I also grew up with parents like this and also deal with anxiety. At one point you have to break free or it will ruin your life. So take that Uber and go on a hike!
Yeah sweetheart, may also help to create a mental barrier just for some time, don't ask anything, don't tell anything important, just live your life yourself in your room, work, or even in the house, but maintaining mainly casual talks. This way you can still pay cheap rent and not get too much influenced by those shackles from your family's habits.
Helicopter parenting causes anxiety in their children. We have 2 kids and were always encouraging to go explore the world. Before 16, we encouraged them to try sports, academics clubs in school, etc. After 16, we encourage them to hang out with their friends since they can drive. Encourage and support. Dont helicoper and control. Push yourself to get out there. Hiking is good for the soul.
i feel ya girl. strict parent are rough. and like the world can be dangerous, but there are risks in everything like you said. And you can't let that stop you from living. I hope you can get through this though and figure out a way to hike! and also definitely don't feel guilty over any of this! going on a walk is nothing to feel guilt over haha
I have my license and still can’t drive because my narcissistic controlling father won’t let me. The only thing I can think of is saving up for my own car
UA-cam recommended this to me. Now Im a solo woman traveller in Egypt (with anxiety). My parents are strict and they made me be terrified of taking Ubers here and generally going outside anywhere. They told me it’s extremely dangerous, they would kidnap me etc. Not only my parents but also friends and the whole Society. And you know what? NOTHING happened. I LITERALLY had the best holiday! Please, dont listen to them! Solo travelling helped me with my anxiety and depression. Please, do what your heart tells you and get out. I also had mental problems. But I am more strong than them - and so are you ❤ Good luck!
I wish i had parents that acted like parents. Mine were free spirited and let me do pretty much anything. Drugs, partying, dropping out of high school, they'd even party with me. At times i felt like i had to act like the parent to my own parents. It sucked.
That really sucks, but as someone who is on the other side, its just as bad. I'm 21 and I lived with my parents while commuting to college to save money, and it was a miserable 4 years. The only things I was ever really allowed to do was go to class and go to the gym. I had a hard curfew of 10 and they would unfailingly freak out and blow up my phone if I was even 1 minute late. I spent all my free time lifting because I had few friends and no freedom, and it was the only thing that kept me from losing my mind. It's awful.
I was afraid of driving, too. Didn't get my license until I was 26. Finally had to do it for the job I had back then. It turns out, driving is pretty easy and you get better the more you do it.
The world is chaotic and violent and insane, but the chances of something happening to you are pretty slim, all things considering. And if something does happen? It happens. That's life.
stop listening to your parents or asking for their advice, do what you want, your an adult. you dont like their answers but always go to them to make your decisions.
I have such parents too. Me and my sister both have anxiety disorders because of how we were raised, and we are both old virgins and losers. About the dangerousness: If you go on that hike, or use uber, there is a chance you get into trouble. But if you continue avoiding these dangers, there is certainty that you will just live your entire life in your bedroom and die alone there one day. Pick your choice.
The fact that you are this honest, proves that you are very strong You are stronger than you think For example. A lot of woman have a lot of boyfriends and live on their own. But they are to afraid to talk about the things that scare them or the things that are vulnerable. I would rather date a girl like you, than a girl that so called doesn’t have insecurity
You don't have to move out, but you have to start driving. America is car dependent. Ubers start adding up. Start driving and going wherever you want, that's the only way to gain some kind of independence. I mean you should've been driving 10 years ago but yeah
There is always a fine line between overly strict parents and parents who do not care at all. In Asia, there is a culture called Tiger Mom ( although i feel the same can be applied to men ) where children are controlled in every aspect and often feel pressure to live up to their parents' high expectations. There is very little place that is totally safe in this day and age. What i feel is you are a very deep thinker and due to that you analyze every possible scenario. If you ever need someone to talk to and listen without any judgment, i am here😊. Please stay positive and strong
My parents were strict growing up couldn't go out with friends unless they came to the house. My younger brother was able to go to concerts in his teens and 20's with friends, have friends sleep over, go driving to movies, store. I guess cause my brother was more independent then me and wanted to have freedom than staying home for the rest of his life.
im living with parents also and i am 28. but im hispanic so its not that unusual. my parents are strict though and they always think they know better. Its very annoying.
It is hard for your parents to stop being so overly protective of you because they have been doing it so long.. they love you and that is the way they show it.. the world is good and bad mixed together.. no one is perfect so follow your heart..
thankyou for sharing and talking about this,i have all the same issues all my life and hearing you my anxiety and fear go away and i dont feel like i am the only one
Yeah it sucks when you can't go where you want, that's why I started driving, the freedom is Wonderful, I spent so much of my life afraid of it, but when I started, it changed my life. Also my Mom said things like you can't trust ppl, they lie/ steal. The only things that would kill me when I hike are bears and mountain lions but hay they have to eat to:)...30 mintues that's a good warm up walk for a hike.
The thing is also. People dont really think about us as much as we beleive they do. Anxiety is being afraid of things and scenarios that may never happen. Worrying means we suffer twice. The best advice to combat a fear of "terrorists" is this. Arm yourself. Seriously. Have a gun. Or a knife. Or mace. Taser. Always carry a pocket knife. Have some form of self protection. Have it and not need it instead of needing it and not having it. It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a garden in a war. Go for your hikes. Be happy. Be calm. Walk calmly but carry a big stick. Being able to defend yourself brings peace. Not violence. When a threat sees YOU are a threat to them, they dont put in on the work or energy to fight you. Seriously. Just be a powerful force to be reckoned with. Dont bow to any one. Life. Is chess. Know your pieces. Know your moves. Fear is dibilitating. Its evil. Be good.
