Losing Me in Marriage Ft. Dr Umar Johnson
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- On this session of Counsel Culture, Nick Cannon sits down with Dr. Umar Johnson for a thought-provoking exploration of relationships and self-awareness. Nick opens up about his views on monogamy, emotional availability, and the fears that often hold people back from fully committing. From the benefits of marriage for successful men to his own personal journey, this episode offers candid insights and fresh perspectives-making it one for the books.
#NickCannon #DrUmarJohnson #CounselCulture @NickCannon
Dr. Umar broke Nick down like a math equation
OooooWeeee....he broke it doooowwwn‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
FACTS HE"S A BEAST.
@@robertdavenport9095 If by beast you mean a con artist who just talks and does nothing then yes, he is a beast!
@@rome2568 How do you know he does nothing?
@ What have you seen him accomplish?
Marriage and who we have kids with are ultimately the two most important decisions we will ever make. Many people take neither one seriously.
So why do so many women in our community CHOOSE/AGREE to have raw sx outside of marriage multiple times?
No, it's not. There's other important decisions to make because MOST of ya'll don't even make good decisions with who ya'll procreate with
It was Gods very first instructions be fruitful and multiply, and that’s why sex is such a power drug over us. Your bloodline is your beginning and your destination. Some ppl are too individualistic to ever care for such a glorious but heavy burden. They’d rather please their own flesh than obey God and honor their lineage. The ultimate expression of self love.
"be fruitful and multiply" is just a religious excuse to get loose. Plus when did marriage and mating become separate agendas.. 🤔😏
@@RideorDie1987it’s not a religious excuse to get loose 😂 Especially since it’s in reference to procreation with your spouse .
We need an Umar & Bryant sit down
Now that would be interesting🤔
@ facts
Definitely
That podcast would be great
I don’t think Umar want them problems, he’d attempt to talk over her
I see Dr. Umar, I click 😁
Same! Clicked and liked 😆
Me too
With no hesitation. Funny with truth and facts mixed with education
Yesss!!
Me too😊
Anyone: "What time is it nick?"
Nick: "Well what I'll say about that is that we're all on a different type of time, and my understanding of how clocks work may not necessarily coincide with the societal norms in regards to how clocks work. Furthermore, Einstein propositioned that time may actually be an illusion created by consciousness to help us interpret the relationship between various events and phenomenon."
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Whew chile Nick rambled on for 6 mins & I have no idea what he was talking about. Much respect to therapists who do this work & the patience required.
Right
This is why I can never completely watch his shows
I thought I was having a stroke.
What😂😂@@kokodavirgo
I noticed how Dr. UMAR listened the entire time. A PROFESSIONAL
Doc just defined the difference between love and care. This is some counseling
Dr Umar fresh from a 1992 Queen Latifah video
Who u calling a b, U N I T Y
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GIMME FIVE ON THE BLACK HAND SIDE 😂
Luv it😂😂
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This man is a genius. Sometimes I hate to admit it because of all of the viral moments but he be preaching truth that NOBODY speaks on
@@TheRealPopiSlim Plenty people talk about the same thing. Tell us what he does himself other than talk please!
Definitely more people talk about it just most people only listen to celebrities and don’t take wisdom where ever it comes. Wisdom comes from error and abundance
Who in the hell wants to raise a child alone. Having children is a big responsibility, and no one wants to raise a child alone. I don't blame Dr. Bryant for not having children as a single woman. Good for her.
Riiiight 🤣🤣🤣They want her to be a single mom. So they can shame her😅😅😅
@@LM-he7ebthat’s some cold diabolical work and the fact that they don’t realize it craziness
RIght! And he understands why she isn't married but can't understand why she doesn't have kids!!! Kids are bigger commitment! So why is he confused?
@@beautifullbrownskin1 crazy. Shows how we've normalized dysfunction
@@beautifullbrownskin1 when I was single in my late twenties with no kids I'd meet women and they'd asked me what's wrong because I don't have kids. My rebuttal was what's wrong with you to think it's normal to have kids outside of a family structure. I grew up without a father. I know what it's like to not have the other half of my DNA to speak life and guide me especially being a fatherless male. I had to learn from the streets what a man is and thank God I had a praying mother. That could've went very bad
I don’t agree with many of Nick Cannon’s views and values. However, it takes a lot of humility to allow people to speak into your life so openly, and I respect him for that. Additionally, he engages in conversations with his guests rather than talking at them, which is quite rare these days.
