American reacts to 5 SHOCKING Parenting differences in GERMANY vs USA
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I said it before, and now I say it again:
German parenting is based on the idea that Children Are Not Stupid!
Wenn man Gebrauchsanweisungen für den USA Markt an sieht weiß man was los ist . Wenn Erwachsene für dumm gehalten werden.
Dann wohl auch die Kinder.
Yea! And he also said 'taking a picture would be weird.. cause then you'd be a-" HOLD UP SIR!!! THAT'S ILLEGAL!!!
that was for several years ago. but since ~2000 ... how i can say it in friendly language? look at the actual pisa study..
and if they are its just natural selection
@@HiafanaoThe Pisa study is just as much of a joke as our current school system. What we learn and especially how we learn it is completely outdated.
It's wild to me that nudity is looked at as so unnatural in America. It's literally the most natural thing there is.
If we were meant to be naked, we would be born that way.
agreed, in sweden its not too uncommon to see kids running around naked on the beach, or even playing in the front yard jumping around sprinklers and such. its just natural
@@kitsunekaze93 Same in Denmark
@@lhplhuh
Especially considering that they are the biggest producer and consummers of p*rn.
But a small infant being naked.... clutching pearls
Then again, I remember reading about a 14 year old girl that took a nude'ish picture of herself inthe USA, this was found by a teacher or somebody and the result was that the teen girl was registered as a sex offender for having child p*rn
*facepalm*
In Germany we say: "Kids who are not allowed to do anything grow up to be adults who are not able to do anything".
I believe that is true.
had a friend from 5.-8. grade. We always compared his parents (didn't want to make him feel bad, so never told him) to helicopter like americans. He was barely able to stay on a bike when riding, didn't take the bus or train by himself, and never planned a short trip or so with friends (he is almost 19 by now). also, when he got accepted into a good University (worst score B+ in high school...), THE WHOLE FAMILY MOVED THERE.
Didn't know shit about everyday life, will probably be absolutely overwhelmed by the responsibilities in his future work field, yada yada yada.
In my opinion, a pretty high price for preventing sprained ankles and having A/A+ instead of A-/B+ as the average graduation score
@@aRealAndHumanManThingmy heart always breaks a little for kids like that
@@aRealAndHumanManThing wtf?!
That is true for me. My parents had no trust in me and I am scared now and have myself no trust in me. It's very difficult. Pls let your child develop and makeing mistakes.
as a kid in the seventies, I spent hours and hours playing with the neighborhood kids in nearby cherry orchards. For hours, our parents had no idea where we were at. We would frequent different playgrounds in the hood; buy ice cream and have it on the swings; go to a friend’s house; we would, again, for hours, roller skate around the sleek surfaces at a school in the neighborhood in the afternoons when no one was there. We were truly free and learned to be responsible at an early age…. When the street lights would come on at night, we knew it was about time to make our way home…
Same here. To me childhood today in Germany reminds me of being a child in the US in the 70s.
Also the same in Austria. This was quiet normal to me as a kid
During my childhood in the late 70’s and early 80’s I would go out on my bicycle on a weekend and be gone the entire day. Nobody at home knew where I was or what I was doing and no means of contacting me was possible. It was the same for me, when the street lights came on it was time to go home and no one at home asked where I was or what I been doing. Even in Germany now parents would get nervous if their child were gone the entire day and no one knew where it was.
In my German village the signal for going home were the church bells ringing at 6 pm but apart from that, my childhood was exactly like @Attirbful explained. That was around 2010.
I am a 49 years old German and still till today my best childhood memory's are when we (3 to 4 kids) played all day in the woods without adults. It was like exploring a fairytale in real. We where 7 or 8 years old when we first done it and it was great. Oh by the way we lived in a little town so there are always woods not far away.
Ohhh yes...one used to find abandoned treehouses built by other kids. Exploring those was like being Indiana Jones...
Yes, me too.
On hot days we played at a pond in the woods. We also went to the playground or played in the streets. All kids (3 years and older) of the village (only 1000 residents).
Hide and seek or a Schnitzeljagd in the whole village with all the kids was great!
Nobody of us had a watch. When the street lights went on, it was the sign for everyone to go home.
Happy days.
oh yes! I‘m only in my late 20s but I remember doing the same.
41yo German, Grandpa was a farmer, so we went to play on his land near a small dam at a creek while our parents were gardening. As the oldest, I had to pay attention to the little ones while building a hut or something near that water.
