Watching from Nigeria. I really enjoyed your conversation. I think it depends on the perspective you are looking at. I think African men need to step up a bit, however they are not doing badly. Our women also need to appreciate us more and not compare us to the men in the West (U.S, U.k). My marriage is 9 years by the grace of God and I am enjoying the wife of my youth. Romance is good, but its not everything required to keep a relationship or marriage. Financial stablility, kindness, senstivity and emotion maturity is key. Nice channel, I just subscribed.
Truth is, Nigerian men will keep giving you forever. They're raised to be both providers & romantic. A Nigerian woman doesn't have to do a lot, don't just cheat & be a supportive woman.
Nigerian and Liberian men really know how to cook food very well. Seems to me like they learned how to cook food from childhood. They clean the food properly before cooking it. After the food has been cooked, it tastes very good.
Harlequin romance novels and of course television. Even though this is true we must take the time out to show that we appreciate the gift God has given us.
@@kevinfowler8712 yall may be right but I gotta say it doesn't take to much for us to care about our women n show some love and be genuinely in love with to woman.
I love Rachael's contribution... There's no need of faking love.... Men are built as warriors, protectors and providers... No need to be carrying ladies bag. African culture and upbringing is quite different from other continent....
I'm an American Black Woman and Oshay I hope that you are schooling these young ladies and that you are in truth about today's topic in knowing the destruction that these fake romance perspectives and behaviors have caused in the Americas. These young ladies are too young and they don't know the full ramifications of not having emotional control. I'm not saying women shouldn't be emotionally supported but where does one draw the line? Some of what these were saying is an immature perspective that "may" lead these women to having a "potentially" high body count, emotionally drained, unmarried, unsatisfied, spiritually dismantled, and eventually potentially alone because they won't be able to peer bond. These ladies have to be mindful of what they are doing "unconsciously" to themselves when they jump from guy to guy in exchange for money in some form (mobile topup, groceries, etc.) and then when the women don't get what they want from one guy they move on to the next. So basically why should men trust settling down with these types of ladies. Life has ups and downs, and if the man has a problem in life financially will these young ladies just leave him instead of helping to lift the man when he's down on his luck?
You should be a pastor because you are speaking the gospel 🕊️🌞. In all seriousness we should all be aware of the toxic seeds from the bad apples in western culture. Nigeria and Congo are two of the most westernized countries in Africa and their is a small percent of men there who have made wealth from abusing the people and resources in their country. Those are the men they are speaking about not the everyday people in the villages, cities, and slums who cannot even afford a plane ticket out Nigeria or the congo. They are basically African passport bros lol 📘.
@@alieast3196 And, the crazy thing is that people are following the "WEST" and other cultures with perspectives and behaviors that are damaging not only to the mind but to the body and the spirit. We are supposed to follow a higher power (whatever name you put on it). We are supposed to let our ancestors and higher forces guide us but instead, we are allowing the wickedness of man to lead us by the nose and place "evil agendas" before us that do not serve us. Some of these agendas are subtle and look innocent but in the end, they are the most destructive because they are noticed when it's too late. Many are functioning without higher principles and because of such they have nothing that gives them a baseline. Your principles help you to know where to draw the line. When you don't have principles, then anything goes and people can be steered in a direction that is damning. Again, having principles is a way of setting boundaries of knowing what you will do and not do. Culture is bigger than an individual person. You must hold principles so your children will know what to stand on. We should have individual principles that benefit the whole. People are letting misguided perspectives and behaviors dictate what has been proven to not be good in the long run. People are looking for instant gratification and a quick $dollar and not what will hold them and their community together for the long haul. The other crazy thing is that if I were to call a woman who jumps from man to man a whore or a prostitute, she would be offended. But when you look up the meaning and the etymology of the word, they would fit the description exactly. And you don't need to stand on the street to be such. Believe it or not, this is why some people can't connect intimately. They have too many other people's energies on them. Many do not hold their bodies as temples (male and female). Not everyone deserves your energy not to mention sex can be a dirty thing, physically as well as spiritually i.e. disease, blockages in life, etc. Both males and females are prostituting and compromising themselves for less than nothing because they don't see themselves in high regard. It is what it is and I'm not judging but I am wondering, when did we lose our creativity to make something from nothing. I agree with you it's not all (in whatever locale) however we must be aware of these damaging perspectives that are like a virus. We must protect ourselves from this at all costs. We all must think higher and carry ourselves in that manner. Respect yourself first and then others will respect you. We have forgotten who and what we are supposed to stand for. You don't need to be a pastor to speak the truth. We had principles of truth way before the advent of the Bible, Christianity, and Islam. The spirit of a higher order was once in us and we carried ourselves in that way. Many no longer carry themselves in such a way and the ones that do are looked upon as if something is wrong with them. So, it is up to you to seek the truth in all things even if it hurts and no matter what anyone says. At least then, when you see yourself going the wrong way you can adjust and self-correct. I'm here as a black American woman (there are still some good ones out here) who is a living witness to the destruction of our people all around the world and it saddens me.
Mmm ,Oshay doin better. At least he maturing to community consciousness. Baby steps……..baby steps. Good job Oshay!! Why do some of these ladies sound like men??
I wish they could realize, right now as a man doing we'll in Nairobi Kenya, it's difficult to find marriage oriented young woman ..... They evolved to something completely foreign to us, they copy and paste everything they see from Hollywood.....
To be honest, Nigerian men would be romantic because they grew up seeing it around them. Nigerian men wouldn't see anything wrong serving their wives ...cooking, gifts, helps shopping and above all romantic sexy etc
One thing I really REALLY love about this channel is that you guys don't constantly talk over each other and you let people finish their point. Big ups!
This problem is not unique to them. The brotha shared a valid point. Women all over the world see Hollywood romance and desire the same. Thank you for sharing.
It is just a cultural thing. African culture sees the man as a giver and the girl as a receiver. But times have changed and the giving and receiving goes both ways. Love ya all.
Opinions are like A holes, everyone's got one. I'm sure other people have the same sentiments for Nigerian men, against the men you're praising. Big up to Africans, simple, why hate and throw shade?🤣
As a Nigerian, I respect you immensely for loving your fellow east African men. For me, love knows no boarder. If I find love in Uganda, Kenya, South Africa, Senegal or anywhere, I will settle with her.
Another Nigerian. You definitely should at least show respect to your men. So not sure what this whole thing is about. Nigerian women do their thing, so you'll hardly hear complaints other than the usual fun gender banter. And of course our African/black ladies generally are awesome. I will say as a man in the diaspora, Nigerian men definitely get a lot of love across race, culture and ethnicity so we're not complaining😇
I am a culprit lol West african in UG who married east african women Interesting topic Edit: it is a (cultural) thing that men from certain tribes in west africa, at the least the ones that i know, would spend enough on their wives. It is not simping, but a responsibility. That being said, these men would expect their wives to keep up with their responsibilities as well.
Hahahaha🤣. This is one of my favorite episodes. Although I never ask for money, I agree with what Joanita, Khuhani, and Racheal said because I noticed what they said about East African men.
What most people don't understand about My Niaja bro is that we are raise to fear woman, and to respect woman, also we know that the more we treat our woman right, they have the potential of Give us that Blessing to grown in our business...
The fact of being poor guy and no woman interested in you is all over Africa and it's not because women only want money, it's feminine nature. Women by nature wants security both physically, economically and financially, even intellectually. I have had this issue of east African men not being romantic as west African counterparts. However, i believe east African women could figure out the comparison became west African men becomes available for them. It's always like that in life when you have experience of two sides. I believe our east African men can make changes.
I have been to several clubs, lounges, hotels, exotic restaurants etc in DRC and the way Nigerians spend money can't be compared to the Congolese at all. Nigerians are top spenders. In December 2019 just before the covid, I travelled with 2 of my Nigerian friends to DRC for 8 days and we spent a total of $34,800 on exotic drinks and champagnes in the club in just 3 days. The club owner told the DJ to stop all french music and play strictly Nigerian music throughout our stay. Nigerians love fun and wouldn't mind the cost. They're big spenders.
Spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks” over the course of 8 days is just sheer INSANITY! Over those same 8 days my total expenditure would be less than $45 TOPS! And I’m a 7 figure man!) $1,000,000+ 🙄
@@bobsecret199 @bobsecret199 Nigerians love fun and it doesn't sound insane to them. I don't think spending $34,800 on exotic drinks is a big deal to a group of young Nigerian men who are worth millions of dollars and own gold mines in Conakry, Mali and Goma DRC. They went on a business trip and equally had fun. I don't see that as insane as long as they were happy and it doesn't affect their business and investments negatively.
