Erica is the funniest Declutter with Friends FRIEND who doesn’t want to Declutter 😂😅I actually think getting her a storage unit could be the gateway to her clearing out her space. Let us know your thoughts and thanks Erica for opening up your home 🏡 ❤ (like the video if you want us to make part two)
A storage unit would only solve her problem if she stops buying...that is not going to happen. She needs someone to help her deal with the issues behind the clutter
I think getting a storage space has potential to be the pathway to success for Erica if she makes the commitment to not filling the space created by moving the items currently in her home to the storage unit. It could be highly motivating if some items can be removed in such a way that Erica will have a room or even part of a room that is orderly and calming. She will however need to make a solemn promise that existing clutter in other parts of her home will not migrate into the newly cleared space and no new items will be introduced into the cleared area. Please film a part 2 to this video. I enjoy your videos very much!
This is because her Mom died....at least in part. When I am dealing with this situation I go mystical and burn sage. I was working with someone who had months to live and we got rid of 1 glass milk bottle that had a $1 deposit. I gave her the dollar. You can't convince these people it has to come from within. You handled this beautifully!
I think it’s SO important for y’all to show this! Not everyone can just declutter everything and THATS OK. It’s a process and you showing that and showing grace is fantastic. I’m here for all the parts!!
So realistic...not every declutter goes smoothly or quickly. Part 2 please! I'm against paying for storage personally, unless it's for a specific time frame such as cleaning out a parents home that you need to move quickly but will go through later ... You could have a nice little trip for the $1200 bucks she'd spend in a year.
It's been my experience, when you put things in a storage unit: out of sight, out of mind. And the storage unit ends up costing far more than anything that was stored. No one wants to visit their storage unit to clean things out.
Erica reminds me of a hoarder. They won't let go of even the little things. I appreciate Erica allowing us to see her home. I hope there is a part 2 so she can let go.
I personally don’t think she’s a hoarder. She may have hoarding tendencies, but that doesn’t mean she has a disorder. She’s a creative person, too, so she may see thing as having value in a way that others don’t. And it could also be attention span and spending habits too. I totally relate to her and I have hoarded (bought a lot of things I didn’t have places for and have attachment to) when I was going through a difficult time in my life. I don’t think being a hoarder makes you an unacceptable person or anything either. I just want to say that. Hoarding is a mental disorder that is often brought on by coping with trauma. Even if that’s not the case, some people are more attached to their belongings and have a more difficult time letting go. It’s a process. You have to build a muscle for it when it doesn’t come naturally to you.
@@theloveyourfacegal2773 we would really need to see how Erica does over time in an adequately sized space in order to determine whether or not she's hoarding. She has so little space that she may just get frustrated and overwhelmed and not deal with things she is willing to get rid of. I deal with small space living and people with neurodivergence, so I'm familiar with how many people get overwhelmed or depressed and feel like nothing they do makes a difference, so why try? (She may also deal with object permanence issues, which can contribute to a lot of forgotten items of varying importance levels ending up mixed together.) Erica needs to see that what she does *is* making it better and she's not just shuffling stuff from A to B and back to A.
She’s doing great! Baby steps are fine! Some people need a little more time to declutter. I would not recommend a storage unit - that is just moving the problem from one spot to another. The problem isn’t the stuff, it’s the inability to get rid of anything. If she doesn’t learn that skill, her home will just be full of junk again in a very short time.
I'd love to see a part two. You and Erica definitely made progress. I think it's a good sign she maintained the kitchen. I vote no on the separate storage unit. It'll just become an extra recurring expense and a place where she dumps things and forgets about them. My vote is for several rounds of decluttering. Each pass she'll get rid of more stuff. She won't ever be a minimalist, but I can she her becoming more simplified and organized. Plus, maybe more videos for us? 😂 Thank you for sharing your home, Erica!
Yeah, I agree that storage spaces are enablers and tend to be a waste of money, especially to people who struggle with clutter and parting with things. Paying rent to keep things in storage could be replaced with selling those items and/or donating them or recycling them. A monthly decluttering session where she gets rid of 30 or more items might feel less overwhelming than trying to do it all in one take. As always, great work getting things in order. 🥰#FriendsDontLetFriendsLiveInClutter #MentalHealth #ClearClutterClearYourMind❤
Yes to part two. “NO” to storage. I think a lot was learned this session and your friend may be more ruthless with decluttering next session if you have one. Good luck.
Decluttering and organizing someone else’s stuff is the lord’s work. Seriously, even when a person recognizes there is an issue that level of “mess” is driven by psychological trauma not just complacency. As evidenced by wanting keep a duster “I use” but was under 6 trash cans… and who needs that many little trash cans. Good luck to you both.
She looks like she made great progress after you went. Sometimes it’s doing the smaller stuff with a friend that is the push we need! Wonderful to see a ‘perfectly imperfect’ before and after. Much more realistic on how decluttering often goes ESPECIALLY paper clutter! Great video as usual Carla! Xx
I love that you showed the progress of someone who doesn't want to get rid of anything. I'm slowly working with my mom to declutter her 3000 sq ft house. It's very difficult to get her to declutter, but she has improved so much over the last two months! I would absolutely love to see your friend's progress!
As someone who has helped my dad declutter a 4 bedroom home, one strategy that helped was sorting items by category, and then asking “how many ___ do you think you need?” After he came up with a number, I would have him picked out that many of his favorites from the pile and then move on. For hoarders it’s especially hard to pick up and make a decision about every single item and once they’re holding it they will often find a reason why they need to keep it. Mind you, he was only open to decluttering because he had to sell the home and had a deadline. Good luck with your mom! I know the struggle.
She actually did a LOT! Very nice. Progress over perfection. Storage is not the answer. Curating her items, having a design style, giving herself limits is part of the answer. Looking forward to part 2.
As a writer, maybe she can write her feelings down and that will help her process. . it's funny to see her work in this room vs the kitchen, where she was more flexible when it came to the de-clutter & organize. Thanks for keeping it real, Carla.
Yes to part 2 and more through her journey. I was her at one point, making excuses to keep everything. Now, through a 5 year process, I’ve donated about 40 boxes/bags worth of stuff, sold over 250 items of clothing and shoes, and trashed a bunch of stuff too. It can be hard, but it can be done over time.
@@nolasavedmysoul I sold some bigger ticket household items on Craig's List.. mailed some of the best clothes to my niece. I have a pile for a friend, and I donated the other stuff, which I should have tried to sell. I figured it would just sit there if I did that, so I donated it. Maybe I'll plan to do that in the future. Our last thing we decluttered was books which I donated. I sorted out over 300 and my husband around 250. We have a lot of bookshelves. We had the room on them but I was just tired of holding on to ones we would never read again!. Great job on your part sticking to it and getting some cash back on your clothing.
Don’t get storage space. That will be wasted money that she could invest or pay off a bill. Just deal with the stuff now. It’s not worth storing it and then going through it years later after you’ve spent all that money.
This was definitively not an “epic fail”. She actually did some progress and followed your recommendations for the bookshelves. It is true that for every person the process of letting go things is different, but she wants to have a clearer space and that is an awesome start. Good bless her in her process of declutterring and getting a cleaner personal environment.
