I've been in a 5 year relationship since I was 17. Got engaged July 2019, and we broke up last March. I was devasted and it still stings, but God is healing me. For the first couple weeks i was hopeless. It's SO hard when your plans don't go on how you wanted it to be but in this journey i realized so much more. I don't wanna be lost anymore, I don't want my plans anymore. I WANT GOD. I WANT TO BE IN HIS PRESENCE. I NEED HIM. And that's when it hits me, I need this season. I'm starting this journey where I let God take over and its the best decision in my life. To all singles out there, let's be intentional. Let's grow, let's get to know ourselves and God. No need to rush. He got you. 💗 This song helped me: You are by life church
Wow! Thank you for this AMAZING COMMENT! I am going to pin it! God is so good! He is helping you through :) May God continue to bless you and help you.
This happened to me too. I was in a five year relationship got engaged last year and we broke up this year. I was devastated... It still hurts but I know GOD has better plans for me
Mitzi, Thank you so much for sharing a part of yourself, I hope you’re doing better, and also thank you for your words. “I don’t want my plans anymore. I need this season. I want God.” This really hit home for me. And this is so right. Thank you. God bless! 💕
I was married for 10 years. Divorced. And in six months met another man. We had a great connection. I declared I was not looking to marry and content that way. We dated for 10 years. It was a great time. But, I knew I was not living a life pleasing to God. We broke up in 2008. I dated a long time friend for about 1 year after that break up. I quickly sensed that relationship was going to be fruitless. We ended it. But stayed friends to this very day. I was left to myself. Not long after, I was led to a Bible teacher on television. Through the Bible with Les Feldick. I spent my days in Bible study everyday. Early morning to midnight. Survived on water and nuts. I fell in love with Yeshua Messiah in 2014 and I have been single ever since. I love being in love with Christ and knowing God through Him. My friend is now my Bible study friend. We do a phone Bible study M-F 8a-10a. I love coffee and bible time. I wish I had your knowledge at that age. But it is all in God's timing. Ashley, you are an inspiration.
I am 19 y.o. & I have never had a boyfriend and don't intend to have one anytime soon lol. Even though I'm not ready for a relationship I still want to be intentional in being single🌻 I want to grow in my spiritual walk with the LORD before I have a relationship with a guy. Thank you for sharing Ashley❤
Same! I am 18 y.o and I have never had a boyfriend either I trust that God will do Everything in his time, while there is no rush! Singleness and every season in God's time is really a great blessing 🤍
Hello from Crete, Greece!🇬🇷Please share this amazing news! My husband divorced me in 2014, on our 2 year anniversary. I was devastated, but your story is giving me hope.
I think that happens for some women, but I know other women who met the one when they were still searching. Including those who met on dating apps, which is becoming even more common. But congratulations 💕
Lovely singleness content. Whoever is reading this i pray that God bless you beyond what you asked or expected so that you can be a blessing to others.
I’m 37 and single, it’s been a long wait already, and seeing a niece of mine get married last year was tough! Especially as I’ve experienced a broken engagement. Sometimes life seems unfair, when we have our priorities out of place and our focus is on other things. I’ve learned that God always knows what’s best for us, even when we don’t see it, when it hurts. And what you’ve said is so true. Jesus is enough!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I am currently in year 5 of singleness. I took a vow of singleness for me to devote myself to the Lord and serve others where I work at a nursing home with the elderly.
I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. We were about to get married and 2 months before the wedding day I felt that we were going in the wrong way (this feeling wasn't new I could never be in peace with the idea of getting married to him, it was too early or too complicated. I was always finding excuses and reasons for my feeling) at first I was talking about reporting the wedding to have more time to work on the relationship... But then I realized that God wasn't the center of our life or couple. And we broke up and I told him that I still love him but I'm not ready now because I need to have a deeper and stronger relationship with God and I know that God was waiting for me and that it was what I needed. It's new for me ( only few weeks in being single ) , I want to get married ( I'm 25) but I trust God because he called me with purpose and I'm looking forward to see what he wants to teach me. ( I'm a french speaker, sorry for the mistakes) This kind of video are really helping me to stay strong, single, faithful and to listen to what God wants for me. Thank you. 🙏
I can relate to this. 2 years ago I totally surrendered my search to Christ. I was totally fine being single if that's His will for me. I asked Him that, if He has a love story for me, I will let Him write it. Fast forward today, I am engaged, to a wonderful Christ-follower man. We pray for each other everyday and learning and growing with Jesus. Psalms 37:4 is a reminder that God knows our heart's desire. Delight in Him, pray and obey. God bless you all.
God has been putting videos like this in my life at the right moments lately. I have been in and out of relationships for a while and I finally found the person that I truly wanted to be with and he was perfect and husband material. But he didn’t help me get closer to God because he doesn’t love the Lord like I do. God put it in my heart that I have to let him go and just focus on God because he has greater plans for me. I want to be able to worship around the world like Tasha Cobb’s, Koryn Hawthorne, Kim Walker. I need time with the Lord alone and it was hard to let go of someone that I loved but I need to enter this season of singleness because God is preparing me for something far greater than I can imagine. When I told my dad that I ended that relationship to be able to focus on God, He showed me 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 so when you read that at this moment of my life it was a confirmation. Thank you for sharing all of this!❤️
oh my word! I just realised that the reason I struggle to build friendships with boys/guys is because I keep looking at them as my potential life partner (you know, because I am single and I'd really like to not be single). I need to start looking at them as children of God worthy of being known as friends and worthy of being my friends. Such a liberating perpective. Thank you.
