Watched this a few weeks ago and wanted to comment to check in. At the time your video helped me and since watching positive and unexpected things have happened. They were testing too but I’m trying to step into non-reacting and turning up more. I never normally interact in comments so this is new for me but wanted to say you’ve had a positive effect on my life by showing up authentically
@@TheFracturedfuture you have it all wrong my friend, rejoice in suffering. Endurance restores the soul, purification process. Rejoice sing, look up, not below. Hard times make hard people, easy times make soft people. In 5 years you will be hard to beat at anything you try.
Life is hard. I have times where I’m extremely happy, focused, and confident for months straight. And then over night I will wake up as if all of it never happened. I’ll feel extremely sad, incompetent, and unsure about the future for no reason. And it feels like it will never go away. Why do our brains do this? It doesn’t make any sense.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
I think you're brave. I'm sorry you feel this way. It's a difficult thing, because nobody can really give you advice on something like this. Not sure, that's even what you were wanting. I will ask you a question though. What would you consider successful? What do you dream of? Knowing what you're not wanting is the first step to knowing what you do want, and that's the first step down a different path. ❤
I observed some people have been going through transformation after recent events, others have just gone nuts though, what’s hidden in the dark is coming to light
From my perspective you are a valiant valuable person that blesses the lives of her family daily and lives a good life. Sometimes perspective. God bless 🙏🏼
I've overtime realized that because of how some civilizations (Especially US) are structured in a very rigid and confined way instead of flexible and open to change. As a result, many of us are told that once we graduate HS, we have to "have it all together." But Truthfully there's no such thing as "having it all together." Our world and ourselves are beautifully ambiguous, and we shouldn't say it's a bad thing. Acknowledging this can help us realize that there's so much more than we sense and guide us towards new ideas.
Gosh! me tooooooo!!!! I let people walk all over me. But I am excited to try a new life and not give up. It's quite exciting taking up this challenge. I guess I have to fake it until I make it. At least we are aware. I forgive myself for my mistakes and respect myself for not being someone who hurts other people with criminal activity. We are on the live long mission to overcome. Good luck to us all who know at least love. I honor it as the source of life!
My girlfriend is also just like that. People walk over her and i have to push her to set boundaries. At work there is couple bullies and they come and dump their leftover work for her to clean things up, this happens a lot. I have to push her to stand up for herself since i also suffer if she is bullied. We have made lot of progress on this matter. Im really proud of her since i know how hard it is for nice and quiet person to confront or resist bullying at workplace.
I see a sensitive woman, in an insensitive world. Give yourself credit for having the guts to post this video. Hang in there. You are more connected than you realize.
When you start to co-create with the universe/source/god, your life changes. Be thankful you realized this at 35, Im a bit older and went thru it all in the last few years. Now, retired, still own major shares of a great business on the West Coast, money is good, i Am Love, happy, very thankful! Oh, you posting a video about all you said... that is courage and grit, be proud of that. Forgiveness was my in my top 3 of all thing, gratitude and the determination to change.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
Failed...? By who's definition? "Success" and "failure" are man made constructs defined by people who are not you. I think it was Theodore Roosevelt who said,..."Comparison is the thief of joy." Be proud and happy of your obvious accomplishments in life. If you must compare, by your own words, realize that you are among the top ten percent in quality of life on the planet. Congratulations!!! And, thank you for sharing. Best wishes. :)!!
Takes courage to admit things others are facing but won't admit it. Your vulnerability is a strength most will never have. Now it's time to work on yourself.
I call it the beast. My beast is always hungry, always wants more or something different. I realized this: You will never be happy until you realize you will never be happy.
It all comes down how you feel about yourself. If you want to make change, you just have to make plan and change your patterns. You also have to start acting towards your desired outcome. You are introverted person, make this more well known fact for yourself. Seems like you have lost connection to your intuition, you feel lost because of this factor. Find the root cause for your negative emotions and from where they come from. My hats off for you making this video, for taking this action, im sure there will be lot of positive change coming your way, since you just did something which scares you.
I hope that this comment finds you: Since you asked, "How do you change yourself?" - You can't change yourself the same way you can't lift yourself up by your own hands. The self is a tool, and like any tool it cannot change itself by its own means, e.g. a saw cannot saw itself. The only thing you can do, ultimately, is to observe. That observing quality of your consciousness is more you than any materially condensed quality of the person you think you are. The space in between your thoughts, reactions and actions is manifest potential, in a literal sense not-you. So in order to change you have to feel comfortable in the spaces between your habitual thoughts and stay there as long as possible. Anything else, any aspect of your current personality structure, any belief not in line with the undisturbed purity of the in-between spaces of your consciousness will eventually disappear for good. This is how you aquire energy, this is how you finally heal. The trick here is not to do this meditative practice in order to change (to become) but just for the sake of itself, like Being is its own end, its own virtue. All the best!
