My kids don’t want my stuff??? They don’t even want their own stuff! That’s the biggest reason my house has so much crap in it! My revenge will be to make them sort through it all after I’m gone. 😂 “Pick up your toys!” 🤣🤣🤣
@@debjay7129Kids lose interest in most toys fast .In my daughters home you will find a toy in every room except when I vacation there😊.The kitchen ,bathrooms and parents bedroom is off limits.Everything is place in toy boxes before they go too bed.The kids seem to enjoy picking up after themselves;especially if an adventure is promised for their labor😂!
As the owner of a dumpster rental business, we see this daily and can confirm: 1. People don’t want your stuff and the majority will go to the landfill 2. We as a society have a consumerism problem. Personally I’m with you, I don’t enjoy shopping and filling my home with crap. I like it clean, tidy and bright. I think the consumerism comes from some level of loneliness, spiritual emptiness or trying to fill a void. Thanks for reminding people that YOUR KIDS DONT WANT YOUR STUFF 😊
After one of my parents passed and having to help clean up 28 years of clutter I decided to become a minimalist. I love it and I’m never going back. I decluttered 75-80% of our items.
So relevant to me. I moved in with a wonderful man who had accumulated stuff for decades. Everything, he thinks, is valuable or useful or something his kids might want. I considerately put my foot down. The junk hauler and donation people just finished cleaning this stuff out. I am lucky that he was willing to let go and move forward. He feels much better now and I played this video for him. He acknowledged that he was stuck and needed to get unstuck. Love your videos!
I had a Christmas Barbie collection. After moving them several times, I asked my only child, a son, if he would want them when I was gone. He told me he would not and neither did his son. I sold Barbies that we paid $2,000 for in total for $150 to a mover for his daughter. So much easier to clean my office, now. Lol I purge every time I move. I've moved 22 times. A lot of different States.
People do not understand the extreme costs involved in leaving behind a house filled with junk left behind with children. They think rolloff dumpsters and 1-800-junk is somehow cheap- it's NOT. I have always lived with pretty much nothing in my attic, nothing in my basement and nothing left around that I don't use. I donate things and yard sale things that need to be turned over several times per year so that nothing is sitting around and I buy less now than ever before.
Preach! My mom died 4 years ago and it took me 2 years to sort through all her crap. Trust me. It was crap. I will not do that to my relatives. How can people leave such a mess for those they love? I really don't understand it.
@@carollynt because they mix stock certificates, important documents, in with the hoard and in the case of my Dad he hoarded antiques which many were worth money.
@@susanreynolds9947 Exactly. My mom was also a mail hoarder. All mail since the 70's was kept, including catalogs. She also bought every dumb thing advertised on TV, foot creams, Chia Pets, The Clapper, cheap copper pots, Flowbees, etc. It was just endless mountains of absolute crap. There was nothing wrong with her mental health. She just loved buying crap and couldn't throw anything away.
At 71 years old I am finally starting to understand what you are talking about. I live alone and the only thing I am big in to accumulating is canned goods and books. After my son died I am trying to make use of what he left behind and what I can’t use I will pass on to someone who can use it. Buddha said not to attach yourself to material possessions. Comfort is more important to me than style. Surrounded by the things that make me feel peaceful and relaxed.
I totally agree with you about thrift stores, garage sales, and estate sales becoming an excuse to spend money - because everything is "so cheap". Once we realized that we were "nickeling and diming" ourselves to death with small purchases, we quit going to them for an entire year. We saved so much more money because we weren't going "frugal window shopping" every weekend.
About the landfill issue some people have; well, my home is not an alternative for that trash heap. I guess some people don't realize that nothing you own lasts forever. Eventually, one day your stuff will be in a landfill somewhere. So the best we can do is not purchase and accumulate more unnecessary items.
I know of someone who has at least 7 of them and they are full of junk such as old water heaters and other recyclables. This poor man just can't part with it.
I agree!!! I've been through this exact thing twice, once when my dad died, and again when my husband unexpectedly died. There was so. much. stuff. And you're right, I was not in the frame of mind to sort through anything, to even think about "should I sell this? How? When?" So much stuff when into a dumpster. I spent months trying to sell stuff to pawn shops, facebook marketplace, old video game shops....and no one wanted anything. So you think you might be sitting a gold mind with your old atari or first gen gaming system (with games) and guess what...no one wants it, they never will. Sell it now if you think it's worth money and give the cash to your heirs. Or put it in a trust.
I am 100 percent on board. My mom is a minimalist, and 76 years old. She promised me she would never do this to me. She lives in a one bedroom apartment and has just enough dishes, linens, furniture, clothing, etc. for HER. She does not collect, hoard, or anticipate items for "someday" company. I recognize what a blessing this is. She promised me that when she passed away her contents could be cleared in half a day. The idea of long term storage unit rentals to save "good stuff" is ludicrous, if not completely impractical. It wastes precious time, energy, and creates an avalanche of pain to have to decide what to do with a loved ones life. A friend of mine, her mother left 5!!! large units packed with junk that not only collected mold it was infested with mice. In the end, my friend had to pay for the unit fees and disposal, and it took many weeks to go through it. What an awful legacy to end with just because you think your stuff is worth hanging on to.
The other end of the spectrum my mom sold the house we grew up in and moved into my sister’s house. I’ll be lucky if I get a sweater or an heirloom piece of jewelry.
I'm a mother of sons. I can tell you right now that when I die NONE of my daughters-in-law will want my stuff in their house. (I get it; I don't want my mother-in-law's stuff.) It's not that they don't like me; it's more because women set up their house with the things that they love. And most men don't give a sh*t how the house is decorated as long as it's clean and they're fed. My sons want their dad's guns when he dies. They could care less about my Elvis and 50s memorabilia. I agree -- get rid of your stuff before you die. BTW - I like when you talk off subject. It makes the videos more like I'm talking to a friend.
I tried to help a 80 yr old woman in my neighborhood last summer get rid of stuff by posting it on social media because she only had a land line phone . most people were only interested in tools . no one wanted her elvis stuff or a orange 70s sofa. I felt bad for her
I relate to this video so hard. I am currently on a minimalism journey, my motto is Clutter free in 2023! My mother passed away last year and she was also a shopper/hoarder/accumulator of stuff. Going thru her stuff has been horrible and painful and frustrating. She was also an amazing, wonderful, loving person and the loss has been the worst thing I have ever been thru in my entire life. Getting rid of mountains of stuff makes it even harder. I will not repeat the cycle and do that to my family. I am getting rid of the excess now!
Loved hearing about this subject! I already downsized from 1600 to 600 square feet and let my kids go through what remains. You're right, they don't want any of it!! So they have my permission to get rid of what I have left when I die. I'm glad they won't have a lot to deal with. I also am making arrangements for my cremation--I just had to go through that and I don't want my children to have to do that, it's just awful.
After my grandpa passed, my grandma had each of us grandkids pick out 2 things we wanted to keep when her time came. Everything else got sold in an estate auction after she passed. I got her sewing machine (that I learned to sew on and then taught my son to sew on), and an old Amish pickling jar. 😊
you are so right! I have been getting rid of my things and now I have just what I need (which is very little!). Many shelves in my house are empty, and that suits me just right!
This is so timely for me. Im 52 and a bit of a hoarder. I keep toys and clothes (mostly because I can sew and Im creative and see alternative yses for everything). Not so much ornaments. But I do have a hobby junk journalling which doesnt help. I'll get to decluttering tomorrow. I needed this.