Beginner artist here! Lol I love drawing and painting . I decided that I would use it for the good of telling the gospel and about Jesus . I’ve been single probably all my life and it’s been tough especially not having friends at all. Plus I have a chronic illness that keeps me at home. But Jesus is my strength and he’s getting me by everyday! I enjoy the peace and time I have just speaking to him alone. So this season is so worth it
I got broken up with recently and have decided to start devoting more time to Jesus and to get to know him better! I want to make this time nurturing for my soul and life
Ashley you are so inspiring! I’ve been single pretty much my whole life. I’ve never had a boyfriend and know exactly what your talking about questioning everyone if there my husband . But I’ve learned during quarantine & your video that I must seek a relationship with God, which is the most important.
Me too, i have the conviction of the Lord about looking at guys i meet on church for example as potential husband instead of Brothers in christ, and i long so much for Christian friends 😭
This video was so timely Ashley. The 8th thing you learned when it comes to mindfulness, is something I'm currently learning and have strived to continue to learn in living in the now and not worrying about if I will get married or have children one day. Thank you so much for these reminders.
I love this point! You and Taylor made many good points about future husband mentality during one of your earlier podcasts and I understood the problem so well through it. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and that is a reason to get to know someone even if we don’t want to have a romantic relationship! 🥰
I am 16 years old, recently I have been seeing many friends in relationships and it has made me want one, but I have realized that I need to be willing to trust God and wait that he will give me the right guy . Your video really encouraged me to stay patient and really just enjoy this time of being single so thank you so much for making these videos
GIRL!!! back in February/March God put it on my heart to just wait and be intentional single and get to know Him better. I've kinda followed it, but now that you posted this video it inspired me sooo much. Guess who's starting today :)
for all women growing in singleness of time God has a reason why your relationship didnt work out for months or years because God didnt give you that for a wrong person to love.. and God want you to focus His will not your will. and God give you a chance to change your priority because He knows your heart so do not fear if you dont have love life or in a relationship , instead be thankful because God has a planned for you much better than your planning. Thank you for reminding me or us Sister in Coffee Bible Time 😍😍🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I find it hard to speak about my longings, so I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty!! I'm glad to know that I am not alone and know how I should deal with it with God ❤️
Thank you for sharing this. I totally agree when you say it's a daily struggle. It is so true. Everytime I get impatient with being single, I just remind myself of the truth that a spouse cannot satisfy you. If Christ who died for you can't satisfy you, then which man can ? If Christ can't make you stay pure in heart, which man can ? And marriage is not self-centered, it's all about serving the other human being that God loves.
I set out a year of intentional singleness as well!!! My heart warmed up when I encountered your singleness podcast ❤️ so so relatable. I love watching your journey especially now that you’re getting married 😍 God is so good! May He continue to bless you!!!
What Ashley said was really helpful because the media and so many ideologies out in this world have made our ideologies lean towards understanding that we at all times need to have someone (specifically a partner) but it is not true. Singleness has an important role to play in everyones life and Ashley very aptly stated it. Thank you
Beautiful girl, thank you SO much for all you do for the Lord!!! You are such an inspiration to me and others. For some reason, I am seeing this video a year late!!! Watching it AFTER your engagement 🙈🤗😉 Ahhhh! Your life is a testament to how good our sweet God is! He is so so good. So so faithful. I just love seeing the end of your story before watching this. That encouraged me as a single who is trusting in God to usher me into the next season of life. He has heard my prayers and ik He will answer me. Thank you! 💛💛💛🌻🔆😘🎉🎊
Yes tip 8!!! You hit the nail on the head!! I struggle with mindfulness and living right now bc I always think about my future! 💜 thank you for this you put this all in perspective for me!!💜💜
YES! Love this! I've had many informative single years in my life, and I am seeing someone now, but those years really shaped and prepared me for this season I'm in now. Every season has purpose. I mentor younger girls who are single and I think I will share this with them because it is so meaningful.Thanks for sharing! :)
I’m rewatching this video cause today I decided to do the same and just intentionally staying single. I was engaged then broke it over a year ago. I’m 27, I’ve had moments of wanting to pursue guys but I remind myself that’s not what God wants me to do. This won’t be easy but I want to stop worrying about what I can’t control. God bless you Ashley and all the work you girls do on this channel it’s truly a blessing.
I chose intentional singleness ever since I was born. Now I’m in high school and people still bother me about why I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m starting to get sick of everyone trying to push their sex life onto me. There was also a girl in 10th grade who tried really hard with her friends to get me to go out with her, but I never saw myself in that kind of position. Now I question if god wants me to stay single or if he is throwing girls at me to get me into a relationship.
Been single since last April 2019 when I ended a relationship I have no regrets . Celibate since November 7,2019 Been getting right with God I'm looking forward to finally have some peace in my life And when I do decide to get into a relationship some day It will be a Godly One 🙏🏽
I'm going down through these comments and some of you are saying that you are single unintentionally. Why is everyone so fired up to be in a relationship? I'm 46 years old, and I'm single, INTENTIONALLY! Heaven's too important to me, and I'm constantly thinking about being with God to even THINK about relationships)
I'm single, and today God spoke me through this vedio, I realy need these words .. Tomorrow is my birthday and I want to listen the voice of God for my coming years , and today God spoke with me... And I now, I know that in my singleness time what God want to me actually. Thank you for this vedio... Dear sister may God use you more for the glory of his kingdom 😇😇
Happy early birthday!! I pray that God guides through this journey of becoming a year older, through your walk with him, and your journey of singleness. It's definitely not easy because there are so many distractions in this world and sometimes you can feel lonely and desire romantic relationships, but you are not alone in this journey as you have God and the community of brothers and sisters in Christ with you, myself included! I'm on this journey as well so if you ever want to connect please let me know! I know that it will all be worth it in the end
started my year of singleness in Dec 2019 and I totally agree with you. each month that passes im like.. oh woah! Definitely learning what it means and looks like to focus on the bridegroom that matters and learning on how to heal from past stuff to bless your future self. not just in relationships but in general. and really just seeing God as our everything, our shepherd, father, protector, savior etc. and not placing that with expectations in a man bc he can never fulfill that! only Christ!!!