You haven't fail life. You can change at any point in life by doing little changes every day. Let people help you but in the end you need to be the person doing the work. Bit by bit. You are beautiful woman. Your daughter only gonna be different than you when she sees the example in you. Children learn by observing parents not by listening to them. Keep improving because you are worth it.
2 points right off the bat. 1. How many tattoos do you have? It would be hard to believe you feel this way and not inked or cut on your skin. Most do. 2. Please dont ever, ever feel like a coworkers acceptance is a good thing. Most of them are miserable and want you to be the same. I would say this, do some research on your family history. Find out who you are. The struggles the ones before you went through. You may just find that fire you need to push through this. You are just 1 link in the chain. And the next link may just look to you for strength in their journey. But please dont go to divorce or a path to find yourself. Most women go that route. Keep the family intact is a great start. Good luck. In closing, I am 55 and have felt exactly the way you describe in this vid for 20 yrs. This just might be our path. Sad but true
Life doesn’t stop, you can still get better, find one thing to change in your everyday life and see if it works. Start small that’s all you can do and should do, try to see how you can fit in better even if it might be making yourself look like a fool. Everything matters.😊
You remind me of my wife , 100%. If there was one thing that I wish she would do is take the time to find God. It does take some work but the moment you make that breakthrough the flood gates open up and you’ll be awashed with so much beauty and you will feel the live and Holliness of the one whom created you. You will learn that he is in you and you in him. This will give you the confidence and strength you’re looking for.
On the friends' part , You will find you might have one, maybe two, really good friends (hopefully hubby is one of them ). I'm more extroverted, and at 44, you will notice this . Immediate family is paramount and cherish that
It sounds like you need to find your teacher. I would suggest breaking the habit of being yourself. Or becoming supernatural. I'm starting this journey with you at 35 also. Please just keep trying things. Posting on UA-cam is so incredibly brave! I look forward to seeing your progress.
Never give up Jessica I'm 40 I never give up i.got god or jesus I got evil 😈 neighbors around me that only harass me I'm from florida I'm introverted and quiet too no you don't your brave you continue to live despite the sadness you have inside your amazing Jessica my name is michael I suffer from depression too fight Jessica for your 7 year old daughter I michael complete believe in you Jessica you can do it resist Jessica your 7 year old daughter needs her beautiful mother never give up Jessica pretty 😍 ♥️ 💖 angel 😇 your amazing Jessica your so beautiful 😍 🤩 👌 and worthy ♥️ 💖 never give up Jessica I only see 👀 a beautiful and brave woman that deserves eternal love your big bro michael loves you eternally Jessica your winner Jessica in my eyes 👀 ❤️ 💖 💙 ♥️ 💕
Wisdom will teach you in time to appreciate the ordinary. Life is joyful once you are grateful for what you have. My advice is spend some time with the truly unfortunate. You will develop a perspective. By helping others, I gave actually saved me. 🤗
Welcome to the human race and a broken world. You have a home, husband, child, income. Your better off than 90% of the people on this planet. And your young. I wish I was in your shoes.
Im NOT a therapist or medical professional. Your normal in my opinion, let me explain. When I was a young man I was a "people pleaser" that avoided confrontation at my own expense, only to be targeted by narcissists as an easy target for abuse. I'm 58 years old now and still getting better at setting boundaries with people so they know what I will & what I will not tolerate. I was just like you.... don't give up, you know what doesn't make you happy now, which should point to what will make you happy. All relationships are based on Honesty, Trust, Respect.... its possible to not be confrontational if you calmly articulate to people when they are crossing your boundaries with what you will and will not tolerate as far as their behavior toward you. It takes practice, but trust me, you will get better at. The key is to address it with people sooner rather than later. I hope this makes sense & I hope it helps you.
