Imagine if as a stunt, QT and Maya got "guest hosts" to replace them for a day, and they were Margot Robbie and Aubrey Plaza, and they just did an actual episode. That'd be an insane get.
I love that QT innocently said "this guy Matt Walsh" like he's just a random dude, but if she asked Hasan who is Matt Walsh he would tell her all about the guy.
Can't decide if not knowing who Matt Walsh is is a good or bad thing. Like I feel like you should know about the political climate of the country you live in but a world without without Matt Walsh seems like such an objectively better existence so...yay blissful ignorance? Lmao
I came here to comment this as well. QT frequently comments about all the negative comments she sees (at least from fear &…not sure if that’s just a running joke or if she just focuses on random one off comments or jokes, I’ve never read the comments) so I wanted to post a nice one for her. She looks stunning here, like an effortless beauty type look…apologies if it took a lot of effort 😅, but that’s not a negative if so. You are glowing here! Maya not to leave you out, you look beautiful as well, but QT stole the spotlight this ep
It's only as anonymous as you make it through Being very careful what and where you post. Even then, it's not at all anonymous to all of the advertisers
Her reactions did sort of bother me, people post about their situations with brutal honesty with hopes of getting honest feedback and advice but she seems to view it as if their posting it on their Facebook page
One problem with changing the name of a child is that around 4 months a child starts to recognize their name, so changing it is a huge developmental problem.
I knew immediately the 10mm socket was lost 😂 it's the most commonly used so it's the most commonly lost. When you replace it after inevitably losing one, it's like christmas when you find your old ones randomly
I thought it was either a 10mm or 7. I always have a bunch of 10s for this reason but its a really sad day when you lose a 7mm. You dont always need it but when you do need it and dont have it, its very irritating.
I knew it would be 😅 it always is my husband lost mine three times but still man. I ain’t never been a ween about it. I lost my Dads twice and he bought me my own set that week 😂
qt i genuinely want u to know that i could not look away from u this episode, the whole look w the glasses is SO GOOD. u just look so classy yet cozy and like that friend’s older sister you wanted to be growing up bc she was so pretty and sweet and put together
Maya being confused, angry, annoyed immediately after being excited about a subreddit is so funny. Her annoyance with the face palm subreddit is great lmfao
48:29 I was conflicted about this story until the sil gave that guild trip bs line of "you should think before burdening you daughter with the ideea of her name be the same as her unbornd cousin", like what?? hell no, fuck her!
I heard that and wondered if OP’s partner knew the name. If it’s something that gets discussed, plus usually the parents would still share the name they gave the stillborn child with the rest of the family, so it seems unlikely he’d not have known. It’s also such an uncommon name. I’m wondering whether OP’s partner suggested it knowing about his sister’s stillborn child but not letting OP know about that? Seems really weird.
@@genericname8727the sister in law is married to OPs brother so her husband isn't related to SIL at all. That's such a crazy coincidence for a name though.
NGL, I grew up in a household and culture where shaving one's privates was never taught. I didn't learn about shaving down there until I read reddit posts about it, saw Manscape ads on UA-cam, and looked at porn.
Maya being so insecure about her bf's celebrity crushes/fantasies is something I had no idea people could be insecure about(that kind of thing never bothered me I guess). I learned something to be mindful of in future relationships
@@Kiki-reads yep literally, i have muted almost all political sub's because I'm tired, and now most of my feed is just about stuff i like and if i ever get into the popular feed it mostly doesn't have anything that negative ( not negative as not politely sad or horrible etc) so yes just try to mute/block the stuff that are bad for you and eventually your feed will be good/fun enough to enjoy.
@@Kiki-reads I’m in dog and cat subreddits, art subreddits, some niche hobby subreddits, and sometimes health or tech subreddits if I’m having an issue it makes sense to ask online about instead of immediately going to an expert irl. Reddit has been really helpful for advice related to my dog’s health (she’s got a few disabilities).
I have been in a relationship for 14 yrs.. we can have a fake hall pass.. we should be able to talk about what we talk to our friends about, with our partners . It's just a talk, the problem with the girl, is that she often meets some of these people that she would actually have sex with.
I'm not sure but the whole idea of a hall pass is that it's almost impossible to happen so yes even if you actually wanted it to happen it's not going to, although i agree that girl meets regularly with the "ppl" lol
QT usually seems more damaged and insecure than Maya but Maya will just suddenly drop something like "what if I don't look like his celebrity crush" and I wonder who has actually been hurt more The attitude she's expressed about her boyfriend watching porn has also prompted this thought. She's allowed to be uncomfortable about it and express that, it doesn't change the fact that there's some kind of deep insecurity behind it.
