Maybe your best bet would be to live with mom, but only under certain circumstances. Those circumstances being you come up with a solidified plan to becoming a baker and maybe even eventually living on your own, meaning you'd have a clear timeline to do specific actionable steps to get to your next goal and hold yourself accountable, and then discuss this plan with mom as well as discussing boundaries for living together in your adulthood, and having a clear open dialogue that you're not a kid. But remember in saying that you're not a kid also means you'll have to start really showing up as an adult to prove it. Sometimes we as kids can be really audacious and childish towards our parents but we don't realize until we're older. If you and mom can come to an agreement and set clear expectations, then stay with her, if not explore other options. I feel like mom may be just trying to push you in a direction that she knows is secure. She most likely doesn't know much about baking so to her it feels like a big risk especially if you're not clear on what you have to, so if you come up with a plan, she may feel a little more comfortable letting you taking the reigns. Sometime we have to shake things up with our parents and defy them a bit in order for both us as the child and the parent to grow and enter this new phase of life. Don't forget this is also your mom's first time doing this life thing. As far a living with a friend, you have to be very careful with that. Just because you get along really well with somebody, doesn't mean you're compatible to live together. The roommates falling out story is a tale as old as time. So if you decide to stay with your friend make sure you and her set clear expectations as well. Maybe also put staying with dad as a last resort. Being in a a whole different country where you lack autonomy with a man that may not be emotionally sound, give me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it. Remember the decision is yours, and you will have to stand on that decision. That's just my two cents. Sorry for the long paragraph. You seem like a bright young lady, and I remember being your age with so many questions wishing I had somebody a little older and more level headed than my parents to discuss things with, so I just had to comment 😭 feel free to let this fly out from one ear to another. Best of luck! I hope you achieve your baker dream! 💕
Hey I’m your age and I mean this in the most respectful way ever, u gotta start taking accountability. I’m in your same situation rn. If ur not a doctor, lawyer, or engineer ur gonna have to grind. Ur very privileged to b in the situation ur in. If ur parents are paying for college, why would u not go? Ain’t nobody is gonna accept you into work if u don’t have a culinary education of some sort. If ur trynna be self employed, then ur gonna have to major in business to know wtf ur doing lol. Obviously ur not happy w ur living conditions and ur not gonna be happy w ur dad so just go live w lily. As a music major who makes bank and doesn’t even have my degree, it’s tough out here. U gotta grind. U can’t sit and complain and u cannot blame other people for ur circumstances anymore. Ur an adult. In life, u gotta accept ppl as they are and place them accordingly. Good luck ❤️❤️❤️
My mom gave me two options either work or go to the military, I went to college for bout two years ( except I was on full ride) , I dropped out sophomore year , got a job , I don't pay rent but I help with groceries, bout only 50$ tho , I chose to work because I just decided on I'd rather be making money anyways , now I'm starting a business and my mom is supporting me , I think parents don't care as long as you plan on doing something with your life ,it comes from a place of care rather if them hating you, but when you're a child you can't understand that ( I was also a music major , I did classical music , I just decided not to finish my degree in this time period which I told my parents , I told them I wanted to go back when the time felt right , and my .I'm wasn't mad about it because at least she can say I tried it out )
I get your point, but I don’t agree that everyone needs to work themselves to the bone to be successful. Success looks different for different people. Not everyone has to take the same path - some people find success through experience, connections, or creative work, even without a degree. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean forcing yourself into a life that makes you unhappy. You can work hard in a way that feels right for you. You don’t have to suffer to build a good life.
