Q&A: design reccs + breakups ...
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00:00 - Intro
5:13 - Thanks to Wayfair :)
6:54 - favorite Beauty podcast
7:37 - the most underrated TV show
8:29 - where i shop for clothes
10:08 - how to not be a people pleaser
12:10 - new sofa PILLOWS
12:57 - Jennifer Aniston ❤️
13:39 - my family
14:36 - why i'll never get a dog again
15:23 - being HAPPY vs. being WELL
16:16 - lighting recommendations
16:49 - my brother
16:53 - how i started on UA-cam
19:28 - self confidence
20:12 - some narcissism
21:20 - how to start learning about interior design
22:21 - Germany
22:36 - navigating BREAKUPS
24:02 - how my brand sponsorships work
24:51 - productivity vs BURNOUT
27:19 - working out
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Hey Caroline, as a recovered people pleaser I wanna share something that was transformative for me: The people most worth keeping in your life are the ones most respectful of your own needs, people who love you won’t just be ok with you saying no- they will WANT you to tell them when you’re tired, uncomfortable, upset etc. There’s a Buddhist proverb that goes like “If your compassion does not extend to yourself, it is incomplete.” We can’t call ourselves fully kind if we neglect ourselves and treat ourselves as less worthy than others. It often comes from a place of grief of some sort, which unfortunately has to be processed by feeling it. There’s no way around that. Someone or something in the past puts the idea that we are lesser in our heads. It’s not inborn.
@Dramallama , thank you for sharing these helpful thoughts....much appreciated.
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Damnit, that hit me right in my childhood. 😬👍
Jesus said, "Love your neighbor as yourself." If you don't love yourself, you can't love anybody else.
Ooof this is so true
I'm not sure how to say this, but...I watch several popular channels, mostly designers. And the content is enjoyable and it's fun to see their homes or projects evolving. But, I do want to thank you for sharing yourself on a deeper level. A lot of folks who are doing this seem to focus on endless updates to their spaces and just acquiring more stuff...that seems to be their hook. But, here I do feel the larger appeal is, simply put, your insight into humanity. I get to go, "Oh yeah, I feel that", and I can usually pull some bits of wisdom from your experience to help me better process my own. Anyway, a long-winded way to say...thanks for being real, open, and relatable.
“Oh yeah, I feel that.”
This made me tear up. It’s so accurate. Thanks ❤
This makes me really glad to hear ❤thanks Natalie
100 percent agree
This channel is the first one that made me feel like maybe I can create and be artistic designing my home
yes! this is exactly how I feel
I agree with you about how many folks on UA-cam are all about acquiring more stuff...it often gets annoying and I find myself not watching some of them regularly. Why is it so important to accumulate more and more stuff? I love how Caroline has a lovely, comfortable home without constantly buying, buying, buying more stuff. Her videos relating to real life feelings and experiences that we all have had at some point are some of my favorite ...I think she is just amazing and REAL and I love it.
As a dog behaviorist THANK YOU for pointing out how much work caring for a dog (responsibly) is. Many selfish people don’t realize they are neglecting their “fur baby”.
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I have a dog now and would've never gotten myself into this, had I known how difficult and demanding it is. Don't get me wrong - I love my dog SO much, I work from home, so she's never alone, she's walked three times a day (high-energy breed) and she's living her best life. But I'm never putting myself in this situation again. I've also advised a few friends who were considering not getting one since I saw they had no clue what it means to own a dog, they were traveling/partying a lot, rarely at home, etc. And there's nothing more heart breaking than a neglected dog, who's then getting punished for misbehaving.
@@dodgethis_ me too! I had a dog and loved her so much till she passed away, but I'm thinking maybe retirement but no time soon. So much to care for other living beings. They are magical and lovely and worth it, but life is easier without.
