You did your best and that's enough! We love you for your authentic self. You are enough! Nozi, our parents went through so much trauma which inevitably lands of children. It's the generational struggle for disadvantaged groups like our black families. At some point you have to choose you - your wellbeing, your now family. We are the "too kind" people who end up depleted because we prioritise others first and our needs last. To make it, we have to CHANGE and be OK with prioritising YOU. The beginning of your BECOMING is the awareness and I think God brought Lumi for exactly that. Do what you can and God will do the rest! Unfortunately you can't be the BE ALL for mother dearest. Everyone needs to do their part, including managing their expectations. A colleague once said that because the parents divorced, he became a clutch for his mom and fulfilled his father's responsibilities. It's quite a heavy burden and we need to charge this with our children. Please take care and be comforted that you went above and beyond for your family and that's enough. Change is not embraced by most but the change is very necessary and beneficial even for parents. On the side note, as uncomfortable as it may be to confront your elders, bullying must be called out for what it is. Nawe ungumntu!
Setting boundaries is actually harder than people think, especially if you are dealing with Africans parents. keep enforcing those boundaries it will pay off
This is so relatable to most of us. And parents are not aware that this could actually end a beautiful relationship between a child and their parent. You're an amazing aunt to Lutho❤
Nozi don’t even stress! You are doing well. uMama needs to find her own happiness. You can give her R100000 she would still complain. It’s not even about you. For me my mum stresses me I IGNORE! If she is fed, well clothed, has food on her table and a roof over her head then life continues. As for the pastor’s wife block or ignore as well. Sorry sis!
Yoooh Nozi, my husband and I were having this conversation 2 days ago just before his trip home. We were talking about how our parents and siblings back home have sooo many money expectations when you go home you must literally be loaded and it's so sad because asizugoduka ngoku because of that. My husband was reciting a story about how he walked in ehletywa zi siblings zakhe a while back besithi ebesiyaphi xa engenamali ngeloxesha already he has done more than we had budgeted for qha kufuneka everytime kukho into efunwayo iphume kuye it's really sad but ke kuyedlula Sana and God knows how much you do and uyongeza...abazali bethu the older they grow they become kids and unreasonable don't let it affect your mental health too much uLumi needs a strong and happy mother brush it off sisi uphinde uthathise...sending you hugs❤❤❤
Well done Nozie nd Skhu! You guys did exceptional for Lutho's matric dance. Some kids that have both parents couldn't have such moment, couldn't afford the outfit ,but you guys made sure that Lutho has everything that she needs. Kwande apho nithatha khona
I got so emotional because I know exactly what you are talking about. Your mom’s approach is exactly like my mom’s, always right and always the victim. She overlooks what I do for her, especially when I do something for myself she will always say that yena akanakwa. So in 2021 I was unemployed and there was a month I needed her help financially (she is a teacher) and all she did was complain and never helped me, I have since learnt to be selfish and I’m fine being viewed that way.
My mom used to be like that. I spent years using taxis while working because I couldn’t do anything for myself. 80% of my salary was spent on her and my siblings. Until I learned to say NO!
When you said “umntanam” i totally felt lo “I’ve never been so happy in my life”… I love you Nozi, you deserve all things beautiful. Lumi came at God’s perfect time and YESSSSSS NGOWAKHO BABY GIRL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Lutho is very pretty, the dimples 😍😍😍😍😍😍. God bless you Nana
This one hit different! A mom who is never wrong, no matter how wrong they are, always the victim, toxic, my heart goes out to you. I know how you feel
Pastor and his wife are a perfect example of “umntu ongena apho angafunekiyo khona”…. Our parents break us daily and it’s not an easy topic, I’m glad you opened up sisi. Many are in the same or similar situation, and it’s just hard 😢. Much love from Norway 🇳🇴
You know what?! So so many of us can relate and I’m glad you’re sharing it as real as it is. Going home is mad expensive. If it’s not the expectations, be it silent or shared it’s the guilt of not doing this or that even when it’s something you hadn’t planned. It’s a lot Shem. Thank you for keeping it real
This makes me emotional because people are so entitled and ungrateful. I personally appreciate your vulnerability, you are narrating a story of many. This is why some people just choose solitude. Some homes are toxic yeyiiii!! Side note: you look so beautiful mmagwe Lumz 🥰
And it's a very painful habit from parents to us as kids😢😢😢it is very unfair.. the more you do things for them.. is the more they want from you.. it never ends..