I’d almost certainly change it nbd to me, but it’s wild to expect it of someone and get mad about it if they don’t. If I was the sister I’d ask, but take the first no as the final answer. Way easier for me to figure out another way to accept the name (even if it takes years of therapy) than to try to force the change on someone.
this was a tricky one for me, until the sister-in-law brought up "if you don't change your daughter's name i'm going to guilt trip HER about for the rest of her life" like okay hang on, that is not the way to make your argument
@pookz3067 yeah, i feel like if you're really close with each other there's definitely a path where you can talk everything out and eventually make peace with it. it's not an easy path, but if you care about someone it's worth taking
idk about the story with the stillborn, i think it's pretty unreasonable to ask a relative to change a name that bothers them regardless of what the name means to her. if they had KNOWN the whole time the name then that'd be a different story, to me that's like asking my sister in law to change their baby's name because it's the same as my deceased brother like i can't put a barrier on the use of the name ya know lol
It reminded my of demi lovato getting triggered in the froyo store. She wants to change her environment so she doesn’t get triggered, but I think the real way to not get triggered is getting over the trauma. Expecting people to be change things when they’re not doing anything wrong, and it’s just bothering you… it seems self centered idk
@tinaa140 for sure, especially because it happened 7 years ago like??? I'm sorry you went through that, and maybe you should focus on working past that trauma instead of guilt tripping your SIL lol
@@tinaa140dude this!!! I completely agree with what both of you said. It reminds me of something I heard awhile back: its not your fault that you have trauma or a mental illness diagnosis, but it is your responsibility to learn how to cope with it. It’s horrible that she lost her baby, no one is denying that, but expecting everyone to conform to your trauma rather than working on your triggers simply isn’t realistic. Especially because she wasn’t aware beforehand about the stillborns name, SIL (presumably) had many opportunities to tell her before she even had the baby.
As a demisexual I've never had a celebrity crush. Ironically I still ended up in an argument with an ex over this question. She refused believe I never had one, thought I was hiding my answer for some reason? She just couldn't let it go, kept pressing me about it for days. And sadly back then I didn't even know demisexuality was a thing, so I didn't really have the words or self-understanding to articulate to her why I didn't have one, I just didn't. Nor could I understand why it was such a big deal to her. Good times.
my reddit account being visible to everyone on the internet is embarrassing to me but sometimes a girl just has questions that only those people can solve
I assume they were inagining the entire shaft to be covered 🤣 when its mainly just at the base of the shaft, but i guarantee that confusion maya was thinking it "they can have a hairy shaft?" 🤣
Great episode. I despise Reddit, but The Wheel of Terror worked for the podcast, and the hosts took it in directions that elevated the concept into a great segment which gave the episode structure.
It is. Masturbation is a healthy way to connect with yourself and your sexuality. Also a good place to explore your fantasies. And fine in a relationship if everyone is on board lol
@@RedstonerD Eh, masturbation is personal. It has nothing to do with your relationship whether you masturbate or not-no more unreasonable to think you get to be on board or not about your partner masturbating than it is to be on board or not with them shitting.
It is but drive to masturbate in men and women typically lowers when your libido is lowered, regardless of whether it’s done for emotional regulation or not, so in that sense it can still be tied to what we often call “sex drive”. But yeah, it’s not always a sexual thing.
Yeah but in this context they were talking about how SSRIs dampen sex drive, in that case masturbation is difficult too because SSRIs can mess with that. So if they're still masturbating, it's not the SSRIs causing them to not have sex.
26:32 No Maya the 10mm is THE socket for almost everything, it’s basically if one of the 140-ish sockets were to go missing, that’s the absolute worst one to go missing
I love the girlies but there’s sometimes where I get frustrated with their takes because it feels like there’s a complete lack of sympathy, maya a lot of the time. I don’t think that they straight up don’t care and are hard lined in one opinion but it’s frustrating to hear them essentially say that the 30 year old dude struggling with his relationship and his conflict with his feeling is just in the wrong and he needs to just end it and move on is sad. He’s at least not emotionally inept and can explain what he’s feeling clearly and that says a lot, if I could give him advice I’d say he needs to have a very real sit down conversation with his S/O and come to a decision together. Like this is sometime someones dealing with and it’s very real for that person and it’s something he’s truly struggling with and he sincerely doesn’t wanna hurt the other person, at least as much as someone can avoid hurting them with a situation like that
So, I agree with you. It was interesting that they had little empathy for him, even though I actually do understand why they would be turned off by his words. I've heard friends sincerely say similar words, despite loving their partners dearly (my god, one of them the night before the wedding). It's heartbreaking, but it's not necessarily the end of the relationship, because I think there are lots of ways where relationships are about more than the sex. But. Yea. It's hard. Honestly, my brain even worries a "honest conversation" could be so counterproductive. Relationship ends all the same, and it just leaves lasting trauma for them both, rather than if it just ended some other way. Iono.
maya seems to be offended by the general concept of a man having a sex drive, which i can understand given some of her history with men, but every so often she comes out with the most hardline 'ew evil man' take on some really innocuous things it's also kinda funny from someone who has done a bunch of content specifically about animal reproductive behaviours
I didn't really understand why they were so repulsed by that either. The guy seemed pretty sincere in his love for his partner and did at least have some empathy for her feelings. He also has (according to him) not cheated. It's a very low bar, I know, but considering how many stories QT and Maya have told about cheating exes, doing the bare minimum (aka being faithful and respectful) seems like an achievement (it's not, don't fucking cheat on your partner). I do understand that the language he used was kinda out there. Like there is a difference between "I see women and I am filled with *lust* and need to remove myself" versus "sometimes, I find other women attractive." This dude makes it seem like he has to physically restrain himself to prevent himself from cheating. The other question I have is how much of the lack of attraction is purely physical versus things like her initiating or being more adventurous. Because one of those can not be helped and even bringing it up will only hurt the other person. The latter can potentially be improved with a sincere conversation. And to end with, don't women talk about losing attraction all the time? Isn't that what "getting the ick" is?
