It’s sad to be the least favorite nyab, even if u do your best and the same as others and yet u are the last they think of when they have something good to give. I’m in same boat but I just do my best and hope one day they will see, even when you know they only love u when they want something from u. We still have that one last hope that one day, just one day it will make their eyes open for u. Be the best Nyab u can be and if it’s not enough to them. At least u can say u gave your best.
Lilly Heu be a good enough person but no need to go the extra mile for people who have no love and respect for you. Build healthy boundaries and cut people who don’t benefit your life and don’t care for you. There’s no need trying to prove anything.
I'm also an unwelcome daughter- in-law. I have 5 children, raised them on our own, own my own $450,000 house and live out of state from all the relatives. No one is in my business and I owe no one any favors. That is how you live when you're rejected. They missed out not us. Leave people that pushes you out and you will find happiness and sucess. Give them no opportunity to opress or sabotage your life.
Your story made me sad because I can relate. Once upon a time many life time ago, I lived your life. I have left the Hmong community and left my parents. I am now living my life and remarried to a wonderful Meka husband. We own two business and live a good life, I live a good life now. Have big house, 20 acres land, many cars, big mobile RV and sport toys. Can afford anything I want. Never have to desire anything else while Everyone else in my past still living the same life & struggling. Still hurts me when I hear stories like yours and mine.
I am a nyab myself. And it’s never easy. Everyone has a different situation but our emotions are relatable. I am a young adult myself and it does get so hard. I mean really hard. Because a lot can be expected out of a nyab. When I hear this sister story. I cried and it send a message to my heart because I know exactly how it feels. But you know, God is so Good! You do good then good come back. Like the old people saying. Because God always treasure and help the humble and eventually the in laws will see the good in you. And if they don’t, that’s a them issue. Keep working the best you can and live life happy. It not easy but God always count the tears and he will turn them into bundle of joy. Blessings to you sister and to those who goes thru the situation. Thanks to the sister also who give the time to tell the story as well. Thank you!
I feel like you told the husbands version of this story. I applaud these brave women that got married so young and had such a hard beginning but continued their education and lifted their life and status. So in awe!!
There are some mother-in-law witches in this world including mine. Being a Hmong daughter-in-law is something I would never want to become again if there is another lifetime. Hated by the MIL, SIL, and relatives because they just hate something about you, whether it is your age, your face, your last name, your family, etc. And the greatest pain is you are expected to take care of everything about them and for them. So heartbreaking and unfair. Some Hmong people are too entitled and privileged. I am proud of you sister, people who hate you will always do. You deserve love and happiness. Don't please anyone, just live your life the way you want. The pain may never heal or a scar may remain, but evolve and treat your daughter-in-laws well, perhaps we CAN be the change for our young Hmong women.
Kuv xa kom cov me nyuam yuav poj niam hlua2 locas lo aws twb tsis kam li yog yus ua niam phem pem qaug yug ua dab tsis ma yus ua lawv nyab lawv pem npau li ntawv rau yus lo yeej yuav tsis taus thiab nws puayog poj niam ao
Hmong ppl needs to change this stupid rule that if a girl goes out late with her bf then they HAVE to get married. The girls parents are just ruining her life by forcing early marriage on her. This is AMERICA Hmong peeps. Your stupid rules don't apply here and you're NOT above the law.
Well brother or sister I have see Hmong have change the culture now about force young girl and boy marry very young. They know now they will go to jail fast. Parents know the kids have their right too. This story back in 1983-1990.
bchang, I think this story is old. The newer generation of parents now don't do that anymore. Otherwise, they should get jail time. That's plainly child abuse.
Wow, what a sad experience. Good job staying positive and not giving up on your goals and your husband. Also so thankful that at least your husband showed you what love is. ♡
Dam sis! A PA-C?! That’s a big accomplishment! You’re a provider and they don’t even know what that is or the meaning of it! That’s hard work. Be proud:)
This is a very good story. My life is simliar to that. Some inlaws are never happy and some never want to accept thier WRONGS- BUT this story teaches both parties: sons, daughters, moms, dads (in-laws) to not force and to discourage eachother- in the future! Everyone will get to be a IN-LAW one day so just don't put yourself or your own child in that situtation. Teach them about safe XXX and tell them that education will always be KEY to a good future. We all have to learn somewhere; we can't always be in LA-LA Land.
Congrats on your accomplishment of PA! You so brave to go through this hard life. Our parents married so young at age 13 back in their country. Why would they want to force their kids to be like them, they should change and support their kids to be successful.
Xob tu siab rau yaam zoo ua neb ua, vim muaj nej ua li nej, peb tiam tamsim no thiaj hloov lawm, you changed hmong history, the parents won the battle, the love you both have win the war. Love is powerful can moves mountains. Congratulation and thank you.
Sister what your real mom and dad did what wrong. They should protect you from your husband parents. I am glad you 2 have good life now. Teach your kids about life. You have to work your way up. Don't go hate other people.
Txhob tu siab os tus me Viv ncaus, vim koj mus nrog koj niam pog nyob nws yog tus niam tsev tab cuab thiaj raug tsim, muaj ib txhia nyab Los ua neej niam pog Los nrog nyab nyob nyab ua tus tab lub neej tab si twb tseem raug niam pog tsis nyiam thiab os, ua li koj hais nco tias yus Los ua nyab luag twb tsis nyiam yus ces yus muaj nyab thaum twg txhob tsim lawv xwb ces zoo heev li os, zoo siab uas koj tseem muaj siab hlub koj niam pog zam lub txim rau nws
You definitely made a big mistake by marrying young, but I'm even prouder to see that you were able to used that mistake to better your life. Life happens and as long as your able to improve from it is all that matters. Most people would never make it that far in life with such an early mistake like yours, but you are the few lucky one with potential.
