more gradually, often deny any work except injections Younger people look older bc of the amount of work they get done and bc they start so young. This isn’t what most of us grew with. Older women did face lifts and even tho younger people are getting facelifts, they get alot done to their face. We associate face with age. As it’s more and more common to start work younger even for everyday people, this is the norm if younger than Millennial. So once Gen X is legit old and dying off, the younger generations will only know people faces that started getting injections in teens and early 20’s and actual reconstructive work in mid 20’s, continue with injections til face lift needed. When that’s the norm, people will “look their age” bc regardless how fake that face is
Im 34, my nephew is 24. We look like twins, or so they say. No work done, we are not rich. Just regular gym bros. This obsession with age has got to stop.
I wanted a nose job in my 20s so badly. But I couldn't afford it, and I didn't put in the effort to save for it. And now, in my 40s, I am so grateful I never had it done. I love my face as it is. And as I age, I learn to love it more and more. The concerns I had in my 20s are not even on my radar now. Please, ladies, just be yourself without the surgery. You are beautiful and unique.
That buccal fat removal grosses me out. I've not seen a single person that looks better or even good honestly after having it done. On the other hand, if a procedure makes a person feel better in their skin, then go for it. It's not for me but that doesn't mean squat!
I feel like a lot of people assume that the sole reason ppl get surgery is bc they hate the way they look, when sometimes ppl feel the need to change bc of the way they’re treated by SOCIETY. Ugly people receive less respect and pretty people get hired for more jobs, don’t have to worry about being judged as creepy or a criminal, and are considered more likable so they get away with things ugly ppl would never. No hate on pretty people, but this plastic surgery and youth stuff is a symptom of systemic issues with how we treat ugly ppl as less than bc we’re not attracted.
My mom (a naturally thin woman) has very sunken cheeks. She’s always trying to do make up to NOT emphasize that. She’s be damned to know that her insecurity is a fad!
I would quote "all is vanity" to this. But that doesn't cover half of it. Old wanting look young, and young wanting to look older. (The latter reminds me of Susan Pevensie wanting to look mature and adult in The Last Battle. One character practically says looking mature is not the same as being mature). It's far more than just mere vanity.
A lot of it is genetics too. Plus anti-stress living. My husband and I get mistaken for 30 all the time. We are 46. But, we are also pretty simple living types. We live in an area thats obsessed w looks. So, access to crazy treatments come easy. Which I take advantage of time to time (botox, peptides, fitness, organic food,etc.) Who knows? Maybe there is a magical mix that some figure out? Some fake. Or, maybe just don't need? I am hoping "nice" becomes the new beautiful tho. People are most beautiful when they are content and happy.
Impossible with the stress, the constant comparing themselves, not being able to afford to make a living, and then it gets worse after aging off of their parent's insurance. Only the rich kids can enjoy youth and even they aren't enjoying it. These poor kids have the stress of the world with no escape because hangouts like malls, arcades, record stores, and movie theaters went of business and they only have late capitalism ghost towns. Tik Tok and UA-cam are all they have for community and social connection.
I'm becoming 30 this year and already have like 15 grey hairs on the top of my head. I don't mind them! The thing is, I have always dyed my hair so unless I get a whole strand of grey I can't exactly take those greys out when I'm dyeing. So I wait until I have a whole strand and then I can take it out when dyeing. It'll look so cool! Women with long grey hair look so majestic
So many ppl are obsessed with comparing themselves to celebrities & influencers, it’s sad. The only competition should be between you, your mind and your body. What can you accomplish through work and mental focus so you’re your best version of you at this moment without unnecessary surgical procedures?… Also, maybe get hobbies & stop focusing on looks 🤷🏽♀️
Here are two problems: 1- The characters of ''X'' teen series are played by youth actors; actors can suffer serious consequences from the entertainment industry or from their parents (example: psychological manipulation, labor abuse, sexual harassment, repression of freedom, etc...). Look at the problems that Nickelodeon or Disney actresses had. 2- The characters of ''X'' teen series are played by adult actors; His physique doesn't quite match that of a teenager, but he is mentally prepared for the responsibility that would come with being an actor. What I would recommend is that the actors be adults but with ages close to those of adolescents (example: actors of 20 or 21 years of age). Stranger Things, Heartstopper and Anne With An E are the best examples of adult actors playing young people, without the need to sexualize or appear older (both physically and psychologically).
For being rebel, as Madonna said, you don’t need to do what the media wants you to look like; when you’re rebel you simply don’t follow any mainstream tendency, being yourself
I am way too lazy to do all that crap. Life's too fucking short. I notice my facial skin aging, and I don't care. That's what it does. Just like a man who works out for hours every day to have huge muscles, doing all kinds of stuff to your face to keep it from aging is just a sign of insecurity. I long for the day when instead of saying, "Man, she looks great for her age," or, "He is SO buff," we say, "She was gorgeous when she was young and now that she's old and has aged gracefully, she's still gorgeous," or, "That's a man who feels comfortable in his skin, not having large muscles and having body fat."
The real problem is within each individual. All we can do is our part. Be yourself, let yourself age, take care of yourself and love others where they are.
That's not a good way to compleliment anyone especially someone older. I am not being rude and calling u out. Just wanted to say that saying someone looks good for this and that is considered rude.
I have never been against plastic surgery but I think many of these trends are going to age very poorly. I do Botox to reduce the pain of my migraines and since insurance denies it through the neurologist I go to a plastic surgeon but I hate the way it makes me look. I feel my forehead looks waxy but decreasing migraine pain from a 9 to a 6 means I don’t care how I look. Many teeth grinders that get migraines are saying masseter Botox has really helped(it thins the face)so I am actually looking to find someone in my area for my daughter to try it. She also worries about how it will look or potential long term consequences but I have literal brain damage from my migraines so if we can prevent that in her without serious consequences it is worth it. Also before anyone recommends it we are on the most powerful expensive migraine preventatives. I really feel everyone needs to understand with these procedures is they don’t know how they will age with them or if over time there will be things we don’t know about now that they will suffer from.
