I am not shocked by her reply, she is probably delusional and has high standards for happiness/life. I'm rather surprised by your incorrect statement that less than 10% constitutes a majority. Actually, 90% of women between 25 and 60 are married. Just because people around you don’t want to do it doesn't mean that the national average reflects the same. @iamwithdhanyavarma : the interview was terrible, and the captions were even worse. It's a perfect example of a bad interview that my students can refer to. Instead of empathizing with her viewpoint, why didn't you challenge her by asking if it's all in her head?
@libsonteresa5695 and who are you?? Can you explain?? Why is ayalkoottam bothering you so much.. Have you been there in an ayalkoottam meeting to know what is happening?? And about Dhanya.. Interview is about knowing the other person and making an atmosphere which is comfortable for him or her to open up themselves... Yes, the caption she wrote was not liked by many of us and she took the criticism in the right sense and changed it... It is better to get inspired by someone rather than thinking that you are the ultimate...
Thank you so much for the interview. Im a 25 yr old girl, just started to drown into this pit of pleasing my parents. Im jobless with two MA's . Im in a stage were I'm wondering what am I going to do. And all my parents care about is for me to get married, and I stopped interacting anything with them to avoid a conflict. And now they are dissatisfied about me being silent. There is nothing good happening, Im working hard to do something and find my way. Right now I feel like I want to hide , away from my own parents.
@@yahyanaz3695 I prefer to follow my dreams right now and move at least a step towards it than settling for something I'm not sure about, thinking that I may feel better in my 40s. And marriage is something I would like to do when I meet someone I really want to be in my life forever and only if that person also thinks the same.
As an eldest daughter in a mallu fam I've never resonated with any actor or any even any fellow human being.. omg she's such a gem!! Thank you dhanya for hosting Aishu!!
Dhanya, I hope you take this as constructive feedback. You don’t need to follow trends when posting videos because your strength lies in your exceptional interviewing skills. People who admire your unique way of asking questions aren’t drawn to topics like why Aishwarya chose not to marry. They appreciate you for being authentic. You can simply stay true to yourself, thoughtfully caption your videos, and continue selecting guests who resonate with your style. Trust me, we love you for being who you are.
Only because of this interview I feel like watch your movie... Kure cuteness vari eriyand, thug parayand mannyam ayit Ula interview aanu pulikari mikkapolum kodukne
I think its bcz most of the viewers of this channel are people with depth, perspective..pinne local content ishtapedathavaranu...nammal clickbaitil veezhathavaranu..we automaticallh reach here..but ithu athra intellectual allatha..manasinu depth illatha aalkarilekum ethikan vendiyanu...So that they also view thiscontent.Let them know the value of such interviews..So athinulla oru clickbait marketing strategy aakam ithu..its just my perspective..bcz earlier i had the same feeling as yours..then I understood this might be the reason.
Nicely done interview. She is so right about parents trying to micro manage girls and they dont stop even after they get married. So it also affects their marriage by intruding into the couple's privacy and affecting the decisions the couple is supposed to take , so in turn affects the guys as well.
Got married still fighting to understand why woman has to take all the pressure.. even being married off to a very modern family many things are sorted at my place but still there is no equality ..the fact that the woman has to take a whole lot of responsibility needs to change... Thats startes from current generation who will make sure this should not be the norm..
It is the fact that the share of responsibilities is too much on the women deters girls from taking that step...if men were more of partners and equal stakeholders in running a household..then maybe
@@iamwithdhanyavarmasometimes even if the relationship starts off equally , many things are put off the window once you have a baby. Then the difference becomes jarring and almost too difficult to balance it out. Many factors including societal, social , physical etc make this difficult. For example - take the paltry paternity leave available which by default starts pushing more on the mother, and then it takes years for the balance to come back.
Men has to take major financial responsibility of a family.Moreover Women marry Men having higher salary position and financial status.They are more busier earns more and take part in house hold chores only when time permits.
@@Rin10809 You can't bring equality in everything.Whoever time permitting has to do house hold chores.Its not about who earns more.Generally Men have higher position job in a family and more busier.