I guess screaming loud enough would have brought help if necessary, but not really quick enough.
even though I grew up in the Ruhrgebiet we did the same, just replace woods with abandoned industrial plant sites. I'm also 49.
It's not easy to bring up your parents, even in Germany.
When my parents asked me at age of 12 to at least leave a note telling them where I had gone and when I would be back, it was impossible to make them understand that I wouldn't know this when I leave... I was able to accommodate them and from then on I left a note saying "I'm off, will come back!".
didn't really have this situation until I was like 15 or so due to my two best friends being either really close by or 10km away with no bus stop near them. And when I was older and changed the high school to one in the next town, I was away often, but they got used to an unreliable shedule pretty quick (Deutsche Bahn we love you...)
My standard note at a kid was "i'm gone, will come back" :)
It is so funny to see your reactions.😂😂 I am Romanian and I lived in front of two rivers. Everybody from the neighbourhood would gather there for the whole summer. Until 6 or 7 yo I never wore bathing suit in there. 😂😂 Same with the other kids. The only time I wore one until then it was when we went to the Black sea. 😂😂😂
When I was a kid we had a pool in our back garden that we shared with 3 other homes(it was a weird communal space thing).
Anyone under the age of 8 or so just didn't bother with a swimsuit, it was also common after coming out to run around(still naked) for a little bit to dry off without needing a towel.
The idea of it being taboo or whatever just seems weird from my perspective, it's just feels so creepy to be obsessed with preventing it when anyone under 5 doesn't care and anyone 5-10 generally just thinks bodies underwear areas are funny(lots of bottom/genital jokes told and laughed at as if it's the funniest thing they've ever heard).
In Europe we are not paranoid about kidnappings and there are NO laws or rules about letting your kids alone to go to school, play with other kids in the nearby playground or even in the neighbourhood.
In Europe you learn pretty quickly an other language then your own mother language. Like for instance in the Netherlands, in the eastern part of The Netherlands you had in the 80's access to German TV so when I grew up I watched a lot of German children's programs, we had also access on the radio to BBC News and in the Netherlands TV series and films in the English language are subtitled so that's also a way to learn English outside of school.
When I was 13-14 I had French classes, so next to my own mother language Dutch I learned 3 other languages, 2 of them I speak fluently (English and German) French a 'petit peu'.
The last couple of years I have been to Denmark and Spain for holiday so I have learned to read in those languages too.
german here. I think we have a few (pretty loose) laws regarding children going somehere alone, but in reality they're just there so the police has sth to use against you in grey areas where you could get away with child neglect. Didn't have that much focus on languages, but english is mandatory and the second for me was latin. So now I know more or less what french road signs mean without speaking french. Education goals...
not paranoid but aware of nowadays. I experienced it in my closed village community, everyone knows who you are and every grandma is watching you from the window, knowing who you are and if its going late in the evening she will call my mother and inform me to go home because its late. Its not that germany is very much safer but there are closed communitys where you know that someone is watching everytime. In the cities its different.
Usually from around the elementary school, the kids themselves want to have a swim suit.
The difference is just, some parents protect their kids from the sun with a full suit, with long sleeves or if they do not, than there is no issue if kids run totally naked.
Also beeing topless as an adult, is possible more often, like at the Isar river in Munich or in more and more public swimming pools. And yes, there are also some nude beaches.
The nudism culture in Germany is quite normal and it's weird to us that you find it weird because we don't consider it a sexual thing while americans seem to.
Obviously we don't all just run around naked everywhere but there usually is always a place nearby where you can... a sauna, a thermal bath, in some regions in the summer a lot of camping places and lakes.
As for "public peeing"... yes even adults do it, mostly males though for obvious reasons. But you frequently see guys peeing in the woods or a tree if there are no public toilets nearby at certain places and events.
19:21: No, the "leaving babies in strollers outside" thing, that's not the Germans, that's mostly in nordic countries like sweden, norway, denmark that do it :)
I agree but I would also leave my kid in the stroller or at the bike in front of the bakery for example if it sleeps and I don’t want to disturb. But I would keep an eye and ear on it and be back soon, so in case it gets awake, I’ll be right there
I have a very specific memory of being left alone at the lakeside playground by my grandma when I was 6. It was February, pretty chilly outside, and she wanted to take a walk instead of standing around on the playground watching me. I just stayed there and played alone until another kid from a close-by neighbourhood came and joined me and we played together until my grandma came back.