I started to see some fine lines on myself a while ago. I have a very saggy lower belly after 3 children, despite the fact that I exercise and track what I eat. The older I get, the more cellulite seems to take hold on my legs and butt. Sometimes, I look at myself and think "should I get work done? Is now the time? I've held off for long enough...." But then, I look at my three children. I have a teenage son, a tween daughter, and a 7 year old daughter. I don't want my children to see their mother fall into such pressure and vanity, that I would "fix" something that doesn't really need fixing. I don't want my son to look at women as only important and beautiful when they look young. I don't want my daughters to think that looks are all that matter. I don't want them to think they need work done , because they are all so special and unique the way they are. I want my children to grow up knowing where true beauty lives. It isn't on a perfect smooth face, or rock hard abs, it lives within our hearts. I know it is corny and cliche, but it is true. I also want them to realize what a privilege it is to grow old. Some day, I hope to be a Grandma, and maybe even a great grandma if I live long enough. If I get such a privilege, I know my grandkids won't care about My wrinkles, or my lower belly pouch. They will care about the way I will love them and cherish them, and cheer them on throughout their lives. My legacy will be my family, not my 'ageless face.'
I don’t think anyone has anything against celebs having procedures and tweakments to look younger. What’s really off putting is that they make out like they’re all natural.
I can't understand why it's legal for a teenager to get a nose job, lip injetions, etc-yet it's illegal for Trans teenagers to get body altering surgeries. NO teens shoud be allowed to alter their bodies surgically until they are adults. PERIOD. Why is this legal?
I don’t think it’s just the Internet that makes young people want to look older it’s the fact that a lot of us have gone through traumatic experiences in our lives that have forced us to grow older than we actually are (emotionally speaking ) so we try to look that way also. Like if you are going to treat us like adults while we are still teens we are gonna look like that or act like that (sort of you know ) ( just a theory)
Yes this is probably the root of everything. A lot of children are growing up too fast now and aren’t really being respected so a lot of them feel the next best thing is abandoning it for a mature look and calling it something else. It’s just distorting given you hear mature looking kids making fun of the awkward kids who usually look younger than them yet everyone still wants to look young. Not young enough to get bullied but young to have all the caveats which isn’t how life works at times.
People ask my dad about his surgeon all the time. The funny thing is that he hasn't had any work done, his face just looks 20 years younger than it is, but his hair gives his age away.
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There needs to be more older women on TV looking their normal age ...so it becomes normalised. You usually see young women on adverts & TV, and older ladies are either not there or have had an awful lot of work done, and look unnatural. I think seeing normal women looking beautiful naturally on TV regularly would go a long way to helping people know it's ok to look your age and not get work done as the norm.
Here here 🍻 👏🏼
Not just tv. In films as well.
I once saw a recent interview of Sigourney Weaver when she was interviewed for the new movie "Call Jane" and she actually looked her age. You can see her wrinkles and I love seeing that, for once
The British are better at letting women age
Lol the brand is to keep ppl insecurities you can sell products, Hollywood does not care about your feelings however you should no what ageing looks like
It's simple, half of the people don't want to age gracefully and the other half want to be another person.
You said it perfectly.
And with some men saying women in their 30s are used up and jilted isn't helping either. I constantly see male podcaster saying the wall is going to hit the women faster and they will not get attention and will likely die alone. This fear mongering in young women also creates these dangerous beauty standards.
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no, it's not that simple because you're not looking at the root of the problem
@mariamejawara448 well please enlighten us what's the root of the problem? I mean I've had times where I didn't like what I saw in the mirror, it's called low self esteem. Once you have that situated then you will be FINE Aging gracefully and FINE not trying to be another person.
I've always been fond of Jojo Siwa's approach to fame - being a bastion of positivity and an icon to tell both her peers and the kids looking up to her that you're allowed to stay a kid for as long as you like. The way she's been compared to Bhad Babie, who's her age and an icon for a child growing up too fast, has always spoken volumes.
I agree with you but you're not a kid as long as you like. You're a kid as long as you're a kid.
@@BroJo676 she’s 19. Yes she can legally drive and vote and live alone but she’s still a teenager. We need to stop acting like the day someone turns 18 they suddenly become a fully mature adult with a fully developed brain and the experience and wisdom older people have
@@BroJo676 Adult age doesn't mean adult mind.
it's refreshing to see a young girl celebrity not dress slutish for once
Thats why the Drew Barrymore Show is so successful. People love that she has not had work done
The problem is, youth is associated to beauty. (Which we know, you can be beautiful wrinkly and gray. we will never say our grandmas are ugly, and not just because we love them). That's for the Older half. For the younger half, even if they don't look their age, they don't look old. They just look "otherworldly" beautiful.
If you don't have wrinkles naturally, good for you. If you take care of yourself that's amazing too, but the world won't crumble because you lived, had emotions and your face testifies of it. It's a blessing.
I think most of the young ones look sooo much older like twice their age, I don't find the look "otherworldly ", the makeup specifically looks soooo saturated and harsh. If I could define the style I've seen trending is "too much and exaggerated "
They look older, not old. Everyone seems to gunning for the magical age of 35.
I can't help but feel sorry for anyone, "celebrity" or not, who feels so insecure they have to literally have themselves cut and re-stitched into another person. No one knows the true long-term effects, physically or mentally of any of these procedures. ☹️
In the USA, medications and equipment have to go through clinical trials. It's no different than any other medication, procedure or equipment for health purposes.
Getting work done is usually a sign of something not right mentally.
Some people like if you have this gigantic fucking nose sitting on your face but people get the most schizophrenic advice of "love yourself and also drastically change yourself if you want too"
@@Aaron-kj8dv there are so many things wrong with this comment ..
also this just tells me ur insecure lol, why care what other people do with THEIR bodies? such a weird take
@Ia Ctr I'm going to lean on the saying of "absence of evidence isn't evidence of absence" I'm not sure people who walk around looking like leather face from Texas Chainsaw massacre are mentally stable but you can believe whatever you wish.
Also something I think hasn't helped is for many many years teenage characters on screen were not played by teen actors. They were instead played by grown adults in their 20s and even 30s. Meaning teens growing up never got to actually see real adolescence on screen. We need teen characters to be played by teen actors. And for them also to be styled and dressed like actual teenagers off screen.
