For What’s Good, I’d love to see more duos. Manny & Tobi, Arthur TV and Arthur Hill, George Clarkey and Max Baledge, Ciaran Carlin and Becky, Elz the Witch and Lauren Alexis or Joanna, Josh and Freya, Talia and Gee, Ethan and Faith, Deji and Darkest, Chunkz and Filly, Chip and Theo, Gib and Harry, Chris MD and Ben Foster (maybe?), Kon and Kirstie or Kon and James/ John, and more.
@@benrichards7664 Bro yesss I would love it. I was thinking maybe also WillNE and James Marriot, HP and Niko, I’mAllexx and Memulous, GK Barry and Chip, Stephen Tries and Max, and maybe even Iain Sterling and Maya Jama? Haha there’s so many good UK YT duos that I’d love to see on there.
@@clutterinparadise8839Will and James would be incredible! Think their funniest uk duo around. Gonna need another love island watch along with Will taking the pistol of the islanders and James taking the piss of Newcastle 😅
Learn to befriend that internal monologue - It doesn't go, you just become friends with it. Keep going brother!! You're making great changes in your life.
My inner monologue makes up crazy ass stories to entertain myself during the day it’s like I’m on auto pilot for my daily routine and my inner monologue is my entertainment
I find that when you allow yourself to have a balance of working on yourself and allowing yourself to also live in the moment and let all those expectations fall away/stop “fixing things” the stress is a lot less. Also remembering that good things and goals take time instead of rushing to it. In-depthly learning that recently has really brought me back down to earth with where I am w my life. Bc you lose so many important moments by feeling like everything needs to be fixed in the moment bc fixing is change and change takes time (“fixing is change and change takes time” is what I tell myself whenever I’m stressing about something that can’t be changed in that moment). Also, a lot of things that u feel need to be fixed or changed are also just lessons that need to be only experienced. So basically to sum it up I’ve been full of wisdom recently.
My internal monologue, as a pessimist, is "what if..." And its an unrealistically negative situation but ive learnt to just take it step by step and you only live once so try do as much as you can
During periods of time where I have a lot going on and I'm feeling stressed I try to tell myself that it is important to do one thing at the time. And telling myself that worrying about being stressed uses time and energy that can be used to get through the stress. I think it's natural to stress about being stressed. Keep up the great work Randy❤
3:00 Randy, it's perfectly okay to go through those moments, the fact you recognize your mindset and are trying to change it speaks volumes of your emotional maturity, so stick with that. What you've gone through in the last few months is beyond traumatizing, it's never easy to have to wake up and accept the fact your life will never be the way it was not too long ago. There's nothing wrong with taking time to adjust and feel what you need to feel. That anxious drive is a very normal thing, I've felt similar. You got this bro
I keep myself active to forget about that constant inner “my life is over” feeling Randy , that’s why I love these vlogs because you’re so relatable fr fr 💯
I totally understand how adding new things to a comfortable routine can be stressful and overwhelming. I am currently trying to figure out my objectives in life. It does have its hard parts. But my monologue is generally "It'll be worth it in the end."
I think my inner monologue is a battle of negative thoughts and me having to challenge them a lot, like I have to constantly check myself so I don't spiral! Also I think the visual representation of that would be the the elmo fire gif 😂
Great vlog as usual Randy. My internal monologue flucuates quite a lot. Sometimes its very care free, life is good, you have a roof over your head, food, life could be worse. Other days its the complete opposite and it is sometimes quite the battle with some dark thoughts. I think i know how to deal with that fluctuation pretty well though.
I absolutely relate to that internal process thing randy. But I try to just zoom out and see the bigger storyline. You could think about how you're crafting this amazing story to tell Harper when she's older and it'll help you realise the hard parts are just parts of the big story ❤
Considering the stuff I had to deal with for the past few years I would say that my stress levels are definently improving from what they were. Before I had no outlet to use my pent up emotions and stress but now I have been going to the gym at least 3-4 times a week after lectures and it helps me feel better both physically and mentally. My current mindset is that even if I am tired and sore from the day before, if I have time to go to the gym I will. Also my dietary choices during my first two years of college were horrible and I gained around 60 pounds in the summer of my freshman year. I finally decided to improve my choices and am currently down almost 20 pounds. It is definitely a grind but thats just the game of life. Keep it up Randy!!!!!
when i’m super stressed my internal monologue is clouded and i can’t seem to track a single thought. i normally chat with a friend on what i need to do and get some advice on how to sort everything based on priorities and what i can actually do, sometimes even writing down the tasks so i can physically see them instead of trying to imagine them
My life is crazy stressful, but my inner monologue is thinking about everything but the stress. As soon as I afford myself the time to think about the stress, it magnifies 10/20-fold. I know that's not good for long-term thinking, but in the short-term it's how I get by.
