Dr. K and Kruti Review Pickup Artist Advice
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The cliffhanger is unreal…
Perfectly timed
cheating victims hacked the stream
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@@josebermea3843 say nothing by saying something 🤷♂️.
Personal note:
1:05:22 Inappropriate emotion, unmatched emotions, unregulated emotions definitely unattractive.
1:11:04 Well this is new for me. As far as I have lived. I grew up in an environment where I need to be something in order to be valued. In my family, this is the case of achievement. When I achieve something, being seen by other people, being respected by other people, then I can fulfill their insecurity of not being seen. I have taken this role up to last year because... Because I was a child and that was given to me. I also being taught that I will be a good father that will provide well to my family. While this statement is good by itself, it has the flavour that if I don't provide, then I am nothing. I don't have or maybe I am not aware of evidence that I can be valued without providing. I need to find more evidence of being valued not only by providing. I am not sure what I can contribute though.
1:12:23 How do I know about my intrinsic value? how do I know if I find someone who values my intrinsic value? Not all question need to be answered but I am just asking it.
1:16:43 Emotion is a very rapid way to process subconscious information. No wonder my addiction repeats itself. Out of randomness in my mind, some of them trigger an emotion. When I remembered the time that my parents scared me to live in the street when I was 8. It was one of the most terrifying thing as a child. The memories arises. I don't know how to deal with it. Then I went to my choice of addiction to kind of push it away. Then it repeats like a broken record while my body handle all of the consequences of my addiction. The information is that if I don't do what the autorithy told me to do, there will be a severe permanent punishment that I can't handle beyond my capacity. I don't want that to happen. The fear of the authority and severe punishment was justifiable. However the environment that shapes up the emotion is not justifiable at all. Scaring the child to live on the street just to make the child obedience is a sure way to have an obedience child on the short term and a fearful adult in the long term. I just need to tell my body that I am safe and the event had happened in the past and this sensation was in the past. It is not in the present and there is no more authority that will give me sever punishment. If there are any, let's deal with them when they come.
1:18:50. Emotion is the source of information and motivation. Emotional is the signal to move to a particular direction and fulfill the need. Therefore when I feel something, I need to consult the emotional wheel. What I am feeling. What is the information that is conveyed by this particular emotion. What are the needs that I need to fulfill?
1:19:36 When we are charitable we fulfilling my own needs. As much as I want to lash out for those who had done wrong. I want to be more compassionate because I want to teach myself to accept compassion when someone gave it to me.
I feel like I was a bit negged on a dating app by someone who responded to me saying I'm good at something by talking about how much better their sister-in-law is at the same thing. I ghosted immediately; why would I want to engage with someone who dismisses a skill I take pride in?
With all due respect,
you yourself talk about how not being emotionally invested was key in your first date with Kruti. You said coming back from India you decided to become a monk and so women were not even an option in your mind. You just ask Kruti to come along to a tai place you liked not caring if she comes with you or not, since you just liked the restaurant and would go with or without her. I remember you specifically highlighting this detachment aka. "not caring so much" -- i.e. not being emotionally invested. You said you still don't think it was a date, while Kruit said it was definitely your guys' first date.
IMHO you mostly spend this stream talking about the dynamics that are more important in relationships (love, romantic gestures, emotional commitment, even giving women foot massages to alleviate their PMS) and barley talking about THE ACTUAL THING that makes pick up artist and all that shit so appealing to men: attraction and the steps a man has to take to get to know a woman more smoothly/non creepy
Not gonna find it here. Gotta keep looking.
You have take risks, fall down and get back up each time. Accept that you will sometimes be too confident and come off cocky and arrogant. Sometimes you will be too shy and miss a chance. Happens to everyone. You learn and you get better at presenting yourself. The important thing is you tried.
You are also missing something VERY IMPORTANT which is that his detachment wasn't fake, he was in a very secure and contented place in his life, and he did that for himself, not for someone else. You can't take shortcuts and try to fake that... it just doesn't work out. Wouldn't it be nice to ACTUALLY feel good about yourself regardless of anyones approval of you?
So stop trying to figure out how to pretend to be confident/secure/detached/cool or whatever you think the thing is... and start thinking about how you can actually cultivate that feeling in your life FOR YOU, for your own sake. It takes work, but its worth pursuing. You are stuck obbsessing over the easiest way to "get" a woman... instead of thinking about what you actually have to offer to ANYONE and how you actually feel inside.
