Lol. The moral of the story is once your partner gets bored of you and you start arguing, they'll cheat and blame you. Hate me but remember this comment when your relationship breaks down. As most do and yours probably will.
When I was little, I never understood what this song was about, but I get it now. The boyfriend, I'm assuming he was, was...well, he was abusive. Maybe not physically, but definitely mentally. And what really speaks to me is how the singer moved on from that toxic relationship, finding someone who actually appreciated her. But something that I always asked was "why does she say 'according to you' at the end again?" But I think I've figured it out: when someone damages your self-esteem, it's hard to believe in yourself for a while. Even though she's found this wonderful new person who is obviously much better than the previous boyfriend, the toxic relationship is still ruling in her mind. I never realized just how important this song really is, and I'm glad that I've taken the time to dissect it after hearing it again.
I think she means it like she's useless and all those things... according to her ex-boyfriend. That's who she is in his opinion. But she knows she's wonderful and much better than he made her feel like she was.
To all those people who have a physically or mentally abusive partner, first, leave them, they are NOT worth a second of your time. Second, know that the things they've done or said to you is NOT TRUE. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, they just couldn't see it.
The thing people don't understand is it's not that easy, after so long you believe it yourself and your too scared too do anything about it, speaking of any abusive relationship not just romantic
jt bencin This makes me really sad... because no one can really help you since it’s more about your mentality, and honestly the only person that can help you is yourself.
@nerdy drawer, but what about those of us who can't just leave? What about those of us who aren't being physically abused and don't even really know if this should be considered mental abuse or not? Sometimes it feels like I can't even get my facts straight and no ones there to help me. My dad calls me stupid and pathetic when my whole life all I've ever done was to please him and my mother. I have no one to talk to about this. So what about those of us who are to young to leave? Should I run away? Or should I just put up with it? I need answers. What about those of us who come to UA-cam just to vent in the comment section because they feel like only they'll listen?😣😟😞
What about when it's your parents instead I'm not a legal adult yet nor do I have a means to support myself and they pay for all of my medical appointments,procedures,surgeries,medications,medical tests, and I have loads of medical conditions so idek if I could get a job or who would take me besides I'm still in high school and they pay for my homeschooling and refuse to let me get my license so I can't drive I'm at the legal age that I can in fact take the tests and get my license. So it's not like i can just leave the house when I get screamed at either.
Hi Tavvy!! I just want to apologize for one of my patron trolls. (I was born on the cusp, so I'm both Scorpio and Sagittarius) It's horrible of her but she's just jealous that Pupa Pan would choose you over her ANY day :)
}B) its aight, that's not even what a patron is tho. if it were calculated like that, everyone but john, who would have aradia, would have equius as their patron. google it, theres a test on the land of bells and something or other, some tumblr page
I've had a breakup like this... me in tears... he's just sitting there saying I'm stupid... now I have someone who loves me more than I could ever imagine...
"According to him I'm funny irresistible everything he ever wanted" Guys this is what every girl wants to hear from the guy she loves you should tell her it sometime but don't say it if you don't mean it
to the person who is reading this: you are awesome and deserve the best and you deserve to be treated like a Queen/King. and if some one cant see that its their lost and I hope you find some one who treats you right and have a wonderful and blessed day
For me, this song is about seeing the worst in yourself and not being able to see yourself from the person who truly loves you perspective. If only we could see ourselves from an outside view, then we'd be at peace with ourselves. Thats true love.
I see some comments where girls say that they thought they could relate to this when they were young, but maybe you did more then you think. When I hear this song I imagine the "current boyfriend" is actually my own mind. This is all according to me. A lot of young girls who are insecure can relate to this song because all those things the "boyfriend" is saying, they tell themselves everyday. The other guy is the people around us or in my case my fiance who tries to make me "see it through his eyes." Unfortunately, no one other than ourselves can make us see the beauty in ourselves. As my therapist says, "What makes you worth any less then anyone else in the world?" And she answered it with a quote, "We're all the same when we're asleep."