@@11damilola I’m certain that the vast majority of Nigerians know NOTHING about having “fun” as much as men like me! And I have FAR more wealth than most Nigerians dare to even fantasize about! But anybody that equates spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks” 🍹 🥤 🍺 as “fun” is truly lacking …in MANY ways! The AVERAGE household in Nigerian earns just a bit more than $200 USD per MONTH! So let’s not pretend that most Nigerians know ANYTHING at all about wealth! In the USA we blacks who actually ARE wealthy …and did _not_ grow up in poverty can ALWAYS recognize NEW MONEY and the people who DID! The NEW MONEY blacks are prone to do all of the childish flexing and love to wear expensive jewelry, drive fancy cars and to be seen. What they are far too dumb to realize is that there is an entire industry of people who get rich and make a living off of their zeal for relevancy. They know that these hood rich people have NO idea what the difference is between a $100,000 watch and an $800 watch. They have absolutely NO idea what fine aged wine tastes like or should taste like as compared to something picked up at the corner liquor store. They can’t tell REAL gold from FOOLS gold and they can’t tell a diamond from a cubic zirconia. You could pick up something from Target and tell a hood rich negro that it’s a designer original and that the label is very exclusive and they will pay 100x more for it than it costs at the store. (Petty people are just that desperate to be relevant or to APPEAR rich!) All you have to do is act a certain way and talk a good game and put a high price tag on something and a hood rich negroe is extremely EASY to fleece! The poverty class always make a MUCH bigger deal about their relatively NEW money and love to flaunt it, toss it around and spend it frivolously…and FOOLISHLY! But the people like ME who have NOTHING to prove and are used to wealth tend to be significantly more frugal and conscientious about how we spend it. Men like me have MUCH more in common with men like Elon Musk …THE wealthiest man (by FAR) on the entire PLANET 🌍…and NOTHING in common with the typical RAPPER …who grew up in poverty in “da hood!” It sounds like these Nigerians share this _HOOD_ mentality when it comes to money! Spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks and champagnes …in the club …in just 3 days” is something that I’d be too EMBARRASSED to admit to! ESPECIALLY if I came from a country as dirt poor as Nigeria! 😖 After you consume all these “exotic drinks and champagnes” it all comes out as rancid smelling yellow *_PISS!_* And the people who mixed up the drinks and sold them to you are LAUGHING at you behind your back! 😄😁🥲😅😂🤣
When it comes to dating you can see Nigerian men being very passionate, this is due to Nigerian’s culture where commitment and love is a way of life, That's why most Nigerian men date to get to the aisle in no distance time, because a typical Nigerian man is family-oriented so living happily ever-after is their end game. Nigerian men are taught right from a young age to treat the female child lovingly. Be aware that Nigerian men are also dating and marrying women from other countries. In Africa Nigerian men are getting married to South Africa and Kenya women most especially and also not only in Africa but in Europe and America. Don't forget Nigerian men they're selfless men and they'll go any length to do things for the one they loves. Nigerian men they're always having a firm determination and desire to be successful. Dating a Nigerian man is soothing as they treat their partners like a queen.This means you remain the heart while he is the head. By so doing you both will be in symbiotic kind of relationship.
@@tzunammi I'm Igbo and this trait is seen not only in my region but nationwide. We have dwelled among us so long that we now share things in common. So yeah, Nigerian men...
As a NIgerian man, if u want a peace of mind, listen uganda men, when u get married, give all your salary to your wife and tell her to use the money to pay all the bills in the house including the house rent, that way, she can't be asking u money, cause she already knows what's coming in. then get your side hustle on to keep that extra money for your self.
Then you make her look outside to "support" the family. The whole matter is one of education. The woman needs to know for herself what real life is, not one based on fake expectations that is actually lots of body counts.
@@johnolaoluwa Women have unique ways of thinking that differ from men, much like the distinction between the operating systems of an iPhone and an Android device. Once you grasp that concept, u are on your way.Koye e..
@@christset It is not as hard as people try to make it. Women love naturally, but find it unnatural to submit.... Men don't find it natural to love - that is why the Bible commands the woman to submit and the man to love. Disobedience to this simple command leads to problems, which neither can handle. So, I understand where you are coming from about giving her the salary to pay all the bills, including the ones you incurred, it makes her feel in total control - that is still wrong. She should be in control of building the home while the man should be in charge of protecting the family. ... It is that simple.
😂 This is the most conviction Joanita has displayed in a video! She's taking that Feminist training program to heart! Lmbo😂! Funny episode. From Team Stingy!
@@joanitamaaya Nigerian women will say, marriage vows, "for better for stay, for worse for go"🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️. They not hanging around for the in sickness part, they only want in health part.😂😂😂
@@joanitamaaya you look like you have a whole husband tucked away in a suitcase somewhere. 🤣🤣🤣 You're not pressed! Big Daddy Oshay can have you married off by noon. 🤣😁😁
Honestly, as a Nigerian man, based on the responses of the Uganda/ Kenyan guy I can see why their women prefers a Nigerian or Congolese man. Its true we like to spend money but the truth is you need to understand women's love language. If you want to catch a monkey act like one. Women want everything they desire but its not possible for them to get all they want... its just not possible. If you put that statement into perspective you will get any woman you desire.
As a Nigerian man, we just don’t spend blindly like this video would portray, we do spend and sometimes even more than the other guy and that’s cause we want you and we believe you are worth it, the moment you don’t show or meet up to our wants or the Value or potential we see in you because maybe you became lazy or entitled, that is when we leave you. It gets worse if we find out that you are after the money and what we can give that makes you the same with the other girls out there and we will do and act accordingly with you.
Bruh stop the cap, I'm Nigerian too and too many of our men blindly spend hoping to get sex. We have a whole lot of men hyper focused on getting cash just so they can get women and they fail to build emotional connections with these women because that's what society makes them believe. Why do you think we have too many cases of cheating partners and the rest.
Seems like it boils down to exoticism where the women have negative impressions of the men in their area and gravitate to other men from different areas because it's exotic and exciting to them.
@@tombimashri8149 Yea but that’s literally any relationship/marriage. Difference is women are now more than usual extremely SCARED. Scared of struggling, they start out broke, they do bare minimum or well for themselves and have to depend on her man’s income primarily so if you seem financially unstable, how can she trust that you both will be financially ok together?? Yes, I understand the gold digging aspect, entitlement, spoiled money draining. I get that but them not the ONLY women out there either. If them the only ones you come across. Learn, analyze, reflect, and choose a different quality of women. Choose better. That choice can be where you are or elsewhere. The trick is knowing what you want and learning where to find what you want and whether you are what they want in return.
@@blackblaze5271 I agree with your statement. My reasoning for the word exotic. You say people complain the most about their own. So they like different than their own. There’s generally a fascination with the different. It sounds different, behaves a bit or a lot different, it’s unexplored, new, exciting, romanticized. Pretty much describes exotic.
@@Frainkey well said. And, most women got to realize what they want in a man doesn't come ready made. Most times woman and the man in her life got to work together to get their relationship to the level and quality they want for both of them. Unfortunately most women want everything to come ready made, the money, romance, maturity, too notch love, etc. It doesn't work like that in real life.
I never commented before on this podcast before but today I just subscribe I love to see that you can have a discussion about dating and it doesn't turn in to hate like in the states and the woman never said all men. I luv to hear everyone perspective so keep doing you'll thing.
Ladies and gentlemen I am from Nigeria. The thing is I put priority above anything. If I would date any woman, she must be of substance. I believe guys should be romantic. If u can't do great things, do small things in a great way. You don't need to be super rich to woo a woman. In the long run she may be the one that will pay your bills. Go to saloon with her, check on her, reassure her. And make sure u r dealing with someone that is ready to be with u. With these ladies will like u.
Why must it be men stressing to make the women feel loved and wanted all the time? Why can't women also make men feel wanted and loved? Yet they want men to do certain 'unmanly' things to feel equal and in same power wavelength with men. Basically wanting to eat their cake and have it.
One thing I can say about Joanita, she is great at making any good man run into the arms of another woman. Every 30 seconds she says the words money. Who wants dat headache?
Sincerely, there is nothing wrong in investing in your lady. I am not talking of those asking for birthday money, data top up, and petty stuffs of such with the same breath there is nothing bad doing these things for her occasionally.
As a congolese woman , congolese women love their men. They are not to much into west African men unless they are from a francophone country. Especialy cameroon and ivoiran becaude they are the closest to our men
Don't generalize it's not all of us. These are central region women belonging to the "Baganda" tribe so majority tend to be after money they are the gold diggers of today so to find awife go to other parts of the country where the women are traditional and other tribes.
