Will I Lose Friends When They Have Kids?
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- When your friends have kids and you are childfree, it can instantly transform your friendship beyond what you may have imagined. In this episode, Rick and I identify some of the challenges that can arise once your friends begin to have children.
You may realize that choosing a childfree life can mean losing commonality with your friends who become parents. How can you manage those inevitable changes? Should the topic be addressed although it may feel uncomfortable or inappropriate? Should you compromise or just let it go?
When you’re the only childfree person in your circle, it may also feel more isolating as time goes on. (we don’t want you to feel this way!)
Rick and I share our personal stories and share some tips that may help you ease the transition.
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Have you lost any FRIENDS once they became PARENTS?
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Love this episode first of all! Such an important topic to talk about. ❤
Personally, I never completely lost friends because they had kids, but we definitely grew apart. Like you said, it's different for women and when you want to spend time with a girlfriend, either her kid is coming along or you have to go hang out at her house. I realized I wasn't really going to have one-on-one time with this person again, at least while her kids are young, and that's hard. As you mentioned, those of us without kids hardly want to give up a Saturday to go to a kids party. We just naturally start to drift apart. When someone you are close to is having a child, part of us mourns the friendship we had because we know it will never be the same now. It's a tough pill to swallow. Thank you for talking about this!
Happy to! It can definitely be a hard pill to swallow. I've had some community members tell us that they actually went through a grieving period when they received the pregnancy news.
Yes. But you'll lose "friends" with almost every decision you make in life; nit just becoming CF. I lost many "friends" when I stopped playing golf. I also lost "friends" when I moved to a different city. I went to 3 different universities. Each time I transferred, I lost "friends." The fact of the matter is:
Everyone who comes into your life has an expiration date. Some a few days, some a few decades. The best way to accept this is to see your life as a movie with different scenes. The person in your college scene might not have a purpose in your 50th birthday scene.
Agree, I like this perspective.
I MUST know: did the friend apologize to you for leaving you with the child in the basement?! I was furious listening to that!
No actually but I really don't think they were doing it intentionally.
For me if they can't be bothered to call me, why call them? I always reach out first so I'm done w that. They know how to reach me if they want to
As far as friends having parents, I don't have that many and I'm glad I never did. Most of them are queer and went off to libe life wo having kids whether it was school or moving abroad
The answer is YES, they won't have time for you .... they will be living in baby zone, especially mothers,
I just met one of my best friends 2 years ago and we always go to concerts and travel to festivals now she’s due in November 😢 i guess thats over huh?
I think it also depends how we frame it. Is it that "they don't have time for YOU" or that they don't have time for anyone or anything.
Of course I don't know the definite answer but most likely yes. However, it doesn't mean that you can't have new experiences together.
Growing up being raised Mormon and now leaving, the friends to parents transition is so fast. Most of my friends are on their second kid. I'm only 25. Most had children at 23, some while still in college. It's made making friends feel impossible 😭
Yes, it can feel very lonely when everyone around you is having kids. What do you mean leaving? Are you leaving the town you are from?
@@TheChildfreeConnection Leaving the religion. It's like you died in people's eyes
@@hannepicklesimer8133 I understand, we have many people in our community who have done the same. I'm sorry to hear that.
Loved this...I have friends that have kids but know there is underlying sense ...that they have more difficult life as rhey have kids and we don't....they are martyrs to parenthood....sorry no sympathy ❤
Yes, one is not worse than the other, just very different. It's what's better or worse for each of us.
You guys have a great spark I'm loving these collabs
Thanks Audrey!
That is sooo funny the basement story and so typical
It is! I was laughing too.
Thanks ❤
thank you for listening!
I am an antinatalist for a long list of reasons. I am 21 and most of my friends moved to countries with better tax/life quality. I know mothers but I don't want a closer connection with them because my life is good and I am not into the stories of the grind and feces and sleep deprevavtion.
I am 21, not an extra in a horror movie.
There is a big plus in being grounded in your choice, whatever that may be.
You are childfree but you have dogs to replace children. Lovely cliché
Dogs aren't replacements for kids. Dogs are much better.
I've heard that saying also.
Also I highly disagree about dogs being better, personally don't like animals in the house.
It's all a personal preference.
We love our dog and in no way is he a "replacement" for a child. If we desired a child, we would have one. Caring for an animal has no connection to being a caring and loving person.