Agreed. I have to respect him for that 👏🏽
Agreed I feel he’s trying to heal he’s just a wounded soul.
He wants to heal I think he gonna chill on the sperm rampage 😂
Dr. Bryant and Dr. Umar need to have a conversation! It would be 🔥
No umar and Candace Owens would be fire!!!!!
I’m here for it
@@rick3y0Candace Owens is not smart enough to talk with Dr Umar.
Dr. Umar and Candace would not be interesting
They have more in common than most people think.
Dr. Bryant and Dr. Umar would be interesting. @@rick3y0
@ I beg to differ
The more Dr. Umar points and breaks Nick down, the more Nick slumps in his chair. Lol Nick is almost laying on the floor when he was asking “are you emotionally available “. Lol. Hilarious
@@BiggWes1911 LMAOOOO yoooo I didn't notice that 🤣🤣
Best comment… I’m hollering 😂
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And the fact he was already slumped at the beginning 😂😂😂
Nick sitting posture tells it all 😮
I thought so too
Facts , he know Dr read him like a book! He need it and like it secretly🤷🏾♀️he wants healing!
This is how I sat when I was 15 and going through a rough rebellious phase. This dude is like 45.
Thank you for saying this. No 41 year old should be sitting like this - especially during an interview.
@ LEAD BY EXAMPLE
Dr. Omar should really be the one interviewing celebrities etc. it would be amazing!!!
I do like that Nick is transparent….He likes to seek counsel from the wise, and that makes him wise.
He don’t be listening to nothing that they saying . Nick has and never will change, lol
That’s the problem u seek counsel and don’t apply it what the hell is the point ?? Ego and views that’s it he knows what he’s doing
He’s just exploiting dr umar at this point, he doesn’t listen to a THING he says.
Umar isn’t a clinical psychologist. He makes up lofty job titles & accomplishments for himself all the time.
Nicky just be talking & saying the right things so he doesn’t get cancelled
To love the king is not bad, but a king who loves you is better.
Tyrese need to sit down with dr umar
Tyrese seems as though he would do a genuine deep dive in exposure therapy with Dr. Umar as opposed to Nick who deflects and lacks self-awareness
Tyrese needs to sit down with a psychiatrist in a psych ward
Reall
Tyrese would start CRYIN!!
Tyrese not ready and I don’t wanna see him cry no mo lol but he def needs to sit down
One thing about Nick Cannon is as much as he tries to not prove that he is corny, it makes him look even cornier. He comes off as a pseudo intellectual by using word salad, over explaining and bringing up books to provide he’s well read. it doesn’t take all of that to answer a question. I’m happy Dr. Umar pressed him on some of these questions, even though he deflected so many times.
Damn You took the words right out of my head... He's such a word salad expert And deflector, I always thought he tries too hard to seem so intellectual, But it's just a bunch of mumbo jumbo... I get a headache listening to him... Could you just imagine trying to have a conversation With this guy.. He truly is an unapologetic proud narcissist🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I see quality in what Dr. Umar and Dr. Bryant have theorized. One consistent thing Nick is going to do every-time is deflect and avoid. Hints: Love Languages don’t equate emotional availability. The only thing he admitted was his trauma response being to flee and its evident.
Bingo!
I couldn’t agree more 🎯
We must give people time and grace to openly admit and expose themselves on personal and emotional issues as they so choose!!!! I think Nick has and is doing a GREAT JOB sharing and openly talking about his personal life and emotions 🤷🏽♀️most could not and WILL NOT open up in private let alone to their own SELFS 🙄 and definitely not on such a public platform 🧐
Dr. Umar was on point with his diagnosis
He sure was in my non professional opinion 😊
Especially with his diagnosis of Dr bryant.
I enjoyed this conversation.. i hope there is a part 2. Dr Umar held Nick accountable but made the conversation flow smoothly with understanding
BRILLIANT CONVERSATION WE NEED THESE TYPES OF REAL CONVERSATIONS IN OUR COMMUNITY….
