That part about dating in college really is true. I tried to find someone during my collegiate time. Never worked out. I still feel regret though given that dating afterward has been such a hellscape for me. The only thing that makes me feel slightly better about failing to find someone during that period is that at least I never got into any “bad” situations What I learned is that when I’m in a good situation to meet women, I have to embrace that opportunity and not hesitate like I did in college.
One thing I regret is my obsession for nostalgia. I overspent money on comic books, action figures, toys from the 80s such as transformers. In addition I can't fathom the money I have spent on strorage units the past 7 years containing mostly comic books. My solution: I sold 95% of my comic books and no longer have a storage unit. I stopped collecting/buying nostalgia entirely. I will allow myself to buy a graphic novel occasionally. As hard as it is I have to accept the past is done with and I have to create new memories. Either through traveling or meeting new people.
Same, I’m too fixated on the past to move forward. Unfortunately it feels like there’s no future worth investing into that can compare to the past, but then again the past is never coming back either. I’m not optimistic about the future but you have to be realistic and move forward if you don’t want to stay miserable dwelling on the past. Things can get better, just maybe not as good as they used to be.
In reality most people don’t have the conscientiousness or personality traits to rise above the social/economic situation they were born into. Being born middle class and staying middle class your whole life by not messing up with a DUI, early pregnancy, getting arrested etc is half the battle for most. The grindset side of social media has led people to think they’re capable of these things but their main priorities should be staying off drugs and alcohol, eating a decent diet, maintaining steady employment, not spending beyond their means. It’s a low bar but I see it as a realistic standard.
Yes, and I can tell you this for lots of reasons as someone who has achieved and knows the importance of both stock/IQ and social awareness and connections. I hate to bring up Dunning Kruger, but the truth is that most people are just narrative driven egos without real objective evaluation of themselves. Some of this is a survival tactic, to be fair, but it still results in the same thing, especially after a big baby boom/population boom. Most people just aren't all that special or barely average, and by definition tons more are below that. Yet all want to fit in and are driven by materialism, sadly. You nailed it with the messaging - you aren't 'capable you're being sold something bigger than you can achieve, on average, and someone is making a buck off you. Period.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1x Yes, mostly it is. Your parents can gift you great things but also be clueless how to really advance if they also grew up in times when things were generally really good for nearly everyone.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1xits real. My family went from driving Lexus cars and having full size homes in Loudon County, to renting a roached apartment in sheethull Kentucky. Badumtss.
Can't regret choices I didn't make. Can't control other people, especially women. Women don't want me, I'll never get a family. It sucks but I can't control it. There is no regret for a life lived according to rules that constantly changed.
I do despise how the best way to make it these days is gambling meme coins or scamming honest people. I know that no one will pitty me as a poor, but I still pray for a more moral future.
You have to make a high risk investment of a high allocation of your assets AND have it work out to make it out with something like meme coins. Lets say you only invested a allocated part of your portfolio but hit it big, that money might be only enough to cover some big emergency medical or car expense down the road just to keep you at BASELINE. All that money you hit big on just to keep you at BASELINE. This is one of my fears/biggest lived financial traumas
The reserves/ guard is actually how you “win” the military, especially for someone older and established. You have a lot more control over your career in terms of choosing deployments, changing units, changing jobs, volunteering for training, etc. You can even take active non deployment orders if you are interested or if you have a problem with your civilian job. You basically can throttle up or down your level of involvement as you see fit. I’ve been army and Air Force, reserve and guard, self employed as a civilian. If you have questions let me know, I can give you advice for joining that I wish I had.
Depends so much on MOS and if you're an officer or enlisted. if you want a more physical challenge, the whole crawl through the mud, shooting, hiking for miles, type experience, then go Marine or Army Infantry, army or guard will probably get you more or better deployments in that case. If you want to be a POG or admin/office or something, go to the Airforce or Army. if you're a real stud look at officer flight programs or infantry officer, there's too many jobs to consider you just have to figure out what you want.
I regret renting out to a fellow veteran who needed help getting back on his feet. He had a victim mindset, he sued me and squatted in my house just playing video games untill I cut all utilities to the house. It took me a decade to fix all that financial turmoil. In the future, I would only exchange money with someone who didn't need it.
"No good deed goes unpunished.". While often not always true I find it to usually be the case more often than not . Sadly it has transformed me into a much colder person.
I'm a veteran and I refuse to connect or befriend other veterans. I allowed a veteran to sleep on my floor for a week and I had to tell him to leave. He picked a fight with the neighbor and was ungrateful as a person can get. It was about 7 years ago and I learned my lesson.
I regret allowing my dad to talk me out of a real estate purchase ten years ago that I could have afforded, which was not only in an extremely central and fun downtown location but has since 4x'ed and would have changed my life in a serious way. I cope by telling myself that you can't go back and edit a single detail without risking editing everything that followed. But who really knows? It is what it is. Live and learn.
I am Jewish so I do not have a horse in this race so I will tell you what I have seen in regards to sects of Christianity. If you are secular dude who just wants to join a church to meet women and nice normal people then you should become a Mormon. I am in Salt Lake City and I run by their churches every Sunday and the women coming out of their are all healthy looking, hot, and modestly dressed. All the men seen to love too network, are friendly, and do every well in business.
I regret from a young age thinking school was a waste of time. I did poorly in high school and ended up dropping out of college. I was capable of getting decent grades but wanted to be rebellious to prove a point which only ended up being self destructive. I make good money in the trades now but I wish I respected myself enough to try in school and pursue higher education because I do enjoy learning new things. Believing going into a trade is all sunshine and rainbows like UA-cam and Reddit make it out to be is also something younger men should be wary about.
Steve Hoca is a HVAC tech and an important figure in the manosphere, has interesting stories about working in trades. Talks about how clients treat him almost as a robot who shows up to fix stuff
As a person who pursued higher education and knows ppl who did, its total shit for us too. The difference between us and you is that you have actual real world skills and we dont even have that option.