Listening to so many people and out of personal experience as well, I think everyone has to take a therapy session atleast once. Not necessarily to fix or heal anything, but atleast to start appreciating ourselves. Dear Dhanya Maam, thank you for bringing up such insightful conversations.
I can understand her,when i was a child i had so many insecurities and it affected me as a person even now also sometimes iam facing..rightnow iam staying in banglore i feel lot of feedom in lot of ways....something is wrong with people in kerala i feel.
I can’t tell u how much this video has helped me..I feel I am not alone to feel this way..This video has made me a great admirer of you Aishwarya..lot of love to u
Happy to hear that you speaks about Psychotherapy in a very positive manner. As you said the willingness to seek help and understand what is happening itself is a very big quality. Thank you for creating awareness about mental health services. Go Ahead 👍🏻🥰
This patriotic marrige dilemma not only comes from the family but also even from the company and team you are working.. if you are elder one and unmarried, they started sideline you and treating, you are having some issues and behaving with the most empathetic manner, gradully mixing up with our professional outputs. They have a thougt process like, she is not marriage so doesnt have a family and responbility.
Thank you for speaking about abandonment issues, and Dhanya for highlighting how hard (and commendable) it is for someone with a tough background to stop tolerating poor behavior and to make an exit. All of us need to be aware of our behavior patterns and the reasons behind them so that we always come out the winner even if it's a bad experience while living it :) Great interview!
How come you bring out the most vulnerable side of every guest dhanyaa 😃.. i think most of the guests now consider your interviews as a therapy session.. mayb they feel safe opening up to you
I look forward to your conversation with Aishwarya!!! She is such a talented actress! Loved her in Gatta Kushti, Ammu, Archana 31 not out, Kumari, Kaanekaane, Varathan, Mayaanadhi, Vijay superum pournamiyum and PS 1 &2
So happy to listen to how you're navigating through life, maturely handling uour parents, choosing movies to inspire women to choose their own voice over anyone else's!
Such an amazing conversation. It's brilliant how well Aishwarya Lekshmi has articulated her thoughts without shying away from being vulnerable and how well she carries her awareness. And of course Dhanya asking the most beautiful questions.
I've seen her interview in Happiness project yrs ago, Now she have travelled a long way to b here... U continue to inspire, cherish & enables rethinking for people like me.. Luv u Aishu🩷💖💖... Thank u Dhanya ma'am for bringing her🙏✨
Iam honestly loved this interview. She is giving us something to understand and open our inner eyes and most of the time every kerala actress and interviewer discussing some masala topic but here i can relate i can understand and therapy is not a bad thing we are geting something good in this interview. I honestly love this and wow ❤aishwarya much love
Dear Dhanya, Aishwarya Lekshmi raised such an important point in the episode! Could you consider dedicating another discussion or even a full episode to the family pressure around marriage and the conflicts it creates? I can completely relate-being over 30 and unmarried has made my marriage my parents’ biggest concern. The constant friction is exhausting, and despite my efforts to communicate my perspective, bridging the gap feels impossible. I feel religion also plays a role in this. As family members grow more conservative and influenced by traditional ideologies, our generation is moving in a different direction-questioning and unlearning. This divergence creates a huge communication gap, and no matter how many meaningful discussions we watch online, these ideas rarely seem to reach or influence them. Dhanya, is there any way we can help our parents become more understanding and bridge this gap?
@@Aswathy-lr6bg That’s just a statement to justify generational trauma. Whatever the situation-childhood, adulthood, or being in a relationship-we all need to unlearn or change attitudes that might add stress to others. This isn’t about saying no one should get married. If someone wants to get married, let them do so. If not, at least be empathetic and avoid pressuring them. Let people willingly make their choices, whether it’s to embrace marriage or live differently. Moreover, discussions like these aim to address the flaws in the concept of marriage. In the Indian context, the concept of marriage, husband, or wife often carries inhumane elements, even though they’re treated as sacred or pure in our culture. Let’s unlearn and grow.
@@Aswathy-lr6bgNot everyone wants to be a parent. Most people in our country become parents out of societal pressure and nothing else! Such a poor country churning out children by the dozen.
