I would even go a step further, and say that, as a straight man, I think Blaire White is hot AND I'm sexually attracted to her, BUT I would still never be intimate with a biological man, but to each their own of course. 🙏🤘😎
@OverYou-tr5ok because lifes not perfect and we are too unwilling to put the work in required by both parties ......but all kinds of barriers do fall away when people fall in love .....
I'm a fan of both Blair and Alexis and I love that while there are some similarities in thought, you each have your own unique perspectives and opinions. Also, Alexis and Liam, y'all are so freaking adorable ❤
Im amazed how well Blaire is able to project feminine energy, because after years of watching her content I just see her as Blaire, without thinking she's trans. There are biological, straight women, that project masculine energy, is being attracted to them gay?
I don’t think it’s about “energy”. “Energy” is just personality and everyone has a unique one. It’s about biology. I’m probably one of these women who kinda exude “masculine energy”. I like men who have a bit more stereotypical “feminine energy”. That doesn’t make me or the men who’d date me gay. I’m sexually attracted to the male body and they’re attracted to the female body.
@@JustanotherUA-camr771 I think Blaire is attractive, but I wouldn't be interested in dating her. If we go back to the original question, if we could revert it - what percentage of straight men is willing to date trans woman? The answer to that question could give a better picture.
I know I’m late but I’m a guy with a naturally feminine face (so kind of similar to what you described) and most guys I attract are bisexual which… makes sense I geuss?
Thank you Liam to bring up the subject of bisexuality That is another topic people are not sure to definitely have a opinion. The usual mindset is that women can be bisexual and still be heterosexual, but men are automatically considered to be homosexual if they are also attracted to both men and womenm
I see bisexuals almost left out if that’s the right wording. You have some gays that see them as traitors and gays in denial and the straight side saying the same and they’re stuck in the middle
@@irishcajun85I’m bi but even if I find trans people attractive, I don’t really relate to them. And sex for me is a soul thing. I still respect trans people (as in actual trans people who have the disorder) but I cannot see myself behind with a male/female energy and having a different genitalia fucks my brain up😭
Agreed I absolutely adore them both! 🤗❤ Alexis is calmer and Blaire is just no bones about it when she speaks she does not care! 😂😂😂 But I love them both how they are is wonderful
I've had my eyes opened since I moved back to Yorkshire. My straight male friends have zero problem with me being Gay. They hug me and kiss me and really don't give a shit. In fact they are protective of me, even though I'm more than capable of taking care of myself. Things have changed so much in the last 40 years.
@@OverYou-tr5ok i made reference to what the person said. “ they are protective over me” that’s what I was making reference too. Pls don’t take this and run with it like anyone needs protecting bc they are gay, short, blah blah.
i am a 54 year old grandma and i LOVE both of you.. love your relationship and common sense attitude to everything. I hate labels so much, it's getting VERY confusing how to react to everyone's differences in a politically correct way. So all I say is JUST BE KIND TO EVERYONE!!!
You would do better by yourself, your daughters and granddaughters to stop being kind to men who breach women's rights. When men pretend to be women, the rights of women and girls are obliterated.
When people (for some unknown reason) ask me for my sexuality I just say that I am flexible. If I find someone attractive and they are of good character and treats me well then genitals are least of my worry ( I can work with anything lol). I use to describe myself as bisexual but I stopped after being bashed by some of my friends for dating (and soon getting married to) man. I think we as a society we love our little boxes onto which we can categorise people. We are obsessed with labels and that should not really be a point of our lives
Yup, labels make (many) people feel safe. Both wearing one and sticking them onto others. Here's the thing: you aren't at all obliged to play along with a label you've been given. Use it or ignore it as you wish, there's nothing others can do about that, really. And sometimes we can actively benefit from a label (e.g. "reliable" or "nice" or "doesn't play well with others at all"), so I'm not above letting people believe what they will when it suits me.
But only if we're discussing pre- or nonsurgical transgender bodies, and even then, that assumes a proclivity towards certain sexual acts and circumstances. In the end, I think a spectrum of orientations are attracted to us for different reasons.
@@mxdahliabelle even post-op, it's not just about genitalia. Men have different *everything*, and it's not something hormones or surgeries can change. Let's be honest here, even a bottom post-op result is just an inverted penis. + I'm talking skeletal structure (shoulder-hip ratio, etc) and voice, for one. Like, if I'm being honest, I've never seen a convincingly sounding MTF. How they sound and speak is always sus. It's a bit "easier" for FTMs because testosterone is a much more transformative and "powerful" hormone and with them, I could almost never tell
@Li_Tobler I suspect you have a relatively small sample size 🤷🏿♀️ Males and females have a surprisingly wide range of body types, proportions, and voices. I have met female women with deeper, more masculine voices than mine (which I don't consider to be particularly feminine), and male men who sound like adolescent girls. There's also a very good chance that you've unknowingly interacted with transgender women who pass so convincingly you simply had no idea (this is more common with women who medically transitioned as teenagers and were likely highly effeminate to begin with). Regarding vaginaplasty, it would really be appreciated if people would avoid the whole "inverted penis" description. 1) It's extremely hurtful, given the struggle we already go through; 2) Penile inversion isn't the only available option - peritoneal vaginaplasty, for example, is also used for intersex females. Describing such surgically created vaginas as something other than what they are is degrading and even a bit dehumanizing to intersex females and transgender women. And lastly, all of this assumes an extremely narrow range of intimate activities. Obviously, I'm not suggesting that anyone is required to seek out and form any particular relationship with any other person. I just think humanity is more diverse and complicated than we sometimes acknowledge or care to admit.
@@mxdahliabelle I worked as a moderator on a porn-website where we had a sizeable MTF model base. I've probably seen more of yall than any average person haha. If I'd have to estimate, at least 1000+ during 2 years of work. I could always tell:) Not always when just seeing them, but always when they started talking. There is variety of course (I'm a 6 ft tall woman myself but was never confused for a man) but the real androgyny (where you really can't discern if this is a man or a woman walking in front of you, walk, demeanor and figure-wise) is extremely rare. We're very good at clocking in very subtle biological clues together and in general (unless you're *extremely* passable which is very, very rare) we all can tell who's in front of us, even if it's a woman with no waist (hi Keira Knightley!) or a guy with very small shoulders. My friend has a literal chain-smoker voice and I would never confuse her as trans:) No one is talking about deepness. I'm talking sounding like a teenage boy hitting puberty, that special voice crack that's very hard to hide, even though many transwomen try to but the moment they let their guard down, it shows up. My point it - it's still formerly a penis and that' how it always will be, no way around it 🤷🏻♀ No amount of niceness or dancing around terms is gonna change that. It maybe repeats the form of the real thing, but it doesn't perform like one and never will. It doesn't lubricate itself, it doesn't dilate x2 times the size during arousal, it doesn't have a whole clitoral structure that makes it literally a pleasure palace, it doesn't have a unique lacto-bacteria dominated microbiome that keeps it sterile. I can continue but I believe my point came across already. I could go on about birth-related stuff too but I I'll omit it here just to stay respectful to my intersex girlies out there
@@mxdahliabelle This is such a flawed and dishonest response. It's not about "sample size" it's about what innately makes a female body female and what innately makes a male body male. Surgeries and chemicals can attempt to mimic those aspects but it's never going to be innate. That body and being is always going to be as it was born, the rest is cosmetic and chemical. And that's ok by the way. If that's a choice someone has had to make because it's the only limited option that a deeply flawed medical industry has given them, I appreciate that and all the more power to anyone who's had to make those choices. Own it, you're beautiful as you are, including all cosmetic and chemical changes. But you're talking about different body types and voices and whatnot. That's a complete strawman response. Yes... humans have differences from other humans... duh. That's not what this comment was talking about.
Personally I dont think it's gay if you're a male and see a transwoman as hot. Because you're looking at the *female* aspects of the attraction there. Now, sexually speaking, if you engage in it, it's..gay sex on a physical level. I just see people who like a trans person as inherently bi. You're usually dealing with both the same and oppsite gender/sex in one person. It makes it much easier for me understand.
Ive heard that Bi people are not necessarily attracted to trans (notice Blair and Alexis did not mention Bi) as Bi is attached to man & woman. You kinda have to be ok with the mix of the two together in one. I think its Pan sexual which is Bi + trans et al. Just from the top of my head without googling!
I really don't even think it's all that complicated. Human sexuality is far more fluid and flexible than most people care to admit, and there exists a wide variety of ways to intimately engage with bodies. It's been my experience that strict heterosexuality and homosexuality are rare, and most people have some degree of flexibility or special exceptions.
@@mxdahliabelle That's exactly why it's complicated to some people. When things are fluid and flexible then it's not simple unless you already know the ins and outs. I personally don't operate well with a plethora of specific labels to remember. I prefer an umbrella, so that I know the core and can then go down to things under it. Structure, if you will. So I'll apply your outlook to learning in that it's fluid and flexible and there are a variety of ways to teach a person.