It doesn't have to be a boyfriend. I honestly thought this was a Christian song when I first heard it. So according to him could actually interpreted as "according to HIM"
I love pop/rock. It's just so different from regular autotuned dance and rap music. The lyrics actually have meaning, and the beats are great. I think Orianthi is really talented.
I can agree with that. Then again, the only two boyfriends I've ever had 1) dumped me through my best friend and we barely even held hands and 2) was so clingy I had to break up with him. The first guy fell down the stairs at school today, and even though it's been two years my friend found revenge in that. I love my friends.
lol what I love about this is when I was like 11 when it came out, I just thought it was a cool sounding song. now that I'm nearly 20 and listening to it its become relatable. after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship when I was 18, with someone who said he was only staying until he met someone else, i met a sweet man who hasn't stopped treating me like a queen. I love it
for me, the 'you' of the song is myself, it's the voice of my self-esteem shattered by wrong people, by my family, by the bad situations in which I found myself. 'him' instead ... I'm still looking for him. I hope to find someone one day who will convince me that I am something more. For now, every time someone complimented me or tells me something nice, to me it sounds like a lie, and I almost get angry because I think he/She is making fun of me :(
haha I remember when I broke up with my "bf" in the fourth grade a little while later I sang this song wondering why that guy couldn't be like my dad #daddy's girl
Moved into my first rental after a seperation/divorce at 25. This is the song I remember at the time. Love it. Finished the papers and ended up raising 'our' son all alone. Bur it was fine. All worked out for the best. This song is my independence. Miss that house but bought my own on my own ;).
~According to Satan: I’m stupid I’m useless I can’t do anything right But according to Jesus!: I’m beautiful Incredible He can’t get me out of his head ...And I’m funny Irresistible Everything He’s ever wanted~ 🙌👑✨🥰👌❤️
This reminds me of how my grandparents were, They were always judging me for everything. Not looking right, not doing what they wanted. They always made me feel like the worst screw up ever. But when I moved back with my mother, she always tells me how much she loves me and that I was the only one that helped her get through my step father.
I lived this song as a young teen. I was with a guy much older than myself at that age, and he was basically just using me to not be alone. When I finally confronted him the morning before our 2nd anniversary, he broke up with me. But I had someone who had claimed to love me for years. And he had helped me through my entire relationship. I don't think I could of handled it without him. I was extremely suicidal and kinda still am but I've been dating the man who said he loves me and he has bpd so he can't help everything he does sometime, but he's always comes back around to me.
I know exactly how this feels. I'm one of those girls who always reads and doesn't go outside. Most people think I'm boring, but ox you get to know me I'm pretty fun:)
Never listen to guys or girls, Love who you want, love yourself, don't bother changing yourself for them, be yourself, NEVER. LET. THEM. IN. YOUR. HEAD. your perfect....and to me I think your beautiful inside and out... It doesn't matter if your straight or LGBTQ+ or not And happy pride month 🏳️🌈
My girlfriend showed me this song on Christmas. She's been through a lot, I admitted I loved her a few months ago, and I was in love with her since the day we met. Ever since then, we've been together, and this song shows three people, her ex, me, and her.
Every time I hear this song it reminds me of my ex husband & this guy named Dave. My ex cheated on me, bullied me, mentally and physically abused me. My ex would get so mad at me for everything, nothing was ever good enough. Dave loves everything about me. He listens to me, he comforts me, he supports me with nothing but love.
It only just occurred to me that she was probably "talking" to her guy/bf.. I always assumed she was kinda talking to her folks yknow? Like they're always ragging on her about how shes this and that, never doing anything right and this new guy is the one who sees her as special.. Then I read the comments like, ohhhh.. Haha! All these years and I've apparently never really listened to the lyrics.. Sigh.
y'know it's funny... you could technically apply this to yourself. Example: I've had a poor self image for a long time. Terrible self esteem, and I'm always down on myself. I look in the mirror and all I see are flaws. Yet I'm in a happy relationship and have been for six years. The "According to you" can be addressed to the mirror. Your reflection. I realized how I'm always thinking terribly of myself, and how my boyfriend is always trying to tell me what he sees. Listening to this, thinking it over, I realized I'm not as terrible as I think I am. According to me, I'm fat, ugly, clumsy, stupid, and all around unattractive. But to him, I'm perfect. Could lose some weight, but that's easy enough, and he's even helping me do so. All in all, when you really think about it, this song is a real confidence booster. :) Sorry if this sounds stupid or like I'm just babbling, just thought it'd be a good thought for all of us who have self-esteem and confidence issues.