Always karma. Neeg siab phem tiag2. My MIL is passive aggressive. Act nice, but talk shit to me and behind my back. Then acts like she never did no wrong or hurt anyone. Me... I don't care for fake relationships.
Ua tsaug koj lub neej muab piav rau peb kawm os tus niam tij mloog koj lub neej xwb twb tu siab kawg li lawm thov kom Lwm hnub koj ua niam Pog koj hlub2 koj cov nyab os mog
Muab hais los cov nyab Hmoob lees siab yeej ntev dua lub neej nyab Hmoob Lees kuv paub zoo vim lub neej no kuv tseem nyob. Nyob kom yeej ntag txhob tu siab os mog
kuv lub neej zoo li koj thiab tab si wb sib yuav tau twb tsis nrog lawv nyob ib tsev wb mus nyob ib qhov lawm kuv niam pog ces yeej txaub kuv thiab cem los tau 30 lub xyoo no niaj hnub no nws twb laus2 lawm los tseem cem kuv rau tus ub tus no li cias li ua rau tu siab txaus2 lawm os 😭😭
Yog lawm nawb koj pom koj niam Pog niamtais ua Tsis yog koj Txhob xyaum nawb. Yog koj xyaum ces koj cov ntxhais thiab cov Nyab yuav tusiab ibyam nkaus koj. Nyob Ntiajteb no cas peb cov hmoob mas Tsuas hnov ntiajtog paumpes cav tias niam Pog thiab Nyab tsis sib haum xwb?? ntshe nej yuav tau hloov nawb es nej lub npe tsis sib haum thiaj yuav ploj mus... vim nej yog pojniam ibyam ntshe yuav tau sib hwm no nawb. nej tsis sib haum ces ua rau peb cov txivtsev los tsis pom qab txiav plaub rau nej tus niam Pog thiab nyab no mas nyuaj peb siab kawg nkaus li vim peb cov txiv tsev no yeej hlub Ob leeg xav kom sib haum nawb es kom nej kaub nej xwb zoo dua. Xav kom peb cov tiam tshiab no yuav tau hloov txhua Yam ntawm nej obtog es thiaj sib haum nawb...
zaj neej neeg ko ma yog kiag Li kuv lub neej uas kuv Los uas niam pog tus nyab txawg niam pog tsig kuv ma tu siab thiab mob siab tshaj kuv tus niam pog ma niag hnub niag hmo hais tias peb ma yog hnub nom noob RW
Wow, yog ib zaj kwv huam lub neej ua nyab mos mos uas tu siab kawg. Nplog muaj ib zaj lus piv txwv txhais ua lus Hmoob hais li no "Kev ua neej yog kev sib tw, luag thuam/ntxub yog tshuaj muaj zog rau yus lub siab kom peem tsheej tau ua neeg zoo." Tus niam pog no yeej yog ib tug ntawm cov niam pog phem phem uas peb yeej hnov hnov los. Yeej tsis muaj neeg pab tau/tsis kam pab ua rau zoo nkaus li yus ib leeg tawm tsam lub ntiaj teb (you against the world), tab sis kuv ntseeg tias yog nws niam pog thiab niam thiab txiv txhob ua phem phem li tej zaum nws yuav tsis muaj lub tshuaj muaj zog txhawb nws lub siab peem kom mus txog nws lub hom phiaj. Qhov niam pog cem, ntxub nws npaum li cas los nws tsis khiav, qhov loj tshaj ces yeej yog nws tus txiv los yeej hlub nws, tab sis qhov ntxiv mus ces yeej yog qhov tias nws tseem yau ces nws thiaj xyaum ua txhua yam kom luag nyiam thiab haum nrog rau luag tsev neeg. Qhov no thiaj yog ib qho laj thawj "reason" uas tej laus thauv thiaj txhawb "encourage" kom tej tub yuav nyab yuav tsum yuav cov mos mos luag thiaj los yoog tau yus tsev neeg. Nyob lub neej/ntuj ntawv neeg yeej coj tus yam ntxwv li ntawv. Vim lawv ntseeg tias nyob lub ntiaj teb no, tsuas muaj 2 tug neeg thiaj hlub koj ti txha xwb; xws li tus 1) yog tus yug yus; tus 2) yog tus yus yug xwb. Yog yus khiav tawm ntawm yus niam yus txiv mus ces lwm tus los yeej hais tias yus tsis yog neeg zoo ces yus mus txog twg los luag tsuas ntxias siv yus xwb. Lawv lub ntiaj teb yog ua kom yus tau kev tws ces ua neeg zoo/zoo li lawv kom yus ua xwb. Yog nws lub neej yog ua nyob rau teb chaws no/muaj McDonald, tab sis tsev neeg yog tsev loj hlob rau lub neej qub qab.
Don't worry about how people treat you. They make you stronger and the person you are today. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself and direct your future. A lot of us lived similar lives and this has made us work harder on our lives.
Koj yog i tug nyab siab zoo thiab siab ntev. Koj tus niam pog muaj hmoo nws thiaj lii tau koj ua nyab. Tus neeg zoo yeej tau hmoo zoo thaus kawg.. Tus neeg xaiv2 yus nws yeej yuav tau sau qhov nws ua os mog.
......Don't feel bad. It's not you that your in-laws disrespect. It's his son who she disrespect. Your husband is not a man, too gullible and a mamma's boy. But don't worry you should be happy now because you're success. Successfully is the best revenge in life. A physician Assistant is hardwork and earns 100k+. You're a good nyab. You're not a nyab McDonald in our eyes at all. You are a pearl.
I don’t understand these type of mother-in-laws when they are still able-bodied, they mistreat their daughter-in-laws but when they get older, that’s when they want you to fell sympathy for them. 🤦🏼♀️
Phem tiag tiag niam txiv ob tog. Kuv nrog koj tu siab heev but I am also proud of you and your dedication to continue to live and maintain a good life.