Also depends on how much the trans person has transitioned. If they’ve had bottom surgery and everything then I would say even having sex with them could be considered straight.
I’m so black and white sometimes. For me it’s about the genitalia. That’s why I feel it’s so important for the trans person in the potential (dating) relationship to disclose that info upfront. I understand and agree with the presence of spectrum but also need to respect an individual’s choice to not want to explore that for themselves.
It's an interesting question and it is down to personal preference, like any relationship. Not sure we have to say is it gay or straight though, labels aren't the most helpful, and Blaire makes sense here. Do people have to be one or the other? Bi is helpful I guess, but - do we have to label it? People can just be happy with whatever works for them nowadays, thankfully. I remember LIam saying something about the person being who he loves not the gender. I think he nailed it. You two are the perfect couple
I love that you are ok with how everyone feels!! Some people make it so uncomfortable if you aren't comfortable dating a trans person like you are transphobic I love how you are so open and understanding about preferences. It's all about respect at the end of the day!!!
Love is love, and you two are a wonderful example of this. I love that you've been together and mutually supportive of each other throughout Alexis's transition. Plus, you're both adorable.
You both are amazing human beings. I love you Alexis. I am a 53 years old ex-transwoman from Malaysia who is living his wonderful life. I respect people’s choices and I appreciate if people would respect mine in return. Ex-LGBTQ people like me do exist. I have often been told shut up but I don’t think I can.
I love this girl! she is just a down to earth beautiful person and most of all respecftul to everyone not aggresively forcing her own experiences onto others like a lot of other these days
I love you two!! It’s so nice you guys don’t use your relationship as a precedent everyone else should follow. You two are clearly made for each other and how you choose to navigate your sexualities is y’all’s business. I think you two did a commendable job with kindly sharing your views while also creating a healthy boundary for your privacies. The public isn’t entitled to know all the details, but it’s wonderful you two are open to sharing your views and experiences in thoughtful ways. I super appreciate Blaire’s take that it’s it’s own sexuality and likely falls in the bi spectrum. While I know not all bi people would say dating a trans person is their cup of tea, I know I would. And I feel like it’s less tricky for me and my comfort levels because of how I navigate my bisexuality. And I’d be totally okay if someone felt differently about their own attraction and journey with a partner. It’s just really refreshing that you guys are so warm towards diverse thought processes and ways people live their lives. Thanks so much for sharing!
I adore you both so much! I love your channel, Alexis, but seeing Liam is always a special treat. In response to the question “is dating a trans woman gay or straight”, my answer is yes. It’s gay or straight or even somewhere in between. From the outside looking in at my 54 years on the planet, I appear to be a cis-hetero woman, but I’ve always known I was queer because I am attracted to a wide spectrum of people. I feel that if I date a trans man, I wouldn’t be in a heterosexual relationship, but it wouldn’t be a gay relationship either. I don’t know, I’ve just never really liked boxes because, as Liam said, I don’t fit neatly into any of them. Anyway, happy holidays to you both! Love you so much!
I am also so impressed and inspired by how balanced, mature, logical, and empathetic your answers always are. I really wish this sort of thinking could be taught to everyone on all the subjects we argue about as humans. It might just put an end to wars and hate. Thank you so much for your channel.
as a married, straight, "conservative" woman I love seeing you two. I love that he didnt care that you wanted to transition because he loved you so much and just wanted to be with you no matter what. I really enjoy Blair White's podcasts and this video in particular made so much sense. Keep up the great videos, Alexis. You are so incredibly sweet and a great representative of the trans community
@@Black_Void_ Liam was with her as a dude first so... while what you said is correct, I think in Liam's case he's bi and leans more towards being attracted to men. As a gay guy, I couldn't stay with a guy transitioning into a woman, but that's just me.
You guys are sweet. It seems like it’s such a weird thing to wonder. I hope one day, we as a society, get to a point where we don’t have to label our relationships and just love who we love with no judgement. Thank you for your video.
You two are some of the sweetest, clearly loving couples I have seen! Supportive, communicative. You are relationship goals. Not sure how anyone can think you are secretly miserable.
I think it's obvious that socially you're _a straight couple._ If you decide to dance at the party: cha-cha, waltz, tango, etc., so that Liam will take the male role and Alexis will do the female dance figures. It would be awkward if A. & L. danced vice-versa. But *I agree with Blair that the romantic and erotic relationship of a trans person with a cis person* (as much as someone does not like this term - it cannot be avoided now) *is specific* and that there is a 'grey zone'. Perhaps we could use the term suggested in one video by Arielle Scarcella, i.e. *trans-heterosexual relationship.* Others would say that one can speak of a pansexual relationship. But it already smacks a bit of constructivism and labeling.
Alexis, this was a lot of fun! The two of you have timing like some classic TV comedy couples. Blaire White is fabulous and so iconic ... it would be cool for you to do some more reactions to her stuff.
I can see why someone would say they're gay because they know they are trans, and still like them. But I can also see why someone would say they are straight because they are attracted by the woman look's the trans has and the feminine vibe their giving. But if they are aware the person is trans, and still likes them. I'd say they are gay for trans woman, but not gay men.
Everyone should have someone in their life that loves them for what is on the inside, not what is on the outside. Liam and Alexis are very lucky to have each other. This is what a loving relationship looks like.
Back in early 2000s I had relationship with a trans woman. A very feminine, "passable" woman. Face, physique, butt, breasts, hips, legs...were so "woman like" I approached her at a bar not knowing she was "trans!" 😂 I offered her a drink, she was very honest and told me her "gender" and I embarrassingly said "my bad" and walked away. An hour of "watching her" afterwards found me offering a drink again. She accepted and we talked for a cpl hours. About 3 weeks and several conversations later we went out for dinner. She looked amazing and was very feminine in her personality, voice, movements etc and I only saw her as female. After 4 "dates" we had sex, I was male and she was female in our "roles." Her penis was never "involved" as her HRT made it "useless." It was strictly sex as we had no "emotional" ties and it ended after a few months. I went on to meet a woman who would later become my wife. Before we married she herself confessed to having bi-sexual curiousity and to help show my "understanding," confessed to my trans woman relationship to her. We "explored" her curiousity together, she was, is, definately bi-sexual. We had a number of experiences with "other women" when one night we went to an "alternative club," and guess who we "ran into?" My former trans gf! Who was "post op" by that time btw. And I was "flattered" when she told us she used my "size" in deciding how to determine her bottom "reassignment." We've all been "fwb" for almost 15 years now. She and my wife are both still very much feminine women, sexually attractive to each other, and I'm still a very lucky, fully participating STRAIGHT male.
I've never seen your content before and wasn't sure what to expect... Ahh! Soo refreshing to see someone cover a Blaire White video in a positive light! Thank you. I love Blaire, and it's great to see another sane rational voice in the Trans community ❤
I love that you say it is a gray area. There are many gray areas in relationships whether gay or straight. As long as the couple is happy in their relationship who cares. Thank you to both of you for allowing the rest of us to be apart of your lives. You make such a cute couple.
I don't think they are gay for finding attractive a trans woman, because they like the feminine traits. Talking about what they see outside. Now when it comes to intimacy, it is what defines as homo or hetero
This is such a good discussion! You two are so well matched with your thoughtful consideration and openness to sharing your experiences and looking to understand other people’s perspectives. Alexis, you are an absolute gem - so kind and empathetic, while also being honest and practical. I think it is really cool that Liam brought this idea to you, and you two discussed it together - because it really can be a nuanced topic, and you two are so well placed to have this conversation. Slightly adjacent to the main topic, but Alexis, I really appreciated your perspective and opinion on the differences between biological women and trans women. There really is a difference of experiences in being born female and growing up as a girl and into womanhood, and being born male, experiencing gender dysphoria and transitioning to become a trans woman - and that is okay. To diminish either one of those experiences is to act as though one is “better” or “more deserving” than the other, which is fundamentally untrue. Just like it would be fundamentally untrue to say that there were absolutely NO experiences that women and trans-women have in common - because post transition (to whatever degree that person chooses/is able to transition) there are lots of things that women and trans women experience very similarly - your hilarious “wardrobe malfunction” story is one example! I laughed watching that video because I had had a very similar experience at an event when I was pregnant and thought I could get away with wearing an empire waist dress that would work with my bump, and with a bodice that my pregnancy b00bs were - as it turns out - definitely a bit too big for (luckily my husband noticed before anyone else and provided cover for me to sort it out!). I was so vigilant for the rest of that evening 😂
I honestly think it can't (and doesn’t habe to) be categorized! I absolutely agree it depends on the person. Whether I do or don't feel attracted on someone doesn’t depend on what's in their pants...
Men are attracted to a feminine appearance and every trans person I've gotten to know has a personality that is extremely feminine almost 100% of the time. I as a person born a woman may at times be more tomboyish or less feminine. Men love and are pulled into this ultra-femininity and absolutely love it. If they fall in love then they tend to figure out the sexual part because the rest of the person is the whole package for them.