@@Ashar121getting the ick is not the same as losing attraction over time in a relationship. Your sense of empathy is also way more limited than you’re giving yourself credit for if you don’t understand how women are imaging the woman’s perspective and how horrible, hurtful, and devastating it would feel to hear that your partner was never really attracted to you, can barely contain his lust for other women, and is on Reddit looking for sympathy because he’s too cowardly to deal with the guilt of leaving his partner. Who deserves to be with someone who actually finds her attractive.
He's being very open and sincere. Yes the situation is sad, but not communicating it is even sadder. I felt a lot of empathy for their situation. I always communicate my attraction or lacktherof to my partner and we just both feel sex is about 1% of our total relationship. If one of us isnt feeling it or we both are, the love has never died. Maybe we're both just lucky that sex isnt really that big of a deal to us. For some guys, I guess it means everything. But love really is the strongest part for us. SSRIs definitely fuck with the body hard, but depression/anxiety is rampant now. Im sure its some modern developmental thing or chemical we're exposed to somewhere but we'll probably and sadly never prove it in my lifetime.
I watch Alveus regularly and I don't think I've ever seen Maya go through such a rollercoaster as she did with "shaft hair" But Ludwig taking the time to write a free guide for guys to know how to groom themselves safely is very thoughtful
No, Gen Z and Gen Alpha names are unbelievably stupid. I got lucky my parents were so traditional lol and I didn't get named like Jaytheon or something idiotic. There were definitely embers in my High School
um no that's very different, you're told that there's NO hair there, because nobody ever seen it, and you don't ever see it too, so you move on. you know about it, you're just usually told the opposite
I guessed 10mm socket immediately, lol. You have to have it for any work to get done, so its awful to lose. Its like going to eat broth, and your spoons gone
On my mom's side of the family, everyone has a name that they go by that is totally different from their legal name on their birth certificate. So, if I had a child and 4 months after its birth, someone really close to me asked me to change it, I would just give it a nick name and tell everyone I don't call them by their legal name. When they're 16 and getting their first ID they can decide if they want to go by the name everyone calls them or the name on their birth certificate.
Wait why is Maya shaming the dude from r/sex when he's just talking about falling out of attraction with his wife? It sucks but it happens, doesn't make him a bad dude. And yeah, every guy deals with seeing attractive women out in the world and having to deal with those urges, it's definitely not something that is uncommon to all men
I was also confused. It sounded like they genuinely cared about the other person, and wanted to get some advice about how to deal with the situation. Maybe it's just me, but nothing they said sounded particularly nasty. They were just making it clear they weren't physically attracted their partner anymore.
Maya looks so good without make up. She literally doesn't need it at all. I saw one of her videos... And she was like, "just woke up..." And i was thinking to myself, "there is no way she wakes up looking that good..." Until I realized she wasn't even wearing make up lol. She looks so perfect even without makeup.
With the attraction thing, even if someone's not my type I feel like I could become attracted to them because of their personality if they're at least like a 4/10 or higher on my personal rating scale. Attraction is extremely important in a relationship and I would never want to date someone that I'm not attracted to because I feel like they could do better.
I have a slightly different perspective on that really awful r/sex post. Before I realized I'm a trans woman, I was having similar problems with my relationship. I would become immediately infatuated with any woman I perceived to be pretty, and I had the idea that my partner needed to have particular features/style. I had similarly toxic tendencies that more or less faded away over night when I realized what I was really feeling was gender envy. Upon realizing that I actually wanted was to possess traits/styles, and starting to pursue them for myself, the need to live vicariously through my partner vanished. I'm not saying that poster is also a trans woman, but typically people who are happy with themselves don't feel the need to chase external validation to such a degree. Interestingly the poster specifically mentioned the partner wearing new lingerie to "help" in the bedroom, that's word for word something I said only to realize later it was projection.
my ex and I broke up because he wasn’t attracted to me. but I am the one that ended it, not him. I knew we were having problems being intimate, but i was willing to wait however long until he was ready. I waited for almost a whole year after he started pulling away. but I wouldn’t be willing to give intimacy up for the rest of my life. as soon as he told me, I knew it was over.
The significance of the 10 mil is that it’s to must used socket, basically any time your doing a repair your going to use. So the fact that he had kept the original one for 5 years is wild
The 10mm thing is a meme, 10mm is a very common head size for smaller bolts on a car. You use it a lot and it’s small so it’s easy to lose, and when you need it, odds are it isn’t there.