Absolutely!!!!
Mr. Cannon the way you choose to deflect certain points in the conversation when you do not agree with them is fascinating to watch you really listen with the ear more on the defensive side than being open and receptive but good conversation overall
Heavy On That!!!!!
Deflection at a all time high
THIS WAS SUCH A GREAT INTERVIEW!!!!!! I just LOVE BLACK MEN DOING THE WORK WITH RESPECT!!!!!!
And black men love you beautiful
@@dariansanders679 Indeed we do!
It’s a ruse. I do not believe Mr Cannon has any intention of doing anything different than what he continues to do over and over again. However, no judgements. I also believe overall that’s he’s a good dude with the best of intentions that just don’t land according to societal norms.
Now, kids will be fine. All they really need to survive is food, shelter and physical safety. What may lack with this non traditional familial lifestyle is emotional safety, guaranteeing potentially unhealthy concerns and outcomes for the children.
Big Up!!!
Why does Nick and Cam try hard to sound intellectual when expressing their disconnect with normal functional family structure, while at the same time deflecting from their dysfunctional lifestyles and mental states.
Fear, he's doing it unconsciously, he lacks the awareness of the whole, so by laws and principles of the universe he is bound to act in that manner until he is awakened to his full true self and potential of being, until then, this is what you can expect and which is pure and natural in its own way too.
Perspectives
Facts
A whole bunch of word salad
I’d guess say ego protection- no one likes to be told that their mistakes are rooted in their ideology (that’s where their self worth and esteem live) - he’s like a cracking shell and I’m excited to see how God will bless Cannon - he’s seeking truth he just has to keep humility in mind despite shame
Look, I said this before.... I give Nick my 10000 % respect for this platform... For being allowed to b the teachable moment for humanity... To sit in front of the world to do this type of truth telling is not for PUNKS!!! It takes courage on a level few of us dare to explore within ourselves....(POWERFUL).. Much respect for Dr. Umar also. I loved this episode.... ❤
But Nick continues to operate dysfunctionally
The work is a process, not a magic pill. I give him credit for even allowing his " dysfunction." As you say it, to be put on display so the professional can show you the process of what it looks like to go in & do the deep dive to help u discover why you move the way u do.. That is what I find so powerful because not everyone has the courage to do the work even in private yet alone publicly...If nothing else, it might inspire someone to do their own work.. And it's OK not to be OK.
Girl, get off your knees😂 nick isn't learning a damn thing
Two quick points: 1. Nick, you can’t be emotionally available to so many women at the same time. It’s just not possible. 2. If you don’t want marriage, that’s absolutely fine. Just stop bringing children into these situations. It’s the broken homes that are the problem in which the children will have to bear the brunt of the negative consequences of your actions.
Both points aren’t very sound opinions lol
@@LazarusRisingin ur opinion lol
Wait what
@@tjinks7530Stop creating broken homes. Simple
The same as we are emotionally available for multiple family members and friends, Nick can be to his constituents.
Just like Actors on Actors interviews, we need therapists on therapists interviews. Dr. Bryant and Dr. Umar.
Quality time will never be enough, because you have too many people who needs it. You don’t have enough for yourself, let alone the families that you created
And the answer is? YES!!!!! Nick we already know Precious and been knew.
Most of Dr. Umar’s interviews makes me reflect on my own life and past experiences. I love hearing him speak.
One major issue is that we have is two Doctors with no marriage experience who both don't self identify as christians, talking about faith based marriages. I'm not even going delve into their credentials because the PHD's I know of would rather play in traffic than to kill their ability to practice by talking to celebrities so openly on social media platforms.
Nick Cannon don’t want to be healed or anything. I’d rather him just keep it all the way 100 about how he wants to live his lifestyle.
BINGO
He has, people just wont let him live. They want so badly for him to have a problem when he doesnt seem to have issues with his circumstances.
Doc…..been rockin' with you since 2014. These type of conversations are much needed.