You absolutely remind me of that movie '10 Cloverfield Lane'. In that case, I believe there's a truth in your parents fears; but I also believe you are a capable young lady.
Damn thas wrong of them to be overparenting even up to the age of 26, u may live with them but they shouldnt drag u into some fantasy that ur some helpless kid lol. Again we all are flawed people but older people sometimes should know better not to condition their kids into fear, glad u stood up against some of the craziness.
My parents was strict when I grew up, still are a bit. But: if I could choose parents who didn't care or parents that were strict, I'd choose having strict parents. At least they care for you.
If I lived near you I would go hiking with you. I used to live in PA and I would drive 40 minutes to the Appalachian Trail where it crossed the Lehigh river north of Allentown or to Lehigh Gorge State Park to go hiking.
They sound controlling your not a child they need to have more trust in you and stop trying to control things out of their control, like you said there’s risks in everything and they need to allow things to flow and trust. There’s an app called meet up where they hold events maybe there’s events near you you can attend and sometimes they hold online ones involving lots of different subjects. Hope that helps
they’re just caring about your safety. You’re going to have to do the extra work for those problems tho like “okay it’s unsafe I’ll say I’m meeting my friends on a hike and i’ll buy pepper spray to carry around and I’ll have a gps watch on me if i don’t return at the end of day if worse case scenario happens” they won’t put in the energy to think of solutions for your issues that’s just how people are. If they stop you from doing anything even with solutions that are logical like it’s a safe area but they’re freaking out about you going with all your protection then they’re just crippling you. Are you working on getting a license? From there you get some decent work opportunities and then you can afford to go out and join clubs/events or hang around places that can lead to getting to know people and inviting them to hike or go out. moving out is not that smart rn unless you get a roommate you know isn’t a bad person and rents under 800 in a decently safe area
Also! Always remember, our brain is most vulnerable at the waking moments; when every shield is thrown off and we come full aware of our reality, which is barely ever a good thing. Suffer the moment but know it will pass. And suffer the day but know that the sun will eventually shine like never before. It always does.
Be thankful for very strict parents! I didn’t have any parents that cared at all about me and I grew up on the streets in bad neighborhoods, so I had to learn how to take care of myself and how to survive! Basically had to learn everything on my own. I never wanted my kids to go through what I did. I caught myself sheltering my kids to much. It was extremely very hard to let them do a lot of things. I was always in the shadows and watching to make sure they were okay. They do it because they know how dangerous the world really is but they don’t realize how much they can be hurting you if shelters to much. If they are explaining to you then that’s good! I see some of the things some people have said to you, they don’t sound like they have enough experience to be telling you anything. As a woman unfortunately you have to worry about more than I would. I mean a man would! I’m conditioned to dangerous . There’s so much I would love to be able to tell you but to much for text! But learning how to carry yourself and how to handle yourself. There’s a lot you need to learn still, but you are more normal than you realize. If you knew how embarrassed and scared and confused everyone is your age. They just don’t let it be known, and would probably deny it. You are really more brave than most. Because you do open up your thoughts and emotions on here. Just be very careful anywhere you go by yourself and always keep eyes behind and always keep your ears open for any sounds! Be thankful for your suburban neighborhood too. Lots of the music started making the ghetto and the hood sound cool. It’s a lie! Nobody’s in the ghetto or hood and loving it. They all want out or they are people you don’t want in your neighborhood or you don’t want to know them. God Bless you and I pray Jesus watches over you!
Move to Czechia :-) The language is damn hard and the citizens might feel a bit cold, but it is still one of the safest countries :-) Anyway, feels like it is time to take your life into your hands and care a bit less about parents' opinions. Maybe some martial arts training would help with a confidence? Idk.
Sounds like they're projecting on you pretty hard, it's also like near-impossible to get your own place right now. I hope something good happens, I'm sending hugs fwien (>^^)>
You need to get out of the house and live your life. Start with things like going on that hike. Ive learned long ago that sitting at home makes life worse.
Another comment for the algorithm. All of our adult mental issues come from childhood, even when we're in the belly of our mothers, even as an embrion, even before we even born.. it's in our genes as well. It's well researched. Also, You can familiarise yourself with a weird concept called "determinism". Some philosophers and researchers actually proved we don't have a lot of free choice in our lives. Almost everything is predefined and predetermined by situations and experiences that are NOT under our control. It's really interesting to learn about. Cheers 🍷 Btw, alcoohol can really help with social interactions and anxiety, specially with the opposite sex. And with the sex matter.. I swear ! 😂
I understand you. I can tell by the way you speak. Its hard to make decisions when we ourselves dont have alot of power over our own lives and decisions.
Oh my that is awful I hope you went. I think my mom was the same with me growing up thinking about it but I moved out for 1 year now but I was still living with my parents until I was 29.
Never hike or jog alone, you have to understand that there are human animals out there that would see you as an opportunity that they can't pass up, especially if they have consumed alcohol. Go to a mall and hike or find a group. Your inner parent (Your Yang side☯) has to take over from you external parents, I didn't learn to distinguish between my Yin side ☯(rhymes with kid) and my adult Yang side until my 30s so you will learn. Later, beautiful.
There are more immigrants (from Africa and several Muslim countries m) in Italy. I go there almost every year to visit my grandparents. There is waaaay less gun violence in Italy tho.
