You CAN’T honor PARENTS that have ABUSED YOU! | Nona Jones | The Basement w- Tim Ross

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  • @NonaNotNora
    @NonaNotNora 10 днів тому +153

    Thank you for having me! I pray people are blessed by this conversation.

    • @AZSH.TRACKZ
      @AZSH.TRACKZ 10 днів тому +3

      Thank you for your gift of vulnerability ♥️🙌🏾 God bless

    • @mikaylajeel
      @mikaylajeel 10 днів тому

      Thank you so much. Just ordered your book.

    • @LUCA-g9l
      @LUCA-g9l 10 днів тому +1

      It's crazy the healing power of God and the ways he incorporates this healing power. He really is the master Gardener. So creative all knowing I can't wait to meet Him

    • @chantalsimmons6503
      @chantalsimmons6503 9 днів тому

      You really just help me by sharing your story God Bless you Sister in Christ 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @Grace-tf2cy
      @Grace-tf2cy 9 днів тому

      Thank you for sharing. I really needed this ❤

  • @LadyK09
    @LadyK09 9 днів тому +28

    the one idol people don't talk about is the unhealthy gloricafication of a parent

  • @iBJoyce
    @iBJoyce 9 днів тому +16

    I started listening to this before work yesterday and I had to stop. A lot of the things said in the first 10 minutes triggered me in a way I did not expect. I left the conversation on my computer screen and came back to it today because I knew I needed to finish this message. Thank you for sharing your life saving revelation with the world. My life will never be the same.

    • @c_mercedess
      @c_mercedess 8 днів тому +1

      I got triggered just by listening to the little intro. As much as it brings up different emotions within us, it is necessary for our healing and breakthrough. You are a new creation in Christ and just because this is your story it is not the end! Sending much love sister in Christ

  • @missnurseeri
    @missnurseeri 7 днів тому +12

    Access requires repentance. THAT’S BIBLICAL! If anyone give you a hard time about your boundaries. Remind them that there’s a level of access to God that requires our repentance - so there is a level of access to us that requires repentance.

    • @jacquelinemay
      @jacquelinemay 13 годин тому

      Thank you for this comment. I needed to see this 🙏🏼 🙌🏼

  • @katerrao.g4802
    @katerrao.g4802 10 днів тому +18

    I want the second part of this so bad I pressed the video again thinking it was the second part. This is going to heal many children.

  • @ODestinyProductions
    @ODestinyProductions 10 днів тому +18

    I love Nona so much! Her vulnerability is absolutely HEALING!!!!!

  • @yviem1372
    @yviem1372 10 днів тому +38

    Interesting title. I chose to honor mine in how I showed up-until they passed. ( With help via therapy/ Godly counsel, scriptural immersion, & intense deliverance).
    But, not honoring that person wasn’t an option to me. How I honored that parent was what I sorted out in Him.

    • @MantyRN
      @MantyRN 10 днів тому +3

      Amen

    • @ashleyallen8094
      @ashleyallen8094 9 днів тому +7

      It’s click bait like most titles. If you watch the full video, that statement is never made or implied

    • @rosadita1100
      @rosadita1100 8 днів тому

      Well said! ❤

    • @QtPieAsh44
      @QtPieAsh44 6 днів тому +2

      @yviem1372 this is EXACTLY what God is working with me on! Because honoring thy Mother and Father is a commandment! Therapy, The Word and wise counsel have been getting me together with regards to this matter and for this I'm grateful 🙏🏾🙌🏾

    • @yviem1372
      @yviem1372 6 днів тому

      @@QtPieAsh44 I pray that as you submit in Him that His presence and unwavering love is poured out in/on you in such a tangible way that your therapy/ the Godly counsel and all of the steps that you are taking to go deeper in the wisdom in this area of growth as a believer-that it brings you His joy, His peace, & to the place that He has called you to! Emboldened and empowered in Him!!! IJN AMEN!!
      My relative literally tortured me as a child and God did a work in my life that I could not have ever predicted-in regard to-how I showed up for that relative until they passed. My heart goes out to anyone letting the Lord lead in dealing with this type of pain and offense--it can be gut wrenching painful to break thru to the other side of Him in it!! But I pray we all continue on and submit in Him!! God be with you & I hope/ pray that this message is received well in Him, void of offense or confusion.

