As an adult, I described my mom as a hand grenade with the pin pulled and I had to tip toe around to try to keep it from exploding in my face. My two recurring childhood dreams were expressions of how unsafe I felt in the world. What really helped was Eckhart teaching me that people can only behave at their level of consciousness. 🙏
Lol my mom was also a bundle of anxious energy that would explode from pretty minor inconveniences. As an adult aproaching my late 30s I'm just now logically examining all of my teenage angst after becoming aware of how toxic and immature my parents can be and things are becoming so clear to me. This is helping me so much in building relationships and communicating with my own children.
My mum a “narc” I don’t use the wording, I use levels of unconsciousness. I use the word hyphenated so you can understand her level of consciousness. I was her punching bag physically and mentally. I’m 41 now and she’s 66. We have grown closer over the last couple of years and can enjoy trips away together, as long as she doesn’t drink!! I come to the understanding that she becomes conscious with me and my presence. As soon as I leave her she’s back to her usual self. I too was too scared to say anything because I was scared of her reaction. But over time since practising presence since 2015, iv learned to call her out in that moment. I have to be non reactive with a stern NO!! Thing is with my mum it was accepted behaviour so I had to not only train myself but teach her as well and family is EVERYTHING to me! So I had to figure out a way to make it work between us. My mum hates my nan and I didn’t want that, I got to know my nan when I was 30 years old and I adored her. Yeh she was a grouch but I didn’t care🤷🏻♀️ I saw aspects of my mum in me with how I felt towards her so I had to accept the way she was and just let her be who she is. My mum was not a good mum BUT! With that I became the best mum I could be. I just had to heal those parts of myself that resented my own mum.
“You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.” Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom Mr. Tolle. Blessings.
I remember i felt relief when my mother died. I felt guilt for feeling that way but later both the guilt and relief dropped away and i saw her as being human.
After a lifetime of destructive emotional abuse, I finally went no-contact with my narcissistic family system (parents and brother). I couldn't do it another day! I've since been able to (for the most part) work through the harmful rumination that came with such a decision and I'm finally beginning to experience some inner-healing and peace. Thanks for letting me share.
Yes deeply profound book indeed. There were no revelations only obvious truths we've all been lying to ourselves about for years. It was like being shown a mirror. And then recognised this in yourself and more importantly in others.
I work at a gas station and let me tell you, I see every kind of person. It can be very challenging to stay in a positive awake mind. Some days it sends me so far back.
Yes very hard. It's a never ending process. But I have found this works. Not always but a lot of times. And all spiritual Masters including my own have said this throughout the years. If someone or something is bugging me, or buttons are being pushed; I look into myself and ask myself 'what is it about yourself yourself you're not happy about Today' In short. "The outer disturbance is very often a reflection of some inner disturbance within oneself" When I'm happy with myself i.e. done my own disciplines regularly, and am happy with Myself... others don't get to me. It does take practice but it works. Then also outer circumstances magically change sometimes. I do love Echart's books. But can I also recommend this little gem ' the lazy mans guide to enlightenment' by T. GOLAS written in the '70's. I still refer to my copy to this day. All the best. And thank goodness we also have Echart's Power of Now. A gem.
I hear you! I’m a hairdresser and they just dump everything on me. They get all personal. Like I’m giving you a haircut, please keep everything personal to yourself unless I know you. I find it ignorant when people do this expecting that we have to listen. I’ve been doing this for 22 yrs and now I just cut and let them off the chair. Only so much I can take. I don’t get into it with clients anymore. Why lower my energy to “understand” people? I’m not an energy dumpster. Keep your stuff to yourself.
All I want to get my haircut by you because I just find I can't get it cut without them intruding and sorting through and judging and I just want to hear cut how do I find that thank you for being Who You Are @@valcourtd100
Practicing acceptance and forgiveness has helped me deal with my mothers habbit of talking bad about my father to me. She sees herself as a victim. I have set a boundary around thos behavior. I ask her to stop and if she does'nt i leave. I still love her.
Yes, she is acting out of hurt, of pain, of feeling not seen, not heard, loneliness. I know where she is coming from. Forgive her.
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If someone tells me that I should continue to accept a person who has been psychologically terrorizing me for 20 years, I will say that he should try to endure it even for one year! Not even hours of meditation helped me with this. Maybe he should have meditated, but that never happened. It's a shame, I tried, but sometimes we change the other person more when we leave him ❤ 😊
Ive been following Eckhart for years, and I still use drugs or alcohol to still my mind. It is still stronger than I am. I am still highly antagonistic towards the present moment. If it wasn’t for my mom, I would’ve ended my life this year. I listen to Eckhart daily, and he’s still a boon in my stormy tumultuous existence. One day, I’ll get there. I’ll “make it” to use Eckharts least favorite western quote. lol.