And the truth is that all men and women are more attracted to people who seem secure, people who seem like they will add to your life, not drain you of energy because they are so desperate for attention and approval. We're all human and want those things but nobody wants to feel like you are putting all responsibility for your happiness ONTO them.
It's a mixture of your subconscious self doing the machiavelian part doing all the things at the same time, and your conscious self enjoying to get to know someone else.
Very well said, actually a lot of peple who are naturally charismatic (actually) have good self value and good energy. That is why they attract people not only women. They are naturally popular. Without trying to achieve that outcome.
as a woman, I think a lot of the logic is very much assuming the woman in the situation is popular with men. If lots of men are fawning over you, maybe someone who doesn't seems more interesting. but if you're interested in nerdy women who don't get a lot of interest, you have to act interested! it's hard enough to believe someone's interested when that's unusual for you, even if they're acting interested. if they act uninterested i will 100% believe them and focus on finding someone else
Nah you don’t get the dynamic, women always have exponentially more options than men do. The idea is that if a girl knows she can have you she’s not gonna pursue you. But you have to at least make yourself seen.
@@shadowclonejutsu8500 lol nope. Some of us are 34 and open to all genders and still can't get past 4 dates with the same person
@shadowclonejutsu8500 well, maybe if we're averaging out, then yes. But life is not statistics. There's a lot of women who don't have a lot of guys interested in them or that even if they do have a lot of guys interested they will still like it if someone acts interested. I get the concept of what you mean. But I believe that women who have a lot of men interested in them just have a higher tolerance for interest. Actually, not only women but people in general. If a lot of People are interested in you, you are not gonna be interested in someone JUST because they are interested. But it doesn't mean that you have to act uninterested. Just means that you have to provide something besides just your interest wich I think is fair for any kind of relationship. So I don't think it's a fault of a dynamic or anything. You can surely act interested and still be appreciated for it! There's some exceptions for sure, everyone is different, but in general people like it when someone is interested in them, especially in the long run.
@@ArtichokeHunter im 34 and never got past 2.
@@shadowclonejutsu8500 Also, a comment like this might be highly isolating women who don't have such experiences that you are portraying. Some women might feel like they SHOULD have many men interested in them and feel bad and misunderstood if you just state that they just don't get the dynamic. It just makes people feel like they should not open up because they don't have such experience and can't relate to anyone I guess.
Emotional investment is not unattractive if it’s unequal. It’s unattractive to the emotionally immature.
It also goes to say that the emotionally mature person handles the matter of someone they aren’t interested romantically in being interested in them in markedly different ways
Starts at 6:42 ;D
Thank you
Power went out. Dr. K will return!
1:09:53 "The reason that people find it hard to understand and the reason so many men feel this way, is because that's the way they are treated" Soooooo, how can you dispute that then? That's like saying, "it's not true, it's just that everyone acts and behaves with the understanding that its true". Make it make sense.
i think what he means is, many men have not known any other way of being treated besides being an object so since they have never experienced what it's like to be valued intrinsically, they just accept this one reality that value is based extrinsicslly because they have not experienced anything else. It's hard to imagine what it's like if you have never experienced it before
@@yellowtapestry That's how dating apps make me feel like an object and it is off-putting, and I just don't enjoy messaging back and forth it's boring. That's why I haven't been on a dating app in 10+ years, I prefer meeting guys the old fashioned way when I'm out and about doing things. It's nicer talking to a guy in person and seeing if there is any chemistry and if our morals align.
I love this explanation of why "emotional attachment to your partner is not a turn off unless there is a discrepancy in the relationship."
You said its only creepy or cringe if the feelings arent reciprocated. Another thing this helps explain is why some guys are charismatic and appealing enough to find success with pickup artist techniques that would absolutely not work for an introvert with bad hygeine!
Knowingly acting like you're not interested in someone you are interested in to make them more interested in you is still manipulation, no? Wtf is wrong with people? Just talk to her like a person and see of you have common interests 😂😂
That does not work, this is the whole point of PU. Have you not met women.
Manipulation is just empty word, with no value and is overused by people using toxic, psycho, equality and so.
Besides there is no manipulation, there is only sales and marketing strategy, selling bullshit in nice package. People pay milions the be master manipulators, i mean salesman, sry.
@@jackdeniston6150 There are some women who don't like it when guys waste their time playing games of being interested and disinterested. If a guy behaves like that, it must mean he is immature and that I should just move on.
@@biteofdog What actually happens, the man is interested, demonstrates interest, and women do NOT reciprocate any effort. So the man realises he is being used, and leaves.
