One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.
This is a great and inspiring talk - well done! With views approaching 5000 you should be really proud, there is clearly an appetite for sharing...even more than meals!
This is a dangerous talk. Keep up this line of thinking and before you know it we'll be sharing our houses and finally our incomes! This will make us so happy that we won't want to consume beyond what we really need. What will happen then to the Gross National Product--it will plummet! Seriously, sharing is subversive. what if we forgot about conservative and liberal and just presumed that we were all one human family. On that basis we could share everything, even the most selfish among us would eventually be converted, because sharing is contagious. There would no longer be a need for big government because we would take care of one another nor would we need big corporations; instead we would value what our friends made not brands that we use to set ourselves apart. Continue down this road and we will naturaly presume we are one with all earth-kind. Then we will give back to the soil for feeding us. When the soil becomes part of the share cycle it acts as a carbon sink. Atmospheric carbon would shrink because the earth was being honored rather than raped. The human species would survive after all! What a plan! Let's do it! Turn off the TV and share with friends and neighbors!
We have shared throughout history, nothing new. Another model that involves money. "Sharing economy" can be exploitative to their volunteers, or workers. Many workers have to work several jobs in this economy to make enough to survive. Not relying on your tax money, money from government- funded charity organization and money donation from people is the real sustainable movement: unlike some of these models under "sharing economy" that rent something in exchange for your money is just another profitable form of capitalism in disguise. Do some research on who they took from to start their company before your support.
I love giving money and sharing what I got with everyone, I've given tens of thousands in food gas entertainment and filled up gas tanks but I stopped because these people don't even say thank you and hide when they get money, how is that fair to me? I'm never petty or stingy I love being able to give if I was rich id give cars and houses but these so call friends won't even give me a dollar. I do favor after favor and don't want nothing but at least a thank you. I'm done because I've learned that people are so ungrateful. I don't deserve this. So I'm done for good reason. People will burrows tools and get offended when I ask for them back so I let them keep it I do as much as I can and get disrespected. I'm done.
I think you've got a point there Hector, we don't have do idealize giving in order to enjoy it. We should give only in as much as it brings a sense of fulfillment to ourselves and reasonably benefit others in the measure afforded by our circumstances. In this respect I believe that sharing doesn't constitute a form of social investment but a creative proposal. We should engage with those who are, in equal measure, willing to partake in this social interaction in a reciprocating way. This is emotionally sustainable.
One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support.
Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable.
Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others?
We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings.
A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other.
If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.
This is a great and inspiring talk - well done! With views approaching 5000 you should be really proud, there is clearly an appetite for sharing...even more than meals!
Positive interactions between neighboors
that's really nice. i feel elated
This is a dangerous talk. Keep up this line of thinking and before you know it we'll be sharing our houses and finally our incomes! This will make us so happy that we won't want to consume beyond what we really need. What will happen then to the Gross National Product--it will plummet!
Seriously, sharing is subversive. what if we forgot about conservative and liberal and just presumed that we were all one human family. On that basis we could share everything, even the most selfish among us would eventually be converted, because sharing is contagious. There would no longer be a need for big government because we would take care of one another nor would we need big corporations; instead we would value what our friends made not brands that we use to set ourselves apart.
Continue down this road and we will naturaly presume we are one with all earth-kind. Then we will give back to the soil for feeding us. When the soil becomes part of the share cycle it acts as a carbon sink. Atmospheric carbon would shrink because the earth was being honored rather than raped. The human species would survive after all! What a plan! Let's do it! Turn off the TV and share with friends and neighbors!
We have shared throughout history, nothing new. Another model that involves money. "Sharing economy" can be exploitative to their volunteers, or workers. Many workers have to work several jobs in this economy to make enough to survive.
Not relying on your tax money, money from government- funded charity organization and money donation from people is the real sustainable movement: unlike some of these models under "sharing economy" that rent something in exchange for your money is just another profitable form of capitalism in disguise. Do some research on who they took from to start their company before your support.
but all are not ready to share :P #bitter truth
Boni Satani Be the change you want to see in the world.
The power of communism
I love giving money and sharing what I got with everyone, I've given tens of thousands in food gas entertainment and filled up gas tanks but I stopped because these people don't even say thank you and hide when they get money, how is that fair to me? I'm never petty or stingy I love being able to give if I was rich id give cars and houses but these so call friends won't even give me a dollar. I do favor after favor and don't want nothing but at least a thank you. I'm done because I've learned that people are so ungrateful. I don't deserve this. So I'm done for good reason. People will burrows tools and get offended when I ask for them back so I let them keep it I do as much as I can and get disrespected. I'm done.
I think you've got a point there Hector, we don't have do idealize giving in order to enjoy it. We should give only in as much as it brings a sense of fulfillment to ourselves and reasonably benefit others in the measure afforded by our circumstances. In this respect I believe that sharing doesn't constitute a form of social investment but a creative proposal. We should engage with those who are, in equal measure, willing to partake in this social interaction in a reciprocating way. This is emotionally sustainable.