My biggest regrets all stem from deviating from the normie “golden path,” I.e. high school -> college -> grad school w/focus on networking and relationship building like you discuss. I set myself back pretty significantly, maybe permanently, by falling for the trades meme (I’m not cut out for it) and not maximizing social opportunities when I was in college. I’m grateful/lucky that things have worked out well for me and I can always go to law school or something but if I have kids I’ll be sure they know not to try to outsmart the normie system
The Trade School stuff is legitimately poisonous and I feel awful for all of the people who get swept up in it. In many ways it feels like it’s targeted at rural American and Canadian youths by Conservative pundits so they can be funneled into the Con-donating natural resources industries which rely on non-educated labor. Then there are just the people who got into it because they were just never informed of better kinds of majors.
I went from decently cute at 18 to extremely bloated a year later cause i fell for the bulking meme. It is remarkable how nobody will ever tell you the obvious. My friends all were impressed and saying how “big” i got. Meanwhile, i went from having pretty much all the women i interacted with being at the very least neutral, and often flirty and excited, to being seen as a nuisance and slightly disgusted by. The thing is i was fat as a kid so i knew how to win people over and be the funny guy, but it’s just not the same type of charm. Being attractive in ur late teen and early twenties just is a whole different world, but i still have some youth left so i plan to de bloat soon. So please never bulk cause nobody cares and you just become uglier.
cant believe 6 people like this comment ffs. This world is so fucked. Yeah give advice based on something you know nothing about. Bulking 100% works if you do it right
I simply move perfectly and never misplay any situation, and simply walk into each and every situation in life with perfect working knowledge for that given scenario whether its caught me by surprise or not
I never understood stocks, bonds and all that. The men I see IRL obsessing over it seem to stress so much over it that whatever small gains to be made is not worth it, just like fantasy football.
I agree with avoiding transferring to university junior year. I would even argue it’s better to go to a Big State University for the first 2 years and then graduate from WGU or some other online college. Those first two years are super important for networking and romantic opportunities that diminish significantly once you get closer to graduation. There’s also a stigma among your peers for being a transfer student from community college that no one ever tells you about.
@ Stigma might be too strong of a word, but your peers that went to a 4 year school straight after school will treat you differently if you inserted yourself halfway through college. You weren’t there for the Freshman Orientation Mixer or at any of the extracurricular activities on campus so you’ll be seen as something of an outsider and won’t be able to network or relate quite as well.
@@karlstrauss2330 I can confirm this. I was a transfer to an engineering program around junior year at a local state school and I was treated like an outsider because all of the kids in the program just kept to themselves as they all knew each other from freshman year. It's hard to garner a network or any sort of connections when everyone around you already decided that because you are a transfer, you are automatically the scum of the earth despite doing nothing that would indicate this.
A painful subject indeed. I had a $16 basis in Palantir and chicken sold at $25 after taking an extended 3 year leave from full time work. Couldn’t tolerate the risk. You have convinced me to put $1000 at current high valuations to subside FOMO.
The only thing in my life I dont regret is that I'm 6ft 5. Even though I'm a fat slob who has been up n down in weight, my height still garners some social respect when I meet people. If I wear nice business casual clothes or a suit it's very easy for people to assume me to be in Leadership positions. It's the only thing I'm nearly universally complemented on. Had I not been fat, the world would have been my oyster.
One thing I regret was not always listening to my gut feeling about people, sometimes outsourcing it to others. "This person seems sketchy but has the trust of this other person who I do trust." Don't do that. Another thing, more of a bummer than a regret, is passing on opportunities to fool around with girls. Wanted to do the whole family thing very seriously and planned-out, but nothing came of it anyways (age 30). So could've had the girlfriend experience, which I turned down because she didn't want kids.
Thanks Mr Goldberg, at the start you helped me make my economies invencible, now you're making me cope with the bitcoin I should had bought when I was 12, truly a doctor amongst doctors.
If I could rewind time I would have stayed in civil air patrol, strived for the best grades I could have received in math and gone onto the Air Force academy to become a pilot. That is my greatest regurt. I would be an officer in the Air Force and life would be tutorial mode for me. Every waking day would be a dopamine hit.
I've actually done study abroad before in 2016. I spoke Partial French from High School and actually lived in France a whole year. I went for the wrong reasons but overall it is nice experience to go abroad. It is true you bring yourself wherever you go, so keep that in mind.
I wish my parents had pushed me more in anything. Sports, business, etc... Now I choose to do the hard, unpleasant, ambitious things that require work and discipline. The things that are not glamorous in the beginning but have long term rewards.
I feel that most of my regrets came from being risk averse and overly analytical. I would get opportunities to grow, to travel, to meet women, or to learn practical skills, but I would overthink things and turn down these opportunities, because of my downside bias. As a result of my past choices I am somewhat stunted socially. I can hold a conversation, crack jokes, and engage in small talk, but have a hard time relating to most people in a deep way. I have gotten better at 'shooting my shot' so to speak, but I still have a lot to learn in terms of learning how to make good decisions with limited information.
so get better information. And dating is the lowest ROI activity you'll ever do. Even when you close on the first night, trust me. But if you want decent results: really really invest the time to find someone who will give you the framework. I recommend Danny Vera. And it's going to be painful.
My biggest regret is letting my anger get the better of me and the destructive and harmful things I did in my early 20's as a result. I have an older sibling who went through absolute hell fighting for custody of his kid while I was going to college. It nearly tore my family apart. While my brother certainly didn't deserve what happened to him, I always felt some resentment towards him for knocking up his girlfriend with whom he was completely incompatible. The rage, depression, anxiety and fear that plagued me throughout my college years ate me alive, and ruined a lot of opportunities for me. I was also attractive enough to constantly get IOIs from young women, but never pursued because I was just so emotionally destroyed that I knew any relationship I had would fail. My brother is in better spirits now and we get along better than before, but I have a hard time respecting or trusting people who exhibit such plainly bad judgement and a critical lack of wisdom.
