Bambi this man has made me cry coz even my son munyivu gyendi I left him 2years doesn't want to talk to me am going back I want to bond with him he's now 7years kinuma
Mukwano just keep in touch with your son , when you come back try to kwegula jali , be close to him , the love will come back slowly. It will take time so you have to be patient with him. I have been there naye kati tulinga baluganda nemuwala wange.
My dear wokomawo yogera nomwanawo in a good way nabo bantu ngaffe ababazaala mutuzze mubulire ensonga lwaki walina omulekawo ajakutegera kuba akyali muto
Thank you for your kind words. Forgiveness is indeed a powerful virtue. While the relationship with my mother has been a challenge, I believe in working towards healing and understanding. Family dynamics can be complex, but I'm committed to fostering love and compassion wherever possible.
We need to hear from the Mum on this. Most of us who grew up in that generation as first borns were treated the same. Mothers had no attachment. Some women used to walk out of marriages and leave kids behind mbu babalese mubeewaabwe meaning their dad’s side. Which is wrong. If you leave a relationship go with your kids. As we’ve grown up no matter how much the Mums try to build that link, it gets to a point where it’s too late and you just respect them as your mother but no attachment or genuine love.
And mum ruth for me my grand mother never loved my mother nga amuvuma ngatulaba namulangila ngatulaba mum ruth that situation touched me alot until now my mum is no more bt i hv alot of qns yyyy😭😭😭😭
It's particularly painful when a parent has turned herself and all those around you, who could have offered support against you, they get disinterested in helping you find a positive path forward. It's even more disheartening when they discourage seeking assistance from others outside the family.
Praise God family🙏🙏🙏Mum Wuffi wange ❤bambi even boys betaga to be loved but this society yabafirika make boys hold pain and some of them think boys are not humans to be showed love.Bambi😢rejection from parents eluma paka kufa
Toli wekka bro nange ndi mwana wabuwala naye ebisinga obunji nabiyitamu nze yantwala ewa chair man bangobe kukituntu mbu mwesibako, yangoba kunjuze nentandika osula mu bibanda byamanda nabana nga omu wa 4month katono anfeko olwempewo ate nga nayo onondelalayo nze I have alot to ask God lwendimusisinkana ebibyo bilabika bitono mkn 😢 nze nakyawa both my parents sili bubinyo mukama yanjawula ku family nantwala wabweru we gwange naye nayo still asigala agamba ojavayo okomewo wano ngatolina kyolina😢
I know. Some parents want to live through their kids or for their own prestige or image. It’s common in some cultures where parents want their kids to be doctors, engineers, lawyers etc. even the institutions they end up in matter so the parents can have something to talk about but it’s not what their kids want. We experience Asians do the same. Here in the uk they push them to go to Oxford, Cambridge etc just so they can say their kids have succeeded. They don’t see things like arts as an achievement which makes kids resent their parents and some have committed suicide for not going to a university their parents wanted.
Like two yrs back maama wange yaronda omwana ku police. Taata womwaana yo yamutwara ku police namusiba mbu ye tamwagara. Maama Nabi wurira mubantu agenda ku police namusabayo, aba police nebamumuwa. He is fine now
Naye nze mbabulire,abazadde abamu baali tebasaana kubera abazadde,ffe one day maama waffe yagamba mbu tuli loss naye imagine wabaako kyatusaba tumuwa naye tasiima ate tayina love yaffe tetwakula naye,tumulabye bukulu naye kati nasigaliza kumuwa nganina wamba sirina sewola period
Hello madam ruth i love your show ,much respect @rkb Naye eno story just ezuukusizza enaku gyenina ku mutima ne baganda bange Oyinza okugamba omukazi baamukaka otukutuzaala buli kiseera abeera atukaabiira akolima Banange may God have mercy She hate us like satan We are suffering she doesn’t listen to us Kwegamba ffe tuli bisiraani… we try our best to give her depending on our status but she doesn’t appreciate. Omukazi yatuuka nokunemesa okufumbirwa mbu ye tayagala basiraamu era nekumikolo tajja kubaawo Era nomusajja kati twayawukana 😭😭😭😭😭
This is very touching. Looks like the mum was going through alot when she had that first born and being a boy he kept reminding her of the father's misdeeds. How i wish you could get the mum to also open up, that would be a great step to reconciliation between son and mum.....Thanks Ruth
The exact thing that came to my mind is what he said,some parents are crazy, this story is making me cry,the way I love my boys amidst all that comes, I don't even care what people say.
Me too I went through the same till naw I know I’m a bustard child , my mum yaneganako nti I’m not her child in front of her ka boyfriend,she used to say that am ugly till naw i kno that am ugly 😢😢Nze gwolaba naffa okwagala omusajja nebwankwana mba manyi tanjagala , one day yangamba nti okuzala gwe singa nazalamu ffene era nze siyina love ya mama sili mwagala nga abana abalala webagala ba mama babwe 😢😢😢
Emma, try your best bro to salvage what can still be salvaged. Ekigaanye nga okita. Love your children with all you've got because its that which they will carry in their hearts all their lives. Take heart bro
This guy has made me cry coz we in the same shoes thou my mother never told me face to face that am a bastard but she used to tell my siblings Wabula obunaku buluma , am in my late 30s and has done everything I can to my youngesters but she say sibaagala yet all my youth money I spent it on them plus her but she doesn’t love me at all. Obunaku buluma u cry and lick your tears ya Allah. I have 2 kids naye nsaba mukama abaana bange abanungamize nkadiwe nabo I feel like writting a book mazima u give out all u have but nga omuntu akulaga u must do it coz u don’t have a family kyokka nga muzadde wo!!!