When children were six or seven years old growing up in the country side of northern Germany , it was completely normal for them to be able to play alone or with friends in the playground , the cornfield, the pasture,etc., alone with parental supervision . My children also have a lot of freedom grew up like that.🙂🌹
When you said four year old with the potty Training I broke😂 because I don't know any four-year-old that still doesn't use the toilet... my daughter turned 3 and she and everybody in her daycare doesn't need diapers over the day😂
Hi Ryan, a little story to explain my thoughts; A few years ago I saw a TV series, I think it was on Discovery, where 2 US boys traveled through South America!
They traveled without money, just hitchhiking or earning their next ticket with small jobs. One day they were walking through a rural area where simple people lived, a place your honorable ex-president would call a "shithole", they reached a small store when a young woman with a baby came up to them and asked them to hold her baby for a moment. She simply put the baby in one of their arms and went into the store.
The two US boys were totally shocked and confused and didn't know how to react. A few minutes later the woman came back, thanked them, took the child and left!
Well, what should this story tell you?
Even in this poor, underdeveloped country, this woman could not have imagined in her wildest dreams that someone could be so horrible as to harm or kidnap a baby.
WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU ABOUT YOUR COUNTRY?
sadly, this!
I‘m a german girl and as I was about 4 years old it was a normal thing for me to use trees in the forest as a toilet. Yes, its possible as a girl, just harder… but what else can you do as a kid in the middle of nowhere in a forest when you have to? Oh and btw as I was a kid we went every Monday in the forest with many other children to play in the nature etc
I'm From Germany and I also think that we just trust that the most people are good and kind around us, so a 6 years old can go out by his self and even if there is a problem, we trust that all the people around would help him. And it's even written in the law that you have to help in a kind of emergency situation, otherwise you are guilty for not helping and there with be very hard consequences if really something happend and you didn't help.
In New Zealand they had unattended camping places where they had toasters and cookers for everybody to use.
6:24 I've also seen this in the middle of the city, for example in the middle of the zoo on a water playground! And no, the lakes and ponds are not private, they are open and wild swimming areas and sometimes entry is even forbidden by the owner, for example the Oberwartha reservoir or the Leuben gravel pit!
When I was a child (like 7 or 8 years old) I went to the forest with my brothers or friends.
We learned so much about nature had secret bases and built a treehouse(with just dirt an sticks) with a second storage. We were told to come back when our mom calls our name or when the church bell strikes at 6.
oh wow when I was in school we started learning English in 3rd grade (my brother was 4th or 5th) and then it got to nowadays 1st grade being common to start. I remember I was very excited to learn English and I had these learn with Disney-VHS-tapes :D that were super fun
Around my sons 3rd Birthday on a Saturday we hat a little argument and he was upset. So he decided to leave the house and go to the weekly grocery market. Took a jacket his Kindergarten Rucksack and off he was. I secretly followed him to see how he would get along. Was just fine, greeted people along the way, stopped at crossings to watch for traffic, had a chat at the market, got his free „Fleischwurst“ and went home again. I was so proud of him that I cried.
2 months later he fully mastered riding a bicycle, that was a different, so we had to put some restrictions to exploring freedom.
I believe we should encourage and enable our children and make them believe in themselves and their natural skills to master everyday life situations.
About your question concerning abduction:
in Germany there were around 257 cases in 2022 countrywide. in the same year the US had 359.094 so yeah...
It's not only englisch. I come from the north, from the island Sylt. It' s a touristic area and many people who life and work here are from many different countrys. In our childrengarden we have just now children from 21 diffrent countrys. It gives programms here help to learn german and also for learn "Friesisch" or "Danish". Friesisch is a old language from this area and Danish from our neighbour. Many people here have roots in Denmark. And young children with normal langage development, learn in the most time, very easy other language.
According to the U.S. Department of Justice's National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), an estimated 137,170 kidnappings occurred in the United States in 2020.
In 2020, the BKA recorded 1,109 kidnapping offenses in Germany.
1:14 A friend of mine from the south (Swabia) intoduced me to a friend.
His parents are probably from afrika or the middle east or short and simple the dude is black.
As he introduced himself with a thick swabian accent he said: Hi, I bin der Flori. Der schwarze Swab. (Hi, my name is Flori. I am the black swabian.)
I nearly died of laughter that day...
Sounds like a nice kid😂❤️
Concerning the kids being alone at the playground I guess it's because playgrounds are like everywhere and mostly if you're curious you could see your kid from your window. So the kids aren't actually that far
In the USA, around 460,000 children are reported missing every year.
In Germany, around 100,000 children are reported missing every year.
