Intj here, I’ve been called harsh and rude so many times even though I didn’t mean to be that way. Even my husband would get offended when I ask him questions because of the roughness and harshness of the words and the tones that comes out. He said, he felt like a suspect being interviewed by a detective 😂
The older I get, "good enough- is good enough". I don't sweat the little stuff near as much. It is a conscience effort, but I now choose the people close to me over my perfectionism. On the other hand, my need for logic has grown to insanity levels. My need for alone time has become self-isolation. The older I get, the more I learn- the less I want any part of society. I am not a people fan- and yet I'm cursed to be one.
I recently realised how much I obsses over the smaller things, I really hate it and catch myself doing it way more than I should. Also the self isolation is so true, we already have limited energy couldn't be bothered with people anymore
As an INTJ woman I only give advice when asked unless it’s a life or death safety issue because people are allowed to think differently. I hate gossip which looks honest and hate guessing what people really mean.
We INTJs have a gift of razor sharp thinking that can cut through complication, confusion, and chaos. Trying to moderate how we think or speak is exhausting, and feels dishonest. Accommodating other folks insecurities or bad practices is a guaranteed way to diminish my own strength. Maybe the world can think of us like salt….a critical ingredient in the right amount.
I'm always shocked when a friend tells me they find or found me intimidating. The whole time I think I'm being extremely easy going and playful, and then I find out people are afraid to start a conversation. What do I do that approachable people aren't doing?
Presumably, your an INTJ? If so, maybe these are 2 reasons: I will add a few more later if you are a INTJ number 1 on the list: you are not shy or timid about telling the brutal undiluted truth. That is something I've found in myself that intimidates pretty much everyone who is not a part of my inner circle of friends. They think they are always the target of brutal honest truth when I talk to them even if what I said doesn't necessarily apply to themand seem to feel like I am attacking them personally. As far as that goes, all I say to that is "if the shoe fits, wear it" Number 2: you likely use sarcastic comments to call out crap, mock people who are stupid or foolish, or whatever the case may be, but at the same time you have a good sense of humor, but it is sarcastic as well I have said things sarcastically in different contexts many times while keeping a poker face attempting to be lighthearted or easygoing in my way, and then afterwards found from a mutual friend that they thought I was dead serious and that I was unbelievably rude, cold-hearted, and callus! My friend told me when we were discussing the matter that when we first met and started doing things together, he was often blown away and shocked by things I'd say until he learned to look for the underlying meaning of what I said; only then did he find my sarcasm, jokes, and comments to be humorous like I intended. Another point that I could elaborate on that is a huge factor there is "arguing" properly termed "debating" if it comes from a INTJ, OR INTP but I'll cut this short for now.
😂 while I can relate to that with my best friend who is an INTP, I realize that I have my faults and am not blind to them, so if he will overlook mine, I will definitely overlook his. I think we both think that of each other, so we get along very well! I think he is the only one alive who knows "the real me" or at any rate he is the only person who I dare to be myself around.
As an INTJ, I can say that people's opinion of me doesn't bother me very much. But probably they might think I'm a little aloof from society because I have a small social circle in real life, I often spend time alone and I like it that way. But probably the main thing that makes me strange to others is that I myself don't take many people seriously: their weird and silly jokes, over-emotionality, etc. P.S. My acquaintances and friends often tell me about my brooding or even angry face. They suggest I find a partner or somehow change and do things I don't need to do at all. I rarely pay attention to these words, but somewhere in the back of my mind I get amused when people say that.
Yes, I can relate to that with my friends! I'm not insecure in my beliefs or opinions, so what others think of me usually don't bother me at all. I had a older brother that always had a big insincere cheezy smile everywhere he went; some people said that I was apparently "always pizzed off about something, and that he looked like he was grinning about whatever I was upset about" LOL! I was never mad as they thought, I was just absorbed in my own thoughts.
I'm an intj and I like to look at it as showing my strengths and weaknesses. So I make an effort to restain these natural impulses that people find off-putting, while still staying rational and convicted.
My best friend and my partner are both INTJs. I think their straight forward honesty is very disarming for someone like myself who worries and second guesses how people view me. I have very particular things I like and dislike as well so there's no way I'd fault someone for that, it's only an issue when someone gets overly controlling and micromanage the people around them. The INTJs I've met are not like that at all but maybe an unhealthy one could act that way. Also, just like lot of introverts, they need their alone time to decompress. When an INTJ goes out of their way to spend time with you then it's because they Want to. I think it's a good way to recognize if they value your company or not, assuming they're not swamped with responsibilities. Oh and the way they let their inner child out when they warm up to you is so adorable. ❤ If you have a chance to befriend or even woo an INTJ I Highly recommend! Don't let the RBF put you off, they're great company and fantastic friends. - An INFP ❤
It is very true that I only go out of my way to spend time with someone if I genuinely like them or attracted to them. I value my privacy and personal time very highly and will only spend my personal time with someone I really like. I live alone and prefer the quiet of my own house in the country most of the time.