I know what this man is pass through coz I also pass through the same thing sometimes I feel 2 much pain and heart broken 💔 naye every time I pray to God to heal me maybe one day I will get the ability to tell my story the bad thing nebwemukolera ekirungi tasima bange it's not easy to heal from trauma😭😭😭😭
This is painful to watch , most times parents fight and separate or divorce in a brutal way and then instead of protecting our children or help our children to over come the trauma then we resort to hurting doing things to hurt kids . Mothers especially let’s love , protect our children even when marriages fail . Even if men hurt us so much let’s help our children in tbe hardest time
You hit right on the nail. ADHD needs someone who understands it. Our african parents have no idea on how to handle it. He should have been on treatment. That's the reason your mum did that to u
@@TumusiimeRitah children dont know difficult times. The child never asked her to give birth to him. That guy is even kind nze i throw u in the gutter and move on with my life.
This guy has a story like for my Daddy 😢even us we grow up without going to our grandmother's place 😢even our grand mother was wishing as dead 😢she started 💔 doing witchcraft......so what this guy is saying is so really
I loved the story but the theory of mama ye mama, omuzade tasobya, mama ye katonda wokunsi that’s a stupid mentality. People go through hell his feelings are valid live him to feel how he wants to feel.
What depresses most u grew up in his related situation, in ur adult age u land on a partner who is depressing ur life again, destroying even the least hope, love u had remained with oooh 🤦🤦🤦😭😭😭 its so draining if ur not strong enough u might get mental health issues.
I hear some pipo comment Mbu he is just attention seeker Bakwano u never been there that’s why boogera batyo naye nga abazadde banji especially ba maama batulwaza nyo emitima . We love them to the moon but they repay us with hatred
Your not alone ffe tuli abaana 6 naye ffena teli yakula na maama nze nakulira wa jajja ne ba maama bange abato the bad thing ntì ne daddy wange yemuntu atafaayo nazunga nze mumasomero primary kilabika nasomera masomero agasuka mu 10 nze safuna lu love ya maama wange ne taata wange 😢naye kati nkuze era nina kola nnyo ntule abaana banģe baleeme kubeera nga nze bwenakula nensomers nga muba mulekwa naye taata wange yali muntu ayina sente enyunji kilabika maama ye obusungu taata byeyamuyiisa mu nabuteeka kunze
Oh my Lord bless your heart young soul. He was neglected thats the more reason he went to those clubs looking for a sense of belonging and at an adolescent age where children are searching for an identity through exploration and before they commit. This is how young people are embedded in crime, sex trafficking, gangs. Insecure attachment, where the child has a need but the parent does not respond they push the child away. The child then learns how to read the parent reaction and in the end the child withholds their emotions, regression, all these as a result of trauma and stress. So agyer a chikd goes through a series of these thoughts in their mind, they develop coping strategies.
He should forgive and let go and the way to do it is to trust in God i had the same feelings with my own mum but I loved her so very much but I always felt left away but I 4gave her am at peace now but I kip a little distance but don't show it The side effects is it's so hard to love and trust but now at my church I learnt it's a curse , I now pray 4 her and know how to handle her but it's hard trust me
Maama wo ayina kyakweeka yaliba nga yakuzaala mumuntu eyamuyisa obuubi oba ngabyayenda ngali mubufumbo obusungu nabukuteeka ko, emma nze ngamba oyina kola nnyo obeere obulunji maama wo musonyiwe bambi naye mubeere wala okole family eyiiyo
Maybe she has a hidden secret 🤔 Was the child born out love, or out of circumstances 🤔? Or maybe you are from different father? It could even be spiritual by the way. Kyoka nange my mother used to hate me because i was my father's favourite 😅(mhrip) and she could point at me and say mwe! mujja kubonabona nyoo 😢. can you imagine 😳 saying such words to your own child? And to be honest life hasn't been that pleasant for me naye byonna YESU abimalanga.🙏🙏 And i don't feel any connection with my Maama though nze i don't hate her. I understand Very well what she was going through bambi. *Born out of forced marriage *
Emma needs a therapist ( not counselor) bambi. HE was traumatised,rejected,neglected,not loved,not accepted.... He has a deep mother wound. His mum maybe was going through stuff too
Musajja wattu guma Olaba nze I worked and suffered for my mom but she said am satan but this year am done with her Love your kids and work hard May the good lord heal you When you feel like crying do so and then move on
@@zannywillz2195 Sorry Zanny, we know how we feel. The satan bit is the most interesting my dia, it's until I accepted it that I began healing. I call myself Lucifer now. I know it still tortures her.
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school, or financial matters. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration that they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships troubled and unfulfilling, and other people may not enjoy being around them. Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder centers around talk therapy, also called psychotherapy. Please take the help therapy that Ruth is offering.
Children don’t ask parents to bring them in this world. Forgetting their mental health wellbeing, is the cause of “mental health crisis “ I can feel his pain “ the trauma !! He needs counselling, and I am very happy to pay for his therapy.