Oh man it’s so much work. I love the pups in my life and I’m glad they’re with people who can give them the attention they need
I finally got another dog, she is a german shorthaired pointer/border collie….HIGH energy, I got her at 7.5 weeks old from the shelter, she was 5.5 weeks old when dropped off….i’ve had many dogs, never this breed/s but i specifically wanted either one of these, so she was selected specifically. I knew the work to come, taken from her mother at such a young age, and the working dog mentally….that’s a blend of behaviors to use and curb…I was ready for the challenge. Never get a dog to be your accessory, they’re living creatures and are hardwired in most of their behaviors. Too. any border collies are returned to shelters because people have zero concept how driven to work working dogs are, sun up to sun fiwn, 4 paws on the floor and ready to go. I put my dog into a nap every 2 hours, otherwise she wouldn’t lay down, i’ve watched never lay down when i’m in the yard all day. I have to take nap breaks. Very smart of you and it’s a good message to share, that goes with having children too, no one really has a concept of the pre teen and teen years, it’s worth it, but it can be draining too.
I have never in my life had someone make me feel ok about all my dreams being dead. Thank you. 🖤🖤
Hahahah yeah I’ve found there aren’t a ton of hallmark cards for this one
I have a chronic degenerative condition. The changes and compromises I have had to make, are at times, heartbreaking; but being a witness to the growth and fortitude navigating change is reassuring and inspiring.
@@Caroline_Winkler well, if you ever decided you want to produce merchandise, greeting cards for disappointing milestones might be just the thing!
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Okay okay hear me out: Strategic Disappointment. When my MIL has wild expectations of me or my boss is a ridiculous narcissist who can't be pleased, it is FOOD FOR THE SOUL to disappoint them. Look them in the eyes and tell them you didn't do the thing they expected from you. It's so cleansing I highly recommend it.
Thank you!
But ... if you do that to your boss, won't you get fired? 😰
🙌I think you’re on to something. The “strategic” part is so accurate bc I finally realized that by trying to say yes to people all the time, you’re actually misleading them, setting an expectation that you won’t be able to uphold longterm. Better to strategically communicate the standard that can be healthily maintained long term
This is such an elegant solution 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you🤗
I love that idea, and here’s my strategic disappointment story that felt freaking amazing. This time of year charities park themselves in front of grocery store entrances. Some are respectful, some badger you all the way to the car. Few weeks ago a lady followed people around waving a jar demanding “Will you support Teen Challenge? Will you support Teen Challenge? Will YOU support TEEN CHALLENGE??” Everyone looked sheepishly down and mumbled their responses. She made a beeline for me and screeched “Will you support Teen Challenge???” I turned around and calmly looked her right in the eye and said “NO.” And got into my car. Boy that felt empowering.
I upended my whole life at 63 after my ex boyfriend said it was over, he couldn’t make me happy, according to him. Three days later my daughter offered a room to me at her home in a different state. I packed up my SUV immediately, and was gone in 4 hours. Quit my job the next business day. He and I were house hunting for a home I was going to buy for us, him not admitting his true feelings the entire time. He is fearful avoidant, and I’m co-dependent. Working on me now, enjoying my daughter, grandson and Ohio.
Enjoy the family autumn season! 🥰❤️🍂🍁
I hope you find a home which you can make your safe/happy place where you can flourish!
this is exciting! congratulations! i like how you moved quickly and didn’t overthink it.
@@uslee19 Well said. As a European who loves in America I agree.
Good for you! That’s truly awesome!!
Dogs are not a hobby, they are a lifestyle.
Caring for a dog is like taking care of a toddler.
Dogs are awesome! They are the perfect companion.
One of the rare channels that have insightful, articulate commenters with good grammar. Yay! I appreciate and enjoy reading the comments as much as watching Caroline. Quite fulfilling. ❤️
I've noticed that, too, and I made a similar comment a few videos ago. 🙂 I sometimes wonder whether some people have ISPs that charge extra for punctuation, capital letters, and grammar.
Is this one of the rare comments that *have* good grammar? 😜😅🙃
@@breitfart5285 *races in to copy comment and paste in spell-checker....
to quote the Dowager: it's ill-advised to take sides in the end of a relationship. No matter how everyone strives for honesty, no one will ever be in possession of all the facts.
And she had the BEST quotes!
Wow so good. And you know it’s true because most of us struggle to fully ever understand everything about ourselves…let alone someone else
@@Caroline_Winkler amen and hallelujah, with a hanky wave.
I agree and...have always wondered WHY take sides !@*&! Hmmm..
I now want to re-watch the series all over for a third time hehe
So thankful you started UA-cam! I only watch researchers, documentaries, preppers, slow living homestead channels . . . and then Caroline! You are such a great combo of effervescent + deep + great at storytelling for youtube (no easy task!) We are all grateful for finding you on here.
