READY FOR BABY BUT...| AGE GAP STRUGGLES & HOW WE 'RE DOING AFTER A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

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  • After starting in our long distance relation, getting married and then finally living together for just a year we have had some time to really get to know each other. This is a relationship update video where we are just being our selves and being honest.
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  • @cordieashton2921
    @cordieashton2921 2 роки тому +422

    A older man marry a younger woman
    And expects her to be his age
    She cannot skip over her age
    Let her be
    As long as she love you

    • @mitzi75
      @mitzi75 2 роки тому +6

      This!!

    • @mssalahuddin7
      @mssalahuddin7 2 роки тому +1

      Whew weee! Arnold man will worry you to death. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @mayasquaw2254
      @mayasquaw2254 2 роки тому +16

      He lived his years

    • @emmoh2928
      @emmoh2928 2 роки тому +6

      The guilt she probably Carrie’s for leaving him because he brought her here and then he’s older..heartbreak at his age can be too much

    • @kaygall4973
      @kaygall4973 2 роки тому

      How old is she?

  • @jennichan5463
    @jennichan5463 2 роки тому +698

    You see that’s the problem right there! She’s young and she wants to explore the world and he doesn’t want to. Whether you want to admit it or not the age gap will cause some problems and I’m sure they can work through it but the point is there at two different stages in their lives

    • @sunshinesunshine1389
      @sunshinesunshine1389 2 роки тому +36

      Yep......true

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 2 роки тому +59

      True and the time will come when she will feel stuck. If a baby comes before she explore the world she will feel trapped. If she had done things when she was single then the desire would be less.
      He's getting older. The longer they wait the more reluctant he'll be. It's just comes with experience and age. Been their done that. I wish them all the best.

    • @Madras20
      @Madras20 2 роки тому +32

      @@teri_p girl mi memba when mi did seh something and dem jump down mi throat but yah speak facts that’s why I don’t like huge age gaps

    • @deborahdavy1892
      @deborahdavy1892 2 роки тому +4

      Age or age not if you want it to work it will nothing is promised you has to make it work

    • @theexoticalaspielady
      @theexoticalaspielady 2 роки тому +30

      Yes, unfortunately there is too much age gap here and something with this man is off. I hope she does not get pregnant because I think she should leave this as its going to bring her down gradually. Kids would finish that marriage because he is almost 70 years of age.

  • @Glamchic01
    @Glamchic01 2 роки тому +293

    I really like Kim. Her body language is saying more than her words in the video. My only advised is please dont lose yourself baby girl, you are young, vibrant and ready to live! dont sensor yourself for anyone. Living in a new country without ur family support is no joke. I was there. traveling and kekeke with my friends got me thru that tuff time. so i understand.

    • @sunshinesunshine1389
      @sunshinesunshine1389 2 роки тому +4

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @aquilaclark814
      @aquilaclark814 2 роки тому +3

      🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @christineharvey7008
      @christineharvey7008 2 роки тому +17

      See the hurt in her eyes at 8:43 on. He's been there done
      She's just ready to start. Unfair. Smh

    • @foreverray8659
      @foreverray8659 2 роки тому +10

      I agree I feel she look like she wanted to get teary and she has caught herself staring at him and her eyes telling alot than she smile to look like she agreeing with him, but yes growing pain I pray you both understand each other dreams and hopefully motherhood planning journey comes to you I see your wants in this update ....

    • @stephaniebrown1288
      @stephaniebrown1288 2 роки тому +3

      Girl!

  • @applejellypucci
    @applejellypucci 2 роки тому +86

    I was in an age gap relationship and finally left him when I saw he was happy never having kids even though he said he would want them someday. We don't always get "someday". I was 35 having my first and now 37 having my second with the man I moved on with. I told the next one come along I wanted kids and that it was a dealbreaker for me if he didn't. Be clear with your intentions because you'd hate to bore a child for someone who doesn't have their heart really in it. Don't let having a child pass you by if that's what you really want.

  • @conversationswithcollette8330
    @conversationswithcollette8330 2 роки тому +317

    Kim consistently tries hard to show respect & create a pleasant atmosphere. Boo sounds like my husband who tries to avoid doing or saying anything that may offend me, not knowing that I don’t mind spontaneity. We’re also in an age-gap relationship. Just continue to be patient & respectful. 💞🙏🏾

    • @maxineaddiman5642
      @maxineaddiman5642 2 роки тому +2

      KIM YOU SEEM TO SMILE MIST TIMES. BUT THATS ADMIRABLE.
      YOU ARE LOOKING MORE MATURE.

    • @maxineaddiman5642
      @maxineaddiman5642 2 роки тому

      Yes you seem to be ready for kids.
      Don't wait to long. That might be serious.

    • @conversationswithcollette8330
      @conversationswithcollette8330 2 роки тому +1

      @@divinefem8793 this is very unkind. Please try to find it in your heart to give others space to be and express themselves without judgement. If you don’t know someone personally, it’s difficult for you to jump to this kind of conclusion.
      By thinking well of others you’ll be more likely to find joy and happiness in your own life (if you’re not currently experiencing this). Be well.

  • @natoyal3030
    @natoyal3030 2 роки тому +281

    The laughing thing is not an example of an age gap issue, that's a difference of personality. Laugh yah Kim lol

  • @lisaingram785
    @lisaingram785 2 роки тому +30

    Sir, please don't complicate matters in your marriage. If your young wife desires to give you a child, then by all means give it to her. It is an act of love on her part.

  • @fatansiaful
    @fatansiaful 2 роки тому +249

    All I have to say Kim, Do not let UA-cam comment counsellors determine your relationship. You may not know how much ppl waiting for moment like this until they see you both split. Both you and Boo know what you guys want. All you have to do is communicate and see how best you guys can work it out. Marriage is a sacred thing and it comes with challenges and sacrifices. All the best for you both 🙏

    • @realnettieb
      @realnettieb 2 роки тому +36

      Every marriage is not God ordained ...

