"Every country has people who are considerate, and those who aren't" yep....there is no nation of perfect angels or nothing but devils....we're all human beings, good, bad, and somewhere in-between.
Those kinds of gestures always make my day! But as an Asian I was told to not do this since allegedly elderly Japanese are proud of their health and if you offer your seat, it would be the same as calling them old and weak. I always thought it was wrong, so thanks for clearing this up for me
I'm also Asian and was taught to offer the seat, but if they turn it down, let it pass. I've had that happen as well, but many people also take the seat. I'm not young myself, but I'm not going to let an 80 year old stand without offering the seat, when I'm more capable of standing.
This happened to me at least three times when I was in Kyoto. I happened to be sitting when I saw someone clearly older than me, so I stood up and offered my seat. I didn't think they looked weak, I just knew they were older than me and that I thought they should sit instead of me. They gave me the "wave in front of the face" and implied that it was okay for them to stand. I just bowed and pointed at the seat and then moved to the doors. One of the few times I think it is okay to use your foreign card. One of the times I am sure I heard them say "Sasuga", but could be not towards me of course. I think if you are older than me, you should be able to sit.
I remembered 12 years ago when I visited Japan with my family, and in the train, I was sitting when I saw this old Japanese man boarding. I immediately stood up and offered him a seat. Then we got into a conversation. We talked about where I'm from (Malaysia) and he said that he once lived in Malaysia back in the 80s because of work. I was on my way to Yokohama to visit an old place that me and my family lived in back in the early 2000s. I still cherish this moment.
In many places in Europe it’s courtesy to give up your seats immediately for elderly or pregnant women I am glad that it made you happy and the elderly man too maybe! ❤
When I lived in Japan in the 1970s, I always offered my seat on the train to older people or pregnant women. They always seemed so surprised! Here in the U.S. it's just normal behavior.
I am Japanese, but when I tried to give up my seat to an old man on the train once, he yelled at me, “ Screw you, do I look old to you?" Since then, I stopped giving up my seat to old people.
I did the same for an older lady in Tokyo a few years ago, they didnt take it either. I saw many children coming home from school who kept their seats. totally stunned me.
I usually offer seat aswell, but only times i fall short is when someone is demanding of it, aka rude old people. Alas its quite simply a thing to do and improve another persons day, besides the reasons such as they are old/disabled. I dont go out of my way, but if you can, why not.
In Australia we tend to make eye contact with strangers and see immediately if they have a problem. In Japan with polite avoidance of eye contact it may take longer to notice that someone else has a problem.
Your English is very good, nice story glad we had a good representative that day. I think there is a strong social pressure to give up your seat at least here in the uk. Just be careful you don’t offend a woman by implying she’s old by offering her a seat 😅
Kind gestures are the glue that holds society together. I witnessed a negative thing happen on a train my first year here. I very sleepy man accidentally sat in the handicap seat. An old man with a cane boarded. He took his cane and struck the seat to wake the man up and began to yell at him. The sleepy man got up and moved to another part of the train car and old man took the seat. I watched as the sleepy man tried to stand without falling in the middle of the aisle. No one on the train acknowledged this small conflict even though it was very loud when that came hit the seat. I understand why the old man was upset but he had zero compassion for the sleepy office man who looked like he had not slept in days. 😕 Just remember, you never know what another persons life is like until you see the world from their perspective. Have compassion when you can.
here in the U.S., public transportation typically has seating areas specifically meant for the elderly or otherwise physically disabled near to the exits (like at the front for buses and next to the doors on commute trains - maybe this is also the case in Japan, i wouldn't know 😅) sometimes people who don't necessarily "need" that seating will sit there, myself included however... i would feel incredibly rude to not offer that seat to someone who looks like they might need it. for instance, aside from elders, disabled people, and expecting mothers, i've occasionally offered my seat to a tired mother with rowdy children in an effort to lessen her burden a bit, and the same to people with baby strollers or with many bags of groceries because there's additional floor space in the elderly/disabled section. i often get turned down, but i feel strongly that it's important to kindly communicate to others that I'm aware of them and the condition they're currently in. ....that being said, it isnt the case for all people. sometimes it feels like the culture is lacking in consideration for others, but I'm happy when i hear of others who still maintain their considerateness, and I'm happy to be the change that i want to see in the world.