I just tell them that I cant be arrogant because arrogance means "having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities." and I don't exaggerate. 😉
@@jimmywoolever798 lol. I think the real reason it happens with me is I say something sarcastically with a straight face and they never realized I was joking. [Edit, a friend of mine told me one time that if he didn't know me very well that he would think that I was serious when I made dry sarcastic comments, and that at first he thought I was trying to be offensive. ]
@@jimmywoolever798 another reason I think that some say I am arrogant is because when anyone tries to flatter me, my standard answer is "Yes, I am wonderful!🙃" Many people have thought I was speaking seriously
I remember asking questions at work. I made my boss cry not on purpose. But I guess my questions and tones were off. When I was just really curious trying to understand business goals.
I’ve never seen myself as intimidating but when I consider people’s behaviour around me, I think they feel intimidated by my knowledge. Rarely, if at all, anyone challenges me in my field of knowledge. I feel like they think I would destroy them with arguments, which is quite possible. However I’d rather have someone challenging me because that’s an opportunity to prove that I’m right OR iron out the issues so that I am really right. Then nobody can disprove my theory as I’ve answered all challenges.
Try being an INTJ Sigma male. A very good troubleshooter that in a rare occurrence is heard. But when others don't see a solution, an outside view is the solution. Someone that naturally thinks of the whole and not stuck to norms.
As an INTJ who used to date an INTJ I can confidently say we are tbe most difficult personality to deal with, but on the bright side you get to learn so much about yourself with another INTJ because of our extreme straightforwardness.
I'm an INTJ. Yesterday I said so many things to my mom, and she is an ESFJ, so she is so sensitive. She almost cried. And my friend blocked me because he was shocked by my answer about his relationship (I told him she just wanted a benefit from you).. All I said was to stop them suffering, but they see I have no feelings.
i always work on moderating my behaviors. the honesty thing is a real big one because i'd rather not say anything than bullshit someone out of "politeness". still, i keep in mind that being honest isn't a free pass to being an asshole. i keep learning to speak my truth in a way that won't hurt other people's feelings. it's difficult and not always entirely possible to completely avoid hurting someone but i think i'd rather have people disliking me for who i am than loving a facade and then calling me a liar. i think it's easier to learn accepting/liking someone who's honest than forgiving someone who keeps lying to your face. efficiency is a big deal for me too. i am willing to admit i was probably acting like a clown in the eyes of my classmates/peers but the teachers and later professors liked me. one time my prof gave me entire grade higher than what was i supposed to get because i helped him sort through his students' grade charts (about 60 people from different classes). the way he was doing it was taking ages because the documents were poorly sorted and he couldn't find anything. it was so funny when he got to my chart first and jokingly said out loud "lets get through miss impatient's grade first since she's in such a rush to catch her bus".
As an intj Yup I agree to most of it but about being ackward it occurs very rarely that ppl perceive this kind of my habit as harsh whenever I speak things in an ack ward way most of the ppl laughed at that...about independent yess it is true I have only small social friend circle only three ppl infp and infj they're really good only sometimes but they ignored my facts most of the times which is irritable and I can't get along with whole of the class even if I want to ....
You presented a fair description of the pros and cons of the INTJ personality. So, don't take this personally. But you made one mistake. You said INTJs are more analytical than intuitive. This is incorrect because INTJs are NI (introverted intuition) dominant.
Just because we tend to have deficiencies, it doesn't mean we should accept being cold or inconsiderate. We can be better INTJs. We KNOW we can do better.