The name story is wild. And I also think it's unreasonable on a lot of levels. Even being sympathetic to the legit trauma there, I think the farthest I could go is using a nickname. Like maybe calling her emmie, even though her official name is still ember. Just a hard situation. But hard situations often require compromise, not digging in.
I own 6 10mm sockets because I keep losing them and eventually finding them. Almost every bolt on my car is a 10mm bolt, so it is like trying to cut a loaf of hard crusted bread, but everything sharper than a spoon disappeared
Alexis D Roger! "You want my treasure? You can have it! I left everything I gathered together in one place! Now you just have to find it!""These words lured men to the Grand Line. In pursuit of dreams greather than they've ever dared to imagine! This is the time known as the 'Great Pirate Era'!"
Boy here, best comparison for the socket wrench set for QT is when you have different attachments for your stand mixer and your partner loses the dough hook, socket sizes aren't flexible so it is like losing a kitchen tool that does ONLY one job then it's gone. It is just money but can be frustrating, not worth an argument tho
For the socket set post: i also guessed it was 10mm when Maya said metric and working on the car and was pleasantly surprised to be right. That one size is used for a lot.
I'm dying at Maya's confusion at Lud's reddit account😂
Sometimes the boys need to know how to trim their shaft hairs!
He shock factor was through the roof 😂 "he edited it twice 😧..."
Maya dumbfoundedly saying "Shaft hair" the expression was so wild it almost didn't even look like her.
I'm yelling at the screen about them not knowing the significance of the 10mm socket
The way she said it twice had me cackling 😂
Shaft hair happens when there's circumcision
7:37 for the uninitiated
@@JustThatLauren no
Oh look, Margot Robbie is guest hosting
Our savior
with aubrey plaza, too
Imagine if as a stunt, QT and Maya got "guest hosts" to replace them for a day, and they were Margot Robbie and Aubrey Plaza, and they just did an actual episode. That'd be an insane get.
"I'm 6ft tall" bro has always maintained that lie respect.
Maintain the agenda at all costs
Crossed platforms at this point
46:15
Maya: *asks QT if she wants to read the post
QT: “I’ll do it.”
Maya: *reads the post
Yea I noticed that but I think Maya just like accidentally spaced out and assumed QT wanted her to read it
The face QT made was great
Maya has finally gained enough celebrity knowledge to officially start her beef with Ariana Grande.
I love that QT innocently said "this guy Matt Walsh" like he's just a random dude, but if she asked Hasan who is Matt Walsh he would tell her all about the guy.
Is this a bot comment yes he obviously knows about a political dude
@@dffgffffffdddddddddd no I'm just saying it's funny that to QT, Matt Walsh is just some random guy on Twitter, and that innocence is refreshing
Nah i dont think she would know that matt walsh is "theocratic fascist" who said 16 year olds are fertile.
Can't decide if not knowing who Matt Walsh is is a good or bad thing. Like I feel like you should know about the political climate of the country you live in but a world without without Matt Walsh seems like such an objectively better existence so...yay blissful ignorance? Lmao
@@Robiness matt walsh is a worthless pile of trash and itd be better if literally nobody knew him
QT looks especially good this ep?!?! The hair, the glasses... chef's kiss!
I came here to comment this as well. QT frequently comments about all the negative comments she sees (at least from fear &…not sure if that’s just a running joke or if she just focuses on random one off comments or jokes, I’ve never read the comments) so I wanted to post a nice one for her.
She looks stunning here, like an effortless beauty type look…apologies if it took a lot of effort 😅, but that’s not a negative if so. You are glowing here! Maya not to leave you out, you look beautiful as well, but QT stole the spotlight this ep
QT’s freezing camera is really a sneak audition to be casted as Elsa in the live action remake
lmao
Maya, reddit is generally "anonymous". It's not like you post your real name, pictures, etc. This is why people post sensitive stuff on there.
It's only as anonymous as you make it through Being very careful what and where you post.
Even then, it's not at all anonymous to all of the advertisers
Tons of people use burner accounts to post things that are risky to post from your own account. Throwaway accounts are huge on Reddit
Her reactions did sort of bother me, people post about their situations with brutal honesty with hopes of getting honest feedback and advice but she seems to view it as if their posting it on their Facebook page
One problem with changing the name of a child is that around 4 months a child starts to recognize their name, so changing it is a huge developmental problem.
came here to say this. my son definitely knew his name by that point
came here to say this. my son definitely knew his name by that point
came here to say this. this lady's son definitely knew his name by that point
I knew immediately the 10mm socket was lost 😂 it's the most commonly used so it's the most commonly lost. When you replace it after inevitably losing one, it's like christmas when you find your old ones randomly
Yeah 10mm is everything from body panels to battery connectors. Immediately knew it was the 10
It's always the 10mm
I thought it was either a 10mm or 7. I always have a bunch of 10s for this reason but its a really sad day when you lose a 7mm. You dont always need it but when you do need it and dont have it, its very irritating.