Decluttering is an ongoing process. I’ve been doing it for years. Stuff always pops up. Things get added to the home and need clearing again. I think you should get your friend to watch decluttering videos for inspiration and/or videos on minimalism etc. They always inspire me to sort my stuff out x
I would LOVE to be able to declutter my friend's places - literally my ultimate dream lol. For now, I'll just keep an eye out for more of these videos. You and Erica make me laugh!!
Yes please continue this journey! The truth is we ALL have parts of our lives that we resist decluttering. So many life lessons in this clip. Tell Erica we appreciate her being willing to show her vulnerability to the world! Great work for both of you all. You have planted the seed…that’s why she asked you to come back.
I don't think she should get a storage. Use it or lose it. The more that she sees the freed up space, she may be more apt to let some things go. It's a process.
Yes part 2 or more. Erica needs you to guide her through. She’s going to be so free after you help her declutter. You can do it Erica… Maintaining is easy once it’s decluttered and organized. Declutter your newly decluttered and organized space every few months and you will stay happy and organized. 😊
This is an episode of hoarders for real! Don’t buy a storage unit!!! She’ll just be paying for storage without any cleaning! And it’s going to add to the sadness and anxiety and anger when she has spent the money AND doesn’t have a place for her things. Plus when she can’t see it she will just buy multiples of what’s in storage. Take it from me EVERY ONE of my family members does this me included. We just can’t help it. It takes a real commitment (and doing the de clutter ourselves) to change things.
Carla it was so awesome how patient and understanding you were! I had Peter Walsh flashbacks on this one! Erica made a comeback and made some progress in the end! Great job Erica! I know it’s hard but it the end like Carla says, you will feel soooo much better! Yes part 2!
It's clear how hard this was for her, I think it would be interesting to work it on therapy. She seems lovely, she deserve a awsome space! Carla did so much difference at this space!
So sad that people hoard & exist surrounded by piles of stuff & trash. Just seeing this makes it difficult to breathe. You're a good friend to help. Hope she comes around
I have decluttered my furniture, tchotchkes, clothing, non-keto pantry items, dishes, linens, books and magazines. I'm down to the paperwork, photos and mementos. It is very hard. You are an inspiration!
Love this! Erica is just as I was once, saving mags, books, paper - that I did not touch for 20+ years. Then I got real, and realized stuff was strangling me. I then trashed the mags etc AND THE MANY RACKS AND STORAGE SOLUTIONS I had purchased over time to keep them ‘neat’. Go Erica! Don’t follow my bad example!
This was me a few years ago! I wanted to keep everything but I also wanted a simplified space. I had to go through my home 3-4 times to finally get it to a place where it looks more like a home and less like a storage unit. I think Erica did so well for her first round, and the later clips are awesome! Way to go, Erica!
I think of decluttering like an onion. With each pass/layer you get better at knowing what you actually use and want to keep and it gets easier to let stuff go.
Good job for her showing a realistic maximalist or maybe someone who is at the very beginning of their decluttering journey!! This is very true of every person who has to declutter the very first time and is feeling overwhelmed. Hopefully it helps to encourage many people to continue on their decluttering journey. 💕
This is real life! You really have to be ready to get it done. It took me the 5th time to truly declutter my tupperware cabinet. Five times! But, it showed me how when your really ready you get it done. I love watching you so much. The people you help are so lovable too! Please more videos
Part 2. I think you’re right that she needs the storage unit first to physically see how much her clutter is costing her. My fear though is that the cleared surfaces will be re-filled. although she did keep her kitchen…there is hope for when she is ready. It IS a process and she is a beginner. Let’s get her started and let us know how it goes. ❤️🍁
Yeah, we were thinking as she would get the storage unit and that could be the space that she does some decluttering from. It’s still in the idea stage so we’ll see how she wants to move forward…tbd
I remember watching a show in the early 2000s (maybe it was called clean house) where they cleaned out and organized hoarder level houses. Sometimes they would clear out an entire room by emptying it in the front yard. Then they would put the room back together with only a reasonable amount of furniture and decor. Sometimes that was the push the people needed to see what their house could really be like without the extra stuff. Maybe a storage unit could help with this realization. Or it could also be used as a time limit. For example if I don’t need to get something out of the unit in the next 6 months I don’t need it and it has to go. But it could also be a crutch to acquire more stuff. Time will tell.
It really is so hard for many people to get rid of things. I could see that she was trying but struggling. Even slow progress counts! I hope she’s been able to continue decluttering. Hugs to you both. 😊💙🐦
A part two please! Erica may need a storage place. Especially if she is having a hard time letting go. I love that she has kept going. Carla you support and encourage with laughter and iron will. Love it
Yeah, I think the storage space could be motivating, and after a few months, she may realize she doesn’t need any of those items. Plus, it would be great for her to live in her space without all of the clutter surrounding her. It’s basically like igetting a second bedroom. Because her place is really small!
@@TheCarlaProject What if you say that after the unit is is filled up, that if it's all still there in a 1/2 a year without being touched, YOU may dispose of the contents without her re-examining everything. We all know the only reason she says she wants stuff is because it's in front of her, but if she doesn't see it once it's in the unit, it wont be stressful. I've thought of doing this for myself, because once I SEE something the "what if" bells start chiming in that I'll need it. But if it's just magically gone, I'd never think about that stuff again honestly.
I am learning NOT to be Erica! Every video I watch helps me see where I can improve and encourages me to do ANYTHING towards declutter and cleaning. Thank you for showing us REAL LIFE.
I totally can relate to the overwhelming feeling this is. The boxes, boxes, boxes.... it is so hard. But keep at it Erica, because a) there IS an end to it, it is a FINITE amount of stuff and b) you can treat yourself to doing one box each evening, and you'll be so much better off each week. The seed has been planted, and we are cheering for you (and I am working right along with you!)
She is lucky to have you as a friend and you are so patient! I was in the past trying to help people around me but I have no patience anymore to debating about sticker 😀
Yes, part 2! No to paying for storage space. I think as she uses her decluttering muscles, she will be able to get rid of more things to have a great space!
Thank you Erica for again inviting us into your home. Carla, you are so good in this role! Your friends are lucky to have you in their court (their cluttered soon to be not cluttered court!)...yes to all the parts (2,3 and on) so we can see the progress and the process...I agree with another commenter who suggested Erica write down her feelings and thoughts around her difficulties and challenges letting go...Thanks for all you do Carla! Have loved watching your journey...
This video is literally giving me anxiety from the battles i had w my mom who was a hoarder my whole life. I love the vibe though, you are very kind and your client is awesome too. Also i did this with a friend 6 months ago and it ruined our friendship so i learned my lesson never ever do this w anyone u know!
I hope that Erica can continue the process, it is an emotional process. I feel that hanging on to possessions is a way to slow down the time and keep the past alive. But the past is the past. I think that not using the Ninja Foodie on the floor or the stereo in the floor is a sign that they are not useful. My theory is : If it is on the floor and doesn't have a home it should go out. Furthermore, not shopping is a must to save money and to keep the space decluttered. Shopping should be reserved for essentials from now on. I wish for Erica to find happiness and peace.