Lots of regrets, I'm in my early 30s and trying to turn life around, but as you state it's harder past the age of 25 making any meaningful connections. I do know myself much better and have more confidence/wisdom for what that is worth though.
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 For me college was a brutal reminder of how I wasn't taken seriously based on my looks. It was bad enough that I was raised by the typical overbearing mom and spineless fat boomer cuck dad. People just treat you like a joke when you look goofy. The friends are temporary and don't really matter afterwards because they get paired off and marry once they get decent jobs. Mine was the sort of experience that just validated all of my concerns about where I sat on the social hierarchy. I can't fix them or what really matters without thousands of dollars that I don't have. and is it even worth it when I still have the memories of being ignored through my formative years? All that matters to me now is accomplishing some personal and financial goals with the hope of eventually leaving this 3rd world place. The increasingly unsubstantial life of an excess male will only become more common.
My parents were shut-ins who didn't leave the house much so those habits rubbed off on me to where I missed opportunities with girls and wasn't savy enough socially to pick up hints or have any social circles. I've made progress the past few years but man it's truly been trench warfare
Regrets: - not connecting with fellow college students while in college. I've got at most 2 guys from back then I can call up right now and have fun with discussing the past. Most friends were made *outside* of uni - not investing a four digit amount on BTC when Molyneux mentioned it (around 2013, BTC was 80 USD ish?) - not sinking my interest capped loan into the SP500TR in 2013 - going for a business major instead of something more specific like Operations Research or Econometrics
Regret the university I initially chose due to faculty not having connections to industry or graduate programs so I would have to rawdog applications while my peers at these programs had their Professor hook them up. I ended up transferring out of that place and going to a more prestigious place with much more resources. In hindsight I would have chosen to go to a prestigious place initially but oh well what can you do I’m from a small town and wasn’t really aware of the vast differences in degree programs and figured any university could get me the position I want. Also, being a transfer student is incredibly difficult much more so than traditional student and there are unexpected difficulties I would have avoided transferring at all costs
Regurets? It's a weird one. I definitely am completely unhappy about where i am but there was nothing really that i could do. Raised by poor, malevolent idiots. I already knew i was fu*ked when i was basically left at 20 with overpriced rented apartment by my mother. Instead of telling me that she moves out at the end of the month, she just left and a landlord just informed me on January 1st by Asking me why the hell i am still in his property 😂 It was a great head start into adulthood, took me 3 years to pay that shit back and i was basically homeless for couple of months, making below minimum wage and living by couchsurfing for a year straight. By the time i was even able to think about my future i was already 27 and barely afloat after spending 7 years on damage control. I guess i regret not having a chance and having to deal with problems that i shouldn't have way too early in life
I regret not approaching this one chick who was interested in me 2 years ago at age 18 This was like a little bit after the pandemic, she was this slightly cute autistic chick who I heard was homeschooled meaning she probably was as socially awkward as me and she showed alot of interest in me, but not in a way that was apparent and I didn't have a chance to have a good opportunity to talk to her She would always be near me by vicinity and even copy the same hobby I had (this was at the park) and I missed by chance to talk to her, after awhile I stopped caring about it but looking back I realized I missed the only one chance to potentially find true love, I know for a fact she was a pure women simply because her upbringing was similar to mine (meaning I didnt have a very good upbringing so I cant relate to an overwhelming majority of people) the main reason for not approaching was due to alot of social anxiety again due to my crappy upbringing (I was abused as a kid and raised by helicopter parents who didnt let me socialize much as a kid) also thx to me watching corn which I have fully quit warching Another regret I have is that I cut off one friend who was an acutal good person who I could relate to and I enjoyed talking with, nowadays I have nobody to talk to I cut off my good friends (which is mostly my fault) Im age 20 and I feel a resurgence now where I want to start meeting people but Idk where to start I am thinking about going to community college I have no idea what to do now, that was my chance to find a true love and I am thinking about going to college to meet people since its very isolating for me at home (I been NEET for 2 years working on a videogame project) I am wondering if someone can please offer me advice Idk what to do
If any, mine is waiting to "get life in order" and not having started to have kids in my 20s. Your energy levels in your 30s are nowhere near where they need to be. Thought of sharing this because barely anyone in my peer circles has kids, and I can't imagine the physical stress these couples will have to go through when they start trying in their 40s (not to mention the risks of genetic abnormalities and 'tism)...
Idk mine are about the same, I think people just let themselves go in their 30s or you had maybe some terrible habits that have caught up with you. Also most people have children in their late 20s to 30s.
Getting a good career is key, and it doesn't necessarily have to be out of an educational outgrowth either. I left the military in my mid-20s, thought I'd get an apprenticeship in the trades but told I was too old. Took me nearly over 15 years of construction work and semi-menial work to even get to the point where I can walk into a decent paid career that I enjoy doing, pays me well, and I can take long holidays (unpaid) but return to work where I left off without loosing my job. I think my regret is probably not investing my money properly, missing the BTC boat despite having bought some in the early days, and maybe not choosing the right career path in the early days.
Thought about my answer for a few hours: At about 10-12 years old (ca 1992), ask my parents to send me to some kind of socialization course (not just some 4 day fuck-around camp)... But, being a bit of a class clown back then, the future seemed pretty good in that regard. *¯\_(ツ)_/¯*
Its hard to really buy something hand over fist and too easy to merely nibble a speculative investment. By the time you get the risk appetite to buy more, it could have skyrocketed far beyond your original entry price
In terms of regret probably would have planned better when it came to medical school. I wasted too much time in my job as a medical technologist and didn’t plan properly. Managed to get into PA school though but if I had started doing med school prerequisites during undergrad I got into PA school but honestly if I had started younger like 19 or 20 I would of definitely completed all my prerequisites gone to med school at 24 and be working as some type of specialist like radiology or pathology by now.
