Brother, I understand you don't want to hurt your children's feeling for having a divorced parents. I think you are wrong. In many cases, the children are very selfish only to make them feel good that both of their parents are still married. But in reality, they are not happy for a family that their parents are not real husband and wife. When the children grow up and have their own wife or husband, they will forget you. So get a divorce and marry another wife for your own life. The children will have their own lives. Yes, many people, including children, use the threat of suicide to get what they want. After the divorce, you can show your children that life can be normal again, when you continue to love your children. Please don't live with a cheater, who is now your worst enemy. Get out of this cheating situation..
As parents, we don't want to disappoint our children, but its best to go your own way so the both of you guys can be happy. Your daughter might say that, but trust me, your kids will be a lot happier once you guys divorce. Your kids will see that.
WOW! I was once almost in that situation too. Glad I was being smart and still alive today as well. Don't know why women do the cheating and left, but as soon as we the guys have a new gf or married. They come running back causing problems.
You're not stupid for doing that, I completely understand your situation. However, if the relationship is not healthy, it's best to get a divorce. Kids will adapt to the new situation.
Glad you found happiness and love. Your ex wife’s boyfriend, the supervisor could’ve been reprimanded for having an affair with his superior, your wife. Remember, children are not much happier living with parents who are pretending to be married.
Neb txawm nyob ua ke los nyias muaj nyias tus hl7as nkauj hluas nraug ces yeej zoo tsis txawv ib yam li neb sib nrauj lawm, neb xav hais tias ne ua li no ces yuav ua rau neb cov me nyuam zoosiab no ua li neb ua no mas haj yam ua rau neb cov me nyuam nyuaj siab xwb os.
If I were u I would've left a long time ago. Dont blame ur unwillingness to leave on the kids & close relationship with inlaws. Fact is u cant let her go. But glad u finally muster the guts to divorce her.
Tus pojniam zoo li no yog pojniam siab dev xwb. Ua haujlwm tom bank xwb tsis muaj yuav tham tas li. Lam kawm txawj xwb tsis yog kawm ntse tus pojniam ruam li no na. Ua cas koj thiaj tsis muab nrauj thaum pib thaum yus tseem hluas es lub neej thiaj tsis nyob quav dev li ko. ib tug pojniam, los txiv neej yog coj li tus li no ces lub neej yeej tsis txawv neb lub li os nawb.
I wouldn’t date a guy that still lives with his wife because technically he’s still a married man. You said you love your kids and stayed in your unhealthy marriage for their sake but you caused them more harm than good. Your kids will grow up thinking that it is normal to have affairs and it’s ok to stay in an unhealthy marriage.
Just a few minutes into this story I get the vibe that this guy doesn’t have any self confidence and wanted a wife who is under his control no wonder she lost any sort of affection for him. However it seems marriage for this lady is not for better or worst…easy come easy go for some ppl
I wonder if this is my older brother’s story because for the last 13 years he and his wife have detached themselves from everyone but we know my SIL was clubbing and going out late and coming home late.
Tus phooj ywg aw tej teeb meem li ko ces koj thiab kuv peb yeej raug tib tug xub vos ua ntshav ntws nto lawm nawb me phooj ywg aw tej kev phem ua yus yuav rov txov yus txoj sia ces tseg kiag nawb mog kuv ntseeg tias txawm peb cov pojniam txawm coj kiag hluas nraug los tsoob kiag rau koj peb saib los peb yeej ua tsis tau ib yam dab tsi nawb me phooj ywg aw thaum pojniam lawv tsis pub lawv lub pim rau yus lawm ces qhov ntawv lawv twb niaj hnub mus tsoob qau lawm txoj kev hlub lawv thiaj li tsis k yus nawb tej zoo li no nws tsis yog koj thiaj ib leeg raug xwb peb yeej raug ib niaj hnub no es txawm li cas los puam chawj lub neej tsis zoo lawm ces txoj kev khib tsis txhob khib lawm vim twb tsis sib hlub lawm cia puam chawj nawb tsis txhob tu siab mog.cia ntuj mam txiav txim xwb mas.