As INTJ, people seems to either hate me or love me. Prople will love me at my passion, bluntness and knowledge. But it seems that every ESFJ i have met are super toxic towards me. They HATE me so much. It’s like they are programmed to hate me who speak truthfully, straightforward and they seems to hate people who can solve problems or have more skill than them. Every single of them see me as society Virus or something, they think they have right to smite me down. All of them betray me or gossips to sabotage my reputation. And they love to do the coward way of thinking i am the secret anime character i will never tell you my story and eavedrop on everyone else instead. Such annoying type
I am this person, but I find this to be exaggerated. I do not see myself as harsh to this degree. Yes, I find most people need change and criticism, but of course I care about their feelings. I always try not to say this to them in a hurtful way, and when I fail to give advice, I abstain from it. However, I may seem like this. I am harsh sometimes when angry. I just want to care about my friends’ feelings and I want to protect them, so I try not to tell them their faults. Sometimes, dealing with people stresses me out because they are trivial. I just wish I could find a friend who looks like me. INTJ
@Kapoy Yes I have the same experience as you. I'm an INTJ-A and 2 of my coworkers are INTJ-T. True enough like you said I act more like an ENTJ (better Te and Se) versus those two INTJ-T who are more reserved. I don't dispute the Assertive vs Turbulent idea perse but its just that I refuse to use it as part of the 16 personalities. Reason being the theory about mbti (or cognitive functions) is that its supposed to be your personality since birth and it does not change by the environment and transformations in your life (developing cognitive functions are different from the base personality and can be affected by the environment but your orignal personality stays the same). Now the turbulent and assertive are actually you can say maturity levels such that if you gather enough experience you can become assertive from turbulent in the future and vice versa. That's why you can say you are an INFP-T now and then 10 years has passed and you have become INFP-A. That's why I don't like the A vs T attribute as its changeable according to your current state in life (young, old, rich, poor, etc) and doesn't define your personality but instead you define it according to your current mood in the present. I hope that make sense, I usually lost people with a lot of words.
In most situations, I consider myself fairly cheerful and amusing, and can convey a good sense of humor to people who "get" my humor. But then there's the other 85% of people who don't understand that when I'm mumbling and grumbling and appear to be yelling, that it's really just me embedding my strange sense of humor in my outward appearance of anger and frustration! At work, I constantly mumble under my breath, "Stupid morons!! Stupid, stupid morons!! My God! What a bunch of idiots!!" while I'm doing my tasks. But most of the time, it's just my way of turning anger into humor!!
I am writing this comment from the perspective that I just found out I am an INTJ female. Before i watch the video. If this is correct it will say that people think we are: Maninpulative, Cunning, Cold, and Mysterious. People constantly think I am a sociopath. But people who know me know I cry watching cartoon movies. 😢 The stories be so beautiful. Im going to write abother comment after the video.
Why? I am an INTJ and I can't understand what is intimidating about me to others. Contrary to popular belief, we don't go around anxiously looking for opportunities to hurt other's feelings or do them harm or embarrass them.😉 a lot of people I know think I do.
When they are in bad moods, don't even need to talk to them. It's another level of rude which I suspect they are not aware they are even in the bad mood.
Why do people ask me for my expertise/analysis and then get mad if they don’t like my thoughts? Also bystanders will tell me that I should have said something nice. Tell a “white lie”. I never on purpose tell a lie. I do make mistakes.
"unimportant in the grand scheme of things", hits this guy over the head with a book on chaos theory, screams, "are you mad, everything is about those little things", then laughs maniacally, and vanishes in a puff of smoke
I get the you should sugar coat things more often and I'm like theirs no sense in doing that. I also told off my parents when I was in my teenage years with only using facts, reasons, and words they said so many times that I felt like they hated me sometimes I knew they didn't. And also I didn't care for attending funerals for family members that we knew that they were going to pass soon because I was more focused on setting myself up for college.
I'm an INTJ that has watched an endless number of these videos that describe me exactly. But I always question if these are horoscope-like descriptions that appeal to everyone. My question is what non-INTJ's think of these behaviors. Everything in this video is me exactly, but do, for example, ENTJs or ESFJs sympathize or are they like, "totally not me." Basically, I'm trying to figure out if this is som astrology bullshit, or there is some legitimacy. There have been admissions that none of this has any scientific support, but it really does plug into how I see myself and my behavior.
8:20 there u go doesn't intj known for their intution and as we all know intellectual intuition is better than emotional intuition in terms of accuracy.....
Of course, Myers Briggs is only one model for evaluating personality. People annoy me but I'm sure that I annoy other people as well. It's expected in my estimation, and I don't understand why people get so ruffled when trying to understand and discuss things. I just want to understand everything, so whatever. I am classified as INTJ.