Excellent video! My mom had a storage unit that my sisters and I had to get emptied before we got charged for the next month. She not only ad her stuff in the unit, she had my Grandmas stuff in there too. I took only a few books and some lace that my grandma made. I helped my sisters load stuff into their trucks, and the trucks were over stuffed! I had one medium box in the back seat of my truck. My truck bed was full of stuff that my sister wanted and so was the back seat and front seat. We drove back to her town, , but instead of unloading our trucks at her house, I followed her to her storage unit! Same Huge size My mom had! Uff da! Happy I’m not that hoarder I once was! 😊🙃🎉🎉🌻💜🌻 Sounds like your mom was “ filling. Void” in her life. I was the same way. I’d go shopping at thrift stores, rummage sales, and estate sales. I’d buy all this crap because I was lonely even though I was married. I’d find a top that I liked, I didn’t buy just one, oh No! I bought one or two in every color they had! I’d get home, and toss the bag in my room, and forget about it. When the Minimalist bug bite me, I had so much crap! I started in 2008, and met my goal of being a minimalist in 2023! Best thing I ever did for myself! No depression! No more anxiety! Now I don’t even go shopping. I have enough and I am the happiest I have ever been!
Had to clean up 3 hoards. 1 after Mom passed, another when Grandma went into a home, and the third was a rental I wanted to move into. one thing I wanted to add to your comments was that cleaning up another person's hoard triggers some kind of fatigue, and there comes a point when everything gets tossed, even if it had value, or memories, or whatever. you're just so sick of dealing with the hoard that you want it gone. what you said is too true: us kids do not want our parents crap. Great video and a great message!
🎯 When I ‘came out’ men were all the more interested… My HARD RULES for purchasing: 1. It must be high quality- real silver, cashmere, linen, velvet window treatments, crystal goblets or an original painting. 2. I never buy anything plastic. NEVER! 3. It must fit like a dream. ⭐️ Great vid. You’re a Boss PP.
I was 28 when mom died. Took four people three months to clean out her house. She didn’t have “a lot” but man it was a lot of work. Now i keep nothing!
Lost my dad , Dec 2022, and mom in may 2023. We are dealing with this stuff rn. My brother lives where they did in Florida, I’m in California. My parents did not think about what was best for us when they passed. I will not do this to my children. This has not been fun, and barely has begun. Great advice, I thank you for your suggestions and insight ❤
I’ve recently started to de-clutter… the worst was my hobbies.. I’ve done most of my house, I’d just invested my hobby (heavily) because I was selling the things.. but, now i feel like i really need to make them until it’s gone
Done 3 clean outs, such a chore. Refuse to do it to my LOVED ONES. Your hair looks so nice. The thrift store circle comment makes so much sense. I keep telling my friends that their kids will NOT want THE stuff.
I think a lot of people try to distract themselves from various types of personal misery by driving around in their vehicles and buying stuff. It's a pretty sad thing actually.
I live in a 2 bed, 1 bathroom cottage with no real closets. It definitely makes you think twice about everything you bring in. I hope to not leave my daughter a bunch of junk to figure out how to get rid of.
I'm 53 and hadn't been hit on by anyone in years... until this 80 year old customer (we have a winery) hit on me in front of my husband. Gross! Now I would rather be overlooked than looked over. But to the over all topic, you are so right, I do not want my mother's stuff (and I especially don't want my father in law's stuff that he keeps bringing over). My mom collects elephants and nutcrackers (like the christmas figurines) and has wondered aloud which elephants any of us are going to want as if we siblings are going to argue over who gets what.
I'm so happy my mother never got on eBay, she bought dollar store stuff instead, just shopping for something to do and projects she never began. Floor to ceiling, and she had packed every house she had ever lived in the same way and just abandoned what she couldn't carry to the next one. Six houses that she never sifted out and cleaned up for beauty and usefulness, six houses that her children and grandchildren never wanted to visit. I was the only one who made sure she was taken care of in her later years, but cleaning up and dealing with her and her estate nearly killed me, truly. Swedish death cleaning is the way, keep what you will use, give away or sell the rest and enjoy the years left to you.
I have my folks' stuff to deal with, and I just don't know what to do with it. I wish they had looked after their things in the last years of their lives. I even have my mother's parents' junk to deal with and they've been gone 23 and 32 years. I also know that the kids are not going to be interested in any of my stuff. It has become a nightmare.
Thank you for sharing about your mother. My father died a few years ago. Feels like yesterday. He used to order stuff on line. I think it gave him a hint of enjoyment to get a pkg.
Forget dusting your Mom's stuff. She SMOKES. Dust ain't nuthin. Can't sell or give away stuff that smells like smoke. Just let her enjoy it. Have a bonfire later.
This sounds like my Mom. She passed 10 years ago. She also had intentions of selling on ebay. There are boxes and boxes of figurines and model horses, collectible barbies and all sorts of things she intended on selling. My Dad refuses to let us touch it to sell. His exact words are "you can deal with it when I'm dead". I know that's a refusal to deal with his own grief but on our end, and mostly mine as the child that lives the closest, it's an unfair choice.
You are preaching the gospel!!! I inherited all of my mom’s things and all of my grandparents things all in one year. I was completely overwhelmed. So now I live in a van and have never been happier. The dating scene is a joke. Thank God for dogs.
PP, my mom is very ill now and has gone through the same " gathering " of materials as you described your mom going through. So sad and hard for those left behind. Thank you , dear, for opening your heart and knowledge to us.
So much truth to this. My mom had so much cute stuff and things but none of those were anything I wanted. I lost a grown child when she was 24 and going through the pics is so hard, but I am going to do it. The kids are going to get their own pics and I am going to put mine in a book or two. I am now going to get my one hoard -those 30 picture frames that I am saving for all my future art work, and send them to the thrift store!
Oh my goodness I could write a book on this subject. When I move to Arizona in 2015 I got a job that was working with just what you're talking about. I used to work for a company that would go into a home like you describe and we would sometimes organize it for people while they were still alive but most of the time we were hired by the children of the deceased because everyone lives so far away now. We would inventory everything that's in the house make a nice report with photographs the family would look at what was in the house decide what they wanted and didn't want The rest either ended up in a dumpster or if it was sellable we would have an auction come and pick it up. Our work to organize the house get it clean and ready for sale and take care of all the contents was a very expensive proposition. And a lot of the people that had passed away were not hoarders their whole life but as they got on in years or as their sickness increased they seem to collect things. I don't understand the phenomenon of that collecting. Some people just were sick and couldn't clean anymore or throw things out. I have always been a minimalist and even now I own a four bedroom house but I made a studio for myself out of the master bedroom I have my own entrance. When COVID hit and I lost my job I would rent rooms and now my daughter and her husband are living in the main part of the house all I need is this studio. When they move out I'll go back to renting those other rooms. Should I die I'm not leaving my daughter with a mess to clean up
I inherited two things from my grandmother which I cherish and use frequently: an original painting by my uncle, which had been hanging in her house for fifty years; and one of her special teapots, which she used almost daily, and now I do as well (at least in the winter). These items are cherished reminders of her and grandpa. They enhance my life, and I remember my grandparents a little more whenever I see them. I could have had more stuff from her house when she passed, but what I really would have loved was their actual house 🙂. Overall though, more =/= better, as I've learned. More of her stuff would have been a burden, not a blessing. So glad there were many other family members around to divvy it all up with.
