I'm currently deep into my Bachelor's in Business Degree specialising in Logistics, and I've just realized how much I despise studying Business overall. I was convinced this was the sort of major I should be pursuing considering how in highschool, I got pretty decent grades in subjects related to business/finance. Fast forward 4 years and now I really find this degree extremely dreadful and difficult to get through as I've lost all motivation and the energy, barely learned anything nor do I had any interest. I've just realized how much regret and resentment I've had towards my younger self for naively thinking business was the major for me. I am actually someone who's had a huge interest in arts, and sometimes I wish I had pursued a major related to art but I was frightened by the "artists don't have a stable future" sentiment. I really want to change courses so badly but I've already invested thousands and are deep in student debt. Watching this video made me feel a lot better as this degree has been haunting me as I can't help but feel so helpless. Great video btw!!
ive noticed a lot of the commenters are creatives who never allowed themselves to be creative, think about this, you wouldn't want to stay in a bad relationship because you've already invested time into it, better to know now and figure a way out instead of being miserable for years more where you invested WAY too much time, I'm hopeful you will find an answer catered to your situation :)
Its not only financially sound but with a degree your more marketable for other jobs you might like. Y u gonna go to school to draw when all that info is online and when have u seen artist who need a min bachelors deg
Don’t lose hope, you can always work outside of your field or pursue a graduate degree unrelated to your undergrad major. I know someone with a bachelor’s in IT who’s in a doctoral English program!
first of all: I love you. second: help! I am in the exact same situation. 26. stuck in a degree I apparently hate. graduating next year. full of depression and anxiety. constantly trying to figure out what I really want to do with my life. but I just can't figure it out somehow. permanently thinking about dropping out of college, changing majors. but I don't know to what. if only I knew what I want to do with my life, everything would be better.
@@LostButFoundDiaries losttobefoundTV first of all thank you very much for your response. really appreciate it! I really agree with everything you said, yet I am still struggling very much and dwell in this depressed and agonizing state. I believe my main problem stems from me having had issues with mental health and development my entire life. especially in my teens and early 20s I had severe problems and setbacks which have impacted me severely. so I never really developed any sense of identity, passion or anything. still I am interested in very many things, but simply feel overwhelmed by all the options that life offers. regarding my major it is a bit complicated: after years of failing in school I finally graduated from highschool at the age of 20. back then I in midst of severe depression and anxiety. I was in a rather toxic relationship from 18-22 and during this time my closest relative and the only person at that time that had ever given me unconditional love was suffering from cancer. yet instead of dealing with all my issues I sunk into cannabis addiction and spent 24/7 in co-dependency with my girlfriend. in 4 years of cancer treatment I visited my grandmother only 3 times. to this day I feel guilty for not being there for her but looking back I just couldn't deal with anything at all. in this state I wrote my finals, barely succeeded. so there I was, 20 years old and a wreck already and had to ask myself the question: "what the fuck do you want to do with your life?" my family had the idea of offering me to do a gap year, which was intriguing. I was offered to visit relatives in the US for an entire year and enroll in some creative courses in college, since I've always been creatively inlined, in hopes of perhaps stumbling across something that might peak my interest. it was a wonderful opportunity. but looking back I was not fit to do any of that. my mental state was absolutely horrible. my grandmother was about to die, my girlfriend hated me for leaving, my family was a mess, I was a mess. yet i thought that I had only this one chance to go, so I went. I went and as expected it was an absolute catastrophe. I've never felt so horrible in my life. while i was there my grandmother died, my family suffered, my girlfriend betrayed and left me, I was on the brink of suicide. after only 4 months i had to abort the whole thing and flew back to Germany. I ended up in a clinic for mental health which helped me a bit. broke up with my girlfriend and tried to recover. in the clinic I had been inspired by all the therapists and their work. so I decided that i wanted to become a therapist. but my GPA was simply too bad to study psychology so I needed an alternative. I did some research and found out that by studying 'social work' one may become a psychotherapist for children and teenagers. I saw the word 'therapist' and locked in to that. I will become a child-therapist I said. and to become that I need to study social work. so social work was just something I needed to study in order to reach my goal. I didn't really look into social work itself and studying it did not really peak my interest. by I knew i needed it to reach my goal. now after 5 semesters of studying I fell back into a severe crisis. in that crisis I realized that I do NOT want to become a child-therapist. I have had issues my entire life and i realized that i probably should not surround myself with metally ill children my entire life. so I lost my one goal and ended up with studying social work in a city I hate, living alone and severly depressed. I have taken antideprsseants for 4 years, but i always hated them. thought they would inhibit my creativity and emotions. now the thing is: I am 26, I have not really been abroad, I have had mental health issues my entire life and i am in my 5th semester of studying something i rather hate. now I ended up in a clinic once again. I got better again, but I am still at the same point: what should I do with my life? the thing about my major is: with many majors you study very general. only few majors prepare you for a specific job. social work on the other hand might be a broad field to work in, but studying it prepares you specifically for being a social worker. and from what I've seen so far there is not a field in social work that really peaks my interest. instead many of them are rather depressing and furthermore do they pay rather little. of course I could tell myself to just finish this degree. but by that time I will be 28. with a bachelor in social work. why? what am I supposed to do with that? and with every year that passes, the pressure gets higher and higher. I seriously don't know what to do. if I knew what I REALLY wanted to do, I would drop out in a heartbeat and change my major. but I don't. I just have too many interests and too little experience. too much anxiety and too little confidence. I finally want to figure out what to do and not live a life full of reget.
Thnx alot for this video :'( im having a break down for choosing architecture. .. even after 4years i still feel worthless . But this vdo boosted my mood a bit
im a freshman and im majoring in accountancy/finance i dont understand ANYTHING from the lectures.. i dont even want to pursue my career with that degree i just tried that degree cuz i had no idea what i wanted in life and now im too much of a pussy to change my degree im lost
Same shit here, I get Headaches everyday and feel depressed, 3 years into the degree and have just realized that it's not for me, have no idea what to do
@@certifiedlover2748it really seems that simple right? Unfortunately (at least in the US not sure about other countries) college is really pushed on you from basically middle school until you graduate from high school so a lot of people end up in this situation and it’s just not right!
im also majoring in finance nearly 2 years already and i hate myself for not transferring programs early on. im just saying if you really dont want anything to do with accounting/finance, transfer as early as you can. i know i shouldve done that but things just got messy and now im stuck. nonetheless i hope you get to take the path you actually want soon
@@LostButFoundDiaries I am happy to hear that! I consider it brave enough that you have a channel where you express your opinions about life in the first place!! It is beautiful what you and many other people do on youtube, opening up about yourself. Please continue sharing your beautiful thoughts, it is inspiring!
Just found this video, and for me, it’s not necessarily a hatred for my degree, it’s the outside pressure I get from family and the extremely high expectations. I had no idea what I wanted to do when I graduated high school, but my whole high school and junior high years I was told that I had to go to college, which was what I did. I started out in pharmacy, which I figured out real quick that I wasn’t smart enough to do, so I switched to health service administration. Now so far the degree is ok, but I personally have never been a “behind a desk” person and preferred to work with my hands as a laborer, but to my parents it wasn’t good enough. I do have a backup plan in case my college career path doesn’t work out, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
I just found this video and it gives me lot of comfort. I'm in my first year of international relations study. IR is my own choice, I like the lesson but I just don't see myself doing IR stuff related in the next 4 years. It confuses me whether I chose the wrong major or I haven't tried hard enough. Anyway thanks for the insight!!
Same here. I dropped out of college thinking that i wanted to become a CMA(Cost and Management Accountant). But...now I don't really know if I like it. I don't know if Accounting is for me. I want to do FOREX TRADING, but again I am really scared thta I might not ending making a living out of it. Ahhh I am really scared and confused at the same time !!