Hey Randy, normally I don’t comment like this, but as someone who is going through basically the same exact thing as you and the same age as you, minus the child thankfully, I find that my inner monologue is something that needs to be out of my head if that makes sense. so what I started doing was that I would record myself with the voice notes app, but I would never play it back or anything like that but I just found that getting it out physically helps stay calm when the silence gets really loud. I also tend to focus on just doing, one or two little things a day that I know are good choices and so that way, if the rest of the day doesn’t go as planned or I’m not as productive as I would’ve liked to be, I can look back and see those couple positive things and remind myself to stay positive. I think it’s important to acknowledge your inner monologue and not put it to the side because I think that’s how anxiety really ramps up, but I think you also need to balance it and not let it dominate your life and that’s when you tell yourself that new situations are scary and what looks like the end of the world is not. It’s just the end of that specific world and that’s OK and you can move on and do things differently and as long as you’re confident in who you are as a basic human, then there should be no reason why you can’t figure it out. You got this Randy 😊
My inner monologue is like "Alright, wake up, I gotta go to school, come back from school, alright I gotta go for a run soon, come back from run, alright I gotta go workout, come back from workout and do homework and then sleep. I know what I have to do, an then I don't feel the need to think about it any more than that. If I don't get them done, it's not that deep, because the most important thing is to just be stress free and happy, otherwise I'm living a life that is not worth living.
From a fellow Notts gal, don’t change Randy. We love your videos and seeing you be you in the most natural, honest and vulnerable setting. Just focus on getting through day by day and enjoy the moment. Take care - we support you wholeheartedly!!!
Randy, there’s a book called “chatter” that talks about our inner monologue and how to harness it better, it might be useful.. definitely helped me to be kinder to myself x
my internal monologue is like fighting with myself on do I say this or that or do I do this or that, literally a devil voice and an angel voice fighting
Thanks for being vulnerable! I'm sure it's not always easy as a public figure. When I've been in a stressful or challenging situation, my mind (which wants to naturally amplify any threat --or create one when there is no threat) can create those doomsday scenarios or feelings. Just let them pass. Feelings come and go, negative or unrealistic thoughts come and go. They don't define your situation, they don't define you and those fearful feelings or thoughts often don't reflect reality. Remember your stressful situation is temporary not permanent. Also, the outcome of your situation doesn't define your value or self worth.
I've been stressed most of the year and I feel as if I'm the happiest i've ever been. I think tend to plan my day as it goes, unless i'm meeting up with people or work. Whatever I do, I typically plan merely an hour before. Keep up the vlogs, looking good randy!
Randy vlog time…let’s get it! 📹❤️ My inner monologue is very similar bro, I catastrophise things in my head all the time. 😔 You’re not alone there man. 🙏🏻
Whenever I would feel somewhat the way you described, I try to take a step back and make like a list, I first do this, than this followed by this and than it’s ok for today, even if it’s not everything I wanted to do that day
I feel like I'm in a constant state of stress and anxiety. My internal monologue - "you're not doing enough, you're letting people down, you're not working enough, you're not making enough money". Most of my stress is related to money, chronic pain, wedding planning. I also think I'm too much of a people pleaser. My stress leads to anxiety which then leads to panic and chest pains 👍 Loving the vlogs Randy and you're looking fab! Keep doing what you're doing
Yes Randy! These vlogs are your way (and ours) to give ourselves a better outlook in life. The goods, the bads, and the uglies, genuine and free as always.
Love the way you flipped the lotus biscuit!! Honestly Randy you John and Simon have smashed it honestly such a great vibe and amazing conversation on the pod can tell the new found love of the amazing set and honestly hope it grows to where I see it going you deserve it randizzle!!
My internal monologue is pretty similar, I’m like a bully to myself in my head, everything that goes wrong is the worst thing ever and I can never do enough, but the more I do the more I ask myself why do I do so much.
Hi Randy. I grew up on an Essex council estate so my accent was strong. In my 20's I became friends with some people who were still learning English so I learned to speak a little slower and a lot clearer. I still receive compliments on my vocal clarity. Now I'm not suggesting you find an immigrant to be your new bff, but many viewers may have English as a 2nd (or more) language so perhaps you could hold them in your mind. I hope you are beginning to see that people value your input as your view count isn't too bad at all! Take care kid :)
I had a mental breakdown a couple weeks back, over the past year I involuntarily witnessed things the normal human shouldn’t see or go through, I think about them 8 situations everyday and my mind just expects the same thing to happen plus throwing financial pressures, it’s hard to balance everything atm but yeah also everyday my brain says ‘what’s next’ so I can never really commit to anything. I’m interested in the intricate side of psychology e.g. why People use certain words in specific situations, the sub-conscious has a lot of answers but you only have a small window to try and course your way through and find answers
"this too shall pass." everything horrible and draining in my life will go away eventually, as well as all the magnificent and good things, its all temporary. the world wont stop for me so i wont stop for anything else either. it makes me look at my problems and goals differently, like 'i only have one life so why am i going to waste it dwelling over xyz,' and ' i only have one life so im going to do what i can to get what i want.'
Bro, what I think about the last few weeks? I start my fulltime job next week but still need to complete my final uni assignments. Therefore I have been having 60+ hour weeks the last 3 weeks. All my other activities have gone out the window. But I keep repeating myself that somwhere around this time next week I will have completed uni, so I can focus on my new job and then there will be free time to pick my hobbies back up which are running and cooking... The one thing that helps me through crazy times like these is to remind myself of what I do it for and to keep looking forward to those better times
I have a stammer, there’s a course called the McGuire program and they teach to take a deep costal breath and have planned what you want to say, your mouth speaks before your brain can catch up, that’s the same with Harry aswell sometimes. I know it’s hard but got to stop being so hard on yourself Randy, we love you so much bro! Keep strong
Some ideas for 4 people pods: ChrisMD and Harry Harry and Ethan Chip and Cal ArthurTV and George Clarkey Reev Theo and Tom Garratt Joe Sugg and Caspar Lee or Tom Syndicate Josh and Freya Ethan and Faith Willne and James Marriott Maybe its difficult but would love to see Noel Miller and Cody Ko
Take a deep breath, forget your troubles, and say f it, I’m gonna have fun and be me. I was severe anxiety and depression once upon a time. The best thing you can do is just reboot your brain man. Forget the past and focus on the future. Don’t worry about failure, everyone fails.
