I’ve been praying for another book and God sure delivered 🥰💃🏾 Ask and you shall receive ♥️ Thank you for having her on to share the truth among the distractions of the enemy.
I worked part time at a daycare during college; my peers and I watched this little girl take her first steps. While it was neat to see her do that, I thought, "We shouldn't be the ones to see her take her first steps....that joy belongs to the parents." I felt sad the rest of the day that they didn't get to witness that, and this was back in the day before phones with cameras, so that special moment for the mother (and father) was lost forever. I promised myself that if I ever had children, they would not be raised in a daycare, because time like that is way too precious to be spent with people they'll probably never see again.
I decided not to have kids because I knew I would have to work the rest of my life and miss those moments. 47 now and have worked since I was 13 with little time off. That being said my husband and I have worked with kids throughout our whole marriage and I ended up with the most amazing borrowed daughter ever. I couldn’t be more happy about it. Now that I’m older I’m realizing that we Americans have way too much stuff. We don’t need all the crap that we buy.
@@dltay4263 I stayed at home and kept all of my friends kids while they worked and that afforded me to stay home with my own all of these children learn to play music because I used to pull out the pots and pans and let them beat on them two of them become nurses like me including my daughter and niece those first years are so incredibly precious and as I'm in my late 40s now I realize the most important thing I ever did was help raise my friend's kids and to stay home with mine when they were little
My daughter is 1.5 and goes to daycare 3 days a week. When she was home she was very cautious about letting go of my fingers to walk on her own. But at daycare she was fine doing it by herself. She took her first steps without help at daycare. But it took about 3 more weeks before she would let go of my fingers at home, if I tried setting her up by herself she’d just plop down and crawl. And I was like, your teachers send me videos I know you can do it! But that’s okay, she just wanted mamma’s help for a little while longer ❤.
you mean carry a baby? well if women were honored for that instead of being seen as "baby machine" or property in the past, feminism would not have even started. so it's on the men lol. women will take pride and joy in bearing a baby if men (esp. the one who got her pregnant) appreciate, understand her sacrifice and honor them. Men say things like "she was built for it" etc. and don't see her hard work in carrying a human. so women started believing that they need to go into the career world to prove their worth to men or show they are better than men. it is sad truly and unfortunately men seeing women as less and not honoring her womb enough is the reason. I mean have you seen Afghanistan? I feel like throwing up hearing about those men.
@MMJ501 I'm a man and I see it like God does, it is on MEN! We lost our connection to God AND, like Adam, we abdicated our authority and headship FAR too often! The church is A JOKE in teaching in this area as well...in short, WE gave space to the enemy!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@MMJ501 I cringed at this reply. The entire conversation in this video and the entire message provided around men and women in the Bible is that both bear responsibility and both have to fulfill their individual responsibility to allow the other to do their job at their best. The amount of selfishness that I hear in these arguments actually disgusts me. Take responsibility for yourself before putting blame elsewhere and this applies to EVERYONE. Men and women alike.
@@CCD_106thank you for taking ownership. Men can literally flip the dynamic by stepping up and honoring women for their inherent value. As a woman who has a job, family will always be #1
As a stay at home mom- FORMER working woman, I will say this. It CAN be done. You location, your home, you lifestyle are all things that CAN be changed. Maybe your career has to change. But I would give all of those things for the opportunity to be home with my children. You never get that back.
I am a single guy and this was the marriage counseling i needed to hear. We need to be transformational, a husband to my wife and not a father to my wife, etc, etc.
I was blessed to be a stay at home mom to 3 kids. We were tight on $$$ but had a super supportive family on both sides. Very thankful for those years 🎉❤
Bought feminist lies for decades, but God, rich in mercy, is restoring the years the locusts have eaten ❤ Raising my son alone, partially because of this, 100% because of the adversary. We didnt have Christ. Now i do!!! Keep Jesus Christ 1st! ❤❤❤
@@laurabutler7498 Yes, the Almighty is a redeeming God. I’m so glad you have been enlightened to follow His way. Blessings upon blessing to you and the generations that will come from your obedience.💕
This woman is a virtuous woman. She understands her position so eloquently. Her spirit is so polite and humble. Continue to align with the will of YHWH/GOD in your life. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 such a beautiful soul .
I’m a professional and entrepreneur black woman and if I could have stayed home for a few years while my child was young I would. I much have rather raised my kid than a daycare.
Man, as a working mother, this was so good for me to here, we CAN NOT have it all at the same time. And we ARE NOT meant to carry all that load on our own.
I was and am so grateful to have the chance to quit college once my first was born- my husband supported me finishing my education but when I saw my son for the first time I couldn’t bare to voluntarily leave him with someone else. And we were in a small one bedroom basement apartment- but we made it work and were happy ❤
Lisa is incredible. She came and spoke at my church in Austin (LifeFamily) not to long ago. Powerful speaker and like an old football coach, she had me and quite a few of us ready to run through a wall if she told us too.
I am very blessed to be able to stay Home. My mother work a lot and was never home with us. She was single mother and I thank the good Lord that he made a way for me to always be able to stay home. I worked for a year and it was hard because my Husband traveled a lot. We ended moving out of state because my husband did not want to live in Texas anymore so I quit my good job and told the Lord you are going to meet all our needs and make a way for us. And here I am living in a beautiful home blessed beyond words! It’s been a journey but along the Lord fully trusting him!
