How ro make a husband understand that u want some of his quality time where u can talk n sit not just the time when husband is sleepy n comes to the room.how to make him feel that ur needs r also of importance especially when living in joint-family😢😢😢 it breaks the wifes heart n self confidence n nearly everything to be treated like that after all this when the wife asks for it..how do u expect to keep the nice femine tone.?????things go chaos n a fight takes place.plz help
I love my husband. I always interfere and he never tells me off he listens and mutually respects me for having an opinion. If I’m wrong he will explain why I’m wrong and why I should drop that thought. I’m so happy I don’t have to tip toe around him Alhumdholillah. Allah swt give my husband a long healthy happy life and may he always find success and may our love for each other grow even more as we get older, ameen.
You are very very lucky to have husband understanding you alhamdulillah alhamdulillah alhamdulillah allah ka shukr for blessings you have. Many girls don't have so caring life partner in life .
My husband was late today. Before i listemed to this lecture i texted him sarcastically that whether he was planning to come to home or not (he usually is always on time) he did not reply. Luckily i came across this video while surfing, after listning to it i texted him i havent taken dinner yet. I am still waiting for you. Will u come or u will get late . He replied me right away that he is done with his work he is about to leave for home. Thanks for highlighting this issue. I never realised i do this mistake so frequently untill i watched this video. Jazak Allah o khairan
A person with more knowledge, he will have less ego. The lesser the knowledge, the more the ego. Mutual respect is the answer to a long lasting marriage, inshaAllah.
What husband's need from their wives 1. Respect your husband's knowledge and judgement. 2. Let the husband make his mistake, and make him learn from his mistake. 3. Trust his capabilities. 4. Never make fun of him but praise him.
I am Christian, and engaged to a Muslim man. We are both Lebanese, and so in-love. I’ve been wanting to get to know more about his religion, by all respect. I am so happy and proud for those teachings... it brings tears to my eyes. The love and faith is so powerful mashallah. Thank you so much for those teachings of the truth. May God keep it coming inshallah. This needs to be shared.
May Allah bless sisters like you and guide our sisters who have sadly became like those kaafir feminists, hating men and not wanting to compromise with them at all.
as a wife I do behave the same with my husband trust me my life is colourful with the god grace and my husband cares me a lot.I advice every couple to have understanding between them
I realized moments when i disrespect my husband, im glad i saw this video and make me understand my husband clearly, im gonna be watching most of your videos for my self growth and making my family stronger
Sisters like you are really helpful for tennage boys like me. I'm only 15 and I'm always excited and motivated to learn things which will make me a good husband and I rarely watch any videos regarding husband's rights. I mostly watch about the rights of a wife because I want to make sure that when I'm about to be married, I know my responsibilities but when I see sisters who are so toxic and not wanting to compromise at all in the comment section of videos like these, I just feel like what's the point of my efforts If my wife will also be like this. May Allah protect me from such Muslim feminists. But then sisters like you remind me that good and sincere sisters also exist.
@@razer0072073 seriously you know she meant women. And of course Hitler we we know was very arrogant and full of ego I am sure it was his need too not sure if he got the true respect but here we are talking about men and women 😊
Some men need guidance and are in fact not very wise. I've been married 10 years, it works because we respect and value each others opinions and counsel.
Dont argue with your husband, he is the head of the house and you should listen to him as long as whatever he is doing is from the teachings of islam and is halal.
The video is not saying put duct tape on your mouth and never express yourself. It is just saying that you should respect your husbands choice and have confidence in them. You should let him learn from his mistakes more than simply telling him what to do like his mother would. I don’t know about you, but sometimes making mistakes can be fun (I’m talking about little ones like the wrong turn during driving lol). We’re human after all. But Alhamdulillah congratulations on 10 years of marriage.
The problem is that men take advantage and now think the wife is not even worth listening to. Us woman also want a sense of respect. We also are intelligent humans. I understand this video. Unfortunately it is hard when a man does the exact opposite in return
If I see he’s doing something wrong it’s better to point it out casually than to make his waste his time or energy. Smart men learn from both mistakes AND advice
Exactly. I was thinking the same thing. I'm sure women are capable of pointing out wrong exits without emasculating her husband. Surely, men were not such delicate little flowers! I'm sure they'd appreciate the time saved. Especially if there's traffic, etc.
@@maryahkee3402 Are you stupid? Comparing Jihad against Roman and what not to civil war? Give me an example of a single successful revolution? Besides maybe America which only got away with it because they were all the way around the world.
most of the comments are talkin about expectations than one‘s responsibilities. if you wanna be loved, you have to love first, wanna be respected, respect first. wanna have the best husband, be the best wife. same goes for the man. people should focus on our responsibilities than focus on expectations such as i hope my partner is like this and that. we rather should think like „i should be good like this and that to my partner so she/he would do the same to me“. better dont have any expectations at all. cause you will be disappointed, but you will never be disappointed if you put your expectations to Allah since he‘s the best Planer. may Allah makes it easier for us to be a better person day by day
My husbands a bloody idiot. Makes the same mistakes repeatedly. The first few times i let him. After a long time i was over it. I set him straight. Im not a damsel. I dont need a husband to rescue me. I rescue myself from bad situations. I rescue my husband from everything. Hes a ridiculous man but he has the biggest heart in the world. I didnt marry him for his rescuing abilities or because of his intelligence. I married him because he is everything i am not. He is kind. He is gentle. He is caring and loving. I am practical. I am assertive. I am smarter than him. I am everything he is not. Together it feels like we are one whole person. People used him, walked all over him. Took his kindness for weakness. He could never stand up for himself. I was always ready to fight, ready to stand up for my rights and i never let anyone walk over me. When we got together I fought for him. Showed him he was worthy of being respected and that he was worth fighting for. He put a gentle arm on my shoulder whenever i got into situations that i believed required me to fight back. He let me know that i didnt have to fight all the time. That it was ok to let smaller things pass because i wasnt alone anymore. Because he would be right there with me throughout it all. If i held back when i became his wife and trusted his judgement and stroked his ego we would be raising a family in the spare room of someone elses home. We would not be able to enjoy the life we are blessed to have today. As he says, i am the fire that drives him to be the best version of himself. I never let him fall. I never let him break. Thats how i respect my husband. I help him acknowledge his weaknesses and then i help him strengthen them. That to me is how you let a man be a man. That is how he became a strong man. Thats the kind of man i need. Playing to his ego will only give him a false sense of masculinity. Id rather my man have a huge ego with the proof to back it up
Ann-marie Meurs Thank god somebody said this! You are spot on sis! Boys become men with a strong wife by their side as equals. Not a whimsical, damsel in distress strolling behind him on a leash!
Ann-marie Meurs i would rather sum it up than pass your comment: if this is what happened between you and your husband, Thank GOD fo it you just accomplished a successful marriage and thank GOD for that you know it when things have changed in each one of you and may GOD keep on this state and give you even more better, when it comes to a man ego take note that it is been said a man ego not a boy ego this is what i wanted to tell you and you can tell by experience a man is always a boy until he grow up at any age and you've witnessed
Ann-marie Meurs well said Ann. You wrote the points that arise in my mind. I’m one who accepts others if they are right or if have better decisions. I will be only proud of my wife if she had better abilities that me. :) All men are not same.
In videos like this, they forget to mention that the Prophets and their companions were men who were WORTHY of respect! They were men who behaved in a respectful manner! Men who want to be respected, have to demonstrate their worth first. And giving them respect means that the wife in turn expects respect, if she is respectful as well! Islam doesn't promote respect for one gender only. First try to be good decent human beings, then focus on being good wives and husbands. People can't even get the basics right. And Muslims in patriarchal societies, don't raise their sons according to Islam to begin with. Good Muslim men aren't abusive, controlling or condescending.
Read on life of asma bint abi bakr daughter of abu bakr and her marriage... She was married with one of the 10th who were promised jannah from the blessed mouth of rasool Allah Sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam Seek knowledge before opening your mouths. There is a reason why rasool Allah sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam said close to meaning there will be more women in hellfire than men
I agree that phrasing and tones are important. But there should be an equal love and respect in ANY relationship, not just romantic. I should not be scared to tell my husband if we are going the wrong way. That is not a marriage, that is a dictatorship. I have to pretend weakness to build his ego, when I can do something myself. I am not looking for a savior, I can provide for myself. I want a partner that removes the burdens of being alone, not add stress because I have to suppress who I am. If we don't communicate effectively then he is not the man Allah selected for me.
Respect should be earned. Most men are child like, they don't behave like a responsible adult . Now women are the care taker by nature. What would you do when a child does something wrong, you would correct them. If men are mentioned to be the qawaam then they should behave like one. No offense
Naz Kash don’t say most men, you’ve never meet most men of responsibilities, you just meet few and unfortunately you’ve meet those you think are irresponsible men.
Zain Khan By care taker she means that women are nurturing, that's why we are the ones to give birth and look after children and nurture them. She is not being unthankful to her father so don't make assumptions like that. Women don't think all men are evil and that is not what she is saying either. She is saying if a man makes a mistake then you should correct them which is true. Correcting someone is not disrespecting them, it is helping them learn which they should appreciate. Women also expect respect, love, loyalty and honesty from men and that is what they deserve as the Prophet pbuh always said to respect your wives. Your wife is not your slave, you need to treat her as you would expect to be treated otherwise she will not be happy and you will not have a happy marriage. And many women also work, it is not just men that earn and reding your comment it doesn't sound like you will be making you wife's life better because that can only be done if you respect her. And also having a big ego is disliked in Islam so don't be too proud of it.
Zain Khan Don't paint all women as the same. We have muslim men that are not righteous either and muslim women that aren't righteous. Respect are earned not given when they don't deserve it, same goes for both men and women. Marriage is an honest relationship not some sugar-coated relationship when you aren't comfortable with something.
