It’s called a threshold. You give people the benefit of doubt, keep a positive attitude, hoping that somebody puts your shoes on once in a while to see what life has been like for you. For some of us, this doesn’t lead to an outburst of anger, just severe burnout and depression which leads one to just want to live life alone and not be used or taken advantage of anymore.
One hundred percent agree. I doubt most angry people would ever go to counseling. They tend to miserable and difficult to be around unless you match their anger and hatefulness.
The three angriest people I have encountered and had to deal with liked being angry, it gave them power to affect someone negatively. Only one of the three had a shred of kindness within.
@@kimepp2216 she is talking not about righteous or tantrum anger of a narcissist that is frequent and habitual. Just a relatively rare outburst of an individual that finally is fed up
I do believe some people just have anger issues, but they may be due to something similar. I have had very bad anger issues since I was a kid. I was raised to be a doormat and I feel extremely guilty and bad for trying to say no. My father still throws tantrums and makes me feel bad if I dare tell him no or speak against him (he's almost 70). I've always tried to be a kind, good person and people just take advantage of that. I keep everything inside until I physically can't and then my body just explodes.
This is very true! I have now, over many years, become a reformed people pleaser. Hard to do, but not impossible. Life is too short to always put yourself last ❤❤❤
In that context it has some relevance, but she used it as an excuse to give anger some credibility as an authentic evolutionary mechanism of decency, which it is certainly NOT.
Nice versus kind. How to control outbursts. Self esteem issues manifested with anger as motivation. Finally they are alone. Conforming is a double edged sword. Regulating is the word missing. Healthy people are able to regulate and convey their needs and wants. Angry people never want to make a mistake and some always want to be correct. Anger can come from trauma because of family dynamics issues. The child tries to compensate for the unhealthy parent. The taboo psychedelics. EMDR. Better than Big Parma and counselling. Integrating EMDR and/or psychedelics shifts the focus and changes the reaction process like in cases of PTSD or dysthymia
This describes what I experience and witness among physician colleagues. High workload, incredible amount of personal time sacrifice, ungrateful patients, and production demands by health systems takes a a toll on these folks. Your analysis here fits.
I like your videos. Also, as another example, I have met people, who seemed to thrive and utilize stubbornness, as their greatest asset/ally in career, and life pursuit. I felt often times though, that they payed for that with anger being their best source of self protection in turn. I just find it interesting, that repeated, unwanted, undesired behavior and emotional response, can be so insidiously woven into peoples characters this way, that they don't even notice what is causing the anger, or will take lots of time for them to be able to communicate it.
As someone, male 50's, that always has their anger under controll 100%, I always have controllers/ limits in place. FYI played high level sports and learned how to use anger and what my triggers. FYI if a guy walks away from an argument, ladies, let him go and he need to get his feeling processed. Have a blessed/ peaceful life.
As a explanation for specific type of people i get that, as a generalization for all poeple with anger it sounds (sorry) bullshit. In my family there are poeple with massive anger problems and its (mostly) not because of the reasons you told. I tried for years to be emphatic and i understood where the anger came from at the same time they can be very mean and spitefull in these moments, to the point where i had no more energy to tolarate these behaviors and had to minimize the intaractions with them to a minimum.
I think you have hit on something. Some people are mean and angry and it is not because they are looking to please anyone. They are self-centered and not at all altruistic. They get angry when they don't get their way. Minimizing contact is a good idea when you can do it.
I think this video is an advertisement directed towards those with anger issues. This is telling them they are good on the inside so they would book a session. This is not about being informative.
This is very resounding. I had this yesterday and it was terrible. I throw a cup at the wall and it shattered everywhere. I do so much for my family and I work from home and when my boundaries are just not respected time and time again and I say it nicely, something triggers me usually my partners family drama and then I lose it and I feel like a fractured human afterward with immense guilt. Terrible cycle. Needs to stop.
