Not necessarily... its alot easier to say when you're thinking how you might act, but when it's being done to you & your feelings or emotions come in, it's not the way they thought they'd feel about it. The Tom's need to learn by having the shit done to them. Because in theory they can go on saying they wouldn't care but until it happens to them they really don't know how it feels!
@@anovosedlik I completely understand you Bella and I know how isolating, frustrating and down right awful it is. I truly think it’s one of the worst things someone can go through. I see your struggle and you are strong and brave! 🤍🕊
Wow! I love all of you in this little NPD abuse thread and agree with every single response 100%. Me too. Hugs to all of you~ I've found my people! xoxo
I think the reason why Lala has had everything so spot on with Rachel is because she was so traumatised by her fiancé that she’s hyper vigilant to everything. She can spot it because she’s seen it before
@@imapersonnotanumber8940 maybe because she saw through the act Rachel was putting on and saw through the fakeness that was Raquel. She saw the "snake slithering in a pretty dress " I think she thought something at the start when she first came on the show, the beginning of the season she started putting it together but really really confirmed it the girls trip ,I wouldn't be surprised if the Oliver comment about her being attracted to him was a set up to see if she's what she right about her. And she was then the" good thing you don't have a man" statement while she was shifaced speaks truths.
When did Raquel actually get accepted in the group. I didn’t realize how close of a friend she was to all these people. It’s like she was a side character turned villain overnight
VPR was fizzling out.. it wasn't gonna be back for another season.. so ofc they needed a new villain.. it's all scripted.. look at how these "reality" tv ppl coming out the woodworks to stay relevant.. pathetic really
I'm the same about dimwit Raquel. She didn't bring much her 1st season, so was it going on a whole lot longer than we are led to believe? I never realised she was best friends with Ariana, they seem such different people.
Raquel always sounds like she’s in the verge of crying. She takes those long pauses too like her brain is trying hard to form and articulate her thoughts. She’s not Bambi because her looks, she’s Bambi because there’s nothing behind those naive, baby, deer in the headlights eyes
ive met many people like that, and some have autism, or severe anxiety...shes showing signs of sheer anxiety...shes always been bullied on here...its abuse....
checks everyone but herself , don't you love how she skates over her role as a mistress and screwing James while she was in a relationship as well as James oh yes lets just call her a saint!
The podcast chemistry isn’t the every day chemistry. It’s good shit and IT wouldn’t be a BAD idea to pair up for real. It’s comfortable, it’s like I’m in the room, all my thoughts were being voiced, the cussing is always great. I love it.
its not a question of liking her....shes a bully...just because someone has a personality, doesn't mean they are right...lots of people speak with confidence, no-one listens to what they actually say..
Shwartz was disgusting telling Sandoval, how he doesn’t miss Katie at all and he is happy they broke up, in the most disgusting way. Like he is such a tool
I have a friend I met in kindergarten, we lived around the corner from each other from birth. We’re going to be 68 this summer and we’re still talking about all the crazy times. She and I both each have five children. She’s been married for close to 50 years, I’m a widow. We still stay in contact with many of our childhood, friends, neighbors and classmates we grew up with in L.A.
Oh my gosh lol thank him! Tell him the world thanks him. Because I’ve NEVER been able to stand her speaking PERIOD, and I’ve also noticed she’s worked on it and changed it quite a bit, yet still!!!!!! It’s!!!!! UNBEARABLE!!! So I’m grateful your dad was real with you! All dads should be going forward lol now that one read your comment I will be thinking about that a lot.
you know have a daughter right? she’s going to see this. kids at school. grow up. stop this vile nonsense with every other word ef or pussy. save that for personal friends. your daughter will pay. spend some of your money and get a formal education. develop your knowledge base. change is good for you. 😊
😂, I know I just wish you could tell the truth about herself being a whore sleeping with a married man lol. I mean who does that, being a homewrecker LOL. It's like the moment she push out her cash cow, Randall saw her as broken and went on to the next model. LOL OMG that's hilarious, whats even funnier, she thought Randall was going to stay with her. Karma is a bitch
What's so great about it, Lala literally goes on every podcast and talks crap. She's got nothing to offer the world except her mean girl gossip. And how she talk about people screwing other people's person. Well hello Lala you was that ish. How could you forget when you have your daughter to remind you. Don't ever forget that.
I think La La was given heads up from production about this affair. Truly - cause it just rolls this story line. This is big coin for everyone on this show now. Also La La is loving now someone is taking the relationship break up, and it ain’t her. also James what an absolute pig
The blonde girl is so angry and aggressive. I do agree with her about trusting your gut when it comes to people; it doesn’t matter how nice they pretend to be, they can’t fake their energy.
Lala the only one who made sense the whole season like period if ur best friends with someone and they got done dirty u no longer associate with the mf
I think Lala is an INTJ personality. Super intuitive, blunt, seemingly fearless and can smell insecurity, very insightful and knows she's not perfect but neither is anyone else.
Love that Lala said if her “husband” messed around on her she would be done. Been there, done that (not married, but was engaged). I cut him off and wouldn’t even talk to him, moved out the same day. About a month later he came and knocked at my door, when I opened it he was on his knees begging me to take him back, I slammed the door on him and have never looked back…I have ZERO tolerance for that crap…If you want to screw around, break up with the person first, you aren’t going to have your cake and eat it at my expense, EVER…
I am an older viewer of VPR and have grown to really like Lala. I like that she’s mouthy and genuine - it cuts through what must be a lot of BS around her. As for the Toms… Schwartz has always driven me nuts and I see Caty’s anger as reactive. Sandoval has always been selfish ego/attention driven (hello? Cocktail book?). Frankly, the women on the show are shining. Schwartz and Sandy should be renamed “Covert and Overt” (Narcissist Bar and Lounge).
😂 Lala ... "then it's like she powers down, do we need to plug her in, I know there's an outlet like literally right here, do one of y'all wanna plug your friend in" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Love it! ❤
As a 54-year-old viewer, I agree with Lala. I felt a shift at 25. At 25, I finished my Masters, got a real job, and got married. It is time to grow up.
Lala lives in LA and Sofia lives in NYC so I don’t think they can make a podcast together, but love that they appear on each others shows because they have great banter 🎉
So I’m gonna drop this bomb but who else agrees with me that Racquel is a call her daddy type guest that’s why I watch Sofia with an F and that’s why she has Lala Kent on as her guest.
Oh, she definitely calls Daddy crying "They're being mean to me." She's 27 and still a baby deer lost in the headlights who blames her f'ups on everyone else.