I have been singled since September of 2020. I have 2 toddlers and a newborn on the way. I started praying for a husband when I was living in my car last year while my kids lived with their grandparents. After listening to your other video about whether it's a good thing or bad thing to pray for your future husband, God convicted me about my reasons of why I was asking for a husband in the first place. I learned that my desires were not in the right place and I was only asking God for a husband for my selfish needs/wants. I'm still learning that Jesus is enough.
I am 19 and have just finished my sophomore year of college. I definitely have always struggled with wanting a husband and wanting someone to be with. Within the last few months with the help of one of my best friends, who is also single, I have really started to enjoy singleness for all of the same reasons you have listed in this video. Of course, I still long for a husband, but I truly LOVE being single and getting to spend my life right now entirely seeking the Lord and cultivating true and meaningful friendships that glorify God. It is such a blessing, and I am learning to trust that just because there is not a man in my life right now, God isn't saying "no," He is just saying "not yet." I am trusting in Him and growing in Him and learning to be content and loved in Him. No one can love me better than Jesus, so I am learning to allow myself to be truly loved by Him!!
Love this so much! I love your outlook on this, and there needs to be more content out there on this and for people to stop idolising marriage! Your life doesn’t start once you’re married! Run the race that God has set before you! Whether you’re married or not you have to run your race! (Hebrews) thanks for this video!
Love love love this and I can totally relate to all the things you said . Team single 💃. God led me to be intentionally single in February and from the moment I committed to that I've experienced so much peace, joy and comfort. I feel like I have greater mental clarity and spiritual growth.
As a person married for many years, enough years to have 3 children as old as you, you are such an inspiration to all! Thank you for sharing your story. You have inspired me as well as my kids, 2 boys and 1 girl to look to today as that is all that God promises and to know that He is enough! Thanks for sharing!❤️
I'm so grateful I came across Coffee and Bible Time in this phase. God really was intentional about directing me to this channel. I feel excited, Ashley! God bless you guys❤️🌼
Girl, can we be best friends? 😂 I've been praying for a gal friend who loves Jesus like you do for yearsss! And when you mentioned the importance of having good Christian friends, I was hit with the importance of this again! Jesus please send me a friend like Ashley! ❤️
Hey Ashley! Thank you so much for making this video! I'm in high school right now and I definitely want to learn more about how I can rely on God fully in my singleness. Thank you so much for all your help in discipling me through this platform! :)
Your video made me so happy, I like what you share about your season of singleness and I can relate. I came to learn similar things from the Lord when I finally decided to stop focusing on the fact that I have never dated anyone and start to focus on my walk with God and He led me to this season of “intentional singleness”. I am now 25, and it’s a age I love and I really wanted to devote this special year to the Lord and He has been amazing. He truly His the best, a provider, a friend everything we need we can find in Him. And He keeps equipping us for the next season whenever it will happen.
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Currently in my intentional year of singleness and this was the encouragement I need to keep pushing through!😊😁
I'm so blessed for this ministery, I want to thank you for allow yourself to be used in Lord's hand for spiritual growth of many people 😊🙌 I'm from Brazil 🇧🇷 and I'm learning english, so your podcast/youtube channel has been very helpfull for that too 💖
This message is so great, i needed it. After a bad marriage of nineteen years my ex husband left me. At first i was angry and bitter. Then i found out the reason why. All because the Lord was waiting for me. He was my first Love. True the years i try to please my ex husband more and more till i realise that i was getting unhappy 😟 by the day. My Lord heard my cry and remove my ex husband. Now i AM back falling in love with my Beloved again. Only the fact that i had a marriage and the shame of a divorce was till today a struggle for me. But hearing that it is a blessing to be single makes me so happy 🙂 right now. Thank you my Lord for this word of encouragement and Bless the ministry of coffeeandbibletime 🙏.
I just recently got out of a four year relationship. I am thinking about doing an intentional year of singleness. The only thing - I don’t have friends. I’m just in an in between place in my life and I don’t have any friends, much less Christian friends. Suggestions? Not having friends is something I struggle with most!! - Thank you for this video. It is soooo encouraging!
Wow! This video is old, but popped up at just the right time! There are so many stereotypes that marriage is the end goal and placing value and worth in it, but you're right, sister: we are living NOW!
Ashley don't rush getting married. I've been married 3 times. Long story. I am grateful for the families I meet along the way . I had 2 great mother in laws. Miss them dearly. Good luck to you.
As my intentional year of singleness is coming to an end, I have learned many of the same things you have, particularly that Singleness is a gift! A glorious time where I can be so Focused on Jesus and healing and growth without the distraction of a husband, pets, kids, etc… those things are also gifts, but in the right season. Outside of that season, they feel like a curse (I have an 8 year old, and have been married and divorced)- I was not a Christian then and let me tell you, God giving me this year of singleness is the most amazing gift I’ve had in many ways. I’ve learned that being alone and loneliness are not even close to being the same thing. I’ve lived so much life and changed so much this year and it’s been the best year of my life! I have pursued my interests and hobbies and become secure in who I am, my personality, how I like to dress and show up, and I don’t worry about what others think about me anymore. I know that I am Beautiful and body image doesn’t control my thought life anymore. I wear less make up and feel confident and comfortable and alive. The year seemed to go by slowly at the beginning but towards the middle, it has flown by! I did get distracted as well by a couple boys, for a couple weeks each time and it was a huge learning experience for me with Jesus and I got back onto the single train fairly quickly and focused on Jesus again. I would highly recommend a year of INTENTIONAL singleness for every single person out there, before they marry and have children.
This is exactly matched what the lord is teaching to me. I didn't realised that it is a lesson that God is teaching to me.. Before I watched this video I felt like am I only one who is struggling and now I understood that everybody has this type of thoughts. Thank you Ashley for making such a good video. This is really helped me .
