I think the difference in the advice given by people who currently have small children and the lady who doesn’t have small children shows that there is a disconnect between the generations and their experiences. This may also contribute to the lack of government support that people were talking about because the politicians who could make those changes tend to be from the older generation. Thank you for the great interview 😊
And the politicians are rich. It might be hard to say because it’s judging them without knowing them. But your life and daily struggles probably influence how real and pressing you think money issues are for parents.
Dude is spending an extra $1500 a month on hagwons/academies for elementary age and that’s the low end.... I think outsiders don’t understand just how expensive it is and so people are opting out of parenthood, and not for some frivolous reasons. The path to success (middle class) is narrow in Korea and sending kids to academies is just the first step. Even college, they still go for the English toeic test, certificates for resumes, etc. Plus people can’t afford a house, to care for themselves, retirement, emergency money, etc.
I would be interested in seeing more of this topic, from again, both older and younger people. Part 2? When they say "house" they don't mean a stand alone house, they usually mean an apartment, don't they? From what I understand many 20-30 yr olds cannot even afford a small apartment on their own. It's getting like that all over the world.
By “house” they mean apartments. Single homes in Seoul are outrageously expensive and rare (several millions dollars). But apartments nowadays are millions dollars too 😂
First good interview. Second I hate that kids were their to hear the conversation especially when they say children are a burden. Third I’m always confused when the Korean society push education and studying so hard and want the children to succeed but if a female goes into the work force what I understand from other interviews that her position is not promised after brith or you have to make less . Is that true? I wouldn’t want to study most of my life get a decent and job and loose it if I gave brith. To me that doesn’t make sense.
If a woman has a job in public sector (government officer, teacher, etc), their job is stable after birth and child-care break. If she has three kids , she can have 10 year break and still get her position back. But small private companies find excuses to fire the pregnant woman because they cannot run the business stably if the worker is in and out constantly. The government will have to give huge compensation to the small businesses to keep the pregnant employees. Also if she has a freelance job, the situation will be more unstable. Going back to work after childcare is very difficult in many aspects. The job market in Korea itself is not that flexible.
Yooo seriously??? So the parents spend thousands before college, and if it's a girl who gets pregnant they'd drop her so fast. Wtf I'm surprised anyone had kids with that burden in such a cut throat society
That's why a lot of korean elderly prefer grandson over granddaughter, so that they can prayed the grandson to be successful and then the granddaughter to find a rich man in the future 😂
I live in America. We also have been seeing a decline in birth rates. I think a lot a lot of it has to do with the wages staying the same, but the cost of everything going up. It also doesn't help with the lack of support from the government. I am in my 40s. 20 years ago, my brother worked while his wife was able to stay home with the kids before their kids went to school. Most parents can't do that now. Because the cost of living is just too high.
Yes! 😭 In my early 20s and my mom keeps bringing up if I plant to have kids but it's like??? We can afford to keep ourselves afloat since we got lucky, but one hospital visit and we are DONE for 💀 how tf you want me to raise a child???
Korea needs to do what China did and get rid of all private academies. The teachers in school should be teaching not just having kids do workbooks with memorization. In the U.S. kids just go to school and after have free time to hang out with friends and family, volunteer for a charity work or work part time , this way they learn about the real world while still in high school. We have several Ivy League schools plus some of our kids go to other Ivy League schools out of the county like Oxford and even KAIST in Korea. This would help parents as they would not have to spend money on academies and as the one man said you have to do it for your kids to have friends or they will be left out so get rid of the academies. Korea also needs more affordable housing and push industry to maybe cities like Busan - give industries tax breaks if they move out of Seoul since its so densely populated which is pushes housing cost up. Also if I was a man I would not want to marry a Korean woman if she is only looking for a free house/car. In U.S. we get married and work toward those things together. Maybe if Korean parents stayed out of their childrens' love life more would get married.
While I understandyour point that academies are likely a huge part of the problem and better balance should be achieved, I don't think the US should be held up as an example in this case. Our school system is struggling and our education is not highly ranked among peer countries.
A topic that's so enlightening with different POV's. Marriage & children sounds great initially, but people, today, are realizing that it's not the be all end all thing. It will forever alter your life and sometimes, not for the better. Longevity and commitment doesn't seem to apply as much with the present generation. Social Media has definitely made an impact. I also believe that we're becoming more selfish...more take and not enough give. Just my opinion.
All true. Although having children is more on the fake side than the give side. I mean some people literally made a whole new person just for selfish “I want my own personal love machine” reasons
@@yucol5661 Right? It's silly how people without kids are unfairly called selfish. Many parents only have kids because they want approval from their family or to make their own "mini me". I also think young people are still willing to commit to a relationship but don't have the same desire or requirement that a relationship must lead to marriage that prior generations did.