Yup, I watch homestead, true crime, and then Caroline!
@@Iris-gy2misameeeeee
I'm not seeing as much Jen Anniston as I am seeing and hearing Zoey Deschanel from New Girl. She's beautiful and articulate in her role as Jess - - also you have the same self-deprecation, charm and humor. You're so perfect for YT, so natural. Authentic. I don't subscribe to anything less, on this platform or in life. I'm always rooting for you, and genuinely wishing you well. Proud of you. 🧡
Agree!
Also most definitely agree!
Yes, their voices sound similar. She's just missing the 4 male roomates.
I only see the duchess Kate.
Even though I liked this comment, I just want to say that what I like best about you, is that you are different from anyone else, and are so uniquely you!
I saw a quote from Bob Marley I believe, that said something like “ everyone is going to disappoint you. You just have to figure out who’s worth suffering for” and that helped me because I people please but I would get disappointed when friends were busy with their lives (completely reasonable that they were busy) and that quote made me realize that yeah, people have their lives and so much to do and sometimes they (or I) can’t fit everything in. So that helped me. Also I love your content. You’re so different than other UA-camrs. I feel like you’re more real. Thanks for letting us in a little bit! Fingers crossed for you and Street Man xo
I love the whole "you have to disappoint" mindset. I'm a mom of six, a grandmother of 19, and I have a part-time job, a best friend/ husband, and have finally reached the place in life in which I don't feel the need for another dog. You're so right -- a dog is a commitment, another part-time job, and they're expensive. Prioritizing is a skill we all need to learn and keep learning.
For the people pleasing: look up things like "unlearning codependency," "learning healthy boundaries" etc. That has helped me IMMENSELY.
Tips, hmm let's see: instead of following the fawn response instinct of rushing in to diffuse conflict, remind yourself: "let them have their experience." "I am not responsible for controlling/mitigating other people's emotions." Also, start to pay attention to how you feel into the energy of a room or situation (even before you get there! This is a trauma response thing) to subconsciously change your behavior, demeanor, etc, to make sure others are comfortable aka to prevent or reduce conflict. Just like take notice of it. The more you catch it, the more you can start to unlearn it, with things like "I *deserve* to have *my own* experience (aka not the one that best suits others).
👆👆👆👆yes to this. Very codependent and reading about this helped a lot. Definitely recommend
Thank you for this 💕
Some incredibly true advice 💖🙏
Yes to this x100! At one point I noticed that I always tried to get the best outcome for everybody in group situations, e.g. if people can’t agree on where to eat. Then I was leading whole negotiations like I was the UN chair or something. I later figured out that these situations often resolve rather quickly if I just clearly state what *I* would like to do and then just see how it all turns out. Outcome for me is basically the same without the added stress. Still blows my mind even though it’s so simple.
An infamous intellectual once said:
"Happiness isn't something that you can precisely pursue...you shouldn't pursue what should be a side effect of other pursuits...
...it's something that you accept with good graces when it happens to descend upon you"
It changed the way I looked at life forever ❤
CS Lewis said that contentment is the goal. Happiness occurs in parts along the way.
I heard love is not a feeling, it's an ability. Maybe same with happiness...
"Identifying where not to get straight A's is a huge part of being an adult." One of the best pieces of insight and advice I've come across.
Oy I was just thinking about this last night! If everyone is happy with my B and C level why am I killing myself to do A all the time for everything?
I should not get as excited as I do when I see an upload from you! Between your design content and your candid, vulnerable and hilarious vlog content- it’s just perfect!
Why not get excited? It's good lol.
@@tlovehater fair enough!
your sponsor segments are great, i think they've gotten slightly more polished over time but the fact that your personality doesn't shift into 'sales mode' is why i don't skip them
I came for the decorating, stayed for the sass, got hooked on your fully alive, open, vulnerable, bold self. And I vote for more Q&A.
Caroline, your honest and from-the-hip remarks are refreshing. I feel my people-pleasing ways were reinforced by my mom who was trying to raise 7 kids solo while my dad worked his butt off in jobs to support us all. But in her later years, she became more conscious of what that was doing to me...and her. Her advice to me as a young adult was, "That's wonderful that you were offered that new job with more responsibilities. Your boss must appreciate you. But do you have the strength to say no? It's time." She was right. She's gone now, but I carry her words with me.