  • @maryloo07
    @maryloo07 10 днів тому +12

    I absolutely love this episode. Nona and Tim you both nailed some of my traumas. And better yet have given me language to some of my many triggers. “Honoring is at the expense of honesty.” “I need to make a decision that what happened to me, will not happen through me.” “A Christmas Tree and the Lord has sent the gift 12 years on a row.” I’m in awe, for the Holy Spirit does live in me, and has spoken directly to me through you guys. Thank you, thank you, and thank you. God is very good 😊

  • @IndieGoInspire
    @IndieGoInspire 8 днів тому +5

    Nona!!! YOU are THAT woman! Praise The Lord for your vulnerability.

  • @TeeRenee830
    @TeeRenee830 6 днів тому +9

    Thank you for saying just because she has the title mom doesn't mean you can’t hold them accountable or call them out. When that is said it is such a toxic message for those dealing with mother wounds. I know those who’ve had good or beautiful relationships with their moms can’t imagine what it’s like having a toxic mother, but making those who’ve dealt with abuse (by their mom or not protected by their mom when others were doing the abusive) feel ashamed by saying “that’s mom so make it right with her” is dismissing the pain that was caused just because she holds a title of importance. Believe me when I say we have to wrestle with that very thought that this is “momma”and it shouldn't be this way but in actuality, it is our reality. 😢

  • @1stBorn538
    @1stBorn538 3 дні тому +2

    The scripture that covered me like a shield and gave me some sense of hope while growing up with a narcissistic mother & bio dad and an enabling stepfather was... Psalms 27:10
    When my father & my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up....
    People are walking around silently suffering with the spirit of rejection & abandonment. They are bleeding emotionally from broken hearts & open wounds...

  • @christineknight5431
    @christineknight5431 7 днів тому +3

    God is so intentional about individual freedom. Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing your testimony.

  • @Jess_quez
    @Jess_quez 9 днів тому +3

    16:40 the fact that the mother brought that abuser back into the home after what she knew he did to her daughter was the point you know she is sick and beyond sense. Her story brought me to tears. 💔
    I admire her strength and reliance on God. And I’m so glad that she found her peace and value in the Lord.
    🙏🏼❤️

  • @robingraham7618
    @robingraham7618 10 днів тому +11

    "Blowing up the family dynamic..." This is where family secrets live locked up.

  • @Jess_quez
    @Jess_quez 9 днів тому +2

    26:38 rejection is a gift! The pain is the wrapping paper but there’s a gift inside! 🙏🏼🙌🏼

  • @Lifestyle0fFaith
    @Lifestyle0fFaith 6 днів тому +2

    I needed this SOOOOO badly. Thank you so much. I know where my mother fits in my story now.... I love y'all in real life.

  • @annesw5471
    @annesw5471 8 днів тому +2

    Oh my!! Many will be delivered by your book Pastor Nona Jones. Thank you 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @terrabrown2188
    @terrabrown2188 10 днів тому +4

    This was a MUCH needed conversation!!! Thank you! I’ve been through similar situations, two abusive parents. One mentally ill but not diagnosed til I was an adult and she was placed in a mental institution, and one sexually. So I have been abused in EVERY way, mentally, physically, sexually. And til this day as a 47 year old woman everything is still my fault especially coming from my parents and siblings. But I was the protector. On top of all this….i am being told by the “church” to forgive and have relationships with the same people, who to this day make me the worse person
    ever but I was the one who kept us alive!