Godspeed brother, youre on the right track, with love i suggest you checking out Yash here on youtube as well, his few channels are "beyond the alchemy" for energy conservation, "transcending shadows" for working thru certain life habits that keep us nailed down, and "spiritual renaissance" for awakening to our true nature, thats not to take away from eckhart either, eckhart is awesome just another teacher to learn from. peace and love.
I tried to show a lot of people eckhart but they rather not give up ego 😂 and I occasionally try to get away from his teachings but then regret and sorrow comes
I do my best to remember that people are doing the best they can with the knowledge and resources they have. Sometimes though people do things that harm others because they benefit from it and I have a problem with that. They would be furious to be on the receiving end of their own behaviour, but they still dish it out. These people know better and just don't care. Right now, we live in a culture that rewards them for harmful behaviour and we need to look at that, both collectively and individually. Since money plays an over-important role, maybe people should be fined according to their income when they take another person't choices away.
I’m an adult and passed my test first time yesterday. This is a great video. It covers everything I need to know about left lane in a big intersection. I was terrified but left lanes in big intersections with multiple traffic for 4 directions. I saw it before my test and now after. I passed my test first time through, because I’ve seen these videos and got an experience behind the wheels until I felt I have enough certainty that I don’t mind who is sitting in the side of me or who is testing me. My goal was to test for certainty and safety, and not for the test and I passed. I passed the first time. I didn’t have anybody that could drive with me so I kept paying for lessons. Cost me tons of money, but it was worth it. I passed it first time like a pro. So thank you so much for the video. I highly appreciate it and I actually saved it so I will be able to see it again and again.❤💜🙏
I try to listen to people through the body, not the words spoken. Words seem to really trip us up, and we often use familiar words or phrases because they are readily available, but I think that can add fuel to a fire. We had stress with our adult son yesterday but a long hug really helped to turn the negative energy around, giving us an opening to connect and remember our shared humanity. I liked what ET said about not having expectations from others, which just feels like pressure or manipulation for that person. So true.
May he overcome his fear and his anger and let me in. May he reach out to me, very very very soon! May he recognize how amazing our friendship really truly is 🙏🏻. May he understand and realize how much he loves me and cares about me and misses me. Misses us.
Books I highly recommend besides all of Eckhart Tolle’s books, 😎 Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend also the book Stop walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger, these books were recommended to me by my amazing therapist she specialized in EMDR therapy and it worked wonders for me, drastically reducing the amount of crippling panic attacks I would experience. God Bless all who may be reading this! 💖🙌🙏
As I became more self-aware, I also became more sensitive. I find it difficult to tolerate unconscious behavior from others and sometimes struggle to remove myself from such situations especially with family.
My job does this to me, I completely understand what you are saying. I try to stay in the mindset of "the universe is testing me to see much I'm growing".
This is same is happening ryt now with me too and I am finding it difficult to remove myself from them it's their gossiping no longer interest me and it also feel drained energetically to be with them. Help me god give me courage
Anybody out there who's looking for true love must know exactly what they're looking for in a person, because if they don't know, they are not going to find the right partner. Personally I was always looking for someone spiritual and someone who was not trapped in their ego or consumed by their painbody, but it just wasn't working out for me in my hometown. Though I never lost hope and always had an open eye while reading people's comments on youtube, and eventually I found my partner on this very channel, which has done wonders for me and my girlfriend who'd been in toxic relationships before and were at the stage of knowing what type of person we wanted to be with and what kind of person to stay clear of. So, a big thank you to Eckhart Tolle and his UA-cam channel for not only helping us find eachother, but for helping us understand and deal with our own individual problems of our pasts. Much love!
@@labab1048 It's no word of a lie, I seen her here for a while and I liked her comments and her personality, so I replied to her one day and she replied back, then after a while we took it outside UA-cam and have been with eachother ever since.
I am watching this the morning after yet another huge row with my father. The timing couldn’t not be better and is exactly what I needed to hear. After 50+ yrs of bearing his narcissistic behaviours I’ve had enough. I have supported and defended him to my siblings through his elder years. But there comes a point where I must be true to myself too. Thank you so much.