@@yoiiumoi6019 Hey hi! Yes, ofcourse, i can give you a life update. I am in a much much much much better place now. I have actually become profitable in forex trading, i slogged my ass off for a year. And also, i dropped.out of college, and I'm doing my cma course, which is also going very well. I struggled a lot, ngl, i had sever anxiety and depression to a point where, i would get panic attacks once a week. But thankfully i have amazing friends who helped me through my journey. Some gave me a shoulder to cry and vent, some gave me advice on what to do and some even helped me out by letting me borrow some money to fund my forex account. But, after a year, I'm glad to say, i don't suffer from depression and anxiety anymore, I turned 20 in August. I also got myself a part time job as a social media manager in a small business. Fortunately this company that i work for gives me flexile timings so that it wouldn't mess with my academics. My academics: I have to pass 8 papers in total, I'm studyinf to become a Cost and Management Accountant (CMA). I wrotr my first 4 paoers in July, but unfortunately couldnt pass it, i lost 11 marks 🙃 which very frustrating, but at the same time i boosted my confidence because i honestly thought i wouldnt get anywhere close to passing mark. I will be rewriting these 4 papers next year. Right now I'm focusing on the next 4 papers, which i have an exam in the month of January...so...yeah so far so good. REGARDING FOREX: I am profitable only in demo, but once i trade live, my lose trades because i let fear take over. I am working on the psychological aspect of trading rn, like controlling emotions and fear and all that stuff. Heyy whatever you're going through, its gonna be ok. Its gonna be hard, both emotionally and physically. But you gotta push through. Trust me, once you get through that phase, life i beautiful. Take care ❣️
I am a freshman right now and am a Biochemistry major. And I realized I don't like science at all. I lied to myself during high school that this is what I wanted since my parents have always wanted me to pursue medicine but I can't see my self doing any of that. I don't see myself doing anything really. I do like video games but I don't like coding. A university has a major im interested in which is esports and business but I don't know if I should transfer there and get that major since I don't know what career I can get with it. I just don't know what to do.
"esports and business" you say your interested in this, I recommend you calling that university and getting in touch with that major's counselor or someone to talk with them about it, gaming and anything dealing with online work is a huge buisness, there is definitely a career out there for it, you could help manage esports athlete, market esports or games, or with gaming if you like art they always need artists to design the game environment, items, etc, this is ideas coming from someone who doesn't know much about that field so i'm sure when you get in touch with someone in it they have lots to say, good luck!😉
hi guys :) so happy to find people here having the same experiences. here I am, 25, still no job and afraid of covid from my future patients, just graduated (late) after long long tiring depressing years of dental school. want to have digital-related jobs (if only i knew it will be so big) but having no major in math/engineer will actually get me nowhere to be hired.. during my clinical years I found out that dentistry required lots of hand skills, which I don't really have. that's also the reason I struggled a lot to graduate.. still hoping for some miracle T-T
Oof I’m about to graduate from physical therapy school and can relate... I’m currently working in the hospital. I’d love to do something online where i can work from home. Wishing us the best 💜
Hope everything turned out well for you guys! I‘m now 25 and in the 12th semester of my law degree and have to admit I absolutely hate it.. still have about 1 year to go..
I looove this see this my issue is my first degree was 3D Animation I unfortunatly never finished it because of a lot of personal things happening in my life. I moved overseas to live with my dad I absolutly love it. I started a new degree in English language teaching I like the discussions in the classes I like what Im learning I like my professors and classmates but I don't see myself teaching English a career. When I was a kid I hated English and plus Im also Dyslexic I have to study a lot longer than most.I love writing stories and poems my professors said they were impressed with my style of writing but they said I made constant grammar mistakes and mispellings. One of my professors suggested that I should be an author or magazine writer after I graduate. I have huge anxiety now because I want to go back and finish my Digital Animation degree after I graduate but my dad is insisting that I continue to get my masters in English language teaching and then go for my doctorate but all I keep thinking is how expensive that will be and how stressful it will be and Im 31 now and will graduate at 33 and if I continue to get my masters I will be in school for another 3 or 4 years doing something that I find extreemly stressful and doesn't truly make me happy. When Im writing stories or Animating or painting or drawing I feel like Im in heaven. When Im studying for exams or writing research papers I feel stressed and exhausted.
Literally cried watching the latter part🥲 I should have searched for this video earlier, so that I won’t be trapped in the same major as a graduate student now. I feel you so much about how you don’t want to give it up considering how much money and effort spent… We all deserve a life doing we love! It’s okay to be unconventional!
I'm a CS major and I'm absolutely unhappy in it. From the get-go I had no interest in computers; my freshman year I majored in Computer Engineering to please my dad and felt so miserable, I figured a switch to CS would be better/easier. Boy, I was wrong. I'm a writer, and artist, I want to teach and connect humanity. I've been barely, and I mean *barely* scraping by my senior year. I don't know what to do. I wanna quit so bad.
Honestly, I say do what you love and want to do. You do not want to be stuck in a career that you hate for the rest of your life. I say change your major if you are truly that unhappy and major in what you want to do. You will be more motivated and happier with yourself and life. I know its hard to drop something you have been working on for this long and you may feel like youre giving up, but Im a big believer in giving up when its especially to pursue something you love and are interested in. Good luck.
@nehway I knew I was a creative, a person who has the need to create (whatever that may be), I too ignored it all my life and I very much regret ignoring it. However, I'm glad I finally come to terms with it before it was "too late", came to terms that I need it in my life and will not settle for something other people want from me. Not an answer to your situation but something I think you'll relate to
@@LostButFoundDiaries it does help, same with JB, too. I think about how I'd feel down the line if I never did what truly made me happy. Thank you for your insight.
Exactly in the same place, I’m in CS too but always was passionate in film making and planned to do it. But my parents guilt tripped me into choosing a course I really don’t want to do.
I'm crying, I am in situation that I hate so much my degree is a education degree, i thought I could get through for 4 years but my anxiety and depression is killing me. I want to study a business degree, especially economics because I have always like the markets and trading and investments despite that in my country the stock market is nothing compared to the us, or European countries . If I change my parents and relatives would think that I am a disappointment. I don't know what to do. I always tried to get good grades, however I feel it's just a waste of effort for a degree I will not use it and is a worthless degree it isn't like medicine or a engineering that at least have good pay job, so much time wasted and I barely have 1 and half. The worst is that with my degree I couldn't apply for any job that at least I feel interest. I have to visit my shrink, for this kinda problem. Just I have to stay strong and endure as much as I can. You are not alone, well reading this comments I don't feel so bad at the moment.
Heyy i have the same problem and i came to the realisation that parents wont think you re a disappointement if you change your major. You just have to convince them and to make them realize you hate your current major. Good luck i hope you re gonna end up working in a field you like ❤
My daughter is going through the same thing and I mentioned the same thing to her but I also mentioned to her that many of the masters degree programs do not require a bachelor's in the same major. So if you have an inclination for a different major that would be a better choice find out what the requirements are for that master's degree program because oftentimes you can get in with any bachelor's degree you might have to take one or two prerequisite classes. and there is teaching, which for elementary school requires one or two standardized tests plus any bachelor's. or if the bachelor is in a middle or high school subject, only one standardized test and maybe two community College courses in health and computers. If you are not sure if you would like teaching I recommend being a substitute teacher after your bachelor's degree. that is a good part time job too because you can say no when they call you early morning to come in. in California you also need a standardized test and a background check. this will allow you to see what it's like being a teacher. even though managing kids can be more challenging as a sub as you probably know. And some schools the kids are more challenging regarding their behavior than other schools.
I don’t know how to start this but I think I just got into a wrong major and I can’t go back. I’m a scholarship student and I signed the contract that I can’t drop out, change major nor do worse than GPA 3 in classor my parents will have to pay the penalty fee which I believe is a lot. The reason I agreed with the scholarship is I saw the opportunity and it was 100%. I didn’t do enough research on the subject and was surprised as it is different from my expectation. I study Communication Strategy and Ideation and thought it has nothing to do with media, I thought it would be more business-related but I was so wrong. That’s why I’m regretting it now but I can’t go back. I wanted to be a doctor like my dad but was too afraid that I wouldn’t make the entrance exam and I’m so lost now. I’m still in semester 2 year 1 btw.