Stop naming off all my parents' and my own mistakes in life direction. Don't you know what time of year it is? I haven't found a good cope about regret except a lot of the time it was beyond your awareness/ability. But sometimes that's not enough for me.
You said you revisited Catholicism, did you ever dive into orthodoxy? I don’t recommend a lot of the orthobro content on UA-cam but there’s a lot of good and genuine channels.
I might be generalising too much but if you're in the USA I don't get how you struggle to make money, the entire economy is a scam and there's enough information out there that even if you're making a modest income you can put yourself in a much better position.
I don't know either (not an American), but from what I've gathered a lot of it comes down to consoooming and overspending. Even in Europe most people would make Americans look like huge money wasters.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1xMy Republican buddies b1tch and complain about how they can’t afford anything. Yet, they buy a new vehicle every year and trade their “old” ones. It really just boils down to over consumption.
For sure would’ve gone to a small wealthy uni (peers always seem to get more out of those due to natural rich kids networking > massive cutthroat normie crowds & they hand out scholarships for good grades), possible military/reserve at a young age for tech or certs would’ve beaten toil, and finally some knowledge around social dynamics/maximizing appearances etc.
Yes, If you dont have the looks and money to live in a top Greek house bubble at University, you will have to deal with the cutthroat normies. The people who fancy themselves the "all-pro" students of their high schools. Its not discussed enough in these spaces the abudance of cutthroat normies young men may have to face entering Uni, on top of hostility they may experience being a young man in general (especially if youre a cream cheese male)
Regrets accumulate with age, why did I, zig when one should zag, reflections, rather than being thankful for the good things we have in our life. I think someone called it, the human condition.
Goldberg what are your thoughts on doing a masters program abroad? I appreciate your segment on how its easier to meet people in Europe do to accessibility of mass transit, whenever I bring up these issues as a burger its always eurocels whinging how they have it so hard because 6'2 Hans mogs them lol. Hope you see this
Lol you american passport bro type ppl would have been living with your parents well into your 30s and not get anything as the average guy in Europe is both taller and better looking had you been born here.
it won't. institutions and countries started to adopt it so there's systemic institutional backing behind it. literally no chance that it will drop to anything.
Investing in index funds made me financially secure by investing early in my 20s. Your career is only one part of your life and try not to end up like the baby boomers who have no interests and die of shock once they are laid off. For spiritually, don't be afraid to experience other religions. Shinto, Buddhism, Paganism, orthodox church, Hinduism, animism, etc. Many religions do not have a bible or book so you may need to research. Europe and Asia have more culture than America. Try to read as much as you cab especially from people from worldwide. South America, East Asia, and African writers. They have a very different perspective of America and their views are quite interesting.
What do you think about demographic collapse and stock market collapse though? Its maybe naive to assume you will get 8-10% a year merely by holding an index fund as simple as it has worked for the boomers and such? I like index funds for now but am uncertain for the long long term. Theyre definately susceptible to a "Lost decade" or other occurances that may burn out the gains as demographics look bleak for our generation compared to the demographics the boomers had to work with. Inflation is still eating away at people getting average index returns, the only ones winning and doing exceptionally well are the bears and bulls slaughtering the pigs in the market. Index returns in the face of a high inflation regime might be good enough for people with a lot of capital to invest, but for average joe with average capital to work with work buy much outside of keeping the head above water
As a Japanese, I have a lot of Regretu.
My favorite Japanese term is "Iwakan", it says a lot about how I feel about economic and political variables outside of my control going forward
sudoku
@@everythingbutthegirlfan762 What do you regret the most?
Sheetu he fixed it
私もたくさん後悔していますよ。
That part about dating in college really is true. I tried to find someone during my collegiate time. Never worked out. I still feel regret though given that dating afterward has been such a hellscape for me. The only thing that makes me feel slightly better about failing to find someone during that period is that at least I never got into any “bad” situations
What I learned is that when I’m in a good situation to meet women, I have to embrace that opportunity and not hesitate like I did in college.
One thing I regret is my obsession for nostalgia. I overspent money on comic books, action figures, toys from the 80s such as transformers. In addition I can't fathom the money I have spent on strorage units the past 7 years containing mostly comic books.
My solution: I sold 95% of my comic books and no longer have a storage unit. I stopped collecting/buying nostalgia entirely. I will allow myself to buy a graphic novel occasionally. As hard as it is I have to accept the past is done with and I have to create new memories. Either through traveling or meeting new people.
Same, I’m too fixated on the past to move forward. Unfortunately it feels like there’s no future worth investing into that can compare to the past, but then again the past is never coming back either. I’m not optimistic about the future but you have to be realistic and move forward if you don’t want to stay miserable dwelling on the past. Things can get better, just maybe not as good as they used to be.
wish i could just hit a reset button like bitches
well collecting is a new memory, you're not in tge past by default
I call it the retrospace. It's safe. It's very hard to fight that because the new age were in isnt very comforting
In reality most people don’t have the conscientiousness or personality traits to rise above the social/economic situation they were born into. Being born middle class and staying middle class your whole life by not messing up with a DUI, early pregnancy, getting arrested etc is half the battle for most. The grindset side of social media has led people to think they’re capable of these things but their main priorities should be staying off drugs and alcohol, eating a decent diet, maintaining steady employment, not spending beyond their means. It’s a low bar but I see it as a realistic standard.
Economic mobility is a lie, it all comes down to luck really (family you were born into, looks, etc).