I love traditional masculinity, BUT: when i told him i was translating a book of Bengali poetry from English, he started laughing at me. "U cant be capable of that, u need a poetry mind for that". It hurt me so deeply, i will never forget. I finished the book and one of my friends, who is an editor, helped me publish it. He never read it. I always write short stories and collect them in a new book: he never asked what i am writing about, not a single time. I thought a man would love to know the deep thoughts of his wife, what her concerns about the world r, what is having such impacts on her...that she needs to write about. Its a way of discovering ur partner, right? He never bothered with one question. I am calling him myself "baba", like our daughters, i am like his little girl, he is melting then. He needs be babied when he is sick, i do it. He is engineer and manager, has stress at work, i always comfort him, always calming him down so that he could deal properly with his superior. About his work, yes, he always talks to me. He WANTS me to be like a wife, mother, sister, FRIEND... and i am all that, he says it himself. But when it comes to MY needs, everything becomes just so...formal. For long years i have told myself he is just too stressed, a lot of responsibilities, as many members of the family hang on him as well. But i KNOW that the man who loves his wife can fix her back with only one word, its not what u say, its HOW u say. He has 6 sisters, two of them love me crazily, i think this is why i am still a part of this family, plus my daughters, obviously, but my daughters r my own family. I am caring, i am funny, i am peaceful, he feels like the man of the men when he goes for two hours with his friends for a coffee in weekend and his wife doesnt freak him out with phone calls, its him who calls:"I am coming, need anything from outside?", while the friends's wives had called ten times to complain they were left alone for too long. He is happy because i am convenient. But he doesnt love me. So, its a two ways Street, people! Remember that!
3 years late, but, have you tried telling him this? In cases such as these, the husband isn't even aware that there is an issue. It's like having a mother/wife/friend who does it all without complaining. You begin to take it for granted. Doesn't mean you don't love the person. You just don't feel the need to do anything extra. You're perfectly content with the status quo. That's probably how it is for your husband! But men can be taught how to treat you! Respectfully, kindly, and without backtracking, teach him how you want to be treated!
This is soo painful to read and May Allah ease your affair... I wish you speak to him about it and see if any changes for good... Sure as someone here already said, he may not be aware of what he's doing and may be open to fix this... Have a good life sister... May Allahh Bless You..
Honestly guys with fragile ego get mad at those things mentioned in the video. My husband and I joke around each other. He wont get mad if he took a wrong turn that I said not to after deciphering the GPS. In fact I as a woman have more ego than him. Its not fair to categorize all men and women in 1 category
Als sister the speaker stressed on respect. .Ma sha allah It's good to hear about your mutual understanding but I am sure that the respect given to each other is vice versa. . This video is basically for relationships in trouble mostly due to a lady's ill behaviour with her husband.
Als yes lm a woman and my man respecting me is much much more important to me than him loving me. l can live without love. l will not live without respect which l am due
Lol if I wouldn’t correct my husband when he drives we would never reach our destinations. I guess it depends on each person, you can’t generalize like that. My husband expects me to correct him if he’s wrong and that’s normal? As a married couple we are equals and you don’t just let your other half do something stupid so you don’t hurt their ego? I mean, if his ego is that big, that is HIS problem and it doesn’t mean you have to just sit silent and accept. That’s just my opinion.
I tell my husband where to go and which way would be easier and he doesn’t mind. One time i said im sorry i m use to telling u which way to go . And he said he doesnt mind at all
Please don’t listen to those biased advise. Be a strong independent woman and increase your knowledge of the deen through authentic means before marriage
Thank God my Dad's thinking is not as egotistical as this man! Ma sha Allah dad knows he's just as human as a female not above or below. He is so humble, he knows his directions are bad so he makes either me (his daughter) or mum sit next to him to guide him especially for new trips. He always accepts his mistakes and we help him with directions with no trouble. I get what the sheikh was trying to say, but I'm sorry, he took it too far. I am disgusted by the wrong he preached here, even my dad said; males are already more aggressive, angry, less remorseful, egotistical than women (look at jails) and to preach on large scale to turn a blind eye to mistakes of male is non-Islamic. Telling women to stroke the male ego when he's wrong!? Allah will serve the same punishment regardless of male or female, no concessions Thank you! So who are you to do such a bias? The sheikh should really not give in to his personal agenda and be careful when preaching.
The Husband is In More Power over the wife over certain issues such as where to buy a house or where the kids are going to school or what devices and gadgets will be allowed in the house and so on. His decision will be taken into consideration over these such big issues. And the remaining less important things such as what to cook or so will be discussed as by the family. You cannot dent that the man is Qawwaam over the women, Allah says it. No matter what anyone’s father thinks(pls don’t take that the wrong way, I respect your father)Allah said it.
In this video only the first example was a bit too dumb. But the message of this video was to choose words wisely. Its the same in exchange, men have to talk to their wives in a respectful way without making them look dumb. Or their wives will just feel sad about the marriage. No woman on earth wants to be treated like an ignorant one who doesnt understand things. If the man gives her that feeling she will be hurt. Maybe you didnt watch the full video, its more about choosing the right words. Dont make fun of your husband or wife, treat them with respect and its all good.
But men do not acknowledge those wives that respect them. I've seen living and dead examples. They flirt with other women because they know their wives would trust and respect them no matter what or they keep making other mistakes because she is so pious that she will have to respect him in any case. Men do not give back. There are some men that make huge life changing mistakes and you expect the wife to support his stupidity. These men do not learn from their mistakes. No man wants a motherly figure? Hahaha I know men who married women stating the only reason being characteristically similar to their mothers. It's extremely difficult to trust a fool who can't decide anything right for himself let alone for others. And a person can be successful only when he gains a control over his ego. How can a sane woman encourage him to nurture one? Love and admiration are not the things women want. Wow, to talk to your husband now we need to prepare a speech. What's wrong with you? Is he going to do the same? Shouldn't both be comfortable with each other? He is a husband not a master! THE ONLY WAY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS RELIGION APART IS TO APPRECIATE EVERY LITTLE GOOD OR KIND ACT AND BE THANKFUL TO EACH OTHER.
I used to respect and admire my husband's knowledge and wisdom. However, as I am far less educated than him and younger too so he always less valued my comments. So the reality stands now I don't respect his opinion anymore. I never heard his encouragement! However, I agree some points of this video not all of them. Both wife and husband need MUTUAL RESPECT for each other. Be like our Prophet Muhammad and his wives.
Ns Poly most men take their wives for granted. A pious wife is Allah's gift but they don't see her that way. I understood this at a younger age that's why since the day I got married I maintained my respect and Alhamdulillah it has worked well for me.
There is a phrase that states action speaks louder then words your comments clearly states your personality human beings do make mistakes but that doesnt mean you tell them fool or something there is a time that you should sit togather like mature adults and remind each other about their mistakes in a respectfull manner.
Some of you critizes these methods but I have to say that it works. A few years ago I was acting like his mother constantly telling him stuff to do showing no respect allthough he wasnt showing respect to me also to begin with, but thats not how you win!! Then I studied the Islam more and it gave me sooomuch peace in my heart and dua and somehow ryour husband can feel when you are calm. I did these things You cantalk calm about problems but not constantly talking about the negative. You first have to respect and be confident, eaven if hes not treating you right, it can change. But you have to use your mind if somebody is abusing you hitting you and youre in danger offcourse it may be the best option for you to leave and in that case these methods wont work! But Allah gave you brains so start using them.
That's neeed alot of courage and you have to believe in yourself that you are not less then anyonr neither grater. We all are equal but few girls become trouble for their own self they damage the relation by keep saying and repeating the same thing just to seek their importance, well if one is important then you can never be replaced so don't worry, you can't tie anyone, you will have the relation as you treat the relation .
Als sister someone has to be in charge. Either it's the male or female. We must go back to the history and understand who is better in charge or must refer to the quran.
Gaurav Bhatia its not a damn army. Its a relationship. In practical life, men will be charge of some things and women will be charge of other things. Its how life works. No one person holds or should hold ALL the power. Its a balance
I think it's my 6th or 7th time I am listening to this talk throughout these two years.I forget about this after a few months pass. To remind myself how men are like I listen to it again n again .It truly helps .As a woman you don't know how men feel so it's good to have such reminders . JazakAllah
idk but hearing this the husband seems like a man child u constantly have to be super cautious around, this one sided relationship narrative seems doomed already.
theyve made a video 'what women want from men' if that helps? and I agree he does make the husband sound like a man child! But generally people should be super cautious around others because human beings tend to have feelings and unfortunately in my experience we often forget most about the feelings of those that we live with.
shafaq riaz , the thing is that this actual video is about woman’s responsibilities and I’m 100% sure you can find zillions of the Islamic lectures that teach men about their responsibilities. For example when you attend lessons on biology you can’t be angry because you are not taught astrophysics. Peace to you :)
@@e.k874 What do you mean? Why isn't he right. He is teaching the sunnah Islamic way of a relationship so he can't be wrong, unless you're a toxic non muslim femenist.
Despite not being married, i found this advice to be pretty valuable... So to keep respecting the husband to have your husband keep taking care of you......
I also got from this that Respecting the husband he will respect u as well also makes for a respectful environment and tranquility in ur marriage and women can have rights and opinions but we dont have to handle things like we are in competition to wear the pants ur suppose to be a team anyway I'm getting wordy
I wish I could get this lecture before then many of my marital problems wouldn't arrive. Now I could find out my faults. And belive me this lecture made me cry. I'll try my best to improve myself and to bring him back in my life in full. Thanks a lot sheikh for this eye opening lecture.Please pray for my success.