I don’t understand why Layla is going on these interviews?!?! She & Raquel is one & the same. She literally slept with Raquel’s fiancé James & smiled in her face everyday?!?!?! I’m so confused
Cheaters having a moral high ground now weve seen it all.... u justified how u had zero role to play in hurting randalls then wife.... i mean the things u gotta repeat to wash down ur guilt
a lot of the times people who have taken drugs in their teens seem stuck in that immature mindset when they're 30 40 and even older.. I've seen it happen to people before.
She's obsessed with the whole Tom and Rachel thing. She somehow thinks she's better then Rachel but she isn't. In fact she's worse bc she's making a career outta talking about the girl.
not a fan of the way she discusses sex. It's low class and makes her look like trash. She needs to not broadcast herself being such a whore. That guy she screwed in havasu looked like he had AIDS. Not a good look.
I mean have a lil humble pie everyone knew u were creeping w a married man but its ok when u do it cuz u can move in a way that will whitewash it? N james is the other one .... god the irony of it all
Rachel was at Miraval Spa and Resort. It’s not a mental health facility, there are NO therapists or psychologists there, that was just her people trying to garner sympathy for her.
I know exactly what you mean about the eyes. I see that too in people. Raquel has no boundaries. She doesn’t clearly see the lines. She does have something going on, for sure. She is NOT in the same category as Sandoval, he is beyond help. He knows what he’s doing.
I literally just don’t understand cheating under almost any circumstance. Not with Rachel and Sandoval, not with Sofia and her past relationships, not with Lala and James. Cheating as revenge isn’t worth it either. Know your worth y’all, if u get cheated on, leave. If you want to cheat on your partner, leave.
The efficiency of this *usespy online is next level.* To juggle walk throughs of various angles on devices delivered to-camera, differnet content per app from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined access. To make a dense non tracable like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work !!!
Been in the same situation as Arianna but my friend I knew for over 40 years. I stayed ( I know crazy) but after 28 yrs marriage I wasn’t willing to fuck my family up and that crazy Bitch wasn’t getting my money. I live in a 50/50 state. LOTS of therapy. Karma is a bitch l, I just hope I will be standing on the sideline to watch. Thank God Arianna has such good friends like you. I had NOBODY
Yesss Hispanic families comment on weight immediately. They usually like u a little thicker so if I walk into my abuelos house and they tell me I look “healthy” I know I’m looking thiccc LOL
I like it much better when he tells me I look like an advertisement for a concentration camp lololol (not even kidding he says that, but not recently :-( ...)
I agree with Sofia when it comes to discussing weight in the Latin culture. As much as we are very family oriented, this is one thing that annoys tf out of me. There’s no happy medium.
You ladies bring up a good point about Rachel’s seeming arrested development. I don’t know much about her past, but maybe she experienced some type of trauma in middle school. Often, a person who experiences trauma like that will be “arrested“ in their development at the age when the trauma happened. Could explain some of her very childish behavior.
@@BH19780 you obviously don’t watch the show or didn’t pay ANY attention to her storyline. Like Lala said, and I’m glad to hear her admit it, because it’s been soooo obvious for a LONG time that the girl is struggling and has a lot of issues, she is broken and needs some legit help, that her family should have identified early on given her traumatic start to life & how confusing her upbringing must have been for her. Her own mother didn’t want her, so her sister (Aunt) ended up raising her, but her mother was still around, just didn’t want anything to do with her. Imagine how that must feel to a person. To know that your actual mother is so close but never wanted anything to do with you? I think that’s why she looked for validation and acceptance through things like the pageants, and why she was SO upset that she no longer qualified to enter them after this year; people were making fun of her for crying and getting upset about that, but I can see how that probably was a big deal to someone in her situation. She definitely has abandonment issues, and cannot be alone. She’s going to need professional help and guidance to help her figure that out & learn how to be on her own & not be co-dependent. Someone like her, sadly, is a deeply vulnerable person who was just ripe for a narcissistic sociopath like Sandoval to take advantage of. Now, she did a LOT of things wrong here, for sure, and she’s NOT without blame, but Tom was definitely the one in control of this whole situation. Control being the key factor.
so if fully aware of this well why not be empathetic...or just carrying on bullying her and calling her 'dumb;///la la annihilated and abused Rachel so much in one episode it was awful.. btw if she thinks shes a broken soul, why did she abuse her so much.....la la so loud and bullish, no one will disagree with her...
@@Ladybird.21 also like a narcissistic psychopath like la la to abuse her so much....that was brutal..and la la knew she was vulnerable...la la is awful and to other women...the weaker they were, throughout all the seasons, shes bullied so many people....just because she is loud, does not mean she is right...
Hello the two toms are not accountable for their actions, they dodge issues and try to pick at other’s problems rather than elaborate on their own , they find it easy to highlight other’s weaknesses. while avoiding working to better themselves , they have not played fair up to now , they won’t be able to hide anymore 🏴
I freaking LOVE Lala! She is smart, beautiful, and real!! I love that she doesn't hold back, and I LOVE that she's honest and doesn't sugar coat things to make other people feel better. And I agree with everything she said on here. I feel sorry for Sofia. She's a lost soul like Raquel. I pray she changes.
Well… I see why Alexandra and her no longer share a podcast lol. Very different styles. This was so fun to watch though! I’m a fan now. It’s self deprecating and just such real ass girl talk. This is how women really speak to one another and I love this! I also love the humility… like ok… we have room to grow. Mama is a subscriber ❤😊
I would watch a show where Lala just had conversations with random strangers and then shared her opinion and gut reaction with the viewer. Then I would see if matched my own gut feeling
Lala I want you to know you have and always will continue to be my favorite person on vanderpump rules and I have watched it since the beginning I am a thirty-seven-year-old mother of five and you have never said anything that I disagree with and as somebody who is also living a sober life I am so proud of you
YES! I totally can relate! When your family sees you after not seeing you for a few years and ya get this “You’ve gained some weight but that’s okay” 😂 It’s ok now, I have worked on myself but it does stick 😂
There's a difference between seeing a medium whose speaking to the dead and a prophet. Lala calling out Raquel and saying she will have a breakdown..that's a gift. God told her that.
I swear Lauren and I would probably be really good friends, we keep things 100 & im always observing people, being clairsentient about their energy, and looking out for all of my loved ones. When it came to the eyes I understood what she meant! Im always noticing people's eyes, some full of life, some broken, and others just pitch black; like dead.... it's a real thing. I even observed Raquelles eyes in the show so it's crazy to hear her say that! As an empathetic clairsentient I think Lala would love spirituality, she definitely seems like she has a gift.
