Protecting My Pregnant Wife | Devale Ellis | Doula Dads | S1 E2

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  • @Empz-wm9rc
    @Empz-wm9rc 4 роки тому +146

    Men. We keep telling you. Childbirth is SERIOUS. From pregnancy to breastfeeding. We need your understanding, patience and protection 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

  • @me-meluv6921
    @me-meluv6921 4 роки тому +156

    See that's a man who truly loves his wife and family. God bless the Elli's family

  • @jmladygodsgrace2788
    @jmladygodsgrace2788 4 роки тому +103

    I shared this video with my sons (ages 19 & 20), with this statement:
    WAIT UNTIL YOUR LIFE IS READY FOR THIS RESPONSIBILITY...! 🤨

    • @keepitsimpleydb6151
      @keepitsimpleydb6151 4 роки тому +7

      Great vid for them to watch. To be married and in-love.

    • @rissaceehart4076
      @rissaceehart4076 4 роки тому +3

      AMEN MOMMA!🙏🙏🙏

    • @PurpleHeadedMonster
      @PurpleHeadedMonster 4 роки тому +3

      @Anne Liesveld You could be married and STILL not be ready for this responsibility.

  • @d.colemanjr.630
    @d.colemanjr.630 4 роки тому +132

    I have no idea why this came up in my feed but I couldn't stop watching!!! Omg.. Davale please teach a class somewhere (community, church, health fair..something) and help educate young men on their upcoming rolls. So much of this is missed and that statement about speaking to them in the womb is so true and key. Protecting your wife is protecting your child and thus your legacy! Share this video with any soon to be dad who wants to know what a real dad is and where it starts!!!!

    • @rissaceehart4076
      @rissaceehart4076 4 роки тому

      I KNOWWW..The Same🙋😂😂😂I'm Not A Mommy yet..but This is Great STUFF to know Especially when you DON'T Know.Good job Daddy DeVale being the Protector!!

    • @Godslight1970s
      @Godslight1970s 4 роки тому

      YES @ D.C. well said!!! I said the same...every dad to be and even those still making babies could benefit from listening to this well educated and caring man.

  • @heycharliy
    @heycharliy 4 роки тому +101

    I love how this was "we" throughout all of this. I can't wait to experience such love and partnership.

    • @rissaceehart4076
      @rissaceehart4076 4 роки тому +1

      EXACTLY!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯IT Took 💏💑 to make the Baby So the 2 MUST share in the Responsibility.

    • @karenmcgee1869
      @karenmcgee1869 4 роки тому +2

      Yesssss! So beautiful. Really touched my heart.

  • @keepitsimpleydb6151
    @keepitsimpleydb6151 4 роки тому +41

    I remember - Serena Williams stated she had to demand a CT Scan because something did not feel right. Deval - protecting his wife at this time....nice to see this. Great job being father and husband.

  • @boineelorapoo138
    @boineelorapoo138 4 роки тому +203

    Men should participate in child birth and we need to continue to educate men about birth.. let's not trash talk men..

    • @aspirehigher6368
      @aspirehigher6368 4 роки тому +1

      @Big Steve just keep learning don't feel bad about what you don't yet know because it's a lifelong journey and women are on it, too, sadly...ppl don't just tell us about our bodies so we have to seek the medical facts ourselves.

  • @LG-kx8xl
    @LG-kx8xl 4 роки тому +68

    Childbirth is very serious & can be dangerous. A c-section is one of the most dangerous surgeries. This is wonderful that he's taken it upon himself to help protect his wife & children by becoming educated to be an advocate for them. Every pregnant woman needs someone there to do that. A woman can't fully advocate for herself during that time.

  • @breadbutter4221
    @breadbutter4221 4 роки тому +280

    I'm here thinking how easily Khadeen could have been part of the statistics of black women dying in childbirth during her pregnancy had it not been for Devale there looking and seeing something is wrong and confirmed by her mother when the doctor did not care enough to stay. That's sad and scary. Especially when you are new to the process, trust that the doctors will do what they should do, can be the danger. We really need to educate ourselves

    • @anele.nsithole5593
      @anele.nsithole5593 4 роки тому +5

      This comment!!! I am sending the links to my husband.

    • @IamBrendaMarie
      @IamBrendaMarie 4 роки тому +2

      So true. No checking the patient

    • @hscamzhscam177
      @hscamzhscam177 4 роки тому +2

      Appauling quality of care in first pregnancy. Inappropriate dosing during induction can cause precipitous labour! U could have sued.