Scrolled to find this comment knew it would be here, great minds think alike 🤣🤣🤣
I knew it would be 😅 it always is my husband lost mine three times but still man. I ain’t never been a ween about it. I lost my Dads twice and he bought me my own set that week 😂
Good idea QT! I think choosingbeggars, not beggarschoosing, is the subreddit you wanted:)
Her Dyslexia must be hard to live with
QT -“Yeah, I’ll do it.” Then maya proceeds to just go for it anyway hahaha. Love this channnnnnnnnel.
The “burn victim” hypothesis was hilarious
46:09 "do you want to read this one? I've read all of them" proceeds to read
female mechanic here, the 10mm socket checks out. Probably one of the more universal pieces of equipment you need to get to different parts of the car
qt i genuinely want u to know that i could not look away from u this episode, the whole look w the glasses is SO GOOD. u just look so classy yet cozy and like that friend’s older sister you wanted to be growing up bc she was so pretty and sweet and put together
Maya being confused, angry, annoyed immediately after being excited about a subreddit is so funny.
Her annoyance with the face palm subreddit is great lmfao
48:29 I was conflicted about this story until the sil gave that guild trip bs line of "you should think before burdening you daughter with the ideea of her name be the same as her unbornd cousin", like what?? hell no, fuck her!
My exact response to that was, "she won't be burdened" lol😅
I heard that and wondered if OP’s partner knew the name. If it’s something that gets discussed, plus usually the parents would still share the name they gave the stillborn child with the rest of the family, so it seems unlikely he’d not have known. It’s also such an uncommon name. I’m wondering whether OP’s partner suggested it knowing about his sister’s stillborn child but not letting OP know about that? Seems really weird.
@@genericname8727the sister in law is married to OPs brother so her husband isn't related to SIL at all. That's such a crazy coincidence for a name though.
@@dogsandbeer oh then I misunderstood something lol very weird coincidence then
NGL, I grew up in a household and culture where shaving one's privates was never taught. I didn't learn about shaving down there until I read reddit posts about it, saw Manscape ads on UA-cam, and looked at porn.
No one ever teach me how to shave my beard, let alone my pubes.
ITS WINE ABOUT IT WEDNESDAY!!! Audio listeners QT looking so cuuuuteee with those glasses while Maya looking at cute bugs right now!!!
Umm... Audio listeners won't be able to read your comment
@@shankyoncloud7420 text to speech lol
Really sad to hear of QT's tragic passing by self-suck! Happy Maya is taking the news well (having Margot Robbie on the pod helps)
Maya
QT’s camera glitched 6 seconds in… reputation Easter egg?
49:38 is absolutely hilarious. QT’s interjection, Maya’s confusion and immediate silence. Chefs kiss
Maya being so insecure about her bf's celebrity crushes/fantasies is something I had no idea people could be insecure about(that kind of thing never bothered me I guess). I learned something to be mindful of in future relationships
living without reddit feels so good ngl
Like all social media/online platforms, it depends on how you curate your own feed & what communities you participate in.
@@Kiki-reads yep literally, i have muted almost all political sub's because I'm tired, and now most of my feed is just about stuff i like and if i ever get into the popular feed it mostly doesn't have anything that negative ( not negative as not politely sad or horrible etc) so yes just try to mute/block the stuff that are bad for you and eventually your feed will be good/fun enough to enjoy.
@@Kiki-reads I’m in dog and cat subreddits, art subreddits, some niche hobby subreddits, and sometimes health or tech subreddits if I’m having an issue it makes sense to ask online about instead of immediately going to an expert irl.
Reddit has been really helpful for advice related to my dog’s health (she’s got a few disabilities).
I have been in a relationship for 14 yrs.. we can have a fake hall pass.. we should be able to talk about what we talk to our friends about, with our partners . It's just a talk, the problem with the girl, is that she often meets some of these people that she would actually have sex with.
I'm not sure but the whole idea of a hall pass is that it's almost impossible to happen so yes even if you actually wanted it to happen it's not going to, although i agree that girl meets regularly with the "ppl" lol
@@murtadhaAlhusne literally its just like a fun conversation nothing more nothing less
QT usually seems more damaged and insecure than Maya but Maya will just suddenly drop something like "what if I don't look like his celebrity crush" and I wonder who has actually been hurt more
The attitude she's expressed about her boyfriend watching porn has also prompted this thought. She's allowed to be uncomfortable about it and express that, it doesn't change the fact that there's some kind of deep insecurity behind it.
Your kid having a name for 4 months is a crazy ask to change it. If she asked when they announced the name yes. But 4 months later is wild.