Hey Nozi, I’m also going through the same,best option is to love her as she is and have boundaries ❤The bible says “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
Oh Nozi, oh Nono Uxolo baby. 🥺🥺🥺 Thank you for your ‘rawness’ and always being authentic. I know how taxing Black tax can be, and unfortunately because of the heart you have, you’ll continue pouring out of your cup despite not being appreciated by those you selflessly give. But I want to remind you that ‘Blessed is the hand that giveth’ - May the good Lord open wide the windows of heaven and pour out a blessing over you and your family that you may not even have enough room to receive it.❤❤❤❤Love you VERY much. Please spend this on yourself- no one else, not even Lumi.😊
This life is making us fall into depression. It's as unstable as a hurricane, cause even if you not taking care of anyone you still depressed. Sometimes it's even better to care for someone.
I know how u feeling mntase... Mna kunzima nokugoduka sometimes bcos imeko yaseKhaya ifana nalena yakho... Sad part ihv siblings who are not even bothered bona yiSituation leyo... Yhuuu... NOZI kuninzi Shame😢
That’s what we call a vlog😅 it has its highlights and twists along the way…. Thank you for sharing it all…. I’m sure the minute you went in and looked at those adorable little eyes of lumi 🫠 , he was the light that lifted your heart . Mamie all I can say, what you doing is more than enough, you doing a pretty damn good job. I love you! Stay blessed, stay healthy
I’m glad you have a brother who expiriences your mom with you,I feel sorry for anyone who’s an only child going through such severe black tax.Thanks for sharing
@@ncisept5900 yhuu! So true and the irresponsible one kuthwe "yho ai uyamazi lowo into yakhe yeyakhe" as if wena unyanzelekile wenze yonke lento uyenzayo
Sending you lots of love and hugs Nozi. I understand where you're coming from; the reality is that no matter what you do it will never be enough. The only thing you can do to remain sane is continue to assert your boundaries. I pray that all the love and warmth you send out to the world comes back to you and your family a hundred fold ❤
Oh Nozi❤ thank you for being so real and unfiltered. Honestly your experience is so relatable. Our parents need to ease their expectations and start being appreciative and considerate. You did more than enough, your are generous and your big heart is evident. Sending you a big virtual hug 🫂 No need to apologize for being yourself and raw, you are human and I appreciate your vulnerability as most of us are reminded that we are not alone in times when we experience the same.
Yoh Nozi 🥺🥺 As a new mom of a newborn I sympathise with you. It’s already exhausting being a new mom now I can’t imagine feeling so emotionally drained from such an experience. Askies sisi 💕💕💕 Thank you for sharing and being raw with us. Some wouldn’t have even posted ukuthi it didn’t turn out the way it did. Siyabonga for taking us through your journey.
😭 the last part got me! Maybe it’s because I relate! May your supplies never ran dry! Also I am never skipping ads again🥹 happy 2 months to baby Lumi! You are such a great Mom! God bless you!
uLutho looked stunning for her matric dance the car and the dress was a combo that was communicating, thank you sis Nozi you are so authentic. And I'm sorry about what you're experiencing with your mom set boundries even when its uncomfortable for your sanity
Sending you a virtual hug Nozi! Don't apologize for speaking your truth hey, you are the one who knows how far your budget can reach. You did the best you could do and that was good enough!
@@patiencevhulade1754 Awa Cc people like this are very problematic,they think theyknow everything.Even Mama had complained to them,they should have ask Nozi what is going on Mama is complaining about this and that.Just they have that relationship with Mama doesn't mean they can talk shit to Nozi.
I can relate Nozi. I've learned to be open and honest about my limitations. I cannot deal with toxicity, my mental health is above everything. I pray you realize you are doing well and raise Lumi(and the others that will follow) with enough love to break the generational curses. I live for myself and children's well-being
I hear you sis Nozi. it’s heart breaking when family starts taking advantage of your generosity. Thumbs up for leaving the place for your sanity. God sees everything He will not leave you nor forsake you
I completely understand how you feel. You did your best, and that's enough. I love your authenticity. That's one thing I love about you. I hope you feel better.