Everyone grows up using your emotions to deal with stress or trauma. It’s a part of learning. the emotions that works best in conflict get stronger to the point where you just accept that anger or fear is a part of your life, you are blind to that fact, you aren’t learning anymore. Thank you for explaining how we can remember that our emotions don’t have to define us, rule us and make us blind to our emotions
Thank you for continuing to post videos of your wisdom, experiences, and compassion on UA-cam. This teaching especially resonates with me… with gratitude, -Kathleen 😊❤️
I just finished reading your masterpiece book, A New Earth. Now I found the answer I’ve been seeking for a long time… can’t thank you enough, Elkhart! Love from JPN🇯🇵
Our emotions and reactions teach us much about ourselves. Recognizing that we all use our emotions as a means of getting what we want both from ourselves and others is the first step in our evolution. The next step is to recognize that by reacting emotionally or by causing someone else to react emotionally we are merely choosing to manipulate or be manipulated. We are at this stage walking time bombs. ..completely unconscious The final stage is being conscious or awake. Recognizing that we have always had the power to choose our reactions. We recognize the damage we've caused both to ourselves and others, as a result of our lack of awareness. . At this stage we choose not to live or react unconsciously. We finally begin to understand the meaning of true love. We realize that at its essence love is complete freedom.
Danke lieber Eckhart. ❤ Auch für die persönlichen Einblicke. Da gibt es Parallelen. Und auch hier wird wahrgenommen, dass sich etwas ändert, wenn am gossiping nicht teilgenommen wird. Plötzlich wird es immer weniger, weil hier keine Resonanz erfolgt und Vertrauen entsteht. Auch Gelassenheit und Entspannung.
Te ador Eckhart!Am reusit!Am ajuns!Sunt ceea ce sunt!Iluminata!Fiinta constienta si CONSTIINTA PURA!Va ador!Te-am sustinut in meditatiile tale si te-am inteles perfect!Este exact asa!
Great video. You are right when you are direct about someone's behavior it doesn't go well if they are "unconscious" /negative minded or not able to fully see themselves or different perspectives.
Thanks Eckhart. What I always hear from your teachings, is the things that I really need to know at that moment. I love you with the deepest emotions of my heart. ❤️. And wish you all the best.
Living with myself is like living with an exploding dynamite. I don't know what thoughts will arise and when I'm unconscious (99% of day) I latch onto them and there are explosions through out the day. Since I'm aware of some of them I'm careful who I talk to , how much who to avoid like the plague and so on.Dont want to be triggered/go looking for trouble.
I also grew up with an alcoholic father we called the "time bomb" and with a mother who taught us to be as "non- disturbing" as we could. I always wondered, why I still felt and feel real love for both of them nevertheless. You explained here, what I couldn't put in words❤.The structure I developed in my childhood also recently came back to me through the "back door" in an actual relationship... it is sometimes still complicated for me to see the difference between real love and "fawning", but I learn more about the whole with each ambivalent day😂. Thank you also for sharing your own, touching story and pointing out your view on the healing path. Encouraging!
We have new neighbors and one of them is narcissistic. He will yell at people to slow down when they drive by his house ( slowly). He parked his truck in the right of way and I had to get a sheriff to come around and tell him to move it out of the road and park it in his driveway. He harasses and instigates trouble. I am no longer reacting to him. Totally ignore him. And I tell my tenants to do the same.
Very TRUE 🙏. You either leave or accept what is.That's the only real change you can make. It is not even a choice which would imply a certain hesitation. You know what you have to do and you do it without hesitation. Inside us ❤we know everything there is to know. What a pity not to pay attention to IT.❤✨ Immensely grateful 💓🙏✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨🌺
No gossiping? Aw man, that's no fun 😅. But seriously I had lunch with my brother yesterday and I don't know why after 70 years with him I still don't anticipate his unconsciousness. It is good for me though to look at him dispassionately. He is in a lot of pain. I don't need to add to that.
you just described my mother and i. i have distanced from my family and they live very close by so i feel it's a major achievement on my part to look at them ''dispassionately'' as you so well stated. i now love that word !! they are in a lot of pain and i see that. thank you.
Thank you Eckart!! I’m currently going through deep levels of unconsciousness at work. I already know what you say, it’s what my own instincts say AFTER I too have become unconscious. You tend to forget practise when you your self are at levels of unconsciousness. My work is extremely toxic and I’m at a breaking point of leaving but through conversations (they are my markers of coincidences) I get the insights to stay and use the situation to become more present, above the reasoning why, the situation still has the ability to make me unconscious so may as well use it to my own advantage.