    • @rishaabston1552
      @rishaabston1552 4 роки тому +5

      Yes! Thank God he was there to advocate for her.

    • @IamBrendaMarie
      @IamBrendaMarie 4 роки тому +2

      @@rishaabston1552 So true

  • @CHShabesha
    @CHShabesha 4 роки тому +90

    Especially with how the mortality rate in maternal care, husbands are a very key advocate for a woman.

  • @gilliangordon6865
    @gilliangordon6865 4 роки тому +95

    Awww.....this so sweet just listening you talking about fatherhood and protecting your wife is awesome 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

  • @siphesihlethebeautifulgift
    @siphesihlethebeautifulgift 4 роки тому +41

    I love that he says “we” even when talking about the medication that was being offered to her because he was fully part of the process 🥺😭

  • @JobyJay
    @JobyJay 4 роки тому +8

    This is beautiful 😭😭😭 THIS IS WHAT YOUR MAN IS SUPPOSED TO DO! Look out for you and protect you!

  • @marquittalambert8375
    @marquittalambert8375 4 роки тому +33

    1) I LOVE the Ellis family. 2) This is exactly why I want to become a doula, so mother/fathers know all of their options and are well informed about this process 3) I love how you guys terms when their mentioned. That's very helpful

  • @embracewithchristina
    @embracewithchristina 4 роки тому +35

    This conversation is so important!! This is exactly why I want to have a natural birth when I get married and have children. You're body knows when it's ready. Love how involved he is with his wife and kids and that he took the initiative to educate himself about the womans body and the birthing process.

  • @LindsayAmelia
    @LindsayAmelia 4 роки тому +9

    Can we talk about how amazing it is that her babies basically fell out the womb. Such a blessing!

  • @liveinviolet2908
    @liveinviolet2908 4 роки тому +64

    Wow! This series is soo important 🙌🏽✨ Allowing husbands/fathers to understand their power and necessity of their presence in the birthing/ delivery process. #fightagainstbwmortality

  • @grammyslim5766
    @grammyslim5766 4 роки тому +24

    I respect you for your keen interest in birthing. I also love how you care for your queen. We need more men like you who makes their presence felt when wife giving birth. Hats off to you Devale, you a real man!!! Love your family!!!!! I enjoy watching your videos!!!

  • @patricialee7919
    @patricialee7919 3 роки тому +3

    Just love the way he says WE ..even tbough its its wife they were 100% in it all together ..just perfect 🥰💞

  • @maryo4073
    @maryo4073 4 роки тому +15

    We Love you Devale for being the MAN that you are and loving your family and protecting them, young men can really learn from you 💕

  • @Angela-cd9bj
    @Angela-cd9bj 2 роки тому +2

    Hopefully more men will take the statements into consideration. Congratulations to Devale understanding his Role during his wife’s pregnancy, labor and delivery Congratulations King Maker 👑👑👑👑

  • @sweetemme2949
    @sweetemme2949 4 роки тому +9

    I love the perspective he has of them being a unit by saying "We". That is what every loving relationship should be.

  • @radiancesmith1782
    @radiancesmith1782 4 роки тому +30

    This was so enlightening, that masculine perspective. It truly makes a difference!

  • @MSJAY26
    @MSJAY26 4 роки тому +18

    Outstanding interview!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you for your education of childbirth. Most men won’t even pick up a book or search google! Thank you for being a positive force n a great dad!!

  • @tamiakailyn9242
    @tamiakailyn9242 4 роки тому +3

    Every time he says “we” my heart melts

  • @jenniferreynoso1411
    @jenniferreynoso1411 3 роки тому +3

    The more I watch Devale’s videos the more I realize how wise he is in sacred union and the influence of a masculine and feminine energy partnership.

  • @Sista2Sista7875
    @Sista2Sista7875 4 роки тому +14

    This was so enlightening to hear from a Father's perspective. The love and protection for your wife and children is so inspiring. ❤

  • @MultiDaisy1995
    @MultiDaisy1995 4 роки тому +4

    I love seeing men get involved and educating themselves on what their partner or babies mother is going through. It’s awesome 👏🏼

  • @carladungee8787
    @carladungee8787 3 роки тому +4

    I LOVE how he speaks of his wife's experience in terms of "we" and "us"!!

  • @margarettnwankpah927
    @margarettnwankpah927 4 роки тому +19

    This is such a vital part of the family - the father’s presence! Great job!