@@Flyingtaco82 any country where there’s less gun violence there’s always more knife violence and machete violence, especially when those people come from Africa or Arab nations
My virgin fiancee is 39 and lives with her parents still, who are very strict. She was raised a very sweet person, but YES they will hold you back because their job is to protect. Your job is to explore and take risks. Get some mace and start Ubering to your hikes. Depression is killed by making new mental connections. Get on with it. And then, if you can, convince your parents to keep everyone here. We need good people to save this country. Or move to Texas instead and join the secession :D
Hi. I really think that all your problems are related to living with your parents. You need to take a leap of faith, volunteer somewhere, pick fruit in New Zealand idk just get away!
I live in NY so I know what your parents are saying not everybody is good but that don't mean you should stop your life 💯 gotta live it to fullest life is to short
I'm not trying to sound like this is rude but your parents sound paranoid or at least your mom. Yeah the world can be a "dangerous" place but i feel like some parents say that to scare their kids out of going out and having fun because I'm pretty sure your parents went out when they both were young before they had you so idk I'm just taking a guess
Hi IE. You totally have to get out of the house _and_ the world is a dangerous place. But the news does sell better when it accentuates the negative. If things were as bad as things are made to look, there wouldn't be anyone left. Hey, can I be your friend? I'm a bit like you, so I genuinely don't know how to ask you any better than that. Maybe it would help if I subscribed to your channel, but I'm afraid to. Not kidding. Anyway, this seemed like a good place to say "hi". I hope you're doing better these days. Some of your videos have had me in tears.
I’d be down to come pick you up and go on a hike with you. We could talk a lot, share silence, or do an improvised blend of both. I suspect we’d have plenty to talk about and/or relate to. 🤷♂️ ❤😊
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can feel your courage through your words, and I want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. It takes so much strength to go against fear, especially when it’s been instilled in you for so long. I truly hope you find the courage to take that hike and follow your heart. You deserve to live your life freely and experience all the beauty the world has to offer. Sending you lots of positive energy - you’ve got this!💞
Half the time Parents don't know what the hell they are doing while they are ' parenting '. I should know, I'm one of those kind of Parents....or was,,,,but it's too late now cuz the boy is a man now and the horse has left the barn already. You need to leave the barn too, what ever your name is .
You need to be your own person and start making your own decisions in life. Stop involving your parents in every decision you make because it is YOUR life and not your parent’s life at the end of the day. To be honest, it sounds to me like they’re way too paranoid about literally everything. To me that definitely isn’t normal, my parents have always encouraged me to go and do the things I want to do, which is how all parents should be in my opinion. What’s actually the point in living if you aren’t going to do what YOU want to do. Like if you live your life in fear of everything then you’re going to spend your life avoiding everything, even the things that could make you happy and improve your quality of life. At the end of the day, everything is dangerous to a certain degree, you could take a bath, fall asleep and drown. Or you could fall over and hit your head and die at any given moment. You should never live in fear of things that COULD happen to you because all that’ll happen is you’ll end up getting to the end of your life with regrets about the things that DIDN’T happen because you chose to live a life lead by your paranoid and quite frankly unreasonable parents.
IIaly is a nice country sociable but there are also loads of foriegners although if your parents find a nice small town it is usaully safe on the east adriatic coast med coast good move
This is only my opinion so please consider everything if you decide to take my advice. I feel like it would do you a lot of good to spread your wings and experience the world from a new perspective, Living in fear is a terrible thing and facing your fears will help you conquer them.
You parents care about you, but are just way too over protective. Once you are out on your own and living safe, they will calm down. My parents were strict with their expectations, but did give me freedom. Weirdly, they were perfectly fine with me staying out late with my girlfriend (now wife), but would automatically say no to me hanging out with my friends past 9. My 32 year old little sister still lives at home and bosses them around, which is good because they need someone to make sure they go to doctor, take it easy etc.
Well That's not bad, I have watched some videos on beyond evil channel truly the world is dangerous very dangerous, but in my opinion that should not stop someone from going out, take your mum with you if you feel like taking a walk😂😅
@mcentepede Apparently, she got a boyfriend and got engaged recently. Most women usually don't have such great outcomes. And they ultimately make somewhat disappointing wives to some unfortunate dude later on.🤷🏾♂️
Join jiu jitsu. It gives you confidence, is a good place to make friends, and helps with depression. Take some b12 too. It's about the only common supplement that may help. I am a 40 year depressive and know my way around the depressed mind.
I don't think your parents are 'overly strict' I think they're 'overly protective'. I don't think they did you any favors growing up by putting their fears on you, thus the anxiety you're having to deal with now. Is the world a scary place? Absolutely. But it's ALWAYS been a scary place for every one who's ever been alive. The only thing people then and now can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Okay now i got it. But Europe isn‘t safer, at least not all parts. There can be crazy people everywhere. It is of course better to look for someone to hike with. Is also better to have some company. It‘s more fun. You have a sis or brother to take with you?
Get a decent SUV with 4x4 so you can drive in snow you said you have some savings it would be perfect you live with folks get a cool vehicle and start exploring…. Plus when you do move out you don’t want car payments….