A long time ago Blair made a video talking to her boyfriend about this topic (not sure if the video is still availabele) and she used an specific therm to adress this situation where the man is attracted to the feminine shape and not really to the feminine biological sex. It's something like gynophilia, but I can't remember if that was the word she really used. When she mentioned it for the first time I understood why some "straight" men have attraction for trans womans, drags, etc. They would never date a gay man (masculine or feminine), but they would have sex with a biological man that looks, dress and act like a woman. edit: yeah the video is still up, it's labeld "is my boyfriend gay" and the word was Gynandromorphophilic.
😂 That seems like a fancy word for internalize "homophobia". I mean think about it. Female's are the majority at the moment and you telling me that a "straight" male would pick another male (regardless of stylistics culture appropriation) as a partner? 😒 I will always call BS. Blaire is a smart person but when it comes to his issues with dysphoria. He goes full gender identity ideology.
@@heroncolby2842 What argument should I provide if you can just up go search about it? I knew about man who expclicity told that he doesn't feel attracted to a person who looks lilke a MALE but he feels attracted to biological males that looks like womans and prefer to have relation with them. So what? You are going to call him homophobic and say that he should feel attracted by someone who looks like a gay man? Sry... you cannot. Also blair was talking about her boyfriend and not about herself, so it was not about Ideological BS.
@@kodaiyoung Did he said he was straight (heterosexual) or gay (homosexual)? Because there's a abundance of cases where homosexual (or bi) individuals refuse to accept it and pretend to be straight. I mean there's hundreds of cases where married men to women, cheat on them having sexual relationship's with men. This is a psychological issue where individual's refuses to accept the notion of seeing themselves in a homosexual relationship. It could be because of social pressure, could be because their parents disapprove or they simply want to emulate a traditional couple because that's what they believe to be "the right look or way", (a Man and a Woman). And trust me. Saying it's internalized homophobia is way better than what you're saying. A male who's attracted to male's who artificially alter themselves to look like Women. That opens a whole other can of worms, psychologically speaking. And Blaire is a human male. In the English language we use he/him pronouns to address male's...
You two are absolutely adorable and totally believable as a couple who truly enjoys and loves each other... you are just who you are and you are charming. You are not trying to push any agenda, just being honest and yourselves. I wish you continued happiness and all kinds of success in the new year !
I personally believe it also depends on person to person. I think some peoples attractions are more genital based than others. I myself as a gay man have always been open to dating trans men, however for me to be able to feel attraction towards them, they would need to look masculine (had at least top surgery, preferably body hair etc). I don't think this makes me bisexual as some other ytbers have said
I agree with you here, because ultimately you would be still dating someone who is a man - even if it's a trans man. Someone who presents as a man and that's your preference/attracted too
Liam said, that he was basically attracted to femininity, wether that was a feminine girl or boy, I assume? And beyond that, off course personality also comes into play. So when he met Alexis, before the transition, Alexis was a feminine gay guy, right? And Liam was attracted to that, and fell in love with Alexis as a person. So then, Alexis comes out after a year, as trans - and Liam stayed. And to me, it makes alot of sense, because Alexis is still that same person, he fell in love with - and that femininity, which was part of the initial attraction, was just allowed alot more space. So what I take from that, is that maybe Liam is simply Pansexual, with a preference for a feminine partner.
I think this is very interesting, because I am a bisexual woman but I have never felt attracted to anyone that's trans. That's why I think it's a whole different category. I like men and I like women, but somehow I am not attracted to anything that combines the two.
I do agree with the "its a grey area" thing, i'm dating a trans man, and even he said to me when we confessed our feeling that he thought I was full straight, it kinda made me laugh a little 'cause he is right i'm not fully straight but that doesn't mean I like girls too I don't feel attracted to them, but i do like masculinity
my question is this: what is so wrong with being labelled GAY ? why is this even a debatable issue. If a man is into male genitals, then that is his preference.
I think they are at least Bi, especially if the trans person has not had bottom surgery. Most straight guys have a resounding No response to whether or not they would date a trans woman and it is 100 % because of what is in their pants. If we want to accept that biology exists, then what is in a person's pants matter in terms of defining sexual orientation. So, while they are not gay, I would categorize them as bi.
So, you've spoken to most guys? Many might say that, because they fear, what their stupid friends would think or because they are in front of a camera or they just never really realized, that they wouldn't care, what she has in her pants or even like it, even though, they are absolutely not into men. It's not the sex people are primarily into, it's the gender, according to Rod Fleming.
You two are so disgustingly cute! One is beautiful and the other is handsome and you interact with each other so lovingly. Wish I was younger cause I'd be asking you both to adopt me! Lol I hope with all my heart that you both have a long and happy life together xx
Anyone with eyes can tell you are both happy. People who see Liam as “unhappy”, are unhappy themselves and want others just as miserable as them! You are a beautiful, adorable and happy couple, don’t let anyone tell you differently! 🥰😘😍
I'm Bisexual and have had relations with many different kinds of people, including a Transwoman who decided to not have the Bottom Surgery. This is a hard question for me to understand from solely my own personal experience. I saw Blaire's original video and now I'm watching this video in order to get a different perspective on the issue.
I feel that love Transends gay or straight. I love every single thing about Blair White, her way of thinking, her way of thinking, her heart. She has a plus that she is absolutely beautiful. I am about 100% that I would treat her as a woman and be willing to except anything for that person. Ask yourself this if you truly love someone and were willing to die for them, would you not be willing to except anything for that person? I am so tired of people trying to label one another. Can't a person just love who they love and not have to be labeled? I try not to use labels because truthfully it is none of my fckn business what others do with their lives.
Honestly I am 44 years old and with all my heart I believe that it’s the person we fall in love with, not the genitalia. You love each other so deeply and in such an honest and compassionate way that who cares how it works! As long as Liam looks at you with those puppy eyes when you’re talking and you look at him with such deep affection when he’s talking, my world is a better place than it was before I knew you both existed. You are a wonderful woman and Liam, you are the type of man friend , I wish I could have had in my corner many years ago. Never change yourselves because this older woman absolutely loves the bones of you both ❤❤
This is such a person specific question. There are so many variables, preferences, and desires, as well as so many things that are turn ons/offs that are different for literally everyone. I think for a 100% hard-line straight male that knows a fully post op trans woman is trans, he probably wouldn't want to be with her. But there's a million different stops between that person, and someone that couldn't care less what or who you are and you would consider and could be attracted to any type of person. Some might be ok w some things and not others. It just comes down to the individual preferences of the people involved. To me all that matters is that people be honest, open, and kind. Nothing wrong with finding your way through the gray areas with kindness.
Wishing you and Liam a very happy Christmas! As I was reading the comments, someone said something that really resonates, at the end of the day you fall in love with the person, not the gender. If sex became impossible, I'd still love my husband because I love who he is, not his bits and bobs!
I think its amazing that a couple can stay together through a HUGE transition like this. If anything I think it shows actual true love. Who cares if youre gay, straight or bi!? The mean comments about Liam just make me so upset.
Don’t get upset hun the mean comments don’t bother me - we living our best life haha. We are doing well, we are happy, have amazing friends and family around us - what more could one ask for! ❤
I definitely see how Blair could say it could be its own different sexuality. I’m sure there are some people that prefer to date only trans women and if that were the case that doesn’t seem the same as bisexual.
Very interesting video. As a straight man I personally feel like you can be with a tans person and not be gay, I wouldn't be together with a bearded lady because I don't find it feminine and femininity is something I am attracted to, but a trans person like Blair White or you Alexis (beautiful transition) I could easily be attracted to the both of you one thing I need to be clear about though is that if the parts downstairs don't fit the gender I'm not into it sexually and I'm pretty sure that is why I would never consider myself gay because all I see is a woman even if that was not what you were born as.
I am glad I found you, Alexis. Thank you for being classy. I think the kids like to label everything too much, I like the spectrum analogy. Love the person, love the spirit, the soul of a person, it only takes one health condition or back injury to make the sex irrelevant, for a time at least. I am glad your medical interventions have helped your armour match your feminine spirit. You are certainly a lovely woman. I respect you and Blaire because you both respect women enough to stand up for women's spaces, thank you so much.
I love you Alexis, and Blaire - you are amazing advocates for trans. The energy you both bring, is beautiful. I disagree with you on this topic though. DNA doesn't lie. Sorry. Bi is the correct term and there is NOTHING WRONG with that. Love who you love, and live your best life. Merry Christmas Alexis and Liam 💖
If you are a man who is with a trans woman, that's really a gray area. I'd say you aren't 100 percent straight, or you might be bi sexual and that's okay. Love is love. Regular gay men want someone who looks like a MAN. So whether or not you are a biological woman, it doesn't matter if you look like a woman. Gay men are not into that.
as far as the "physical act is gay" that's a dumb argument because there are cis straight couples who do an*l or cis straight couples where the guy enjoys toys or whatever and it's still totally straight sex. So the basis of determination is how each person in the relationship defines themselves - not on technicalities.