2010 for me. He’s a international treasure 🥹
Dr. Umar’s face at the 12:57 min mark tells me he know this ninja dancin around the topic😂😂😂
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Facts
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Hilarious 😂😂😂
Nick talked for 7 minutes trying to intellectually say “aye fam I ain’t low functioning” 😂😂😂
Even the therapist need therapy. You hit it Dr Umar. Much to assess and think about from this episode. We need more healthy conversations like this
Made me think of the Tyler Perry movie "Why did I get married too" where dude is getting a divorce from Janet Jackson (a famous marriage counselor) and he tells his friends the worse thing about being married to a therapist, is they think they know everything.
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Yes indeed
This man is still in love with Mariah 🥹
I don’t think he’s in love with Mariah, he’s in love with what Mariah represents their celebrity commonalities.
@@shawnbailey2300A Bit of both
And she doesn't want anything to do with him..
@@shawnbailey2300Mariah said she doesn't believe he ever got to know or love her as a person because he couldn't get past her name.
@@CatEyeGemnope. Even Mariah didn't believe he ever truly loved her beyond her name.
Doc cooked like it was Thanksgiving!🎯🎯💯
Posture speaks volumes about character..
That boy nick just be rambling
That’s what happens when your entire career and life is constant lying
Umar is a real Dr. Of mental health... He just explained very elegantly 70 to 80% of women in America on how they think and view relationship and how Nick chooses women....and that's Factual 💯
I love when you two fellowship! Nick I sense your progress! Keep healing!🌹
This was actually very good. One thing I’ll say is that regardless of how people feel about Dr. Umar, he commands a certain level of respect (sexually from other men) that really creates space for thoughtful and impactful dialogue. I appreciated that the most here!
Honestly, Nick Cannon was just offended and did not want to hear it from a Black woman. Dr. Umar is not in disagreement with what Dr. Bryant said! Nick just has a problem with being held accountable by a woman which is why is relationships don’t work out. He literally just described what Dr. Bryant said! Notice how Nick isn’t being disrespectful cutting him off and actually open to listening?
Could it be though that it's the first time he saw a doctor and that's what they said and then got a second opinion and realized that it must be true? Does it really have to do with a woman or just that he disagreed with a medical diagnosis and got a second opinion and it was the same and it was time to accept it. Also, Dr. Umar also diagnosed Dr. Bryant as well and affirmed what they were saying about her too. Where's the agreement from Dr. Bryant there?
@@Dr.Beetlejuice110What, the first time????😂 Nick has said many times over the years that he's been in therapy. He has had many doctors. Not only is he in therapy by himself, but many of his baby mamas have said they've been to therapy with him 😂😂😂😂 can you believe that. Nick just want to hear himself talk but doesn't want to apply what he's learned and yes he felt some type of way that he black woman doctor held him accountable.
I loved this episode and I love these two together!! Can't wait for part 2.
The word salad on the emotional availability question was funny 😂
We need an Umar and Candace Owens sit down
Yes!!!!!
Oh man yes!
Yesterday!!
They will get in a fist fight lol
Candace isn’t a demure Umar bootlicker. The minute she contest him or points out faults in his logic he’ll come unglued.
Dr. Umar for president 2024‼️‼️
They would never allow it but I would love it
Not gonna happen ever... America would turn into Wakanda if he's ever made the president 😂
Too many scams in his ledger for him to last more than 2 mins in politics.
You belong in a padded room and a straight jacket.
I'm for black empowerment, growth and progress specifically in leadership, but not Umar for president
Difference between Dr. Umar and Nick is the community mindset.
The biggest difference is one is an unemployed grifter and the other actually has a career.
Yes, Nick 😅. It’s a big fat yes.
An Umar and Bryant interview or podcast would be magical !
Thanks For All The Love and Support Brothers and Sistas. Peace and Pan-Africanism
The laborer is always in the sun; the landowner is always in the shade.
I wish he would have asked why dr Umar isn’t married and had two beautiful children outside the construct of marriage? He asked but didn’t let the dr answer.
Peace,
Scams,
Trash
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Division.
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Who has to, and how to, prove the love is genuine and real? I don’t think I can ever love anyone else! Dr Umar, I need you!
Nick please let your guest talk more please.
Agreed Jesus get on with her questioning.