  • @nagidasmith2598
    @nagidasmith2598 10 днів тому +2

    I just opened my gift and now if Diddy has to answer to God then my adoptive mother and her family will answer for doing me the same way behind closed doors 🚪 and I still love them all because my God told me to. I love you so much Tim &Juliette thank you for your obedience it's help me🙌🏽❤️⚖️

  • @1FINEAZZMAMI
    @1FINEAZZMAMI 10 днів тому +2

    omg- I'm so so sorry this has happened to you and so many others. It is our parents' job to protect us as KIDS... Lord protect us all. Prayers

  • @sarahelizabeth6005
    @sarahelizabeth6005 2 дні тому

    "Rejection is a gateway drug to sin." Wow. That preaches hard!!

  • @shellybelle6781
    @shellybelle6781 2 дні тому +1

    I sent this to my toxic mom. She said this ain’t no real pastor or teacher. I’m done. How are you upset with your child that you left as a child to chase a man , and now you want this magical relationship, and want everyone to take care of you? You didn’t take care of us. I love her. But I keep trying to be in her life, but she keeps begging for money, making us feel we owe her. And in rage , because she can’t retire,

  • @toniatucker2236
    @toniatucker2236 10 днів тому +3

    I completely understand where you're coming from... I lived this too. To God be the glory for bringing us through! 🥳💗🙂🙏

  • @Jess_quez
    @Jess_quez 9 днів тому +3

    29:54 the gift of rejection reveals peoples roles in your destiny.

  • @RoseannRuiz-kw7vw
    @RoseannRuiz-kw7vw 8 днів тому +1

    This explains it so so well! Thank you for sharing your story! It is a life saver for me! Not to your extent, but the feeling of abandonment. God bless you!

  • @eliawhitaker2497
    @eliawhitaker2497 10 днів тому +5

    This is great !!! Thank you Nona!!

  • @jessicadaniel6345
    @jessicadaniel6345 10 днів тому +3

    Uncle Tim, you have no idea how much I needed this right now 😭
    I prefer to not go into detail of my situation, but literally yesterday, I had to tell my mom that I need space from her because I couldn’t take her “blow up” anger any more. It’s so scary of how she can go from 0-100 so quickly 😔
    What hurts even more is making that decision and having 2 kids.
    My husband and I made a agreement a few years back of how we shouldn’t let our parents and kids relationship hinder from what happens between us and our parents, but I finally listened to my husband and realized that I’ve let my mom cross this boundary so many times that I’ve reached my breaking point and told her I need space and she won’t be watching our kids for a while.
    Has anyone ever been in that kind of situation??
    I don’t feel like I made a bad decision for needing space, but like when you have kids, what do you do?

    • @almmason7
      @almmason7 10 днів тому +3

      Yes, boundaries are good. My parents frequently blow up. My husband has had to step in and say you're speaking to my wife. My dad will respect him and back off for a while, but my mom won't stop. I've had to tell both of them I will need to hang up or I will not answer the phone when I can't have patience so I will not respond back to them. 😊
      I also, will not be available If it continues. My family thought I was wrong until they see they're having to make boundaries with people I the family as well.

    • @jessicadaniel6345
      @jessicadaniel6345 10 днів тому +1

      @@almmason7 thank you for taking the time to reply! It puts my mind at ease.
      It makes it even harder when you have kids and trying to explain to them why they’re not going to be around for a while 😔

    • @slimfitgreg2187
      @slimfitgreg2187 10 днів тому +2

      Trust me, you’re experiencing something you never have before and it’s called “standing up for yourself”, and we as abuse victims begin to feel BAD because we’re taught to just deal with and cope with whatever it is you’re being put through. We’re brainwashed to keep silent and to stay in OUR place, and to protect the aggressors.. But the SECOND you speak out on it, you feel as if you doing something “bad” when in reality, you’re stepping up and placing boundaries, putting people in their rightful place, which is FAR from me and mine. I just recently cut off my entire family because this.. literally last week. I have 2 daughters and I will be damned if I’m going to EVER walk on eggshells around anybody, especially my own “family”.
      Keep sticking up for yourself, little you would be so very proud of you today. God bless

    • @jessicadaniel6345
      @jessicadaniel6345 10 днів тому

      @@slimfitgreg2187 wow, thank you for sharing!!
      I hate that you went through this & at the same time, it’s relieving to hear that I’m not alone.