You can just mention to the Uber driver you're meeting someone there!!! If you're really worried, when you get near to where you're going, just pretend to be on the phone "Yes, i'm nearly there... I'll see you in a few minutes..." kind of thing. Then walk off with purpose in a definite direction when you get out the car... 😎👍
My goodness! I start to wonder - if they are religious, is the pastor aware of such inhumane rules of demand? Or are they as nutcase too and think its really okay? 26 year old adult, cannot go outside because of..... PARENTS. WHAT THE HECK.. I like walking a lot, im often flip-floped into night-day for various reasons. I walk 2 am in Northern Europe in pitch black. I was bullied in my primaries a lot, I know what fear is. ... Am I scared walking alone in pitch dark? No. Ive even been at the forest at night. Well. Nice neigbourhood, and cant go 30minutes outside, thats just sectarian to the core. Thats abuse. There is no other word for it. Yeah, if its gone from whole life like that, there is a lot of fear ingested to you, very sad... it also feels pretty natural due to that... you can certainly improve tho. I believe in you. I think many people have said wise things in the internet for you. Good they havent taken phone from you or smth lol... otherwise you'd live in a box. ... More power for them to go Italy. You can live alone and you can do it. ... do a degree, I think world is a horrible place, but its certainly not as like they see it, them feels sectarian and irrational really. YOU CAN DO IT! Know it to remember! RR.
I thought i was a overprotective parent! Your parents are 100 percent to blame for all your issues. Sadly it sounds like they will isolate u more in a country that u cant even talk to other people. Goodluck
Don’t tell them. Go to a cafe for now.Italy is gorgeous. It’s beautiful. That is not incorrect. Check out some Italian travel vlogs. Europe is different. Family is everything. - in a good way. Not stifling way.
I know I keep saying it three videos now but you need a good husband. Do you need a strong decent man to pull you out of that funk and take you out of your parents home like God and nature intended God do you have so much potential as a wife and mother, it’s just super obvious, it’s hard to watch you. Not thriving because the potential is so obvious there.
I think YT continually recommended one of your other more viewed videos to me because I watch other videos on mental health. Particularly on codependency and Borderline personality disorder. I’m a recovering codependent. I’m not saying I think you are either of these but I do think your parents are at the heart of your issues. I suspect there is a serious mental illness at play. I think you and them need counseling. But I suspect they wouldn’t trust a counselor. And I get that. I just see you crying out for help. There’s nothing I can do but encourage you to seek help. Try using YT to research Cluster B personality disorders. I just have a feeling you’re going to learn things there that will lead you to understand what’s going on. Understanding is half the battle.
Life is not easy for anyone. You have issues living at home and you will have issues living on your own. And there are things you have to accept about others when living with them. Your parents will always be your parents and want to protect you. If you want to risk moving on without them, you have to get over your anxieties, and I can't tell you how to do that. Maybe you need help, maybe not. You need to figure that out.
I agree with your parents 100%, your parents are good people, and yes the world now is dangers. You can walk around the neighbor were you live, because it is much safer just saying.
Your parents sound like they’ve drank the Trump Kool Aid. Go live your life. Take that hike! Look up Briana DeSanctis- the first woman to solo thru hike the 6800 mile American Discovery Trail.
this society has gotten more dangerous especially for vulnerable women. My friend was raped the other day she went to vist her daughter got pulled over by the police she had a warrant she goes to jail they tow her car she gets out of jail and she's stranded. She calls me needing me to pick her up but she's already with this guy and I don't have the gas to make it out there I talk to the guy and we were supposed to meet up I didn't give my address he volunteered to drive her out to my city. She later calls me saying this guy isn't acting right and is trying to take advantage of her and rape her I tell her call the police she tells me she's going to try to get dropped off at the nearest city to me and loose this guy. I lost communication with her I had to call the police station in the city she was in but they were no help. I later drove to her boyfriends house and she had already made it there she crys a little and tells me she was raped and ran away and that was the end of it like if this is the norm now. I never had a friend get raped before but it's changed my prospective in this society. The first guy she asked for help getting out of jail rapes her and if I try to retaliate and get justice I'm the one that goes to prison and I can't do nothing and it makes me angry I don't even trust people of my own gender unless I know they are up to something good like making friends at college or exercising at the track that I see from time to time but not anybody from the streets that trys to talk to me I really feel like turning to violence now. I'm 30 I'm in the same situation as you and my friend is like 38 or 40...
Your parents come from a place of concern but also I’d say they have their own issues they are in denial on . Yes there are bad people out there but it’s up to you to realise situations you should be ok in and the ones that maybe high risk . Personally I would not want my daughter going hiking on her own and also would not want some random (MALE) Uber driving her out to some unpopulated area and dropping her off . Not ideal .
I also grew up with parents like this and also deal with anxiety. At one point you have to break free or it will ruin your life. So take that Uber and go on a hike!
Yeah sweetheart, may also help to create a mental barrier just for some time, don't ask anything, don't tell anything important, just live your life yourself in your room, work, or even in the house, but maintaining mainly casual talks.
This way you can still pay cheap rent and not get too much influenced by those shackles from your family's habits.
Helicopter parenting causes anxiety in their children. We have 2 kids and were always encouraging to go explore the world. Before 16, we encouraged them to try sports, academics clubs in school, etc. After 16, we encourage them to hang out with their friends since they can drive. Encourage and support. Dont helicoper and control. Push yourself to get out there. Hiking is good for the soul.
The truth is sick parents make us sick too
i feel ya girl. strict parent are rough. and like the world can be dangerous, but there are risks in everything like you said. And you can't let that stop you from living. I hope you can get through this though and figure out a way to hike! and also definitely don't feel guilty over any of this! going on a walk is nothing to feel guilt over haha
I’m watching this from lifelong problems from my own over strict critical parents.
Im sorry girl 😞
Take driving classes, because the longer you wait to take those classes, the longer you don't get to be independent.
I have my license and still can’t drive because my narcissistic controlling father won’t let me. The only thing I can think of is saving up for my own car
UA-cam recommended this to me. Now Im a solo woman traveller in Egypt (with anxiety). My parents are strict and they made me be terrified of taking Ubers here and generally going outside anywhere. They told me it’s extremely dangerous, they would kidnap me etc. Not only my parents but also friends and the whole Society.