Personally I love seeing the growth of everybody and would love seeing there families and what's going in there lives!! I love seeing Ocean and Summer moon!! Brock is awesome and should be on full-time
I'm excited for you ladies because the more up in age you will become over time, your gut feelings will be so strong. You're right! It IS superpower!! Well said.
It is always easier to spot issues with others than ourselves. Lala is spot on about most things. I think Rachel has major issues and one of those girls that values guys wanting to sleep with her more so than a true friendship with a girl that is her best friend. Rachel is diabolical and disgusting but I believe she may be able to work through issues and is not a lost cause. Sandoval and maybe Randall I think are narcissist lost causes. At this point they keep repeating the same behavior and are almost 50. I can’t wait to see Ariana and Lala killing in future and bring in great relationships in future!
This man really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute to *Team usespy online.* The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of spy levels. Cheers Alex & looking forward to seeing what you do next!
@@Dream.builderExactly my point! If she focused on her own problems as much as she dose other people's issues, she might have an easier time resolving her own, but then, she'd have nothing to talk about. She's really not that intesting.
@@dianaguenzler2897 Maybe your right but to be fair, lala is a smart, beautiful, person with a strong personality, i'm sure if she wanted to create a storyline she could. She could take James from Allie, she could take Raquel under her wing and turn her into a minion, which would be hilarious, Raquel would love it, everyone would be pissed (basically good tv)...like a female tom and tom but instead La and Ra, anyway point is instead of creating waves, she's a spectator right now, so she doesn't go off the deep end, because REAL horrible things are happening in her life, she is a recovering alcoholic she needs to preserve her sanity. I think thats what she's doing.
@@Dream.builder Sorry, I won't debate you. I have never respected women like Lala. Looks have nothing to do with it. It's about character. She's a busy body who likes it when others look bad so she doesn't look so stupid. She does it to Sheena and Rachel in the beginning while she was with James. She's awful to people.
OMG LALA n SOFIA I AM HERE FOR IT! I LOVE HER! VIRGO POWER! Lala literally has fakechel's mannerisms down boy n I love it. My husband was cracking up when he seen lala say are u rebooting n he don't watch this show.
what Rachel did was so horrific that there's no excuse in the world for it. However that doesn't make Lala right in the way she's treated her all season. .I know LaLa's going through a lot right now but she's coming off as mean-spirited and nasty and quite frankly as a bully that's preying on somebody that's clearly not as skilled at arguing as she is. Her treatment of Rachel this season had nothing to do with defending Ariana because she didn't know about it at the time. Her standing on a soapbox of morality considering her life choices and at least twice we know of she's hooked up with a guy that either had a wife or a girlfriend is so hypocritical. I have always been a huge Lala fan. Bought some of her make up, some of her merch . But after this season I'm honestly so sick of seeing and hearing her that I don't know if I'll ever be a fan again.
Have you ever been gaslit? When it happens, you pick up on weird behaviors, you ask the person directly… hey is something happening? They say no… but still behave strangely. You are left feeling crazy and it’s incredibly frustrating. I believe, this is what Lala was experiencing during that time. Unconsciously, she was poking and prodding (verbally) to get a reaction to assess their behavior and determine what is happening. I think we could all learn something from her because what she did was trust her instincts and protect herself and her friends. It’s not our job to be nice to people, it’s our job to protect ourselves… and if we all felt safe and protected, I bet a lot more people would be “nice”. In life, if you ever find yourself just not liking a person, but you can’t really place why…. trust your instincts and move on, because your body chemistry is reacting and you should listen! Be nice where you can but PLEASE be the nicest to yourself!
No you are misinterpretting - she is coming across nasty and mean spirited because she is Nasty and Mean spirited - do you really need to have people point this out to you ?
La, here is the Empath side of your gift seeing and feeling the broader picture..Expand on that sensitive 💫 side of yourself, meditate, and ground yourself daily, every morning. Thank your bad memories for what they have taught you and let them go, by grounding❤ Hugs always 😊 @Lala Kent
No way Lala would bff up with this one. Sofia cheats in 100% of her relationships, and she bailed from the bathroom during a seemingly benign get-together with other female friends. Lala doesn't ignore flapping red flags. She notices the palest of pink flags and moves way out of their way. Conversely, Lala "plays Hollywood" well and is polite to lousy people. Lala is growing into a solid woman.
when lala said that she called raquel was going to have a mental breakdown in 2017 but has been aggressive with rachel for years is sooo bad. like lala you didnt call it you actually might have pushed her towards it
Lala… I 100% feel you. Never ever doubt your intuition. I am the same way. It is sometimes hard to explain it is just a strong knowing! And always proven right in the end
I am so glad that you see that Raquel has had some sole destroying issues. I relate and I feel like Tom Sandoval will use her emotionally and financially like he's grooming her. He has taken his mom's retirement money. He sees that and I hope that she gets the help. He wants it to be her that's named but all the while doing this he's not helping ❤😮
Let me fix this for you. Raquel is a vapid, shallow wannabe who gets ALL of her validation from the attention of someone else Sadly,,i think Sandoval really had feelings for Raquel but ONLY because of how she made him feel about himself not for who she actually is/ was
Loved this episode!! Though it’s def not less bad to “just cheat on your man” vs sleeping with your friends man. Both ways, it’s deep betrayal. I’m an introvert with very few friends in general. I share more with my live-in long term partner in general both physically and emotionally than with any of my girlfriends. I would never cheat but just can’t fathom how betraying my man would be less evil than that of one of my friends of whom I don’t spend even a fraction of my time with. Sofia clearly invested more time and trust into her friendships, so that’s fair and I can understand why she feels that way. But to say it’s less evil to do that to someone whom your share your body with vs someone you party and have girlie talk brunches with, makes my stomach turn. It’s like imagine a guy saying the same about how he would never sleep with his friends gfs but will regularly cheat on his own gfs? Yeah it’s against bro code but there’s a clear underlying hatred and distrust for women to cheat on them constantly that they should probably look into.
I agree it’s not less bad, but female friendships are more than partying and brunches. My platonic friendships are more emotionally intimate than any relationship I’ve had with a sexual partner. Trust me when I say, it was a bigger betrayal from my best friend when her and my boyfriend slept together. And I loved him. Being an introvert isn’t an excuse for having a shallow opinion of friendship. I urge you to seek out just one fulfilling friendship outside your romantic relationship.