My dad is currently visiting from Australia. He is deeply unhappy and wants to talk about everything, especially his 3rd marriage and the difficulties as well as his 1st marriage to my mum, his resentments and regrets. All this is of course having a huge effect on me, as his daughter. I wake up and I am consumed by thoughts of him and his issues. His presence has taken over and I feel angry and keep crying. Is this mine or his?
Hello, thank you for everything, I have learned a lot and I put it into practice despite having been there for a short time. I have made a small progress. I have a question and it is something that I think is not common in the comments. Are you working on a new book with more teachings?
Hallelujah 🙌🏻!!!!! Your channel has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻. I was owing a loan of $49,000 to the bank for my son's brain surgery, Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $11,000 and got my payout of $290,500 every month…God bless Ms Susan Jane Christy ❤️
After I raised up to 525k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸and also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
I took a job once with a female boss who I knew to be very difficult. I did it on purpose, I knew she had problems and it would test me. I knew it was for a year contract only. I consciously decided I would do it to see if I could survive. It almost killed me. Almost.
Eckhart...what is the mindset of someone that gossips? Is it about shaming, punishing the other person and not being able to go to them directly...just anger? Thank you.
I have an issue with my brother who takes care of and has been living with my nearly 102 year old mother for the last 15 years (only living out of the family home for 10 years of his life). He has no interest in consciousness whatsoever. He's been a verbally abusive person since he could walk and talk. He has had no friendships or relationships of any significance with anyone. I have tried to get along with him but it is impossible. He's gone out of his way to hurt me for no reason whatsoever his whole life. Since my mother can no longer communicate with me on her own, and he has now refused to facilitate any communication between us, I have decided to cut contact with him. Do you have any advice for someone in my position with an impossible family member like this? Thanks. I love all your videos.
As an adult, I described my mom as a hand grenade with the pin pulled and I had to tip toe around to try to keep it from exploding in my face. My two recurring childhood dreams were expressions of how unsafe I felt in the world.
What really helped was Eckhart teaching me that people can only behave at their level of consciousness. 🙏
Sad how many of us have felt this exact thing with at least one of our parents, but blessed to have Eckhart's presence touch our lives.
The grenade analogy is brilliant. It blew in my face once; nothing has changed since so yes, Eckhart is right.
Lol my mom was also a bundle of anxious energy that would explode from pretty minor inconveniences. As an adult aproaching my late 30s I'm just now logically examining all of my teenage angst after becoming aware of how toxic and immature my parents can be and things are becoming so clear to me. This is helping me so much in building relationships and communicating with my own children.
My mum a “narc” I don’t use the wording, I use levels of unconsciousness. I use the word hyphenated so you can understand her level of consciousness. I was her punching bag physically and mentally.
I’m 41 now and she’s 66. We have grown closer over the last couple of years and can enjoy trips away together, as long as she doesn’t drink!!
I come to the understanding that she becomes conscious with me and my presence. As soon as I leave her she’s back to her usual self.
I too was too scared to say anything because I was scared of her reaction. But over time since practising presence since 2015, iv learned to call her out in that moment. I have to be non reactive with a stern NO!!
Thing is with my mum it was accepted behaviour so I had to not only train myself but teach her as well and family is EVERYTHING to me! So I had to figure out a way to make it work between us.
My mum hates my nan and I didn’t want that, I got to know my nan when I was 30 years old and I adored her. Yeh she was a grouch but I didn’t care🤷🏻♀️
I saw aspects of my mum in me with how I felt towards her so I had to accept the way she was and just let her be who she is. My mum was not a good mum BUT! With that I became the best mum I could be.
I just had to heal those parts of myself that resented my own mum.
“You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.”
Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom Mr. Tolle.
Blessings.
Good point.
Thank you for not editing out the silence between your words. It allow the listener to process the message.
Also makes the message feel totally natural ... Which it always is .... Beat wishes 😊❤
“To Love is to recognize yourself in another.”
~ Eckhart Tolle ☯️
….to recognize yourself (the positive and negative parts of your personality)in another.
I remember i felt relief when my mother died. I felt guilt for feeling that way but later both the guilt and relief dropped away and i saw her as being human.
that's a wonderful comment, i will remember it.
After a lifetime of destructive emotional abuse, I finally went no-contact with my narcissistic family system (parents and brother). I couldn't do it another day! I've since been able to (for the most part) work through the harmful rumination that came with such a decision and I'm finally beginning to experience some inner-healing and peace. Thanks for letting me share.