And you know what?
NOTHING happened. I LITERALLY had the best holiday!
Please, dont listen to them! Solo travelling helped me with my anxiety and depression.
Please, do what your heart tells you and get out.
I also had mental problems.
But I am more strong than them - and so are you ❤
Good luck!
Thank u so much Nyuu. You really give me hope! 💞 I’m so glad u followed your heart and went to Egypt
My spidey sense is tingling with these parents.
"The immigrants will rend you limb from limb! I know because the shiny people in the TV told me to be afraid and vote for -"
I wish i had parents that acted like parents. Mine were free spirited and let me do pretty much anything. Drugs, partying, dropping out of high school, they'd even party with me. At times i felt like i had to act like the parent to my own parents. It sucked.
That really sucks, but as someone who is on the other side, its just as bad. I'm 21 and I lived with my parents while commuting to college to save money, and it was a miserable 4 years. The only things I was ever really allowed to do was go to class and go to the gym. I had a hard curfew of 10 and they would unfailingly freak out and blow up my phone if I was even 1 minute late. I spent all my free time lifting because I had few friends and no freedom, and it was the only thing that kept me from losing my mind. It's awful.
I was afraid of driving, too. Didn't get my license until I was 26. Finally had to do it for the job I had back then. It turns out, driving is pretty easy and you get better the more you do it.
The world is chaotic and violent and insane, but the chances of something happening to you are pretty slim, all things considering. And if something does happen? It happens. That's life.
stop listening to your parents or asking for their advice, do what you want, your an adult. you dont like their answers but always go to them to make your decisions.
I have such parents too. Me and my sister both have anxiety disorders because of how we were raised, and we are both old virgins and losers.
About the dangerousness: If you go on that hike, or use uber, there is a chance you get into trouble. But if you continue avoiding these dangers, there is certainty that you will just live your entire life in your bedroom and die alone there one day. Pick your choice.
Bro ill hike with you guys, you'll be safe
@@sublimeadesays every serial kidnapper on earth 🤣🤣
The fact that you are this honest, proves that you are very strong
You are stronger than you think
For example. A lot of woman have a lot of boyfriends and live on their own. But they are to afraid to talk about the things that scare them or the things that are vulnerable.
I would rather date a girl like you, than a girl that so called doesn’t have insecurity
You don't have to move out, but you have to start driving. America is car dependent. Ubers start adding up. Start driving and going wherever you want, that's the only way to gain some kind of independence. I mean you should've been driving 10 years ago but yeah
"I'm tired of living my life in fear" - Absolutely. There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.
Addendum: you shouldn't even ask your parents to go hiking via uber or not. Easier to just tell them 'i am going out, i am going to be a while'
There is always a fine line between overly strict parents and parents who do not care at all. In Asia, there is a culture called Tiger Mom ( although i feel the same can be applied to men ) where children are controlled in every aspect and often feel pressure to live up to their parents' high expectations. There is very little place that is totally safe in this day and age. What i feel is you are a very deep thinker and due to that you analyze every possible scenario. If you ever need someone to talk to and listen without any judgment, i am here😊. Please stay positive and strong
My parents were strict growing up couldn't go out with friends unless they came to the house. My younger brother was able to go to concerts in his teens and 20's with friends, have friends sleep over, go driving to movies, store. I guess cause my brother was more independent then me and wanted to have freedom than staying home for the rest of his life.
im living with parents also and i am 28. but im hispanic so its not that unusual. my parents are strict though and they always think they know better. Its very annoying.
It is hard for your parents to stop being so overly protective of you because they have been doing it so long.. they love you and that is the way they show it.. the world is good and bad mixed together.. no one is perfect so follow your heart..
thankyou for sharing and talking about this,i have all the same issues all my life and hearing you my anxiety and fear go away and i dont feel like i am the only one
Yeah it sucks when you can't go where you want, that's why I started driving, the freedom is Wonderful, I spent so much of my life afraid of it, but when I started, it changed my life. Also my Mom said things like you can't trust ppl, they lie/ steal. The only things that would kill me when I hike are bears and mountain lions but hay they have to eat to:)...30 mintues that's a good warm up walk for a hike.
The thing is also. People dont really think about us as much as we beleive they do.
Anxiety is being afraid of things and scenarios that may never happen.
Worrying means we suffer twice.
The best advice to combat a fear of "terrorists" is this.
Arm yourself.
Seriously.
Have a gun. Or a knife. Or mace. Taser.
Always carry a pocket knife.
Have some form of self protection. Have it and not need it instead of needing it and not having it.
It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a garden in a war.
Go for your hikes. Be happy. Be calm.
Walk calmly but carry a big stick.
Being able to defend yourself brings peace.
Not violence.
When a threat sees YOU are a threat to them, they dont put in on the work or energy to fight you.
Seriously.
Just be a powerful force to be reckoned with.
Dont bow to any one.
Life. Is chess.
Know your pieces. Know your moves.
Fear is dibilitating. Its evil.
Be good.
You absolutely remind me of that movie '10 Cloverfield Lane'. In that case, I believe there's a truth in your parents fears; but I also believe you are a capable young lady.
Damn thas wrong of them to be overparenting even up to the age of 26, u may live with them but they shouldnt drag u into some fantasy that ur some helpless kid lol. Again we all are flawed people but older people sometimes should know better not to condition their kids into fear, glad u stood up against some of the craziness.
My parents was strict when I grew up, still are a bit. But: if I could choose parents who didn't care or parents that were strict, I'd choose having strict parents. At least they care for you.