Wow God is so good :) I never realized that singleness is a gift from God ❤️ thank you Ashley for sharing what you learned during your time of singleness 🙌 God bless you!
I’ve learned over the past year and singleness is such a gift. I’m excited to someday find someone and I pray for them often, but in the meantime I’ve truly enjoyed doing my own thing and focusing so much energy on falling more in love with Christ.
i needed this video!! at first, i was lacking intention when i became single, but ive found that spending time with God has helped so much in allowing me to grow into the person He created me to be! :) thank you for making this video 💕
I like hearing about singleness. I realized i was having illusions of maybe this guy liked me but its not. i like him since 6th grade so. we to 9th grade we went to diffrent highschool then around in 2013 graduation i started to try drinking with friends , i went to club and partys , i was at the point were i didnt wanted to live anymore , i ask God why do exist this and that cause i dont have the love of my biological father then at 2016 i saw my crush driving and i was behind him he was his sunglasses he looked back and i looked away, i was shy again , i felt tingly in my chest. my mom and his mom started talking by garage sale then i met the sister and his brother and all his family i thought it was signs . his sister was the one who invited me to go to church so i started going cause i felt peace and love . i was alwYs thinking about him but now by days pases in were in 2020 all i want is God . im satisfy
Lots of love from Finland!❤ I just started my own intentional year of singleness and seeking the Lord and I am greatly inspired by you!🌟 Is anyone else doing this?
@@louellucero8005 Louella Lucero I'm so happy Christ has found his way into your heart like that!❤ I often struggle with being having joy in God's word, because I am tempted to view everything as law. I feel a bit ashamed as other people seem to find fulfillment in God easily, but hey, we are all on our own journeys and we muts just keep looking at God and his grace! Praise the Lord that we have faith!♥
@@hnobody339 yes. Jillian Johnson wrote it perfectly. It took me 25 years to realize. Half hour of Bible study a day, God rewards. Not just read. Study... I will pray for you. And you are somebody. Any child of God is a special somebody💖
Thank you sister for this message. Indeed Singleness is a gift from God. I know the enemy trigger my mind and I was low,until I told a sister to pray for me and I did have the peace of Jesus
Single and totally hearing you on EVERY point Ashley! Oh my my. When you mentioned the hubby point.. I was like .. rebuke! Haha thanks for being so transparent with your journey!
I set aside 21 years being single! Unintentionally too!
Wow!
Girl I felt this.
Mooooddd😂😂
Same here but I know that God wants to teach important things for us before other things will happen!
hehe!!!
A bible that is falling apart belongs to a person who isn’t! I heard this quote somewhere and couldn’t help but say it when you showed your old bible.
:) thank you! I can tell you honestly that I still fall apart sometimes! But God always carries me through!
@@coffeeandbibletime that is such an inspiration.
Charles Spurgeon I think
JAJAAJ I also thought of that
@@coffeeandbibletime awwwww is this not not beautiful..
I wish more women would see the gift that singleness is.
that's a prayer of mine!
I'm single. He is teaching me patience
Me too!!!
Wait patiently... God will provide if your heart is ready
samee!!!
I've been in a 5 year relationship since I was 17. Got engaged July 2019, and we broke up last March. I was devasted and it still stings, but God is healing me. For the first couple weeks i was hopeless. It's SO hard when your plans don't go on how you wanted it to be but in this journey i realized so much more. I don't wanna be lost anymore, I don't want my plans anymore. I WANT GOD. I WANT TO BE IN HIS PRESENCE. I NEED HIM. And that's when it hits me, I need this season. I'm starting this journey where I let God take over and its the best decision in my life.
To all singles out there, let's be intentional. Let's grow, let's get to know ourselves and God. No need to rush. He got you. 💗
This song helped me: You are by life church
Wow! Thank you for this AMAZING COMMENT! I am going to pin it! God is so good! He is helping you through :) May God continue to bless you and help you.
@@coffeeandbibletime thank you so much, it means a lot!! God bless you all the way 🙌🏼🥰
This happened to me too. I was in a five year relationship got engaged last year and we broke up this year. I was devastated... It still hurts but I know GOD has better plans for me
Mitzi, Thank you so much for sharing a part of yourself, I hope you’re doing better, and also thank you for your words.
“I don’t want my plans anymore. I need this season. I want God.” This really hit home for me. And this is so right. Thank you. God bless! 💕
@@BlackmoorGirl66 Thank you and God bless you ❣
I was married for 10 years. Divorced. And in six months met another man. We had a great connection. I declared I was not looking to marry and content that way. We dated for 10 years. It was a great time. But, I knew I was not living a life pleasing to God. We broke up in 2008. I dated a long time friend for about 1 year after that break up. I quickly sensed that relationship was going to be fruitless. We ended it. But stayed friends to this very day. I was left to myself. Not long after, I was led to a Bible teacher on television. Through the Bible with Les Feldick. I spent my days in Bible study everyday. Early morning to midnight. Survived on water and nuts. I fell in love with Yeshua Messiah in 2014 and I have been single ever since. I love being in love with Christ and knowing God through Him. My friend is now my Bible study friend. We do a phone Bible study M-F 8a-10a. I love coffee and bible time. I wish I had your knowledge at that age. But it is all in God's timing. Ashley, you are an inspiration.
Louella Lucero AMEN TO THAT! Ashley is Soooo inspiring! ❤️😂🤪😌🙃
Thank you so so much for this comment! It was such an encouragement to read!!! May God bless you in your singlness as you stay devoted to God :)
Wow! YOU are an inspiration!!!
I am 19 y.o. & I have never had a boyfriend and don't intend to have one anytime soon lol. Even though I'm not ready for a relationship I still want to be intentional in being single🌻 I want to grow in my spiritual walk with the LORD before I have a relationship with a guy. Thank you for sharing Ashley❤
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amen! Yay that is amazing to hear!