Number one and two is a common problem with children on German playgrounds. But we are in the luck that most cities provide poop bags for dogs in most public areas in a good walking distance to each playground I have come by. So it is easy to take your child to the next tree or bush and let them have their way and if it was number two you grab all of it and the tissues you just used with dogs poop bag from the next lantern post seal it and put it in the next bin. Those dog poop bags are also useful if the kid noticed anything too late and you need to change them completely. Dirty clothes in the bag new clothes to the kid.
Alright here we go😂 in Germany a court ruled that "a man(human) is in the same right to pee in the see, wald, ect., as the deer or fox."😂😂
But that's for nature places, like in the Forrest or on a hike,
not for the trees in or next to the city!🫠😂
As a small kid (pre school age) I was naked at the beach all the time. I was running in and out of the water and wearing a wet swimsuit, you will get cold much faster, so it was much more comfortable for me to go naked. This was mostly during our holidays in Sweden, but in Germany, FKK (Frei-Körper-Kultur = "free body culture") has a long tradition, too.
Actiually my son, when he was around8 years old, wouldn't want me to be at his side at the playground or when he was roaming around with his friends. I would just stop him from doing stuff, because "it's dangerous"... Was called to the hospital more than once over the years. But now he knows a lot about kinetic energy and the forces of involuntary impact into the ground or a tree. Or the neighbour's car...
I‘m 52 and I‘ve never met anybody who‘s child was abducted. Is that different in the US?
yes, my kid went to school by himself and to the playground and his friends. and also there are ppl here that leave their babies outside the store, but usually this is safe to do
Some of us Europeans even shower nude. Don't tell Jemus!
As a child in .de in the 80s, from the age of about 5, my friends and I played in the neighbourhood, in the nearby woods, on the street or at friends' houses on our own until dawn (earlier in summer, of course) or my father yelled my name standing on the street. Good times.
We also try to teach our childen way to react to strangers on the steets instead of controlling them. So they don't have to be afraid and have enough selfesteem to stand ip for their self.
Also we expect the people around looking out for our children.
I can remember when I was a child I missed the bus one day and run to another bus stop. I started crying becaus I was sacered I might be late at school. Every adult I passed asked me what happend and made sure I was fine. They comforted me and told me nothing bad would happen. So as an adult when I see a child that is upset I stop and ask about their problem and expect other people too.
To imagine that people would think a little kid might be unsafe just because it's naked. What kind of monsters do they expect on a regular basis?
With Ryan always trying to pronounce German words he should watch Antionette's daughter judging her mum's pronunciation :)
Sadly in times with GPS, Smartphones and Apps anywhere the number of helicopter parents are rising in germany too. Like parents bringing there 10 years old kid into the classroom. In my time it was common that the parents brought there kids once to school - on the very first day of school. And of course the kids played unsupervisored on the playgrounds - or anywhere else like forests. The parents were out working, specialy when divorced.
Peeing in public is usually not allowed in Germany. I got the following from google: Urinating in public is not allowed in Germany. It can be considered a misdemeanor or even a criminal offense because it constitutes “provoking public nuisance.” The fines range between 35 and 5,000 euros.
My son at six was running around in the woods behind our house there are no dangerous animals here in South Wales. Plus the kids start school at the age of 4
She speaks English with an New Zealand Accent. This accent is originated from a south-england slang.
Kids running nude at the beach or at a lake is pretty common thing in Europe. In general Europeans have less an issue with nudity than Americans.
You might like the Video about "Denmarks Forest Kindergarten" We have those in Germany too, amazing concept.
Yes, everyone in Germany is naked all the time, even I'm sitting naked in front of the computer as I write this
that was such a wholesome video to watch 🥰
One time I was standing with my toddler (like 18 months) in the middle of a busy road and the light had just turned red on us and he needed to pee and was just on and off with the diapers, so I just pulled his pants and let him pee on the grass next to the traffic light. When he was 3,5 we were once at a medieval fair and he just ran off through the crowd to a tree in the middle of the crowd and peed there. I would've gone to the nearest restaurant with him, but he didn't tell me and just acted. Nobody cared.
America is not as bad as it is often made out to be: "German children can learn English in kindergarten".
My daughter, her husband and their 7 year old son are currently spending a 3 year corporate assignment in America. They both work for a German car manufacturer and the local school offers special English courses for German children. That's great.