Hypergamy is a real. The sooner you learn and become aware of this the better. Men have to become the best versions of ourselves or get left in the dust.
My brother's ex wife left him and when she found out my brother got remarried, she call the cops to the hu plig party and she continue to lie that my sis in law would starve and abuse her two kids. She still single, living with a man she met and stills harassing my brother and his new wife.
It’s both you & your wife’s fault. First your wife should be loyal to you & not act/treat you like that. Secondly, you should know when to stop her doing. But it is good you got even with her.
What an unhealthy atmosphere for kids! Nobody wants to grow up in a broken home, but if it's so much toxicity, then it's best to split. I'm glad that you guys are able to find your own peace now. But yes, too many unhappy spouses living as roommates nowadays.
When someone doesnt love you, you GET BETTER for yourself, not get even!! 🤦♀️ Getting even will result in a horrrible ending for yourself *life under the bridge because you dont have a job
You are no better than ur wife. You are worst. You actually brought your home wrecker home. At this point just break off the marriage. Staying together is worst then breaking apart.
Koj yeej ruam li koj niag pojniam thuam. Cov company loj loj yeej muaj txojcai tsis pub tus nai tham nws cov workers. Tsis tus nai saib/manage cov neeg ua txheeb ze nws. Koj muab evidence kom txaus txaus ces foob lub company xwb los mas niag ruam. Yam tsis tau kiag koj niag pojniam thiab nws niag manager yuav tsum mag hlawv na. Npwb dhau lawm os.
Ne ne peb cov hmoob America no twb hai tias kawm ntawv siab siab nej ntse ntse li es nej yuav mus yuav cov ntxhai ntse teb chaw no xwb no ne. Es peb that peb cov ntxhai hmoob plog rau nej mas nej tsi kam yuav li ne? Es ua cas tseem tshav siab li ko thiab mas. Tus neeg hlub koj txawm ruam thiab ntse, muaj thiab pluag los tu hlub yus yeej hlub lub neej yeej zoo kawg.tsi tag koj yuav cov ntxhai ntse es neej thiaj zoo os. Seb koj puag nyiam kuv tu sister xwb mas.
She probably unloved you because you kept accusing her of things she has never done. I used to work at a bank and people go to lunch together all the time. Sometimes they even go golfing with clients 🫣 It’s part of the bank’s culture to maintain good relationship with customer and coworkers. (Fun fact: I always hated going to lunch with my supervisor and team so I knew I had to quit 🤣 that type of work wasn’t for me because I’m too Hmong lol) This husband is og and narrow minded. Two completely different mindsets will clash. I don’t think your wife was jealous of you when you decided to bring your girl around. It was very low of you and that’s nothing to be proud of. I can’t understand when people say they stay for their kids but they’re bringing in such negative energy. I’m glad you two went your own ways and I hope to never hear from you guys again bye 🙃
Good for you brother. A woman that doesn't love you is not worth dying for. Let them have what they wish. Life goes on. Glad your better now.
I just LOVE how cheaters react with such audacity when they get a taste of their own medicine. You can dish it but you can't take it? Puh-lease!
Kids will grow up…Don’t torture yourself in a relationship that’s not healthy…😩
Brother, I understand you don't want to hurt your children's feeling for having a divorced parents. I think you are wrong. In many cases, the children are very selfish only to make them feel good that both of their parents are still married. But in reality, they are not happy for a family that their parents are not real husband and wife. When the children grow up and have their own wife or husband, they will forget you. So get a divorce and marry another wife for your own life. The children will have their own lives. Yes, many people, including children, use the threat of suicide to get what they want. After the divorce, you can show your children that life can be normal again, when you continue to love your children. Please don't live with a cheater, who is now your worst enemy. Get out of this cheating situation..
Poor kids had to suffer through their parents' immature actions 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
You should have confronted them in the bank the first time you saw them come back from lunch. Cause a commotion to get them fired.
Good ending...I like...
Wow... a bank teller makes a lot of money? Which bank u working for? Sign me up.
You are a model for us hmong men.