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No you haven't failed because you have the insight and awareness to realize you have a longing for self knowledge. I'm sure you've done a good job within the family but now you want to go inwards. That's progress! Check out Helen Hamilton and aA New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Happy adventures 😊
There is nothing wrong with you. You cannot be more than or less than who you already are. What you are looking for is within you not outside youreslf. Let me ask you who is aware of thought? Its YOU right! Now let me ask you this, Can a thought be aware of you or are you aware of thoughts? A thought cannot be aware of you! Thought is arising on its own there is no thinker of thought just an observer of thought who gets to choose or reject the thought. You have the power to change the way you see yourself and the world just by CHOOSING a new way to see yourself and others and when apply this, your outer world molds its self to your new perspective. Hope this helps! If you would like to know more, just ask!😊
Lovely! We are not what our mind thinks. We can choose the thoughts we believe and no matter what, the mind will still manufacture thoughts of all kinds!
She's a normal women stop comparing yourself. Your introverted it's normal. At 35 I stood for myself. I'm 56. You will end up divorced when you have it all. What are you missing? STOP COMPARING YOURSELF IT'S NOT HEALTHY. I have no good friends, no girlfriend, being harasser at work. Life is work not only happiness. Your like me. Today lots are one sided. I rather be alone. Introvert people are all like that. What is you want to do better, your still are growing? I'm 56 i accept who i am. Do you respect boundaries?
My child, if only you could see beyond your eyes, feel beyond your fingers, hear beyond the noise of your thinking, you would know that everything you've said are just words and everything you've felt are just manifestations of your ideas. What is staring you in the face at this very moment is the end of your life: the reflection of yourself as "the 35 year old woman, failed at life". This is a mental prison you are wandering into as the gate closes behind you. I hope you are understanding what I am saying. There is nothing you can fail at in life, except to condemn yourself. Use this feeling, this unrest to search for the truth. What is it that you want to be? Do you want to earn six figures and be idolized? Is that a more meaningful existence? Is succeeding at life checking off certain boxes? My god... To decorate and adorn your prison in tinsel and gold. Many of those "happy appearing" people don't know they're boiling in a pot. I understand this is all out of self pity and hurt, and feelings of inadequacy... But know this, the things that you think will "fix you" will only bury you under another layer of self doubt as it is impossible to change yourself out of willpower, resentment, or effort. You will always fall short of your ideal, and this will cause you unending misery. You must set your sights higher. Forget what you think is possible. Forget what you think you can't live without. Forget who you are this very moment. Your suffering has told you it is time to give up. Your failure is not your past, there is no past. You can't point to it, and you can't go there or experience it. Your failure is right now because you are actively choosing to hold onto your idea of yourself. You're playing a record on repeat, this same sad song called "my life" and you can't get the chorus our of your head. It is time to turn it off. The only true change you can make in life that is of any consequence is to accept that you don't know who you are, despite all of your internal monologue. It begins humbly with "I don't know". Without that monologue repeating who you are to yourself, what do you have left? What happens next? I dare you.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
You need salvation, Jesus is the truth, the way and the life. Be born again by the spirit of God. Its the onely way out. God will hjelp you. Just pray to Jesus.
I wouldn't say failed, but rather that you are struggling with life, and there's nothing wrong with expressing, with sharing that struggle, as far as I'm concerned anyways. I've also always been the quiet one in the social groups, sometimes they would even joke that I never say anything more than I need to, not that I'm taking any offense there, it has been true through much of my life. LOL I like to think I'm not as introverted as I used to be, but it takes some work and time to make such changes.
I know a 35 year old who failed at life. She’s in a worse position than you. Look at my recent community post if anyone’s interested in how stubborn this exact age can be for woman specifically 34-36
IMHO I think you are not only depressed but I think you would benefit from speaking to a psychotherapist. I know that I have felt many similar things that you have described too and I got help which definitely improved my life. I hope you can find some solution. I think the best thing you said was that you might review your own video and take notes. I think that is a fantastic first step!
Talking to a therapist doesn't always work. Sometimes, we are just wired a certain way. Talking to a therapist doesn't do shit for me. The world is shit and life just straight up sucks alot of times. The red pill truth
Your creator loves you. Get to know him and he will throw his arms around you, showing that you are not a failure, nothing wrong. Jesus is the answer not being a better person, let him heal you. You are beautiful and worthy.