No we do not, the industry is not psychologically safe for teens and children, until it is, I will never complain about a 20something playing a teen. Please please please read I'm Glad My Mom Died.
@@juliannehannes11 then make the industry safer. Fix the system.
@@lucypreece7581 did you read the comment. She/he literally said “until [the system] is safer”. And fixing it won’t happen overnight.
@@Zucifer8 i know and I am aware. But like it still isn't a healthy thing to have like people in their 20s and 30s playing like 16 and 18 year olds. That is not realistic. And then dressing those characters is like immaculately styles outfirts and giving them perfect skin hair and make-up like thats not how teenagers look. If you have no choice but to hire an actor in their 20s to play a 16 year old at the very least style that character in a way where its believable that they are meant to be 16. Let them have acne and black head and messy hair. Put them in clothes that look like actual clothes that teens wear like jeans and hoodies and converse. And also have them talk and act like how 16 years talk and act. If the actor has to be older then make them look 16.
Preach!!
The fact that many teens look so adult has really warped people's perception as to what people actually look like beneath all the makeup and fashion - and fillers etc. I'm a nearly 28 y/o who looks naturally younger, and some teens today look OLDER than me. This means I get mistaken for 16ish all the time, even by actual 16 year-olds. I just want to look my age, I'd be totally okay with that. :/
It is strange.
I know a 13 year old boy, who is 6'2"
With deep voice
At least he's close to his dad
Uh, no. Everyone knows what people look like without makeup. Makeup has been around for thousands of years.
Yeah I’ve been mistaken for way younger too, and I attribute it to being near allergic to the sun, being marinated in sunscreen, wearing hats and now masks, and basically living in my cave of an apartment where the only rays I get are the blue rays from my iPad screen lol I also dress younger (more colorful like JoJo) and I really wear makeup at all, except on rare occasions when I wear more classic makeup (think vintage makeup: red lipstick, baby doll eyes, hardly any contour and rarely heavy eye makeup). Also like JoJo, I have been told I act younger too, have a “young at heart” personality, and have “young” interests/hobbies like Barbie and video games. I was told I look 21 when I turned 30 and that was such a big comment coming from a few complete strangers!
It's because kids act too grown now in the liberal world.
It's the same for my girlfriend. She's 28 yo and gets mistaken for 16-18yo because she doesn't wear makeup or elaborate hairstyles, no false lashes, no tattooed eyebrows, no fillers, no tanning and usually wears casual, very simple clothes. All of these things together make her look a lot younger than most teenagers these days.
I got botox and under eye filler at 29, and have been wearing sunscreen religiously since I was a teen because I wanted to ward off aging. The internal pressure to look young is overwhelming. Sometimes I'm thankful I'm not wealthy because I would certainly overindulge in cosmetic procedures to "fix" all of my insecurities.
I agree with everything! However, SPF prevents you from getting skin cancer
Is it working? I think I want to start dipping my toes in those waters as well
@@nordette Yes. But absolutely do your research and chose someone skilled in facial aesthetics, like a cosmetic dermatologist or plastic surgeon. Both the good news and the bad news is that it wears off. I had some mild hollowing under my eyes, and I could definitely tell when the filler started to wear off about nine months later. I definitely recommend that if you need it.
I went to a facial plastic surgeon for both the filler and botox (due to needing a growth removed as well), and even he gave me too many units of botox, I feel. I wanted a slight lifting of the brows to help open up my squinty, hooded eyes. The first month and a half, I really felt like I had overly pointed, angry eyebrows. They were lifted TOO much. But around two months, when it wore off a bit, I actually loved the way it looked. Four months after botox, I could definitely tell the effects had worn off completely. (The "brow lifting" botox also got rid of my forehead wrinkles, another reason I wanted it. Just FYI, I wouldn't ever get botox specifically to smooth forehead wrinkles because it can give you very heavy brows.)
I haven't had either done again, but I definitely plan to once I can afford it regularly.
Just got my first botox at age 34, cannot deny that it was actually effective and better than any cream I ever used. I wear off after 4-5 moths,tho.
@@LKYme thanks so much for your reply, I definitely wanted to address my forehead wrinkles. My under eyes have become dark with a little hollowness as of late but im very scared of fillers. Thanks so much for the tips, your right though there's almost no point in doing it unless you can afford to get it done regularly so I'm gonna have to wait...
I'm 32 and bella & kylie look way older than me. To criticize our full cheeks and to have them removed...i have learned to appreciate our fullness cuz its what makes you you
The fullness in our cheeks also keeps us from looking older than our age.
@@emem2863I don’t have full cheeks but I can’t understand why any young person would have that taken out. I’ll have what they are throwing away 😂
They don’t seem to understand what actually happens to your face when you age, you lose the volume of fat that you had, so to remove it surgically they are just accelerating the aging process. They are also taking the protective layer away from the nerves in their face. This surgery is just as risky later on to important features in your body as the whole floater rib removal thing is. Why would anyone risk doing either? I will never understand.
We need stories of older, single women having interesting lives (and by interesting I don't mean workaholics only, or cougars only). People don't just disappear when they get 50+. We need fun rolemodels that also happen to be old. (I love the Spice Girls because they are mature women with interesting lives, for example.) We need more movies, series, and even influencers who embrace age.
like Sex in the city?
@@YearOnACloud Maybe, but it's too focused on men and work.
@@lu-themadpillow2985 True
There will always be stories we will never hear of. But yeah,older women deserve better than to be bashed just because they "dared to age"
I wish we lived in a world without these beauty standards, without the Jenners/Kardashians, Bella Hadid, Hailey Beiber, and all the others adjacent to them. These “it girls” are trendsetters and their trends are TOXIC to ALL of society. I’m turning 30 this year and feel myself giving into these beauty standards, not wanting to look like I’m aging. We need to accept beauty and aging for what they are. And we need to accept we all have natural beauty that does not need to give into any of these toxic standards that are somehow STILL getting worse after the last 2 decades of my upbringing and shaping of my own beauty standards.
True! The older I get, the more things I start calling 'toxic'. Must be all the wisdom age brings.
