Why am I not surprised that they were both White? I’m half-White myself and I cannot STAND this behavior. I cannot STAND the not taking any responsibility when it they are SO OBVIOUSLY caught red-handed being passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, or overtly racist and then try to make themselves into the victim when they are called out for you. Good for you, sir! I am glad you stuck up for yourself. Stay safe out there!
This^^^ Compassionately avoid taking crap, passsive aggressive or otherwise from people. If they are going out of thier way to bother you, it's a them problem more than a you problem. The only way they will fix it for themselves is if they get clear feed back that thier behavior is not acceptable or tolerable. Learn to descalate and hold firm boundaries at the same time. Hope you continue to have great days🎉
Girl thanks cause I DIDN'T call this woman out for CUTTING IN LINE and I think about that one and a while now because I wished I had said something. Mind you she didn't even cut in front of me but her privilege and nonchalantness pissed me off. She literally had to just walk behind FOUR people. That man had two things in his hand while she had a FULL cart. BRING BACK SHAME.
Now I have to wonder if the the guy you had a confrontation with at Costco would have acted the same way towards you if you were white. I'd like to think race has nothing to do with it, but who knows?
Baby boy, if you catch me saying “I’m with you” and it’s some old man, same skin color just know I’m diffusing the situation. I’m a white person who’s grown up with parents with vastly different values. It’s much easier to adapt and make em laugh than be in constant agony and stress. ALSO thank you for your service, marine ❤️
ur not helping anything by cowtowing to them if it’s some random stranger lol. I have the same situation and I’m not rolling over and pretending to be an asshole just to make some grumpy ass white dude feel better. Grow a spine man
why are you making excuses for enabling grumpy white men? Grow a spine man. You think enabling some random stranger is making anything better?? Cmon man, diffusing the situation and cowing to a grouchy irrelevant person are two different things. Make a stand sometimes, man.
To be honest, I’m not good at this. I always let it slide, and I always let it get to me later. I feel like you either don’t let go, and confront, or let go and don’t let it get to you. Seems like the only two winning moves.
"When people are passive aggressive call them out, they will back down, be ready for conflict in case they don't, but they will back down every time once they see you are ready for it" Beautiful
Wait so you just say that not at all scared that they gunna do something badly to you? It's impossible for me to do this ever knowing if they were to fight me, I wouldn't be able to defend myself. Heck you're from America aren't you afraid of guns and shit?
i never want to try and paint a false picture in my head of what happened, but can i ask why you didn’t try and understand where the dude was coming from? the events were basically 1. this dude cut you off so you decided to stay calm and thought nothing of it 2. he cut you off again and you confronted him about it by grabbing his cart 3. you called him stupid 5 times and ignored everything he said before saying you were just gonna continue shopping 4. you turned around and went back to the argument, this time with an employee who was clearly just trying to make sure there was no commotion in her store and had zero skin in the game. again this is just what happened based on what you said in my mind, i feel like if you listened to the guys explanation instead of ignoring him you might have been able to de-escalate? or maybe it was just abundantly clear that he was being an idiot and trying to start something with no ground to stand on
Why is it his responsibility to baby sit a grown man who went out of his way to cause a problem? If that guy didn’t want to have an issue then why did he start one? When someone does something to make you angry on purpose they are wanting to rile you up and are simultaneously hoping you are too weak to defend yourself. Don’t give them exactly what they want. If the guy is too fragile to handle conflict then he shouldn’t be pissing people off on purpose.
i'd say you have a point if this wasn't in a costco shopping centre and the other guy wasn't crying about him "going too slow in front of him" meaning he had to get even with him, for some unknown reason. like, you'd have a point if he was getting mad over something legitimately worth getting mad over. but he wasn't. he took the low road at minimum, best case scenario is this guy is misremembering or miscommunicating what the other guy did. but from what i'm hearing, he deliberately caused an issue about someone GOING SLOW IN FRONT OF HIM AT COSTCO of all places. if true, he deserved to get called out on it. making a non issue into an issue for no reason is pathetic and the other guy sounds like a whiny flea bag.
I feel like the people who always says "quit acting tough" are always the ones trying the hardest. They never fail to describe themselves
Why am I not surprised that they were both White? I’m half-White myself and I cannot STAND this behavior. I cannot STAND the not taking any responsibility when it they are SO OBVIOUSLY caught red-handed being passive-aggressive, or just plain aggressive, or overtly racist and then try to make themselves into the victim when they are called out for you. Good for you, sir! I am glad you stuck up for yourself. Stay safe out there!