I hate INTJ's more than any other personality type, and I want to put my honest opinion out here as to why that is. The points will be true for many of the INTJ's I've met, but there will always be exceptions. INTJ's are arrogant; they think everyone is stupid and that they know more, and all the while, they just stand there while everyone is trying their best and just complain and complain, while doing nothing themselves. INTJ's are insensitive; this is usually not intentional, true, but at their worst, they try to solve traumas with logic when it's more of a feeling problem. It's the worst when you are struggling with something personal, and then INTJ's just come along and tell you that you should see a psychiatrist, are mentally unstable, and should consider medication when you open up to them. INTJ's are narrow-minded; I've never seen a personality as narrow-minded as INTJ's. Usually other types are at least respectful about it, but INTJ's are the type of people that will cut you off because you believe in say, riding horses being ok, and they believe it's human superiority, animal slavery, or whatnot. The cutting off part is also part of being insensitive, they don't care how it will affect you; they just expect all their friends to always have the exact same opinion as them, or agree with them, and cuts off anyone who doesn't, then turns around and start writing some post about INTJ's being lonely. It's kind of hypocritical.
Can you clear my doubt my friend did mbti test he got ISTJ countinuesly but he always think about future but he more interested in physical activities and also he not a daydreamer or creative. How a sensor can focus or think about future?
I feel like this is the equivalent of an astrology channel but for people who consider MBTI their zodiac - INTJ, Leo, Scorpio rising lol. I'm a tyrant to be
Story of my life , always seen as the one who told the kids there is no Santa . If all you want is to get your fifis massaged , why are you asking me what i think ?
Me before the video: Let me see this nonsense, as connecting myers- Briggs personality quizzes to real life scenarios is problematic because the science behind it is specious Me during the video: Yes Of course 100% Absolutely Is there another way to react to this? Yes Every time
I hv heard that INTJs come off as intimidating, & I'm trying to see it , but honestly don't. I'm also trying not to be offended by this; it often comes after I've done so much work to make things fair/ right/ comfortable for all & sundry. Then the whispers start. Uggghhhh!
intimidation is a tool which we use to shoo away people who we think might cause distraction from what we are currently doing. Also nobody wants to be a jerk, but if we put a good face on, people take that privilege for granted, I would rather loose a person than loose a fantastic idea
We watch a lot of INTJ videos, so it makes sense to cater to the audience. The ESFP's probably watch the fewest videos, so it wouldn't make a lot of sense to make a lot of videos on that personality type.
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Me, an INTJ: I don't see why people think I'm so intimidating.
My face when I'm enjoying something: 😠
So true. I went to a concert and I loved it, but was asked why I wasn't having a good time.
Or they ask “Are you good? You look mad”
My bro who's an INTJ always has a poker face, looks like he was seeing inside ya soul.
😂that's true
@@badassteakhe probably is lol -ENTJ
Intj here, I’ve been called harsh and rude so many times even though I didn’t mean to be that way. Even my husband would get offended when I ask him questions because of the roughness and harshness of the words and the tones that comes out. He said, he felt like a suspect being interviewed by a detective 😂
As an intp, I can confirm I sound harsh without meaning to. Always offending people with my words.
How I think I look: 😁
How people say I look: You are intimidating and disagreeable. 😁
infj+intj mix here, people hates me because i take out the hidden agenda they are planning in each action they does XD
Honestly same.
Strong INTJ here. I'm so glad to understand that I'm not the problem at all. People are simply not as adept, intellectual and efficient as we are.
Time and energy wasted on explaining myself to others should be used for betterment of myself. Much more to learn there is.
Bro assumes that he's efficient and intellectual after some random youtube video says that he is 😂
😂😂😂
@@asaz8746 An INTJ knows himself.
i found no one on this planet straight forward enough to tell me what people really thought of me. But then, i found this.
The older I get, "good enough- is good enough". I don't sweat the little stuff near as much. It is a conscience effort, but I now choose the people close to me over my perfectionism.
On the other hand, my need for logic has grown to insanity levels. My need for alone time has become self-isolation. The older I get, the more I learn- the less I want any part of society. I am not a people fan- and yet I'm cursed to be one.
I recently realised how much I obsses over the smaller things, I really hate it and catch myself doing it way more than I should. Also the self isolation is so true, we already have limited energy couldn't be bothered with people anymore
As an INTJ woman I only give advice when asked unless it’s a life or death safety issue because people are allowed to think differently. I hate gossip which looks honest and hate guessing what people really mean.
We INTJs have a gift of razor sharp thinking that can cut through complication, confusion, and chaos. Trying to moderate how we think or speak is exhausting, and feels dishonest. Accommodating other folks insecurities or bad practices is a guaranteed way to diminish my own strength. Maybe the world can think of us like salt….a critical ingredient in the right amount.
I'm always shocked when a friend tells me they find or found me intimidating. The whole time I think I'm being extremely easy going and playful, and then I find out people are afraid to start a conversation. What do I do that approachable people aren't doing?
Hard to answer that, but thank for sharing this!
Use your brain.