I have lots of similarities sans the marriage and the mortgage, child and the permanent job. Im 48. You appear way more accomplished than me, wouldnt you agree? If you didnt have the drive to want more you would not have posted this confession publicly, notice that about yourself. With this post you are hoping for help and answers. There is effort in that. Effort and support for Self. If you see a vein of lack of boundaries within yourself and relationship dynamics, please understand this is often a result of early trauma ( lack of self worth, perhaps an overbearing parent, maybe narcissism in your parent?) Gabor Mate, The Crappy Childhood Fairy, Patrick Teahan, Dr Ramani and many many others on UA-cam have helpful information that may be keys for you. Youre on track, your own track, which wont look like a standard. Please honor that. Change is possible, only death makes it too late, so kudos to you. It’s not an easy road, but consciousness is the road to freedom. Go easy on you while you do the “work” 🙏🏆☀️
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Ok baby steps, GOD made different color flowers, Just like different Personalities, Baby Steps it take a whole lifetime to become who we want to be then we die
Haven’t heard you say anything about Jesus. He is real, no doubt. Don’t get caught up in religion. But, knowing the God of the universe loves you helps so much. However, I get it! Not the having everything part but, I do understand the disappointment, depression, loneliness, anxiety, etc… Your only 35! Your just getting started. Sounds like your on the right path because you’re thinking about these things and your personality and courage will improve . With God it will improve alot faster. You’re doing alot better than you think. I’m proud of you for wanting to be better. This life is extremely difficult. Don’t give up, you’ll get there. Little by little, line upon line, etc…
Hi, I think you should see a psychiatrist as soon as you can and who will help you. Take care, I wish you all the best... PS: I hope I haven't been too direct...
Just be glad you're not in a country somewhere where you're not allowed to vote, drive a car, go to school, or show your face in public. Sorry I don't have better advice, but I got my own problems. Good luck to you. I'll give you a sub for the effort though.
Hi friend it takes more guts to do what you are doing not just talking on this video but your every day of your life . Success yes that is a wonderful thing listen people don't put a women that works and comes home and feed and take care of your family is a very successful accomplished. But if you don't know Jesus Christ as your savior then you don't know what you are missing i am not talking about joining a church I am talking about having a relationship with Jesus Christ our Lord and savior. If you give him a chance you will find more joy and satisfaction in life.
Following bible scriptures will help you out, by reading bible scriptures about God can get your self same mood for sure God's word work when your in challenges and I promise God will secure your life amen ❤🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
You dont need to be ascheimd, i understend you, i a also an introvert but Jesus made introverted and jesus love introverts they are more with him then extrovert❤
I'm no kind of mental health professional, but it seems clear to me you've been badly traumatized in childhood, most likely by your parents. Your feelings of deep inadequacy sure sound like toxic parental shame messages to me. I wonder if your sense of failure is mostly because of the lies they told you about who you are. Your sense of self doesn't feel like it belongs to you at all, but is a script written by others for their own benefit. What I'm saying is, IMO, the failure is not yours. The reason you feel like a failure is bc YOU were failed by people who were supposed to love and protect you but didn't. I'm guessing you were abused, either directly or indirectly. You appear to have all the telltale signs. Growing up being told you're not lovable has horribly destructive effects later on in life.
I know a 35 year old who failed at life. She’s in a worse position than you. Look at my recent community post if anyone’s interested in how stubborn this exact age can be for woman specifically 34-36
You're on UA-cam now which is the perfect place to make your transformation and comeback. Good luck, grasshopper.
Watched this a few weeks ago and wanted to comment to check in. At the time your video helped me and since watching positive and unexpected things have happened. They were testing too but I’m trying to step into non-reacting and turning up more. I never normally interact in comments so this is new for me but wanted to say you’ve had a positive effect on my life by showing up authentically
Pain changes you, suffering brings obedience, hardship builds character.
Too much of anything will make you miserable.
@@TheFracturedfuture you have it all wrong my friend, rejoice in suffering. Endurance restores the soul, purification process. Rejoice sing, look up, not below. Hard times make hard people, easy times make soft people. In 5 years you will be hard to beat at anything you try.
Life is hard. I have times where I’m extremely happy, focused, and confident for months straight. And then over night I will wake up as if all of it never happened. I’ll feel extremely sad, incompetent, and unsure about the future for no reason. And it feels like it will never go away. Why do our brains do this? It doesn’t make any sense.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
At 54 years old I've learned that if you don't like it change it. No one is coming to your rescue.
You are 35? You are young. Try feeling this way at 60.
You're poor then get rich.
You're ugly get pretty.
You're short then grow.
Some things are harder to achieve for some people.
@@TheFracturedfutureNo help whatsoever.
@woodentulike2no Same. I'm 60 as well and simply can't function in this anti human system.
Only failed others expectations. Your alive. The journey is the flame of the candle. Btw 35 is young.
35 is way too young to declare "failure".