@@yucol5661no, having children is not "more on the fake side" what an asinine claim. I wonder if the relationship you have with your own parents would have influenced such a warped perspective 🤔
Tbh I think a lot of people from this generation are more emphatic an less selfish than older generations, they don't want to bring a kid to this world when they know they can't afford a house or (in case of women) a stable job after having kids, they seem to look for a stable life before starting a family so their kids won't suffer a lot but soon they realize that society and the economic problems are way too far for them to handle so they give up on having kids. I think that this is happening all over the world, I noticed how a lot of people in south america for example, have suffered a lot bcs their parents didn't have a stable job or a good financial state, so they have the mentality that "I suffered a lot bcs I was born by accident, If I have a kid I need money and a good work-life balance". However, it's true that a lot of people see negatively having kids, especially women since that means almost giving up on your professional career and dreams, but I agree that many people prefer spending their money on themselves than in kids, they are not interested in that at all but I don't like to call them "selfish" since it's their life and they have the right to decide if they create a family or not.
As a 18 year old female student in India who live alone in city for 8:26 education... it cost less than 73 dollar, food is free in school. .. Government give us so many scholarship, money books , school dress, bags , water... Everything.... .. If any mother give birth then. Society government support them properly..... ( sorry my english is not good , because it's not my language)
It sounds like there is a lot of societal pressure to live a certain lifestyle when you have children. Parents are forced to pay for private lessons so that their children can fit in. So rather than it being about educational growth, it’s about peer pressure. I can completely understand why young people have no interest in marriage and having children. They don’t want the pressure their parents faced.
It is a complex problem with more than one issue - money/cost of housing certainly is a large part fed by the tradition that the man must have a house. In other cultures, the couple views that task as a joint task to be done together. They are willing to start off very small, a tiny apartment and work together to move forward. There is no requirement that the man must have a house. That may make a difference. Housing costs are impacting young people in other parts of the world, especially in cities, also. Women do not want to have to give up their careers to raise children, something that has been the social norm. Now they have a choice, a word used frequently in these interviews. It is no longer an obligation or a duty or an expectation. There has been, worldwide, the commonly held norm has been that all women want is to have children. Now there is choice, that commonly held norm does not seem to be the reality of want a woman wants from life. They are as complex people as men are. Societies will have to make is, for lack of a better word, easier for couples to raise children. More time to spend with the family, affordable housing, affordable if not free good education are just some of the pieces.
"My daughter doesn't understand me" with all due respect, your daughter would be the one with the responsibility over the baby. Pressuring someone who is not monetarily or emotionally ready to bring a baby to this world is the perfect recipe to raise a broken human being... and all for what? So you can babysit for an hour and brag to your friends that your daughter had a baby? This is how children get stuck with emotionally unavailable parents who never wanted them to begin with. Let your daughter handle her life without the constant stress of a mother pressuring her to get married or have children.
So sad, although the financial issues are real, the joy is being lost, too. This is nation that overcame occupation and wars yet only now are the adults not forming families. Being others in will not serve preserving the amazing heritage and culture.
If you listen, its not just money. Because the social life seems to revolve around work and single life, a woman would choose to isolate herself if she became a mom. Thats a really hard choice to make. Being a parent costs so much, mentally, physically, and socially. I get it.
I think it was an insult for their parents to say it that it was a burden, how was that for their parents back then? Maybe less material things and focus on what is important. It becomes a burden if your keeping up with your neighbor it is really stressful that way. live a simple life and be contented on what you can only afforded. Especially now everything is expensive.
The guy in blue went into family accountant mode in a snap 😆 and his kids are listening in, thinking ain’t no way I’m getting married and having kids 😂😂😂😂
Perhaps this is the time the youth of the world want their independence while they're still active and filled with the passion to do and want so many things. No one ever stays the same forever and people evolve and change. The social responsibilities of getting married and having children could very well come naturally later down the line, and even then it should be up to the youth who have finally done what and let's be honest, who they wanted with all their energy, to finally find themselves wanting to be a husband or wife and possibly parents. Perhaps we all should calm down and give them a little more time to live and figure things out. Also...asking and answering those questions in front of those children...oof.😓
30 years old,single. It would be better to have a spouse or children after the job. I used to take them for walks, to play. Those moments will be very happy. I don't need luxury life or luxury things, I want a happy life and family where every moment is joyful. Now really searching good soulmate who can help to make a beautiful family 👪.
You are one of the few. Of course marriage with its all isn't easy and there are no garantess. I have meet alot of older people who chose not to have children as well as those who were unable and they all regret not choosing marriage. Even the ones where everything went wrong they were contented with the choice. I hope you find someone that you can be contented with and have a full filling life of your own choosing.
The same is happening here in U.K. and some other countries. For me personally, I did at one stage want to have kids. Butttt do I want them now?😂 nope!! I love travelling, and do what I want to and go where I want to. My cat is my fur baby 😊, and I have 3 nephews and 1 niece, so I’m fine. I was married, and would love to remarry. However, the option to want kids isssss a debatable one. At this stage, no kids and I’m in my early 40s.