Randy - I don’t intend on making this sound malicious, but with what you’ve described, if you haven’t already, therapy might be worth considering. It’s not just for people with mental health illnesses, it can be good for just offloading, or self growth as well!
With the stress stuff, I think the whole thing with it is that even if it’s stressful and hard at the start, at some point it becomes a habit and the stress attached with it goes away. Just got to put in the work early
Genuinely try and think that tomorrow isn't guaranteed and just make the day count. You're doing amazing Randy, grateful for every vlog you post as I'm sure everyone else who supports you is. Watching you all play this game makes me want to pick my glove back up!
Same as you tbh bro. I’m a professional chef and do about 50/60 hours a week + awful pay. Always stressed lmao, wish I could move onto something else but unfortunately cooking is all I know
The way i feel about life is i do what i can in a day and if people dont like it then so damn what. But i dont have over 250,000 people watching me every single day of my life. So i am sure that if i did i would feel much different about the little fails i suffer day to day. Just remember you are just a normal man like me and there are only 24 hours in a day and you can only accomplish so much with your time. Just the fact you care about everything as much as you do means a lot. If you didnt care about stuff the way you did you wouldnt be as successful as you are and will be. Keep it up Randy you are doing great and remember you are just a human being bro. You arent Superman. Thank you for all the content you provide us with.
Inner Monologue for Stress, I find myself to try and just do one thing at a time and when I have down time, i’d plan ahead on when to do what and include “my own free time” as part of the plans as that is important too, socialising is so important aswell but i feel like you already have that down in your day to day life from my knowledge from vlogs :) also I think you should keep vlogs on this channel but maybe change the content to a more chill vibe on your main if you feel like the separation of energy and enthusiasm to the camera is not for you, no matter what you do, you will ofc have the 30k or so of us who will watch KEEP IT UP RANDY p.s. soz if i waffled 😭
Routine routine routine. Once you are on autopilot you can silence the mind into a meditative state of awareness. No stress, just following through your patterened routine. I don’t deviate from my routine and I’m rarely stressed at all anymore because I know what’s coming at the exact time I plan it. Nothing breaks my routine, it is sacred. I also don’t allow myself to be endlessly bombarded with technological distractions, so my phone goes on silent when I am busy and I become uncontactable until I’m not. Humans have transformed into Pavlovian dogs waiting to receive their next notification. Deprogramming from this will chill you out. Internal monologues for me also are personally a no no when I want to relax. Don’t think, instead listen. Listen and look. Be objective and present in the moment. Thinking is only exciting the ego, taking you to a dreamland that distracts you from reality.
Randy I like you a lot, however in the first part of the video about talking around your day ahead (I know your working hard) but others have no choice to think about work and just have to go regardless of if they want to or not you stated you would feel less stressed if you done less, and asked what we thought about day to day, work isn’t a thought for most more of a must. You asked for the feedback, like a say I like you a lot as a person but your in a privileged position
Things such as gym sleep(prioritising) new things in general require are mentally taxing - but once it become part of your life the managing gym and sleep just happens same with diet and work(some parts of it)
well i am in a stressful situation currently, my internal monologue always through these situations has been things are gonna get better, they have too. Which they always do eventually. Also, this is kinda weird but i imagine myself in more worse situations, making myself feel grateful that I didn't encounter that.
If you haven't heard of radical acceptance Randy I would look into it, has helped with many a stressful time and thought for myself. Keep going brother, you're killing it and remember to always be kind to yourself!
i think exact same my life is over and all the things you look at and try to do to change just seems so hard and not worth doing cause just makes you more depressed but your an awesome guy randy and got lots going for yourself. keep smashing n make sure try make yourself happy why your making everyone else’s day better
We are working beings, same as most if not all of animal species in the planet. Our consciousness is what causes us to be stressed. If you were in the opposite situation, you would be stressed to do something and be of service and get stuff done. We are wired to work, although granted not 24/7. Take a few days to recalibrate and get back on top of things because it's much better to stress to become better than stress for lack of purpose. Big up you man.