I think you're brave. I'm sorry you feel this way. It's a difficult thing, because nobody can really give you advice on something like this. Not sure, that's even what you were wanting. I will ask you a question though. What would you consider successful? What do you dream of? Knowing what you're not wanting is the first step to knowing what you do want, and that's the first step down a different path. ❤
You are strong. You'll get through this. You don't need friends. All you need is yourself. Be grateful for what you have, and Love yourself.
I observed some people have been going through transformation after recent events, others have just gone nuts though, what’s hidden in the dark is coming to light
35 is not too late to develop yourself into something you want. It might be a matter of expectations or even undiagnosed depression.
From my perspective you are a valiant valuable person that blesses the lives of her family daily and lives a good life. Sometimes perspective. God bless 🙏🏼
Sweet girl seek the Lord He will completely fill you with joy give you a boldness peace love everything you need He will give you
I've overtime realized that because of how some civilizations (Especially US) are structured in a very rigid and confined way instead of flexible and open to change. As a result, many of us are told that once we graduate HS, we have to "have it all together." But Truthfully there's no such thing as "having it all together." Our world and ourselves are beautifully ambiguous, and we shouldn't say it's a bad thing. Acknowledging this can help us realize that there's so much more than we sense and guide us towards new ideas.
Gosh! me tooooooo!!!! I let people walk all over me. But I am excited to try a new life and not give up. It's quite exciting taking up this challenge. I guess I have to fake it until I make it. At least we are aware. I forgive myself for my mistakes and respect myself for not being someone who hurts other people with criminal activity. We are on the live long mission to overcome. Good luck to us all who know at least love. I honor it as the source of life!
My girlfriend is also just like that. People walk over her and i have to push her to set boundaries. At work there is couple bullies and they come and dump their leftover work for her to clean things up, this happens a lot. I have to push her to stand up for herself since i also suffer if she is bullied. We have made lot of progress on this matter. Im really proud of her since i know how hard it is for nice and quiet person to confront or resist bullying at workplace.
I see a sensitive woman, in an insensitive world. Give yourself credit for having the guts to post this video. Hang in there. You are more connected than you realize.
Life is a learning process. And the learning never stops.
You’re never too old to transform, shift, and evolve.
I wish you well..
When you start to co-create with the universe/source/god, your life changes. Be thankful you realized this at 35, Im a bit older and went thru it all in the last few years. Now, retired, still own major shares of a great business on the West Coast, money is good, i Am Love, happy, very thankful! Oh, you posting a video about all you said... that is courage and grit, be proud of that. Forgiveness was my in my top 3 of all thing, gratitude and the determination to change.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
Failed...? By who's definition? "Success" and "failure" are man made constructs defined by people who are not you. I think it was Theodore Roosevelt who said,..."Comparison is the thief of joy." Be proud and happy of your obvious accomplishments in life. If you must compare, by your own words, realize that you are among the top ten percent in quality of life on the planet. Congratulations!!! And, thank you for sharing. Best wishes. :)!!
Takes courage to admit things others are facing but won't admit it. Your vulnerability is a strength most will never have.
Now it's time to work on yourself.
The power of positive thinking by Norman Vincent Peale helped me
I call it the beast.
My beast is always hungry,
always wants more or something different.
I realized this:
You will never be happy until
you realize you will never be happy.
It all comes down how you feel about yourself. If you want to make change, you just have to make plan and change your patterns. You also have to start acting towards your desired outcome. You are introverted person, make this more well known fact for yourself. Seems like you have lost connection to your intuition, you feel lost because of this factor. Find the root cause for your negative emotions and from where they come from.
My hats off for you making this video, for taking this action, im sure there will be lot of positive change coming your way, since you just did something which scares you.
I hope that this comment finds you:
Since you asked, "How do you change yourself?" - You can't change yourself the same way you can't lift yourself up by your own hands. The self is a tool, and like any tool it cannot change itself by its own means, e.g. a saw cannot saw itself.
The only thing you can do, ultimately, is to observe. That observing quality of your consciousness is more you than any materially condensed quality of the person you think you are. The space in between your thoughts, reactions and actions is manifest potential, in a literal sense not-you. So in order to change you have to feel comfortable in the spaces between your habitual thoughts and stay there as long as possible. Anything else, any aspect of your current personality structure, any belief not in line with the undisturbed purity of the in-between spaces of your consciousness will eventually disappear for good. This is how you aquire energy, this is how you finally heal. The trick here is not to do this meditative practice in order to change (to become) but just for the sake of itself, like Being is its own end, its own virtue. All the best!