Not a day goes by where I'm not thankful my current boyfriend found me in my worst state that my ex-boyfriend had put me in and left me in. Thankful for everyday I get to spend with that man. He is truly a blessing!
When I listen to this I don't think of my significant other.... Well I dOn'T GoT oNe. But that's not what I'm trying to say.... 'According to you' ->Talking to my parents 'According to him' -> Talking to my friend(s) Well, in my case it would be 'According to *her*' . My sister/friend is literally the best person Ik. She knows me better than my own parents do. Thank you M! If you ever see this... Know that I owe you, for absolutely everything. ILY sis. 😉😉
The way I see this is with my parents being the ones who think I cant do anything right and the "boy" is my friends and my grandparents telling me I'm perfect.
I am always crying when I listen to this because it's always after a fight when he tells me how useless I am. I listen to this to give me some confidence.
aww honey you deserve someone amazing, someone who thinks you are worth more diamonds. don't ever let someone tell you that you are useless. you are an amazing, unique individual and if they can't see that, then they are not worth your time. when love gets you down listen to beyoncé best thing I never had
looked this song up specifically off a favorite vine of mine 😅 but after listening and hearing these lyrics ... *my god , i'm so glad i did. this song is definitely what i needed to hear and so relevant to my life. every girl should hear this song.*
this reminds me of ballet bc my instructors are always telling me everything wrong with me but i had this one teacher who actually thought i was a good dancer and respected me lmfao
After being out of an abusive relationship for a year, I'm finally with my best friend and it's absolutely amazing. I actually have so much more self confidence now that I have someone who loves me like he does ❤️.
What if this song isnt about her comparing two guys but about the way she sees herself and the way the guy sees her, like she sees herself in such a bad light but the guy sees her in a complete opposite way, i could relate to that honestly xd
I remember when i was younger i always heard theses songs and thought "im never gonna relate to any of the music i listen to" and now i relate to almost every song i listen too, and this is the most recent one i relate to ❤❤
I have never related to a song more right now. My “friends” would always put me down in such horrible ways and I just kept giving them more chances. They Try to ruin my relationship and friendships and laughter about it like it’s a joke. I just stood up to them yesterday and made so many new, better friends and be never been happier. My boyfriend would always make me fell better no matter what.
This song is so beautiful and uplifting! I listen to this from my perspective and how God sees me. My exes, past partners, and life of sin see me as stupid and useless, but God sees me as incredible! l really love this song. Maybe one day, I will have a husband to apply this message to! lol
I have an emotionally abusive father and a step father who actually cares, so I know it changes the meaning of the song a bit but in the lyrics I see my relationships with my dads. My biological father has called me difficult, hard to please, indecisive, most of the things said in the song... but my step father is supportive and the father figure I never had.... So I relate to this song even if it does change the meaning of the song.
According to my family i am weird and useless and that hurts but luckily i have my friends . They believe i am the most funny and beautiful person in this world. Now that i am in quarantine i understand how much i love my friends and how much they love me and that makes me happy maybe my family think i am useless 💔 but my friends believe in me
The moral of this song is:
“Treat your lover right, before they look for someone else who will”
I was 500th like 💖💖💖
Tami 2008 thank you very much, and congratulations 😁👍🏻
Keitto191 Thank you sooooooo much for replying 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Tami 2008 no worries 😉
Lol. The moral of the story is once your partner gets bored of you and you start arguing, they'll cheat and blame you. Hate me but remember this comment when your relationship breaks down. As most do and yours probably will.
When I was little, I never understood what this song was about, but I get it now. The boyfriend, I'm assuming he was, was...well, he was abusive. Maybe not physically, but definitely mentally. And what really speaks to me is how the singer moved on from that toxic relationship, finding someone who actually appreciated her.