Your not alone me that’s why mom treat me. In my child hood. Nakula sagadwako ngamborebwa nyo sigurirwa uniform. Shoes. Ngate banange bonna. Bafuna. Bulikimu. Era nga ndi mu Day school. But right now. Bonna nabareka Uganda. Ndi. USA 🇺🇸. I’m done with relatives. I’m done. ☑️
Oooh I feel ur pain, I now see why some people choose to move out of their country & relocate once & forever in other countries. Am also wishing to do the same but God I don't know how , & when . Sending u 🥹🫂🫂
Ruth tetunenya nyo mama nabaana abamu bakola ebintu nga okumutereza olina sokka musiba mu ewaffe eyo waliyo omwana bamuyita Jimmy naye oli omwana nebwebaba bakutenda buguminkiriza oba kwagala ngoli akikumalako twali tusoma fenna naye nga tuba kusomero police nejja ngemunonye yamenye enyumba yomuntu nabba ebintu nesente bamusiba emirundi ejisuka mu 20 paka kati akyabba bamutwala nga mumakomera gabaana abato ngatolokayo nebatandika nga bwabba bamukubu nokumutisatisa okumwokya naye era nga adamu nekati akyabba just he updated the way jabbamu
@@nakalemaasha8340 hmm Jimmy yekati yakona yavva kukumenya amayumba kati bangamba yadda kubisoro byabba kati oba bwanabivako anada kuki hmm bambi bo abaana abamu bakusabira
Wama mbela nabaana mbo wama cuz mama takwagala ayinza obutayagala abazukulu nabasosola guy ayina obusugu mbabi musajja watu nae wetaga Christ mugwe osonyiwe mum we ate omwagale oja kufuna emirembe mugwe ok look for money osilike ate olokoke bro yesu yaleta emirembe omuntu nowomwagala otya olaba katonda yeyateagala nyo nyo natufilila nae era mpaka nakati tebamukilinza Christ ate nga akwagala bro yagala katonda mum we musonyiwe muleke omwagale
Its that they want you to make them happy in a defined way, a way they have cooked up that only serves them, with me it wa " if you want me to love you, don't follow your passion and instead do what I want, if not that, you are a failure." In fact, my mother tried so much to make me believe I was so bad, until I accepted, she hit a raw nerve. Lucifer is now my other name.
Mukwano I travelled to Ug nga ndi pregnant for my 2nd born and happily told my mother can u imagine the lady of 6 kids never even bothered buying for me emmumbwa of 5k kyokka nga mulaga nti mwagala , have done everything I can for her , namuzimbira etc and for the 1st born she left me in hospital while having labour pains and she went to attenda wedding hehehe . Wabula mummy wange yandwaza omutima
Childhood Traumas sometimes affect the way we behave and the way we treat our children. Its a painful story, but the fact that he is able to talk about it, he will find healing.
Oh God! I don't know why I am tearing. Situations like this can lead to depression, committing crimes, ... My bro. Ssentongo, Thank you for sharing. You are a step towards healing. You may never forgive, but your road to achieving much better is getting clear.
Your emotional response is understandable. Life's challenges can indeed weigh heavily on us. I appreciate your empathy and encouragement. While forgiveness may be a journey, I'm focused on finding peace and moving forward positively. However this is not about me, it's about all of us that go through this, mothers, fathers, and children. We all have to heal.
His story is like mine only that me i wasn't shown my dad and his family,i wasn't taken to school i stopped in s.2, and now everything rotates on me in terms of money. I leaned a lesson out of this i will love my kids with all my heart.
Even his mom has to go for therapy goes she is not okay towards him bambi ... imagine he still crying ...bambi....mom please treat your heart ..for his peace 🙏he needs help ...bambi 🙏😢😢 Jesus 🙏
You can see his pain in his speech. So many people have gone through this and I am happy you are bringing this to light on your program. I wish you can get the opportunity to find the mother and host her too. She needs to seek forgiveness from her son
sincerely this man is sooo brave: i am happy he has come out and shared his story very raw. Naye kuluno Ruth you have tried to stand in for the mom...the emotional emptiness is real..
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 I know myself better than anyone else and that's all that matters. Thats why I sought help from people who will not judge me like priests do. Kapish?
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 A preist, as our mum told me advised her to separate me from you, I can remind her that anytime bro. But am not here for that, this is bigger than you and me, did you know that there are countless others who have gone through the same and are doing it to there children, do you, do you, do you? And what can you do about it, pray? I chose action.
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 And I respect that you are a priest, am 100 percent okay with that, I mean it has been your dream, but why can't I have mine, why am I supposed to be a lab technician like father? Why don't I have to be with my kids but your mother? Why don't I have to choose my life like everyone else. WHY?
@@MrSiiZi That is very kind of you but you can not pour from an empty cup. Healed people heal people. Even your relationships will be much better. I felt pain listening to your prayer and I pray that things get better. sometimes we forgive for our sake,not because they deserve it
Brother, there is freedom in forgiveness and toxic parenting is much in African society, some parents need to heal from their past and seek help about parenting, parents our main job is to love our babies no matter what and even if.believe it some parents weren't loved enough and they are toxic too
Bambi this man has made me cry coz even my son munyivu gyendi I left him 2years doesn't want to talk to me am going back I want to bond with him he's now 7years kinuma
Mukwano just keep in touch with your son , when you come back try to kwegula jali , be close to him , the love will come back slowly.