@@mermaidcatching Would I be correct to assume you knew your best friend longer than your boyfriend? That also matters tremendously. Ariana knew Tom way longer than her and Raquel. Both hurt I’m sure but not as bad as the other in that case. I don’t believe my outlook on female friendships is shallow, it’s just I’ve only had shallow females as friends which is problematic of itself. My last relationship was with a 5 year sober alcoholic so that goes to say none of my girlfriends were interested in any non drinking activities unfortunately. I would honestly love to find deeper friendships with women outside of my own family. Luckily my sisters and cousins are amazing and a huge part of my life.
@@ValleyRose21 no I met them around the same time. I actually met them both through the same mutual friend. That may say more about that mutual friend lol I don’t think the length of a relationship determines the quality though. My best friend and I had a soul connection from the moment we met. We were able to move past the betrayal after a lot of difficult conversations. As for people who are seemingly more interested in drinking buddies than genuine friendship, I’d say alcohol can easily become a social crutch if it’s not just a youthful phase. I’d recommend having an honest conversation about it with anybody you want to have a better connection with. I had a tough chat recently with my friend of 10+ years because we both individually felt we didn’t spend enough quality time together. She in particular felt that I only ever wanted to drink but I felt I could only ever get her to come hangout for big events. It was very enlightening and now we’re planning a sober vacation!
Sophia is a pick me girl … she tries to always agree just to seem cool lmfao 🤣 the fact that she got called out for cheating after pretending she’s a good person says it all
The fact that Tom and Tom said they wouldn't care who Katie or Ariana hooked up with just proves NEITHER of them really loved Katie and Ariana.
TRUE
With Tom Schwartz, I mean Katie already fucked other dudes
Not necessarily... its alot easier to say when you're thinking how you might act, but when it's being done to you & your feelings or emotions come in, it's not the way they thought they'd feel about it. The Tom's need to learn by having the shit done to them. Because in theory they can go on saying they wouldn't care but until it happens to them they really don't know how it feels!
Facts.
@@staceys2711 it happened to Tom Sandoval twice
As someone as a survivor of narcissistic abuse…Lala is spot on. Wonder if she has witnessed the “narcissistic stare” straight up demonic.
NPD abuse is awful. Been going through it for the past 6 years along with other abuse. It's something nobody understands until they go through it.
@@anovosedlik I completely understand you Bella and I know how isolating, frustrating and down right awful it is. I truly think it’s one of the worst things someone can go through. I see your struggle and you are strong and brave! 🤍🕊
@@anovosedlik Plan your escape. See what it’s like to be at peace again. It’s amazing.
Yes I agree with you lala can spot bs from far away.
Wow! I love all of you in this little NPD abuse thread and agree with every single response 100%. Me too. Hugs to all of you~ I've found my people! xoxo
I think the reason why Lala has had everything so spot on with Rachel is because she was so traumatised by her fiancé that she’s hyper vigilant to everything. She can spot it because she’s seen it before
so why bully and abuse Rachel and call her so dumb....this was so abusive....
@@imapersonnotanumber8940 maybe because she saw through the act Rachel was putting on and saw through the fakeness that was Raquel. She saw the "snake slithering in a pretty dress " I think she thought something at the start when she first came on the show, the beginning of the season she started putting it together but really really confirmed it the girls trip ,I wouldn't be surprised if the Oliver comment about her being attracted to him was a set up to see if she's what she right about her. And she was then the" good thing you don't have a man" statement while she was shifaced speaks truths.
She can spot it bc she has done it to another woman. She didn't care when she did it but now cares bc it was done to her 😒
Lala's husband didn't even get called out as much as Tom and Rachel did and cheating is basic compared to what Lala's husband did.
@@9th_childThank You!!!
When did Raquel actually get accepted in the group. I didn’t realize how close of a friend she was to all these people. It’s like she was a side character turned villain overnight
VPR was fizzling out.. it wasn't gonna be back for another season.. so ofc they needed a new villain.. it's all scripted.. look at how these "reality" tv ppl coming out the woodworks to stay relevant.. pathetic really
She got really close to Scheana and that was how she got really close to the group
@@ellebee5607 eh easy to say but i think for the most part its real
I'm the same about dimwit Raquel. She didn't bring much her 1st season, so was it going on a whole lot longer than we are led to believe? I never realised she was best friends with Ariana, they seem such different people.
@@ellebee5607some of these people hang out beyond the cameras. Some don’t, sure but some do.
Raquel always sounds like she’s in the verge of crying. She takes those long pauses too like her brain is trying hard to form and articulate her thoughts. She’s not Bambi because her looks, she’s Bambi because there’s nothing behind those naive, baby, deer in the headlights eyes
Yes! Her talking sounds like her mouth always sounds so damn dry & she’s about to cry. What is that? Lol
Everyone needs to stop insulting Bambi! 🤣
She is the epitome of “Dumb as a box of rocks”(Raquel, Rachel whatever!)
ive met many people like that, and some have autism, or severe anxiety...shes showing signs of sheer anxiety...shes always been bullied on here...its abuse....
I like Lala. Free spirit says it like it is. She's also got a kind heart and fierce loyalty.
but she interferes with everyone business, no right to do that, but yet she wont let you bring up her past....
Lala is so real I love how she checks everyone and doesn’t hold back lol
And forgets to check her own self bully
checks everyone but herself , don't you love how she skates over her role as a mistress and screwing James while she was in a relationship as well as James oh yes lets just call her a saint!
Used to hate her , when she drank now i love her. Go lala
@@DennyFair Your so right! Real true!
Saint LaLa.
The podcast chemistry isn’t the every day chemistry. It’s good shit and IT wouldn’t be a BAD idea to pair up for real. It’s comfortable, it’s like I’m in the room, all my thoughts were being voiced, the cussing is always great. I love it.
Why is the cussing so great?
I'm totally agreeing! I love them both! Lol they do such a great job the vibe is on point and I'm here for it!
Really? I thought to myself "they are REALLY into themselves" in the first 5 minutes - and the feeling stuck.
I know so many people don’t like Lala, but I like her. I like her honesty and blunt personality.
I love her 😍
Lala & James have always been my favorite. They call it as they see it.
Honesty ? She is classless! And LVP has to have a brain injury to socialize with her!
@@Ab.eNormal the two biggest cheaters on the show? ones an alcoholic, the other abusive to women...la la is a bully,
its not a question of liking her....shes a bully...just because someone has a personality, doesn't mean they are right...lots of people speak with confidence, no-one listens to what they actually say..
Shwartz was disgusting telling Sandoval, how he doesn’t miss Katie at all and he is happy they broke up, in the most disgusting way. Like he is such a tool
hes just being honest
@@imapersonnotanumber8940Nah, he was just butthurt that she wasn’t giving him the attention.