We had a nice bus system in Phoenix, AZ when I was growing up. Anyone with any manners would often get out of their seat and offer it to the elderly or women. There was a bit of social pressure to it, too. If someone was just being stubborn about it they would get dirty looks.
I believe we should treat others the way we want to be treated. I appreciate your ENGLISH speaking efforts. Great 👍🏽 Job. I hope more foreigners show consideration when visiting your COUNTRY. 🎌👍🏽🤍🎄🕊️ USA
I understand how you feel. I sometimes worry about the world we live in. It seems that every generation gets less and less responsible and mindful and considerate, but i hope I'm wrong. I sometimes want to ask certain people if this is the best they can do. Hopefully things get better, and lets try not to worry or lose hope for a better future where we all live in harmony with eachother and with nature.
comes naturally to a lot of Christian Americans as well its part of our culture. I was fortunate to go to Japan for the first time last year and i always got up for others if the train became full. I feel like its good to be friendly to the place I am visiting, anyways. we are not all like Johnny Somali
Can u ask ur people to stop pretending coughing when i pass in front of them ? Because I know what it means and when i start to cough back or saying something in japanese they look the floor like people without any courage lool
Young people are a reflection of the people who raised them. In late stage competitive capitalism with both parents at work, it's pop culture that raises young people these days. And pop culture these days has little to nothing resembling nurture or role modelling. After WWII, developed economies learned the folly of war. I feel like the next big lesson is the folly of competitive "economy" over collaborative community. Most people know the phrase "It takes a village to raise a child" But how many of us embody it. And also realise it takes a village to support adults too? With 38% of Tokyo residents living alone, it's the greatest loneliness epidemic of all time. We're finally reaching a tipping point where reflection upon mistakes, becomes wisdom, wisdom we can act upon. The past is a lesson. Our imagination creates our future!
I was raised very old-fashioned in America. Especially when it comes to etiquette. I let a pregnant woman with 2 young children ahead of me in line at the convenience store in Japan (where I currently live). Another man tried to cut me in line and I explained to him that I let the woman through for obvious reasons. He was an older man and started yelling "A gaijin in (name of city redacted) is not welcome!!". I think that at this point Japanese people are going through a very hard time and are not welcoming to foreigners.
I live in Bangkok, Thailand. Ride the metro every day. I have to say, the most selfish are middle aged women, who think they have the divine right to sit in a seat ahead of elderly people and kids. They are always the one to make a beeline for seats and never make way for an elderly person or child. The ones who stand are usually always middle aged men, even elderly men and sometimes even Europeans when I see them on the train but not all Europeans, and it makes my blood boil when there are perfectly able people in the priority seat who don't give up their seat for those who it is supposed to be for.
It can be tricky. Men give up seats for women. Younger give up seats for elders. 50 year old woman and 60 year old man. Who gets the seat? It can be an awkward back and forth. A train that is moving if there is a question of mobility issue that person should be offered the seat. I was 34 and standing holding a 1 year old and holding onto bags on an airport bus in Hong Kong from one area to another cause they wanted all of us on the other side of the airport for some reason after landing. Only for us to race through the airport to get back to the other side of it. I was quite dismayed there were people without children and not elderly siting down in the few seats on the vehicle. With an international airport you never know who is on the bus and what the custom is for them.
My standard is to look at who seems to need a seat (or a more convenient seat) the most. For example, the last time I was on a train I gave up my seat for a man my age (or maybe younger) who was pushing a stroller.
You’re not the only Japanese native that has felt that the younger Japanese population has shifted from the culture of respect. In a few interviews I’ve watched it seems the older Japanese population has similar sentiments. I feel that is a think that is happening across the nations… BUT WE DONT HAVE TO LET IT TAKE OVER! WE CAN STAND UP AND FIGHT BACK WITH LOVING KINDNESS! WE WILL NOT LET DARK HARDENED HEARTS TAKE OVER THIS EARTH! LOVE AND KINDNESS WILL ALWAYS OVERCOME! More of us need to put out our continent and INFLUENCE the generations growing up today and tomorrow!!! SPREAD YOU LIGHT OF LOVE! LET THEM SEE YOU SHINE! DARKNESS FLEES FROM THE LIGHT! LOVE IS THE LIGHT! IF YOU MEED SOME TAKE SOME OF MONE! I HAVE ENOUGH TO FEED THE NATIONS!! I DECREE AND DECLARE THAT THE LIVING LIGHT OF LOVE HAS OVERCOME THE DARKNESS OF THE EARTH!!! IT IS DONE IN THE EARTH AS IT IS DONE IN HEAVEN!!! IN THE NAME OF THE PRINCE OF PEACE!!