You are so authentic and the stories you are telling are real for most of us. Sometimes this authenticity is needed for us to know we are not the only ones going through these emotions. Well done, you did your best. Travelling alone is expensive.
I can relate to this experience. You are not alone and I’m glad you shared. Don’t apologise. You have paved a way for most of us. We are in this together. Your mental health comes first indeed❤
What a wholesome vlog, Our Likkle Lumi is growing definitely love to see it, so proud of you guys❤ I was so happy to see our favourite girlie Imi 😊 you did such a great job with Matric ball.. I hope you feel better (sending you virtual hugs Mama)
Oh Nozi❤ Sending you lots and lots of virtual hugs. Thank you for sharing with us, we definitely understand. We love you, you are doing more than enough and I hope you never ever doubt that. 🙏🏽
U r young yet such an inspiration Nozi, yhooo! U handle wat life throws at us with so much grace. I'm definitely ur sister but yet hv learned a lot 4rm u. 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for the vlog Nozi❤ sorry your trip didn’t go as planned these things happen & it’s okay to feel the way that you are feeling…love and light to you 💖
Your vulnerability and honesty is unmatched. You are so courageous, strong and pure. Thank you for letting us in and godspeed for you always. You're an inspiration to so many of us. We have your back Sis, stay strong.
Sending hugs and love❤🤗. I know from experience how painful it is going through this with a parent. You don't deserve to be treated this way. You do so much already. And you have a little one on top of all this. The thing that has helped me in this situation is to cut contact with my mother because without fail everytime i spoke to her she would ask me for money. She always has a list of things she needs paid for and never asks whats going on with me or if im even coping, let alone have a roof over my head. I only speak to her when i go home and even then i limit how much i interact with her. It will never stop unless you put a stop to it as painful as it is. It will bring you more peace and keep you from feeling like you're losing your mind❤. People will probably judge you for it but it doesn't matter, you come first. You've already given everything you have
I totally understand mna Nozi it is absolutely draining dealing with a mother like that. I relate so much to this. Your best is just never enough💪🙏keep strong. I love you
It's the manipulation that gets to me, the sneaky behaviour of playing a victim. I can relate Nozi, I know all about what you are going through. Our parents need to do better kodwa yaaz😔
It's called Borderline Personality d/o, these people manipulate, they are victims all the time. Kuningi! Children who's parents are bordeline go through the absolute most.
A beautiful blog and a relevant blog to many of us. I'm proud of you and Skhu for going all out for your family I know the heaviness that comes with it but we always want to make our Mother's happy, kube buhlungu when they don't appreciate and want more.. God's strength sthandwa sam may God abundantly bless you and don't let your cup run dry Sisi feed from what flows from it not the inside.. Take care Mama❤
You did the best you could Noz, Give yourself credit for that..Lutho was absolutely beautiful ♥️.. Sending prayers of light, love and strength to you. Yhini undililisa. 🕯️♥️🛐
Sisi, you are doing a great job taking care of your family and raising your newborn baby . What you doing is enough, Mama ❤. Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🫂 🤗
Deep down Nozi you know you’ve done n still doing your best, the are things you are not responsible for,things you can not change. Well done Nozi and bhut Skhu for your big hearts n love for your family……Detox now mommy n attend to that little gift God has blessed all of you with, sending you love n light fam❤❤❤
Feel like hugging you. Virtual Hugs. You doing MORE then even hle. I love the unity between you and your husband. I thank God that my mom understands me. I would have gone crazy.
😢Seeing how you are treating your niece made me so emotional, and you cardling your baby made me worshipping God within my spirit. I'm busy watching and it is so beautiful. I wish you all the best dearest ❤❤❤❤
Nozi keep on keeping on sisi ♥️ I felt for you when you were reflecting on the whole trip and I felt triggered. May I commend you for your strength, courage and your vulnerability on this platform and I pray that when you’re depleted God refills. Sometimes the expectations are too much, but God bless you for always showing up🙏🏾
🫂 awww Nozi thank you so much for such an authentic vlog. You always mean well but sometimes the people we love the most surprise us!! Sad though but at some point Mum will have to adjust to the shift in priorities. Xx
Everytime I watch I get so excited and want to comment at the beginning of the video by the time the vlog end I see so many things I want to say but commenting again I don't do. My goodness I am watching Lutho, ohh Nozi you are such a blessing to a lot of people together with Skhu. I pray that you meet a lot of genuine people as long as you live, people that will give back the energy and love you always show to them ❤️.