I agree, but 1) there have always been trendsetters and 'it girls' within every era. Unfortunately it's inevitable. 2) I don't think it's fair to say live in a world without the women you mentioned. Has it not crossed your mind that they also are a victim of systemic sexism, beauty standards and ideals, pressure from the public, their fans and their managers etc? I mean look at Bella and Gigi's mum - she didn't stand a chance 😕 Also the Jenners/Kardashians, Hadids and Bieber are all adult women who can do whatever they want to their faces and bodies. It's down to us to not be influenced by them and to heal from whatever insecurity or low self-esteem we have that is making us feel we have to look like celebrities who don't actually mean anything to us
These people are not the problem. They sell what people want to buy. What we need to change is the collective society.
I agree, but the reality is there would be someone else who would take those positions for the simple fact that sadly, money is made off insecurities and wanting to feel like they assume everyone else feels. But everyone has something they don't like about themselves and unless it is ridiculously bothersome and hinders a person's life (I hope anyone reading this understands what types of things I'm referring to), the key to loving yourself is that you have to love your flaws as well. No one is perfect so really, if a person can walk, talk, eat, breathe, bathe, etc, on their own, life has truly been good to you and again, I hope anyone reading this knows that.
Why TF is Hailey Bieber here??
Selena Gomez has had work done too and she's had y'all fooled otherwise
Selena Fans are so weird...
It's honestly sad how every part of our society puts pressure on women and men (but mostly women and girls) to look a certain way to be treated differently. It's not just Hollywood
I mean, when we're young, we want to be old (or older). And then when we're older, we want to be young again. Its basically wanting the freedoms of youth without the responsibilities of adulthood. I guess looking "this way" is a way to capture it... somehow??
But like aging, responsibilities don't go away. You are still ____, no matter how you try and dress it up.
Edit: Time always moves forward, no matter what.
i think it's just us craving a life without all the social constructs we are forced to live in, tbh. we have created a world where we have arbitrarily defined adulthood at 18, which in reference to science is nowhere near the peak of brain development.
@@Asoftenkameshee I totally agree with you. Could you imagine how much further society would be if the actual infrastructure (and laws) were able to keep up with the times!? Granted, the key is PEOPLE still changing, but at least in my hypothetical, the actual laws would reflect current thinking.
A wish I know.
Well that is why the Elixor of eternal younghood has been craved for centuries sooooo 🗿
I think it's all surrounding the idea that the "ideal" age to look is around 25...that's why teens want to look older and adults usually want to look far younger than they are. It's very sad because we're only in our 20s for a short time in life and shouldn't be trying to look or seem that way forever, and definitely not prematurely. Honestly, I do not think the reason we want to stay looking younger is an attempt to regain the "freedoms" of youth that we know we can't have again (and people don't usually try to look as young as a teen who has these freedoms anyway). It's all about the pressure from a patriarchal society that treats women like we're disposable as we age.
I am nearly 25 but I look younger and many people comment on it and while it's annoying I don't really care. I don't wear makeup and use very basic high street skin cleansers that costs like £2 instead of £200 and I keep my hair shorter in length. I am not scared of aging or not looking my age. I don't care if I look younger than I am and that means I will keep constantly getting ID'd to buy stuff. I just wanna look like me.
amen to that. 🫶🏽
"I just wanna look like me." Love that! Wishing you all the best! ❤
@@natschi13 i wanna walk through the world with my face and my face being the face that i present to the world. Not some filled in face full of chemicals. That's not my face. Thats a face the world is telling me to have. I wear glasses and my teeth are a little crooked and i have a distinctive mole on my cheek and yes I still get spots and black heads. My skin isn't perfect or clear but I don't care. Those are the things that make my face, my face. I have small tiddies, wider hips, chonky thighs and my belly isn't perfectly flat but i love my body how it is. It's not perfect but at the end of the day it is keeping me alive. It is pumping blood around my body, it's taking in oxygen, it's healing wounds and keeping me moving. Yes I wanna keep my body working but I don't wanna change anything about it.
There ya go 👍
I only use 3 products: facial soap, sunscreen and an acne cream with painful pus.
Facial soap: every day
Sunscreen: meh... I don't pay much attention to it, I only use it when I'm sure I'll be getting sunlight (which isn't often).
Acne cream: I only use it when I get painful acne (which happens once a year).
'Women only have five seconds to be young and beautiful. Before they know it, they’re old and fat and married and wondering where their beauty went.' Eva Longoria, Desperate Housewives
True
Meanwhile my grandma is old and fat and is the most beautiful person to me 🥰🥰🥰🥰
@@phoebe4081 We get it, you're above society's standards of beauty and you're very proud of yourself for it 🙄
@@phoebe4081 that's such a beautiful thing to say
@@Choshako why not be proud? I have a beautiful grandmother.
I think we didn’t know what women looked like at 30 or 40. I don’t look like the woman they showed 30 something year olds looked like on TV.
30 isn’t even old dude
@@liilyanarose30 is still a toddler lol
@@sinnsage I mean it isn’t old but ok ha
@@liilyanarose yeah i was agreeing with you! it isn’t! lol
@@liilyanarose i am 27 and people says: oh so young! Like a baby chicken. When i wear lipstick and eyeliner ppl think i am 30, without make up i am 24
old celebs don't look young, they look weird.
Unfortunately, youth is beauty, and beauty is opportunity. Beauty, or lack thereof, can influence your life in so many ways. It seems we only criticize cosmetic procedures when they have the opposite effect than intended, either aging a person or looking unnatural, both of which take away from someone's beauty, rather than enhancing it.
Emma thompson has become even more beautiful with age
I have recently decided to stop dyeing my hair. Black hair definitely makes me look younger than I am, but the task of trying to cover my roots every 4-6 weeks was annoying. I am 52, but because I get comments all the time about how nice and smooth my skin looks, I felt pressure to dye my hair to look younger. I am slowly getting more comfortable in my skin as an older woman. It is liberating.
you look great. I'll probably dye my hair if I grey too much, lol
"Act and Look your Age" is good advice - unless you would like to stay employed. Ageism (in both directions) and Lookism can easily impact our income, and how much kindness and respect we get in the world. The solutions on the Take are always so simplistic.
You are absolutely correct.