I’d almost certainly change it nbd to me, but it’s wild to expect it of someone and get mad about it if they don’t. If I was the sister I’d ask, but take the first no as the final answer. Way easier for me to figure out another way to accept the name (even if it takes years of therapy) than to try to force the change on someone.
this was a tricky one for me, until the sister-in-law brought up "if you don't change your daughter's name i'm going to guilt trip HER about for the rest of her life" like okay hang on, that is not the way to make your argument
@pookz3067 yeah, i feel like if you're really close with each other there's definitely a path where you can talk everything out and eventually make peace with it. it's not an easy path, but if you care about someone it's worth taking
the Ask Men question had me laughing. I knew before the question was finished it was a 10mm socket too lol.
such a fun idea! you guys should totally do a pt.2 wheel sometime
54:25 correction: the kid was not named after the niece, she was named the same out of coincidence.
idk about the story with the stillborn, i think it's pretty unreasonable to ask a relative to change a name that bothers them regardless of what the name means to her. if they had KNOWN the whole time the name then that'd be a different story, to me that's like asking my sister in law to change their baby's name because it's the same as my deceased brother like i can't put a barrier on the use of the name ya know lol
It reminded my of demi lovato getting triggered in the froyo store. She wants to change her environment so she doesn’t get triggered, but I think the real way to not get triggered is getting over the trauma. Expecting people to be change things when they’re not doing anything wrong, and it’s just bothering you… it seems self centered idk
@tinaa140 for sure, especially because it happened 7 years ago like??? I'm sorry you went through that, and maybe you should focus on working past that trauma instead of guilt tripping your SIL lol
@@tinaa140dude this!!! I completely agree with what both of you said. It reminds me of something I heard awhile back: its not your fault that you have trauma or a mental illness diagnosis, but it is your responsibility to learn how to cope with it. It’s horrible that she lost her baby, no one is denying that, but expecting everyone to conform to your trauma rather than working on your triggers simply isn’t realistic. Especially because she wasn’t aware beforehand about the stillborns name, SIL (presumably) had many opportunities to tell her before she even had the baby.
As a demisexual I've never had a celebrity crush. Ironically I still ended up in an argument with an ex over this question. She refused believe I never had one, thought I was hiding my answer for some reason? She just couldn't let it go, kept pressing me about it for days. And sadly back then I didn't even know demisexuality was a thing, so I didn't really have the words or self-understanding to articulate to her why I didn't have one, I just didn't. Nor could I understand why it was such a big deal to her. Good times.
Pedro Pascal and James Murphy from LCD Soundsystem make me absolutely feral for no reason
24:22 all boys who ever used tools before knew immediately
Not just boys, literally just anyone who's into cars knows about the 10mm
my reddit account being visible to everyone on the internet is embarrassing to me but sometimes a girl just has questions that only those people can solve
QT's glasses literally so cute what ????
I’m shocked she didn’t bring up another classic Ludwig reddit post “can you make babies without women”
shaft hair is real and every man I know hates it lmao
I assume they were inagining the entire shaft to be covered 🤣 when its mainly just at the base of the shaft, but i guarantee that confusion maya was thinking it "they can have a hairy shaft?" 🤣
Shaft hair is like boob hair. You generally think it's not supposed to be there but it happens more than you think lmao
Great episode. I despise Reddit, but The Wheel of Terror worked for the podcast, and the hosts took it in directions that elevated the concept into a great segment which gave the episode structure.
is this a chatgpt comment
For guys, masturbation isn't always tied to sex drive, it's equally an emotional regulator, I wouldn't be surprised if it's similar for women
It is. Masturbation is a healthy way to connect with yourself and your sexuality. Also a good place to explore your fantasies. And fine in a relationship if everyone is on board lol
@@RedstonerD Eh, masturbation is personal. It has nothing to do with your relationship whether you masturbate or not-no more unreasonable to think you get to be on board or not about your partner masturbating than it is to be on board or not with them shitting.
It is but drive to masturbate in men and women typically lowers when your libido is lowered, regardless of whether it’s done for emotional regulation or not, so in that sense it can still be tied to what we often call “sex drive”. But yeah, it’s not always a sexual thing.
Yeah but in this context they were talking about how SSRIs dampen sex drive, in that case masturbation is difficult too because SSRIs can mess with that. So if they're still masturbating, it's not the SSRIs causing them to not have sex.
@@bravojeark I commented here but it’s not showing. Anyway, I think the word “libido” works better in this context and agree with you.
26:32 No Maya the 10mm is THE socket for almost everything, it’s basically if one of the 140-ish sockets were to go missing, that’s the absolute worst one to go missing
10mm socket guy is 100% justified that shit always disappears, specifically the 10mm
it’s something used a lot as well
agree
I love the girlies but there’s sometimes where I get frustrated with their takes because it feels like there’s a complete lack of sympathy, maya a lot of the time. I don’t think that they straight up don’t care and are hard lined in one opinion but it’s frustrating to hear them essentially say that the 30 year old dude struggling with his relationship and his conflict with his feeling is just in the wrong and he needs to just end it and move on is sad. He’s at least not emotionally inept and can explain what he’s feeling clearly and that says a lot, if I could give him advice I’d say he needs to have a very real sit down conversation with his S/O and come to a decision together. Like this is sometime someones dealing with and it’s very real for that person and it’s something he’s truly struggling with and he sincerely doesn’t wanna hurt the other person, at least as much as someone can avoid hurting them with a situation like that
So, I agree with you. It was interesting that they had little empathy for him, even though I actually do understand why they would be turned off by his words. I've heard friends sincerely say similar words, despite loving their partners dearly (my god, one of them the night before the wedding). It's heartbreaking, but it's not necessarily the end of the relationship, because I think there are lots of ways where relationships are about more than the sex.