That’s wonderful Simply ❤💪
Keep going 💪.
"The Power of Now" changed my life. Thank you Eckhart. Love & blessings from England ❤️🙏
Same here. Eckhart Tolle has been instrumental in the development of my consciousness.
@@macklyn I'm sure that's true for many people. Have a great life, homie 👍 lol
Yes deeply profound book indeed. There were no revelations only obvious truths we've all been lying to ourselves about for years. It was like being shown a mirror. And then recognised this in yourself and more importantly in others.
I have listened to the audio book many times and each time I do I learn something new. It's an amazing book.
I work at a gas station and let me tell you, I see every kind of person. It can be very challenging to stay in a positive awake mind. Some days it sends me so far back.
Yip.. im a nurse.. humanity😮❤
Yes very hard.
It's a never ending process.
But I have found this works. Not always but a lot of times. And all spiritual Masters including my own have said this throughout the years.
If someone or something is bugging me, or buttons are being pushed; I look into myself and ask myself 'what is it about yourself yourself you're not happy about Today'
In short. "The outer disturbance is very often a reflection of some inner disturbance within oneself"
When I'm happy with myself i.e. done my own disciplines regularly, and am happy with Myself... others don't get to me. It does take practice but it works.
Then also outer circumstances magically change sometimes.
I do love Echart's books.
But can I also recommend this little gem ' the lazy mans guide to enlightenment' by T. GOLAS written in the '70's. I still refer to my copy to this day.
All the best. And thank goodness we also have Echart's Power of Now. A gem.
I hear you! I’m a hairdresser and they just dump everything on me. They get all personal. Like I’m giving you a haircut, please keep everything personal to yourself unless I know you. I find it ignorant when people do this expecting that we have to listen. I’ve been doing this for 22 yrs and now I just cut and let them off the chair. Only so much I can take. I don’t get into it with clients anymore. Why lower my energy to “understand” people? I’m not an energy dumpster. Keep your stuff to yourself.
All I want to get my haircut by you because I just find I can't get it cut without them intruding and sorting through and judging and I just want to hear cut how do I find that thank you for being Who You Are @@valcourtd100
you = bright🕯 🌟
Practicing acceptance and forgiveness has helped me deal with my mothers habbit of talking bad about my father to me. She sees herself as a victim. I have set a boundary around thos behavior. I ask her to stop and if she does'nt i leave. I still love her.
Yes, she is acting out of hurt, of pain, of feeling not seen, not heard, loneliness. I know where she is coming from. Forgive her.
If someone tells me that I should continue to accept a person who has been psychologically terrorizing me for 20 years, I will say that he should try to endure it even for one year! Not even hours of meditation helped me with this. Maybe he should have meditated, but that never happened. It's a shame, I tried, but sometimes we change the other person more when we leave him ❤ 😊
Ive been following Eckhart for years, and I still use drugs or alcohol to still my mind. It is still stronger than I am. I am still highly antagonistic towards the present moment. If it wasn’t for my mom, I would’ve ended my life this year. I listen to Eckhart daily, and he’s still a boon in my stormy tumultuous existence. One day, I’ll get there. I’ll “make it” to use Eckharts least favorite western quote. lol.
Godspeed brother, youre on the right track, with love i suggest you checking out Yash here on youtube as well, his few channels are "beyond the alchemy" for energy conservation, "transcending shadows" for working thru certain life habits that keep us nailed down, and "spiritual renaissance" for awakening to our true nature, thats not to take away from eckhart either, eckhart is awesome just another teacher to learn from. peace and love.
You doing , Love ❤
I tried to show a lot of people eckhart but they rather not give up ego 😂 and I occasionally try to get away from his teachings but then regret and sorrow comes
Just be PATIENT ! "Peace is ALL you should aim for. " (Raman Maharshi)
You are conscious
I do my best to remember that people are doing the best they can with the knowledge and resources they have. Sometimes though people do things that harm others because they benefit from it and I have a problem with that. They would be furious to be on the receiving end of their own behaviour, but they still dish it out. These people know better and just don't care. Right now, we live in a culture that rewards them for harmful behaviour and we need to look at that, both collectively and individually. Since money plays an over-important role, maybe people should be fined according to their income when they take another person't choices away.
Even if you get rid of them, wherever you go, there they are.
You are looking younger and younger. I am glad you seem happy and peaceful.