I must confess sometimes we do the wrong thing and never admit to it...have been having issues in my relationship for a while now I complained I don't love him anymore because he has changed from the person he used to be but after watching this video I realised I'm the one who has changed...i don't expect a love from a man I have disrespected so much..so this is it?thank you for the message now I'm going to fix my home
Pride with arrogance is sin. Which means rejecting the truth and looking down on others. Islam encourages to be positive, for example wearing beautiful clothes. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “No one who has an atom’s-weight of Pride in his heart will enter Paradise.” A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if a man likes his clothes and his shoes to look good?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah is Beautiful and loves beauty, Pride means rejecting the truth and looking down on people.” [Sahih Muslim]
Gulshan Khan Yes exactly. This dumb video only teaches how to nurture men's egos which will not be good in the long run because the men will look down on their women and not respect them.
Gulshan Khan Pride is not a sin. Excessive pride is a sin. Having little bit of pride is normal for every human. But what the speaker said is totally wrong about nurturing men's pride.
Lyszt ok thanks i never ever make comments on youtube this is one of my first comments i just felt i had to say something we have clearly been told the sins to stay away from. I like to live simple and follow the rules if only it was easy for others to do the same
Masha allah the best,amazing,super dooper lecture i have ever heard.... I didn't know about all of these about a man .... Insha allah when I'll get marry i will be that women whom my husband wants...
I totally agree with you sir. Absolutely true. No harm in letting your EGO aside. Total benefit. 100 % turns back to women in form of love. But the tragedy is that very few of us understand this point in early stages of marriage.
this is the first long term realtionships I am in in my life, and started to feel like I need to change my attitude toward him. he's my man, not my friend. I started to know that and came here, he said everything I thought would be true. Ma sha alla brother, thanks for your words
no no dont do tht...thy misguide u...u can teach ur husband if thy do wrng...if ur hubby do robb,rape,extra marital affair...will u trying to say let tht happen tht...?? sis unsubs this channel... dr. zakir naik also said tht....thy r much conservative ..thts y thy r talking like tht...our god nt like tht....thy degrading islam n alllah...
I knew the comment section was going to be trash. If you're Muslim and you don't agree with the way Allah created both male and female then something is clearly wrong with you. You think there's fault in Allah's wisdom. Husbands have SO MANY rights over their wives, that's just an Islamic ruling that you have to abide by. And in return, wives have their rights over men so STOP COMPLAINING. Stop comparing yourself to a man. He's a whole different gender. He thinks differently, acts differently, and has a completely different mindset. Stop thinking you're oppressed and stop thinking like a feminist. That's a western, non Muslim mentality that shouldn't be mixed up with the teachings of Islam. Women complain way too much and find fault in everything a guy does. Look at your faults first and fix them.
Every woman wants to give respect n love to thier husbands. The thing is, it's a tow way process! Being a partner one will left behind if it's not coming from both sides. May Allah protect every marriage and give Fazal n barakah to it! Ameen
It is so simple , A Man's ego is delicate when he makes a mistake try to correct him in a manner that doesn't hurt his ego however u see fit. Just dont hurt his ego. It is like a game really "try and get what u want without hurting his ego" bonus points if u can boost his ego (he will love u even more for it ). There is a saying in my country : a smart women can control a man without him even knowing. Act vulnerable so he can protect. Both u and ur husband know u can open that jar of pickles but asked for his help just to boost that ego . U can call a Plummer to fix the sink but ask ur husband to fix it instead again boost the ego .say the shopping bags r heavy. He will carry them Now u become his source for happiness he feels appreciated valued in ur eyes and that all he wanted . JUST LET HIM. Be his queen not his partener. Let him be ur knight not ur friend Ur appreciation is what he looks for. Give him that and he will come back for more.( it is not a drug or anything lol it ia very healthy)
Niebla Gp You're right. Men must also be deserving of this respect. Just because he is man doesnt automatic mean he is responsible and intelligent, sorry!
Ego is such a small thing compared to love...honestly. If someone gets offended by the slightest constructive criticism then that kind of person gradually becomes toxic to be around. Trust on judgement should be mutual. Both partners should know to respect each others judgements and not let ego get in the way. Respect doesn't mean following someone blindly or agreeing to every stupid decision.
Everything this Muslim Scholar said is Right and Correct......women have to Respect Man, there is no other way.....btw i am NOT a Muslim but i know a lot about Islam. I will follow this advise.
Men and women both want love, cherishment, and respect all together. This video is a means of describing those that deflate the male ego. And do not think the male ego is thinking he is better than everyone. The male ego in this instance is the pride he has for knowing he is capable for giving his wife and family everything they need.
@@s-e1901 It's the western feminist propaganda that dripped drip by drip trough movies and other media in the minds of the muslims, this is more effective than wars in the middle-east.
he should just have fixed the damn faucet or at least inform the wife of when he’ll get it fixed so she’ll be assured that he’ll get around to fixing it. don’t make a mistake and expect to be cradled because of it
Zie IsTheBomb oh I love this reply. When the speaker was talking of why the husband hasn't fixed the faucet, his "other priorities" in my head I was just thinking: or he just forgot and he constantly needs reminding or it will never get done. I absolutely detest nagging but I will have to so it if the husband cannot do what he says he will do, or at least tell me when to expect it to be done by. You can't just leave issues on the hands of a man indefinitely just because he said he will do it when his track record shows that he may forget.
Als sister, I understand your a little more stronger in your character and may have more man like qualities etc as an individual that is and therefore you demand a little more equality. Your views however are not inline with majority women and even if they are. The fact that majority of men biologically in physical terms are dominant species and mentally have different psychological traits as scientifically proven such as the competitiveness, power desire, jealousy or desire for respect. Men have been also proven to show more logic, more reasoning and less emotion under pressure. It can be reasonable and logical for men to want to be in charge. That is how men have been Built. Truth is you can argue this all day everyday with intellect and touches of feminism. But you cannot change the true nature of man nor of the women. I think it’s high time women settled back down to reality of their position in ‘nature’ and nurture and live to accomplish this. The Quran and sunnah has made it very clear around how men are and how women are. How men should lead and how women should be at home etc. Ofcourse in today’s society it’s slightly different but the principles and nature side of life has not changed. This is a major reason why divorce rates are up. Women have built strong perceptions and different sociological standings built up from the education and work system that just do not fit with the mans natural position. This applies to the non Muslims too. Men want to be in charge it’s in the nature of most aspects with women being the nurturers and lovers. It’s time to go back to that or face a world of failure. The examples in the video fail to demonstrate the findings of Quran and sunnah. The examples used were egotistic examples however I believe the sheikh did not want to use true examples in the video which would ignite fury amongst feminists.
Kalel Krypton Men and women are different yes. Im not contesting that but each one of us is an individual. We all have different needs . Trust me I tell my husband I want respect and care from him more than lovely words and flowers. Point is this advice is good for both men and women. Respect, compassion are all qualities every human being should have for another. And yes Im *stronger* in character so to speak. You'll find my ego and pride more hurt than my soft spoken and sensitive husband. I admire his qualities even though they are not hailed in the society as *manly*. We need to get rid of stereotypes and treat everyone as individuals is all Im saying. Everyone has different love languages and needs that are fulfilled in different ways. As far as emotions and logic goes, Im far more logical than the men in my family. Besides, men get carried away by ego and anger- what the sheikh said. Anger is an emotion too remember that. As well as pride. Emotion that fueled many wars through out history carried out by MEN. Lets just treat people as individuals. screw stereotypes. Get to know your spouse and treat them accordingly.
@@roadtothebeloved4830 Are you actually blind ? Lmao. You think men were not made to lead ? You think women were made to lead ? Lmao. Even from a biological perspective, women are made to be submissive. Lol, A women is pleasured through penetration !!!!
I always get my mom to calm down and be mad at her for treating my dad with no respect even though its my dad dad did wrong. Thank you for this. Its all about respect. If I have the opportunity again I will say all this to them both.
All the advice here matched with all the modern day relationship gurus' words If the husband is of high value and high quality, this video is applies very well for the wives.
Dont, this video is wrong u r your only leader and u dont need anyone to control u. we live in the 21 century women are independent and have jobs and can offer for themselves. DONT EVEN STAY QUIET IF A MAN OR ANYONE DOES A MISTAKE. Islam advises us to help others if they do mistakes. WOMEN are much more valuable than that and me and u as women should educate sexist men like these^^ and prove to them how capable we are. we shouldnt be mislead by society's views we should follow islam and this isnt what islam asks us to do.
One should never ignore ones God-given intelligent in order to make a man feel good about himself. We are suppose to correct each other when in error, and respect goes both ways. We are equals, we all have egos and prides and we are all valuable.
Subhanallaah, this is the WORST comment I have ever seen on the Internet in my entire life. The young lady didn't disclose anything about her husband or her relationship, he got something useful out of this lecture that she felt would improve her relationship. Yet, here you are assuming stuff, if she was being abused she wouldn't have made this comment, besides by saying you are your only leader is PURE SHIRK, return to Allaah.
The fact that when women are being adviced, instead of accepting it and relfecting upon it, they have the "WELL WHAT ABOUT MEN!" mentality. Subehanallah...
This is beautiful. He said that you can point out wrong doings of your husband and its not what you say but how you say it. I dont feel as thou damsels are weak but a women being variable (open to show thous sensitive emotions) moment.
Totally agreed. I learnt not to control my husband n from then on he never does anything to hurt me even unintentionally, when i stopped nagging my married life underwent a pleasant change. 1st point is the most important, trust the ability n decision of ur husband, he can't progress without it in life n he will love u more.