It's because you guys tend not to follow social norms and tend to be too assertive and focused on yourself. That's the main reasons I noticed.
Presumably, your an INTJ? If so, maybe these are 2 reasons: I will add a few more later if you are a INTJ
number 1 on the list: you are not shy or timid about telling the brutal undiluted truth. That is something I've found in myself that intimidates pretty much everyone who is not a part of my inner circle of friends. They think they are always the target of brutal honest truth when I talk to them even if what I said doesn't necessarily apply to themand seem to feel like I am attacking them personally. As far as that goes, all I say to that is "if the shoe fits, wear it"
Number 2: you likely use sarcastic comments to call out crap, mock people who are stupid or foolish, or whatever the case may be, but at the same time you have a good sense of humor, but it is sarcastic as well I have said things sarcastically in different contexts many times while keeping a poker face attempting to be lighthearted or easygoing in my way, and then afterwards found from a mutual friend that they thought I was dead serious and that I was unbelievably rude, cold-hearted, and callus! My friend told me when we were discussing the matter that when we first met and started doing things together, he was often blown away and shocked by things I'd say until he learned to look for the underlying meaning of what I said; only then did he find my sarcasm, jokes, and comments to be humorous like I intended.
Another point that I could elaborate on that is a huge factor there is "arguing" properly termed "debating" if it comes from a INTJ, OR INTP but I'll cut this short for now.
More please!
Intp viewing Intj: A Kindred Spirit!
Intj viewing Intp: A defective Intj!
😂 while I can relate to that with my best friend who is an INTP, I realize that I have my faults and am not blind to them, so if he will overlook mine, I will definitely overlook his. I think we both think that of each other, so we get along very well! I think he is the only one alive who knows "the real me" or at any rate he is the only person who I dare to be myself around.
😂😂😂 Sadly true…
As an INTJ, I can say that people's opinion of me doesn't bother me very much. But probably they might think I'm a little aloof from society because I have a small social circle in real life, I often spend time alone and I like it that way. But probably the main thing that makes me strange to others is that I myself don't take many people seriously: their weird and silly jokes, over-emotionality, etc.
P.S. My acquaintances and friends often tell me about my brooding or even angry face. They suggest I find a partner or somehow change and do things I don't need to do at all. I rarely pay attention to these words, but somewhere in the back of my mind I get amused when people say that.
Alright!
Bro this is so true
Yes, I can relate to that with my friends! I'm not insecure in my beliefs or opinions, so what others think of me usually don't bother me at all.
I had a older brother that always had a big insincere cheezy smile everywhere he went; some people said that I was apparently "always pizzed off about something, and that he looked like he was grinning about whatever I was upset about" LOL! I was never mad as they thought, I was just absorbed in my own thoughts.
I'm an intj and I like to look at it as showing my strengths and weaknesses. So I make an effort to restain these natural impulses that people find off-putting, while still staying rational and convicted.
My best friend and my partner are both INTJs.
I think their straight forward honesty is very disarming for someone like myself who worries and second guesses how people view me.
I have very particular things I like and dislike as well so there's no way I'd fault someone for that, it's only an issue when someone gets overly controlling and micromanage the people around them. The INTJs I've met are not like that at all but maybe an unhealthy one could act that way.
Also, just like lot of introverts, they need their alone time to decompress. When an INTJ goes out of their way to spend time with you then it's because they Want to. I think it's a good way to recognize if they value your company or not, assuming they're not swamped with responsibilities.
Oh and the way they let their inner child out when they warm up to you is so adorable. ❤
If you have a chance to befriend or even woo an INTJ I Highly recommend! Don't let the RBF put you off, they're great company and fantastic friends.
- An INFP ❤
Interesting comment!
I knew it you're an INFP after reading just a first few sentences! 😄
Us INFPs love our INTJs 😊❤
A hug to you my INFP friend 🤗
It is very true that I only go out of my way to spend time with someone if I genuinely like them or attracted to them. I value my privacy and personal time very highly and will only spend my personal time with someone I really like. I live alone and prefer the quiet of my own house in the country most of the time.
are you infj? lol
My favorite is the "you need to cheer up" or "you never turn it off", or "just relax". Blunt, direct, details, facts, are all deemed harsh.
INTJ: I can’t pause people like I can pause a video. At least not and be considered socially proficient. Points go to the video.
:)
You can, but it's illegal.
This made me believe that I am really an INTJ. Everything was so accurate for me. 😩
I am an INTJ and from time to time I have heard back through the grape vine a how i am arrogant. That has always been a mystery to me.