I love your channel, style, and humor. Keep on keeping on....
The "Having my dream die gave me freedom" and "I'm not actually good at knowing what will make me happy" are so powerful and IMO way undersaid lines here on UA-cam/social media. For context, I watch pretty varied stuff but among that I watch quite a lot of "entrepeneur", Gary Vee, Alex Hormozi type content and I think a serious acknowledgment of having to kill your dreams, and that self awareness is actually really hard seems like a breath of fresh air to me. Most money content is basically "it's simple but hard, you just gotta work" and i guess it is true, but acknowledging that hard work is not enough many times is just as important when trying to make sense of the world.
I literally had a relationship for 5 years JUST like this with many breakups but also with so much love. Love just wasn't enough because we wanted different things, and we could never "figure it out". Thank you for sharing about your story because it makes me feel so seen. I felt a lot of shame for it, so it's nice to know other people have very similar relationships. ♥
“Figuring it out” oof. So hard to conceive that sometimes the 2 sides of the bridge just don’t connect.
Kim and Caroline!
I have a question for you, what if I have everything in a relationship but don’t have love. I have been battling this for over four years now and interested to hear what your thoughts are. When I say no love I mean no feelings of love. He loves me but I feel like I am only with him because how nice and a great person he is and how he treats me but I don’t have any feelings for him. Caroline you mentioned “Love is not enough to make a relationship work” what is enough to make a relationship work? And should/can it be done without romantic feelings?
I feel like I’m the one who is like your ex who will never fully make my significant one happy because I don’t have any loving feelings in return. Unless a miracle happens but it’s been 4.5 years now. Any thoughts?
@@passionmeetsdance2024 end your relationship. You said he's nice and a great person. He doesn't deserve a relation like this.
He loves you but is he happy? Maybe he knows that you don't love him, maybe he dreams that one day you'll love him. Maybe he loves you so much that believes that his love is enough.
You're happy with the way he treats you, do the same for him and let him find someone who really loves him. Find someone you can love.
Yes, love is not enough but you need it. There will be difficult situations that you both will endure, you will need that mutual love to deal with them.
You can be happy in a relation even if you don't love each other but you have a mutual understanding. This is not the case.
The story of your relationship is so relatable. The co-dependency, the fight-makeup-cycles, trying to break up multiple times, and then the sudden realization that you just can't go on and have been so thoroughly worn down that you need to go NOW. It's like your survival instinct is kicking it. It's hard, it sucks, you can't eat or sleep, but then you get out and from that day on you start to heal.
I divorced at 70 when my ex descended into deep depression & health issues for which he refused to seek help. I’m now with a much younger man (what!?) and enjoying life again. Still love my ex but can no longer cope with his issues I have no control over.
Thanks for your honest and forthrightness.
Ah wow. That must have been very tough for you both. I’m so glad you’re in a better place for you now, with new love ❤️❤️❤️
And please do some “starting from scratch” videos for your workouts!! Will definitely motivate me to get started back up again.
Yes! I'm in the same position and would love content like this.
May both your sweaters and your relationships be pill-free! The parallels show a whole mindset shift. I think you'll be successful and rewarded with warmth - inside and out!
Ok girl....I'm 5 minutes in and I'm gonna stop right here and finish making my sweet potato pound cake with dulce de Leche and pecans cuz I wanna eat it, drink coffee and watch you. By the way your broadcast are FIRMLY written down in my weekly Happy planner. I'm grateful I finally found a use for these teeny tiny dinosaur stickers I have. YES!
ALSO...I relate to what your living out more than I can say on this format. Whew Chile ok?
Your doing swell Hon and we're proud of you. Thanks for the amazing content. I originally came for decor ( just moved into a 3 story townhouse on the river with a weird layout) and stayed for the witty banter, your mental breakdowns ,your lovely family and of course the mega drama that is STREETMAN...
Keep being the YOU that only YOU can be ✌🏾
Sweet potato pound cake with dulce de leche and pecans???😮🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤 recipe please
"Weekly Happy planner"? Whaaaaat?
This is genius.