My parents moved from srilanka to England over 22 years ago before my older sis was born, I will forever be eternally grateful for their continued sacrifices of their lives for us... I'm blessed with free education, healthcare and services with many options to become successful. I'll be graduating next year but I have soo much motivation to be successful and repay my gratitude to my parents. Even if education is not for u, there are many routes and opportunities for everyone and everyone is treated "equally" I think that is why many Asians come to western countries for such lives. If I ever think about marriage or kids, I don't have to ever worry about being burdened because whether u are rich or poor, there is always help 💛💛
I feel the same and I live in the US. I'm thankful that my mom was able to raise me here and give me a much better future. I dislike how born citizens cry and whine about their country and I'm not gonna lie.. sometimes I wish they would go to my home country and then cry me a river. No country is perfect but the one that gives you the opportunities is the best. We might not have free education but the opportunities are limitless. You don't even need college to be successful (my route) and I love what I do, have my own house, my husband and kids and that is already an achievement itself.
It is sad to know that, based on the interview, some think that having children is a burden. But for me, having children is a blessing. Coz when you get old there are people who will take care of you and its them. Maybe life is tough while you are raiising them, but when they finished their education and got a decent job they will help you and raised your way of living. Children are blessings from above.
Oh dear. Get out of that mindset that having kids is a blessing coz they will take care of you when you grow older. The world isn’t working that way anymore. Kids are blessing if you know that you can bring one into the world and raise them into good citizens of mankind. This is regardless of what the local culture, like in Korea, expect one to fall pressure to.
S K peddles an image of prosperity; designers launching products thete, mega shopping malls, copious cosmetic surgery, Samsung etc but people seem very depressed and confused in a highly competitive society. Also their idea of marriage is very specific and seems to have little to do with love and the desire to be with your 'significant' other 😢
I thought it was opposite. Everywhere in Korea is so crowded and so many young people. I know overseas Koreans are not part of the Korean statistics but in American and Canada, Korean couples are having the most children hence why Koreans are overpopulating in other countries.
@@UnstableYT-u7kMore than 50% of population are stuffed in Seoul metropolitan area(Seoul, Gyungido, Incheon). Outside of that area, small cities are losing people in fast pace. Schools are getting shut down due to lack of students and local business are demolishing.
Kalo muslim menikah itu sunnah Rosul bagi siapa yang tidak menyukai sunnahku maka bukan golonganku😢, bagi laki laki yang ingin menikah tapi belum siap finansial yang dianjurkan puasa untuk mengendalikan hasrat bukan malah.....
I have a complete and comprehensive plan that will solve the problem of low birthrate in Korea and the need for immigrants will be minimized and security and cultural concerns will be solved. My only problem is that I cannot travel to Korea. Is it possible
I have watched several like minded videos on this about S.K. for a while now. My observation is that some mentioned the fact that the country does not make it suitable for raising kids. But there are other several key factors that should be noted as well S.K's patriarchal and misogynist culture does not make it friendly for women to want to have to be married, have kids or just truly be themselves. Punishment related to assault cases are very small, women are ridiculed for wanting to go back to work or even going on maternity leave is an opportunity for the company to fire them. Not to mention there is the salary disparity that completely sucks etc. (Recommend doing a interview on this). In addition, I understand that government gives money towards "parents", yet at the same time are or if its been approved by now are planning to increase the work hours to 69 hrs per week. This in essence voids the incentive of becoming a parent. Being a parent is more than a full time job, how would that fit in raising a child? There is no balance, from an observer view the country does not allow that either culturally or fiscally for one to achieve their goal of increasing the birth rate. As long as things stay the same in both aspects, this will not change nor will it motivate others to become parents.
Siapa yang nggak pingin nikah dan punya anak , pasti ingin anak kecil juga sangat lucu walau lelah tapi senang juga bisa lihat anak sehat dan keurus, setiap rumah tangga pasti punya ujiannya sendiri sendiri ,menikah tidak bermodal cinta saja , kesiapan kedua pasangan dan juga finalsial , asal bisa qonaah dan merasa cukup insyaallah akan terpenuhi juga. Tergantung gaya hidup Juga, istri itu bersyukur atau tidak terhadap suaminya, apakah Mala suka mengeluh, kalo muslim menikah itu ibadah jadi disitu ada ladang pahala yaitu pahala bersyukur dan bersabar.
I understand what you are saying. I think people all over the world are exhausted of war and other government abusing people. For many people all over the world, they just don't want to bring innocent children into the world. Many people all over aren't sure they can't trust their spouses. It's not ALL bad but the bad things in life are increasing. You bring up a good point though.
This is a shitty mindset that should've been expired, probably boomer gen of mindset, which we know they're not the best if not one of the worst parents generation lmao.
In order to reverse the damage that the Korean government has created. They need to think outside the box like Viktor orban. Eliminate income tax for couples who remain married for the rest of their life.. also have a minimum of four or more children. In return for contributing to the country needs you don't pay any income tax.