My parents are hoarders. My mom has had 3 different residences in the last 5 years and she has stuff at my dad's house, my Aunt's and in her new house. If she were to gather all that stuff, crap would be in every room. Maybe even stacked to the ceiling. She has at least 200 knick knacks that are still at my dad's house. She refuses to get rid of stuff that other people gave her. Even if she's not using it. I've asked her for things and she said "No! So and so gave it to me." She also has a million pictures of people I don't know. I would also trash all those pictures except for the ones with my parents or sister in it as well. My dad's a retired teacher and has filing cabinets full of old students papers and assignments. He also purchased a lot of stuff with the intention of selling it to make a profit. All that stuff is gathering dust. He has at least 100 cookie jars that has been in his house for almost 20 years. I told him when he got them that no one eats out of cookie jars anymore. We just eat out of the pack. It's still gathering dust. When my grandmother died he took all her tiny tea cups and weird glasses. He doesn't use any of it. I guess they might be expensive China. I can't tell. Funny story though, back when I was in college a girl in my class said her younger brother threw out a signed Beatles album after their grandfather died. The only thing I'm guilty of is the clothes thing. I have a lot nice clothes that I would be able to fit again if I lost weight. I could get rid of the dresses though and just keep a funeral dress. I don't really go anywhere that requires dressing up. The last wedding I went too was in 2012. (Millennial) I also could stand to get rid of some of my books. I stopped buying physical books because they were taking up so much space. No one I know reads as much as I do except for my dad and his reading tastes are vastly different from mine. He reads nonfiction exclusively. If I were to die, I think my sister would be so lazy that she would trash my books instead of donating them. The library is definitely the way to go! The only time I buy a physical book now is if I already read it and know I want to reread it.
I was left a small collection of antique dolls by a relative who was a doll collector (EVERY room in her house filled, but everything was well cared-for). Now, 20+ years later I still have these dolls, I won’t want to deal with them, I don’t want to display them, I don’t know how to properly care for them, I don’t know what they’re worth (I know, “whatever someone will pay for them” but I need a starting point if I’m going to put them on eBay, which is probably over-saturated with old dolls so why bother?), and I resent more and more having ever been given them. But I need to be free of them, and soon.
When someone "gifts" you, there are no strings attached. If she gave you those dolls, she no longer wanted them but could not deal with getting rid of them herself. You are allowing yourself to be saddled with your relative's problem. Donate the dolls to an orphanage/family homeless shelter and let the kids enjoy them. Problem solved.
As I’m getting rid of things I offer them to my niece and if she doesn’t want them, I offer them to my son’s long term girlfriend. She keeps what she wants and sells the rest. My son, a minimalist, would just take it all to the dump. 😮. His girlfriend just sold a table, I gave her, for $395, go girl!
I've talked to several people who are moving into seniors' apartments. Their kids don't want their solid wood furniture. Neither does anyone on the online sites. I had so much fake brass in my house, lamps, coffee table legs, a rectangular hallway mirror with dusty rose and teal flowers. I painted everything with hobby paint I got at Michael's called "blackened bronze." Everything looked incredible afterwards.
Great video! I love upcycling what I already have. Infact I've built a whole business around it.❤ Hurricane Ian took out our house and entire contents last September. We went minimal real quick. It's not something I would wish on anyone. It was freeing in a weird way though.
I am 47 and also rarely have men my own age take interest and I think I am now too old even for the older men! 😂What I find interesting is most of the men who have been interested in me lately are over a decade younger. They tell me they like older women because they are more confident and there is less drama.
Great topic! I am continually going through my house to get rid of what is not being used or needed. Have also finally gotten my husband to get rid of things too!
I loved this video- and I needed to see it 💛 I don’t want my Daughter to have to deal with all my “accumulations” after I pass away. I no where near hoard- however I have so much unnecessary stuff around here I always justify it by saying well someone could use this ( ok, then donate it…) or I’m going to sell this on eBay ( no you’re not- it’s been sitting around for years- and you haven’t done it yet…) Thank you 😊
OMG, you are so right on everything! We are a culture of get more stuff to fill the gap in our lives whether it is loneliness, grief, low self-esteem, unhappy with our appearance etc. This stuff is killing us and wasting money. Some of the crap people try to sell on FB marketplace is junk. You really have to look hard for finds now that can be the area you are in but it is a job to search for something you need and in good shape. I see the Goodwill at one location have stuff just dropped off after hours outside while it is raining on it! Now those folks have to get rid of someone's junk. People are not stable, you can't just talk to anyone anymore for fear they are a little off. My mother hoarded clothes, I found 10 turtlenecks most has tags on them. Everything was put away neatly behind closets and drawlers every inch was taken up. I remember I filled over 20 bags of clothes for charity I had to rent a truck to haul it in one load. It took me months to start getting real and just getting rid of the rest of her stuff. I swear past 40 you really don't need as much as you think, when raising kids you do with all their stuff but once they are approaching high school or college it is time to eliminate anything you don't need. I agree the $ stores are a trap as well. Unless I really need something I go and get it and leave without browsing. Less stuff less to clean and maintain!
So you don't get to hold onto family keepsakes or things that you love or have collected. NO. You can write a will, that's a good idea, sure get rid of clutter, but don't make your what you think are your last days, sad and lonely because you had to get rid of something. Will stuff out and if they don't want it then maybe someone else does.
I got ready to downsize and asked my daughter (only child) to come go through everything and decide what she wanted. I got rid of the rest of extras not needed for everyday life. When the time came to move, we had the process completed and my daughter will not have this task to do during grief after we are gone. Win win for us all.
it's a generational thing. my ancestors all grew up poor, so when they did start to make money, they just saved the old stuff as they bought new stuff. When my parents moved from a house they lived in for 40 years, literally everything they'd had from the seventies reappeared. over 2 thirds of their stuff went to charity. They have been in their new house nearly 5 years and they are still decluttering, another third has gone. My mum had hoarder tendancies and would probably hoard if not for Dad, but the move had her saying about all the money she spend on stuff that never mattered and saving stuff that could have been passed on to people who needed it years ago. They are now down to the floor of two rooms and stuff is still going. I
We renovated our 50 years old bathroom and I kept the vanity, the wood on the wall and the doors. We had to throw away everything else: too old or broken. It cost 4000$ in total (canadian dollars) and we made everything by ourselves. So proud!
It rook me 2 years to find a good home for my piano. So many friends asked me why-- because they were attached to their stuff. I've gotten rid of almost all the big or heavy furniture except my bed. When I retire- all the work related books. Enjoying what I have and slowly prepping for an apt in 10 years.
I own and recommend the book Dstadning: Swedish Art of Death Cleaning by Swedish author Margareta Magnusson ❤ The New Yorker had one of my favorite cartoons by Jason Patterson, showing a garage door open and a garage packed full of 'stuff', and an elderly father telling his son, 'someday all this will be yours' 😲 Growing up in a Scandinavian style home that was clean and airy makes me wince when I see channels where the home is dark and cluttered with what my Mom called 'dust catchers'. And the ONLY reason I go to a thrift store is to drop things off! Am never surprised that someone who lives in a cluttered, dark environment has depression. 😥
I was 45 (husband just left) got hit on 1 neighbour (who offered me a pack of cigarettes - cost $8.80 at the time) to do a favour for him!! 2 elderly taxi driver (who told me his wife doesnt have sex with him) he was well into his 70s ps journey was only 6 minutes! 3 the flower delivery man who looked like elmer fudd!ps he told me he was married! 😸😸😸🇦🇺
When I was young old guys hit on me, now that I'm older it's really young guys who try. Both are kinda gross fetishes I think. None have had anything in common with me, they just either want your looks or your money lol
I have been selling all kinds of stuff on Facebook marketplace place. And I’m using the money. I have been doing this since my husband passed away in 2015. He was holding on to his grandmothers stuff plus we always had 2-3 items of one thing Like 3 fridges. I’m almost done the back house is so close to empty and I do feel a lot better. I do have a couple of big items to sell in the front house If I don’t use it , it goes.
My mother wont stop buying collectables on ebay. She has so many breakable items in her home that you cannot even enjoy them. You cant move and its suffocating and not fair for her to throw guilt trips now about how we wont want her stuff ...its also selfish i think to leave all of that to deal with with no direction..its not stuff you can just throw away in the garbage.
I’m glad to know I’m not alone. Clearing out after my parents and older brother over 20 years ago wasn’t bad. It was normal personal items stuff. But it took me 2 and a half years to clear out some storage units, my sisters house and garage. We just sold the house and have a few more stores units to empty out. She has her ssn on documents and that was important to find and destroy otherwise we’d have identity theft to deal with. Other family members say “just toss everything” (as without looking), but karma’s a b@tch and I’d rather get things done correctly. They also kept asking “what’s taking so long?”. Interesting enough, they were too sick to help or had other family members to care for: new health issues. God works in mysterious ways. It was meant for me to clean out properly. My sister ended up a hoarder. She kept too much for sentimental reasons. We had a garage to go through like you.
I agree that it is mental illness or mental decline that drives much of this. And somewhat a lack of energy to deal with things. My parents-in-law lost control of their inventory and kept re-buying things continually. I suppose it was less work to re-buy than to declutter so you knew what you had. It took us over a year to clear out the house, and it was like purgatory to me.
My kids probably don’t want anything I own. I have way too much stuff. I love decorating my home but I really don’t need a China cabinet full of China that I never use.
My garage looks like the thumbnail, except substitute Christmas decorations! I'm 71, but my Granddaughters and son live with me, so though my oldest will get my jewelry, I guess it'll still be in this house (ha). I am realizing that most of this stuff, especially sentimental stuff, is only for me. But I do want to show the photos and slides, yes slides going back to 1959, to them to see the history of the family and see who my grandparents were. Then, hopefully, I'll be ready to part with it. I just sent my ex-daughter-in-law and her husband home with some things I was going to give to Goodwill (a TV, bracket for hanging TV, Little Green Clean machine) and they're always happy to take whatever I have. Love these videos and thank you, Prepper Princess!
Preppy Princess, this podcast subject was so timely as my sister just died and her situation at home was similar to your Mom’s. Thanks for your perspective and ideas on how to handle it all. ❤❤❤
Going through the same after my brother's death. My mother and younger brother lived there too, now all gone. House full of stuff. Boarded the loft for storage and intention is to sell. In my 60s and sister in her 70s. Others' possessions are such a burden and then there are memories. Everything has a use, etc etc. So much stuff.
So funny when hoarders say people or their kids will use their stuff. The first thing they will do is hire someone to throw it all out and be p oed for having to do it . Even poor people today only want new stuff. I had a nice used fridge that I was trying to give away - noone wanted it. I had a Thunderbird that needed a few repairs - noone wanted it. Noone wants your used up junk..
My mum got herself super organised after the death of my step-dad. She's 85. There's a shelf next to her TV with 3 DVDs on it, and she won't buy another without taking one to the charity shop. All the photographs are properly sorted with notes on the back about people in each photograph. Jigsaws have already gone to the local library, where they have a warm hub and a "knit and natter" room. Mum is a bit picky to buy gifts for because it takes a long conversation about what she really wants (usually she'll say that she's got all she needs), and what she has space for.
Though I supposed it would be an invasion of privacy, look in her bathroom cabinets, maybe she will let you buy her, her favorite lotion or vitamins. My mom was like that. Her best friend bought her a supply of Bio-Flex vitamins she took daily. I got her her favorite powder. My sister got her favorite scent. Everyday items are usually appreciated. Just a thought 💭
@@kenyonbissett3512 yes. She has one favourite hand cream, but she won't let me buy her another until it's empty. She's absolutely ruthless with her stuff. This year, she's worked out what she's likely to cook, or not. She's worked out enough different meals that are tasty, and can be cooked in a microwave. Now she's had her oven removed from the house, so it doesn't become a "cupboard" for all the large pans that she won't use. Those have gone, too!
Shopping for inventory is incredible fun. It can be addicting. So your video makes me think about my Etsy inventory...I stopped buying large pieces of inventory before we moved; I now only (occasionally) pick up small things. I also reduced my inventory by 1/3 before the move and gave away or sold 75% of our furniture and other household items. I'm only in my 60s, but I do think about what our daughters will need to deal with once we're gone. Hopefully, I've made it a bit easier for them. I had the responsibility of cleaning out two houses my parents had, after they died. I had a newborn in tow, too. They were from a generation that kept EVERYTHING, and I mean EVERYTHING (including plastic containers and other non sensical things).
Dear Prepper Princess, This video really resonated with me. I just hope it stays in my mind and heart, as I truly don't want to burden my children with a house full of things that they have no use for and will only have to dispose of. Thank you so much.
In 1983 I started working as a nurse [ LPN ] in the hospital. I was 19 years old and it was terrible, to say the least. I had lots of older men [ all the way up into their 80s] hitting on me constantly and several grabbed me or tried to grab me. One time I had to pull the table between me and a much older man to keep him from grabbing me in the neither region. One 80-year-old man offered to buy me a brand-new car if I would hook up with him. Another offered to pay me monthly if I would in his words, date him, and one old pervert had the gall to proposition me in front of his wife in very blunt terms which was highly embarrassing. And that was only a few examples. The same thing happened to the other nurses and they were upset and embarrassed as well. One old pervert was acting so bad that the CEO of the hospital had to pay him a visit and threatened to have him discharged immediately if he didn't stop. He actually did stop. I worked 35 years at the hospital and the older I got the less those types of things happened. I would have overlooked confused men doing inappropriate things because it does happen but all the men listed above were not confused and knew exactly what they were doing.
Was at my mum's today . Was in her cupboards managed to get rid of stuff. Go over once a month and see what she wants and doesn't. Her house isnt full to the brim or anything. We like to keep on top. And her attic is empty. One less big job to do. Dont worry she not going anywhere yet. Hoping to get another 20 years out of her 🤣🤣🥰💖
Wow! So much to mull over, thank you, I can relate to your rant, my mom became a hoarder too, I have been thinking about and working towards lightening my load for my daughter. You have given me much to consider, thank you. Yes, it is so painful to lose a parent, I loved all the positive, sweet ways you talked about your mother, I know she was special.
My kids don’t want my stuff??? They don’t even want their own stuff! That’s the biggest reason my house has so much crap in it! My revenge will be to make them sort through it all after I’m gone. 😂
“Pick up your toys!” 🤣🤣🤣
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Love it!! 😂😂
I can totally relate. My home is my kids storage locker. Do they care that some of their stuff is under my Dining room table???
@@debjay7129Kids lose interest in most toys fast .In my daughters home you will find a toy in every room except when I vacation there😊.The kitchen ,bathrooms and parents bedroom is off limits.Everything is place in toy boxes before they go too bed.The kids seem to enjoy picking up after themselves;especially if an adventure is promised for their labor😂!
As the owner of a dumpster rental business, we see this daily and can confirm:
1. People don’t want your stuff and the majority will go to the landfill
2. We as a society have a consumerism problem.
Personally I’m with you, I don’t enjoy shopping and filling my home with crap. I like it clean, tidy and bright. I think the consumerism comes from some level of loneliness, spiritual emptiness or trying to fill a void.
Thanks for reminding people that YOUR KIDS DONT WANT YOUR STUFF 😊
100% Agree !
"I'm just going to go in to see what they have".....no more dangerous words were ever spoken.
After one of my parents passed and having to help clean up 28 years of clutter I decided to become a minimalist. I love it and I’m never going back. I decluttered 75-80% of our items.
So relevant to me. I moved in with a wonderful man who had accumulated stuff for decades. Everything, he thinks, is valuable or useful or something his kids might want. I considerately put my foot down. The junk hauler and donation people just finished cleaning this stuff out. I am lucky that he was willing to let go and move forward. He feels much better now and I played this video for him. He acknowledged that he was stuck and needed to get unstuck. Love your videos!
I had a Christmas Barbie collection. After moving them several times, I asked my only child, a
son, if he would want them when I was gone. He told me he would not and neither did his son. I sold Barbies that we paid $2,000 for in total for $150 to a mover for his daughter. So much easier to clean my office, now. Lol I purge every time I move. I've moved 22 times. A lot of different States.
People do not understand the extreme costs involved in leaving behind a house filled with junk left behind with children. They think rolloff dumpsters and 1-800-junk is somehow cheap- it's NOT. I have always lived with pretty much nothing in my attic, nothing in my basement and nothing left around that I don't use. I donate things and yard sale things that need to be turned over several times per year so that nothing is sitting around and I buy less now than ever before.
Preach! My mom died 4 years ago and it took me 2 years to sort through all her crap. Trust me. It was crap. I will not do that to my relatives. How can people leave such a mess for those they love? I really don't understand it.
Seriously?! That's what she liked. Just trash them but don't talk about things she left in that manner. It's the last rite in some ways. 🤷♀️
@@carollynt because they mix stock certificates, important documents, in with the hoard and in the case of my Dad he hoarded antiques which many were worth money.
@@susanreynolds9947 Exactly. My mom was also a mail hoarder. All mail since the 70's was kept, including catalogs. She also bought every dumb thing advertised on TV, foot creams, Chia Pets, The Clapper, cheap copper pots, Flowbees, etc. It was just endless mountains of absolute crap. There was nothing wrong with her mental health. She just loved buying crap and couldn't throw anything away.
At 71 years old I am finally starting to understand what you are talking about. I live alone and the only thing I am big in to accumulating is canned goods and books. After my son died I am trying to make use of what he left behind and what I can’t use I will pass on to someone who can use it.
Buddha said not to attach yourself to material possessions. Comfort is more important to me than style. Surrounded by the things that make me feel peaceful and relaxed.
I totally agree with you about thrift stores, garage sales, and estate sales becoming an excuse to spend money - because everything is "so cheap". Once we realized that we were "nickeling and diming" ourselves to death with small purchases, we quit going to them for an entire year. We saved so much more money because we weren't going "frugal window shopping" every weekend.
About the landfill issue some people have; well, my home is not an alternative for that trash heap. I guess some people don't realize that nothing you own lasts forever. Eventually, one day your stuff will be in a landfill somewhere. So the best we can do is not purchase and accumulate more unnecessary items.
It amazes me that people in this country will pay hundreds of dollars for a storage unit.
I know of someone who has at least 7 of them and they are full of junk such as old water heaters and other recyclables. This poor man just can't part with it.
Yeah to store worthless stuff
I am 73 yrs old. No guy hits on me anymore...😍😍 Thank you. Very insightful.
The buying is how she was coping with the end of her life. Definitely a coping mechanism.
YES- "Sell the item now, and give your kids the money." Give them the money, not the HASSLE.
Better still, don't buy it in the first place.
I agree!!! I've been through this exact thing twice, once when my dad died, and again when my husband unexpectedly died. There was so. much. stuff. And you're right, I was not in the frame of mind to sort through anything, to even think about "should I sell this? How? When?" So much stuff when into a dumpster. I spent months trying to sell stuff to pawn shops, facebook marketplace, old video game shops....and no one wanted anything. So you think you might be sitting a gold mind with your old atari or first gen gaming system (with games) and guess what...no one wants it, they never will.
Sell it now if you think it's worth money and give the cash to your heirs. Or put it in a trust.
I am 100 percent on board. My mom is a minimalist, and 76 years old. She promised me she would never do this to me. She lives in a one bedroom apartment and has just enough dishes, linens, furniture, clothing, etc. for HER. She does not collect, hoard, or anticipate items for "someday" company. I recognize what a blessing this is. She promised me that when she passed away her contents could be cleared in half a day.
The idea of long term storage unit rentals to save "good stuff" is ludicrous, if not completely impractical. It wastes precious time, energy, and creates an avalanche of pain to have to decide what to do with a loved ones life. A friend of mine, her mother left 5!!! large units packed with junk that not only collected mold it was infested with mice. In the end, my friend had to pay for the unit fees and disposal, and it took many weeks to go through it. What an awful legacy to end with just because you think your stuff is worth hanging on to.
The other end of the spectrum my mom sold the house we grew up in and moved into my sister’s house. I’ll be lucky if I get a sweater or an heirloom piece of jewelry.
Be glad, you have your memories.
I'm a mother of sons. I can tell you right now that when I die NONE of my daughters-in-law will want my stuff in their house. (I get it; I don't want my mother-in-law's stuff.) It's not that they don't like me; it's more because women set up their house with the things that they love. And most men don't give a sh*t how the house is decorated as long as it's clean and they're fed. My sons want their dad's guns when he dies. They could care less about my Elvis and 50s memorabilia. I agree -- get rid of your stuff before you die.
BTW - I like when you talk off subject. It makes the videos more like I'm talking to a friend.
As a mom of 3 grown boys, I agree 100%. My DILs don’t want my stuff, I’m keeping it to a minimum anyway.
I tried to help a 80 yr old woman in my neighborhood last summer get rid of stuff by posting it on social media because she only had a land line phone . most people were only interested in tools . no one wanted her elvis stuff or a orange 70s sofa. I felt bad for her
Would have loved to get my hands on that 70s sofa. No joke!
I relate to this video so hard. I am currently on a minimalism journey, my motto is Clutter free in 2023! My mother passed away last year and she was also a shopper/hoarder/accumulator of stuff. Going thru her stuff has been horrible and painful and frustrating. She was also an amazing, wonderful, loving person and the loss has been the worst thing I have ever been thru in my entire life. Getting rid of mountains of stuff makes it even harder. I will not repeat the cycle and do that to my family. I am getting rid of the excess now!
Loved hearing about this subject! I already downsized from 1600 to 600 square feet and let my kids go through what remains. You're right, they don't want any of it!! So they have my permission to get rid of what I have left when I die. I'm glad they won't have a lot to deal with. I also am making arrangements for my cremation--I just had to go through that and I don't want my children to have to do that, it's just awful.
After my grandpa passed, my grandma had each of us grandkids pick out 2 things we wanted to keep when her time came. Everything else got sold in an estate auction after she passed. I got her sewing machine (that I learned to sew on and then taught my son to sew on), and an old Amish pickling jar. 😊
you are so right! I have been getting rid of my things and now I have just what I need (which is very little!). Many shelves in my house are empty, and that suits me just right!
This is so timely for me. Im 52 and a bit of a hoarder. I keep toys and clothes (mostly because I can sew and Im creative and see alternative yses for everything). Not so much ornaments. But I do have a hobby junk journalling which doesnt help. I'll get to decluttering tomorrow. I needed this.
@@Joce123Yes I'm planning on trying to sell a few bits on eBay but it's daunting 😮. I'll have to cop on.
I hear you clearly. I plan to reduce my possessions by donating to church yard sales and faith based thrift stores.
Excellent video!
My mom had a storage unit that my sisters and I had to get emptied before we got charged for the next month. She not only ad her stuff in the unit, she had my Grandmas stuff in there too.
I took only a few books and some lace that my grandma made. I helped my sisters load stuff into their trucks, and the trucks were over stuffed! I had one medium box in the back seat of my truck. My truck bed was full of stuff that my sister wanted and so was the back seat and front seat. We drove back to her town, , but instead of unloading our trucks at her house, I followed her to her storage unit! Same Huge size My mom had!
Uff da!
Happy I’m not that hoarder I once was!
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Sounds like your mom was “ filling. Void” in her life. I was the same way. I’d go shopping at thrift stores, rummage sales, and estate sales.
I’d buy all this crap because I was lonely even though I was married. I’d find a top that I liked, I didn’t buy just one, oh No! I bought one or two in every color they had! I’d get home, and toss the bag in my room, and forget about it.
When the Minimalist bug bite me, I had so much crap! I started in 2008, and met my goal of being a minimalist in 2023!
Best thing I ever did for myself!
No depression! No more anxiety!
Now I don’t even go shopping.
I have enough and I am the happiest I have ever been!
My mom was not well in the end, physically or mentally
I kept an old handkerchief my Dad used to blow his nose. No Kleenex back then.
@@juditharsenault2131 I keep one of my dad's old handkerchiefs, too. It's a precious personal treasure that reminds me of Dad every time I see it.
Had to clean up 3 hoards. 1 after Mom passed, another when Grandma went into a home, and the third was a rental I wanted to move into. one thing I wanted to add to your comments was that cleaning up another person's hoard triggers some kind of fatigue, and there comes a point when everything gets tossed, even if it had value, or memories, or whatever. you're just so sick of dealing with the hoard that you want it gone. what you said is too true: us kids do not want our parents crap. Great video and a great message!
I love all the stuff my mom left me. It's family heirlooms and would not get rid of any of it!😊
@lisaszz please make sure you kids feel the same way!
🎯 When I ‘came out’ men were all the more interested… My HARD RULES for purchasing: 1. It must be high quality- real silver, cashmere, linen, velvet window treatments, crystal goblets or an original painting. 2. I never buy anything plastic. NEVER! 3. It must fit like a dream. ⭐️ Great vid. You’re a Boss PP.
I was 28 when mom died. Took four people three months to clean out her house. She didn’t have “a lot” but man it was a lot of work. Now i keep nothing!
Lost my dad , Dec 2022, and mom in may 2023. We are dealing with this stuff rn. My brother lives where they did in Florida, I’m in California. My parents did not think about what was best for us when they passed. I will not do this to my children. This has not been fun, and barely has begun. Great advice, I thank you for your suggestions and insight ❤
I’ve recently started to de-clutter… the worst was my hobbies.. I’ve done most of my house, I’d just invested my hobby (heavily) because I was selling the things.. but, now i feel like i really need to make them until it’s gone
Done 3 clean outs, such a chore. Refuse to do it to my LOVED ONES. Your hair looks so nice. The thrift store circle comment makes so much sense. I keep telling my friends that their kids will NOT want THE stuff.
When you go throughout life with nothing, some people will end up feeling safe surrounded by things
I think a lot of people try to distract themselves from various types of personal misery by driving around in their vehicles and buying stuff. It's a pretty sad thing actually.
I live in a 2 bed, 1 bathroom cottage with no real closets. It definitely makes you think twice about everything you bring in. I hope to not leave my daughter a bunch of junk to figure out how to get rid of.
Absolutely love this whole video! I so agree with everything you said. Thank you Prepper Princess!!! 🎉
I'm 53 and hadn't been hit on by anyone in years... until this 80 year old customer (we have a winery) hit on me in front of my husband. Gross! Now I would rather be overlooked than looked over. But to the over all topic, you are so right, I do not want my mother's stuff (and I especially don't want my father in law's stuff that he keeps bringing over). My mom collects elephants and nutcrackers (like the christmas figurines) and has wondered aloud which elephants any of us are going to want as if we siblings are going to argue over who gets what.
At 53 I suggest you are OLD ENOUGH to finally say "no". If anyone is offended--that is THEIR problem. Time to grow up.
I'm so happy my mother never got on eBay, she bought dollar store stuff instead, just shopping for something to do and projects she never began. Floor to ceiling, and she had packed every house she had ever lived in the same way and just abandoned what she couldn't carry to the next one. Six houses that she never sifted out and cleaned up for beauty and usefulness, six houses that her children and grandchildren never wanted to visit. I was the only one who made sure she was taken care of in her later years, but cleaning up and dealing with her and her estate nearly killed me, truly.
Swedish death cleaning is the way, keep what you will use, give away or sell the rest and enjoy the years left to you.
I have my folks' stuff to deal with, and I just don't know what to do with it. I wish they had looked after their things in the last years of their lives. I even have my mother's parents' junk to deal with and they've been gone 23 and 32 years. I also know that the kids are not going to be interested in any of my stuff. It has become a nightmare.
Thank you for sharing about your mother. My father died a few years ago. Feels like yesterday. He used to order stuff on line. I think it gave him a hint of enjoyment to get a pkg.
Forget dusting your Mom's stuff. She SMOKES. Dust ain't nuthin. Can't sell or give away stuff that smells like smoke. Just let her enjoy it. Have a bonfire later.
I hope she heeds your advice.
This sounds like my Mom. She passed 10 years ago. She also had intentions of selling on ebay. There are boxes and boxes of figurines and model horses, collectible barbies and all sorts of things she intended on selling. My Dad refuses to let us touch it to sell. His exact words are "you can deal with it when I'm dead". I know that's a refusal to deal with his own grief but on our end, and mostly mine as the child that lives the closest, it's an unfair choice.
That's just plain selfish 😒. I know he's grieving, but then he dumps double on you .
Worse than unwanted stuff is to find that your mum has thrown out the things she inherited and was supposed to give to you 🤔🙃
You are preaching the gospel!!! I inherited all of my mom’s things and all of my grandparents things all in one year. I was completely overwhelmed. So now I live in a van and have never been happier. The dating scene is a joke. Thank God for dogs.
I used to love yard sales and thrift stores. Now I avoid like the plague. I'm a minamalist also. 68. My kids will never have that added burden.
PP, my mom is very ill now and has gone through the same " gathering " of materials as you described your mom going through. So sad and hard for those left behind. Thank you , dear, for opening your heart and knowledge to us.
Doing to the Swedish Death Cleaning this year. My kids don't like the same things I do so getting rid of the unnecessary things. Not easy but needful.
So much truth to this. My mom had so much cute stuff and things but none of those were anything I wanted. I lost a grown child when she was 24 and going through the pics is so hard, but I am going to do it. The kids are going to get their own pics and I am going to put mine in a book or two. I am now going to get my one hoard -those 30 picture frames that I am saving for all my future art work, and send them to the thrift store!
Oh my goodness I could write a book on this subject. When I move to Arizona in 2015 I got a job that was working with just what you're talking about. I used to work for a company that would go into a home like you describe and we would sometimes organize it for people while they were still alive but most of the time we were hired by the children of the deceased because everyone lives so far away now. We would inventory everything that's in the house make a nice report with photographs the family would look at what was in the house decide what they wanted and didn't want The rest either ended up in a dumpster or if it was sellable we would have an auction come and pick it up. Our work to organize the house get it clean and ready for sale and take care of all the contents was a very expensive proposition. And a lot of the people that had passed away were not hoarders their whole life but as they got on in years or as their sickness increased they seem to collect things. I don't understand the phenomenon of that collecting. Some people just were sick and couldn't clean anymore or throw things out. I have always been a minimalist and even now I own a four bedroom house but I made a studio for myself out of the master bedroom I have my own entrance. When COVID hit and I lost my job I would rent rooms and now my daughter and her husband are living in the main part of the house all I need is this studio. When they move out I'll go back to renting those other rooms. Should I die I'm not leaving my daughter with a mess to clean up
I'm currently working with a husband & wife that both do this. They're working on clearing it out now (18 months so far).
@@fourdayhomestead2839 wow it is no easy task
. a few family momento here & there are going to grandsons, but I just hope they take them.
I inherited two things from my grandmother which I cherish and use frequently: an original painting by my uncle, which had been hanging in her house for fifty years; and one of her special teapots, which she used almost daily, and now I do as well (at least in the winter).
These items are cherished reminders of her and grandpa. They enhance my life, and I remember my grandparents a little more whenever I see them. I could have had more stuff from her house when she passed, but what I really would have loved was their actual house 🙂. Overall though, more =/= better, as I've learned. More of her stuff would have been a burden, not a blessing. So glad there were many other family members around to divvy it all up with.
My parents are hoarders. My mom has had 3 different residences in the last 5 years and she has stuff at my dad's house, my Aunt's and in her new house. If she were to gather all that stuff, crap would be in every room. Maybe even stacked to the ceiling. She has at least 200 knick knacks that are still at my dad's house. She refuses to get rid of stuff that other people gave her. Even if she's not using it. I've asked her for things and she said "No! So and so gave it to me." She also has a million pictures of people I don't know. I would also trash all those pictures except for the ones with my parents or sister in it as well.
My dad's a retired teacher and has filing cabinets full of old students papers and assignments. He also purchased a lot of stuff with the intention of selling it to make a profit. All that stuff is gathering dust. He has at least 100 cookie jars that has been in his house for almost 20 years. I told him when he got them that no one eats out of cookie jars anymore. We just eat out of the pack. It's still gathering dust. When my grandmother died he took all her tiny tea cups and weird glasses. He doesn't use any of it. I guess they might be expensive China. I can't tell. Funny story though, back when I was in college a girl in my class said her younger brother threw out a signed Beatles album after their grandfather died.
The only thing I'm guilty of is the clothes thing. I have a lot nice clothes that I would be able to fit again if I lost weight. I could get rid of the dresses though and just keep a funeral dress. I don't really go anywhere that requires dressing up. The last wedding I went too was in 2012. (Millennial) I also could stand to get rid of some of my books. I stopped buying physical books because they were taking up so much space. No one I know reads as much as I do except for my dad and his reading tastes are vastly different from mine. He reads nonfiction exclusively. If I were to die, I think my sister would be so lazy that she would trash my books instead of donating them. The library is definitely the way to go! The only time I buy a physical book now is if I already read it and know I want to reread it.
I was left a small collection of antique dolls by a relative who was a doll collector (EVERY room in her house filled, but everything was well cared-for). Now, 20+ years later I still have these dolls, I won’t want to deal with them, I don’t want to display them, I don’t know how to properly care for them, I don’t know what they’re worth (I know, “whatever someone will pay for them” but I need a starting point if I’m going to put them on eBay, which is probably over-saturated with old dolls so why bother?), and I resent more and more having ever been given them. But I need to be free of them, and soon.
When someone "gifts" you, there are no strings attached. If she gave you those dolls, she no longer wanted them but could not deal with getting rid of them herself. You are allowing yourself to be saddled with your relative's problem. Donate the dolls to an orphanage/family homeless shelter and let the kids enjoy them. Problem solved.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been through it. I wish I could hug you right now.
As I’m getting rid of things I offer them to my niece and if she doesn’t want them, I offer them to my son’s long term girlfriend. She keeps what she wants and sells the rest. My son, a minimalist, would just take it all to the dump. 😮. His girlfriend just sold a table, I gave her, for $395, go girl!
I've talked to several people who are moving into seniors' apartments. Their kids don't want their solid wood furniture. Neither does anyone on the online sites. I had so much fake brass in my house, lamps, coffee table legs, a rectangular hallway mirror with dusty rose and teal flowers. I painted everything with hobby paint I got at Michael's called "blackened bronze." Everything looked incredible afterwards.
There is a series on Peacock streaming on my Roku called "The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning".
Great video! I love upcycling what I already have. Infact I've built a whole business around it.❤
Hurricane Ian took out our house and entire contents last September. We went minimal real quick. It's not something I would wish on anyone. It was freeing in a weird way though.
I am 47 and also rarely have men my own age take interest and I think I am now too old even for the older men! 😂What I find interesting is most of the men who have been interested in me lately are over a decade younger. They tell me they like older women because they are more confident and there is less drama.
This is a very down to earth inspirational video! Lots of what you said, I see in my family members.
Great topic! I am continually going through my house to get rid of what is not being used or needed. Have also finally gotten my husband to get rid of things too!
I loved this video- and I needed to see it 💛
I don’t want my Daughter to have to deal with all my “accumulations” after I pass away. I no where near hoard- however I have so much unnecessary stuff around here I always justify it by saying well someone could use this ( ok, then donate it…) or I’m going to sell this on eBay ( no you’re not- it’s been sitting around for years- and you haven’t done it yet…)
Thank you 😊
OMG, you are so right on everything! We are a culture of get more stuff to fill the gap in our lives whether it is loneliness, grief, low self-esteem, unhappy with our appearance etc. This stuff is killing us and wasting money. Some of the crap people try to sell on FB marketplace is junk. You really have to look hard for finds now that can be the area you are in but it is a job to search for something you need and in good shape. I see the Goodwill at one location have stuff just dropped off after hours outside while it is raining on it! Now those folks have to get rid of someone's junk. People are not stable, you can't just talk to anyone anymore for fear they are a little off. My mother hoarded clothes, I found 10 turtlenecks most has tags on them. Everything was put away neatly behind closets and drawlers every inch was taken up. I remember I filled over 20 bags of clothes for charity I had to rent a truck to haul it in one load. It took me months to start getting real and just getting rid of the rest of her stuff. I swear past 40 you really don't need as much as you think, when raising kids you do with all their stuff but once they are approaching high school or college it is time to eliminate anything you don't need. I agree the $ stores are a trap as well. Unless I really need something I go and get it and leave without browsing. Less stuff less to clean and maintain!
I am a female senior citizen and I am treated with respect nearly everywhere I go. It's really nice. You have something to look forward to.
So you don't get to hold onto family keepsakes or things that you love or have collected. NO. You can write a will, that's a good idea, sure get rid of clutter, but don't make your what you think are your last days, sad and lonely because you had to get rid of something. Will stuff out and if they don't want it then maybe someone else does.
My Mother has a house full of “stuff” she always says they are to be kept and passed down. No one wants anything.
I got ready to downsize and asked my daughter (only child) to come go through everything and decide what she wanted. I got rid of the rest of extras not needed for everyday life. When the time came to move, we had the process completed and my daughter will not have this task to do during grief after we are gone. Win win for us all.
it's a generational thing. my ancestors all grew up poor, so when they did start to make money, they just saved the old stuff as they bought new stuff. When my parents moved from a house they lived in for 40 years, literally everything they'd had from the seventies reappeared. over 2 thirds of their stuff went to charity. They have been in their new house nearly 5 years and they are still decluttering, another third has gone. My mum had hoarder tendancies and would probably hoard if not for Dad, but the move had her saying about all the money she spend on stuff that never mattered and saving stuff that could have been passed on to people who needed it years ago. They are now down to the floor of two rooms and stuff is still going.
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Hopefully it will be gone and not left to you to dispose of.
Hello, P.P. - I'm sorry, but your mom was a hoarder.😟
We renovated our 50 years old bathroom and I kept the vanity, the wood on the wall and the doors. We had to throw away everything else: too old or broken. It cost 4000$ in total (canadian dollars) and we made everything by ourselves. So proud!
The world is definitely ending in my opinion.
It rook me 2 years to find a good home for my piano. So many friends asked me why-- because they were attached to their stuff. I've gotten rid of almost all the big or heavy furniture except my bed. When I retire- all the work related books. Enjoying what I have and slowly prepping for an apt in 10 years.
I own and recommend the book Dstadning: Swedish Art of Death Cleaning by Swedish author Margareta Magnusson ❤
The New Yorker had one of my favorite cartoons by Jason Patterson, showing a garage door open and a garage packed full of 'stuff', and an elderly father telling his son, 'someday all this will be yours' 😲
Growing up in a Scandinavian style home that was clean and airy makes me wince when I see channels where the home is dark and cluttered with what my Mom called 'dust catchers'.
And the ONLY reason I go to a thrift store is to drop things off! Am never surprised that someone who lives in a cluttered, dark environment has depression. 😥
I was 45 (husband just left) got hit on 1 neighbour (who offered me a pack of cigarettes - cost $8.80 at the time) to do a favour for him!! 2 elderly taxi driver (who told me his wife doesnt have sex with him) he was well into his 70s ps journey was only 6 minutes! 3 the flower delivery man who looked like elmer fudd!ps he told me he was married! 😸😸😸🇦🇺
Yes I had 40 year old men hitting on me when I was a cashier in my 20's too, Gross!!
People are super selfish today and entitled. Its Sad.
