Should I Adopt Siblings? | An Honest Look at Adopting Siblings from Foster Care

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  • Опубліковано 23 гру 2024

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  • @adoptinformed
    @adoptinformed  2 роки тому +1

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  • @riah4320
    @riah4320 2 роки тому +30

    I believe siblings should be kept together. Siblings are the only constant that they have in life. I was adopted with my sister and she was always my constant.

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  2 роки тому +5

      That’s so great that you and your sister were able to stay together ❤️

    • @malayaanderson8222
      @malayaanderson8222 Рік тому +3

      I agree, it’s just not always a possibility.
      A lot of foster & adoptive homes can’t take on multiple children at once.

    • @junbh2
      @junbh2 Рік тому +5

      There are situations where it might make sense to separate them. Like, if one is abusing the other (which sometimes happens with children who spent time in an abusive home). Or if they have never actually met, e.g. if one was already in foster care for a couple years and about to be adopted by their foster parents, who they already know and love, should the adoption be cancelled if a new sibling is born and the adoptive parents aren't able to adopt it? Or some kids have six half siblings on their mother's side and six half siblings on their fathers side, and may barely know most of them. It's different if they have grown up together and love each other and have a close relationship. But I think the relationship they have is more important than the genes.

  • @siearrawebb7048
    @siearrawebb7048 Рік тому +1

    Im the oldest and I was separated from my two brothers and me and my sister was placed with a foster family. It was hard to adjust but we had visitations and sleep overs. Knowing that they weren't completely alone helped a lot.

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  Рік тому

      I’m glad you were still able to have visits and sleepovers! It would be so hard to be separated from your siblings ❤️

  • @willow4983
    @willow4983 3 роки тому +14

    The amount of information you give is amazing and so helpful. It really sparks a lot of thought that I may not have arrived at on my own or until it happened. Don’t stop doing these videos! I will watch every single one 😆

  • @shibolinemress8913
    @shibolinemress8913 2 роки тому +2

    Hi there! Even though this came out a year ago, I want to thank you for already touching on some of the things I asked a few days ago about children parenting younger siblings. I'm looking forward to a future video on that!
    After reading your reply I started thinking about my paternal grandmother. She was born in 1900. She came from a very large family where she had to take care of chores and younger siblings as soon as she was able. She told me that from the time she was 12 she was like a mother to her youngest siblings. Several of her brothers fought and died in WW1. She married young and had 8 children of her own. The first died as a baby, but 7 (5 boys and 2 girls) lived. Her husband died fairly young and after that she raised all those kids on her own, never marrying again. Of course the church and community all helped out, otherwise I don't know how they would have made it, especially through the Depression. My dad was boy #4, and he often jokingly likened it to being a younger cub in a wolf pack, but really all the brothers were thick as thieves and would do anything for each other. His 3 older brothers fought in WW2, but mercifully none were seriously injured. Dad joined the Air Force in the 1950's and barely escaped getting sent to fight in Korea, instead going to occupied Germany, for which my brother and I will be forever grateful because if he'd died in Korea we obviously wouldn't be here! 😊
    I guess all that's to say that for most of history, children working and raising siblings was sadly quite common. The fact that it's different in many countries today is a wonderful blessing, which I'm so glad to see you passing on to your kids! I hope you didn't mind hearing a bit of my family history. My grandparents and parents have all passed on, but I'm glad I can reflect on what I know of their lives and appreciate all that they went through.
    Thanks again for a wonderful video!

  • @AshMae264
    @AshMae264 10 місяців тому +3

    My wish since i was very young like preteen was to be a foster/adoption parent. ❤ one of my 5 siblings that had been placed in foster care had the best foster parents and I loved them to death. They showed me the live my parents wouldnt give me. ❤ i want to do that some day its my goal to be a parent to children that deserve healthy parents and love ❤ 🎉🎉 children are definitely the soul of our world. ❤ they deserve to be happy and have someone to understand what they are feeling is true feelings and not something scary. & siblings should never be split apart unless its a case where they absolutely need to be.

    • @NovasYouTubeName
      @NovasYouTubeName 2 місяці тому +1

      Love this! I’m so glad you had great foster parents and will one day be one yourself!!

  • @allthingsbethie
    @allthingsbethie 3 роки тому +4

    We are almost done with our homestudy and we are looking for siblings. For all the reasons you state, and also because we think having siblings is enriching for the children too.

  • @annarocha3254
    @annarocha3254 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much for making these videos. My husband and I have been planning on adopting siblings for years, and your experience is an invaluable resource!

  • @river648
    @river648 3 роки тому +5

    I could only ever see myself adopting siblings. I don’t know if I could ever adopt just one child unless I had other kids already.

  • @whealton23
    @whealton23 2 роки тому +3

    Can you do a video about what your kids call you? Do they call you mom and dad right from the beginning…or how to you get to that? Also, how do you incorporate adopted children into things that would be “normal” with birth children, but might be awkward with adopted children…such as snuggles in bed or nudity?

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  2 роки тому +3

      I will definitely put this topic on my list of video ideas!

  • @katherinemurg7080
    @katherinemurg7080 3 роки тому +7

    We are considering becoming foster parents. Your videos are invaluable. Thank you.

  • @kwall1464
    @kwall1464 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks! My husband and I are on this path, really appreciate your insight!

  • @malayaanderson8222
    @malayaanderson8222 Рік тому +1

    I don’t think I can adopt multiple kids at once, but I wouldn’t separate a sibling group 😢.
    I just know a lot of sibling groups do in foster care & in adoption, a lot of people can’t add multiple kids at once, especially if it’s a large sibling group.

  • @Creators_Paradise1214
    @Creators_Paradise1214 3 роки тому +7

    I love your channel. I’m a foster parent who wants to adopt siblings. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  • @lindsaybrady6406
    @lindsaybrady6406 3 роки тому +2

    We need to talk I am going through a lot of this .

  • @ashleyhunter9140
    @ashleyhunter9140 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for all your videos! This was really helpful for us. We’re considering foster to adoption and appreciate your honest observations!

  • @Lovescats-dx4bo
    @Lovescats-dx4bo Рік тому +1

    Me and my big brother when adopted together

  • @ayalonhalliwellphoenix7941
    @ayalonhalliwellphoenix7941 3 роки тому +10

    I'm planning to be a single adoptive parent. Would you recommend siblings in my case? I come from a big family and know the importance of siblings but at the same time I'm worried to take more than I can chew. Any tips? 😧

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  3 роки тому +3

      I don’t think there’s any reason you can’t take siblings. If I were single, I personally wouldn’t take on more than 2 just because I’d find it stressful, but you have to evaluate yourself and think about what you can handle! You may want to consider doing respite care for a while and see how you like it. That can be a great way to test the waters and see what ages and number of children you can handle well.

  • @LaborofLovesHomestead
    @LaborofLovesHomestead Рік тому +1

    If you have the max kids in your home that your state allows and the siblings you adopted end up with a baby sibling who needs placement will they make exceptions to keep them together or no? Texas “only” allows six kids whether bio or adopted.

  • @visi7891
    @visi7891 Рік тому

    why are some foster/adoptive kids not able to be placed into a family who already have other younger children in the home?

  • @MarieRhondelle
    @MarieRhondelle 3 роки тому +2

    Very interesting. Great information!

  • @christinehoffman1825
    @christinehoffman1825 3 роки тому +3

    Great video. Thank you 😊

  • @78CanJam
    @78CanJam 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks for the insight :)

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  3 роки тому

      No problem 😁

    • @candacejamiesonbarr1445
      @candacejamiesonbarr1445 3 роки тому

      Our process has not been a quick one. I followed your advice and had the book ready for our future sibling group. They were receptive and we are meeting them next week 🤞🏼

  • @gudson98
    @gudson98 3 роки тому +3

    Is there anything you looked into or read (or wish you had) before adopting?
    (also thank you for your content, so helpful!)

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  3 роки тому +3

      I will probably make a video about this sometime, but one book off the top of my head is “Telling the Truth to Your Adoptive or Foster Child.” I found that book so helpful in knowing how to talk to kids about their backgrounds in an age appropriate way!

  • @momma.jess_
    @momma.jess_ 3 роки тому +2

    love your channel!

  • @brendabrown7517
    @brendabrown7517 3 роки тому +3

    Love your channel ❤️

  • @rhess10
    @rhess10 2 роки тому +2

    Do you think the siblings could double team a parent and rebel?

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  2 роки тому +6

      I mean, I suppose any kids could do that, but I’ve never heard of it happening. The biggest issue we dealt with was the older sibling always trying to parent the younger.

  • @Adulting.exe23
    @Adulting.exe23 Рік тому +1

    I am currently helping my sister care for her three kids while she is in nursing school. I am very interested in adopting a sibling pair in the future. Im only 23 so I am not financially in a place where I can become a parent yet. I have thought about doing foster care first before going for adoption. Do you think that would be a smart decision?

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  Рік тому

      I think it could be good to have some experience fostering first! You could also be a respite caregiver, which is when you would have kids in your home for shorter stays!

    • @Adulting.exe23
      @Adulting.exe23 Рік тому

      That's what I was thinking of doing. Love your content @@adoptinformed

  • @Lovescats-dx4bo
    @Lovescats-dx4bo 2 роки тому

    Me and my big brother are Logical siblings

  • @dinayansane7524
    @dinayansane7524 2 роки тому

    Do you recommend adopting as single parent with part time Nanny

    • @adoptinformed
      @adoptinformed  2 роки тому +2

      Adopting as a single person is definitely possible! Having the help of a nanny would be great.

  • @ILovecats564
    @ILovecats564 Рік тому