Well it's really different with my culture and religion so I don't know how to comment on this.. 😂 I also don't necessary like children but when I have my 2 children,, they really make me happy,, they even said I will buy you expensive, shining jewelery for you later when I am big..😂 to know that we are looking for future generation is a blessing❤
Wow! I found this interview to be fascinating. Thank you for the work you do in providing insight into Korean society and culture. I wasn't aware of the struggle and financial hardship many Korean families face in educating their children. I'm curious, is there no free public education available to families in Korea? In America, the government funds free public education for families, although grossly underfunded in many cases. Also, how do Koreans feel about homeschooling? With such a strong emphasis on education in Korea, I would imagine homeschooling would be frowned upon, but I don't know for sure. I would love to know the opinions about homeschooling from native Koreans. I personally homeschool my 3 kids and all are doing very well academically, socially, and emotionally. Although many homeschooling families in America struggle with the financial burden of homeschooling (there is no financial support from the government for homeschooling), there is financial assistance available for those families through a variety of non-profit organizations. I was able to start a small business supporting public school teachers choosing to leave the broken and underfunded public education system and transition to a private educator who works for themselves. I also assist families choosing to leave the broken public education system that no longer serves their child (ren) well. I serve as a bridge between talented teachers and families seeking an alternative form of education and work to connect the right family with the right teacher for them with a homeschool-type structure. In the beginning, when I first began this work, I was shocked to learn there are so many teachers and families leaving traditional education, but I quickly realized there is a steady exodus happening in America's education system. Thank you again for all your hard work with people from around the world. I really enjoy your content and look forward to learning more!
The translation of “burden” from the Korean word “부담“ in this video is a bit exaggerated, I think “pressure“ would be more appropriate. That being said, it’s not wrong to say having marriage and children are a burden with the current state of Korean economy 😢
People back then think marriage is a necessity, so they do it even though it's hard. Because mens back then are strong af. They go to war knowing they'll get killed 100%, they do it proudly. Present generation, they think marriage is not a necessity but options, they can make a choice. If it's hard, they won't do it. If it's dangerous, they won't do it. Younger generations only will do something if it's easy, not dangerous and brings good money. Not sure why present generation is weak af. Probably the weakest era in human history. Throw something hard to them and watch they die instantly.
That's not what they are saying. Kids need to know real life and it's hard and that's all they are saying. In the West everything in front of kids needs to be so sanitized and I don't believe that's the correct way to inform kids.
@TheMariemarie16 True the West may try to shelter kids too much. Each parent with young kids they interviewed said their education is a burden to them. They are old enough to understand how important it is to be high scoring. How is saying they are a burden going to make them any less stressed about school? They need to hear about the real world. Should it really be at 6 years old? These kids are no older than 10 hearing how stressful, expensive, and selfish the newer generation is for not having children. Will that really make their kids want to be parents in the future? They could have just put the kids 5 feet away. They shouldn't hear these things from their own parents.
Have you actually interviewed women in their 20s for their ideal husband, I imagine most would say he needs to be earning 6 or 7 figures? This means only 1% of men are attractive enough to have babies with, hence women delaying family planning as they can't find that 1% man.
i'm guessing you're a man? as a woman, as long as a partner is earning money i wouldn't care if it was more or less than me - just that they contributed!!! for me, the key issue is the expectation on women (still) to be primary caregiver ... not to mention the actual burden on both parents of looking after kids, spending huge sums of money, and generally being fully responsible for another human being's welfare.
Reversing the population pyramid where almost 50% of the population will be composed of elders doesn't sound like a good choice, unless you like the prospect of working until your last day on this Earth (because there is no way the pension system will be able to sustain that, especially since there will be fewer and fewer workers) and having a completely overburdened health system
I think the difference in the advice given by people who currently have small children and the lady who doesn’t have small children shows that there is a disconnect between the generations and their experiences. This may also contribute to the lack of government support that people were talking about because the politicians who could make those changes tend to be from the older generation. Thank you for the great interview 😊
And the politicians are rich. It might be hard to say because it’s judging them without knowing them. But your life and daily struggles probably influence how real and pressing you think money issues are for parents.
Dude is spending an extra $1500 a month on hagwons/academies for elementary age and that’s the low end.... I think outsiders don’t understand just how expensive it is and so people are opting out of parenthood, and not for some frivolous reasons. The path to success (middle class) is narrow in Korea and sending kids to academies is just the first step. Even college, they still go for the English toeic test, certificates for resumes, etc. Plus people can’t afford a house, to care for themselves, retirement, emergency money, etc.
korea this stupid country needs to get rid of hagwons academies
I would be interested in seeing more of this topic, from again, both older and younger people. Part 2? When they say "house" they don't mean a stand alone house, they usually mean an apartment, don't they? From what I understand many 20-30 yr olds cannot even afford a small apartment on their own. It's getting like that all over the world.
By “house” they mean apartments. Single homes in Seoul are outrageously expensive and rare (several millions dollars). But apartments nowadays are millions dollars too 😂
I really like the interview series, the topics are always really interesting and the answers really insightful. Team Shy for the win!! 💪❤
First good interview.
Second I hate that kids were their to hear the conversation especially when they say children are a burden.