  • @tonyakelley1352
    @tonyakelley1352 4 роки тому +9

    My daughter is grown now but it was a horrific experience giving birth and having a husband (now ex) that was not supportive or involved. I remember feeling unsafe, stressed and extremely vulnerable and it caused a shift in the marriage. It’s nice to see husband in protect mode during childbirth process.

    • @tabathamyers7562
      @tabathamyers7562 4 роки тому +1

      I had the same experience

    • @janayh2817
      @janayh2817 4 роки тому +1

      Same 😢 it’s so warming to see this man properly love his wife and kids during childbirth. I wish I had this wholesome an experience. The negativity and emotional abuse I went thru put me off of ever having anymore children. I hope more men learn how their actions can impact woman and child. Loving this series so far!

  • @IamBrendaMarie
    @IamBrendaMarie 4 роки тому +5

    That interview was mind blowing. I couldn't stop watching. I went to through so many emotions just watching and listening. Sad, happy, shock, in awe, smiling, laughing, depressed, thoughtful, reminsicing, flashbacks. Thanks for being a man Davale🤗😭❤️

  • @cococoif404
    @cococoif404 4 роки тому +10

    Excellent excellent excellent! I love when the partners are all in and extremely supportive.

  • @princesspinkdesire
    @princesspinkdesire 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for setting an awesome example of being an actual participant of your children’s life. My God continue to bless and keep you and your family!

  • @Gamegal07
    @Gamegal07 4 роки тому +7

    This is a beautiful series. To see men doing the work to support their wives and families. This is definitely saved for my future husband.

  • @Godslight1970s
    @Godslight1970s 4 роки тому +1

    God bless this black man who did the work to ensure his wife and babies would have the best possible experience during and after childbirth. I think every father to be would benefit from watching and listening to this interview....even fathers who are already dads but expecting another child might benefit from watching this. Well done, great interview 👏🏾

  • @facesbybriana4708
    @facesbybriana4708 3 роки тому +1

    Great job Ellises! It is AMAZING to watch what a woman and family can be when first, the man wants to be a husband, 2nd, understands what that looks like and 3rd LOVES his family more than himself.

  • @shantayoverstreet4763
    @shantayoverstreet4763 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I wished more Dads stepped up like this during the birthing process, it could save lives!

  • @caroloutler7641
    @caroloutler7641 4 роки тому +4

    Excellent content Black Love.De vale all men should be as educated and invested in the birth of their children like you! Covering their wife this way eliminates an enornment amount of stress and solidifies the bond of trust within the union.Great video.Love De vale and Khadeen Ellis and family💖

  • @KMiley
    @KMiley 4 роки тому +12

    When you said you lifted the baby up, the sound from Lion King came to mind. 🤣🤣🤣

  • @ShoqRox
    @ShoqRox 2 роки тому

    I love how he learned to be more educated but specifically about the womens body. He took the role of a leader and protector and I love that for her and their family.

  • @BigGeminiGoat
    @BigGeminiGoat 4 роки тому +5

    Wow this was extremely informative. This is why I don't want to have anymore kids unless im married and he seems like a very considerate and understanding husband. Blessed to find that kind of love. And they have 3 beautiful children

  • @betterbirth52
    @betterbirth52 4 роки тому +1

    Good for you for educating yourself! Great birth stories. You have a good understanding of what a birthing person needs, what the developing fetus needs, as well as what a breastfeeding person needs! Good job!!! I am a doula, doula trainer, childbirth educator and lactation counselor. I have seen you on TV. Nice to see you as a "real" person, a dedicated husband and father! Great knowing about Black maternal mortality statistics as well. Job well done!!

  • @victoriousjackson21
    @victoriousjackson21 4 роки тому +13

    Absolutely loved this from beginning to ending

  • @wildharmony33
    @wildharmony33 2 роки тому

    I am only 30 seconds into it and this is one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard.

  • @devonnarevell1249
    @devonnarevell1249 3 роки тому +1

    May God bless Devales parents they raised such a great man!!!!🙌🏾

  • @user-vm5ud4xw6n
    @user-vm5ud4xw6n 4 роки тому +1

    Awesome advice that any man can use. My son was born in the late 70’s by emergency C-section. My husband worked so much I was lucky to have him around for 2 weeks afterward. I had heard of post-partum depression but since I was the baby of the family there were no other children around, no one to see go through pregnancy so I was pretty clueless. I didn’t realize that PPD aside I was subject to depression anyway so having PPD just made it worse. Having someone around who would “have my back” would have been wonderful. This is something all life partners who are contemplating having children with their significant other should hear!

