@@nneeoma it's often most dangerous for victims when they're attempting to leave their abusers. escaping them is often a very long and painful process
That part. And I still don't get why he didn't get an impeding breath charge for choking her. That's an immediate felony. My ex spent 3 years in prison for it.
@@laurenleeonethreethey don’t care when the victim is a Black woman. The cop who shot Breonna Taylor got charged with discharging a bullet into the neighbors house before he faced consequences for killing her. This country hates us.
It’s so common … if it has to do with money, you’re going to get a way harsher punishment than if you hurt someone … I work at a criminal defense attorneys office, and I see this all. The. Time.
My prosecuting attorney told me that my spouse beating me while pregnant was mutual even though I didn't hit him not once. I had texts of him admitting it too but they wouldn't charge him.
So I am not at all saying this was true for her case, but for what it's worth, I have seen situations where it was mutual, but then one person drastically escalated way worse. I knew this couple, a male and female, and they both had emotional abuse issues. Well, one day the girl broke into his RV (this was at burning Man) got in bed with him and started a fight. This was after he had purposely made sure to not be on any committees with her and to not be anywhere near her because he was trying to not have any drama with her after their most recent break up. So I guess he tells her to get out and she won't get out, and they start arguing and then they start arguing about cheating, and stuff like that, and the guy winds up holding her hostage threatening murder suicide for like 12 hours. Both the girl and the guy told me this same story. So she was the instigator and it was mutual abuse, but he snapped far worse.
@@petrakenyeres8762A lot of abǔsive men get angry when you tell them you’re a victim. And they snoop around your things often. If he was abüsive, I can imagine he was always looking into everything she did. Her socials, phone, locations, papers on her desks/tables/countertops. These men DO care because they think it’s bs that you’re a “victim” because they refuse to see themselves as abüsive and therefore get extremely angry. Edit: If she has ever in an argument called him out for his behavior he would have lashed out.
I was beaten for thirty years before he finally shot me. I lived and now he will be in prison the rest of his life. I'm handicapped and have PTSD... But I am alive. I can't remember how many times I tried to leave but he worked for the state and could enter any woman's shelter or other organizations I tried to run to. The thing that always drew me back was he would tell me he would kill our children 😢 I believe he could have really done it. I'm free now, but mentally and physically I am broken. My kids are grown and safe. R.I.P. beautiful...fly free😢🤍🕊️🤍
I think attaching the baby to her breast for a feed is just horrifying, such an innocent thing turned into something so morbid. A clueless little baby finally getting the feed he's been crying for from dead woman's breast. This monster is truly diabolical. Those poor kids...
Another way he showed he viewed her only as a THING, not a person. Things don’t deserve respect. They’re Something to be used and abused how he sees fit and when convenient. In that instance she (her body) was a tool to get the baby to be quiet, pry so he could go to sleep after he’d worn himself out from beating her for hours
that little boy trying to protect her and her family really got to me. I'm not normally one to cry, but, damn if im not tearing up about it. i dunno. ive been that little boy so many times, I know what it's like to do that, how scary it is to face off with someone so much older to protect someone you love. i dunno. nobody deserves to be in that situation. i hope her kids are okay.
It wasnt even someone the boy really knew, he was protecting his neighbor, quite possibly a complete stranger. We all should strive to be like this boy ❤
As a Black woman and a survivor of childhood abuse I truly want to thank you for using your voice especially as an ally to raise awareness on the delayed Justice the Black community faces in multiple countries. I also want to thank you for using your voice to bring awareness to Imkaan - centring a marginalized organization that is trying to change the narrative and provide other marginalized women with supports. Keep doing what you’re doing Eleanor! RIP Za’Zelle ! Praying her family and her children find some healing 💕
When the part came where he said “mommy ruined Christmas” that was it for me, I just started bawling. The daughter went through so much before and after her mother’s death, I hope she’s doing alright.
@@nermax3 do you want to remind yourself how difficult it is to leave an abusive man? especially when love is involved? i see your point, but even her family should’ve done better. the lady herself should’ve sought for better help as well but how can you when this guy is a woman beater?
I agree woth this,she sadly allowed her young children to be in this terrible situation.then again i dont fully understand a victim of DV staying.it happened to me once and once only i walked away and stayed away for my safety bit my sons safety to.such a hard situation and i suppose each person handles abusive relationships differantly.
That opening is shocking. What is wrong with people? Dressing up the deceased mother and propping her up in front of her children (on Christmas no less) is one of the most despicable things I’ve heard. Those poor kids.
I heard this one a few years back, but hearing it after having babies myself, took it to another level. To imagine that newborn trying to nurse after being put on his moms dead body and getting nothing all night, broke me. May that man live in torment in this life and the next.
Domestic violence is serious. It's not just the physical, it's the mental and emotional abuse too! Unfortunately this beautiful woman paid the ultimate price for what she believed was love. This case is horrific. You have such compassion for her and most of the victims you speak about. As someone who just left an abusive situation I appreciate that! There is an extra deep level of hell waiting for him. Not only for what he did to her but the immense extra trauma he placed those children through.
What makes a person do this to their wife then proceed to prop her body up in front of their kids.. it’s terrifying what a human being can do to someone
I really appreciate that you pointed out how much different the stigma of single motherhood is for black women. I’m glad you’re a creator that actually cares ❤
It’s nothing racist about it. Many cultures look at single parenthood a lot worse than in America. Black women have the highest rate for single motherhood and abortions. I’m a Black woman and not sensitive to facts. We were not always this way. We got tricked into feminism with White liberals, which is how White women became a protected class in civil rights bill. You still getting rocked to sleep by White liberals now.
You should read Discrimination and Disparities by Thomas Sowell 🙂 It’s a fact that more black women are single mothers in America than any other race. Pointing out a disparity is not the same as discrimination. Though I agree they shouldn’t be shamed any more than women of other races.
educate yourself, sweetheart, dont be 'offended', the the content creator needs to do the same. There is a difference between researching and repeating and actually educating oneself.
As a survivor of domestic violence in California. I had a city (Bellflower) ask me to move out of their city because they were tired of coming to our house. No excuse for that. But in the 80s DV was not a crime in the US it was a personal problem. I finally got away at an enormous cost to a bystander who stopped to help a woman running up the street and lost his life for it, While in court my abuser said it was the bystanders fault, he was dead for getting in his way. It's been decades and I still carry this with me. You could seriously be covering my story but for this hero. Thank you for speaking out for this woman.
The bystander knew what they were getting into when getting involved, and they thought you were worth it. Be forever grateful for that wonderful person and never carry the guilt for it. I'm betting they wouldn't want you to.
Thank you so much for not judging her for her kids having different fathers and for talking respectfully about the stereotypes of black fathers being absent. You were very respectful and sweet about it
My ex broke 4 of my ribs by picking me up and throwing me on the hard kitchen floor. He was a drunk (still is probably) and said "it's not like I punched you!" I had crawled down the stairs and screamed for my neighbors to help me. They took me to the hospital. I was more concerned about him going to jail than my own broken ribs.... I was brainwashed. 6 years later, I'm so happy and free
I am so sad for you to have experienced something so devastating 💔 Thank you for your comment, some of these comments are awful. People are judging and saying terrible things about her but don't realize that hundreds of people are in the same situation. They can see these comments and fear asking for help because people will have the same heartless response. Every time I think we're making progress with people being more educated about the cycle of abuse I'm inevitably disappointed. I had felt like knowing the most dangerous time is when they try to leave, and also violence usually increasing during pregnancy, had been something that was becoming more widely known. I don't know how some of these people could have watched the whole video and still have such uncaring responses.
The trick is to leave the first time he raises his hands. The first time my boyfriend slapped me I left when he went to work. That's it. It gets harder when the woman stays in the abusive relationship, especially if she becomes pregnant because that would further complicate things. The first incident is the best time to leave.
@@sabra.wafflesme either!!!!! 😮😮😮 I truly am absolutely beyond astonished and beyond disgusted that people STILL believe that people in these horrific domestic violence situations can just pick up their kids and their personal things, and just waltz out the door and into a new house and life!!!! It. Is. NOTHING. Like. That. NOTHING!!!! It’s not even nearly as simple as that. Especially when kids are involved. These people use the most extreme forms of emotional abuse and threats and hold the most massive things over your head to ensure you can’t leave. Even if you just pick up with your kids, leaving everything else behind, you need to find a new place to live, and how are you supposed to do that when you need personal identification documents to do this, as well as money, which I can guarantee you will be witheld by your abuser. It’s not like they’ll give you your ATM card if you just ask nicely enough!!!! More likely, they’ll put a hold on your card and block you from being able to access any kind of money in any form, as well as threatening your life, your CHILDRENS lives, your reputation so you can’t even hold down a job, they’ll stalk you, threaten others to give them information about you or they’ll hurt them somehow, and they won’t ever leave you alone, because they’re obsessed and insane pieces of sh!t, so don’t put ANYTHING past them, because I can tell you from experience, picking up and leaving, no matter how dire the situation, is absolutely NEVER AS EASY AS IT SEEMS!!!! Have some respect for the poor people who have had to suffer through things like this, and are also currently living through it. You wouldn’t wish a situation like this on your WORST ENEMY. If you can’t understand, and you’ve never been through it, don’t leave your opinions and judgements here on a video about a poor broken down ruined woman who was just trying to get through the best way she could at the time.
I am sorry for your loss I hope you and your family find some sense of peace and your positive memories with your niece live on. The people who say “they should just leave their abuser” don’t realize that is the riskiest and most dangerous part of the abusive relationship many times we always hear that the victim who got abused was getting ready to leave and making their plans to run away.