If I lived near you I would go hiking with you. I used to live in PA and I would drive 40 minutes to the Appalachian Trail where it crossed the Lehigh river north of Allentown or to Lehigh Gorge State Park to go hiking.
They sound controlling your not a child they need to have more trust in you and stop trying to control things out of their control, like you said there’s risks in everything and they need to allow things to flow and trust. There’s an app called meet up where they hold events maybe there’s events near you you can attend and sometimes they hold online ones involving lots of different subjects. Hope that helps
they’re just caring about your safety. You’re going to have to do the extra work for those problems tho like “okay it’s unsafe I’ll say I’m meeting my friends on a hike and i’ll buy pepper spray to carry around and I’ll have a gps watch on me if i don’t return at the end of day if worse case scenario happens” they won’t put in the energy to think of solutions for your issues that’s just how people are. If they stop you from doing anything even with solutions that are logical like it’s a safe area but they’re freaking out about you going with all your protection then they’re just crippling you.
Are you working on getting a license? From there you get some decent work opportunities and then you can afford to go out and join clubs/events or hang around places that can lead to getting to know people and inviting them to hike or go out. moving out is not that smart rn unless you get a roommate you know isn’t a bad person and rents under 800 in a decently safe area
I also have overly strict parents, and it’s traumatised me so much, I also struggle with anxiety because of it and I have nightmares a lot 😔
My strict parents ruined my whole life and I’m 20 and had to miss out on so much
Also! Always remember, our brain is most vulnerable at the waking moments; when every shield is thrown off and we come full aware of our reality, which is barely ever a good thing.
Suffer the moment but know it will pass. And suffer the day but know that the sun will eventually shine like never before. It always does.
Be thankful for very strict parents! I didn’t have any parents that cared at all about me and I grew up on the streets in bad neighborhoods, so I had to learn how to take care of myself and how to survive! Basically had to learn everything on my own. I never wanted my kids to go through what I did. I caught myself sheltering my kids to much. It was extremely very hard to let them do a lot of things. I was always in the shadows and watching to make sure they were okay. They do it because they know how dangerous the world really is but they don’t realize how much they can be hurting you if shelters to much. If they are explaining to you then that’s good! I see some of the things some people have said to you, they don’t sound like they have enough experience to be telling you anything. As a woman unfortunately you have to worry about more than I would. I mean a man would! I’m conditioned to dangerous . There’s so much I would love to be able to tell you but to much for text! But learning how to carry yourself and how to handle yourself. There’s a lot you need to learn still, but you are more normal than you realize. If you knew how embarrassed and scared and confused everyone is your age. They just don’t let it be known, and would probably deny it. You are really more brave than most. Because you do open up your thoughts and emotions on here. Just be very careful anywhere you go by yourself and always keep eyes behind and always keep your ears open for any sounds! Be thankful for your suburban neighborhood too. Lots of the music started making the ghetto and the hood sound cool. It’s a lie! Nobody’s in the ghetto or hood and loving it. They all want out or they are people you don’t want in your neighborhood or you don’t want to know them. God Bless you and I pray Jesus watches over you!
"I grew up in a boiling hot desert, so you should be grateful for living in a freezing tundra"
Move to Czechia :-) The language is damn hard and the citizens might feel a bit cold, but it is still one of the safest countries :-)
Anyway, feels like it is time to take your life into your hands and care a bit less about parents' opinions.
Maybe some martial arts training would help with a confidence? Idk.
Although she is cute, she is like the female version of napoleon dynamite
LoL 😆
As a person that always goes running in the hills I always see girls alone and not once I saw endanger person I'm sure you'll be fine
Sounds like they're projecting on you pretty hard, it's also like near-impossible to get your own place right now.
I hope something good happens, I'm sending hugs fwien (>^^)>
Thanks Pandybears!
Come be with me, you can do whatever you want.
You need to get out of the house and live your life. Start with things like going on that hike. Ive learned long ago that sitting at home makes life worse.
I feel parents don’t know best once you get over age 23.
parents ... are so toxic .. they cant decide for you
Another comment for the algorithm.
All of our adult mental issues come from childhood, even when we're in the belly of our mothers, even as an embrion, even before we even born.. it's in our genes as well. It's well researched.
Also, You can familiarise yourself with a weird concept called "determinism". Some philosophers and researchers actually proved we don't have a lot of free choice in our lives. Almost everything is predefined and predetermined by situations and experiences that are NOT under our control. It's really interesting to learn about.
Cheers 🍷
Btw, alcoohol can really help with social interactions and anxiety, specially with the opposite sex. And with the sex matter..
I swear ! 😂
I understand you. I can tell by the way you speak.
Its hard to make decisions when we ourselves dont have alot of power over our own lives and decisions.
Please try to think positively and I really think you deserve love ❤️ ❤️❤️. Thank you very much for your videos.
Oh my that is awful I hope you went. I think my mom was the same with me growing up thinking about it but I moved out for 1 year now but I was still living with my parents until I was 29.
Never hike or jog alone, you have to understand that there are human animals out there that would see you as an opportunity that they can't pass up, especially if they have consumed alcohol. Go to a mall and hike or find a group. Your inner parent (Your Yang side☯) has to take over from you external parents, I didn't learn to distinguish between my Yin side ☯(rhymes with kid) and my adult Yang side until my 30s so you will learn. Later, beautiful.
Italy is more dangerous.
Than what?
There are more immigrants (from Africa and several Muslim countries m) in Italy. I go there almost every year to visit my grandparents. There is waaaay less gun violence in Italy tho.