The questioning
He is so irritating with too much verbosity out here sounding like TI
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GET TO THE POINT NICK…. You be talking long to ask the question..jeeze…weaving
Facts
Yes he never let his guest speak 🗣️
This show is for him and not his guest, lol
Bobbing and weaving 😂😂
Cam newton and nick be tossing words around to aound smart.
It’s unbelievable how he talks for 4 minutes and then says it’s leading up to a question 😂😂 just say the question! Pleaseeee
No one can make me hate Nick; his transparency and hunger for healing is truly astounding ❤
Great talk Nick! Thanks for being vulnerable I know it’s not easy!
I Love Me Some Dr.Umar!!! Respectful, Honorable Black Man!! King!! Nick, We Love You To! I Pray You Continue To Grow, Heal, And Learn! King!!!
The fact that people are still talking about Dr. Cheyenne Bryant's interview just goes to show she struck a nerve somewhere amongst the male masses. Brothers, will we humble ourselves and conduct honest reflection inspired by her feedback, or will we blindly assault her character and that of women in general? Not challenging y'all to agree with her, just challenging you to think.
Love this respectful response ❤️💯
Shes a bussdown.
I think because our culture is not fully ready to have these conversations they take it more as an attack, vs looking to help us as a culture.
shes A CON ARTIST A LIAR AND A FRAUD.. we have no issue going to a legitimate doctor.. she is not that...
Man Nick, you the truth for this podcast.
So Nick wants to be told how great he is & to be physically touched. That’s today’s Man.
This was good. Lol more of this. Dr Umar and Nick need a series lol.
Self sacrifice is a necessary component of Love. Nick is promoting a false love. A self love
It seems like Mariah Carey’s success deeply impacted him, leaving him struggling with envy and low self-esteem. That lack of confidence may have convinced him he didn’t belong in their marriage. In an attempt to fill the void, he sought validation from multiple women and came to believe that having children would provide him with unconditional love. He uses his wealth to maintain control over his relationships, keeping the mothers of his children single and available. Though he’s built an empire, he’s likely discovered that success can be isolating. He might now fully understand his mistakes, and if he had healed differently, there’s a chance he could have reconciled with Mariah, armed with greater self-awareness.
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I felt these questions in my soul!!!! When you have the education (more degrees that a thermometer 🙋🏽♀️) AND you a todo the inner work…. You’re a walking talking magical elixir!!! IYKYK! 😮💨❤️
Well done sir!!!! 👏🏽
Dr. Umar backed him in a corner, i love it! i hope hes able to come with his heart and be honest that he may still want his wife back but realizes that it will never happen because of the traumatic wall she and him put up to protect themselves. in a perfect world i can see them getting back together under a new light and it would be a celebration.
So good to see in real time. Thanks for being open fellows.
Nick Cannon is a terrific young man. Dr. Umar has a strong love and concerns for the Black community.
Dr.Umar is absolutely brilliant and I am truly a huge supporter of him, HOWEVER, with the level of intellect once someone shares their spiritual belief as a tenured psychologist you can NO longer take an approach that is not catered to the belief system. You cause confusion in diagnosing or in the healing process because it doesn’t match your own beliefs. You can not tell a Christian man that he is a serial monogamous and slight insult that because your belief is polygamy. But in reality he desires monogamy but acting in polygamy out of insecurity.
Really good this episode
Good observation, you 100% correct
You are
ABSOLUTELY DELUSIONAL
Dr. Umar ❤❤❤❤❤❤ appreciate to Nick for allowing him to use be as an educational forum 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I can watch these all day. So informative
Dr Umar did a great job in bringing truth to the surface. This is good for men to see.
I 💜 the love these 2 brothers have for each other! Dr. Umar never miss! (I Love him) I can’t wait for our sit down. I know it will be in the near future. We appreciate your vulnerability brother Nick!
All that I can say after watching this is, THANK YOU DR. BRYANT!! 34:00 shows EXACTLY what she was pointing out. He is so fixated on the terms “High/low value; High/low functioning”, yet explained scenarios in his life where he fits the description PERFECTLY. Smh
Mmm that point on love and care not being the same by Dr Umar is so on point💯💯💯
This counseling session was real. I’m glad this channel was suggested. Subscribed This is me in counseling, I start explaining deflecting and over talking knowing full well the therapist is reading my soul! lol!