I can so relate to the I don't know what i want to do, but I'm actually fooling myself. I'm currently in my last year undergrad. I study plant and soil science and minor in visual arts. I found out that I loved my minor more than my major. I wanted to combine the 2 fields so I finally chose landscape architecture. Its honestly so hard to finish a degree you hate. I'm struggling lol
coincidentally I worked at a soil lab, shadowed at a landscape architecture firm, and studied architecture for a bit and I think your interest in plant, soil, and arts is perfect for landscape architecture, your knowledge in plants will help a lot because a good portion of the landscape architects work is to choose fitting plants for the land they are designing, plants aren't only for decoration but also serve a purpose for the environment they are in. My school has a masters program for landscape architecture w/o having a BA in it, maybe you could look into a school with similar prerequisite. Before deciding to do so always talk with someone in the field 😊
To tell a personal story, I graduated with a graphic design degree almost two years ago. The curriculum didn’t focus on art, drawing, or animation like my advisor said it would. They only taught about using adobe cc software to make flyers and crap. What’s worse is I can’t help but have regret since I’ve gotten into the same situation in grad school where I’m graduating with a major I ended up hating. Maybe it’s a reality vs. fantasy thing or I was young and dumb. Honestly, I think I really don’t like school and I should just study art on my own terms. As a stubborn artsy person, I fear I may never be satisfied, but I don’t want to completely regret the experiences I had because I learned a lot about what I dislike and like in college. In undergrad I found out graphic design was not the same as art and that I had a one dimensional interest in art (i only loved cartoons). Then in grad school, I found out I was a crappy writer and never actually wrote a complete coherent story in my life. Unfortunately, this story doesn’t have a happy ending yet, but I hope to get past these feelings of regret one day.
thank you for sharing your story, I as well don't completely regret my college experience because I got to do a lot of discovery but I do have regret as I wish I could've used my time more wisely when I had the title of a "student" (i'm also trying to get past the feelings of regret haha) You seem to have more life experiences than I do, and if I may ask, What do you recommend for those who want to go to grad school? My friend wants to do grad school because she's in the same boat as me (doesn't want to fulfill her major) i dont think it's the best idea considering she doesn't know for sure if she'll like the major, but at the same time having the title "student" does open a lot of doors (ie. interning), since you have done grad school and it seems you regret doing it what was your take away?
LostToBeFound I’d say if your going to do grad school, make sure you’re passionate about the subject and think about the job you want to get before picking a major. Especially if it’s creative.
I'm glad to see this comment I'm the same I wanna pursue art on my own thought it's such a big risk But my parents forced me to enroll in English major so that I would just go to college I wish I could at least go to graphic design but I couldn't since there my highschool major was not art (in my country we have highschool majors but they are too generic like math and art etc...) Even back then my parents forced me not to choose art and those 3 years of highschool were like hell I really wanna drop out of school now
I only have two more classes left for my degree program and I feel like I want to switch but I’m freaking out feeling like I wasted all this time. This helps a lot though.
There's something raw about the video presentation. It really feels like a sincere message that I don't find in many UA-cam videos similar to this. Great stuff! Made me feel a lot better about my journey as an unenthusiastic chemical engineering student.
this is really me right now :/ im in my second last year doing a business degree and I've known for awhile that I really don't like business as a whole but I didn't know what else I would rather study and I didn't want to take time off because of a combination of parental expectations, simply not wanting to, and not having the funds to go off for a year to "find myself". i even changed my major within business from accounting to operations management and every semester im just wondering what on earth I'm doing with my life. I haven't pursued internships or networking as much as I should have because of fear and now I'm about to finish up this degree with no relevant experience and I'm terrified. I always wanted to do art in high school but didn't even allow myself to consider it because I thought money would be enough to motivate me and it really isn't. Sometimes I think i could be okay with a typical 9-5 with an office and free lunches and whatever else the corporate life gives you and other times I think I would 100% waste away into a miserable depression if I did that. I want to work on my art again but everytime I sit down I can't bring myself to start or I feel like I should be working on schoolwork instead. I feel like an idiot because I could have hustled and gotten a well paying business job and be set for life but I always felt out of place and uncomfortable in that atmosphere and I find comfort in knowing there are others like me and others who don't work in the field they studied but it seems like such a far off future that I can't imagine what I will end up doing
Same boat. I just graduated last month with a bachelors in biochem and knew i wanted to do art instead. But i didnt think it was lucrative and people around me said that too so here i am. I finally took an art class in my last semester and felt at home. So now im going to chase that.
I just realized that I don't like my major. There's something that I want to pursue this degree but eventually I am now unmotivated. I enrolled in Psychology and I feel so much doubt if I can make it or not. I feel so dumb not thinking what I really wanted to be. I have this passion in arts but it's too late now to change course because I already enrolled in psych. Just sharing.
same situation, but with nursing. i took it bc my parents wanted to and bc i see the purpose of it (i like helping people too so it was a bonus), but now that i'm in this course and i'm doing some things that nurses do i realized that i actually don't like it :// i still love helping people, but i just think nursing isn't for me and i like to take sumn else but idk hnnggggg
advice for anyone, take volunteering hours or community service in the degree you chose to study to know if it really is for you or go for what you are passionate for no matter how unrealistic it looks is for everyone, if you what you are passionate about, everything will fall into place.
I have that problem, I’m studying a three year environmental chemistry job heavily based on the chemistry part and I HATE IT. Being put in a laboratory and being told to just mix chemicals is so scary. I actually got a anxiety and panic attacks because of laboratory (well I guess I have anxiety for much longer but never experienced panic attacks). I got them in the really early beginning of the school year/job studying. And since then I get all about 3-6monthes such a „mood“ like I actually really want to end this job studying and do something different. The idea is always there but never extremely present (more like, I know I don’t want that job but I need the thing to have finished it so that I can study something different with it(the fact that I finished it)). But actually it messes me up. I know I never want to work in a laboratory but 99% of the jobs are lab jobs. These panic attacks and stuff are horrible. Last year at the end in November I think. I had a really bad breakdown actually I had suicide thoughts and something like a eating disorder (I think I have light depression maybe but the eating disorder was new, even tho I know u can’t label it like that when it goes away in about a week again). But it felt so strange. I know this job doesn’t make me happy and never will. It makes my mental health bad. But everytime I think of quitting I’m like „but maybe there will be a interesting thing in the second year that I want to do“ Tho and I love my friends at school :(
I'm a statistics major about to finish my prerequisites and my calculus class and get into my upper-level major courses. I'm terrified to say the least. I always did really well in my coursework up until this point but I'm terrified that I'm not good enough for this upper-level stuff on nonparametric methods and multivariate analysis. I don't know if I just have a case of imposter syndrome but for some reason I have this unshakeable feeling that I don't have what it takes to be brilliant in my major.
I am on track to finishing my master's in statistics, so I believe I can give some advice. First of all, if thousands of people have obtained a degree in math/stats, why can't you? The formula for succeeding academically, is simple: attend lecture prepared, study study and study, and keep yourself healthy. Also, it helps to change your perspective on the future. Why not be grateful and excited that you have the opportunity to challenge yourself and make progress as a future statistician? If you focus on learning as opposed to passing the class, you'll do much better. P.S. Non parametric statistics and multivariate data analysis are fun classes since you get to see the application it has on the real world. P.S. P.S. There are only a handful of people that are considered brilliant in their respective fields. Don't focus on being brilliant, but in being an efficient and competent statistician.
What's good about Stats and Math is if you finish your degree you can transition into another field. I wish I'd majored in Mathematics but i am majoring in International Business minor in statistics instead 🙃 I'll probably end up in marketing
I felt this so hard. and my parents said they won't support me if i don't put all my effort into my college degree and get the job they want me to (an engineer), even if i'm passionate abt smth else and have more potential in it. I'm a freshman in college studying CS btw. I felt this to an extent. A lot actually. I'm quite sad and existential a lot of the time.
goodness I remember freshman year, if it makes you feel any better you're ahead of a lot of people for the simple fact you know/acknowledge what you want and your potentials. Now it's only a matter of understanding the control you have over your life (I know it can be hard with strict parents), I recommend watching my video "for those who are *willing* to take that first step to change"
@@LostButFoundDiaries okk thanks! I will definitely watch that!!! i want to break myself apart from them financially too bc i rely on them in that sense and that gives them leverage over me.
thanks for sharing up till this moment i thought me and few others are going through alone, i also don't like my major and nowadays im so into my head and im doubting my choices and myself too, this major is safe and can provide me a financial stability but i don't enjoy it and im so afraid of regret after i graduate and im afraid that i won't be good at it in real life. i don't know what to do. i know that this major is my best choice but what if it was more than i can do? only if i know what i like or what im passionate about. maybe if i started my own business and had a plan then i'll be relief. idk
I related to your comment so much I address your comment in my new video and made it my thumbnail 😅 (if you don't want your comment as the thumbnail, let me know and I will change it asap!)
That's meeee in so many ways, for now, i'll type this comment and i'll get back to it every now and then and make an update on my state. Right now i'm totally lost in so many ways, but i'm pretty sure that i'll start doing what i needed to do 5 years ago. It really hurts thinking of 5 lost years at the best stage of age, but as you said, fuck it, i think that the most important thing i learned from this tough experience is being the leader of my own life and not give compromises on my major life decisions according to what people think especially people close to me. I came to the realization that i'm the best who can understand me and what i really need. Even if tough, think of your journey as an adventure and this will ease things up and give u joy through challenges. ciao
@@decalcomania6481 thanks, yeah my year's resolution for now, is that life is not a race at all, i should be disciplined, i should work hard, but i should not panic or worry that i'm late or so.