You did your best and that's enough! We love you for your authentic self. You are enough! Nozi, our parents went through so much trauma which inevitably lands of children. It's the generational struggle for disadvantaged groups like our black families. At some point you have to choose you - your wellbeing, your now family. We are the "too kind" people who end up depleted because we prioritise others first and our needs last. To make it, we have to CHANGE and be OK with prioritising YOU. The beginning of your BECOMING is the awareness and I think God brought Lumi for exactly that. Do what you can and God will do the rest! Unfortunately you can't be the BE ALL for mother dearest. Everyone needs to do their part, including managing their expectations. A colleague once said that because the parents divorced, he became a clutch for his mom and fulfilled his father's responsibilities. It's quite a heavy burden and we need to charge this with our children. Please take care and be comforted that you went above and beyond for your family and that's enough. Change is not embraced by most but the change is very necessary and beneficial even for parents. On the side note, as uncomfortable as it may be to confront your elders, bullying must be called out for what it is. Nawe ungumntu!
Amen. This change will help them both learn to “leave and cleave.” They must in order to allow themselves and their parents to grow.
❤ thank you. Yoo guyz😢 this is therapy for me ryt now❤
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l 100% agree❤👍💯💐
Setting boundaries is actually harder than people think, especially if you are dealing with Africans parents. keep enforcing those boundaries it will pay off
True!!!
Yhooo it’s a battle with my mom! 😭
Hayi abazali bayafana shame😢
True she should enforce the boundaries and stay consistent with them
I want to thank my mom for never being entitled to me taking care of her. And always being appreciative of whatever I can do for her.
Exactly hle...😊
I love this for you sis, but sometimes we are tone deaf to people's experiences because we can't relate.... Read the room sometimes please sis.
Tjhoooo me too hey..this is very sad.
Same ey😍 I wish all mothers can stop being too entitled 😪, that puts so much pressure on kids.
My mom too,I’m so greatful
This is so relatable to most of us. And parents are not aware that this could actually end a beautiful relationship between a child and their parent. You're an amazing aunt to Lutho❤
Ow sorry Nozy banjalo abazali
Zoba ngathi awumhloniphi xa uthetha naye
Nozi don’t even stress! You are doing well. uMama needs to find her own happiness. You can give her R100000 she would still complain. It’s not even about you. For me my mum stresses me I IGNORE! If she is fed, well clothed, has food on her table and a roof over her head then life continues. As for the pastor’s wife block or ignore as well. Sorry sis!
Wow guys we need prayers.😢😢
So true. Thats what matters qha. Has long she doesnt sleep hungry qha
Lutho is SOOOOOO beautiful 😭❤️
Right!mhle sana ubaby girl❤
Very❤
Way toooooo beautiful sana🥺🥺🤌😭🔥
She’s soo beautiful ❤️😍
Yoooh Nozi, my husband and I were having this conversation 2 days ago just before his trip home. We were talking about how our parents and siblings back home have sooo many money expectations when you go home you must literally be loaded and it's so sad because asizugoduka ngoku because of that. My husband was reciting a story about how he walked in ehletywa zi siblings zakhe a while back besithi ebesiyaphi xa engenamali ngeloxesha already he has done more than we had budgeted for qha kufuneka everytime kukho into efunwayo iphume kuye it's really sad but ke kuyedlula Sana and God knows how much you do and uyongeza...abazali bethu the older they grow they become kids and unreasonable don't let it affect your mental health too much uLumi needs a strong and happy mother brush it off sisi uphinde uthathise...sending you hugs❤❤❤
Well done Nozie nd Skhu! You guys did exceptional for Lutho's matric dance. Some kids that have both parents couldn't have such moment, couldn't afford the outfit ,but you guys made sure that Lutho has everything that she needs. Kwande apho nithatha khona
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
Lutho's smile..She's soo adorable!
