There will ALWAYS be someone who is better than you in every way and YOU will always be better than someone else in every way. No one will EVER out do you at being you! I play guitar for churches so as long as God is pleased and the people I play for enjoy and appreciate what I strive to bring to the table, that’s my perfection.
Your post reminds me of Max Ehrmann's 1927 poem, "The Desiderata". One line states, "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself."
yes sir! musicians are performers that have live performance is never exactly like that which was practiced. Take care of yourself- as diet, exercise and rest are important, Mental struggles are part of the journey.
Never relied on other people's validation of my musicianship. If they enjoyed, good. If not that is okay too. Probably will never make me not want to pick up an instrument and make music.
I watch all your videos, I love listening to your views they are very helpful for this insecure and never good enough guitar player, but I'm getting better. Thank you!
We recorded an album once many years ago. As we were rehearsing the tune to record the engineer a lot of the time would record the rehearsal. We would say we were ready now and he would say there was no need because he already had a keeper take. A lot of the time you to get a perfect take you loose the excitement spark that comes with learning a new tune. years later hearing the album I realized how much money he saved us and how right he was to choose excitement over perfection.
I had the kinda unique experience of growing up in a musical family. Dad, Grandprents, Aunts and Uncles and cousins that could play a variety of instruments, mostly country and Bluegrass music. Family get togethers wit a PA and mics set up. I was 10yo when I got up in front of everyone and played and sang Me and Bobbie McGee. I knew before I started I was gettin some applause, I’d heard some awful performances get a big round of applause and I learned it was polite and cool of the adults to encourage the younger kids. Point is from the beginning, I learned to not value applause that much. There was an Uncle who helped me back then, he would tell me how I coulda been better and also pointed out what I got right. I’m 63 now and haven’t played out for several years now but through high school, military service and many years after I played in bar bands. It feels good to get some applause when you feel like you earned it but my barometer for the band was were we “on”, (you know when you are) how many people on the dance floor, how many faces am I seeing and how many back of peoples heads. Those were the validations for me, yet on a personal level, even now, I know what I know and feel like I should be much better after all these years of playing. Thanks for the talk man 👍
I’m shy about getting complements when I come off the stage. Usually a well meaning person will come up and bring up def leopard, because I happen to be a drummer missing one hand.
when I am on stage, no one plays it better, when I am off stage every bass player shows me something I have not seen or thought of. So every bass player is better than me. That keeps you where you should be.
Q...What's the definition of a "perfectionist"? A...Someone who doesn't recognize "perfection". Or as a Buddhist teacher once reminded me - "Practice makes Perfect" is a distraction, and an impossibility. "Practice makes Practice" he would say. Meaning - Our music Practice is what informs and cultivates our "Life Practice" Thanks for your insights.
Yes, as soon as I got off stage, at big public event. A drummer we have worked with, walks behind stage, starts in on me about the shortcomings. I stopped him in his tracks, I firmly told him, listen man there's a tyme and place for your critique and this ain't the tyme, so back off.. I am a Neil Young Crazy Horse Tribute frontman
Great stuff! Respectfully disagree with the beginning (just a little). A very talented musician should transcend unless the genre they're "talented" in is a bit niche. So spot on at the end, recording with a band can make or break it. Sculpture metaphor was PERFECT. THX👊
It's sickening doing a gig, belting out foreigner, journey etc and people act like I'm not even in the room, I'm like are you kidding me!!?? Go figure that one out!!! I just shut down man, lots of training for what? To get ignored??
I sometimes get compliments and sometimes don’t. It all depends on the gig and the crowd. The greatest compliment for me is when folks tell me they had a good time. Personally, I always TRY to give 100% of myself to every performance. That said, a live show never goes exactly as planned. Mistakes happen, gear breaks and we all face a thousand other unknowns each time we get up on that stage. A great performance isn’t a perfect performance, it’s how you connect with the audience and mitigate the little train wrecks that people respond to. One more thing; I’ve never received a compliment about a performance BEFORE I’ve played, so I guess I don’t need them to do my best🙂
Only GOD is perfect .. and “you’ll NEVER capture lighting in a bottle chasing around storms , you have to become the storm… and let the lighting strike when it’s supposed to.”🤔
There will ALWAYS be someone who is better than you in every way and YOU will always be better than someone else in every way. No one will EVER out do you at being you! I play guitar for churches so as long as God is pleased and the people I play for enjoy and appreciate what I strive to bring to the table, that’s my perfection.
God is already pleased just by you existing. ❤
Your post reminds me of Max Ehrmann's 1927 poem, "The Desiderata". One line states, "If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself."
yes sir! musicians are performers that have live performance is never exactly like that which was practiced. Take care of yourself- as diet, exercise and rest are important, Mental struggles are part of the journey.
Never relied on other people's validation of my musicianship. If they enjoyed, good. If not that is okay too. Probably will never make me not want to pick up an instrument and make music.
I watch all your videos, I love listening to your views they are very helpful for this insecure and never good enough guitar player, but I'm getting better. Thank you!
We recorded an album once many years ago. As we were rehearsing the tune to record the engineer a lot of the time would record the rehearsal. We would say we were ready now and he would say there was no need because he already had a keeper take. A lot of the time you to get a perfect take you loose the excitement spark that comes with learning a new tune. years later hearing the album I realized how much money he saved us and how right he was to choose excitement over perfection.
I had the kinda unique experience of growing up in a musical family. Dad, Grandprents, Aunts and Uncles and cousins that could play a variety of instruments, mostly country and Bluegrass music. Family get togethers wit a PA and mics set up. I was 10yo when I got up in front of everyone and played and sang Me and Bobbie McGee. I knew before I started I was gettin some applause, I’d heard some awful performances get a big round of applause and I learned it was polite and cool of the adults to encourage the younger kids. Point is from the beginning, I learned to not value applause that much. There was an Uncle who helped me back then, he would tell me how I coulda been better and also pointed out what I got right. I’m 63 now and haven’t played out for several years now but through high school, military service and many years after I played in bar bands. It feels good to get some applause when you feel like you earned it but my barometer for the band was were we “on”, (you know when you are) how many people on the dance floor, how many faces am I seeing and how many back of peoples heads. Those were the validations for me, yet on a personal level, even now, I know what I know and feel like I should be much better after all these years of playing.
Thanks for the talk man 👍
Perfectionism is like carving a statue in ice. Now that is an absolutly brilliant metafor ❤️. I’ll keep that in mind from now on. THANKS ❤️
Wisedom hard earned. Everything you say is true and worthwhile to digest. Thanks for sharing.
I’m shy about getting complements when I come off the stage. Usually a well meaning person will come up and bring up def leopard, because I happen to be a drummer missing one hand.
You’re awesome
Thanks for the content
"We wear our feelings on our shoulder"...much like Iago "wore his heart on his sleeve" (From Shakespeare's Othello).
Very wise - thanks for this
Great video
when I am on stage, no one plays it better, when I am off stage every bass player shows me something I have not seen or thought of.
So every bass player is better than me. That keeps you where you should be.
Very well put! I felt it all. You’re helping people, I’m sure. Thanks for the video!
Great advice.. keep them coming 😊👍
Yea a lot of people either
1.) won't comment on your playing
2.) Won't pay attention to your playing, or
3.) Won't show up
Q...What's the definition of a "perfectionist"?
A...Someone who doesn't recognize "perfection".
Or as a Buddhist teacher once reminded me -
"Practice makes Perfect" is a distraction, and an impossibility.
"Practice makes Practice" he would say.
Meaning - Our music Practice is what informs and cultivates our "Life Practice"
Thanks for your insights.
Yes, as soon as I got off stage, at big public event.
A drummer we have worked with, walks behind stage, starts in on me about the shortcomings.
I stopped him in his tracks, I firmly told him, listen man there's a tyme and place for your critique and this ain't the tyme, so back off..
I am a Neil Young Crazy Horse Tribute frontman
Great stuff! Respectfully disagree with the beginning (just a little). A very talented musician should transcend unless the genre they're "talented" in is a bit niche. So spot on at the end, recording with a band can make or break it. Sculpture metaphor was PERFECT. THX👊
It's sickening doing a gig, belting out foreigner, journey etc and people act like I'm not even in the room, I'm like are you kidding me!!?? Go figure that one out!!! I just shut down man, lots of training for what? To get ignored??
I get ya. Or when they just stare at ya like deer in headlights … 😮
@@theofficialdiamondlou2418 yeah, they have their game face on cuz they know that you blow away their musician friends etc, jealous I'm thinking
Without compliments, i can't find the energy i need to execute a song 100%
I sometimes get compliments and sometimes don’t. It all depends on the gig and the crowd. The greatest compliment for me is when folks tell me they had a good time. Personally, I always TRY to give 100% of myself to every performance. That said, a live show never goes exactly as planned. Mistakes happen, gear breaks and we all face a thousand other unknowns each time we get up on that stage. A great performance isn’t a perfect performance, it’s how you connect with the audience and mitigate the little train wrecks that people respond to. One more thing; I’ve never received a compliment about a performance BEFORE I’ve played, so I guess I don’t need them to do my best🙂
@@jonnyroxx7172 right, I played tonight, Mexican restaurant, no pay or food! 60 $ in tips, customers were good, have to go back every Thursday,
perfectionism is pointless if you never finish a project
❤❤❤❤❤
The something is missing comment issa torture to any musician aaaaaah
Wrong! Lol. Play from your heart with joy.
Only GOD is perfect .. and “you’ll NEVER capture lighting in a bottle chasing around storms , you have to become the storm… and let the lighting strike when it’s supposed to.”🤔