Success is never owned it is rented and the rent is due everyday , side note being so negative in your experiences can hurt you as well it’s the same thought process for why your not supposed to to call yourself dumb or think negative thoughts about yourself I’m not you so I can’t tell you how to live your life but I wake up everyday and genuinely thank god for today for the people I love and hate and for the opportunity to learn and grow and be better and no not everyday is supposed to be amazing sometimes you’ll genuinely hate what your doing but it’s not about how you feel it’s about the result of the process and doing the things your afraid of doing or hate doing will only make you a better person because it is the discipline to do regardless of how you feel that makes you a man
I try to think of the 24 hours in a day as a journey of my whole life. So in short, put all of the work in now, in the beginning, at a young age, then later on in life i can relax, rich, with completing everything in life. Then transition that into 24 hours, so you wake up, then cold shower straight away to win the morning and ultimately that sets the mood for the rest of the day as its the most difficult part and the same goes with life. Work hard now and live to enjoy the rest. Carrying on, you head to work, do all the hard bits and at the very end of the day you can reflect, journal, read or whatever and treat yourself with a nice warm, hot shower which is honestly the best feeling ever and thats ultimately the end of the day/life. Viewing it like this for me makes me consciously switch on and put more effort in because i know that there is a nice warm, hot shower waiting at the end of the day and its only a matter of hours away not years if you were viewing it like a whole living, so it pushes me to get more done in the day and to not leave anything up to tomorrow. Then sleep is basically the reset button and to start all over again as if its a new life, new beginning and new project, because it is and not everyone gets the chance or is lucky enough to wake up today or tomorrow. So basically putting all the aspects of life into 24 hours and just focusing on the day and the small habits which will end up compounding into huge results over time. It's also important to say that no matter how good life gets there is always going to be that stress, nerves, pain etc but everything comes with a price tag and end of the day it depends if you're willing to exchange for what you want now for what you want in the future. That's my view on it. Anyways love you Randy, im 18 at the moment and just secured a job at stanstead airport after being out of work for some while so thats a first step for me. It'll all be good in the end and make sure to clear some time throughout the day to just think and meditate for even a few minutes or 30 seconds, really helps me. Keep pushing.
I mean I don’t have a job cause im in my teens but my mindset is just keep going cause whenever I stop everything just gets worse and since I struggle with my mental health that way of thinking helps me a lot
What’s good guest Ideas: Talia Jack Whitehall Any current or ex footballers you might be able to get hold of? Tanya - Sidemen (Might not bang views but would be interesting) Kon Stephen Tries UA-camrs but from other genres such as Sorred food Korean Englishman/ JOLLY
My inner monologue any time I'm stressed tells me to man the fuck up and get on with!! Because lets be honest who actually cares, you can scream and shout all you like about how shit your life is but it aint going to make a difference because NOBODY ACTUALLY cares unless you keep grinding so shut up and get to working and plus I ain't no female to be complaining and bitching all day, lets leave that to them!
give the 4 hour work week by tim ferriss a read, I don't really think you can apply the things he says to your life but I think it will give you a new prespective on working at least
As someone who does food videos, try to collab with Sorted Food or Korean Englishman and Jolly. It will be interesting. They would also make good podcast guests as they would bring something new to the conversation.
i’ve started just thinking fuck it.. i’ve really been thinking a lot about what i want from life and i’ve decided that quite frankly i couldn’t give a shit and i’m just doing what i’m doing and i’ll see where it gets me later😭 probs not the best idea to just say fuck it, future me can deal with it, But it is helping me to remember that i don’t want to spend my whole life always working and that i want to enjoy my time while i can. i believe everything will work out just fine so why stress it when i could be happier instead. ig im living in ignorance bliss LOL but it is helping me to not be so stressed
We're all trying to find the pieces to the puzzle of life brother,try up the vlogs love how you say what on your mind with no filter really dawn to earth lad who I wish all the best to ❤
Because I’m religious and a believer in Jesus Christ, my inner monologue is really just keeping steadfast on His word. Knowing that I’ll be okay because He declares so and because Scripture tells me to not be anxious. Yes, it’s sometimes a battle to control because of course, my flesh is going to do the same as yours but there’s relaxation in being fixed in His word. I just usually remind myself of it and my head will literally clear itself. So far so good when I rely on Him. I hope you find something to better handle your mind whenever it scrambles.
Stressed! I have been in a similar situation that you are in now I’m trying to start a new business and currently have no car I live 3 hours from my daughter so yeah pretty stressed recently. My inside thoughts keep me from being productive but I keep my head up and remember this to shall pass.
This might sound mad, but it’s as simple as telling yourself you’re overthinking You write lists Tick stuff off You’re getting stuff done… You can clearly handle the pressure you just need to acknowledge you’re overthinking it
For What’s Good, I’d love to see more duos. Manny & Tobi, Arthur TV and Arthur Hill, George Clarkey and Max Baledge, Ciaran Carlin and Becky, Elz the Witch and Lauren Alexis or Joanna, Josh and Freya, Talia and Gee, Ethan and Faith, Deji and Darkest, Chunkz and Filly, Chip and Theo, Gib and Harry, Chris MD and Ben Foster (maybe?), Kon and Kirstie or Kon and James/ John, and more.
Tobi and Manny is a shout!
@@benrichards7664 Bro yesss I would love it. I was thinking maybe also WillNE and James Marriot, HP and Niko, I’mAllexx and Memulous, GK Barry and Chip, Stephen Tries and Max, and maybe even Iain Sterling and Maya Jama? Haha there’s so many good UK YT duos that I’d love to see on there.
@@clutterinparadise8839Will and James would be incredible! Think their funniest uk duo around. Gonna need another love island watch along with Will taking the pistol of the islanders and James taking the piss of Newcastle 😅
Harry looks sensational
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11:04 Harry really has me in a chokehold 🥵
SAME
Learn to befriend that internal monologue - It doesn't go, you just become friends with it. Keep going brother!! You're making great changes in your life.
My inner monologue makes up crazy ass stories to entertain myself during the day it’s like I’m on auto pilot for my daily routine and my inner monologue is my entertainment
Im yhe opposite. My inner monologue creates f*cked up situations and ruins my day. And I have chronic anxiety 🤧
Harry looks SO good
4:06 HE LOOKS SO GOOD
He looks like an old English man
what shoes is harry wearing?