Japanese here. I agree that there's a good and bad person in all countries. But its not totally equal. The bad behavior of nuisance foreigners by dancing harassment and discrimination to local people in the train definitely doesn't happened until many foreign overtourism started.. Japanese trains and buses are normally more peaceful and relaxed before many foreigners arrived. This is a fact.
I am glad to hear about a positive experience in Japan with foreigners. I know there have been unfortunate incidents and that disappoints me. I was blessed to live in Okinawa for 3 years as a child. Japan will always be a place I love, not just for anime or pop culture. I hope to visit again someday and respect people there. I am sorry for the negative things some foreigners have done. I hope tourism will benefit Japan and not cause harm.
"Every country has people who are considerate, and those who aren't" yep....there is no nation of perfect angels or nothing but devils....we're all human beings, good, bad, and somewhere in-between.
Those kinds of gestures always make my day! But as an Asian I was told to not do this since allegedly elderly Japanese are proud of their health and if you offer your seat, it would be the same as calling them old and weak. I always thought it was wrong, so thanks for clearing this up for me
I'm also Asian and was taught to offer the seat, but if they turn it down, let it pass. I've had that happen as well, but many people also take the seat. I'm not young myself, but I'm not going to let an 80 year old stand without offering the seat, when I'm more capable of standing.
This happened to me at least three times when I was in Kyoto. I happened to be sitting when I saw someone clearly older than me, so I stood up and offered my seat. I didn't think they looked weak, I just knew they were older than me and that I thought they should sit instead of me. They gave me the "wave in front of the face" and implied that it was okay for them to stand. I just bowed and pointed at the seat and then moved to the doors. One of the few times I think it is okay to use your foreign card. One of the times I am sure I heard them say "Sasuga", but could be not towards me of course. I think if you are older than me, you should be able to sit.
Glad not all tourists are here to make a ruckus.
This video also made my day a good day, so thank you for sharing this, and
Greetings from France :D
You never know what impact a tiny and insignificant act of kindness can have on people! Random stranger I salute you!
I remembered 12 years ago when I visited Japan with my family, and in the train, I was sitting when I saw this old Japanese man boarding. I immediately stood up and offered him a seat. Then we got into a conversation. We talked about where I'm from (Malaysia) and he said that he once lived in Malaysia back in the 80s because of work. I was on my way to Yokohama to visit an old place that me and my family lived in back in the early 2000s. I still cherish this moment.
In many places in Europe it’s courtesy to give up your seats immediately for elderly or pregnant women
I am glad that it made you happy and the elderly man too maybe! ❤
When I lived in Japan in the 1970s, I always offered my seat on the train to older people or pregnant women. They always seemed so surprised! Here in the U.S. it's just normal behavior.
I am Japanese, but when I tried to give up my seat to an old man on the train once, he yelled at me, “ Screw you, do I look old to you?"
Since then, I stopped giving up my seat to old people.
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he didn’t appreciate your kind gesture, but that doesn’t mean others won’t! Don’t give up!
I did the same for an older lady in Tokyo a few years ago, they didnt take it either. I saw many children coming home from school who kept their seats. totally stunned me.
I usually offer seat aswell, but only times i fall short is when someone is demanding of it, aka rude old people. Alas its quite simply a thing to do and improve another persons day, besides the reasons such as they are old/disabled.
I dont go out of my way, but if you can, why not.
Your english is excellent. I can tell you put effort into it.
Very happy that this made your day! It's a nice and wholesome story! Keep up the positivity!! Have a good day, from europe!
日本が大好きですよ！日本の年長者を尊敬しています。そして、日本語を勉強します。 🇺🇲 ♡ 🇯🇵
In Australia we tend to make eye contact with strangers and see immediately if they have a problem. In Japan with polite avoidance of eye contact it may take longer to notice that someone else has a problem.