You told this story with so much tender love and justice for Za'Zell. I've heard her story before and I almost decided not to listen to it again, but because I love your channel and listening to your beautiful accent ( I'm an American 😅) I decided to listen while I prepare for my Christmas party. You really brought it to life and included details I had not heard before. I really mean it when I say you did justice to her and her story. I will never NEVER Understand how a man can say he loves you when he beats on you. It is NEVER okay. Thank you for telling her story.
This case is making my blood boil! How the hell can you see someone running there life and being dragged back and do nothing?! I feel like that should be a criminal offense. What an absolute coward!
I have a hot take on this. They prob did multiple other times but after so many times and the fact she's not leaving they probably just went well what's the point the police will come he will be arrested and then be back in a few days. After a while people just don't care because the victim isn't trying to help themselves.
This is not a victim blaming comment. Being an an abusive and manipulative relationship is not as easy as "just leave" or "think of your kids," as this case clearly shows. Za'Zelle is absolutely NOT AT FAULT for what happened to her and what her children went through and are going through, the only person at fault is her husband. She did absolutely nothing to deserve this. I pray that Za'Zelle rests in peace and that her family heals from this diabolical trauma. That being said, to everybody who is in an abusive relationship: If your abuser says that "they've changed". whether they will change or become reformed or not, it doesn't matter. Don't take the risk. If you were soulmates, this wouldn't happen to you. They would truly love you and demonstrate their love by creating a safe environment for you. Do not ignore a single red flag. Do not marry or have children with someone who is abusive to you in any way. There are people who are rooting for you and can help you. Your teachers, parents, friends, police, charities... A hotline is just one google search away. YOU DESERVE TO FEEL SAFE!!!
As someone who has experience in the whole domestic abuse area, I actually completely agree with this comment. If an abuser says they've changed or "found god" don't risk it and go back. You can hope they have changed and you can want them to change but, do not give them the opportunity to show you that they have not changed. And this didn't come across as victim-blaming at all - you are giving people sound advice because some people need to hear it.
@@cecilia1300 she made "stupid decisions" because the man lied to her and manipulated her. She wanted to believe he could change, that's not stupid, that's a sign of a forgiving person and HE took advantage of that. To add laughing emojis to your statement is crass and tone deaf, considering you're referring to a woman who was brutally murdered by her own husband. Have some respect and empathy.
Why didn't her family call 911. Why did they solely rely and keep asking him, the abuser, to call 911. They know that he beat her almost daily. Not only did the neighbors and family fail her but so did the Police Dept.
this case actually made me tear up it is genuinely so disgusting, it’s the fact she didn’t even welcome him fully and he just let himself in and the police, her neighbours and doctors just turn a blind eye to all the blatant abuse, im actually shocked this case made me sick to my stomach, thank you for sharing Za’Zell’s story, she deserves to be heard. EDIT: i also find it shocking how a LITTLE BOY protected her more than fully grown adults around her ever did.
- as someone who took forever to leave, and still went back, it's a self-worth issue, and your abuser reiterates your unworthiness of love, and convinces you that this is the treatment you deserve. I am lucky to have survived when he pointed the gun at my head, sheer luck. He unalived himself on Christmas, me on the way home with our son, and thankfully, I was late, or else I know he would've taken out all three of us. - and my friend, her husband choked her in front of her two kids, two separate occasions, and she was afraid to single parent, so, when he got out of jail, he went on to impregnate her with two more kids to seal the codependency. I'd be surprised if she's still alive.
1:08:30 sadly those gurgly noises are literally a dying body's last release of air. It's no longer effective and she was likely already beyond saving at that point 😢
It depends on the cause. I have seen somebody revived who did a death gurgle. It was somebody who overdosed and I managed to give them rescue breathing. They were already turning blue. On the other hand, that's a little bit different because people die from asphyxia when they overdose. So maybe it wasn't the same gurgle, when I heard it, I knew for a fact that it was the last chance. That is the only time I have ever heard a human make that sound in my entire life.
@SpecialBlanket You're right. It's a slightly different sound, but they're both some of the worst sounds you can hear. The first times never really leave your memory. You're amazing for giving them the breath they needed!
If you need case ideas, please cover the case of Isla Bell, in Australia. She was 19, we all looked for her for months and we’re all heartbroken by what happened to her. One of the monsters involved is even out on bail! Please don’t let her be forgotten!
def put a request in! the person above me mentioned it being in the description but if you can’t see that for any reason (won’t let me expand descriptions on my phone 🤧) the link’s also on her instagram.
We women must stop believing men. Really, why are we like that??? Please, no more second chances. Please, run away at the first sign of abuse! There is nothing that can change him, no religion, no maturing, nothing. Please, PLEASE leave them when you can. Men will always treat you better in the beginning of the relationship, so remember: if this is the better he will ever treat me, is it worth it? Do I want to stick around to see it get worse? RUN ..
As a male abuse victim of a woman, I can say that it's not that simple. There are tons of psychological layers that make you believe that you deserve such treatment. Plus either the feeling of being trapped, or literally being tapped. Make sure not to turn into a misandrist, humans suck, it's not just men, or women. I was on a verge of coming to hate all women, and I still fear and distrust them, but I realise it's irrational, hoping to get out of this mental block.
As women, were raised since babies to see relationships as the ultimate goal. Were fed cartoons where everything is about getting a man and being married, beauty and the beast is about a woman whos kidnapped and is able to change the beast into a prince. Its a never ending cycle
I am so sorry this happened to her…but I really needed to hear this. It was right on time. You have no idea. I’ve been scared for my life lately. This is the final push I needed. Thank you❤
Oh, I'm so sorry that you're going through something similar. Please, please, please, get people to help and support you so you can LEAVE ASAP. Sending you hugs 🫂
I was the type to insist on relationships as well, but we need to understand that once it gets bad, itll never get better itll always be ruined. Leave and know that you will find better and youre losing nothing
It’s weird how things come to us as you say “right on time”. You’ve pry known in the back of your mind for awhile, but consciously making the decision is very hard. Make a plan. Be safe. Speaking from experience- it’s very difficult at first to start again but it is SO SO SO worth it! You get to slowly find yourself again- who you are, what you value, your likes & dislikes, what you like to do, what brings you peace & joy. 🥹 💕 it’s a journey but you’ll be amazed at how far you go before you even realize it.
This story keeps hitting with my own situation, especially because of how close to home it feels. Currently laying out a plan for my best friend to leave her abusive partner. It's happened a few times that we've tried to get her out but with my entire family, my boyfriend (who's more physically intimating than I am) to collect her stuff, and with the plan we've laid out together - we're hoping she'll have a 2025 without him. She is mostly worrying financially but we're hoping to ease that more, since that was the roadblock last time.
Wishing you lots of luck and that your plan succeeds, so she is able to get out and live a better 2025 I'm sure you know that already, but please remember that while it would be good if she could get her things out with her, it's more important you guys get out unharmed. Please stay as safe as possible and again, I really hope this works out this time!
Hey, please make sure that the first thing that could tip him off is her being gone. Do not start slowly moving her stuff out ahead of time, get her out first and then send your boyfriend back for her stuff. If he figures out what's going on, he may kill her himself. The only thing she should prepare ahead of time is digitizing her documents and stuff like that, if she has good control over her computer like a computer at work or another location like that where she can work on this stuff privately.
Dear person, if you are waiting for a signal to leave them, this is it. Your and you family's well-being is your priority. You are strong enough, and you deserve to be happy.
15 is the minimum its not the maximum. He is going to be in for a very long time. It might as well be a full life sentence. This was a very gruesome case.
At 38:59, the little boy trying to protect all of them had more courage than William Wallace could ever dream of. I hope I would have the strength to try and protect someone in that situation.
I’ll bet you he was a young Hispanic boy. He probably heard that every day and decided to do whatever he could do. Kudos to him for trying to protect them.
the baby feeding bit got me, as someone on the spectrum I handle sensitive information like this easier. But I've never heard of that before, wow. Been a silent follower for a while, thank you for sharing this woman and children's story. That man is vile.
Same, I'm comparably unphased by a lot of pretty horrific things I hear in true crime and such (probably due to my autism too but idk for sure), but that bit… that got to me. The moment I realised where that was going had me screaming "NO!" inside my head
That is interesting, I am autistic, and I also feel that I handle this kind of information differently than other people. It is not that I don't think it's really really bad, obviously if it happened in my life, I would be very upset. But when I hear about it happening to other people, I don't really feel feelings about it, I just know in my mind that it is bad and sad. I don't feel it in my feelings if that makes sense.
@@SpecialBlanket at least to me that totally makes sense! It's pretty much the same for me. I have a logical understanding of things like this being bad and sad, but no emotional reaction. I think that it's something very horrible for the victims to have gone through and "feel" sorry for them and their families, just not on an emotional level. There is exceptions where I do actually feel some degree of thing, but it's relatively dull and really depends on the case whether that is able to happen or not (like, for example when I have some factor of relatability that "connects me" with the victim (the victim being autistic for example) and that being a relevant factor in how the case happened, then I may be more likely to feel a certain heaviness for example)
it stood out to me too, he used her body as a means for the kid to stop crying which is so dehumanizing but also her final act of motherhood. and later he used her body as a calming prop for a christmas day for her kids but didn't care that it was so so obviously wrong and the kids would know something is wrong. especially the traumatized 8yo i'm also on the spectrum and ngl everything in this comment thread adds up, my mom tells me that i could work with wounds because i can handle it, i get episodes of apathy sometimes etc and i felt terrible for zazelle and her kids throughout the video but it was the comments that made me tear up because they are full of women who lived to tell their stories and it just hits how real and prevalent dv is. i hope every woman knows how strong they are for escaping and those who can't just yet to have hope and stay safe
The fact that he dressed her up so the kids can see her is unthinkable! The trauma those poor kids must be going through and probably will the rest of their lives 🖤🖤🖤
I know most breakups occur between Thanksgiving and Christmas, so it wouldn’t surprise me if the holidays also hold higher chances of homicides. So devastating 😔😔
I get more then anything how hard it is to leave abusive situations having been there but the fact that she got PREGNANT by him and then MARRIED him knowing how terrible he was is just sad
These cases don’t usually get to me. They don’t usually make me emotional, certainly they don’t make tears fall, because I have no connection to the people in them. This one absolutely destroyed me.