I'm 20 yrs old and never had a boyfriend! Ive really been just enjoying my life with focusing on God and God alone!
Same!!!!!
Same!
I am 18 y.o and I have never had a boyfriend either
I trust that God will do Everything in his time, while there is no rush! Singleness and every season in God's time is really a great blessing 🤍
Singleness is such a beautiful gift from God and we should embrace it to glorify God. ♡♡♡
amen!!!
Exactly!
Yes, agree! :)
I totally agree with you 🙏
I know this is true, but sometimes I don't feel like it :(
When I gave up looking and gave it to God is when I met the man who is now my husband 😊❤
wow! SO AMAZING!!
Hello from Crete, Greece!🇬🇷Please share this amazing news! My husband divorced me in 2014, on our 2 year anniversary. I was devastated, but your story is giving me hope.
I think that happens for some women, but I know other women who met the one when they were still searching. Including those who met on dating apps, which is becoming even more common. But congratulations 💕
Lovely singleness content. Whoever is reading this i pray that God bless you beyond what you asked or expected so that you can be a blessing to others.
Same to you! 🙏💖
Amen
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Thank you
Who's here when she got engaged?!
CHRIST IS ENOUGH💕
amen!
EVEN MORE THAN ENOUGH! ❤️
I’m 37 and single, it’s been a long wait already, and seeing a niece of mine get married last year was tough! Especially as I’ve experienced a broken engagement. Sometimes life seems unfair, when we have our priorities out of place and our focus is on other things. I’ve learned that God always knows what’s best for us, even when we don’t see it, when it hurts. And what you’ve said is so true. Jesus is enough!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 36 and divorced! Trust me.. it’s a great idea to wait. I was abused physically and mentally and he cheated on me.. I met him at church 🤗😢😉✌🏻
Kay Oss ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing this testimony! It was so encouraging to read.
2cor1:3-5 🙂
Kay Oss amen❤️❤️❤️
although i’ve been unintentionally single for almost 18 years. I think intentionally being single is a beautiful thing !!
I am currently in year 5 of singleness. I took a vow of singleness for me to devote myself to the Lord and serve others where I work at a nursing home with the elderly.
I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. We were about to get married and 2 months before the wedding day I felt that we were going in the wrong way (this feeling wasn't new I could never be in peace with the idea of getting married to him, it was too early or too complicated. I was always finding excuses and reasons for my feeling) at first I was talking about reporting the wedding to have more time to work on the relationship... But then I realized that God wasn't the center of our life or couple. And we broke up and I told him that I still love him but I'm not ready now because I need to have a deeper and stronger relationship with God and I know that God was waiting for me and that it was what I needed. It's new for me ( only few weeks in being single ) , I want to get married ( I'm 25) but I trust God because he called me with purpose and I'm looking forward to see what he wants to teach me. ( I'm a french speaker, sorry for the mistakes)
This kind of video are really helping me to stay strong, single, faithful and to listen to what God wants for me. Thank you. 🙏
Thank you for sharing y9our story! I will be praying for you! You made the right decision in following the Lord!!
The same thing is currently happening to me.. I’m the guy in the situation
I can relate to this. 2 years ago I totally surrendered my search to Christ. I was totally fine being single if that's His will for me. I asked Him that, if He has a love story for me, I will let Him write it. Fast forward today, I am engaged, to a wonderful Christ-follower man. We pray for each other everyday and learning and growing with Jesus. Psalms 37:4 is a reminder that God knows our heart's desire. Delight in Him, pray and obey. God bless you all.
Being willing to be single .....indicates that we are patient for a great person that God has planned for us 🙂
Thanks for this quote
God has been putting videos like this in my life at the right moments lately. I have been in and out of relationships for a while and I finally found the person that I truly wanted to be with and he was perfect and husband material. But he didn’t help me get closer to God because he doesn’t love the Lord like I do. God put it in my heart that I have to let him go and just focus on God because he has greater plans for me. I want to be able to worship around the world like Tasha Cobb’s, Koryn Hawthorne, Kim Walker. I need time with the Lord alone and it was hard to let go of someone that I loved but I need to enter this season of singleness because God is preparing me for something far greater than I can imagine. When I told my dad that I ended that relationship to be able to focus on God, He showed me 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35 so when you read that at this moment of my life it was a confirmation. Thank you for sharing all of this!❤️
oh my word! I just realised that the reason I struggle to build friendships with boys/guys is because I keep looking at them as my potential life partner (you know, because I am single and I'd really like to not be single). I need to start looking at them as children of God worthy of being known as friends and worthy of being my friends. Such a liberating perpective. Thank you.
Yes girl same 😊
Beginner artist here! Lol I love drawing and painting . I decided that I would use it for the good of telling the gospel and about Jesus . I’ve been single probably all my life and it’s been tough especially not having friends at all. Plus I have a chronic illness that keeps me at home. But Jesus is my strength and he’s getting me by everyday! I enjoy the peace and time I have just speaking to him alone. So this season is so worth it
I totally agree! It is so worth! I will be praying that the JOY of the Lord will be your strength!
I got broken up with recently and have decided to start devoting more time to Jesus and to get to know him better! I want to make this time nurturing for my soul and life
I’m so excited to see what God taught Ashley! I’m sure I (and everyone) can take something from this!! 💖
SimpleAsCanBe Yep! 😁😊
Singleness is so important!! Thank you Ashley for teaching us these lessons! You are such a beautiful, graceful example💖💖💖
I just love coffee and bible time💖💖💖
Yeah, me too
@@jadecummings8093 they are just so encouraging aren't they
Love you girl!