I just tell them that I cant be arrogant because arrogance means "having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities." and I don't exaggerate. 😉
@@jimmywoolever798 lol. I think the real reason it happens with me is I say something sarcastically with a straight face and they never realized I was joking. [Edit, a friend of mine told me one time that if he didn't know me very well that he would think that I was serious when I made dry sarcastic comments, and that at first he thought I was trying to be offensive. ]
@@jimmywoolever798 another reason I think that some say I am arrogant is because when anyone tries to flatter me, my standard answer is "Yes, I am wonderful!🙃" Many people have thought I was speaking seriously
H8rs are going to h8.
Because us intj is so arrogant and teribble EQ . Sorry for natural . We'll try to fix it .
Of course "we'll try" :)
@@lonelygamer8836 😂😂😂
Indeed!
Stuff em. We are what we are. The wimps get nothing done. Without the movers and shakers, the sookynanas would still be living in caves.
Oh… intj and high eq here….
Good to see a video that doesn't sugar coat the more abrasive aspects
I remember asking questions at work. I made my boss cry not on purpose. But I guess my questions and tones were off. When I was just really curious trying to understand business goals.
I’ve never seen myself as intimidating but when I consider people’s behaviour around me, I think they feel intimidated by my knowledge. Rarely, if at all, anyone challenges me in my field of knowledge. I feel like they think I would destroy them with arguments, which is quite possible. However I’d rather have someone challenging me because that’s an opportunity to prove that I’m right OR iron out the issues so that I am really right. Then nobody can disprove my theory as I’ve answered all challenges.
Try being an INTJ Sigma male.
A very good troubleshooter that in a rare occurrence is heard.
But when others don't see a solution, an outside view is the solution.
Someone that naturally thinks of the whole and not stuck to norms.
As an INTJ who used to date an INTJ I can confidently say we are tbe most difficult personality to deal with, but on the bright side you get to learn so much about yourself with another INTJ because of our extreme straightforwardness.
I'm an INTJ. Yesterday I said so many things to my mom, and she is an ESFJ, so she is so sensitive. She almost cried. And my friend blocked me because he was shocked by my answer about his relationship (I told him she just wanted a benefit from you).. All I said was to stop them suffering, but they see I have no feelings.
Yes. I went to frank someone, was told I was too subjective and blocked me.
i always work on moderating my behaviors. the honesty thing is a real big one because i'd rather not say anything than bullshit someone out of "politeness".
still, i keep in mind that being honest isn't a free pass to being an asshole. i keep learning to speak my truth in a way that won't hurt other people's feelings. it's difficult and not always entirely possible to completely avoid hurting someone but i think i'd rather have people disliking me for who i am than loving a facade and then calling me a liar. i think it's easier to learn accepting/liking someone who's honest than forgiving someone who keeps lying to your face.
efficiency is a big deal for me too. i am willing to admit i was probably acting like a clown in the eyes of my classmates/peers but the teachers and later professors liked me. one time my prof gave me entire grade higher than what was i supposed to get because i helped him sort through his students' grade charts (about 60 people from different classes). the way he was doing it was taking ages because the documents were poorly sorted and he couldn't find anything. it was so funny when he got to my chart first and jokingly said out loud "lets get through miss impatient's grade first since she's in such a rush to catch her bus".
Life can be a fun adventure, INTJ.
It can!
life is fun because everything is fucked :P
🙂🙂
Life will submit to my will.
I've been so held back, by this pain and broken system
I don't really care about what others think
They are scary but amazing as freinds -entj
As an intj Yup I agree to most of it but about being ackward it occurs very rarely that ppl perceive this kind of my habit as harsh whenever I speak things in an ack ward way most of the ppl laughed at that...about independent yess it is true I have only small social friend circle only three ppl infp and infj they're really good only sometimes but they ignored my facts most of the times which is irritable and I can't get along with whole of the class even if I want to ....
Thanks for sharing!
I like being complimented on my intelligence, but I really don't need the feedback... I have the test scores to prove it.
You presented a fair description of the pros and cons of the INTJ personality. So, don't take this personally. But you made one mistake. You said INTJs are more analytical than intuitive. This is incorrect because INTJs are NI (introverted intuition) dominant.
Just because we tend to have deficiencies, it doesn't mean we should accept being cold or inconsiderate.
We can be better INTJs. We KNOW we can do better.
As INTJ, people seems to either hate me or love me. Prople will love me at my passion, bluntness and knowledge.