Give me an example where you have actually DONE something for a man, that HE wanted.
@@biteofdog > There are some women who don't like it when guys waste their time playing games
Correction: there are women who don't like it when guys she is attracted to waste their times playing games.
Which means that being attractive/building attraction with her is the first step, and only after that you should min-max other stuff like the ratio of time spending/wasting.
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I think op and dr k are talking past each other. A woman is not attracted to a man when his life revolves around her. I spent the majority of my marriage being a Nice Guy. I always made sure I put her happiness before my own. As a result she was often angry and not in the mood. Once I began attacking my childhood trauma I became a man of integrity and put forth the effort to care for her from a place of love rather than childish approval seeking. As a result she became softer and more affectionate.
But doesn't it hurt you like no one cares. You have been a bigger man. Childhood trauma steals your childhood and lack of love and you look for it.
I am struggling with that, knowing no one genuinely loved you as child not even as mom.
But now as grown man I have to live life knowing no one will love you unconditionally ever again. That shop had sailed and you were stuck with trauma and numbness
how did you attack your childhood exactly
i hate how people talk like "i had problems then i fixed it lol"
@@elijahaa One thing is that he also says he put forth care from a place of love, and not childish approval seeking, eventually. This seems to be a win regardless of how his wife was responding to him. If he was no longer "childishly seeking approval [sic]," he had achieved some level of internal acceptance and confidence. As well, regarding someone with care through LOVE is an amazing feeling and probably involves a lot less grasping and clinging to notions of self, negative ego, etc., than approval seeking behaviors. just some thoughts
@@sengunvolkan Ehm. I don't really understand your complaint. It I say: "I had problem with my Linux installation, and then I fixed it", do you hate it too, or do you just ask them: "hey, how did you fix your Linux"?
For me it was schema therapy, mediating conversations between inner demanding/punishing critic and inner child, and (most importantly) changing core assumptions via "transplanting" positive alternative memories over real negative ones.
@@elijahaa Ehm, to become married, you need to just have stuff that a woman wants to get. Gold diggers exist, do you acknowledge that?
The question is always "how to make a girl attracted to you", not "how to make a girl marry you", because second does not imply first.
Oh no the stream ended mid conversation 😭😭
"it takes a village to raise children" 💯I have a few nieces and I'm the childless funtie (fun auntie) and having 1 more adult around to help helps tremendously! It helps even more when the whole family is together and 1 adult can take care of the whole gang of children or at least have 2 adults instead of 1-2 (sets of parents) for the kids. Any kid with a fun Gunkle (gay uncle) would be so lucky!
Thanks I vomited
@@androidbluathuh
I've been waiting for this one. So excited to hear what you guys have to say.
I was negged a lot by one man in particular, and it caused me a lot of long-term trauma reactivity. I felt ashamed of myself every time after sleeping with him. This went on for over 5 years. It made me realise I have compromised boundaries from previous childhood experiences. I have since avoided dated men in for around 8 years. After I recover, I hope to find the right person for me.
Maybe in your next life.
@@NHatemN that's a nice thought. I don't really believe in reincarnation, though I do just date women now,so it's working out for me
Shame is my favorite emotion. I'm convinced it's the most valuable and productive emotion we as humans have, it's really pretty great. It's a shame online communities kinda allow you to ignore shame. Get kicked out of one discord server? Just join another, and eventually you'll find one where you're still an asshole who hates their life, but are accepted for it, and you won't be forced to be better
The fact you have to give out a disclaimer about talking about people picking up girls is kinda fucked. Why is everyone so fucking feeble about anything slightly sexual related?
Defiantly felt taken advantage of, 5 year relationship that left me overwhelming bitter
16:12 EFT!!! YES!!! Tapping was what enabled me to feel my emotions without becoming overwhelmed and dissociating. I'm so happy Dr. K is validating this technique, it's simple and effective, and once you learn it you can do it on your own without having to pay $$$$ to a therapist.
The majority of men who cheat? THE MAJORITY OF MEN WHO CHEAT WHAT, DR K???? 😭😭
Near the end, Dr K mentions something very important about mistakes
So to help illustrate the point, I will say this:
I can never thank my high school friend enough, for not forgiving me for how I mistreated her
Which is just as well, because she'll probably not allow me to apologize
And that's the point
The most interesting and suave guy I ever met was a friend of a friend, and all he did was talk to me like a normal person. The conversation was engaging and he was genuinely interested in what i had to say. And no, he wasn’t 6’2”, he was a 5’3” IT nerd.