Yeah, that’s true. Now that they have all the blacks moving in from Africa illegally, squatting, criminal aliens
@@Flyingtaco82 any country where there’s less gun violence there’s always more knife violence and machete violence, especially when those people come from Africa or Arab nations
My virgin fiancee is 39 and lives with her parents still, who are very strict. She was raised a very sweet person, but YES they will hold you back because their job is to protect. Your job is to explore and take risks. Get some mace and start Ubering to your hikes. Depression is killed by making new mental connections. Get on with it. And then, if you can, convince your parents to keep everyone here. We need good people to save this country. Or move to Texas instead and join the secession :D
Hi. I really think that all your problems are related to living with your parents. You need to take a leap of faith, volunteer somewhere, pick fruit in New Zealand idk just get away!
I live in NY so I know what your parents are saying not everybody is good but that don't mean you should stop your life 💯 gotta live it to fullest life is to short
I'm not trying to sound like this is rude but your parents sound paranoid or at least your mom. Yeah the world can be a "dangerous" place but i feel like some parents say that to scare their kids out of going out and having fun because I'm pretty sure your parents went out when they both were young before they had you so idk I'm just taking a guess
Hi IE. You totally have to get out of the house _and_ the world is a dangerous place. But the news does sell better when it accentuates the negative. If things were as bad as things are made to look, there wouldn't be anyone left. Hey, can I be your friend? I'm a bit like you, so I genuinely don't know how to ask you any better than that. Maybe it would help if I subscribed to your channel, but I'm afraid to. Not kidding. Anyway, this seemed like a good place to say "hi". I hope you're doing better these days. Some of your videos have had me in tears.
I’d be down to come pick you up and go on a hike with you. We could talk a lot, share silence, or do an improvised blend of both. I suspect we’d have plenty to talk about and/or relate to. 🤷♂️ ❤😊
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can feel your courage through your words, and I want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. It takes so much strength to go against fear, especially when it’s been instilled in you for so long. I truly hope you find the courage to take that hike and follow your heart. You deserve to live your life freely and experience all the beauty the world has to offer. Sending you lots of positive energy - you’ve got this!💞
Hmmm 🤔....You need some Slabby to balance you out like a V8 juice. 😂
Half the time Parents don't know what the hell they are doing while they are ' parenting '. I should know, I'm one of those kind of Parents....or was,,,,but it's too late now cuz the boy is a man now and the horse has left the barn already. You need to leave the barn too, what ever your name is .
You need to be your own person and start making your own decisions in life. Stop involving your parents in every decision you make because it is YOUR life and not your parent’s life at the end of the day. To be honest, it sounds to me like they’re way too paranoid about literally everything. To me that definitely isn’t normal, my parents have always encouraged me to go and do the things I want to do, which is how all parents should be in my opinion. What’s actually the point in living if you aren’t going to do what YOU want to do. Like if you live your life in fear of everything then you’re going to spend your life avoiding everything, even the things that could make you happy and improve your quality of life. At the end of the day, everything is dangerous to a certain degree, you could take a bath, fall asleep and drown. Or you could fall over and hit your head and die at any given moment. You should never live in fear of things that COULD happen to you because all that’ll happen is you’ll end up getting to the end of your life with regrets about the things that DIDN’T happen because you chose to live a life lead by your paranoid and quite frankly unreasonable parents.
Pasta family dinners?
IIaly is a nice country sociable but there are also loads of foriegners although if your parents find a nice small town it is usaully safe on the east adriatic coast med coast good move
I hate how much I relate to you
This is only my opinion so please consider everything if you decide to take my advice. I feel like it would do you a lot of good to spread your wings and experience the world from a new perspective, Living in fear is a terrible thing and facing your fears will help you conquer them.
I also love my parents very much
You parents care about you, but are just way too over protective. Once you are out on your own and living safe, they will calm down.
My parents were strict with their expectations, but did give me freedom. Weirdly, they were perfectly fine with me staying out late with my girlfriend (now wife), but would automatically say no to me hanging out with my friends past 9.
My 32 year old little sister still lives at home and bosses them around, which is good because they need someone to make sure they go to doctor, take it easy etc.
UcanspealItalian?kul!:)
Ive seen most of your videos and feel for you
Well That's not bad, I have watched some videos on beyond evil channel truly the world is dangerous very dangerous, but in my opinion that should not stop someone from going out, take your mum with you if you feel like taking a walk😂😅
Did you ever learn to drive?
Thirty minutes away is doable with a bike or scooter. Even an electric scooter. WTF is this girl's problem?
@mcentepede Apparently, she got a boyfriend and got engaged recently. Most women usually don't have such great outcomes. And they ultimately make somewhat disappointing wives to some unfortunate dude later on.🤷🏾♂️
@francohealy3705 Glad to hear that she got her happy ending. Seems like a good kid
When are you moving to italy / where
All parents do that. Guilt. Hmm…
Join jiu jitsu. It gives you confidence, is a good place to make friends, and helps with depression. Take some b12 too. It's about the only common supplement that may help. I am a 40 year depressive and know my way around the depressed mind.
I don't think your parents are 'overly strict' I think they're 'overly protective'.
I don't think they did you any favors growing up by putting their fears on you, thus the anxiety you're having to deal with now.
Is the world a scary place? Absolutely. But it's ALWAYS been a scary place for every one who's ever been alive. The only thing people then and now can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Why you choose Italy ? I am from Europe however not from Italy
Okay now i got it. But Europe isn‘t safer, at least not all parts. There can be crazy people everywhere. It is of course better to look for someone to hike with. Is also better to have some company. It‘s more fun. You have a sis or brother to take with you?