But it seems that every ESFJ i have met are super toxic towards me. They HATE me so much. It’s like they are programmed to hate me who speak truthfully, straightforward and they seems to hate people who can solve problems or have more skill than them. Every single of them see me as society Virus or something, they think they have right to smite me down. All of them betray me or gossips to sabotage my reputation. And they love to do the coward way of thinking i am the secret anime character i will never tell you my story and eavedrop on everyone else instead. Such annoying type
Omg, same problem with the ESFJs. I call them the "mean girls club". From, an INTJ female.
I’m an INTJ.
Great personality type!
Right, Right, Right and Right …
I am this person, but I find this to be exaggerated. I do not see myself as harsh to this degree. Yes, I find most people need change and criticism, but of course I care about their feelings. I always try not to say this to them in a hurtful way, and when I fail to give advice, I abstain from it. However, I may seem like this. I am harsh sometimes when angry. I just want to care about my friends’ feelings and I want to protect them, so I try not to tell them their faults.
Sometimes, dealing with people stresses me out because they are trivial. I just wish I could find a friend who looks like me. INTJ
I am INTJ A but people call me dumb lol 0:14 and I wonder why 🤔
@Kapoy If you are referencing INTJ-A and INTJ-T by the 16personalities... I have bad news for you...
@Kapoy Yes I have the same experience as you.
I'm an INTJ-A and 2 of my coworkers are INTJ-T. True enough like you said I act more like an ENTJ (better Te and Se) versus those two INTJ-T who are more reserved.
I don't dispute the Assertive vs Turbulent idea perse but its just that I refuse to use it as part of the 16 personalities. Reason being the theory about mbti (or cognitive functions) is that its supposed to be your personality since birth and it does not change by the environment and transformations in your life (developing cognitive functions are different from the base personality and can be affected by the environment but your orignal personality stays the same).
Now the turbulent and assertive are actually you can say maturity levels such that if you gather enough experience you can become assertive from turbulent in the future and vice versa.
That's why you can say you are an INFP-T now and then 10 years has passed and you have become INFP-A. That's why I don't like the A vs T attribute as its changeable according to your current state in life (young, old, rich, poor, etc) and doesn't define your personality but instead you define it according to your current mood in the present.
I hope that make sense, I usually lost people with a lot of words.
Why do you think is that?
I was told to be a "mind floating". But they do not know I have been thinking so many things.
In most situations, I consider myself fairly cheerful and amusing, and can convey a good sense of humor to people who "get" my humor. But then there's the other 85% of people who don't understand that when I'm mumbling and grumbling and appear to be yelling, that it's really just me embedding my strange sense of humor in my outward appearance of anger and frustration! At work, I constantly mumble under my breath, "Stupid morons!! Stupid, stupid morons!! My God! What a bunch of idiots!!" while I'm doing my tasks. But most of the time, it's just my way of turning anger into humor!!
Not to be specific but xSxJs gonna hate INTJs more cuz INTJ questions their hard build authorities
Not that I care what other thinks of me✨😁
I am writing this comment from the perspective that I just found out I am an INTJ female. Before i watch the video. If this is correct it will say that people think we are: Maninpulative, Cunning, Cold, and Mysterious. People constantly think I am a sociopath. But people who know me know I cry watching cartoon movies. 😢 The stories be so beautiful. Im going to write abother comment after the video.
Thanks for sharing!
110% verified lol even i think myself as such, my EQ is a negative number, sorry friends i tried
Thanks for sharing this!
INTJ are intimidating to me 😂
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Why?
@@PsychologyRefresh to me they seem so smart and serious at so many times 😅
Why? I am an INTJ and I can't understand what is intimidating about me to others. Contrary to popular belief, we don't go around anxiously looking for opportunities to hurt other's feelings or do them harm or embarrass them.😉 a lot of people I know think I do.
@@rashmihegde6410 Why does that incite fear in you? Do you not take your life seriously?
When they are in bad moods, don't even need to talk to them. It's another level of rude which I suspect they are not aware they are even in the bad mood.
I just either don’t talk at all or I have to say “not trying to be rude” whenever I need to talk
As an INTJ, I want to make more friends but I don't need too and that throws most college gets away. They also find me intimidating and cold
friends are dumb, they dont plan, they just wing it, They are loud mouth, they make the same mistakes again and again.
Why do people ask me for my expertise/analysis and then get mad if they don’t like my thoughts? Also bystanders will tell me that I should have said something nice. Tell a “white lie”. I never on purpose tell a lie. I do make mistakes.
As we get older we become more chill still misunderstood but we really never cared lol
i feel attacked, very very accurately attacked lol.