Nyab McDonald's thiaj muaj nyiaj tsis muaj nyiaj tsis tau mus noj McDonald's li os good for you, and that's why you work hard for your life that how you learn in life
Viv ncaus cas koj lub neej zoo li kuv lub thiab yus niam yus txiv los tsis hlub hos niam pog txiv yawg los tsis hlub li thiab tsis paub koj hos kuv kuj los nyob tau 22 lub xyoos lawm thiab
Lady, you are so patient to stay that long to deal with your mother in law but you are lucky to have a husband who loves you. Karma got your mother in law in the end of her old age too. Good for you, your life is better.
You’re mother-in-law is evil! I’m so happy that your husband loves you and stood by you. I’m so happy you got your PA degree and you have a wonderful life to show your mother-in-law. God bless you and your husband!
Hmong only look short term. They don't look 10 to 30 yrs down the road. This parents forgot they are not education persons too. They still think back of old life in Laos. People the more you hurt them. The more they will proof to you. They can change their life around.
Ntuj os teb aws niam pog dab tsi es yuav phem tag npaum li naj nim cem luag hais tias pog nplim nplim nyob nplim es leej twb kom yus mus cuab nplim rau hauv yus lub tawb maj pog phem dhau lawm os
Txhob tu siab thiab koj xav mas yog lawv tsis ua li rau koj tej zaum koj twb tsis zoo li ko kuv hais qhia koj tias kuv tus niam pog tsis ua li ko tab sis kuv cov niam tij tij laus ua phem txawj tshaj li koj qhov ko rau kuv kuv tu siab kawg nkaus tab si ziag no kuv mas cav tias yog lawv tsis ua phem ntshe yus lub neej tsis zoo li h ub no ua tsaug rau lawv cov tau ua phem rau kuv no os me nyab aw...
Tus viv ncau nyob li koj lub neej koj piav no mas kuj tseem kawg thiab vim koj tus niam pog ib leeg tsim koj xwb koj tseem tsuav koj tus txiv ua koj lub zog thiab nws tseem hlub koj thiab pab koj mas koj lub neej phem los tseem tshuav kuv lub neej tseem phem tshaj koj lub kuv twb tseem ua neej nyob nrog kuv tus txiv nyob li kuv lub neej mas tag nro kuv tus tsev neeg nrog rau kuv tus txiv ua phem rau kuv los kuv tseem ua kuv rau rau siab lub neej koj zoo dua li qhov lawv xav es txog thawm kawg koj lawv rov tuaj muag rau kuv thiab kuv ntseeg tau tias lub ntuj muaj qhov muag lub ntuj yeej yuav qhib ib txog kev rau lawv taug thiab es hnub no lawv ua mob kuv los tag ki lawv tus mob uas lawv tsim rau kuv tau noog ntawd yuav thig rov mus xau tus neeg tsim tus mob ntawd tshwm tusk ce thaum no tsis tus pab tau nws es yus mas li tuaj ib cag saib pab nws ti siab rau NWS txoj kev phem ua nws ua es rov npam nws
Where should I start from here? My ex in laws are disrespectful & bullies the same as your mother-in-law no matter what you try to do & help them. When I first got married to my ex husband his parents told everyone I didn't eat Hmong food because I only ate American food since I grew up Americanized. My ex husband's two brothers got married before us within the same yr & we both were the least favorite of the four couples. They told everyone that our couple name was called "the slow turtles" since we never talk back. Whenever I told them the truth they would say I lied. Whenever their families tell a lie my ex in laws would believed it. It caused a lot of tension & dramas. About 2 yrs later, their first favorite daughter-in-law from Laos divorced their son, the second daughter-in-law divorced their next son, & at the end I divorced my ex husband. All the disrespect, bullies, & shit talking got old especially when the husband's don't defend you as his wife. I gave up the Hmong OG traditional life & live more peaceful now. Don't get me wrong, not all Hmong families are this way but most. Seen & heard too many stories like this. At the end of the day, you be the awesome respectful kindness you & know that it will kill these type of ppl. 😇🙏 Pray for them.
That’s true. If the mother in law doesn’t love you, then she will never love your kids. She have a good husband. Mother in law doesn’t deserve your love and caring.
Feel so sad for your life, even your own parents don’t even have your back, pab nrog koj tu siab rau koj lub neej thaum hluas es koj tau txoj kev lwj siab.
After listening to your story i say forgive them God is watching over you now that you have the survivor skills what else do you expect next is time to search life Jesus Christ the savior
I personally think you should thank your parents on both sides because they are the one who make you stronger and know how to start your life! Think about it, if your husband is the one mistreated you then you probably end up devoice already. Think logic, don’t blame them 100%
Koj yeej muaj cai tu sab tsua meb 2tog nam txiv kuas yuav tsum zaam lub txim hab vim muaj cov phem meb txhaj muaj sab lug peem meb lub neej txhaj sawv es zaam lub txim miv2 hab yug txhaj le yog neeg zoo.
Peb cov niam pog no tsis nco qab tias lawv los twb yog ib tus ntxhais thiab. Yog tsis nyiam leejtwg los ua nyab ces koom kiag lawv cov tub xwb txhob yug tub los rau peb cov ntxhais hmoob yuav li. I had an evil mother-in-law as well and my ex-husband was such a mamaS boy. They can have each other!
Kuv pom koj mas yog koj ob tog niam txiv hlub neb mas neb tsis muaj hnub no nawv es tsis txhob tu2 siab nawv. Ua noj tswv mas yog koj txoj hmoo hos ua niam tais yawm txiv ua niam pog txiv yawg ces yog neb muaj me nyuam yawm ces : yeej yuav paub xwb22 los mas nawv nyab McDonald's e!!!.