Exactly.....I have good girl syndrome not only with parents but with the whole world .......I don't consider it to be good anymore 😊 I'm not out of it yet but trying to get things sorted..... Only people who underwent situations like this can relate how hard is it to get along with these in life 😢 I even thought that she was here to speak my story 😊😢
Until today, I used to always believe that she was a person who never had to struggle in life! Infact this assumption was made because of a vague memory of her interview in the past, where she herself admitted that she never had to struggle for any movies, everything was handed over to her, and she feels blessed!
Dhanya chechi I'm your big fan..and please take this as a suggestion..please don't make these types of captions just like any other third class online media..that doesn't match your style and class..
Love this video ❤❤❤ .. the way see said it , the way she express her feel and experience and what she struggled , i got her and I can feel her .. I see myself in her words .😊😇
(its a long post...sorry for that in advance) I am going to talk on behalf of Aishwarya Lekshmi (simply in her defence) and say that she isnt saying that her parents are bad as parents in anyway... She is just saying that she wishes she wasn't conditioned In a certain way. Its her outlook. Parents of late 80s and 90s kids "parented" them in the only way they know - parenting from 'their' parents. There is no manual for parenting even now. Maybe some books and advises for certain situations but its never all encompassing! But there is a lot of unprocessed trauma for these kids because of conditioning. Im sure even the parents have and of course even the kids born later. She is just saying about the ways she struggled. But one thing needs to be said out loud - the ones who actively started seeking therapy were/are millennials and we were often ridiculed and then later applauded for the same. So there is a reason for that - these people have no proper outlet to talk and of course these guys have money! So what I am trying to say is, its a very complex topic, deeply personal and judgements should probably be questioned. oh...(I also take therapy :-P)
Ningale interview fan aan njn.its because of your level of questions like pakkka standard and respectable aayttulla questions aan and ningal personal karyangal onnum kuthi chothikatha oru interviewer aan..pakshe..ipo ittta polthe captions pole idaand irikuu..mattuvalere pole cheyyandirikku..you have a your own style to interview a person...so,please keep that ..❤❤
😢I have always been a people pleaser. I still am. Probably after acting like this all my life, I don't really know what I truly want... Can relate to when Aishu says she's been trying to please parents... 🙏🏼
Aishu is my favorite actress,favorite personality ❤❤nice to see girls are speaking their heart out...nice interview Dhanya❤❤ ignore all the negative comments
There are only 2 people in the world who wud love u UNCONDITIONALLY - 1) Mother 2) Father May be sibling/s. U will realize it after their Death. Enjoy .
You can't be selfish. Up to certain age , girls need parents support for everything. Once they are financially independent, then whatever their parents say is rubbish for them. Only if you are in their position only, you will know the pain they suffer. It's sad to see that, the person who interviews her also supporting her in whatever she says.
Yea.... Me too.... She speaks as if parents have no rights on their children. Padippikkanum avarde chelavikal nadathanum mathran parents. That's what she is trying to portray
She always put captions (to attract audience)which necessarily not hurt society norms, no one had an issue… suddenly it touched family, everyone is jumping up with guns
Your viewers are really solid. People watch your interviews for the quality and the conversations u bring in to these interviews and even i could say people watch it becz its Dhanya Varma's interview. Its not abt the thumbnails So better dont get belittled urself by getting into all these so called nailbiting thumbnails. Hope u would give ur attention to this in future
Big fan of your shows! I wish your interviews came with subtitles! I talk so much about your shows to my non-malayali friends and it is sad I am unable to share the videos with them! ❤❤
No hard feelings. But Aishwarya has actually said she’ll get married, have kids, she even said she has her kids name in mind all this in a rekha menon interview 3 years ago.
People change right. Maybe she said all those things previously to fit into the societal norms. Maybe one day she will get married when she meets the right person. No hard feelings. That's how life is.
Happy married life aayi jeevikkunna aalkaar undenkil please reply. Or single aayi jeevichirunnel how it would’ve been ennu chindhikkunnavar undenkil athum. I’ve never seen a happy married couple in my life. All of them are accepted their fate, and adjusted their lives to that.
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Don’t get shock with her marriage reply ..She is representing a big majority of girls .. that’s the truth
Am glad that you liked the conversation
I am not shocked by her reply, she is probably delusional and has high standards for happiness/life. I'm rather surprised by your incorrect statement that less than 10% constitutes a majority. Actually, 90% of women between 25 and 60 are married. Just because people around you don’t want to do it doesn't mean that the national average reflects the same.
@iamwithdhanyavarma : the interview was terrible, and the captions were even worse. It's a perfect example of a bad interview that my students can refer to. Instead of empathizing with her viewpoint, why didn't you challenge her by asking if it's all in her head?
@mj-913 yes , bro they're trying to create a narrative
ക്യാപ്ഷൻ, നിങ്ങളുടെ നിലവാരം താഴേക്ക് പോകുന്നതിന്റെ ലക്ഷണം ആണ്, ms ധന്യ വർമ്മ
She is worse than Veena. But has an intellectual facade and gets away with her intrusive questions
@@ta4256ABSOLUTELY TRUE. INTELLECTUAL FACADE.
@@ta4256she has taken the criticisms in and changed the caption.. So she is being herself
Their channel,their caption, pls dont get worried 😂
@libsonteresa5695 and who are you?? Can you explain?? Why is ayalkoottam bothering you so much.. Have you been there in an ayalkoottam meeting to know what is happening?? And about Dhanya.. Interview is about knowing the other person and making an atmosphere which is comfortable for him or her to open up themselves... Yes, the caption she wrote was not liked by many of us and she took the criticism in the right sense and changed it... It is better to get inspired by someone rather than thinking that you are the ultimate...
Thank you so much for the interview.
Im a 25 yr old girl, just started to drown into this pit of pleasing my parents.
Im jobless with two MA's . Im in a stage were I'm wondering what am I going to do.
And all my parents care about is for me to get married, and I stopped interacting anything with them to avoid a conflict.
And now they are dissatisfied about me being silent.
There is nothing good happening, Im working hard to do something and find my way.
Right now I feel like I want to hide , away from my own parents.
Same here... But don't worry dear I believe that everything will workout eventually... Now work hard to achieve your dreams
May be get a job move to a new city with jobs take care
I feel you cause my situation is same like you . I don't know how to navigate things
Instead of working in a job marriage is a very good option, you will understand it after 40s
@@yahyanaz3695 I prefer to follow my dreams right now and move at least a step towards it than settling for something I'm not sure about, thinking that I may feel better in my 40s.
And marriage is something I would like to do when I meet someone I really want to be in my life forever and only if that person also thinks the same.
'Pleasing parents ' is a topic which not yet discussed in our society.
As an elder daughter this is an eye opener! I am "unlearning" a lot of things in my life. Thank you so much dhanya and aishu.❤
As an eldest daughter in a mallu fam I've never resonated with any actor or any even any fellow human being.. omg she's such a gem!! Thank you dhanya for hosting Aishu!!
Dhanya, I hope you take this as constructive feedback. You don’t need to follow trends when posting videos because your strength lies in your exceptional interviewing skills. People who admire your unique way of asking questions aren’t drawn to topics like why Aishwarya chose not to marry. They appreciate you for being authentic.
You can simply stay true to yourself, thoughtfully caption your videos, and continue selecting guests who resonate with your style. Trust me, we love you for being who you are.
I second that !
Well said...
Agree! Felt that too!
True...i like her way of presentation...for that reason i am watching her interviews... but it is sad that she is more concerned about the viewership
@@giftycv5280what was the earlier caption could you please tell
She has transformed into a different person , very inetresting to listen to her , see how honestly she shares her outlook ..
She was amazing..thanks.do share
Under that smile who thought there was this much suffocation 🥺 thank you for opening up..!!❤
Only because of this interview I feel like watch your movie... Kure cuteness vari eriyand, thug parayand mannyam ayit Ula interview aanu pulikari mikkapolum kodukne
Thug palarum venam enn vechu idunnathalla. Media kaaranam undavunnathaanu
Caption could have been changed
I also thought the same😬local channels clickbaitin idunapole
Ikkrrr
I think its bcz most of the viewers of this channel are people with depth, perspective..pinne local content ishtapedathavaranu...nammal clickbaitil veezhathavaranu..we automaticallh reach here..but ithu athra intellectual allatha..manasinu depth illatha aalkarilekum ethikan vendiyanu...So that they also view thiscontent.Let them know the value of such interviews..So athinulla oru clickbait marketing strategy aakam ithu..its just my perspective..bcz earlier i had the same feeling as yours..then I understood this might be the reason.
Exactly 👍🏻
Nasriay aiswarya lekshmiye kandupadikkanam
I feel her! We’re often so conditioned by society to believe that societal norms is what is our norms! And it’s such a hard one to break off from!
Me too hv the same perspective ... being single is better than to b married. My parents too are so caring that makes me feel so irritated sometimes.
I hear you
It feels like I’m talking….most of the women in their late 20s and early 30s could relate to each word she said
Vv true
Highly relatable😢
Sathyam 😮💨
Nasriay aiswarya lekshmiye kandupadikkanam
👍 True
She is very genuine….❤
Nicely done interview. She is so right about parents trying to micro manage girls and they dont stop even after they get married. So it also affects their marriage by intruding into the couple's privacy and affecting the decisions the couple is supposed to take , so in turn affects the guys as well.
Marriage gives pleasure to a man
And
Pressure to a woman..
So..escape.....
Exactly correct 💯
Equally or more pressure to men also (responsible men)
Really 👍
😂😂
@@mpaul8794 it's exactly the opposite nowadays
Got married still fighting to understand why woman has to take all the pressure.. even being married off to a very modern family many things are sorted at my place but still there is no equality ..the fact that the woman has to take a whole lot of responsibility needs to change... Thats startes from current generation who will make sure this should not be the norm..
It is the fact that the share of responsibilities is too much on the women deters girls from taking that step...if men were more of partners and equal stakeholders in running a household..then maybe
@@iamwithdhanyavarmasometimes even if the relationship starts off equally , many things are put off the window once you have a baby. Then the difference becomes jarring and almost too difficult to balance it out. Many factors including societal, social , physical etc make this difficult. For example - take the paltry paternity leave available which by default starts pushing more on the mother, and then it takes years for the balance to come back.
Men has to take major financial responsibility of a family.Moreover Women marry Men having higher salary position and financial status.They are more busier earns more and take part in house hold chores only when time permits.
@@aneeshkk2141, there are womens who is getting more pay than men but still she only have to take care house chores, kids etc
@@Rin10809 You can't bring equality in everything.Whoever time permitting has to do house hold chores.Its not about who earns more.Generally Men have higher position job in a family and more busier.
Listening to so many people and out of personal experience as well, I think everyone has to take a therapy session atleast once. Not necessarily to fix or heal anything, but atleast to start appreciating ourselves. Dear Dhanya Maam, thank you for bringing up such insightful conversations.
Thanks for your support..pls do share
From where to seek therapy
@@Rasha-d6l psychologists
I can understand her,when i was a child i had so many insecurities and it affected me as a person even now also sometimes iam facing..rightnow iam staying in banglore i feel lot of feedom in lot of ways....something is wrong with people in kerala i feel.
Me too in Blore 😂
@mayflower1139 yeah gud to hear. hope u also felt same ,right?
I can’t tell u how much this video has helped me..I feel I am not alone to feel this way..This video has made me a great admirer of you Aishwarya..lot of love to u
Happy to hear that you speaks about Psychotherapy in a very positive manner. As you said the willingness to seek help and understand what is happening itself is a very big quality. Thank you for creating awareness about mental health services. Go Ahead 👍🏻🥰
Being a single girl child, I can totally relate her..
True
This patriotic marrige dilemma not only comes from the family but also even from the company and team you are working.. if you are elder one and unmarried, they started sideline you and treating, you are having some issues and behaving with the most empathetic manner, gradully mixing up with our professional outputs. They have a thougt process like, she is not marriage so doesnt have a family and responbility.
True
For real
Let me say it’s the same for us too.whether we are single or have siblings it doesn’t matter.trust me.i can relate to her😅
Not a fan of her acting , but this interview was beautiful! ❤❤❤❤
Favourite person and beautiful epidode. Thank you Dhanya maam for this beautiful talk with aishu. ❤😊
My pleasure 😊
Thank you for speaking about abandonment issues, and Dhanya for highlighting how hard (and commendable) it is for someone with a tough background to stop tolerating poor behavior and to make an exit. All of us need to be aware of our behavior patterns and the reasons behind them so that we always come out the winner even if it's a bad experience while living it :)
Great interview!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts...pls do share and support
Chechi can you please take an interview of Indhu Rebecca wife of Major Mukund
Yes please!
Yes
❤❤❤❤
I was going to put it here. Dhanya chechi, u being a naval wife and me in the same shoes, I eagerly look forward to listening to Indu 😘😘😘
Correct request ❤
She spoke so genuinely..
Aishu your friends know you more than your parents. You don't need your parents approval for that. Hard boundaries is what you need with your parents!
Here to see how much she has evolved since the last interview❤. Most awaited.
I am already crying within 5 minutes of this interview...I get you aishu..
Such an understanding of oneself, and the way she articulates her thoughts... Wow!
How come you bring out the most vulnerable side of every guest dhanyaa 😃.. i think most of the guests now consider your interviews as a therapy session.. mayb they feel safe opening up to you
It takes a lot of courage to speak about it. Sending you warm hugs ❤
Looking into her eyes, I can see the transformation ... Keep growing ❤❤❤
Feels like my life is explained by aiswariya.... Great effort by 'i am with dhanya varma'...
Thank you so much..do share the video
I look forward to your conversation with Aishwarya!!! She is such a talented actress!
Loved her in Gatta Kushti, Ammu, Archana 31 not out, Kumari, Kaanekaane, Varathan, Mayaanadhi, Vijay superum pournamiyum and PS 1 &2
Thanks so much
She has never encountered a genuinely good guy, and I can see the pain in her eyes.
So happy to listen to how you're navigating through life, maturely handling uour parents, choosing movies to inspire women to choose their own voice over anyone else's!
Pls do share and support
Wow ..Aishu ,my fav ❤thanks for having her,here..now let me watch this
Pls do..n share if you like it
Sure Dhanya
Such an amazing conversation. It's brilliant how well Aishwarya Lekshmi has articulated her thoughts without shying away from being vulnerable and how well she carries her awareness. And of course Dhanya asking the most beautiful questions.
Nalloru caption idayrunu... Nice interview☺️
I can relate to a lot on what she is saying. Such a open and strong person ❤💫
She is so genuine. Big fan of her. Thank you for inviting her🥰🥰
Thanks ..pls watch and share
Great discussion! It’s so clear that she’s been in therapy seeing the awareness she has. Hope everyone gets a chance to get help from therapy .
Caption, is to the point.
...spoke about a very imp issue, Thanks Dhanya and Aish❤
So beautifully articulated aishwarya! Can't agree more
I've seen her interview in Happiness project yrs ago, Now she have travelled a long way to b here... U continue to inspire, cherish & enables rethinking for people like me.. Luv u Aishu🩷💖💖... Thank u Dhanya ma'am for bringing her🙏✨
❤❤Thanks Dhanya.. was waiting for it.
Thanks pls share
Oh i was made to feel old and past my prime at 22 and all the pressure from all quarters made me succumb and got married....story of many..
Woah. 22 !
Same here but at 27 and i am a man.
Nice episode ♥️ pls bring khalid rahman
Iam honestly loved this interview. She is giving us something to understand and open our inner eyes and most of the time every kerala actress and interviewer discussing some masala topic but here i can relate i can understand and therapy is not a bad thing we are geting something good in this interview. I honestly love this and wow ❤aishwarya much love
Dear Dhanya,
Aishwarya Lekshmi raised such an important point in the episode! Could you consider dedicating another discussion or even a full episode to the family pressure around marriage and the conflicts it creates?
I can completely relate-being over 30 and unmarried has made my marriage my parents’ biggest concern. The constant friction is exhausting, and despite my efforts to communicate my perspective, bridging the gap feels impossible.
I feel religion also plays a role in this. As family members grow more conservative and influenced by traditional ideologies, our generation is moving in a different direction-questioning and unlearning. This divergence creates a huge communication gap, and no matter how many meaningful discussions we watch online, these ideas rarely seem to reach or influence them.
Dhanya, is there any way we can help our parents become more understanding and bridge this gap?
When you become a parent, you will understand 😊
Will take up the subject in in focus
@@Aswathy-lr6bg That’s just a statement to justify generational trauma. Whatever the situation-childhood, adulthood, or being in a relationship-we all need to unlearn or change attitudes that might add stress to others. This isn’t about saying no one should get married. If someone wants to get married, let them do so. If not, at least be empathetic and avoid pressuring them. Let people willingly make their choices, whether it’s to embrace marriage or live differently.
Moreover, discussions like these aim to address the flaws in the concept of marriage. In the Indian context, the concept of marriage, husband, or wife often carries inhumane elements, even though they’re treated as sacred or pure in our culture. Let’s unlearn and grow.
@@Aswathy-lr6bgNot everyone wants to be a parent. Most people in our country become parents out of societal pressure and nothing else! Such a poor country churning out children by the dozen.
@@user-yk5lv8iw8xWhat you said was so true... parenting is challenging now.Its like how hard you try still doubtful about your efforts.
Exactly.....I have good girl syndrome not only with parents but with the whole world .......I don't consider it to be good anymore 😊
I'm not out of it yet but trying to get things sorted.....
Only people who underwent situations like this can relate how hard is it to get along with these in life 😢
I even thought that she was here to speak my story 😊😢
Liked the term "good girl syndrome" , needs to get out of this :)
Relatable af
I was once a people pleaser
Not anymore😊
A truly soulful and genuine conversation! Loved every bit of it
Parents should also get therapy to understand this girl!!
these new gen actors GOD alone knows what they eat to say stupid things....yukkkk
Sathym 😢
Such a genuine interview!❤
Interesting❤Aishu speaking good and Maam also
Caption is misleading
I could relate sooooo well to what she said about pleasing parents. I am still struggling to break free from it!
She has a point and I am glad she is sticking to her opinion about every aspect of life.
Until today, I used to always believe that she was a person who never had to struggle in life!
Infact this assumption was made because of a vague memory of her interview in the past, where she herself admitted that she never had to struggle for any movies, everything was handed over to her, and she feels blessed!
Dhanya chechi I'm your big fan..and please take this as a suggestion..please don't make these types of captions just like any other third class online media..that doesn't match your style and class..
Love this video ❤❤❤ .. the way see said it , the way she express her feel and experience and what she struggled , i got her and I can feel her .. I see myself in her words .😊😇
(its a long post...sorry for that in advance) I am going to talk on behalf of Aishwarya Lekshmi (simply in her defence) and say that she isnt saying that her parents are bad as parents in anyway... She is just saying that she wishes she wasn't conditioned In a certain way. Its her outlook. Parents of late 80s and 90s kids "parented" them in the only way they know - parenting from 'their' parents. There is no manual for parenting even now. Maybe some books and advises for certain situations but its never all encompassing! But there is a lot of unprocessed trauma for these kids because of conditioning. Im sure even the parents have and of course even the kids born later. She is just saying about the ways she struggled. But one thing needs to be said out loud - the ones who actively started seeking therapy were/are millennials and we were often ridiculed and then later applauded for the same. So there is a reason for that - these people have no proper outlet to talk and of course these guys have money! So what I am trying to say is, its a very complex topic, deeply personal and judgements should probably be questioned. oh...(I also take therapy :-P)
Caption change cheyu chechi, maintain the quality. U r not the regular interviewer or typical channel choose such titles. Pls.
Dhanya... Beautiful interview❤️
Ningale interview fan aan njn.its because of your level of questions like pakkka standard and respectable aayttulla questions aan and ningal personal karyangal onnum kuthi chothikatha oru interviewer aan..pakshe..ipo ittta polthe captions pole idaand irikuu..mattuvalere pole cheyyandirikku..you have a your own style to interview a person...so,please keep that ..❤❤
Can resonate to her thought process.. ❤👍🏽
*aishu fans like😻*
😢I have always been a people pleaser. I still am. Probably after acting like this all my life, I don't really know what I truly want... Can relate to when Aishu says she's been trying to please parents... 🙏🏼
She is very wise! What a great vocabulary she holds 💖
I can totally relate to her 💖 I'm 28 nte parents same anu daily kalyanam kalyanm
Very relatable and she seems so genuinely
Aishu is my favorite actress,favorite personality ❤❤nice to see girls are speaking their heart out...nice interview Dhanya❤❤ ignore all the negative comments
There are only 2 people in the world who wud love u UNCONDITIONALLY -
1) Mother
2) Father
May be sibling/s.
U will realize it after their Death.
Enjoy .
Maam me too felt the caption is appropriate
Now she chNged the caption .. earlier it was different ..
You can't be selfish. Up to certain age , girls need parents support for everything. Once they are financially independent, then whatever their parents say is rubbish for them. Only if you are in their position only, you will know the pain they suffer. It's sad to see that, the person who interviews her also supporting her in whatever she says.
Every relationship evolves once you become an adult that's what she is trying to say
Watching your interview gives me positive energy...keep going..❤❤
I am not able to understand the traumatic experience that is being referred to. Can anyone help me here?
Yea.... Me too.... She speaks as if parents have no rights on their children. Padippikkanum avarde chelavikal nadathanum mathran parents. That's what she is trying to portray
Nice interview...
This is so relatable 🙌
Pleasing parents nice but getting married makes your parents happy. Find a person who can understand you very well and get married.
She always put captions (to attract audience)which necessarily not hurt society norms, no one had an issue… suddenly it touched family, everyone is jumping up with guns
So true. I was about to write that comment. It tells a lot about how regressive Malaya li's are.
Shes talking very beautifully❤
I can relate my amma and her life .But now trying step out
We can't say parents ..because they lived n those 80 s70 a era
Your viewers are really solid. People watch your interviews for the quality and the conversations u bring in to these interviews and even i could say people watch it becz its Dhanya Varma's interview. Its not abt the thumbnails
So better dont get belittled urself by getting into all these so called nailbiting thumbnails. Hope u would give ur attention to this in future
Dhanya,Please bring someone to talk about men's mental health.
Awesome dhanyavaad.... More power to you... Awesome guest....
Thanks a ton
Do we really need that caption?! Or could be that I had a false notion about the channel
I can relate very much to her and being a doctor too ..
Big fan of your shows! I wish your interviews came with subtitles! I talk so much about your shows to my non-malayali friends and it is sad I am unable to share the videos with them! ❤❤
No hard feelings. But Aishwarya has actually said she’ll get married, have kids, she even said she has her kids name in mind all this in a rekha menon interview 3 years ago.
People change right.
Maybe she said all those things previously to fit into the societal norms.
Maybe one day she will get married when she meets the right person.
No hard feelings. That's how life is.
@ We get that, but in this, she told ‘she never said i wanna get married in any interview’ in 14:23
Was that needed like a lie?
People change n 25 yrs same ..
But seeing broken marriage among my cousins or relatives...I don't want
People change 😊
yes.... she said....she had that kinda of dreams as that was put on her head since she was a child
Eagerly waiting for the 2 nd part
Suggestion - Please include topics she discussed in video like during podcasts so more organised
Eagerly waiting for the next part❤
Wednesday
എത്ര പാട് പെട്ടു ഒരു ഇന്റർവ്യൂ, നല്ല മലയാളം പരാജൽ എത്ര ഈസി ആയിരിക്കും, trying so hard to speak in english
Happy married life aayi jeevikkunna aalkaar undenkil please reply.
Or single aayi jeevichirunnel how it would’ve been ennu chindhikkunnavar undenkil athum.
I’ve never seen a happy married couple in my life. All of them are accepted their fate, and adjusted their lives to that.
An open talk with Aishwarya lakshmi enno, some insights into Aishwarya's life
Enno vellom caption ittirunenkil kurachenkilum standard ayene. Ithu oru mathiri manja pathram news pole ayille ??