Aw you guys are such a beautiful couple. The love between you is so clear to see ♥️ Who you are attracted to is personal to every individual. I’m straight and I’ve only ever been with men. I don’t fancy every single man I meet just because they’re male, it’s more of an energy or a chemistry between the two people and how you make each other feel. Some people would never ever consider dating outside of their preference and that’s ok. And there’s others who are more open. I’d never rule out dating anyone outside of my ‘preference’, I take each person as I find them and I guess I’ve never felt a connection with anyone other than men, but that doesn’t mean I never would, if the opportunity presented itself with someone who I felt really attracted to. You two have such a lovely relationship and it’s no one’s business to tell you how you should feel or put a label on it. Thank you for sharing 🥰
Maybe it's just me, but I've spent 12minutes thinking if Liam's head is fully tattooed. Time to ask the real questions! But on a serious note, I consider myself straight, and you and Blair give me woman vibes. Were I to meet you and we hit it of I would try (I don't think I can word it differently) if the physical part would work for me. I know this makes it seem almost a science experiment, but it would be so new. And I think quite a lot of people would be at least thinking flexibly when you are attracted to the other person and have that personal click.
Sexuality is weird. Love is weirder. I've known people who were absolutely monosexual but with one person who was an exception. A gay friend of mine was absolutely in love with his childhood female friend, and she loved him as well. They realized it would never work between even before they both knew he was gay. When she married a man my friend was a mix of a sad mess and happy that his best friend had a good (and really 🔥) guy. Happily their friendship always held up regardless ❤️
There was a brief time where they (I was thought this was a teacher in 10th grade ) were disgusting sexuality as a spectrum to me that made sense. They said even if you’re straight, you may not fall in the hundred percent straight part of the spectrum like your fiancé said there’s bi curious is that person actually bisexual or gay no but they have curiosities they may even be attracted to certain kind of porn, but they mesh never act on it so when you say spectrum in that kind of way, yeah I think it is a spectrum, but in the way they’re looking at spectrum . That’s weird and all these labels are weird. I also believe sometimes you just meet somebody in fall in love with them it happens . Great video and it was nice to have Liam with you today. I hope you both have happy holidays.🥰☃️🎄🕎
It works like this, no exceptions. If you have a penis, and you’re in a relationship with someone that has a penis as well, you’re gay. If you have a vagina and the person you’re with also has a vagina, you’re gay . There isn’t a debate about this, just like there’s no debate about men cannot have children because they do not have vaginas . This is about chromosomes, nothing else cannot ministry, only healthy young women can. I don’t know why this is so confusing it’s very much based in reality, common sense, and science .
People also try to tell me what my sexuality is all the time. I used to exclusively date women and now I find myself being only into men. At no point in my life I was open to dating both men and women. People keep telling me I'm bi. Imagine if I said I was bi, people would assume I would be open to dating either at any time. It's just misleading.
It’s all the labels really. I agree that some people would not be open to it and that’s ok , or should I say move past it. That’s ok. I think sometimes it comes down to attraction for the individual. It depends on the individual. Sadly, many get too hung up on the labels and miss out on an opportunity to have a fulfilling relationship.
I find myself watching another one of your videos. And again, I tried very hard to listen to what you were saying. But I am very easily distracted because I think you are very beautiful. For a long time I have called myself straight. Even though I find a lot of trans women attractive. But I guess, I should call myself Bi. Because I am having to admit to myself that I would like to get physical with a lot of trans women. Its not easy for men who are straight to admit that they find trans women attractive. It causes all sorts of conflict within yourself about who you are.
I love this video! As a trans girl something people dont realize despite genitalia, a gay men isnt attracted to a trans woman, even if she doesnt have srs. It's been a known fact that many guys are attracted to women, femininity, and the overall female aura, but prefer penis. Thats why we are sexualized so much in media, because trans girls have that hyper femininity that straight men love. I think this is a "debate" that really is over done, and by breaking the stigma about dating trans women it ultimately will effect the level we are "accepted" in society. One of the highest percents of the hate crimes against us is from our lovers because society shames them and calls them "gay". Plus, someone's sexuality is their own identity, so no one can tell someone who they are just because they may be in a relationship with someone who isn't "conventional". If you dont wanna date a trans woman, then thats ok! I wouldn't label you "transphobic" especially if your being respectful about it. However, we need to stop as a culture calling any man attracted to a trans woman "gay". We arent the same as (biological) women but we experience "womanhood" in our own individual way. (Also, you and Liam are sooo adorable 🥰❤)
"because trans girls have that hyper femininity that straight men love." Hate to break it to you, but as someone who worked as an OF moderator for 2+ years and read probably hundreds of thousands chats between users and models (yes, we do that for security and to make sure no illegal offers are made) and has already QUITE a database on people's most intimate thoughts and desires, hyper-feminine and "bimbo" models had a very loyal, for sure, but not that big of a following when you compare them to just normal next-door instagram girls. It's a very specific fetish that very specific men are attracted to. The rule of thumb is that majority of the population is attracted to everything in the middle, moderate and quite normie. There are dozens of studies about this, it's literally the evolutionary behavior that made us so successful
I'm a lesbian and my partner is bi. I have met many lesbians attracted to transwomen.....all of these questions are pretty silly. We are all in the grayness of queer....in the end, I wish we didn't care about any of this!! Happy holidays you lovely people out there---and love the one you're with!!
Alexis and Liam, I just love the honesty from both of you. I listen to your comments and recommend to others to watch your podcast as I find it extremely interesting and informative when you both are having your truth sharing, truth telling conversations. You are both an inspiration and are a beautiful couple, on the inside and on the outside. ❤ Thank you for having the courage to do this. I appreciate and honour the both of you. cas from Australia
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. Dementia robs everyone involved. My mother in law died from this disease, and it was heartbreaking. You need to let the emotions out, that's healthy for you. You are a warrior, please don't forget that. I used to watch a youtuber named Joey with his mom, Molly. Maybe a good resource. ❤ Straighten your crown dear queen, you got this.
@@bripearce45 Yes it is he's still a man. And they still are two men. Facts. He still has a ding dong. Even if he cuts it off he's still a man. He can never get pregnant. Facts.
I can admit when someone is hot, it doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to them.
I would even go a step further, and say that, as a straight man, I think Blaire White is hot AND I'm sexually attracted to her, BUT I would still never be intimate with a biological man, but to each their own of course. 🙏🤘😎
When people fall in love , lots of barriers fall away .......
Love that.
Why do people who fall in love get divorced later.
@@OverYou-tr5okhuman emotions are complex and ever changing
@OverYou-tr5ok because lifes not perfect and we are too unwilling to put the work in required by both parties ......but all kinds of barriers do fall away when people fall in love .....
@@mxdahliabelle
I thought I was in love several times too, until he walked away and never came back.
I'm a fan of both Blair and Alexis and I love that while there are some similarities in thought, you each have your own unique perspectives and opinions. Also, Alexis and Liam, y'all are so freaking adorable ❤
Awww thank you and yeah could not agree more. It’s better that people do things differently. Blair is defo more cut throat in her delivery 😅
I honestly didn't even know who Blaire was until Alexis. Now I'm a fan and follower of both Blaire White and Buck Angel.
Marcus Dib "The Offensive Tranny" is great also
Yo ditto blaire I thought was a woman until she said other wise
Im amazed how well Blaire is able to project feminine energy, because after years of watching her content I just see her as Blaire, without thinking she's trans. There are biological, straight women, that project masculine energy, is being attracted to them gay?
I don’t think it’s about “energy”. “Energy” is just personality and everyone has a unique one. It’s about biology. I’m probably one of these women who kinda exude “masculine energy”. I like men who have a bit more stereotypical “feminine energy”. That doesn’t make me or the men who’d date me gay. I’m sexually attracted to the male body and they’re attracted to the female body.
@@JustanotherUA-camr771 I think Blaire is attractive, but I wouldn't be interested in dating her. If we go back to the original question, if we could revert it - what percentage of straight men is willing to date trans woman? The answer to that question could give a better picture.
Blaire is very adjusted to Blaires own camera setup. Seen in other settings it's a more male vibe
Yes
I know I’m late but I’m a guy with a naturally feminine face (so kind of similar to what you described) and most guys I attract are bisexual which… makes sense I geuss?
Thank you Liam to bring up the subject of bisexuality That is another topic people are not sure to definitely have a opinion. The usual mindset is that women can be bisexual and still be heterosexual, but men are automatically considered to be homosexual if they are also attracted to both men and womenm
Bisexuality still exist? I was thinking it was replaced by pansexuality.
@@patatofred9079It’s always been bisexuality. Pan is a fancy way to say bi.