  • @jmladygodsgrace2788
    @jmladygodsgrace2788 4 роки тому +3

    This is awesome!!! Very much needed. I hope every young man can hear, understand and care enough.

  • @santaniabella5378
    @santaniabella5378 4 роки тому +3

    This is amazing! Keep using your platform Devale! ✨💕

  • @kimmccoy6438
    @kimmccoy6438 4 роки тому +2

    I love the Ellis family and I’m glad you are doing more videos about your family and the different experiences you all have experienced. Thank you for being real.

  • @Amps2deuce
    @Amps2deuce 4 роки тому +2

    OMG! I cried listening to him tell this story... the amount of black women that have died in childbirth is astounding. I’m so happy she made it through. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @dejje7384
    @dejje7384 4 роки тому +4

    Great interviewee Devale. You are very great in telling a story

  • @Batman_810
    @Batman_810 4 роки тому +1

    I had to drop a like, leave a comment, and let the ads play all the way through to show respect!!! Thank y'all greatly...

  • @joannapilgrim
    @joannapilgrim 4 роки тому +3

    I agree that home birth is the way to go. Well done family. Thank you so much for sharing, Mr. Ellis

  • @jeannahtey531
    @jeannahtey531 4 роки тому +10

    I don’t understand why this popped up in my feed... but when I read the title I said “ whoa Khadeen is pregnant again?” It slick confused me because I listen to their podcast😂 Doulas are amazing. I had one when I had the twins. I recommend any woman to have one.

    • @rissaceehart4076
      @rissaceehart4076 4 роки тому +1

      GURLLLLLL..WE are so on the same Page..I was YAYYYYYYYY DEVALE has Shot his Shot💦😂😂😂 Thought E4 was in Loading Mode!

    • @ShericeeJ
      @ShericeeJ 4 роки тому +1

      Aaliyah Erianna me too got way too excited ! 😝

  • @kripamaya
    @kripamaya 4 роки тому +3

    Wonderful! Thank you so much and congratulations dear Codie and Devale! Awesome job (the interview and your series Codie and the fathering-husbanding job Devale), and an exemplary dad. EXEMPLARY. And beautiful! The world needs positive models so much. I feel so happy and proud :) Thank you again.

  • @zan752000
    @zan752000 3 роки тому +1

    More of this! This was such an enlightening video, love the Elise family.

  • @anele.nsithole5593
    @anele.nsithole5593 4 роки тому +4

    I loved loved loved this interview. Thank you. This was just great.

  • @CharCharJars
    @CharCharJars 4 роки тому +2

    Wow and I've watched the other doula videos but for this one I think I'm speechless😍😍😍😌

  • @mariahreese
    @mariahreese 4 роки тому +6

    I love this series! These are such beautiful stories and I'm learning so much.

  • @pfromtx
    @pfromtx 4 роки тому +1

    Devale I truly appreciate all you’ve offered here. Beautiful story and I Love how much you owned the process. Amazing evolution!!! Thank you. Thank you.

  • @Nostradamus0113
    @Nostradamus0113 3 роки тому +1

    RESPECT bro! I'm gonna do it right with my second... Expecting in about a week so loving the knowledge

  • @ceeceeg6224
    @ceeceeg6224 3 роки тому +2

    What a great man!❤

  • @sweetdoc1472
    @sweetdoc1472 4 роки тому +1

    I have so much newfound respect for you after seeing this!

  • @ajbreezy11
    @ajbreezy11 4 роки тому +6

    Oh my! This was wonderful and refreshing to watch! Even made me a bit teary eyed at some parts. 😅 Great work and what an awesome husband and father you are Devale! 🥰

  • @bonitaparker467
    @bonitaparker467 4 роки тому +3

    Devale, thank you for posting this ❤️.

  • @lperkins06
    @lperkins06 4 роки тому +3

    This Is Beautiful! Taking that initiative to learn. That’s love.❤️

  • @michellecharles9863
    @michellecharles9863 3 роки тому +1

    A lot of husbands don't understand when you really love your wife you will invest in her. Every aspect of her life. It takes work and sacrifice. Marriage is servanthood. You prove this by doing research in areas you weren't educated in. Keep up the great work

  • @ljones1908
    @ljones1908 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks for this interview Devale. So helpful.

