The hardest part for me is when I see people my age dating and looking like they're having the time of their lives, and I think of how great it would be to begin a relationship with someone, which makes me discontent and envious. But then I have to remember that I'm not ready, and that the Lord's timing is perfect, so I should be content with where I'm at in life right now
I get that man, same here. But it's much better to wait like how Abraham waited for Isaac's birth than to become impatient and try to do it your own way, like how Saul took the responsibility of offering the sacrifice in 1 Samuel 13:9
Take it from someone who spent 6 years living among the world, recreationally dating, and living a sinful life before coming to Christ. You are not missing in that world, and having been single for near a year, craving a Godly marriage but choosing to focus on faith and growing my own life in accordance with Gods will, the gains (spiritual, mental, and physical) are worth the commitment. Bearing in mind that this is all labor under the sun for the glory of our God, that we are preparing ourselves to be the mightiest disciple we can be, including being the man your future wife needs? That’s the best motivator a man can have! Stand strong, brother!
Funny that Pastor Washer says "don't marry a Cinderella." I know he meant the sparkly Disney princess fashion model kind of character, but the complete picture of Cinderella is actually that dignified, hardworking homemaker that he described. Don't marry someone who looks like Cinderella on the ballroom floor just because she looks like that-- but do look for a girl with the humility, wisdom and strength of the fabled Cinderella!
It seems impossible to be a man with so much pressure and responsibility with how we behave towards women. I'm terrified of women. I have always been that way. They always turn me down and it hurts. I don't know if I could ever be in a relationship with a woman because I struggle too much with my masculinity and manhood.
I am 26 and I have never mistreated a woman but I treat them like my other friends. I needed to hear this. I will change my attitude and behavior around women.
It goes both ways. I don't feel the need to be respectful towards women if they are not respectful towards me. Why does it seem like men have to be super nice and soft to women? I'm not going out of my way for a female.
@@JackReacher-hd9tzI am an older lady, and I hear you. However, as Christians we are called to be humble and kind. The world is a mess, but all Christians need to demonstrate Gods love to others especially to unbelievers.
Pastor Paul Washer speaks some very heavy truths and words (I completely lost it when he said, “dislocated father”) Oh man! It’s a word for all men (young and old)
I'm extremely uncomfortable and terrified of women when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships. It seems like you can never be what a woman wants. You can never be man enough. Women act like there scared of everything so I just stay away from them. And I will never cry or talk about my feelings because they use that against you.
Very nice series! I enjoyed listening to it and greatly appreciate Mr. Washer’s view on these things. I hope more guys can listen to this and be encouraged and want to become more godly and Christlike.
This is great to hear but I wonder how should women behave and treat men? All my life I've been told to be nice and soft with women. Okay but what about how they treat us?
Biblical truth must sound very foreign to this generation, it wasnt too long ago in America that we lived by many of these principals even the non believers.
Lots of good things to be learned here, especially when he has scripture to back it. He also says a lot of things that sound proper, but those things need scripture behind them as well. I can't persuade other people that he's more right than they if there is no scriptural foundation on either side. Example: That an unmarried young woman is to be under her father's authority as long as she remains unmarried. I believe this is true based on Exodus 22:16-17, and Numbers 30:3-5, which Mr. Washer cited. However, the extent of her father's authority is not clearly defined here in scripture. Mr. Washer would say in my situation, that I need to go to the young woman's father before entering into a relationship and ask him permission to enter that relationship. How do I convey this to other people? My parents say that I should simply ask the young woman out, so that I can talk to her, to see what kind of woman she is. However, Mr. Washer would say that asking the woman out would initiate conflict and a small amount of emotional response out of the girl that would affect her. I respect my parents, but I want to honour the young woman's father and mother. I especially want to do what is right in God's sight and in accordance with scripture. I think 99% of Mr. Washer's principles are good and true, but many of them are also more opinion than scriptural fact.
I think going through the Gospels with an open heart and learning from the teachings of Jesus helps both man and woman. This Paul Washer has his own doctrine.
It doesn't seem so-- but he's talking against college girls' belief that somehow they will work a college-qualified job like medicine and have time for motherhood as well. It's fine to pick one or the other, but we shouldn't have the illusion that a woman working 80 hours a week or even 40 will have time to get married and raise kids.
Basically what he saying is, you can’t be a career woman and a good mother simultaneously. You choose one or the other. You can’t have your cake and eat it essentially.
I disagree with your opinion on women pursuing men being sinful. There’s nothing wrong with a woman showing interest in a man. You’re taking Proverbs 7 out of context to make your point. Proverbs 7 is about an adulterous woman, who is married, who is trying to lure a young man into her house for sex. Women pursuing a man to date doesn’t mean she’s a Harlot or an adulteress with bad intentions. You’re taking Genesis 2 out of context too. Yes a man shall leave his parents & join to his wife. For that to happen the woman also have to leave her parents & join to her husband.
