Okay I’m watching this at 6 weeks along.. and I know my hormones are wack cause at the end when you said “I hope this helps you mom” I literally teared up 🥹 I’m gonna be a momma you guys! ❤ Still feels so unreal. Congrats to all the new moms and mommas to be!
Momma of MANY here! Amen to the burp cloths and baby bath tub. After using them for awhile with our first, I learned quickly that “receiving blankets” make the best burp cloths. They are just a great multi-purpose item! I ditched the clunky always in the way baby tub for the simple, cute bear sponge bath tub pad things for all my babies. Like the towel idea, I laid it in a just enough warm water to keep my washcloths wet and the baby to kick their feet in. It was so easy to drain the tub, squeeze out the water from the bath sponge mat, lean it against the tub or ledge and let it air dry. ❤ I’m a 55 year old momma of 11, and have been a foster momma to many! Our children are currently aged 13-26 and we have 6 grandchildren so far! I relished and adored all the baby stages! It’s so special! ❤ Psalm 127, II Corinthians 9:8, and Ephesians 3:14-21 blessings to you and your family! I am so thankful for your channel, sis! I enjoy it very much! 😊
I hate the bath tubs and burp cloths so much too lol. The bath tub doesn't feel safe for a newborn and mine didn't like them then when they're able to sit up they don't want to be in it anyways. I just bathe them in the sink after watching my mom do it for years, its easier on the back too lol. The burp cloths weren't very absorbant but my kids were super spitters so I got high quality cloth diapers and used them instead. All the burp cloths I was given actually just are rags in my kitchen to clean things up now, they're too small and don't absorb well for spit up but work ok to scrub the stove or something lol. Wanted to say good on you for adopting 11 though, my husband was one of 12 his single dad adopted too and can't imagine the experience that comes with that lol! Makes me feel like I had a small family even though my parents had 5 kids and a home daycare lol.
Wow you are so amazing ❤ children are so wonderful and truly a blessing. I’m one of 6 and my parents are 65 with almost 17 grandchildren and way more to come! The joy they have is insane. I’m on my 3rd baby and want as many as God wills. All my siblings have their children too except my last little brother in college. Praise God 😊
In Norway the (public, we don't have any private) midwifes encourage to bite the babys nails, so it´s totally normal! The jumper (if it's the one where the baby uses its feet to bounce on the floor) is forbidden, because it can cause problems with the hips (when grown up - my husband has that...). We didn't use pacifiers for our daughter and didn't have a nursery (nobody does over here, the baby usually sleeps in the parents bedroom until turning one year old. And that was even before I became a minimalists! Even though I'm not the audience for this video, I love that you share, because there are so much unnecessary things made for babies (just to earn money).
@@rebekahsummers4953 The same! And in Norway we have 49 weeks full paid leave (some people from other countries think it's not true). The mother usually takes out the most, but the father must take min. 15 weeks (or they are lost). (It was 12 weeks ten years ago.) And birth at the hospital is all free.
I have five who are now teens or tweens. My advice on the pacifier is to follow your child’s instincts about it. I had one child who used a pacifier constantly and some who just weren’t interested at all. I think it just depends on your individual child and what they need. And be open to changing your mind. It’s okay if you think you don’t want to use one and end up doing it because it just isn’t possible to have a constantly nursing baby with two other small children who also need your care. That’s not a failure. It’s just changing your mind. I was so hard on myself about things like that, thinking I “failed” if something didn’t go the way I planned. That’s my biggest piece of advice for new moms: be open to doing it differently than you expected. That also applies to accepting help from dad and other family members who don’t do things the way you might. Different doesn’t mean it’s wrong. As long as baby is healthy and fed and cared for, it all turns out just fine.
I'm one of five and my mom said with the paci, every other kid took it from the younger siblings with the way we were spaced lol(my brother was first then me 18 months later, he took mine so I didn't use it, 5 years later my sister was born and 2 years after my next sister who got her pacis stolen too, then 5 years later my youngest sister had hers to herself lol). My kids haven't taken to pacis so far, I appreciate it because it's one less thing to clean but didn't care if they used it either way because it's soothing for some babies so id just have delt with washing it if they liked it just like the bottles or anything else. Not something worth driving yourself nuts on, most kids give them up pretty early on anyways and nobody's packing a paci on their way to kindergarten lol.
Love all your thoughts! I was anti swaddle and tried without it for months but after enough sleepless nights we finally broke down and used one for my baby and she slept so much better! I think it all depends on the child just like how weighted blankets help many people but not all! :) I'm praying everything goes super well with this sweet baby! ❤
Great list! I’m expecting #6 early October and I’m determined to make it the most simple newborn/baby phase yet. There is just SO much stuff marketed to moms that we don’t need.
Yes! I'm expecting baby #5 and I 100% agree with using muslin swaddle for everything and absolutely no snaps. None of my babies have used a pacifier and I plan on doing the same with this babe. It helps me to address the actual reason the baby is crying (hungry, tired, diaper, digestion)
I love this! I’m not even a mom but I just enjoy your insight so much and it’s so wise and gives me such a relief thinking about how much they DONT need! Less energy spent researching and purchasing, less funds spent, less clutter like win win win!! More time living simply and in love 💓
5:36 we use cloth diapers because they're nontoxic and we also don't have to worry about running out of diapers. I know it's not for everyone but I absolutely love using cloth it's also way more cost effective
Haha I just wrote the same thing! We love cloth diapers too. We did it with our first. It’s so much more cost effective and much better for the environment too. Later on, I ended up doing the same for myself and I use a cup and period panties. Saves so much money!
@@umiluv yes!! We're currently doing it with our first and will do it with our second when she gets here in October. And yes I'm slowly switching to cloth pads for me too, I have enough of a stash for a regular cycle but need to get my postpartum set up together
I love videos like this. The pressure mamas feel is huge. Ive thought "idk if i can have more kids because we only have a two bedroom apartment" so your words here comforted me.
"I am the baby's greatest asset." Ohhh how I love that. I'm expecting and I just watched Lana's video which lead to this one. You guys are an asset to mommy's watching.
This is great timing for this video! Preparing for our first baby in November and making a registry can be overwhelming. Just not knowing what we actually need or don’t need!
I loved this video. Since I’ve got pregnant, I don’t know what it is but all I want to do is declutter and live a more minimalist lifestyle. I’ve had a random realization that I just don’t need a lot. It’s too much.
I’m a mama x3 and I love most of your advice on here! Muslin blankets also make great bath towels since they are so absorbent! I wish I had an adult size one because they dry so quickly. My best minimalist advice is to wait to buy anything until you need it. Every one of my three kids had different difficulties and different needs. Since we can get almost anything to our fingertips within a couple days, it’s best to wait, and buy something when you need it. I went super minimalist with my third baby and it was so much less stressful because there was not a lot of excess!❤
I don’t have babies, but my mother used to babysit a lot and she kept a stash of those double-layered muslin cloths. I took a few of these in my new home and have been using them as hand towels ever since. They are even gentle enough to be used on my face, and absorbent enough for sponging wet hair. They dry fast and don’t pill… they’re also less bulky than sponge towels, so easier to store away. Amen for adult-sized ones as well!
The nail thing did get me but do you girl. I’m nobody to judge. On the other hand I found this video extremely helpful and soothing as a first time mama. Sending love! ❤
I am a first time Mom to an almost 6 month old and his nails grow SO fast! An older lady at Church told me she used to bite all her babies nails and it’s been a game changer for me. I do it while he nurses and he even finds it funny! I don’t think it’s weird at all and no possibility to cut their little fingers!