I am very confused when people talk about toxic masculinity. Dr K says that men feel like their value is dependent on them providing, and then that people judged them for toxic masculinity. But that's what toxic masculinity is, it's the gendered expectations of men that are seen as "normal" but are actually destructive to the self and others. I feel like 90% of the time people who criticize the term "toxic masculinity" agree with what it says but have been conditioned to treat it as a buzzword.
Because the political left Uses it as buzzword alot and it kind of became politically loaded term this way.
But i Kind of agree with you that this "toxic masculinity" can be a Problem but i think the Word we Use for it needs to be recoined
He's saying that everyone Is doing It, not Just men. Men are treated like they only valued for they can do by, he said, like 50% of humans. So it's not a thing men develop by themself, it's how society treat them, and at the same time saying negative effects are only fault of men
@@edoardobrocca7985 wait, so you agree with me? because what you described is what I said. Toxic masculinity is taught to men by society to used them for labour, war and to sell them shit.
51:14 "General speaking generalizations are not useful" 😂
Love Love Love whenever you and Kruti do content together - no matter the content. It is a fantastic model of a healthy relationship, Kruti checks you in a wonderful way and you both bring different perspectives and wisdom.
Please more and grateful!
The stream is continuing under a new video.
1:38:25
"You can not make up for your mistakes."
A healthy and impactful discussion on why making up for mistakes actualy allows someone to make more mistakes rather than improving himself.
Trauma is stored in the balls
Oh no did we cut short?
Feet? Men have it too, haven't you ever heard the term "toe curling" lol
I wish you'd talk about and consider the effects of social media making people more and more narcissistic and selfish. Us autistics are getting more fucked over than we normally were because of this. We CANNOT figure out when someone is screwing us over No matter how many times it happens we always fall for it again.
Most is this stuff is case by case. But asking them out on a date or grabbing lunch is an easy start
I'm so curious about the data on women emotionally investing slower than men because like... lesbians are notoriously quick to invest? I mean it's a stereotype that is a vast generalization but also it definitely happens sometimes between some women
Not a lesbian here, but perhaps because it's a whole different dynamic with another woman than a man? Also, it's in our biology, since we literally carry the next generation. That is quite an investment.
@@aylan.6212 sure, there's definitely inherent differences. at least culturally it's much more common for women to emotionally attach to other women quickly than it is for men to other men. (Obviously both can happen and do.) So it seems less about how women attach v how men attach and something more specific to the socialized dynamics of women and men attaching to each other. I guess I'd just never thought about it that way; there are lots of reasons given in wlw communities for uhaul behavior, but one is the idea that women attach emotionally more quickly so 2 women fuel that in each other. I think the image of men as less emotional can skew the perception of how much/quickly men attach emotionally for those of us who don't typically date men
Pick-up artistry died when the pandemic started.
Because I think their true technical is just numbers, they don't ever tell you their failures. If you can play the numbers game, you are naturally, or naturally learn how to deal with rejections and failures.
@@harveylin3548 Most Pua's show hundreds of rejections, thats kinda the point, put yourself out there on mass then some will land. Better than dating apps and if you don't have friends who go out a lot, you're kinda forced to.
Dr K, this is the first time I disagree on lots of stuff bcz what these guys are talking about is underlying dynamics of attraction, things like avoiding being a nice guy, being masculine, etc things that incels really struggle with. It’s nuanced when they say emotional investment and doing nice things for someone kills attraction, it applies to a subset of men who would do anything to keep a woman around, these aren’t regular, healthy people, socially at least.
Yeah but the pickup artists aren't actually helping them fix their underlying insecurities that make them behave in desperate, insecure, unnattractive ways. The pick up artists just tell them to be manipulative and sometimes straight up toxic long enough to trick girls. Meanwhile even if the guy "gets" some girls he still feels just as awful inside as before.
Dr. K sees the deeper issues going on here. Which you are missing. Whats more important. "Getting a girl" or working on your issues to build a good life for yourself?
@@KD-ou2np bro you aren’t getting it. I don’t think these people are being toxic or desperate. I think they are playing with the cards they have. I think they have been void of a relationship for so long that they have to operationalize the entire process. The way Dr K interpreted most of this was from a stance of them being broken, immature boys. I think you could interpret this advice as just telling the truth about how to attract women from the lens of someone who has failed at understanding the masculine/feminine dynamic, which these types of men get wrong bcz they overly chase, overly invest, make themselves too available, etc. It’s not toxic to tell young men that women are attracted to men with a lot of options, it’s just real life. It’s a misinterpretation and it’s honestly bcz social dynamics at this level aren’t taught. I’ve seen with my own 2 eyes women change as soon as I fully dedicated myself to them, why? Bcz attraction for women is built off having a man they can’t always have, but that’s a nuance that isn’t talked about. You don’t learn that or process it correctly until you’ve seen it over and over.