Well guys.. almost 7 lost years for me 😅 I‘m in in the 12th semester of my law degree and got about 2-3 to go. I absolutely hate it I wish I had never done it and studied something I actually enjoy instead. What are you doing now?
@@uluomu Yesterday i graduated with a mechanical engineering degree, i have so many frustrating emotions, during the 5 years i gave so much effort, homework, projects, exams, reports, lectures, begging Doctors, living alone, so many transportations and so much suffering, the shocking fact is that i was doing so without being happy and the worst without a goal of it without a destination, just with increasing self-hatred as years of studies were coming, with more depression, with more sadness and hopelessness, i don't know why exactly i continued doing what i was doing, i don't know why i immediately didn't stop this madness, what i know that for now, i am full of regrets, i was organizing the tons of papers, books, reports, copybooks i have in my home office, with tears all around, i'm seeing my huge effort done for no reason, i don't want to work with my degree, dor now i'm fucking stuck, all day in my room, don't know when and where the light of hope will leak into my room so i can hold it tight and pull my self out of my mind's hell.
I'm sort of having a 2AM mental breakdown rn. I'm not a US student (I'm from Turkey where you have to score really high on a national exam to get into the program you want) and I'm studying English Language Teaching. The only reason I chose it, was because my exam score was fit for that program. My dream was always to study medicine, and I'm constantly thinking about how I regret not studying harder for the exam. It's not that I despise the thought of becoming a teacher, I would enjoy it and it pays well here compared to it's working hours, however I can't pull through the courses anymore. And each passing week, I hate my program more and more. In order to switch majors, I have to re-enter the national exam, however I have to study really hard (for a year) if I want to get into medicine, which is almost impossible with having to study for the exams of my current program too. I feel like I'm going insane trying to figure things out and I don't know what to do, I try to motivate myself into loving my program but it just gets worse and worse.
Heyy have you ever thought about going abroad to study? There are countries like romania and russia where medicine is not expensive and you dont need high scores to study it ^^ it could be a solution. Good luck you re gonna make it and everything is gonna be okay ❤
I'm currently in my Junior year of college and am feeling this anxiety. I entered college as a Civil Engineering major and have been studying it, but during Covid with all my classes being online I started to fall behind and underperform in my classes. Now that we are back in person and the classes are more centered on my major, I am realizing how much I truly despise it. I feel trapped in my major since I don't know what else I want to pursue and I feel as though it is too late for me to be undeclared. I am truly STUCK. I want to get a degree in a field of interest for me but I don't know what that is and I don't know how to find out what that is. If anyone has advice for me, please leave a reply. This video was comforting though since it did remind me that I can still find a career I enjoy after college, but I'm not quite at the point in my college education yet where my degree is right around the corner so I am hoping to find a major that I enjoy before it is truly too late.
Hello, I read your comment and your story is similar to mine, but I studied online, majoring in information engineering, but with the passage of time I felt that I did not belong to this major. I like the English language major, but for some circumstance, I did not join this major while I was in my first year and I feel depressed and anxious. I hate this major. What do I do? I'm wasting five years of my life on something I don't like
Currently majoring in biology/pre-health. I’m a third year. I hate all my biology classes. I hate science now. I have lost passion for science and hate everyone. I still want to be a PA but....I hate my degree and I don’t know what to do. At this point if I do end up becoming a PA...I don’t want to work at a hospital or work in an ER or anything. I’m not attending school next semester and today is my last day (my last two finals) and I’m very scared because I have no plans for next semester. I’m thinking of doing some random medical program like PCT or take online classes at a community college 😞
I know it forever for me to reply but how are you doing? How has your semester gap been? I really hope you are doing well despite this pandemic which has caused a lot of distress on people.. I sincerely do hope you are okay
@@uluomu hey. i still dont have anything figured out but the main problem i had was that i had no social life. and these 2 years of quarantine made it worst. i've been socializing more and trying not to be in the virtual world as much. i was basically living in social media/gaming/movies so yeah talking to people in real life surely has helped me a lot. idk if that can help you or not but thats what somewhat helped me edit: and one more thing. there are millions of other idiots in this world and they are doing it so life isnt that hard. you should look at it that way cause if you take it too seriously it'll seem a lot more harder. sure there are though times but countless other people have done it as well so why no us?
I’m 29 graduated about a year ago, worked at a big corporate company for the past 10 months and i hated it. Maybe the corporate world isn’t for me. I couldn’t be myself there, had to talk a certain way and act a certain way. Idk i felt trapped. Needless to say i quit and i feel bad and guilty. Help
Nicola Nucciarone i graduated in Biotech at the school of engineering and i wish i sucked up my pride my junior year and transfer out. If you don’t like it LEAVE. I became miserable and my grades dipped. So now not only do i have a shit gpa but i have a degree in something i DONT want to do. And biotech and BME are too separate from other engineering fields. Its been some months now and I’m trying to pursuing something else now by doing a postbacc ughhhhh
No engineers are the most respected and basically make the most money in any field. People see that this is a very qualified and smart person so your very marketable.
@@devitorizqi3642 um..so basically I am doing a bachelor's in Commerce, and on the side my parents want me to do CMA(Cost and Management Accounting). But...I just realised that I hate accounting. I am a very creative person. Things like, interior designing, music production, singing, designing, etc, are what I am passionate about. The above mentioned activities makes me forget to pee, drink, eat etc...like...I can do them all day if I have to. I also love Business, so...I am still kinda figuring out how to integrate my passion with business. But like...I am really scared to tell my parents this, because all they care about is money, so...they won't really understand the idea of passion. I don't know what to do 😭 I come from a middle class family. We live paycheck to paycheck every month. So...I also have the pressure to start earning money as soon as possible(I just don't wanna be a burden to my family).
I'm in a situation where everyday I feel a deep regrets for swifting into a course only to hate it. I'm in my second year and I'm planning to shift to CS. Should I? Need help
Iam a student of mass communications just because I don't have a choice ( living in a shithole 3rd world country that has a stupid system from the middle ages of getting into majors So from day 1 I knew I was just nominally enrolled into that major and looked for anything else to do and went to learn personal training and anatomy and exercise science etc and iam still a student there and I don't give a single shit about that major I just study 2 days before exam just enough to pass and that's my only relation with that major. In short don't care if I graduate or not , My life will go the same way in either scenarios and it doesn't have anything to do with my major.
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I read this title and I felt so understood I started to cry.
I cried a lot the summer I realized I hated my major too, I feel you....😔 I re-watch this video remotivate myself sometimes
Same situation 🙂🙃
I'm crying too.. I've never felt this trapped
@@LostButFoundDiaries I'm going to tell my parents that I actually hate my degree tonight. Thank you for the video, this really encourages me a LOT!
@@selinamu9630 how’d it go?
I'm currently deep into my Bachelor's in Business Degree specialising in Logistics, and I've just realized how much I despise studying Business overall. I was convinced this was the sort of major I should be pursuing considering how in highschool, I got pretty decent grades in subjects related to business/finance. Fast forward 4 years and now I really find this degree extremely dreadful and difficult to get through as I've lost all motivation and the energy, barely learned anything nor do I had any interest. I've just realized how much regret and resentment I've had towards my younger self for naively thinking business was the major for me. I am actually someone who's had a huge interest in arts, and sometimes I wish I had pursued a major related to art but I was frightened by the "artists don't have a stable future" sentiment. I really want to change courses so badly but I've already invested thousands and are deep in student debt. Watching this video made me feel a lot better as this degree has been haunting me as I can't help but feel so helpless. Great video btw!!
ive noticed a lot of the commenters are creatives who never allowed themselves to be creative, think about this, you wouldn't want to stay in a bad relationship because you've already invested time into it, better to know now and figure a way out instead of being miserable for years more where you invested WAY too much time, I'm hopeful you will find an answer catered to your situation :)
Its not only financially sound but with a degree your more marketable for other jobs you might like. Y u gonna go to school to draw when all that info is online and when have u seen artist who need a min bachelors deg
I say finish the degree and if u want minor in art or take some cc courses after grad.
I feel you so bad!! I‘m a law student and should have studied history.. maybe even art
How did it turn ot, now over a year later?
@@brianrivera7889 sounds reasonable!
Thank you so much. I badly needed that
Don’t lose hope, you can always work outside of your field or pursue a graduate degree unrelated to your undergrad major. I know someone with a bachelor’s in IT who’s in a doctoral English program!
Thankyou for this💖
first of all: I love you.
second: help! I am in the exact same situation. 26. stuck in a degree I apparently hate. graduating next year. full of depression and anxiety. constantly trying to figure out what I really want to do with my life. but I just can't figure it out somehow.
permanently thinking about dropping out of college, changing majors. but I don't know to what.
if only I knew what I want to do with my life, everything would be better.