Get a driver’s license
I have one
Get a decent SUV with 4x4 so you can drive in snow you said you have some savings it would be perfect you live with folks get a cool vehicle and start exploring…. Plus when you do move out you don’t want car payments….
You can just mention to the Uber driver you're meeting someone there!!!
If you're really worried, when you get near to where you're going, just pretend to be on the phone "Yes, i'm nearly there... I'll see you in a few minutes..." kind of thing. Then walk off with purpose in a definite direction when you get out the car... 😎👍
My goodness! I start to wonder - if they are religious, is the pastor aware of such inhumane rules of demand? Or are they as nutcase too and think its really okay? 26 year old adult, cannot go outside because of..... PARENTS. WHAT THE HECK.. I like walking a lot, im often flip-floped into night-day for various reasons. I walk 2 am in Northern Europe in pitch black. I was bullied in my primaries a lot, I know what fear is. ... Am I scared walking alone in pitch dark? No. Ive even been at the forest at night. Well. Nice neigbourhood, and cant go 30minutes outside, thats just sectarian to the core. Thats abuse. There is no other word for it. Yeah, if its gone from whole life like that, there is a lot of fear ingested to you, very sad... it also feels pretty natural due to that... you can certainly improve tho. I believe in you. I think many people have said wise things in the internet for you. Good they havent taken phone from you or smth lol... otherwise you'd live in a box. ... More power for them to go Italy. You can live alone and you can do it. ... do a degree, I think world is a horrible place, but its certainly not as like they see it, them feels sectarian and irrational really. YOU CAN DO IT! Know it to remember! RR.
Come to Canada
I thought i was a overprotective parent! Your parents are 100 percent to blame for all your issues. Sadly it sounds like they will isolate u more in a country that u cant even talk to other people. Goodluck
Theirs nothing wrong with you going hiking but a woman hiking alone is not smart. Too many creeps out there.
Your parents are wrong. The world is actually a much safer place than ever before. By far.
Don’t tell them. Go to a cafe for now.Italy is gorgeous. It’s beautiful. That is not incorrect. Check out some Italian travel vlogs. Europe is different. Family is everything. - in a good way. Not stifling way.
I know I keep saying it three videos now but you need a good husband. Do you need a strong decent man to pull you out of that funk and take you out of your parents home like God and nature intended God do you have so much potential as a wife and mother, it’s just super obvious, it’s hard to watch you. Not thriving because the potential is so obvious there.
I think YT continually recommended one of your other more viewed videos to me because I watch other videos on mental health. Particularly on codependency and Borderline personality disorder. I’m a recovering codependent. I’m not saying I think you are either of these but I do think your parents are at the heart of your issues. I suspect there is a serious mental illness at play. I think you and them need counseling. But I suspect they wouldn’t trust a counselor. And I get that. I just see you crying out for help. There’s nothing I can do but encourage you to seek help. Try using YT to research Cluster B personality disorders. I just have a feeling you’re going to learn things there that will lead you to understand what’s going on. Understanding is half the battle.
Life is not easy for anyone. You have issues living at home and you will have issues living on your own. And there are things you have to accept about others when living with them. Your parents will always be your parents and want to protect you. If you want to risk moving on without them, you have to get over your anxieties, and I can't tell you how to do that. Maybe you need help, maybe not. You need to figure that out.
I agree with your parents 100%, your parents are good people, and yes the world now is dangers. You can walk around the neighbor were you live, because it is much safer just saying.
Danger has actually gone down over the years. It's just that stories about bad things are on the news.
Yore an adult you can do whot you like put yore presents in thaire place
get some medicine for the depression were do you live ❤❤❤❤❤
It seems like you parents also have anxiety
Supplement vitamin D
Urparents=paranoid..
Hike with PEOPLE.
Your parents sound like they’ve drank the Trump Kool Aid. Go live your life. Take that hike! Look up Briana DeSanctis- the first woman to solo thru hike the 6800 mile American Discovery Trail.
try some funky makeup on
this society has gotten more dangerous especially for vulnerable women. My friend was raped the other day she went to vist her daughter got pulled over by the police she had a warrant she goes to jail they tow her car she gets out of jail and she's stranded. She calls me needing me to pick her up but she's already with this guy and I don't have the gas to make it out there I talk to the guy and we were supposed to meet up I didn't give my address he volunteered to drive her out to my city. She later calls me saying this guy isn't acting right and is trying to take advantage of her and rape her I tell her call the police she tells me she's going to try to get dropped off at the nearest city to me and loose this guy. I lost communication with her I had to call the police station in the city she was in but they were no help. I later drove to her boyfriends house and she had already made it there she crys a little and tells me she was raped and ran away and that was the end of it like if this is the norm now. I never had a friend get raped before but it's changed my prospective in this society. The first guy she asked for help getting out of jail rapes her and if I try to retaliate and get justice I'm the one that goes to prison and I can't do nothing and it makes me angry I don't even trust people of my own gender unless I know they are up to something good like making friends at college or exercising at the track that I see from time to time but not anybody from the streets that trys to talk to me I really feel like turning to violence now. I'm 30 I'm in the same situation as you and my friend is like 38 or 40...
Your parents come from a place of concern but also I’d say they have their own issues they are in denial on . Yes there are bad people out there but it’s up to you to realise situations you should be ok in and the ones that maybe high risk . Personally I would not want my daughter going hiking on her own and also would not want some random (MALE) Uber driving her out to some unpopulated area and dropping her off . Not ideal .
Don't worry it will get better
*promosm*
Your parents sound like Trump supporters
Stop dork