Save me a slice. Please and thank you 🫶🏽🙏🏽✌🏾
The dinos! Perfect 😂
It is an actual honor to be in your weekly planner??? Thank you for such kind words girl. ❤️this made me smile so much. Also gotta say…Recipe plz🙏
Thank you for sharing your therapist's wisdom about being well vs being happy -- I haven't hear that before but it is a great approach especially when dealing with hardships.
I remember when I saw your changing careers video, I was like “I bet she quit acting, consciously or not, because she’s more than solely an actress.” I look forward to the beautiful and hilarious dramedy I’m convinced you’ll eventually make. When you’re a talented actor, comedian, editor, director, producer, crafter, designer, etc, the universe is asking you to blend all that to express TF out of your soul. ❤️ i think this is especially true for creative people who have the darkness 😎
when she said “it’s okay to disappoint people” 🤯 needed to hear that.
Caroline 👩🚀 I'm such a fake fan I don't know when you post, but sitting here, alone in my car, watching the sunrise before meeting friends for breakfast...I am so happy to see a new lil video from you! ☃️ Have a beautiful day. 🥳🥳🥳
PS It may come to pass that a film director finds your UA-cam channel and offers you a leading role in a major motion picture. My prediction of the day.
Girl, at about the 17 min. mark you were basically telling my story but my dream was opera. When I stopped singing, it was like I died. Letting go of a dream is a deep grief that it incredibly painful. I always say I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Thank you for sharing this. It is nice to know that someone else gets this type of grief, but I am sorry you had to experience it.
Oh my god yes. Grief is the word. I always want to describe it as a death. When it’s you’re identity, your value, your purpose and your future. There is real grief. It took years to fully grieve. I hope you have found your way to the other side❤️❤️❤️
Mine was improv. I did it in my city for 20+ years. But it is a young persons game and I started hating performing with my troupe. I mourned and hid for about three years and just did my regular job. I decided that as long as I have something creative in my life, I am okay. I do floral arrangements for weddings and draw/sketch. But part of me blanches when I run into an old friend and they ask “Do you still do improv?”
@@Caroline_Winkler Yes, I found my way back but it took years. To be honest, I still have moments of grief, but ultimately I think I realized that even though I loved music I hated the business of singing. I love having a home and being in one place, so living on a sofa or as a nomad indefinitely didn't appeal to me.
It is amazing though to hear that you went through this. I thought I was alone. 😘
@@sbryant6797 aww, I feel this, too. It is amazing how much of our identity we wrap into what we do.
That last relationship sounds so exhausting, I'm glad you got out of it. It must have been so hard to break that cycle of break-up/get back together/break-up. Good for you!
Huge respect for just going for anything after a dream career fails. Been in it myself, and the imposter syndrome is nuts.
I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me).
I’ve had to overhaul how I approach work/habits by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits (ex. journaling/working out) - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on my youtube channel.
And part of that is routinely putting in work on your dreams and projects despite how you’re feeling! Watching you do that with this business has been wonderful.
I’ve felt doubtful about my UA-cam since the start but I try to keep going through the feelings of doubts because I know you’re out their doing the same trying to take care of yourself while figuring out the work part !!
"Shared trauma". Wauw, I think that explains why my family is not close at all...we went the other way, completely unprocessed and unresolved collective trauma. A couple of us (including me) have done introspective work (therapy, meditation, reading) but as a whole it does not work when part of the family is stuck in reactive ways based on childhood trauma. You are fortunate. I love watching videos with your family because I long for that dynamic of being unguarded and accepted and safe within a family group. Thank you for your openness.
I can relate very much.
The Jennifer Aniston voice thing omg YES! 😂😂 I’ve literally said this to my husband … “close your eyes and listen and it’s like Jennifer Aniston has a UA-cam channel!”
Yay! Caroline time!! Got my coffee and ready to laugh, cry, be scared, whatever together! Love your videos girl, happy Saturday ❤️
A dog is critical in a two-person family because you can both pay attention to it, it gives you something in common, and when you are under any relationship stress a pet acts as a mediator. Our dogs get us through fights, grief, sickness, hard schedules, etc.
True true true. But also a dog is extremely time consuming and expensive if you're taking care of them right.