Yes your woman is your BIG business! She delivers unparalleled returns!! The more you invest, the more HONEY she delivers!!! Her sweetness only multiplies by the exponent of your investment. 💯
I am from Côte d’Ivoire living in Japan for over 20 years. I first found Ugandan and Kenya ladies in Japan. I found out that Est African ladies are respectful and hard working people.And they are sincere when in love.While Ugandan and Kenyan ladies are taught to respect their men,the opposite is not true.Your men are stingy. In west Africa men are taught to love their women but the women are rude and are not focused on love.Every action west African ladies make is calculated to take more from their men. I want Est African ladies and I am already in relationship with a Kenyan lady ❤And I want her to be the mother of my children 😊
It does not take a lot to be romantic. Kind words and compliments; a walk in the park in the park, flowers, or a thoughtful deed can be just as romantic. A man who doesn't think a woman is worth treating special is not going to find a special woman. If a woman wants to be treated right, she must find a man that treats her the way she wants to be treated. Just because a man is strong doesn't means he should not be treated with tenderness. At the same time, just because a woman is empowered doesn't mean she should not be made to feel special.
@@mpendakiswahili3053 If someone gave me a sure tip on the stock market, I would not refuse it just because I got it from a white man. If I found a $100 bill on the ground; I would leave it there because there was a yt man's face on it... They do not have a monopoly on romance and they damn sure don't deserve it more than we do. It worked for me! If it works, use it.
Wow! Joanita is emotionally blasing here For me what I've noticed over the years is men or women from another country or continent they are regarded or rather perceived as so romantic than local ones same goes to different race relationships
🤣🤣🤣 I like Brian's composure in this one Ladies need to work to get attention from the Man The Man needs to be prepared to give these Ladies attention. period.
I’m a Ugandan man born in UG and raised in the west. So I’m exposed enough to see from both sides. It’s true that Ugandan men lack romantic skills. HOWEVER! Ugandan women aren’t that better either. Unless you find a very well brought up and educated Ugandan lady, the default is that these women’s idea of romance is showering them with money constantly. These women lack social skills. As someone who is brought up to hold a conversation on a date and make the setting interesting, the vast majority of Ugandan women I’ve taken on a date really lack skills in making small talk. It’s like all they bring to the table is a big butt and a pair of breasts in exchange for money. This is perhaps the reason why Ugandan men treat women like objects, because that’s the dating language. It’s honestly frustrating, because I’ve genuinely tried finding meaningful relationships more than just sex, and it’s hard to find someone with a sober mindset.
I couldn't agree with you on some, both men and wemen are raised the same way , men too are not there emotionally cause they view it as weakness and wemen believe looking good , satisfying a man sexuallybis what men desire which is more true according to me and wemen to look good they need money ...that's y they always want money to look good for a man
Keep going down this western materialism and transactional relationship and prepare for the same destoryed dating environment as the west. East African women be careful what you wish for.
It is is a cultural and normal thing in Nigeria to spend on women. It is not that we are showing off. I have seen guys pay their girlfriend school fees. Even the guys may not necessarily end up marrying those ladies but they still spend and care.
That a man spends money lavishly on a woman does not necessarily mean he is romantic and otherwise. "Romantic" derives from the emotional affinity that a man has with his woman that elevates her above her peers; a treatment that generates the aura of being special among other women around her; a genuine, non-pretended treatment that projects her as a prized Gem within the man's capacity economically and otherwise.
Some Nigerian men may even cheat but they will pamper thier women.. they way you treat your woman is the way society judges you. much respect is giving to men who take very good care of thier women. The man can even go without to make sure his woman is okay. It's not about spending the money only its making your girl feel like a baby girl, flatter her, sweet words etc
The African men grows with everything but not in marriage and romantic relationship. Just too bad! The Nigerian men are ever upgrading in these areas and others are hating on us.
We are monadic people, the boards are colonial made, there is lots of women on the continent, feel free to explore any woman from west, east, central and southern. Don’t feel like you have to be confined to one region in Africa. (We are Africans)
Same here you hear these so called good lovers from the most populous country in africa that they know how to look after their women etc all lies no love at all just business ATM thing few EA women who go for them only go for them not because of love NO only one thing MONEY believe Me I've see most of those so called love ends up with tears I've seen it and our EA women will be left broken sometimes with kids then they start to look for a man from back home or Europeans If they do love them let them stop giving money,phone contract and all fake stuffs to see if they'll stay around after all if a man knows in order to keep you He must use his wallet then you are a working girl he will be cheating behind your back aswell Yes you should take care of your woman but any woman who cames to me because I can offer or give money financial stuffs that's NO NO because if someone with more money than you shows up you will be dropped immediately I've seen it So slay queen's are NO NO ill avoid them
I have a woman now who don't watch my money, she just wants my love & loyalty.(I finally found a real woman in 2023, so I'm going to stay with her for life).
What about when she mentioned about the the guy leaving her on the express road for her to cross the road herself instead of driving into the compound.
Nigerian men are the ones who come with the money…. in the black community. The French speaking African men bring the romance sweet talking… I am not sure what the East African men are known for…
East African men are known to be stingy😂😂😂 They are more financially stable than the West African men, but very toxic. The society in East Africa makes their women respectful, and kind but they never hold accountable to their men. They are so entitled. I think Black American women and East African men should just do a collab to see who can be mean towards the other... All Hell will break loose 😂😂😂
we fix our countries. thats why these are the areas everyone want to visit. you dont waste money and "romance" on low quality women..reason you dont see eastern africa men roaming africa looking for women and hustle. they go to europe or americas. basically we dont simp. look at congo and nigeria? great places to move in? nope.
I am Haitian 🇭🇹 American and have spent time in East Africa, specially Kenya, the women there love to have monthly allowances & want to also be treated like western women, wine 🍷 dine, be romantic, bring flowers, bring gifts. The western influence is undeniably strong in East Africa to a group of men who have not been brought up in such a culture in there family household.
Lie lie in Nigeria women has biggest population stop lying is just that Nigeria men knws that other Africa women respect them more than Nigeria women. Nigeria men spend in women but Nigeria women ar not appropriating it but other part appreciate it than them
@@aao449 what negative drama.. maybe in the past. Now nigerian men are not looked at negatively, except by those jealous African men. Our music and entertainment has changed our image.. you are talking about before not now. Even some of u east african men, are benefiting from our music. A lot of u clowns used to be ashamed of ur culture here in the United states.
@@afckajjansi this is a world wide extinction tactics..think about - mostly blk women are not being chosen anymore blk men are going else where.. -think about what will happen..👩🏾🍼 -think about the white business man who promoted these ideas thru tv,music,art,etc
Joanita made her case big time on this episode. I can't speak on Nigeria, but on the context of American men, we are raised Hollywood and R&B. So it's common to spoil a woman.
In America i was married to two amazing women for six years, one for 25 and now, im in Africa with three baby mommas raising my four year old son alone. West African men may be a catch but these women? They as reasonable facsimiles of western weaponized feminists...
@mpenda kiswahili i was married to two for six years one for 25 and now im in Africa with three baby mommas raising my four year old son alone. West African men may be a catch but these women? They as reasonable facsimiles of western weaponized feminists...
Great topic guys, much thanks to Rachel for being the most neutral, hope we get to see her one day, I agree with the ladies however, I think there also needs to be more of creativity suggestions in terms of activities to do that contribute to the romance vibes from the ladies side and not leave everything to the East African brothers given their weakness as stated by Rachel. For Joan 😂😂😂, she is good looking and will for sure find that man of her dreams one day. Great content guys, keep on.
This will make sense if it was East African women going to live in West Africa. Most men who migrate to other countries for economy to upgrade their living standards are usually at the bottom of food chain in the said country they relocated to. This kind of men get women at the bottom of society who lost local market but they still want a guy who can work like a horse for them. The foreign guy is looking to fit in and be accepted in the new society and have access to certain benefit from the system so there is demand. Real men are never measured by what they do in foreign countries that are already built by other men but we measure them by were they come from. I am from South Africa, looking at East African men and west African men, East African men have built a better stable region as compared to west Africa. You don't see both men and women from East Africa flocking to West Africa to upgrade their living standards because is likely to be a downgrade, the opposite cant be said. This relate with South, we have the most successful region in Africa, you will hardly meet people from Southern Africa migrating to any region in Africa but we have every kind of African in the South
I couldn't have said it better. Generally, the women who hook up with these Nigerian or West African men, for the most part, tend to come from the lower ranks of society, at least in my experience. Strange, you never see many of these West African men take these women back to Nigeria or West Africa. I wonder why! You'll also find that East African men will not touch these women with a barge pole; they are not seen as wife material.