I cut down clutter of a baby bath tub with my third baby by just bathing with my baby lol. I would just carry them into the tub with me and hold them and clean them. It was so special and such an added bonding experience with my baby 🥰 I also bit my newborns’ nails myself too! So much easier and also safer because I could feel with my mouth where to bite off and what would hurt them.
As a mom of 3, this is excellent advice. Wisdom I wish I had learned sooner than I did 😅 Less is better with the approaching full season of adjusting to a new family member & rhythm. Babies don’t need much & from recent experience, actually turn out more resilient & i’d dare say, more emotionally intelligent without all ‘the stuff’. Good job mom!
love this video so much as someone pregnant with first time baby!!! would you consider doing a video no what you WOULD buy? trying to come up with a minimal list and so overwhelmed by the sleep stuff (swaddle vs sleep sack?!)
My son hated the pacifier I just made sure I had toys and the chewer toys they can hold in their hands. He slept through the night so fast 6-8wks because he self soothes. That chiropractor was correct, floor time is the most valuable thing in development.
You are the only mom that’s given such smart advice about the nails! Personally I don’t think I’ll bite them as I don’t tend to bite my own, but some do and that’s such a smart tip for those who might want to try it and save $$
We loved the blooming bath for bathing baby in the sink and it’s easy to store flat and wash too! There’s also a puj baby bath that’s foldable. We used our baby bath as a seat outside and all around the house, so I liked that it had dual purpose☺️
i am getting that I also have a bulky bath and I do use it for when I take a shower and my 15 month follows me in there. I just sit him in the tub lol..As for newborns though I like the sink bloomer I think its helpful
I didn’t use a baby bath tub with my second and it was honestly so much easier without that thing. I also didn’t use a lot of the baby gear everyone says you need. Car seat/stroller, snuggle me, sound machine, diapers, onesies and zipper sleepers are about all I used. It’s so freeing!!
Looooved this!! I was given SO much as a first-time mom (thankful so many people wanted to shower us with love, but it was too much 😂), and with our second, I had so little and THRIVED. Planning to have even less with #3 😁
Loved this video! Get baby used to a pacifier but don’t give it to them all the time! Use it for when you’re out and about or on vacation. Don’t let them become dependent on it. Did this with my baby and was SO easy to wean off around his 1st birthday. He never was dependent on it, but still loved it.
Yessssss to ALL of this!!! 💯 👏 I absolutely agree that a new mama doesn't need all of these things. Companies profit on so many things to separate mama and baby and make money from items being sold that are unnecessary. Have you ever been told that your voice is very calming?? I'm wondering if you can make a video on dealing with and overcoming anxiety and fear on having more children?? I do not have my mother to help me and my in laws refuse to. I have NO "village" and my energy is depleted from nursing for 1.5 years and I'm so scared. Please help with any advice, I'd loooove to hear your personal opinion and perspective, from Bible verses to your own life experiences.
Love where you put the artwork! Also two nursing bras was plenty for me. I used a blanket to swaddle and swaddled shoulders down with arms free. Worked so well. When baby could wriggle it down I used an armless sleep bag around 4months old till nearly a year.
The Wipe warmer might not be for everyone but it was a necessity for us. With a baby born in November and living where the temp frequently drops below 20°F during the winter months, it was just needed.
We live somewhere where it drops to -20F and didn’t use a wipe warmer 😅 Literally did not know they existed lol. We occasionally just held the wipe between our hands for a moment to warm it up, but honestly our baby just got used to cold wipes. I’m sure your baby was comfier though!
So right- I had 2, my sister had 6 and my daughter had 5. Our combined knowledge agrees with your advice. Baby bathing is just easier and the right height at the kitchen sink. All of us had cloth diapers for cost savings and fear of running out of disposables without funds for more. We all also used the disposable ones but cloth got all of us through the hard times economically. Wet facecloths work well instead of wipes.
Yes to all of this!! We have a baby bath but I have a hole to store it in and we didn't buy it but that's only because I have decluttered but yes to the cloth! I love cloth and I also use little washcloths as baby wipes with a spray bottle that has water and a little soap that simple
I bought all of the trendy things and the only thing I really used and liked was a good baby bouncer / swing ! Never used any of the baby containers /jumpers /walkers . We had a tummy time mat and upgraded to a play pen when he started to crawl ! The only things you NEED are : diapers, wipes, car seat , a couple onesies/sleepers depending on weather and a safe place to put baby down for a bit like a pack n play, bassinet or crib
I just randomly came across your video, never seen your channel before, so I was SHOCKED when you mentioned Ela Skin Co! That is my friend’s small business, and I’m just so shocked to hear it mentioned in a random video I came across!
I really like this list! I'm about to be a mother of 3. My 1st child was stuck to her pacifier, but I also gave her bottles too. My 2nd child was exclusively breastfed and I only had the pacifier from the hospital or from a baby registry welcome bag. She never took the pacifier and we learned that it wasn't needed at all. I was her comfort (breastfeeding) whenever she needed it. It was a tough adjustment, but worth it!
I agree with absolutely everything. My 3rd is 6 weeks old now. We are unfortunately using smelly diapers for her newborn phase because it's all we can afford now, but as soon as she's big enough, maybe another month, she'll be in the cloth diapers that I've used for the other 2! We used a paci for my 1st, he had horrible tongue tie and lip tie and was causing me a lot of pain. So my nipples needed a break haha. He only used it for a few months and then everything was fine thereafter. My other 2 haven't used one at all. We have clip baby clothes but that's just because we haven't bought any baby clothes! Everything is hand me downs! Tips for milk supply, along with eating enough nutrient dense food as you said, you can also supplement with fennel tea (I make tea with fennel, nettle and raspberry leaf for all the awesome benefits) and brewer's yeast tablets. And remember the rule of supply and demand, the more baby drinks, the more milk you will make. And do what you can to avoid stress. Awesome list and awesome video!
My first hardly took a pacifier so honestly if she was fussy I just nursed her (which might help with your milk supply too) so like you said your baby really just needs you. Also I had an over supply problem so I needed to change my nursing bra frequently because of leaks even with absorbent nursing pads that I would double up so that was fun I would not survive with only 1 (or maybe even 2) nursing bras lol! But like you said we all have different experiences
Agreed! I have 4 nursing bras and could do with more - I use pads but I need a new bra every day to feel fresh while nursing and sometimes morning and evening or I feel stinky/slimy with milk!
I had WAY TOO much stuff. In fact, the stress of all the stuff from the baby shower, I swear, was the reason I went into premature labor! LESS IS MORE!! And if you get in the habit right off the bat, you won't buy too many toys as your kids get older. We wasted so much money, my son didn't like any of it, and it sits in your basement getting spider-y until you give it away. I am so glad you made this video!!!!!!! I wish I had seen it 7 years ago lol.
Mom of 2 here! We never used pacifiers or swaddles. Both my kids broke out of the swaddles in the hospital! Seriously! The nurses were even shocked. So no swaddles for them. And the pacifiers were also a hard pass for them both. Nurses tried giving it to them and they spit them out. So yeah, you can totally pass on both if you want. Also, the Muslin Cloths are the absolute best things ever! Both my kiddos were very spitty babies! The large size of the cloths saved me many times! I always give these as baby shower gifts!