I see bisexuals almost left out if that’s the right wording. You have some gays that see them as traitors and gays in denial and the straight side saying the same and they’re stuck in the middle
@@patatofred9079no. Pansexuality is just a made up term for bi
@@irishcajun85I’m bi but even if I find trans people attractive, I don’t really relate to them. And sex for me is a soul thing. I still respect trans people (as in actual trans people who have the disorder) but I cannot see myself behind with a male/female energy and having a different genitalia fucks my brain up😭
Alexis and Blaire are both beautiful in every way ❤️
I love feminine energy its beautiful
The genuine feminine energy they (and other trans women) possess is a dead giveaway Dylan Mulvaney is a fraud and a grifter.
I love when you two collaborate on an issue. I hope you always stay the sweetest couple. Such inspiration. 💕
aww thank you so much what a lovely comment
Agreed I absolutely adore them both! 🤗❤
Alexis is calmer and Blaire is just no bones about it when she speaks she does not care! 😂😂😂
But I love them both how they are is wonderful
Alexis and Blaire are men.
Women say NO to men in women's spaces and sports.
I've had my eyes opened since I moved back to Yorkshire. My straight male friends have zero problem with me being Gay. They hug me and kiss me and really don't give a shit. In fact they are protective of me, even though I'm more than capable of taking care of myself.
Things have changed so much in the last 40 years.
👏 that’s so beautiful that they are great friends and the way they want to protect you. ❤
@@OverYou-tr5ok i made reference to what the person said. “ they are protective over me” that’s what I was making reference too. Pls don’t take this and run with it like anyone needs protecting bc they are gay, short, blah blah.
@@OverYou-tr5ok in short - nothing.
@@OverYou-tr5ok ??? Tbh don’t know what you’re on about.
@@OverYou-tr5ok that’s great. But I have no idea what you mean. Nothing was explained in detail. Anyone. No hard feelings. Merry Xmas. Happy Holidays.
i am a 54 year old grandma and i LOVE both of you.. love your relationship and common sense attitude to everything. I hate labels so much, it's getting VERY confusing how to react to everyone's differences in a politically correct way. So all I say is JUST BE KIND TO EVERYONE!!!
You would do better by yourself, your daughters and granddaughters to stop being kind to men who breach women's rights.
When men pretend to be women, the rights of women and girls are obliterated.
❤❤❤❤ sweet message happy new year 🎉
When people (for some unknown reason) ask me for my sexuality I just say that I am flexible. If I find someone attractive and they are of good character and treats me well then genitals are least of my worry ( I can work with anything lol).
I use to describe myself as bisexual but I stopped after being bashed by some of my friends for dating (and soon getting married to) man. I think we as a society we love our little boxes onto which we can categorise people. We are obsessed with labels and that should not really be a point of our lives
Yup, labels make (many) people feel safe. Both wearing one and sticking them onto others.
Here's the thing: you aren't at all obliged to play along with a label you've been given. Use it or ignore it as you wish, there's nothing others can do about that, really.
And sometimes we can actively benefit from a label (e.g. "reliable" or "nice" or "doesn't play well with others at all"), so I'm not above letting people believe what they will when it suits me.
I'm sorry you guys get so much negativity. I would agree with Blaire, that it would likely be considered bi. That just makes sense to me.
But only if we're discussing pre- or nonsurgical transgender bodies, and even then, that assumes a proclivity towards certain sexual acts and circumstances. In the end, I think a spectrum of orientations are attracted to us for different reasons.
@@mxdahliabelle even post-op, it's not just about genitalia. Men have different *everything*, and it's not something hormones or surgeries can change. Let's be honest here, even a bottom post-op result is just an inverted penis. + I'm talking skeletal structure (shoulder-hip ratio, etc) and voice, for one. Like, if I'm being honest, I've never seen a convincingly sounding MTF. How they sound and speak is always sus. It's a bit "easier" for FTMs because testosterone is a much more transformative and "powerful" hormone and with them, I could almost never tell
@Li_Tobler I suspect you have a relatively small sample size 🤷🏿♀️ Males and females have a surprisingly wide range of body types, proportions, and voices. I have met female women with deeper, more masculine voices than mine (which I don't consider to be particularly feminine), and male men who sound like adolescent girls. There's also a very good chance that you've unknowingly interacted with transgender women who pass so convincingly you simply had no idea (this is more common with women who medically transitioned as teenagers and were likely highly effeminate to begin with).
Regarding vaginaplasty, it would really be appreciated if people would avoid the whole "inverted penis" description. 1) It's extremely hurtful, given the struggle we already go through; 2) Penile inversion isn't the only available option - peritoneal vaginaplasty, for example, is also used for intersex females. Describing such surgically created vaginas as something other than what they are is degrading and even a bit dehumanizing to intersex females and transgender women. And lastly, all of this assumes an extremely narrow range of intimate activities.
Obviously, I'm not suggesting that anyone is required to seek out and form any particular relationship with any other person. I just think humanity is more diverse and complicated than we sometimes acknowledge or care to admit.
@@mxdahliabelle I worked as a moderator on a porn-website where we had a sizeable MTF model base. I've probably seen more of yall than any average person haha. If I'd have to estimate, at least 1000+ during 2 years of work. I could always tell:) Not always when just seeing them, but always when they started talking. There is variety of course (I'm a 6 ft tall woman myself but was never confused for a man) but the real androgyny (where you really can't discern if this is a man or a woman walking in front of you, walk, demeanor and figure-wise) is extremely rare. We're very good at clocking in very subtle biological clues together and in general (unless you're *extremely* passable which is very, very rare) we all can tell who's in front of us, even if it's a woman with no waist (hi Keira Knightley!) or a guy with very small shoulders.
My friend has a literal chain-smoker voice and I would never confuse her as trans:) No one is talking about deepness. I'm talking sounding like a teenage boy hitting puberty, that special voice crack that's very hard to hide, even though many transwomen try to but the moment they let their guard down, it shows up.
My point it - it's still formerly a penis and that' how it always will be, no way around it 🤷🏻♀ No amount of niceness or dancing around terms is gonna change that. It maybe repeats the form of the real thing, but it doesn't perform like one and never will. It doesn't lubricate itself, it doesn't dilate x2 times the size during arousal, it doesn't have a whole clitoral structure that makes it literally a pleasure palace, it doesn't have a unique lacto-bacteria dominated microbiome that keeps it sterile. I can continue but I believe my point came across already. I could go on about birth-related stuff too but I I'll omit it here just to stay respectful to my intersex girlies out there
@@mxdahliabelle This is such a flawed and dishonest response. It's not about "sample size" it's about what innately makes a female body female and what innately makes a male body male. Surgeries and chemicals can attempt to mimic those aspects but it's never going to be innate. That body and being is always going to be as it was born, the rest is cosmetic and chemical. And that's ok by the way. If that's a choice someone has had to make because it's the only limited option that a deeply flawed medical industry has given them, I appreciate that and all the more power to anyone who's had to make those choices. Own it, you're beautiful as you are, including all cosmetic and chemical changes. But you're talking about different body types and voices and whatnot. That's a complete strawman response. Yes... humans have differences from other humans... duh. That's not what this comment was talking about.
Personally I dont think it's gay if you're a male and see a transwoman as hot. Because you're looking at the *female* aspects of the attraction there. Now, sexually speaking, if you engage in it, it's..gay sex on a physical level.
I just see people who like a trans person as inherently bi. You're usually dealing with both the same and oppsite gender/sex in one person. It makes it much easier for me understand.
Ive heard that Bi people are not necessarily attracted to trans (notice Blair and Alexis did not mention Bi) as Bi is attached to man & woman. You kinda have to be ok with the mix of the two together in one. I think its Pan sexual which is Bi + trans et al. Just from the top of my head without googling!
@@daezeechayne462 Oh you're right. Pan would fit that better, thanks for the insight!
I really don't even think it's all that complicated. Human sexuality is far more fluid and flexible than most people care to admit, and there exists a wide variety of ways to intimately engage with bodies. It's been my experience that strict heterosexuality and homosexuality are rare, and most people have some degree of flexibility or special exceptions.
@@mxdahliabelle That's exactly why it's complicated to some people. When things are fluid and flexible then it's not simple unless you already know the ins and outs. I personally don't operate well with a plethora of specific labels to remember. I prefer an umbrella, so that I know the core and can then go down to things under it. Structure, if you will. So I'll apply your outlook to learning in that it's fluid and flexible and there are a variety of ways to teach a person.
Also depends on how much the trans person has transitioned. If they’ve had bottom surgery and everything then I would say even having sex with them could be considered straight.
I’m so black and white sometimes. For me it’s about the genitalia. That’s why I feel it’s so important for the trans person in the potential (dating) relationship to disclose that info upfront. I understand and agree with the presence of spectrum but also need to respect an individual’s choice to not want to explore that for themselves.
It's an interesting question and it is down to personal preference, like any relationship. Not sure we have to say is it gay or straight though, labels aren't the most helpful, and Blaire makes sense here. Do people have to be one or the other? Bi is helpful I guess, but - do we have to label it? People can just be happy with whatever works for them nowadays, thankfully. I remember LIam saying something about the person being who he loves not the gender. I think he nailed it. You two are the perfect couple
I love that you are ok with how everyone feels!! Some people make it so uncomfortable if you aren't comfortable dating a trans person like you are transphobic I love how you are so open and understanding about preferences. It's all about respect at the end of the day!!!