Bad advice
You haven't fail life. You can change at any point in life by doing little changes every day. Let people help you but in the end you need to be the person doing the work. Bit by bit. You are beautiful woman. Your daughter only gonna be different than you when she sees the example in you. Children learn by observing parents not by listening to them. Keep improving because you are worth it.
You know what's the best part of 11:59pm? A minute later, a new day arrives and you can start again.
The wanting to become something other than what you are is the cause of the suffering. There is no goal, no ultimate point to arrive at.
2 points right off the bat.
1. How many tattoos do you have? It would be hard to believe you feel this way and not inked or cut on your skin. Most do.
2. Please dont ever, ever feel like a coworkers acceptance is a good thing. Most of them are miserable and want you to be the same.
I would say this, do some research on your family history. Find out who you are. The struggles the ones before you went through. You may just find that fire you need to push through this. You are just 1 link in the chain. And the next link may just look to you for strength in their journey. But please dont go to divorce or a path to find yourself. Most women go that route. Keep the family intact is a great start. Good luck.
In closing, I am 55 and have felt exactly the way you describe in this vid for 20 yrs.
This just might be our path.
Sad but true
Life doesn’t stop, you can still get better, find one thing to change in your everyday life and see if it works. Start small that’s all you can do and should do, try to see how you can fit in better even if it might be making yourself look like a fool. Everything matters.😊
You remind me of my wife , 100%. If there was one thing that I wish she would do is take the time to find God. It does take some work but the moment you make that breakthrough the flood gates open up and you’ll be awashed with so much beauty and you will feel the live and Holliness of the one whom created you. You will learn that he is in you and you in him. This will give you the confidence and strength you’re looking for.
On the friends' part ,
You will find you might have one, maybe two, really good friends (hopefully hubby is one of them ). I'm more extroverted, and at 44, you will notice this . Immediate family is paramount and cherish that
Never say you failed your learning in life even when you mite think you lost . Learn from it and move on to the next journey in life .
You can only fail if you give up!!!
It sounds like you need to find your teacher. I would suggest breaking the habit of being yourself. Or becoming supernatural. I'm starting this journey with you at 35 also. Please just keep trying things. Posting on UA-cam is so incredibly brave! I look forward to seeing your progress.
What is you want to change, explain in more details?
Life rhymes with strife!!!
Never give up Jessica I'm 40 I never give up i.got god or jesus I got evil 😈 neighbors around me that only harass me I'm from florida I'm introverted and quiet too no you don't your brave you continue to live despite the sadness you have inside your amazing Jessica my name is michael I suffer from depression too fight Jessica for your 7 year old daughter I michael complete believe in you Jessica you can do it resist Jessica your 7 year old daughter needs her beautiful mother never give up Jessica pretty 😍 ♥️ 💖 angel 😇 your amazing Jessica your so beautiful 😍 🤩 👌 and worthy ♥️ 💖 never give up Jessica I only see 👀 a beautiful and brave woman that deserves eternal love your big bro michael loves you eternally Jessica your winner Jessica in my eyes 👀 ❤️ 💖 💙 ♥️ 💕
Wisdom will teach you in time to appreciate the ordinary. Life is joyful once you are grateful for what you have. My advice is spend some time with the truly unfortunate. You will develop a perspective. By helping others, I gave actually saved me. 🤗
Welcome to the human race and a broken world. You have a home, husband, child, income. Your better off than 90% of the people on this planet. And your young. I wish I was in your shoes.
Im NOT a therapist or medical professional.
Your normal in my opinion, let me explain.
When I was a young man I was a "people pleaser" that avoided confrontation at my own expense, only to be targeted by narcissists as an easy target for abuse.
I'm 58 years old now and still getting better at setting boundaries with people so they know what I will & what I will not tolerate.
I was just like you....
don't give up, you know what doesn't make you happy now, which should point to what will make you happy.
All relationships are based on Honesty, Trust, Respect....
its possible to not be confrontational if you calmly articulate to people when they are crossing your boundaries with what you will and will not tolerate as far as their behavior toward you.
It takes practice, but trust me, you will get better at. The key is to address it with people sooner rather than later.
I hope this makes sense & I hope it helps you.
Enough this enough when you take the step to change and cross the threshold
This world beats you down. What you do after that is on you. How good can this get?
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That is the past that will haunt you. But the past is already gone. Non-existent. New start now!