But something that I always asked was "why does she say 'according to you' at the end again?" But I think I've figured it out: when someone damages your self-esteem, it's hard to believe in yourself for a while. Even though she's found this wonderful new person who is obviously much better than the previous boyfriend, the toxic relationship is still ruling in her mind.
I never realized just how important this song really is, and I'm glad that I've taken the time to dissect it after hearing it again.
fxcx thto
Holy crap
Actually am going through the same thing and I always wondered why she ended with that phrase too. And you are completely right.
MinWin is
I think she means it like she's useless and all those things... according to her ex-boyfriend. That's who she is in his opinion. But she knows she's wonderful and much better than he made her feel like she was.
To all those people who have a physically or mentally abusive partner, first, leave them, they are NOT worth a second of your time. Second, know that the things they've done or said to you is NOT TRUE. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, they just couldn't see it.
The thing people don't understand is it's not that easy, after so long you believe it yourself and your too scared too do anything about it, speaking of any abusive relationship not just romantic
jt bencin This makes me really sad... because no one can really help you since it’s more about your mentality, and honestly the only person that can help you is
yourself.
@nerdy drawer, but what about those of us who can't just leave? What about those of us who aren't being physically abused and don't even really know if this should be considered mental abuse or not? Sometimes it feels like I can't even get my facts straight and no ones there to help me. My dad calls me stupid and pathetic when my whole life all I've ever done was to please him and my mother. I have no one to talk to about this. So what about those of us who are to young to leave? Should I run away? Or should I just put up with it? I need answers. What about those of us who come to UA-cam just to vent in the comment section because they feel like only they'll listen?😣😟😞
Thanks so much I really needed to hear this at the moment.
What about when it's your parents instead I'm not a legal adult yet nor do I have a means to support myself and they pay for all of my medical appointments,procedures,surgeries,medications,medical tests, and I have loads of medical conditions so idek if I could get a job or who would take me besides I'm still in high school and they pay for my homeschooling and refuse to let me get my license so I can't drive I'm at the legal age that I can in fact take the tests and get my license. So it's not like i can just leave the house when I get screamed at either.
i remember listening to this song on the radio at 11 pm like a true rebellious 5th grader
Hi Tavvy!! I just want to apologize for one of my patron trolls. (I was born on the cusp, so I'm both Scorpio and Sagittarius) It's horrible of her but she's just jealous that Pupa Pan would choose you over her ANY day :)
}B) its aight, that's not even what a patron is tho. if it were calculated like that, everyone but john, who would have aradia, would have equius as their patron. google it, theres a test on the land of bells and something or other, some tumblr page
Thanks. I get it confused alot. SO much to remember
So Rebellious Tav! xD
Does Gamz know?
I've had a breakup like this... me in tears... he's just sitting there saying I'm stupid... now I have someone who loves me more than I could ever imagine...
YOU GO GIRL HE WAS STUPID ANYWAY now your where you belong aka in the new person's arms
Thats good
Uh you still together?
@@SxllySharkz it’s been 7 years. She might not even has this account.
@@ilovedoggiess Yeah I suppose
"According to him I'm funny irresistible everything he ever wanted"
Guys this is what every girl wants to hear from the guy she loves you should tell her it sometime but don't say it if you don't mean it
Girls, this is what every guy wants to hear from the woman he loves, as well
@dragonsflyhighinthesky3419 💜💚
@anastasiamcquality9605 and @leafeon_quinn1383 perfect just perfect ⚤💙🤍💖⚤
Tfw 11 year old me thought I could relate to this
Same._.
ikr
same
+QueenScrubby Same though XD
QueenScrubby I'm thirteen but relate to this badly
But according to him,
oh wait no one likes me.
me either
Wait, my cat does!
No one likes me :( but dont let boys bring you down
They can be jerks
Same. I feel ur pain
:( (hugs you)
@@origamipein18 thank u
okay why fall in love when you can fall asleep
mackie clements true
i feel the same. sleep is better than love.
true that sister
mackie clements YUS
mackie clements same XD
this has been on my watch later for FOREVER!! it's 2016 now...