@@shadowclonejutsu8500 you didn't respond to what I said at all. About underlying issues.
@@KD-ou2np I did, but you’re not seeing it bcz you’re just following Dr K’a frame, like I said, the way he’s interpreting it is that these are broken boys. My whole point is that I disagree. The underlying issue is a grown man who is socially crippled and starved of female attention, not someone who has been hurt so bad that they’ve become a monster. I just disagree
@@KD-ou2np like let’s be clear, Dr K is assuming the underlying issue, we are guessing
would love to ssee a dr k tai lopez stream
The end is so perfect lmao
Not sure about evolutionary reason but evolutionary explanation for homosexuality is definitely that gay and lesbian people have been having children for millennial, still do and will continue to have children. Even without medical intervention. My favorite author w somerset maugham came out as gay in the 40s and had several kids. Before coming out his books would have several page descriptions of handsome men's jaw line and state about a female character, yeah she's pretty hot.
Did the stream just end?
Dr. K: «Trauma is stored in the body»
People, who watched Mushoku Tensei with Psyculturist: «Trauma is stored in the balls!!»
🤪🤪🤪
I think many of the preppers have OCD. But still prepping is not unreasonable. Bad things were predicted far in the past and yeah a lot of insanly bad stuff happend, just consider history, Mongolian Conquest, Collapse of Rome, the black death, Wolrd Wars, Napoleonic wars, Holocaust, just to name a few. But in our modern wolrd we are so vulnerable because everything is so fragile, our tech above all, but also deseases built with the help of AI ... also all the ones we already created to wage biological warfare. Shit will hit the fan massively eventually.
did therapy, took medication, went to the gym..nothing seems to make a difference 45:45
same
Then you didn't tackle the original problem. You treated symptoms.
Main problem is self confidence it all starts from the belief that you are good as you are and from there you start to improve
Working on your self-esteem is important, so that you can realize that you do have value as a human being that wants to enjoy life.
Maybe you lack authenticity, trying to do everything right but maybe just confidence and simply being yourself is the key. You can do everything 'right' in the book but miss just that, I dont know, I dont know anything about you anyways
Dude, cut the first 7 minutes of your video out, holy god
When does it start talking about what's in the thumbnail?
@serban2139 it's 21:05 in the part two video, linked at the top of the comments
finally, he delivers
50:34 I did not understand his point at all with this, does anybody know what that has to do anything?
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1:33:53 reading
How can one approach 3k girls ? I approached maybe 10 in 30 years. From those I had some short relationships and 2 lasting, current for 6 years. What do you do with your life and those girls to fail so miserably ?
Exist
That’s not hard, that’s less than 3 girls a day for 3 years. And it depends on how you view it,
@@jc3productions362Who the f has time and situations where you can approach 3 strangers every single day? Besides my gym i see strangers twice a week MAX. Like what.
can you do more videos on navigating the rejection whilst using dating apps, going on dates, and how to process that and be able to tolerate it
Irreverence. The rejection hurts because on some level you value their approval of you more than you value the approval of yourself. So it hurts when they reject you. Its a shot at your identity.
Learn to hate them a little bit. Or atleast don't be too desperate for their approval. He who cares most hurts most. It's a numbers game at the end of the day. Just "next" her and move on to someone more deserving. Someone who actually does want you.
Just stop it, lol
@@inquisitionagent9052 I agreed until you said “learn to hate them”. No. The reason why “rejection” hurts for y’all is because you’re making it all about the woman. View it as you’re giving her an opportunity to get to know you, like a CEO of a company interviewing someone. If she says no, her loss, but you did exactly what you wanted to do. Also realize not every girl is supposed to say yes, more times than not a no is a blessing in disguise
@@jc3productions362 "hate them a little" Semantics. Hate here doesn't mean you harbor genuine seething resentment.
How many CEOs can you genuinely say you'd want to sit down and have a beer with? Especially one that just rejected you for a promotion or a job opening? I'm not gonna go out of my way to talk trash or key his car. But I don't have to have fluffy feelings for them or glaze them either.