@@LostButFoundDiaries losttobefoundTV first of all thank you very much for your response. really appreciate it! I really agree with everything you said, yet I am still struggling very much and dwell in this depressed and agonizing state. I believe my main problem stems from me having had issues with mental health and development my entire life. especially in my teens and early 20s I had severe problems and setbacks which have impacted me severely. so I never really developed any sense of identity, passion or anything. still I am interested in very many things, but simply feel overwhelmed by all the options that life offers.
regarding my major it is a bit complicated: after years of failing in school I finally graduated from highschool at the age of 20. back then I in midst of severe depression and anxiety. I was in a rather toxic relationship from 18-22 and during this time my closest relative and the only person at that time that had ever given me unconditional love was suffering from cancer. yet instead of dealing with all my issues I sunk into cannabis addiction and spent 24/7 in co-dependency with my girlfriend. in 4 years of cancer treatment I visited my grandmother only 3 times. to this day I feel guilty for not being there for her but looking back I just couldn't deal with anything at all. in this state I wrote my finals, barely succeeded. so there I was, 20 years old and a wreck already and had to ask myself the question: "what the fuck do you want to do with your life?" my family had the idea of offering me to do a gap year, which was intriguing. I was offered to visit relatives in the US for an entire year and enroll in some creative courses in college, since I've always been creatively inlined, in hopes of perhaps stumbling across something that might peak my interest. it was a wonderful opportunity. but looking back I was not fit to do any of that. my mental state was absolutely horrible. my grandmother was about to die, my girlfriend hated me for leaving, my family was a mess, I was a mess. yet i thought that I had only this one chance to go, so I went. I went and as expected it was an absolute catastrophe. I've never felt so horrible in my life. while i was there my grandmother died, my family suffered, my girlfriend betrayed and left me, I was on the brink of suicide. after only 4 months i had to abort the whole thing and flew back to Germany.
I ended up in a clinic for mental health which helped me a bit. broke up with my girlfriend and tried to recover.
in the clinic I had been inspired by all the therapists and their work. so I decided that i wanted to become a therapist. but my GPA was simply too bad to study psychology so I needed an alternative. I did some research and found out that by studying 'social work' one may become a psychotherapist for children and teenagers. I saw the word 'therapist' and locked in to that. I will become a child-therapist I said. and to become that I need to study social work. so social work was just something I needed to study in order to reach my goal. I didn't really look into social work itself and studying it did not really peak my interest. by I knew i needed it to reach my goal. now after 5 semesters of studying I fell back into a severe crisis. in that crisis I realized that I do NOT want to become a child-therapist. I have had issues my entire life and i realized that i probably should not surround myself with metally ill children my entire life. so I lost my one goal and ended up with studying social work in a city I hate, living alone and severly depressed. I have taken antideprsseants for 4 years, but i always hated them. thought they would inhibit my creativity and emotions.
now the thing is: I am 26, I have not really been abroad, I have had mental health issues my entire life and i am in my 5th semester of studying something i rather hate.
now I ended up in a clinic once again. I got better again, but I am still at the same point: what should I do with my life?
the thing about my major is: with many majors you study very general. only few majors prepare you for a specific job. social work on the other hand might be a broad field to work in, but studying it prepares you specifically for being a social worker. and from what I've seen so far there is not a field in social work that really peaks my interest. instead many of them are rather depressing and furthermore do they pay rather little.
of course I could tell myself to just finish this degree. but by that time I will be 28. with a bachelor in social work. why? what am I supposed to do with that? and with every year that passes, the pressure gets higher and higher. I seriously don't know what to do.
if I knew what I REALLY wanted to do, I would drop out in a heartbeat and change my major. but I don't. I just have too many interests and too little experience. too much anxiety and too little confidence.
I finally want to figure out what to do and not live a life full of reget.
@@LostButFoundDiaries thank you very much for your kind words. I will try to view all of this from a different perspective
@@LostButFoundDiaries my I ask what your major was?
Same here 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️I hate my major so much
@@mikalshahi4861 did you just start or are you deep in it already?
Thnx alot for this video :'( im having a break down for choosing architecture. .. even after 4years i still feel worthless . But this vdo boosted my mood a bit
im a freshman and im majoring in accountancy/finance i dont understand ANYTHING from the lectures.. i dont even want to pursue my career with that degree i just tried that degree cuz i had no idea what i wanted in life and now im too much of a pussy to change my degree im lost
Sameee, i'm already 3 years in this degree and i hate it but i don't know what to do with my life :(
Same shit here, I get Headaches everyday and feel depressed, 3 years into the degree and have just realized that it's not for me, have no idea what to do
You should have never gone to college if you don’t know what you want to do.
@@certifiedlover2748it really seems that simple right? Unfortunately (at least in the US not sure about other countries) college is really pushed on you from basically middle school until you graduate from high school so a lot of people end up in this situation and it’s just not right!
im also majoring in finance nearly 2 years already and i hate myself for not transferring programs early on. im just saying if you really dont want anything to do with accounting/finance, transfer as early as you can. i know i shouldve done that but things just got messy and now im stuck. nonetheless i hope you get to take the path you actually want soon
This gave me hope. God bless
Thank you!! It is amazing to know that there are other people in the same situation
ohmygosh thank you so much for your comment
@@LostButFoundDiaries I am happy to hear that! I consider it brave enough that you have a channel where you express your opinions about life in the first place!! It is beautiful what you and many other people do on youtube, opening up about yourself.
Please continue sharing your beautiful thoughts, it is inspiring!
Thank you for this, really.
Just found this video, and for me, it’s not necessarily a hatred for my degree, it’s the outside pressure I get from family and the extremely high expectations. I had no idea what I wanted to do when I graduated high school, but my whole high school and junior high years I was told that I had to go to college, which was what I did. I started out in pharmacy, which I figured out real quick that I wasn’t smart enough to do, so I switched to health service administration. Now so far the degree is ok, but I personally have never been a “behind a desk” person and preferred to work with my hands as a laborer, but to my parents it wasn’t good enough. I do have a backup plan in case my college career path doesn’t work out, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
You are lucky that you have a back up plan, most of us don't and it is so stressful!
Same bro I’m in architectural technology and I don’t hate it but it’s something I’m just not passionate about
I just found this video and it gives me lot of comfort. I'm in my first year of international relations study. IR is my own choice, I like the lesson but I just don't see myself doing IR stuff related in the next 4 years. It confuses me whether I chose the wrong major or I haven't tried hard enough.
Anyway thanks for the insight!!
Same here. I dropped out of college thinking that i wanted to become a CMA(Cost and Management Accountant). But...now I don't really know if I like it. I don't know if Accounting is for me. I want to do FOREX TRADING, but again I am really scared thta I might not ending making a living out of it. Ahhh I am really scared and confused at the same time !!
@@koteswarris8949 hi, I know your comment is a year old but wanted to know what you decided to do? I’m in a similar situation
@@yoiiumoi6019 Hey hi! Yes, ofcourse, i can give you a life update.
I am in a much much much much better place now. I have actually become profitable in forex trading, i slogged my ass off for a year. And also, i dropped.out of college, and I'm doing my cma course, which is also going very well. I struggled a lot, ngl, i had sever anxiety and depression to a point where, i would get panic attacks once a week. But thankfully i have amazing friends who helped me through my journey. Some gave me a shoulder to cry and vent, some gave me advice on what to do and some even helped me out by letting me borrow some money to fund my forex account. But, after a year, I'm glad to say, i don't suffer from depression and anxiety anymore, I turned 20 in August.
I also got myself a part time job as a social media manager in a small business. Fortunately this company that i work for gives me flexile timings so that it wouldn't mess with my academics.
My academics: I have to pass 8 papers in total, I'm studyinf to become a Cost and Management Accountant (CMA). I wrotr my first 4 paoers in July, but unfortunately couldnt pass it, i lost 11 marks 🙃 which very frustrating, but at the same time i boosted my confidence because i honestly thought i wouldnt get anywhere close to passing mark. I will be rewriting these 4 papers next year. Right now I'm focusing on the next 4 papers, which i have an exam in the month of January...so...yeah so far so good.
REGARDING FOREX: I am profitable only in demo, but once i trade live, my lose trades because i let fear take over. I am working on the psychological aspect of trading rn, like controlling emotions and fear and all that stuff.
Heyy whatever you're going through, its gonna be ok. Its gonna be hard, both emotionally and physically. But you gotta push through. Trust me, once you get through that phase, life i beautiful.