Its 2020 now
Yeah it is it’s 2020 now
Still rocks no matter the year
@@tonyacosta4574 right like this song is just amazing
Its 2020
to the person who is reading this: you are awesome and deserve the best and you deserve to be treated like a Queen/King. and if some one cant see that its their lost and I hope you find some one who treats you right and have a wonderful and blessed day
What a relief. Thank you, after all the terrible evil and violent things I've done, I was riddled with guilt, but now I feel I deserve love again
❤
She is one of the best guitarists I have ever heard, PERIOD. She is amazingly talented.
Check out screaming females and garbage, they do a song collaboration called Because the Night. I think you might enjoy it. :)
I mean there’s a reason MJ hired her on his last world tour
Lots of people play guitar really well you know how many great guitarist there are in the world a dime a dozen
For me, this song is about seeing the worst in yourself and not being able to see yourself from the person who truly loves you perspective. If only we could see ourselves from an outside view, then we'd be at peace with ourselves. Thats true love.
I see some comments where girls say that they thought they could relate to this when they were young, but maybe you did more then you think. When I hear this song I imagine the "current boyfriend" is actually my own mind. This is all according to me. A lot of young girls who are insecure can relate to this song because all those things the "boyfriend" is saying, they tell themselves everyday. The other guy is the people around us or in my case my fiance who tries to make me "see it through his eyes." Unfortunately, no one other than ourselves can make us see the beauty in ourselves. As my therapist says, "What makes you worth any less then anyone else in the world?" And she answered it with a quote, "We're all the same when we're asleep."
I uses to thing that this was by Kelly Clarkson
Me 2 😂
Same
I thought it was by P!nk, or someone like that, though I can totally see Kelly Clarkson. I looked it up to listen to it, and was pretty surprised! Lol
SAME
So whose song is it?
I didn't hear of this song until I was in the midst of getting out of an abusive relationship. I'm glad it was there for me.
Love this song :) Surround yourself with people that love you and not those who put you down, PREACH :)
That moment when you want to dedicate this song to 'you' (the ex) but you don't even have a 'him' (the nonexistent current)
Change the "Him" to a "they" and point at your friends
It doesn't have to be a boyfriend. I honestly thought this was a Christian song when I first heard it. So according to him could actually interpreted as "according to HIM"
I dedicate this to myself, we sometimes have low self-steem and see everything in a bad way and cant see what others see in us (the good things)
change the him to me, love yourself! 💜
I love pop/rock. It's just so different from regular autotuned dance and rap music. The lyrics actually have meaning, and the beats are great. I think Orianthi is really talented.
pop rock is as shitty as regular pop and rap music. the difference is they use guitars and (occasionally) use real drums.
according to my mom [im everything bad] according to my best friends [im everything good]. hm
Samantha Bobbitt Amen.
yeah i feel ya, i think my mother puts me down more than any guy ever has.
I can agree with that. Then again, the only two boyfriends I've ever had 1) dumped me through my best friend and we barely even held hands and 2) was so clingy I had to break up with him.
The first guy fell down the stairs at school today, and even though it's been two years my friend found revenge in that. I love my friends.
Splashstorm04 she sucks then,sorry just having your back
Dude that’s what I think of every time I here this song
Omg, listening to this with my older sister while we played with Barbies and Bratz in our room in the early 2000s was the best...😪
lol what I love about this is when I was like 11 when it came out, I just thought it was a cool sounding song. now that I'm nearly 20 and listening to it its become relatable. after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship when I was 18, with someone who said he was only staying until he met someone else, i met a sweet man who hasn't stopped treating me like a queen. I love it
for me, the 'you' of the song is myself, it's the voice of my self-esteem shattered by wrong people, by my family, by the bad situations in which I found myself. 'him' instead ... I'm still looking for him. I hope to find someone one day who will convince me that I am something more. For now, every time someone complimented me or tells me something nice, to me it sounds like a lie, and I almost get angry because I think he/She is making fun of me :(
Well, one day you will I promise❤️
You sound really screwed up. Is that why you wear a mask?
haha I remember when I broke up with my "bf" in the fourth grade a little while later I sang this song wondering why that guy couldn't be like my dad #daddy's girl
That's so sweet!