Third I’m always confused when the Korean society push education and studying so hard and want the children to succeed but if a female goes into the work force what I understand from other interviews that her position is not promised after brith or you have to make less . Is that true? I wouldn’t want to study most of my life get a decent and job and loose it if I gave brith. To me that doesn’t make sense.
If a woman has a job in public sector (government officer, teacher, etc), their job is stable after birth and child-care break. If she has three kids , she can have 10 year break and still get her position back.
But small private companies find excuses to fire the pregnant woman because they cannot run the business stably if the worker is in and out constantly. The government will have to give huge compensation to the small businesses to keep the pregnant employees.
Also if she has a freelance job, the situation will be more unstable. Going back to work after childcare is very difficult in many aspects. The job market in Korea itself is not that flexible.
Yooo seriously??? So the parents spend thousands before college, and if it's a girl who gets pregnant they'd drop her so fast. Wtf I'm surprised anyone had kids with that burden in such a cut throat society
That's why a lot of korean elderly prefer grandson over granddaughter, so that they can prayed the grandson to be successful and then the granddaughter to find a rich man in the future 😂
I live in America. We also have been seeing a decline in birth rates. I think a lot a lot of it has to do with the wages staying the same, but the cost of everything going up. It also doesn't help with the lack of support from the government. I am in my 40s. 20 years ago, my brother worked while his wife was able to stay home with the kids before their kids went to school. Most parents can't do that now. Because the cost of living is just too high.
Yes! 😭 In my early 20s and my mom keeps bringing up if I plant to have kids but it's like??? We can afford to keep ourselves afloat since we got lucky, but one hospital visit and we are DONE for 💀 how tf you want me to raise a child???
Korea needs to do what China did and get rid of all private academies. The teachers in school should be teaching not just having kids do workbooks with memorization. In the U.S. kids just go to school and after have free time to hang out with friends and family, volunteer for a charity work or work part time , this way they learn about the real world while still in high school. We have several Ivy League schools plus some of our kids go to other Ivy League schools out of the county like Oxford and even KAIST in Korea. This would help parents as they would not have to spend money on academies and as the one man said you have to do it for your kids to have friends or they will be left out so get rid of the academies. Korea also needs more affordable housing and push industry to maybe cities like Busan - give industries tax breaks if they move out of Seoul since its so densely populated which is pushes housing cost up. Also if I was a man I would not want to marry a Korean woman if she is only looking for a free house/car. In U.S. we get married and work toward those things together. Maybe if Korean parents stayed out of their childrens' love life more would get married.
While I understandyour point that academies are likely a huge part of the problem and better balance should be achieved, I don't think the US should be held up as an example in this case. Our school system is struggling and our education is not highly ranked among peer countries.
A topic that's so enlightening with different POV's. Marriage & children sounds great initially, but people, today, are realizing that it's not the be all end all thing. It will forever alter your life and sometimes, not for the better. Longevity and commitment doesn't seem to apply as much with the present generation. Social Media has definitely made an impact. I also believe that we're becoming more selfish...more take and not enough give. Just my opinion.
All true. Although having children is more on the fake side than the give side. I mean some people literally made a whole new person just for selfish “I want my own personal love machine” reasons
@@yucol5661 Right? It's silly how people without kids are unfairly called selfish. Many parents only have kids because they want approval from their family or to make their own "mini me". I also think young people are still willing to commit to a relationship but don't have the same desire or requirement that a relationship must lead to marriage that prior generations did.
@@yucol5661no, having children is not "more on the fake side" what an asinine claim. I wonder if the relationship you have with your own parents would have influenced such a warped perspective 🤔
Tbh I think a lot of people from this generation are more emphatic an less selfish than older generations, they don't want to bring a kid to this world when they know they can't afford a house or (in case of women) a stable job after having kids, they seem to look for a stable life before starting a family so their kids won't suffer a lot but soon they realize that society and the economic problems are way too far for them to handle so they give up on having kids.
I think that this is happening all over the world, I noticed how a lot of people in south america for example, have suffered a lot bcs their parents didn't have a stable job or a good financial state, so they have the mentality that "I suffered a lot bcs I was born by accident, If I have a kid I need money and a good work-life balance". However, it's true that a lot of people see negatively having kids, especially women since that means almost giving up on your professional career and dreams, but I agree that many people prefer spending their money on themselves than in kids, they are not interested in that at all but I don't like to call them "selfish" since it's their life and they have the right to decide if they create a family or not.
As a 18 year old female student in India who live alone in city for 8:26 education... it cost less than 73 dollar, food is free in school. .. Government give us so many scholarship, money books , school dress, bags , water... Everything.... .. If any mother give birth then. Society government support them properly..... ( sorry my english is not good , because it's not my language)
It sounds like there is a lot of societal pressure to live a certain lifestyle when you have children. Parents are forced to pay for private lessons so that their children can fit in. So rather than it being about educational growth, it’s about peer pressure. I can completely understand why young people have no interest in marriage and having children. They don’t want the pressure their parents faced.