Love is love, and you two are a wonderful example of this. I love that you've been together and mutually supportive of each other throughout Alexis's transition. Plus, you're both adorable.
You both are amazing human beings. I love you Alexis. I am a 53 years old ex-transwoman from Malaysia who is living his wonderful life. I respect people’s choices and I appreciate if people would respect mine in return. Ex-LGBTQ people like me do exist. I have often been told shut up but I don’t think I can.
You don't think you can, nor should you! I hope you never shut up! Keep speaking your mind!
@@SundayMourningLove thanks so much for edifying. Most welcome to subscribe.
Ex?
@@1twistedcpl6575 yes. 😇
@@1twistedcpl6575detransitioned
In my opinion Blair White is a beautiful, feminine, nice and down to earth person. I think those are qualities that a lot of men are attracted to.
I love this girl! she is just a down to earth beautiful person and most of all respecftul to everyone not aggresively forcing her own experiences onto others like a lot of other these days
I love you two!! It’s so nice you guys don’t use your relationship as a precedent everyone else should follow. You two are clearly made for each other and how you choose to navigate your sexualities is y’all’s business. I think you two did a commendable job with kindly sharing your views while also creating a healthy boundary for your privacies. The public isn’t entitled to know all the details, but it’s wonderful you two are open to sharing your views and experiences in thoughtful ways. I super appreciate Blaire’s take that it’s it’s own sexuality and likely falls in the bi spectrum. While I know not all bi people would say dating a trans person is their cup of tea, I know I would. And I feel like it’s less tricky for me and my comfort levels because of how I navigate my bisexuality. And I’d be totally okay if someone felt differently about their own attraction and journey with a partner. It’s just really refreshing that you guys are so warm towards diverse thought processes and ways people live their lives. Thanks so much for sharing!
I adore you both so much! I love your channel, Alexis, but seeing Liam is always a special treat. In response to the question “is dating a trans woman gay or straight”, my answer is yes. It’s gay or straight or even somewhere in between. From the outside looking in at my 54 years on the planet, I appear to be a cis-hetero woman, but I’ve always known I was queer because I am attracted to a wide spectrum of people. I feel that if I date a trans man, I wouldn’t be in a heterosexual relationship, but it wouldn’t be a gay relationship either. I don’t know, I’ve just never really liked boxes because, as Liam said, I don’t fit neatly into any of them. Anyway, happy holidays to you both! Love you so much!
There's a reason futanari is so successful.
@@p.s.shnabel3409 I’d never heard of that before and had to look it up. Ummm…. Thanks for the info…?
I am also so impressed and inspired by how balanced, mature, logical, and empathetic your answers always are. I really wish this sort of thinking could be taught to everyone on all the subjects we argue about as humans. It might just put an end to wars and hate. Thank you so much for your channel.
as a married, straight, "conservative" woman I love seeing you two. I love that he didnt care that you wanted to transition because he loved you so much and just wanted to be with you no matter what. I really enjoy Blair White's podcasts and this video in particular made so much sense. Keep up the great videos, Alexis. You are so incredibly sweet and a great representative of the trans community
I love how honest you both are. No fluff or beating round the bush, just thoughtful and genuine.
I am so happy that there are guys out there like Liam. Gives me hope. ❤
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@@Black_Void_ Liam was with her as a dude first so... while what you said is correct, I think in Liam's case he's bi and leans more towards being attracted to men. As a gay guy, I couldn't stay with a guy transitioning into a woman, but that's just me.
The two of you are so adorable! You need to have Liam on more. He's a breath of fresh air.
You guys are sweet. It seems like it’s such a weird thing to wonder. I hope one day, we as a society, get to a point where we don’t have to label our relationships and just love who we love with no judgement. Thank you for your video.
You two are some of the sweetest, clearly loving couples I have seen! Supportive, communicative. You are relationship goals. Not sure how anyone can think you are secretly miserable.
I was JUST talking about you and how kind you are!!! As I was talking the notification popped up!! ❤❤❤❤❤
I think it's obvious that socially you're _a straight couple._ If you decide to dance at the party: cha-cha, waltz, tango, etc., so that Liam will take the male role and Alexis will do the female dance figures. It would be awkward if A. & L. danced vice-versa.
But *I agree with Blair that the romantic and erotic relationship of a trans person with a cis person* (as much as someone does not like this term - it cannot be avoided now) *is specific* and that there is a 'grey zone'. Perhaps we could use the term suggested in one video by Arielle Scarcella, i.e. *trans-heterosexual relationship.* Others would say that one can speak of a pansexual relationship. But it already smacks a bit of constructivism and labeling.
Alexis, this was a lot of fun! The two of you have timing like some classic TV comedy couples. Blaire White is fabulous and so iconic ... it would be cool for you to do some more reactions to her stuff.
I can see why someone would say they're gay because they know they are trans, and still like them. But I can also see why someone would say they are straight because they are attracted by the woman look's the trans has and the feminine vibe their giving. But if they are aware the person is trans, and still likes them. I'd say they are gay for trans woman, but not gay men.
Everyone should have someone in their life that loves them for what is on the inside, not what is on the outside. Liam and Alexis are very lucky to have each other. This is what a loving relationship looks like.
Back in early 2000s I had relationship with a trans woman. A very feminine, "passable" woman. Face, physique, butt, breasts, hips, legs...were so "woman like" I approached her at a bar not knowing she was "trans!" 😂
I offered her a drink, she was very honest and told me her "gender" and I embarrassingly said "my bad" and walked away. An hour of "watching her" afterwards found me offering a drink again. She accepted and we talked for a cpl hours.
About 3 weeks and several conversations later we went out for dinner. She looked amazing and was very feminine in her personality, voice, movements etc and I only saw her as female. After 4 "dates" we had sex, I was male and she was female in our "roles." Her penis was never "involved" as her HRT made it "useless."
It was strictly sex as we had no "emotional" ties and it ended after a few months.
I went on to meet a woman who would later become my wife. Before we married she herself confessed to having bi-sexual curiousity and to help show my "understanding," confessed to my trans woman relationship to her. We "explored" her curiousity together, she was, is, definately bi-sexual.
We had a number of experiences with "other women" when one night we went to an "alternative club," and guess who we "ran into?" My former trans gf! Who was "post op" by that time btw. And I was "flattered" when she told us she used my "size" in deciding how to determine her bottom "reassignment."
We've all been "fwb" for almost 15 years now. She and my wife are both still very much feminine women, sexually attractive to each other, and I'm still a very lucky, fully participating STRAIGHT male.
I've never seen your content before and wasn't sure what to expect...
Ahh! Soo refreshing to see someone cover a Blaire White video in a positive light! Thank you. I love Blaire, and it's great to see another sane rational voice in the Trans community ❤
You two have a special relationship. Very supportive, kind, loving. You make me smile. Doesn't need a label other than happy
I love that you say it is a gray area. There are many gray areas in relationships whether gay or straight. As long as the couple is happy in their relationship who cares. Thank you to both of you for allowing the rest of us to be apart of your lives. You make such a cute couple.
I don't think they are gay for finding attractive a trans woman, because they like the feminine traits. Talking about what they see outside. Now when it comes to intimacy, it is what defines as homo or hetero
This is such a good discussion! You two are so well matched with your thoughtful consideration and openness to sharing your experiences and looking to understand other people’s perspectives. Alexis, you are an absolute gem - so kind and empathetic, while also being honest and practical. I think it is really cool that Liam brought this idea to you, and you two discussed it together - because it really can be a nuanced topic, and you two are so well placed to have this conversation.
Slightly adjacent to the main topic, but Alexis, I really appreciated your perspective and opinion on the differences between biological women and trans women. There really is a difference of experiences in being born female and growing up as a girl and into womanhood, and being born male, experiencing gender dysphoria and transitioning to become a trans woman - and that is okay. To diminish either one of those experiences is to act as though one is “better” or “more deserving” than the other, which is fundamentally untrue. Just like it would be fundamentally untrue to say that there were absolutely NO experiences that women and trans-women have in common - because post transition (to whatever degree that person chooses/is able to transition) there are lots of things that women and trans women experience very similarly - your hilarious “wardrobe malfunction” story is one example! I laughed watching that video because I had had a very similar experience at an event when I was pregnant and thought I could get away with wearing an empire waist dress that would work with my bump, and with a bodice that my pregnancy b00bs were - as it turns out - definitely a bit too big for (luckily my husband noticed before anyone else and provided cover for me to sort it out!). I was so vigilant for the rest of that evening 😂
I love the way Liam looks at you and how you respond with a cute little smile to him when he does. Y’all our so adorable. Love it!!