It will take time so you have to be patient with him.
I have been there naye kati tulinga baluganda nemuwala wange.
@@Drakegon1 olaba even if they tell him katukube ebifananyi tukiwereze maama wo agaana obukyayi bunji bwaninako
@@badrushamirah5777 bwebaba like i said bwokomawo mukwate mpola mpola love ejakuda
My dear wokomawo yogera nomwanawo in a good way nabo bantu ngaffe ababazaala mutuzze mubulire ensonga lwaki walina omulekawo ajakutegera kuba akyali muto
@@badrushamirah5777akyali muto ajakukyuka
This guy is intelligent and brave may Allah give you a forgiving heart and u forgive your mother and distance yourself and family from your mother
Thank you for your kind words. Forgiveness is indeed a powerful virtue. While the relationship with my mother has been a challenge, I believe in working towards healing and understanding. Family dynamics can be complex, but I'm committed to fostering love and compassion wherever possible.
@@MrSiiZilam apparently battling with it too but l have fast learnt to love myself fast and remember Allah those shy people like us fear to air out
Kiluma 😢
Aunt Ruth that's the situation l passed through he needs time to heal l have the same wounds on my heart because of my mother.
We need to hear from the Mum on this. Most of us who grew up in that generation as first borns were treated the same. Mothers had no attachment. Some women used to walk out of marriages and leave kids behind mbu babalese mubeewaabwe meaning their dad’s side. Which is wrong. If you leave a relationship go with your kids. As we’ve grown up no matter how much the Mums try to build that link, it gets to a point where it’s too late and you just respect them as your mother but no attachment or genuine love.
And mum ruth for me my grand mother never loved my mother nga amuvuma ngatulaba namulangila ngatulaba mum ruth that situation touched me alot until now my mum is no more bt i hv alot of qns yyyy😭😭😭😭
Parents can be your closest enemy and drain you. They can say the most hurtful things yet you love them. It hurts
It's particularly painful when a parent has turned herself and all those around you, who could have offered support against you, they get disinterested in helping you find a positive path forward. It's even more disheartening when they discourage seeking assistance from others outside the family.
Praise God family🙏🙏🙏Mum Wuffi wange ❤bambi even boys betaga to be loved but this society yabafirika make boys hold pain and some of them think boys are not humans to be showed love.Bambi😢rejection from parents eluma paka kufa
Mukama omwana we kibi yaliwa u carry achild for 9months no muyita ekyo eeeeeh katonda atubele God will bless you more Ssentongo❤❤❤❤
Toli wekka bro nange ndi mwana wabuwala naye ebisinga obunji nabiyitamu nze yantwala ewa chair man bangobe kukituntu mbu mwesibako, yangoba kunjuze nentandika osula mu bibanda byamanda nabana nga omu wa 4month katono anfeko olwempewo ate nga nayo onondelalayo nze I have alot to ask God lwendimusisinkana ebibyo bilabika bitono mkn 😢 nze nakyawa both my parents sili bubinyo mukama yanjawula ku family nantwala wabweru we gwange naye nayo still asigala agamba ojavayo okomewo wano ngatolina kyolina😢
Oooooh bambi I understand the pain ffe owaffe bwaatyo ffe tuli bakulu naye atuuka natweefulira natuvuma vuma natuzaalukuka
And ekyo ekya ojjakuvaayo nga tolina kyoolina gwe silika weekwase mukama katonda yekka naange owaange yakingaambako yasooka bagaamba mbu nebwenkola sijja kufuluma gwaanga naye namara nenfuluma then bagaamba mbuno tebajja kunsasula naye nze silina mweezi gwemaanja...so yamara nanvaako era yakakkana yekka
Hoo naye koba kiki
Mukama nkusaba owangaze my mum coz tatusosola akwagala ngabwetuli.
Ba maama mweddeko naye muyitiriza obukambwe eri abaana bammwe ate abaana ennaku zino betuzaala bali sensitive nnyo basalawo mangu kati nkedde kulaba mwana yetuze olwokuba ma'am we yamulemeddeko okola sciences ngate omwana asobola arts bwatyo omwana neyejjawo....
Oh Noooo! 😢
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I know. Some parents want to live through their kids or for their own prestige or image. It’s common in some cultures where parents want their kids to be doctors, engineers, lawyers etc. even the institutions they end up in matter so the parents can have something to talk about but it’s not what their kids want. We experience Asians do the same. Here in the uk they push them to go to Oxford, Cambridge etc just so they can say their kids have succeeded. They don’t see things like arts as an achievement which makes kids resent their parents and some have committed suicide for not going to a university their parents wanted.
Just sooooo emotional 😢😢😢 can't stop the 😭
Like two yrs back maama wange yaronda omwana ku police. Taata womwaana yo yamutwara ku police namusiba mbu ye tamwagara. Maama Nabi wurira mubantu agenda ku police namusabayo, aba police nebamumuwa. He is fine now
Bambi ka taata😢😢 abazadde abamu tulimba
I can't wait to meet my dear son muwe ku mukwano ❤❤
Naye nze mbabulire,abazadde abamu baali tebasaana kubera abazadde,ffe one day maama waffe yagamba mbu tuli loss naye imagine wabaako kyatusaba tumuwa naye tasiima ate tayina love yaffe tetwakula naye,tumulabye bukulu naye kati nasigaliza kumuwa nganina wamba sirina sewola period
Dear Emma God heals the broken hearted n boundages their wounds that will happen to you too...