Those dimples😍
Say it again ❤️❤️
I got so emotional because I know exactly what you are talking about. Your mom’s approach is exactly like my mom’s, always right and always the victim. She overlooks what I do for her, especially when I do something for myself she will always say that yena akanakwa. So in 2021 I was unemployed and there was a month I needed her help financially (she is a teacher) and all she did was complain and never helped me, I have since learnt to be selfish and I’m fine being viewed that way.
oh yini guys this generational emotional abuse has to end here. yhu umgodi ongagcwali
This is my mom😢
Be selfish sis yooo reka fela. 💞
My mom used to be like that. I spent years using taxis while working because I couldn’t do anything for myself. 80% of my salary was spent on her and my siblings. Until I learned to say NO!
Sounds like my mom😭
When you said “umntanam” i totally felt lo “I’ve never been so happy in my life”… I love you Nozi, you deserve all things beautiful. Lumi came at God’s perfect time and YESSSSSS NGOWAKHO BABY GIRL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. Lutho is very pretty, the dimples 😍😍😍😍😍😍. God bless you Nana
This one hit different! A mom who is never wrong, no matter how wrong they are, always the victim, toxic, my heart goes out to you. I know how you feel
That "i've never been so happy mtanam" part had me on tears❤️🙏.
Same😢
the BEST!
It’s the fact that Lutho can’t even seriously lie about blocking her 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Pastor and his wife are a perfect example of “umntu ongena apho angafunekiyo khona”…. Our parents break us daily and it’s not an easy topic, I’m glad you opened up sisi. Many are in the same or similar situation, and it’s just hard 😢. Much love from Norway 🇳🇴
I think they want her to pay tithe and they expect her to have more money
“Our parents break us daily” I felt that to the core....kunzima and so wrong of them to do this to us worse they are our parents for crying out loud 😢
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You know what?! So so many of us can relate and I’m glad you’re sharing it as real as it is. Going home is mad expensive. If it’s not the expectations, be it silent or shared it’s the guilt of not doing this or that even when it’s something you hadn’t planned. It’s a lot Shem. Thank you for keeping it real
This makes me emotional because people are so entitled and ungrateful. I personally appreciate your vulnerability, you are narrating a story of many.
This is why some people just choose solitude. Some homes are toxic yeyiiii!!
Side note: you look so beautiful mmagwe Lumz 🥰
All we can do is change the narrative for our children and correct our parents mistakes by the way we raise our own. This was so heart felt
Today at work I was telling them the same
Fully agree. It's so sad though, we somehow have to protect our children from the same people whom one would assume is a safe place.
So true..thts all we can do
I felt it too😢
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Being a mother suits you Sis'Nozi🥺😍
The way Skhu looks like his mother... What a beautiful vlog sisi thank you ❤❤
Now I understand why your man is always making you laugh, he knows what you are going through ❤️❤️❤️. Don't feel bad mama
Black tax is real, and it's depressing. I feel you sisi
And it's a very painful habit from parents to us as kids😢😢😢it is very unfair.. the more you do things for them.. is the more they want from you.. it never ends..
The worst scenario of black tax is if it’s coming from inlaws 😐
Oh marn ngxesi Nozl😢
You need to set boundaries on family Nozi.. worse part you are a mother now
, you have the biggest priority
Yes the is no other way, than to set them. She does alot already, has her own responsibilities now kwanele sisi❤
Hey Nozi, I’m also going through the same,best option is to love her as she is and have boundaries ❤The bible says “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
I can't get over how adorable Lutho is... ngathi una 14 sana ushishi😍🥰
Adorable girl I wish to see her more ❤️❤️
Oh Nozi, oh Nono
Uxolo baby. 🥺🥺🥺
Thank you for your ‘rawness’ and always being authentic. I know how taxing Black tax can be, and unfortunately because of the heart you have, you’ll continue pouring out of your cup despite not being appreciated by those you selflessly give.
But I want to remind you that ‘Blessed is the hand that giveth’ - May the good Lord open wide the windows of heaven and pour out a blessing over you and your family that you may not even have enough room to receive it.❤❤❤❤Love you VERY much.
Please spend this on yourself- no one else, not even Lumi.😊
Thank you so so much!
Black tax is causing so many people to fall into depression. God bless you for all you do for your family Nozi and Skhu
This life is making us fall into depression. It's as unstable as a hurricane, cause even if you not taking care of anyone you still depressed. Sometimes it's even better to care for someone.