@@MrMatujames Well articulated. To my observation, It seems like west African men have most inferiority complex in Africa and not proud of their genetic make up hence they seem to lust over foreign women than theirs. They seem to think other regions are supirior to them. They the only men I see doing content on women from other countries while you hardly see other men creating content around their women. This behaviour is also seen with some black American men and is very weird for me been a South African men. We don't put other women on pedestal because it will make us appear inferior, coming to think about it, I never see East African men do this the North African men are even worse, they very proud of their region and they stick to their own. This kind of content is mostly created by West African men and they seem to need a constant validation. In reality, no group of people are just naturally preferred over others, people end up with anyone they can for their own mutual benefit. It will be weird for me if I start to see my fellow Southern men doing this kind of content, I will quickly call them to order and avoid embarrassing us.
@@lozi4163 Your comment is trash and pointless. You be mumu. UK and US women find it very hard to resist Nigeria men when it comes to relationship and romance for so many reasons, is not only East Africa and South Africa women.
Thats very true. Im Gambian & Sierra Leonian (on my Mum’s side) Born & bred in London.. been going to Gambia since the mid 90s & its true… they see everyone else from different countries as better than them. They really lack self belief & respect. Its REALLY bad. They’re almost a defeated people.. things will change though,they MUST.
@@djhuiti100 I feel you but I hardly interact with Gambian folks, most folks I see from west Africa encourages this kind of behaviour mostly from the obvious Nigeria, some from Ghana and Senegal, Liberians turn to have a different mindset. What i see with most west Africans is that they encourage this and is mostly because they dont really see what it does and women also play into their heads like how white women play in the heads of black men. I always compare this to how a black men is obsessed with wyte women, even a left over from wyte men is still a price for a black dude
What's with the push to make nigerian men some kind of top prize? Some people try so hard to promote this idea it's weird. Some people like them some don't, everyone has their preference. There's no need to create a myth
Nigeria has 220million people, this UA-camrs do this for numbers, no women are flocking to live in Nigeria be it after Nigerian men or Nigeria itself but YoutTubers want views at the end of the day. if i leave my country and go live in Nigeria, who am i likely to date as a man? this is not rocket science and nothing special about foreign men because if there was, their countries will be shining and attracting women to migrate there but is always the opposite
@@lozi4163 We are monadic people, the boards are colonial made, there is lots of women on the continent, feel free to explore any woman from west, east, central and southern. Don’t feel like you have to be confined to one region in Africa. (We are Africans)
@@giftofgodstarnorth6363 Economic migrants and refugees are not explorers, explorers are traveler's and they usually visit multiple countries and they have money, they not beggars in foreign countries living in one apartment with 25 people. Why are you trying to sell a false image here online when we ca see everyday in my country how poor are so called explore's? dude migration and travelling is not the same thing. I can name many SA companies in west Africa including Chinese, USA and England, what companies can you name for so called explore's? i am talking about multi billion corporate. Most of you are beggars but go ahead and sell a false image here online
This’s a very good topic. I think every culture, country and animals king express love differently. Lions and peacocks express love differently. Many of u guys hv balance and healthy ideas. I like them. What I noticed is that Joanita seems to be interested in American culture. U don’t hv to compare Ugandan man with Netflix/ American man. Just get marry to a Western man. It’s okay with us. I was in Uganda for 5 years. I saw many men showing love to their wives. There are many ways romance can be expressed. We don’t hv to always look for the west to teach us. Let observe and study hw African men express romance and then create a platform where Ugandan men or other African men can learn. Don’t just say somethings without a deep research about them. Joanita, let me also add that you are beautiful and seem intelligent. Thank you Kenganda for this topic.
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Bro, you should explain what the marriage rate is like here in America, with all this romance.
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...at the end of the day, does that lead to marriage and a family.
Watching from Nigeria. I really enjoyed your conversation. I think it depends on the perspective you are looking at. I think African men need to step up a bit, however they are not doing badly. Our women also need to appreciate us more and not compare us to the men in the West (U.S, U.k). My marriage is 9 years by the grace of God and I am enjoying the wife of my youth. Romance is good, but its not everything required to keep a relationship or marriage. Financial stablility, kindness, senstivity and emotion maturity is key. Nice channel, I just subscribed.
Truth is, Nigerian men will keep giving you forever. They're raised to be both providers & romantic. A Nigerian woman doesn't have to do a lot, don't just cheat & be a supportive woman.
and some will cheat.
Nigerian and Liberian men really know how to cook food very well. Seems to me like they learned how to cook food from childhood. They clean the food properly before cooking it. After the food has been cooked, it tastes very good.
And, so we should cook as well...
So no eastfrican man know how to cook??
@@finedash5744 they do, but very few you'll find them in the kitchen cooking......
@@mpendakiswahili3053 yes you should cook
@@amandaeguale1641 are you okay in the head!!!....
I’m not East African , I’m not American , I’m entertained. Fire episode 💥😂
That brother s right. Women are affected by the Hollywood Western movies on romanticism, which is the Roman way.
Especially the host. She is so Americanized
I agree. All I hear is roman-antics. Its pretty disappointing to be honest & im all for treating my woman like a Queen.
Harlequin romance novels and of course television. Even though this is true we must take the time out to show that we appreciate the gift God has given us.
With all thy getting, get thee understanding.(Proverbs 4:7)
@@kevinfowler8712 yall may be right but I gotta say it doesn't take to much for us to care about our women n show some love and be genuinely in love with to woman.
He will make every Girl in his life feel special, truly, 🇳🇬✔️
As a Nigerian woman, you all need to take it easy with each other. You ppl are really going for each other’s jugular.
I love Rachael's contribution... There's no need of faking love.... Men are built as warriors, protectors and providers... No need to be carrying ladies bag. African culture and upbringing is quite different from other continent....
I'm an American Black Woman and Oshay I hope that you are schooling these young ladies and that you are in truth about today's topic in knowing the destruction that these fake romance perspectives and behaviors have caused in the Americas. These young ladies are too young and they don't know the full ramifications of not having emotional control. I'm not saying women shouldn't be emotionally supported but where does one draw the line? Some of what these were saying is an immature perspective that "may" lead these women to having a "potentially" high body count, emotionally drained, unmarried, unsatisfied, spiritually dismantled, and eventually potentially alone because they won't be able to peer bond. These ladies have to be mindful of what they are doing "unconsciously" to themselves when they jump from guy to guy in exchange for money in some form (mobile topup, groceries, etc.) and then when the women don't get what they want from one guy they move on to the next. So basically why should men trust settling down with these types of ladies. Life has ups and downs, and if the man has a problem in life financially will these young ladies just leave him instead of helping to lift the man when he's down on his luck?
You should be a pastor because you are speaking the gospel 🕊️🌞. In all seriousness we should all be aware of the toxic seeds from the bad apples in western culture. Nigeria and Congo are two of the most westernized countries in Africa and their is a small percent of men there who have made wealth from abusing the people and resources in their country. Those are the men they are speaking about not the everyday people in the villages, cities, and slums who cannot even afford a plane ticket out Nigeria or the congo. They are basically African passport bros lol 📘.
@@alieast3196 And, the crazy thing is that people are following the "WEST" and other cultures with perspectives and behaviors that are damaging not only to the mind but to the body and the spirit. We are supposed to follow a higher power (whatever name you put on it). We are supposed to let our ancestors and higher forces guide us but instead, we are allowing the wickedness of man to lead us by the nose and place "evil agendas" before us that do not serve us. Some of these agendas are subtle and look innocent but in the end, they are the most destructive because they are noticed when it's too late. Many are functioning without higher principles and because of such they have nothing that gives them a baseline. Your principles help you to know where to draw the line. When you don't have principles, then anything goes and people can be steered in a direction that is damning. Again, having principles is a way of setting boundaries of knowing what you will do and not do. Culture is bigger than an individual person. You must hold principles so your children will know what to stand on. We should have individual principles that benefit the whole. People are letting misguided perspectives and behaviors dictate what has been proven to not be good in the long run. People are looking for instant gratification and a quick $dollar and not what will hold them and their community together for the long haul.
The other crazy thing is that if I were to call a woman who jumps from man to man a whore or a prostitute, she would be offended. But when you look up the meaning and the etymology of the word, they would fit the description exactly. And you don't need to stand on the street to be such. Believe it or not, this is why some people can't connect intimately. They have too many other people's energies on them. Many do not hold their bodies as temples (male and female). Not everyone deserves your energy not to mention sex can be a dirty thing, physically as well as spiritually i.e. disease, blockages in life, etc. Both males and females are prostituting and compromising themselves for less than nothing because they don't see themselves in high regard. It is what it is and I'm not judging but I am wondering, when did we lose our creativity to make something from nothing.