Cas nej hluas ua luaj nej yuav nyiam txoj kev sib daj sib deev ua luaj, tseem yog lub sij hawm kawm txawj kawm ntse xwb, es nej thiaj muaj2... kev lwj siab ntxov plawv.
😘💖Sister may vaj get some sleep you working to hard ..... 🤦♀️i see you look like your gonna fall asleep when telling a story.💞 get some rest sister and thanks for sharing this story 💖 til next time take care💖💖💖💞♥️😊😊
Txhob tu siab os me ntxhais luag cem cem yus yus lub neej thiaj zoo mog tsis k nws hlo yus kav tsij ua yus neej Kom zoo xwb nawb tseem ceeb yog yus tus txiv xwb
This story is almost like mine. I'm not a nyab McDonald but she calls me an ugly midget. She tells everyone im too short and not pretty enough for her son. She's never liked me, but now she's living with me. You guys can make the rest of the story. Lol. Forgive them. Without them, you wouldn't be where you are even if it's wrong.
My heart goes out for our sisters that goes through these things. Hmong parents need to change their perspectives a little and be more open minded. You can't live your life through your kids.
You should not be mad at your mother in law but your husband and your parents. Which mother does not protect their child from abuse doesn't matter the age? Well your mother of course.. You didn't elaborate about your husband but I hope he stood up for you through your struggles.
It’s sad to be the least favorite nyab, even if u do your best and the same as others and yet u are the last they think of when they have something good to give. I’m in same boat but I just do my best and hope one day they will see, even when you know they only love u when they want something from u. We still have that one last hope that one day, just one day it will make their eyes open for u. Be the best Nyab u can be and if it’s not enough to them. At least u can say u gave your best.
Lilly Heu be a good enough person but no need to go the extra mile for people who have no love and respect for you. Build healthy boundaries and cut people who don’t benefit your life and don’t care for you. There’s no need trying to prove anything.
I'm also an unwelcome daughter- in-law. I have 5 children, raised them on our own, own my own $450,000 house and live out of state from all the relatives. No one is in my business and I owe no one any favors. That is how you live when you're rejected. They missed out not us. Leave people that pushes you out and you will find happiness and sucess. Give them no opportunity to opress or sabotage your life.
Your story made me sad because I can relate. Once upon a time many life time ago, I lived your life. I have left the Hmong community and left my parents. I am now living my life and remarried to a wonderful Meka husband. We own two business and live a good life, I live a good life now. Have big house, 20 acres land, many cars, big mobile RV and sport toys. Can afford anything I want. Never have to desire anything else while Everyone else in my past still living the same life & struggling. Still hurts me when I hear stories like yours and mine.
I am a nyab myself. And it’s never easy. Everyone has a different situation but our emotions are relatable. I am a young adult myself and it does get so hard. I mean really hard. Because a lot can be expected out of a nyab. When I hear this sister story. I cried and it send a message to my heart because I know exactly how it feels. But you know, God is so Good! You do good then good come back. Like the old people saying. Because God always treasure and help the humble and eventually the in laws will see the good in you. And if they don’t, that’s a them issue. Keep working the best you can and live life happy. It not easy but God always count the tears and he will turn them into bundle of joy. Blessings to you sister and to those who goes thru the situation. Thanks to the sister also who give the time to tell the story as well. Thank you!
I feel like you told the husbands version of this story.
I applaud these brave women that got married so young and had such a hard beginning but continued their education and lifted their life and status. So in awe!!
There are some mother-in-law witches in this world including mine. Being a Hmong daughter-in-law is something I would never want to become again if there is another lifetime. Hated by the MIL, SIL, and relatives because they just hate something about you, whether it is your age, your face, your last name, your family, etc. And the greatest pain is you are expected to take care of everything about them and for them. So heartbreaking and unfair. Some Hmong people are too entitled and privileged.
I am proud of you sister, people who hate you will always do. You deserve love and happiness. Don't please anyone, just live your life the way you want. The pain may never heal or a scar may remain, but evolve and treat your daughter-in-laws well, perhaps we CAN be the change for our young Hmong women.
Nyab Mes Dav Naum mas tseem khees nawj! hos yog niam pog mes dav naum mas nyuaj siab nawj cov bawg.
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Kuv xa kom cov me nyuam yuav poj niam hlua2 locas lo aws twb tsis kam li yog yus ua niam phem pem qaug yug ua dab tsis ma yus ua lawv nyab lawv pem npau li ntawv rau yus lo yeej yuav tsis taus thiab nws puayog poj niam ao
I'm so proud of you! Job well done you did it for yourself . As long as your husband loves you!
“Kill with kindness” is the best vengeance. Love wins because evil never prevail.
Hmong ppl needs to change this stupid rule that if a girl goes out late with her bf then they HAVE to get married. The girls parents are just ruining her life by forcing early marriage on her. This is AMERICA Hmong peeps. Your stupid rules don't apply here and you're NOT above the law.
Well brother or sister I have see Hmong have change the culture now about force young girl and boy marry very young. They know now they will go to jail fast. Parents know the kids have their right too. This story back in 1983-1990.
bchang, I think this story is old. The newer generation of parents now don't do that anymore. Otherwise, they should get jail time. That's plainly child abuse.
Wow, what a sad experience. Good job staying positive and not giving up on your goals and your husband. Also so thankful that at least your husband showed you what love is. ♡
Dam sis! A PA-C?! That’s a big accomplishment! You’re a provider and they don’t even know what that is or the meaning of it! That’s hard work. Be proud:)
I’m gonna share my story one day. It will be the most tu siab story ever told
I look forward to it.
We are waiting lol
Shared I want to hear it👌
Please share
Pls share
Wow! You are strong and your man stand by you. Blessed you two!