+KayR Cocci 4th grade Oedipus complex gross
Vxf
Why does everybody say "dizz-ay" when the word is actually "decide"?
At first I thought she said "you're making me dead inside " which would fit too
No its atchully dizzy
@@ieatemos. wrong
Anybody here in 2019?? No just me? K😂
Yes
Me
2020
Carlie Grosser it's 2020 now!!!!
2020!!
I was very addicted to this song during high school times, so nostalgic😍😍time flies!!
When I was younger, I was going to audition for Next Star with this song. Which... if you don't know, was like a kids American Idol.
This song reminds me of BNHA and Eri. Chisaki told her everything was her fault, but Aizawa treats her like an actual daughter.
Moved into my first rental after a seperation/divorce at 25. This is the song I remember at the time. Love it. Finished the papers and ended up raising 'our' son all alone. Bur it was fine. All worked out for the best. This song is my independence. Miss that house but bought my own on my own ;).
~According to Satan:
I’m stupid
I’m useless
I can’t do anything right
But according to Jesus!:
I’m beautiful
Incredible
He can’t get me out of his head
...And I’m funny
Irresistible
Everything He’s ever wanted~
🙌👑✨🥰👌❤️
That sounds so sweet-
According to people:
I’m going to hell because I’m gay and trans
According to Satan:
His best buddy
We play smash bros on the weekends
That's why Jesus says you're worthless without him lol. The ultimate narcissist!!
Non Binary Octopus yes
According to Jesus
I'm ugly
I'm fat
I should go to hell because I'm bi and probably non-binary
I see all these stories and like "oh I relate" but my single self just likes the song
after 4 years now i appreciate this song!!
such nostalgia. 8 when this was posted. one of my favorite songs amongst many.
This reminds me of how my grandparents were,
They were always judging me for everything. Not looking right, not doing what they wanted. They always made me feel like the worst screw up ever. But when I moved back with my mother, she always tells me how much she loves me and that I was the only one that helped her get through my step father.
This was my ANTHEM in middle school sigh
I lived this song as a young teen. I was with a guy much older than myself at that age, and he was basically just using me to not be alone. When I finally confronted him the morning before our 2nd anniversary, he broke up with me. But I had someone who had claimed to love me for years. And he had helped me through my entire relationship. I don't think I could of handled it without him. I was extremely suicidal and kinda still am but I've been dating the man who said he loves me and he has bpd so he can't help everything he does sometime, but he's always comes back around to me.
I know exactly how this feels. I'm one of those girls who always reads and doesn't go outside. Most people think I'm boring, but ox you get to know me I'm pretty fun:)
I meant IF not ox
same
i can so relate to u, boys always think im moody but im not u just have to know me very well enough for me to trust you
People think I'm moody, but I just have a very, very, VERY short temper. Lol:)
Same 100%
OMG I TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT THIS SONNGG!!!!!!! so good
I almost forgot about this too. But it is fun when we're reminded of very good songs we hadn't heard in a long time and nearly forgot about.
Never listen to guys or girls, Love who you want, love yourself, don't bother changing yourself for them, be yourself, NEVER. LET. THEM. IN. YOUR. HEAD.
your perfect....and to me I think your beautiful inside and out...
It doesn't matter if your straight or LGBTQ+ or not
And happy pride month 🏳️🌈
I remember walking down the street like ACCORDING TO HIM I'M BEAUTIFUL INCREDIBLE.
I'm here for the guitar solo :)
Love this song
Still here 2021
I love her voice! Orianthi, don't let the dislikes bring you down!
This randomly popped in my head
My girlfriend showed me this song on Christmas. She's been through a lot, I admitted I loved her a few months ago, and I was in love with her since the day we met. Ever since then, we've been together, and this song shows three people, her ex, me, and her.
Is it weird I want this to played at my funeral?