First of all…thank you for the appliance manual reminder. I will definitely throw mine out today that are filed in my box. Second…I used to have lots of CD and now I only have Apple music. I think something triggered Erika to hoard stuff, something emotional. Whether it was losing her Mom (I’ve lost my Mom too) or several other events that has her maintaining “control” of her “things”. Raising things off the floor and to the walls doesn’t seem like the answer. Erika, your spirit is so bright and positive I hope you get to a point where you realize these “things” don’t matter, you matter. Hugs ❤😊
Please make a part 2. Letting go of items can be hard but if you want change to last and take place Erica has to be ready. If she hasn't physically gone through each item clutter will continue to happen. Once she sees her home opening up, she will have more motivation and begin to declutter more. Decluttering is not a one and done, its a process that must be done continuously and consistently. Thanks for having patience with Erica.
Sweet Erica, if you can remember to throw out junk mail, empty boxes, and magazines daily, that would be a huge step forward. It truly is a process but so worth letting go of things so your work can proceed easier. You are delightful. Such a cute personality, and I hope to watch your movie some day.
Erica seems like a good candidate for Dana K. White’s decluttering method! She has a UA-cam, podcast, books! For example for things like those magazines she does this thing called the container concept where you select the container or space where magazines will be stored, fill it with your favorites, then once it’s full that’s all you keep! Makes the container the “bad guy” and reduces the amount of bargaining between helper (you) and space owner (Erica) by physically showing them the limits of their space. Also the first step of her method is to remove trash so y’all are making great progress even if it’s frustrating! Her method is really great for creatives like Erica who have piles and insist they know what all’s in them 😂 and really, really helpful for overwhelming spaces that feel impossible
Thanks for letting us into your home Erica! I feel this was the beginning of a project that may feel a bit overwhelming still? I'm proud of her that she made babysteps into the right direction. Sometimes a detour (like storage unit here) also leads to great results.
I think the YT channel hoarders heart is a great channel to watch. She talks a lot of how she personally declutters especially when she emotional or difficult to declutter.
I was Erica. I'm 53 and holy smokes, its a huge job when you've been doing it for 20 years. Sometimes it's just the moment, Erica could go through that same pile and throw out stuff she kept, bc she comes at it with a different mindset. I was the same with manuals, until i did the same as you said Carla, all this stuff is available digitally. I'm also a creative. A graphic designer and videographer. I've just thrown out my notes from my course bc yes, I put a lot of work into them, but do I refer to them? No. Throwing those notes out does not instantly diminish how much work I put in, it clears my space and therefore my mind. It's taken me a long time to get here, but she has to approach this with less sentimental feelings and attachments, let logic and practicality drive her decision making. That can take time and/or a mood change.
I think storage is ok for a temp solution only. If it's used to clear out her apartment for now, and give her the space she needs, and experience what it's like to live clutter free, it might motivate her to be more critical in her sorting thinking. The danger is that it will become a new collection point, she'll fill the storage, and/or fill the new space in her apartment as well, bc out if sight, out of mind, and the excuses we make to ourselves. Perhaps Erica won't do this, bc she's maintained the kitchen, but it could go 50/50.
I like to keep my appliance instructions and warranty papers so I just combine them all into one folder for the whole house and label it. I put it in the living room and showed everyone where it was so now if we need the info it's put away and accessible. We've used it several times! I also think putting the magazines into a combined pile will show her how many she actually has and help her realize she needs to get rid of some. Especially because most of that info can be found online
“I’m sentimental not crazy” Erica is cute 😭😆 although is wasn’t a major before and after if she’s consistent and want change for the better it will happen! And please please do not get a storage unit you will waste thousands and thousands of dollars. I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mom, may you be at peace and have love always. ❤
You all's chemistry was off the chart!! Your understanding and support of Erica was very nice to see. She can't be pushed too hard. I appreciate her effort and your motivational support. You guys positive vibes radiates through the universe!!!
Although it's been time consuming, one can see the progress being made! Things are moving on out, trashed, recycled. Paying for storage is a trap - cost more eventually, than the value of the item being stored. Reconsider, and do a cost estimate of storage vs value!
I think Erica is super brave to open up to the process. She has come so far, really! I remember times in my life when this would have been already way too much for me. I am also a writer and can relate on the creative aspect ❤️ Carla, you are amazing for being so patient and thorough and the beautiful friend who gently nudges her while making this fun! Part 2, please! 😊
Definitely Part 2!! It's encouraging that Erica is continuing to declutter herself. But I would NOT recommend a storage facility, as it simply encourages hoarding behaviour. At some point a person needs to face their stuff (i.e., demons). Usually a lot of discomfort is required to trigger the decision for behaviour change.
yes for sure want to see part 2 ..... The trouble with the storage unit is out of sight out of mind .. and easy to fill up that space again . Maybe if each Sat she goes and gets one box out of storage and deal with it again .. that way doing it slowly . and one box is do able .
She's making great progress! (I'm personally against storage units, because I've had to clear out a deceased relative's unit by myself, and realized 90+% should've been sold instead of spending money to store it. Keep the sentimental, but most furniture and accessories can go.)
An alternative to getting a storage space might be to rent a co-working space to achieve separation between work life and home life. Erica would however need to be vigilant about not introducing clutter into her dedicated work space or the newly cleared space at home.
Thank you, Erica! My mom passed away several years ago. When I was cleaning out her things w my sister, we kept reminding each other that Mom wasn’t in a random bowl or decoration. It helped to prioritize the few things that were really meaningful and pass on the rest. I decluttered when I was packing for my house renovation, there will be another ruthless decluttering as I unpack. Looking forward to the segment in this sequence!
My friend was injured last summer -- she allowed me to help her-- still haven't been allowed to toss her eggs dated 2020!!! No chance of her eating them, thankfully, but ever since her divorce 10 yrs ago... She panics when we declutter. Great progress in other rooms though! She can finally have company! After the divorce there were car accidents, surgeries and multiple moves to find suitable housing. Boxes still packed from 4 yrs previously. Layers is the key!!! Eventually it gets better!
Watching this video I thought of the Hoarder's Heart channel. She used to have a completely hoarded house, and over years of working through her hoarding, she now has gone from a level 4 hoarder to a level 1 or 2 hoarder. I don't think Erica is a full hoarder, but some of those reactions seemed familiar to what Ms Heart talks about in her videos. Might be worth a watch to get her perspective and see how she processes letting go of things!
I understand her sooo bad. I was like her! I'm a minimalist now but I know how she feels. The attachment to things is real and it takes a lot of training and determintation to be able to let go. I'm a firm believer it is only through your own experience that you can overcome the attachment to things. Once you start little by little letting go, you start feeling lighter and it's nice. Then you can confirm, with your own experience that you are able to survive without that sticker or the Arugula recipe. Not only that, you start to feel better for letting it go because you feel lighter and you start to trust yourself more to make decisions to let go of more and more things. I love it but it is something that did not happen overnight for me.