Great video!
It is a complex problem with more than one issue - money/cost of housing certainly is a large part fed by the tradition that the man must have a house. In other cultures, the couple views that task as a joint task to be done together. They are willing to start off very small, a tiny apartment and work together to move forward. There is no requirement that the man must have a house. That may make a difference. Housing costs are impacting young people in other parts of the world, especially in cities, also.
Women do not want to have to give up their careers to raise children, something that has been the social norm. Now they have a choice, a word used frequently in these interviews. It is no longer an obligation or a duty or an expectation. There has been, worldwide, the commonly held norm has been that all women want is to have children. Now there is choice, that commonly held norm does not seem to be the reality of want a woman wants from life. They are as complex people as men are.
Societies will have to make is, for lack of a better word, easier for couples to raise children. More time to spend with the family, affordable housing, affordable if not free good education are just some of the pieces.
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In my country it's so rare to see a pregnant woman unlike 10yrs ago.i think its a world wide problem.
Good discussion topic!
"My daughter doesn't understand me" with all due respect, your daughter would be the one with the responsibility over the baby. Pressuring someone who is not monetarily or emotionally ready to bring a baby to this world is the perfect recipe to raise a broken human being... and all for what? So you can babysit for an hour and brag to your friends that your daughter had a baby? This is how children get stuck with emotionally unavailable parents who never wanted them to begin with. Let your daughter handle her life without the constant stress of a mother pressuring her to get married or have children.
So sad, although the financial issues are real, the joy is being lost, too. This is nation that overcame occupation and wars yet only now are the adults not forming families. Being others in will not serve preserving the amazing heritage and culture.
If you listen, its not just money. Because the social life seems to revolve around work and single life, a woman would choose to isolate herself if she became a mom. Thats a really hard choice to make. Being a parent costs so much, mentally, physically, and socially. I get it.
Yeah, it is happening everywhere. Daycare alone for one child is about 20,000 a year
Poor kids listening to their parent talk negatively about school, marriage and cost of living. Those three for sure won’t be getting married 😂
Kids don’t usually listen to adults conversations) even if they listen they could not concentrate long enough to understand)
Deadass 💀 Like at least put em 5ft away, how you gonna wonder why the younger gen ain't having kids and you smack talking your kids 😂
I think it was an insult for their parents to say it that it was a burden, how was that for their parents back then? Maybe less material things and focus on what is important. It becomes a burden if your keeping up with your neighbor it is really stressful that way. live a simple life and be contented on what you can only afforded. Especially now everything is expensive.
That second guy was so cool 😮
Generally it's people's choice and majority of the people doesn't care about low birthrates...
The guy in blue went into family accountant mode in a snap 😆 and his kids are listening in, thinking ain’t no way I’m getting married and having kids 😂😂😂😂
2 word "sick society"
한국인들 대상으로 이런 컨텐츠가 제작되어야 할텐데요. 국내용으론 눈가리고 귀막는 국뽕 컨텐츠만 나오고 외국인에게 현실 반영 컨텐츠가 나온다는게 아이러니하네요.
I think Japan too.
Perhaps this is the time the youth of the world want their independence while they're still active and filled with the passion to do and want so many things. No one ever stays the same forever and people evolve and change. The social responsibilities of getting married and having children could very well come naturally later down the line, and even then it should be up to the youth who have finally done what and let's be honest, who they wanted with all their energy, to finally find themselves wanting to be a husband or wife and possibly parents. Perhaps we all should calm down and give them a little more time to live and figure things out.
Also...asking and answering those questions in front of those children...oof.😓
30 years old,single. It would be better to have a spouse or children after the job. I used to take them for walks, to play. Those moments will be very happy. I don't need luxury life or luxury things, I want a happy life and family where every moment is joyful.
Now really searching good soulmate who can help to make a beautiful family 👪.
You are one of the few. Of course marriage with its all isn't easy and there are no garantess. I have meet alot of older people who chose not to have children as well as those who were unable and they all regret not choosing marriage. Even the ones where everything went wrong they were contented with the choice. I hope you find someone that you can be contented with and have a full filling life of your own choosing.
The same is happening here in U.K. and some other countries.
For me personally, I did at one stage want to have kids. Butttt do I want them now?😂 nope!!
I love travelling, and do what I want to and go where I want to.
My cat is my fur baby 😊, and I have 3 nephews and 1 niece, so I’m fine.
I was married, and would love to remarry. However, the option to want kids isssss a debatable one. At this stage, no kids and I’m in my early 40s.
My parents moved from srilanka to England over 22 years ago before my older sis was born, I will forever be eternally grateful for their continued sacrifices of their lives for us... I'm blessed with free education, healthcare and services with many options to become successful. I'll be graduating next year but I have soo much motivation to be successful and repay my gratitude to my parents. Even if education is not for u, there are many routes and opportunities for everyone and everyone is treated "equally" I think that is why many Asians come to western countries for such lives. If I ever think about marriage or kids, I don't have to ever worry about being burdened because whether u are rich or poor, there is always help 💛💛
Many?