When I was young old guys hit on me, now that I'm older it's really young guys who try. Both are kinda gross fetishes I think. None have had anything in common with me, they just either want your looks or your money lol
I have been selling all kinds of stuff on Facebook marketplace place. And I’m using the money. I have been doing this since my husband passed away in 2015. He was holding on to his grandmothers stuff plus we always had 2-3 items of one thing
Like 3 fridges. I’m almost done the back house is so close to empty and I do feel a lot better. I do have a couple of big items to sell in the front house
If I don’t use it , it goes.
My brother threw out everything in 1-800 Got Junk…cost $4000!!!
Wow. That is another reason to declutter before your time is up. Expensive
Yup, a friend decluttered her mother's house, cost 5k to dump everything not usable. It wasn't even cluttered.
My mother wont stop buying collectables on ebay. She has so many breakable items in her home that you cannot even enjoy them. You cant move and its suffocating and not fair for her to throw guilt trips now about how we wont want her stuff ...its also selfish i think to leave all of that to deal with with no direction..its not stuff you can just throw away in the garbage.
Myself & a few friends were just talking bout this. Our kids have no use for our stuff. They don’t hold on to sentimental possessions like we have
Thanks again. Point taken. None of my kids want any of my stuff.
I always enjoy your message but doggy time at the end is my favorite🐾❤️🐾
one of your best. thank you
I’m glad to know I’m not alone. Clearing out after my parents and older brother over 20 years ago wasn’t bad. It was normal personal items stuff.
But it took me 2 and a half years to clear out some storage units, my sisters house and garage. We just sold the house and have a few more stores units to empty out. She has her ssn on documents and that was important to find and destroy otherwise we’d have identity theft to deal with. Other family members say “just toss everything” (as without looking), but karma’s a b@tch and I’d rather get things done correctly. They also kept asking “what’s taking so long?”. Interesting enough, they were too sick to help or had other family members to care for: new health issues. God works in mysterious ways. It was meant for me to clean out properly.
My sister ended up a hoarder. She kept too much for sentimental reasons. We had a garage to go through like you.
I agree that it is mental illness or mental decline that drives much of this. And somewhat a lack of energy to deal with things. My parents-in-law lost control of their inventory and kept re-buying things continually. I suppose it was less work to re-buy than to declutter so you knew what you had. It took us over a year to clear out the house, and it was like purgatory to me.
Love the fact the pups steal the show, warms my heart, so cute
My kids probably don’t want anything I own. I have way too much stuff. I love decorating my home but I really don’t need a China cabinet full of China that I never use.
My garage looks like the thumbnail, except substitute Christmas decorations! I'm 71, but my Granddaughters and son live with me, so though my oldest will get my jewelry, I guess it'll still be in this house (ha). I am realizing that most of this stuff, especially sentimental stuff, is only for me. But I do want to show the photos and slides, yes slides going back to 1959, to them to see the history of the family and see who my grandparents were. Then, hopefully, I'll be ready to part with it. I just sent my ex-daughter-in-law and her husband home with some things I was going to give to Goodwill (a TV, bracket for hanging TV, Little Green Clean machine) and they're always happy to take whatever I have. Love these videos and thank you, Prepper Princess!
ASK them what they want, give it to them before you pass, and yardsale or donate everything else to the thrift stores or the dump.
Preppy Princess, this podcast subject was so timely as my sister just died and her situation at home was similar to your Mom’s. Thanks for your perspective and ideas on how to handle it all. ❤❤❤
Going through the same after my brother's death. My mother and younger brother lived there too, now all gone. House full of stuff. Boarded the loft for storage and intention is to sell. In my 60s and sister in her 70s. Others' possessions are such a burden and then there are memories. Everything has a use, etc etc. So much stuff.
Hoarding is often related to trauma.
Therapy helps.
So funny when hoarders say people or their kids will use their stuff. The first thing they will do is hire someone to throw it all out and be p oed for having to do it . Even poor people today only want new stuff. I had a nice used fridge that I was trying to give away - noone wanted it. I had a Thunderbird that needed a few repairs - noone wanted it. Noone wants your used up junk..
Oh my... this hit too close to home. Altho I myself don't have anyone to leave stuff to, I'm working on getting rid of the extra "junque"...
My mum got herself super organised after the death of my step-dad. She's 85. There's a shelf next to her TV with 3 DVDs on it, and she won't buy another without taking one to the charity shop. All the photographs are properly sorted with notes on the back about people in each photograph. Jigsaws have already gone to the local library, where they have a warm hub and a "knit and natter" room. Mum is a bit picky to buy gifts for because it takes a long conversation about what she really wants (usually she'll say that she's got all she needs), and what she has space for.
Though I supposed it would be an invasion of privacy, look in her bathroom cabinets, maybe she will let you buy her, her favorite lotion or vitamins. My mom was like that. Her best friend bought her a supply of Bio-Flex vitamins she took daily. I got her her favorite powder. My sister got her favorite scent. Everyday items are usually appreciated. Just a thought 💭
@@kenyonbissett3512 yes. She has one favourite hand cream, but she won't let me buy her another until it's empty. She's absolutely ruthless with her stuff. This year, she's worked out what she's likely to cook, or not. She's worked out enough different meals that are tasty, and can be cooked in a microwave. Now she's had her oven removed from the house, so it doesn't become a "cupboard" for all the large pans that she won't use. Those have gone, too!
@@GlasPthalocyanine Wow!
@@kenyonbissett3512 My word exactly 💯!!
Shopping for inventory is incredible fun. It can be addicting. So your video makes me think about my Etsy inventory...I stopped buying large pieces of inventory before we moved; I now only (occasionally) pick up small things. I also reduced my inventory by 1/3 before the move and gave away or sold 75% of our furniture and other household items. I'm only in my 60s, but I do think about what our daughters will need to deal with once we're gone. Hopefully, I've made it a bit easier for them.
I had the responsibility of cleaning out two houses my parents had, after they died. I had a newborn in tow, too. They were from a generation that kept EVERYTHING, and I mean EVERYTHING (including plastic containers and other non sensical things).
As soon as you said "ebay", I knew..... 😖
Dear Prepper Princess, This video really resonated with me. I just hope it stays in my mind and heart, as I truly don't want to burden my children with a house full of things that they have no use for and will only have to dispose of. Thank you so much.
In 1983 I started working as a nurse [ LPN ] in the hospital. I was 19 years old and it was terrible, to say the least. I had lots of older men [ all the way up into their 80s] hitting on me constantly and several grabbed me or tried to grab me. One time I had to pull the table between me and a much older man to keep him from grabbing me in the neither region. One 80-year-old man offered to buy me a brand-new car if I would hook up with him. Another offered to pay me monthly if I would in his words, date him, and one old pervert had the gall to proposition me in front of his wife in very blunt terms which was highly embarrassing. And that was only a few examples. The same thing happened to the other nurses and they were upset and embarrassed as well. One old pervert was acting so bad that the CEO of the hospital had to pay him a visit and threatened to have him discharged immediately if he didn't stop. He actually did stop. I worked 35 years at the hospital and the older I got the less those types of things happened. I would have overlooked confused men doing inappropriate things because it does happen but all the men listed above were not confused and knew exactly what they were doing.
I know - its so embarrissing.
Was at my mum's today . Was in her cupboards managed to get rid of stuff. Go over once a month and see what she wants and doesn't. Her house isnt full to the brim or anything. We like to keep on top. And her attic is empty. One less big job to do. Dont worry she not going anywhere yet. Hoping to get another 20 years out of her 🤣🤣🥰💖
Wow! So much to mull over, thank you, I can relate to your rant, my mom became a hoarder too, I have been thinking about and working towards lightening my load for my daughter. You have given me much to consider, thank you. Yes, it is so painful to lose a parent, I loved all the positive, sweet ways you talked about your mother, I know she was special.
I had the same issues: older men hitting on me. Now that I'm 56, 20 year Olds are hitting on me. Young guys want a "Cougar." 😆
Wish I had that happen. I might go for it ha ha