@@boussulars adidas s2g sł leather (?) waterproof in green (i think 🤞)
@@seren.khadka47 looks like from the video where harry ethan turned old lol
Harry suits glasses
Keep going Randy, always appreciate the vulnerability you show and the rawness of the vlogs, your genuine life and feelings 🤙🏻
I find that when you allow yourself to have a balance of working on yourself and allowing yourself to also live in the moment and let all those expectations fall away/stop “fixing things” the stress is a lot less. Also remembering that good things and goals take time instead of rushing to it. In-depthly learning that recently has really brought me back down to earth with where I am w my life. Bc you lose so many important moments by feeling like everything needs to be fixed in the moment bc fixing is change and change takes time (“fixing is change and change takes time” is what I tell myself whenever I’m stressing about something that can’t be changed in that moment). Also, a lot of things that u feel need to be fixed or changed are also just lessons that need to be only experienced. So basically to sum it up I’ve been full of wisdom recently.
My internal monologue, as a pessimist, is "what if..." And its an unrealistically negative situation but ive learnt to just take it step by step and you only live once so try do as much as you can
During periods of time where I have a lot going on and I'm feeling stressed I try to tell myself that it is important to do one thing at the time. And telling myself that worrying about being stressed uses time and energy that can be used to get through the stress. I think it's natural to stress about being stressed. Keep up the great work Randy❤
3:00 Randy, it's perfectly okay to go through those moments, the fact you recognize your mindset and are trying to change it speaks volumes of your emotional maturity, so stick with that. What you've gone through in the last few months is beyond traumatizing, it's never easy to have to wake up and accept the fact your life will never be the way it was not too long ago. There's nothing wrong with taking time to adjust and feel what you need to feel. That anxious drive is a very normal thing, I've felt similar. You got this bro
Get Gib and Harry on such a class duo
I keep myself active to forget about that constant inner “my life is over” feeling Randy , that’s why I love these vlogs because you’re so relatable fr fr 💯
I totally understand how adding new things to a comfortable routine can be stressful and overwhelming. I am currently trying to figure out my objectives in life. It does have its hard parts. But my monologue is generally "It'll be worth it in the end."
4:38 this is where legends are made
I think my inner monologue is a battle of negative thoughts and me having to challenge them a lot, like I have to constantly check myself so I don't spiral! Also I think the visual representation of that would be the the elmo fire gif 😂
Great vlog as usual Randy. My internal monologue flucuates quite a lot. Sometimes its very care free, life is good, you have a roof over your head, food, life could be worse. Other days its the complete opposite and it is sometimes quite the battle with some dark thoughts. I think i know how to deal with that fluctuation pretty well though.
I absolutely relate to that internal process thing randy. But I try to just zoom out and see the bigger storyline. You could think about how you're crafting this amazing story to tell Harper when she's older and it'll help you realise the hard parts are just parts of the big story ❤
Considering the stuff I had to deal with for the past few years I would say that my stress levels are definently improving from what they were. Before I had no outlet to use my pent up emotions and stress but now I have been going to the gym at least 3-4 times a week after lectures and it helps me feel better both physically and mentally. My current mindset is that even if I am tired and sore from the day before, if I have time to go to the gym I will. Also my dietary choices during my first two years of college were horrible and I gained around 60 pounds in the summer of my freshman year. I finally decided to improve my choices and am currently down almost 20 pounds. It is definitely a grind but thats just the game of life. Keep it up Randy!!!!!
when i’m super stressed my internal monologue is clouded and i can’t seem to track a single thought. i normally chat with a friend on what i need to do and get some advice on how to sort everything based on priorities and what i can actually do, sometimes even writing down the tasks so i can physically see them instead of trying to imagine them
My life is crazy stressful, but my inner monologue is thinking about everything but the stress. As soon as I afford myself the time to think about the stress, it magnifies 10/20-fold. I know that's not good for long-term thinking, but in the short-term it's how I get by.
Hey Randy, normally I don’t comment like this, but as someone who is going through basically the same exact thing as you and the same age as you, minus the child thankfully, I find that my inner monologue is something that needs to be out of my head if that makes sense. so what I started doing was that I would record myself with the voice notes app, but I would never play it back or anything like that but I just found that getting it out physically helps stay calm when the silence gets really loud. I also tend to focus on just doing, one or two little things a day that I know are good choices and so that way, if the rest of the day doesn’t go as planned or I’m not as productive as I would’ve liked to be, I can look back and see those couple positive things and remind myself to stay positive. I think it’s important to acknowledge your inner monologue and not put it to the side because I think that’s how anxiety really ramps up, but I think you also need to balance it and not let it dominate your life and that’s when you tell yourself that new situations are scary and what looks like the end of the world is not. It’s just the end of that specific world and that’s OK and you can move on and do things differently and as long as you’re confident in who you are as a basic human, then there should be no reason why you can’t figure it out. You got this Randy 😊
My inner monologue is like "Alright, wake up, I gotta go to school, come back from school, alright I gotta go for a run soon, come back from run, alright I gotta go workout, come back from workout and do homework and then sleep. I know what I have to do, an then I don't feel the need to think about it any more than that. If I don't get them done, it's not that deep, because the most important thing is to just be stress free and happy, otherwise I'm living a life that is not worth living.