Not really
More people stay in Asian countries than leave.
Good luck girl! Jealous of the free education 😭
@@dings7301 honestly is a blessing that I sometimes take for granted 😅 but utilising it well xx
I feel the same and I live in the US. I'm thankful that my mom was able to raise me here and give me a much better future. I dislike how born citizens cry and whine about their country and I'm not gonna lie.. sometimes I wish they would go to my home country and then cry me a river. No country is perfect but the one that gives you the opportunities is the best. We might not have free education but the opportunities are limitless. You don't even need college to be successful (my route) and I love what I do, have my own house, my husband and kids and that is already an achievement itself.
@@lizgaby9761 that's good, college/uni ain't the only route to becoming successful 💛
It is sad to know that, based on the interview, some think that having children is a burden. But for me, having children is a blessing. Coz when you get old there are people who will take care of you and its them. Maybe life is tough while you are raiising them, but when they finished their education and got a decent job they will help you and raised your way of living. Children are blessings from above.
Oh dear. Get out of that mindset that having kids is a blessing coz they will take care of you when you grow older. The world isn’t working that way anymore.
Kids are blessing if you know that you can bring one into the world and raise them into good citizens of mankind. This is regardless of what the local culture, like in Korea, expect one to fall pressure to.
A nation that has no interest in families, no children isca nation that's a failure in the end 😢
To be fair. Its government to be blame
Which is more expensive-housing or education? Is there a problem with public education?
It’s free all right (and compulsory) but most Korean think that kids actually get their education from academies. 😂
S K peddles an image of prosperity; designers launching products thete, mega shopping malls, copious cosmetic surgery, Samsung etc but people seem very depressed and confused in a highly competitive society. Also their idea of marriage is very specific and seems to have little to do with love and the desire to be with your 'significant' other 😢
I thought it was opposite. Everywhere in Korea is so crowded and so many young people. I know overseas Koreans are not part of the Korean statistics but in American and Canada, Korean couples are having the most children hence why Koreans are overpopulating in other countries.
Nope.
@@nacmegfeegle2310 wdym?
@@UnstableYT-u7kMore than 50% of population are stuffed in Seoul metropolitan area(Seoul, Gyungido, Incheon). Outside of that area, small cities are losing people in fast pace. Schools are getting shut down due to lack of students and local business are demolishing.
Kalo muslim menikah itu sunnah Rosul bagi siapa yang tidak menyukai sunnahku maka bukan golonganku😢, bagi laki laki yang ingin menikah tapi belum siap finansial yang dianjurkan puasa untuk mengendalikan hasrat bukan malah.....
Women are opting out.
I have a complete and comprehensive plan that will solve the problem of low birthrate in Korea and the need for immigrants will be minimized and security and cultural concerns will be solved. My only problem is that I cannot travel to Korea. Is it possible
I have watched several like minded videos on this about S.K. for a while now. My observation is that some mentioned the fact that the country does not make it suitable for raising kids. But there are other several key factors that should be noted as well S.K's patriarchal and misogynist culture does not make it friendly for women to want to have to be married, have kids or just truly be themselves. Punishment related to assault cases are very small, women are ridiculed for wanting to go back to work or even going on maternity leave is an opportunity for the company to fire them. Not to mention there is the salary disparity that completely sucks etc. (Recommend doing a interview on this). In addition, I understand that government gives money towards "parents", yet at the same time are or if its been approved by now are planning to increase the work hours to 69 hrs per week. This in essence voids the incentive of becoming a parent. Being a parent is more than a full time job, how would that fit in raising a child? There is no balance, from an observer view the country does not allow that either culturally or fiscally for one to achieve their goal of increasing the birth rate. As long as things stay the same in both aspects, this will not change nor will it motivate others to become parents.
Siapa yang nggak pingin nikah dan punya anak , pasti ingin anak kecil juga sangat lucu walau lelah tapi senang juga bisa lihat anak sehat dan keurus, setiap rumah tangga pasti punya ujiannya sendiri sendiri ,menikah tidak bermodal cinta saja , kesiapan kedua pasangan dan juga finalsial , asal bisa qonaah dan merasa cukup insyaallah akan terpenuhi juga. Tergantung gaya hidup Juga, istri itu bersyukur atau tidak terhadap suaminya, apakah Mala suka mengeluh, kalo muslim menikah itu ibadah jadi disitu ada ladang pahala yaitu pahala bersyukur dan bersabar.
Easy for you to say
English, please!
I understand what you are saying. I think people all over the world are exhausted of war and other government abusing people. For many people all over the world, they just don't want to bring innocent children into the world. Many people all over aren't sure they can't trust their spouses. It's not ALL bad but the bad things in life are increasing.
You bring up a good point though.
This is a shitty mindset that should've been expired, probably boomer gen of mindset, which we know they're not the best if not one of the worst parents generation lmao.