I’m an adult and passed my test first time yesterday. This is a great video. It covers everything I need to know about left lane in a big intersection. I was terrified but left lanes in big intersections with multiple traffic for 4 directions. I saw it before my test and now after. I passed my test first time through, because I’ve seen these videos and got an experience behind the wheels until I felt I have enough certainty that I don’t mind who is sitting in the side of me or who is testing me. My goal was to test for certainty and safety, and not for the test and I passed.
I passed the first time. I didn’t have anybody that could drive with me so I kept paying for lessons. Cost me tons of money, but it was worth it. I passed it first time like a pro. So thank you so much for the video. I highly appreciate it and I actually saved it so I will be able to see it again and again.❤💜🙏
I try to listen to people through the body, not the words spoken. Words seem to really trip us up, and we often use familiar words or phrases because they are readily available, but I think that can add fuel to a fire.
We had stress with our adult son yesterday but a long hug really helped to turn the negative energy around, giving us an opening to connect and remember our shared humanity. I liked what ET said about not having expectations from others, which just feels like pressure or manipulation for that person. So true.
We - or better say I - wouldn’t like it too to not being accepted the way I am … god lesson for me though 😊
It's so nice to start morning with deep spiritual teaching from Eckhart it will make your day🙏
May he overcome his fear and his anger and let me in.
May he reach out to me, very very very soon!
May he recognize how amazing our friendship really truly is 🙏🏻.
May he understand and realize how much he loves me
and cares about me and misses me. Misses us.
Books I highly recommend besides all of Eckhart Tolle’s books, 😎
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend also the book Stop walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger, these books were recommended to me by my amazing therapist she specialized in EMDR therapy and it worked wonders for me, drastically reducing the amount of crippling panic attacks I would experience.
God Bless all who may be reading this! 💖🙌🙏
....And knowing how unconscious I am, , I have the deepest respect and gratitude towards Eckhart
As I became more self-aware, I also became more sensitive. I find it difficult to tolerate unconscious behavior from others and sometimes struggle to remove myself from such situations especially with family.
family members don't push your button's family members INSTALLED the button's 🤢🥵
My job does this to me, I completely understand what you are saying. I try to stay in the mindset of "the universe is testing me to see much I'm growing".
This is same is happening ryt now with me too and I am finding it difficult to remove myself from them it's their gossiping no longer interest me and it also feel drained energetically to be with them.
Help me god give me courage
@@Lisa-rn1tn that's really helpful.
@@philipmulvihill1455. 😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💯
Anybody out there who's looking for true love must know exactly what they're looking for in a person, because if they don't know, they are not going to find the right partner. Personally I was always looking for someone spiritual and someone who was not trapped in their ego or consumed by their painbody, but it just wasn't working out for me in my hometown. Though I never lost hope and always had an open eye while reading people's comments on youtube, and eventually I found my partner on this very channel, which has done wonders for me and my girlfriend who'd been in toxic relationships before and were at the stage of knowing what type of person we wanted to be with and what kind of person to stay clear of. So, a big thank you to Eckhart Tolle and his UA-cam channel for not only helping us find eachother, but for helping us understand and deal with our own individual problems of our pasts. Much love!
You found your person on UA-cam?
@@labab1048 It's no word of a lie, I seen her here for a while and I liked her comments and her personality, so I replied to her one day and she replied back, then after a while we took it outside UA-cam and have been with eachother ever since.
@@labab1048 Yes!
@@stephenflood3463 You were in close proximity?
@@labab1048 I'm sorry, but if I try to explain it to you my reply will be deleted.
Thank you, my beloved Teacher!❤
the part where he talked about a person's ego vs being really resonated with me. I also grew up with parents who were heavy (too heavy) on the ego.
I am watching this the morning after yet another huge row with my father. The timing couldn’t not be better and is exactly what I needed to hear. After 50+ yrs of bearing his narcissistic behaviours I’ve had enough. I have supported and defended him to my siblings through his elder years. But there comes a point where I must be true to myself too. Thank you so much.
Thank you Eckhart for sharing so much enlightenment 💖
People are confused, scared, directed from outside and suffering from ignoring their own inner messages. Living animal lives of survival brain.