I've just reached the magazines part 😂I used to collect magazines too. That was a hard thing to let go for me. It was Vanity Fair and Cosmo and all of those
I would watch multiple parts of this de litter! Slow and steady as she learns new systems and realizes she doesn’t miss the things she let go. Great work!❤
I'm really glad you posted this video! I think it will help a lot of people who want to declutter but have difficulty letting things go! It's not a perfect process, but I loved that she continued to work on it after your initial help. A storage unit would be great because I think she'll get to experience what a clutter-free home feels and looks like. Then maybe after some time passes she'll be able to part with those items because she'll realize she never needed or cared all that much about them.
I would love to see a part 2 to this. I think Erica definitely learnt a lot from you but probably needs a second pass with you guiding her in the right direction. ❤
You helped her start the journey. I know from personal experience it can take years to get over your attachment to objects and learn to declutter. It’s a process.
Don't be discouraged, Carla! You helped Erica dislodge and move the wheel of progress. I hope she keeps the forward momentum rolling so there's no need to waste money on storage.
Chile I want to see all the sequels! We are routing for Erica 🎉🎉🎉🎉I want to see her apartment decluttered ☺️she deserves a happy space so her creativity can flow!!!! Carla your a great friend for helping Erica thru this journey ❤
My goodness, Carla. I can't wait to see Part 2. This is the biggest project that I have seen you participate in. You have a lot of patience with your friends. Keep us posted.
It’s wild to be years ahead on this journey and then see a newbie. We all did the evolution of declutter to organize and then back to declutter. You did what you said… you planted a seed. Whether that gets cultivated is up to her (hopefully she does!!). Would definitely love to see a part two!
I thought I had a long tolerance fuse, but Carla you outdo me by miles. Your patience and humour is immense. No to more storage. She can’t reposition the bar stools if she hasn’t got a bar/table to put them with.
I have a few friends like this. They want to organize their homes, admit how dirty their homes are, but there is ALWAYS an excuse as to why they can't start. They don't want anyone to see their home, they have to make sure they have the supplies first. They have to clear this one thing first, etc etc. Two of us offered to help her declutter, and my friend just stopped mentioning wanting to clean her place, so we stopped offering to do it. You can't help people who don't want to change. All we can do is offer to be there for them if they choose to accept your help.
I'm sorry, but the way you worded this triggered me. It's not that they "don't want to change." The whole reason they're asking for help is they DO want to change. But it is extremely hard to admit you even have the issue in the first place. It's humiliating. Your friend probably won't ask for help again because she was most likely shamed and judged for having a messy home to begin with. No one wants a judgmental person to "help" them do anything. That's not helping, that's making the situation worse. I speak from personal experience. So, instead of concluding she "doesn't want" help, I strongly suggest LISTENING to her and getting to the root of the issue. Your friend may need therapy to help her get thru whatever's going on. At the very least, she needs someone who will listen to her with ZERO judgment. If you can't do that, then no amount of offering to help will do any good. Trust me, I know.
@@mrandisg I'm not sorry. I meant don't want to change. Not my problem that what I said triggered you. Saying something is different than putting in effort, not matter the opportunity. You can say you want to change all you like, but if you don't put in intent, it's lip service. You seem to be more concerned with tone policing me than listing to what I'm saying. Me sugar coating it is not going to coax anyone into putting in the work. I have been that person and I have been on the receiving end of that person. Effort is part of the process, and it is no one's obligation to handhold someone and force them to do something they haven't admitted to themselves they truly want to do. NO ONE has that type of control over anyone.
@@thegazetteyt I understand, and I’m sorry for attacking like that. I shouldn’t have done that. You’re right, me getting triggered is not your fault. It’s mine. It’s just that I’ve been misunderstood and misjudged by people so much over the course of my life that when I think someone else is being judged unfairly, I feel the need to defend them. But yeah, I definitely overreacted, so I apologize.
@@mrandisg I hear you. I've been on that side of the judging as well. One thing Ive learned from it from getting older is don't give a s*it about what others think of you. Don't give them that power. It's too draining. Once you learn that (and that can be a hard lesson to learn) you will be liberated to go and do and experience what you want :)
Carla, I commend YOU for your HARD work abd EFFORT! PLEASE convince her to get a storage space AND get some sort of theraputical assistance e.g. be part of a decluttering group or something where she can talk about WHY is she EMOTIONALLY attached to EVERY think. If she can get to the root of it she can derach AND then start letting go of things! To every cause there is a root and she needs outside assistance to what you can provide. A band aid is only a tempoary cover to her wound, she has something deep rooted that might resolve this. I speak as a family member who like you assisted someone with this type of issue. Cheers and good luck!
Bless your heart Carla! You should have given her a gummie! Maybe she would have decluttered like her kitchen. Definitely part 2. Love these kind of videos!!
Erica is the funniest Declutter with Friends FRIEND who doesn’t want to Declutter 😂😅I actually think getting her a storage unit could be the gateway to her clearing out her space. Let us know your thoughts and thanks Erica for opening up your home 🏡 ❤ (like the video if you want us to make part two)
When I saw the title I was like....ooops that is me🙈
A storage unit would only solve her problem if she stops buying...that is not going to happen. She needs someone to help her deal with the issues behind the clutter
I think getting a storage space has potential to be the pathway to success for Erica if she makes the commitment to not filling the space created by moving the items currently in her home to the storage unit. It could be highly motivating if some items can be removed in such a way that Erica will have a room or even part of a room that is orderly and calming. She will however need to make a solemn promise that existing clutter in other parts of her home will not migrate into the newly cleared space and no new items will be introduced into the cleared area. Please film a part 2 to this video. I enjoy your videos very much!
Definitely no storage unit. That’s just a recipe for further hoarding.
This is because her Mom died....at least in part. When I am dealing with this situation I go mystical and burn sage. I was working with someone who had months to live and we got rid of 1 glass milk bottle that had a $1 deposit. I gave her the dollar. You can't convince these people it has to come from within. You handled this beautifully!
I think it’s SO important for y’all to show this! Not everyone can just declutter everything and THATS OK. It’s a process and you showing that and showing grace is fantastic. I’m here for all the parts!!
Thank u 😊
So realistic...not every declutter goes smoothly or quickly. Part 2 please! I'm against paying for storage personally, unless it's for a specific time frame such as cleaning out a parents home that you need to move quickly but will go through later ... You could have a nice little trip for the $1200 bucks she'd spend in a year.
I wholeheartedly agree
I 100% agree. She’ll never ever remember what’s in a storage unit. Most people never visit them just pay.
It's been my experience, when you put things in a storage unit: out of sight, out of mind. And the storage unit ends up costing far more than anything that was stored. No one wants to visit their storage unit to clean things out.
Yes, part 2 (and 3 and 4) please. Nearly lost it when Erica wanted to keep the toaster manual 😂
Yes!! This needs to be a 10 part series lol. Sorry Carla!
Lol 😂
For the toaster she didn't own anymore and already replaced!
Yes! I want to see more! I think as you go she will be more willing to let go of things.
Deb here. I prefer paper manuals because I can find them faster and it is easier for me to read. My manuals are in one location not scattered around.
