Never tell anyone your plans. Stand up and let them know your not helping anymore. What are they doing for you.. Tell your sister to take care of her own kids. Live your life your way.
Exactly. The sister encourages it w/ insults about being jealous. Even gives a shot about being single when kept busy watching her brats. Definitely NC in the future. It's inevitable. ;-)
A young woman down the street had a family like this. You could hear the fight that started when she final told her family NO over something. She was outside on the sidewalk when she shouted something about the family being an albatross around her neck, and then as a good bye, she called out "I'll see you when I'll see you."
Dad sounds like he might be learning. But Mom and Kate are of the mind "Don't you realize that the only reason you were born is for us to lean on you so that the important people can do things?"
When the entitled sister posted the passive-aggressive comments about selfish people tearing a family apart, I would have replied with a comment about entitled people ( with some vulgar language ) that think your life should revolve around them.
I can totally understand how frustrating that must have been! It’s always tough when plans get changed unexpectedly, especially when you’ve been looking forward to something for so long. It’s great that your sister is included, but I hope you still got to enjoy some parts of the vacation in your own way. Sometimes, family trips end up surprising us in good ways, even if the start is a little chaotic!
When I reached the age of 60, an elderly relative became obsessed with controlling every detail of my life (I am a professional with 30 successful years under my belt.) She would tell me that I wasn’t allowed to go out after dark and if she “caught me” disobeying, she would call the police and ask for a door smashing welfare check. She learned that lying to the police is illegal. 😂
Wherever entitled parents say family comes first, they mean our golden child comes first. How did they contact OP when she moved and changed her number.
These are things OP should have done within two years of graduating college. She was never allowed to have her "Big Day" because she was too busy raising her sister's kids to even be able to meet someone Kate was so spoiled she couldn't even handle two boys, Kate and her mom just expected her to be there to take up the slack. Now she can live her life, and they can live theirs, it will be tough for Kate, because she wasn't raised to take responsibility for anything.
Collect all of the messages about how they are overwhelmed by the kids, turn them into CPS. If she as a stay-at-home mom cannot handle being around her own children.........
35 and giving up everything. Im sorry but if this was real life they deserved what the got. At 25 max I would have rented a new apartment and not told them where it was. Took the promotions at work and gotten my own life away from them
I consider myself very fortunate that my sisters and I never had to deal with any kind of favoritism,our Mom loves us all equally and my late father disliked us all equally. I actually have a sister named Kate and she’s awesome!
Your mom wants to pull the family card wer was this family wen u needed it such a hypocrite as for your ungrateful sister let her get a life the audacity of her she really believe u r her unpaid babysitter so happy u stood up for yourself
It sounds like Kate took about 7 years of college before you started college. How does Kate’s hand me downs fit you at 10 years old when she’s 17? If your family doesn’t have the new cellphone # then how can they leave you voicemails and text messages? Kate should’ve had better control of the twins. Why would they break your laptop and such? If you’re watching the kids and raising them you should have rules for them. The parents didn’t need to pay for Kate’s wedding and etcetera if she’s 36 years old and getting married! Afterall she is working and has a college degree at least one! Her husband has a degree as well and works full time. If you both have excellent grades you should have some scholarships, grants and such. Working 2 part time jobs while going to college full time is working full time. These are the inconsistencies in the story. I have been the child depended on for my family-parents and siblings and their children. My parents sometimes took advantage of me and so did my siblings but they apologized and encouraged me to live my life. I have three sisters who were daddy’s girls. My one other sister and I were not. We were both very glad to not be daddy’s girls because he was harder on them than us! I have a niece and nephew that call me mom and I get to be grandma as well. So you have a choice to set up boundaries or feel sorry for yourself & get walked on. I went to confession about everything and to my parish priests to help me with everything. They have college degrees and are there for us to turn to.
Never tell anyone your plans. Stand up and let them know your not helping anymore. What are they doing for you.. Tell your sister to take care of her own kids. Live your life your way.
I'm amazed by the number of people who fail to simply say no. No is a conversation ender.
If I had a family like this I would go no contact as soon as I left the house for school
Exactly. The sister encourages it w/ insults about being jealous. Even gives a shot about being single when kept busy watching her brats. Definitely NC in the future. It's inevitable. ;-)
A young woman down the street had a family like this. You could hear the fight that started when she final told her family NO over something. She was outside on the sidewalk when she shouted something about the family being an albatross around her neck, and then as a good bye, she called out "I'll see you when I'll see you."
Yeah, they never noticed that Kate was given the best of everything while Elizabeth lived on leftovers.
They didn't care.
Because Kate is the golden child
Dad sounds like he might be learning. But Mom and Kate are of the mind "Don't you realize that the only reason you were born is for us to lean on you so that the important people can do things?"