For Umar to draw his own conclusions with no facts on why Dr. Bryant didn't follow through on her engagements is WILD. AND so because she's beautiful at 41 something wrong with her because she don't have kids? Perhaps she didn't allow herself to get impregnated without being married.
Exactly! Dr. Umar lost me on that part 😒. Dr. Bryant being 41 beautiful and not out here being irresponsible by having a gang of children automatically makes her the Damn PRIZE to me! She definitely makes smart decisions! Dr. Umar is wild for his comments on her smh
I agree! I don't think he listened to her whole interview with Cam b/c the way he described what she was saying...she did not say that at all. In other words he is saying it's a problem that she did not settle and and he considers it running and wanting to control a situation or a younger man.
PTSD… yes a lot of people experience this… I have a greater respect for Nick… his transparency. Can’t wait for part 2!
His point is that because he has money he doesn’t need emotions
This was really good. I enjoyed the reflective conversation and vulnerability shown.
I'm Definitely looking forward to the next session with him.
But I respect Nick for knowing and understanding these stuff, and not getting married Just To Get Married.
🎯 That discernment hits different.
I love we as black people having these open and honest convos without getting mad. Dr umar is the best person for this convo. Nick, I feel my ways about you , but I’m happy you’re trying to learn and unlearn certain behaviors. Good luck to you on this journey
Overall people like people who tell them what they want to hear. And shame and hate people who tell them what they don't want to hear.
Respect for Nick
Dr Umar needs to put himself in the same category he is putting Nick and Cam in.
Hmmmmm this is a great observation that I thought as well
Absolutely, spot on!!!!
25:00 women (below and above 40 etc) absolutely need love too Nick. Replennish our cups with love and protection and see us glow and water all gardens under and around us with love, joy and care.❤
Nick i pray that you get emotional healing . You can't give what you dont have.
Hes just fine. This is content. Thisbis for yall. Not for him
Dr. Umar X on the set . Much blessings brother for u and urs . Same to Sir Canon. Glad these conversations can be listened to.
He's not yet able to give genuine love, or being emotionally available 💕 to others or his children, simply because he's only doing the inner work now, which will in the end affords him the ability to do so.
It takes time to get to the other side, we're required by laws and principles of the universe to do the inner work if we feel the need to experience genuine love 💕.
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If it ain't a "No", it is a "Yes" Sir. You still love her and there is no shame in that. He mentioned too many. times that he "Married his DREAM GIRL." He holding out hope.
Nick is the embodiment of “me me me me me me me”
Love languages are about each other’s way of feeling loved.Acts of service is not just about providing.
Yet he says he NEEDS words of Affirmation from his partners smh lol. This was a joke. Lol
One thing Nick is going to do is when he feels uncomfortable by the questions he’s going to deflect and be all over the place with the response
Dr. Umar is so talented and so valuable for our community
Brilliant! 😂🔥Dr Umar need his own show
I love these type of conversations. Black men we have to work on ourselves first!
18:27 I’m not a therapist and I peeped that about Dr. Bryant in the Cam interview. She has rejection and abandonment issues. When she had a good man she self sabotaged to prevent abandonment.
You dont know if those men were good. They were attracted to her, who knows? The narrative that they were good and involves with her is you guessing. They may also have their own issues preventing them from being so.
you sound like a fool and you should be ashamed of yourself for agreeing with what he said about that lady. He's basically bashing her for not being a baby momma
She has a whole bunch of issues.
@@Mynameshelenbtw She said in an interview they were good. She even said she told one how to handle her when she would go off the rails.
I don't understand how you all hold on to that part, but ignore what else she said. She said she was low functioning at that time. She was in her 20's. She is in her 40's now. NOW she is self aware and she isn't going to settle just to have a "title". We can't just pick statements she made and not hear the descriptive story of what she said. The thing is most people may only listen to 1 or 2 interviews from her, however if you listen to her she states the exact same thing...People just look to pick at what she says b/c they feel attacked or can't handle what she says.