Gods got all the answers for those lost world .
No you haven't failed because you have the insight and awareness to realize you have a longing for self knowledge. I'm sure you've done a good job within the family but now you want to go inwards. That's progress! Check out Helen Hamilton and aA New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Happy adventures 😊
Christ still lioves you. He won't give up on you!!!
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There is nothing wrong with you. You cannot be more than or less than who you already are. What you are looking for is within you not outside youreslf. Let me ask you who is aware of thought? Its YOU right! Now let me ask you this, Can a thought be aware of you or are you aware of thoughts? A thought cannot be aware of you! Thought is arising on its own there is no thinker of thought just an observer of thought who gets to choose or reject the thought. You have the power to change the way you see yourself and the world just by CHOOSING a new way to see yourself and others and when apply this, your outer world molds its self to your new perspective. Hope this helps! If you would like to know more, just ask!😊
Lovely! We are not what our mind thinks. We can choose the thoughts we believe and no matter what, the mind will still manufacture thoughts of all kinds!
She's a normal women stop comparing yourself. Your introverted it's normal. At 35 I stood for myself. I'm 56. You will end up divorced when you have it all. What are you missing? STOP COMPARING YOURSELF IT'S NOT HEALTHY. I have no good friends, no girlfriend, being harasser at work. Life is work not only happiness. Your like me. Today lots are one sided. I rather be alone. Introvert people are all like that. What is you want to do better, your still are growing? I'm 56 i accept who i am. Do you respect boundaries?
My child, if only you could see beyond your eyes, feel beyond your fingers, hear beyond the noise of your thinking, you would know that everything you've said are just words and everything you've felt are just manifestations of your ideas. What is staring you in the face at this very moment is the end of your life: the reflection of yourself as "the 35 year old woman, failed at life". This is a mental prison you are wandering into as the gate closes behind you. I hope you are understanding what I am saying. There is nothing you can fail at in life, except to condemn yourself. Use this feeling, this unrest to search for the truth. What is it that you want to be? Do you want to earn six figures and be idolized? Is that a more meaningful existence? Is succeeding at life checking off certain boxes? My god... To decorate and adorn your prison in tinsel and gold. Many of those "happy appearing" people don't know they're boiling in a pot. I understand this is all out of self pity and hurt, and feelings of inadequacy... But know this, the things that you think will "fix you" will only bury you under another layer of self doubt as it is impossible to change yourself out of willpower, resentment, or effort. You will always fall short of your ideal, and this will cause you unending misery. You must set your sights higher. Forget what you think is possible. Forget what you think you can't live without. Forget who you are this very moment. Your suffering has told you it is time to give up. Your failure is not your past, there is no past. You can't point to it, and you can't go there or experience it. Your failure is right now because you are actively choosing to hold onto your idea of yourself. You're playing a record on repeat, this same sad song called "my life" and you can't get the chorus our of your head. It is time to turn it off. The only true change you can make in life that is of any consequence is to accept that you don't know who you are, despite all of your internal monologue. It begins humbly with "I don't know". Without that monologue repeating who you are to yourself, what do you have left? What happens next? I dare you.
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
You look beautiful ❤️
My Love this shotstem downstroys LOVE
You need salvation, Jesus is the truth, the way and the life. Be born again by the spirit of God. Its the onely way out. God will hjelp you. Just pray to Jesus.
I wouldn't say failed, but rather that you are struggling with life, and there's nothing wrong with expressing, with sharing that struggle, as far as I'm concerned anyways. I've also always been the quiet one in the social groups, sometimes they would even joke that I never say anything more than I need to, not that I'm taking any offense there, it has been true through much of my life. LOL I like to think I'm not as introverted as I used to be, but it takes some work and time to make such changes.
Life is love
I know a 35 year old who failed at life. She’s in a worse position than you. Look at my recent community post if anyone’s interested in how stubborn this exact age can be for woman specifically 34-36
3:06 forgive yourself. your inner child ie your subconscious mind did its best from where they were. ❤
Nothing wrong, just confused.....
IMHO I think you are not only depressed but I think you would benefit from speaking to a psychotherapist. I know that I have felt many similar things that you have described too and I got help which definitely improved my life. I hope you can find some solution. I think the best thing you said was that you might review your own video and take notes. I think that is a fantastic first step!
Talking to a therapist doesn't always work. Sometimes, we are just wired a certain way. Talking to a therapist doesn't do shit for me. The world is shit and life just straight up sucks alot of times. The red pill truth
Your creator loves you. Get to know him and he will throw his arms around you, showing that you are not a failure, nothing wrong. Jesus is the answer not being a better person, let him heal you. You are beautiful and worthy.