Erica reminds me of a hoarder. They won't let go of even the little things. I appreciate Erica allowing us to see her home. I hope there is a part 2 so she can let go.
That's because she is a hoarder lol
I personally don’t think she’s a hoarder. She may have hoarding tendencies, but that doesn’t mean she has a disorder. She’s a creative person, too, so she may see thing as having value in a way that others don’t. And it could also be attention span and spending habits too. I totally relate to her and I have hoarded (bought a lot of things I didn’t have places for and have attachment to) when I was going through a difficult time in my life. I don’t think being a hoarder makes you an unacceptable person or anything either. I just want to say that. Hoarding is a mental disorder that is often brought on by coping with trauma. Even if that’s not the case, some people are more attached to their belongings and have a more difficult time letting go. It’s a process. You have to build a muscle for it when it doesn’t come naturally to you.
I think your right she's bordering well there on hoarding tendencies with trash & new things mixed in boxes and bags :/
I agree the tendency is there, but she's trying to improve.
@@theloveyourfacegal2773 we would really need to see how Erica does over time in an adequately sized space in order to determine whether or not she's hoarding. She has so little space that she may just get frustrated and overwhelmed and not deal with things she is willing to get rid of. I deal with small space living and people with neurodivergence, so I'm familiar with how many people get overwhelmed or depressed and feel like nothing they do makes a difference, so why try? (She may also deal with object permanence issues, which can contribute to a lot of forgotten items of varying importance levels ending up mixed together.) Erica needs to see that what she does *is* making it better and she's not just shuffling stuff from A to B and back to A.
She’s doing great! Baby steps are fine! Some people need a little more time to declutter. I would not recommend a storage unit - that is just moving the problem from one spot to another. The problem isn’t the stuff, it’s the inability to get rid of anything. If she doesn’t learn that skill, her home will just be full of junk again in a very short time.
So true
I'd love to see a part two. You and Erica definitely made progress. I think it's a good sign she maintained the kitchen.
I vote no on the separate storage unit. It'll just become an extra recurring expense and a place where she dumps things and forgets about them. My vote is for several rounds of decluttering. Each pass she'll get rid of more stuff. She won't ever be a minimalist, but I can she her becoming more simplified and organized. Plus, maybe more videos for us? 😂
Thank you for sharing your home, Erica!
Yeah, I agree that storage spaces are enablers and tend to be a waste of money, especially to people who struggle with clutter and parting with things. Paying rent to keep things in storage could be replaced with selling those items and/or donating them or recycling them. A monthly decluttering session where she gets rid of 30 or more items might feel less overwhelming than trying to do it all in one take. As always, great work getting things in order. 🥰#FriendsDontLetFriendsLiveInClutter #MentalHealth #ClearClutterClearYourMind❤
Totally agree, I don't think a storage unit would be helpful in the long run.
Agreed. Storage units all too frequently become floor to ceiling piles of decisions delayed.
Yes to part two. “NO” to storage. I think a lot was learned this session and your friend may be more ruthless with decluttering next session if you have one. Good luck.
I honestly think if you girls continue the process together she won't need a storage unit in the end. Erica is a sweetheart 🥰
I agree! Piece by piece it will/would get less and less!
Keep on helping and gently pushing, Carla!
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Decluttering and organizing someone else’s stuff is the lord’s work. Seriously, even when a person recognizes there is an issue that level of “mess” is driven by psychological trauma not just complacency. As evidenced by wanting keep a duster “I use” but was under 6 trash cans… and who needs that many little trash cans. Good luck to you both.
She looks like she made great progress after you went. Sometimes it’s doing the smaller stuff with a friend that is the push we need! Wonderful to see a ‘perfectly imperfect’ before and after. Much more realistic on how decluttering often goes ESPECIALLY paper clutter!
Great video as usual Carla! Xx
Yeah, I was so shocked when she sent me that last video! Really happy that she has that work area set up now!!
I love that you showed the progress of someone who doesn't want to get rid of anything. I'm slowly working with my mom to declutter her 3000 sq ft house. It's very difficult to get her to declutter, but she has improved so much over the last two months! I would absolutely love to see your friend's progress!
As someone who has helped my dad declutter a 4 bedroom home, one strategy that helped was sorting items by category, and then asking “how many ___ do you think you need?” After he came up with a number, I would have him picked out that many of his favorites from the pile and then move on. For hoarders it’s especially hard to pick up and make a decision about every single item and once they’re holding it they will often find a reason why they need to keep it. Mind you, he was only open to decluttering because he had to sell the home and had a deadline. Good luck with your mom! I know the struggle.
She actually did a LOT! Very nice. Progress over perfection. Storage is not the answer. Curating her items, having a design style, giving herself limits is part of the answer. Looking forward to part 2.
Yeah, and she hired a TaskRabbit! She did do a lot!!
Progress over perfection, this did SO much for her
Yes, as Dana K. White says, "Better is Good."
I agree.
Thanks Erica for allowing us into your home. Good job Carla! Oh please make a part 2.
Let’s see if she wants to continue! 😅❤
As a writer, maybe she can write her feelings down and that will help her process. . it's funny to see her work in this room vs the kitchen, where she was more flexible when it came to the de-clutter & organize.
Thanks for keeping it real, Carla.
That's good advice. Also writing things down actually helps us to believe it.
can't nobody pick up her burden until she is willing to lay it down first. ❤
Yes to part 2 and more through her journey. I was her at one point, making excuses to keep everything. Now, through a 5 year process, I’ve donated about 40 boxes/bags worth of stuff, sold over 250 items of clothing and shoes, and trashed a bunch of stuff too. It can be hard, but it can be done over time.
Wow. Where did you sell your clothes at?
@@nolasavedmysoul I sold some bigger ticket household items on Craig's List.. mailed some of the best clothes to my niece. I have a pile for a friend, and I donated the other stuff, which I should have tried to sell. I figured it would just sit there if I did that, so I donated it. Maybe I'll plan to do that in the future. Our last thing we decluttered was books which I donated. I sorted out over 300 and my husband around 250. We have a lot of bookshelves. We had the room on them but I was just tired of holding on to ones we would never read again!. Great job on your part sticking to it and getting some cash back on your clothing.
Very inspiring!!
How awesome!
Don’t get storage space. That will be wasted money that she could invest or pay off a bill. Just deal with the stuff now. It’s not worth storing it and then going through it years later after you’ve spent all that money.
This was definitively not an “epic fail”. She actually did some progress and followed your recommendations for the bookshelves. It is true that for every person the process of letting go things is different, but she wants to have a clearer space and that is an awesome start. Good bless her in her process of declutterring and getting a cleaner personal environment.
Decluttering is an ongoing process. I’ve been doing it for years. Stuff always pops up. Things get added to the home and need clearing again. I think you should get your friend to watch decluttering videos for inspiration and/or videos on minimalism etc. They always inspire me to sort my stuff out x
Yes!
omg me too!
Yes!! I just did a big declutter again (have done multiple ones already), and now I am finding stuff that I really don't want.