My sister taught me a great tip for buying clothes (or anything, really) - Don't focus on the price of the item itself, but instead try to work out the price per wear/use. If it's a $100 item but you'll probably wear/use it hundreds of times over the years, then that's like 30¢ per use. But if it's a cheap $5 item that you'll only wear/use twice, that's $2.50 per use so even though it's cheap, it's actually far less cost-efficient than the more expensive one.
As for disappointing people, I've eventually come to think of my time and energy as possessions of mine just like my physical possessions. If someone asked me for my lunch or my shoes I might say yes but I wouldn't feel like an asshole if I said no, because those are my things and I only choose whether I give them away and who I give them to. It's really no different with your time, emotions, and energy. You either give them to the people you want to have them, or trade them for something you want more (money, new skills, good relationships, fun experiences etc). But don't let people steal from you.
I also was a really tragic people pleaser when I was a child. I was just too empathetic and I thought it was my job to make people feel good. I remember one of my teachers was hated by the whole class, and I would go out of my way to give her words of encouragement. I would let kids cheat off my exams too lmao. I was like TOO nice. I was a doormat basically. But I eventually learned the hard way, I could not continue to live like this because I would constantly get hurt trying to take care of other people and their feelings. Now, I see myself as somewhat of a Boundary Queen 👑. I will say no to anyone anytime. 😌 And I swear, once you get in the groove of saying no and disappointing people, it becomes addicting and so empowering. Also, you would think people would like you less but no, they love and respect you more BECAUSE you have self-respect. And when you do do them favours, they are much more grateful. Also, you give yourself the opportunity to show up 100% and because you want to (not because you felt you had to). Anyway just saying, people-pleasing can totally be recovered from and it's well worth it.
Enjoy Saturdays even more due to your witty chats. Your design content is on point, that’s how I found you, but the blog style, I’m here for it. P.S. That sweater is killer on you.
I so appreciate that you model such integrity around other people. Talking about other people is dangerous.
It was the Adorable bathroom makeover that pulled me in & I never looked back 😉 The Patio redo, and The 'desk', gf the creativity & precision of the design, Wow!!You've made quite the sensation in UA-cam, you're killinN it. What I've learned in past relationships, plans, life itself - Acceptance goes a long way! You're a Jewel Caroline, Stay Awesome as You Are 🤎
I really appreciate you setting boundaries about what you talk about online. Some UA-camrs feel like they have to share because the question has been asked but you respect other people's privacy and that speaks volumes.
I have kind of a weird question for a future Q&A - how do you feel reading so many comments about how great you are? How do interactions on UA-cam impact your view of yourself outside of UA-cam?
Never clicked faster!! Much love from me! Thank you for being an amazing human being, who is giving me courage and makes me feel less alone. ❤️
My thoughts on happiness is that contentment is a way of life...happiness is an emotion for the moment.
I don't know what Telegram is.
Saturday Caroline time - favorite time of the week! I usually scroll on when I see someone doing a Q&A, but I knew better with you! You didn’t disappoint. Thoroughly enjoyed getting to know more about you. You always bring a positive, fresh approach to things. Thanks for always being the same refreshing you. Have a great week and see ya next Saturday!
Doh! 🥰
i think also by disappointing people we are giving them their power back; we are encouraging them to be responsible for THEMSELVES; either for actually doing something concrete for themselves or becoming emotionally responsible to themselves or their reactions. this is one way that i see disappointing people as a "necessary" thing. of course never disappointing for the sake of it or out of spite - but as an extension of our respect/love for ourselves.
This just hit me in all the feels 🥲
You put the realness of life in words so beautifully. I thoroughly enjoy every one of your videos
Thank you for the being happy vs being well distinction. I needed that in this moment ❤️
This was a great video, Caroline. I’ll watch any content from you. Thank you for sharing with us. I absolutely love your sweater! That color is so flattering on you.
Girl I am obsessed with you! I adore your channel and am literally addicted to your content! Keep going, much love from Switzerland😊
"Getting On" is one of my favorite shows!! So sophisticated!! :) I've watched it twice.
Loved this! You are so thoughtful and always make me look at things in new ways. I liked getting to know more about you and your family and career paths. Looking forward to the next Q&A!
You're wise and wonderful. So thankful you showed up in my feed and in my world!
“Just be well”….wow! That so resonated with me. I love your channel. I love how real you are. Thank you for that.
Loved hearing your thoughts and answers to these questions, and just wanted to say I'd love to see that work-out building-momentum video!