I wouldn't get into his advice and this is because of 1 John 4: 1. I ask myself, is he preaching the Bible and leading with Scripture? Nope! So that way, don't even stress it :)
Correct, because the key to a good marriage is to love your wife as Christ loved the church. Ephesians 5:25. Who should we aspire to be like? The Lord Jesus. What can we do to become like him? According to 2 Corinthians 3:18, our eyes are fixed on Him. A happy marriage will result if you have a servant's mindset.
More than likely the Apostle Paul was married early on. Perhaps his wife died... Mike Winger has a good series on it. Although he was given his wisdom and insight from Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit! So he had been given the authority from God to speak on the matter
It is quite sad that Paul Washer doesnt mention a word that Jonathan Edwards had slaves to take care of the house. He had at least one male and one female slave. No wonder he didnt notice that crops were brought in because the slaves were doing it.
I'm terrified of women. They make me feel very uncomfortable. Why must we go out of way to be soft, nice and respectful if most women don't like that? Alot of women don't like chivalry.
It is quite sad that Paul Washer doesnt mention a word that Jonathan Edwards had slaves to take care of the house. He had at least one male and one female slave. No wonder he didnt notice that crops were brought in because the slaves were doing it. Paul Washer says ”she took care of everything”. No she didnt, the slaves were there to do the work.
Wow I just read up on this and it is something new I’ve learned. Interesting that his followers would ultimately become the heart of the abolitionist movement in the North. Seems like he even defended a clergy member who was being denounced by his congregation for owning slaves.
The hardest part for me is when I see people my age dating and looking like they're having the time of their lives, and I think of how great it would be to begin a relationship with someone, which makes me discontent and envious. But then I have to remember that I'm not ready, and that the Lord's timing is perfect, so I should be content with where I'm at in life right now
I get that man, same here. But it's much better to wait like how Abraham waited for Isaac's birth than to become impatient and try to do it your own way, like how Saul took the responsibility of offering the sacrifice in 1 Samuel 13:9
Take it from someone who spent 6 years living among the world, recreationally dating, and living a sinful life before coming to Christ. You are not missing in that world, and having been single for near a year, craving a Godly marriage but choosing to focus on faith and growing my own life in accordance with Gods will, the gains (spiritual, mental, and physical) are worth the commitment. Bearing in mind that this is all labor under the sun for the glory of our God, that we are preparing ourselves to be the mightiest disciple we can be, including being the man your future wife needs? That’s the best motivator a man can have! Stand strong, brother!
Yep. I’ve been through that. Keep going. She is on the way.
U sound smart
Amen brother
Funny that Pastor Washer says "don't marry a Cinderella." I know he meant the sparkly Disney princess fashion model kind of character, but the complete picture of Cinderella is actually that dignified, hardworking homemaker that he described. Don't marry someone who looks like Cinderella on the ballroom floor just because she looks like that-- but do look for a girl with the humility, wisdom and strength of the fabled Cinderella!
I thought about that too lol
@@zachatkinson4936 Curious I would find you here-- can't imagine why :D
I thought the same thing too haha
It seems impossible to be a man with so much pressure and responsibility with how we behave towards women. I'm terrified of women. I have always been that way. They always turn me down and it hurts. I don't know if I could ever be in a relationship with a woman because I struggle too much with my masculinity and manhood.
Every man in this generation should watch this Biblical Manhood series by Paul Washer
I am 26 and I have never mistreated a woman but I treat them like my other friends. I needed to hear this. I will change my attitude and behavior around women.
It goes both ways. I don't feel the need to be respectful towards women if they are not respectful towards me. Why does it seem like men have to be super nice and soft to women? I'm not going out of my way for a female.
@@JackReacher-hd9tzI am an older lady, and I hear you. However, as Christians we are called to be humble and kind. The world is a mess, but all Christians need to demonstrate Gods love to others especially to unbelievers.
Thanks pastor Paul. No one said that in my place. But every men needs to hear that.
God bless you for teaching on this subject. Very needful in today’s world.
I come back to these messages from time to time and check myself.
This was great, all 3 Parts🙌🏼🙋🏻♀️🙏🏼✝️
Thank you Sir Paul Washer, my biblical mentor.
Listening to this again after hearing it for the first time maybe 4 years ago. Great wisdom from a man after the Lord.
Pastor Paul Washer speaks some very heavy truths and words (I completely lost it when he said, “dislocated father”) Oh man!
It’s a word for all men (young and old)
I just like your communication style sir. Cool but yet compelling.
Wow this hit hard
Sure did
... The sword of the spirit 😌
The truth usually does amen
I'm extremely uncomfortable and terrified of women when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships. It seems like you can never be what a woman wants. You can never be man enough. Women act like there scared of everything so I just stay away from them. And I will never cry or talk about my feelings because they use that against you.
I never heard this,i which i heard it early
Very nice series! I enjoyed listening to it and greatly appreciate Mr. Washer’s view on these things. I hope more guys can listen to this and be encouraged and want to become more godly and Christlike.
This is great to hear but I wonder how should women behave and treat men? All my life I've been told to be nice and soft with women. Okay but what about how they treat us?