That's a good point. It's kind of hard enough as it is to be taken seriously as a young adult woman, but it's worse when you're a young adult who looks like a child, like myself.
@@mynameisreallycool1 sure lol. I'm 23 but people usually think I'm 15 (I've been obsessed with skincare and anti aging since my teens, I spend half my money on skincare, still hate myself very much, thanks misogynists) and have never been made felt like it was a bad thing
While there was always a lot of pressure on older women to maintain their youthful appearance, I think things have shifted so much with the rise of influencers.
There was, and still is, a huge divide between normal people and celebrities, and not aging was something the average person could just chalk up to celebrity magic. They knew it was something so unattainable, they weren't really influenced by it in a way to take serious action.
But an influencer's job is literally to influence us to be (any buy) like them. Even if it's just for show, influencers gain and maintain popularity by balancing relatability and aspirations-we see them as us if we were the best version of ourselves.
Facial procedures went from being something just for celebrities and totally out of reach to being perceived as aspirational, but still within reach.
Someone I think deserves a shout out is Naomi Watts. If she’s had work it’s so subtle and she is ageing so beautifully and naturally … it’s actually relaxing and relieving to see and watch
+1😊
Her lips looks like they had filler. Tilda Swinton is a great example of natural graceful aging. I am sure there are more but the fact that I can't quickly name them says it all. The natural aging ladies need more exposure.
@@Maderlololohio helen mirren
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I used to feel this pressure a lot during my college days. I used to take the metro and I used to see this very tall girls looking so effortless and mature. I didn't feel this in school. But fresh out of school and starting under graduation programme made me feel like that. Especially since we had very strict school uniform. So soon my college wardrobe shifted from jeans, t-shirts and sneakers to heels, tops with silhouette and makeup. And now I am 26 I don't feel like doing makeup anymore every day. I prefer just a simple sunscreen, mascara and lip tint. And if someone says anything, all I have got is a middle finger for them. I am tired of looking decked up everyday. I just want to look normal with my hair brushed and just happy. That's it
I feel you… I’m 30 and when I go out with my husband I always get asked for my ID… is kind of humiliating when they only ask me at the table ….
Bella Hadid looks like 40 year old Carla Bruni, Kendle Jenner looks like a 38 yr old Emily Ratajkowski.
I was thinking the same about Bella. She looks more and more like Carla Bruni. Especially with blonde hair. But 40 years old? She honestly just looks like she's starving. Not enough facial fat.
That's insane, right? Bella is 26 and looks every bit as if she's knocking on 40.
At one of my school reunions, a former teacher thought I was 19 when I was actually 27. Granted, I had interacted with him more in middle school than in high school, but it still felt weird. I don’t even know if it was entirely because of my looks.
My mother and my aunt both got nose jobs when they were young, and according to my mom that type of procedure was relatively popular at the time. Yet even looking at old pictures the difference was not immediately obvious.
Get facials, drink water, 8 hours of sleep, take care of your skin naturally. I would only consider botox when I'm in my 40s or 50s. Not in my 20s or 30s lol
Lol i got botox at 33. Best thing ever
@@jarkachalmovianska7812 and that's your choice. I personally wouldn't do it.
That buccol fat removal thingie honestly looks terrible to me. Someone further down compared it to "handsome Squidward" and I couldn't agree more.
I'm so glad I don't care how I look, or that I'm getting older. It will happen to everyone. I'm also glad I'm black. We barely age. ;-) Thanks, melanin! 😀
Exactly! I want plump skin! Not a face that looks like a Tim Burton character lol
When I was younger I hated my full cheeks. Now that I'm older I've realized that it makes me look younger than I am Bec you lose volume in the face as you get older which is a sign of an older face. These young celebs aren't thinking or aware how that buccal fat procedure won't be ideal in the long haul.
@@nekomancer09 I never said aging was a bad thing. I actually said the opposite. I don't care how I look, or that im aging. It happens to all of us.
They are free to get the procedure and others are free to comment on it. I would never say this to someone personally, but in a general sense, I don't like it. It doesn't look attractive to me. I'm allowed to say that.
Getting a procedure done can't be compared with having natural cheekbones like this. it's how you were born. That isn't what this video was about. This video discussed people artificially altering their bodies and that is what others are commenting on. No one is making fun of someone for being who they are. Quite the opposite.
@@deed2157 People that get these procedures often don't think of the long-term consequences. It's what's "in" not, and they want to follow the trend.
I know right, I've always thought Caucasians age like milk physically. Yet everyone else - Black, Asian, Hispanic, etc - all look more handsome/beautiful as they mature.
I think something that we need to teach is that we dont go through puberty once, but twice. Once when we're teens, and again when we are somewhere between our 40s and 50s. I mean, think about it: during both 'changes' over the course of a few years, our hormones and bodies change, and always in ways that are new and unfamiliar to us, and often uncomfortable. We feel awkward as hell, miss the way things used to be, feel like everyone is looking at us and judging, and therefore feel ugly and dont want to be seen. But I think 'both puberties' are important times to teach ourselves how to dig deep, accept ourselves, and lean into those changes....because both are LITERALLY a natural process!!!
One of them leads to growth fertility and productivity and the other leads to atrophy and decline . I know what one I'd rather "lean," into but its a good observation !
I have never felt more grateful to be poor than now! 😂
People young people in general I think have no idea what 30 somethings look like. I'm 36 and people are always saying I look younger but I don't 36 just isn't that old! My friends all look great in their 30s!
Of course it's not old , it's not like you wake up one morning when 30 and poof you are an oldie and you should be going straight to a nursing home😂😂😂. In reality 30s are a strange decade of life - you are still young and yet you are changing in many ways . And it's a cool age to be .
People forget that Martha Stewart was a model long before she was a brand. She's always known how to look amazing.
The cheek thing at the beginning is giving me: "This will be a popular look in the future." And I really hope we DONT jump on it. Also, I feel like Martha just started smoking pot and gotten less stress and the lines just faded away with self-love and care.
Lines don’t just fade away. That’s not how wrinkles work.