You are just so refreshing. I love that you speak from the gut. It resonates with me in the best way. Thank you
Thank you so much for great videos, your content but also production, cutting and audio.. all of it is so great! And sharing a lot from your life makes me feel so much better, now reaching out for help and just seeing real people on social media, thank you so much!
“You can be well through anything.” I love that!
I didn't really get it :( like I can't grasp the difference. Maybe it's a language barrier?
Once again ,thanks for your time to entertain the You Tube watchers here. Your content, as well as the comments of people here always gives me so much to ponder. Happy Saturday everyone.
Hi Caroline!
I would LOVE to see a video around getting back into working out :)
I look forward to your videos every Saturday!
One thing that really stuck with me was a quote from a webtoon i read recently that feels like a mantra and goes in the same direction as necessary disappointment: " we can't avoid being the villain in someone else's story" that sentence really helps me saying no and setting boundaries. Because it implies that i don't intend to hurt the other person and that helps me despite the negative consequences from their Perspective.
You are sooo entertaining. Love the design stuff and love your honesty about your personal life.
When she uploads my day gets instantly better. I could even feel my heart rate increase for a few seconds I was so excited. 😅 I also love the warm colour scheme that's very often present in the thumbnails.
Loved this therapy session so much Caroline. Obsessed with your tea getting cold.
Your content and who you are is so refreshing. I just adore you.
I learned an exercise just a couple days ago that helps address self-hatred. It’s just writing a list of your qualities and accomplishments you’ve gained as an adult. It seems like a silly exercise, but I felt shook just looking back on how much I’ve grown in the decade+ since I was 18. It also helped me realize, even though there are so many areas I need to grow, I’ve already come a long way in those specific areas. It helped me feel way less overwhelmed.
Please do a video around getting back into working out. I would LOVE that!!
Saturday mornings with Caroline and tea (chai for me) is a must! Your Q& A hit home as my daughter is going thru her 1st big life lesson in a relationship, living in a big City, and trying to find her happiness and not understanding that trying to please has consequences. Thank you for your experience therapy which will no doubt help with me with all that my daughter is now experiencing❤️
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. I’m a performing artist (dancer in nyc for years, turned circus performer who still also dances) and I’m always staring down the abyss of the fact that at some point I’ll have to transition - it does feel like choosing to kill yourself off in a weird way. Even with what you’d call “success” in the field I’ve never really heard anyone else talk about it. I super super appreciate your perspective and I’d love to hear more about that experience (even though I know it’s not your main brand ;) ).
Good stuff Caroline! I was so happy you mentioned the floral pillow I was admiring it and wondering where you got it! And, the Emily Henderson book!! I got it about 3 weeks ago and love it! Have a beautiful weekend!
A few months ago I found this channel and honestly, Caroline could just read the phonebook and it would cheer up my day. I love listening to you, and I feel incredibly motivated and just SEEN when you share about your life on youtube. I left my first career in Hollywood and our mutual struggle with leaving entertainment and our "dream dying," even though it has been 4 or 5 years since I left, makes me feel understood in a way I haven't felt yet. This channel has genuinely become my comfort channel. The aesthetic and Caroline's great taste in design is another bonus. Thanks bb, it's such a pleasure watching your channel
i love you, i learned so much about you in this video like your old acting dream, your relationship with your ex, and im in awe.
Caroline, this type of content is so kick booty!!! Your perspectives add knowledge to my life in ways I didn’t know I needed it.
From reorganizing my active and passive zones in my home to dealing with my most intrusive thoughts.
Your cadence and mannerisms work because you're being YOU. Don't let social media change that. Excited for your fitness comeback video. You got this 💗
Just here to say your content is really soothing and relatable. Every saturday I wake up and think "oh, today is Caroline day", just to remember that due to timezones I'll have to wait a little to watch you. XO from Brazil!
Ahh “soothing” is one of my favorite compliments. I love love that
Love this! You’ve inspired me so much to express my creativity through my home design. I’ve picked up some great tips-I have 2 shower curtains with the fancy liner on our oversized shower (I don’t like cleaning glass lol) just hung a special mirror above my fireplace and excited to add some cool pieces. I appreciate your honesty and sharing so much about your life with us💗
Your personality is amazing I love how real you are and yes your videos can be chaotic but fun and interesting keep being you.