Thank you, I really appreciate this. I'll have to bring this up with my therapist. I'm AuDHD and probably alexithymic, this resonates with me. Best of luck in all your endeavours.
Yep sounds dead on. Recently went through this whole self awareness thing myself. I believe personally for me it had a lot to do with chronic pain issues and pushing my body while destroying my mind just trying to lead a "normal" life. I'm currently in financial ruin waiting on a surgery and feel better mentally than I ever have before in my life. I'm Currently focusing on the fundamental problems that drives my anger which leads me to believe I need to get into politics (which I dread the thought of actually doing). I feel things like critical thinking and civic responsibility being taught in elementary school would have done me a world of good for my anger issues. I feel I have been asleep at the wheel as a citizen of my country and maybe those skills being taught at a young age would help other people understand their own feelings better instead of jumping on board with the latest social media trends for an outlet of their anger of a situation they don't even fully comprehend.
My Anger scares me, Now my body twitches in response to stress. Now I protect me first .. mental Health more important than other people's demands.. Choose your peace, NOT theirs.. 😌 Whew
But you can be aware of your bodily reactions as they happen and this is in part how you can be aware of your anger building up. You can learn it through paying attention to your thoughts and what your body is feeling. Often therapy might help with that also through addressing the underlying issues that may be there causing the lack of awareness in the first place.
This is an excellent video because it’s the first time I’ve heard anyone say that good people get angry for legitimate reasons. I find it very odd that most of the world today is full of deliberately, cruel people will deliberately harm others take from others and abuse others and this is considered acceptable and normal Those of us who simply want to be civilized and cooperative are considered freaks. And if we’re not getting our own needs mat, we’re not seeing reciprocity in return then we emphatically put our foot down and demand what we deserve well suddenly we’re considered bad people The reason good men get angry is because we are normally civilized and expect other people to be civilized. We believe in cooperation, all the other people believe in theft and cruelty We get frustrated We get angry But this wouldn’t have happened 30 years ago So yes, we’re angry. But that’s because we’ve been trying to live in a normal civilized equal relationship lifestyle while constantly being abused, marginalized and taken advantage of At this point, yes we are angry and we deserve to be angry.
Me taking the back seat to everyone else has manifested in a shadow who is the complete opposite.... I'm pretty sure he would sell his own mother for a dollar and it's getting increasingly difficult to control him but I don't think he's evil.....he just wants me to get things done....he really hates people who had their time still in the way.
Nonsense. Anger is not a mechanism of boundaries. It is an absence of love, an excuse to abuse others. I know someone who doesn't have ANY responsibility or regret about their outbursts of anger. It is always someone else's fault. Anger is not something from evolution, it is a mechanical perversity. Of course, a decent person can be triggered by someone worse and become angry. They still have something bad inside them, just perhaps not as bad as the person doing the triggering.
Probably Google's pyschological algorithm has detected me fitting this video by recommending it to me. Anyway, by lowering your expectations of others you might be able to lower your anger of their actions. Also, I think pride has an effect on how badly angry you become in situations. Thanks.
Tragically there are 'violent' men, who physically harm, or even kill. But this fact doesn't negate that anger is common to BOTH genders, but presents in different ways often. Passive aggressive behaviour can be toxic, like a cancer, and can destroy the mental health of the target of that passive aggression - often women are 'passively aggressive/angry', or they will be verbally angry or throw their rage around behind closed doors in a controlling way. Men can certainly be verbally angry also. It's a 'human' problem, and this video is relevant to BOTH sexes.
Well im a believer in equality. I believe at the end if each year we should tally up the score. And we should equalize the score on body counts. Want to volunteer as one of those equalized?
You might be up to something, because every Cancer feels like that. We give everything to others with no ego, but we never receive it back, because it's not possible to get it back, so we get angry.
Prob not anger but definitely annoyment at how inconsiderate they are. But no offence usually people that Hate on me are like 1/5 attractive as I. Pfff Id rather be attractive than an ugly hater.