@@user-ic9vz8sp1x Take the red (communist) pill
Yes, and I can tell you this for lots of reasons as someone who has achieved and knows the importance of both stock/IQ and social awareness and connections. I hate to bring up Dunning Kruger, but the truth is that most people are just narrative driven egos without real objective evaluation of themselves. Some of this is a survival tactic, to be fair, but it still results in the same thing, especially after a big baby boom/population boom. Most people just aren't all that special or barely average, and by definition tons more are below that. Yet all want to fit in and are driven by materialism, sadly. You nailed it with the messaging - you aren't 'capable you're being sold something bigger than you can achieve, on average, and someone is making a buck off you. Period.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1x Yes, mostly it is. Your parents can gift you great things but also be clueless how to really advance if they also grew up in times when things were generally really good for nearly everyone.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1xits real.
My family went from driving Lexus cars and having full size homes in Loudon County, to renting a roached apartment in sheethull Kentucky.
Badumtss.
Can't regret choices I didn't make. Can't control other people, especially women. Women don't want me, I'll never get a family. It sucks but I can't control it. There is no regret for a life lived according to rules that constantly changed.
Hey Raymond, I am looking forward to your dad video tomorrow! I regret every decision I make, and can't water to pile on my future regrets!
Better not join a Malthusian Death Cult!
Yup, you lose. 🖕🤓
All that crying, what the babies gonna do?
I do despise how the best way to make it these days is gambling meme coins or scamming honest people. I know that no one will pitty me as a poor, but I still pray for a more moral future.
Solving my regrets now entering my 30’s by finding Christ, building networks of good men and escaping the digital screen realm as much as possible.
You have to make a high risk investment of a high allocation of your assets AND have it work out to make it out with something like meme coins. Lets say you only invested a allocated part of your portfolio but hit it big, that money might be only enough to cover some big emergency medical or car expense down the road just to keep you at BASELINE. All that money you hit big on just to keep you at BASELINE. This is one of my fears/biggest lived financial traumas
The reserves/ guard is actually how you “win” the military, especially for someone older and established.
You have a lot more control over your career in terms of choosing deployments, changing units, changing jobs, volunteering for training, etc. You can even take active non deployment orders if you are interested or if you have a problem with your civilian job. You basically can throttle up or down your level of involvement as you see fit. I’ve been army and Air Force, reserve and guard, self employed as a civilian. If you have questions let me know, I can give you advice for joining that I wish I had.
Any general advice as far as what branch? What pitfalls did you experience with your early choices?
Depends so much on MOS and if you're an officer or enlisted. if you want a more physical challenge, the whole crawl through the mud, shooting, hiking for miles, type experience, then go Marine or Army Infantry, army or guard will probably get you more or better deployments in that case. If you want to be a POG or admin/office or something, go to the Airforce or Army. if you're a real stud look at officer flight programs or infantry officer, there's too many jobs to consider you just have to figure out what you want.
I regret renting out to a fellow veteran who needed help getting back on his feet. He had a victim mindset, he sued me and squatted in my house just playing video games untill I cut all utilities to the house. It took me a decade to fix all that financial turmoil. In the future, I would only exchange money with someone who didn't need it.
"No good deed goes unpunished.". While often not always true I find it to usually be the case more often than not . Sadly it has transformed me into a much colder person.
I'm a veteran and I refuse to connect or befriend other veterans. I allowed a veteran to sleep on my floor for a week and I had to tell him to leave. He picked a fight with the neighbor and was ungrateful as a person can get. It was about 7 years ago and I learned my lesson.
I resent my parents for not putting me in sports as a kid. They will turn it around and put the blame on me that I never wanted to in the first place.
I regret allowing my dad to talk me out of a real estate purchase ten years ago that I could have afforded, which was not only in an extremely central and fun downtown location but has since 4x'ed and would have changed my life in a serious way. I cope by telling myself that you can't go back and edit a single detail without risking editing everything that followed. But who really knows? It is what it is. Live and learn.
I am Jewish so I do not have a horse in this race so I will tell you what I have seen in regards to sects of Christianity. If you are secular dude who just wants to join a church to meet women and nice normal people then you should become a Mormon. I am in Salt Lake City and I run by their churches every Sunday and the women coming out of their are all healthy looking, hot, and modestly dressed. All the men seen to love too network, are friendly, and do every well in business.
I regret from a young age thinking school was a waste of time. I did poorly in high school and ended up dropping out of college. I was capable of getting decent grades but wanted to be rebellious to prove a point which only ended up being self destructive. I make good money in the trades now but I wish I respected myself enough to try in school and pursue higher education because I do enjoy learning new things. Believing going into a trade is all sunshine and rainbows like UA-cam and Reddit make it out to be is also something younger men should be wary about.
Steve Hoca is a HVAC tech and an important figure in the manosphere, has interesting stories about working in trades. Talks about how clients treat him almost as a robot who shows up to fix stuff
As a person who pursued higher education and knows ppl who did, its total shit for us too.
The difference between us and you is that you have actual real world skills and we dont even have that option.
Dont sabotage today thinking about yesterday
- neville chamberlain, from 1930 to august 1939
Konichiwa, Goldberg-san
My biggest regrets all stem from deviating from the normie “golden path,” I.e. high school -> college -> grad school w/focus on networking and relationship building like you discuss. I set myself back pretty significantly, maybe permanently, by falling for the trades meme (I’m not cut out for it) and not maximizing social opportunities when I was in college. I’m grateful/lucky that things have worked out well for me and I can always go to law school or something but if I have kids I’ll be sure they know not to try to outsmart the normie system
There is no normal
It's not even the back breaking work and the unglamorous nature of it that makes me not even consider it the most but the ppl you'd have to work with.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1x Absolutely, nearly all I met were miserable alcoholics
The Trade School stuff is legitimately poisonous and I feel awful for all of the people who get swept up in it. In many ways it feels like it’s targeted at rural American and Canadian youths by Conservative pundits so they can be funneled into the Con-donating natural resources industries which rely on non-educated labor. Then there are just the people who got into it because they were just never informed of better kinds of majors.
In what way are you not cut out for the trades? Too much of a grindset?
Thank you Mr. Rice President.