But. Yea. It's hard. Honestly, my brain even worries a "honest conversation" could be so counterproductive. Relationship ends all the same, and it just leaves lasting trauma for them both, rather than if it just ended some other way.
Iono.
maya seems to be offended by the general concept of a man having a sex drive, which i can understand given some of her history with men, but every so often she comes out with the most hardline 'ew evil man' take on some really innocuous things
it's also kinda funny from someone who has done a bunch of content specifically about animal reproductive behaviours
I didn't really understand why they were so repulsed by that either.
The guy seemed pretty sincere in his love for his partner and did at least have some empathy for her feelings. He also has (according to him) not cheated. It's a very low bar, I know, but considering how many stories QT and Maya have told about cheating exes, doing the bare minimum (aka being faithful and respectful) seems like an achievement (it's not, don't fucking cheat on your partner).
I do understand that the language he used was kinda out there. Like there is a difference between "I see women and I am filled with *lust* and need to remove myself" versus "sometimes, I find other women attractive." This dude makes it seem like he has to physically restrain himself to prevent himself from cheating.
The other question I have is how much of the lack of attraction is purely physical versus things like her initiating or being more adventurous. Because one of those can not be helped and even bringing it up will only hurt the other person. The latter can potentially be improved with a sincere conversation.
And to end with, don't women talk about losing attraction all the time? Isn't that what "getting the ick" is?
@@Ashar121getting the ick is not the same as losing attraction over time in a relationship. Your sense of empathy is also way more limited than you’re giving yourself credit for if you don’t understand how women are imaging the woman’s perspective and how horrible, hurtful, and devastating it would feel to hear that your partner was never really attracted to you, can barely contain his lust for other women, and is on Reddit looking for sympathy because he’s too cowardly to deal with the guilt of leaving his partner. Who deserves to be with someone who actually finds her attractive.
He's being very open and sincere. Yes the situation is sad, but not communicating it is even sadder. I felt a lot of empathy for their situation.
I always communicate my attraction or lacktherof to my partner and we just both feel sex is about 1% of our total relationship. If one of us isnt feeling it or we both are, the love has never died. Maybe we're both just lucky that sex isnt really that big of a deal to us. For some guys, I guess it means everything. But love really is the strongest part for us.
SSRIs definitely fuck with the body hard, but depression/anxiety is rampant now. Im sure its some modern developmental thing or chemical we're exposed to somewhere but we'll probably and sadly never prove it in my lifetime.
I watch Alveus regularly and I don't think I've ever seen Maya go through such a rollercoaster as she did with "shaft hair"
But Ludwig taking the time to write a free guide for guys to know how to groom themselves safely is very thoughtful
I think “ember” is just a Reddit pseudonym, the actual name is probably more common like Sarah or something
No, Gen Z and Gen Alpha names are unbelievably stupid. I got lucky my parents were so traditional lol and I didn't get named like Jaytheon or something idiotic. There were definitely embers in my High School
Please more Reddit stories! Love QT’s and Maya’s opinions on these lol
when Maya asked if qt wanted to read one and she said yes and then maya read it anyways 😂😂 46:15
Lol QT and Maya reacting to Matt Walsh not knowing who he is, is so crazy.
The babysitter job listings are bizarre I got paid $120 for a new born and an infant and 3 dogs for 4 hours at 16 years old
this was acc a really fun idea for the podcast! would be great to see it again :)
Maya is the mom that asks "who's that?" when you show her a video from the internet that contains a person.
It's so funny when girls are shocked that men don't know more about female products/anatomy, but Maya didn't know hair grows on the shaft
um no that's very different, you're told that there's NO hair there, because nobody ever seen it, and you don't ever see it too, so you move on. you know about it, you're just usually told the opposite
@@neo4r4 Not different. You're creating a double standard.
The subreddit dragons f**** ing cars is hilarious lmao
QT is podcast queen/genius/hero. Real shit thank you QTC
I giggled at 46:19 when Maya asks qt if she wants to proceed the reddit post, qt says yes and maya proceeds to read it anyways.
QT: Alexis
Maya: ..Texas
Whyyyyy 💀
Is there a more famous Alexis 😅
Maya being so confused about lud’s post and reddit in general is wild
12:40 QT saying "happy pride month" after saying "top" is unintentionally hilarious 😂
the wheel segment was great, would be fun to do again with some other subreddits that weren't part of this one.
see you on the patreon ep
I guessed 10mm socket immediately, lol. You have to have it for any work to get done, so its awful to lose. Its like going to eat broth, and your spoons gone
At 25:00 without even watching it I know it's going to be the bloody 10 mm socket. He wins automatically.
The Reddit post that QT talks about with the Prada purse was the very first thing I read on Reddit 😂 thank you for taking me back to that moment 😅
Brave of Lud to acknowledge that men over 6ft have shaft hair.
On my mom's side of the family, everyone has a name that they go by that is totally different from their legal name on their birth certificate. So, if I had a child and 4 months after its birth, someone really close to me asked me to change it, I would just give it a nick name and tell everyone I don't call them by their legal name. When they're 16 and getting their first ID they can decide if they want to go by the name everyone calls them or the name on their birth certificate.