Khoom ib lub tsev nyias muaj nyias nyiaj...nyias muaj nyias chaw pw...nyias muaj nyias lub siab ces nyias kawg muaj nyias lub neej xwb. Sib hlub tsis taus lawm ces nyias nyob nyias.
This type of marriage has become the norm in today’s society.
Very good
Wow!! This Story pretty badass. Lol
Koj tus hluas nkauj hais yog lawm. Tsis yuav muab nrauj mus.
As parents, we don't want to disappoint our children, but its best to go your own way so the both of you guys can be happy. Your daughter might say that, but trust me, your kids will be a lot happier once you guys divorce. Your kids will see that.
WOW! I was once almost in that situation too. Glad I was being smart and still alive today as well. Don't know why women do the cheating and left, but as soon as we the guys have a new gf or married. They come running back causing problems.
Peb hmoob tsis muaj cov zoo niam tsev tshuav tib co niam dev lawm xwb nawb lawv aw...
This guy claims to love his kids, but what he did is more toxic than divorce. Just a selfish individual who only care about himself.
It's time to let go, brother. She has committed adultery.
You're not stupid for doing that, I completely understand your situation. However, if the relationship is not healthy, it's best to get a divorce. Kids will adapt to the new situation.
Glad you found happiness and love. Your ex wife’s boyfriend, the supervisor could’ve been reprimanded for having an affair with his superior, your wife.
Remember, children are not much happier living with parents who are pretending to be married.
Neb txawm nyob ua ke los nyias muaj nyias tus hl7as nkauj hluas nraug ces yeej zoo tsis txawv ib yam li neb sib nrauj lawm, neb xav hais tias ne ua li no ces yuav ua rau neb cov me nyuam zoosiab no ua li neb ua no mas haj yam ua rau neb cov me nyuam nyuaj siab xwb os.
If I were u I would've left a long time ago. Dont blame ur unwillingness to leave on the kids & close relationship with inlaws. Fact is u cant let her go. But glad u finally muster the guts to divorce her.
I understand you. I don’t blame both of you two.
What a miserable life. Glad yal finally divorce. 😅😅
Never make an excuse because of your kids that you are staying in a dead marriage....poor decision by this guy.
Some women these days once they start making more then you they look down on you. They will meet karma one day and u will get the last laugh
He should have reported to her company's HR....
Tus pojniam zoo li no yog pojniam siab dev xwb. Ua haujlwm tom bank xwb tsis muaj yuav tham tas li. Lam kawm txawj xwb tsis yog kawm ntse tus pojniam ruam li no na. Ua cas koj thiaj tsis muab nrauj thaum pib thaum yus tseem hluas es lub neej thiaj tsis nyob quav dev li ko. ib tug pojniam, los txiv neej yog coj li tus li no ces lub neej yeej tsis txawv neb lub li os nawb.
I wouldn’t date a guy that still lives with his wife because technically he’s still a married man. You said you love your kids and stayed in your unhealthy marriage for their sake but you caused them more harm than good. Your kids will grow up thinking that it is normal to have affairs and it’s ok to stay in an unhealthy marriage.
Just a few minutes into this story I get the vibe that this guy doesn’t have any self confidence and wanted a wife who is under his control no wonder she lost any sort of affection for him. However it seems marriage for this lady is not for better or worst…easy come easy go for some ppl
Both of you are very selfish hurting your children
I wonder if this is my older brother’s story because for the last 13 years he and his wife have detached themselves from everyone but we know my SIL was clubbing and going out late and coming home late.
Tus phooj ywg aw tej teeb meem li ko ces koj thiab kuv peb yeej raug tib tug xub vos ua ntshav ntws nto lawm nawb me phooj ywg aw tej kev phem ua yus yuav rov txov yus txoj sia ces tseg kiag nawb mog kuv ntseeg tias txawm peb cov pojniam txawm coj kiag hluas nraug los tsoob kiag rau koj peb saib los peb yeej ua tsis tau ib yam dab tsi nawb me phooj ywg aw thaum pojniam lawv tsis pub lawv lub pim rau yus lawm ces qhov ntawv lawv twb niaj hnub mus tsoob qau lawm txoj kev hlub lawv thiaj li tsis k yus nawb tej zoo li no nws tsis yog koj thiaj ib leeg raug xwb peb yeej raug ib niaj hnub no es txawm li cas los puam chawj lub neej tsis zoo lawm ces txoj kev khib tsis txhob khib lawm vim twb tsis sib hlub lawm cia puam chawj nawb tsis txhob tu siab mog.cia ntuj mam txiav txim xwb mas.