Everyone grows up using your emotions to deal with stress or trauma. It’s a part of learning. the emotions that works best in conflict get stronger to the point where you just accept that anger or fear is a part of your life, you are blind to that fact, you aren’t learning anymore. Thank you for explaining how we can remember that our emotions don’t have to define us, rule us and make us blind to our emotions
Thank you for continuing to post videos of your wisdom, experiences, and compassion on UA-cam. This teaching especially resonates with me… with gratitude, -Kathleen 😊❤️
I just finished reading your masterpiece book, A New Earth. Now I found the answer I’ve been seeking for a long time… can’t thank you enough, Elkhart! Love from JPN🇯🇵
Our emotions and reactions teach us much about ourselves. Recognizing that we all use our emotions as a means of getting what we want both from ourselves and others is the first step in our evolution.
The next step is to recognize that by reacting emotionally or by causing someone else to react emotionally we are merely choosing to manipulate or be manipulated. We are at this stage walking time bombs. ..completely unconscious
The final stage is being conscious or awake. Recognizing that we have always had the power to choose our reactions.
We recognize the damage we've caused both to ourselves and others, as a result of our lack of awareness.
. At this stage we choose not to live or react unconsciously. We finally begin to understand the meaning of true love. We realize that at its essence love is complete freedom.
As Rupert Spira says: Love and do what you want !❤
Danke lieber Eckhart. ❤ Auch für die persönlichen Einblicke. Da gibt es Parallelen. Und auch hier wird wahrgenommen, dass sich etwas ändert, wenn am gossiping nicht teilgenommen wird. Plötzlich wird es immer weniger, weil hier keine Resonanz erfolgt und Vertrauen entsteht. Auch Gelassenheit und Entspannung.
Thank you ❤ Accept difficult people, and circumstances, without resistance. Yes. First step. PS: I love the Chagall behind you.😊
Te ador Eckhart!Am reusit!Am ajuns!Sunt ceea ce sunt!Iluminata!Fiinta constienta si CONSTIINTA PURA!Va ador!Te-am sustinut in meditatiile tale si te-am inteles perfect!Este exact asa!
I love hearing stories from Eckhart. So interesting.
Thank you Eckhart, always… 🙏❤️
Great video. You are right when you are direct about someone's behavior it doesn't go well if they are "unconscious" /negative minded or not able to fully see themselves or different perspectives.
Thankyou Eckhart what a wonderful soul you are
They are challenging humans... love it❤
I love your soul Eckhart (Eckheart😉) ❤❤❤❤
Thanks Eckhart. What I always hear from your teachings, is the things that I really need to know at that moment. I love you with the deepest emotions of my heart. ❤️. And wish you all the best.
Living with myself is like living with an exploding dynamite. I don't know what thoughts will arise and when I'm unconscious (99% of day) I latch onto them and there are explosions through out the day. Since I'm aware of some of them I'm careful who I talk to , how much who to avoid like the plague and so on.Dont want to be triggered/go looking for trouble.
I also grew up with an alcoholic father we called the "time bomb" and with a mother who taught us to be as "non- disturbing" as we could. I always wondered, why I still felt and feel real love for both of them nevertheless. You explained here, what I couldn't put in words❤.The structure I developed in my childhood also recently came back to me through the "back door" in an actual relationship... it is sometimes still complicated for me to see the difference between real love and "fawning", but I learn more about the whole with each ambivalent day😂. Thank you also for sharing your own, touching story and pointing out your view on the healing path. Encouraging!
I relate to the loving, yet very challenging, parents. Unfortunately I had to go NC, and my life has improved drastically.
You know, I feel home when I see him
Thank you Eckhart 🙏
We have new neighbors and one of them is narcissistic. He will yell at people to slow down when they drive by his house ( slowly). He parked his truck in the right of way and I had to get a sheriff to come around and tell him to move it out of the road and park it in his driveway. He harasses and instigates trouble. I am no longer reacting to him. Totally ignore him. And I tell my tenants to do the same.
Thank you EckhartTolle ❤
Thank you ❤❤ much love ❤️ 😍
Very TRUE 🙏.
You either leave or accept what is.That's the only real change you can make.
It is not even a choice which would imply a certain hesitation.
You know what you have to do and you do it without hesitation.
Inside us ❤we know everything there is to know. What a pity not to pay attention to IT.❤✨
Immensely grateful 💓🙏✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨🌺
Wonderful! Thank you 🙂
Thank you!
Thank you 🙏 ❤
Thank you. I needed this today.
Thank you
Just what I needed to hear right now
I am hopefully slowly awakening someone I live with. I think I'm awakening people online as well. I've seen a change in my friends too.