I am this. People pleaser and pushover basically. Just being nice and doing the right things and having common courtesy. But at the end of the day people will take advantage of you so much. You are trash to them. Then you realize this and you melt over. Anymore I have just turned into a prick.
Good advice but it assumes a safe environment. Some people can never escape the hostility. Such as when child abuse is covered up for a lifetime by a network. There can be no end to the exploitation and unjust acts of revenge and this happens to very many. You have to put up with it and constantly achieve superiority. Not because it’s fair because it starts to scare them. You can unmask all of them and you’re getting stronger. There is no better way to deal with cowards operating as a network than to maintain composure and superiority. Expect their strategies to suppress, oppress and harm have no upper or lower limit. They themselves seek the network out of their own weaknesses and insecurities. There is never going to be more equitable treatment. When your environment is constantly intentionally turned upside down scare them with fierce composure and superior thought. The biggest mistake we make is believing there is no external fault because we were conditioned. When you start to see through everyone they don’t want to be in the same room with you. Show them your composure is severe and you see through the schemes and they will never stop trying but they will avoid you. Stand your ground with composure and seek a clear path to equity, peace and respect. Know that most good people are not that good. They are not used to fear and they will betray you fast. Serenity comes from acceptance of what is the reality of the present moment it cannot be granted to you. Setting boundaries is preferable but this does not work in groups ruled by chaotic order. Accept your hatred for their lack of truthfulness, compassion and dignity is righteous. It’s OK to hate. To lie to yourself about this only increases your anger. Your hatred is a liberating feeling on its own. Suppressed hatred is like sealing a jar of water over an eternal flame. The pressure will cause it to burst and scald. Accept your hatred and the pressure is relieved. Knowing you are righteous opens up the flow in your nervous system. Hatred allowed to flow freely brings whit, strength, conviction and inner peace because acceptance is the cause of serenity. Wait for serenity to be granted and you will melt down. The world in its entirety runs on lies. Trust in yourself. Let the fire burn it does not harm anything when the heat flows unfettered.
Embrace Stoicisms and Prayer. Nothing (including therapy) has ever been as effective as a relationship with God and the discipline of Stoic principles.
Both angry and happy are positively charged emotions, which means someone that learned to mask their anger with being pleasant as a child due to abusive and neglectful parents not allowing them to express their anger and understand it, become toxically positive. This learned people pleasing becomes the disingenuous, manipulative platform on which "nice" guys condition insecure and anxious women to stay with them, even though their needs of emotional intimacy and mental intimacy are not being met, he's the "useful" guy that can fix anything and everything and is a "yes man" when it comes to doing things for her, but lacks any ability to genuinely share thoughts, feelings, dreams and ideas of his own and recognize hers in the process (they basically are too disconnected to differentiate between love and tolerance, and since they have had to tolerate large amounts of abuse and neglect, just not being rejected feels very good to them, at least for awhile). These types of men starve you of emotional, mental and eventually sexual intimacy, and they do not leave even when their needs are not being met, and really won't allow you to leave either. This happens with women too, and good men become bitter and resentful, but I find that a lot of people think the nice guy should be given a chance, while the nice girl is immature and should be used. It's a double standard in favor of men, but I'm glad that I am able to recognize this very early on and not pay them any mind other than to firmly reject their advances.
@smartgenes1 I agree, but by positive, I mean the "charge" not the effect. Anger and happiness are an energetic charge, sadness and pain are a de-energizing charge, they are negative. The ability to regulate happiness means we can regulate anger. Toxic positivity means we can only regulate negative emotions, but fake positive ones, making happiness disingenuous and anger uncontrollable.
Well hello…Anger is a learned behavior. A conditioned behavior. It’s got nothing to do with evolutionary processes etc. Nor is a coping mechanism. So please stop this nonsense rant anger is good & it’s ok. It’s Not! ❤
It’s called a threshold. You give people the benefit of doubt, keep a positive attitude, hoping that somebody puts your shoes on once in a while to see what life has been like for you. For some of us, this doesn’t lead to an outburst of anger, just severe burnout and depression which leads one to just want to live life alone and not be used or taken advantage of anymore.