@@cecee3480 That is true
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I think Martha just has good skincare and diet, has decent genetics, and takes photos from good angles. Her neck looks like someone who is at least 55 or older. She looks great, but her neck doesn't scream plastic surgery. Not everyone who is 50+ is going to be super wrinkly or have lots of saggy skin. Many people luck out with great genetics, healthy lifestyle and habits, and a lifestyle that prevents premature aging.
She literally has plastic surgery scarring that you can see if you know what to look for.
Usually you can tell around the eyes, nose and/or hairline when it's done for rejuvenation. Lorry Hill probably has a video on it!
I think we aren’t realistic on what aging looks like, it’s slower than we think but I think that people 30 and 40 looking really different is weird because they aren’t old
I actually loved this take. Very nicely put together references and very up to date! Awesome work
The only plastic surgery I’ve had was a nose job at 15. I had a badly deviated septum and my nose made me a huge target for bullying. I went under the knife for survival 😂 I’m 32 now and the only kind of extreme skin thing I do is a prescription strength, acne medication for adult acne. The rest of my routine comes off the shelf and only includes two other steps.
You do you :) and if you feel empowered and strong in your skin, yaaas! ✊🏼
You didn’t get plastic surgery, you got face reconstruction surgery. Plastic surgery applies to those want to change their nose for aesthetic reasons
@@Pink_pr1ncess true most people just don’t know enough to see it that way
my nose makes me a target for bullying but i just suck it up. it lets me know who the good people are.
@@Pink_pr1ncess meh. disagree. it's all for survival if you're a woman. men aren't doing these things because men aren't targeted for their looks.
It really helped with distorted body image thoughts to start watching international shows! You see natural women and it has helped with me accepting myself just as is!!
This was a really good piece, w/ a solid concluding narrative. Helped me feel better. 30s are an interesting place to be, you’re still in your youth, but are you? Idk. But this was nice.
Its always about social status - there must be something to show you can get it
" These days, it feels like aging well is equated with not ageing at all"
right it makes no sense. Age gracefully by not aging at all-so basically we’re expected do the impossible. Society’s standards are so dumb and they’re constantly changing, so why even let em get to you
That's why it's called age gracefully not clung into unrealistic standards which can more harm you than help you
I am 47 and am happy and energetic and people think I am 33.
I refuse to be a slave to society on aging.
Many of my peers look messed up with botox etc and it hurts my heart they felt the need to do so.
So much of how people perceive us is our attitude.
In five years or so people will understand 30 somethings seldom look different than 20 somethings. And, I’m 27 and people comment on how young I look all the time. Some of us just look younger/older for our age..
The sooner we stop looking toward insecure, needy people like entertainers as role models on how to age, the better off we'll be as a society. At 58, I've had zero done. It has never affected me negatively. I like being this age & looking it. I stay fit & eat well. Life is for living, not worrying about your looks. It is a lovely feeling to age gracefully. Let go of other people's unrealistic expectations of how you should look & embrace your beautiful self.♥️
There is a difference between trying to look like your thirty something self and aging gracefully like a fine bottle of wine. Three actresses that I can think of that may have had some work done but look amazing not weird and freaky are Sharon Stone, Helen Mirrem, and Tilda Swinton. That is how you age well.
Angela Basset & Sheryl Lee Ralph
Sandrine Kiberlain as well. Monica Belucci
Amanda seyfried looks good for her age. She has signs of wrinkles but she still has that air of youth in spirit
Society is weird. We're expected to advertise which reproductive organs we have with strict dress codes and pronouns but god forbid you show a pore or a wrinkle.
Yep. It's insane, but it's the f nature.
To me, this discussion is a distraction from the real issue: FEAR OF DYING. Most people don’t like to talk about the permanence of death and we know we can’t escape it, no matter your celebrity status, lack of visible pores, hardcore exercise regimen, amount of books written or movies starred in…death comes for us all. I wish these people would show their fans how to age gracefully but I know that’s too much to ask…
It’s not just celebrities, normal people are doing this too. Met a girl yesterday, smart and incredibly beautiful, I’m talking 5% of the world kind of good looks, and at 23, she was talking about Botox. I was like “you’re what other girls get work done to look like!”
Another friend of mine, who’s a decently successful up and coming actress in the country, was talking about the same thing, and at 30 years of age, she already looks younger because her face barely gets lines naturally.
I don’t know what they’re seeing, I don’t know what it is, I just try to let them know they’re already genetically gifted and they shouldn’t be ruining it because of an abstract idea that people who don’t care about them tell them. Take care of yourselves, look after your skin, eat well, and when age comes, embrace it. No one has escaped it and no one ever will.
I’m one of those people who’s had forehead wrinkles since they were 11. I’d love to just look my age, forget transcending it. It’s sad that people who have so much beauty and access to resources are often still so unhappy 😕
We have major issues in our society. First off, we sexualize children through tv, film, and social media, and social media causes peer pressure with trends that young girls and boys want to join in on. It's not "trendy" to be childlike now, and kids are pressured to grow up faster and even get surgeries if they get body dysmorphia from online trends. It's incredibly sad. On top of that, people tread women and men over 40 as "old" and needing to be scrapped- it's vile and ridiculous. A lot of this bs comes from Hollywood and trickles down into all other forms of media, and the more people will stand up to it and start seeing beauty in every single age (and teaching kids to not rush into becoming adults), the better it will be.
Beauty exists in every age. Looking at you, Helen Mirren and Julie Andrews, gorgeous queens. Society at large just doesn't want to appreciate that truth because it's not profitable- it's more profitable to promote wild trends on social media that will get people to get buccal fat removal. Glad to see so many people in saying similar things.
I think the more "mature" look is usually recognized with a style that either compliments sexuality or accentuates it. Tight dresses, more skin revealing, makeup suggesting fertility or just bringing attention to sexualized body parts, heels to accentuate the calf curve, etc etc.
right why is that seen as a bad thing. I find the “mature” look so much more beautiful, womanly and sexy 😻
some people age well, some don't, some just have "features" that make them look older even as a kid & some have features that make them look younger..it is what it is...
the first time i saw Bella Hadid, i didn't know who she was, and i thought she was Gigi's mom for a second
You know what's interesting to me. Most 'teens' in media are portrayed by actual adults in their 30's with a level of maturity that comes with it.