Ashley you are so inspiring! I’ve been single pretty much my whole life. I’ve never had a boyfriend and know exactly what your talking about questioning everyone if there my husband . But I’ve learned during quarantine & your video that I must seek a relationship with God, which is the most important.
amen!
Me too, i have the conviction of the Lord about looking at guys i meet on church for example as potential husband instead of Brothers in christ, and i long so much for Christian friends 😭
Praying that God would help you find some good Christian friends!
"Christ is enough!" that is so good
This is going to be amazing, she is such a positive light during these times and such an inspiration.
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I’ve been single for almost a year and God is teaching me to be patient and to work on myself and my faith. Loved this video, very inspiring! 💕
This video was so timely Ashley. The 8th thing you learned when it comes to mindfulness, is something I'm currently learning and have strived to continue to learn in living in the now and not worrying about if I will get married or have children one day. Thank you so much for these reminders.
:) so thankful for you! God is working in your heart and it is beautiful!
I love this point! You and Taylor made many good points about future husband mentality during one of your earlier podcasts and I understood the problem so well through it. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and that is a reason to get to know someone even if we don’t want to have a romantic relationship! 🥰
amen!!!
I am 16 years old, recently I have been seeing many friends in relationships and it has made me want one, but I have realized that I need to be willing to trust God and wait that he will give me the right guy . Your video really encouraged me to stay patient and really just enjoy this time of being single so thank you so much for making these videos
I am so glad this was a n encouragement to you! Praise God!!!
GIRL!!! back in February/March God put it on my heart to just wait and be intentional single and get to know Him better. I've kinda followed it, but now that you posted this video it inspired me sooo much. Guess who's starting today :)
YAY! i am praying for you!
for all women growing in singleness of time God has a reason why your relationship didnt work out for months or years because God didnt give you that for a wrong person to love.. and God want you to focus His will not your will. and God give you a chance to change your priority because He knows your heart so do not fear if you dont have love life or in a relationship , instead be thankful because God has a planned for you much better than your planning. Thank you for reminding me or us Sister in Coffee Bible Time 😍😍🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I come back to your singleness videos a lot when I’m struggling. Y’all have been such an encouragement to me :). Christ is enough!
I find it hard to speak about my longings, so I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty!! I'm glad to know that I am not alone and know how I should deal with it with God ❤️
:) You are not alone
Thank you for sharing this. I totally agree when you say it's a daily struggle. It is so true. Everytime I get impatient with being single, I just remind myself of the truth that a spouse cannot satisfy you. If Christ who died for you can't satisfy you, then which man can ? If Christ can't make you stay pure in heart, which man can ? And marriage is not self-centered, it's all about serving the other human being that God loves.
I set out a year of intentional singleness as well!!! My heart warmed up when I encountered your singleness podcast ❤️ so so relatable. I love watching your journey especially now that you’re getting married 😍 God is so good! May He continue to bless you!!!
What Ashley said was really helpful because the media and so many ideologies out in this world have made our ideologies lean towards understanding that we at all times need to have someone (specifically a partner) but it is not true. Singleness has an important role to play in everyones life and Ashley very aptly stated it. Thank you
Thank you for this nice comment! Praise God!
Beautiful girl, thank you SO much for all you do for the Lord!!! You are such an inspiration to me and others. For some reason, I am seeing this video a year late!!! Watching it AFTER your engagement 🙈🤗😉 Ahhhh! Your life is a testament to how good our sweet God is! He is so so good. So so faithful. I just love seeing the end of your story before watching this. That encouraged me as a single who is trusting in God to usher me into the next season of life. He has heard my prayers and ik He will answer me. Thank you! 💛💛💛🌻🔆😘🎉🎊
God is teaching me how to be patient ♥️ Everything is beautiful in His own time!
Yes tip 8!!! You hit the nail on the head!! I struggle with mindfulness and living right now bc I always think about my future! 💜 thank you for this you put this all in perspective for me!!💜💜
Yay! Praise God! So happy this was helpful to you!
YES! Love this! I've had many informative single years in my life, and I am seeing someone now, but those years really shaped and prepared me for this season I'm in now. Every season has purpose. I mentor younger girls who are single and I think I will share this with them because it is so meaningful.Thanks for sharing! :)
yay! Thank you! I do believe it's a great time for shaping and character growth! :)
I am commenting because UA-cam likes it and because I live your videos!
in singleness, God is teaching me that WORTH starts with ME. Nobody or anything can make you BELIEVE that you are worthy‼️
I’m rewatching this video cause today I decided to do the same and just intentionally staying single. I was engaged then broke it over a year ago. I’m 27, I’ve had moments of wanting to pursue guys but I remind myself that’s not what God wants me to do. This won’t be easy but I want to stop worrying about what I can’t control. God bless you Ashley and all the work you girls do on this channel it’s truly a blessing.
I chose intentional singleness ever since I was born. Now I’m in high school and people still bother me about why I don’t want a girlfriend and I’m starting to get sick of everyone trying to push their sex life onto me. There was also a girl in 10th grade who tried really hard with her friends to get me to go out with her, but I never saw myself in that kind of position. Now I question if god wants me to stay single or if he is throwing girls at me to get me into a relationship.
Been single since last April 2019 when I ended a relationship
I have no regrets .
Celibate since November 7,2019
Been getting right with God
I'm looking forward to finally have some peace in my life
And when I do decide to get into a relationship some day
It will be a Godly One 🙏🏽
Woo, go you! Seeking God is definitely the key :)
I literally relate to everything and I'm so more than willing to make a change in the flaws I have concerning singleness as a dedication to Christ.