Guys please pray for me to have a husband too I really want to get married and complete half of my deen I don't want to date and be in a haram relationship anymore I just want a husband 😢
The exit case happened to us and he didn't listen to me and we end up taking long creepy road like the road of the horror film AXE MASSACRE and he was just laughing at me blaming me by watching horror movie. The point is, I didn't argue with him and yes Everytime we go out my duty is to watch out the radar and the exit
Masha Allah.. I heard each word of it with my emotion almost in the verge of tears.... I digest this message as if Allah himself put all these inside my head... So true... Jazakallahu khairan..in shaa allah.. I ll follow ur words and am sure a lot for good gonna change bw my husband and I.
exactly, why does the speaker think that a woman questioning and correcting her husband's decision is a sign of disrespect and is something only a mother can do... how fragile is a man's ego that he can't even handle constructive criticism that has to do with an external mistake he made, and not an internal flaw in his character? no woman should have to be all silent and submissive just to make her husband satisfied. even Umm Salamah r.a advised Prophet S.A.W regarding a matter. it's as if he's saying women need to be all weak and damsel-like for men, when that is the exact opposite of Prophet S.A.W's wives ! edit: just realized that the speaker is Yasir Qadhi, i do respect him and his knowledge but highly disagree with his "don't correct husband for driving in the wrong direction" example.
Sorry but you're going too harsh about women... Women also have self esteem and ego they also want respect... men these days thing that they have got maids without any pay 😩 Men are not kings if they want respect then they should give respect in return as well. In the end i would day "WOMEN AREN'T ROBOT THEY ARE ALSO HUMANS LIKE YOU GUYS" AND OUR RELIGION DOESN'T TEACH US PRIDE AND EGO SO GO AND DO JIHAD BIN NAFS 😝
@@doritospepsi9373 Because she deserves it, she just insulted the sheikh who was talking in the video. Sorry but I have a special kind of hate for femenists like her.
Sure. Why I cook all day I clean for him for his brothers and even for his friends what isn't normal . Everyday guests last time I ate with my husband 2 months ago in one table why? Because everyday he has friends at home and I have to eat in kitchen. I cook I clean I go to shop I bring heavy water and I haven't time everyday to provide makeup or dress nice . Sundays and weekends I haven't time at all sometimes even to go to toilet. So how I would do if I become Muslim when I would pray if sometimes I haven't time to take shower. When every weekend we have guests I have to wake up at 4 to make bread and all day I am busy to night. During week I have more time because just his friends who come so not all families but it is too much for me. In the past I had hobby now I have no time I have no time even to relax. When I come from my parents home . My home is so dirty that I clean it 4 or 5 days and I sleep everyday jut 2 hours I and during these 4 days I don't do pie kaka and even I don't eat first 2 days and I don't take shower. Normal meal I eat just when I finish everything and 3 and 4 day maybe banana apple something fast. . I like to visit my parents but how I will do when I will have child how I will clean ? Maybe u can say to clean slowly . I can't I have to clean because guests are coming and I have to clean because after 2 days guests are coming so living room and kitchen has to be cleaned perfectly to can work on it and rooms I can clean when guests are at home but if I started I finish to sleep in clean.if I would clean everything slowly than I would clean 1 month.because really everything is dirty walls . All . And I hate to cook in dirty kitchen. Shwingum in chairs on walls . Even worse things. But these things happen when man is like child and he invite friends everyday. Like that everything is distorted and u will even can't use your own living room because oof no time and also because it is occupied by friends only place where u can sit is kitchen or your bedroom .
To be honest i think this only works with men who are on the straight path of the deen and know their duty and privilege as a husband. Cause unfortunatly there are alot of men who think they are the king of the house yet they act like a irresponsible child. They want the respect but dont act upon a leader of the house. But for the man who do, this is a great video💕
And there is a Hadith that A man is Advised to to take suggestions from family and Friends Before taking any decisions . So how can we say that whatever decisions he is taking His wife is not supposed to tell him or correct him ? No Way ! There is a mutual respect and love between two . I love the life and the treatment My Prophet gave to his all wives . Allahumdolilah
A/a.. Although I am not married yet ..but after watching and listening to this , I feel like wow it's so easy to become a wife ...simple ways simple things and your life will be prosperous.....may Allah guide us all.... Jazakallah khair...
I love this lecture... I haven't got married yet but watching this video really makes me understand what should I do when I get married... Thank youuuu
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How ro make a husband understand that u want some of his quality time where u can talk n sit not just the time when husband is sleepy n comes to the room.how to make him feel that ur needs r also of importance especially when living in joint-family😢😢😢 it breaks the wifes heart n self confidence n nearly everything to be treated like that after all this when the wife asks for it..how do u expect to keep the nice femine tone.?????things go chaos n a fight takes place.plz help
Please make reminders like husband and wife
The Daily Reminder I would totally follow this, thank you so much
I just wanted to ask for it but alhamdoullilah for the good idea
The Daily Reminder ujjjoo
I love my husband. I always interfere and he never tells me off he listens and mutually respects me for having an opinion. If I’m wrong he will explain why I’m wrong and why I should drop that thought. I’m so happy I don’t have to tip toe around him Alhumdholillah. Allah swt give my husband a long healthy happy life and may he always find success and may our love for each other grow even more as we get older, ameen.
"I always interfere"
You shouldn't. It's going to drain his patience one day and may result in something worse. please be more thoughtful
@@shadowstorm5261 ur right
This is how it should be, but muslim men are brainwashed into thinking that keep ur wives equivalent to slaves simply because of this hadith.
Ameen
You are very very lucky to have husband understanding you alhamdulillah alhamdulillah alhamdulillah allah ka shukr for blessings you have. Many girls don't have so caring life partner in life .
My husband was late today. Before i listemed to this lecture i texted him sarcastically that whether he was planning to come to home or not (he usually is always on time) he did not reply. Luckily i came across this video while surfing, after listning to it i texted him i havent taken dinner yet. I am still waiting for you. Will u come or u will get late . He replied me right away that he is done with his work he is about to leave for home.
Thanks for highlighting this issue. I never realised i do this mistake so frequently untill i watched this video. Jazak Allah o khairan
anashia aftab haha clever wife
I respect you so much may Allah bless you always
Hahahahha good
anashia aftab
wooooow what a huuuuuge deal, ur husband is weak af, like what’s so wrong with asking that first question?
A person with more knowledge, he will have less ego.
The lesser the knowledge, the more the ego.
Mutual respect is the answer to a long lasting marriage, inshaAllah.
rozita haroun knowledge is power lol
True
Knowledge and ego can go hand in hand. You mean wisdom. Wise men don't have fragile egos.
rozita ha
Beautiful teaching. Mashallah very good teaching
Every one is looking to marry a good person but no one is trying to be a good person
True
So true
not no one but very few people yes.
True
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What husband's need from their wives
1. Respect your husband's knowledge and judgement.
2. Let the husband make his mistake, and make him learn from his mistake.
3. Trust his capabilities.
4. Never make fun of him but praise him.
I am Christian, and engaged to a Muslim man. We are both Lebanese, and so in-love. I’ve been wanting to get to know more about his religion, by all respect. I am so happy and proud for those teachings... it brings tears to my eyes. The love and faith is so powerful mashallah. Thank you so much for those teachings of the truth. May God keep it coming inshallah. This needs to be shared.
Please.. If you see my message..
Try to reply mi..
Why don't you convert.. Please???
The message is clear you just need to open your eyes and heart to absorb the truth
@@Gaza_256. you shouldn't beg people to convert they'll do it on their own
Thank you Stephanie for your note. You will be a blessing to your fiancee and future husband. Your husband will be lucky to have you in his life.
@@madisondavis8906 Very True My Sister, We Only Convey the Message.
I will respect my husband inshallah ❤
May he give you the love and caring and the respect you deserve in return
Mashallah
May Allah bless sisters like you and guide our sisters who have sadly became like those kaafir feminists, hating men and not wanting to compromise with them at all.
as a wife I do behave the same with my husband trust me my life is colourful with the god grace and my husband cares me a lot.I advice every couple to have understanding between them
I realized moments when i disrespect my husband, im glad i saw this video and make me understand my husband clearly, im gonna be watching most of your videos for my self growth and making my family stronger
Sisters like you are really helpful for tennage boys like me. I'm only 15 and I'm always excited and motivated to learn things which will make me a good husband and I rarely watch any videos regarding husband's rights. I mostly watch about the rights of a wife because I want to make sure that when I'm about to be married, I know my responsibilities but when I see sisters who are so toxic and not wanting to compromise at all in the comment section of videos like these, I just feel like what's the point of my efforts If my wife will also be like this. May Allah protect me from such Muslim feminists. But then sisters like you remind me that good and sincere sisters also exist.
Respect is everyone needs.
Even Hitler?
@@razer0072073 😂
No
@@umar9174 right
@@razer0072073 seriously you know she meant women. And of course Hitler we we know was very arrogant and full of ego I am sure it was his need too not sure if he got the true respect but here we are talking about men and women 😊
Some men need guidance and are in fact not very wise. I've been married 10 years, it works because we respect and value each others opinions and counsel.
Dont argue with your husband, he is the head of the house and you should listen to him as long as whatever he is doing is from the teachings of islam and is halal.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 Not arguing, but rather come to terms. Both need to express their opinion but out of respect and love.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 the husband can't go against the wife also.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935
It's their choice and their life, it's none of your concern besides, most men nowadays have gone corrupt :)
The video is not saying put duct tape on your mouth and never express yourself. It is just saying that you should respect your husbands choice and have confidence in them. You should let him learn from his mistakes more than simply telling him what to do like his mother would. I don’t know about you, but sometimes making mistakes can be fun (I’m talking about little ones like the wrong turn during driving lol). We’re human after all. But Alhamdulillah congratulations on 10 years of marriage.