I have a friend I met in kindergarten, we lived around the corner from each other from birth. We’re going to be 68 this summer and we’re still talking about all the crazy times. She and I both each have five children. She’s been married for close to 50 years, I’m a widow. We still stay in contact with many of our childhood, friends, neighbors and classmates we grew up with in L.A.
Lala has matured a lot over the years
Fucking a married bankrupt lover is not growing u 😂🤡
In my experience, the "best friends" out of nowhere is a huge red flag. Every. Time.
Growing up my dad was always so harsh to correct my voice if I sounded too whiny and I hated it. After hearing Raquel speak, I’m so happy he did that
Oh my gosh lol thank him! Tell him the world thanks him. Because I’ve NEVER been able to stand her speaking PERIOD, and I’ve also noticed she’s worked on it and changed it quite a bit, yet still!!!!!! It’s!!!!! UNBEARABLE!!! So I’m grateful your dad was real with you! All dads should be going forward lol now that one read your comment I will be thinking about that a lot.
All of their voices are whiny. I can barely listen to Scheana.
There is nothing worse than a whiny voice. It pierces you’re brain. It’s worse than monotone. It’s definitely good to guide kids out of that habit.
Most of these girl's have that voice that will make your ears bleed.
@@akelly4207 This is the first time I've heard this girl Sofia. Her voice makes me wanna to slap her.
I need y'all to start a podcast together. The mess would be AMAZING! I like" Cancelled " with Tana Mongue, and this episode gives me those vibes.
A gossip n a bully no thanks
Please kala is just as bad. Always talking about f@@@@
Yes! Great chemistry!
@@Jules-oo4rr 2:29 😊😊
you know have a daughter right? she’s going to see this. kids at school. grow up. stop this vile nonsense with every other word ef or pussy. save that for personal friends. your daughter will pay. spend some of your money and get a formal education. develop your knowledge base. change is good for you. 😊
I can’t with Lala! She’s so brutally honest and I’m obsessed! 😂💖👏🏽
It’s called authentic 👍🤣🤣
😂, I know I just wish you could tell the truth about herself being a whore sleeping with a married man lol. I mean who does that, being a homewrecker LOL. It's like the moment she push out her cash cow, Randall saw her as broken and went on to the next model. LOL OMG that's hilarious, whats even funnier, she thought Randall was going to stay with her. Karma is a bitch
Yeah that part is true she is real and at least owns her stuff
its called 'brutal'....
Having a friend that you can bullshit with and gossip with is sooo underrated! I like this duo.❤😂❤
What's so great about it, Lala literally goes on every podcast and talks crap. She's got nothing to offer the world except her mean girl gossip. And how she talk about people screwing other people's person. Well hello Lala you was that ish. How could you forget when you have your daughter to remind you. Don't ever forget that.
I think La La was given heads up from production about this affair. Truly - cause it just rolls this story line. This is big coin for everyone on this show now. Also La La is loving now someone is taking the relationship break up, and it ain’t her. also James what an absolute pig
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Me too! It would work for everyone aside from those that have succumbed to the power of jealousy.
@@australiamyway yep.. it's all fake "reality" trash tv😅
The blonde girl is so angry and aggressive. I do agree with her about trusting your gut when it comes to people; it doesn’t matter how nice they pretend to be, they can’t fake their energy.
I love that you don’t know who she is lol
@@MaryKMiles
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Eww go away
Lala is queen
I can not believe that she is communicating on things like she is so innocent
Lala the only one who made sense the whole season like period if ur best friends with someone and they got done dirty u no longer associate with the mf
I think Lala is an INTJ personality. Super intuitive, blunt, seemingly fearless and can smell insecurity, very insightful and knows she's not perfect but neither is anyone else.
I get ESTP vibes
I can see that or maybe ENTJ . I can see the Fi “I don’t like this girl and I think she’s an evil person”
I'm an INFJ, and the intuition thing she has I have.
For sure
She’s a virgo
You both have so much chemistry!! Need to see you guys podcasting together more often!
I really like LALA. She speaks her mind & definitely puts her child's well being first as it should be.
PS, Great design of the coach.
Love that Lala said if her “husband” messed around on her she would be done. Been there, done that (not married, but was engaged). I cut him off and wouldn’t even talk to him, moved out the same day. About a month later he came and knocked at my door, when I opened it he was on his knees begging me to take him back, I slammed the door on him and have never looked back…I have ZERO tolerance for that crap…If you want to screw around, break up with the person first, you aren’t going to have your cake and eat it at my expense, EVER…
You are my spirit animal! I didn't give second chance either. I shut the door first time and never looked back.
Bro I love lala. She comes off so genuine to me. Not saying she’s perfect cuz NONE of us are but idk I just dig her vibe I love it
I am an older viewer of VPR and have grown to really like Lala. I like that she’s mouthy and genuine - it cuts through what must be a lot of BS around her. As for the Toms… Schwartz has always driven me nuts and I see Caty’s anger as reactive. Sandoval has always been selfish ego/attention driven (hello? Cocktail book?). Frankly, the women on the show are shining. Schwartz and Sandy should be renamed “Covert and Overt” (Narcissist Bar and Lounge).
Ohhh, love this moniker for them, thanks for sharing, hope you don’t mind if I use it elsewhere, I will give you credit for it…
just one question if Schwarz so bad, why did Katy marry him....see the early series, 'tequila Katy' and her other friends...bullies...
😂 Lala ... "then it's like she powers down, do we need to plug her in, I know there's an outlet like literally right here, do one of y'all wanna plug your friend in" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love it! ❤
ONLY Tom S. Thinks he is a rock star. Most think he is a narcissistic joke 😂😅😂😂😂
As a 54-year-old viewer, I agree with Lala. I felt a shift at 25. At 25, I finished my Masters, got a real job, and got married. It is time to grow up.
Lala lives in LA and Sofia lives in NYC so I don’t think they can make a podcast together, but love that they appear on each others shows because they have great banter 🎉
So I’m gonna drop this bomb but who else agrees with me that Racquel is a call her daddy type guest that’s why I watch Sofia with an F and that’s why she has Lala Kent on as her guest.
Agree about Raquell. Here's my question. Her dad didn't like James, what do you think he thinks about Sandival? He is 50 X worse than James.
Oh, she definitely calls Daddy crying "They're being mean to me." She's 27 and still a baby deer lost in the headlights who blames her f'ups on everyone else.
She’s almost 29.
I love Lala ~ she is one smart cookie. I see her becoming a huge star after this show. She’s on her way to do great things.. just watch.