Literally where im at
I agree to an extent... I'll give people the shirt off my back but it pisses me off on just how inconsiderate and selfish so many people around me are
You have made a lot of very angry men very happy with this video.
One hundred percent agree. I doubt most angry people would ever go to counseling. They tend to miserable and difficult to be around unless you match their anger and hatefulness.
The three angriest people I have encountered and had to deal with liked being angry, it gave them power to affect someone negatively. Only one of the three
had a shred of kindness within.
@@kimepp2216 'You have to be cruel to be kind' is an old saying
@@kimepp2216 she is talking not about righteous or tantrum anger of a narcissist that is frequent and habitual. Just a relatively rare outburst of an individual that finally is fed up
I do believe some people just have anger issues, but they may be due to something similar. I have had very bad anger issues since I was a kid. I was raised to be a doormat and I feel extremely guilty and bad for trying to say no. My father still throws tantrums and makes me feel bad if I dare tell him no or speak against him (he's almost 70). I've always tried to be a kind, good person and people just take advantage of that. I keep everything inside until I physically can't and then my body just explodes.
This is very true! I have now, over many years, become a reformed people pleaser. Hard to do, but not impossible. Life is too short to always put yourself last ❤❤❤
Anger is a beautiful thing when you understand it like that. It's the unhelpful behaviors associated with it that are the problem.
Agree
"Be angry and sin not."
Bullshit.
@@smartgenes1 that’s a compelling argument you make. 🤪
I feel like this applies to general scenario there are other cases like anger coming from narcissists, they don’t give to other people 🤔
this is specifically about people pleasers....
yes im people please lack camnicution lack boundaries
100
In that context it has some relevance, but she used it as an excuse to give anger some credibility as an authentic evolutionary mechanism of decency, which it is certainly NOT.
Nice versus kind. How to control outbursts. Self esteem issues manifested with anger as motivation. Finally they are alone. Conforming is a double edged sword. Regulating is the word missing. Healthy people are able to regulate and convey their needs and wants. Angry people never want to make a mistake and some always want to be correct. Anger can come from trauma because of family dynamics issues. The child tries to compensate for the unhealthy parent. The taboo psychedelics. EMDR. Better than Big Parma and counselling. Integrating EMDR and/or psychedelics shifts the focus and changes the reaction process like in cases of PTSD or dysthymia
"Angry people never want to make a mistake and some always want to be correct." Where's the likes on this comment, all the likes for stupid comments.
I could watch And listen to her speak about anything.
Beautiful woman Soothing voice.
She looks like that actress Heather Thomas
Sorry, not seeing it.
Though Heather Thomas was an attractive gal in her day.
After I started going hunting, my anger outbursts dissipated.
This describes what I experience and witness among physician colleagues. High workload, incredible amount of personal time sacrifice, ungrateful patients, and production demands by health systems takes a a toll on these folks. Your analysis here fits.
Thank you, good explanation and good advice
I like your videos. Also, as another example, I have met people, who seemed to thrive and utilize stubbornness, as their greatest asset/ally in career, and life pursuit. I felt often times though, that they payed for that with anger being their best source of self protection in turn. I just find it interesting, that repeated, unwanted, undesired behavior and emotional response, can be so insidiously woven into peoples characters this way, that they don't even notice what is causing the anger, or will take lots of time for them to be able to communicate it.
As someone, male 50's, that always has their anger under controll 100%, I always have controllers/ limits in place. FYI played high level sports and learned how to use anger and what my triggers. FYI if a guy walks away from an argument, ladies, let him go and he need to get his feeling processed. Have a blessed/ peaceful life.