Take care ❣️
I am a freshman right now and am a Biochemistry major. And I realized I don't like science at all. I lied to myself during high school that this is what I wanted since my parents have always wanted me to pursue medicine but I can't see my self doing any of that. I don't see myself doing anything really. I do like video games but I don't like coding. A university has a major im interested in which is esports and business but I don't know if I should transfer there and get that major since I don't know what career I can get with it. I just don't know what to do.
"esports and business" you say your interested in this, I recommend you calling that university and getting in touch with that major's counselor or someone to talk with them about it, gaming and anything dealing with online work is a huge buisness, there is definitely a career out there for it, you could help manage esports athlete, market esports or games, or with gaming if you like art they always need artists to design the game environment, items, etc, this is ideas coming from someone who doesn't know much about that field so i'm sure when you get in touch with someone in it they have lots to say, good luck!😉
Same! I'm doing biochemistry first year and i dont really like it now and feel like doing something else
Did you decide to do something else?
hi guys :) so happy to find people here having the same experiences. here I am, 25, still no job and afraid of covid from my future patients, just graduated (late) after long long tiring depressing years of dental school. want to have digital-related jobs (if only i knew it will be so big) but having no major in math/engineer will actually get me nowhere to be hired.. during my clinical years I found out that dentistry required lots of hand skills, which I don't really have. that's also the reason I struggled a lot to graduate.. still hoping for some miracle T-T
Oof I’m about to graduate from physical therapy school and can relate... I’m currently working in the hospital. I’d love to do something online where i can work from home. Wishing us the best 💜
Hope everything turned out well for you guys!
I‘m now 25 and in the 12th semester of my law degree and have to admit I absolutely hate it.. still have about 1 year to go..
I looove this see this my issue is my first degree was 3D Animation I unfortunatly never finished it because of a lot of personal things happening in my life. I moved overseas to live with my dad I absolutly love it. I started a new degree in English language teaching I like the discussions in the classes I like what Im learning I like my professors and classmates but I don't see myself teaching English a career. When I was a kid I hated English and plus Im also Dyslexic I have to study a lot longer than most.I love writing stories and poems my professors said they were impressed with my style of writing but they said I made constant grammar mistakes and mispellings. One of my professors suggested that I should be an author or magazine writer after I graduate. I have huge anxiety now because I want to go back and finish my Digital Animation degree after I graduate but my dad is insisting that I continue to get my masters in English language teaching and then go for my doctorate but all I keep thinking is how expensive that will be and how stressful it will be and Im 31 now and will graduate at 33 and if I continue to get my masters I will be in school for another 3 or 4 years doing something that I find extreemly stressful and doesn't truly make me happy. When Im writing stories or Animating or painting or drawing I feel like Im in heaven. When Im studying for exams or writing research papers I feel stressed and exhausted.
thank you for this
Literally cried watching the latter part🥲 I should have searched for this video earlier, so that I won’t be trapped in the same major as a graduate student now. I feel you so much about how you don’t want to give it up considering how much money and effort spent… We all deserve a life doing we love! It’s okay to be unconventional!
I'm a CS major and I'm absolutely unhappy in it. From the get-go I had no interest in computers; my freshman year I majored in Computer Engineering to please my dad and felt so miserable, I figured a switch to CS would be better/easier. Boy, I was wrong.
I'm a writer, and artist, I want to teach and connect humanity. I've been barely, and I mean *barely* scraping by my senior year.
I don't know what to do. I wanna quit so bad.
Honestly, I say do what you love and want to do. You do not want to be stuck in a career that you hate for the rest of your life. I say change your major if you are truly that unhappy and major in what you want to do. You will be more motivated and happier with yourself and life. I know its hard to drop something you have been working on for this long and you may feel like youre giving up, but Im a big believer in giving up when its especially to pursue something you love and are interested in. Good luck.
I feel the same way and it makes me feel better that I’m not alone @nehway
@nehway I knew I was a creative, a person who has the need to create (whatever that may be), I too ignored it all my life and I very much regret ignoring it. However, I'm glad I finally come to terms with it before it was "too late", came to terms that I need it in my life and will not settle for something other people want from me. Not an answer to your situation but something I think you'll relate to
@@LostButFoundDiaries it does help, same with JB, too. I think about how I'd feel down the line if I never did what truly made me happy. Thank you for your insight.
Exactly in the same place, I’m in CS too but always was passionate in film making and planned to do it. But my parents guilt tripped me into choosing a course I really don’t want to do.
thank you for this video
I'm crying, I am in situation that I hate so much my degree is a education degree, i thought I could get through for 4 years but my anxiety and depression is killing me. I want to study a business degree, especially economics because I have always like the markets and trading and investments despite that in my country the stock market is nothing compared to the us, or European countries . If I change my parents and relatives would think that I am a disappointment. I don't know what to do. I always tried to get good grades, however I feel it's just a waste of effort for a degree I will not use it and is a worthless degree it isn't like medicine or a engineering that at least have good pay job, so much time wasted and I barely have 1 and half. The worst is that with my degree I couldn't apply for any job that at least I feel interest. I have to visit my shrink, for this kinda problem. Just I have to stay strong and endure as much as I can. You are not alone, well reading this comments I don't feel so bad at the moment.
Heyy i have the same problem and i came to the realisation that parents wont think you re a disappointement if you change your major. You just have to convince them and to make them realize you hate your current major. Good luck i hope you re gonna end up working in a field you like ❤
My daughter is going through the same thing and I mentioned the same thing to her but I also mentioned to her that many of the masters degree programs do not require a bachelor's in the same major. So if you have an inclination for a different major that would be a better choice find out what the requirements are for that master's degree program because oftentimes you can get in with any bachelor's degree you might have to take one or two prerequisite classes. and there is teaching, which for elementary school requires one or two standardized tests plus any bachelor's. or if the bachelor is in a middle or high school subject, only one standardized test and maybe two community College courses in health and computers. If you are not sure if you would like teaching I recommend being a substitute teacher after your bachelor's degree. that is a good part time job too because you can say no when they call you early morning to come in. in California you also need a standardized test and a background check. this will allow you to see what it's like being a teacher. even though managing kids can be more challenging as a sub as you probably know. And some schools the kids are more challenging regarding their behavior than other schools.
I don’t know how to start this but I think I just got into a wrong major and I can’t go back. I’m a scholarship student and I signed the contract that I can’t drop out, change major nor do worse than GPA 3 in classor my parents will have to pay the penalty fee which I believe is a lot. The reason I agreed with the scholarship is I saw the opportunity and it was 100%. I didn’t do enough research on the subject and was surprised as it is different from my expectation. I study Communication Strategy and Ideation and thought it has nothing to do with media, I thought it would be more business-related but I was so wrong. That’s why I’m regretting it now but I can’t go back. I wanted to be a doctor like my dad but was too afraid that I wouldn’t make the entrance exam and I’m so lost now. I’m still in semester 2 year 1 btw.
I can so relate to the I don't know what i want to do, but I'm actually fooling myself. I'm currently in my last year undergrad. I study plant and soil science and minor in visual arts. I found out that I loved my minor more than my major. I wanted to combine the 2 fields so I finally chose landscape architecture. Its honestly so hard to finish a degree you hate. I'm struggling lol
coincidentally I worked at a soil lab, shadowed at a landscape architecture firm, and studied architecture for a bit and I think your interest in plant, soil, and arts is perfect for landscape architecture, your knowledge in plants will help a lot because a good portion of the landscape architects work is to choose fitting plants for the land they are designing, plants aren't only for decoration but also serve a purpose for the environment they are in. My school has a masters program for landscape architecture w/o having a BA in it, maybe you could look into a school with similar prerequisite. Before deciding to do so always talk with someone in the field 😊
To tell a personal story, I graduated with a graphic design degree almost two years ago. The curriculum didn’t focus on art, drawing, or animation like my advisor said it would. They only taught about using adobe cc software to make flyers and crap. What’s worse is I can’t help but have regret since I’ve gotten into the same situation in grad school where I’m graduating with a major I ended up hating. Maybe it’s a reality vs. fantasy thing or I was young and dumb.
Honestly, I think I really don’t like school and I should just study art on my own terms. As a stubborn artsy person, I fear I may never be satisfied, but I don’t want to completely regret the experiences I had because I learned a lot about what I dislike and like in college.
In undergrad I found out graphic design was not the same as art and that I had a one dimensional interest in art (i only loved cartoons). Then in grad school, I found out I was a crappy writer and never actually wrote a complete coherent story in my life.