Thank you for sharing a lovely story
Your English is very good, nice story glad we had a good representative that day. I think there is a strong social pressure to give up your seat at least here in the uk. Just be careful you don’t offend a woman by implying she’s old by offering her a seat 😅
Very nice story.
Thank you for sharing this.
It is a cliche but it is true that even small acts of kindness matter! Have a good day!
Good message to everyone.
Thank you very nice 👍🎄🇺🇸
Thanks for sharing!
Yes, people are human no matter where they are from. We all have much in common more then different. Ariguto for sharing.
given the current trend I was expecting a story about some tourist being a clown in the public transport, glad I was wrong
Keep talking about things, it is nice practice, you are doing great!
I'm impressed by your use of English contractions! Thank you for sharing.
Kind gestures are the glue that holds society together. I witnessed a negative thing happen on a train my first year here. I very sleepy man accidentally sat in the handicap seat. An old man with a cane boarded. He took his cane and struck the seat to wake the man up and began to yell at him. The sleepy man got up and moved to another part of the train car and old man took the seat. I watched as the sleepy man tried to stand without falling in the middle of the aisle. No one on the train acknowledged this small conflict even though it was very loud when that came hit the seat. I understand why the old man was upset but he had zero compassion for the sleepy office man who looked like he had not slept in days. 😕
Just remember, you never know what another persons life is like until you see the world from their perspective. Have compassion when you can.
I love hearing your stories!
here in the U.S., public transportation typically has seating areas specifically meant for the elderly or otherwise physically disabled near to the exits (like at the front for buses and next to the doors on commute trains - maybe this is also the case in Japan, i wouldn't know 😅)
sometimes people who don't necessarily "need" that seating will sit there, myself included
however... i would feel incredibly rude to not offer that seat to someone who looks like they might need it. for instance, aside from elders, disabled people, and expecting mothers, i've occasionally offered my seat to a tired mother with rowdy children in an effort to lessen her burden a bit, and the same to people with baby strollers or with many bags of groceries because there's additional floor space in the elderly/disabled section. i often get turned down, but i feel strongly that it's important to kindly communicate to others that I'm aware of them and the condition they're currently in.
....that being said, it isnt the case for all people. sometimes it feels like the culture is lacking in consideration for others, but I'm happy when i hear of others who still maintain their considerateness, and I'm happy to be the change that i want to see in the world.
what an amazing story!!
We had a nice bus system in Phoenix, AZ when I was growing up. Anyone with any manners would often get out of their seat and offer it to the elderly or women. There was a bit of social pressure to it, too. If someone was just being stubborn about it they would get dirty looks.
It's very common for people to give up seats where I'm from. I think the practice may be quite common for a lot of other international places, too.
kind story and your English is very good :)
I believe we should treat others the way we want to be treated. I appreciate your ENGLISH speaking efforts. Great 👍🏽 Job. I hope more foreigners show consideration when visiting your COUNTRY. 🎌👍🏽🤍🎄🕊️ USA
your english is getting better
I understand how you feel. I sometimes worry about the world we live in. It seems that every generation gets less and less responsible and mindful and considerate, but i hope I'm wrong. I sometimes want to ask certain people if this is the best they can do. Hopefully things get better, and lets try not to worry or lose hope for a better future where we all live in harmony with eachother and with nature.
I dream of the day we don't need to be clumped into clubs (nationalities), and can just be human beings instead of banners.
comes naturally to a lot of Christian Americans as well its part of our culture. I was fortunate to go to Japan for the first time last year and i always got up for others if the train became full. I feel like its good to be friendly to the place I am visiting, anyways.
we are not all like Johnny Somali
あなたはいい奴だ。英語上手, ありがとう
Nice English,you Will progress rapidly,put some confidence.
You are good
Can u ask ur people to stop pretending coughing when i pass in front of them ? Because I know what it means and when i start to cough back or saying something in japanese they look the floor like people without any courage lool
Young people are a reflection of the people who raised them. In late stage competitive capitalism with both parents at work, it's pop culture that raises young people these days. And pop culture these days has little to nothing resembling nurture or role modelling. After WWII, developed economies learned the folly of war. I feel like the next big lesson is the folly of competitive "economy" over collaborative community. Most people know the phrase "It takes a village to raise a child" But how many of us embody it. And also realise it takes a village to support adults too? With 38% of Tokyo residents living alone, it's the greatest loneliness epidemic of all time. We're finally reaching a tipping point where reflection upon mistakes, becomes wisdom, wisdom we can act upon. The past is a lesson. Our imagination creates our future!