This is a very good story. My life is simliar to that. Some inlaws are never happy and some never want to accept thier WRONGS- BUT this story teaches both parties: sons, daughters, moms, dads (in-laws) to not force and to discourage eachother- in the future! Everyone will get to be a IN-LAW one day so just don't put yourself or your own child in that situtation. Teach them about safe XXX and tell them that education will always be KEY to a good future. We all have to learn somewhere; we can't always be in LA-LA Land.
thov txim tau hais li nawb, kuv yeej hais tseeb nawb cov hmoob dawb lawv mas ntxub hmoob lee tiag tiag li nawb, tej niam ntxawm niam hlob los yeej pab niam pog ntxub tus nyab hmoob lee. Tabsis kuv yeej hais ncaj qha hais tias cov nkauj hmoob dawb lawv yeej heev tshaj nkauj hmoob lee, nyab hmoob dawb los lawv lub qhov ncauj yeej heev tshaj plaws li os. Nov tsis dag kiag li nawb mog kuv pom kiag ntawm kuv qhov muag.
Cov Niam Pog uas ntxub2 nyab mas thaum ub lawv ntxub2 nws thiab es nws thiaj txawj2 tsim yus li thaum ub lawv tsim nws thiab.
Tus muam. Koj cov neej neeg. Txaus
Tu siab heev.
Kev npam Los txog lawm os! Kuv ntxub2 cov niam pog zoo li no kawg thiab tiag
Congrats on your accomplishment of PA! You so brave to go through this hard life. Our parents married so young at age 13 back in their country. Why would they want to force their kids to be like them, they should change and support their kids to be successful.
Xob tu siab rau yaam zoo ua neb ua, vim muaj nej ua li nej, peb tiam tamsim no thiaj hloov lawm, you changed hmong history, the parents won the battle, the love you both have win the war. Love is powerful can moves mountains. Congratulation and thank you.
Sister what your real mom and dad did what wrong. They should protect you from your husband parents. I am glad you 2 have good life now. Teach your kids about life. You have to work your way up. Don't go hate other people.
Txhob tu siab os mog, luag tsis pab tsis hlub yus, thiaj tsis tshuav luag nqi os, zoo uas koj rau 2 siab ntawv, thaum kawg koj lub neej twb zoo lawm, nrog koj zoo siab lawm os!, twb yog koj ua taus siab ntev kawg, koj niam pog qhia koj ua neej xwb os!, yog tsis teev dab ces los ntseeg tus Tswv Yexus xwb mom, twb tsis yog koj xyav nws lub qe, ho nws rov xyav nws lub qe xwb
Txhob tu siab os tus me Viv ncaus, vim koj mus nrog koj niam pog nyob nws yog tus niam tsev tab cuab thiaj raug tsim, muaj ib txhia nyab Los ua neej niam pog Los nrog nyab nyob nyab ua tus tab lub neej tab si twb tseem raug niam pog tsis nyiam thiab os, ua li koj hais nco tias yus Los ua nyab luag twb tsis nyiam yus ces yus muaj nyab thaum twg txhob tsim lawv xwb ces zoo heev li os, zoo siab uas koj tseem muaj siab hlub koj niam pog zam lub txim rau nws
You definitely made a big mistake by marrying young, but I'm even prouder to see that you were able to used that mistake to better your life. Life happens and as long as your able to improve from it is all that matters. Most people would never make it that far in life with such an early mistake like yours, but you are the few lucky one with potential.
Always karma. Neeg siab phem tiag2. My MIL is passive aggressive. Act nice, but talk shit to me and behind my back. Then acts like she never did no wrong or hurt anyone. Me... I don't care for fake relationships.
Leej twg tsis tau raug niam pog tsim txhob rawm tuag.
I'm so sorry you were mistreated, sister. May you continue to focus on your life and continue to be blessed.
Ua tsaug koj lub neej muab piav rau peb kawm os tus niam tij mloog koj lub neej xwb twb tu siab kawg li lawm thov kom Lwm hnub koj ua niam Pog koj hlub2 koj cov nyab os mog
Muab hais los cov nyab Hmoob lees siab yeej ntev dua lub neej nyab Hmoob Lees kuv paub zoo vim lub neej no kuv tseem nyob. Nyob kom yeej ntag txhob tu siab os mog
kuv lub neej zoo li koj thiab tab si wb sib yuav tau twb tsis nrog lawv nyob ib tsev wb mus nyob ib qhov lawm kuv niam pog ces yeej txaub kuv thiab cem los tau 30 lub xyoo no niaj hnub no nws twb laus2 lawm los tseem cem kuv rau tus ub tus no li cias li ua rau tu siab txaus2 lawm os 😭😭
Yog lawm nawb koj pom koj niam Pog niamtais ua Tsis yog koj Txhob xyaum nawb. Yog koj xyaum ces koj cov ntxhais thiab cov Nyab yuav tusiab ibyam nkaus koj. Nyob Ntiajteb no cas peb cov hmoob mas Tsuas hnov ntiajtog paumpes cav tias niam Pog thiab Nyab tsis sib haum xwb?? ntshe nej yuav tau hloov nawb es nej lub npe tsis sib haum thiaj yuav ploj mus... vim nej yog pojniam ibyam ntshe yuav tau sib hwm no nawb. nej tsis sib haum ces ua rau peb cov txivtsev los tsis pom qab txiav plaub rau nej tus niam Pog thiab nyab no mas nyuaj peb siab kawg nkaus li vim peb cov txiv tsev no yeej hlub Ob leeg xav kom sib haum nawb es kom nej kaub nej xwb zoo dua. Xav kom peb cov tiam tshiab no yuav tau hloov txhua Yam ntawm nej obtog es thiaj sib haum nawb...
Cov niam pog no yog cov niam pog tom taj laj tshav puam xwb tiag. Tos peb yuav muab lawv ntsab ua hmo os yeej zoo li ntawv tiag hmoob aw....
Very sad story 😭😭😭😭 but you make it. I’m so happy for you sister.