    • @challengesoflife2481
      @challengesoflife2481 2 роки тому +11

      He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing.

    • @godfavourersmeandsatandeli4493
      @godfavourersmeandsatandeli4493 2 роки тому +11

      @@realnettieb exactly!!! Everyone had their own agenda! When a relationship is divine, both parties have a solid understanding even without words

    • @christinejarrett7982
      @christinejarrett7982 2 роки тому +7

      @@realnettieb Hit the NAIL on the head!!!!!!!

    • @christinejarrett7982
      @christinejarrett7982 2 роки тому +4

      @@godfavourersmeandsatandeli4493 Definitely!!!!!!!

  • @tashetaluke2874
    @tashetaluke2874 2 місяці тому +4

    Looking back @ this video, I can see the changes started here Kims’s face expression says it all. And the fact that she kept saying the aged gap just highlights the nitty gritty as to why they are where they are now “SEPARATED”

    • @rainydays3076
      @rainydays3076 25 днів тому

      Yeah, he's a miserable man. Very Narcissitic ..his age makes it harder for him to change

  • @julietpaden6025
    @julietpaden6025 2 роки тому +61

    Alicia is ready to explore boo has been there done that he's ready to relax now, she's. young she wants to see the world and experience things.

  • @joyfulbliss6937
    @joyfulbliss6937 2 роки тому +141

    She is just starting out in life while he has lived and have much more experience. They are at extremely different stages in life and that makes a relationship difficult. Why would someone criticize another person for having a jovial personality? And its important that the person accepts you fully, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable to be yourself. I do hope Alicia fulfills her dream of motherhood, it would be unfair if she didnt.

    • @kinara5365
      @kinara5365 2 роки тому

      If she wants kids and the husband can't, we are here. Incant give her a kid

    • @mango1632
      @mango1632 2 роки тому +6

      @@kinara5365 She still deserves to be a mom. Technology can find away. He should NOT deny her if he wanted a YOUNG wife he has lived life LONG ENOUGH to know she COULD CHANGE her mind. Maybe adoption. He can't be selfish. If he DEFINITELY refuses to have children at this age I understand AND he has the RIGHT NOT TO WANT KIDS. But then he SHOULD NOT have married such a young girl. That's NOT FAIR to any young woman. He should date women HIS OWN AGE if he DID NOT want MORE children.

    • @emmoh2928
      @emmoh2928 2 роки тому +3

      I’m not buying that she’s genuinely happy.

  • @stacyannbowen6493
    @stacyannbowen6493 2 роки тому +276

    I’m so sorry for Kim because she deserves to have children she’s young and need to be able to have her heart desires. Boo live his life and dated, have kids so now at his age children is not where his priorities are now. I love how Kim is always upbeat a lot of men would love to have a wife that love to laugh.

    • @elizabethirvin9954
      @elizabethirvin9954 2 роки тому +13

      @@Zinga434 you know the answer unfortunately.

    • @natzhemmz2774
      @natzhemmz2774 2 роки тому +34

      No that's not true initially boo wanted to get her pregnant but she didn't want any kids . Idk if you have been following them from the start they had a video of her taking a pregnancy test. Boo was disappointed that it didn't happen. I never liked the fact that Boo had a problem with her "kekekekeing" he needs to let her be herself. Smh all these factors are always prominent in age gap relationships.

    • @stacyannbowen6493
      @stacyannbowen6493 2 роки тому +25

      I can genuinely see that Kim didn’t marry for opportunity because she wasn’t suffering in Jamaica. She had a hard time leaving her family.

    • @cherylestrada6943
      @cherylestrada6943 2 роки тому +1

      Well she in he in. So they need to bake she will feel bad

    • @charming_angel8574
      @charming_angel8574 2 роки тому +10

      Why you sorry for her, she choose that, you tell me she did not know what she was getting into☹☹🤮🤮

  • @InthelifeofDanellejam
    @InthelifeofDanellejam 2 роки тому +140

    I’m traumatised by my age gap relationship and I’m sure I’ve traumatised him too 😩.
    TIP: older partners please never believe a girl especially if under 30 years that’s she doesn’t want kids. Her maternal instincts will eventually kick in and she will get pregnant with or without you. She will also make all her mistakes so please don’t try to father her.
    Tip: To the younger partner, you were young when you made life long discussions. your older partner might have had more experience than you did. Some may argue of the unfairness to stop a younger partner from pursuing certain dreams and desires. My advice to you is … go chase your dreams and desire with no guilt. We make stupid decisions sometimes and they can be corrected. Don’t be stupid about your dreams and desires. If they don’t aligned you will be miserable and you will blame ?

    • @sherinedavis6128
      @sherinedavis6128 2 роки тому +11

      Well said

    • @eveedenthehairdonness8999
      @eveedenthehairdonness8999 2 роки тому +11

      I was thinking the same thing, she is young becoming wiser and knows what she wants in life and maybe feel locked down in the relationship. Kim wants to travel boo sound like he is not into travelling he said, he want to live quiet when you have a beautiful wife who wants to see the world.

    • @cocoglitz1
      @cocoglitz1 2 роки тому +2

      So true i know someone that was with an older guy and he said he didnt want kids and it broke my friend so much.

    • @miraandfriends9913
      @miraandfriends9913 2 роки тому +10

      I really agree with you. If both persons don't have the same desires it is definitely going to cause problems sooner or later. Especially when a woman is young and wants to know what her offspring would look like. I wish them all the best. She's pretty young, but I don't think I would give up my dream to suit someone who has lived their life already. That would unfair 😒

    • @mayasquaw2254
      @mayasquaw2254 2 роки тому +10

      Shes wasting her time. He done lived his time and doesn't want anything she desires. Only one will compromise in the relationship. Toxic 101. She'll learn and grow.

  • @stacyannbowen6493
    @stacyannbowen6493 2 роки тому +54

    Kim you can travel with friends if Boo don’t want to travel. Life is short and it’s unfair for someone to stay still because their partner doesn’t want to. My friend is married and her husband allows her to travel all over with myself and other friends because their relationship is based on trust.

  • @Ebbi3
    @Ebbi3 2 роки тому +60

    She going to want that baby soon 🙏🏽

  • @herfamiller139
    @herfamiller139 2 роки тому +7

    There is a dark side of Boo that has not surfaced yet...not sure what it is. I was in a age gap relationship(21yrs very kind free spirit) but it was very challanging i even had a baby was'nt planned but that was the best thing that came out of it. We ended up divorced and even got closer we became best friends after divorce. We were happier apart than togather. Wishing you the very best Kim you are a very nice person and deserve the best and your husband deserve his quiet retirement years.

  • @msindifferent3672
    @msindifferent3672 7 місяців тому +5

    This dude reminds me of my late father. He was a very sad individual who didn't like to see or hear people laughing and having fun

  • @jer8744
    @jer8744 2 роки тому +201

    Listening to you both and wonder if this conversation should have happened earlier… it seems like you are both at different places in your respective lives. I hope and wish you will work it out. You are both beautiful people.

    • @InthelifeofDanellejam
      @InthelifeofDanellejam 2 роки тому +44

      That’s an effect of the age gap. The young partner didn’t have the experience and maturity to discuss certain important aspect of a relationship. The older partner is on cloud nine and forgets to discuss such topics. The two gets trapped in a committed relationship and the younger partner gets more mature and eventually realise their mistake.
      I feel for her because I see myself in her. She has all good intentions for her relationship but just didn’t understand what she was getting into. Now she is getting older and asking the questions she should have asked and discussed during dating. I just hope they make the right decision.

    • @stacy-ann9457
      @stacy-ann9457 2 роки тому +20

      @@InthelifeofDanellejam this is so true. She was excited and blinded but opportunities presented by a relationship with him. She was not opportunistic but perhaps was not truly thoughtful in the decision on the right points. Did they do marriage counseling? Perhaps not because these things I guess would have surfaced. He saw a beauty young lady with a nice personality and she saw a big man, good body, living overseas and presenting an opportunity for better. I wish them the best...things are getting real. Kim seeing that the world is now open to her & she wants to explore in everyway the new opportunities.

    • @maxineadderley5378
      @maxineadderley5378 2 роки тому +9

      @@stacy-ann9457 : This is bound to happen. Sometimes either party may not want to be a parent, and felt right about it in that moment, but like she said maternal instinct, and I am not feeling that he is on board with it. One is retiring and enjoying a kind of trophy wife and she being younger wanting more than to be in retirement with a retiree. I do believe that love is mutual, but they have different needs and desires and he is feeling a bit inadequate about fatherhood and others of her ideas at this point.

    • @Princess_By_Nationality_XO
      @Princess_By_Nationality_XO 2 роки тому +4

      @@teri_p 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Spiritual_876
      @Spiritual_876 2 роки тому +2

      @@stacy-ann9457 you are so right. Alicia is ready to explore the world.

  • @sunkissedFee
    @sunkissedFee 2 роки тому +5

    She's ready to explore the way she said that..hmmm..She's gonna do her thing eventually once he chooses not to..her body language speaks volumes

  • @safiyassacredspace
    @safiyassacredspace 2 роки тому +47

    These are serious issues. I appreciate the transparency and wish you both the best.

  • @shackerajackson9648
    @shackerajackson9648 2 роки тому +16

    Hey Kim like you said never loose your communication because that is the key that will sustain your relationship everything in life has its ebbs and flows but it takes two people wanting a relationship to work to work and you two want that so y’all gonna be good.

  • @cherishlife6348
    @cherishlife6348 2 роки тому +7

    Run Forest Runnnn live ya life, have ya babies you may think this love but it's not. This is your learning stage. Not trying to sound harsh but he live his life already.

  • @tebony06
    @tebony06 2 роки тому +131

    I think compatibility is really important. I also think they are at two different stages in their lives. Kim as a young lady should be out exploring, traveling, meeting likeminded people around her same age. She shouldn’t have to “censor” herself being that she’s so jovial and Boo is so serious. When it comes to kids it sounds good in theory but being a parent is hard. Can Boo handle the newborn stage? Boo, Then 10 years down the line when a child is active, maybe into sports etc? Boo is a good man that treats Kim good from what I could see but I just think they are at different stages in their lives.

    • @soviliapratt673
      @soviliapratt673 2 роки тому +5

      THIS WOULDN'T BE THE FIRST...I'VE SEEN IT IN OTHER COUPLES AND IT WORKS...TO EACH HIS OWN

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 2 роки тому +15

      @@soviliapratt673 my mother was 20 years younger than my dad. He died, left her widowed with 4 children under the age of 12. The youngest was 2 that's me. She died 4 years later. If she's going to have a baby with him. She should have him do a complete physical with blood work, cholesterol, Blood pressure must be checked. She have to make sure he's has good health insurance and Insurance incase . He has children before so he should guarantee she is protected just incase.

    • @soviliapratt673
      @soviliapratt673 2 роки тому

      @@eileenwatt8283 I WOULDN'T WORRY TOO MUCH ABOUT IT

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 2 роки тому +1

      @@soviliapratt673 he's 68 years old. Don't kid yourselves.

    • @eileenwatt8283
      @eileenwatt8283 2 роки тому +2

      @@soviliapratt673 Don't use caps on me. They put their business on here so people will respond.

  • @crystal6770
    @crystal6770 2 роки тому +31

    Laughing is good for the soul. Age doesn’t matter. Some people just like to laugh.

  • @Yaniquespeaks
    @Yaniquespeaks 2 роки тому +6

    I was in an age gap relationship and he had the same issues with me. Things I would do as a young girl would be echoed with ‘older women would not do this, older women would not do that’ I had to remind him I am not older and I did not hide my age so he shouldn’t expect me to act differently. It didn’t work, we got a divorce.

  • @marvalyntracey9044
    @marvalyntracey9044 2 роки тому +10

    Wow!!!
    These age gap relationships n marriage I always say is all well when you having butterflies but when the dust settle things look different and people start thinking different.