I'm going down through these comments and some of you are saying that you are single unintentionally. Why is everyone so fired up to be in a relationship? I'm 46 years old, and I'm single, INTENTIONALLY! Heaven's too important to me, and I'm constantly thinking about being with God to even THINK about relationships)
6:16 "I don't know of I'll ever get married" welp look where God has you now ha
Thank you so much Jesus for everything ✝️✝️✝️✝️ hallelujah and amen ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️
Literally taking note of all the points. "I am so weak" : I can relate. 😅 Love your honesty. 💖
#relatable
Thank you! I’m not single, I’m married now. But good for you! Stay strong in the Lord😊
I'm single, and today God spoke me through this vedio, I realy need these words ..
Tomorrow is my birthday and I want to listen the voice of God for my coming years , and today God spoke with me...
And I now, I know that in my singleness time what God want to me actually.
Thank you for this vedio...
Dear sister may God use you more for the glory of his kingdom 😇😇
Happy early birthday!! I pray that God guides through this journey of becoming a year older, through your walk with him, and your journey of singleness. It's definitely not easy because there are so many distractions in this world and sometimes you can feel lonely and desire romantic relationships, but you are not alone in this journey as you have God and the community of brothers and sisters in Christ with you, myself included! I'm on this journey as well so if you ever want to connect please let me know! I know that it will all be worth it in the end
@@TheCoolkid789 thank you for wishing.... 😇😇
God b with you....
Lovee this! GOD’S timing is perfect✨
started my year of singleness in Dec 2019 and I totally agree with you. each month that passes im like.. oh woah! Definitely learning what it means and looks like to focus on the bridegroom that matters and learning on how to heal from past stuff to bless your future self. not just in relationships but in general. and really just seeing God as our everything, our shepherd, father, protector, savior etc. and not placing that with expectations in a man bc he can never fulfill that! only Christ!!!
I have been singled since September of 2020. I have 2 toddlers and a newborn on the way. I started praying for a husband when I was living in my car last year while my kids lived with their grandparents. After listening to your other video about whether it's a good thing or bad thing to pray for your future husband, God convicted me about my reasons of why I was asking for a husband in the first place. I learned that my desires were not in the right place and I was only asking God for a husband for my selfish needs/wants. I'm still learning that Jesus is enough.
I absolutely love your transparency. Thank you for sharing. Much love from South Africa❤
I am 19 and have just finished my sophomore year of college. I definitely have always struggled with wanting a husband and wanting someone to be with. Within the last few months with the help of one of my best friends, who is also single, I have really started to enjoy singleness for all of the same reasons you have listed in this video. Of course, I still long for a husband, but I truly LOVE being single and getting to spend my life right now entirely seeking the Lord and cultivating true and meaningful friendships that glorify God. It is such a blessing, and I am learning to trust that just because there is not a man in my life right now, God isn't saying "no," He is just saying "not yet." I am trusting in Him and growing in Him and learning to be content and loved in Him. No one can love me better than Jesus, so I am learning to allow myself to be truly loved by Him!!
Sooo excited for this! Loving the thumbnail 🥰😍❤️💕💞
hehe thank you!!!
I always feel lifted when I watch your videos, you help me figure out better ways to be a Christian ☺️💓✝️
I’m almost at my one year mark of being single and I’m so excited! 🤗
Thank you so much Ash! I'm 23, and this video is so inspiring me! Greeting from Indonesia!!🌻
:) so glad it helped!
Love this so much! I love your outlook on this, and there needs to be more content out there on this and for people to stop idolising marriage! Your life doesn’t start once you’re married! Run the race that God has set before you! Whether you’re married or not you have to run your race! (Hebrews) thanks for this video!
Love love love this and I can totally relate to all the things you said .
Team single 💃.
God led me to be intentionally single in February and from the moment I committed to that I've experienced so much peace, joy and comfort. I feel like I have greater mental clarity and spiritual growth.
It's really true that Life starts NOW.. He should always be our focus ♥ so that those days of sadness will carry through.
As a person married for many years, enough years to have 3 children as old as you, you are such an inspiration to all! Thank you for sharing your story. You have inspired me as well as my kids, 2 boys and 1 girl to look to today as that is all that God promises and to know that He is enough! Thanks for sharing!❤️
You are so beautiful inside and out you are such an inspiration and it’s so refreshing to see a humble, pure teenager xx 💗💗✝️
Thank you. Praise God
Coffee and Bible Time Np xx
Helen Brown heyyyyyyy
Emily Hornkohl hey 👋 watch coffee and bible time they r so goodddd
I'm so grateful I came across Coffee and Bible Time in this phase. God really was intentional about directing me to this channel.
I feel excited, Ashley! God bless you guys❤️🌼
So relatable ❤
Girl, can we be best friends? 😂 I've been praying for a gal friend who loves Jesus like you do for yearsss! And when you mentioned the importance of having good Christian friends, I was hit with the importance of this again! Jesus please send me a friend like Ashley! ❤️
Hey Ashley! Thank you so much for making this video! I'm in high school right now and I definitely want to learn more about how I can rely on God fully in my singleness. Thank you so much for all your help in discipling me through this platform! :)
Thank you for the sweet comment Sarah! You are so loved by God!
I’m not single, but I love this. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️
Please pray that I may find godly friends! That's something I need!!! God bless you!
Praying :)
Very wise words :) Congratulations to you and thank you for sharing this video with us! God bless you ❤️
Your video made me so happy, I like what you share about your season of singleness and I can relate. I came to learn similar things from the Lord when I finally decided to stop focusing on the fact that I have never dated anyone and start to focus on my walk with God and He led me to this season of “intentional singleness”. I am now 25, and it’s a age I love and I really wanted to devote this special year to the Lord and He has been amazing. He truly His the best, a provider, a friend everything we need we can find in Him. And He keeps equipping us for the next season whenever it will happen.
Currently in my intentional year of singleness and this was the encouragement I need to keep pushing through!😊😁
You can make it through! God is with you!
I'm so blessed for this ministery, I want to thank you for allow yourself to be used in Lord's hand for spiritual growth of many people 😊🙌 I'm from Brazil 🇧🇷 and I'm learning english, so your podcast/youtube channel has been very helpfull for that too 💖
yay!! Thank you!