From a fellow Notts gal, don’t change Randy. We love your videos and seeing you be you in the most natural, honest and vulnerable setting. Just focus on getting through day by day and enjoy the moment. Take care - we support you wholeheartedly!!!
Randy, there’s a book called “chatter” that talks about our inner monologue and how to harness it better, it might be useful.. definitely helped me to be kinder to myself x
Always planning, planning, planning, planning, planning. ONE THING AT THE TIME!
my day to day monologue i dont really stress about what im doing today its more about whats coming up in the next days, weeks, months
my internal monologue is like fighting with myself on do I say this or that or do I do this or that, literally a devil voice and an angel voice fighting
Thanks for being vulnerable! I'm sure it's not always easy as a public figure. When I've been in a stressful or challenging situation, my mind (which wants to naturally amplify any threat --or create one when there is no threat) can create those doomsday scenarios or feelings. Just let them pass. Feelings come and go, negative or unrealistic thoughts come and go. They don't define your situation, they don't define you and those fearful feelings or thoughts often don't reflect reality. Remember your stressful situation is temporary not permanent. Also, the outcome of your situation doesn't define your value or self worth.
I've been stressed most of the year and I feel as if I'm the happiest i've ever been.
I think tend to plan my day as it goes, unless i'm meeting up with people or work. Whatever I do, I typically plan merely an hour before.
Keep up the vlogs, looking good randy!
Internal monologue: Lots of people have it so much worse, so be grateful for what you have and have been able to achieve.
Randy vlog time…let’s get it! 📹❤️ My inner monologue is very similar bro, I catastrophise things in my head all the time. 😔 You’re not alone there man. 🙏🏻
Whenever I would feel somewhat the way you described, I try to take a step back and make like a list, I first do this, than this followed by this and than it’s ok for today, even if it’s not everything I wanted to do that day
Love how much the boys are getting into golf,I know its there escape, but wish it was recorded more
I feel like I'm in a constant state of stress and anxiety. My internal monologue - "you're not doing enough, you're letting people down, you're not working enough, you're not making enough money". Most of my stress is related to money, chronic pain, wedding planning. I also think I'm too much of a people pleaser. My stress leads to anxiety which then leads to panic and chest pains 👍
Loving the vlogs Randy and you're looking fab! Keep doing what you're doing
Yes Randy! These vlogs are your way (and ours) to give ourselves a better outlook in life. The goods, the bads, and the uglies, genuine and free as always.
Love the way you flipped the lotus biscuit!! Honestly Randy you John and Simon have smashed it honestly such a great vibe and amazing conversation on the pod can tell the new found love of the amazing set and honestly hope it grows to where I see it going you deserve it randizzle!!
That’s a lawsuit right there for Harry, get the bag 🤣
My internal monologue is pretty similar, I’m like a bully to myself in my head, everything that goes wrong is the worst thing ever and I can never do enough, but the more I do the more I ask myself why do I do so much.
Hi Randy.
I grew up on an Essex council estate so my accent was strong.
In my 20's I became friends with some people who were still learning English so I learned to speak a little slower and a lot clearer.
I still receive compliments on my vocal clarity.
Now I'm not suggesting you find an immigrant to be your new bff, but many viewers may have English as a 2nd (or more) language so perhaps you could hold them in your mind.
I hope you are beginning to see that people value your input as your view count isn't too bad at all!
Take care kid :)
I had a mental breakdown a couple weeks back, over the past year I involuntarily witnessed things the normal human shouldn’t see or go through, I think about them 8 situations everyday and my mind just expects the same thing to happen plus throwing financial pressures, it’s hard to balance everything atm but yeah also everyday my brain says ‘what’s next’ so I can never really commit to anything.
I’m interested in the intricate side of psychology e.g. why People use certain words in specific situations, the sub-conscious has a lot of answers but you only have a small window to try and course your way through and find answers
"this too shall pass." everything horrible and draining in my life will go away eventually, as well as all the magnificent and good things, its all temporary. the world wont stop for me so i wont stop for anything else either. it makes me look at my problems and goals differently, like 'i only have one life so why am i going to waste it dwelling over xyz,' and ' i only have one life so im going to do what i can to get what i want.'
Bro, what I think about the last few weeks? I start my fulltime job next week but still need to complete my final uni assignments. Therefore I have been having 60+ hour weeks the last 3 weeks. All my other activities have gone out the window. But I keep repeating myself that somwhere around this time next week I will have completed uni, so I can focus on my new job and then there will be free time to pick my hobbies back up which are running and cooking... The one thing that helps me through crazy times like these is to remind myself of what I do it for and to keep looking forward to those better times
I have a stammer, there’s a course called the McGuire program and they teach to take a deep costal breath and have planned what you want to say, your mouth speaks before your brain can catch up, that’s the same with Harry aswell sometimes. I know it’s hard but got to stop being so hard on yourself Randy, we love you so much bro! Keep strong
My mind constantly tells me that i am not good enough. I know exactly how you feel!
Some ideas for 4 people pods:
ChrisMD and Harry
Harry and Ethan
Chip and Cal
ArthurTV and George Clarkey
Reev Theo and Tom Garratt
Joe Sugg and Caspar Lee or Tom Syndicate
Josh and Freya
Ethan and Faith
Willne and James Marriott
Maybe its difficult but would love to see Noel Miller and Cody Ko
Take a deep breath, forget your troubles, and say f it, I’m gonna have fun and be me. I was severe anxiety and depression once upon a time. The best thing you can do is just reboot your brain man. Forget the past and focus on the future. Don’t worry about failure, everyone fails.