    • @Promised444
      @Promised444 9 днів тому +3

      Having kids doesn’t excuse her negative actions. Just as they haven’t been her excuse to behave well. I remember the date of when I finally set boundaries and stood up for myself. It took for me to experience the joy of freedom it brought to fully recognize in hindsight just how bound I actually was. When I learned how much I matter I learned how much I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my peace. Keep your peace ♥️.

  • @lasaileb
    @lasaileb 10 днів тому +2

    My God…this was so mind blowing and soul renewing for me…I got so many gems from this…thank you both…

  • @sheysounds9398
    @sheysounds9398 10 днів тому +2

    Thank you fo your bravery to share and I thank God for giving you the voice to give this message.

  • @lizarnesampson6343
    @lizarnesampson6343 10 днів тому +2

    I needed this so much!!!! Thank you 🙏 Tim is my big brother for real 🙏🙏🙏I have healed so much by listening to the basement 😢Thank you!!!

  • @RakaelBoozierre
    @RakaelBoozierre 10 днів тому +8

    Everyone can exhale and love their toxic parents from afar!!

    • @1stBorn538
      @1stBorn538 3 дні тому +1

      Yesss Ma'am from a very far far place!!

  • @ammcgowan
    @ammcgowan 10 днів тому +4

    💯 TRUTH rejection is a gateway drug into sin!!! 💯 TRUTH

  • @reneeparker2056
    @reneeparker2056 10 днів тому +2

    I needed this, it’s my story. Thank you.

  • @anthonyhobbsjr8099
    @anthonyhobbsjr8099 10 днів тому

    This episode is so powerful!!! Tim you are a modern day prophet! This platform is ordained and targeted to a very specific heart God is trying to grow.. in order to replace what once was.. Nona you are amazing! Such a powerful testimony!!! I’m going to share this with so many people.. Love the B-side!!! Tim, you are my spiritual big brother! 🫡

  • @MrsCelinaDelacruz
    @MrsCelinaDelacruz 10 днів тому +2

    Yaaaay been waiting for this conversation! 🎉

  • @LRMCBRIDE1
    @LRMCBRIDE1 9 днів тому

    Tim Tim Tim!!! This is probably the best episode that I've watched of yours. Please don't ever stop! Please give us a part 2. I love Nona and I can't stop watching her!!!

  • @markram4444
    @markram4444 9 днів тому

    Such a powerful conversation! This is exactly what I needed to hear in this season where God gave me the strength to unwrap that gift because I wanted to be the end of the chain of generational sin, face and feel the pain, talk to my parents, and now I'm learning to accept the outcome of that conversation with grace as Jesus gave to me when I didn't deserve it.

  • @LilLynn8328
    @LilLynn8328 10 днів тому +4

    My heart is heavy listening to this as doors I thought were closed are open and the emotion I am feeling are overwhelming. The healed person I thought I was and the good I thought I was doing in my life in trying to be a better person. The rejection and how screwed up in the head I feel right now. I am glad for this podcast and realize I need more of her. I have to get her book.

  • @go2yourself
    @go2yourself 9 днів тому +1

    Awsome conversation, my book arrived today 🙌🏾📖

  • @elbaelisa
    @elbaelisa 4 дні тому +1

    Is like she is telling my story to the "T" except for the jail part...I was never believed, never took serious. But Jesus! 🙌🏼❤️‍🩹

  • @alezandradavila2581
    @alezandradavila2581 4 дні тому +1

    Exactly they both were nuts I don’t honor anybody that doesn’t treat me with respect

  • @gwendolynthomas4617
    @gwendolynthomas4617 3 дні тому +1

    This…was…so…good!! And ended too soon ❤

  • @Timmyjl25
    @Timmyjl25 День тому +1

    😢😢😢😢. That's what they tell me "that's your mama, that's just how she is".
    Tried to talk to her twice but, she doesn't remember or it's "I'm making it up"

  • @missnurseeri
    @missnurseeri 7 днів тому

    “I’m a statistically improbable product of God’s grace.” My Pastor has said to me before: “The fact that you are still alive is amazing. BUT GOD!”
    Hearing how she worded it made it click in my head just now.