Lala is fiercely intelligent. Love her or hate her, she is indisputably brilliant 👏
I agree
I wouldn't call her intelligent more like street smart.
Humility is more attractive than arrogance
I don’t understand why Layla is going on these interviews?!?! She & Raquel is one & the same. She literally slept with Raquel’s fiancé James & smiled in her face everyday?!?!?! I’m so confused
LaLa wasn't Rachel/Raquel’s close friend - big difference
Cheaters having a moral high ground now weve seen it all.... u justified how u had zero role to play in hurting randalls then wife.... i mean the things u gotta repeat to wash down ur guilt
Lala is my girl !! The friend everyone needs
a lot of the times people who have taken drugs in their teens seem stuck in that immature mindset when they're 30 40 and even older..
I've seen it happen to people before.
Lala ALWAYS makes excuses for herself, when it comes to hooking up with Randall. Very transparent.
She's obsessed with the whole Tom and Rachel thing. She somehow thinks she's better then Rachel but she isn't. In fact she's worse bc she's making a career outta talking about the girl.
That's 4 sure he probly told her he was married n she didn't give a shit all she thought of $$$$
not a fan of the way she discusses sex. It's low class and makes her look like trash. She needs to not broadcast herself being such a whore. That guy she screwed in havasu looked like he had AIDS. Not a good look.
Didn’t he abuse her? Obviously being with someone like that isn’t going to be a regular situation
I mean have a lil humble pie everyone knew u were creeping w a married man but its ok when u do it cuz u can move in a way that will whitewash it? N james is the other one .... god the irony of it all
I love when you show your heart on the show Lala. It’s real. It’s not pushing the caricature of you.
This was so entertaining. I actually just found this channel in my feed and I loved it. This was so much fun. I love LaLa. She doesn't spit no bs.
Rachel was at Miraval Spa and Resort. It’s not a mental health facility, there are NO therapists or psychologists there, that was just her people trying to garner sympathy for her.
I know exactly what you mean about the eyes. I see that too in people. Raquel has no boundaries. She doesn’t clearly see the lines. She does have something going on, for sure. She is NOT in the same category as Sandoval, he is beyond help. He knows what he’s doing.
Bahahahahaha Lala dragging Sofia for being a cheater is giving me life.
I literally just don’t understand cheating under almost any circumstance. Not with Rachel and Sandoval, not with Sofia and her past relationships, not with Lala and James. Cheating as revenge isn’t worth it either. Know your worth y’all, if u get cheated on, leave. If you want to cheat on your partner, leave.
The only thing that would have made this all worth it is if stassy and jax were still on the show and they could completely thrash him
I would love if they brought Jax back. It appears from his interviews that he has grown and become a nicer person.
I wonder if they stayed would Raquel have had an affair with Jax instead of Tom?
The efficiency of this *usespy online is next level.* To juggle walk throughs of various angles on devices delivered to-camera, differnet content per app from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined access. To make a dense non tracable like this so digestible is really something. Awesome work !!!
Been in the same situation as Arianna but my friend I knew for over 40 years. I stayed ( I know crazy) but after 28 yrs marriage I wasn’t willing to fuck my family up and that crazy Bitch wasn’t getting my money. I live in a 50/50 state. LOTS of therapy. Karma is a bitch l, I just hope I will be standing on the sideline to watch. Thank God Arianna has such good friends like you. I had NOBODY
Yesss Hispanic families comment on weight immediately. They usually like u a little thicker so if I walk into my abuelos house and they tell me I look “healthy” I know I’m looking thiccc LOL
I hate when my dad tells me I look "healthy"!!!!! How rude are they for telling us that?!? lol
I like it much better when he tells me I look like an advertisement for a concentration camp lololol (not even kidding he says that, but not recently :-( ...)
I agree with Sofia when it comes to discussing weight in the Latin culture. As much as we are very family oriented, this is one thing that annoys tf out of me. There’s no happy medium.
My Gramma does this too - it's a guarantee if she says I look great or healthy I've put on weight 😂
You ladies bring up a good point about Rachel’s seeming arrested development. I don’t know much about her past, but maybe she experienced some type of trauma in middle school. Often, a person who experiences trauma like that will be “arrested“ in their development at the age when the trauma happened. Could explain some of her very childish behavior.
A very cuddled , little wealthy pageant girl. Stunted her maturity.
@@BH19780 you obviously don’t watch the show or didn’t pay ANY attention to her storyline. Like Lala said, and I’m glad to hear her admit it, because it’s been soooo obvious for a LONG time that the girl is struggling and has a lot of issues, she is broken and needs some legit help, that her family should have identified early on given her traumatic start to life & how confusing her upbringing must have been for her. Her own mother didn’t want her, so her sister (Aunt) ended up raising her, but her mother was still around, just didn’t want anything to do with her. Imagine how that must feel to a person. To know that your actual mother is so close but never wanted anything to do with you? I think that’s why she looked for validation and acceptance through things like the pageants, and why she was SO upset that she no longer qualified to enter them after this year; people were making fun of her for crying and getting upset about that, but I can see how that probably was a big deal to someone in her situation. She definitely has abandonment issues, and cannot be alone. She’s going to need professional help and guidance to help her figure that out & learn how to be on her own & not be co-dependent. Someone like her, sadly, is a deeply vulnerable person who was just ripe for a narcissistic sociopath like Sandoval to take advantage of.
Now, she did a LOT of things wrong here, for sure, and she’s NOT without blame, but Tom was definitely the one in control of this whole situation. Control being the key factor.
Very well said and I totally agree👍 Similar to Kenya on Housewives of Atlanta. Raquel for sure needs some help..
so if fully aware of this well why not be empathetic...or just carrying on bullying her and calling her 'dumb;///la la annihilated and abused Rachel so much in one episode it was awful.. btw if she thinks shes a broken soul, why did she abuse her so much.....la la so loud and bullish, no one will disagree with her...
@@Ladybird.21 also like a narcissistic psychopath like la la to abuse her so much....that was brutal..and la la knew she was vulnerable...la la is awful and to other women...the weaker they were, throughout all the seasons, shes bullied so many people....just because she is loud, does not mean she is right...
Hello the two toms are not accountable for their actions, they dodge issues and try to pick at other’s problems rather than elaborate on their own , they find it easy to highlight other’s weaknesses. while avoiding working to better themselves , they have not played fair up to now , they won’t be able to hide anymore 🏴
I freaking LOVE Lala! She is smart, beautiful, and real!! I love that she doesn't hold back, and I LOVE that she's honest and doesn't sugar coat things to make other people feel better. And I agree with everything she said on here. I feel sorry for Sofia. She's a lost soul like Raquel. I pray she changes.