This message is so great, i needed it. After a bad marriage of nineteen years my ex husband left me. At first i was angry and bitter. Then i found out the reason why. All because the Lord was waiting for me. He was my first Love. True the years i try to please my ex husband more and more till i realise that i was getting unhappy 😟 by the day. My Lord heard my cry and remove my ex husband. Now i AM back falling in love with my Beloved again. Only the fact that i had a marriage and the shame of a divorce was till today a struggle for me. But hearing that it is a blessing to be single makes me so happy 🙂 right now. Thank you my Lord for this word of encouragement and Bless the ministry of coffeeandbibletime 🙏.
Christ is Enough 💪
I just recently got out of a four year relationship. I am thinking about doing an intentional year of singleness. The only thing - I don’t have friends. I’m just in an in between place in my life and I don’t have any friends, much less Christian friends. Suggestions? Not having friends is something I struggle with most!! - Thank you for this video. It is soooo encouraging!
Wow! This video is old, but popped up at just the right time! There are so many stereotypes that marriage is the end goal and placing value and worth in it, but you're right, sister: we are living NOW!
Ashley don't rush getting married. I've been married 3 times. Long story. I am grateful for the families I meet along the way . I had 2 great mother in laws. Miss them dearly. Good luck to you.
I love all the podcasts topics and specially about singleness! So I cannot wait to watch this video! Love you Girls and Blessings from Bolivia!
Yay! I am so glad you like the Podcast!
Can't wait. So excited 🎀💕🦋💖
As my intentional year of singleness is coming to an end, I have learned many of the same things you have, particularly that Singleness is a gift! A glorious time where I can be so
Focused on Jesus and healing and growth without the distraction of a husband, pets, kids, etc… those things are also gifts, but in the right season. Outside of that season, they feel like a curse (I have an 8 year old, and have been married and divorced)- I was not a Christian then and let me tell you, God giving me this year of singleness is the most amazing gift I’ve had in many ways.
I’ve learned that being alone and loneliness are not even close to being the same thing. I’ve lived so much life and changed so much this year and it’s been the best year of my life! I have pursued my interests and hobbies and become secure in who I am, my personality, how I like to dress and show up, and I don’t worry about what others think about me anymore. I know that I am Beautiful and body image doesn’t control my thought life anymore. I wear less make up and feel confident and comfortable and alive. The year seemed to go by slowly at the beginning but towards the middle, it has flown by!
I did get distracted as well by a couple boys, for a couple weeks each time and it was a huge learning experience for me with Jesus and I got back onto the single train fairly quickly and focused on Jesus again.
I would highly recommend a year of INTENTIONAL singleness for every single person out there, before they marry and have children.
this is such a good video!!! also, I just want to take a moment to acknowledge your editing!! it is SO cute!🤩
heheh thank you so much!
This is exactly matched what the lord is teaching to me. I didn't realised that it is a lesson that God is teaching to me.. Before I watched this video I felt like am I only one who is struggling and now I understood that everybody has this type of thoughts. Thank you Ashley for making such a good video. This is really helped me .
Wow God is so good :) I never realized that singleness is a gift from God ❤️ thank you Ashley for sharing what you learned during your time of singleness 🙌 God bless you!
I’ve learned over the past year and singleness is such a gift. I’m excited to someday find someone and I pray for them often, but in the meantime I’ve truly enjoyed doing my own thing and focusing so much energy on falling more in love with Christ.
i needed this video!! at first, i was lacking intention when i became single, but ive found that spending time with God has helped so much in allowing me to grow into the person He created me to be! :) thank you for making this video 💕
I like hearing about singleness. I realized i was having illusions of maybe this guy liked me but its not. i like him since 6th grade so. we to 9th grade we went to diffrent highschool then around in 2013 graduation i started to try drinking with friends , i went to club and partys , i was at the point were i didnt wanted to live anymore , i ask God why do exist this and that cause i dont have the love of my biological father then at 2016 i saw my crush driving and i was behind him he was his sunglasses he looked back and i looked away, i was shy again , i felt tingly in my chest. my mom and his mom started talking by garage sale then i met the sister and his brother and all his family i thought it was signs . his sister was the one who invited me to go to church so i started going cause i felt peace and love . i was alwYs thinking about him but now by days pases in were in 2020 all i want is God . im satisfy
Esther yesss amen , thank you 😊
I love the point "mindfulness". And that men make great friends and we don't have to see them just as potential husbands. Wow !!! Deep truth.
Lots of love from Finland!❤ I just started my own intentional year of singleness and seeking the Lord and I am greatly inspired by you!🌟 Is anyone else doing this?
@@louellucero8005 Louella Lucero I'm so happy Christ has found his way into your heart like that!❤ I often struggle with being having joy in God's word, because I am tempted to view everything as law. I feel a bit ashamed as other people seem to find fulfillment in God easily, but hey, we are all on our own journeys and we muts just keep looking at God and his grace! Praise the Lord that we have faith!♥
@@hnobody339 yes. Jillian Johnson wrote it perfectly. It took me 25 years to realize. Half hour of Bible study a day, God rewards. Not just read. Study... I will pray for you. And you are somebody. Any child of God is a special somebody💖
Heck yeah for being single & pursuing higher education! LOVE THAT ❤️
WOOOO
Thank you sister for this message. Indeed Singleness is a gift from God. I know the enemy trigger my mind and I was low,until I told a sister to pray for me and I did have the peace of Jesus
Single and totally hearing you on EVERY point Ashley! Oh my my. When you mentioned the hubby point.. I was like .. rebuke! Haha thanks for being so transparent with your journey!
Through these girls I have grown a lot more in my walk with God! I love Ashley and Taylor!💕
Praise God!!