By being vulnerable, you’re healing some of us who are experiencing the same thing but have nowhere to share….thank you. Phepi Nozi….
So true 😢
True cc❤😢
Spot on
I know how u feeling mntase... Mna kunzima nokugoduka sometimes bcos imeko yaseKhaya ifana nalena yakho... Sad part ihv siblings who are not even bothered bona yiSituation leyo... Yhuuu... NOZI kuninzi Shame😢
Hi Nozi you are not alone alot of us going trough that
The cheering up from other pupils is so beautiful ❤❤
That’s what we call a vlog😅 it has its highlights and twists along the way…. Thank you for sharing it all…. I’m sure the minute you went in and looked at those adorable little eyes of lumi 🫠 , he was the light that lifted your heart . Mamie all I can say, what you doing is more than enough, you doing a pretty damn good job. I love you! Stay blessed, stay healthy
I’m glad you have a brother who expiriences your mom with you,I feel sorry for anyone who’s an only child going through such severe black tax.Thanks for sharing
😢 words can’t accurately explain iswear
But parents usually target one child
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Exactly! The good, hardworking one who seems easy to manipulate.
So true, 😢😢
@@ncisept5900 yhuu! So true and the irresponsible one kuthwe "yho ai uyamazi lowo into yakhe yeyakhe" as if wena unyanzelekile wenze yonke lento uyenzayo
Akamhle Lutho,I love her dimpled face🥰🥰😍
Thank you for sharing your families and your vulnerability with us. Stay strong for you,hubby and your bundle of joy. You can only do so much ❤❤
Sending you lots of love and hugs Nozi. I understand where you're coming from; the reality is that no matter what you do it will never be enough. The only thing you can do to remain sane is continue to assert your boundaries. I pray that all the love and warmth you send out to the world comes back to you and your family a hundred fold ❤
Skhu is so blessed to have a wonderful wife and a great mother to his son. I love the way you bond with Skhu's mother, she is so sweat. Love you gal ❤
I can feel your pain Nozi, nothing is as painful as knowing that you do your best but people don't see it, worse your own mum, hugs to you sis.
High expectations on your normal salary plus your own family,worst part traveling is expensive so much.
Oh Nozi❤ thank you for being so real and unfiltered. Honestly your experience is so relatable. Our parents need to ease their expectations and start being appreciative and considerate. You did more than enough, your are generous and your big heart is evident. Sending you a big virtual hug 🫂
No need to apologize for being yourself and raw, you are human and I appreciate your vulnerability as most of us are reminded that we are not alone in times when we experience the same.
Yoh Nozi 🥺🥺 As a new mom of a newborn I sympathise with you. It’s already exhausting being a new mom now I can’t imagine feeling so emotionally drained from such an experience. Askies sisi 💕💕💕 Thank you for sharing and being raw with us. Some wouldn’t have even posted ukuthi it didn’t turn out the way it did. Siyabonga for taking us through your journey.
Oh my word Lutho is so adorable I love her smile 😊
No need to apologize Nozi. Proud of the authentic human you are. May God comfort you man, He knows how hard you work for your family.
Yhuuu im looking at that! ♥️♥️♥️
So relatable. Thanks for your transparency and authenticity. And here’s my hug sissy🤗!
😭 the last part got me! Maybe it’s because I relate! May your supplies never ran dry! Also I am never skipping ads again🥹 happy 2 months to baby Lumi! You are such a great Mom! God bless you!
Those cute dimples run in the fam ❤
uLutho looked stunning for her matric dance the car and the dress was a combo that was communicating, thank you sis Nozi you are so authentic. And I'm sorry about what you're experiencing with your mom set boundries even when its uncomfortable for your sanity
Sending you a virtual hug Nozi! Don't apologize for speaking your truth hey, you are the one who knows how far your budget can reach. You did the best you could do and that was good enough!
Well done to the two of you. Sending love and light, family expectations are hectic.
Oh kodwa you are the best aunt ever😊Lutho is so blessed akamhle mntana ka makazi😍😍
Sis Nozi you are too kind,As for me that damn Pastor and his wife,I would have left them traumatized,they would definitely need a therapist after.