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"unimportant in the grand scheme of things", hits this guy over the head with a book on chaos theory, screams, "are you mad, everything is about those little things", then laughs maniacally, and vanishes in a puff of smoke
I get the you should sugar coat things more often and I'm like theirs no sense in doing that. I also told off my parents when I was in my teenage years with only using facts, reasons, and words they said so many times that I felt like they hated me sometimes I knew they didn't. And also I didn't care for attending funerals for family members that we knew that they were going to pass soon because I was more focused on setting myself up for college.
My problem is I'm cold all the time and silent 😶 no react face and my only friend is an intp
I'm an INTJ that has watched an endless number of these videos that describe me exactly. But I always question if these are horoscope-like descriptions that appeal to everyone. My question is what non-INTJ's think of these behaviors. Everything in this video is me exactly, but do, for example, ENTJs or ESFJs sympathize or are they like, "totally not me."
Basically, I'm trying to figure out if this is som astrology bullshit, or there is some legitimacy. There have been admissions that none of this has any scientific support, but it really does plug into how I see myself and my behavior.
8:20 there u go doesn't intj known for their intution and as we all know intellectual intuition is better than emotional intuition in terms of accuracy.....
Of course, Myers Briggs is only one model for evaluating personality. People annoy me but I'm sure that I annoy other people as well. It's expected in my estimation, and I don't understand why people get so ruffled when trying to understand and discuss things. I just want to understand everything, so whatever. I am classified as INTJ.
Words I’ve heard a lot: aloof, direct, harsh (on a bad day). 😂
I hate INTJ's more than any other personality type, and I want to put my honest opinion out here as to why that is. The points will be true for many of the INTJ's I've met, but there will always be exceptions.
INTJ's are arrogant; they think everyone is stupid and that they know more, and all the while, they just stand there while everyone is trying their best and just complain and complain, while doing nothing themselves.
INTJ's are insensitive; this is usually not intentional, true, but at their worst, they try to solve traumas with logic when it's more of a feeling problem. It's the worst when you are struggling with something personal, and then INTJ's just come along and tell you that you should see a psychiatrist, are mentally unstable, and should consider medication when you open up to them.
INTJ's are narrow-minded; I've never seen a personality as narrow-minded as INTJ's. Usually other types are at least respectful about it, but INTJ's are the type of people that will cut you off because you believe in say, riding horses being ok, and they believe it's human superiority, animal slavery, or whatnot. The cutting off part is also part of being insensitive, they don't care how it will affect you; they just expect all their friends to always have the exact same opinion as them, or agree with them, and cuts off anyone who doesn't, then turns around and start writing some post about INTJ's being lonely. It's kind of hypocritical.
Can you clear my doubt my friend did mbti test he got ISTJ countinuesly but he always think about future but he more interested in physical activities and also he not a daydreamer or creative. How a sensor can focus or think about future?
Sensors do thing about the future as well!
It me
I feel like this is the equivalent of an astrology channel but for people who consider MBTI their zodiac - INTJ, Leo, Scorpio rising lol. I'm a tyrant to be
Lol I’m an INTJ Taurus sun, Scorpio moon. Literally a tempest in a teacup unless I’m actively moderating myself
Worst thing u can do is to judge an intj like this 😂
Story of my life , always seen as the one who told the kids there is no Santa . If all you want is to get your fifis massaged , why are you asking me what i think ?
Lol i feel called out
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Me before the video: Let me see this nonsense, as connecting myers- Briggs personality quizzes to real life scenarios is problematic because the science behind it is specious
Me during the video:
Yes
Of course
100%
Absolutely
Is there another way to react to this?
Yes
Every time
Number 4 is wrong at its core ,,, I analyse to figure out grand scheme not analyse while losing grand scheme 😂 u r not intj for sure.
I hv heard that INTJs come off as intimidating, & I'm trying to see it , but honestly don't. I'm also trying not to be offended by this; it often comes after I've done so much work to make things fair/ right/ comfortable for all & sundry. Then the whispers start. Uggghhhh!
It's our death stare.
intimidation is a tool which we use to shoo away people who we think might cause distraction from what we are currently doing. Also nobody wants to be a jerk, but if we put a good face on, people take that privilege for granted, I would rather loose a person than loose a fantastic idea
It's not logical that such people often live their lives alone. Society should find such people valuable and give them 1 (one) neco-wife.
Two words: off-putting! That’s how nearly everyone finds me.
I often am told I'm abrasive.
I do wish I could turn my overactive brain off once in awhile.
A little😅
Not complaining, but why do your videos become so INTJ focused recently?
There will be other types as well!
We watch a lot of INTJ videos, so it makes sense to cater to the audience. The ESFP's probably watch the fewest videos, so it wouldn't make a lot of sense to make a lot of videos on that personality type.