No not at all! It is your funeral after all.
This song but about life and death?
This is the first time I heard this song in 3 years, and I still remember some of the lyrics.
I found it!!!! I've been trying to remember the name of this song for nearly two years.
that guitar solo is everything!
Here in 2024 ❤
Me❤❤❤
same here!❤❤
I remember seeing this song on the TV once when I was like 9 and I loved it and I still do :p
Every time I hear this song it reminds me of my ex husband & this guy named Dave. My ex cheated on me, bullied me, mentally and physically abused me. My ex would get so mad at me for everything, nothing was ever good enough. Dave loves everything about me. He listens to me, he comforts me, he supports me with nothing but love.
This song has been so healing for me! ❤
AHHHH THOSSSEE GOOOOD OLD DAYS!!I MISS THIS KIND OF MUSIC✊🏻✊🏻
It only just occurred to me that she was probably "talking" to her guy/bf.. I always assumed she was kinda talking to her folks yknow? Like they're always ragging on her about how shes this and that, never doing anything right and this new guy is the one who sees her as special.. Then I read the comments like, ohhhh.. Haha! All these years and I've apparently never really listened to the lyrics.. Sigh.
That's kinda what I thought too, makes the song more relatable for me
I think it goes both ways. It's all about interpretation.
+B Jones Wow I've never thought of it in that way.
I relate to it with my dad, cause according to him I'm all the bad things she said in the song.
Sounds like my parents.
this takes me back to middle school
y'know it's funny... you could technically apply this to yourself.
Example: I've had a poor self image for a long time. Terrible self esteem, and I'm always down on myself. I look in the mirror and all I see are flaws. Yet I'm in a happy relationship and have been for six years.
The "According to you" can be addressed to the mirror. Your reflection. I realized how I'm always thinking terribly of myself, and how my boyfriend is always trying to tell me what he sees. Listening to this, thinking it over, I realized I'm not as terrible as I think I am. According to me, I'm fat, ugly, clumsy, stupid, and all around unattractive. But to him, I'm perfect. Could lose some weight, but that's easy enough, and he's even helping me do so.
All in all, when you really think about it, this song is a real confidence booster. :)
Sorry if this sounds stupid or like I'm just babbling, just thought it'd be a good thought for all of us who have self-esteem and confidence issues.
Not a day goes by where I'm not thankful my current boyfriend found me in my worst state that my ex-boyfriend had put me in and left me in. Thankful for everyday I get to spend with that man. He is truly a blessing!
When I listen to this I don't think of my significant other.... Well I dOn'T GoT oNe. But that's not what I'm trying to say....
'According to you' ->Talking to my parents
'According to him' -> Talking to my friend(s)
Well, in my case it would be 'According to *her*' . My sister/friend is literally the best person Ik. She knows me better than my own parents do. Thank you M! If you ever see this... Know that I owe you, for absolutely everything. ILY sis. 😉😉
The way I see this is with my parents being the ones who think I cant do anything right and the "boy" is my friends and my grandparents telling me I'm perfect.
I am always crying when I listen to this because it's always after a fight when he tells me how useless I am. I listen to this to give me some confidence.
aww honey you deserve someone amazing, someone who thinks you are worth more diamonds. don't ever let someone tell you that you are useless. you are an amazing, unique individual and if they can't see that, then they are not worth your time. when love gets you down listen to beyoncé best thing I never had
"I'm funny irresistible everything he ever wanted"🎤🎧🎧 lalalalala❤️😅
lol as soon as I looked at ur commet the song played that line XD
every body needs to hear this you are everything and dont let anyone tell you other wise !!
looked this song up specifically off a favorite vine of mine 😅
but after listening and hearing these lyrics ... *my god , i'm so glad i did. this song is definitely what i needed to hear and so relevant to my life. every girl should hear this song.*
this reminds me of ballet bc my instructors are always telling me everything wrong with me but i had this one teacher who actually thought i was a good dancer and respected me lmfao
Love this song😍
just letting the person who made this video know that at about 2:17 you wrote dazz-ay when its actually suppose to be decide
After being out of an abusive relationship for a year, I'm finally with my best friend and it's absolutely amazing. I actually have so much more self confidence now that I have someone who loves me like he does ❤️.