Just here for loving your channel! I already had my fourth baby 8 months ago but we didn’t go crazy. We donated or have to friends and family a lot of what we had after our 3rd 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ so I went very minimal or bought second hand if we absolutely needed something. I love things that are multipurpose or grow with baby. Edit: I live in MO too and for the summer, I literally only purchased 11 onesies. He’s home with me 24/7 since I’m still working from home. I have a romper a couple pairs of shorts if we do go somewhere but we’re usually with family so just a onesie has never been an issue in the hot weather!
We don’t use pacifiers or swaddles. Out of four boys we have one thumb sucker and one finger sucker. To get them to sleep we did give them all a little blankey and we put them on their belly to sleep as long as they were able to lift their head. You might still be opposed to those 2 things 😅 but they have all been really good sleepers for the most part.
My first never took a pacifier and I was hesitant anyways! Nursed on demand & to sleep, learn about non nutritive suckling, in the early days if I was sore we let her suck our pinky, find a way to comfortably nurse in public, remember that pacifiers are to mimic the breast!
On my third boy also. He’s 5 weeks. We did pacifier. I preferred it for purposes of not wanting my son to self soothe. With a a pacifier you can always remove. At a certain age we only allowed pacifiers during nap times. As for finally being done with it I let him know ahead of time that that was his last pacifier and once it was torn he was to toss it and he did! Very cooperative 😊
I used pacifiers with my first two children. My second child had a super easy transition of letting them go, by having a celebration where we left the pacifiers on the front doorstep and the paci fairy came in the middle of the night and replaced them with a gift for my child. She never asked for one again! Made using a pacifier so much more pleasant when she easily gave them up (my first was a little harder to wean). I just gave birth to my third child and she hates pacifiers! I actually felt a huge wave of relief not having to worry about having them around, bringing them with us, forgetting them, dropping them on a disgusting floor somewhere, weaning, etc. I guess she chose, but I’m thankful she did, and at 4 weeks old it’s worked out great for our family ❤
I am very curious what made you decide against cloth diapers?! It’s just something I’m interested in and so always value your insight so would love to listen!!
Hello! I saw your video just now. And I agree with almost everything you said. I don't know if I am late to discuss the pacifier topic but I live in India and pacifiers aren't really a thing here. I knew about it, thought about it and decided against it for the simple reason that I didn't want to first start a bad habit and then stop it. I have a very high-maintanance baby, I have had my share of challenges to the point of complete mental and physical breakdowns. But I am gradually coming out of it now. And I am really thankful that I chose to teach healthy habits and stuck to them even when it seemed impossible. Now, I have a really sweet, well-mannered, resilient, understanding and intelligent toddler who knows why we do what we do. Keep at it, they get it eventually.
I’m pregnant with my second and agree with almost everything. One exception is nursing bras. I had a large supply and leaked a lot. Even with nursing pads, mine got dirty way too frequently to just have a 1 or 2. But there’s no need for new moms to buy a ton before the baby comes. Just buy what you need when you figure out exactly what works best for you. The second is pacifiers. Our daughter is an amazing sleeper but has always slept waayyy better with a pacifier. I don’t understand the pacifier hate that i see being pushed on moms.
I bit my son's nails too when he was a baby. And I have never even heard about wipes warmers. Totally new to me! But, about the pacifier. My advice is simply to not try to give your baby a pacifier at all. When I gave birth, I didn't want to give my son a pacifier even though we bought one. I simply lulled him to sleep and soothed him at the breast. When he fell asleep, I would just separate him from the breast and put him to crib. That's how we functioned from the beginning and it was not difficult at all without a pacifier. ❤️ I love your minimal approach to baby products. I didn't want a bunch of stuff too. I remember listening to my friends and other moms talking about all the lotions, cream, soaps they used and I thought how much I don't want to use all those toxins. So I bathe him in warm water with few drops of almond oil, and care for his skin after by using my homemade whipped butter from shea butter and bunch of good oils. We use it even now, and he is almost two years old. I use it on myself too. So keep up with simplicity. It truly is the best way.
We totally used the towel in the bathtub trick! It worked for both babies just fine. Once there was too much water and it got into baby’s ears which led to a swimmers ear infection. Other than that, it worked great! Wring out the towel and toss it in the wash.
Thats a great idea but we have a very deep tub and it sounds brutal to bend down like that postpartum. Thinking if trying the same in our sink instead. I still have the baby tub we used for all 3 kids till now, its super clumsy but i put it into the sink and didnt have to bend down
Yes to all of these! As to advice on the pacifiers, we just never introduced it to our daughter. We did buy the Ninni pacifier to have on hand (in case we needed it to help on flights) but she only used it a couple times.
If you have someone to help, I just have my mom (who lives with me) pass my baby to me while I'm in the shower, and I pass him back after a quick wash down!! Or taking a bath together is nice too, but the shower pass off is such a time saver!!
I will be a mom soon. I think it is very interesting what parents think is useful and what not. We will have a room for the Baby, since we have an extra room. But it will sleep in our room, it is more like a kids room, and a room to put Baby stuff in. And a place whre i can nirse when my husband is in the livinroom having an online client or cooking and stuff. I have a baby bathtub, just because i don't like the crouching down, but i bought it second hand for very cheap. And with the cloths, i use what i got. Not all of them are practical i guess, but i will find my favorites, i guess. There is nearly nothing i bought new, i either got it from friends or bought it second hand. I will also pass it on when i don't need it anymore. I habe things i would have never gotten myself, but as it was for free, i will try if i like it, if not someone else may.
Congrats on baby #3! I'm not a mom yet (coming spring of 2024) but I've babysat and nannied for 15+ years and I can't stand pacifiers. Most of my tips are on taking them away after they have already started using them. However, if you think about it a pacifier was simply made to act like a nipple. With that in mind, I think if they seem like they want one, it is really you that they want. I'd try to offer them some extra comfort with a little longer feeding time and gentle face touches and such. It might seem a little more challenging to not use one at first, but in the long run I'd strongly disagree. Good luck! ❤
Mine will be here in august so technically summer but towards the end lol. I personally got told I hatedddddd pacifiers. I would not take them😂 maybe my baby will like it tho but who knows lol
Along with cloth diapering, you don’t need a wipe warmers or to use wipes if you just use small baby cloth towels to wipe their butts. Use warm water every time. It’s never cold and you don’t have to waste money on wipes.
As someone who had an extreme reflux baby who would puke constantly…. We went through 30 clothes a day!! I was annoyed I got so many for my baby shower but ended up using them all and buying MORE. I would pack 5 clothes and 5 bibs in my bag for a single outing
I recommend cloth diapering. We did it with our first and going to do it with our second. No toxic fumes. It also helps baby want to learn how to potty train faster.
I always used a paci and would just keep an extra in the carseats. It has been shown to decrease the risk of sids by my kids also haven't been hard to break of them so I use them. My one year old only uses his at night he already ditched it for naps
We always used the kitchen sink to bathe our infants, I would scrub it down well before but it was the perfect depth and it was standing height for me.