Agradecido de terminar esta serie, mucho ánimo en el señor y saludos desde Tijuana a todos 🇲🇽 pt: Desde el YT de mi esposa
Biblical truth must sound very foreign to this generation, it wasnt too long ago in America that we lived by many of these principals even the non believers.
Brutal. Don't watch this if you're not looking to put in the work.
Wow, God is good
Trying to figure out how to be a father and a husband while trying to figure out how to be man.
Lots of good things to be learned here, especially when he has scripture to back it.
He also says a lot of things that sound proper, but those things need scripture behind them as well.
I can't persuade other people that he's more right than they if there is no scriptural foundation on either side.
Example:
That an unmarried young woman is to be under her father's authority as long as she remains unmarried. I believe this is true based on Exodus 22:16-17, and Numbers 30:3-5, which Mr. Washer cited. However, the extent of her father's authority is not clearly defined here in scripture. Mr. Washer would say in my situation, that I need to go to the young woman's father before entering into a relationship and ask him permission to enter that relationship. How do I convey this to other people? My parents say that I should simply ask the young woman out, so that I can talk to her, to see what kind of woman she is. However, Mr. Washer would say that asking the woman out would initiate conflict and a small amount of emotional response out of the girl that would affect her. I respect my parents, but I want to honour the young woman's father and mother. I especially want to do what is right in God's sight and in accordance with scripture.
I think 99% of Mr. Washer's principles are good and true, but many of them are also more opinion than scriptural fact.
Does anyone know which verse he was referring to about a man falling into temptation if alone with a women? please, I need some notes.
Proverbs chapter 7
lol run away
Also can check on 1 Cor 6:18
How should a Christian women prepare for marriage?
Is there a series like this but for Woman?
I don't know if it's a series, but you can find videos on UA-cam where Paul Washer talks about womanhood.
Look up “Voddie Baucham What He Must Be If He Wants to Marry my Daughter.”
I think going through the Gospels with an open heart and learning from the teachings of Jesus helps both man and woman. This Paul Washer has his own doctrine.
My question, how does a Mom handle the situation with her daughters when my husband, their Dad is in heaven.
Does anyone know where we can find the notes? Do they even still exist?
I have no idea where they can be found.
@@illbehonest Okay thanks
Was Pastor Paul saying it's wrong for girls to go to college? Or wrong for parents to send their daughters to college?
It doesn't seem so-- but he's talking against college girls' belief that somehow they will work a college-qualified job like medicine and have time for motherhood as well. It's fine to pick one or the other, but we shouldn't have the illusion that a woman working 80 hours a week or even 40 will have time to get married and raise kids.
I believe he was speaking in general to people’s individual priorities (it goes both ways, to be honest)
Basically what he saying is, you can’t be a career woman and a good mother simultaneously. You choose one or the other. You can’t have your cake and eat it essentially.
I disagree with your opinion on women pursuing men being sinful. There’s nothing wrong with a woman showing interest in a man. You’re taking Proverbs 7 out of context to make your point. Proverbs 7 is about an adulterous woman, who is married, who is trying to lure a young man into her house for sex. Women pursuing a man to date doesn’t mean she’s a Harlot or an adulteress with bad intentions. You’re taking Genesis 2 out of context too. Yes a man shall leave his parents & join to his wife. For that to happen the woman also have to leave her parents & join to her husband.
I wouldn't get into his advice and this is because of 1 John 4: 1. I ask myself, is he preaching the Bible and leading with Scripture? Nope! So that way, don't even stress it :)
To prepare for marriage, we should follow in the footsteps of a man who never married?
Correct, because the key to a good marriage is to love your wife as Christ loved the church. Ephesians 5:25. Who should we aspire to be like? The Lord Jesus. What can we do to become like him? According to 2 Corinthians 3:18, our eyes are fixed on Him. A happy marriage will result if you have a servant's mindset.
We follow in the footsteps of the One who created marriage.
More than likely the Apostle Paul was married early on. Perhaps his wife died... Mike Winger has a good series on it. Although he was given his wisdom and insight from Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit! So he had been given the authority from God to speak on the matter
It is quite sad that Paul Washer doesnt mention a word that Jonathan Edwards had slaves to take care of the house. He had at least one male and one female slave. No wonder he didnt notice that crops were brought in because the slaves were doing it.
Flee sexual immorality.
I'm terrified of women. They make me feel very uncomfortable. Why must we go out of way to be soft, nice and respectful if most women don't like that? Alot of women don't like chivalry.
@@JackReacher-hd9tz Listen to the words of brother Paul, he is saying the truth from God, this is wisdom that helps you to live well!
It is quite sad that Paul Washer doesnt mention a word that Jonathan Edwards had slaves to take care of the house. He had at least one male and one female slave. No wonder he didnt notice that crops were brought in because the slaves were doing it.
Paul Washer says ”she took care of everything”. No she didnt, the slaves were there to do the work.
Wow I just read up on this and it is something new I’ve learned. Interesting that his followers would ultimately become the heart of the abolitionist movement in the North. Seems like he even defended a clergy member who was being denounced by his congregation for owning slaves.