With those glasses and that hair, QT looks eerily like Drew Gooden's wife Amanda
Suffering a loss 7 years ago is far too long to be expecting someone will change their daughters name for you.
My celeb crush in Anna Kendrick
The Ludwig to Wine about it pipeline is crazy…
Wait why is Maya shaming the dude from r/sex when he's just talking about falling out of attraction with his wife? It sucks but it happens, doesn't make him a bad dude. And yeah, every guy deals with seeing attractive women out in the world and having to deal with those urges, it's definitely not something that is uncommon to all men
I was also confused. It sounded like they genuinely cared about the other person, and wanted to get some advice about how to deal with the situation. Maybe it's just me, but nothing they said sounded particularly nasty. They were just making it clear they weren't physically attracted their partner anymore.
audio listeners margot robbie took qts place
Maya looks so good without make up. She literally doesn't need it at all.
I saw one of her videos... And she was like, "just woke up..." And i was thinking to myself, "there is no way she wakes up looking that good..." Until I realized she wasn't even wearing make up lol. She looks so perfect even without makeup.
“Audio listeners, I spit!”
Audio listeners: “We heard”
With the attraction thing, even if someone's not my type I feel like I could become attracted to them because of their personality if they're at least like a 4/10 or higher on my personal rating scale. Attraction is extremely important in a relationship and I would never want to date someone that I'm not attracted to because I feel like they could do better.
I have a slightly different perspective on that really awful r/sex post. Before I realized I'm a trans woman, I was having similar problems with my relationship. I would become immediately infatuated with any woman I perceived to be pretty, and I had the idea that my partner needed to have particular features/style. I had similarly toxic tendencies that more or less faded away over night when I realized what I was really feeling was gender envy. Upon realizing that I actually wanted was to possess traits/styles, and starting to pursue them for myself, the need to live vicariously through my partner vanished.
I'm not saying that poster is also a trans woman, but typically people who are happy with themselves don't feel the need to chase external validation to such a degree. Interestingly the poster specifically mentioned the partner wearing new lingerie to "help" in the bedroom, that's word for word something I said only to realize later it was projection.
Gonna be honest. I also immediately knew it was the 10mm socket lmao. 10mm is the most used nut in a socket in a car.
my ex and I broke up because he wasn’t attracted to me. but I am the one that ended it, not him. I knew we were having problems being intimate, but i was willing to wait however long until he was ready. I waited for almost a whole year after he started pulling away. but I wouldn’t be willing to give intimacy up for the rest of my life. as soon as he told me, I knew it was over.
1. Change name so middle name is ember
2. Tell sister inlaw to call her Emmy tell family to use nickname emmy
The significance of the 10 mil is that it’s to must used socket, basically any time your doing a repair your going to use. So the fact that he had kept the original one for 5 years is wild
I instantly knew it was the 10mm socket 🤣
I used to be one of those people who’d occasionally check their SO’s Reddit account. All I found out was how big of a nerd they are.
This was my favorite episode so far
I just realized something about maya is EXACTLY like pam from the office
Reddits like a goldmine into the study of human nature/psychology. And shits fcked up lol this is why aliens dont fck with us😂
10mm socket is definitly a big deal!
The 10mm thing is a meme, 10mm is a very common head size for smaller bolts on a car.
You use it a lot and it’s small so it’s easy to lose, and when you need it, odds are it isn’t there.
my celebrity crushes are florence pugh, zendaya, and every twink that zendaya has been paired up with in a movie or TV show
You're not crazy AITA is a godless place 💯💯
The name story is wild. And I also think it's unreasonable on a lot of levels. Even being sympathetic to the legit trauma there, I think the farthest I could go is using a nickname. Like maybe calling her emmie, even though her official name is still ember.
Just a hard situation. But hard situations often require compromise, not digging in.
top celeb crushes are khalid, selena gomez, sabrina carpenter, & elizabeth gillies. all baddies 😤
I own 6 10mm sockets because I keep losing them and eventually finding them. Almost every bolt on my car is a 10mm bolt, so it is like trying to cut a loaf of hard crusted bread, but everything sharper than a spoon disappeared
I love QT's glasses!
My oldest brother died the day they brought him home. The only reason it hurts me is seeing my mom sad every year on his bday
Alexis D Roger! "You want my treasure? You can have it! I left everything I gathered together in one place! Now you just have to find it!""These words lured men to the Grand Line. In pursuit of dreams greather than they've ever dared to imagine! This is the time known as the 'Great Pirate Era'!"
celeb crushes - maya and rae
Boy here, best comparison for the socket wrench set for QT is when you have different attachments for your stand mixer and your partner loses the dough hook, socket sizes aren't flexible so it is like losing a kitchen tool that does ONLY one job then it's gone. It is just money but can be frustrating, not worth an argument tho
For the socket set post: i also guessed it was 10mm when Maya said metric and working on the car and was pleasantly surprised to be right. That one size is used for a lot.
20:00 The entire section of QT being supportive of Maya is genuinely wholesome 😊
49:46 That's a rough one D: