Why "Spam Approaching" is Ruining Your Game
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- Most guys don't go out enough, or approach enough. But there's also such a thing as too much... and if you're practicing game wrong, there's no right amount. Find out how to actually improve with less effort in this video.
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Coming in with the athlean X titles
Why __ is Ruining Your Gains
lol I can totally see it
I read it "Why is spam internal rotation" killing your gains already.
you should do an even number of approaches to prevent imbalances!
Lmao
It's like these topics always come up when you need them, like most of us are on the same wave
The problem isn't doing the "same thing" over and over.
But doing the "same thing" over and over that does not work.
What you wanna do is do the "same thing" over and over that DOES work.
Ty, very relevant. I strive for at least (at Least) 20 approaches a week with showing intent (and I only approach girls I like). I set a goal of 100 approaches a month. I'm at 99/100 and today is the last day 🥳. Kinda hard tbh to push + afraid of nightgame.
Everyone is a retard in night, just free yourself and have fun, and do game inbetween.
How is your close rate??
Holy crap. I’m a coach and the “how are the girls looking?” Thing is absolutely genius
So precise! Thank you Todd!
When i first started making approaching a habit….
I went for one “no” a day.
Definitely took the pressure off and made it fun
This is even true in a short time setting.
I just recently met two guys on a Julian Event, who are doing PickUp on a daily Basis, for literally hours. When I went with them to PickUp they explaind I just should not care if im atractet to the girl im talking to and just aproche.
The first aproche, (because I wana Show of) was good - but because I was sind interested in any of these girls I just dindnt care about the outcome, and went for a easy rejection. But than I talk to go I was interested in, and because of flow I still wanted her to reject me. I rejected her wen she didn't do it to me, and said: "Which Starsign are you?" "Leo!" "Leo? Sorry, we so not compatible!" and I just walked away🤦♂️
Hej Todd,
I have a question you may answer in a future video....
Q: HOW TO DEAL WITH THE BIG AGE DIFFERENCE?
Hi, I am almost 44 but able to close and go on a date with well educated and attractive 21-26 year old girls.
Sooner or later the question "How old are you?" comes up. I usually do the "guessing game" and hear a range of 30-35.
In the end, we agree that I'm 37 years old. But that feels like I'm in the middle of nowhere and prevents me from building a good narrative (limited believes??).
So what would you do?
A) Play the girl's first guess and fake it till I make it?
B) Just be 100% true and frame it like this, "Girl, there's a bit more of an age difference. I'm 44, which means we can be friends or we can be friends and have a lot of fun. But don't think about putting a ring on my finger!"
C) something else
Cheers! :)
Keep up the great work!
That little test to know if you are doing this too much was genius haha.
I've certainly learned that in everything in life we need balance, and small but very consistent improvement.
From my personal experience of going out every weekend for like two years I can confirm you do kill the fear of rejection at least, but that alone has served me enormously in everything else in my life. Also the fear of talking to attractive women. Downside is it made me very cold lol. Game can be cringe AF, but this is one of those few well balanced channels with solid practical and productive advise. Cheers.
Damn I really needed this and been thinking about this a lot. I thought my idea of a purely game focused lifestyle would get me to the next level but it's about the quality and not the quantity 👌. Gotta learn to reflect and take days off and live my life outside of game. Thanks Todd 👊
Being selective about the girls you approach, and then only actively going after the ones that you're interested in, can be a good approach, but it hurts a lot more when they reject you. I've done this in places like the gym, where people know me and I don't want the reputation of the guy who hits on every girl there.
I'll talk to lots of girls there, but unless I'm really interested, I keep it light and friendly. Then when I find one that I'm actually interested in, I'll ramp up the flirting and get their number after a few interactions if they've shown interest back.
But like I said, it sucks a lot more when they don't reply to you and gets awkward when they keep coming to the gym. Especially because before they were smiling and enjoying talking with you, now they're avoiding you.
What I learned about game, your style and looks is by far the most important, next is confidence.
When I was on vacation from one night to the other I simply changed my hairstyle and my game skyrocketed just like that..
Sometimes changing your look does change your inner confidence
how do you identify if the issue is your process or you just haven't been meeting the right woman? I used to get excited for daygame before,but i've done it a bunch and now I don't really get that excited for it and almost dread having to leave the house to approach. I've only done a few hundred approaches,but still feel somewhat burned out from achieving the same outcome over and over bf rejection,ignore or flaky #
100% agree I have the same exact issues besides dreading to go out . I'll still go out but keep having the same results
I've been trying to track the process by tracking at which points am I losing the girls' interests. I think it's up until you get to that part of the interaction Todd says you should keep your routine the same. The best guy I know personally has always used routines. He changed them over time but not by much.
What do you think causes the same pit come over and over again? What it sounds like is that your not getting her to invest in the moment
@@gitgotta7171 the hardest part of game by far
Having the worst game in the world, you still will have success just by the nature of the numbers game. If you ask for advice, do your best to ignore your short term emotions, check your fundamentals (are u loud enough, what up with eye vontact, dont approach from behind etc). Some girls really want to meet some1 and you dont have to have much skill to find them.
todd is straight up genius.
If a set didnt work out think for literally 30 seconds what you could do better but after that ABSOLUTELY forget that girl, dont get emotionally wounded
It's not that "practice makes perfect."
It's that "perfect practice makes perfect."
Keep up the great work Todd!
Hey Todd! How do I get over my ex? And/or make her realize her breaking up with me was a mistake?
Todd! please, come to Toronto or any other city up here. Cheers!
At 29, living in Tampa Florida. I cant even find a place that has women over 24 and under 35. Every bar has 21/22 year old's, that plays nothing but super loud rap/R&B, super dark.
Thank god for this vid.
I practiced pickup in Chicago and we'd have a ton of incompetent PUAs who spam approach hoping to get a date. It made things harder for guys who put in the blood, sweat, and tears to get good at game.
Keep up the great work todd
Hey Todd
Can u please talk about how you build attraction in cold approach scenario.
How do you imply status and preselction in cold approach without actually saying that you have it.
@@geovanilopez5459 BS
@@geovanilopez5459 Bro Todd keeps on saying that push pull, disqualifiers and cocky funny are attraction tactics but if you study the mystery methode courses .
In those courses all these were buying temperature tactics and not attraction tactics.
Also todd says that the value is in a high value frame so like if i go upto the girl and say i am amazing will she suddenly think of me as amazing because of my frame , its complete BS bro.
Mystery methode still works , i dont know about todds been watch todd gor past 2 years still cant understand how he creates attraction with his game, maybe its his subcommunication.
@@geovanilopez5459 good for you man 👍
@@adityabhandari3824 ok but I want you to win too
y is i aproach but i never get anywhere does cancel cultrure influence people that much
Spam approaching makes you thirsty. Girls make it easy for you when they like you. If you take care of your appearance, you work on your mouthpiece & confidence, then you’ll have more options to choose from. Also if you know yourself then you will know who to approach. Dating cones down to compatibility.
Personally, I don't understand the aim of doing X number of approaches per day or per week. Rather, I want a certain amount of outcomes (relationships/sex) that feels like the right balance in my life. And so, for example, if I have a good steady thing going with 2-3 girls already, I might not do any approaches this week. But later, if I want to add a new girl in, I will do approaches until I get that. Idk, is Todd's advice mainly for people who do a lot of one-night stands, so you need a constant stream of new girls? Or is it for people who are trying to get God-like PUA skills, more than just have good sex and relationships in the present?
I think it’s mostly a framework to improve skill in the game.
But, my view is similar to yours. Having a few girls, maybe 2-3 at a time is the goal. The only thing I’d add, is I want to keep improving social and seduction skills. So, I’d still want to be going out and working on social skills even if I have 3 girls I’m seeing.
But, many coaches today are teaching how to pull mostly. It’s about a lifestyle of one night stands, where you have alot of options and variety.
Game should be fun.
But it rarely is
Its hard to know what was wrong by youreself how should we notice
Really good stuff!
very good love it.
Debate: Alex "playingwithfire"
When should you tell a girl you want an open relationship if at all?
To sum up this whole video moderation end of video
Hi Todd, your support team never replies to my emails. I just have a quick question before paying for your mentorship program. Can you tell them to stop ignoring me please?
Just keep swiping right...
I feel like 'me too' and covid killed game. Seems like it's even more underground than it was during the mystery+style era.
Where is this from? Cant be from the system or vga
it says right at the start, it's from one of Todd's mentorship seminars
Its a coincidence.
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Lmao
Good advice, but the speech didn't have to be that long. 5 minutes would be more than enough.
He's there with people who are paying to hear him explain this. Five minutes would not have been enough.
@@gavinsapp564 They're paying to hear him to repeat himself and pad his speech rather than talk about more stuff? Bizarre logic, use your brain.
last part was crucial doing in sales too, do what is necessary for the day, regardless of outcomes and go back sleep peacefully
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