It’s definitely a lifestyle!! ❤
Erica has a great personality. She’s funny and sweet and she deserves a part 2! 😄
She’s hilarious!!😂
I would LOVE to be able to declutter my friend's places - literally my ultimate dream lol. For now, I'll just keep an eye out for more of these videos. You and Erica make me laugh!!
Yes please continue this journey! The truth is we ALL have parts of our lives that we resist decluttering. So many life lessons in this clip. Tell Erica we appreciate her being willing to show her vulnerability to the world! Great work for both of you all. You have planted the seed…that’s why she asked you to come back.
I don't think she should get a storage. Use it or lose it. The more that she sees the freed up space, she may be more apt to let some things go. It's a process.
Yes part 2 or more. Erica needs you to guide her through. She’s going to be so free after you help her declutter. You can do it Erica…
Maintaining is easy once it’s decluttered and organized. Declutter your newly decluttered and organized space every few months and you will stay happy and organized. 😊
This is an episode of hoarders for real! Don’t buy a storage unit!!! She’ll just be paying for storage without any cleaning! And it’s going to add to the sadness and anxiety and anger when she has spent the money AND doesn’t have a place for her things. Plus when she can’t see it she will just buy multiples of what’s in storage. Take it from me EVERY ONE of my family members does this me included. We just can’t help it. It takes a real commitment (and doing the de clutter ourselves) to change things.
Carla it was so awesome how patient and understanding you were! I had Peter Walsh flashbacks on this one! Erica made a comeback and made some progress in the end! Great job Erica! I know it’s hard but it the end like Carla says, you will feel soooo much better! Yes part 2!
It's clear how hard this was for her, I think it would be interesting to work it on therapy. She seems lovely, she deserve a awsome space! Carla did so much difference at this space!
Yes to a Part 2 - it seems you really jump-started the process which is a true gift to your friend, Great job ladies!
watching this reminds me of myself when decluttering for my parents 😅 the struggle is reallll. progress is progress though! can't wait for part 2!
So sad that people hoard & exist surrounded by piles of stuff & trash. Just seeing this makes it difficult to breathe. You're a good friend to help. Hope she comes around
I have decluttered my furniture, tchotchkes, clothing, non-keto pantry items, dishes, linens, books and magazines. I'm down to the paperwork, photos and mementos. It is very hard. You are an inspiration!
Love this! Erica is just as I was once, saving mags, books, paper - that I did not touch for 20+ years. Then I got real, and realized stuff was strangling me. I then trashed the mags etc AND THE MANY RACKS AND STORAGE SOLUTIONS I had purchased over time to keep them ‘neat’. Go Erica! Don’t follow my bad example!
I don't want a part 2, I NEED a part 2!
This was me a few years ago! I wanted to keep everything but I also wanted a simplified space. I had to go through my home 3-4 times to finally get it to a place where it looks more like a home and less like a storage unit. I think Erica did so well for her first round, and the later clips are awesome! Way to go, Erica!
I think of decluttering like an onion. With each pass/layer you get better at knowing what you actually use and want to keep and it gets easier to let stuff go.
Good job for her showing a realistic maximalist or maybe someone who is at the very beginning of their decluttering journey!! This is very true of every person who has to declutter the very first time and is feeling overwhelmed. Hopefully it helps to encourage many people to continue on their decluttering journey. 💕
This is real life! You really have to be ready to get it done. It took me the 5th time to truly declutter my tupperware cabinet. Five times! But, it showed me how when your really ready you get it done. I love watching you so much. The people you help are so lovable too! Please more videos
Part 2. I think you’re right that she needs the storage unit first to physically see how much her clutter is costing her. My fear though is that the cleared surfaces will be re-filled. although she did keep her kitchen…there is hope for when she is ready. It IS a process and she is a beginner. Let’s get her started and let us know how it goes. ❤️🍁
Yeah, we were thinking as she would get the storage unit and that could be the space that she does some decluttering from. It’s still in the idea stage so we’ll see how she wants to move forward…tbd
I remember watching a show in the early 2000s (maybe it was called clean house) where they cleaned out and organized hoarder level houses. Sometimes they would clear out an entire room by emptying it in the front yard. Then they would put the room back together with only a reasonable amount of furniture and decor. Sometimes that was the push the people needed to see what their house could really be like without the extra stuff. Maybe a storage unit could help with this realization. Or it could also be used as a time limit. For example if I don’t need to get something out of the unit in the next 6 months I don’t need it and it has to go. But it could also be a crutch to acquire more stuff. Time will tell.
“I’m keeping this”
Why?
“Because it’s Betty White” 😭😭 she is so funny omg
It really is so hard for many people to get rid of things. I could see that she was trying but struggling. Even slow progress counts! I hope she’s been able to continue decluttering. Hugs to you both. 😊💙🐦
Of course we want a second part. I also decclutter up my room and now it's so good to be. All the things I need or use are still there.
A part two please! Erica may need a storage place. Especially if she is having a hard time letting go. I love that she has kept going. Carla you support and encourage with laughter and iron will. Love it
Yeah, I think the storage space could be motivating, and after a few months, she may realize she doesn’t need any of those items. Plus, it would be great for her to live in her space without all of the clutter surrounding her. It’s basically like igetting a second bedroom. Because her place is really small!
@@TheCarlaProject What if you say that after the unit is is filled up, that if it's all still there in a 1/2 a year without being touched, YOU may dispose of the contents without her re-examining everything. We all know the only reason she says she wants stuff is because it's in front of her, but if she doesn't see it once it's in the unit, it wont be stressful. I've thought of doing this for myself, because once I SEE something the "what if" bells start chiming in that I'll need it. But if it's just magically gone, I'd never think about that stuff again honestly.
I am learning NOT to be Erica! Every video I watch helps me see where I can improve and encourages me to do ANYTHING towards declutter and cleaning. Thank you for showing us REAL LIFE.
As long as she is making progress she is moving in the right direction. Yes, to a part 2.
I totally can relate to the overwhelming feeling this is. The boxes, boxes, boxes.... it is so hard. But keep at it Erica, because a) there IS an end to it, it is a FINITE amount of stuff and b) you can treat yourself to doing one box each evening, and you'll be so much better off each week. The seed has been planted, and we are cheering for you (and I am working right along with you!)
Please do a part 2!😭 Erica reminds me of my mom, she wants a manageable space but won’t get rid of anything. ☹️
12:46 Where Erica literally takes the things Carla gives her and just sets them aside! 😂😂😂😂Erica you’re terrific!!! More please!
She is lucky to have you as a friend and you are so patient! I was in the past trying to help people around me but I have no patience anymore to debating about sticker 😀
Yes, part 2! No to paying for storage space. I think as she uses her decluttering muscles, she will be able to get rid of more things to have a great space!
Thank you Erica for again inviting us into your home. Carla, you are so good in this role! Your friends are lucky to have you in their court (their cluttered soon to be not cluttered court!)...yes to all the parts (2,3 and on) so we can see the progress and the process...I agree with another commenter who suggested Erica write down her feelings and thoughts around her difficulties and challenges letting go...Thanks for all you do Carla! Have loved watching your journey...