I grew up with beening abused and seeing it unstop I feel so bad for thr kids, NO KID SHOULD SEE OR LIVE WITH THAT! My heart is with her, and her loves ones!
I really enjoyed the bit where you delved into the psychology of the victim initiating the abuse to get it over with. I have never thought of that before, and I appreciate the education you have provided!
Those children will always have that memory of waking up Xmas morning, blood everywhere, their mother not moving, not smiling and the coldness of her skin. At age 10 I felt the coldness of my nephew, it only sunk in what was happening, that he was dead when I felt him. not his lack of movement, his blue lips and everyone acting weird. I remember every part of that day almost 30 years on. Those poor kids I don't wish those kind of memories on anyone let alone a child. 😢😢😢
Stories like these remind me that although ive been through an awful abusive relationship, im lucky because i got out before he really did anything that was irreversible. I lost a lot but im still here
This is the most brutally traumatic case I have heard. So difficult to hear, so I can’t imagine how horrifying this household must have been for her children. Heartbreaking, how will they ever recover from everything they have witnessed 💔
This is sooo frustrating and infuriating. I know it's not easy to "just leave" but this is just too much how could no one step in??? How could there be no way to keep her away from him???
she was a grown woman. She should know better than to go back , she should’ve thought of her kids but she stayed and went back multiple times. now those poor kids are traumatized
@@perlzlove"she should have known better" You clearly know nothing about how abuse works if you think it's as simple as just leaving. One of the most dangerous stages of an abusive relationship is trying to escape it. Usually when people try to leave is when they are in the most danger. In her situation, not only would leaving put her in danger, but her kids, too. Until you've been in the situation, you don't get to judge her actions in that situation. By the way, this is coming from someone who witnessed her mother being domestically abused, it always got worse when we tried to leave. The violence would get worse. We eventually escaped after multiple times of trying to escape but each time, we were stalked and harassed.
"omg im so early" "19 seconds??!?" "just in time to put off studying for finals" OMG YAY!!! IM SO HAPPY THAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE SOME OF THE FIRST TO WATCH THIS VIDEO ABOUT A MURDERED WOMAN WHOSE BODY WAS LEFT FOR HER CHILDREN TO BE AROUND!!!! WHAT AN APPROPRIATE THING TO COMMENT!!!!
it took me 5 years to leave my abuser- it’s quite literally an addiction. i feel for her children so deeply. i hope they heal and get the peace they need thank you for your words Eleanor! i love your content sm
Eleanor, thank you so much for sharing this case. When it comes to describing these horrific cases, you actually put in effort to research into them and explain them in a way that I can comprehend. I had to pause the video several times because that vial case was so heartbreaking. 😥
This video hit me hard as someone who witnessed their mother being a victim of domestic violence for several years, from multiple people at that. Fortunately she survived, but it hurts me to know that many other women aren’t as fortunate. My heart goes out to Zazelle’s family.
If you have a friend in this situation or are looking to leave a DV situation I have a suggestion. Get together a go bag. Clothes for a few days copies of the important papers, I'd and medication. Don't keep this bag at home lodge it with a friend so when that opportunity to get out you can just go without a second thought.. if you have kids a go bag for them as well. Then when you leave make sure to go to someone s house your partner doesn't know the address of. It is bloody hard to make that decision to leave. I know I have been there. It is the best thing you can do and the bravest. 💜
@ hmm still seems like it could also be argued that he willingly dropped her. Maybe that doesn’t fit into his intentions though, since he seemingly didn’t want to actually kill him. Although incapability to know what will kill a person shouldn’t be rewarded with a reduced sentence 🤦
i’m honestly not trying to victims blame at all, but women shouldn’t be staying with their abusive partners, however ik there’s a lot of factors playing into why many women can’t , HOWEVER when u have kids , your life isn’t all about you anymore, you have to think of the sake of what’s best for them , and you should do anything to get your kids out of of that situation, i mean anything, letting ur bf beat in the same home that your kids reside in is technically abuse to the children. Again not blaming her , however i think once women have kids they should much more cautious before they just take a once abusive man back, 🤷🏿♀️ and i don’t care if he never raised a hand to the kids , they should have NEVER been watched by him, especially since it’s seeming like it was unsupervised. as well as when they went to the mall, they were in a public place ! and i know abusers for the most part don’t care abt people watching but it’s always worse behind closed doors in private . AND THEN TO PUT UR KIDS In THE CAR AS WELL, surely they could’ve stayed with their grandma. my heart breaks for these children
I have to agree. It's one thing to forgive for yourself,but allowing children around someone THIS violent? I personally can't imagine that. But abusive relationships are very complex in some instances 😓
Witnessing abuse is abuse. I agree completely. We need to do better as woman and have deal breakers and stop allowing shit men in our lives to begin with.
sometimes it's easy to have empathy for a victim, but sometimes it's harder, unfortunately. the fact that he was in prison multiple times for even years at a time bugged me, that's the perfect time to get away. and we've got to stop believing these lies abusers tell. having a baby won't change them, getting married won't change them, "finding god" won't change them. the moment they hit you, the first time they disrespect your autonomy in anyway, that's when you have to get out, don't give them a chance to build their manipulative web
Have you ever been abused before ? If not then shut tf up! You have no idea what this women went through, have some empathy for goodness sake. Even if you want to victim blame , did you hear everything that she went through??!!!!
OMG how sadistic. Those poor children having to witness that because of their evil POS father. Prayers & condolences to her family and especially her kids I pray they are doing ok 🙏🕊️
This completely hit home for me because when I was 21 years old I had a similar situation except I didn’t have any kids my abuser had a 5 year old boy. He had just snapped one night after I had taken my sleeping medication and was in bed. He started telling me to get out so as I got up to get ready to leave he just started beating me out of nowhere I tried so hard to run and the part of this story that hit me the hardest was when she ran out side and he just slammed her and carried her back inside the house because that same thing happened to me one of my neighbors saw and did nothing I went through so much abuse that night and cops even showed up but not for me they showed up for him because he called the suicide hotline saying has going to take his life after I had already passed out from all his abuse. I woke up on the couch with cops banging on my door they could see how our apartment was to torn up to pieces form him beating me they could see the throw up from when he threw me so hard on the ground I got sick. They did nothing they checked on him saw he was still alive and okay then just left me there even though I was crying for help. It wasn’t until the next morning when my other neighbor heard him screaming at me that I was saved and taken to the police. My ex even confessed that he tried to kill me, by trying to run me over after forcing me into his car, taking me out in the middle of nowhere and then pushing me out of his vehicle with his 5 year old son watching everything but the only thing that was done after him confessing was he was in jail just for one day! Just enough time for my Papa and my brother to come get me and take me away from my abuser. He was released the second I was gone. Just for him to come track me down and try to get me back. I finally got a restraining order against him and thankfully never had to deal with him again.
@ apparently it’s an ongoing issue with him because he also abused his sons mom and the police arrest her instead of him then he abused another after me and nothing was done then either they just keep letting him get away with it because of who his parents are.
fr they call her grandma?💀 like what is she gonna do against a grown man. and then her grandma drives her to a mall and when he demands her to go back she just lets her and the kids go back with the him? it’s actually insane
Hello Ellie, I'm going through some tough times in my life and I just wanted to say that I appreciate how you narrate cases with a lot of care about the victims and with your anthropological approach when it comes to racism towards black women. It means a lot as a black man to see someone acknowledge the unfair treatment of black women as it isn't an isolated case. It's an important conversation to have even for people that aren't directly concerned or that haven't gone through what Zazel went through. The case broke me, but at least, you were there to tell it and I could feel what you felt during the video. Thank you for being an amazing, compassionate and sensitive storyteller. Have a great holiday!
How does racism get brought up in about every single true crime video about a black person? Truly curious. You people claim that not many people cover them or they don’t get solved because of skin color? Nevermind that they are being killed by their very own community where “snitches get stitches” are the law of the land. And honestly people stop caring about the very cases you claim don’t get enough attention because we are tired of the racism claim All The Time
So sad, an to think now,those poor kids are going to hate Christmas coming round now,only to be reminded,of that horrific night of their poor mother,getting killed,my heart goes out to them,poor kids an family too,bless them ❤❤❤xx
I’m only like 7 min in but I feel so sad for her kids. As an adult I found my mom had passed away from natural causes on Christmas morning and I’m scarred for life. I can’t imagine what this would do to a child’s mind. I hope they’re ok now 🥺
Za'Zell deserved so much better. My heart aches throughout listening. I hope somewhere, somehow she's watching over her sweet children. My Christmas wishes will be with her this year
I did my BA in psychology and currently doing my masters in criminology, and my main topic for reseearch has always been true crime related, mainly focusing on the impact of it. This story hit something so deep in me, as my friend recently left an abusive partner, and I told her "I know I'm talking about the worst, but that's what I hear, it can end like that". I can't imagine a world without her.. I'll make sure to mention Zazell in my masters thesis.
This hit me hard because u left an abusive relationship at 22 and went back a fourth … my mum experienced DV and was able to get me out but I often think how different things could have been! Well done for raising this case and your charity awareness ❤
He is so sick and twisted..I feel so so sorry for her and her babies..💔 I know it could have been a bystander effect but this took place in apartments, I wish someone called. No way you couldn't have heard all this and not call the police? I dunno, I grew up in an apartment where a lot of DV happened (sometimes right above us) My mom always called the police especially the second we would hear a THUD. I wish someone could have helped her more....