I honestly think it can't (and doesn’t habe to) be categorized! I absolutely agree it depends on the person. Whether I do or don't feel attracted on someone doesn’t depend on what's in their pants...
That's called being Bisexual.
Men are attracted to a feminine appearance and every trans person I've gotten to know has a personality that is extremely feminine almost 100% of the time. I as a person born a woman may at times be more tomboyish or less feminine. Men love and are pulled into this ultra-femininity and absolutely love it. If they fall in love then they tend to figure out the sexual part because the rest of the person is the whole package for them.
you 2 make such a cute couple! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!
Merry Xmas
A long time ago Blair made a video talking to her boyfriend about this topic (not sure if the video is still availabele) and she used an specific therm to adress this situation where the man is attracted to the feminine shape and not really to the feminine biological sex. It's something like gynophilia, but I can't remember if that was the word she really used. When she mentioned it for the first time I understood why some "straight" men have attraction for trans womans, drags, etc. They would never date a gay man (masculine or feminine), but they would have sex with a biological man that looks, dress and act like a woman.
edit: yeah the video is still up, it's labeld "is my boyfriend gay" and the word was Gynandromorphophilic.
😂 That seems like a fancy word for internalize "homophobia".
I mean think about it. Female's are the majority at the moment and you telling me that a "straight" male would pick another male (regardless of stylistics culture appropriation) as a partner? 😒 I will always call BS.
Blaire is a smart person but when it comes to his issues with dysphoria. He goes full gender identity ideology.
@@heroncolby2842 you could search and try to learn some things instead of just call people homophobic.
@@kodaiyoung Could you read properly and actually make a argument?
@@heroncolby2842 What argument should I provide if you can just up go search about it? I knew about man who expclicity told that he doesn't feel attracted to a person who looks lilke a MALE but he feels attracted to biological males that looks like womans and prefer to have relation with them. So what? You are going to call him homophobic and say that he should feel attracted by someone who looks like a gay man? Sry... you cannot. Also blair was talking about her boyfriend and not about herself, so it was not about Ideological BS.
@@kodaiyoung Did he said he was straight (heterosexual) or gay (homosexual)?
Because there's a abundance of cases where homosexual (or bi) individuals refuse to accept it and pretend to be straight. I mean there's hundreds of cases where married men to women, cheat on them having sexual relationship's with men. This is a psychological issue where individual's refuses to accept the notion of seeing themselves in a homosexual relationship. It could be because of social pressure, could be because their parents disapprove or they simply want to emulate a traditional couple because that's what they believe to be "the right look or way", (a Man and a Woman).
And trust me. Saying it's internalized homophobia is way better than what you're saying. A male who's attracted to male's who artificially alter themselves to look like Women. That opens a whole other can of worms, psychologically speaking.
And Blaire is a human male. In the English language we use he/him pronouns to address male's...
You two are absolutely adorable and totally believable as a couple who truly enjoys and loves each other... you are just who you are and you are charming. You are not trying to push any agenda, just being honest and yourselves. I wish you continued happiness and all kinds of success in the new year !
Two men dating eachother is gay. No matter how you try to slice it. Facts are facts.
I personally believe it also depends on person to person. I think some peoples attractions are more genital based than others. I myself as a gay man have always been open to dating trans men, however for me to be able to feel attraction towards them, they would need to look masculine (had at least top surgery, preferably body hair etc). I don't think this makes me bisexual as some other ytbers have said
I agree with you here, because ultimately you would be still dating someone who is a man - even if it's a trans man. Someone who presents as a man and that's your preference/attracted too
Liam said, that he was basically attracted to femininity, wether that was a feminine girl or boy, I assume? And beyond that, off course personality also comes into play. So when he met Alexis, before the transition, Alexis was a feminine gay guy, right? And Liam was attracted to that, and fell in love with Alexis as a person. So then, Alexis comes out after a year, as trans - and Liam stayed. And to me, it makes alot of sense, because Alexis is still that same person, he fell in love with - and that femininity, which was part of the initial attraction, was just allowed alot more space. So what I take from that, is that maybe Liam is simply Pansexual, with a preference for a feminine partner.
I think this is very interesting, because I am a bisexual woman but I have never felt attracted to anyone that's trans. That's why I think it's a whole different category. I like men and I like women, but somehow I am not attracted to anything that combines the two.
'Challengistic' is my new favourite word. Thanks Liam! 😂❤
Haha you’re welcome!
Two swords clashing is gay but doesn’t make you gay more like bi sexual and open to any gender or person.
I do agree with the "its a grey area" thing, i'm dating a trans man, and even he said to me when we confessed our feeling that he thought I was full straight, it kinda made me laugh a little 'cause he is right i'm not fully straight but that doesn't mean I like girls too I don't feel attracted to them, but i do like masculinity
my question is this: what is so wrong with being labelled GAY ? why is this even a debatable issue. If a man is into male genitals, then that is his preference.
I think they are at least Bi, especially if the trans person has not had bottom surgery. Most straight guys have a resounding No response to whether or not they would date a trans woman and it is 100 % because of what is in their pants. If we want to accept that biology exists, then what is in a person's pants matter in terms of defining sexual orientation. So, while they are not gay, I would categorize them as bi.
So, you've spoken to most guys? Many might say that, because they fear, what their stupid friends would think or because they are in front of a camera or they just never really realized, that they wouldn't care, what she has in her pants or even like it, even though, they are absolutely not into men. It's not the sex people are primarily into, it's the gender, according to Rod Fleming.
I may be an old romantic, but love plays a huge part in who we're attracted to.
You two are so disgustingly cute! One is beautiful and the other is handsome and you interact with each other so lovingly. Wish I was younger cause I'd be asking you both to adopt me! Lol
I hope with all my heart that you both have a long and happy life together xx
Ikr?! Alexis is glowing in this video!
Anyone with eyes can tell you are both happy. People who see Liam as “unhappy”, are unhappy themselves and want others just as miserable as them! You are a beautiful, adorable and happy couple, don’t let anyone tell you differently! 🥰😘😍
I'm Bisexual and have had relations with many different kinds of people, including a Transwoman who decided to not have the Bottom Surgery. This is a hard question for me to understand from solely my own personal experience. I saw Blaire's original video and now I'm watching this video in order to get a different perspective on the issue.
Coin purse? Never heard that one .....enjoying all your content!
I feel that love Transends gay or straight. I love every single thing about Blair White, her way of thinking, her way of thinking, her heart. She has a plus that she is absolutely beautiful. I am about 100% that I would treat her as a woman and be willing to except anything for that person. Ask yourself this if you truly love someone and were willing to die for them, would you not be willing to except anything for that person? I am so tired of people trying to label one another. Can't a person just love who they love and not have to be labeled? I try not to use labels because truthfully it is none of my fckn business what others do with their lives.
Alexis you look so stunning! You and Liam have the best vibes, I appreciate hearing your guys point of view.
A little of both and thats OKAY. ❤
Honestly I am 44 years old and with all my heart I believe that it’s the person we fall in love with, not the genitalia. You love each other so deeply and in such an honest and compassionate way that who cares how it works! As long as Liam looks at you with those puppy eyes when you’re talking and you look at him with such deep affection when he’s talking, my world is a better place than it was before I knew you both existed. You are a wonderful woman and Liam, you are the type of man friend , I wish I could have had in my corner many years ago. Never change yourselves because this older woman absolutely loves the bones of you both ❤❤
It's just gay. And I say that a gay man.
What's wrong with that?
Alexis, you and leam are so cute together. Let the haters hate. Just keep being you girl! Another awesome video
This is such a person specific question. There are so many variables, preferences, and desires, as well as so many things that are turn ons/offs that are different for literally everyone. I think for a 100% hard-line straight male that knows a fully post op trans woman is trans, he probably wouldn't want to be with her. But there's a million different stops between that person, and someone that couldn't care less what or who you are and you would consider and could be attracted to any type of person. Some might be ok w some things and not others. It just comes down to the individual preferences of the people involved. To me all that matters is that people be honest, open, and kind. Nothing wrong with finding your way through the gray areas with kindness.
Wishing you and Liam a very happy Christmas! As I was reading the comments, someone said something that really resonates, at the end of the day you fall in love with the person, not the gender. If sex became impossible, I'd still love my husband because I love who he is, not his bits and bobs!
I think its amazing that a couple can stay together through a HUGE transition like this. If anything I think it shows actual true love. Who cares if youre gay, straight or bi!? The mean comments about Liam just make me so upset.
Don’t get upset hun the mean comments don’t bother me - we living our best life haha. We are doing well, we are happy, have amazing friends and family around us - what more could one ask for! ❤
@@Liam_blake00 🥰
I definitely see how Blair could say it could be its own different sexuality. I’m sure there are some people that prefer to date only trans women and if that were the case that doesn’t seem the same as bisexual.
Yall are both amazing, making being trans genuine and true and that love has no judgement. Love is just love. Its that simple.