The problem is that men take advantage and now think the wife is not even worth listening to.
Us woman also want a sense of respect. We also are intelligent humans.
I understand this video. Unfortunately it is hard when a man does the exact opposite in return
hajer haha no no, women in todays world have too much western crap in their head and behave un-islamically.
Lujaris Malsi
Men too.
• a l i m a • you married?
Lujaris Malsi
Are you?
• a l i m a • lol no🙁 got too much western crap in my head 😖 but in the process of correction
If I see he’s doing something wrong it’s better to point it out casually than to make his waste his time or energy. Smart men learn from both mistakes AND advice
exactly
exactly
Exactly. I was thinking the same thing. I'm sure women are capable of pointing out wrong exits without emasculating her husband. Surely, men were not such delicate little flowers! I'm sure they'd appreciate the time saved. Especially if there's traffic, etc.
@@maryahkee3402 Are you stupid? Comparing Jihad against Roman and what not to civil war? Give me an example of a single successful revolution? Besides maybe America which only got away with it because they were all the way around the world.
sis unsubs this channel.... south asian ppl think like tht...thy degrading islam n quran....we only bow down to allah
most of the comments are talkin about expectations than one‘s responsibilities. if you wanna be loved, you have to love first, wanna be respected, respect first. wanna have the best husband, be the best wife. same goes for the man. people should focus on our responsibilities than focus on expectations such as i hope my partner is like this and that. we rather should think like „i should be good like this and that to my partner so she/he would do the same to me“. better dont have any expectations at all. cause you will be disappointed, but you will never be disappointed if you put your expectations to Allah since he‘s the best Planer. may Allah makes it easier for us to be a better person day by day
Very good advice. May Allah bless you.
My husbands a bloody idiot. Makes the same mistakes repeatedly. The first few times i let him. After a long time i was over it. I set him straight. Im not a damsel. I dont need a husband to rescue me. I rescue myself from bad situations. I rescue my husband from everything. Hes a ridiculous man but he has the biggest heart in the world. I didnt marry him for his rescuing abilities or because of his intelligence. I married him because he is everything i am not. He is kind. He is gentle. He is caring and loving. I am practical. I am assertive. I am smarter than him. I am everything he is not. Together it feels like we are one whole person. People used him, walked all over him. Took his kindness for weakness. He could never stand up for himself. I was always ready to fight, ready to stand up for my rights and i never let anyone walk over me. When we got together I fought for him. Showed him he was worthy of being respected and that he was worth fighting for. He put a gentle arm on my shoulder whenever i got into situations that i believed required me to fight back. He let me know that i didnt have to fight all the time. That it was ok to let smaller things pass because i wasnt alone anymore. Because he would be right there with me throughout it all. If i held back when i became his wife and trusted his judgement and stroked his ego we would be raising a family in the spare room of someone elses home. We would not be able to enjoy the life we are blessed to have today. As he says, i am the fire that drives him to be the best version of himself. I never let him fall. I never let him break. Thats how i respect my husband. I help him acknowledge his weaknesses and then i help him strengthen them. That to me is how you let a man be a man. That is how he became a strong man. Thats the kind of man i need. Playing to his ego will only give him a false sense of masculinity. Id rather my man have a huge ego with the proof to back it up
Ann-marie Meurs Thank god somebody said this! You are spot on sis! Boys become men with a strong wife by their side as equals. Not a whimsical, damsel in distress strolling behind him on a leash!
Ann-marie Meurs i would rather sum it up than pass your comment: if this is what happened between you and your husband, Thank GOD fo it you just accomplished a successful marriage and thank GOD for that you know it when things have changed in each one of you and may GOD keep on this state and give you even more better, when it comes to a man ego take note that it is been said a man ego not a boy ego this is what i wanted to tell you and you can tell by experience a man is always a boy until he grow up at any age and you've witnessed
Ann-marie Meurs well done woman 👍🏼
This is really powerful
Ann-marie Meurs well said Ann. You wrote the points that arise in my mind.
I’m one who accepts others if they are right or if have better decisions. I will be only proud of my wife if she had better abilities that me. :)
All men are not same.
In videos like this, they forget to mention that the Prophets and their companions were men who were WORTHY of respect! They were men who behaved in a respectful manner! Men who want to be respected, have to demonstrate their worth first. And giving them respect means that the wife in turn expects respect, if she is respectful as well! Islam doesn't promote respect for one gender only. First try to be good decent human beings, then focus on being good wives and husbands. People can't even get the basics right. And Muslims in patriarchal societies, don't raise their sons according to Islam to begin with.
Good Muslim men aren't abusive, controlling or condescending.
Aisha I love this comment. So true
Read on life of asma bint abi bakr daughter of abu bakr and her marriage... She was married with one of the 10th who were promised jannah from the blessed mouth of rasool Allah Sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam
Seek knowledge before opening your mouths. There is a reason why rasool Allah sal Allaho aleyhi wsallam said close to meaning there will be more women in hellfire than men
Aisha said nothing but true but truth hurts...most muslims men are nothing this days thats why the ummah is disgraced!
So truee
Well said.
I agree that phrasing and tones are important. But there should be an equal love and respect in ANY relationship, not just romantic. I should not be scared to tell my husband if we are going the wrong way. That is not a marriage, that is a dictatorship. I have to pretend weakness to build his ego, when I can do something myself. I am not looking for a savior, I can provide for myself. I want a partner that removes the burdens of being alone, not add stress because I have to suppress who I am. If we don't communicate effectively then he is not the man Allah selected for me.
Halima B alhamdulilah for you. Wish you the best in yo life.
Smart reply cause I was thinking the same thing...
Halima B I agree
I was thinking the same thing!
I totally agree
Respect should be earned. Most men are child like, they don't behave like a responsible adult . Now women are the care taker by nature. What would you do when a child does something wrong, you would correct them. If men are mentioned to be the qawaam then they should behave like one. No offense
Naz Kash don’t say most men, you’ve never meet most men of responsibilities, you just meet few and unfortunately you’ve meet those you think are irresponsible men.
Naz Kash I think ur a girl, makes sense why you are doing this. It’s true, men just want respect. Source: I have penis.
Zain Khan By care taker she means that women are nurturing, that's why we are the ones to give birth and look after children and nurture them. She is not being unthankful to her father so don't make assumptions like that. Women don't think all men are evil and that is not what she is saying either. She is saying if a man makes a mistake then you should correct them which is true. Correcting someone is not disrespecting them, it is helping them learn which they should appreciate. Women also expect respect, love, loyalty and honesty from men and that is what they deserve as the Prophet pbuh always said to respect your wives. Your wife is not your slave, you need to treat her as you would expect to be treated otherwise she will not be happy and you will not have a happy marriage. And many women also work, it is not just men that earn and reding your comment it doesn't sound like you will be making you wife's life better because that can only be done if you respect her. And also having a big ego is disliked in Islam so don't be too proud of it.
Zain Khan
Don't paint all women as the same. We have muslim men that are not righteous either and muslim women that aren't righteous. Respect are earned not given when they don't deserve it, same goes for both men and women. Marriage is an honest relationship not some sugar-coated relationship when you aren't comfortable with something.
Naz Kash
He explained it totally different
For this question I would suggest please Listen Zakir Naik about this ...qawaam
MASHA Allah.... I love to hear this... as a newbie wifey here, I will keep this in mind to take care and respect my husband.. Alhamdulillah
well said!
I love traditional masculinity, BUT: when i told him i was translating a book of Bengali poetry from English, he started laughing at me. "U cant be capable of that, u need a poetry mind for that". It hurt me so deeply, i will never forget. I finished the book and one of my friends, who is an editor, helped me publish it. He never read it. I always write short stories and collect them in a new book: he never asked what i am writing about, not a single time. I thought a man would love to know the deep thoughts of his wife, what her concerns about the world r, what is having such impacts on her...that she needs to write about. Its a way of discovering ur partner, right? He never bothered with one question. I am calling him myself "baba", like our daughters, i am like his little girl, he is melting then. He needs be babied when he is sick, i do it. He is engineer and manager, has stress at work, i always comfort him, always calming him down so that he could deal properly with his superior. About his work, yes, he always talks to me. He WANTS me to be like a wife, mother, sister, FRIEND... and i am all that, he says it himself. But when it comes to MY needs, everything becomes just so...formal. For long years i have told myself he is just too stressed, a lot of responsibilities, as many members of the family hang on him as well. But i KNOW that the man who loves his wife can fix her back with only one word, its not what u say, its HOW u say. He has 6 sisters, two of them love me crazily, i think this is why i am still a part of this family, plus my daughters, obviously, but my daughters r my own family. I am caring, i am funny, i am peaceful, he feels like the man of the men when he goes for two hours with his friends for a coffee in weekend and his wife doesnt freak him out with phone calls, its him who calls:"I am coming, need anything from outside?", while the friends's wives had called ten times to complain they were left alone for too long. He is happy because i am convenient. But he doesnt love me. So, its a two ways Street, people! Remember that!
3 years late, but, have you tried telling him this? In cases such as these, the husband isn't even aware that there is an issue. It's like having a mother/wife/friend who does it all without complaining. You begin to take it for granted. Doesn't mean you don't love the person. You just don't feel the need to do anything extra. You're perfectly content with the status quo. That's probably how it is for your husband! But men can be taught how to treat you! Respectfully, kindly, and without backtracking, teach him how you want to be treated!
This is soo painful to read and May Allah ease your affair... I wish you speak to him about it and see if any changes for good... Sure as someone here already said, he may not be aware of what he's doing and may be open to fix this... Have a good life sister... May Allahh Bless You..