I went from decently cute at 18 to extremely bloated a year later cause i fell for the bulking meme. It is remarkable how nobody will ever tell you the obvious. My friends all were impressed and saying how “big” i got. Meanwhile, i went from having pretty much all the women i interacted with being at the very least neutral, and often flirty and excited, to being seen as a nuisance and slightly disgusted by. The thing is i was fat as a kid so i knew how to win people over and be the funny guy, but it’s just not the same type of charm. Being attractive in ur late teen and early twenties just is a whole different world, but i still have some youth left so i plan to de bloat soon. So please never bulk cause nobody cares and you just become uglier.
cant believe 6 people like this comment ffs. This world is so fucked. Yeah give advice based on something you know nothing about. Bulking 100% works if you do it right
Goldie and the crew predicting the Magacel collapse again, didn’t think it would happen before the Inauguration , let alone New Year’s Eve.
The Regretuuuuuuur
Im REGRETUUUUINGAAAAAAAH
I dont really have any regrets. Never did me any good, honestly. It's better to just accept things that have happened and do better now.
I simply move perfectly and never misplay any situation, and simply walk into each and every situation in life with perfect working knowledge for that given scenario whether its caught me by surprise or not
I never finished DK64 😞
R E G R E T U
R E G U R E T U
even
I never understood stocks, bonds and all that. The men I see IRL obsessing over it seem to stress so much over it that whatever small gains to be made is not worth it, just like fantasy football.
I agree with avoiding transferring to university junior year. I would even argue it’s better to go to a Big State University for the first 2 years and then graduate from WGU or some other online college. Those first two years are super important for networking and romantic opportunities that diminish significantly once you get closer to graduation. There’s also a stigma among your peers for being a transfer student from community college that no one ever tells you about.
What's the stigma? Because I'm probably going that route
@ Stigma might be too strong of a word, but your peers that went to a 4 year school straight after school will treat you differently if you inserted yourself halfway through college. You weren’t there for the Freshman Orientation Mixer or at any of the extracurricular activities on campus so you’ll be seen as something of an outsider and won’t be able to network or relate quite as well.
@@karlstrauss2330 I can confirm this. I was a transfer to an engineering program around junior year at a local state school and I was treated like an outsider because all of the kids in the program just kept to themselves as they all knew each other from freshman year. It's hard to garner a network or any sort of connections when everyone around you already decided that because you are a transfer, you are automatically the scum of the earth despite doing nothing that would indicate this.
A painful subject indeed. I had a $16 basis in Palantir and chicken sold at $25 after taking an extended 3 year leave from full time work. Couldn’t tolerate the risk. You have convinced me to put $1000 at current high valuations to subside FOMO.
The only thing in my life I dont regret is that I'm 6ft 5. Even though I'm a fat slob who has been up n down in weight, my height still garners some social respect when I meet people.
If I wear nice business casual clothes or a suit it's very easy for people to assume me to be in Leadership positions.
It's the only thing I'm nearly universally complemented on. Had I not been fat, the world would have been my oyster.
Not being fat is the one thing that's very easily in one's control
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313speak for yourself 🥴 🖕
@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 Have you ever lost 100 pounds only to regain it 3 times over?
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 It's not as easy as you'd think
One thing I regret was not always listening to my gut feeling about people, sometimes outsourcing it to others. "This person seems sketchy but has the trust of this other person who I do trust." Don't do that.
Another thing, more of a bummer than a regret, is passing on opportunities to fool around with girls. Wanted to do the whole family thing very seriously and planned-out, but nothing came of it anyways (age 30). So could've had the girlfriend experience, which I turned down because she didn't want kids.
I don't really blame myself that much because the things that actually matter have never been in my control to change.
Speaking of Palantir though, out of all the SV transhumanist techbros Thiel creeps me out the most. Something very off with him.
They fantasize about some sort of techno feudal world where their pale, verbose a sses get to rule as absolute monarchs.
Thanks for posting this early. I only got about 45 mins. of sleep last night.
If I had invested my 40 dollars of allowance when I was 11 I would be up 50k
"shoulda bought bitcoin when you were in elementary school, now you dont get a house" - Joe Biden and Jerome Powell probably
Thanks Mr Goldberg, at the start you helped me make my economies invencible, now you're making me cope with the bitcoin I should had bought when I was 12, truly a doctor amongst doctors.
If I could rewind time I would have stayed in civil air patrol, strived for the best grades I could have received in math and gone onto the Air Force academy to become a pilot. That is my greatest regurt. I would be an officer in the Air Force and life would be tutorial mode for me. Every waking day would be a dopamine hit.
I've actually done study abroad before in 2016. I spoke Partial French from High School and actually lived in France a whole year.
I went for the wrong reasons but overall it is nice experience to go abroad.
It is true you bring yourself wherever you go, so keep that in mind.
I wish my parents had pushed me more in anything. Sports, business, etc... Now I choose to do the hard, unpleasant, ambitious things that require work and discipline. The things that are not glamorous in the beginning but have long term rewards.
7:56 natty guard gets alot of deployments but it also depends reserve/ natty guard about your mos /also location which is ultimately your local unit.
its hard to explain in a comment section.
I feel that most of my regrets came from being risk averse and overly analytical. I would get opportunities to grow, to travel, to meet women, or to learn practical skills, but I would overthink things and turn down these opportunities, because of my downside bias. As a result of my past choices I am somewhat stunted socially. I can hold a conversation, crack jokes, and engage in small talk, but have a hard time relating to most people in a deep way. I have gotten better at 'shooting my shot' so to speak, but I still have a lot to learn in terms of learning how to make good decisions with limited information.
so get better information. And dating is the lowest ROI activity you'll ever do. Even when you close on the first night, trust me. But if you want decent results: really really invest the time to find someone who will give you the framework. I recommend Danny Vera. And it's going to be painful.
My biggest regret is letting my anger get the better of me and the destructive and harmful things I did in my early 20's as a result. I have an older sibling who went through absolute hell fighting for custody of his kid while I was going to college. It nearly tore my family apart. While my brother certainly didn't deserve what happened to him, I always felt some resentment towards him for knocking up his girlfriend with whom he was completely incompatible. The rage, depression, anxiety and fear that plagued me throughout my college years ate me alive, and ruined a lot of opportunities for me. I was also attractive enough to constantly get IOIs from young women, but never pursued because I was just so emotionally destroyed that I knew any relationship I had would fail. My brother is in better spirits now and we get along better than before, but I have a hard time respecting or trusting people who exhibit such plainly bad judgement and a critical lack of wisdom.
Lots of regrets, I'm in my early 30s and trying to turn life around, but as you state it's harder past the age of 25 making any meaningful connections. I do know myself much better and have more confidence/wisdom for what that is worth though.
So what you are trying to do?
Yup. Haven't made many friends after college. That really was the golden oppurtunity and I fucked it up
@@xyzmediaandentertainment8313 For me college was a brutal reminder of how I wasn't taken seriously based on my looks. It was bad enough that I was raised by the typical overbearing mom and spineless fat boomer cuck dad. People just treat you like a joke when you look goofy. The friends are temporary and don't really matter afterwards because they get paired off and marry once they get decent jobs. Mine was the sort of experience that just validated all of my concerns about where I sat on the social hierarchy. I can't fix them or what really matters without thousands of dollars that I don't have. and is it even worth it when I still have the memories of being ignored through my formative years? All that matters to me now is accomplishing some personal and financial goals with the hope of eventually leaving this 3rd world place. The increasingly unsubstantial life of an excess male will only become more common.
My parents were shut-ins who didn't leave the house much so those habits rubbed off on me to where I missed opportunities with girls and wasn't savy enough socially to pick up hints or have any social circles. I've made progress the past few years but man it's truly been trench warfare
Same man. Conservstive muslims in my case😢
Regrets:
- not connecting with fellow college students while in college. I've got at most 2 guys from back then I can call up right now and have fun with discussing the past. Most friends were made *outside* of uni
- not investing a four digit amount on BTC when Molyneux mentioned it (around 2013, BTC was 80 USD ish?)
- not sinking my interest capped loan into the SP500TR in 2013
- going for a business major instead of something more specific like Operations Research or Econometrics
Regret the university I initially chose due to faculty not having connections to industry or graduate programs so I would have to rawdog applications while my peers at these programs had their Professor hook them up. I ended up transferring out of that place and going to a more prestigious place with much more resources. In hindsight I would have chosen to go to a prestigious place initially but oh well what can you do I’m from a small town and wasn’t really aware of the vast differences in degree programs and figured any university could get me the position I want. Also, being a transfer student is incredibly difficult much more so than traditional student and there are unexpected difficulties I would have avoided transferring at all costs
National Guard is def worth it. You can deploy as much as you want. It really is the choose your own path version of the military.
"you donno dear regretu. regretu dears you. hai!"
- tom cruise as miyamoto musashi
Regurets? It's a weird one. I definitely am completely unhappy about where i am but there was nothing really that i could do.
Raised by poor, malevolent idiots.
I already knew i was fu*ked when i was basically left at 20 with overpriced rented apartment by my mother. Instead of telling me that she moves out at the end of the month, she just left and a landlord just informed me on January 1st by Asking me why the hell i am still in his property 😂
It was a great head start into adulthood, took me 3 years to pay that shit back and i was basically homeless for couple of months, making below minimum wage and living by couchsurfing for a year straight.
By the time i was even able to think about my future i was already 27 and barely afloat after spending 7 years on damage control.
I guess i regret not having a chance and having to deal with problems that i shouldn't have way too early in life
I regret not approaching this one chick who was interested in me 2 years ago at age 18
This was like a little bit after the pandemic, she was this slightly cute autistic chick who I heard was homeschooled meaning she probably was as socially awkward as me and she showed alot of interest in me, but not in a way that was apparent and I didn't have a chance to have a good opportunity to talk to her She would always be near me by vicinity and even copy the same hobby I had (this was at the park) and I missed by chance to talk to her, after awhile I stopped caring about it but looking back I realized I missed the only one chance to potentially find true love, I know for a fact she was a pure women simply because her upbringing was similar to mine (meaning I didnt have a very good upbringing so I cant relate to an overwhelming majority of people) the main reason for not approaching was due to alot of social anxiety again due to my crappy upbringing (I was abused as a kid and raised by helicopter parents who didnt let me socialize much as a kid) also thx to me watching corn which I have fully quit warching Another regret I have is that I cut off one friend who was an acutal good person who I could relate to and I enjoyed talking with, nowadays I have nobody to talk to I cut off my good friends (which is mostly my fault) Im age 20 and I feel a resurgence now where I want to start meeting people but Idk where to start I am thinking about going to community college
I have no idea what to do now, that was my chance to find a true love and I am thinking about going to college to meet people since its very isolating for me at home (I been NEET for 2 years working on a videogame project) I am wondering if someone can please offer me advice Idk what to do
If any, mine is waiting to "get life in order" and not having started to have kids in my 20s. Your energy levels in your 30s are nowhere near where they need to be. Thought of sharing this because barely anyone in my peer circles has kids, and I can't imagine the physical stress these couples will have to go through when they start trying in their 40s (not to mention the risks of genetic abnormalities and 'tism)...
Idk mine are about the same, I think people just let themselves go in their 30s or you had maybe some terrible habits that have caught up with you.
Also most people have children in their late 20s to 30s.
@@jakd2962 >most people have children in their late 20s to 30s.
not in my area or socioeconomic circle my mans
Getting a good career is key, and it doesn't necessarily have to be out of an educational outgrowth either.
I left the military in my mid-20s, thought I'd get an apprenticeship in the trades but told I was too old.