I agree with you it's not all (in whatever locale) however we must be aware of these damaging perspectives that are like a virus. We must protect ourselves from this at all costs. We all must think higher and carry ourselves in that manner. Respect yourself first and then others will respect you. We have forgotten who and what we are supposed to stand for.
You don't need to be a pastor to speak the truth. We had principles of truth way before the advent of the Bible, Christianity, and Islam. The spirit of a higher order was once in us and we carried ourselves in that way. Many no longer carry themselves in such a way and the ones that do are looked upon as if something is wrong with them. So, it is up to you to seek the truth in all things even if it hurts and no matter what anyone says. At least then, when you see yourself going the wrong way you can adjust and self-correct. I'm here as a black American woman (there are still some good ones out here) who is a living witness to the destruction of our people all around the world and it saddens me.
Mmm ,Oshay doin better. At least he maturing to community consciousness. Baby steps……..baby steps. Good job Oshay!! Why do some of these ladies sound like men??
I wish they could realize, right now as a man doing we'll in Nairobi Kenya, it's difficult to find marriage oriented young woman ..... They evolved to something completely foreign to us, they copy and paste everything they see from Hollywood.....
@wealthbymind..... Preeeeach!!!! 👏👏👏 You should be on the next episode as a guest.
To be honest, Nigerian men would be romantic because they grew up seeing it around them. Nigerian men wouldn't see anything wrong serving their wives ...cooking, gifts, helps shopping and above all romantic sexy etc
Really? You just described simps you are used to.
😂😂😂, which Nigerian men or you’re speaking for your circle?
@Someone you Love ...when it is mentioned Nigerian men or Tunisian or wherever does not mean totality...and how many have you met...not even 0.00001%
it is just a trend, and women are like a flock of birds. good african men are in all countries!
One thing I really REALLY love about this channel is that you guys don't constantly talk over each other and you let people finish their point. Big ups!
Giving is a part of the Nigerian culture and it is the men that pay for everything and the provider. It is part of Nigerian culture
Exactly. And a way of life.
What’s this thing about women and money?
This problem is not unique to them. The brotha shared a valid point. Women all over the world see Hollywood romance and desire the same. Thank you for sharing.
Then they complain if men do it lol
I personally loved this episode lol I was laughing out loud the whole time. Im liberian and spend on my Ghanaian girl . It goes both ways though .
It is just a cultural thing. African culture sees the man as a giver and the girl as a receiver. But times have changed and the giving and receiving goes both ways. Love ya all.
Men are natural givers and women are natural receivers
Sticking with my Luo and Coastarian men from Kenya, Thank you, Nigerians got nothing on them
Opinions are like A holes, everyone's got one. I'm sure other people have the same sentiments for Nigerian men, against the men you're praising. Big up to Africans, simple, why hate and throw shade?🤣
As a Nigerian, I respect you immensely for loving your fellow east African men. For me, love knows no boarder. If I find love in Uganda, Kenya, South Africa, Senegal or anywhere, I will settle with her.
@@TheRealness101 Why are you butt hurt? Not everyone loves Ogas and it's ok so take several seats back and whine over there abeg
Another Nigerian. You definitely should at least show respect to your men. So not sure what this whole thing is about. Nigerian women do their thing, so you'll hardly hear complaints other than the usual fun gender banter. And of course our African/black ladies generally are awesome. I will say as a man in the diaspora, Nigerian men definitely get a lot of love across race, culture and ethnicity so we're not complaining😇
@@realvibranttv2255 story
I am a culprit lol
West african in UG who married east african women
Interesting topic
Edit: it is a (cultural) thing that men from certain tribes in west africa, at the least the ones that i know, would spend enough on their wives. It is not simping, but a responsibility. That being said, these men would expect their wives to keep up with their responsibilities as well.
The lady that spoke behind the scene make a wonderful intelligent contribution. She needs to come out occasionally on the show.
Hahahaha🤣. This is one of my favorite episodes. Although I never ask for money, I agree with what Joanita, Khuhani, and Racheal said because I noticed what they said about East African men.
Mine too. I think Joanita and Outabrian have a secret think for one another....LOL
Oshay fits the definition of romantic according to Joanita, because he has American accent and the money to spend!!
Lol
Lol
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What most people don't understand about My Niaja bro is that we are raise to fear woman, and to respect woman, also we know that the more we treat our woman right, they have the potential of Give us that Blessing to grown in our business...
The fact of being poor guy and no woman interested in you is all over Africa and it's not because women only want money, it's feminine nature. Women by nature wants security both physically, economically and financially, even intellectually. I have had this issue of east African men not being romantic as west African counterparts. However, i believe east African women could figure out the comparison became west African men becomes available for them. It's always like that in life when you have experience of two sides. I believe our east African men can make changes.
I never seen Joanita with this much conviction
I have been to several clubs, lounges, hotels, exotic restaurants etc in DRC and the way Nigerians spend money can't be compared to the Congolese at all. Nigerians are top spenders. In December 2019 just before the covid, I travelled with 2 of my Nigerian friends to DRC for 8 days and we spent a total of $34,800 on exotic drinks and champagnes in the club in just 3 days. The club owner told the DJ to stop all french music and play strictly Nigerian music throughout our stay. Nigerians love fun and wouldn't mind the cost. They're big spenders.
Spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks” over the course of 8 days is just sheer INSANITY! Over those same 8 days my total expenditure would be less than $45 TOPS! And I’m a 7 figure man!) $1,000,000+ 🙄
@@bobsecret199 @bobsecret199 Nigerians love fun and it doesn't sound insane to them. I don't think spending $34,800 on exotic drinks is a big deal to a group of young Nigerian men who are worth millions of dollars and own gold mines in Conakry, Mali and Goma DRC. They went on a business trip and equally had fun. I don't see that as insane as long as they were happy and it doesn't affect their business and investments negatively.
I am a Nigerian, and I work so hard to be able to spend 100k$ on drinks one day. It’s not madness but we love it
@@11damilola I’m certain that the vast majority of Nigerians know NOTHING about having “fun” as much as men like me! And I have FAR more wealth than most Nigerians dare to even fantasize about! But anybody that equates spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks” 🍹 🥤 🍺 as “fun” is truly lacking …in MANY ways!
The AVERAGE household in Nigerian earns just a bit more than $200 USD per MONTH! So let’s not pretend that most Nigerians know ANYTHING at all about wealth! In the USA we blacks who actually ARE wealthy …and did _not_ grow up in poverty can ALWAYS recognize NEW MONEY and the people who DID! The NEW MONEY blacks are prone to do all of the childish flexing and love to wear expensive jewelry, drive fancy cars and to be seen.
What they are far too dumb to realize is that there is an entire industry of people who get rich and make a living off of their zeal for relevancy. They know that these hood rich people have NO idea what the difference is between a $100,000 watch and an $800 watch. They have absolutely NO idea what fine aged wine tastes like or should taste like as compared to something picked up at the corner liquor store. They can’t tell REAL gold from FOOLS gold and they can’t tell a diamond from a cubic zirconia. You could pick up something from Target and tell a hood rich negro that it’s a designer original and that the label is very exclusive and they will pay 100x more for it than it costs at the store. (Petty people are just that desperate to be relevant or to APPEAR rich!)
All you have to do is act a certain way and talk a good game and put a high price tag on something and a hood rich negroe is extremely EASY to fleece!
The poverty class always make a MUCH bigger deal about their relatively NEW money and love to flaunt it, toss it around and spend it frivolously…and FOOLISHLY! But the people like ME who have NOTHING to prove and are used to wealth tend to be significantly more frugal and conscientious about how we spend it.
Men like me have MUCH more in common with men like Elon Musk …THE wealthiest man (by FAR) on the entire PLANET 🌍…and NOTHING in common with the typical RAPPER …who grew up in poverty in “da hood!” It sounds like these Nigerians share this _HOOD_ mentality when it comes to money!
Spending $34,800 on “exotic drinks and champagnes …in the club …in just 3 days” is something that I’d be too EMBARRASSED to admit to! ESPECIALLY if I came from a country as dirt poor as Nigeria! 😖 After you consume all these “exotic drinks and champagnes” it all comes out as rancid smelling yellow *_PISS!_* And the people who mixed up the drinks and sold them to you are LAUGHING at you behind your back! 😄😁🥲😅😂🤣
@@11damilola Exactly 💯 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾💯💯💯👍🏾
When it comes to dating you can see Nigerian men being very passionate, this is due to Nigerian’s culture where commitment and love is a way of life, That's why most Nigerian men date to get to the aisle in no distance time, because a typical Nigerian man is family-oriented so living happily ever-after is their end game. Nigerian men are taught right from a young age to treat the female child lovingly.