As a explanation for specific type of people i get that, as a generalization for all poeple with anger it sounds (sorry) bullshit. In my family there are poeple with massive anger problems and its (mostly) not because of the reasons you told. I tried for years to be emphatic and i understood where the anger came from at the same time they can be very mean and spitefull in these moments, to the point where i had no more energy to tolarate these behaviors and had to minimize the intaractions with them to a minimum.
I think you have hit on something. Some people are mean and angry and it is not because they are looking to please anyone. They are self-centered and not at all altruistic. They get angry when they don't get their way. Minimizing contact is a good idea when you can do it.
I think this video is an advertisement directed towards those with anger issues. This is telling them they are good on the inside so they would book a session. This is not about being informative.
This is very resounding. I had this yesterday and it was terrible. I throw a cup at the wall and it shattered everywhere. I do so much for my family and I work from home and when my boundaries are just not respected time and time again and I say it nicely, something triggers me usually my partners family drama and then I lose it and I feel like a fractured human afterward with immense guilt. Terrible cycle. Needs to stop.
Thank you beautiful ❤ this information is so valuable so people understands how the mind works. Great
Thank you, I really appreciate this.
I'll have to bring this up with my therapist.
I'm AuDHD and probably alexithymic, this resonates with me.
Best of luck in all your endeavours.
Yep sounds dead on. Recently went through this whole self awareness thing myself. I believe personally for me it had a lot to do with chronic pain issues and pushing my body while destroying my mind just trying to lead a "normal" life. I'm currently in financial ruin waiting on a surgery and feel better mentally than I ever have before in my life. I'm Currently focusing on the fundamental problems that drives my anger which leads me to believe I need to get into politics (which I dread the thought of actually doing). I feel things like critical thinking and civic responsibility being taught in elementary school would have done me a world of good for my anger issues. I feel I have been asleep at the wheel as a citizen of my country and maybe those skills being taught at a young age would help other people understand their own feelings better instead of jumping on board with the latest social media trends for an outlet of their anger of a situation they don't even fully comprehend.
Thank you for your knowledge and your energy.
2:03 Anger is an evolutionary mechanism? I thought we were created by God?
Everyone has a plan until an angry guy punches you.
I think you are onto something. Very insightful. Thank you.
It's nonsense.
"Resonating" vs "resounding"?
Where do I sign up? I had multiple eruptions this last summer.
Fascinating! Thank you! Are there any further refrences you could share? I would love to know more facts and recommendations
Thanks for this video Olesya. What about the subconscious which i never really believed existed till recently! Chris
You make some good points. But I must say that my psychological status is affected by the fact that you didn't button your shirt up. I'm shallow.
My Anger scares me, Now my body twitches in response to stress. Now I protect me first .. mental Health more important than other people's demands.. Choose your peace, NOT theirs.. 😌 Whew
Very resounding with me . Than k you for this useful video .
I think anger is more of a bodily reaction... That's why we are not aware of it, until it explodes
But you can be aware of your bodily reactions as they happen and this is in part how you can be aware of your anger building up. You can learn it through paying attention to your thoughts and what your body is feeling. Often therapy might help with that also through addressing the underlying issues that may be there causing the lack of awareness in the first place.
What did the smart woman say? I lost focus in those eyes
This is an excellent video because it’s the first time I’ve heard anyone say that good people get angry for legitimate reasons.
I find it very odd that most of the world today is full of deliberately, cruel people will deliberately harm others take from others and abuse others and this is considered acceptable and normal
Those of us who simply want to be civilized and cooperative are considered freaks. And if we’re not getting our own needs mat, we’re not seeing reciprocity in return then we emphatically put our foot down and demand what we deserve well suddenly we’re considered bad people
The reason good men get angry is because we are normally civilized and expect other people to be civilized. We believe in cooperation, all the other people believe in theft and cruelty
We get frustrated
We get angry
But this wouldn’t have happened 30 years ago
So yes, we’re angry. But that’s because we’ve been trying to live in a normal civilized equal relationship lifestyle while constantly being abused, marginalized and taken advantage of
At this point, yes we are angry and we deserve to be angry.