Exactly!!! I’m so so glad your mom called- I’m sure she saved some lives by speaking up. My partner and I recently had to call the cops on our neighbor when we heard repeated banging and a door being broken down by her bf. She was thankfully okay (physically) and we actually became friends afterwards, but it horrifies me that nobody else called. How can people listen to horrific abuse and just sit there doing nothing?! 💔
@@gillian.grace6true but a person is perhaps ultimately responsible for their own safety. After numerous beatings, one should realise that it’s not going to be happily ever after ever. Wake up and smell the danger.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."
I wish those were more accessible here. Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
A 19-day jail sentence for a violent domestic assault?!? _WTF_ I also cannot believe he was charged at the misdemeanor level... I don't even think he pled down from a felony charge. This whole situation is disgraceful and wholeheartedly disgusting.
I've had some horrible christmasses as a kid... but I honestly cannot imagine coming downstairs excited to open presents and instead finding my mum like that... and then my step dad saying she ruined christmas and it was her fault?!?!?!?! Those poor poor babies.
44:45 I don't know how it is in the UK and this may sound silly but nobody calls the cops in certain urban areas of the US. Calling the cops or talking to the cops in certain areas is enough to become a target. That being said, being an American, it does not shock me that people witnessed the abuse and did nothing.
i have to stop watching at 27 mins. this is EXACTLY what my marriage was like. i left 2 weeks ago, currently in a DV shelter actually. i’m so triggered right now, i heard the warning and watched anyways thinking id be fine but it was EXACTLY my story. so sorry for this woman. it’s so so so unfortunate she didn’t make it out alive like i did 😭😭😭😭😭sending love to everyone else going thru the same thing ❤
No it's not, you made it out girl.. just remember that, no matter what happens, how bad of a day you have going forward.. you made it out.. been there myself, 21 with 4 babies 3yrs and under.. wasn't easy that's for damn sure, but you have your life .❤
I have had a neighbor where this violence reminded me of her. I called police and waited for so many hours and police never showed up. I called again the next time it happened but police again didn't come back. then they moved to a different unit so I dont know how they are now. it hurts seeing this 😢
I genuinely find it so hard to register in my head when I’m hearing these cases that they’re real and people like this do exist its absolutely heartbreaking
Hmmmm, beaten within an inch of your life once and still starry eyed about him and hopeful things would get better. So sorry and condolences but once he raises a finger against you, it should be “so long dude”. C’mmon it’s not only self preservation, it’s also keeping your children safe.
I'm so proud to be a subscriber of yours. You bring awareness to important issues in such a genuine, compassionate way. You are truly an inspiration. 💙
My mother is currently in a relationship with an abusive man (we’ve tried to evict him and the victims advocate in Ohio is not taking us seriously) and it’s truly terrifying how little law enforcement cares until they are k*lled… I am in fear every day I will lose my mom.
WTH I think I went to high school with her friend who’s in the picture with her (middle) at 9:45 min !!! If his name is Anderson then that’s definitely him.. he used to be my best friend in 10th grade. What a trip holy shit I’m shocked
I'm so glad you covered this case. there's not a lot of coverage on it and if is horrific. Also, just want to note, A.) you are absolutely gorgeous 🥰 B.) you seem like you have such a down to earth personality. Love your videos 💛🧡❤️
May this beautiful, strong and caring woman rest in peace after such a terrifying and pain filled life. Usually cases don't get in my head so much as I watch a lot of true crime content however parts of this case were really close to home for me, my abusive ex threw a plate at me and got angry with me for bleeding and making a mess. Threw me in the bath to clean myself up whilst I had a concussion and in and out of consciousness. It happened on holiday abroad and he wouldn't let me go to hospital because it was "unsafe" so I spent all night literally holding a 1 inch head wound together with my fingers, this injury was one that if it hit a little to the right I would probably be dead or a little bit down I would have lost my eye until I could see the resort doctor the next morning. I was told to tell the hotel staff, my family etc that I was drunk and hit my head. It took me months to tell my mum the truth. This so easily could have been me. I witnessed domestic violence as a child but I cannot imagine going through this as a child, I'm close to tears writing this, no child should EVER have to witness anything even close to this. The fact this innocent precious child had to stand up in court and relive this depraved act breaks my heart, I truly pray she can heal. I hope so much these children are doing as best they can now whilst carrying this unimaginable trauma. I pray for all women and children who are in abusive situations to find safety and peace. I was so lucky to escape before I ended up like this gorgeous, caring woman who deserved the world. It is just so fking heartbreaking. I hope this comment doesn't come off as selfish... just sharing my experience... Echoing Eleanor here but if you are going through this I know how hard it is but please please try to reach out to get to a place of safety and rebuild your life even when it feels so impossible and nothing can ever get better, truly I know how this feels. There are so many places that want nothing more than for you to find safety. May this disgusting "man" (I don't believe abusers even deserve this title they are cowards) and all abusers never find peace. He never deserves to be released. Thank you for all you and your team contribute to shedding light on these cases.
I feel like as a mother your priority Is not a relationship. It’s your children. Her children had no other parent but her yet she allowed an abuser into her home? He could’ve done a whole lot to those little girls and all of this resulted in him stealing their mum away from them. When it comes to children you cannot just think about yourself. This case reminds me of a movie called “ For Colored Girls” it features a mother with two little kids who was going through abuse. The whole thing is really sad though.
It's so bizarre that she let this abusive man move in so early in dating, especially since she has two kids. I think she was irresponsible having kids as a teen girl and probably not a great mom. She tried, sure, but she clearly had terrible judgement when it came to men. She should have ran away and moved when this abusive monster was in jail.
This is not a victim blaming comment. I just *really* want to know why she had left her kids with that man without her being there. If he put her hands on her & their unborn child I *really* wonder if he had put his hands on those girls. In no way am I trying to blame her, but I simply cannot comprehend why she'd leave her two little girls with him... who knows if he would've done something terrible to those little girls? This is just sad all around.
the fact she was dead but her kids didn’t know is HARROWING.
My heart dropped when I heard that
@@IsaAj.7it was literally said in the intro
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I can't imagine how that affects them as adults.
The older kids didn't notice?!
Took me 14 yrs and 23 attempts and I'm finally divorced from that monster and have a protective order against him
I hope you're staying safe ❤
Crazy that it took you that long.
Congratulations hope everything works out for you and you stay safe!
@@nneeoma it's often most dangerous for victims when they're attempting to leave their abusers. escaping them is often a very long and painful process
So proud of you! What a transformation ❤
19:02 so dude got a longer sentence for robbing someone then for beating his girlfriend near to death...gotta love our justice system 😮💨
That part. And I still don't get why he didn't get an impeding breath charge for choking her. That's an immediate felony. My ex spent 3 years in prison for it.
@@laurenleeonethreethey don’t care when the victim is a Black woman. The cop who shot Breonna Taylor got charged with discharging a bullet into the neighbors house before he faced consequences for killing her.
This country hates us.
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@@ville-c4u I did
It’s so common … if it has to do with money, you’re going to get a way harsher punishment than if you hurt someone … I work at a criminal defense attorneys office, and I see this all. The. Time.
His family had some nerve stating it was MUTUAL??? SHES DEAD! how is that mutual?
families usually find excuses for their sons. Its seems to be very common in all cultures, that needs to stop.
Right?! CAN we not normalize this behavior of making excuses for a person's lack of self control and insecurity?
God, remember all those people insisting Gabby Petito was mutual too?? 😢
My prosecuting attorney told me that my spouse beating me while pregnant was mutual even though I didn't hit him not once. I had texts of him admitting it too but they wouldn't charge him.
So I am not at all saying this was true for her case, but for what it's worth, I have seen situations where it was mutual, but then one person drastically escalated way worse. I knew this couple, a male and female, and they both had emotional abuse issues. Well, one day the girl broke into his RV (this was at burning Man) got in bed with him and started a fight. This was after he had purposely made sure to not be on any committees with her and to not be anywhere near her because he was trying to not have any drama with her after their most recent break up. So I guess he tells her to get out and she won't get out, and they start arguing and then they start arguing about cheating, and stuff like that, and the guy winds up holding her hostage threatening murder suicide for like 12 hours. Both the girl and the guy told me this same story. So she was the instigator and it was mutual abuse, but he snapped far worse.
He probably HATED that she was going to school for victims rights.
I don't think he ever asked or cared about what she was studying, or maybe she had lied to him, I cant imagine that she had told him the truth
I think he just hates himself for being a pathetic excuse of a human
@@petrakenyeres8762A lot of abǔsive men get angry when you tell them you’re a victim. And they snoop around your things often. If he was abüsive, I can imagine he was always looking into everything she did. Her socials, phone, locations, papers on her desks/tables/countertops. These men DO care because they think it’s bs that you’re a “victim” because they refuse to see themselves as abüsive and therefore get extremely angry.
Edit: If she has ever in an argument called him out for his behavior he would have lashed out.
He's probably too stupid and disinterested to notice what she was studying. I'm glad he didn't force her to stop like has been known to happen.
I was beaten for thirty years before he finally shot me. I lived and now he will be in prison the rest of his life. I'm handicapped and have PTSD... But I am alive. I can't remember how many times I tried to leave but he worked for the state and could enter any woman's shelter or other organizations I tried to run to. The thing that always drew me back was he would tell me he would kill our children 😢 I believe he could have really done it. I'm free now, but mentally and physically I am broken. My kids are grown and safe.
R.I.P. beautiful...fly free😢🤍🕊️🤍
i am so incredibly happy to hear that you and your children are safe. 🫂 i am so sorry he did this to you, and i hope he rots in prison.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that ❤I’m happy you survived and still here
Praying for your healing, my abuser commited suicide and that's what saved me!