So it's no surprising why alot of teens today are acting away that they feel like it would people take them as seriously as they think they need to be
I'm only 36 but I've never felt embarrassed to tell people my age. I don't understand why (women) find it so "rude". Who gives af? I'm supposed to age. My skin is supposed to sag and get thinner and my hair will change, etc etc. It's natural.
Age discrimination. This is why many women, especially those 35 or older who don't look their age, don't broadcast it. It limits job opportunities. It can also limit romantic prospects, but I feel it's a good thing to know if someone isn't interested because they feel you're too old.
because men made us believe women have expiration date
I'm about to be 33, people often think I'm in my mid 20s, I'll keep my chubby cheeks, and continue my skincare
I've always loved Emma Thompson...her voice, her intelligence, her sassy way, oh, and she's gorgeous!
Like how younger 20s and late teens use "you look 30" as an insult. I think I'm more confident and feel better about how I look since entering my 30s...
Martha Stewart's advice: no chlorine in the swimming pool
Me: joke's on you I don't even have a swimming pool 🤣🤣🤣
I sort of disagree about JoJo Siwa. She was acting like she was 12 at age 16/17 because that was her brand. Funny how when she turned 18 and came out, she's suddenly acting her age.
With Milly bobby brown, I think is naturally like that, since she is very young, people have always said she looks older, and I do not understand it at all.
She does not look old because of makeup or clothes, she looks old because that is her aura, her facial features are like that and there is nothing wrong about it.
learning to take care of one's skin at a young age is very important as you only get older over the course of time and it's crucial to learn to take care of yourself, but what these celebrities and sm influencers are doing and promoting is borderline unhealthy and cannot be nearer to natural.
This is something my daughter and I were just talking about.
Boomers- most of them that have gotten tweeks to full on surgery (not including body, nose, and lips) didn’t start getting things done til they were in their 30’s. The goal was always to NOT to be drastic. Thus over time they would slowly get things done and then regularly get some maintenance done vs getting a lot done in a short period. Boomers aged just very slowly
Boomer celebrities vs Boomer everyday people- celebs often get full face lifts at some point. Boomer gen pop- usually just stuck with injections, maybe ONE full face lift if they were wealthy, if money is a non-issue in their lives
GenX - similar to boomers mostly waited to start with injecting. However, they started the full lips. Everyone did nose and boobs but usually waited til in their early twenties. Obviously fake boobs. Injections start late 20’s, early 30’s and they never stop. Wanted more natural looking or lighter face lifts. Usually wait til late 40’s for the face-lift light.
Millennials - started injects in their late teens/ early 20’s. Get nose jobs young in teens. Willing to do surgery in their 20’s to create a new face. Body work done more gradually, often deny any work except injections
Younger people look older bc of the amount of work they get done and bc they start so young. This isn’t what most of us grew with. Older women did face lifts and even tho younger people are getting facelifts, they get alot done to their face. We associate face with age. As it’s more and more common to start work younger even for everyday people, this is the norm if younger than Millennial. So once Gen X is legit old and dying off, the younger generations will only know people faces that started getting injections in teens and early 20’s and actual reconstructive work in mid 20’s, continue with injections til face lift needed. When that’s the norm, people will “look their age” bc regardless how fake that face is
Im 34, my nephew is 24. We look like twins, or so they say. No work done, we are not rich. Just regular gym bros. This obsession with age has got to stop.
I wanted a nose job in my 20s so badly. But I couldn't afford it, and I didn't put in the effort to save for it. And now, in my 40s, I am so grateful I never had it done. I love my face as it is. And as I age, I learn to love it more and more. The concerns I had in my 20s are not even on my radar now. Please, ladies, just be yourself without the surgery. You are beautiful and unique.
That buccal fat removal grosses me out. I've not seen a single person that looks better or even good honestly after having it done. On the other hand, if a procedure makes a person feel better in their skin, then go for it. It's not for me but that doesn't mean squat!
I feel like a lot of people assume that the sole reason ppl get surgery is bc they hate the way they look, when sometimes ppl feel the need to change bc of the way they’re treated by SOCIETY. Ugly people receive less respect and pretty people get hired for more jobs, don’t have to worry about being judged as creepy or a criminal, and are considered more likable so they get away with things ugly ppl would never. No hate on pretty people, but this plastic surgery and youth stuff is a symptom of systemic issues with how we treat ugly ppl as less than bc we’re not attracted.
My mom (a naturally thin woman) has very sunken cheeks. She’s always trying to do make up to NOT emphasize that. She’s be damned to know that her insecurity is a fad!
I would quote "all is vanity" to this.
But that doesn't cover half of it.
Old wanting look young, and young wanting to look older. (The latter reminds me of Susan Pevensie wanting to look mature and adult in The Last Battle. One character practically says looking mature is not the same as being mature).
It's far more than just mere vanity.
Really great topic!
No offense but millie literally looks like she's over 30
The buccal fat removal make them look like Handsome Squidward.
LMAO! I was thinking the same thing!
I wonder if some people end up wanting the treatment area filled back in with Sculptra or dermal fillers.
So well narrated and clipped. Subscribing!
A lot of it is genetics too. Plus anti-stress living. My husband and I get mistaken for 30 all the time. We are 46. But, we are also pretty simple living types. We live in an area thats obsessed w looks. So, access to crazy treatments come easy. Which I take advantage of time to time (botox, peptides, fitness, organic food,etc.) Who knows? Maybe there is a magical mix that some figure out? Some fake. Or, maybe just don't need? I am hoping "nice" becomes the new beautiful tho. People are most beautiful when they are content and happy.
the angle on the photo is everything
Wait Kylie Jenner is not in her 30s???
Couldn t help but notice that about 70 % of commentators here are just bragging how younger they look
Also young people should just enjoy being young
Impossible with the stress, the constant comparing themselves, not being able to afford to make a living, and then it gets worse after aging off of their parent's insurance. Only the rich kids can enjoy youth and even they aren't enjoying it. These poor kids have the stress of the world with no escape because hangouts like malls, arcades, record stores, and movie theaters went of business and they only have late capitalism ghost towns. Tik Tok and UA-cam are all they have for community and social connection.
This video was very well done!