Be aware that Nigerian men are also dating and marrying women from other countries. In Africa Nigerian men are getting married to South Africa and Kenya women most especially and also not only in Africa but in Europe and America. Don't forget Nigerian men they're selfless men and they'll go any length to do things for the one they loves.
Nigerian men they're always having a firm determination and desire to be successful. Dating a Nigerian man is soothing as they treat their partners like a queen.This means you remain the heart while he is the head. By so doing you both will be in symbiotic kind of relationship.
Igbo...
Which Nigerian men are you talking about? We have many tribes here and am sorry to say, not all the men are the same.
@@tzunammi I'm Igbo and this trait is seen not only in my region but nationwide. We have dwelled among us so long that we now share things in common. So yeah, Nigerian men...
@@paulokeke8337 thank you
If you don't have money give what you have 100%, and this is to both parties. It should be a mutual thing. Love from Nigeria
Exactly
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As a NIgerian man, if u want a peace of mind, listen uganda men, when u get married, give all your salary to your wife and tell her to use the money to pay all the bills in the house including the house rent, that way, she can't be asking u money, cause she already knows what's coming in. then get your side hustle on to keep that extra money for your self.
What a simp
Wrong advise 😂
Then you make her look outside to "support" the family.
The whole matter is one of education. The woman needs to know for herself what real life is, not one based on fake expectations that is actually lots of body counts.
@@johnolaoluwa Women have unique ways of thinking that differ from men, much like the distinction between the operating systems of an iPhone and an Android device. Once you grasp that concept, u are on your way.Koye e..
@@christset It is not as hard as people try to make it. Women love naturally, but find it unnatural to submit.... Men don't find it natural to love - that is why the Bible commands the woman to submit and the man to love. Disobedience to this simple command leads to problems, which neither can handle.
So, I understand where you are coming from about giving her the salary to pay all the bills, including the ones you incurred, it makes her feel in total control - that is still wrong. She should be in control of building the home while the man should be in charge of protecting the family. ... It is that simple.
😂 This is the most conviction Joanita has displayed in a video! She's taking that Feminist training program to heart! Lmbo😂! Funny episode. From Team Stingy!
😂😂😂😂😂I’m pressed!!!
@@joanitamaaya Nigerian women will say, marriage vows, "for better for stay, for worse for go"🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️. They not hanging around for the in sickness part, they only want in health part.😂😂😂
@@joanitamaaya you look like you have a whole husband tucked away in a suitcase somewhere. 🤣🤣🤣 You're not pressed! Big Daddy Oshay can have you married off by noon. 🤣😁😁
@@leeayi243 😂😂🤣
She needs to realize, that if men aren't treating her special, they aren't into her. She is replaceable.
Honestly, as a Nigerian man, based on the responses of the Uganda/ Kenyan guy I can see why their women prefers a Nigerian or Congolese man. Its true we like to spend money but the truth is you need to understand women's love language. If you want to catch a monkey act like one. Women want everything they desire but its not possible for them to get all they want... its just not possible. If you put that statement into perspective you will get any woman you desire.
Who said Congolese man?
You talk as if we still don't get these women, we don't need your advise
Ur actually right,,,
As a Nigerian man, we just don’t spend blindly like this video would portray, we do spend and sometimes even more than the other guy and that’s cause we want you and we believe you are worth it, the moment you don’t show or meet up to our wants or the Value or potential we see in you because maybe you became lazy or entitled, that is when we leave you. It gets worse if we find out that you are after the money and what we can give that makes you the same with the other girls out there and we will do and act accordingly with you.
Bruh stop the cap, I'm Nigerian too and too many of our men blindly spend hoping to get sex. We have a whole lot of men hyper focused on getting cash just so they can get women and they fail to build emotional connections with these women because that's what society makes them believe. Why do you think we have too many cases of cheating partners and the rest.
They're more so saying you guys are more attentive and better in other areas.
I feel that Bro exactly 💯👊
Exactly..
Once we know you are only with us because of the money, then be ready to be left.
Makes so much sense..
To my East African babies go get your Nigeria men,A.American men or even white men Go where you feel valued, loved and spoilt my lovies
Seems like it boils down to exoticism where the women have negative impressions of the men in their area and gravitate to other men from different areas because it's exotic and exciting to them.
All about the money
@@tombimashri8149 Yea but that’s literally any relationship/marriage. Difference is women are now more than usual extremely SCARED. Scared of struggling, they start out broke, they do bare minimum or well for themselves and have to depend on her man’s income primarily so if you seem financially unstable, how can she trust that you both will be financially ok together??
Yes, I understand the gold digging aspect, entitlement, spoiled money draining. I get that but them not the ONLY women out there either. If them the only ones you come across. Learn, analyze, reflect, and choose a different quality of women. Choose better. That choice can be where you are or elsewhere. The trick is knowing what you want and learning where to find what you want and whether you are what they want in return.
@@Frainkey
I don't know if it's 'exotic' but people everywhere complain the most about their own.
@@blackblaze5271 I agree with your statement. My reasoning for the word exotic. You say people complain the most about their own. So they like different than their own. There’s generally a fascination with the different. It sounds different, behaves a bit or a lot different, it’s unexplored, new, exciting, romanticized. Pretty much describes exotic.
@@Frainkey well said. And, most women got to realize what they want in a man doesn't come ready made. Most times woman and the man in her life got to work together to get their relationship to the level and quality they want for both of them. Unfortunately most women want everything to come ready made, the money, romance, maturity, too notch love, etc. It doesn't work like that in real life.
Joanita was on fire this episode. I have to say you are some beautiful and smart women.
This was a good one!😂 Jonita really did her thing this time!
Women always walk with backup money. Do Not allow a man to left you stranded.
I never commented before on this podcast before but today I just subscribe I love to see that you can have a discussion about dating and it doesn't turn in to hate like in the states and the woman never said all men. I luv to hear everyone perspective so keep doing you'll thing.
Thank you so much for your subscription
"If you give, first, then I will give." The host.
East African women are definitely the best in africa. The other places are too effected by the west. That’s why I moved to Tanzania 🇹🇿.
We are coming with you..😂😂
If I speak I’ll be in BIG TROUBLE! 😂🫣
Great EP ❤️🇬🇧🇺🇬🤝🏾📍
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Ladies and gentlemen I am from Nigeria. The thing is I put priority above anything. If I would date any woman, she must be of substance. I believe guys should be romantic. If u can't do great things, do small things in a great way. You don't need to be super rich to woo a woman. In the long run she may be the one that will pay your bills. Go to saloon with her, check on her, reassure her. And make sure u r dealing with someone that is ready to be with u. With these ladies will like u.
Why must it be men stressing to make the women feel loved and wanted all the time?
Why can't women also make men feel wanted and loved?
Yet they want men to do certain 'unmanly' things to feel equal and in same power wavelength with men.
Basically wanting to eat their cake and have it.
East African men keep it up if the ladies go they go nobody will die
Familiarity can create resentment
Sometimes you just aren't THAT girl. If men aren't treating you right, they just don't like you much. Don't confuse lust for love.
You guys are great, East African ladies are natural, romantic, and loving .
Jooanita has the most amazing smile, will not might waking up to that smile every morning.
can she sing?
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One thing I can say about Joanita, she is great at making any good man run into the arms of another woman. Every 30 seconds she says the words money. Who wants dat headache?
Everybody got their own experience. Leave my girl Juanita alone. 😂 😂
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@@joanitamaaya yes Joanita Happy Mothers Day!! One day you'll make some pretty children❤😉
@@ronniegarcia8503 thank you. Happy mothers day to the women in your life.
I was thinking the same thing 👏🏾
Sincerely, there is nothing wrong in investing in your lady.
I am not talking of those asking for birthday money, data top up, and petty stuffs of such with the same breath there is nothing bad doing these things for her occasionally.
I think east african men are vetting harder to filter users and finessers and if the girl passes that test then they invest.
Am dating a west African, and honestly they take care of their women.
Soon you will regret deeply.
@@carpediem4512
How?
I am Nigerian and I am proud to say we take care of our women.
@@carpediem4512 really, why. Anything I should know
@@carpediem4512 envy is the weapon of the weak.
@@carpediem4512 she will be done dirty like what the nigerian did to Desire luzinda
Joanita didnt come to play...I can respect it. She is very respectful doing it I appreciate her for that.