Unfortunately, this story doesn’t have a happy ending yet, but I hope to get past these feelings of regret one day.
thank you for sharing your story, I as well don't completely regret my college experience because I got to do a lot of discovery but I do have regret as I wish I could've used my time more wisely when I had the title of a "student" (i'm also trying to get past the feelings of regret haha)
You seem to have more life experiences than I do, and if I may ask, What do you recommend for those who want to go to grad school? My friend wants to do grad school because she's in the same boat as me (doesn't want to fulfill her major) i dont think it's the best idea considering she doesn't know for sure if she'll like the major, but at the same time having the title "student" does open a lot of doors (ie. interning), since you have done grad school and it seems you regret doing it what was your take away?
LostToBeFound I’d say if your going to do grad school, make sure you’re passionate about the subject and think about the job you want to get before picking a major. Especially if it’s creative.
I'm glad to see this comment
I'm the same I wanna pursue art on my own thought it's such a big risk
But my parents forced me to enroll in English major so that I would just go to college I wish I could at least go to graphic design but I couldn't since there my highschool major was not art (in my country we have highschool majors but they are too generic like math and art etc...) Even back then my parents forced me not to choose art and those 3 years of highschool were like hell I really wanna drop out of school now
I only have two more classes left for my degree program and I feel like I want to switch but I’m freaking out feeling like I wasted all this time. This helps a lot though.
I am at this point rn, and I might do it
So how did it go Christina?
There's something raw about the video presentation. It really feels like a sincere message that I don't find in many UA-cam videos similar to this. Great stuff! Made me feel a lot better about my journey as an unenthusiastic chemical engineering student.
I’m glad it helped :) Ty for your comment! I have a video series right now if you want to check it out👍
this is really me right now :/ im in my second last year doing a business degree and I've known for awhile that I really don't like business as a whole but I didn't know what else I would rather study and I didn't want to take time off because of a combination of parental expectations, simply not wanting to, and not having the funds to go off for a year to "find myself". i even changed my major within business from accounting to operations management and every semester im just wondering what on earth I'm doing with my life. I haven't pursued internships or networking as much as I should have because of fear and now I'm about to finish up this degree with no relevant experience and I'm terrified. I always wanted to do art in high school but didn't even allow myself to consider it because I thought money would be enough to motivate me and it really isn't. Sometimes I think i could be okay with a typical 9-5 with an office and free lunches and whatever else the corporate life gives you and other times I think I would 100% waste away into a miserable depression if I did that. I want to work on my art again but everytime I sit down I can't bring myself to start or I feel like I should be working on schoolwork instead. I feel like an idiot because I could have hustled and gotten a well paying business job and be set for life but I always felt out of place and uncomfortable in that atmosphere and I find comfort in knowing there are others like me and others who don't work in the field they studied but it seems like such a far off future that I can't imagine what I will end up doing
If you hate studying, you are human. You could use your knowledge of business to sell your art. You could also pursue a master’s in art history.
Same boat. I just graduated last month with a bachelors in biochem and knew i wanted to do art instead. But i didnt think it was lucrative and people around me said that too so here i am. I finally took an art class in my last semester and felt at home. So now im going to chase that.
I just realized that I don't like my major. There's something that I want to pursue this degree but eventually I am now unmotivated. I enrolled in Psychology and I feel so much doubt if I can make it or not. I feel so dumb not thinking what I really wanted to be. I have this passion in arts but it's too late now to change course because I already enrolled in psych. Just sharing.
same situation, but with nursing. i took it bc my parents wanted to and bc i see the purpose of it (i like helping people too so it was a bonus), but now that i'm in this course and i'm doing some things that nurses do i realized that i actually don't like it :// i still love helping people, but i just think nursing isn't for me and i like to take sumn else but idk hnnggggg
@Angelican Reyes same here its been 2 years and a half i've stucked in my major, and there's so much doubt and stress to face this problem jeez:😫😞
Same here, but with law
Woah this actually helped .
advice for anyone, take volunteering hours or community service in the degree you chose to study to know if it really is for you or go for what you are passionate for no matter how unrealistic it looks is for everyone, if you what you are passionate about, everything will fall into place.
I have that problem, I’m studying a three year environmental chemistry job heavily based on the chemistry part and I HATE IT. Being put in a laboratory and being told to just mix chemicals is so scary. I actually got a anxiety and panic attacks because of laboratory (well I guess I have anxiety for much longer but never experienced panic attacks). I got them in the really early beginning of the school year/job studying. And since then I get all about 3-6monthes such a „mood“ like I actually really want to end this job studying and do something different. The idea is always there but never extremely present (more like, I know I don’t want that job but I need the thing to have finished it so that I can study something different with it(the fact that I finished it)). But actually it messes me up. I know I never want to work in a laboratory but 99% of the jobs are lab jobs. These panic attacks and stuff are horrible. Last year at the end in November I think. I had a really bad breakdown actually I had suicide thoughts and something like a eating disorder (I think I have light depression maybe but the eating disorder was new, even tho I know u can’t label it like that when it goes away in about a week again). But it felt so strange.
I know this job doesn’t make me happy and never will. It makes my mental health bad.
But everytime I think of quitting I’m like „but maybe there will be a interesting thing in the second year that I want to do“
Tho and I love my friends at school :(
Hey how are you doing buddy?
I'm a statistics major about to finish my prerequisites and my calculus class and get into my upper-level major courses. I'm terrified to say the least. I always did really well in my coursework up until this point but I'm terrified that I'm not good enough for this upper-level stuff on nonparametric methods and multivariate analysis. I don't know if I just have a case of imposter syndrome but for some reason I have this unshakeable feeling that I don't have what it takes to be brilliant in my major.
I am on track to finishing my master's in statistics, so I believe I can give some advice. First of all, if thousands of people have obtained a degree in math/stats, why can't you? The formula for succeeding academically, is simple: attend lecture prepared, study study and study, and keep yourself healthy. Also, it helps to change your perspective on the future. Why not be grateful and excited that you have the opportunity to challenge yourself and make progress as a future statistician? If you focus on learning as opposed to passing the class, you'll do much better.
P.S.
Non parametric statistics and multivariate data analysis are fun classes since you get to see the application it has on the real world.
P.S. P.S.
There are only a handful of people that are considered brilliant in their respective fields. Don't focus on being brilliant, but in being an efficient and competent statistician.
What's good about Stats and Math is if you finish your degree you can transition into another field. I wish I'd majored in Mathematics but i am majoring in International Business minor in statistics instead 🙃 I'll probably end up in marketing
I have to go 3 more years to get out of this hole.. At least you're out of this
I felt this so hard. and my parents said they won't support me if i don't put all my effort into my college degree and get the job they want me to (an engineer), even if i'm passionate abt smth else and have more potential in it. I'm a freshman in college studying CS btw. I felt this to an extent. A lot actually. I'm quite sad and existential a lot of the time.
goodness I remember freshman year, if it makes you feel any better you're ahead of a lot of people for the simple fact you know/acknowledge what you want and your potentials. Now it's only a matter of understanding the control you have over your life (I know it can be hard with strict parents), I recommend watching my video "for those who are *willing* to take that first step to change"
@@LostButFoundDiaries okk thanks! I will definitely watch that!!! i want to break myself apart from them financially too bc i rely on them in that sense and that gives them leverage over me.
@@itsYoung heyy how are you doing now?
We’re living the same life, same here btw. I’ve always voiced how I wanted to do film making but my parents had other plans for me
Sadge, I definitely feel the same way.
thanks for sharing up till this moment i thought me and few others are going through alone,
i also don't like my major and nowadays im so into my head and im doubting my choices and myself too, this major is safe and can provide me a financial stability but i don't enjoy it and im so afraid of regret after i graduate and im afraid that i won't be good at it in real life. i don't know what to do. i know that this major is my best choice but what if it was more than i can do? only if i know what i like or what im passionate about. maybe if i started my own business and had a plan then i'll be relief. idk
I related to your comment so much I address your comment in my new video and made it my thumbnail 😅 (if you don't want your comment as the thumbnail, let me know and I will change it asap!)
@@LostButFoundDiaries its absolutely alright, and thank you for doing that you give me hope and comfort
Thanks
That's meeee in so many ways, for now, i'll type this comment and i'll get back to it every now and then and make an update on my state. Right now i'm totally lost in so many ways, but i'm pretty sure that i'll start doing what i needed to do 5 years ago.
It really hurts thinking of 5 lost years at the best stage of age, but as you said, fuck it, i think that the most important thing i learned from this tough experience is being the leader of my own life and not give compromises on my major life decisions according to what people think especially people close to me.