What does being white have to do with this?
Man your vibe is compleatly something else. Gday to you
This^^^ Compassionately avoid taking crap, passsive aggressive or otherwise from people. If they are going out of thier way to bother you, it's a them problem more than a you problem. The only way they will fix it for themselves is if they get clear feed back that thier behavior is not acceptable or tolerable. Learn to descalate and hold firm boundaries at the same time. Hope you continue to have great days🎉
Girl thanks cause I DIDN'T call this woman out for CUTTING IN LINE and I think about that one and a while now because I wished I had said something. Mind you she didn't even cut in front of me but her privilege and nonchalantness pissed me off. She literally had to just walk behind FOUR people. That man had two things in his hand while she had a FULL cart. BRING BACK SHAME.
Now I have to wonder if the the guy you had a confrontation with at Costco would have acted the same way towards you if you were white. I'd like to think race has nothing to do with it, but who knows?
Yeah nah it was almost definitely connected
Hunny, cause it is a WHOLE mood.
Baby boy, if you catch me saying “I’m with you” and it’s some old man, same skin color just know I’m diffusing the situation.
I’m a white person who’s grown up with parents with vastly different values. It’s much easier to adapt and make em laugh than be in constant agony and stress.
ALSO thank you for your service, marine ❤️
Yeah but you're just allowing them to be horrible people instead of educating them and helping them grow.
ur not helping anything by cowtowing to them if it’s some random stranger lol. I have the same situation and I’m not rolling over and pretending to be an asshole just to make some grumpy ass white dude feel better. Grow a spine man
why are you making excuses for enabling grumpy white men? Grow a spine man. You think enabling some random stranger is making anything better?? Cmon man, diffusing the situation and cowing to a grouchy irrelevant person are two different things. Make a stand sometimes, man.
Good advice, especially be ready to take it to the next level if that's what they want.
3:08 if you hear this run
To be honest, I’m not good at this. I always let it slide, and I always let it get to me later.
I feel like you either don’t let go, and confront, or let go and don’t let it get to you. Seems like the only two winning moves.
1:40 Hahaha c'mon bro you can't cut in like that
"Get out of your head little brother" So true. Was he clearly younger than you?
"When people are passive aggressive call them out, they will back down, be ready for conflict in case they don't, but they will back down every time once they see you are ready for it" Beautiful
Good. I hope I succeed at it too. Including against competetive gamers, ones I already know.
I might have ended a persons career right before watching this video over passive aggressive bs they did with evidence
i like this lol
Wait so you just say that not at all scared that they gunna do something badly to you? It's impossible for me to do this ever knowing if they were to fight me, I wouldn't be able to defend myself. Heck you're from America aren't you afraid of guns and shit?
i never want to try and paint a false picture in my head of what happened, but can i ask why you didn’t try and understand where the dude was coming from? the events were basically 1. this dude cut you off so you decided to stay calm and thought nothing of it 2. he cut you off again and you confronted him about it by grabbing his cart 3. you called him stupid 5 times and ignored everything he said before saying you were just gonna continue shopping 4. you turned around and went back to the argument, this time with an employee who was clearly just trying to make sure there was no commotion in her store and had zero skin in the game.
again this is just what happened based on what you said in my mind, i feel like if you listened to the guys explanation instead of ignoring him you might have been able to de-escalate? or maybe it was just abundantly clear that he was being an idiot and trying to start something with no ground to stand on
Why is it his responsibility to baby sit a grown man who went out of his way to cause a problem? If that guy didn’t want to have an issue then why did he start one? When someone does something to make you angry on purpose they are wanting to rile you up and are simultaneously hoping you are too weak to defend yourself. Don’t give them exactly what they want. If the guy is too fragile to handle conflict then he shouldn’t be pissing people off on purpose.
i'd say you have a point if this wasn't in a costco shopping centre and the other guy wasn't crying about him "going too slow in front of him" meaning he had to get even with him, for some unknown reason. like, you'd have a point if he was getting mad over something legitimately worth getting mad over. but he wasn't. he took the low road at minimum, best case scenario is this guy is misremembering or miscommunicating what the other guy did. but from what i'm hearing, he deliberately caused an issue about someone GOING SLOW IN FRONT OF HIM AT COSTCO of all places. if true, he deserved to get called out on it. making a non issue into an issue for no reason is pathetic and the other guy sounds like a whiny flea bag.
Y’all are always trying to “other side” people acting dumb lmao. look at the context and tell me the man had any leg to stand on