Some solid advice (remember viewer this is after your 1st baby list) everyones new parent journey is different we all hit common grounds but you don't know what you or ur baby will like/ need till you go through it. We should be cautious to not judge others who for example haven't had a baby or in a while I'm talking it's been 10 yrs So im on the shameless I need the 200+ items because I have nothing! we definitely should NOT fall into the clutter consumerism issue in this world but we shouldn't put mama's or papas down who actually need more than others, it depends on their status of their motherhood this list is also more for if you had more than one baby soon after the 1st that way you reuse alot of the items and you'll find what works for others may not work for you, many blessings ❤
Getting used to noise is very real because once my mother told me that when I returned home after giving birth to me, my neighbor who was a teacher, his students were singing to him (a tradition in my country, the students in their final year of high school going to the teachers' house and singing to them and celebrating with them overall) and my father told my mother that he was going to ask them to lower the volume but she said no because I had to get used to the noise since we lived in in front of a very busy boulevard and says that later she could go to fairs and everything with me without making any problems because of the noise
Warming wipes by putting under a warm tap water (Amazon) or on my legs or shoulders while I was unzipping baby - great tip! Please baby are not shocked with the cold wipe and cold temp (no screaming babies)! ❤
One thing that I will be not getting again for my new baby is a crib. For our first baby, we didn’t even have a bassinet. I just put him in the corner of our room by my bed so he couldn’t get stepped on in the night. In our first year of marriage, we didn’t even have enough for a table, but ate off of a card table somebody gave us. When our first became a toddler, we just bought a mattress and put it on the floor for him and he loved it. When we had our second we could afford a crib but she had a hard time adjusting out of the crib. Same with our third baby. As long as the mattress is on the floor you don't need to worry about the baby falling and hurting himself, so why bother with a crib? Also bending over the crib rail to pick up the baby/toddler hurt my back, but squatting down to pick up baby off the floor didn't.
We did not use a pacifier! My son is 13 months now, and I don’t regret it. I actually found it helped with my milk supply too. He doesn’t suck his thumb either, but we did buy a rubber “bear” with something for him to chew on when he was teething so he didn’t default to his thumb (no shame for thumb sucking babies, I’m just trying to avoid braces over here $$$). He would also suck on his Muslin swaddle/blanket thing. He does not have a bad habit from that either. Good luck to you either way!
I got a foldable baby bathtub. I just feel icky about bathing my baby in the bathtub, cuz I don’t give it a scrub down often enough (like maybe once every 2-3weeks?) and I don’t want to bath my baby in what seems like a dirty bathtub. So a dedicated baby bathtub is what I went with :)
Love you. Love this. It is SO disheartening to see how many "MUST-HAVES" videos are out there for newborns. And the lists are endless ☠️ plus, every baby/mama is different so how can you call it "must-haves" when not every mama/baby MUST have it!?
Interesting. I definitely needed/need more than just one nursing bra. I worn them even when I wasn't pregnant. Worn them throughout my entire pregnancy. And worn them when breastfeeding. They are so comfortable! And I've tried a bunch of different wireless bras. Nothing beats my nursing bras lol.
With both my kiddo's we didn't use a pacifier. My BEST advice: 1. Don't offer it, or buy it. It seems simple but if you don't offer it they won't ever know what its like to use one. 2. Nurse on demand, no its not 1pm so she/he can't nurse. This will also help with your milk supply. Coming for a mama who nursed for almost 3 years with my first and 2+ (still going) with my second. 3. The times you would offer a pacifier offer to nurse instead. If you find it harder to nurse you can use a baby carrier to nurse out of. I really like sakura bloom ring slings and eventually the scout for older Babies or you can do the Moby wrap thats really soft as well. I hope it helps. So excited for you to meet your new self & baby
I read pacifiers help protect babies against SIDS. So paci it is. We use bibs and love them. I wish I would’ve tried Natursutten ones first because they have zero plastic.
Great list! So true. I never introduced a pasifier and we didn't swaddle. I also never used a baby monitor as I could always hear them or they were sleeping right next to me in a bassinet.
I liked the monitor for during the day. My baby cried so quietly and i would often not hear him across the house for a few minutes until he worked up a frenzy
I’m a first time mom so I don’t even know if this is good advice but my baby is 5 months old and I don’t use a pacifier. I basically am her pacifier though 😂I nurse her to sleep so I suppose my boobs acts as her pacifier. The only time she’s ever used it is whenever my MIL has watched her like when I went to get a haircut and she needed to nap, but she’s used it a total of maybe 4 times since being born, she doesn’t even know it exists really. So excited for you though and your new baby! Such a blessing 🤎
Use a paci! I didn’t with my first and then she wouldn’t take one but was incredibly fussy and would suckle on the breast 24/7. I was miserable, she was miserable. It made car rides and overnights so much harder. I used a paci with my second and had a much more peaceful post Partumn experience and didn’t have any issues with attachment for nursing. With my third… I’m using pacis again!
Nursery wasn’t a big deal for me until I started reading a book called “baby wise” and realize i actually don’t want baby sleeping in our bedroom. For the first three weeks, yeah sure, but after that i want to transition to their own bedroom. that book changed everything for me!
Awww such a good video! ❤ I ended up not using a pacifier for my baby, and I just exclusively breastfed. I would nurse him whenever he wanted it! No pacifier necessary:)
Thank you for this video! I was crazy as a mother. I want to do grandkids on a minimal scale! My shopping frenzy was so hard on my kid as he grew up. Over stimulated.
I've had 3. Ive never had a tub, wipe warmers, and so many other things. But I'm gonna disagree about the number of bras. If you want to work purposefully toward more milk, be open to needing more bras. I had loads of milk and wearing one from today to tomorrow was a no-go! Leakage is a thing!! Frankly, I often needed more than one in one day. I refuse to use disposable nursing pads so... 🤷
I did offer the pacifier to my son but he refused it after two months because I always offered the breast first before I offered the pacifier, it can be done without but it puts a bit more pressure on you, cause then you’re the only comfort. I’ve don’t both with and without pacifiers and I think it just depends on the kid and where you’re at in your life.
Okay I’m watching this at 6 weeks along.. and I know my hormones are wack cause at the end when you said “I hope this helps you mom” I literally teared up 🥹 I’m gonna be a momma you guys! ❤ Still feels so unreal. Congrats to all the new moms and mommas to be!
Congratulations mama, welcome to the club.
Congratulations!! It’s so exciting! I’m 24 weeks and everything is going by fast now!
I’m due in 1 month, packing my hospital bag now and I still can’t believe this. 1 way ticket no refund no exchange mamas 😅
I’m 8 weeks and still feels unreal
im 6 weeks now, how are you feeling 7+ months in ??
Momma of MANY here! Amen to the burp cloths and baby bath tub. After using them for awhile with our first, I learned quickly that “receiving blankets” make the best burp cloths. They are just a great multi-purpose item! I ditched the clunky always in the way baby tub for the simple, cute bear sponge bath tub pad things for all my babies. Like the towel idea, I laid it in a just enough warm water to keep my washcloths wet and the baby to kick their feet in. It was so easy to drain the tub, squeeze out the water from the bath sponge mat, lean it against the tub or ledge and let it air dry. ❤ I’m a 55 year old momma of 11, and have been a foster momma to many! Our children are currently aged 13-26 and we have 6 grandchildren so far! I relished and adored all the baby stages! It’s so special! ❤ Psalm 127, II Corinthians 9:8, and Ephesians 3:14-21 blessings to you and your family! I am so thankful for your channel, sis! I enjoy it very much! 😊
I hate the bath tubs and burp cloths so much too lol. The bath tub doesn't feel safe for a newborn and mine didn't like them then when they're able to sit up they don't want to be in it anyways. I just bathe them in the sink after watching my mom do it for years, its easier on the back too lol. The burp cloths weren't very absorbant but my kids were super spitters so I got high quality cloth diapers and used them instead. All the burp cloths I was given actually just are rags in my kitchen to clean things up now, they're too small and don't absorb well for spit up but work ok to scrub the stove or something lol. Wanted to say good on you for adopting 11 though, my husband was one of 12 his single dad adopted too and can't imagine the experience that comes with that lol! Makes me feel like I had a small family even though my parents had 5 kids and a home daycare lol.
Wow you are so amazing ❤ children are so wonderful and truly a blessing. I’m one of 6 and my parents are 65 with almost 17 grandchildren and way more to come! The joy they have is insane. I’m on my 3rd baby and want as many as God wills. All my siblings have their children too except my last little brother in college. Praise God 😊
In Norway the (public, we don't have any private) midwifes encourage to bite the babys nails, so it´s totally normal! The jumper (if it's the one where the baby uses its feet to bounce on the floor) is forbidden, because it can cause problems with the hips (when grown up - my husband has that...). We didn't use pacifiers for our daughter and didn't have a nursery (nobody does over here, the baby usually sleeps in the parents bedroom until turning one year old. And that was even before I became a minimalists! Even though I'm not the audience for this video, I love that you share, because there are so much unnecessary things made for babies (just to earn money).
This is so cool, I love learning what other countries/cultures do! That’s amazing and helpful!
@@rebekahsummers4953 The same! And in Norway we have 49 weeks full paid leave (some people from other countries think it's not true). The mother usually takes out the most, but the father must take min. 15 weeks (or they are lost). (It was 12 weeks ten years ago.) And birth at the hospital is all free.
That's what my nieces pediatrician told my sister lol she said the easiest way to cut their nails is bite them
I have five who are now teens or tweens. My advice on the pacifier is to follow your child’s instincts about it. I had one child who used a pacifier constantly and some who just weren’t interested at all. I think it just depends on your individual child and what they need. And be open to changing your mind. It’s okay if you think you don’t want to use one and end up doing it because it just isn’t possible to have a constantly nursing baby with two other small children who also need your care. That’s not a failure. It’s just changing your mind. I was so hard on myself about things like that, thinking I “failed” if something didn’t go the way I planned. That’s my biggest piece of advice for new moms: be open to doing it differently than you expected. That also applies to accepting help from dad and other family members who don’t do things the way you might. Different doesn’t mean it’s wrong. As long as baby is healthy and fed and cared for, it all turns out just fine.
I'm one of five and my mom said with the paci, every other kid took it from the younger siblings with the way we were spaced lol(my brother was first then me 18 months later, he took mine so I didn't use it, 5 years later my sister was born and 2 years after my next sister who got her pacis stolen too, then 5 years later my youngest sister had hers to herself lol). My kids haven't taken to pacis so far, I appreciate it because it's one less thing to clean but didn't care if they used it either way because it's soothing for some babies so id just have delt with washing it if they liked it just like the bottles or anything else. Not something worth driving yourself nuts on, most kids give them up pretty early on anyways and nobody's packing a paci on their way to kindergarten lol.
Love all your thoughts! I was anti swaddle and tried without it for months but after enough sleepless nights we finally broke down and used one for my baby and she slept so much better! I think it all depends on the child just like how weighted blankets help many people but not all! :) I'm praying everything goes super well with this sweet baby! ❤
Agreed. All babies are different. Our first absolutely needed her swaddle 💗
Great list! I’m expecting #6 early October and I’m determined to make it the most simple newborn/baby phase yet. There is just SO much stuff marketed to moms that we don’t need.
Going thru my first pregnancy. Im so grateful people have put these lists together because i am definitely making lists!!!
Yes! I'm expecting baby #5 and I 100% agree with using muslin swaddle for everything and absolutely no snaps. None of my babies have used a pacifier and I plan on doing the same with this babe. It helps me to address the actual reason the baby is crying (hungry, tired, diaper, digestion)
Yes, this is the reason I haven't used pacifiers for my babies either.
I love this! I’m not even a mom but I just enjoy your insight so much and it’s so wise and gives me such a relief thinking about how much they DONT need! Less energy spent researching and purchasing, less funds spent, less clutter like win win win!! More time living simply and in love 💓
5:36 we use cloth diapers because they're nontoxic and we also don't have to worry about running out of diapers. I know it's not for everyone but I absolutely love using cloth it's also way more cost effective
Haha I just wrote the same thing! We love cloth diapers too. We did it with our first. It’s so much more cost effective and much better for the environment too.
Later on, I ended up doing the same for myself and I use a cup and period panties. Saves so much money!
@@umiluv yes!! We're currently doing it with our first and will do it with our second when she gets here in October. And yes I'm slowly switching to cloth pads for me too, I have enough of a stash for a regular cycle but need to get my postpartum set up together
Loving these tips! Would love to see an apartment tour to visualize how you maximize space + get creative for baby 🤍
I love videos like this. The pressure mamas feel is huge. Ive thought "idk if i can have more kids because we only have a two bedroom apartment" so your words here comforted me.
"I am the baby's greatest asset." Ohhh how I love that. I'm expecting and I just watched Lana's video which lead to this one. You guys are an asset to mommy's watching.
This is great timing for this video! Preparing for our first baby in November and making a registry can be overwhelming. Just not knowing what we actually need or don’t need!
I loved this video. Since I’ve got pregnant, I don’t know what it is but all I want to do is declutter and live a more minimalist lifestyle. I’ve had a random realization that I just don’t need a lot. It’s too much.
I’m a mama x3 and I love most of your advice on here! Muslin blankets also make great bath towels since they are so absorbent! I wish I had an adult size one because they dry so quickly. My best minimalist advice is to wait to buy anything until you need it. Every one of my three kids had different difficulties and different needs. Since we can get almost anything to our fingertips within a couple days, it’s best to wait, and buy something when you need it. I went super minimalist with my third baby and it was so much less stressful because there was not a lot of excess!❤
I don’t have babies, but my mother used to babysit a lot and she kept a stash of those double-layered muslin cloths. I took a few of these in my new home and have been using them as hand towels ever since. They are even gentle enough to be used on my face, and absorbent enough for sponging wet hair. They dry fast and don’t pill… they’re also less bulky than sponge towels, so easier to store away.
Amen for adult-sized ones as well!
I totally agree on not eating enough because I was so concerned about my blood sugar after childbirth.
It really affected my milk supply. ❤
The nail thing did get me but do you girl. I’m nobody to judge. On the other hand I found this video extremely helpful and soothing as a first time mama. Sending love! ❤
I am a first time Mom to an almost 6 month old and his nails grow SO fast! An older lady at Church told me she used to bite all her babies nails and it’s been a game changer for me. I do it while he nurses and he even finds it funny! I don’t think it’s weird at all and no possibility to cut their little fingers!
I do the same sometimes 🤣
Oh yeah, biting them or using a file is the way to go. I also am too concerned to use clippers when they're that small lol
My mom told me she did this was all of us, and it kinda surprised me!
I went to a baby class and that’s what they actually taught us!
My mother did the same to me.
I cut down clutter of a baby bath tub with my third baby by just bathing with my baby lol. I would just carry them into the tub with me and hold them and clean them. It was so special and such an added bonding experience with my baby 🥰 I also bit my newborns’ nails myself too! So much easier and also safer because I could feel with my mouth where to bite off and what would hurt them.
As a mom of 3, this is excellent advice. Wisdom I wish I had learned sooner than I did 😅 Less is better with the approaching full season of adjusting to a new family member & rhythm. Babies don’t need much & from recent experience, actually turn out more resilient & i’d dare say, more emotionally intelligent without all ‘the stuff’. Good job mom!
love this video so much as someone pregnant with first time baby!!! would you consider doing a video no what you WOULD buy? trying to come up with a minimal list and so overwhelmed by the sleep stuff (swaddle vs sleep sack?!)
yes!! I second this! I’m 18 weeks with our first and slowly creating a registry, and would love a video on what the necessities are :)
My son hated the pacifier I just made sure I had toys and the chewer toys they can hold in their hands. He slept through the night so fast 6-8wks because he self soothes. That chiropractor was correct, floor time is the most valuable thing in development.
Thanks for the video!! Could you please make a video about your experiences about cooking and eating good food postpartum? Have a blessed day❤
You are the only mom that’s given such smart advice about the nails! Personally I don’t think I’ll bite them as I don’t tend to bite my own, but some do and that’s such a smart tip for those who might want to try it and save $$
We loved the blooming bath for bathing baby in the sink and it’s easy to store flat and wash too! There’s also a puj baby bath that’s foldable. We used our baby bath as a seat outside and all around the house, so I liked that it had dual purpose☺️
i am getting that I also have a bulky bath and I do use it for when I take a shower and my 15 month follows me in there. I just sit him in the tub lol..As for newborns though I like the sink bloomer I think its helpful
I didn’t use a baby bath tub with my second and it was honestly so much easier without that thing. I also didn’t use a lot of the baby gear everyone says you need. Car seat/stroller, snuggle me, sound machine, diapers, onesies and zipper sleepers are about all I used. It’s so freeing!!
Looooved this!! I was given SO much as a first-time mom (thankful so many people wanted to shower us with love, but it was too much 😂), and with our second, I had so little and THRIVED. Planning to have even less with #3 😁
Loved this video! Get baby used to a pacifier but don’t give it to them all the time! Use it for when you’re out and about or on vacation. Don’t let them become dependent on it. Did this with my baby and was SO easy to wean off around his 1st birthday. He never was dependent on it, but still loved it.
Yessssss to ALL of this!!! 💯 👏 I absolutely agree that a new mama doesn't need all of these things. Companies profit on so many things to separate mama and baby and make money from items being sold that are unnecessary. Have you ever been told that your voice is very calming?? I'm wondering if you can make a video on dealing with and overcoming anxiety and fear on having more children?? I do not have my mother to help me and my in laws refuse to. I have NO "village" and my energy is depleted from nursing for 1.5 years and I'm so scared. Please help with any advice, I'd loooove to hear your personal opinion and perspective, from Bible verses to your own life experiences.
Love where you put the artwork! Also two nursing bras was plenty for me. I used a blanket to swaddle and swaddled shoulders down with arms free. Worked so well. When baby could wriggle it down I used an armless sleep bag around 4months old till nearly a year.
The Wipe warmer might not be for everyone but it was a necessity for us. With a baby born in November and living where the temp frequently drops below 20°F during the winter months, it was just needed.
We live somewhere where it drops to -20F and didn’t use a wipe warmer 😅 Literally did not know they existed lol. We occasionally just held the wipe between our hands for a moment to warm it up, but honestly our baby just got used to cold wipes. I’m sure your baby was comfier though!
So right- I had 2, my sister had 6 and my daughter had 5. Our combined knowledge agrees with your advice. Baby bathing is just easier and the right height at the kitchen sink. All of us had cloth diapers for cost savings and fear of running out of disposables without funds for more. We all also used the disposable ones but cloth got all of us through the hard times economically. Wet facecloths work well instead of wipes.
Yes to all of this!! We have a baby bath but I have a hole to store it in and we didn't buy it but that's only because I have decluttered but yes to the cloth! I love cloth and I also use little washcloths as baby wipes with a spray bottle that has water and a little soap that simple
I bought all of the trendy things and the only thing I really used and liked was a good baby bouncer / swing ! Never used any of the baby containers /jumpers /walkers . We had a tummy time mat and upgraded to a play pen when he started to crawl ! The only things you NEED are : diapers, wipes, car seat , a couple onesies/sleepers depending on weather and a safe place to put baby down for a bit like a pack n play, bassinet or crib
I just randomly came across your video, never seen your channel before, so I was SHOCKED when you mentioned Ela Skin Co! That is my friend’s small business, and I’m just so shocked to hear it mentioned in a random video I came across!
I really like this list! I'm about to be a mother of 3. My 1st child was stuck to her pacifier, but I also gave her bottles too. My 2nd child was exclusively breastfed and I only had the pacifier from the hospital or from a baby registry welcome bag. She never took the pacifier and we learned that it wasn't needed at all. I was her comfort (breastfeeding) whenever she needed it. It was a tough adjustment, but worth it!
My baby is due in 2 months and your video makes me feel so much better about some of the choices we made so thank you 🥰
I agree with absolutely everything. My 3rd is 6 weeks old now. We are unfortunately using smelly diapers for her newborn phase because it's all we can afford now, but as soon as she's big enough, maybe another month, she'll be in the cloth diapers that I've used for the other 2!
We used a paci for my 1st, he had horrible tongue tie and lip tie and was causing me a lot of pain. So my nipples needed a break haha. He only used it for a few months and then everything was fine thereafter. My other 2 haven't used one at all.
We have clip baby clothes but that's just because we haven't bought any baby clothes! Everything is hand me downs!
Tips for milk supply, along with eating enough nutrient dense food as you said, you can also supplement with fennel tea (I make tea with fennel, nettle and raspberry leaf for all the awesome benefits) and brewer's yeast tablets. And remember the rule of supply and demand, the more baby drinks, the more milk you will make. And do what you can to avoid stress.
Awesome list and awesome video!
My first hardly took a pacifier so honestly if she was fussy I just nursed her (which might help with your milk supply too) so like you said your baby really just needs you. Also I had an over supply problem so I needed to change my nursing bra frequently because of leaks even with absorbent nursing pads that I would double up so that was fun I would not survive with only 1 (or maybe even 2) nursing bras lol! But like you said we all have different experiences
Agreed! I have 4 nursing bras and could do with more - I use pads but I need a new bra every day to feel fresh while nursing and sometimes morning and evening or I feel stinky/slimy with milk!
I had WAY TOO much stuff. In fact, the stress of all the stuff from the baby shower, I swear, was the reason I went into premature labor! LESS IS MORE!! And if you get in the habit right off the bat, you won't buy too many toys as your kids get older. We wasted so much money, my son didn't like any of it, and it sits in your basement getting spider-y until you give it away. I am so glad you made this video!!!!!!! I wish I had seen it 7 years ago lol.
Mom of 2 here! We never used pacifiers or swaddles. Both my kids broke out of the swaddles in the hospital! Seriously! The nurses were even shocked. So no swaddles for them. And the pacifiers were also a hard pass for them both. Nurses tried giving it to them and they spit them out. So yeah, you can totally pass on both if you want.
Also, the Muslin Cloths are the absolute best things ever! Both my kiddos were very spitty babies! The large size of the cloths saved me many times! I always give these as baby shower gifts!
Just here for loving your channel! I already had my fourth baby 8 months ago but we didn’t go crazy. We donated or have to friends and family a lot of what we had after our 3rd 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ so I went very minimal or bought second hand if we absolutely needed something. I love things that are multipurpose or grow with baby.