Randy - I don’t intend on making this sound malicious, but with what you’ve described, if you haven’t already, therapy might be worth considering. It’s not just for people with mental health illnesses, it can be good for just offloading, or self growth as well!
Yeah my inner voice does the same. And I don't really get the chance to take the steps back to take more steps forward
With the stress stuff, I think the whole thing with it is that even if it’s stressful and hard at the start, at some point it becomes a habit and the stress attached with it goes away. Just got to put in the work early
Genuinely try and think that tomorrow isn't guaranteed and just make the day count. You're doing amazing Randy, grateful for every vlog you post as I'm sure everyone else who supports you is. Watching you all play this game makes me want to pick my glove back up!
Same as you tbh bro. I’m a professional chef and do about 50/60 hours a week + awful pay. Always stressed lmao, wish I could move onto something else but unfortunately cooking is all I know
The way i feel about life is i do what i can in a day and if people dont like it then so damn what. But i dont have over 250,000 people watching me every single day of my life. So i am sure that if i did i would feel much different about the little fails i suffer day to day. Just remember you are just a normal man like me and there are only 24 hours in a day and you can only accomplish so much with your time. Just the fact you care about everything as much as you do means a lot. If you didnt care about stuff the way you did you wouldnt be as successful as you are and will be. Keep it up Randy you are doing great and remember you are just a human being bro. You arent Superman. Thank you for all the content you provide us with.
Inner thoughts are mostly health anxiety based. Just fearing the worst is going to happen all the time.
internal monologue: BE HIM
Inner Monologue for Stress, I find myself to try and just do one thing at a time and when I have down time, i’d plan ahead on when to do what and include “my own free time” as part of the plans as that is important too, socialising is so important aswell but i feel like you already have that down in your day to day life from my knowledge from vlogs :)
also I think you should keep vlogs on this channel but maybe change the content to a more chill vibe on your main if you feel like the separation of energy and enthusiasm to the camera is not for you, no matter what you do, you will ofc have the 30k or so of us who will watch KEEP IT UP RANDY
p.s. soz if i waffled 😭
Randy keep killing it man we are all going through different struggles yt helps me clear my mind and smoke cause i constantly over think
Routine routine routine. Once you are on autopilot you can silence the mind into a meditative state of awareness. No stress, just following through your patterened routine. I don’t deviate from my routine and I’m rarely stressed at all anymore because I know what’s coming at the exact time I plan it. Nothing breaks my routine, it is sacred. I also don’t allow myself to be endlessly bombarded with technological distractions, so my phone goes on silent when I am busy and I become uncontactable until I’m not. Humans have transformed into Pavlovian dogs waiting to receive their next notification. Deprogramming from this will chill you out. Internal monologues for me also are personally a no no when I want to relax. Don’t think, instead listen. Listen and look. Be objective and present in the moment. Thinking is only exciting the ego, taking you to a dreamland that distracts you from reality.
The woman trying to give you the hot chocolate 😂😂
Randy I like you a lot, however in the first part of the video about talking around your day ahead (I know your working hard) but others have no choice to think about work and just have to go regardless of if they want to or not you stated you would feel less stressed if you done less, and asked what we thought about day to day, work isn’t a thought for most more of a must. You asked for the feedback, like a say I like you a lot as a person but your in a privileged position
Love the golf content Randy, can’t wait for big wedge golf to launch… lots of love from NZ
Things such as gym sleep(prioritising) new things in general require are mentally taxing - but once it become part of your life the managing gym and sleep just happens same with diet and work(some parts of it)
Im so so so proud of you Randy
Horrific W2S Golf injury (British Guy edition)
Have you thought about getting fitted for some irons?
Don't think the Vapor irons are right for you, need something a little more forgiving
My inner monologue: work harder you didn’t try your best piece of sh1t. Haha but it keeps me going tho
8:34 he was so fast to take it out damn
Lets see what is going on today in Randy vlogs lets gooo
well i am in a stressful situation currently, my internal monologue always through these situations has been things are gonna get better, they have too. Which they always do eventually. Also, this is kinda weird but i imagine myself in more worse situations, making myself feel grateful that I didn't encounter that.
7:06 lol flexing his phone
If you haven't heard of radical acceptance Randy I would look into it, has helped with many a stressful time and thought for myself. Keep going brother, you're killing it and remember to always be kind to yourself!
i think exact same my life is over and all the things you look at and try to do to change just seems so hard and not worth doing cause just makes you more depressed but your an awesome guy randy and got lots going for yourself. keep smashing n make sure try make yourself happy why your making everyone else’s day better
We are working beings, same as most if not all of animal species in the planet. Our consciousness is what causes us to be stressed. If you were in the opposite situation, you would be stressed to do something and be of service and get stuff done. We are wired to work, although granted not 24/7. Take a few days to recalibrate and get back on top of things because it's much better to stress to become better than stress for lack of purpose. Big up you man.