The being nice that you describe here is called the "fawn response"
True for some people but assuming that this is always the case is delusional.
Me taking the back seat to everyone else has manifested in a shadow who is the complete opposite.... I'm pretty sure he would sell his own mother for a dollar and it's getting increasingly difficult to control him but I don't think he's evil.....he just wants me to get things done....he really hates people who had their time still in the way.
Thank you for your insights, interesting!
I’ll chew on this a bit.
Nonsense. Anger is not a mechanism of boundaries. It is an absence of love, an excuse to abuse others. I know someone who doesn't have ANY responsibility or regret about their outbursts of anger. It is always someone else's fault. Anger is not something from evolution, it is a mechanical perversity. Of course, a decent person can be triggered by someone worse and become angry. They still have something bad inside them, just perhaps not as bad as the person doing the triggering.
Probably Google's pyschological algorithm has detected me fitting this video by recommending it to me. Anyway, by lowering your expectations of others you might be able to lower your anger of their actions. Also, I think pride has an effect on how badly angry you become in situations. Thanks.
Tell that to all of the women who have died from angry male outbursts!
Tragically there are 'violent' men, who physically harm, or even kill. But this fact doesn't negate that anger is common to BOTH genders, but presents in different ways often. Passive aggressive behaviour can be toxic, like a cancer, and can destroy the mental health of the target of that passive aggression - often women are 'passively aggressive/angry', or they will be verbally angry or throw their rage around behind closed doors in a controlling way. Men can certainly be verbally angry also. It's a 'human' problem, and this video is relevant to BOTH sexes.
Well im a believer in equality. I believe at the end if each year we should tally up the score. And we should equalize the score on body counts. Want to volunteer as one of those equalized?
@@imonlydancingsal1509 Do you support femicide?
@@imonlydancingsal1509 How about we tally the score at the end of the year and equalize it?
@@imonlydancingsal1509 Will u to volunteer to be equal?
I was nice I'm the Messiah now 😎 I don't come to give I come to take like a thief 😎 gimmie yo number
You're a very beautiful woman.
Thanks for the info .."our".little beauty ❤
You might be up to something, because every Cancer feels like that. We give everything to others with no ego, but we never receive it back, because it's not possible to get it back, so we get angry.
Prob not anger but definitely annoyment at how inconsiderate they are. But no offence usually people that Hate on me are like 1/5 attractive as I. Pfff Id rather be attractive than an ugly hater.
Shes beautiful ❤️
Oh. Um, okay. Thank you, cutie. I-this happens to me sometimes, yes. I like you, you're seem very cool, very intelligent and wise.
❤❤❤❤❤
In my case is generally true
I’m completely aware of it…my volcano is my friend
I am this. People pleaser and pushover basically. Just being nice and doing the right things and having common courtesy. But at the end of the day people will take advantage of you so much. You are trash to them. Then you realize this and you melt over. Anymore I have just turned into a prick.