Yog leej twg tsis tau muaj niam pog thiab muam cem thiab tsim txhob tu siab rau siab khwv kom muaj xwb zoo lawm
I believed there's a mean niam pog like this, some of us living this life now a day..... Can't believed there's such a witches😣😣😣😣
You two should be very proud of yourself! If your both parents love your guys in the first place? you both might not have a successful life right now.
zaj neej neeg ko ma yog kiag Li kuv lub neej uas kuv Los uas niam pog tus nyab txawg niam pog tsig kuv ma tu siab thiab mob siab tshaj kuv tus niam pog ma niag hnub niag hmo hais tias peb ma yog hnub nom noob RW
Wow, yog ib zaj kwv huam lub neej ua nyab mos mos uas tu siab kawg. Nplog muaj ib zaj lus piv txwv txhais ua lus Hmoob hais li no "Kev ua neej yog kev sib tw, luag thuam/ntxub yog tshuaj muaj zog rau yus lub siab kom peem tsheej tau ua neeg zoo." Tus niam pog no yeej yog ib tug ntawm cov niam pog phem phem uas peb yeej hnov hnov los. Yeej tsis muaj neeg pab tau/tsis kam pab ua rau zoo nkaus li yus ib leeg tawm tsam lub ntiaj teb (you against the world), tab sis kuv ntseeg tias yog nws niam pog thiab niam thiab txiv txhob ua phem phem li tej zaum nws yuav tsis muaj lub tshuaj muaj zog txhawb nws lub siab peem kom mus txog nws lub hom phiaj.
Qhov niam pog cem, ntxub nws npaum li cas los nws tsis khiav, qhov loj tshaj ces yeej yog nws tus txiv los yeej hlub nws, tab sis qhov ntxiv mus ces yeej yog qhov tias nws tseem yau ces nws thiaj xyaum ua txhua yam kom luag nyiam thiab haum nrog rau luag tsev neeg. Qhov no thiaj yog ib qho laj thawj "reason" uas tej laus thauv thiaj txhawb "encourage" kom tej tub yuav nyab yuav tsum yuav cov mos mos luag thiaj los yoog tau yus tsev neeg. Nyob lub neej/ntuj ntawv neeg yeej coj tus yam ntxwv li ntawv. Vim lawv ntseeg tias nyob lub ntiaj teb no, tsuas muaj 2 tug neeg thiaj hlub koj ti txha xwb; xws li tus 1) yog tus yug yus; tus 2) yog tus yus yug xwb. Yog yus khiav tawm ntawm yus niam yus txiv mus ces lwm tus los yeej hais tias yus tsis yog neeg zoo ces yus mus txog twg los luag tsuas ntxias siv yus xwb. Lawv lub ntiaj teb yog ua kom yus tau kev tws ces ua neeg zoo/zoo li lawv kom yus ua xwb.
Yog nws lub neej yog ua nyob rau teb chaws no/muaj McDonald, tab sis tsev neeg yog tsev loj hlob rau lub neej qub qab.
Don't worry about how people treat you. They make you stronger and the person you are today. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself and direct your future. A lot of us lived similar lives and this has made us work harder on our lives.
Both of these parents should get under arrest. These kids did not know their right. They force kids marry kids. This story must be back 1983-1990.
Stand your own ground. My husband and i are a mcdonald couple too. I moved out after 2 months and he folllowed.
Xob tu siab tu me niam tsev peb haiv hmoob yeej coj phem tsis tas tu tab sis yeej muaj coob niaj hnub no kuj tseem muaj qee vim yog peb hmoob yog ib haiv neeg tshav phem xob tu siab mog xam tias yog ib hauv tshuaj zoo heev rau koj xob mog
McDonald's is expensive now. Can't even afford McDonald's nowadays. 😂🤣. A physician assistant is a great achievement.
Tus viv ncaus thaum kawg koj lub neej twb zoo lawm ces zoo lawm os. Yog koj niam koj txiv thiab niam pog txiv yawg lawm tsis ua li ntawv rau koj ntshe koj twb tsis mob mob siab mus kawm ntawv os mog. Chim thiab tus siab los tub ib txhia xwb. Qhov tseem ceeb ces koj tus txiv hlub hlub koj. Nrog koj zoo siab thias koj lus neej mus deb heev ua tau rau koj niam koj txiv thiab niam pog thov txim rau koj kiag lawm ces zoo lawm os mog.
Koj yog i tug nyab siab zoo thiab siab ntev. Koj tus niam pog muaj hmoo nws thiaj lii tau koj ua nyab. Tus neeg zoo yeej tau hmoo zoo thaus kawg.. Tus neeg xaiv2 yus nws yeej yuav tau sau qhov nws ua os mog.
True story my sister
......Don't feel bad. It's not you that your in-laws disrespect. It's his son who she disrespect. Your husband is not a man, too gullible and a mamma's boy. But don't worry you should be happy now because you're success. Successfully is the best revenge in life. A physician Assistant is hardwork and earns 100k+. You're a good nyab. You're not a nyab McDonald in our eyes at all. You are a pearl.
I don’t understand these type of mother-in-laws when they are still able-bodied, they mistreat their daughter-in-laws but when they get older, that’s when they want you to fell sympathy for them. 🤦🏼♀️
Phem tiag tiag niam txiv ob tog. Kuv nrog koj tu siab heev but I am also proud of you and your dedication to continue to live and maintain a good life.
Yog tus menyuam tub luag ntawv tsis txhob rho phom loj tshoob heev2 mus rau looj ceeb ces looj ceeb yeej tsis tawg li los mas lawv aw...Kuv twb yog ib tug ntxhais thaum ntawv kuv muaj13 lub xyoo xwb thiab kuv txiv pheej rho phom loj tshoob heev2 rov qab mus rau looj ceeb es kuv thiab li tau txoj kev hlub uas kuv tsis tau muaj dua li tiag lawv aw.....hehehehe....