Success is never owned it is rented and the rent is due everyday , side note being so negative in your experiences can hurt you as well it’s the same thought process for why your not supposed to to call yourself dumb or think negative thoughts about yourself I’m not you so I can’t tell you how to live your life but I wake up everyday and genuinely thank god for today for the people I love and hate and for the opportunity to learn and grow and be better and no not everyday is supposed to be amazing sometimes you’ll genuinely hate what your doing but it’s not about how you feel it’s about the result of the process and doing the things your afraid of doing or hate doing will only make you a better person because it is the discipline to do regardless of how you feel that makes you a man
I try to think of the 24 hours in a day as a journey of my whole life. So in short, put all of the work in now, in the beginning, at a young age, then later on in life i can relax, rich, with completing everything in life. Then transition that into 24 hours, so you wake up, then cold shower straight away to win the morning and ultimately that sets the mood for the rest of the day as its the most difficult part and the same goes with life. Work hard now and live to enjoy the rest. Carrying on, you head to work, do all the hard bits and at the very end of the day you can reflect, journal, read or whatever and treat yourself with a nice warm, hot shower which is honestly the best feeling ever and thats ultimately the end of the day/life. Viewing it like this for me makes me consciously switch on and put more effort in because i know that there is a nice warm, hot shower waiting at the end of the day and its only a matter of hours away not years if you were viewing it like a whole living, so it pushes me to get more done in the day and to not leave anything up to tomorrow. Then sleep is basically the reset button and to start all over again as if its a new life, new beginning and new project, because it is and not everyone gets the chance or is lucky enough to wake up today or tomorrow. So basically putting all the aspects of life into 24 hours and just focusing on the day and the small habits which will end up compounding into huge results over time. It's also important to say that no matter how good life gets there is always going to be that stress, nerves, pain etc but everything comes with a price tag and end of the day it depends if you're willing to exchange for what you want now for what you want in the future.
That's my view on it. Anyways love you Randy, im 18 at the moment and just secured a job at stanstead airport after being out of work for some while so thats a first step for me. It'll all be good in the end and make sure to clear some time throughout the day to just think and meditate for even a few minutes or 30 seconds, really helps me. Keep pushing.
I mean I don’t have a job cause im in my teens but my mindset is just keep going cause whenever I stop everything just gets worse and since I struggle with my mental health that way of thinking helps me a lot
loving the daily vlogs mate! some of them feel like one to one talks......wish u great years ahead lad and enjoy!!
19 and constantly stressed
To be honest Randy, my inner monologue is much the same. Hope you're doing good big dawg 👌
What’s good guest Ideas:
Talia
Jack Whitehall
Any current or ex footballers you might be able to get hold of?
Tanya - Sidemen (Might not bang views but would be interesting)
Kon
Stephen Tries
UA-camrs but from other genres such as Sorred food
Korean Englishman/ JOLLY
My inner monologue any time I'm stressed tells me to man the fuck up and get on with!! Because lets be honest who actually cares, you can scream and shout all you like about how shit your life is but it aint going to make a difference because NOBODY ACTUALLY cares unless you keep grinding so shut up and get to working and plus I ain't no female to be complaining and bitching all day, lets leave that to them!
give the 4 hour work week by tim ferriss a read, I don't really think you can apply the things he says to your life but I think it will give you a new prespective on working at least
As someone who does food videos, try to collab with Sorted Food or Korean Englishman and Jolly. It will be interesting. They would also make good podcast guests as they would bring something new to the conversation.
First they say Harry’s doesn’t sleep much so he’s going to die and then this, I don’t understand why they’re trying to scare us about it his health
I love you Randolph
i’ve started just thinking fuck it.. i’ve really been thinking a lot about what i want from life and i’ve decided that quite frankly i couldn’t give a shit and i’m just doing what i’m doing and i’ll see where it gets me later😭 probs not the best idea to just say fuck it, future me can deal with it, But it is helping me to remember that i don’t want to spend my whole life always working and that i want to enjoy my time while i can. i believe everything will work out just fine so why stress it when i could be happier instead. ig im living in ignorance bliss LOL but it is helping me to not be so stressed
The problem is that Randy is comparing him self to his friends channel and business and then he stressed that he is not ceeping up with them
Unreal golf course in the summer! One of my favourite courses in Essex
Yup i got the same in my head Randy
You guys make me feel like such a better golfer
Love to see Jack and Cole together on the podcast
We're all trying to find the pieces to the puzzle of life brother,try up the vlogs love how you say what on your mind with no filter really dawn to earth lad who I wish all the best to ❤
Absolutely loving the vlogs randy!!! keep it up fella
Because I’m religious and a believer in Jesus Christ, my inner monologue is really just keeping steadfast on His word. Knowing that I’ll be okay because He declares so and because Scripture tells me to not be anxious. Yes, it’s sometimes a battle to control because of course, my flesh is going to do the same as yours but there’s relaxation in being fixed in His word. I just usually remind myself of it and my head will literally clear itself. So far so good when I rely on Him. I hope you find something to better handle your mind whenever it scrambles.
Stressed! I have been in a similar situation that you are in now I’m trying to start a new business and currently have no car I live 3 hours from my daughter so yeah pretty stressed recently. My inside thoughts keep me from being productive but I keep my head up and remember this to shall pass.
Man said no gym because I got golf later loooll
Randy your vlogs are strong, your content is sweet but you should post every two or three days. Look after yourself!
This might sound mad, but it’s as simple as telling yourself you’re overthinking
You write lists
Tick stuff off
You’re getting stuff done…
You can clearly handle the pressure you just need to acknowledge you’re overthinking it