This video is literally giving me anxiety from the battles i had w my mom who was a hoarder my whole life. I love the vibe though, you are very kind and your client is awesome too. Also i did this with a friend 6 months ago and it ruined our friendship so i learned my lesson never ever do this w anyone u know!
I hope that Erica can continue the process, it is an emotional process. I feel that hanging on to possessions is a way to slow down the time and keep the past alive. But the past is the past. I think that not using the Ninja Foodie on the floor or the stereo in the floor is a sign that they are not useful. My theory is : If it is on the floor and doesn't have a home it should go out. Furthermore, not shopping is a must to save money and to keep the space decluttered. Shopping should be reserved for essentials from now on. I wish for Erica to find happiness and peace.
First of all…thank you for the appliance manual reminder. I will definitely throw mine out today that are filed in my box. Second…I used to have lots of CD and now I only have Apple music. I think something triggered Erika to hoard stuff, something emotional. Whether it was losing her Mom (I’ve lost my Mom too) or several other events that has her maintaining “control” of her “things”. Raising things off the floor and to the walls doesn’t seem like the answer. Erika, your spirit is so bright and positive I hope you get to a point where you realize these “things” don’t matter, you matter. Hugs ❤😊
Please part 2. Getting a storage unit will only encourage her to keep more stuff. I know from experience.
Please make a part 2. Letting go of items can be hard but if you want change to last and take place Erica has to be ready. If she hasn't physically gone through each item clutter will continue to happen. Once she sees her home opening up, she will have more motivation and begin to declutter more. Decluttering is not a one and done, its a process that must be done continuously and consistently. Thanks for having patience with Erica.
She’s not ready to really let go.🥲
You’re a good friend to her.
Yes, part 2 please.
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Sweet Erica, if you can remember to throw out junk mail, empty boxes, and magazines daily, that would be a huge step forward. It truly is a process but so worth letting go of things so your work can proceed easier. You are delightful. Such a cute personality, and I hope to watch your movie some day.
Erica seems like a good candidate for Dana K. White’s decluttering method! She has a UA-cam, podcast, books! For example for things like those magazines she does this thing called the container concept where you select the container or space where magazines will be stored, fill it with your favorites, then once it’s full that’s all you keep! Makes the container the “bad guy” and reduces the amount of bargaining between helper (you) and space owner (Erica) by physically showing them the limits of their space.
Also the first step of her method is to remove trash so y’all are making great progress even if it’s frustrating! Her method is really great for creatives like Erica who have piles and insist they know what all’s in them 😂 and really, really helpful for overwhelming spaces that feel impossible
Thanks for letting us into your home Erica! I feel this was the beginning of a project that may feel a bit overwhelming still? I'm proud of her that she made babysteps into the right direction. Sometimes a detour (like storage unit here) also leads to great results.
I think the YT channel hoarders heart is a great channel to watch. She talks a lot of how she personally declutters especially when she emotional or difficult to declutter.
yes to part 2 !!! would love to see this girl have a beautiful clear space to live and work in 😀
I was Erica. I'm 53 and holy smokes, its a huge job when you've been doing it for 20 years.
Sometimes it's just the moment, Erica could go through that same pile and throw out stuff she kept, bc she comes at it with a different mindset.
I was the same with manuals, until i did the same as you said Carla, all this stuff is available digitally. I'm also a creative. A graphic designer and videographer. I've just thrown out my notes from my course bc yes, I put a lot of work into them, but do I refer to them? No. Throwing those notes out does not instantly diminish how much work I put in, it clears my space and therefore my mind.
It's taken me a long time to get here, but she has to approach this with less sentimental feelings and attachments, let logic and practicality drive her decision making. That can take time and/or a mood change.
I think storage is ok for a temp solution only.
If it's used to clear out her apartment for now, and give her the space she needs, and experience what it's like to live clutter free, it might motivate her to be more critical in her sorting thinking.
The danger is that it will become a new collection point, she'll fill the storage, and/or fill the new space in her apartment as well, bc out if sight, out of mind, and the excuses we make to ourselves.
Perhaps Erica won't do this, bc she's maintained the kitchen, but it could go 50/50.
I like to keep my appliance instructions and warranty papers so I just combine them all into one folder for the whole house and label it. I put it in the living room and showed everyone where it was so now if we need the info it's put away and accessible. We've used it several times!
I also think putting the magazines into a combined pile will show her how many she actually has and help her realize she needs to get rid of some. Especially because most of that info can be found online
You both did so well. Paper is the HARDEST thing to sort. Especially when you have an emotional connection to the papers. Baby steps.
Ur right💗
She didn't fail, God's still working on her. ❤
The declutter was a fail, never her.
“I’m sentimental not crazy” Erica is cute 😭😆 although is wasn’t a major before and after if she’s consistent and want change for the better it will happen! And please please do not get a storage unit you will waste thousands and thousands of dollars. I’m so sorry for the loss of your Mom, may you be at peace and have love always. ❤
You all's chemistry was off the chart!! Your understanding and support of Erica was very nice to see. She can't be pushed too hard. I appreciate her effort and your motivational support. You guys positive vibes radiates through the universe!!!
Although it's been time consuming, one can see the progress being made! Things are moving on out, trashed, recycled. Paying for storage is a trap - cost more eventually, than the value of the item being stored. Reconsider, and do a cost estimate of storage vs value!
I think Erica is super brave to open up to the process. She has come so far, really!
I remember times in my life when this would have been already way too much for me. I am also a writer and can relate on the creative aspect ❤️ Carla, you are amazing for being so patient and thorough and the beautiful friend who gently nudges her while making this fun!
Part 2, please! 😊
You did paint Erica's red flag pink. Clearing that corner was the catalyst. Would love to see a part 2. And even part 3, if needed.
Definitely Part 2!! It's encouraging that Erica is continuing to declutter herself. But I would NOT recommend a storage facility, as it simply encourages hoarding behaviour. At some point a person needs to face their stuff (i.e., demons). Usually a lot of discomfort is required to trigger the decision for behaviour change.
yes for sure want to see part 2 ..... The trouble with the storage unit is out of sight out of mind .. and easy to fill up that space again . Maybe if each Sat she goes and gets one box out of storage and deal with it again .. that way doing it slowly . and one box is do able .
She's making great progress! (I'm personally against storage units, because I've had to clear out a deceased relative's unit by myself, and realized 90+% should've been sold instead of spending money to store it. Keep the sentimental, but most furniture and accessories can go.)
An alternative to getting a storage space might be to rent a co-working space to achieve separation between work life and home life. Erica would however need to be vigilant about not introducing clutter into her dedicated work space or the newly cleared space at home.
Thank you, Erica! My mom passed away several years ago. When I was cleaning out her things w my sister, we kept reminding each other that Mom wasn’t in a random bowl or decoration. It helped to prioritize the few things that were really meaningful and pass on the rest. I decluttered when I was packing for my house renovation, there will be another ruthless decluttering as I unpack. Looking forward to the segment in this sequence!