Honestly guys with fragile ego get mad at those things mentioned in the video. My husband and I joke around each other. He wont get mad if he took a wrong turn that I said not to after deciphering the GPS. In fact I as a woman have more ego than him. Its not fair to categorize all men and women in 1 category
Als sister the speaker stressed on respect. .Ma sha allah It's good to hear about your mutual understanding but I am sure that the respect given to each other is vice versa. . This video is basically for relationships in trouble mostly due to a lady's ill behaviour with her husband.
everyone has an ego and egos are fragile.
everyone is different. im a woman and want respect more than love and emotions. respect is also a 2 way street
When paying bills, is it also a 2 way street?
Toor Khan of course it is. usually l as a woman pay more than my share and thats the common female experience these days
Als yes lm a woman and my man respecting me is much much more important to me than him loving me. l can live without love. l will not live without respect which l am due
@@ashsqx3246 90% its men who pay, there are exceptions.
Toor Khan bullshit. lol dont make up imaginary stats.
Lol if I wouldn’t correct my husband when he drives we would never reach our destinations. I guess it depends on each person, you can’t generalize like that. My husband expects me to correct him if he’s wrong and that’s normal? As a married couple we are equals and you don’t just let your other half do something stupid so you don’t hurt their ego? I mean, if his ego is that big, that is HIS problem and it doesn’t mean you have to just sit silent and accept. That’s just my opinion.
Exactly, that is how it is supposed to be. the video is bs and jsut seems like the speaker's own opinions and desires.
I tell my husband where to go and which way would be easier and he doesn’t mind. One time i said im sorry i m use to telling u which way to go . And he said he doesnt mind at all
@@aqsazeeshan795 - He said that to shut you up.
@@enniswhalen2428 dont assume things u dont know.
I'm a teenage and unmarried girl and very surprised with this lecture .keep posting this kind of lectures. Goodwork😊
unsubs this channel...sis its wrng hadith...
Please don’t listen to those biased advise. Be a strong independent woman and increase your knowledge of the deen through authentic means before marriage
@@SoAS26 why is this biased .seems logically correct
@@SoAS26 the constant nagging will break marriage
@@SoAS26 fool
Thank God my Dad's thinking is not as egotistical as this man! Ma sha Allah dad knows he's just as human as a female not above or below. He is so humble, he knows his directions are bad so he makes either me (his daughter) or mum sit next to him to guide him especially for new trips. He always accepts his mistakes and we help him with directions with no trouble. I get what the sheikh was trying to say, but I'm sorry, he took it too far. I am disgusted by the wrong he preached here, even my dad said; males are already more aggressive, angry, less remorseful, egotistical than women (look at jails) and to preach on large scale to turn a blind eye to mistakes of male is non-Islamic. Telling women to stroke the male ego when he's wrong!? Allah will serve the same punishment regardless of male or female, no concessions Thank you! So who are you to do such a bias?
The sheikh should really not give in to his personal agenda and be careful when preaching.
The Husband is In More Power over the wife over certain issues such as where to buy a house or where the kids are going to school or what devices and gadgets will be allowed in the house and so on. His decision will be taken into consideration over these such big issues. And the remaining less important things such as what to cook or so will be discussed as by the family. You cannot dent that the man is Qawwaam over the women, Allah says it. No matter what anyone’s father thinks(pls don’t take that the wrong way, I respect your father)Allah said it.
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Shumus Ali Raja lmao rightfully said. Honestly what happened to the sisters nowadays?
@@masrurazmal8235 western feminism in work
In this video only the first example was a bit too dumb. But the message of this video was to choose words wisely. Its the same in exchange, men have to talk to their wives in a respectful way without making them look dumb. Or their wives will just feel sad about the marriage. No woman on earth wants to be treated like an ignorant one who doesnt understand things. If the man gives her that feeling she will be hurt. Maybe you didnt watch the full video, its more about choosing the right words. Dont make fun of your husband or wife, treat them with respect and its all good.
But men do not acknowledge those wives that respect them. I've seen living and dead examples. They flirt with other women because they know their wives would trust and respect them no matter what or they keep making other mistakes because she is so pious that she will have to respect him in any case. Men do not give back. There are some men that make huge life changing mistakes and you expect the wife to support his stupidity. These men do not learn from their mistakes. No man wants a motherly figure? Hahaha I know men who married women stating the only reason being characteristically similar to their mothers. It's extremely difficult to trust a fool who can't decide anything right for himself let alone for others. And a person can be successful only when he gains a control over his ego. How can a sane woman encourage him to nurture one? Love and admiration are not the things women want. Wow, to talk to your husband now we need to prepare a speech. What's wrong with you? Is he going to do the same? Shouldn't both be comfortable with each other? He is a husband not a master! THE ONLY WAY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS RELIGION APART IS TO APPRECIATE EVERY LITTLE GOOD OR KIND ACT AND BE THANKFUL TO EACH OTHER.
fathima nihal my god you nailed it awesome love you dear thanks a lot reading this I feel better till then I was feeling like I am a slave.
I used to respect and admire my husband's knowledge and wisdom. However, as I am far less educated than him and younger too so he always less valued my comments. So the reality stands now I don't respect his opinion anymore. I never heard his encouragement! However, I agree some points of this video not all of them. Both wife and husband need MUTUAL RESPECT for each other. Be like our Prophet Muhammad and his wives.
Ns Poly most men take their wives for granted. A pious wife is Allah's gift but they don't see her that way. I understood this at a younger age that's why since the day I got married I maintained my respect and Alhamdulillah it has worked well for me.
There is a phrase that states action speaks louder then words your comments clearly states your personality human beings do make mistakes but that doesnt mean you tell them fool or something there is a time that you should sit togather like mature adults and remind each other about their mistakes in a respectfull manner.
fathima nihal
You're totally right
Some of you critizes these methods but I have to say that it works. A few years ago I was acting like his mother constantly telling him stuff to do showing no respect allthough he wasnt showing respect to me also to begin with, but thats not how you win!! Then I studied the Islam more and it gave me sooomuch peace in my heart and dua and somehow ryour husband can feel when you are calm. I did these things You cantalk calm about problems but not constantly talking about the negative. You first have to respect and be confident, eaven if hes not treating you right, it can change. But you have to use your mind if somebody is abusing you hitting you and youre in danger offcourse it may be the best option for you to leave and in that case these methods wont work! But Allah gave you brains so start using them.
Alhamdulilah deep sister
That's neeed alot of courage and you have to believe in yourself that you are not less then anyonr neither grater. We all are equal but few girls become trouble for their own self they damage the relation by keep saying and repeating the same thing just to seek their importance, well if one is important then you can never be replaced so don't worry, you can't tie anyone, you will have the relation as you treat the relation .
same thing bro. wives dont want a father. so dont boss us around
Als sister someone has to be in charge. Either it's the male or female. We must go back to the history and understand who is better in charge or must refer to the quran.
Gaurav Bhatia its not a damn army. Its a relationship. In practical life, men will be charge of some things and women will be charge of other things. Its how life works. No one person holds or should hold ALL the power. Its a balance
Als it's good if it's a mutual balance ☺
Ok then go earn for yourselg if you dont want a "father", lol you only want rights and dont care about your responsibilities and restrictions.
Abdul Raffay sure as long as you cook and clean after yourself Lol. Just FYI I do hv my own money and investment outside my husbands income.
“You took a knife and you stabbed him in his heart!” 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 men are sure babies
I will never forget this advice. Thank you so much
I think it's my 6th or 7th time I am listening to this talk throughout these two years.I forget about this after a few months pass. To remind myself how men are like I listen to it again n again .It truly helps .As a woman you don't know how men feel so it's good to have such reminders . JazakAllah
idk but hearing this the husband seems like a man child u constantly have to be super cautious around, this one sided relationship narrative seems doomed already.
theyve made a video 'what women want from men' if that helps? and I agree he does make the husband sound like a man child! But generally people should be super cautious around others because human beings tend to have feelings and unfortunately in my experience we often forget most about the feelings of those that we live with.
shafaq riaz , the thing is that this actual video is about woman’s responsibilities and I’m 100% sure you can find zillions of the Islamic lectures that teach men about their responsibilities. For example when you attend lessons on biology you can’t be angry because you are not taught astrophysics. Peace to you :)
Shut up, he made a video of what a woman wnats from her husband.
Muhammad.zeeshan Uddin watch ur mouth and just cuz he made a video about women dose not mean hes right in this video
@@e.k874 What do you mean? Why isn't he right. He is teaching the sunnah Islamic way of a relationship so he can't be wrong, unless you're a toxic non muslim femenist.
Despite not being married, i found this advice to be pretty valuable... So to keep respecting the husband to have your husband keep taking care of you......
I am 17
I don't like to tell my country, but i can tell it's a Muslim dominated country
Wa alaikumassalam
Molly Sandera hii molly u r very right..
I also got from this that Respecting the husband he will respect u as well also makes for a respectful environment and tranquility in ur marriage and women can have rights and opinions but we dont have to handle things like we are in competition to wear the pants ur suppose to be a team anyway I'm getting wordy
I wish I could get this lecture before then many of my marital problems wouldn't arrive. Now I could find out my faults. And belive me this lecture made me cry. I'll try my best to improve myself and to bring him back in my life in full. Thanks a lot sheikh for this eye opening lecture.Please pray for my success.
How did it go?
Mashallah, a wonderful lecture.Useful for all the married and wives-to-be.Can be heard numerous times just as a reminder.
Daily reminder to say 💕
1. Subhanallah 10x
2. Alhamdulillah 10x
3. Allahu akbar 10x
4. La ila ha ilahallah 10x
ajr for you and me 🫶🏻✨
I must confess sometimes we do the wrong thing and never admit to it...have been having issues in my relationship for a while now I complained I don't love him anymore because he has changed from the person he used to be but after watching this video I realised I'm the one who has changed...i don't expect a love from a man I have disrespected so much..so this is it?thank you for the message now I'm going to fix my home
Thanks for putting up this stuff, so much of learning. Hope to become the best wife to my husband.. Ameen!