An adult going peeing under trees would be more frowned upon. We grew up in the countryside and we went to the playgrounds in the village by ourselves too or play by the river when we were about seven or go sledding in winter, skateboarding in summer, run around the village or rise our bikes in the neighbouring streets playing and my parents didn't always know where we were, but we had our time when to be home (when the churchbell rang for example or when it got dark, when we were 11/12 we went into a small forest on the edge of the village and had our little hideaway there, took some stuff for a picnic, climbed trees and so on. What a free life that was. And we walked to primary school ourselves (5 mins walk, two streets -including a more busy main street to be crossed) and later to secondary school in the neighbouring town by ourselves. Twas all fine
Side info: It's not unusual for Germans to have pictures of their kids naked, like on a beach/river.
It's a huge problem when you have this on your phone or PC, you forgot that those pictures are not allowed on cloud drives, like Dropbox, MS OneDrive, Google Drive, etc. and you accidentally upload them (like for a backup).
For MS has an AI scanning images on OneDrive and if it found one picture of a naked kid your MS account will be terminated. You loose access to OneDrive, MS Office, digital Xbox purchases, Minecraft, maybe your Windows account and your Windows license too. It's similar for Google Drive.
Additionally they might have reported you to the police too.
No, adults are not allowed to pee in public. It still happens (especially on festivals or during heavy drinking in Carneval, Oktoberfest…) but it’s illegal
About 80 kidnappings per jear. 25 % avoided by résistance. 90% of children found. So there is about 1 to 10millions the risk of being kidnapped... not always on playgrounds.
On a farm it was quite normal to be showing some gentlemen round the cows and a chap might just turn to the side and have a pee. Of course the cows were dunging and peeing everywhere and there were systems in place to handle it. The practicalities of the situation were that the visitors would have dungy boots on from walking through the cows and it wasn't worth the hassle to wash the boots , change into shoes and ask to go into the house to use the toilet ! If you gotta go , you gotta go.
We always met us at playgrounds when we were kids.
I also walked to school on my own though.
18:28 Maybe it's also because we weren't inundated as much with sensationalist press that makes you paranoid about everything. Sadly, that's changed with the internet. But many people still get their news from the "Tagesschau", a short daily news show that's quite sober and even a little boring, compared to American news channels.
FYI in germany there are 80 Kidnappings a year of german Citizen. In the US its 840k but calculated to the number of Citizen its still way higher
a few years back then a german news woman told her story after moving to the US, she let her kids play outside in the frontyard alone and someone called the police on them. lmao
Amazing ! this called freedom.
Pottytraining in germany starts about 1 1/2 years, an most Kids are 'dry' about anage of 2 - 3 years 😅
In germany kids are not seen as sexual. If you look at kid in a sexual way you're the weird one.
In our small german town we never have to worry about our kids strolling around alone or just with their friends at the age of 6 or 7, since there literally isn't anything to worry about. Streets are save, most of them are only used by the people living there, every street has sidewalks left and right, plus there are many paths just for pedestrians and bikes. On the playground the kids mostly know eacher other and know where they live so even if something would happen they'd know where to go for help or they'd just go to the closest adult since people just.. know each other from daily life and talking to each other, I know crazy concept.
Though, maybe it depends where you live. I guess the bigger a community becomes the harder it is to form these trustworthy bonds and it's more likely that some malicious people could be around, but this mostly is the case for certain parts of big cities where you wouldn't want to raise children anyways.
Commenting on the missing children statistic in Germany. The Federal State Police in Germany declared in the year 2019 were 15395 children gone missing. 97,9% of this cases were solved with the kids being brought back to there homes. But this statistik makes no difference between being kidnapped or kids who were just gone lost in forrests or in the streets. Making it 323 kids still missing in 2019. Not good at all, but not that bad that i wouldn't let my kids play by them selfs in a responsible way.
To explain it a bit: it is ok for kids up to age 4-6 to run around naked at some lakes or rivers, or at swimming hall, but not happens very often nowadays When they got older they not run around naked, but only at special areas where all people are especially naked...
Do Americans really start learning their first foreign language in 8th grade? That's shocking to me - at that age European kids already speak 2 other languages (f.e. English plus French/Latin/Spanish) and many will start a third one in 11th grade or so. It's no big deal: the more languages you know, the easier it gets. I'm working on 6 different ones right now, just for fun.
In grade 7 I started learning french. And in grade 3 I starten learning english.
Pre-teen children are NOT allowed to be naked outside in the US? As someone who grew up in Germany, that's wild to me.
This is so strange to see such a huge difference...
1. I can't understand why having little kids naked at the beach would be taboo/weird... I mean they're babies. Idk, i always saw it as normal till they're 4-5 or so... it's silly to put a swimsuit on a 2 year old, it's either nappies or nothing. Wtf, how can that be offensive to anyone?!