  • @littisharamcleishanderson5716
    @littisharamcleishanderson5716 4 роки тому +1

    Fathers are so important in a child live even before birth.

  • @charmainedenise9699
    @charmainedenise9699 4 роки тому +1

    I loved this interview so much! Our first and only right now lol was born with a club foot and I remember being so worried. Great interview!

  • @FollowTheTonics
    @FollowTheTonics 4 роки тому +2

    Awesome Segment. Devale is the father of the Century!!!!

  • @daniellasinpson7668
    @daniellasinpson7668 4 роки тому +3

    Amazing and omg my baby’s name is Kairo to so beautiful. Educating yourself and your partner is amazing helps so much

  • @Skylightatdusk
    @Skylightatdusk 4 роки тому +37

    This sounds like the doctors were not as engaged as they should have been.

  • @ReadingThing
    @ReadingThing 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being such an amazing husband to your beautiful wife!

  • @Goddessjccabeza
    @Goddessjccabeza 4 роки тому +4

    Great interview. Simply great

  • @Kirwina
    @Kirwina 4 роки тому +3

    Where can I find a Devale? Sigh! God bless him and his beautiful be family

  • @ms.lpriester5626
    @ms.lpriester5626 4 роки тому +8

    This was beautiful love how you and Kay relationship is sharing open to share the ups and downs 🌹❤️🥰

  • @tweetyspecial
    @tweetyspecial 4 роки тому +3

    I’m literally crying watching this 😢❤️ My husband would be the same way.

  • @morenanaremo511
    @morenanaremo511 3 роки тому

    God bless you Devale, you have raised strong men right from inception.

  • @HaloTheTrader
    @HaloTheTrader Місяць тому

    Man women go through a lot during pregnancy. I am about to be a first time dad and I pray over my woman and baby 🥺

  • @sarahj4598
    @sarahj4598 4 роки тому +2

    They are two blessed people. Understanding is amazing!! Devale needs to teach boys how to be men 😍😍😭😭😭😭

  • @renetaphillips7606
    @renetaphillips7606 4 роки тому +2

    Absolutely AMAZING!!!!!

  • @IamBrendaMarie
    @IamBrendaMarie 4 роки тому +2

    You are smart man Davale say yes to everything

  • @kyllegiovanni6718
    @kyllegiovanni6718 4 роки тому +1

    That was lovely Devale.

  • @vilnap3002
    @vilnap3002 4 роки тому +24

    Ok so I am in love with the Ellises. So...

  • @missparker211
    @missparker211 4 роки тому +2

    Beautiful ❤️ I love how he say “we”

  • @shandagentile5883
    @shandagentile5883 4 роки тому +1

    Wonderful interview!

  • @lillianjames713
    @lillianjames713 2 роки тому

    Blessing for you and family

  • @raquelchildofthemosthighgo3546
    @raquelchildofthemosthighgo3546 4 роки тому +8

    Wow, that's crazy. It's always usually hard to give birth, it felt like I always almost lose my life giving birth giving birth to my two. But God is Good

  • @ItsOneColorfulLife
    @ItsOneColorfulLife 4 роки тому +1

    Amazing segment

  • @SoulfulRose
    @SoulfulRose 4 роки тому +1

    Refreshing to hear a fathers perspective of labor and childbirth. Loved how involved he was and the research he did to ensure that his wife had a successful natural birth. This is my portion in Jesus Name. Amen!

  • @louisabartlett2307
    @louisabartlett2307 4 роки тому +7

    OH! Devall that was good❤️🙅🏽‍♀️

  • @Kemelya
    @Kemelya 4 роки тому +2

    This whole thing is amazing

  • @sheritaj199
    @sheritaj199 4 роки тому +1

    Amazing!!! Thanks for sharing!

  • @dzejnalukovic9920
    @dzejnalukovic9920 4 роки тому +1

    Informative and great interview.

  • @PortraitofAsha
    @PortraitofAsha 4 роки тому +1

    This is so beautiful😭💕🙌

  • @janicemurphy4373
    @janicemurphy4373 2 роки тому

    YOU ARE A WONDERFUL WONDERFUL AND LOVING BLACK MAN, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗☺️🥰💕💕

  • @kaylevy5694
    @kaylevy5694 4 роки тому +4

    I love it, this is beautiful.

  • @heidiripley1867
    @heidiripley1867 3 роки тому +1

    Love this