  • @terrabrown2188
    @terrabrown2188 10 днів тому +1

    Rejection is the gateway to sin….sad but SO TRUE….story of my life🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @NicoleMGrant
    @NicoleMGrant 10 днів тому +1

    Oh My Goodness!! When I tell you this is what I'm dealing with and the fight I'm having for my life and the life of my child... Oh! This was meant for me in the most intimate way.
    I normally don't comment but I just had to let you know. Right here, right now, this is For Me.

  • @benitaowen5704
    @benitaowen5704 7 днів тому +1

    THIS WAS AMAZING❤❤❤

  • @megnh689
    @megnh689 9 днів тому

    God, my God. How similar our stories are. Jesus thank you for the B Side! He's so faithful!

    • @megnh689
      @megnh689 9 днів тому

      "He's a healer!!" God sure is!! Amen!! 🙌 Totally getting this book!!

  • @questionresearch8721
    @questionresearch8721 4 дні тому +1

    I learned from Nona of someone is not repentantive what they did, leave them alone and forgive them.

  • @IndigoSass
    @IndigoSass 10 днів тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this is for me. Me and my mother didn't have a relationship neither.

  • @brentsaylor6111
    @brentsaylor6111 9 днів тому

    I was watching ruslan KD with you on it and you said on the Broadcast that you dont know where you will be in a year you could be Worse off or better off a year from now and i had to look you up and see if you was still doing the Broadcasting and it made me so happy when i saw you still doing what you love a year later and Spreading the word of god and bring people the the lord idk why but i had to go see and it made me so happy when you was still doing it

  • @cassandraunderwood20
    @cassandraunderwood20 10 днів тому +1

    This was so good and needed!! Thank you!!

  • @nikamoff5835
    @nikamoff5835 10 днів тому +1

    God bless you Nona Jones♥️

  • @darkenyawebber-tennell262
    @darkenyawebber-tennell262 10 днів тому

    Such good done here. Thank you. May God continue to hold you .

  • @jamikajohnson5378
    @jamikajohnson5378 10 днів тому +1

    We just started and this is. Deep

  • @TishTish-qm5wq
    @TishTish-qm5wq 4 дні тому +1

    I love the Basement! That’s all I got to say! 😂❤

  • @vanessascanlan940
    @vanessascanlan940 5 днів тому +1

    "If the person is unrepentant it doesn't matter what I do or say so I can forgive them but I don't have to give them access."

  • @lataciajackson7100
    @lataciajackson7100 6 днів тому

    ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL ❤🔥💯
    THANK YOU LORD FOR CHANGING ME IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEN AMEN AMEN 👐🏽

  • @d.skeete7525
    @d.skeete7525 5 днів тому

    Love it! Hallelujah!

  • @themelwalkerTV
    @themelwalkerTV 7 днів тому +2

    16:31 im punching the air right now. This is so upsetting 🤬

  • @LUCA-g9l
    @LUCA-g9l 10 днів тому

    The "toys and things" and the "abuse and stuff" bit got me rollin 😂

  • @brookecarnes2731
    @brookecarnes2731 10 днів тому

    i am so excited to hear about this!

  • @womanofvalor7
    @womanofvalor7 8 днів тому

    Why do I feel like her was probably aslo abused so much she didnt want kids. Thanks for sharing your story Nona!!!

  • @terrabrown2188
    @terrabrown2188 10 днів тому +2

    Left out on the field uninvited…so familiar🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @dinahdiaries1866
    @dinahdiaries1866 10 днів тому

    Loving this!