2. It's so weird to realize he's never seen a parent have their kids pee in public. I mean, again, they're children! They can't hold it like adults can. Do you just let them pee themselves in the US?! Or wear diapers till they're 7?! It's not like there are toilets every 10 meters.
3. Kids are used to playing with "playground toys". You have boxes with toys in plenty of places. Doctors office, hair dresser's, winery... Most anywhere you're likely to come with kids and there may be waiting or you need kids to be occupied so the adults can do business.
4. Have been playing alone at the playground since i was 4 i think. Came home alone from school by 8 or 9.
5. Yep, learning a foreign language at kindergarten is the best thing ever. Because at such a small age you're learning language intuitively, your vocal chords are still able to make all the possible sounds (which is a lot harder to do by the time you're 12), your brain is like a sponge and it's just learning the native language, so any language at that age sticks to you. Plus you don't learn at kindergarten like you learn at 12. It's a lot more playful, there's no grammar etc. You just learn hy listening, teachers read stories etc. It's a different thing. And it's the best timing to learn languages and open your appetite for that. If you wait till kids are 10 or 12 it's way too late. They're entrenched in their native lingo and their jargon and all that. It's school, so not fun... They have grammar and all that, and it's hard because they learn rationally and they're far more familiar with the grammar of their own language. Not to mention they've been making exclusively the phonetics of their own language for way too long and pronunciation will be difficult in a foreign language. So it's a lot harder if they weren't exposed early. And honestly have you ever seen a little kid look at cartoons in foreign languages?! I guess you haven't, but i have and i have also been one of those kids. And you know what, that's how i picked up English and Italian and Spanish way before any of those were introduced in school. I never had a problem understanding what it was all about. Because you learn intuitively and you want to understand and your brain makes the connection between what you see and what you hear way better than it happens in adults or even older kids because at those ages you don't have any of the aprioris you learn later. So at those ages you instinctively think outside the box, your box wasn't built yet.
little kids are naked in summer a lot here, especially in smaller villages but teens ..idk probably 10 years up don't wanna be seen naked so like skinny dipping isn't a thing here... at leas i don't know anyone that has done that in their teen years... yeah maybe in private with your best friend when its dark but like mmmhhh u can see adults and lil kids be naked a lot more
but theres also F.K.K. beaches wich just means everybody is naked there and clothes are actually not allowed there
my niece and nephew are mixed (American / German) living in Leipzig. If my sister would let it happen, they would develop a Saxon accent.
Peeing on a tree... kids yea, no problem (adults it is frowned upon - if in the open) it is really public adults could get reprimanded if someone gives a shit and/or police is near.
Some playgrounds around here have small kiosks where you can lend the toys.
I could get only this one from the PKS (polizeiliche Kriminalstatistik) which states 212 cases of "(erpresserische) Menschenraub" and "Geiselnahme" which would be Kidnapping and hostages respectively. However this is only for getting money or other demands and no indication of the age of the victims. How much by other crimes against children that is in conjunction with kidnapping is not clear. BUT it is probably quite low, because a missing child, if it is suspected that something criminal is afoot will make state if not country wide news especially in radio.
Cheers!
...just laughing...as a German 😂
Taking a pictures of kids you don't know, would not happen in Germany. Because it is not allowed. :) More forbidden even if you want to post it online.
I Peed against whay more trees than Public Toilets. Becouse it cost 1€
You reaction is so Fanny 👍♥️🇩🇪
😜same in Denmark/ Scandinavia. (not in the city)
The thing is, the US have the most refined form of freedom. The kind where you are not able to do anything at all, because it might affect anyone elses freedom of restraining you from doing that!
Hi. Heute auf deutsch. Tatsächlich gibt es das oft in Deutschland, das kinder allein unterwegs sind. Oder mit Freunden. Allerdings ist es bei uns in der gegebd so, dass sie um 18 Uhr, wenn die Kirchenglocken läuten, nach Hause müssen. Und das klappt. Zumindest bei uns. Ich hatte diese Freiheit als Kind auch und möchte das nicht missen. Liebe Grüße aus germany
i think it's more that in a climate where people are allowed to live and not survive only then they're more likely to see community as natural and share
if a parent is barely scrapping by, they might steal the toys for their own kids, but when everyone can afford to exist this dissipate a lot
Yes Ryan to the Birds Nest but only if you are a Bird ...
We were sunbathing in the nude on a New Zealand beach. People looked but didn't say anything.
Nudity is normal in Germany. We call it Freikörperkultur (FKK). You can be naked not only at special beaches. We even have Nacktwanderwege that means trails for hiker on which you have to hike naked. Shoes and a bag are allowed but the rest of body is "free body culture"... Are shocked now?
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18:30 it's because we have less foreigners and blacks, so we can afford to let our kids go on their own without getting kidnapped.
The helping to pee is especially with girls. To prevent them peeing over their own shoes 😅 but without machinegun sounds. Boys don't need help other than opening the trousers.
Americans instatly think about gated communitys xd for me this feels so distopia and wrong to have as a city
Hey Ryan, do you ever heared about "FKK-Beaches"?
LUL
I don't know how familiar you are with the physique of girls, but they too can pee just fine if you lift them up below the knees, with their backs to their mother/father, and put them in a squatting position.😂😂
1: Im living in germany and its like babys who are less then 2 months old
2: never saw anybody do that in publik
Peetree-dish XD
3: never saw something like that, must be only for that one place
4: well jes?
5: autocorrection isnt helping
I just realized that, it is realy paradox that people in the US absolutly hate socialism, but are obsessed with community(s). 🤔
We don‘t sexualize kids. So nobody bats an eye about small kids being naked on the beach or on a lake
also a lot of adults keep an eye on the kids, not just those the kids belong to but strangers as well. i'm always unconsciously having an eye on the kids around even tho i don't have one myself but it's kinda engraved in me since as a kid i felt like nothing could ever happen to me and so i want to do it myself so the kids can feel this safety too.
Yes. Exactly
What I found quite disturbing in the USA was the quite opposite: At a beach I noticed that all young girls either wore swimming suits (in one piece) or a two piece bikini: bottom AND top! No little girl on that beach went "topless" - almost as if a young girls’ breast was something dirty or forbidden.
I found it quite disturbing to sexualize an absolutely innocent thing like a young girls‘ breast by feeling the need to cover it up.
I don‘t know if that’s only common in some particular regions or throughout the USA, but from what I have read on social media, it‘s at least not unique to the beach where we were.
I was once spoken to by a North American Scout leader at an international camp in Austria because my "girls" (in a mixed group of 16-20 year olds) were wearing bikinis and he didn't think that was appropriate and told me he'd warned all of his (same age group) to bring one pieces...
About speaking a foreign language: I once saw some nice comments here where two people were arguing. The first one (American) said “Your English is very bad.” and then the second one (a guy from Europe) replied “You speak English to me because it's the only language you understand. I speak English to you because it is the only language you understand." - I really liked that^^
That's a good comeback! And polite too! Somehow-
Very smart 😂
Yeah i agree. I am From Germany, and i Had so many Americans complain about my english in comments... As If they would be Able to Form any sentences at all in German...
@@sophiebell4758 I learned more english by programming and coding tutorials than in school, but smh never had those comments
@@aRealAndHumanManThing that can be For different reasons :) maybe my english is worse than yours? I know for example that my autocorrect is totally messed Up after years of using it in english and German. Like it would capitalize sooo many words that should Not be in english and Stuff :) and i also argue in many comment section With themes that get quote emotional Like Religion or politics. So the "you cant even Type" is also often Used to Invalidate my comments :)
I went to the playground with my friends without parents starting at around 4. I still remember how proud I was to be allowed to go alone for the first time.
my first way to school alone on my bike, i was 7 or 8 but im never gonna forget that!
Edit: of course I was Alone outside before but this was just the most memorable memory i had.
Playground?
How boring. We went to the woods.
@@santobenedettoOh wow! I bet you were looking at trees a lot huh? Sounds really fun :) good for you buddy.
@@santobenedetto but surely not with 4years
I was also 4 years old when I was outside by myself playing with kids that were around my age. No parents around. This was early 2000s in Sweden. Nowadays, I know parents in Sweden are more cautious.
In Germany the outcry isn't about the small kiddos, but about anyone taking too much interest in that. 🎉
Holding a little girl to pee like a machine gun is such a father thing to say...😂
The American obsession with nudity I think is so incredibly unhealthy, and quite sad.
Haven't you heard about mass nudity in US schools? It has to be prevented before it happens by demonize and forbid it.
When my parents went to the US with me when I was a baby, they went to lake Michigan with me and let me play on the beach naked. Immediately someone came over and reprimanded them. It was really shocking to them because in Germany (especially in the east where they grew up) kids under 6 rarely ever wore swumsuits on the beach.