Hello madam ruth i love your show ,much respect @rkb
Naye eno story just ezuukusizza enaku gyenina ku mutima ne baganda bange
Oyinza okugamba omukazi baamukaka otukutuzaala buli kiseera abeera atukaabiira akolima
Banange may God have mercy
She hate us like satan
We are suffering she doesn’t listen to us
Kwegamba ffe tuli bisiraani… we try our best to give her depending on our status but she doesn’t appreciate. Omukazi yatuuka nokunemesa okufumbirwa mbu ye tayagala basiraamu era nekumikolo tajja kubaawo
Era nomusajja kati twayawukana 😭😭😭😭😭
This is very touching. Looks like the mum was going through alot when she had that first born and being a boy he kept reminding her of the father's misdeeds. How i wish you could get the mum to also open up, that would be a great step to reconciliation between son and mum.....Thanks Ruth
But whatever you went through as a mother still this child is innocent. infant the child should act as the comfort and happiness
@sylvianabukenyae1471 exactly the children are innocent more so when a child is of good behavior but u choose to hate them
Abazadde batusosolera ddala mwana gwe
😢😢😢😢😢 i can fill he's pain
I like mummy ruth atukila kumulamwa takuba bya advert mu interview kwegamba tewetamwa video ze thx dear
The exact thing that came to my mind is what he said,some parents are crazy, this story is making me cry,the way I love my boys amidst all that comes, I don't even care what people say.
Nze the day my father took me to prison and he also roped me sili musonyiwa but buli kyansaba nkimuwa ate talibeel na mwaana wange wade ne omu
Me too I went through the same till naw I know I’m a bustard child , my mum yaneganako nti I’m not her child in front of her ka boyfriend,she used to say that am ugly till naw i kno that am ugly 😢😢Nze gwolaba naffa okwagala omusajja nebwankwana mba manyi tanjagala , one day yangamba nti okuzala gwe singa nazalamu ffene era nze siyina love ya mama sili mwagala nga abana abalala webagala ba mama babwe 😢😢😢
Eeeeeeh nze ndi mulungi boi evenif u tell me am not😂second am not in touch with mom too naye nze namutaaaaa nsaba abeerewo nga mulamu just
Wow I pray you heal am sorry you went through such things I didn't know such mom exsit
@@daphinenazziwa3542 they do munange kyoka nga I heard Mbu yamala ebanga nga anonya oluzalo lwange yanywa buli kika kyadagala naye bwatyo bweyampisa
@@balyebugajulie4477 ndowoza nange bwetyo bwendi simulowozako siyina katijjo kamama naye omukama yasinga okumanya munange namusinyiwa naye manyi nti Ndi kyana simwana nga abalala naye nina enkovu etali nvako ku mutima
@@MarvicNaava bambi!! Mothers banange olemwa
Emma, try your best bro to salvage what can still be salvaged. Ekigaanye nga okita.
Love your children with all you've got because its that which they will carry in their hearts all their lives. Take heart bro
After healing my heart now I stay with my children
This guy has made me cry coz we in the same shoes thou my mother never told me face to face that am a bastard but she used to tell my siblings
Wabula obunaku buluma , am in my late 30s and has done everything I can to my youngesters but she say sibaagala yet all my youth money I spent it on them plus her but she doesn’t love me at all. Obunaku buluma u cry and lick your tears ya Allah. I have 2 kids naye nsaba mukama abaana bange abanungamize nkadiwe nabo
I feel like writting a book mazima u give out all u have but nga omuntu akulaga u must do it coz u don’t have a family kyokka nga muzadde wo!!!
Mukama yamba Ema,🙏
Banange Emma byayitamu nange byempitamu nange neegomba da okufuna Maama omulala nesonyiwe eyanzaala😢😢😢
I know what this man is pass through coz I also pass through the same thing sometimes I feel 2 much pain and heart broken 💔 naye every time I pray to God to heal me maybe one day I will get the ability to tell my story the bad thing nebwemukolera ekirungi tasima bange it's not easy to heal from trauma😭😭😭😭
I can't stop crying 😭😭😭
Ruth nze maama owange nakula anangira mbu yanonda kukasasiro she never loved me naye mpaka kati siyina kwagala mumutima gwange
What this man is going through I can understand cuz I have the same story
This is painful to watch , most times parents fight and separate or divorce in a brutal way and then instead of protecting our children or help our children to over come the trauma then we resort to hurting doing things to hurt kids . Mothers especially let’s love , protect our children even when marriages fail . Even if men hurt us so much let’s help our children in tbe hardest time
You hit right on the nail. ADHD needs someone who understands it. Our african parents have no idea on how to handle it. He should have been on treatment. That's the reason your mum did that to u
Ruth i completely understand this guy
Oh sweetheart, this guy deserved a better mother😢 i feel his pain.
The mother deserves a better son
@nakatoaerone what do you mean
The truth is he was big headed in his childhood yet her was passing through a difficult situation
@@TumusiimeRitah children dont know difficult times. The child never asked her to give birth to him. That guy is even kind nze i throw u in the gutter and move on with my life.
@@nakatoaerone7769 wow.......
😢😢😢😢 same to me my mom is like that
This interview made me cry so much
I wish you could know the other side of the story?
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 share it as well simple
This guy has a story like for my Daddy 😢even us we grow up without going to our grandmother's place 😢even our grand mother was wishing as dead 😢she started 💔 doing witchcraft......so what this guy is saying is so really
I loved the story but the theory of mama ye mama, omuzade tasobya, mama ye katonda wokunsi that’s a stupid mentality. People go through hell his feelings are valid live him to feel how he wants to feel.
Being diagnosed with AHD is terrible and having a mother who is emotionless is a double diagnosis.
Mbambi blessings
What depresses most u grew up in his related situation, in ur adult age u land on a partner who is depressing ur life again, destroying even the least hope, love u had remained with oooh 🤦🤦🤦😭😭😭 its so draining if ur not strong enough u might get mental health issues.
Aunt Ruth nomuzadde asobya en we share the same situation with that brother and mpulira amaziga ku mutima 😢😢
I hear some pipo comment Mbu he is just attention seeker
Bakwano u never been there that’s why boogera batyo naye nga abazadde banji especially ba maama batulwaza nyo emitima . We love them to the moon but they repay us with hatred
Ruth kwagala nyo mkn,ate kwagala akesuso coz abazala ba nsenene naye walai singa nsobola okuwa nange Stroud wange
People are difficult so parents should try so hard to stay with their children and understand each other
Some parents walai can make u even doubt your existence. I feel sorry for him bambi kuba he needs help to mentally come back to normal life
Yah, thanks Sandra, I need help.
Naye Mama oyo yamuzzala?? oba yamulonda oba muwa nyisiza?
Nze Maama wange omwagalwa yanjira amazzi ogokya mu 2021 naye paka kati simanyi lwaki yakikola, namusonyiwa kubanga nali mwagala nyo. Naye sogera naye wande okumusemberera era mutya nyo.
Banange
Your not alone ffe tuli abaana 6 naye ffena teli yakula na maama nze nakulira wa jajja ne ba maama bange abato the bad thing ntì ne daddy wange yemuntu atafaayo nazunga nze mumasomero primary kilabika nasomera masomero agasuka mu 10 nze safuna lu love ya maama wange ne taata wange 😢naye kati nkuze era nina kola nnyo ntule abaana banģe baleeme kubeera nga nze bwenakula nensomers nga muba mulekwa naye taata wange yali muntu ayina sente enyunji kilabika maama ye obusungu taata byeyamuyiisa mu nabuteeka kunze
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Oh my Lord bless your heart young soul. He was neglected thats the more reason he went to those clubs looking for a sense of belonging and at an adolescent age where children are searching for an identity through exploration and before they commit. This is how young people are embedded in crime, sex trafficking, gangs. Insecure attachment, where the child has a need but the parent does not respond they push the child away. The child then learns how to read the parent reaction and in the end the child withholds their emotions, regression, all these as a result of trauma and stress. So agyer a chikd goes through a series of these thoughts in their mind, they develop coping strategies.
He should forgive and let go and the way to do it is to trust in God i had the same feelings with my own mum but I loved her so very much but I always felt left away but I 4gave her am at peace now but I kip a little distance but don't show it The side effects is it's so hard to love and trust but now at my church I learnt it's a curse , I now pray 4 her and know how to handle her but it's hard trust me
Kale nze mukama natomera both mum and daddy wankuba omuggo nyabula taata wantulugunya maama wantulugunya ate gwe taata hooooo sikulojja watubonyabonya nga nze ne mukulu wange wetufanaganya amanya wadde nga watuzala mubakazi banjawulo naye jaaja webale nkukuza mukama ankuwumuze mirembe singa obaddewo
Nga olabye mukwano virtual hugs 🫂
Bambi kyeyayitamu nakiyitamu nyoo nyoo Ruth kiluma nze maama wange yalina nze nzeka omuwala nayenga tanjagara mkn natuka okuzalira kumyaka emito enyoo myaka 14yrs😢😢Ruth anzizukiza nkaba okufa😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Some parents have left a scar in our minds
Maama wo ayina kyakweeka yaliba nga yakuzaala mumuntu eyamuyisa obuubi oba ngabyayenda ngali mubufumbo obusungu nabukuteeka ko, emma nze ngamba oyina kola nnyo obeere obulunji maama wo musonyiwe bambi naye mubeere wala okole family eyiiyo
mu butuufu nange omukwano gwange ne maama siguwulira. mwagala yes naye sikiwulira
Mkn teguliiwo yade akatini era siguwulira
Olaba Ruth omulenzi oyo walahi byalikko byebyangeeeee😢😢😢😢
Maybe she has a hidden secret 🤔
Was the child born out love, or out of circumstances 🤔? Or maybe you are from different father?
It could even be spiritual by the way.
Kyoka nange my mother used to hate me because i was my father's favourite 😅(mhrip) and she could point at me and say mwe! mujja kubonabona nyoo 😢. can you imagine 😳 saying such words to your own child?
And to be honest life hasn't been that pleasant for me naye byonna YESU abimalanga.🙏🙏
And i don't feel any connection with my Maama though nze i don't hate her. I understand Very well what she was going through bambi.
*Born out of forced marriage *
Naye maama ki oyo banange, nze ngamba maama oyo alina kyeyakweka
Jjangu tunyumyemu, because it seems you wish to know the other side of the story
Emma needs a therapist ( not counselor) bambi. HE was traumatised,rejected,neglected,not loved,not accepted.... He has a deep mother wound.
His mum maybe was going through stuff too
Nze sakula maama up to now tanjagala atte n abaana bange tabagala and I think she is not my really mum this hurts me too much
Oyo mwesonyiwe dear
I know this guy
I am humbled.
Musajja wattu guma
Olaba nze I worked and suffered for my mom but she said am satan but this year am done with her
Love your kids and work hard
May the good lord heal you
When you feel like crying do so and then move on
@@zannywillz2195 Sorry Zanny, we know how we feel. The satan bit is the most interesting my dia, it's until I accepted it that I began healing. I call myself Lucifer now. I know it still tortures her.
Bro dat now ur a grown up ,why don't u take ur humble time and ask yo mummy patiently
Eyakyayibwako Nyina kino yayinza okukitegeera naye mukwano maama wo mwesonyiwe toddamu wadde omulowozako kola bibyo nze owange namwesonyiwa nelabira nokwerabira nti jaali
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school, or financial matters. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration that they believe they deserve.
They may find their relationships troubled and unfulfilling, and other people may not enjoy being around them.
Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder centers around talk therapy, also called psychotherapy. Please take the help therapy that Ruth is offering.
Sorry mkn I can understand u dia naye be strong
Children don’t ask parents to bring them in this world. Forgetting their mental health wellbeing, is the cause of “mental health crisis “ I can feel his pain “ the trauma !! He needs counselling, and I am very happy to pay for his therapy.
But we want to hear from his Mother s side.
Bambi it hurts bcoz is a man even he can't explains it well you know men they dont talk much...
The mother has hatred for men😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭.... KALIBALA there is no better way of finding peace if you don't ignore a narcissist
Have a narcissist here, am trying my best to just out
Your not alone me that’s why mom treat me. In my child hood. Nakula sagadwako ngamborebwa nyo sigurirwa uniform. Shoes. Ngate banange bonna. Bafuna. Bulikimu. Era nga ndi mu Day school. But right now. Bonna nabareka Uganda. Ndi. USA 🇺🇸. I’m done with relatives. I’m done. ☑️
Oooh I feel ur pain, I now see why some people choose to move out of their country & relocate once & forever in other countries. Am also wishing to do the same but God I don't know how , & when . Sending u 🥹🫂🫂
I am so forgiving, I dont blame my mum now, i think I just got over myself here but I had to do it.
Am feeling that rejection even right now. I wish i could tell my story.
Please come share with us
His story is the same like me banange 😢😢
Ruth , Ema needs help also the mother
Madam Ruth I would like to talk to you
Musajja wattu maama bwaba yatakwagala ate ekyo kinenemuko bamaama ffe tuwumbirira
Banange
Kati ffe e uganda, awo omwana tumukuba, thinking they have ddalu, but we need to look beyond the ddalu and ask why.
Bambi…
Let them him go to mutundwe he will be healed in Jesus's name bcoz now the hearts are like for Falaawo
Kola nyo Emma bajja kunonya wadde oli bustard nga bwebagamba
That's a fake story his not the only child who was born before
He called himself that in the interview and claimed someone else did
@@nakatoaerone7769 Kyelabirwa akyogela.
Ruth tetunenya nyo mama nabaana abamu bakola ebintu nga okumutereza olina sokka musiba mu ewaffe eyo waliyo omwana bamuyita Jimmy naye oli omwana nebwebaba bakutenda buguminkiriza oba kwagala ngoli akikumalako twali tusoma fenna naye nga tuba kusomero police nejja ngemunonye yamenye enyumba yomuntu nabba ebintu nesente bamusiba emirundi ejisuka mu 20 paka kati akyabba bamutwala nga mumakomera gabaana abato ngatolokayo nebatandika nga bwabba bamukubu nokumutisatisa okumwokya naye era nga adamu nekati akyabba just he updated the way jabbamu
Bambi.naye abaana abamu bakola emize ngabagumisibiiraako naddala ngobubbi nobwenzi ebyo byo babiloga kati nga gwe maama olina okuzuula ekili ku mwana wo ngomuzza joli ngomulwanirira nokumukuuma eri abalala.
@@joannakizza4528 Jimmy's mom is dead yakula ne stepmother
Huh abaana olina kusooka kwebuuza lwaki omwana abba? Alina kyeyetaga kyatafuna oba muzze buzze,alina ekikoosi ekikyamu,oba,kale awo oyinza okufuna answer yo,buli mpisa eba eliko omulandila awo nogufunila edagala,naye ebyo kukuba muntu kumutta,kumusiba tebikola,akona bukonyi,yes nedoggo nalyo kisoboka,kibi nyo nti Jimmy talina mama we yeyalimuyambye,ensi eli bubi mazima dala ate abantu balina obulumi bunji ku mitima jabwe kuba tebayambibwa ate nabontebategela lwaki bakola ebintu byebakola
@@nakalemaasha8340 hmm Jimmy yekati yakona yavva kukumenya amayumba kati bangamba yadda kubisoro byabba kati oba bwanabivako anada kuki hmm bambi bo abaana abamu bakusabira
@@joannakizza4528 It's part of life, it's part of life, if you want a better children don't give birth.