Inshah Allah I will try to adopt this in My Married life with My husband. Thank you so much for this advice
Respect should work both ways
I thought men arnt allowed to have pride? Or ego? pride is a sin....?
Gulshan Khan 👀☕️🐸
Pride with arrogance is sin. Which means rejecting the truth and looking down on others. Islam encourages to be positive, for example wearing beautiful clothes. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “No one who has an atom’s-weight of Pride in his heart will enter Paradise.” A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what if a man likes his clothes and his shoes to look good?” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah is Beautiful and loves beauty, Pride means rejecting the truth and looking down on people.” [Sahih Muslim]
Gulshan Khan Yes exactly. This dumb video only teaches how to nurture men's egos which will not be good in the long run because the men will look down on their women and not respect them.
Gulshan Khan
Pride is not a sin. Excessive pride is a sin. Having little bit of pride is normal for every human. But what the speaker said is totally wrong about nurturing men's pride.
Lyszt ok thanks i never ever make comments on youtube this is one of my first comments i just felt i had to say something we have clearly been told the sins to stay away from. I like to live simple and follow the rules if only it was easy for others to do the same
Masha allah the best,amazing,super dooper lecture i have ever heard.... I didn't know about all of these about a man .... Insha allah when I'll get marry i will be that women whom my husband wants...
onisha khan_Art masha allah. May allah guide us..
Gaurav Bhatia Ameen :D
Alien_Dreams Art are you single?
I totally agree with you sir. Absolutely true. No harm in letting your EGO aside. Total benefit. 100 % turns back to women in form of love.
But the tragedy is that very few of us understand this point in early stages of marriage.
this is the first long term realtionships I am in in my life, and started to feel like I need to change my attitude toward him. he's my man, not my friend. I started to know that and came here, he said everything I thought would be true. Ma sha alla brother, thanks for your words
Thanks for this video...bcoz of this listen I changed my behaviour towards my husband
no no dont do tht...thy misguide u...u can teach ur husband if thy do wrng...if ur hubby do robb,rape,extra marital affair...will u trying to say let tht happen tht...?? sis unsubs this channel... dr. zakir naik also said tht....thy r much conservative ..thts y thy r talking like tht...our god nt like tht....thy degrading islam n alllah...
I knew the comment section was going to be trash. If you're Muslim and you don't agree with the way Allah created both male and female then something is clearly wrong with you. You think there's fault in Allah's wisdom. Husbands have SO MANY rights over their wives, that's just an Islamic ruling that you have to abide by. And in return, wives have their rights over men so STOP COMPLAINING. Stop comparing yourself to a man. He's a whole different gender. He thinks differently, acts differently, and has a completely different mindset. Stop thinking you're oppressed and stop thinking like a feminist. That's a western, non Muslim mentality that shouldn't be mixed up with the teachings of Islam. Women complain way too much and find fault in everything a guy does. Look at your faults first and fix them.
Every woman wants to give respect n love to thier husbands. The thing is, it's a tow way process!
Being a partner one will left behind if it's not coming from both sides.
May Allah protect every marriage and give Fazal n barakah to it! Ameen
Respect works both ways
Yeah but the video is talking about the guys, when he did say it is not both ways.
Excellent advice if you listen to this with a open heart and fear Allah.
This is such a wonderful straightforward lesson... it is opening my eyes to understand your faith...🙏
It is so simple , A Man's ego is delicate when he makes a mistake try to correct him in a manner that doesn't hurt his ego however u see fit. Just dont hurt his ego. It is like a game really "try and get what u want without hurting his ego" bonus points if u can boost his ego (he will love u even more for it ).
There is a saying in my country : a smart women can control a man without him even knowing. Act vulnerable so he can protect. Both u and ur husband know u can open that jar of pickles but asked for his help just to boost that ego . U can call a Plummer to fix the sink but ask ur husband to fix it instead again boost the ego .say the shopping bags r heavy. He will carry them Now u become his source for happiness he feels appreciated valued in ur eyes and that all he wanted . JUST LET HIM.
Be his queen not his partener. Let him be ur knight not ur friend
Ur appreciation is what he looks for. Give him that and he will come back for more.( it is not a drug or anything lol it ia very healthy)
In sha allah When i become a wife I will take notes from this video and try to act like this❤️ alhamdullih thx for this video brother!!
Ameen
Man you're a knock out wife material
Men have its ego!
Let him make it grow!
Absurd! !
Both men and women must fight it's own ego
Niebla Gp You're right. Men must also be deserving of this respect. Just because he is man doesnt automatic mean he is responsible and intelligent, sorry!
@@slashmary Nope, just shut up
Shut up, you don't understand everything.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935
Nor do you dumbass, lower your ego.
Their*
Ego is such a small thing compared to love...honestly. If someone gets offended by the slightest constructive criticism then that kind of person gradually becomes toxic to be around. Trust on judgement should be mutual. Both partners should know to respect each others judgements and not let ego get in the way. Respect doesn't mean following someone blindly or agreeing to every stupid decision.
Everything this Muslim Scholar said is Right and Correct......women have to Respect Man, there is no other way.....btw i am NOT a Muslim but i know a lot about Islam. I will follow this advise.
Sophia Anderson ahhh so you can freeload, I see
May Allah fill your relationship with happiness ❤️
really lolzzz i wish u be my wife then if u understood this
y don,t u marry me then m single
Sophia Anderson You are a smart girl. Some of us women want a good man but don’t want to give .
Nice video with very useful tips. Jazakumullahukhairan
“If you want a man be feminine.act feminine” this quote alone if practiced by a wife will return a lot of love from husband
I'm a Christian married to a Christian man .. this was really encouraging 👏 thank you
Accept islam so you attain peace in this world and the next
It's quite useful and helpful lesson JazakAllah brother
Masha Allah ❤I'm going to watch this everytime for my future husband In sha Allah 🤲
Men and women both want love, cherishment, and respect all together. This video is a means of describing those that deflate the male ego. And do not think the male ego is thinking he is better than everyone. The male ego in this instance is the pride he has for knowing he is capable for giving his wife and family everything they need.
Been looking for this comment. THANK YOU!
I wish my wife would have listen such like this Khudba
Nuridin Omar watch it together with her akhi insAllah. May Allah guide us all to the right path. Allahumma Amin
Send he she will listen
Shamsa Mohamed good idea thank you sis. Please kindly pray for her
Star00Maker thanks God bless you
I love how the women hate this video but love the one for what the husband has to do.
You are right I tried it on my brother now he is better take care of our family
Alhamdulillah 🤲🏼 This is 100% true, pure light
I don’t need to be his mom to tell if he’s wrong lol I’ll tell him the truth no matter what😏
Gewoon [Gabadhaas] Toch being his cousin is fine too.
I think that's the problem nowadays with us women. We want to get our authority and we have got this westernized mindset😔unfortunately
Sana you are genuinely genius!
It’s Somali Not Somalian
Are you single
@@s-e1901 It's the western feminist propaganda that dripped drip by drip trough movies and other media in the minds of the muslims, this is more effective than wars in the middle-east.
he should just have fixed the damn faucet or at least inform the wife of when he’ll get it fixed so she’ll be assured that he’ll get around to fixing it. don’t make a mistake and expect to be cradled because of it
Zie IsTheBomb oh I love this reply. When the speaker was talking of why the husband hasn't fixed the faucet, his "other priorities" in my head I was just thinking: or he just forgot and he constantly needs reminding or it will never get done.
I absolutely detest nagging but I will have to so it if the husband cannot do what he says he will do, or at least tell me when to expect it to be done by. You can't just leave issues on the hands of a man indefinitely just because he said he will do it when his track record shows that he may forget.
@@ittybawa hahaha I see myself in this comment plus I'm too lazy if I don't forget it hahaha
"The ink of the scholar is more sacred than the blood of the martyr."
Masha Allah, it's pure and clear advice to all wives and husbands
May Allah bless this brother. 😊
this video made me cringe. its nice advice for BOTH MEN AND WOMEN. respecting and having compassion goes both ways.
Als sister, I understand your a little more stronger in your character and may have more man like qualities etc as an individual that is and therefore you demand a little more equality. Your views however are not inline with majority women and even if they are. The fact that majority of men biologically in physical terms are dominant species and mentally have different psychological traits as scientifically proven such as the competitiveness, power desire, jealousy or desire for respect.
Men have been also proven to show more logic, more reasoning and less emotion under pressure. It can be reasonable and logical for men to want to be in charge. That is how men have been Built.
Truth is you can argue this all day everyday with intellect and touches of feminism. But you cannot change the true nature of man nor of the women. I think it’s high time women settled back down to reality of their position in ‘nature’ and nurture and live to accomplish this.
The Quran and sunnah has made it very clear around how men are and how women are. How men should lead and how women should be at home etc.
Ofcourse in today’s society it’s slightly different but the principles and nature side of life has not changed. This is a major reason why divorce rates are up. Women have built strong perceptions and different sociological standings built up from the education and work system that just do not fit with the mans natural position. This applies to the non Muslims too. Men want to be in charge it’s in the nature of most aspects with women being the nurturers and lovers. It’s time to go back to that or face a world of failure.
The examples in the video fail to demonstrate the findings of Quran and sunnah. The examples used were egotistic examples however I believe the sheikh did not want to use true examples in the video which would ignite fury amongst feminists.
Kalel Krypton LOL please do refer me to where the Quran and sunnah say a man should lead and women should be at home.
