Hypocracy (n) someone criticizes another person for a fault that they themselves possess. Example: Mother brings in family to pressure OP, but when OP talks to Grandfather, she accuses OP of being horrible. Mother refuses to look in mirror about her own actions.
This is infuriating. You said No. Why is everyone acting like his apartment is the only apartment available? Why hadn’t this sister already made arrangements?
Because it became a matter of control, of making him do their bidding. His defiance made them even more irate and even more determined to make him obedient.
I can see mother being concerned about OP and I feel just might be misunderstood in wanting to help UP UNTIL THE POINT OP said no. After that, she goes crazy and shows her true colors.
I’m former military. My comment would be,…”if she needs a larger place then her and her boyfriend should buy or rent their own place like I did or they can pay me for my apartment when I choose to leave,…not when they demand me to leave!”
Start answering every call with "No, Clara can not have my apartment." Change your voicemail to "This is Mateo. If this is Clara or Mom calling, the answer is still no. She's not getting my apartment. Anyone else, leave a message." Send every family member a "I'm so glad you're taking this opportunity to help Clara with her situation. Here's a list of apartments available in the area they want to be in." text when they message with a guilt trip. By the way -- Grandpa for the win!!
If the sister and her boyfriend are ready to have a baby then they are prepared to get their own place, it's one thing to ask for help but to kick someone else out of their own is ridiculous especially when the brother is going through their own struggles.
I know I would, for one I would've made a post telling my version of the story and tagged the same people mother and sister did, and I would have not used a dead person as an excuse to not giving up my own apartment. He literally allowed them to control the narrative, and when they attacked him publicly, he went after them privately.
Adult of 26. Unable to say NO! clearly enough? Unable to separate "mom" and "sis" from the toxic people they really are? Ack the existence of mom and sis while going fully NC with the noxious duo!
Why don’t families and friends ever hold the fathers of these babies responsible? Why are siblings always responsible? What kind of men are these fathers who don’t stand up and take responsibility for their children? If you are man enough to make a baby, then take responsibility.
Two things, first, her husband / boyfriend must be a real loser if he can't even get on a place for him and his pregnant girlfriend / wife, second, which one of your relatives is going to give up their home / apartment for your useless sister?
Why doesn't mother give Clara her house? Mother can get a job and support herself. What is Clara's baby daddy doing in all of this and is Mateo's the only apartment in Portland?
Well obviously yours is the only apartment in the world and it isn't as if it didn't take the pie voluntarily and knew it results in pregs! Hahahahaha the more they pressure, the colder and more heartless and vindictive id be, and id be flipping it back on the flying monkeys and portray them as selfish and unloving etc.
Whaaaaaattttt?!?!?!🫨🫨🫨 Stand strong in your convictions... What is the father of the baby doing?!?!?! It's YOUR home!!! This IS NOT "family", just relatives...Go NO CONTACT! #ProtectYourEnergy #ProtectYourPeace
Tell the mother to leave her house and give it to her daughter. Tell those relatives to pitch in and buy sister a apartment.
Hypocracy (n) someone criticizes another person for a fault that they themselves possess. Example: Mother brings in family to pressure OP, but when OP talks to Grandfather, she accuses OP of being horrible.
Mother refuses to look in mirror about her own actions.
This is infuriating. You said No. Why is everyone acting like his apartment is the only apartment available? Why hadn’t this sister already made arrangements?
Because it became a matter of control, of making him do their bidding. His defiance made them even more irate and even more determined to make him obedient.
I can see mother being concerned about OP and I feel just might be misunderstood in wanting to help UP UNTIL THE POINT OP said no. After that, she goes crazy and shows her true colors.
I’m former military. My comment would be,…”if she needs a larger place then her and her boyfriend should buy or rent their own place like I did or they can pay me for my apartment when I choose to leave,…not when they demand me to leave!”
Start answering every call with "No, Clara can not have my apartment."
Change your voicemail to "This is Mateo. If this is Clara or Mom calling, the answer is still no. She's not getting my apartment. Anyone else, leave a message."
Send every family member a "I'm so glad you're taking this opportunity to help Clara with her situation. Here's a list of apartments available in the area they want to be in." text when they message with a guilt trip.
By the way -- Grandpa for the win!!
Block them all
If the sister and her boyfriend are ready to have a baby then they are prepared to get their own place, it's one thing to ask for help but to kick someone else out of their own is ridiculous especially when the brother is going through their own struggles.
I hope that Clara DID NOT get the apartment.
Oh hell no. Screw that noise
Absolutely not’ never give them that apartment
Lawyer time
And why doesn't Clara and her boyfriend rent their own place.
No is a full sentence.. NO.
Sister didn't need your help when she got that way, was Mateo there holding her hand when she was canoodling? Nope.
Grow a bloody spine. Say no and block anybody who keeps bothering you. Clara has your mother's place, it's not like you are leaving her on the street.
He had a strong spine.
Why is everyone so certain they would make better choices than OP in the same situation. Walking away from a toxic family is easier said than done.
I know I would, for one I would've made a post telling my version of the story and tagged the same people mother and sister did, and I would have not used a dead person as an excuse to not giving up my own apartment. He literally allowed them to control the narrative, and when they attacked him publicly, he went after them privately.
As always, the man gets victim-blamed.
Adult of 26. Unable to say NO! clearly enough? Unable to separate "mom" and "sis" from the toxic people they really are? Ack the existence of mom and sis while going fully NC with the noxious duo!
Another "Do it for Dan" story.
Why don’t families and friends ever hold the fathers of these babies responsible? Why are siblings always responsible? What kind of men are these fathers who don’t stand up and take responsibility for their children? If you are man enough to make a baby, then take responsibility.
Two things, first, her husband / boyfriend must be a real loser if he can't even get on a place for him and his pregnant girlfriend / wife, second, which one of your relatives is going to give up their home / apartment for your useless sister?
That is exactly what I was thinking, where is the father in all of this, the sister didn't make this baby all on her own.
I really hope this is fake. Get your own damn apartment
Mateo, dont forget you will be paying the rent forever.
So, in the end he gave the apartment to his sister.
After saying "NO" block them all. Let mommy dearest take them in. So clarify did stupid and Mateo take over your apt?
Yes! Who did you turn the keys over to??
Why doesn't mother give Clara her house? Mother can get a job and support herself. What is Clara's baby daddy doing in all of this and is Mateo's the only apartment in Portland?
Is this "do it for Dan" story 😂
For G-d's sake grow a spine and stand up for yourself. Nobody else would.
He did.
Where’s the baby daddy in this? Why isn’t he supporting his pregnant baby mama? Obviously he’s in the picture. It’s his responsibility, not Mateo’s.
Why do you care? Its yours not there's. This do it for family is BS. Its yours no ones else be a man and stand up for your self.
Those stories are good but the OP tends to have no backbone.
Well obviously yours is the only apartment in the world and it isn't as if it didn't take the pie voluntarily and knew it results in pregs! Hahahahaha the more they pressure, the colder and more heartless and vindictive id be, and id be flipping it back on the flying monkeys and portray them as selfish and unloving etc.
It's the only one they could get for free.
@@nilianstroy
Excellent response 👏 👏 👏 👏
This is dumb.
Whaaaaaattttt?!?!?!🫨🫨🫨
Stand strong in your convictions...
What is the father of the baby doing?!?!?!
It's YOUR home!!!
This IS NOT "family", just relatives...Go NO CONTACT!
#ProtectYourEnergy
#ProtectYourPeace