Maama muviire okumpi ogende walako sooka ove kukyalo okwokwaali
Wama mbela nabaana mbo wama cuz mama takwagala ayinza obutayagala abazukulu nabasosola guy ayina obusugu mbabi musajja watu nae wetaga Christ mugwe osonyiwe mum we ate omwagale oja kufuna emirembe mugwe ok look for money osilike ate olokoke bro yesu yaleta emirembe omuntu nowomwagala otya olaba katonda yeyateagala nyo nyo natufilila nae era mpaka nakati tebamukilinza Christ ate nga akwagala bro yagala katonda mum we musonyiwe muleke omwagale
Some parents are impossible even if you try making them happy they end up hurting your feelings 😢
Oooooh yes 😢😢😢
True
Naye katonda atusasire ffena abali ngoyo omwami
Mwana!!
Its that they want you to make them happy in a defined way, a way they have cooked up that only serves them, with me it wa " if you want me to love you, don't follow your passion and instead do what I want, if not that, you are a failure." In fact, my mother tried so much to make me believe I was so bad, until I accepted, she hit a raw nerve. Lucifer is now my other name.
Walai no guy asana kuba brother wange nange maama wange yagamba oli mwana wakibi kati kinuma walai 😭😭😭😭kyoka tewogera now 10yeears
Some parents are stupid just
Mukwano I travelled to Ug nga ndi pregnant for my 2nd born and happily told my mother can u imagine the lady of 6 kids never even bothered buying for me emmumbwa of 5k kyokka nga mulaga nti mwagala , have done everything I can for her , namuzimbira etc and for the 1st born she left me in hospital while having labour pains and she went to attenda wedding hehehe . Wabula mummy wange yandwaza omutima
Mummy Ruth njagara kwogerako nawe osanga nange nakakana
My brother was stubborn ,kuzunga and bibanda ,my parents purnished him as any child but he was loved more especially by Mom
This guy I don't get his point, he just wanted to be a mummys boy I think!!
Nze Nina omutima omubi naye nga kyava ku taata ne jjaja naye njagala kutelele naye kiganyi lwa trauma
Childhood Traumas sometimes affect the way we behave and the way we treat our children.
Its a painful story, but the fact that he is able to talk about it, he will find healing.
So true
So true
Very true I grew up when a bitter child kwegamba nga ndi mukambwe
Yes, I can understand this man….. I have lived with this pain all my life
Oh God! I don't know why I am tearing. Situations like this can lead to depression, committing crimes, ... My bro. Ssentongo, Thank you for sharing. You are a step towards healing. You may never forgive, but your road to achieving much better is getting clear.
Your emotional response is understandable. Life's challenges can indeed weigh heavily on us. I appreciate your empathy and encouragement. While forgiveness may be a journey, I'm focused on finding peace and moving forward positively. However this is not about me, it's about all of us that go through this, mothers, fathers, and children. We all have to heal.
His story is like mine only that me i wasn't shown my dad and his family,i wasn't taken to school i stopped in s.2, and now everything rotates on me in terms of money. I leaned a lesson out of this i will love my kids with all my heart.
Just 4 give dear and let go
Even his mom has to go for therapy goes she is not okay towards him bambi ... imagine he still crying ...bambi....mom please treat your heart ..for his peace 🙏he needs help ...bambi 🙏😢😢 Jesus 🙏
You can see his pain in his speech. So many people have gone through this and I am happy you are bringing this to light on your program. I wish you can get the opportunity to find the mother and host her too. She needs to seek forgiveness from her son
I just posted the same comment. They need to sit down together and talk.
Ruth look for the mum
sincerely this man is sooo brave: i am happy he has come out and shared his story very raw. Naye kuluno Ruth you have tried to stand in for the mom...the emotional emptiness is real..
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 I know myself better than anyone else and that's all that matters. Thats why I sought help from people who will not judge me like priests do. Kapish?
Acknowledge that I am your brother and also my title @@MrSiiZi
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 A preist, as our mum told me advised her to separate me from you, I can remind her that anytime bro. But am not here for that, this is bigger than you and me, did you know that there are countless others who have gone through the same and are doing it to there children, do you, do you, do you? And what can you do about it, pray? I chose action.
@@ignatiusnkoyooyo969 And I respect that you are a priest, am 100 percent okay with that, I mean it has been your dream, but why can't I have mine, why am I supposed to be a lab technician like father? Why don't I have to be with my kids but your mother? Why don't I have to choose my life like everyone else. WHY?
He just wanted to be seen and loved. Abazade basobya and they need to be accountable. We can do better
I just want to help as many people as possible who are suffering in silence problems that can be solved .
@@MrSiiZi That is very kind of you but you can not pour from an empty cup. Healed people heal people. Even your relationships will be much better. I felt pain listening to your prayer and I pray that things get better. sometimes we forgive for our sake,not because they deserve it
Brother, there is freedom in forgiveness and toxic parenting is much in African society, some parents need to heal from their past and seek help about parenting, parents our main job is to love our babies no matter what and even if.believe it some parents weren't loved enough and they are toxic too
Kati gwe ekyo kikuwe eky'okuyiga nti olina kubererawo abaana bo
Emma, thank you so much for coming forward. Ruth thank you for your enlightening shows
You are so welcome!