I was raised very old-fashioned in America. Especially when it comes to etiquette. I let a pregnant woman with 2 young children ahead of me in line at the convenience store in Japan (where I currently live). Another man tried to cut me in line and I explained to him that I let the woman through for obvious reasons. He was an older man and started yelling "A gaijin in (name of city redacted) is not welcome!!". I think that at this point Japanese people are going through a very hard time and are not welcoming to foreigners.
I live in Bangkok, Thailand. Ride the metro every day. I have to say, the most selfish are middle aged women, who think they have the divine right to sit in a seat ahead of elderly people and kids. They are always the one to make a beeline for seats and never make way for an elderly person or child. The ones who stand are usually always middle aged men, even elderly men and sometimes even Europeans when I see them on the train but not all Europeans, and it makes my blood boil when there are perfectly able people in the priority seat who don't give up their seat for those who it is supposed to be for.
It can be tricky. Men give up seats for women. Younger give up seats for elders. 50 year old woman and 60 year old man. Who gets the seat? It can be an awkward back and forth. A train that is moving if there is a question of mobility issue that person should be offered the seat.
I was 34 and standing holding a 1 year old and holding onto bags on an airport bus in Hong Kong from one area to another cause they wanted all of us on the other side of the airport for some reason after landing. Only for us to race through the airport to get back to the other side of it. I was quite dismayed there were people without children and not elderly siting down in the few seats on the vehicle. With an international airport you never know who is on the bus and what the custom is for them.
My standard is to look at who seems to need a seat (or a more convenient seat) the most. For example, the last time I was on a train I gave up my seat for a man my age (or maybe younger) who was pushing a stroller.
You’re not the only Japanese native that has felt that the younger Japanese population has shifted from the culture of respect.
In a few interviews I’ve watched it seems the older Japanese population has similar sentiments.
I feel that is a think that is happening across the nations…
BUT WE DONT HAVE TO LET IT TAKE OVER!
WE CAN STAND UP AND FIGHT BACK WITH LOVING KINDNESS!
WE WILL NOT LET DARK HARDENED HEARTS TAKE OVER THIS EARTH!
LOVE AND KINDNESS WILL ALWAYS OVERCOME!
More of us need to put out our continent and INFLUENCE the generations growing up today and tomorrow!!!
SPREAD YOU LIGHT OF LOVE!
LET THEM SEE YOU SHINE!
DARKNESS FLEES FROM THE LIGHT!
LOVE IS THE LIGHT!
IF YOU MEED SOME TAKE SOME OF MONE!
I HAVE ENOUGH TO FEED THE NATIONS!!
I DECREE AND DECLARE THAT THE LIVING LIGHT OF LOVE HAS OVERCOME THE DARKNESS OF THE EARTH!!!
IT IS DONE IN THE EARTH AS IT IS DONE IN HEAVEN!!! IN THE NAME OF THE PRINCE OF PEACE!!
Japanese here. I agree that there's a good and bad person in all countries. But its not totally equal. The bad behavior of nuisance foreigners by dancing harassment and discrimination to local people in the train definitely
doesn't happened until many foreign overtourism started.. Japanese trains and buses are normally more peaceful and relaxed before many foreigners arrived. This is a fact.
I am glad to hear about a positive experience in Japan with foreigners. I know there have been unfortunate incidents and that disappoints me.
I was blessed to live in Okinawa for 3 years as a child. Japan will always be a place I love, not just for anime or pop culture. I hope to visit again someday and respect people there. I am sorry for the negative things some foreigners have done. I hope tourism will benefit Japan and not cause harm.
Do you want an English tutor? I actually tutor English online and I know a bit of Japanese. Maybe I can help your English get even better :)
Noone cares
i care :)
what's your problem?
Shut the fuck up and find a better outlet for your negativity
found the inconsiderate guy
@MelodyWarp oh no I'm inconsiderate 😂😂😂