I understand ,my father was exactly the same , I fed up with people acting the same way
this format really suits me
No gossiping? Aw man, that's no fun 😅. But seriously I had lunch with my brother yesterday and I don't know why after 70 years with him I still don't anticipate his unconsciousness. It is good for me though to look at him dispassionately. He is in a lot of pain. I don't need to add to that.
you just described my mother and i. i have distanced from my family and they live very close by so i feel it's a major achievement on my part to look at them ''dispassionately'' as you so well stated. i now love that word !! they are in a lot of pain and i see that. thank you.
감사합니다 사랑합니다 선생님 🙏
좋은 영상 잘 보고 있습니다. 🩵🌎😊
Thank you ❤
Thank you Eckart!!
I’m currently going through deep levels of unconsciousness at work. I already know what you say, it’s what my own instincts say AFTER I too have become unconscious. You tend to forget practise when you your self are at levels of unconsciousness.
My work is extremely toxic and I’m at a breaking point of leaving but through conversations (they are my markers of coincidences) I get the insights to stay and use the situation to become more present, above the reasoning why, the situation still has the ability to make me unconscious so may as well use it to my own advantage.
I really needed this today.
Just hours ago experienced the subject of this video. Thanks. Peace ✌️ Love ❤️ and Harmony 🎶
me too...two hours ago. i am no longer held by the grips of it tho.
Thank you very much for these videos. They are very, very helpful.
thank you 🙏🙏🙏 i will always keep your teaching in mind❤
Beautiful video ❤
Danke Eckhard 🙏
Bravo! Great knowledge as usual thanks 🙏🏼sadly a lot of them are in charge of nuclear arsenals too😟
Seeing my in laws is always the biggest challenge ever 😮
Thank you.....that was a wonderful slice of wisdom ....found at a perfect time...Sending waves of love.
Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom !
This was a wonderful, enlighting video! Im anxious to utilize this on a few individuals.
My dad is currently visiting from Australia. He is deeply unhappy and wants to talk about everything, especially his 3rd marriage and the difficulties as well as his 1st marriage to my mum, his resentments and regrets. All this is of course having a huge effect on me, as his daughter. I wake up and I am consumed by thoughts of him and his issues. His presence has taken over and I feel angry and keep crying. Is this mine or his?
That is his. He is unconscious. Use him to become conscious yourself 💜
Hé is probably just being himself ( unconscious...) and you probably would love so sée him change ... (Becoming conscious)
boundaries dear- talk with a good therapist ! it’ll help
it is his. you are becoming conscious more and more, carry on !!
Just what I needed to hear,thank you Ekhart
Answer starts 9:09
Also, not a very satisfying answer imho.
What dream!! Thank you, Love you Eckhart 💙💙💙
🤯 🙏 soooo good!! 👍 just what was needed!! Love how Life flows 🥰🤗🌺
Thank You Master 🙏
Regards, thank you.
Excellent work. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉
really liked this video
Good stuff! Well said ❤
Thank you
How do I not feel lonely in this at times? ♡☆
Absolutely my friend tysm ❤💯👍
“accept them without resistance “
What if you can't afford to move away from a toxic person? 😢
God bless!
I love this man
Topic just in time lol thanks Eckhart ❤
Hello, thank you for everything, I have learned a lot and I put it into practice despite having been there for a short time. I have made a small progress. I have a question and it is something that I think is not common in the comments. Are you working on a new book with more teachings?
Tank you ❤
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I took a job once with a female boss who I knew to be very difficult. I did it on purpose, I knew she had problems and it would test me. I knew it was for a year contract only. I consciously decided I would do it to see if I could survive. It almost killed me. Almost.
Thank you so much fine sir. Sadly, I don’t remember my dreams.
I don't either..but I dont find it sad...
awesome
Eckhart...what is the mindset of someone that gossips? Is it about shaming, punishing the other person and not being able to go to them directly...just anger? Thank you.
Thanks
I have an issue with my brother who takes care of and has been living with my nearly 102 year old mother for the last 15 years (only living out of the family home for 10 years of his life). He has no interest in consciousness whatsoever. He's been a verbally abusive person since he could walk and talk. He has had no friendships or relationships of any significance with anyone. I have tried to get along with him but it is impossible. He's gone out of his way to hurt me for no reason whatsoever his whole life. Since my mother can no longer communicate with me on her own, and he has now refused to facilitate any communication between us, I have decided to cut contact with him. Do you have any advice for someone in my position with an impossible family member like this? Thanks. I love all your videos.
Can u try to consciously send your brother love and harmony. Like in your thoughts ?
"do not contribute to unconscious interactions" - brilliant. "Hey, you're not fun anymore. We used to have such great gossip frenzies".