  • @colleen5647
    @colleen5647 2 роки тому +36

    I believe they are now realizing that they are not compatible. The sadness shows on both - voice tone,body language. They should have think this through when they first met . I admire the honest communication now with u guys. Best of luck and Blessings. Relationship is not easy. Continue to operate in a positive way. Be flexible Boo

    • @csurvivor6774
      @csurvivor6774 2 роки тому +9

      Sometimes communicating on the phone in a long distance relationship will give you a false sense of love & forever with someone & then when you really around them you realize that person is not for you. The desire to have children & not been able to have one can impact a relationship unless you guys willing to adopt. But overall can see reality setting in now. Wish you guys all the best.

    • @missshell2343
      @missshell2343 2 роки тому +9

      I agree; reality seems to be setting in for this crew. And having a 15-year age gap marriage behind me, I can honestly say it's not for me, and definitely not for me now at my current age.
      My ex-husband was 15 years older than me. We married, and I was 21; he was 36. He was in settle mode, and I was like Kim, jovial, excited, and ready to explore!
      His reaction to my fire was to stifle it and try to change me into who he thought I should be. Through manipulation, verbal and emotional abuse eventually.
      I was young and wet behind the ears. I didn't see him for the narcissistic and selfish man he was. We lasted 12 years because at that point, I had bore 5 kids by him and was so beaten down mentally that I felt I couldn't leave.
      Age played a part too because had I been older and wiser, I'd never stayed in such a dysfunctional and unhappy marriage.
      But anyway, I said all that to say this, age gap relationships can be a beautiful thing, but only with communication and the same effort from both sides. The bigger the gap, the more problems. No matter how much love, gaps will bring some sort of an issue, whether sexually, socially, etc.
      For me, I'm currently in my early 40s, and dating anyone older than 5 years is a no-no for me. I'm healthy and realize age brings health issues for some, and after taking care of 5 kids as a single mom, I don't desire to take care of an older/elderly spouse. Or deal with the problems age gaps almost always bring.
      Relationships/marriages are hard work as it is. Age gaps can/will add to the struggle.
      You have my blessings, Kim and Boo.

  • @samanthascott1533
    @samanthascott1533 2 роки тому +122

    I was in a long distance relationship myself. Been married 3 years too and there is also a 17 years age gap. It does have it's difficulties. I figured since you and boo are both Jamaicans the communication would have been easier but thanks for the transparency.
    Blessings to you both.

    • @chocolatequeen5953
      @chocolatequeen5953 2 роки тому +27

      Yours is 17 there’s is a 30 plus age gap like granddad and granddaughter ! She’s such an attractive and intelligent young lady !

    • @samanthascott1533
      @samanthascott1533 2 роки тому +23

      @@chocolatequeen5953 may the Grace of God keep you in his perfect peace.there is nothing to be angry about hun. She seems to be a brilliant young lady yes, but she has chosen whom to get married to. Let us not get too caught up in the lives of others. The best you and I can do ,if we are well wisher is to pray them up as every union regardless of age difference takes work.
      Now remember that God loves you and want you save. Blessings to you and your household.

    • @a1dev755
      @a1dev755 2 роки тому +4

      I think any long distance can work, the both has to be patient & very mature.

    • @chocolatequeen5953
      @chocolatequeen5953 2 роки тому +15

      @@samanthascott1533 What make you think I am angry and why would I be angry ⁉️ I say what I say from my observation, its ok not to agree with me but that is my opinion. ! You are ok to have yours too , really you do ! The last time I check this sight is for one to voice their opinion and no one said that we had to agree with each other but if you articulate enough you can agree to disagree !🙄

    • @realnettieb
      @realnettieb 2 роки тому +6

      @@samanthascott1533 God ain’t pick this man for her na ... stop all the pleasantries .

  • @lmsshade6733
    @lmsshade6733 2 роки тому +95

    I see where you are coming from.. I had my first child at 22 with a 60 odd year old man. My situation is way way more complicated. My advice is tho lets hope he doesn't stall you out because trust me you will start getting miserable when you start to realize thats what he is doing. What I mean is that they will occupy your time with school and promise to do things for years until your age pass by so you don't seek to either get pregnant by someone else, not giving you a trip. They only do things on there terms. And thats how manipulation comes in.

    • @rosierosita.7235
      @rosierosita.7235 2 роки тому +12

      Manipulation is the word

    • @suziemichael4338
      @suziemichael4338 2 роки тому +3

      True

    • @jessiccadiazzqq6838
      @jessiccadiazzqq6838 2 роки тому +5

      🤮

    • @mayasquaw2254
      @mayasquaw2254 2 роки тому +7

      Its new and exiting for her. Until reality hits her that he done lived his years.

    • @LL-ip5mm
      @LL-ip5mm 2 роки тому +5

      Mmm why are u proud to admit that at such a young youthful age you had a baby with a man who could be ur grandad

  • @elainewright2710
    @elainewright2710 2 роки тому +15

    Blessings and love to you both! I pray for your marriage ...communication is the key! Missed the first part of the video but based on title seems like a baby car talk. Wishing you all the best if you guys are considering a young one and if not well you guys are ready.

  • @ronniephilip1680
    @ronniephilip1680 2 роки тому +118

    Love your personality girl don't let no body change you

    • @ronniephilip1680
      @ronniephilip1680 2 роки тому +4

      Love you kim don't let anybody change who you are, that's wjy we fell in love with you it's because you are always smiling and laughing.I agree you should want to travel and explore that's what people do when they are young with some planning off course.like you said your husband lived his life already.

    • @arianayoung7537
      @arianayoung7537 2 роки тому

      So u don't want kids?

  • @maureenkellman1645
    @maureenkellman1645 2 роки тому +43

    All healthy relationships go through what you are discussing. I always say I have the perfect relationship - one that comes with the good, bad, and very ugly!!! Anyone who thinks marriage is perfect ( as in it’s good all the time) is not living in reality. Communication ( even if it means getting professional help to learn how to communicate in a healthy manner) is very important. Keep up the realness.

    • @realnettieb
      @realnettieb 2 роки тому +1

      You are very right but Every relationship is not God ordained ...

  • @annmariewilliams7650
    @annmariewilliams7650 2 роки тому +11

    I totally understand what you're saying Kim. I feel it for you. Pray and keep talking to God, he's the only one that can see you through this. It's not going to be easy. Love you guys.

  • @lydias.w.7524
    @lydias.w.7524 2 роки тому +24

    Hi guys!! Every and I say every relationship has its own troubles, problems, etc. We are two different people coming from two different worlds and different up bringing, so it will take TIME to get to know each other. Congratulations 🎊 👏 you have come a faaaaar way. Every blessing Big Up Crew.

  • @markm1720
    @markm1720 2 роки тому +59

    She is struggling with this relationship. The age gap doesn't always have to be a barrier when both persons have the same interests. Bro' brace yourself. Just keeping it 100.

    • @Chrissy726
      @Chrissy726 2 роки тому +13

      True. The energy is diluted. That is one of my fears of being in an age gap relationship. The older person has experienced many things in life and is at a more relaxed stage at a certain point in their life. They love each other. However, her husband needs to be more conscious of compromising so that Kim doesn't have to stifle her desires. That's a recipe for disaster.

    • @shaw48
      @shaw48 2 роки тому +6

      Look ere .... mi tink his physique attracted her to him but it has worn off because he is set in his ways and don't want to change really, he wants full control of her and get her pregnant to stay home an be a housewife and he provides everything so she can be dependant on him

    • @porschamarie1446
      @porschamarie1446 2 роки тому

      @@shaw48 well clearly he has the wrong one because you can jus loon at her and see her energy is not that at all!!

    • @LB-bu5xf
      @LB-bu5xf 2 роки тому +7

      She is beautiful. The first time I saw their video, I honestly thought he was her father. Not until a few videos after did I learn he's her husband. I believe to each his own, but when it comes to such a huge age difference, I've always wondered what both parties are truly trying to fulfill. I had someone tried talking to me who was years younger. Told the person I was flattered, but I see my child. With all life's ups and downs, we were definitely at two different stages.

  • @georgettehaughton3112
    @georgettehaughton3112 2 роки тому +27

    Age gap relationship can have a lot of barriers, somethings the younger person wants to do the older one don't because they have past that stage in their life. They try to do it in the beginning but changes after awhile and that can tend to bring barriers somtimes. It's just the struggles which at time can be make up for in different areas still.

  • @true-michelle8960
    @true-michelle8960 2 роки тому +5

    Kim looks like she wants to cry in this video. Pray and never give up on your marriage goals y'all.

  • @warpeace6320
    @warpeace6320 2 роки тому +13

    Take it from a woman who is married 40 years, marriage is hard work. It is really, really hard work if you want a healthy, loving, prosperous marriage. When you throw in the age gap like yours it will become a daily struggle to survive. I am routing for you guys though. Much love.
    P

  • @DaniOlive72
    @DaniOlive72 2 роки тому +1

    I love the transparency, people usually only talk about the positives but I love how y’all emphasised relationships require a lot of patience and communication.

  • @thebeautifulone5593
    @thebeautifulone5593 2 роки тому +73

    This was an eye opener video. Just this week I was telling a friend, people change, we evolve, we grow and most times the person we were at the time of marriage sadly, we grow and our mindset is no longer the same. Kim I like your personality, you are a strong, independent person. Much much better than most vloggers I look at. Just a bunch of "get likes" video. Your content is different. As for boo, he's stuck in his mindset because of his age and unless he's willing to make compromises and grow, you all will continue to have different angles of the things you want to do and he want to do. I pray you all continue to live in love 🥰

    • @sunshinesunshine1389
      @sunshinesunshine1389 2 роки тому +8

      So true, and for most older folks when their mindset is one way, trust they ain’t willing to ever compromise.......but with constant communication hope that will change🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @thebeautifulone5593
      @thebeautifulone5593 2 роки тому +11

      @@sunshinesunshine1389 you are very right! I firmly believe now, that marriages should be deeply thought before entering. When all the dust is settled, it's about keeping it together even if things don't go as planned.

    • @TheBibleQuizChannel
      @TheBibleQuizChannel 2 роки тому +9

      Marriage is like a full time job. You have to put time and energy in it.

    • @arlenehoo2648
      @arlenehoo2648 2 роки тому

      P

    • @aquilaclark814
      @aquilaclark814 2 роки тому

      I guess I’m so concerned because my sister is going through this now the first 10 years OK after that I would call it unequally yoked.. in her situation..Just like day and night as far as personality goes..

  • @sharonwatson9900
    @sharonwatson9900 2 роки тому +11

    Both of you are trying to say the same thing, but to be honest your FACE expressions are saying something completely different. HUGE AGE GAP does make a LOT of difference especially if the woman is in her early thirties, one have lived and ready to relaxed ,the other is ready, FULL of energy and wants to explore and experience what live has to offer. Having a baby 🤰 is going to weigh heavily on her, he’s in that RELAX MODE ,a baby always keeps you busy ,up and going 24 seven, unless you can afford a nanny. It does not take a GENIUS to know this.Best wishes to both you.

  • @tebony06
    @tebony06 2 роки тому +21

    There is also a generational difference. My parents and grandparents never talked about things where as this generation is having discussions and being open about emotions, issues, and problems

  • @paris3315
    @paris3315 2 роки тому +17

    He looks like her grandpa and if he has a problem with her laughing then she need to be in her own age bracket he already set in his ways he old no matter how young they try to act he’s up there in age jus my opinion

  • @sherinedavis6128
    @sherinedavis6128 2 роки тому +3

    First I want to say happy happy new year again Kim and Boo.....alot of prosperity and love to you both throughout the rest of the year. I appreciate the fact that you both share your likes and dislikes and your difference on views and similarities. Age is just a number it's more of the individual on how they were raised etc. It will work and it can work, just incorporate more communication and comprising....Pray and Trust God to take you both through the process. Be y'all selves the more natural the more real the better. Love you both and stay safe

  • @shernetterobinson4954
    @shernetterobinson4954 2 роки тому +21

    You're such a wonderful couple and yes it takes a lot of compromise to go forward. Communication is key, learning about each other is a daily task. Continue to learn, grow and mature together.

  • @annmariebryan8297
    @annmariebryan8297 2 роки тому +17

    Blessing to both of u many more years to come

  • @ThaRealShante
    @ThaRealShante 2 роки тому +1

    Love the conversation, having an open dialogue in a marriage helps, marriage is not always flowers…Im married and we moved in with each other after we got married and we have a age gap.The age gap for us wasn’t a big issue it was more an adjustment of us learning to live in the Same space coming from having our own apts for years. The best thing is to continue to communicate and don’t listen to the haters that never even experienced a union. Also There are a lot of women around our age that want friendship and someone to travel and explore with that planning a girls trip once or twice a year will definitely help.

  • @LegallyAlliTV
    @LegallyAlliTV 2 роки тому +3

    Dwl!!!!! It’s the kiikii kiikii for me. I too was in a long distance relationship and have been married and living together for almost two years. Growing pains are going to come with the transition but both parties have to be willing to communicate and put in their part.

  • @kaedreenathomas1987
    @kaedreenathomas1987 2 роки тому +16

    I got to keep these tips in mind that you guys discussed when I'm in a relationship, so glad that you two are back. Glad that the subscriptions for both channels are up as well, keep up the great work.
    #road to70k

    • @eveedenthehairdonness8999
      @eveedenthehairdonness8999 2 роки тому +3

      These things should have been discussed before marriage, yes the age gap means a lot a young woman with a senior are two different mind set. This conversation leave me wondering if Kim just coming back to reality marrying an older man. The excitement is fading what was your expectations with a much older man, he is acting his age don't fault him for that. To keep up with a younger woman it takes a lot of energy so you have to consider his age, one thing I can say he takes care of body. It's important to understand aging it is a must, age can not be reversed it is a step-by-step process. We have to take life as it is not happy reevaluate the situation and come to an amicable understanding to solved whatever the issues are privately.

  • @jewellsuber843
    @jewellsuber843 2 роки тому +9

    He THINKS before he speaks! You guys are a Beautiful Couple!!!💗🙏🏽

  • @patriciarobinson4546
    @patriciarobinson4546 2 роки тому +4

    Your laughter is what makes your personality so uplifting.

  • @sherinegrant830
    @sherinegrant830 2 роки тому +2

    Wow kim you has really put in the work you and boo both deserve everything. Happy how far you have come with this Chanel

  • @lifewithshaneil7048
    @lifewithshaneil7048 2 роки тому +98

    I love how Alicia laugh over everything she have a wow personality I love her

    • @kaywanadennis6017
      @kaywanadennis6017 2 роки тому +4

      I agree

    • @joantaylor1974
      @joantaylor1974 2 роки тому +5

      Me too. It's a natural thing. I laugh too...lol

    • @nickashanorthover2258
      @nickashanorthover2258 2 роки тому +3

      Am like that too, dwl naaah mek things stress me

    • @Brwniee95
      @Brwniee95 2 роки тому +3

      I’m the same way I laugh a lot and often 😂😂 “kekkeke”

  • @caaefamily
    @caaefamily 2 роки тому +3

    Kim, I love this video. Love the vulnerability, the authenticity you push through,

  • @whitneygiddings6669
    @whitneygiddings6669 2 роки тому +3

    I love videos like this ❣keep strong and keep God at the center of the relationship

  • @mon-mon2043
    @mon-mon2043 2 роки тому +24

    Alicia you make that hair look good, that color fit you very well. Much love to you both, with God all things are possible please meditate on that Matthew 19:26.

  • @Simpli7cated
    @Simpli7cated 2 роки тому +24

    Wow this was heavy... but so insightful. Once you both are willing to what it takes to work it will definitely work out. You're both sounding mature and rationale.

  • @ULS-
    @ULS- 2 роки тому +52

    One of the challenges with my age gap relationship is the fact that my husband done with the social life. I have similar experiences, I want to travel and experiment and he wants to kick back at home and watch Sportsmax and CNN.

    • @gracemat9474
      @gracemat9474 2 роки тому +5

      Lol maybe find u a younger responsible man

    • @vallloyd9653
      @vallloyd9653 2 роки тому +2

      Hhhh🤣🤣,the same as me ,no fun at all

    • @laurenlocd3180
      @laurenlocd3180 2 роки тому

      Get u a side dude

    • @moniquetv5414
      @moniquetv5414 2 роки тому

      You are not alone lol drag his ass and if he refuses tell him you will leave his ass 🤣

    • @moniquetv5414
      @moniquetv5414 2 роки тому

      @@laurenlocd3180 not a good idea lol

  • @brooklyngrier
    @brooklyngrier 2 роки тому

    Wise man... At first I was looking at the age difference and then I started hearing the love for each other in the words being spoken. Black love is beautiful in all forms, I support this relationship and believe you two can weather all storms, dance together when life is going well. Every relationship will force us to change for the better or for the worse in order for us to reach the next level and grow as bestfriends or move on to the next. I believe you two will make it work in the good and the bad times.

  • @marymalone331
    @marymalone331 2 роки тому +1

    Hey guys
    I love you two together. Ive watch you two from day one. I’ve been married for 20 years and the key is to talk about everything that involve your marriage.

  • @collisalgoria3476
    @collisalgoria3476 2 роки тому +9

    Take baby steps Kim you will get there girl.