LMFAO, brother, you need to follow your heart. By staying you're only causing more harm to your children. Divorce her and move on with your life.
Cov khub niam txiv coj li no mas yeej muaj coob lawm thiab laiv !!!! Nyob teb chaws no thiab rau tim nplog los yuav muaj tib yam.
Cov niam tsev tam sim no yim txawj ntse yim siab phem nawb lawv aw...
Hypergamy is a real. The sooner you learn and become aware of this the better. Men have to become the best versions of ourselves or get left in the dust.
My brother's ex wife left him and when she found out my brother got remarried, she call the cops to the hu plig party and she continue to lie that my sis in law would starve and abuse her two kids. She still single, living with a man she met and stills harassing my brother and his new wife.
Thaub ko tseem yog hlwb tswj
Nws tsis like ko poon lawm nws like like spaghetti lawm xwb os
It’s both you & your wife’s fault. First your wife should be loyal to you & not act/treat you like that. Secondly, you should know when to stop her doing. But it is good you got even with her.
What an unhealthy atmosphere for kids! Nobody wants to grow up in a broken home, but if it's so much toxicity, then it's best to split. I'm glad that you guys are able to find your own peace now. But yes, too many unhappy spouses living as roommates nowadays.
Lol😂😂😂..bring your young girlfriend to make some babies at the house....
When someone doesnt love you, you GET BETTER for yourself, not get even!! 🤦♀️
Getting even will result in a horrrible ending for yourself *life under the bridge because you dont have a job
Why so jealous of your wife it's because you no match of your wife.
You are no better than ur wife. You are worst. You actually brought your home wrecker home. At this point just break off the marriage. Staying together is worst then breaking apart.
Ua tau li koj no mas 👍nawb !!
Ob niag dev aw
Koj yeej ruam li koj niag pojniam thuam. Cov company loj loj yeej muaj txojcai tsis pub tus nai tham nws cov workers. Tsis tus nai saib/manage cov neeg ua txheeb ze nws. Koj muab evidence kom txaus txaus ces foob lub company xwb los mas niag ruam. Yam tsis tau kiag koj niag pojniam thiab nws niag manager yuav tsum mag hlawv na. Npwb dhau lawm os.
Ne ne peb cov hmoob America no twb hai tias kawm ntawv siab siab nej ntse ntse li es nej yuav mus yuav cov ntxhai ntse teb chaw no xwb no ne. Es peb that peb cov ntxhai hmoob plog rau nej mas nej tsi kam yuav li ne? Es ua cas tseem tshav siab li ko thiab mas. Tus neeg hlub koj txawm ruam thiab ntse, muaj thiab pluag los tu hlub yus yeej hlub lub neej yeej zoo kawg.tsi tag koj yuav cov ntxhai ntse es neej thiaj zoo os. Seb koj puag nyiam kuv tu sister xwb mas.
I guess two can play that game
She probably unloved you because you kept accusing her of things she has never done. I used to work at a bank and people go to lunch together all the time. Sometimes they even go golfing with clients 🫣 It’s part of the bank’s culture to maintain good relationship with customer and coworkers. (Fun fact: I always hated going to lunch with my supervisor and team so I knew I had to quit 🤣 that type of work wasn’t for me because I’m too Hmong lol) This husband is og and narrow minded. Two completely different mindsets will clash. I don’t think your wife was jealous of you when you decided to bring your girl around. It was very low of you and that’s nothing to be proud of. I can’t understand when people say they stay for their kids but they’re bringing in such negative energy. I’m glad you two went your own ways and I hope to never hear from you guys again bye 🙃