As a congolese woman , congolese women love their men. They are not to much into west African men unless they are from a francophone country. Especialy cameroon and ivoiran becaude they are the closest to our men
Thank you for commenting!
Is Congo not in west Africa
@@Love22320 DRC Congo is in Central Africa.
@@Love22320 in East African Brock
@@Love22320 learn your geography dimwit
I'm praying for these African sisters though. They sounding like they fully endoctrinated in the feminist bs
exactly bro
I heard that over feminist is a problem in east, is it true.
I am Nigeria
Don't generalize it's not all of us. These are central region women belonging to the "Baganda" tribe so majority tend to be after money they are the gold diggers of today so to find awife go to other parts of the country where the women are traditional and other tribes.
Oh shut up! Boring. Can't think , only echo what the stupids in social media echo.
20:16 20:16 20:17 😢
I cook, clean,iron, hvac, landscaper, mechanic, plumber, father, clean and fold all for my household. I also grow our food.
You need an award.
Shes definitely encouraging SIMP behavior. I. Loving what im hearing from these east african men keep it up brothers
the women in arica are not the same as ur women in the west...they are mostly traditional and mostly expect a traditional man
@J O most women want a traditional man. The difference here is that they themselves dont want to be traditional.
@@anubizzzzzbut it sound like the same asking price..for usa women..us women saying the same shit
I support the Ugandan guy....as man I can't date someone who I know or feel like she just want to take advantage of the fact that wealthy...
Yes your woman is your BIG business! She delivers unparalleled returns!! The more you invest, the more HONEY she delivers!!! Her sweetness only multiplies by the exponent of your investment. 💯
Preach Kamwe!!!!!😊
Lmao.
I am from Côte d’Ivoire living in Japan for over 20 years. I first found Ugandan and Kenya ladies in Japan. I found out that Est African ladies are respectful and hard working people.And they are sincere when in love.While Ugandan and Kenyan ladies are taught to respect their men,the opposite is not true.Your men are stingy.
In west Africa men are taught to love their women but the women are rude and are not focused on love.Every action west African ladies make is calculated to take more from their men. I want Est African ladies and I am already in relationship with a Kenyan lady ❤And I want her to be the mother of my children 😊
That’s right Khuhani….. it should always be a win win situation in any relationship.
Evolution, things are changing. It’s 2024. Men you need to step up.
It does not take a lot to be romantic. Kind words and compliments; a walk in the park in the park, flowers, or a thoughtful deed can be just as romantic. A man who doesn't think a woman is worth treating special is not going to find a special woman. If a woman wants to be treated right, she must find a man that treats her the way she wants to be treated. Just because a man is strong doesn't means he should not be treated with tenderness. At the same time, just because a woman is empowered doesn't mean she should not be made to feel special.
Thank you!!
That dont work with the majority of African women though. their love language is money.
@@christset Unless you are a majority of African women, your response is prejudicial.
So we should adhere to the cultures and ways of the white man.. ... flowers, that's very weird
@@mpendakiswahili3053 If someone gave me a sure tip on the stock market, I would not refuse it just because I got it from a white man. If I found a $100 bill on the ground; I would leave it there because there was a yt man's face on it... They do not have a monopoly on romance and they damn sure don't deserve it more than we do. It worked for me! If it works, use it.
That lady finished it up with ' when can I see you? 😂 kudos to the West African men.
I LOVE this channel!
Man Oshay. This is so constructive compared to your previous American panels
What did I learn today?🤔
That I need a good amount of money to be perceived as romantic in East Africa. Got it. 😂
facts
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bro its life everywhere in general...at this point anyway it is what it is
lol that was my take away as well
@Kenganda I did know you were from the Golden state. Calu stand up!!!! We may have to link, because I plan on visiting Uganda soon..
Some of the most feminine women on this planet that I've ever met, hail from East Africa.
Stories, is it by big shapeless ynash? Is it brain I guess not much in east Africa
@@chrisoghenetegamaloney5799 Hes right. West African women are masculine and loud. East African women are very feminine.
Here's your 1000th like. Great content.
Wow! Joanita is emotionally blasing here
For me what I've noticed over the years is men or women from another country or continent they are regarded or rather perceived as so romantic than local ones same goes to different race relationships
My boo looking lovely with her head covered today. Very regal. Hey Jonita 😉 👋🏾
🤣🤣🤣 I like Brian's composure in this one
Ladies need to work to get attention from the Man
The Man needs to be prepared to give these Ladies attention. period.
Johnita betta keep teaching these men.. Yes hunni!
I’m a Ugandan man born in UG and raised in the west. So I’m exposed enough to see from both sides. It’s true that Ugandan men lack romantic skills.
HOWEVER! Ugandan women aren’t that better either. Unless you find a very well brought up and educated Ugandan lady, the default is that these women’s idea of romance is showering them with money constantly.
These women lack social skills. As someone who is brought up to hold a conversation on a date and make the setting interesting, the vast majority of Ugandan women I’ve taken on a date really lack skills in making small talk. It’s like all they bring to the table is a big butt and a pair of breasts in exchange for money. This is perhaps the reason why Ugandan men treat women like objects, because that’s the dating language.
It’s honestly frustrating, because I’ve genuinely tried finding meaningful relationships more than just sex, and it’s hard to find someone with a sober mindset.
To be fair, women have those items etc to offer...
Every other thing inbetween and after is just a smoke screen
Baganda women more money more problems
I couldn't agree with you on some, both men and wemen are raised the same way , men too are not there emotionally cause they view it as weakness and wemen believe looking good , satisfying a man sexuallybis what men desire which is more true according to me and wemen to look good they need money ...that's y they always want money to look good for a man
come take me i change that narrative hahahha
I feel you.. big butt and introducing you to her friends every week on your bill
That lady in the black dress is absolutely beautiful!! like ridiculously beautiful
We are plenty who have crush on her. 😂 😂
@@borngreat-4-life930
TRUE STORY 😂
Keep going down this western materialism and transactional relationship and prepare for the same destoryed dating environment as the west. East African women be careful what you wish for.
Just wait for it....seems inevitable
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Guaranteed two generations it will be different
It is is a cultural and normal thing in Nigeria to spend on women. It is not that we are showing off. I have seen guys pay their girlfriend school fees. Even the guys may not necessarily end up marrying those ladies but they still spend and care.
She looking fine with that head wrap
Yes
That a man spends money lavishly on a woman does not necessarily mean he is romantic and otherwise. "Romantic" derives from the emotional affinity that a man has with his woman that elevates her above her peers; a treatment that generates the aura of being special among other women around her; a genuine, non-pretended treatment that projects her as a prized Gem within the man's capacity economically and otherwise.
All these women are talking feminist talking point. Lol.
Stand strong my east African brothers! ✊🏼
Some Nigerian men may even cheat but they will pamper thier women.. they way you treat your woman is the way society judges you. much respect is giving to men who take very good care of thier women.
The man can even go without to make sure his woman is okay.
It's not about spending the money only its making your girl feel like a baby girl, flatter her, sweet words etc
The African men grows with everything but not in marriage and romantic relationship. Just too bad! The Nigerian men are ever upgrading in these areas and others are hating on us.
I am an East African man, we take the goood and well groomed girls. And leave the bad apples to others.
Lol 😂
We are monadic people, the boards are colonial made, there is lots of women on the continent, feel free to explore any woman from west, east, central and southern. Don’t feel like you have to be confined to one region in Africa.
(We are Africans)
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thanks for your sister!
Same here you hear these so called good lovers from the most populous country in africa that they know how to look after their women etc all lies no love at all just business ATM thing few EA women who go for them only go for them not because of love NO only one thing MONEY believe Me I've see most of those so called love ends up with tears I've seen it and our EA women will be left broken sometimes with kids then they start to look for a man from back home or Europeans
If they do love them let them stop giving money,phone contract and all fake stuffs to see if they'll stay around after all if a man knows in order to keep you He must use his wallet then you are a working girl he will be cheating behind your back aswell
Yes you should take care of your woman but any woman who cames to me because I can offer or give money financial stuffs that's NO NO because if someone with more money than you shows up you will be dropped immediately I've seen it
So slay queen's are NO NO ill avoid them
I have a woman now who don't watch my money, she just wants my love & loyalty.(I finally found a real woman in 2023, so I'm going to stay with her for life).
And Chinese men are taking all of Ugandas land!
Reciprocity is appreciated worldwide
They keep saying "romance" but keeps mentioning money. I don't even think she realizes
What about when she mentioned about the the guy leaving her on the express road for her to cross the road herself instead of driving into the compound.