  • @ceceliadiaz8989
    @ceceliadiaz8989 2 роки тому +3

    Happy New Year, I'm happy to see you all, may God continue keeping you all happy together, God bless 👍🥰❤🙏

  • @ub3519
    @ub3519 2 роки тому +48

    Sending prayers and hugs to you both 🌞🌞🥰🥰

  • @kerrionjackson7083
    @kerrionjackson7083 2 роки тому +4

    Kim you are really respectful to boo. I appreciate the realness of you guys. I have the same worry about having children. I also have a age gap relationship also.

  • @brownbrown8668
    @brownbrown8668 2 роки тому +13

    I believe many Jamaicans only desire to travel back and forth to Jamaica and no where else! That is so primitive and played out. My dad has been in the states for 45 years and never enjoyed a good vacation. He only goes back and forth to Jamaica and never visit other states or countries. He is now in his last stage of dementia laying in a bed. What am I saying? Go out and enjoy life, don’t limit yourselves. Life is far too short to not have fun. COVID-19 has caused so much stress, depression, and loss of lives.So, let’s make the best of what we have!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @ppwallace9662
      @ppwallace9662 2 роки тому +1

      Sooo TRUE some ppl only wants to travel back and fourth to JAMAICA!

    • @theniceone26
      @theniceone26 2 роки тому +1

      Brown Brown, So True for Jamaicans and People from other countries who moved to the U.S. and Canada. As soon as my African husband received his green card, he only goes back to his country in West Africa every year. It's so many other places in the world to explore.🌍

    • @ppwallace9662
      @ppwallace9662 2 роки тому +1

      @@theniceone26 have an excuse for everything where else🙄

    • @theniceone26
      @theniceone26 2 роки тому +1

      @@ppwallace9662 He said he don't want to travel anywhere else but back to his country in Africa. Hopefully that will change soon.

    • @ppwallace9662
      @ppwallace9662 2 роки тому

      @@theniceone26 I hope so too, my daughter Dad says he would go to Jamaica weekly if he could.🤯, his current location:Jamaica! Mean while I wanna go to Aruba, Turks and Caicos, Las Vegas next bday, LA, n our daughter wants to go Disney 🤞

  • @desireetommy9804
    @desireetommy9804 2 роки тому +5

    Communication is key. I appreciate the video boo and kim.
    But boo happy wife happy life! Lol
    May the love you two share for each other keep both of you.

  • @Gabrielle-xf3ex
    @Gabrielle-xf3ex 2 роки тому +2

    Kim this seemed like a well needed therapy session for u! keep going!

  • @addydteachajagoodas5070
    @addydteachajagoodas5070 2 роки тому +1

    Relationships take a lot of work so respect being honest and great communication goes a long way blessings always on your marriage keep it up guys 🙏🏽👍🏽☺️

  • @caroladonis4212
    @caroladonis4212 2 роки тому +5

    Kim continue to smile And continue to be you!

  • @larro6290
    @larro6290 2 роки тому +3

    Aaaawww so nice to see you guys! Big up everytime.. Love the hair Kim 😍

  • @sephrah_precious
    @sephrah_precious 2 роки тому +40

    I talk from a similar experience with a older man for 5years but I wasn’t married to him….
    We first must always be true and honest with ourselves. Why did we make the choices we made? Were the foundations of the relationship built from true love or insecurities, loneliness, physical attraction or opportunity? Have I really considered all the consequences??Relationships aren’t easy but we do make things harder for ourselves based on OUR choices. You can’t change who you are, your personality or where you are in life and no-one should want that to change. You can’t change your husband either, but only accept him for exactly who he is from the day you married him. If he changed after you both said I do, then the naivety (due to the age gap) becomes more apparent as time goes on. Your situation is complicated and you may need to seek marriage advice as this doesn’t sound like normal growing pains in the early stages of marriage where you’re trying to adapt to each other’s habits, but more so reality setting in on major issues which haven’t been considered thoroughly. You can’t afford to lose yourself, with all your ambitions and goals in life however you’re in a marriage. You both come across as nice people and I wouldn’t wish anything on your marriage but I went through a lot of sacrificing to make the other person happy and it wasn’t worth it! Nothing is worth your peace! 💝🙏🏽

  • @InthelifeofDanellejam
    @InthelifeofDanellejam 2 роки тому +13

    I’m approaching 9 years in an age gap, racial and culturally different relationship 😩. It take its toll and that’s the honest truth. It’s like we live in different worlds. Most times the partners don’t foresee the downsides of having such relationship. I feel you on the baby topic. I’m in the same situation and you need to be very thoughtful on your actions because unlike men we have a time limit.
    I’m praying for you because I can relate to your situation.

  • @kaylascott7780
    @kaylascott7780 2 роки тому +7

    Kim needs friends lol I think once she has friends and ppl to hang out with outside of her husband maybe she would be able to explore more. Definitely have to find friends in FL

  • @janecampbell5263
    @janecampbell5263 2 роки тому +6

    Kim keep smiling, keep laughing from the inside and out love guys 💯🇨🇦🇯🇲

  • @houseofyorks1349
    @houseofyorks1349 2 роки тому +1

    Living together after a LDR has it challenges. You guys are still learning and getting to know each other. Anything worth having is worth putting in the work.

  • @camaramisschin2780
    @camaramisschin2780 2 роки тому +1

    Big up big up God is in control, just continue to pray and trust in God

  • @lisagab
    @lisagab 2 роки тому +7

    Hey Kim and Boo, i love laughing too and my husband use to complain, after awhile i stop doing it and ppl now always ask me y am i so serious. So be careful what u wish for Boo and be patient with Kim.