I havent heard this song since I was little! Used to love it xD
it is supposed to say "its to bad your making me deside" not dizzy-ay
It's actually decide.
What if this song isnt about her comparing two guys but about the way she sees herself and the way the guy sees her, like she sees herself in such a bad light but the guy sees her in a complete opposite way, i could relate to that honestly xd
holy crap I remember hearing this when I was 8 now I'm 14. :O
OMG Same😂
Same here! Wow!
Marissa Widman yup I remember listening to this song when I was 8 and now I am turning 12 this montj
Jinx!!!
i knew it sounded familiar when i heard it in 2013 i remember listening to it with my friend now when i was in fifth grade XD (i'm 14)
Excellent clip and song!!
I remember when i was younger i always heard theses songs and thought "im never gonna relate to any of the music i listen to" and now i relate to almost every song i listen too, and this is the most recent one i relate to ❤❤
Huh sums up my so call “friends” and what they think about me
At least I have my fiancée and my friend who stood up for me
Im only listenning to these songs cause im in love..
This song is how I feel about my old crush and my new crush
sigh...
I have never related to a song more right now. My “friends” would always put me down in such horrible ways and I just kept giving them more chances. They Try to ruin my relationship and friendships and laughter about it like it’s a joke. I just stood up to them yesterday and made so many new, better friends and be never been happier. My boyfriend would always make me fell better no matter what.
Crys, I remember sharing this song to you....I was "Him".....still am....
I heard a cover that changed "him" to "her" and now the lesbian version just sounds more natural to me lol
I use to listen to this song all the time!!! ( I forgot about it :/ )
Tik tok sent me here 😊🥺 Woow 45 likes thnx🥰🥰
Me too!
Same😭
Me too
The bunny
Same.
2019 and still loving this song
"I'm a mess in a dress. Can't even show up on time, even if it would save my life." way to go ^^
Well... I feel like crap because I'm the single girl who isn't vary attractive.
I'm right there with you.
Not alone sister.
Can you not? You realize you're posing as a woman beater right? Shut the fuck up.
Because you're sitting behind a computer agreeing with a complete stranger trying to start shit.
I'm with you girl... :(
(You're attractive the way you are!)
is she still making music? she's great.
I forgot this song existed!! 😱
This song keeps coming back to me.
Omg I haven't heard this song in years! I remember teen nick( which used to be the n) used to play this video all the time!
My life is just like this song
just me, or would it sound so much better if it was decide instead of dizzy?
I thought it said "dead inside" but decide makes more sense
I've known decide since i heard this song when i was 13
suppose to be too bad you're making me decide. (between the two of them)
Yep
+deniela litteral lol it totally sounded like dizzy
This song is so beautiful and uplifting! I listen to this from my perspective and how God sees me. My exes, past partners, and life of sin see me as stupid and useless, but God sees me as incredible! l really love this song. Maybe one day, I will have a husband to apply this message to! lol
This song is amazing, i was a freshmen in high school when it came out. and now a graduate i still love this song!!!
I have an emotionally abusive father and a step father who actually cares, so I know it changes the meaning of the song a bit but in the lyrics I see my relationships with my dads. My biological father has called me difficult, hard to please, indecisive, most of the things said in the song... but my step father is supportive and the father figure I never had.... So I relate to this song even if it does change the meaning of the song.
who's watching in 2016?
me🙋
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me -raises hand- no matter how old it gets, I will always choose this over new pop music in a heartbeat.
+Sparkle54348 Gamer yup cx
According to my family i am weird and useless and that hurts but luckily i have my friends . They believe i am the most funny and beautiful person in this world. Now that i am in quarantine i understand how much i love my friends and how much they love me and that makes me happy maybe my family think i am useless 💔 but my friends believe in me
Broke up with my toxic boyfriend and just jamming to this song with no faze
I been looking for the guitarist for years b/c I've forgotten. I love it!
How come we don't hear anything from this chick anymore? She was awesome