Something to keep in mind about kidnappings: The vast majority of kidnappings happen by people the children know. Maybe an uncle, or a family friend. Or, by far the most common, one of the parents. (Lost custody, or just wants to keep the child away from the other parent)
That doesn't mean that kidnappings by strangers don't happen, but it is incredibly rare. You educate your child on strangers, they will still be too trusting, but overall the risk is very low.
When it comes to kidnapping by strangers, something completely off-putting to potential kidnappers is simply the child being around other children. Too difficult to isolate one from the group by coercion, too risky to take one by force because adults/authorities will be informed in no time by multiple little witnesses.
This is why playing outside without adult supervision was normal when I was a kid, but only before dark and never alone.
Kids actually have quite a good intuition about people if we dont kill it by teaching them not to trust it (by e.g. forcing them to kiss people they don't want to).
Furthermore, not all strangers are dangerous and teaching kids that they are might actually have adverse consequences since they might not accept help from strangers when they really need it (imagine them being lost for example). We usually tell our kids look for adults with children if you need help.
And as you said the overall risk of kidnapping is really low, so that traffic is really something more important to worry about
Kids alone at the playground in Germany, I would say not under 5 years old. The rule here , when I grew up was, that we were allowed out and about alone, as soon as we were in school. Most of us walked to school alone or in small groups anyway, so this was just an extension of that freedom. But I had a phone with me at that age. I couldn't do anything with it, but call home or call mom and dad.
I'm German. The age I first was allowed to roam and walk around alone was 4. At age 4 I walked alone to kindergarden, that being around 1.5 km.
Sure could do that. But that was way before mobile phones. And I got sent to buy groceries alone all through primary school.
@@Xendrasch started going somewhere alone when I got into elementary (6yo). But going to indoor playgrounds in kindergarten or similar day trips weren't really supervised. They just made sure we stayed there (and didn't venture into the mall next to their favorite indoor playground, happened a few times), we basically could do what we want. Smb always ran into a pole with rather thin cushion around it, but as long as there was no big injury, no one made it a big deal
@@sun_upsame, i didnt own a phone back then my first was whenni was 12
And i needed do the same aswell getting my little brother from school as his was closer to our home meanwhile mine was in West. So i needed go from North to West with the connection Schoolbus ( in the Netherlands)
Most of the larger lakes also have designated naturist zones for adults. I don't understand how you can get upset by children playing without clothes on.
the naturist (FKK) zones *arent* common. You can find some FKK grounds in eastern germany, but in other regions it isnt common and if you find one its excluded from the "normal" area.
@@aryna13 it is common lol, even in the midst of Bavaria
@@aryna13 natürlich ist FKK common, gefühlt jeder strand hat irgendwo einen FKK abschnitt
@aryna13 it is common in Lower Saxony as
@@julians.2597 never seen one fkk beach in Bavaria 💀😂
"If it's a little girl, would you hold her up like a machine gun?"....me, as an European parent wondering how one would hold a machine gun.😅
exactly😅😂
When my daughter got into school, at 5yo, she was allowed to walk, use the bus or use her scooter to drive to school alone after some training. At this time she was also allowed to go to the playground alone. She also got a GPS watch, so she was able to call us, if she had an accident. I see no problem with that.
Back in the day (I sound so old) we didn't have GPS watches but I would prefer the peace of mind as well.
Because children in Germany spend so much time alone outside, they learn to read the clock at an early age. And it's not unusual for a 6-year-old to wear a children's wristwatch.
I remember my primary school days when I was out in the woods or on my bike with other children during the summer vacations, sometimes until 10 o'clock in the evening. Most of the adults in the neighborhood knew us and knew whose kids we were when something happened (This is not always an advantage. There were several times when I came home and my father was already waiting because he knew what kind of mischief I had been up to)
And it wasn't unusual for us to come home completely dirty or with damaged clothes. I chipped a tooth more than once when I was playing as a child
Once I even had to go to hospital because I fell out of a tree while playing unsupervised.
Same. Most of my friends parents were of the "be back at exactly 6:47pm" type, but mine not really so we were almost always at my home or in the forest 100m behind it
Yes, we were playing outside and came back when it gets dark.
…and to recognize when it gets dark we got told to come home when the street lights turn on :D
(because it feels bright way longer when you are inside than if you are outsode getting slowly used to the dark)
It was the ding dang ding from the church clock in my village 😂
Well, healthcare was more than likely free, so I'm sure your parents couldn't be that angry when you hurt yourself.