  • @aramseroop2290
    @aramseroop2290 2 роки тому +18

    Hi Kim, I love your laugh, when you laugh, I'm laughing too its containous. Marriage is not easy me and my husband is 12 years different and this year going to be 20years married and I'm still learning him and his ways. So just continue to take it one day at a time. Peace

    • @AliciaKim
      @AliciaKim  2 роки тому +3

      Thank u! Blessings on your union

  • @Nollugs5111
    @Nollugs5111 2 роки тому +1

    Its been a learning experience the past year, it will only get better😊

  • @heidirougier4113
    @heidirougier4113 2 роки тому +3

    Much respect to you both…because even 10 years is a big gap

  • @SweetyCandyShop
    @SweetyCandyShop 2 роки тому +4

    This little chat was very knowledgeable more blessing more prosperity nuff loveeeeee

  • @eugeniebeason5103
    @eugeniebeason5103 2 роки тому +3

    You are a nice couple. I pray that everything will work out in time. Laughing is good, it is therapeutic. And some procedures are reversible. All the best to you both

  • @Lorenhazel
    @Lorenhazel 2 роки тому

    I love the way you both communicate and speak then listen. Not over talking each other. You both are great listeners and communicating well. Many Blessings to you both💖 and like everyone else say in the comments hun, I love your sparkly personality. You seem to be beautiful inside & out! Great video!

  • @Simonelifestyletv
    @Simonelifestyletv 2 роки тому +56

    Awww, you both are a beautiful couples, it's not easy Kim, you're young woman that wants to have fun, explore, travel the world and also start having Children’s, hubby he's very old school and laid back, already live his life, he's well expirenced and how wants to just relax, but hubby needs understand where you're coming from and compromise on somethings, and you both can explore together, I wish you guys the best in you'll marriage, God bless ❤️

  • @ON-gq8ej
    @ON-gq8ej 2 роки тому +6

    See me and live wid me a 2 different things. Kim all I can say I feel for u baby girl.
    2 different stages in life, 2 different needs and wants. I sense a lot of things aren’t covered before marriage but Kim live ya best life! U only live once, he already lived.
    You will meet new friends and travel, boo needs to learn compromise. This gives me a lot of feelings being hidden, this should have been discussed off camera to be honest. I hope u do what’s best for YOU cause regrets is a hell of a thing

  • @tracy-anncummings823
    @tracy-anncummings823 2 роки тому +51

    You guys are real,trust me. You come on here and share everything with us.Letting us know that hey everything not perfect in any relationship,just have to work towards solving even the smallest issues.It was a GREAT year with you guys on here.Gods blessings over your marriage going forward ,love u guys 😘😘

    • @Goodasfidem752
      @Goodasfidem752 2 роки тому +2

      You guy are funny

    • @melodystrong8953
      @melodystrong8953 2 роки тому

      That's so true no one ever tell everything I have been married 42 years but I would not change it we are 15 years different all you can do is pray and try

    • @realnettieb
      @realnettieb 2 роки тому

      @@Goodasfidem752 a lot Of them are funny.

  • @mikaharrigan445
    @mikaharrigan445 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks for sharing a part of your life’s journey.

  • @aldanepennant7039
    @aldanepennant7039 2 роки тому

    I have learnt alot from mine just living together for 2 years and married 6 years. Its not easy but with constant communication and commitment to each will bring you through.

  • @valalexander497
    @valalexander497 2 роки тому +5

    You guys are ridiculously a cute couple especially Kim she is beautiful,within time it will all come into play with God and prayers🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @Currencywalk
    @Currencywalk 2 роки тому +7

    Two different places in their lives. Had a friend in this situation and it didnt work. They were then fighting for custody, he is in his 60s and she was in her 40s. One sad fact is that she could have a child and he dies. I know she could die first but it wouldnt be natural causes. 20 years is a huge gap, someone will have to speed up or slow down. Moreover, he was more like a father figure to her. One thing I have learned is that you must be able to be yourself around your spouse. Life is hard enough in this world. Noone I know have kids and it solve their problems. You are looking forward to life and adventures. He has done alll of that, and have grand kids. Please think long and hard about this....

  • @brigittemorobise7585
    @brigittemorobise7585 2 роки тому +2

    These issues legit exist for most of not all couples..I love the authenticity

  • @williestvchannel
    @williestvchannel 2 роки тому +20

    You are so real girl I'm glad you made your choice now about having a child

  • @brownbrown8668
    @brownbrown8668 2 роки тому +11

    Kim…!!! You are very mature and responsibly. BOO…, you are very fortunate to have such a balanced lady in your life. I pray the Lord continue to guide you both to the greatest path in life. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @Findingkeeann
    @Findingkeeann 2 роки тому +10

    It's obvious that both of you communicate with each other, and I appreciate you guys for being so real and not pretending that everything is perfect. All things are possible with God, guys. I believe you'll be fine

  • @FavaMade
    @FavaMade 2 роки тому

    Alicia……I appreciate you. You’re young and wise beyond your years. I appreciate your respect for your husband - despite the differences of opinions, at times. Alway remember you’re an individual first, as a part of a whole. Keep marriage and building as your focus but don’t lose yourself. It’s hard to navigate but you both are on the right track. All the best to you both.

  • @carolt1022
    @carolt1022 2 роки тому +2

    I am in a long distance relationship with a age gap between us but we are doing good but it takes a lot of communication but in everything just put God first wishing you all the blessings and this journey

  • @joanritchie9041
    @joanritchie9041 2 роки тому +3

    You will be a mother very soon just relax and take it easy
    God is good. Love you both

  • @kayluv184
    @kayluv184 2 роки тому +68

    You two are a beautiful couple. No matter whatever obstacles you face, your strength and love will definitely get you through. Ny the way, that hair color is absolutely beautiful 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @marciabrown6142
    @marciabrown6142 2 роки тому

    I totally agree with both of you . I agree with boo communicating carefully about what you say n how it is said . That's an important point in an age gap relationship.. Keep praying , be respectful to each other b never take it for granted

  • @herfamiller139
    @herfamiller139 2 роки тому

    Kim i was in a age-gap relationship and yes there is a lot of adjustments but i think you are capable because of the respect and humility you hv demonstrated. My husband had the snip and i thought i was safe(because i thought i would'nt hv any more kids) but i ended up getting pregnant. Just pray tell God what you want make sure medically you both are ok, if God can do it for Sarah he can do it for you. Keep the communication flowing and maintain the trust and let the love continue to multiply. All the best hun to both of you. 🌺🌺🌺