I came to the realization that i'm the best who can understand me and what i really need. Even if tough, think of your journey as an adventure and this will ease things up and give u joy through challenges. ciao
Heyy 4 lost years here 😂 its okay everyone has their own pace and as they said in the video life is not a race ^^ dont give up and good luck
@@decalcomania6481 thanks, yeah my year's resolution for now, is that life is not a race at all, i should be disciplined, i should work hard, but i should not panic or worry that i'm late or so.
Well guys.. almost 7 lost years for me 😅
I‘m in in the 12th semester of my law degree and got about 2-3 to go. I absolutely hate it
I wish I had never done it and studied something I actually enjoy instead.
What are you doing now?
@@uluomu Yesterday i graduated with a mechanical engineering degree, i have so many frustrating emotions, during the 5 years i gave so much effort, homework, projects, exams, reports, lectures, begging Doctors, living alone, so many transportations and so much suffering, the shocking fact is that i was doing so without being happy and the worst without a goal of it without a destination, just with increasing self-hatred as years of studies were coming, with more depression, with more sadness and hopelessness, i don't know why exactly i continued doing what i was doing, i don't know why i immediately didn't stop this madness, what i know that for now, i am full of regrets, i was organizing the tons of papers, books, reports, copybooks i have in my home office, with tears all around, i'm seeing my huge effort done for no reason, i don't want to work with my degree, dor now i'm fucking stuck, all day in my room, don't know when and where the light of hope will leak into my room so i can hold it tight and pull my self out of my mind's hell.
I'm sort of having a 2AM mental breakdown rn. I'm not a US student (I'm from Turkey where you have to score really high on a national exam to get into the program you want) and I'm studying English Language Teaching. The only reason I chose it, was because my exam score was fit for that program. My dream was always to study medicine, and I'm constantly thinking about how I regret not studying harder for the exam. It's not that I despise the thought of becoming a teacher, I would enjoy it and it pays well here compared to it's working hours, however I can't pull through the courses anymore. And each passing week, I hate my program more and more. In order to switch majors, I have to re-enter the national exam, however I have to study really hard (for a year) if I want to get into medicine, which is almost impossible with having to study for the exams of my current program too. I feel like I'm going insane trying to figure things out and I don't know what to do, I try to motivate myself into loving my program but it just gets worse and worse.
Heyy have you ever thought about going abroad to study? There are countries like romania and russia where medicine is not expensive and you dont need high scores to study it ^^ it could be a solution. Good luck you re gonna make it and everything is gonna be okay ❤
I feel you.. not with teaching and medicine, but I‘m stuck in a law degree I hate in my country
I'm currently in my Junior year of college and am feeling this anxiety. I entered college as a Civil Engineering major and have been studying it, but during Covid with all my classes being online I started to fall behind and underperform in my classes. Now that we are back in person and the classes are more centered on my major, I am realizing how much I truly despise it. I feel trapped in my major since I don't know what else I want to pursue and I feel as though it is too late for me to be undeclared. I am truly STUCK. I want to get a degree in a field of interest for me but I don't know what that is and I don't know how to find out what that is. If anyone has advice for me, please leave a reply.
This video was comforting though since it did remind me that I can still find a career I enjoy after college, but I'm not quite at the point in my college education yet where my degree is right around the corner so I am hoping to find a major that I enjoy before it is truly too late.
THIS right here is what a lot of engineering students I know are also going thru (self included)
Hello, I read your comment and your story is similar to mine, but I studied online, majoring in information engineering, but with the passage of time I felt that I did not belong to this major. I like the English language major, but for some circumstance, I did not join this major while I was in my first year and I feel depressed and anxious. I hate this major. What do I do? I'm wasting five years of my life on something I don't like
Me exactly but in software engineering. I’m bored and I hate it, I’m desperate to change but I just don’t know what to change to.
Currently majoring in biology/pre-health. I’m a third year. I hate all my biology classes. I hate science now. I have lost passion for science and hate everyone. I still want to be a PA but....I hate my degree and I don’t know what to do. At this point if I do end up becoming a PA...I don’t want to work at a hospital or work in an ER or anything. I’m not attending school next semester and today is my last day (my last two finals) and I’m very scared because I have no plans for next semester. I’m thinking of doing some random medical program like PCT or take online classes at a community college 😞
I know it forever for me to reply but how are you doing? How has your semester gap been? I really hope you are doing well despite this pandemic which has caused a lot of distress on people.. I sincerely do hope you are okay
I'm just crying
I’m a rad tech student and.... I want to sob.....
I'm freshman now and senior in my major make me have anxiety. It makes me hate my major.
i just want to be self-employed, I don't like working in offices but I don't like working with clients too.
😭😭 this is meeeee
sometimes I watch this video to re-motivate myself so hopefully some anxiety has been relieved when you watched to the end of video 😢
i have watched a lot of these type of videos and i think there is no answer to it really and i dont like that
ikr, the more you try to figure out what you should do in this stuation the worse it gets.
i hope my newest video helps in some way ua-cam.com/video/QUciWTy36pI/v-deo.html
Same for me :(
@@uluomu hey. i still dont have anything figured out but the main problem i had was that i had no social life. and these 2 years of quarantine made it worst. i've been socializing more and trying not to be in the virtual world as much. i was basically living in social media/gaming/movies so yeah talking to people in real life surely has helped me a lot. idk if that can help you or not but thats what somewhat helped me
edit: and one more thing. there are millions of other idiots in this world and they are doing it so life isnt that hard. you should look at it that way cause if you take it too seriously it'll seem a lot more harder. sure there are though times but countless other people have done it as well so why no us?
I’m 29 graduated about a year ago, worked at a big corporate company for the past 10 months and i hated it. Maybe the corporate world isn’t for me. I couldn’t be myself there, had to talk a certain way and act a certain way. Idk i felt trapped. Needless to say i quit and i feel bad and guilty. Help
I kind of feel you.. what are you doing now?
@@uluomu helping with the family business
@@fccoz8348 cool you get that opportunity
this me now
what about an engineering degree? Am I stuck only doing engineering?
Nicola Nucciarone i graduated in Biotech at the school of engineering and i wish i sucked up my pride my junior year and transfer out. If you don’t like it LEAVE. I became miserable and my grades dipped. So now not only do i have a shit gpa but i have a degree in something i DONT want to do. And biotech and BME are too separate from other engineering fields. Its been some months now and I’m trying to pursuing something else now by doing a postbacc ughhhhh
No engineers are the most respected and basically make the most money in any field. People see that this is a very qualified and smart person so your very marketable.
Any tips to loosen up this stress mates? 😁
😭😭😭it's been 3 months I am still stuck in the rut !!!
@Koteswarri S Bcom what major breuh?
@@devitorizqi3642 um..so basically I am doing a bachelor's in Commerce, and on the side my parents want me to do CMA(Cost and Management Accounting).
But...I just realised that I hate accounting. I am a very creative person. Things like, interior designing, music production, singing, designing, etc, are what I am passionate about. The above mentioned activities makes me forget to pee, drink, eat etc...like...I can do them all day if I have to. I also love Business, so...I am still kinda figuring out how to integrate my passion with business.
But like...I am really scared to tell my parents this, because all they care about is money, so...they won't really understand the idea of passion. I don't know what to do 😭 I come from a middle class family. We live paycheck to paycheck every month. So...I also have the pressure to start earning money as soon as possible(I just don't wanna be a burden to my family).
I'm in a situation where everyday I feel a deep regrets for swifting into a course only to hate it. I'm in my second year and I'm planning to shift to CS. Should I? Need help
Did you?
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nice
The only thing I disagree with here is the claim that life isn’t a race. Everything else was spot on.
too late for me...im looking for internships after graduation
Might be harder, but never too late
I love u
What’s ur major, sorry I’m not good in english
Urban Environmental Planning, but I was undecided for 2 yrs and studied architecture for a bit too
Iam a student of mass communications just because I don't have a choice ( living in a shithole 3rd world country that has a stupid system from the middle ages of getting into majors
So from day 1 I knew I was just nominally enrolled into that major and looked for anything else to do and went to learn personal training and anatomy and exercise science etc and iam still a student there and I don't give a single shit about that major I just study 2 days before exam just enough to pass and that's my only relation with that major.
In short don't care if I graduate or not , My life will go the same way in either scenarios and it doesn't have anything to do with my major.
So what happened? We need an update lol
sry for the super late reply >
@@LostButFoundDiaries i'd love to hear how you're doing!!
there's one coming out tomorrow, not the happiest update though, but I decided to try at life again 😅
what did you major in?
Ended up majoring in urban planning environmental focus