Edit: I live in MO too and for the summer, I literally only purchased 11 onesies. He’s home with me 24/7 since I’m still working from home. I have a romper a couple pairs of shorts if we do go somewhere but we’re usually with family so just a onesie has never been an issue in the hot weather!
We don’t use pacifiers or swaddles. Out of four boys we have one thumb sucker and one finger sucker. To get them to sleep we did give them all a little blankey and we put them on their belly to sleep as long as they were able to lift their head. You might still be opposed to those 2 things 😅 but they have all been really good sleepers for the most part.
If you do swaddle you do need to make sure their hips are free so they develop correctly
Most useful video I have seen in last 2 month on same topic. Thank you!
Great list! We always loved baby showers! Best way to clean them quickly and cuddle. 😊
Love LOVE this video!! Thank you!!
My first never took a pacifier and I was hesitant anyways! Nursed on demand & to sleep, learn about non nutritive suckling, in the early days if I was sore we let her suck our pinky, find a way to comfortably nurse in public, remember that pacifiers are to mimic the breast!
On my third boy also. He’s 5 weeks. We did pacifier. I preferred it for purposes of not wanting my son to self soothe. With a a pacifier you can always remove. At a certain age we only allowed pacifiers during nap times. As for finally being done with it I let him know ahead of time that that was his last pacifier and once it was torn he was to toss it and he did! Very cooperative 😊
Freedom of movement is amazing for babies! No holding devices needed (bouncers, chairs etc)
I used pacifiers with my first two children. My second child had a super easy transition of letting them go, by having a celebration where we left the pacifiers on the front doorstep and the paci fairy came in the middle of the night and replaced them with a gift for my child. She never asked for one again! Made using a pacifier so much more pleasant when she easily gave them up (my first was a little harder to wean). I just gave birth to my third child and she hates pacifiers! I actually felt a huge wave of relief not having to worry about having them around, bringing them with us, forgetting them, dropping them on a disgusting floor somewhere, weaning, etc. I guess she chose, but I’m thankful she did, and at 4 weeks old it’s worked out great for our family ❤
Wise words Margaret, mothers should not be under pressure to buy things they won't need for their baby.
I am very curious what made you decide against cloth diapers?! It’s just something I’m interested in and so always value your insight so would love to listen!!
I would assume because she's in an apartment?
Hello! I saw your video just now. And I agree with almost everything you said.
I don't know if I am late to discuss the pacifier topic but I live in India and pacifiers aren't really a thing here. I knew about it, thought about it and decided against it for the simple reason that I didn't want to first start a bad habit and then stop it.
I have a very high-maintanance baby, I have had my share of challenges to the point of complete mental and physical breakdowns. But I am gradually coming out of it now.
And I am really thankful that I chose to teach healthy habits and stuck to them even when it seemed impossible. Now, I have a really sweet, well-mannered, resilient, understanding and intelligent toddler who knows why we do what we do.
Keep at it, they get it eventually.
Whoaaaa, everything you said aligns with me!! Thank you so much!!
Where are your tops from?😍😍
I was so nervous and confused on what should be bought for the baby but this video is soooo helpful!!
I'm a new mom and a mom subscription to Coterie would be absolutely amazing and game-changing with how bad the economy is these days.
I’m pregnant with my second and agree with almost everything. One exception is nursing bras. I had a large supply and leaked a lot. Even with nursing pads, mine got dirty way too frequently to just have a 1 or 2. But there’s no need for new moms to buy a ton before the baby comes. Just buy what you need when you figure out exactly what works best for you. The second is pacifiers. Our daughter is an amazing sleeper but has always slept waayyy better with a pacifier. I don’t understand the pacifier hate that i see being pushed on moms.
I bit my son's nails too when he was a baby. And I have never even heard about wipes warmers. Totally new to me! But, about the pacifier. My advice is simply to not try to give your baby a pacifier at all. When I gave birth, I didn't want to give my son a pacifier even though we bought one. I simply lulled him to sleep and soothed him at the breast. When he fell asleep, I would just separate him from the breast and put him to crib. That's how we functioned from the beginning and it was not difficult at all without a pacifier. ❤️ I love your minimal approach to baby products. I didn't want a bunch of stuff too. I remember listening to my friends and other moms talking about all the lotions, cream, soaps they used and I thought how much I don't want to use all those toxins. So I bathe him in warm water with few drops of almond oil, and care for his skin after by using my homemade whipped butter from shea butter and bunch of good oils. We use it even now, and he is almost two years old. I use it on myself too. So keep up with simplicity. It truly is the best way.
new mom here so much pressure still - but learning to enjoy minimalism.. Thanks!
We totally used the towel in the bathtub trick! It worked for both babies just fine. Once there was too much water and it got into baby’s ears which led to a swimmers ear infection. Other than that, it worked great! Wring out the towel and toss it in the wash.
Thats a great idea but we have a very deep tub and it sounds brutal to bend down like that postpartum. Thinking if trying the same in our sink instead. I still have the baby tub we used for all 3 kids till now, its super clumsy but i put it into the sink and didnt have to bend down
I’ll be praying for a safe delivery for you and baby❤🙏
2 kids no pacifier. It was simple! Don’t own any, don’t give them one! They adjust naturally as you said! So so so happy we didn’t use them.
Yes to all of these!
As to advice on the pacifiers, we just never introduced it to our daughter. We did buy the Ninni pacifier to have on hand (in case we needed it to help on flights) but she only used it a couple times.
If you have someone to help, I just have my mom (who lives with me) pass my baby to me while I'm in the shower, and I pass him back after a quick wash down!! Or taking a bath together is nice too, but the shower pass off is such a time saver!!
I will be a mom soon. I think it is very interesting what parents think is useful and what not. We will have a room for the Baby, since we have an extra room. But it will sleep in our room, it is more like a kids room, and a room to put Baby stuff in. And a place whre i can nirse when my husband is in the livinroom having an online client or cooking and stuff. I have a baby bathtub, just because i don't like the crouching down, but i bought it second hand for very cheap. And with the cloths, i use what i got. Not all of them are practical i guess, but i will find my favorites, i guess. There is nearly nothing i bought new, i either got it from friends or bought it second hand. I will also pass it on when i don't need it anymore. I habe things i would have never gotten myself, but as it was for free, i will try if i like it, if not someone else may.
I didn’t purchase a bath either. The towel in the tub with a little water worked great!!! Or taking a bath with my baby worked well too ❤
Congrats on baby #3!
I'm not a mom yet (coming spring of 2024) but I've babysat and nannied for 15+ years and I can't stand pacifiers. Most of my tips are on taking them away after they have already started using them.
However, if you think about it a pacifier was simply made to act like a nipple. With that in mind, I think if they seem like they want one, it is really you that they want. I'd try to offer them some extra comfort with a little longer feeding time and gentle face touches and such.
It might seem a little more challenging to not use one at first, but in the long run I'd strongly disagree.
Good luck! ❤
Mine will be here in august so technically summer but towards the end lol. I personally got told I hatedddddd pacifiers. I would not take them😂 maybe my baby will like it tho but who knows lol
Along with cloth diapering, you don’t need a wipe warmers or to use wipes if you just use small baby cloth towels to wipe their butts. Use warm water every time. It’s never cold and you don’t have to waste money on wipes.
As someone who had an extreme reflux baby who would puke constantly…. We went through 30 clothes a day!! I was annoyed I got so many for my baby shower but ended up using them all and buying MORE. I would pack 5 clothes and 5 bibs in my bag for a single outing
Thank you for sharing this. My baby will do this so bad some days. It helps to know I'm not alone!