It is bloody expensive to keep up with the visits to the surgeon, dermatologist, beautician, dentist and hairdresser!!!!
But do not neglect the dentist.
I'm becoming 30 this year and already have like 15 grey hairs on the top of my head. I don't mind them! The thing is, I have always dyed my hair so unless I get a whole strand of grey I can't exactly take those greys out when I'm dyeing. So I wait until I have a whole strand and then I can take it out when dyeing. It'll look so cool! Women with long grey hair look so majestic
I really enjoyed this video, thanks you
So many ppl are obsessed with comparing themselves to celebrities & influencers, it’s sad. The only competition should be between you, your mind and your body. What can you accomplish through work and mental focus so you’re your best version of you at this moment without unnecessary surgical procedures?… Also, maybe get hobbies & stop focusing on looks 🤷🏽♀️
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Here are two problems:
1- The characters of ''X'' teen series are played by youth actors; actors can suffer serious consequences from the entertainment industry or from their parents (example: psychological manipulation, labor abuse, sexual harassment, repression of freedom, etc...). Look at the problems that Nickelodeon or Disney actresses had.
2- The characters of ''X'' teen series are played by adult actors; His physique doesn't quite match that of a teenager, but he is mentally prepared for the responsibility that would come with being an actor.
What I would recommend is that the actors be adults but with ages close to those of adolescents (example: actors of 20 or 21 years of age). Stranger Things, Heartstopper and Anne With An E are the best examples of adult actors playing young people, without the need to sexualize or appear older (both physically and psychologically).
"...and that became what they call a thirst trap." Love Martha!
For being rebel, as Madonna said, you don’t need to do what the media wants you to look like; when you’re rebel you simply don’t follow any mainstream tendency, being yourself
I am way too lazy to do all that crap. Life's too fucking short. I notice my facial skin aging, and I don't care. That's what it does. Just like a man who works out for hours every day to have huge muscles, doing all kinds of stuff to your face to keep it from aging is just a sign of insecurity. I long for the day when instead of saying, "Man, she looks great for her age," or, "He is SO buff," we say, "She was gorgeous when she was young and now that she's old and has aged gracefully, she's still gorgeous," or, "That's a man who feels comfortable in his skin, not having large muscles and having body fat."
Omg this is so true. I hate you look great for your age bullshit. And that starts after 25.
Great video 👏🏽
The real problem is within each individual. All we can do is our part. Be yourself, let yourself age, take care of yourself and love others where they are.
Dame Helen Mirren still looks good for someone who is 77 years old.
That's not a good way to compleliment anyone especially someone older. I am not being rude and calling u out. Just wanted to say that saying someone looks good for this and that is considered rude.
Accept you to be the best you. It all starts in the mind.
Maybe it’s a genetic things. My mom is 70 and doesnt have wrinkles too. She takes care of her skin because she has rosacea but nothing crazy
I have never been against plastic surgery but I think many of these trends are going to age very poorly. I do Botox to reduce the pain of my migraines and since insurance denies it through the neurologist I go to a plastic surgeon but I hate the way it makes me look. I feel my forehead looks waxy but decreasing migraine pain from a 9 to a 6 means I don’t care how I look. Many teeth grinders that get migraines are saying masseter Botox has really helped(it thins the face)so I am actually looking to find someone in my area for my daughter to try it. She also worries about how it will look or potential long term consequences but I have literal brain damage from my migraines so if we can prevent that in her without serious consequences it is worth it. Also before anyone recommends it we are on the most powerful expensive migraine preventatives. I really feel everyone needs to understand with these procedures is they don’t know how they will age with them or if over time there will be things we don’t know about now that they will suffer from.
Ironically, I usually guess the age correctly because of people's tendencies to look different than their age
I started to see some fine lines on myself a while ago. I have a very saggy lower belly after 3 children, despite the fact that I exercise and track what I eat. The older I get, the more cellulite seems to take hold on my legs and butt. Sometimes, I look at myself and think "should I get work done? Is now the time? I've held off for long enough...."
But then, I look at my three children. I have a teenage son, a tween daughter, and a 7 year old daughter. I don't want my children to see their mother fall into such pressure and vanity, that I would "fix" something that doesn't really need fixing. I don't want my son to look at women as only important and beautiful when they look young. I don't want my daughters to think that looks are all that matter. I don't want them to think they need work done , because they are all so special and unique the way they are. I want my children to grow up knowing where true beauty lives. It isn't on a perfect smooth face, or rock hard abs, it lives within our hearts. I know it is corny and cliche, but it is true.
I also want them to realize what a privilege it is to grow old. Some day, I hope to be a Grandma, and maybe even a great grandma if I live long enough. If I get such a privilege, I know my grandkids won't care about My wrinkles, or my lower belly pouch. They will care about the way I will love them and cherish them, and cheer them on throughout their lives. My legacy will be my family, not my 'ageless face.'
I don’t think anyone has anything against celebs having procedures and tweakments to look younger. What’s really off putting is that they make out like they’re all natural.
I think its weird ppl try so hard to hold onto their old selves aka youth. We’re all going to die.
The world is that way. Not only the Industry.
And we act like only women has to deal with that but men too deals with that.
I can't understand why it's legal for a teenager to get a nose job, lip injetions, etc-yet it's illegal for Trans teenagers to get body altering surgeries. NO teens shoud be allowed to alter their bodies surgically until they are adults. PERIOD. Why is this legal?
I don’t think it’s just the Internet that makes young people want to look older it’s the fact that a lot of us have gone through traumatic experiences in our lives that have forced us to grow older than we actually are (emotionally speaking ) so we try to look that way also. Like if you are going to treat us like adults while we are still teens we are gonna look like that or act like that (sort of you know ) ( just a theory)
Yes this is probably the root of everything. A lot of children are growing up too fast now and aren’t really being respected so a lot of them feel the next best thing is abandoning it for a mature look and calling it something else. It’s just distorting given you hear mature looking kids making fun of the awkward kids who usually look younger than them yet everyone still wants to look young. Not young enough to get bullied but young to have all the caveats which isn’t how life works at times.
People ask my dad about his surgeon all the time. The funny thing is that he hasn't had any work done, his face just looks 20 years younger than it is, but his hair gives his age away.