Nyab McDonald's thiaj muaj nyiaj tsis muaj nyiaj tsis tau mus noj McDonald's li os good for you, and that's why you work hard for your life that how you learn in life
Niam ntsuab teev aws kuv mloog koj cov dab neeg yuav luag txhua zaj li lawm os
Zaj neej neeg no txhob chim txhob tu siab. Hmoob los lus tias haiv neeg Heev muaj haiv neeg tsim ... cia tus niam pog thiab tus niam Tais no npam tees thib qhov yav laus tej lawv hlub thiab lawv pab2 yuav tsis xav hlub xav pab es cia lawv cov laus no kawm nawb. Hmoob lub siab lim hiam thiab coj li no tseem coob thiab phem Heev. Smh cov laus hloov nawb tsis hloov tuag tsis muaj neeg faus nawb.
Me and my wife go through the same route very sad
Viv ncaus cas koj lub neej zoo li kuv lub thiab yus niam yus txiv los tsis hlub hos niam pog txiv yawg los tsis hlub li thiab tsis paub koj hos kuv kuj los nyob tau 22 lub xyoos lawm thiab
Hais nyab McDonald yuav tsum hais niam pog Quav Binggo thiab ma....haha!
Tu siab kawg yus mus ua ib tug nyab niam pog tsis nyiam yus..tabsis zoo qho yus tus txiv hlub yus tuaj yus tog tsis mloog niam pog hais es thiaj lam nyob tau..hos yog tu txiv tuaj niam pog rog ces yus kawg tawm ntev nawb me sister aww
Peb cov ua Niam ua Txiv yuav tau hloov, thaum ub cov laus tsis paub thiaj coj li ntawv xwb.
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Lady, you are so patient to stay that long to deal with your mother in law but you are lucky to have a husband who loves you. Karma got your mother in law in the end of her old age too. Good for you, your life is better.
Mos txwv tua raug ib tug xwb hos phom loj yeej raug coob tshaj nej xav seb puas yog thiab ma lawv...
You’re mother-in-law is evil! I’m so happy that your husband loves you and stood by you. I’m so happy you got your PA degree and you have a wonderful life to show your mother-in-law. God bless you and your husband!
Glad u became a PA. If u did not succeed they would still not love u.
Hmong only look short term. They don't look 10 to 30 yrs down the road. This parents forgot they are not education persons too. They still think back of old life in Laos. People the more you hurt them. The more they will proof to you. They can change their life around.
Thanks! Everybody have their good part of life. But it only short period of time not forever.
Ntuj os teb aws niam pog dab tsi es yuav phem tag npaum li naj nim cem luag hais tias pog nplim nplim nyob nplim es leej twb kom yus mus cuab nplim rau hauv yus lub tawb maj pog phem dhau lawm os
Kuv yeej ib txwm dhuav cov txiv neej pheej nrog niam pog nyob ua niam pog twb tsis hlub yus tus pojniam. Tebchaws no, yus nyob yus twb tau lawm. Tus niam tsev, koj los tib yam. Txhob ua zoo rau cov neeg ib txwm tsim yus. Lawm yuav tsim yus tas mus ib txhim, koj yeem ua zoo lawv yeem yuav zoo tsim yus mus ntxiv.
Koj niam thiab txiv yug koj los, tsis khua yuav mus ntsib ntxiv lawm. Niam/txiv yog tsis hlub yus lawm ces, tsis yog niam/txiv lawm.
Txob tu siab os tu me nyab tus neej zoo lis koj tu niam pog es koj thiaj lis tsis tshua wb nqi
Koj tu siab ua dab tsi nas. Twb yog koj niam qhia koj ua neej xwb. Yog tsis muaj koj niam pog Ua li rau koj ces hnub no koj twb tsis zoo li no
Cov niag laus ntawd ces txhob tu siab os mog me ntxhais aw rau2 siab ua koj lub neej kom lawv txhaj muag rau neb os mog
I would love to meet this mother in law! Seriously! The things I WILL ASK AND SAY TO HER!!!
Koj tus ua niam tsev thiaj tseem zoo nyab tiag tiag, siab los ntev los xyov yog tsis paub xav tabsis zoo qhov koj uv uv los rau thaum kawg tau lub neej zoo heev . Thov qhuas!
Txhob tu siab thiab koj xav mas yog lawv tsis ua li rau koj tej zaum koj twb tsis zoo li ko kuv hais qhia koj tias kuv tus niam pog tsis ua li ko tab sis kuv cov niam tij tij laus ua phem txawj tshaj li koj qhov ko rau kuv kuv tu siab kawg nkaus tab si ziag no kuv mas cav tias yog lawv tsis ua phem ntshe yus lub neej tsis zoo li h ub no ua tsaug rau lawv cov tau ua phem rau kuv no os me nyab aw...
Tus viv ncau nyob li koj lub neej koj piav no mas kuj tseem kawg thiab vim koj tus niam pog ib leeg tsim koj xwb koj tseem tsuav koj tus txiv ua koj lub zog thiab nws tseem hlub koj thiab pab koj mas koj lub neej phem los tseem tshuav kuv lub neej tseem phem tshaj koj lub kuv twb tseem ua neej nyob nrog kuv tus txiv nyob li kuv lub neej mas tag nro kuv tus tsev neeg nrog rau kuv tus txiv ua phem rau kuv los kuv tseem ua kuv rau rau siab lub neej koj zoo dua li qhov lawv xav es txog thawm kawg koj lawv rov tuaj muag rau kuv thiab kuv ntseeg tau tias lub ntuj muaj qhov muag lub ntuj yeej yuav qhib ib txog kev rau lawv taug thiab es hnub no lawv ua mob kuv los tag ki lawv tus mob uas lawv tsim rau kuv tau noog ntawd yuav thig rov mus xau tus neeg tsim tus mob ntawd tshwm tusk ce thaum no tsis tus pab tau nws es yus mas li tuaj ib cag saib pab nws ti siab rau NWS txoj kev phem ua nws ua es rov npam nws
My husband's mom needs to listen to this story.
Where should I start from here? My ex in laws are disrespectful & bullies the same as your mother-in-law no matter what you try to do & help them. When I first got married to my ex husband his parents told everyone I didn't eat Hmong food because I only ate American food since I grew up Americanized. My ex husband's two brothers got married before us within the same yr & we both were the least favorite of the four couples. They told everyone that our couple name was called "the slow turtles" since we never talk back. Whenever I told them the truth they would say I lied. Whenever their families tell a lie my ex in laws would believed it. It caused a lot of tension & dramas. About 2 yrs later, their first favorite daughter-in-law from Laos divorced their son, the second daughter-in-law divorced their next son, & at the end I divorced my ex husband. All the disrespect, bullies, & shit talking got old especially when the husband's don't defend you as his wife. I gave up the Hmong OG traditional life & live more peaceful now. Don't get me wrong, not all Hmong families are this way but most. Seen & heard too many stories like this. At the end of the day, you be the awesome respectful kindness you & know that it will kill these type of ppl. 😇🙏 Pray for them.
That’s true. If the mother in law doesn’t love you, then she will never love your kids. She have a good husband. Mother in law doesn’t deserve your love and caring.
Tus viv ncaus peb sawv daws ua yuav txiv ntxov22 yeej rau in nkawm khau xwb. I can feel your pain
Niam pig tsis hlub koj thiaj tsis tshiab nqi
Feel so sad for your life, even your own parents don’t even have your back, pab nrog koj tu siab rau koj lub neej thaum hluas es koj tau txoj kev lwj siab.
After listening to your story i say forgive them God is watching over you now that you have the survivor skills what else do you expect next is time to search life Jesus Christ the savior
Koj niam thiab koj niam pog ob lub siab ces phem ib yam nkaus li ntag
I personally think you should thank your parents on both sides because they are the one who make you stronger and know how to start your life! Think about it, if your husband is the one mistreated you then you probably end up devoice already. Think logic, don’t blame them 100%
Nyab MacDonald have turned into Nyab Stake and Lobster. I feel so sad when parents turn their child away 💔 I'm so very proud of you ❤️
Koj yeej muaj cai tu sab tsua meb 2tog nam txiv kuas yuav tsum zaam lub txim hab vim muaj cov phem meb txhaj muaj sab lug peem meb lub neej txhaj sawv es zaam lub txim miv2 hab yug txhaj le yog neeg zoo.
Peb cov niam pog no tsis nco qab tias lawv los twb yog ib tus ntxhais thiab. Yog tsis nyiam leejtwg los ua nyab ces koom kiag lawv cov tub xwb txhob yug tub los rau peb cov ntxhais hmoob yuav li. I had an evil mother-in-law as well and my ex-husband was such a mamaS boy. They can have each other!
Kuv pom koj mas yog koj ob tog niam txiv hlub neb mas neb tsis muaj hnub no nawv es tsis txhob tu2 siab nawv. Ua noj tswv mas yog koj txoj hmoo hos ua niam tais yawm txiv ua niam pog txiv yawg ces yog neb muaj me nyuam yawm ces : yeej yuav paub xwb22 los mas nawv nyab McDonald's e!!!.
Cas nej hluas ua luaj nej yuav nyiam txoj kev sib daj sib deev ua luaj, tseem yog lub sij hawm kawm txawj kawm ntse xwb, es nej thiaj muaj2... kev lwj siab ntxov plawv.
Wow. You are strong woman.
Wow 12 years old.....I feel bad but I wouldn't let my poor baby marry that early!!!
😘💖Sister may vaj get some sleep you working to hard ..... 🤦♀️i see you look like your gonna fall asleep when telling a story.💞 get some rest sister and thanks for sharing this story 💖 til next time take care💖💖💖💞♥️😊😊
Txhob tu siab os me ntxhais luag cem cem yus yus lub neej thiaj zoo mog tsis k nws hlo yus kav tsij ua yus neej Kom zoo xwb nawb tseem ceeb yog yus tus txiv xwb
This story is almost like mine. I'm not a nyab McDonald but she calls me an ugly midget. She tells everyone im too short and not pretty enough for her son. She's never liked me, but now she's living with me. You guys can make the rest of the story. Lol. Forgive them. Without them, you wouldn't be where you are even if it's wrong.
Koj yog ib tug nyab uas zoo kawg nkaws lawm
NIAG NTSEJ MUAG RUAM NIAM POG NTAWD SIAB PHEM HEEV RAU KOJ TSI TAG KOJ YUAV TIG ROV MUS HLUB NWS LI MOG...NEJ HAIS XWB TWB UA RAU KUV PAB KOJ MOB SIAB LI OS VIVCNAUS AW...
Vim peb tej laus coj nruj thiab tsiv tabsis tsis qhuab tsis qhia kom meej rau tej me nyuam kom nkag siab.
Ua nyab ces yeej zoo li no
My heart goes out for our sisters that goes through these things. Hmong parents need to change their perspectives a little and be more open minded. You can't live your life through your kids.
You should not be mad at your mother in law but your husband and your parents. Which mother does not protect their child from abuse doesn't matter the age? Well your mother of course..
You didn't elaborate about your husband but I hope he stood up for you through your struggles.
Ntiaj teb no muaj cov neeg phem li no thiab os ntuj Aw... cov niag neeg phem li no ces yeej phem2222 kom txog hnub nws siav tu nrho ☹️☹️
Txaus hlub licas ces hlub li ntawv yuav tsismuaj kev npam