Yes, we want more Q+As! I love hearing your thoughts on how to deal with life- the good, bad and mundane
I adore your content so stinking much. I relate to a lot of what you speak about, and the parts that I don't, give me insight into the minds of those that I'm close to...... in a deep and humorous way. Thank you for sharing.
Good job Caroline. Thank you for sharing your perspectives!
Really enjoyed the Q&A. I like what you said about being well vs being happy.
I am really proud of you Caroline on so many levels. I appreciate you not talking bad about an ex. You are so real and funny! Thanks for being you.
I completely relate to the relief of your dream being dead - I was much younger when I gave up on my acting dreams, but it was liberating. I see people now who are striving for something and I don’t envy them, it can be so exhausting and unrewarding. Although feeling aimless is tough too!
Thank you for sharing! Oh my goodness that is soooo TRUE you can not help disappointing people ! It doesn't make you a disappointment! Game changer!
Woke up excited to watch your weekly video! Enjoyed spending a little time with you as always but then the comments made me realize I people please because my mom needed me to be the second parent in the house because 2 siblings were disabled and she couldn't do it alone and so encouraged me to pick up the slack at all times and never add work to her load and now I am going to go have an existential crisis. Love you all
Hi Caroline. You always make my day. You never fail me. I always find something in your loaded videos to learn from. And I’m an oldie in years & life experiences. Not only did I learn a lot from you, but I learned a lot from your viewers comments…..that is, I feel validated from you an also from your viewers. Lots of wisdom floating around here. So thanks Caroline for sharing so much fun and meaningful self discovery content. Most sincerely, from me. ❤️
Literally just what I needed on my 3hr drive back from my parents ! Loved the Q&A can’t wait for the next hon!
Would love to see your workout video! It can be so hard/humbling to start after you've been outta the game for a while, but sometimes life happens and you have to start over. I wish you the best on your continuing recovery!!!
The well vs happy concept really hit with me. Thank you. Love your videos for many reasons. Please take breaks when you need it. Hi from Australia 🇦🇺 ☺
I relate so much to the part about you giving up on acting. I tried my hardest for years to be a textile designer for the fashion industry and though I had some successes, it was never sustainable financially or other wise. Once I gave up, I felt like I had nothing left to lose, so I got myself a parttime job at a warehouse and spent the rest of my time applying for funding to do my own weird, social art projects. Within 10 months I was able to switch to my art practise full time and here almost half a decade later I'm still at it!
The irony is, that I studied design because I felt convinced, that I couldn't make a living as an artist. Life is funny like that sometimes.
Anyway, thanks for sharing and being true to yourself! I think we can all see that and appreciate it immensely
So much respect for you and your answer to speaking about your ex; your video about your date with Street Man and how we won't be hearing about that anymore.! I love your videos, all of them, even the rambling vlogs. Thank you for sharing with us your refreshing snark, irony, and your genuine and relatable self.
Hey Caroline, I just wanted to say that after binging all of your videos these past couple weeks I am addicted to this channel. Love the way it bounces around, love your perspective on things, humour, honesty, and how human you are. Very inspiring to watch, I feel like I identify with so much of what you speak on but don't have the confidence to say those things myself. Anyway, just trying to say I love your channel!
Girl I love a good Q&A! Thanks once again for sharing. I never noticed the Jennifer Aniston comparison before but now I totally see it. 80s knit sweater is a whole vibe!!! Have a great weekend :)
Caroline! Your sit-down-and-chat with me videos are always my favourite! ❤ I want to ask - what are you drinking in this video, because it just looks so DAMN deliciousss 🍭🫖🧋
Maybe as a video idea - can you share with us your favourite drinks that you prepare for yourself at home and for while you work, your favourite coffees, etc.? I’d love that 😌😍
Caroline!!!! Thank you so much for sharing a peek into your world, I just moved into my own apartment last week after ending an elven year relationship. It’s tough, I feel I lost a lot of who I was over those years together and it’s scary to “start over” but I’m looking forward to relearning what makes ME fulfilled. I draw a lot of inspiration from you and appreciate the creativity, humor and honesty you bring this corner of UA-cam. Your videos always make my day, here’s to leaning into that Who Cares energy. ❤️