In order to reverse the damage that the Korean government has created. They need to think outside the box like Viktor orban. Eliminate income tax for couples who remain married for the rest of their life.. also have a minimum of four or more children. In return for contributing to the country needs you don't pay any income tax.
Well it's really different with my culture and religion so I don't know how to comment on this.. 😂 I also don't necessary like children but when I have my 2 children,, they really make me happy,, they even said I will buy you expensive, shining jewelery for you later when I am big..😂 to know that we are looking for future generation is a blessing❤
One thing I noticed in this video is Korean people mostly wear white and black colour only. Don't you guys love colours??
Wow! I found this interview to be fascinating. Thank you for the work you do in providing insight into Korean society and culture. I wasn't aware of the struggle and financial hardship many Korean families face in educating their children. I'm curious, is there no free public education available to families in Korea? In America, the government funds free public education for families, although grossly underfunded in many cases. Also, how do Koreans feel about homeschooling? With such a strong emphasis on education in Korea, I would imagine homeschooling would be frowned upon, but I don't know for sure. I would love to know the opinions about homeschooling from native Koreans. I personally homeschool my 3 kids and all are doing very well academically, socially, and emotionally. Although many homeschooling families in America struggle with the financial burden of homeschooling (there is no financial support from the government for homeschooling), there is financial assistance available for those families through a variety of non-profit organizations. I was able to start a small business supporting public school teachers choosing to leave the broken and underfunded public education system and transition to a private educator who works for themselves. I also assist families choosing to leave the broken public education system that no longer serves their child (ren) well. I serve as a bridge between talented teachers and families seeking an alternative form of education and work to connect the right family with the right teacher for them with a homeschool-type structure. In the beginning, when I first began this work, I was shocked to learn there are so many teachers and families leaving traditional education, but I quickly realized there is a steady exodus happening in America's education system. Thank you again for all your hard work with people from around the world. I really enjoy your content and look forward to learning more!
By 2030 Korea would need a lot of immigrants...
Im sad for them......but we have to respect their choice 😢❤
The translation of “burden” from the Korean word “부담“ in this video is a bit exaggerated, I think “pressure“ would be more appropriate. That being said, it’s not wrong to say having marriage and children are a burden with the current state of Korean economy 😢
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So Koreans are arguing that its harder now to hve kids than say, in the 1950s? um debt is making it harder than war and starvation?
9 million South Koreans are single
I guess we all have to trust in God and thug it out
We need protection of all humans life from moment of conception.
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People back then think marriage is a necessity, so they do it even though it's hard. Because mens back then are strong af. They go to war knowing they'll get killed 100%, they do it proudly.
Present generation, they think marriage is not a necessity but options, they can make a choice. If it's hard, they won't do it. If it's dangerous, they won't do it. Younger generations only will do something if it's easy, not dangerous and brings good money.
Not sure why present generation is weak af. Probably the weakest era in human history. Throw something hard to them and watch they die instantly.
The weakest is yet to come
I am an Indian and a medical student. I love kids so my plan is to have atleast 3 children.
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Yo why they calling their kids burdens in front of them 😂 no wonder lamo
That's not what they are saying. Kids need to know real life and it's hard and that's all they are saying. In the West everything in front of kids needs to be so sanitized and I don't believe that's the correct way to inform kids.
@TheMariemarie16 True the West may try to shelter kids too much. Each parent with young kids they interviewed said their education is a burden to them. They are old enough to understand how important it is to be high scoring. How is saying they are a burden going to make them any less stressed about school? They need to hear about the real world. Should it really be at 6 years old? These kids are no older than 10 hearing how stressful, expensive, and selfish the newer generation is for not having children. Will that really make their kids want to be parents in the future? They could have just put the kids 5 feet away. They shouldn't hear these things from their own parents.
Have you actually interviewed women in their 20s for their ideal husband, I imagine most would say he needs to be earning 6 or 7 figures? This means only 1% of men are attractive enough to have babies with, hence women delaying family planning as they can't find that 1% man.
i'm guessing you're a man? as a woman, as long as a partner is earning money i wouldn't care if it was more or less than me - just that they contributed!!!
for me, the key issue is the expectation on women (still) to be primary caregiver ... not to mention the actual burden on both parents of looking after kids, spending huge sums of money, and generally being fully responsible for another human being's welfare.
This is stupid Internet talk. Most women don't require that income.
@rsdxxxx most women require a rich husband.
@@andresmattos7541touch grass
you have a wild imagination.
I'm from Kashmir and I want to say you I love Korean girls i don't know why but yeah it's true
cause they wanna be idols and idols can’t even date
Vitches of the americas hmm nunkun kalanka nygeyi madhiwa
The guy doing this video is cute. Do you want a blonde American girlfriend?
Creep
Early
Comb your hair
Women waking up and making good choices
Reversing the population pyramid where almost 50% of the population will be composed of elders doesn't sound like a good choice, unless you like the prospect of working until your last day on this Earth (because there is no way the pension system will be able to sustain that, especially since there will be fewer and fewer workers) and having a completely overburdened health system