I’m Ibo and all different tribes in Kenyan and Uganda are beautiful
Igbo not ibo
Nigerian men are the ones who come with the money…. in the black community. The French speaking African men bring the romance sweet talking… I am not sure what the East African men are known for…
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East African men are known to be stingy😂😂😂 They are more financially stable than the West African men, but very toxic. The society in East Africa makes their women respectful, and kind but they never hold accountable to their men. They are so entitled. I think Black American women and East African men should just do a collab to see who can be mean towards the other... All Hell will break loose 😂😂😂
we fix our countries. thats why these are the areas everyone want to visit. you dont waste money and "romance" on low quality women..reason you dont see eastern africa men roaming africa looking for women and hustle. they go to europe or americas. basically we dont simp. look at congo and nigeria? great places to move in? nope.
I am Haitian 🇭🇹 American and have spent time in East Africa, specially Kenya, the women there love to have monthly allowances & want to also be treated like western women, wine 🍷 dine, be romantic, bring flowers, bring gifts. The western influence is undeniably strong in East Africa to a group of men who have not been brought up in such a culture in there family household.
Nigeria has the biggest population in Africa, so I don't think there's enough women in Nigeria for all these men.
Lie lie in Nigeria women has biggest population stop lying is just that Nigeria men knws that other Africa women respect them more than Nigeria women. Nigeria men spend in women but Nigeria women ar not appropriating it but other part appreciate it than them
@@Igbo-man-Moscow So You're telling me that Nigerian women can't are good wives?
I don’t know but there’s just so much negative drama surrounding Nigerian men in a way that Nigerian women’s image is just not as tarnished.
Nigeria women are more in population. Its a ration 2 to 1
@@aao449 what negative drama.. maybe in the past. Now nigerian men are not looked at negatively, except by those jealous African men. Our music and entertainment has changed our image.. you are talking about before not now. Even some of u east african men, are benefiting from our music. A lot of u clowns used to be ashamed of ur culture here in the United states.
Because they are very good business men
Some good advice Joanita marry Oshay and give him 4 to 8 children unapologetically... Instead of being feminist unapologetically and running ur yapper
As a south African man i would like tp say,The Rachel girl is very smart.
Deep down these women just want a man to be riiiich😂😂and treat them like princesses 👸 and be put on a pedestal. That's romantic to them😂😂
Be romantic to the man the same way,I bet you will change your definition of being romantic...
Bingo
FACTS!! Nigerian men will soon find out the same East African men did, the hard way. We're not simps. We learned and checked out.
@@afckajjansi this is a world wide extinction tactics..think about
- mostly blk women are not being chosen anymore blk men are going else where..
-think about what will happen..👩🏾🍼
-think about the white business man who promoted these ideas thru tv,music,art,etc
We West African are the most wanted in Europe,Asia and North America,I am proudly Igbo.
Joanita made her case big time on this episode. I can't speak on Nigeria, but on the context of American men, we are raised Hollywood and R&B. So it's common to spoil a woman.
But how is the marriage success rate....
In America i was married to two amazing women for six years, one for 25 and now, im in Africa with three baby mommas raising my four year old son alone. West African men may be a catch but these women? They as reasonable facsimiles of western weaponized feminists...
@mpenda kiswahili i was married to two for six years one for 25 and now im in Africa with three baby mommas raising my four year old son alone. West African men may be a catch but these women? They as reasonable facsimiles of western weaponized feminists...
Great topic guys, much thanks to Rachel for being the most neutral, hope we get to see her one day, I agree with the ladies however, I think there also needs to be more of creativity suggestions in terms of activities to do that contribute to the romance vibes from the ladies side and not leave everything to the East African brothers given their weakness as stated by Rachel.
For Joan 😂😂😂, she is good looking and will for sure find that man of her dreams one day.
Great content guys, keep on.
This will make sense if it was East African women going to live in West Africa. Most men who migrate to other countries for economy to upgrade their living standards are usually at the bottom of food chain in the said country they relocated to. This kind of men get women at the bottom of society who lost local market but they still want a guy who can work like a horse for them. The foreign guy is looking to fit in and be accepted in the new society and have access to certain benefit from the system so there is demand. Real men are never measured by what they do in foreign countries that are already built by other men but we measure them by were they come from. I am from South Africa, looking at East African men and west African men, East African men have built a better stable region as compared to west Africa. You don't see both men and women from East Africa flocking to West Africa to upgrade their living standards because is likely to be a downgrade, the opposite cant be said. This relate with South, we have the most successful region in Africa, you will hardly meet people from Southern Africa migrating to any region in Africa but we have every kind of African in the South
I couldn't have said it better. Generally, the women who hook up with these Nigerian or West African men, for the most part, tend to come from the lower ranks of society, at least in my experience. Strange, you never see many of these West African men take these women back to Nigeria or West Africa. I wonder why!
You'll also find that East African men will not touch these women with a barge pole; they are not seen as wife material.
@@MrMatujames Well articulated. To my observation, It seems like west African men have most inferiority complex in Africa and not proud of their genetic make up hence they seem to lust over foreign women than theirs. They seem to think other regions are supirior to them. They the only men I see doing content on women from other countries while you hardly see other men creating content around their women. This behaviour is also seen with some black American men and is very weird for me been a South African men. We don't put other women on pedestal because it will make us appear inferior, coming to think about it, I never see East African men do this the North African men are even worse, they very proud of their region and they stick to their own. This kind of content is mostly created by West African men and they seem to need a constant validation. In reality, no group of people are just naturally preferred over others, people end up with anyone they can for their own mutual benefit. It will be weird for me if I start to see my fellow Southern men doing this kind of content, I will quickly call them to order and avoid embarrassing us.
@@lozi4163 Your comment is trash and pointless. You be mumu. UK and US women find it very hard to resist Nigeria men when it comes to relationship and romance for so many reasons, is not only East Africa and South Africa women.
Thats very true. Im Gambian & Sierra Leonian (on my Mum’s side) Born & bred in London.. been going to Gambia since the mid 90s & its true… they see everyone else from different countries as better than them. They really lack self belief & respect. Its REALLY bad. They’re almost a defeated people.. things will change though,they MUST.
@@djhuiti100 I feel you but I hardly interact with Gambian folks, most folks I see from west Africa encourages this kind of behaviour mostly from the obvious Nigeria, some from Ghana and Senegal, Liberians turn to have a different mindset. What i see with most west Africans is that they encourage this and is mostly because they dont really see what it does and women also play into their heads like how white women play in the heads of black men. I always compare this to how a black men is obsessed with wyte women, even a left over from wyte men is still a price for a black dude
What's with the push to make nigerian men some kind of top prize? Some people try so hard to promote this idea it's weird. Some people like them some don't, everyone has their preference. There's no need to create a myth
Nigeria has 220million people, this UA-camrs do this for numbers, no women are flocking to live in Nigeria be it after Nigerian men or Nigeria itself but YoutTubers want views at the end of the day. if i leave my country and go live in Nigeria, who am i likely to date as a man? this is not rocket science and nothing special about foreign men because if there was, their countries will be shining and attracting women to migrate there but is always the opposite
@@lozi4163 We are monadic people, the boards are colonial made, there is lots of women on the continent, feel free to explore any woman from west, east, central and southern. Don’t feel like you have to be confined to one region in Africa.
(We are Africans)
@@giftofgodstarnorth6363 Not this excuse, we all know is due to economic reasons and poverty cut the bullshit is unecesary
@@lozi4163 No hardship we’re good we just like exploring. Keep on been claustrophobia and confined in your little region.
@@giftofgodstarnorth6363 Economic migrants and refugees are not explorers, explorers are traveler's and they usually visit multiple countries and they have money, they not beggars in foreign countries living in one apartment with 25 people. Why are you trying to sell a false image here online when we ca see everyday in my country how poor are so called explore's? dude migration and travelling is not the same thing. I can name many SA companies in west Africa including Chinese, USA and England, what companies can you name for so called explore's? i am talking about multi billion corporate. Most of you are beggars but go ahead and sell a false image here online
This’s a very good topic.
I think every culture, country and animals king express love differently. Lions and peacocks express love differently. Many of u guys hv balance and healthy ideas. I like them. What I noticed is that Joanita seems to be interested in American culture. U don’t hv to compare Ugandan man with Netflix/ American man. Just get marry to a Western man. It’s okay with us. I was in Uganda for 5 years. I saw many men showing love to their wives. There are many ways romance can be expressed. We don’t hv to always look for the west to teach us. Let observe and study hw African men express romance and then create a platform where Ugandan men or other African men can learn.
Don’t just say somethings without a deep research about them.
Joanita, let me also add that you are beautiful and seem intelligent.
Thank you Kenganda for this topic.
Nice comment bro. African should be original to succeed