So glad you got away! ❤
I'm so happy you're safe ❤ I'm so proud of you for making it through
I think attaching the baby to her breast for a feed is just horrifying, such an innocent thing turned into something so morbid. A clueless little baby finally getting the feed he's been crying for from dead woman's breast. This monster is truly diabolical. Those poor kids...
Another way he showed he viewed her only as a THING, not a person. Things don’t deserve respect. They’re Something to be used and abused how he sees fit and when convenient. In that instance she (her body) was a tool to get the baby to be quiet, pry so he could go to sleep after he’d worn himself out from beating her for hours
The baby probably felt the coldness 😢
that little boy trying to protect her and her family really got to me. I'm not normally one to cry, but, damn if im not tearing up about it. i dunno. ive been that little boy so many times, I know what it's like to do that, how scary it is to face off with someone so much older to protect someone you love. i dunno. nobody deserves to be in that situation. i hope her kids are okay.
It wasnt even someone the boy really knew, he was protecting his neighbor, quite possibly a complete stranger. We all should strive to be like this boy ❤
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@@ville-c4u hey get a life please 😂
@@ville-c4u its ok buddy i know middle school is hard but you can power through without taking it out on others.
The boy tried to protect her but that grown up neighbor never even tried to call the police.
As a Black woman and a survivor of childhood abuse I truly want to thank you for using your voice especially as an ally to raise awareness on the delayed Justice the Black community faces in multiple countries. I also want to thank you for using your voice to bring awareness to Imkaan - centring a marginalized organization that is trying to change the narrative and provide other marginalized women with supports. Keep doing what you’re doing Eleanor!
RIP Za’Zelle ! Praying her family and her children find some healing 💕
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RIP Za’Zelle ❤
RIP Za'Zelle❤
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When the part came where he said “mommy ruined Christmas” that was it for me, I just started bawling. The daughter went through so much before and after her mother’s death, I hope she’s doing alright.
so many people failed this woman. this is such a sad story.
We should also add how she failed her kids to the conversation
They didn’t. She could have left him. She stayed over and over and let her kids witness this. She also stayed long enough to get pregnant by him.
@@nermax3 do you want to remind yourself how difficult it is to leave an abusive man? especially when love is involved? i see your point, but even her family should’ve done better. the lady herself should’ve sought for better help as well but how can you when this guy is a woman beater?
@@medcastrophilip544 that’s true unfortunately
I agree woth this,she sadly allowed her young children to be in this terrible situation.then again i dont fully understand a victim of DV staying.it happened to me once and once only i walked away and stayed away for my safety bit my sons safety to.such a hard situation and i suppose each person handles abusive relationships differantly.
That opening is shocking. What is wrong with people? Dressing up the deceased mother and propping her up in front of her children (on Christmas no less) is one of the most despicable things I’ve heard. Those poor kids.
Yes I was like oh my goodness I have not heard this story before
Christmas is a evil day anyways if you ain’t know. Smh the demons was attacking
@@dessili23i’m interested. inform me
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Seriously! From all the true crime I’ve watched this is one of the first to make my jaw drop so far
I heard this one a few years back, but hearing it after having babies myself, took it to another level. To imagine that newborn trying to nurse after being put on his moms dead body and getting nothing all night, broke me. May that man live in torment in this life and the next.
Domestic violence is serious. It's not just the physical, it's the mental and emotional abuse too! Unfortunately this beautiful woman paid the ultimate price for what she believed was love. This case is horrific. You have such compassion for her and most of the victims you speak about. As someone who just left an abusive situation I appreciate that!
There is an extra deep level of hell waiting for him. Not only for what he did to her but the immense extra trauma he placed those children through.
What makes a person do this to their wife then proceed to prop her body up in front of their kids.. it’s terrifying what a human being can do to someone
the trauma of it all...those kids will never have a happy Christmas!
i was thinking the same thing like that’s actually sick.
A scummy inhumane person!
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@@ville-c4u do u have nothing better to do than respond to everyone’s comments lol
I really appreciate that you pointed out how much different the stigma of single motherhood is for black women. I’m glad you’re a creator that actually cares ❤
It’s nothing racist about it. Many cultures look at single parenthood a lot worse than in America. Black women have the highest rate for single motherhood and abortions. I’m a Black woman and not sensitive to facts. We were not always this way. We got tricked into feminism with White liberals, which is how White women became a protected class in civil rights bill. You still getting rocked to sleep by White liberals now.
You should read Discrimination and Disparities by Thomas Sowell 🙂 It’s a fact that more black women are single mothers in America than any other race. Pointing out a disparity is not the same as discrimination. Though I agree they shouldn’t be shamed any more than women of other races.
It’s just a statistical fact that black single mothers are more common than any other race…it’s not racist. It is what it is.
educate yourself, sweetheart, dont be 'offended', the the content creator needs to do the same.
There is a difference between researching and repeating and actually educating oneself.
@@thx4allthefish95 I’m still confused why that has anything to do with my comment ?
As a survivor of domestic violence in California. I had a city (Bellflower) ask me to move out of their city because they were tired of coming to our house. No excuse for that. But in the 80s DV was not a crime in the US it was a personal problem. I finally got away at an enormous cost to a bystander who stopped to help a woman running up the street and lost his life for it, While in court my abuser said it was the bystanders fault, he was dead for getting in his way. It's been decades and I still carry this with me. You could seriously be covering my story but for this hero. Thank you for speaking out for this woman.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. There are no words but I’m so glad you’re alive today.
I am so sorry that you went through that.
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The bystander knew what they were getting into when getting involved, and they thought you were worth it. Be forever grateful for that wonderful person and never carry the guilt for it. I'm betting they wouldn't want you to.
You are so strong honey.
Thank you so much for not judging her for her kids having different fathers and for talking respectfully about the stereotypes of black fathers being absent. You were very respectful and sweet about it
Not stereotypes if it’s true
@@cheetahlover156you’re part of the problem
She explained perfectly and respectfully
My ex broke 4 of my ribs by picking me up and throwing me on the hard kitchen floor. He was a drunk (still is probably) and said "it's not like I punched you!"
I had crawled down the stairs and screamed for my neighbors to help me. They took me to the hospital. I was more concerned about him going to jail than my own broken ribs.... I was brainwashed.
6 years later, I'm so happy and free
wow this broke my heart i’m so proud you got out!
The baby feeding from his deceased mother is nightmare fuel.
When an abused woman finally decides to leave is the most dangerous time. That'a when my niece's abuser killed her. That's why you can't "just leave".
I am so sad for you to have experienced something so devastating 💔 Thank you for your comment, some of these comments are awful. People are judging and saying terrible things about her but don't realize that hundreds of people are in the same situation. They can see these comments and fear asking for help because people will have the same heartless response.
Every time I think we're making progress with people being more educated about the cycle of abuse I'm inevitably disappointed. I had felt like knowing the most dangerous time is when they try to leave, and also violence usually increasing during pregnancy, had been something that was becoming more widely known.
I don't know how some of these people could have watched the whole video and still have such uncaring responses.
The trick is to leave the first time he raises his hands. The first time my boyfriend slapped me I left when he went to work. That's it. It gets harder when the woman stays in the abusive relationship, especially if she becomes pregnant because that would further complicate things. The first incident is the best time to leave.
@@sabra.wafflesme either!!!!! 😮😮😮
I truly am absolutely beyond astonished and beyond disgusted that people STILL believe that people in these horrific domestic violence situations can just pick up their kids and their personal things, and just waltz out the door and into a new house and life!!!!
It. Is. NOTHING. Like. That. NOTHING!!!!
It’s not even nearly as simple as that.
Especially when kids are involved.
These people use the most extreme forms of emotional abuse and threats and hold the most massive things over your head to ensure you can’t leave.
Even if you just pick up with your kids, leaving everything else behind, you need to find a new place to live, and how are you supposed to do that when you need personal identification documents to do this, as well as money, which I can guarantee you will be witheld by your abuser. It’s not like they’ll give you your ATM card if you just ask nicely enough!!!!
More likely, they’ll put a hold on your card and block you from being able to access any kind of money in any form, as well as threatening your life, your CHILDRENS lives, your reputation so you can’t even hold down a job, they’ll stalk you, threaten others to give them information about you or they’ll hurt them somehow, and they won’t ever leave you alone, because they’re obsessed and insane pieces of sh!t, so don’t put ANYTHING past them, because I can tell you from experience, picking up and leaving, no matter how dire the situation, is absolutely NEVER AS EASY AS IT SEEMS!!!!
Have some respect for the poor people who have had to suffer through things like this, and are also currently living through it.
You wouldn’t wish a situation like this on your WORST ENEMY.
If you can’t understand, and you’ve never been through it, don’t leave your opinions and judgements here on a video about a poor broken down ruined woman who was just trying to get through the best way she could at the time.
Heartbreaking..
I am sorry for your loss I hope you and your family find some sense of peace and your positive memories with your niece live on. The people who say “they should just leave their abuser” don’t realize that is the riskiest and most dangerous part of the abusive relationship many times we always hear that the victim who got abused was getting ready to leave and making their plans to run away.
You told this story with so much tender love and justice for Za'Zell. I've heard her story before and I almost decided not to listen to it again, but because I love your channel and listening to your beautiful accent ( I'm an American 😅) I decided to listen while I prepare for my Christmas party. You really brought it to life and included details I had not heard before. I really mean it when I say you did justice to her and her story. I will never NEVER Understand how a man can say he loves you when he beats on you. It is NEVER okay. Thank you for telling her story.
This case is making my blood boil! How the hell can you see someone running there life and being dragged back and do nothing?! I feel like that should be a criminal offense. What an absolute coward!
I completely agree!
I have a hot take on this. They prob did multiple other times but after so many times and the fact she's not leaving they probably just went well what's the point the police will come he will be arrested and then be back in a few days. After a while people just don't care because the victim isn't trying to help themselves.