Oh Erica, I applaud you for decluttering. I’ve been on that journey since my stroke last year. It’s really hard but the outcome is life changing
My friend was injured last summer -- she allowed me to help her-- still haven't been allowed to toss her eggs dated 2020!!! No chance of her eating them, thankfully, but ever since her divorce 10 yrs ago... She panics when we declutter. Great progress in other rooms though! She can finally have company! After the divorce there were car accidents, surgeries and multiple moves to find suitable housing. Boxes still packed from 4 yrs previously. Layers is the key!!! Eventually it gets better!
Watching this video I thought of the Hoarder's Heart channel. She used to have a completely hoarded house, and over years of working through her hoarding, she now has gone from a level 4 hoarder to a level 1 or 2 hoarder. I don't think Erica is a full hoarder, but some of those reactions seemed familiar to what Ms Heart talks about in her videos. Might be worth a watch to get her perspective and see how she processes letting go of things!
Carla has certain facial poses and looks that are sooooooo similar to Jennifer Lopez...even her hair...
Love It...💕💕
I understand her sooo bad. I was like her!
I'm a minimalist now but I know how she feels. The attachment to things is real and it takes a lot of training and determintation to be able to let go. I'm a firm believer it is only through your own experience that you can overcome the attachment to things. Once you start little by little letting go, you start feeling lighter and it's nice. Then you can confirm, with your own experience that you are able to survive without that sticker or the Arugula recipe. Not only that, you start to feel better for letting it go because you feel lighter and you start to trust yourself more to make decisions to let go of more and more things. I love it but it is something that did not happen overnight for me.
I've just reached the magazines part 😂I used to collect magazines too.
That was a hard thing to let go for me. It was Vanity Fair and Cosmo and all of those
I would watch multiple parts of this de litter! Slow and steady as she learns new systems and realizes she doesn’t miss the things she let go. Great work!❤
I'm really glad you posted this video! I think it will help a lot of people who want to declutter but have difficulty letting things go! It's not a perfect process, but I loved that she continued to work on it after your initial help. A storage unit would be great because I think she'll get to experience what a clutter-free home feels and looks like. Then maybe after some time passes she'll be able to part with those items because she'll realize she never needed or cared all that much about them.
I would love to see a part 2 to this. I think Erica definitely learnt a lot from you but probably needs a second pass with you guiding her in the right direction. ❤
You helped her start the journey. I know from personal experience it can take years to get over your attachment to objects and learn to declutter. It’s a process.
Don't be discouraged, Carla! You helped Erica dislodge and move the wheel of progress. I hope she keeps the forward momentum rolling so there's no need to waste money on storage.
Chile I want to see all the sequels! We are routing for Erica 🎉🎉🎉🎉I want to see her apartment decluttered ☺️she deserves a happy space so her creativity can flow!!!! Carla your a great friend for helping Erica thru this journey ❤
My goodness, Carla. I can't wait to see Part 2. This is the biggest project that I have seen you participate in. You have a lot of patience with your friends. Keep us posted.
Yes please part 2! I’m hoping the reality of paying for and managing a storage unit is enough of a push to get her in a better headspace to declutter!
It’s wild to be years ahead on this journey and then see a newbie. We all did the evolution of declutter to organize and then back to declutter. You did what you said… you planted a seed. Whether that gets cultivated is up to her (hopefully she does!!). Would definitely love to see a part two!
Definitely do a part 2. She has made progress but there is still a lot of stuff to go through. She will feel better when all the decluttering is done
I thought I had a long tolerance fuse, but Carla you outdo me by miles. Your patience and humour is immense. No to more storage. She can’t reposition the bar stools if she hasn’t got a bar/table to put them with.
Seeing that Bath and Body Works box filled with unused items made me feel judged 😂. I have 3 boxes like that in my bathroom closet.
My advice would be to give yourself a set time to use them buy. If you don’t use them then give permission to either regift or throw away x
You are describing the “my future self” syndrome.
Thank you Erica for showing us your space! Decluttering is harder than it sounds. I would love a part 2 Carla!
I have a few friends like this. They want to organize their homes, admit how dirty their homes are, but there is ALWAYS an excuse as to why they can't start. They don't want anyone to see their home, they have to make sure they have the supplies first. They have to clear this one thing first, etc etc. Two of us offered to help her declutter, and my friend just stopped mentioning wanting to clean her place, so we stopped offering to do it.
You can't help people who don't want to change. All we can do is offer to be there for them if they choose to accept your help.
I'm sorry, but the way you worded this triggered me. It's not that they "don't want to change." The whole reason they're asking for help is they DO want to change. But it is extremely hard to admit you even have the issue in the first place. It's humiliating. Your friend probably won't ask for help again because she was most likely shamed and judged for having a messy home to begin with. No one wants a judgmental person to "help" them do anything. That's not helping, that's making the situation worse. I speak from personal experience. So, instead of concluding she "doesn't want" help, I strongly suggest LISTENING to her and getting to the root of the issue. Your friend may need therapy to help her get thru whatever's going on. At the very least, she needs someone who will listen to her with ZERO judgment. If you can't do that, then no amount of offering to help will do any good. Trust me, I know.
@@mrandisg I'm not sorry. I meant don't want to change. Not my problem that what I said triggered you. Saying something is different than putting in effort, not matter the opportunity. You can say you want to change all you like, but if you don't put in intent, it's lip service.
You seem to be more concerned with tone policing me than listing to what I'm saying. Me sugar coating it is not going to coax anyone into putting in the work.
I have been that person and I have been on the receiving end of that person. Effort is part of the process, and it is no one's obligation to handhold someone and force them to do something they haven't admitted to themselves they truly want to do. NO ONE has that type of control over anyone.
@@thegazetteyt I understand, and I’m sorry for attacking like that. I shouldn’t have done that. You’re right, me getting triggered is not your fault. It’s mine. It’s just that I’ve been misunderstood and misjudged by people so much over the course of my life that when I think someone else is being judged unfairly, I feel the need to defend them. But yeah, I definitely overreacted, so I apologize.
@@mrandisg I hear you. I've been on that side of the judging as well. One thing Ive learned from it from getting older is don't give a s*it about what others think of you. Don't give them that power. It's too draining. Once you learn that (and that can be a hard lesson to learn) you will be liberated to go and do and experience what you want :)
Carla, I commend YOU for your HARD work abd EFFORT! PLEASE convince her to get a storage space AND get some sort of theraputical assistance e.g. be part of a decluttering group or something where she can talk about WHY is she EMOTIONALLY attached to EVERY think. If she can get to the root of it she can derach AND then start letting go of things! To every cause there is a root and she needs outside assistance to what you can provide. A band aid is only a tempoary cover to her wound, she has something deep rooted that might resolve this. I speak as a family member who like you assisted someone with this type of issue. Cheers and good luck!
At least you got her thinking about decluttering. It is always a process. Erica, You deserve a clean and organized and decluttered space.
We all need a Carla in our life!!
I _definitely_ want one!
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" I ain't crazy....I don't know" 🤣🤣smh!
Bless your heart Carla! You should have given her a gummie! Maybe she would have decluttered like her kitchen. Definitely part 2. Love these kind of videos!!
Omg Them Jeans Have NEVER LOOKED SO GOOD!