Took me nearly over 15 years of construction work and semi-menial work to even get to the point where I can walk into a decent paid career that I enjoy doing, pays me well, and I can take long holidays (unpaid) but return to work where I left off without loosing my job.
I think my regret is probably not investing my money properly, missing the BTC boat despite having bought some in the early days, and maybe not choosing the right career path in the early days.
Arigatou for video, me no more regretu goldberg-san!
Thought about my answer for a few hours: At about 10-12 years old (ca 1992), ask my parents to send me to some kind of socialization course (not just some 4 day fuck-around camp)... But, being a bit of a class clown back then, the future seemed pretty good in that regard. *¯\_(ツ)_/¯*
It depends on what college your son will do, depending on the college name, is better to miss out.
If missed one train there’s always another one leaving the station later.
Goldberg was right
Not buying more Reddit stocks was actually my regret. I’d been saying since ipo it would skyrocket
Its hard to really buy something hand over fist and too easy to merely nibble a speculative investment. By the time you get the risk appetite to buy more, it could have skyrocketed far beyond your original entry price
Goldborg
Peace be upon him
safe to say its beyond ogre for some of us
In terms of regret probably would have planned better when it came to medical school. I wasted too much time in my job as a medical technologist and didn’t plan properly. Managed to get into PA school though but if I had started doing med school prerequisites during undergrad
I got into PA school but honestly if I had started younger like 19 or 20 I would of definitely completed all my prerequisites gone to med school at 24 and be working as some type of specialist like radiology or pathology by now.
Stop naming off all my parents' and my own mistakes in life direction. Don't you know what time of year it is?
I haven't found a good cope about regret except a lot of the time it was beyond your awareness/ability. But sometimes that's not enough for me.
Make a video on starting college in your 20s and best career paths
merry christmas martin
Focus on the donut, not the hole gents. 🍩
You said you revisited Catholicism, did you ever dive into orthodoxy? I don’t recommend a lot of the orthobro content on UA-cam but there’s a lot of good and genuine channels.
never get up
Hillary 2028
NO REGERTS tattoo 2028.
I might be generalising too much but if you're in the USA I don't get how you struggle to make money, the entire economy is a scam and there's enough information out there that even if you're making a modest income you can put yourself in a much better position.
Everything about the American system is designed to keep you a wagie. That being said, there are ways around it
I don't know either (not an American), but from what I've gathered a lot of it comes down to consoooming and overspending. Even in Europe most people would make Americans look like huge money wasters.
@@user-ic9vz8sp1xMy Republican buddies b1tch and complain about how they can’t afford anything. Yet, they buy a new vehicle every year and trade their “old” ones. It really just boils down to over consumption.
@user-ic9vz8sp1x money is at the job if you are able bodied
The cost of living is more than you realize. Taxes and the cost of housing take out the majority of people's income.
For sure would’ve gone to a small wealthy uni (peers always seem to get more out of those due to natural rich kids networking > massive cutthroat normie crowds & they hand out scholarships for good grades), possible military/reserve at a young age for tech or certs would’ve beaten toil, and finally some knowledge around social dynamics/maximizing appearances etc.
There is no normal
Yes, If you dont have the looks and money to live in a top Greek house bubble at University, you will have to deal with the cutthroat normies. The people who fancy themselves the "all-pro" students of their high schools. Its not discussed enough in these spaces the abudance of cutthroat normies young men may have to face entering Uni, on top of hostility they may experience being a young man in general (especially if youre a cream cheese male)
I'm regrooooting AAAA
Regrets accumulate with age, why did I, zig when one should zag, reflections, rather than being thankful for the good things we have in our life. I think someone called it, the human condition.
Regretu? Is that a new movie I should be seeing? Is it a new ragu?
Goldberg what are your thoughts on doing a masters program abroad? I appreciate your segment on how its easier to meet people in Europe do to accessibility of mass transit, whenever I bring up these issues as a burger its always eurocels whinging how they have it so hard because 6'2 Hans mogs them lol. Hope you see this
Lol you american passport bro type ppl would have been living with your parents well into your 30s and not get anything as the average guy in Europe is both taller and better looking had you been born here.
Is it too late to study a CS masters degree in university at 23?
Prob
probably pointless unless you want office bs job like network manager or something
@@UnKnownv5 @GrinchObunga What why? Because of my age or because CS will be dead by then?
@@yasuomain3902 idk I was just playing stupid. I have a shitty grocery store job at 23 currently
@@UnKnownv5dude shut up you have no idea what you’re talking about. Plenty of people go and get cs degrees at 30+ and do just fine.
I suggest drinking root beer
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Bitcoin will drop to 14k in the next couple years.
id buy that
Pressing X for doubt on that one my dude.
Don’t tell the crypto bros
it won't. institutions and countries started to adopt it so there's systemic institutional backing behind it. literally no chance that it will drop to anything.
Investing in index funds made me financially secure by investing early in my 20s. Your career is only one part of your life and try not to end up like the baby boomers who have no interests and die of shock once they are laid off. For spiritually, don't be afraid to experience other religions. Shinto, Buddhism, Paganism, orthodox church, Hinduism, animism, etc. Many religions do not have a bible or book so you may need to research. Europe and Asia have more culture than America. Try to read as much as you cab especially from people from worldwide. South America, East Asia, and African writers. They have a very different perspective of America and their views are quite interesting.
What do you think about demographic collapse and stock market collapse though? Its maybe naive to assume you will get 8-10% a year merely by holding an index fund as simple as it has worked for the boomers and such? I like index funds for now but am uncertain for the long long term. Theyre definately susceptible to a "Lost decade" or other occurances that may burn out the gains as demographics look bleak for our generation compared to the demographics the boomers had to work with. Inflation is still eating away at people getting average index returns, the only ones winning and doing exceptionally well are the bears and bulls slaughtering the pigs in the market. Index returns in the face of a high inflation regime might be good enough for people with a lot of capital to invest, but for average joe with average capital to work with work buy much outside of keeping the head above water