You go where you're valued. Its no big deal. Besides, when did I ever say that every girl has to say yes?
@@inquisitionagent9052 Being worried about rejection has the underlying assumption that you expect every girl to say yes. And I’m not saying you have to sit with a bad CEO, dude the analogy I was making is when you look at approaching the woman from the angle of she’s the interviewee and the “job” is getting to know/be with you, it now shifts the focus back onto YOU, which is the whole point. Dudes worry about rejection because they care more about the woman than about themselves and what they want
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Chat is so funny
@@D_Jilla yep) that one last joke "Doc house took an energy-outage -pill" (smth like that) - welp it soo got me
your mic eq is horrible
what happend?
I've approached less than 10 girls in a quarter of a Century. What do I win?
@@MagnyCoors virginity
if you approached more girls than girls have approached you then you already won
Regret
And FOMO
5 more years and you win wizard powers
where stream
There are no "different people", everyone sees men as a meal ticket
A man is a vessel. He must also be the captain.
Yeah, and?
@@andybreadley429 wdym yeah and? What else do you wanna hear? We're men. Nobody's coming to save us. The world at best doesn't care or at worst actively hates us.
It's up to us to save ourselves
@@inquisitionagent9052 I have no troubles saving myself, but a lot of people are actively contributing to a problem by promoting hatred of men. Good to see, some people understand the problem.
@@inquisitionagent9052 I take it back, you don't understand a thing...
33:30 wooow 1-3 women abused
Greed.
It totally works and you are coping
-48:38
gg
32:50
PUA died when young people realized what really matters: your looks. You just cannot stop the the truth cannot be stopped. Looks matter above everything else. It isn't about giving up it's about realizing your looks dictate your success. If you don't have it..then focus on something else but beware you will not get the same type of relationship a good looking person will get.
Some still do PUA these days though...its a phase. You do it, you see it doesnt work bc ur not good looking then you move on. (Yeah it will work like 1 out 100 pick ups and its not going to be one of those hot chicks you see picked up by PUAs nor is she going to be mermerized by you....she will agree to a date maybe but she won't truly love you).
Others do it but happen to be very good looking so it works and they go on reddit forums youtube telling you how to do it correctly lol...just do this bro . So PUA will always have a fan base though it's going to get smaller and smaller.
The guy who coined “PUA” was like a 6 at best lol. It’s literally just talking to people. Anxiety is your greatest enemy.
Dudes can go from a 5 to an 8 by shaving your neck beard, working out, dressing nice and improving your posture. Girls can go from a 5 to a 5.5 and peak at age 25.
Nah personality does
I am not a ugly dude lol dudes far more personable than me have had more success than i.
How well you can express yourself without feeling miserable about yourself matters far more. You aint wrong though a man with a crap personality and a man witg a crap personality but looks good will win out. Both still suck.
@@newuser689 he was a 6 but he was pretty tall and 6 is about average only 1 point away from model looks (7 is chadlite).
It's not goint to work if you look like Dr. K or asmongold and if it works it will be like 5 out of 500 pick ups and its going to be an average girl at best and even then it doesn't mean you'll get laid or she will love you.
I think Dr. K would benefit in understanding more what is patriarchy. It doesn't mean mothers doesn't participate in it. Quite the opposite. It's disappointing because the information is available everywhere nowadays...
Please Dr. K, read about it :)
Every woman takes advantage of a man, rarely the opposite
How could you possibly know whether or not this is true?
@@jbark678 it's the entire history of humanity. In our feminist times people are conditioned to believe that women used to be forced to serve their men while in actuality men have always been servants to women. Man has endured all the hardships to protect women. Women had to endure child birth. But a woman does not produce kids her entire life while men had to participate in hard labor almost until death.
I used to be angry at women and felt that the feminists were the evil of the modern world... Then I engaged with actual women, I had a lot of social anxiety and some really painful memories during highschool that made me resentful and angry.
Hopefully you can engage with some women that can actually bring you some joy
I've met a lot of selfless women, and women that were caring of those around him, tell that to my old self and I would've told you that I don't know anything about women, but the reality is that it was me then that didn't interact with them
My resentment has nothing to do with feminism. There is no point in engagement to me. I know for a fact they demand that I must be more than I am. More than just a man with nothing to his name. Feminism or no feminism - they wouldn't want to even look at me as I am. I have nothing to take advantage of - that's why they are uninterested. I have enough for them to act polite around me, naturally I do the same, but there is no point trying to go deeper.
@@christopherg.8591 btw, they ARE evil, don't be fooled