  • @slimfitgreg2187
    @slimfitgreg2187 10 днів тому

    I just took the ACEs test and I scored a 9.. only question that I marked no on was “Has anyone in your household been incarcerated in prison?” When in fact, my father should have been for what he did to us..

  • @frotee1726
    @frotee1726 6 днів тому +1

    Let me stop playing and forgo these ads and go to the app

  • @terrabrown2188
    @terrabrown2188 10 днів тому

    This is SO real!!!

  • @livesource
    @livesource 10 днів тому

    Thank you!

  • @summerm2171
    @summerm2171 10 днів тому

    This is so good ❤

  • @questionresearch8721
    @questionresearch8721 4 дні тому

    I agree with the host at thr 15 minute mark. I saw the interview Nona and her aunt. Her aunt talked about how Nona's mother was a child. She took alot of her traits from their abusive father.

  • @harmonyranay07
    @harmonyranay07 10 днів тому +1

    I listened on Spotify but had to come see Tim’s face if it was what I thought it was. 😮

  • @trevbader434
    @trevbader434 10 днів тому +1

    One of gods children doing the healing work praise Jesus I'm still working on rejection myself being a 32 your old follower of God most this world is evil and every woman I've ever tried to love has hurt and left me and I'm not tryna be a crybaby but wen u spend yrs wit these girls and they jus choose someone else and cheat and leave it hurts and it's been 5 times now and it's made me lose hope that I'll ever find a wife and I don't even try anymore don't approach haven't felt a womans touch in 6 months been single for two yrs I mean I'm content but I still want someone to see me and match the love I have....tim I'm jus asking how do I let go of this and not think there's somethin wrong wit me and hope for the future? I've always had low self esteem but also confident wit Jesus I Kno now that it's was gods protection but it doesn't make it easier.

  • @tretre4u72
    @tretre4u72 10 днів тому

    This is so good!!!no repentance, yeah you will no longer be a part of my life!

  • @ShelbyMW-hm6mv
    @ShelbyMW-hm6mv 10 днів тому

    Everything about the episode gives everyone permission to heal if you felt you need it.

  • @shellybelle6781
    @shellybelle6781 2 дні тому

    This is my life with a different story

  • @jenee579
    @jenee579 10 днів тому

    This is FOR MEEEE!

  • @nagidasmith2598
    @nagidasmith2598 10 днів тому

    I wrote a H.O.T book as well but I'm being put on 🔇 God told me not no more.

  • @Apieceofpeace213
    @Apieceofpeace213 2 години тому

    This was to good an to short! 😊

  • @kaiyabraggs6342
    @kaiyabraggs6342 10 днів тому

    This is so good …

  • @bw988
    @bw988 4 дні тому

    Joyce Meyer honored her horrible parents in obedience to God. You can have your viewpoint

  • @skyemanion947
    @skyemanion947 8 днів тому

    I wanna see a pod with Jennie Allen, pleaseeeeee! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @slimfitgreg2187
    @slimfitgreg2187 10 днів тому

    Holy cow I searched how to recover from fathers abuse and this was uploaded 10 hrs ago… my mom always guilt trips me for not h
    “Honoring” my parents when they’ve done nothing but hold me back in life. Deprive me, abuse me physically, mentally, and verbally, my entire life. Respectfully, FUCK them.
    But I forgive them.

  • @shadonnaboose5033
    @shadonnaboose5033 10 днів тому

    Yaaaaasssssss We24 ❤

  • @dremedase5031
    @dremedase5031 10 днів тому

    😮 awakening

  • @rickbeastrandolph
    @rickbeastrandolph 10 днів тому

    🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @bbsketch
    @bbsketch 10 днів тому

    sheesh

  • @mickeyimmanuel
    @mickeyimmanuel 11 днів тому

    Yikes

  • @jeromefrazier9036
    @jeromefrazier9036 10 днів тому

    That part almost crashed

  • @Adam-gx3je
    @Adam-gx3je 10 днів тому +1

    Her & Preston are the champions of one-liners 🫡 🏆
    Goodness gracious…