🙋 surviving with this 😔
True yep I’m working on it lol ❤😮😊
Good advice but it assumes a safe environment. Some people can never escape the hostility. Such as when child abuse is covered up for a lifetime by a network. There can be no end to the exploitation and unjust acts of revenge and this happens to very many. You have to put up with it and constantly achieve superiority. Not because it’s fair because it starts to scare them. You can unmask all of them and you’re getting stronger. There is no better way to deal with cowards operating as a network than to maintain composure and superiority. Expect their strategies to suppress, oppress and harm have no upper or lower limit. They themselves seek the network out of their own weaknesses and insecurities. There is never going to be more equitable treatment. When your environment is constantly intentionally turned upside down scare them with fierce composure and superior thought. The biggest mistake we make is believing there is no external fault because we were conditioned. When you start to see through everyone they don’t want to be in the same room with you. Show them your composure is severe and you see through the schemes and they will never stop trying but they will avoid you. Stand your ground with composure and seek a clear path to equity, peace and respect. Know that most good people are not that good. They are not used to fear and they will betray you fast. Serenity comes from acceptance of what is the reality of the present moment it cannot be granted to you. Setting boundaries is preferable but this does not work in groups ruled by chaotic order. Accept your hatred for their lack of truthfulness, compassion and dignity is righteous. It’s OK to hate. To lie to yourself about this only increases your anger. Your hatred is a liberating feeling on its own. Suppressed hatred is like sealing a jar of water over an eternal flame. The pressure will cause it to burst and scald. Accept your hatred and the pressure is relieved. Knowing you are righteous opens up the flow in your nervous system. Hatred allowed to flow freely brings whit, strength, conviction and inner peace because acceptance is the cause of serenity. Wait for serenity to be granted and you will melt down. The world in its entirety runs on lies. Trust in yourself. Let the fire burn it does not harm anything when the heat flows unfettered.
Wow, I wondered about that
Embrace Stoicisms and Prayer. Nothing (including therapy) has ever been as effective as a relationship with God and the discipline of Stoic principles.
The volcano is building magma. When it exists the volcano, it is then called lava. 🎉
I like psychology 😳 gota watch our for that anger that leads to radicalization 😲
Is she single?
Are you desperate? Can't find a girl in real life?
Wow !Look at you !! You are such a Cutie 🤗😉✌️I always pull an Austin powers on ppl .
If you've got an issue ? Here's a Tissue 😂
Both angry and happy are positively charged emotions, which means someone that learned to mask their anger with being pleasant as a child due to abusive and neglectful parents not allowing them to express their anger and understand it, become toxically positive. This learned people pleasing becomes the disingenuous, manipulative platform on which "nice" guys condition insecure and anxious women to stay with them, even though their needs of emotional intimacy and mental intimacy are not being met, he's the "useful" guy that can fix anything and everything and is a "yes man" when it comes to doing things for her, but lacks any ability to genuinely share thoughts, feelings, dreams and ideas of his own and recognize hers in the process (they basically are too disconnected to differentiate between love and tolerance, and since they have had to tolerate large amounts of abuse and neglect, just not being rejected feels very good to them, at least for awhile). These types of men starve you of emotional, mental and eventually sexual intimacy, and they do not leave even when their needs are not being met, and really won't allow you to leave either. This happens with women too, and good men become bitter and resentful, but I find that a lot of people think the nice guy should be given a chance, while the nice girl is immature and should be used. It's a double standard in favor of men, but I'm glad that I am able to recognize this very early on and not pay them any mind other than to firmly reject their advances.
There is nothing positive about losing oneself in anger whatsoever.
@smartgenes1 I agree, but by positive, I mean the "charge" not the effect. Anger and happiness are an energetic charge, sadness and pain are a de-energizing charge, they are negative. The ability to regulate happiness means we can regulate anger. Toxic positivity means we can only regulate negative emotions, but fake positive ones, making happiness disingenuous and anger uncontrollable.
A little patronizing sweetheart!
Well hello…Anger is a learned behavior. A conditioned behavior. It’s got nothing to do with evolutionary processes etc. Nor is a coping mechanism. So please stop this nonsense rant anger is good & it’s ok. It’s Not! ❤
Anger can be a protection mechanism. And righteous anger is appropriate.
Anger is an emotion; not a behavior. What we DO with our emotions can be healthy and appropriate, or unhealthy and possibly harmful.
@@SeekerGoOn2013 that is true 👍
@@SeekerGoOn2013 you do it 100 times & it becomes a Behavior. Anything you repeat becomes a Habit and we can say becomes your behavior, yes?
@@jasondawdy5524 it maybe righteous to you but not someone else. Love has redeeming qualities…Anger is like hot coals…Always Burns!
Thankyou very much.
😊👍👍 -70SomethingGuy