Well… I see why Alexandra and her no longer share a podcast lol. Very different styles.
This was so fun to watch though! I’m a fan now. It’s self deprecating and just such real ass girl talk. This is how women really speak to one another and I love this! I also love the humility… like ok… we have room to grow. Mama is a subscriber ❤😊
What part of this was self deprecating? She started off with "my B game is everyone else's A game"
bitching and bullying...im ashamed to be a a woman when they act like this..and its not how women speak to each other...
I would watch a show where Lala just had conversations with random strangers and then shared her opinion and gut reaction with the viewer. Then I would see if matched my own gut feeling
Lala I want you to know you have and always will continue to be my favorite person on vanderpump rules and I have watched it since the beginning I am a thirty-seven-year-old mother of five and you have never said anything that I disagree with and as somebody who is also living a sober life I am so proud of you
You two need to start a podcast together!! The chemistry is amazing!
YES! I totally can relate! When your family sees you after not seeing you for a few years and ya get this “You’ve gained some weight but that’s okay” 😂 It’s ok now, I have worked on myself but it does stick 😂
I love this episode SO MUCH.
The act of cheating is EXTREMELY immature. If you've cheated in almost every relationship, you need to do some serious self improvement.
I relate to lala so much, that gut feeling is a super power, and its always right ❤ love her
There's a difference between seeing a medium whose speaking to the dead and a prophet. Lala calling out Raquel and saying she will have a breakdown..that's a gift. God told her that.
I swear Lauren and I would probably be really good friends, we keep things 100 & im always observing people, being clairsentient about their energy, and looking out for all of my loved ones. When it came to the eyes I understood what she meant! Im always noticing people's eyes, some full of life, some broken, and others just pitch black; like dead.... it's a real thing. I even observed Raquelles eyes in the show so it's crazy to hear her say that! As an empathetic clairsentient I think Lala would love spirituality, she definitely seems like she has a gift.
look in her eyes....you see nothing....socipathic stare
Personally I love seeing the growth of everybody and would love seeing there families and what's going in there lives!! I love seeing Ocean and Summer moon!! Brock is awesome and should be on full-time
Sofia, if you cheated on every guy you date - you're the definition of a cheater...
I didn’t know who any of these people were less than a year ago. After Scandoval, now I’m on s9 😭
There were so many SIGNS!!!
Bring Lala back! What a down to Earth bad ass combo 👯.
Hell to the NO
Lala is nothing but a mean girl
This was a great podcast duo! These girls made me laugh, I love their friendship hahah
My first time here and this is great! Love your energy and conversation together. So real and natural. Organically perfect! That's what's up! 👏 👏 👏❤
I'm excited for you ladies because the more up in age you will become over time, your gut feelings will be so strong. You're right! It IS superpower!! Well said.
sign of a narcotic to credit yourself with a super power...it isnt...its a gut feeling....
we need more Lala and Sofia content!!!
Lala is a Virgo, us virgos gut feeling are always right, we can always see through things, we just don’t always say.
Lala needs to mind her own business. She has no room to talk. She thinks she's so gangsta.
La La is everything! I love that girl.🤩🙌🏻
It is always easier to spot issues with others than ourselves. Lala is spot on about most things. I think Rachel has major issues and one of those girls that values guys wanting to sleep with her more so than a true friendship with a girl that is her best friend. Rachel is diabolical and disgusting but I believe she may be able to work through issues and is not a lost cause. Sandoval and maybe Randall I think are narcissist lost causes. At this point they keep repeating the same behavior and are almost 50. I can’t wait to see Ariana and Lala killing in future and bring in great relationships in future!
Lala speaks truth and is correctly Critical cause we are virgos and always have been able to read and see thru people .
This man really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute to *Team usespy online.* The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of spy levels. Cheers Alex & looking forward to seeing what you do next!
Every time Lala says “literally” I think of Chris Traeger from parks and rec 😂
If Lala didn't have Tom and Rachel to talk about she wouldn't have a storyline.
Not much of a star.
She has a lot going on, its horrible. Focusing on her friends drama is prob a welcome distraction.
@@Dream.builderExactly my point! If she focused on her own problems as much as she dose other people's issues, she might have an easier time resolving her own, but then, she'd have nothing to talk about. She's really not that intesting.
@@dianaguenzler2897 Maybe your right but to be fair, lala is a smart, beautiful, person with a strong personality, i'm sure if she wanted to create a storyline she could. She could take James from Allie, she could take Raquel under her wing and turn her into a minion, which would be hilarious, Raquel would love it, everyone would be pissed (basically good tv)...like a female tom and tom but instead La and Ra, anyway point is instead of creating waves, she's a spectator right now, so she doesn't go off the deep end, because REAL horrible things are happening in her life, she is a recovering alcoholic she needs to preserve her sanity. I think thats what she's doing.
@@Dream.builder Sorry, I won't debate you. I have never respected women like Lala. Looks have nothing to do with it. It's about character. She's a busy body who likes it when others look bad so she doesn't look so stupid. She does it to Sheena and Rachel in the beginning while she was with James. She's awful to people.
I've never loved Lala more than this season. She is spot on about everyone.
what if someone told la la what she was really like? was spot on about her?
@@imapersonnotanumber8940I’m sure she’s already been told. At least shes growing and learning from her past mistakes
Omg Lala nailed it all the way around. Haha who would have guessed. Go Lala
OMG LALA n SOFIA I AM HERE FOR IT! I LOVE HER! VIRGO POWER! Lala literally has fakechel's mannerisms down boy n I love it. My husband was cracking up when he seen lala say are u rebooting n he don't watch this show.
what Rachel did was so horrific that there's no excuse in the world for it. However that doesn't make Lala right in the way she's treated her all season. .I know LaLa's going through a lot right now but she's coming off as mean-spirited and nasty and quite frankly as a bully that's preying on somebody that's clearly not as skilled at arguing as she is. Her treatment of Rachel this season had nothing to do with defending Ariana because she didn't know about it at the time. Her standing on a soapbox of morality considering her life choices and at least twice we know of she's hooked up with a guy that either had a wife or a girlfriend is so hypocritical. I have always been a huge Lala fan. Bought some of her make up, some of her merch . But after this season I'm honestly so sick of seeing and hearing her that I don't know if I'll ever be a fan again.