I recommend cloth diapering. We did it with our first and going to do it with our second. No toxic fumes. It also helps baby want to learn how to potty train faster.
I always used a paci and would just keep an extra in the carseats. It has been shown to decrease the risk of sids by my kids also haven't been hard to break of them so I use them. My one year old only uses his at night he already ditched it for naps
We always used the kitchen sink to bathe our infants, I would scrub it down well before but it was the perfect depth and it was standing height for me.
Some solid advice (remember viewer this is after your 1st baby list) everyones new parent journey is different we all hit common grounds but you don't know what you or ur baby will like/ need till you go through it. We should be cautious to not judge others who for example haven't had a baby or in a while I'm talking it's been 10 yrs So im on the shameless I need the 200+ items because I have nothing! we definitely should NOT fall into the clutter consumerism issue in this world but we shouldn't put mama's or papas down who actually need more than others, it depends on their status of their motherhood this list is also more for if you had more than one baby soon after the 1st that way you reuse alot of the items and you'll find what works for others may not work for you, many blessings ❤
Getting used to noise is very real because once my mother told me that when I returned home after giving birth to me, my neighbor who was a teacher, his students were singing to him (a tradition in my country, the students in their final year of high school going to the teachers' house and singing to them and celebrating with them overall) and my father told my mother that he was going to ask them to lower the volume but she said no because I had to get used to the noise since we lived in in front of a very busy boulevard and says that later she could go to fairs and everything with me without making any problems because of the noise
Warming wipes by putting under a warm tap water (Amazon) or on my legs or shoulders while I was unzipping baby - great tip! Please baby are not shocked with the cold wipe and cold temp (no screaming babies)! ❤
One thing that I will be not getting again for my new baby is a crib. For our first baby, we didn’t even have a bassinet. I just put him in the corner of our room by my bed so he couldn’t get stepped on in the night. In our first year of marriage, we didn’t even have enough for a table, but ate off of a card table somebody gave us. When our first became a toddler, we just bought a mattress and put it on the floor for him and he loved it. When we had our second we could afford a crib but she had a hard time adjusting out of the crib. Same with our third baby. As long as the mattress is on the floor you don't need to worry about the baby falling and hurting himself, so why bother with a crib? Also bending over the crib rail to pick up the baby/toddler hurt my back, but squatting down to pick up baby off the floor didn't.
We did not use a pacifier! My son is 13 months now, and I don’t regret it. I actually found it helped with my milk supply too. He doesn’t suck his thumb either, but we did buy a rubber “bear” with something for him to chew on when he was teething so he didn’t default to his thumb (no shame for thumb sucking babies, I’m just trying to avoid braces over here $$$). He would also suck on his Muslin swaddle/blanket thing. He does not have a bad habit from that either.
Good luck to you either way!
I got a foldable baby bathtub. I just feel icky about bathing my baby in the bathtub, cuz I don’t give it a scrub down often enough (like maybe once every 2-3weeks?) and I don’t want to bath my baby in what seems like a dirty bathtub. So a dedicated baby bathtub is what I went with :)
Love you. Love this. It is SO disheartening to see how many "MUST-HAVES" videos are out there for newborns. And the lists are endless ☠️ plus, every baby/mama is different so how can you call it "must-haves" when not every mama/baby MUST have it!?
Hi! I only have a shower and no bathtub in my home. How would you recommend washing baby in this situation?🙏
Interesting. I definitely needed/need more than just one nursing bra. I worn them even when I wasn't pregnant. Worn them throughout my entire pregnancy. And worn them when breastfeeding. They are so comfortable! And I've tried a bunch of different wireless bras. Nothing beats my nursing bras lol.
When my baby brother went through cancer, they doctor told my mom to bite his nails because it was safer. So your instincts are good!
The onesies that tie at the bottom are awesome!!!!
With both my kiddo's we didn't use a pacifier.
My BEST advice:
1. Don't offer it, or buy it. It seems simple but if you don't offer it they won't ever know what its like to use one.
2. Nurse on demand, no its not 1pm so she/he can't nurse. This will also help with your milk supply. Coming for a mama who nursed for almost 3 years with my first and 2+ (still going) with my second.
3. The times you would offer a pacifier offer to nurse instead. If you find it harder to nurse you can use a baby carrier to nurse out of. I really like sakura bloom ring slings and eventually the scout for older Babies or you can do the Moby wrap thats really soft as well.
I hope it helps. So excited for you to meet your new self & baby
I read pacifiers help protect babies against SIDS. So paci it is. We use bibs and love them. I wish I would’ve tried Natursutten ones first because they have zero plastic.
Great list! So true. I never introduced a pasifier and we didn't swaddle. I also never used a baby monitor as I could always hear them or they were sleeping right next to me in a bassinet.
I liked the monitor for during the day. My baby cried so quietly and i would often not hear him across the house for a few minutes until he worked up a frenzy
I’m a first time mom so I don’t even know if this is good advice but my baby is 5 months old and I don’t use a pacifier. I basically am her pacifier though 😂I nurse her to sleep so I suppose my boobs acts as her pacifier. The only time she’s ever used it is whenever my MIL has watched her like when I went to get a haircut and she needed to nap, but she’s used it a total of maybe 4 times since being born, she doesn’t even know it exists really. So excited for you though and your new baby! Such a blessing 🤎
Thx for this I might get wild warmer but we will see
Use a paci! I didn’t with my first and then she wouldn’t take one but was incredibly fussy and would suckle on the breast 24/7. I was miserable, she was miserable. It made car rides and overnights so much harder. I used a paci with my second and had a much more peaceful post Partumn experience and didn’t have any issues with attachment for nursing.
With my third… I’m using pacis again!
Never used a pacifier and when teething came around I did cold/frozen wash cloths and my baby loved chewing on them.
Becoming a mom in 3weeks ish! Thank you so much!!
I never used a swaddle. I just used pj for the first month and then transition them to summer clothes
Nursery wasn’t a big deal for me until I started reading a book called “baby wise” and realize i actually don’t want baby sleeping in our bedroom. For the first three weeks, yeah sure, but after that i want to transition to their own bedroom. that book changed everything for me!
Great video!Thanks!Love the baby minimalisam❤❤❤😊
Awww such a good video! ❤ I ended up not using a pacifier for my baby, and I just exclusively breastfed. I would nurse him whenever he wanted it! No pacifier necessary:)
Thank you for this video! I was crazy as a mother. I want to do grandkids on a minimal scale! My shopping frenzy was so hard on my kid as he grew up. Over stimulated.
I've had 3. Ive never had a tub, wipe warmers, and so many other things.
But I'm gonna disagree about the number of bras. If you want to work purposefully toward more milk, be open to needing more bras. I had loads of milk and wearing one from today to tomorrow was a no-go! Leakage is a thing!! Frankly, I often needed more than one in one day. I refuse to use disposable nursing pads so... 🤷
Cloth nursing pads are easy to make and wash super easy!!
Love your videos! Thank you! What non-toxic option do you use for prenatal vitamins? Any tips there?
I always had my pacifiers on a clip attached to babies obesie. Never had more than 2 and it didnt get lost.
I did offer the pacifier to my son but he refused it after two months because I always offered the breast first before I offered the pacifier, it can be done without but it puts a bit more pressure on you, cause then you’re the only comfort. I’ve don’t both with and without pacifiers and I think it just depends on the kid and where you’re at in your life.