Wow your comment is really patronizing. She never asked for anyone's advice on how to deal with her life, and not your place to tell her what she should be doing. You're treating her like she doesn't know she has to work to earn a living, when she clearly understands that, and already has a job. Grinding is not what defines you as a responsible adult. Part of taking responsibility for your life also includes assessing your personal needs and values, and making decisions that are aligned with that--in your own time--even if other people judge you for it. Not everyone "has to" grind. Most people do not want to grind, and would not work so hard if they didn't have to. In her case, yes she is privileged and her family has given her some options and she has the option of not "grinding" but she also has a bad relationship with them so it may not be in her best interest to go to college on her parents dime, or do anything that requires dependence on them. That is for her to decide, not you. Either way, you're out of pocket for talking to her like you know her situation better than she does. Honestly it sounds like you are jealous and/or projecting your own struggles onto her. Stay in your lane, release judgment, and allow people to live their own lives.
@N3VLYNNN honestly she's not projecting , , you're the one projecting in this comment , she gave her true advice , she wasn't even judging her tbh , she saw a point where she was coming from , im guessing you're a kid or something writing this comment , but she's right especially in this economy yl, and if she wants to be a baker she probably is going to to need some type of degree even if it's from a two year school , job market is tough out here man , she could always go the trade route too , she can't just become a baker with no experience? She doesn't have to go to college at her parents time , my parents got mad when I dropped out but respected my decision, and yes it's tough out here getting what you want and getting a job , in the real world especially if you want to survive , you are going to have to work your ass off at some point , life ain't no peaches n cream , she can do whatever she wants to do , but like the comment said you can't sit and complain , if you want your life to change it's up to you to change it , if you don't work you don't eat , simple as that
it seems like there's no "wrong" decision, just do what feels right to you. few things are permanent and irreversible.
How old was buddy cs firefighter dating a High schooler is insane to me 😭
it sounds like he's 23-24. I have no idea why men like to date girls who are barely adults and then call them childish. he's lame aff
Wait how old is she
@@aieliannamy ex did the same to me. He was 19 and I was 16.💀
@@aielianna Lol that answer is actually simple. It's so they can have someone that's easier to manipulate and mold into what they want
she said she's "fresh out of high school" 4:55 and he's "four years older than me" 1:22 .......so he's probably 22, max 23........i hope
I love your hair 💕
Maybe your best bet would be to live with mom, but only under certain circumstances. Those circumstances being you come up with a solidified plan to becoming a baker and maybe even eventually living on your own, meaning you'd have a clear timeline to do specific actionable steps to get to your next goal and hold yourself accountable, and then discuss this plan with mom as well as discussing boundaries for living together in your adulthood, and having a clear open dialogue that you're not a kid. But remember in saying that you're not a kid also means you'll have to start really showing up as an adult to prove it. Sometimes we as kids can be really audacious and childish towards our parents but we don't realize until we're older.
If you and mom can come to an agreement and set clear expectations, then stay with her, if not explore other options. I feel like mom may be just trying to push you in a direction that she knows is secure. She most likely doesn't know much about baking so to her it feels like a big risk especially if you're not clear on what you have to, so if you come up with a plan, she may feel a little more comfortable letting you taking the reigns. Sometime we have to shake things up with our parents and defy them a bit in order for both us as the child and the parent to grow and enter this new phase of life. Don't forget this is also your mom's first time doing this life thing.
As far a living with a friend, you have to be very careful with that. Just because you get along really well with somebody, doesn't mean you're compatible to live together. The roommates falling out story is a tale as old as time. So if you decide to stay with your friend make sure you and her set clear expectations as well. Maybe also put staying with dad as a last resort. Being in a a whole different country where you lack autonomy with a man that may not be emotionally sound, give me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it. Remember the decision is yours, and you will have to stand on that decision. That's just my two cents. Sorry for the long paragraph. You seem like a bright young lady, and I remember being your age with so many questions wishing I had somebody a little older and more level headed than my parents to discuss things with, so I just had to comment 😭 feel free to let this fly out from one ear to another. Best of luck! I hope you achieve your baker dream! 💕
Hey I’m your age and I mean this in the most respectful way ever, u gotta start taking accountability. I’m in your same situation rn. If ur not a doctor, lawyer, or engineer ur gonna have to grind. Ur very privileged to b in the situation ur in. If ur parents are paying for college, why would u not go? Ain’t nobody is gonna accept you into work if u don’t have a culinary education of some sort. If ur trynna be self employed, then ur gonna have to major in business to know wtf ur doing lol. Obviously ur not happy w ur living conditions and ur not gonna be happy w ur dad so just go live w lily. As a music major who makes bank and doesn’t even have my degree, it’s tough out here. U gotta grind. U can’t sit and complain and u cannot blame other people for ur circumstances anymore. Ur an adult. In life, u gotta accept ppl as they are and place them accordingly. Good luck ❤️❤️❤️
that what im saying. shorty need to stop infantilizing herself
My mom gave me two options either work or go to the military, I went to college for bout two years ( except I was on full ride) , I dropped out sophomore year , got a job , I don't pay rent but I help with groceries, bout only 50$ tho , I chose to work because I just decided on I'd rather be making money anyways , now I'm starting a business and my mom is supporting me , I think parents don't care as long as you plan on doing something with your life ,it comes from a place of care rather if them hating you, but when you're a child you can't understand that ( I was also a music major , I did classical music , I just decided not to finish my degree in this time period which I told my parents , I told them I wanted to go back when the time felt right , and my .I'm wasn't mad about it because at least she can say I tried it out )
I get your point, but I don’t agree that everyone needs to work themselves to the bone to be successful. Success looks different for different people. Not everyone has to take the same path - some people find success through experience, connections, or creative work, even without a degree. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean forcing yourself into a life that makes you unhappy. You can work hard in a way that feels right for you. You don’t have to suffer to build a good life.
Wow your comment is really patronizing. She never asked for anyone's advice on how to deal with her life, and not your place to tell her what she should be doing. You're treating her like she doesn't know she has to work to earn a living, when she clearly understands that, and already has a job.
Grinding is not what defines you as a responsible adult. Part of taking responsibility for your life also includes assessing your personal needs and values, and making decisions that are aligned with that--in your own time--even if other people judge you for it.
Not everyone "has to" grind. Most people do not want to grind, and would not work so hard if they didn't have to. In her case, yes she is privileged and her family has given her some options and she has the option of not "grinding" but she also has a bad relationship with them so it may not be in her best interest to go to college on her parents dime, or do anything that requires dependence on them. That is for her to decide, not you.
Either way, you're out of pocket for talking to her like you know her situation better than she does. Honestly it sounds like you are jealous and/or projecting your own struggles onto her. Stay in your lane, release judgment, and allow people to live their own lives.
@N3VLYNNN honestly she's not projecting , , you're the one projecting in this comment , she gave her true advice , she wasn't even judging her tbh , she saw a point where she was coming from , im guessing you're a kid or something writing this comment , but she's right especially in this economy yl, and if she wants to be a baker she probably is going to to need some type of degree even if it's from a two year school , job market is tough out here man , she could always go the trade route too , she can't just become a baker with no experience? She doesn't have to go to college at her parents time , my parents got mad when I dropped out but respected my decision, and yes it's tough out here getting what you want and getting a job , in the real world especially if you want to survive , you are going to have to work your ass off at some point , life ain't no peaches n cream , she can do whatever she wants to do , but like the comment said you can't sit and complain , if you want your life to change it's up to you to change it , if you don't work you don't eat , simple as that
I think if you moved with your dad you’d find that your dad is the same and you’d feel stuck, but things can get messy with friends to ….
Just commenting to support a small chanel
4:42 My ex called me childish when I was 16 and he was 19💀
Well...at least you're figuring this stuff out early 🙃
Yo how did one Guitar Video make me a regular viewer????😭😭😭
W video relatable in some areas.
Keep making more of these!!!
i highkey love watching you talk and why the dad so slow? does he not understand how a period is like for a woman?
Girl lemme teach you to crochet 😭
bro, if zoro was just real you couldve been with him and he wouldve protected YOU from your mother dont worry
im from saudi which city does ur dad live in
What a strange question to ask 😂💀
I don’t think you should be dating him
NAH IT IS HIS FAULT not yours