I have lots of similarities sans the marriage and the mortgage, child and the permanent job. Im 48. You appear way more accomplished than me, wouldnt you agree?
If you didnt have the drive to want more you would not have posted this confession publicly, notice that about yourself. With this post you are hoping for help and answers. There is effort in that. Effort and support for Self.
If you see a vein of lack of boundaries within yourself and relationship dynamics, please understand this is often a result of early trauma ( lack of self worth, perhaps an overbearing parent, maybe narcissism in your parent?) Gabor Mate, The Crappy Childhood Fairy, Patrick Teahan, Dr Ramani and many many others on UA-cam have helpful information that may be keys for you.
Youre on track, your own track, which wont look like a standard. Please honor that. Change is possible, only death makes it too late, so kudos to you. It’s not an easy road, but consciousness is the road to freedom. Go easy on you while you do the “work”
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Me too, and I’m 58 😑
dont be so hard on yourself bc this profit ova humanity shitstem is unfair xoxoxo One Love
Its not a world to bring kids or start a family
my ex is 37 im 22 she faild
Be the wife God wants you to be, or nothing will work for you
Counseling might do you some good. It helps to talk to someone and get some feedback from them.
Ok baby steps,
GOD made different color flowers,
Just like different
Personalities,
Baby Steps it take a whole lifetime to become who we want to be then we die
My guess is that many who watch this will be reaching out to you.
Accept Jesus in your heart and you will be filled with a spark you wouldn’t believe.
Haven’t heard you say anything about Jesus. He is real, no doubt. Don’t get caught up in religion. But, knowing the God of the universe loves you helps so much. However, I get it! Not the having everything part but, I do understand the disappointment, depression, loneliness, anxiety, etc… Your only 35! Your just getting started. Sounds like your on the right path because you’re thinking about these things and your personality and courage will improve . With God it will improve alot faster. You’re doing alot better than you think. I’m proud of you for wanting to be better. This life is extremely difficult. Don’t give up, you’ll get there. Little by little, line upon line, etc…
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Hi, I think you should see a psychiatrist as soon as you can and who will help you. Take care, I wish you all the best...
PS: I hope I haven't been too direct...
Just be glad you're not in a country somewhere where you're not allowed to vote, drive a car, go to school, or show your face in public. Sorry I don't have better advice, but I got my own problems. Good luck to you. I'll give you a sub for the effort though.
That’s a good start to cultivating an abundance mindset!
Hi friend it takes more guts to do what you are doing not just talking on this video but your every day of your life . Success yes that is a wonderful thing listen people don't put a women that works and comes home and feed and take care of your family is a very successful accomplished. But if you don't know Jesus Christ as your savior then you don't know what you are missing i am not talking about joining a church I am talking about having a relationship with Jesus Christ our Lord and savior. If you give him a chance you will find more joy and satisfaction in life.
you should be telling this to your husband, family and friends. not to the internet for all world to see.
Following bible scriptures will help you out, by reading bible scriptures about God can get your self same mood for sure God's word work when your in challenges and I promise God will secure your life amen ❤🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
You dont need to be ascheimd, i understend you, i a also an introvert but Jesus made introverted and jesus love introverts they are more with him then extrovert❤
First world problems.
Everyone dies at some point so we all failed
Try being 36 and having a cork and bean bag.
Soungs bout time to read new testament and found road to God
Turn to Allah almighty, he wil light your life.
I'm no kind of mental health professional, but it seems clear to me you've been badly traumatized in childhood, most likely by your parents. Your feelings of deep inadequacy sure sound like toxic parental shame messages to me.
I wonder if your sense of failure is mostly because of the lies they told you about who you are. Your sense of self doesn't feel like it belongs to you at all, but is a script written by others for their own benefit.
What I'm saying is, IMO, the failure is not yours. The reason you feel like a failure is bc YOU were failed by people who were supposed to love and protect you but didn't. I'm guessing you were abused, either directly or indirectly. You appear to have all the telltale signs.
Growing up being told you're not lovable has horribly destructive effects later on in life.
I have lived in Florida all my life (50yrs) and Florida is your problem. Florida sucks get out.
You're screwed
I know a 35 year old who failed at life. She’s in a worse position than you. Look at my recent community post if anyone’s interested in how stubborn this exact age can be for woman specifically 34-36