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Have you ever been gaslit? When it happens, you pick up on weird behaviors, you ask the person directly… hey is something happening? They say no… but still behave strangely. You are left feeling crazy and it’s incredibly frustrating. I believe, this is what Lala was experiencing during that time. Unconsciously, she was poking and prodding (verbally) to get a reaction to assess their behavior and determine what is happening. I think we could all learn something from her because what she did was trust her instincts and protect herself and her friends. It’s not our job to be nice to people, it’s our job to protect ourselves… and if we all felt safe and protected, I bet a lot more people would be “nice”.
In life, if you ever find yourself just not liking a person, but you can’t really place why…. trust your instincts and move on, because your body chemistry is reacting and you should listen! Be nice where you can but PLEASE be the nicest to yourself!
LLa stop bullying raquel your way worse and nobody blames tom always the woman
@@CouchDetective Not. She had an instinct as we all do. That doesn't mean sht. Lala is a mean girl.
No you are misinterpretting - she is coming across nasty and mean spirited because she is Nasty and Mean spirited - do you really need to have people point this out to you ?
La, here is the Empath side of your gift seeing and feeling the broader picture..Expand on that sensitive 💫 side of yourself, meditate, and ground yourself daily, every morning. Thank your bad memories for what they have taught you and let them go, by grounding❤ Hugs always 😊 @Lala Kent
Knowing that Lala was abstinent for over a year somehow makes me feel at peace for some of the times in my life lol
Bad ass duo right here.
Loved this. What a duo!!!! I can see you guys being best friends
No way Lala would bff up with this one. Sofia cheats in 100% of her relationships, and she bailed from the bathroom during a seemingly benign get-together with other female friends. Lala doesn't ignore flapping red flags. She notices the palest of pink flags and moves way out of their way. Conversely, Lala "plays Hollywood" well and is polite to lousy people. Lala is growing into a solid woman.
@@lisahathaway1614 lmao relax. Don’t need a thesis. I just like them both
@@amwarl18 Totes relaxed, that was a dissertation btw sweetie, 😘
Lala is a joke. She calls Sofia out how many times for cheating? I loved Sofia’s response.
Blah Blah just a fame ho !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LaLa is classless with a trucker mouth! Never liked her! She is no better than any other woman that has cheated!
when lala said that she called raquel was going to have a mental breakdown in 2017 but has been aggressive with rachel for years is sooo bad. like lala you didnt call it you actually might have pushed her towards it
Wait & Randall was married when they were together?!?! No wonder you knew who Raquel was because you are the same!!
Randall lied to Lala about his marriage. Don't point your finger without knowing all the facts
Lala is 100000% CORRECT. There is no measure to infidelity, infidelity is infidelity. Done.
She should know she's boning everyone
why is this Lala person upset Rachel called her a mistress. She IS a mistress. Didnt she have an affair with a married man? Geese what a hypocrite.
I think Raquel probably took some kind of nerve pill for reunion.
LOVE LALA!!! Smart..gorgeous and speaks the truth. THIS Sophia girl..box of rocks..sooooo LA😮
Lala… I 100% feel you. Never ever doubt your intuition. I am the same way. It is sometimes hard to explain it is just a strong knowing! And always proven right in the end
How old was Lala when she started seeing Randell? I guess she forgot how dirty she did his wife.
24 I think
She didn’t get the “send it to Darryl” Comment which made it even funnier 😭😂❤️
I am so glad that you see that Raquel has had some sole destroying issues. I relate and I feel like Tom Sandoval will use her emotionally and financially like he's grooming her. He has taken his mom's retirement money. He sees that and I hope that she gets the help. He wants it to be her that's named but all the while doing this he's not helping ❤😮
Let me fix this for you. Raquel is a vapid, shallow wannabe who gets ALL of her validation from the attention of someone else
Sadly,,i think Sandoval really had feelings for Raquel but ONLY because of how she made him feel about himself not for who she actually is/ was
her lipgloss is poppin!
& i’m a mom!!!! loved this
Loved this episode!! Though it’s def not less bad to “just cheat on your man” vs sleeping with your friends man. Both ways, it’s deep betrayal.
I’m an introvert with very few friends in general. I share more with my live-in long term partner in general both physically and emotionally than with any of my girlfriends. I would never cheat but just can’t fathom how betraying my man would be less evil than that of one of my friends of whom I don’t spend even a fraction of my time with.
Sofia clearly invested more time and trust into her friendships, so that’s fair and I can understand why she feels that way. But to say it’s less evil to do that to someone whom your share your body with vs someone you party and have girlie talk brunches with, makes my stomach turn.
It’s like imagine a guy saying the same about how he would never sleep with his friends gfs but will regularly cheat on his own gfs? Yeah it’s against bro code but there’s a clear underlying hatred and distrust for women to cheat on them constantly that they should probably look into.
I agree it’s not less bad, but female friendships are more than partying and brunches. My platonic friendships are more emotionally intimate than any relationship I’ve had with a sexual partner. Trust me when I say, it was a bigger betrayal from my best friend when her and my boyfriend slept together. And I loved him. Being an introvert isn’t an excuse for having a shallow opinion of friendship. I urge you to seek out just one fulfilling friendship outside your romantic relationship.
@@mermaidcatching Would I be correct to assume you knew your best friend longer than your boyfriend? That also matters tremendously. Ariana knew Tom way longer than her and Raquel. Both hurt I’m sure but not as bad as the other in that case. I don’t believe my outlook on female friendships is shallow, it’s just I’ve only had shallow females as friends which is problematic of itself. My last relationship was with a 5 year sober alcoholic so that goes to say none of my girlfriends were interested in any non drinking activities unfortunately. I would honestly love to find deeper friendships with women outside of my own family. Luckily my sisters and cousins are amazing and a huge part of my life.
@@ValleyRose21 no I met them around the same time. I actually met them both through the same mutual friend. That may say more about that mutual friend lol I don’t think the length of a relationship determines the quality though. My best friend and I had a soul connection from the moment we met. We were able to move past the betrayal after a lot of difficult conversations.
As for people who are seemingly more interested in drinking buddies than genuine friendship, I’d say alcohol can easily become a social crutch if it’s not just a youthful phase. I’d recommend having an honest conversation about it with anybody you want to have a better connection with. I had a tough chat recently with my friend of 10+ years because we both individually felt we didn’t spend enough quality time together. She in particular felt that I only ever wanted to drink but I felt I could only ever get her to come hangout for big events. It was very enlightening and now we’re planning a sober vacation!
I’ve always loved Lala, literally from the start. She and James are the WHOLE show! OMG they are the best and keep me laughing!
Sophia is a pick me girl … she tries to always agree just to seem cool lmfao 🤣 the fact that she got called out for cheating after pretending she’s a good person says it all