@@stitchincrime That could also be true
@@stitchincrimeagreed
In some states there our bad Samaritan laws, and in some states there are not.
This is not a victim blaming comment. Being an an abusive and manipulative relationship is not as easy as "just leave" or "think of your kids," as this case clearly shows. Za'Zelle is absolutely NOT AT FAULT for what happened to her and what her children went through and are going through, the only person at fault is her husband. She did absolutely nothing to deserve this. I pray that Za'Zelle rests in peace and that her family heals from this diabolical trauma.
That being said, to everybody who is in an abusive relationship: If your abuser says that "they've changed". whether they will change or become reformed or not, it doesn't matter. Don't take the risk. If you were soulmates, this wouldn't happen to you. They would truly love you and demonstrate their love by creating a safe environment for you. Do not ignore a single red flag. Do not marry or have children with someone who is abusive to you in any way. There are people who are rooting for you and can help you. Your teachers, parents, friends, police, charities... A hotline is just one google search away. YOU DESERVE TO FEEL SAFE!!!
As someone who has experience in the whole domestic abuse area, I actually completely agree with this comment. If an abuser says they've changed or "found god" don't risk it and go back. You can hope they have changed and you can want them to change but, do not give them the opportunity to show you that they have not changed.
And this didn't come across as victim-blaming at all - you are giving people sound advice because some people need to hear it.
She’s not at fault but she made some stupid decisions. Yeah a baby and marriage will fix it 😂
@@cecilia1300 she made "stupid decisions" because the man lied to her and manipulated her. She wanted to believe he could change, that's not stupid, that's a sign of a forgiving person and HE took advantage of that. To add laughing emojis to your statement is crass and tone deaf, considering you're referring to a woman who was brutally murdered by her own husband. Have some respect and empathy.
Why didn't her family call 911. Why did they solely rely and keep asking him, the abuser, to call 911. They know that he beat her almost daily. Not only did the neighbors and family fail her but so did the Police Dept.
this case actually made me tear up it is genuinely so disgusting, it’s the fact she didn’t even welcome him fully and he just let himself in and the police, her neighbours and doctors just turn a blind eye to all the blatant abuse, im actually shocked this case made me sick to my stomach, thank you for sharing Za’Zell’s story, she deserves to be heard.
EDIT: i also find it shocking how a LITTLE BOY protected her more than fully grown adults around her ever did.
No one turned a blind eye…she kept choosing to go back to him what are they supposed to do? They will get mad at you if you even say anything
@@toscs148i agree with you, when someone keeps choosing to go back it’s on them, only so much you can do when they’re a grown adult.
- as someone who took forever to leave, and still went back, it's a self-worth issue, and your abuser reiterates your unworthiness of love, and convinces you that this is the treatment you deserve.
I am lucky to have survived when he pointed the gun at my head, sheer luck. He unalived himself on Christmas, me on the way home with our son, and thankfully, I was late, or else I know he would've taken out all three of us.
- and my friend, her husband choked her in front of her two kids, two separate occasions, and she was afraid to single parent, so, when he got out of jail, he went on to impregnate her with two more kids to seal the codependency. I'd be surprised if she's still alive.
Genuinely heartbreaking story
The baby feeding from her after she already died absolutely wrecked me….. what an evil man.
1:08:30 sadly those gurgly noises are literally a dying body's last release of air. It's no longer effective and she was likely already beyond saving at that point 😢
It depends on the cause. I have seen somebody revived who did a death gurgle. It was somebody who overdosed and I managed to give them rescue breathing. They were already turning blue. On the other hand, that's a little bit different because people die from asphyxia when they overdose. So maybe it wasn't the same gurgle, when I heard it, I knew for a fact that it was the last chance. That is the only time I have ever heard a human make that sound in my entire life.
@SpecialBlanket You're right. It's a slightly different sound, but they're both some of the worst sounds you can hear. The first times never really leave your memory. You're amazing for giving them the breath they needed!
If you need case ideas, please cover the case of Isla Bell, in Australia. She was 19, we all looked for her for months and we’re all heartbroken by what happened to her. One of the monsters involved is even out on bail! Please don’t let her be forgotten!
YES ACTUALLY PLEASE DO. and William Tyrell
you can request a case through one of the links in the description!
def put a request in! the person above me mentioned it being in the description but if you can’t see that for any reason (won’t let me expand descriptions on my phone 🤧) the link’s also on her instagram.
We women must stop believing men. Really, why are we like that??? Please, no more second chances. Please, run away at the first sign of abuse! There is nothing that can change him, no religion, no maturing, nothing. Please, PLEASE leave them when you can. Men will always treat you better in the beginning of the relationship, so remember: if this is the better he will ever treat me, is it worth it? Do I want to stick around to see it get worse? RUN
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As a male abuse victim of a woman, I can say that it's not that simple. There are tons of psychological layers that make you believe that you deserve such treatment. Plus either the feeling of being trapped, or literally being tapped.
Make sure not to turn into a misandrist, humans suck, it's not just men, or women. I was on a verge of coming to hate all women, and I still fear and distrust them, but I realise it's irrational, hoping to get out of this mental block.
As women, were raised since babies to see relationships as the ultimate goal. Were fed cartoons where everything is about getting a man and being married, beauty and the beast is about a woman whos kidnapped and is able to change the beast into a prince. Its a never ending cycle
@@musikamusika1736only some that aren’t mature
@@musikamusika1736also lets not with the “not all men” when most men are the one doing so. So yes we will.
@@toscs148that’s a fairytale.
this is the worst case of domestic abuse i have ever seen in my whole entire life
I am so sorry this happened to her…but I really needed to hear this. It was right on time. You have no idea. I’ve been scared for my life lately. This is the final push I needed. Thank you❤
Oh, I'm so sorry that you're going through something similar. Please, please, please, get people to help and support you so you can LEAVE ASAP. Sending you hugs 🫂
I was the type to insist on relationships as well, but we need to understand that once it gets bad, itll never get better itll always be ruined. Leave and know that you will find better and youre losing nothing
Dont say anything just leave hun!!
Be safe and good luck!
It’s weird how things come to us as you say “right on time”. You’ve pry known in the back of your mind for awhile, but consciously making the decision is very hard.
Make a plan. Be safe.
Speaking from experience- it’s very difficult at first to start again but it is SO SO SO worth it! You get to slowly find yourself again- who you are, what you value, your likes & dislikes, what you like to do, what brings you peace & joy. 🥹 💕 it’s a journey but you’ll be amazed at how far you go before you even realize it.
This story keeps hitting with my own situation, especially because of how close to home it feels.
Currently laying out a plan for my best friend to leave her abusive partner. It's happened a few times that we've tried to get her out but with my entire family, my boyfriend (who's more physically intimating than I am) to collect her stuff, and with the plan we've laid out together - we're hoping she'll have a 2025 without him. She is mostly worrying financially but we're hoping to ease that more, since that was the roadblock last time.
Wishing you lots of luck and that your plan succeeds, so she is able to get out and live a better 2025
I'm sure you know that already, but please remember that while it would be good if she could get her things out with her, it's more important you guys get out unharmed. Please stay as safe as possible and again, I really hope this works out this time!
Hey, please make sure that the first thing that could tip him off is her being gone. Do not start slowly moving her stuff out ahead of time, get her out first and then send your boyfriend back for her stuff. If he figures out what's going on, he may kill her himself. The only thing she should prepare ahead of time is digitizing her documents and stuff like that, if she has good control over her computer like a computer at work or another location like that where she can work on this stuff privately.
Dear person, if you are waiting for a signal to leave them, this is it.
Your and you family's well-being is your priority. You are strong enough, and you deserve to be happy.
truly so heartbreaking. i can’t believe he was given the minimum of 15. for such cruelty, i would hope a full life sentence would be in order.
15 is the minimum its not the maximum. He is going to be in for a very long time. It might as well be a full life sentence. This was a very gruesome case.
@@ramla5928really, really hope so.
At 38:59, the little boy trying to protect all of them had more courage than William Wallace could ever dream of. I hope I would have the strength to try and protect someone in that situation.
I’ll bet you he was a young Hispanic boy. He probably heard that every day and decided to do whatever he could do. Kudos to him for trying to protect them.
the baby feeding bit got me, as someone on the spectrum I handle sensitive information like this easier. But I've never heard of that before, wow. Been a silent follower for a while, thank you for sharing this woman and children's story. That man is vile.
Same, I'm comparably unphased by a lot of pretty horrific things I hear in true crime and such (probably due to my autism too but idk for sure), but that bit… that got to me. The moment I realised where that was going had me screaming "NO!" inside my head
That is interesting, I am autistic, and I also feel that I handle this kind of information differently than other people. It is not that I don't think it's really really bad, obviously if it happened in my life, I would be very upset. But when I hear about it happening to other people, I don't really feel feelings about it, I just know in my mind that it is bad and sad. I don't feel it in my feelings if that makes sense.