When the entitled sister posted the passive-aggressive comments about selfish people tearing a family apart, I would have replied with a comment about entitled people ( with some vulgar language ) that think your life should revolve around them.
I can totally understand how frustrating that must have been! It’s always tough when plans get changed unexpectedly, especially when you’ve been looking forward to something for so long. It’s great that your sister is included, but I hope you still got to enjoy some parts of the vacation in your own way. Sometimes, family trips end up surprising us in good ways, even if the start is a little chaotic!
When I reached the age of 60, an elderly relative became obsessed with controlling every detail of my life (I am a professional with 30 successful years under my belt.) She would tell me that I wasn’t allowed to go out after dark and if she “caught me” disobeying, she would call the police and ask for a door smashing welfare check. She learned that lying to the police is illegal. 😂
Kate is the golden child who can do no wrong in the parents eyes and op is only good for having around to be a free nanny to someone else kids…….
OP your back up plan is genious now your sister will have to be a mom to her kids
Am so happy to hear about her transformation ❤ What an inspiring story of growth
People are pathetic...my sister drop her children unannounced to my apartment...so don't open the door.
Plus call the police to come get them.
have the parents look after the twins...you are not the family slaves...
NTA. Establish boundaries. Go NC. Take the promotion. Try moving out of state. Get therapy. Tell them to eat dirt. Good luck.
Kate and her hubby have to actually be PARENTS now. Boo frickin hoo.
The parents and sister are mad they didn’t have a free nanny so they were free to do whatever they wanted on the trip……..
Move as far away as possible. Block block everyone.
Wherever entitled parents say family comes first, they mean our golden child comes first.
How did they contact OP when she moved and changed her number.
I would move far away from this supposed family 😂
These are things OP should have done within two years of graduating college.
She was never allowed to have her "Big Day" because she was too busy raising her sister's kids to even be able to meet someone
Kate was so spoiled she couldn't even handle two boys, Kate and her mom just expected her to be there to take up the slack.
Now she can live her life, and they can live theirs, it will be tough for Kate, because she wasn't raised to take responsibility for anything.
Collect all of the messages about how they are overwhelmed by the kids, turn them into CPS. If she as a stay-at-home mom cannot handle being around her own children.........
How does the family send texts if she didn’t give them the phone number?
Same thing I was thinking.
Take the job.
35 and giving up everything. Im sorry but if this was real life they deserved what the got. At 25 max I would have rented a new apartment and not told them where it was. Took the promotions at work and gotten my own life away from them
I consider myself very fortunate that my sisters and I never had to deal with any kind of favoritism,our Mom loves us all equally and my late father disliked us all equally. I actually have a sister named Kate and she’s awesome!
I’m sorry that your dad was like this! It’s his loss!!!!!!!
How ridiculous, learn the word No
If Kate doesn’t want to watch her own kids then she shouldn’t have had them…..
Your mom wants to pull the family card wer was this family wen u needed it such a hypocrite as for your ungrateful sister let her get a life the audacity of her she really believe u r her unpaid babysitter so happy u stood up for yourself
Got 3 minutes in and stopped the video. I can't handle this amount of doormat behavior all at once.
You allowed the nonsense to get out of hand .
This story don't have no sense you are a adult living in your one apartment how the he'll these people abuse you like that.
It sounds like Kate took about 7 years of college before you started college. How does Kate’s hand me downs fit you at 10 years old when she’s 17? If your family doesn’t have the new cellphone # then how can they leave you voicemails and text messages? Kate should’ve had better control of the twins. Why would they break your laptop and such? If you’re watching the kids and raising them you should have rules for them. The parents didn’t need to pay for Kate’s wedding and etcetera if she’s 36 years old and getting married! Afterall she is working and has a college degree at least one! Her husband has a degree as well and works full time. If you both have excellent grades you should have some scholarships, grants and such. Working 2 part time jobs while going to college full time is working full time. These are the inconsistencies in the story.
I have been the child depended on for my family-parents and siblings and their children. My parents sometimes took advantage of me and so did my siblings but they apologized and encouraged me to live my life. I have three sisters who were daddy’s girls. My one other sister and I were not. We were both very glad to not be daddy’s girls because he was harder on them than us! I have a niece and nephew that call me mom and I get to be grandma as well. So you have a choice to set up boundaries or feel sorry for yourself & get walked on. I went to confession about everything and to my parish priests to help me with everything. They have college degrees and are there for us to turn to.
How do they send voicemails and texts if they don't have her phone nu mber?
How did they text you? I'll call. Let you voicemail if they don't know your phone number, since you change your phone number.