😂😂😂😂This reply, I also need your liver
@@patiencevhulade1754 Awa Cc people like this are very problematic,they think theyknow everything.Even Mama had complained to them,they should have ask Nozi what is going on Mama is complaining about this and that.Just they have that relationship with Mama doesn't mean they can talk shit to Nozi.
Wena you are me mose 😂😂😂
I can relate Nozi. I've learned to be open and honest about my limitations. I cannot deal with toxicity, my mental health is above everything. I pray you realize you are doing well and raise Lumi(and the others that will follow) with enough love to break the generational curses. I live for myself and children's well-being
I hear you sis Nozi. it’s heart breaking when family starts taking advantage of your generosity. Thumbs up for leaving the place for your sanity. God sees everything He will not leave you nor forsake you
The way Skhu's mom was staring at Lumi though🥺🥺
It's beautiful. She was taking him in 👌👌👌
When she starting singing😥😥
She was so in love with her grandchild❤️love it🥰
Kids really do bring joy 🥹 and they can try you when they’re old enough 🙆🏻♀️
I completely understand how you feel. You did your best, and that's enough. I love your authenticity. That's one thing I love about you. I hope you feel better.
You are so authentic and the stories you are telling are real for most of us. Sometimes this authenticity is needed for us to know we are not the only ones going through these emotions. Well done, you did your best. Travelling alone is expensive.
Skhu’s mom🥺she has my heart
I can relate to this experience. You are not alone and I’m glad you shared. Don’t apologise. You have paved a way for most of us. We are in this together. Your mental health comes first indeed❤
What a wholesome vlog, Our Likkle Lumi is growing definitely love to see it, so proud of you guys❤
I was so happy to see our favourite girlie Imi 😊 you did such a great job with Matric ball..
I hope you feel better (sending you virtual hugs Mama)
Oh Nozi❤ Sending you lots and lots of virtual hugs. Thank you for sharing with us, we definitely understand.
We love you, you are doing more than enough and I hope you never ever doubt that. 🙏🏽
One thing I love about you is that .
Your vulnerable shame .
Your authentic and raw .
U r young yet such an inspiration Nozi, yhooo! U handle wat life throws at us with so much grace. I'm definitely ur sister but yet hv learned a lot 4rm u. 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you for the vlog Nozi❤ sorry your trip didn’t go as planned these things happen & it’s okay to feel the way that you are feeling…love and light to you 💖
Sending you unlimited hugs. May god continue to bless you and your family abundantly.
Your vulnerability and honesty is unmatched. You are so courageous, strong and pure. Thank you for letting us in and godspeed for you always. You're an inspiration to so many of us. We have your back Sis, stay strong.
Sending hugs and love❤🤗. I know from experience how painful it is going through this with a parent. You don't deserve to be treated this way. You do so much already. And you have a little one on top of all this. The thing that has helped me in this situation is to cut contact with my mother because without fail everytime i spoke to her she would ask me for money. She always has a list of things she needs paid for and never asks whats going on with me or if im even coping, let alone have a roof over my head. I only speak to her when i go home and even then i limit how much i interact with her. It will never stop unless you put a stop to it as painful as it is. It will bring you more peace and keep you from feeling like you're losing your mind❤. People will probably judge you for it but it doesn't matter, you come first. You've already given everything you have
I love listening to isi'Xhosa so beautiful to hear even though I don't speak nor understand love all the way from Angola☸
Ncoo... baby Lumi meet his grandmother😍😍
I totally understand mna Nozi it is absolutely draining dealing with a mother like that. I relate so much to this. Your best is just never enough💪🙏keep strong. I love you
Bless your heart! Your mum sounds like a character!
She is so beautiful and what an amazing aunt
Well done Nozi
I miss you so much don’t wait too long before uploading videos
Sending lots of love and hugs to you sis Nozi for being vulnerable. ❤❤❤. May God give you inner peace as you going through this phase
I’m so emotional rn 😢. Thank you for sharing sis Noz and also for being your authentic self❤️.
Virtual hug to you Nozi. Just know that you are doing your best and giving your all
Your best is good enough mama! You’re doing exceptionally well❤
It's the manipulation that gets to me, the sneaky behaviour of playing a victim. I can relate Nozi, I know all about what you are going through. Our parents need to do better kodwa yaaz😔
It's called Borderline Personality d/o, these people manipulate, they are victims all the time. Kuningi! Children who's parents are bordeline go through the absolute most.
I have the exact same mother, exactly! You are right, you need to save your emotional self otherwise you’ll always question your efforts. Hugs!!
A beautiful blog and a relevant blog to many of us. I'm proud of you and Skhu for going all out for your family I know the heaviness that comes with it but we always want to make our Mother's happy, kube buhlungu when they don't appreciate and want more.. God's strength sthandwa sam may God abundantly bless you and don't let your cup run dry Sisi feed from what flows from it not the inside.. Take care Mama❤
Hellos mama thank you for blessing us with a lovely vlog ♥️ Cute Lutho
All can say is SORRY Nozi. I understand you, its ok to feel that way. Love and light to you and Skhu❤
Lutho is so cute - love her dimples 🥰
She's just adorable baby doll
You did the best you could Noz, Give yourself credit for that..Lutho was absolutely beautiful ♥️.. Sending prayers of light, love and strength to you. Yhini undililisa. 🕯️♥️🛐
Been a mom suits u sis nozi lumi is growing fast want u feeding him,his so adorable 🥰💞
im so so so happy to be a part of the Mayaba family🥺🥺😭❤❤
Virtual hugs to you Sis Nozi ❤
Gentle Reminder: You are doing more than enough and good sees your heart ❤️
You're one of a kind. God bless you ❤🙏🎉thank you for the thought provoking vlog.
Sisi, you are doing a great job taking care of your family and raising your newborn baby . What you doing is enough, Mama ❤. Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🫂 🤗
Hugs Nozi. Be easy on yourself and prioritise your mental health before anything else ❤❤
We love you Nozi. It's one of those things where you just do what you can and believe that you are doing enough... ❤
Deep down Nozi you know you’ve done n still doing your best, the are things you are not responsible for,things you can not change. Well done Nozi and bhut Skhu for your big hearts n love for your family……Detox now mommy n attend to that little gift God has blessed all of you with, sending you love n light fam❤❤❤
Trust me we know they always want more. Ebuhlungu is that the day u need help u won't get. Lots of hugs cc 💕💕
Thanks for sharing this with us Nozi and sorry for everything you going through especially from your own parent❤️❤️❤️❤️
Feel like hugging you.
Virtual Hugs. You doing MORE then even hle.
I love the unity between you and your husband.
I thank God that my mom understands me. I would have gone crazy.
This is one baby ozothandwa like nobody❤ I'm so happy for you Sis Noz and Ta Skhu. You deserve all the happiness 😊
😢Seeing how you are treating your niece made me so emotional, and you cardling your baby made me worshipping God within my spirit. I'm busy watching and it is so beautiful. I wish you all the best dearest ❤❤❤❤
You are doing well Nozi, raising abantwana bakho giving them the best that you can, continue doing so. ❤️❤️
Nozi keep on keeping on sisi ♥️ I felt for you when you were reflecting on the whole trip and I felt triggered. May I commend you for your strength, courage and your vulnerability on this platform and I pray that when you’re depleted God refills. Sometimes the expectations are too much, but God bless you for always showing up🙏🏾
Ohh Nozi, seeing you with Lumi warms my heart 🥰and gives me hope..
Enkosi for a REAL vlog!
Sorry for the drama Nozi and Skhu, God knows your hearts. Enjoy that 2 month old cute little gift and blessing❤
🫂 awww Nozi thank you so much for such an authentic vlog. You always mean well but sometimes the people we love the most surprise us!! Sad though but at some point Mum will have to adjust to the shift in priorities. Xx
We love you Nozi ❤ thanks for being raw and keeping it real ❤️❤️
Nozi you are such a good story teller Yoh, I pay attention when watching your vlogs❤❤❤
"oh mtanam" has become my favourite thing to hear you say sis Nozi😊. Much love❤
Everytime I watch I get so excited and want to comment at the beginning of the video by the time the vlog end I see so many things I want to say but commenting again I don't do. My goodness I am watching Lutho, ohh Nozi you are such a blessing to a lot of people together with Skhu. I pray that you meet a lot of genuine people as long as you live, people that will give back the energy and love you always show to them ❤️.
You are a great mom Nozi! that's all that matters. Focus on breaking the generational trauma. HUGS!!