@@SpecialBlanket at least to me that totally makes sense! It's pretty much the same for me. I have a logical understanding of things like this being bad and sad, but no emotional reaction. I think that it's something very horrible for the victims to have gone through and "feel" sorry for them and their families, just not on an emotional level. There is exceptions where I do actually feel some degree of thing, but it's relatively dull and really depends on the case whether that is able to happen or not (like, for example when I have some factor of relatability that "connects me" with the victim (the victim being autistic for example) and that being a relevant factor in how the case happened, then I may be more likely to feel a certain heaviness for example)
it stood out to me too, he used her body as a means for the kid to stop crying which is so dehumanizing but also her final act of motherhood. and later he used her body as a calming prop for a christmas day for her kids but didn't care that it was so so obviously wrong and the kids would know something is wrong. especially the traumatized 8yo
i'm also on the spectrum and ngl everything in this comment thread adds up, my mom tells me that i could work with wounds because i can handle it, i get episodes of apathy sometimes etc and i felt terrible for zazelle and her kids throughout the video but it was the comments that made me tear up because they are full of women who lived to tell their stories and it just hits how real and prevalent dv is. i hope every woman knows how strong they are for escaping and those who can't just yet to have hope and stay safe
The fact that he dressed her up so the kids can see her is unthinkable! The trauma those poor kids must be going through and probably will the rest of their lives 🖤🖤🖤
It’s crazy how so many deaths/ homicides happen around the holidays. I literally have tears streaming down my face while typing this 🥺
Statistics say you are more likely to be murdered by someone you know on Xmas than you are by a stranger any other day of the year
I know most breakups occur between Thanksgiving and Christmas, so it wouldn’t surprise me if the holidays also hold higher chances of homicides. So devastating 😔😔
Yep, suicides too. Last Christmas our neighbor shot himself in the head, his wife and kids moved away shortly after. Super sad.
Your tears taste delicious 🤤
@@potato6436tf
“when you wear rose coloured glasses, all of the red flags, just look like flags” is that a Bojack Horseman quote i hear Ellie
Seriously??
@@thedangmulletit is a bojack horseman quote
Yep
Yikes
I get more then anything how hard it is to leave abusive situations having been there but the fact that she got PREGNANT by him and then MARRIED him knowing how terrible he was is just sad
These cases don’t usually get to me. They don’t usually make me emotional, certainly they don’t make tears fall, because I have no connection to the people in them. This one absolutely destroyed me.
Why the heck grandma didn't take them to the damn police station 🤦🏽♀️
It's sad how enabling other family members can be in cases of abuse like this
@@hklxo97this is what I was thinking 😭
I grew up with beening abused and seeing it unstop I feel so bad for thr kids, NO KID SHOULD SEE OR LIVE WITH THAT! My heart is with her, and her loves ones!
I really enjoyed the bit where you delved into the psychology of the victim initiating the abuse to get it over with. I have never thought of that before, and I appreciate the education you have provided!
Those children will always have that memory of waking up Xmas morning, blood everywhere, their mother not moving, not smiling and the coldness of her skin.
At age 10 I felt the coldness of my nephew, it only sunk in what was happening, that he was dead when I felt him. not his lack of movement, his blue lips and everyone acting weird. I remember every part of that day almost 30 years on. Those poor kids I don't wish those kind of memories on anyone let alone a child. 😢😢😢
I wish I can just hug them seriously just one bear hug.
Stories like these remind me that although ive been through an awful abusive relationship, im lucky because i got out before he really did anything that was irreversible. I lost a lot but im still here
This is the most brutally traumatic case I have heard. So difficult to hear, so I can’t imagine how horrifying this household must have been for her children. Heartbreaking, how will they ever recover from everything they have witnessed 💔
Makes me sick, especially when I think of the newborn.
This is sooo frustrating and infuriating. I know it's not easy to "just leave" but this is just too much how could no one step in??? How could there be no way to keep her away from him???
Lord i just wish i was apart of that family to do something im so heartbroken by this case
Every single person in this story (bar the kids) were so incredibly negligent. Can’t believe how everyone just let it happen
she was a grown woman. She should know better than to go back , she should’ve thought of her kids but she stayed and went back multiple times. now those poor kids are traumatized
@@yasmin4281 That’s definitely true it just angers me how she kept going back 🤦♀️
@@perlzlove"she should have known better" You clearly know nothing about how abuse works if you think it's as simple as just leaving. One of the most dangerous stages of an abusive relationship is trying to escape it. Usually when people try to leave is when they are in the most danger. In her situation, not only would leaving put her in danger, but her kids, too. Until you've been in the situation, you don't get to judge her actions in that situation.
By the way, this is coming from someone who witnessed her mother being domestically abused, it always got worse when we tried to leave. The violence would get worse. We eventually escaped after multiple times of trying to escape but each time, we were stalked and harassed.
"omg im so early" "19 seconds??!?" "just in time to put off studying for finals" OMG YAY!!! IM SO HAPPY THAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE SOME OF THE FIRST TO WATCH THIS VIDEO ABOUT A MURDERED WOMAN WHOSE BODY WAS LEFT FOR HER CHILDREN TO BE AROUND!!!! WHAT AN APPROPRIATE THING TO COMMENT!!!!
It’s not that deep girl
@@MarzMallowsit’s not an issue for me 😘
it took me 5 years to leave my abuser- it’s quite literally an addiction. i feel for her children so deeply. i hope they heal and get the peace they need
thank you for your words Eleanor! i love your content sm
That is very insightful. It is an addiction because it involves intermittent reinforcement
It’s horrifying that women are still not taken seriously until it is TOO LATE 😢😢😢
why can’t the family call an ambulance to her house instead of wanting him to call one ???
Eleanor, thank you so much for sharing this case. When it comes to describing these horrific cases, you actually put in effort to research into them and explain them in a way that I can comprehend. I had to pause the video several times because that vial case was so heartbreaking.
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People like him are absolutely disgusting. Those poor kids
I can’t believe did that. I am in absolute shock fr
This episode brought me to tears how can a partner do that, what a beautiful soul to be taken from her family, her children like that ❤
This video hit me hard as someone who witnessed their mother being a victim of domestic violence for several years, from multiple people at that.
Fortunately she survived, but it hurts me to know that many other women aren’t as fortunate. My heart goes out to Zazelle’s family.
If you have a friend in this situation or are looking to leave a DV situation I have a suggestion. Get together a go bag. Clothes for a few days copies of the important papers, I'd and medication. Don't keep this bag at home lodge it with a friend so when that opportunity to get out you can just go without a second thought.. if you have kids a go bag for them as well. Then when you leave make sure to go to someone s house your partner doesn't know the address of.
It is bloody hard to make that decision to leave. I know I have been there. It is the best thing you can do and the bravest. 💜
I believe in this 💜
My question is, how can they know him dropping her was an accident? sounds like something a murderer would say to save himself...
Her oldest daughter saw it happening. She was in the bathroom and testified to it being an accident. He slipped and dropped her mother.
@ hmm still seems like it could also be argued that he willingly dropped her. Maybe that doesn’t fit into his intentions though, since he seemingly didn’t want to actually kill him. Although incapability to know what will kill a person shouldn’t be rewarded with a reduced sentence 🤦
Almost two years for drugs and burglary, but less than 3 weeks for attempted murder…. that’s heartbreaking.
That is so sad. How could someone do that.
i’m honestly not trying to victims blame at all, but women shouldn’t be staying with their abusive partners, however ik there’s a lot of factors playing into why many women can’t , HOWEVER when u have kids , your life isn’t all about you anymore, you have to think of the sake of what’s best for them , and you should do anything to get your kids out of of that situation, i mean anything, letting ur bf beat in the same home that your kids reside in is technically abuse to the children. Again not blaming her , however i think once women have kids they should much more cautious before they just take a once abusive man back, 🤷🏿♀️ and i don’t care if he never raised a hand to the kids , they should have NEVER been watched by him, especially since it’s seeming like it was unsupervised. as well as when they went to the mall, they were in a public place ! and i know abusers for the most part don’t care abt people watching but it’s always worse behind closed doors in private . AND THEN TO PUT UR KIDS In THE CAR AS WELL, surely they could’ve stayed with their grandma. my heart breaks for these children
I have to agree. It's one thing to forgive for yourself,but allowing children around someone THIS violent? I personally can't imagine that. But abusive relationships are very complex in some instances 😓
Witnessing abuse is abuse. I agree completely. We need to do better as woman and have deal breakers and stop allowing shit men in our lives to begin with.
sometimes it's easy to have empathy for a victim, but sometimes it's harder, unfortunately. the fact that he was in prison multiple times for even years at a time bugged me, that's the perfect time to get away. and we've got to stop believing these lies abusers tell. having a baby won't change them, getting married won't change them, "finding god" won't change them. the moment they hit you, the first time they disrespect your autonomy in anyway, that's when you have to get out, don't give them a chance to build their manipulative web
Have you ever been abused before ? If not then shut tf up! You have no idea what this women went through, have some empathy for goodness sake. Even if you want to victim blame , did you hear everything that she went through??!!!!
OMG how sadistic. Those poor children having to witness that because of their evil POS father. Prayers & condolences to her family and especially her kids I pray they are doing ok 🙏🕊️
This completely hit home for me because when I was 21 years old I had a similar situation except I didn’t have any kids my abuser had a 5 year old boy.
He had just snapped one night after I had taken my sleeping medication and was in bed. He started telling me to get out so as I got up to get ready to leave he just started beating me out of nowhere I tried so hard to run and the part of this story that hit me the hardest was when she ran out side and he just slammed her and carried her back inside the house because that same thing happened to me one of my neighbors saw and did nothing I went through so much abuse that night and cops even showed up but not for me they showed up for him because he called the suicide hotline saying has going to take his life after I had already passed out from all his abuse. I woke up on the couch with cops banging on my door they could see how our apartment was to torn up to pieces form him beating me they could see the throw up from when he threw me so hard on the ground I got sick. They did nothing they checked on him saw he was still alive and okay then just left me there even though I was crying for help. It wasn’t until the next morning when my other neighbor heard him screaming at me that I was saved and taken to the police. My ex even confessed that he tried to kill me, by trying to run me over after forcing me into his car, taking me out in the middle of nowhere and then pushing me out of his vehicle with his 5 year old son watching everything but the only thing that was done after him confessing was he was in jail just for one day!
Just enough time for my Papa and my brother to come get me and take me away from my abuser.
He was released the second I was gone. Just for him to come track me down and try to get me back.
I finally got a restraining order against him and thankfully never had to deal with him again.