Kalel Krypton Men and women are different yes. Im not contesting that but each one of us is an individual. We all have different needs . Trust me I tell my husband I want respect and care from him more than lovely words and flowers. Point is this advice is good for both men and women. Respect, compassion are all qualities every human being should have for another.
And yes Im *stronger* in character so to speak. You'll find my ego and pride more hurt than my soft spoken and sensitive husband. I admire his qualities even though they are not hailed in the society as *manly*. We need to get rid of stereotypes and treat everyone as individuals is all Im saying. Everyone has different love languages and needs that are fulfilled in different ways.
As far as emotions and logic goes, Im far more logical than the men in my family. Besides, men get carried away by ego and anger- what the sheikh said. Anger is an emotion too remember that. As well as pride. Emotion that fueled many wars through out history carried out by MEN. Lets just treat people as individuals. screw stereotypes. Get to know your spouse and treat them accordingly.
@@roadtothebeloved4830 Are you actually blind ? Lmao. You think men were not made to lead ? You think women were made to lead ? Lmao.
Even from a biological perspective, women are made to be submissive. Lol, A women is pleasured through penetration !!!!
what? so i cant lead only because of my gender? i love west, so much freedom, too much for islam to take
Ma shaa Allah beautiful advice .. when the time comes that i’ll get married i’ll do this to my husband ❤️ in shaa Allah
In Shaa Allah! May Allah give you a pious husband.
In sha Allah ...me too
Mhaafra Khaira until then, I suggest you try self-defence on that pink Teddy 🐻 one day you may also need to put your future spouse in check 😁
Mhaafra Khaira o8a4bzd
I tried and learnt that not every husband appreciates a humble wife who wants to enter jannah through him.
I cried.
Because of the calmness and comfort i found.
I always get my mom to calm down and be mad at her for treating my dad with no respect even though its my dad dad did wrong. Thank you for this. Its all about respect. If I have the opportunity again I will say all this to them both.
All the advice here matched with all the modern day relationship gurus' words
If the husband is of high value and high quality, this video is applies very well for the wives.
this lesson has opened my mind so much a I will follow this advice
And what a woman needs from a Man who become beast
+Mohsin Ali
Divorce
Dont, this video is wrong u r your only leader and u dont need anyone to control u. we live in the 21 century women are independent and have jobs and can offer for themselves. DONT EVEN STAY QUIET IF A MAN OR ANYONE DOES A MISTAKE. Islam advises us to help others if they do mistakes. WOMEN are much more valuable than that and me and u as women should educate sexist men like these^^ and prove to them how capable we are. we shouldnt be mislead by society's views we should follow islam and this isnt what islam asks us to do.
One should never ignore ones God-given intelligent in order to make a man feel good about himself. We are suppose to correct each other when in error, and respect goes both ways. We are equals, we all have egos and prides and we are all valuable.
Subhanallaah, this is the WORST comment I have ever seen on the Internet in my entire life. The young lady didn't disclose anything about her husband or her relationship, he got something useful out of this lecture that she felt would improve her relationship. Yet, here you are assuming stuff, if she was being abused she wouldn't have made this comment, besides by saying you are your only leader is PURE SHIRK, return to Allaah.
The fact that when women are being adviced, instead of accepting it and relfecting upon it, they have the "WELL WHAT ABOUT MEN!" mentality. Subehanallah...
Ik it is stupid
This is beautiful. He said that you can point out wrong doings of your husband and its not what you say but how you say it. I dont feel as thou damsels are weak but a women being variable (open to show thous sensitive emotions) moment.
jazakallah khair... may Allah make it easy for all of us to show respect to our husbands...as much as possible.
Totally agreed. I learnt not to control my husband n from then on he never does anything to hurt me even unintentionally, when i stopped nagging my married life underwent a pleasant change. 1st point is the most important, trust the ability n decision of ur husband, he can't progress without it in life n he will love u more.
Guys please pray for me to have a husband too I really want to get married and complete half of my deen I don't want to date and be in a haram relationship anymore I just want a husband 😢
This video makes me realize how wrong I was many times I treat my husband. Astagfirullahaladzim. May Allah forgive me and show me His guidance
The exit case happened to us and he didn't listen to me and we end up taking long creepy road like the road of the horror film AXE MASSACRE and he was just laughing at me blaming me by watching horror movie. The point is, I didn't argue with him and yes Everytime we go out my duty is to watch out the radar and the exit
Masha Allah.. I heard each word of it with my emotion almost in the verge of tears.... I digest this message as if Allah himself put all these inside my head... So true... Jazakallahu khairan..in shaa allah.. I ll follow ur words and am sure a lot for good gonna change bw my husband and I.
Insha Allah I most follow this advice.i most respect my husband.insha Allah
Wouldn’t it be easier if he just listened the first time round and learning the wife was right in the first place? These men jeez 🤷♀️
And every problem he has to listen to his wife first. So the wife raises someone whose child and husband at the same time
exactly, why does the speaker think that a woman questioning and correcting her husband's decision is a sign of disrespect and is something only a mother can do... how fragile is a man's ego that he can't even handle constructive criticism that has to do with an external mistake he made, and not an internal flaw in his character?
no woman should have to be all silent and submissive just to make her husband satisfied. even Umm Salamah r.a advised Prophet S.A.W regarding a matter. it's as if he's saying women need to be all weak and damsel-like for men, when that is the exact opposite of Prophet S.A.W's wives !
edit: just realized that the speaker is Yasir Qadhi, i do respect him and his knowledge but highly disagree with his "don't correct husband for driving in the wrong direction" example.
MashaAllah, I'm going to watch this everytime.. for my future husband inshaAllah 😊
Amaima Mamaluba are you still single 😊?
Sorry but you're going too harsh about women...
Women also have self esteem and ego they also want respect... men these days thing that they have got maids without any pay 😩
Men are not kings if they want respect then they should give respect in return as well. In the end i would day "WOMEN AREN'T ROBOT THEY ARE ALSO HUMANS LIKE YOU GUYS" AND OUR RELIGION DOESN'T TEACH US PRIDE AND EGO SO GO AND DO JIHAD BIN NAFS 😝
Ur right bro may allah grant us good understanding.
Shut up you idiot, he made a video about what women want from men, check that out if that helps you in calming yourself down you femenist bitch.😂
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 why are calling her for a bitch
@@doritospepsi9373 Because she deserves it, she just insulted the sheikh who was talking in the video. Sorry but I have a special kind of hate for femenists like her.
Sure. Why I cook all day I clean for him for his brothers and even for his friends what isn't normal . Everyday guests last time I ate with my husband 2 months ago in one table why? Because everyday he has friends at home and I have to eat in kitchen. I cook I clean I go to shop I bring heavy water and I haven't time everyday to provide makeup or dress nice . Sundays and weekends I haven't time at all sometimes even to go to toilet. So how I would do if I become Muslim when I would pray if sometimes I haven't time to take shower. When every weekend we have guests I have to wake up at 4 to make bread and all day I am busy to night. During week I have more time because just his friends who come so not all families but it is too much for me. In the past I had hobby now I have no time I have no time even to relax. When I come from my parents home . My home is so dirty that I clean it 4 or 5 days and I sleep everyday jut 2 hours I and during these 4 days I don't do pie kaka and even I don't eat first 2 days and I don't take shower. Normal meal I eat just when I finish everything and 3 and 4 day maybe banana apple something fast. . I like to visit my parents but how I will do when I will have child how I will clean ? Maybe u can say to clean slowly . I can't I have to clean because guests are coming and I have to clean because after 2 days guests are coming so living room and kitchen has to be cleaned perfectly to can work on it and rooms I can clean when guests are at home but if I started I finish to sleep in clean.if I would clean everything slowly than I would clean 1 month.because really everything is dirty walls . All . And I hate to cook in dirty kitchen. Shwingum in chairs on walls . Even worse things. But these things happen when man is like child and he invite friends everyday. Like that everything is distorted and u will even can't use your own living room because oof no time and also because it is occupied by friends only place where u can sit is kitchen or your bedroom .
Ma sha Allah this lecture change me totally thank you dear brother may Allah protect you
very useful.... for understanding d mans mindset... and very true
please all of you write MA SHAA ALLAH SUBHAN ALLAH ALHAMDULILLAH LIKE THIS
Jazak Allahu khair ya sheikh. ..may Allah grant you jannah. ....um gonna marry within a couple of months n in sha Allah will surely follow ua advice
Immy Khan wa alaikum as salam brother
Imran Khan in this context there is more for what your wife needs to follow.
Imran Khan best wishes for your wonderful life gonna to come
To be honest i think this only works with men who are on the straight path of the deen and know their duty and privilege as a husband. Cause unfortunatly there are alot of men who think they are the king of the house yet they act like a irresponsible child. They want the respect but dont act upon a leader of the house. But for the man who do, this is a great video💕
ma sha Allah. Subhan Allah. This video is a great lesson for women out there with less understanding with their husbands.
thank u for reminding this..as a wife i realize about my wrongdoings for my husband insha Allah i will not do this again..
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Omg this guy just told every weekness of man..😁
And there is a Hadith that A man is Advised to to take suggestions from family and Friends Before taking any decisions .
So how can we say that whatever decisions he is taking His wife is not supposed to tell him or correct him ?
No Way ! There is a mutual respect and love between two .
I love the life and the treatment My Prophet gave to his all wives .
Allahumdolilah
A/a..
Although I am not married yet ..but after watching and listening to this , I feel like wow it's so easy to become a wife ...simple ways simple things and your life will be prosperous.....may Allah guide us all....
Jazakallah khair...
I love this lecture... I haven't got married yet but watching this video really makes me understand what should I do when I get married... Thank youuuu