Liam’s sexuality is Alexis ❤
Very interesting video. As a straight man I personally feel like you can be with a tans person and not be gay, I wouldn't be together with a bearded lady because I don't find it feminine and femininity is something I am attracted to, but a trans person like Blair White or you Alexis (beautiful transition) I could easily be attracted to the both of you one thing I need to be clear about though is that if the parts downstairs don't fit the gender I'm not into it sexually and I'm pretty sure that is why I would never consider myself gay because all I see is a woman even if that was not what you were born as.
I love you Alexis and I love Blaire! You both are amazing and I really enjoy watching you both!
I am glad I found you, Alexis. Thank you for being classy. I think the kids like to label everything too much, I like the spectrum analogy. Love the person, love the spirit, the soul of a person, it only takes one health condition or back injury to make the sex irrelevant, for a time at least. I am glad your medical interventions have helped your armour match your feminine spirit. You are certainly a lovely woman. I respect you and Blaire because you both respect women enough to stand up for women's spaces, thank you so much.
I love you Alexis, and Blaire - you are amazing advocates for trans. The energy you both bring, is beautiful.
I disagree with you on this topic though. DNA doesn't lie. Sorry. Bi is the correct term and there is NOTHING WRONG with that. Love who you love, and live your best life. Merry Christmas Alexis and Liam 💖
If you are a man who is with a trans woman, that's really a gray area. I'd say you aren't 100 percent straight, or you might be bi sexual and that's okay. Love is love. Regular gay men want someone who looks like a MAN. So whether or not you are a biological woman, it doesn't matter if you look like a woman. Gay men are not into that.
as far as the "physical act is gay" that's a dumb argument because there are cis straight couples who do an*l or cis straight couples where the guy enjoys toys or whatever and it's still totally straight sex. So the basis of determination is how each person in the relationship defines themselves - not on technicalities.
This is a good point.
Aw you guys are such a beautiful couple. The love between you is so clear to see ♥️
Who you are attracted to is personal to every individual. I’m straight and I’ve only ever been with men. I don’t fancy every single man I meet just because they’re male, it’s more of an energy or a chemistry between the two people and how you make each other feel. Some people would never ever consider dating outside of their preference and that’s ok. And there’s others who are more open. I’d never rule out dating anyone outside of my ‘preference’, I take each person as I find them and I guess I’ve never felt a connection with anyone other than men, but that doesn’t mean I never would, if the opportunity presented itself with someone who I felt really attracted to.
You two have such a lovely relationship and it’s no one’s business to tell you how you should feel or put a label on it. Thank you for sharing 🥰
Maybe it's just me, but I've spent 12minutes thinking if Liam's head is fully tattooed. Time to ask the real questions! But on a serious note, I consider myself straight, and you and Blair give me woman vibes. Were I to meet you and we hit it of I would try (I don't think I can word it differently) if the physical part would work for me. I know this makes it seem almost a science experiment, but it would be so new. And I think quite a lot of people would be at least thinking flexibly when you are attracted to the other person and have that personal click.
You are both a breath of fresh air. I love watching you together. Great video!
Sexuality is weird. Love is weirder. I've known people who were absolutely monosexual but with one person who was an exception. A gay friend of mine was absolutely in love with his childhood female friend, and she loved him as well. They realized it would never work between even before they both knew he was gay. When she married a man my friend was a mix of a sad mess and happy that his best friend had a good (and really 🔥) guy. Happily their friendship always held up regardless ❤️
Bisexual with huge preferences?
There was a brief time where they (I was thought this was a teacher in 10th grade ) were disgusting sexuality as a spectrum to me that made sense. They said even if you’re straight, you may not fall in the hundred percent straight part of the spectrum like your fiancé said there’s bi curious is that person actually bisexual or gay no but they have curiosities they may even be attracted to certain kind of porn, but they mesh never act on it so when you say spectrum in that kind of way, yeah I think it is a spectrum, but in the way they’re looking at spectrum . That’s weird and all these labels are weird. I also believe sometimes you just meet somebody in fall in love with them it happens . Great video and it was nice to have Liam with you today. I hope you both have happy holidays.🥰☃️🎄🕎
Love is LOVE...End of story ❤️ Merry Christmas!
So true.
It works like this, no exceptions.
If you have a penis, and you’re in a relationship with someone that has a penis as well, you’re gay.
If you have a vagina and the person you’re with also has a vagina, you’re gay .
There isn’t a debate about this, just like there’s no debate about men cannot have children because they do not have vaginas . This is about chromosomes, nothing else cannot ministry, only healthy young women can.
I don’t know why this is so confusing it’s very much based in reality, common sense, and science .
I love that we all get to have our own options here ❤
Alexis is on a different level of human!
😘✌️😎
People also try to tell me what my sexuality is all the time. I used to exclusively date women and now I find myself being only into men. At no point in my life I was open to dating both men and women. People keep telling me I'm bi. Imagine if I said I was bi, people would assume I would be open to dating either at any time. It's just misleading.
Alexis don't get the surgery please 💖 i respect you and i love you but don't get it please
It’s all the labels really. I agree that some people would not be open to it and that’s ok , or should I say move past it. That’s ok.
I think sometimes it comes down to attraction for the individual. It depends on the individual. Sadly, many get too hung up on the labels and miss out on an opportunity to have a fulfilling relationship.
You're are such a healthy couple; Goals for sure. :]
I find myself watching another one of your videos. And again, I tried very hard to listen to what you were saying. But I am very easily distracted because I think you are very beautiful. For a long time I have called myself straight. Even though I find a lot of trans women attractive. But I guess, I should call myself Bi. Because I am having to admit to myself that I would like to get physical with a lot of trans women. Its not easy for men who are straight to admit that they find trans women attractive. It causes all sorts of conflict within yourself about who you are.
I love this video! As a trans girl something people dont realize despite genitalia, a gay men isnt attracted to a trans woman, even if she doesnt have srs. It's been a known fact that many guys are attracted to women, femininity, and the overall female aura, but prefer penis. Thats why we are sexualized so much in media, because trans girls have that hyper femininity that straight men love. I think this is a "debate" that really is over done, and by breaking the stigma about dating trans women it ultimately will effect the level we are "accepted" in society. One of the highest percents of the hate crimes against us is from our lovers because society shames them and calls them "gay".
Plus, someone's sexuality is their own identity, so no one can tell someone who they are just because they may be in a relationship with someone who isn't "conventional".
If you dont wanna date a trans woman, then thats ok! I wouldn't label you "transphobic" especially if your being respectful about it.
However, we need to stop as a culture calling any man attracted to a trans woman "gay". We arent the same as (biological) women but we experience "womanhood" in our own individual way.
(Also, you and Liam are sooo adorable 🥰❤)
"because trans girls have that hyper femininity that straight men love."
Hate to break it to you, but as someone who worked as an OF moderator for 2+ years and read probably hundreds of thousands chats between users and models (yes, we do that for security and to make sure no illegal offers are made) and has already QUITE a database on people's most intimate thoughts and desires, hyper-feminine and "bimbo" models had a very loyal, for sure, but not that big of a following when you compare them to just normal next-door instagram girls. It's a very specific fetish that very specific men are attracted to. The rule of thumb is that majority of the population is attracted to everything in the middle, moderate and quite normie. There are dozens of studies about this, it's literally the evolutionary behavior that made us so successful
Alexis can I just say what a blessing you have received in your life to have a partner that loves you for you and you love them the same in return❤
I'm a lesbian and my partner is bi. I have met many lesbians attracted to transwomen.....all of these questions are pretty silly. We are all in the grayness of queer....in the end, I wish we didn't care about any of this!! Happy holidays you lovely people out there---and love the one you're with!!
But for many women they want to know either way as having a penis would mean they're not interested as it isn't what they're in to
This was such an interesting discussion. Oh, and you two are adorable together.
A straight man who is not open… would not be willing. But open minded folks would be into it
Or a straight man who has dipped his toe and found it ain’t for him.🙏🏽
Love is love, if you love someone you love the person no matter what, no one can choose who they fall in love with x
I date transwoman and I am straight
I think it is your right to define your own sexuality! 💜
Alexis and Liam, I just love the honesty from both of you. I listen to your comments and recommend to others to watch your podcast as I find it extremely interesting and informative when you both are having your truth sharing, truth telling conversations. You are both an inspiration and are a beautiful couple, on the inside and on the outside. ❤
Thank you for having the courage to do this. I appreciate and honour the both of you.
cas from Australia
I date a transwoman and am lesbian :-)
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. Dementia robs everyone involved. My mother in law died from this disease, and it was heartbreaking. You need to let the emotions out, that's healthy for you. You are a warrior, please don't forget that. I used to watch a youtuber named Joey with his mom, Molly. Maybe a good resource. ❤ Straighten your crown dear queen, you got this.
Its gay 100%.
No, it's not....
@@bripearce45 Yes it is. They are still two men.
@@bripearce45 Yes it is he's still a man. And they still are two men. Facts. He still has a ding dong. Even if he cuts it off he's still a man. He can never get pregnant. Facts.