Thats awful! How dare the police ignore you a the system give you no justice. I'm glad you got away. ❤
@ apparently it’s an ongoing issue with him because he also abused his sons mom and the police arrest her instead of him then he abused another after me and nothing was done then either they just keep letting him get away with it because of who his parents are.
32:50 She married him??? Owhh mahn
She had chance to leave then married him …. 😮unbelievable
I can’t even get half way through this bc of how frustrating it is. The amount of times this woman took this man back hurts my heart.
Bro why didn’t the family call the police?!! Especially when she called while being actively beaten?? CALL THE POLICEEE
fr they call her grandma?💀 like what is she gonna do against a grown man. and then her grandma drives her to a mall and when he demands her to go back she just lets her and the kids go back with the him? it’s actually insane
@ RIGHT?!!
Hello Ellie, I'm going through some tough times in my life and I just wanted to say that I appreciate how you narrate cases with a lot of care about the victims and with your anthropological approach when it comes to racism towards black women. It means a lot as a black man to see someone acknowledge the unfair treatment of black women as it isn't an isolated case. It's an important conversation to have even for people that aren't directly concerned or that haven't gone through what Zazel went through. The case broke me, but at least, you were there to tell it and I could feel what you felt during the video. Thank you for being an amazing, compassionate and sensitive storyteller. Have a great holiday!
How does racism get brought up in about every single true crime video about a black person? Truly curious. You people claim that not many people cover them or they don’t get solved because of skin color? Nevermind that they are being killed by their very own community where “snitches get stitches” are the law of the land. And honestly people stop caring about the very cases you claim don’t get enough attention because we are tired of the racism claim All The Time
So sad, an to think now,those poor kids are going to hate Christmas coming round now,only to be reminded,of that horrific night of their poor mother,getting killed,my heart goes out to them,poor kids an family too,bless them ❤❤❤xx
Only the first minute and it’s already crazy how could someone do that propping up her un living body in front OF HER CHILDREN?
I’m only like 7 min in but I feel so sad for her kids. As an adult I found my mom had passed away from natural causes on Christmas morning and I’m scarred for life. I can’t imagine what this would do to a child’s mind. I hope they’re ok now 🥺
Za'Zell deserved so much better. My heart aches throughout listening. I hope somewhere, somehow she's watching over her sweet children. My Christmas wishes will be with her this year
Heart goes out to the children this will forever affect them 💔
I can only empathize but I will never understand how women and men allow this may this beautiful woman rest peacefully
I did my BA in psychology and currently doing my masters in criminology, and my main topic for reseearch has always been true crime related, mainly focusing on the impact of it. This story hit something so deep in me, as my friend recently left an abusive partner, and I told her "I know I'm talking about the worst, but that's what I hear, it can end like that". I can't imagine a world without her.. I'll make sure to mention Zazell in my masters thesis.
I wish I could read it when it’s done or something
May she rest in peace 💜
This hit me hard because u left an abusive relationship at 22 and went back a fourth … my mum experienced DV and was able to get me out but I often think how different things could have been! Well done for raising this case and your charity awareness ❤
He is so sick and twisted..I feel so so sorry for her and her babies..💔
I know it could have been a bystander effect but this took place in apartments, I wish someone called. No way you couldn't have heard all this and not call the police? I dunno, I grew up in an apartment where a lot of DV happened (sometimes right above us) My mom always called the police especially the second we would hear a THUD. I wish someone could have helped her more....
Exactly!!! I’m so so glad your mom called- I’m sure she saved some lives by speaking up. My partner and I recently had to call the cops on our neighbor when we heard repeated banging and a door being broken down by her bf. She was thankfully okay (physically) and we actually became friends afterwards, but it horrifies me that nobody else called. How can people listen to horrific abuse and just sit there doing nothing?! 💔
@@gillian.grace6true but a person is perhaps ultimately responsible for their own safety. After numerous beatings, one should realise that it’s not going to be happily ever after ever. Wake up and smell the danger.
You definitely did her justice and to educating about violence against women. Tysm
Why would he even THINK to traumatize his own kids to that extent?? Oh my god, poor souls 😢
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
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I wish those were more accessible here.
Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
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putting the 7 week old on their mommys deceased body to feel is the saddest thing ever to me
A 19-day jail sentence for a violent domestic assault?!? _WTF_ I also cannot believe he was charged at the misdemeanor level... I don't even think he pled down from a felony charge. This whole situation is disgraceful and wholeheartedly disgusting.
so heartbreaking. rest in peace Za’Zell 🕊️🩷
I've had some horrible christmasses as a kid... but I honestly cannot imagine coming downstairs excited to open presents and instead finding my mum like that... and then my step dad saying she ruined christmas and it was her fault?!?!?!?! Those poor poor babies.
44:45 I don't know how it is in the UK and this may sound silly but nobody calls the cops in certain urban areas of the US. Calling the cops or talking to the cops in certain areas is enough to become a target. That being said, being an American, it does not shock me that people witnessed the abuse and did nothing.
This!!!
i have to stop watching at 27 mins. this is EXACTLY what my marriage was like. i left 2 weeks ago, currently in a DV shelter actually. i’m so triggered right now, i heard the warning and watched anyways thinking id be fine but it was EXACTLY my story. so sorry for this woman. it’s so so so unfortunate she didn’t make it out alive like i did 😭😭😭😭😭sending love to everyone else going thru the same thing ❤
No it's not, you made it out girl.. just remember that, no matter what happens, how bad of a day you have going forward.. you made it out.. been there myself, 21 with 4 babies 3yrs and under.. wasn't easy that's for damn sure, but you have your life .❤
This is the worst case I’ve ever heard. I couldn’t stop crying throughout the entire video. That man is pure evil
I have had a neighbor where this violence reminded me of her. I called police and waited for so many hours and police never showed up. I called again the next time it happened but police again didn't come back. then they moved to a different unit so I dont know how they are now. it hurts seeing this 😢
I genuinely find it so hard to register in my head when I’m hearing these cases that they’re real and people like this do exist its absolutely heartbreaking
People like this you mean mothers who don’t care about their children enough to leave the abuser
Hmmmm, beaten within an inch of your life once and still starry eyed about him and hopeful things would get better. So sorry and condolences but once he raises a finger against you, it should be “so long dude”. C’mmon it’s not only self preservation, it’s also keeping your children safe.
I'm so proud to be a subscriber of yours. You bring awareness to important issues in such a genuine, compassionate way. You are truly an inspiration. 💙
My mother is currently in a relationship with an abusive man (we’ve tried to evict him and the victims advocate in Ohio is not taking us seriously) and it’s truly terrifying how little law enforcement cares until they are k*lled… I am in fear every day I will lose my mom.
WTH I think I went to high school with her friend who’s in the picture with her (middle) at 9:45 min !!! If his name is Anderson then that’s definitely him.. he used to be my best friend in 10th grade. What a trip holy shit I’m shocked
I'm so glad you covered this case. there's not a lot of coverage on it and if is horrific. Also, just want to note, A.) you are absolutely gorgeous 🥰 B.) you seem like you have such a down to earth personality. Love your videos 💛🧡❤️
Rip to this beautiful mama. I hope her babies are okay in the present ❤️
May this beautiful, strong and caring woman rest in peace after such a terrifying and pain filled life. Usually cases don't get in my head so much as I watch a lot of true crime content however parts of this case were really close to home for me, my abusive ex threw a plate at me and got angry with me for bleeding and making a mess. Threw me in the bath to clean myself up whilst I had a concussion and in and out of consciousness. It happened on holiday abroad and he wouldn't let me go to hospital because it was "unsafe" so I spent all night literally holding a 1 inch head wound together with my fingers, this injury was one that if it hit a little to the right I would probably be dead or a little bit down I would have lost my eye until I could see the resort doctor the next morning. I was told to tell the hotel staff, my family etc that I was drunk and hit my head. It took me months to tell my mum the truth. This so easily could have been me. I witnessed domestic violence as a child but I cannot imagine going through this as a child, I'm close to tears writing this, no child should EVER have to witness anything even close to this. The fact this innocent precious child had to stand up in court and relive this depraved act breaks my heart, I truly pray she can heal. I hope so much these children are doing as best they can now whilst carrying this unimaginable trauma. I pray for all women and children who are in abusive situations to find safety and peace. I was so lucky to escape before I ended up like this gorgeous, caring woman who deserved the world. It is just so fking heartbreaking. I hope this comment doesn't come off as selfish... just sharing my experience... Echoing Eleanor here but if you are going through this I know how hard it is but please please try to reach out to get to a place of safety and rebuild your life even when it feels so impossible and nothing can ever get better, truly I know how this feels. There are so many places that want nothing more than for you to find safety. May this disgusting "man" (I don't believe abusers even deserve this title they are cowards) and all abusers never find peace. He never deserves to be released. Thank you for all you and your team contribute to shedding light on these cases.
It takes a lot to make me cry when it comes to these cases. This one has me bawling 😭😭😭
I feel like as a mother your priority Is not a relationship. It’s your children. Her children had no other parent but her yet she allowed an abuser into her home? He could’ve done a whole lot to those little girls and all of this resulted in him stealing their mum away from them. When it comes to children you cannot just think about yourself.
This case reminds me of a movie called “ For Colored Girls” it features a mother with two little kids who was going through abuse. The whole thing is really sad though.
It's so bizarre that she let this abusive man move in so early in dating, especially since she has two kids. I think she was irresponsible having kids as a teen girl and probably not a great mom. She tried, sure, but she clearly had terrible judgement when it came to men. She should have ran away and moved when this abusive monster was in jail.
This is not a victim blaming comment. I just *really* want to know why she had left her kids with that man without her being there. If he put her hands on her & their unborn child I *really* wonder if he had put his hands on those girls. In no way am I trying to blame her, but I simply cannot comprehend why she'd leave her two little girls with him... who knows if he would've done something terrible to those little girls?
This is just sad all around.