I've been home with kids for a little over 18 years now. It is different challenges than going out to work, but so rewarding. When the children leave us, I will be sad for me, but they know I want them to be independent and praise God with their lives, and I will eventually find a job.
Thank you for this conversation. I stay home and homeschool my three children. Finances are always tight and such a struggle but this conversation was an encouragement to keep going!
Ruslan, that line at 3:50 where you said you and your wife dated before getting married for 4 years but it was 3 years too long is so good! I’m going to use it from now on. Hubby and I dated for 5 years (4 years too long) and we have been married now for 28 years. 🙏🏻
Some people want racism, sexism, bigotry, etc to end. Some are just waiting their turn. This was a very good episode; I love how God has been using the Bevere family. Pray for their spiritual protection.
I'm so grateful God has revealed this to me and my husband and I have given up a lot to have me stay at home with the kids and God is truly faithful and gives you more than you need if you're willing to submit it to him. It's so beautiful to have a marriage and family that aligns with how God has designed it to be.
My wife used to work, worked her way into management in a big factory around where we live making more money than most men around us. After my mom and her dad died she ended up taking the summer off because her dad took care of our children while we worked. She loves being home now.
I thought there was something wrong with me that all I ever wanted was to be a mother. Now I'm mad that society pushed me to feel that way. Still looking for my husband..
If you don’t mind me asking what do you think is making the search so difficult? I’m a Christian man and I feel excluded everywhere it feels knowing a female perspective would be helpful.
So much truth in this. I hadn’t realised how enculturated I had been regarding being a woman who was working towards being something amazing careerwise. It took a lot of being broken and coming to the Word again and again to get to the point of realising that my children were the best thing I could have ever done. Seeing my teenage son serving at the altar and smiling at me is the pinnacle of ‘achievement’.
This is one of your best videos. As a mom and a mom to boys this hit me. I believe this hit so many people are so many levels. Things that need to be said and addressed. I love how engaging and uplifting yo are ruslan. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Had my 1st child and had 18 months of ppd. It hit me one day trying to work full time, 4 hour commute then taking care of a baby and a home while my husband traveled for work weeks at a time 16 hr days, this whole thing I am doing is a lie. I can't do it all and at the same time. I was so resentful , bitter and miserable watching someone else raise my kid and see her firsts. I got laid off a couple months later and had to be a sahm. Outside of the day I gave my heart and my life to Christ, the day my ppd lifted when I was free to be with her all day❤
This is so so good. My mother was an angry feminist; Bashing her sons, and encouraging me to " treat men the way the had treated women" "own your sexuality" . She told me the only thing men had to offer was a seed. I ended up having 3 sons, with 3 dads. And without even trying, I instilled in them that they were unnecessary. I never SAID the things my mother did, but I lived it out in front of them. God forgive me, and help me repair my sons.
@@ladonnawhite9140 you are amazing for acknowledging this and trying to correct this. Ask your sons for forgiveness and even as grown men, constantly remind them how valuable they are!
Ruslan…there is nothing wrong with what you said. God’s truth hurts those who willfully want to live in darkness. Please count it joy and please God not men ❤
I’m 24, my wife is 27, 9 month old daughter. Both work full time, both always exhausted, bills drown us at times. My Wife makes more, has all the insurance/ benefits. My wife led me to Christ as well lol. Literally sounds like the same marriage she describes. I want this for my family and I know God does too but this feels quite impossible.
Well maybe you shouldn't listen to vain doctrines and traditions of men. You sound fine to me. God has blessed you with what you need and can handle yet and this is a case where you will know by the fruits of the teaching if it's of God or not. Why are you inspired to seek what has not being given to you and envy some ideal that is not reality? The words of the Lord is that you should not be anxious and you should be content and give thanks. There is no such thing as the Lord direction you to make more money than your wife, or for your wife to be jobless and sit at home all day, or that your should be the sole provider or your wrong. That is man's tradition and there ability to stretch the word to justify it. It's not about femism, the Lord led you to your helper who has already done the best and most important work of leading you to Christ and now your current situation is His ordination and provision for your family to grow. Instead of looking at someone's version of an ideal that doesn't even fit your reality and frankly is a stretch Biblically, be content with what you have, praise the Lord, thank Him and continue to work with what He has given you. At the right time and with the right leading Gid will direct where you will go and guide your path. Remember , this is why you have the Spirit of God and why you do not need to be tossed around by anyone's ideas or teaching. Instead judge if a thought , idea or anxiety is based on someone else's idea ex. This video, or from the enemy through the flesh expressed in the natural ego, or from Christ. If it's from Christ, I doubt you will be wishing for what you don't have Instead of being content and praising the Lord for what you do have. Do not even listen to my point, you have the Spirit of God and especially in your personal matters and life, He will lead you and He never leads you where the result is lack of contentment in what you have been blesses with already.
The sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy is an unbiblical worldview that emerged or gained traction in the 20th Century and is being parroted by political conservatives today in the modern era. Women have also played a part in the workforce, helped out their families (along side their husbands if married), created, bought and sold goods, and provided services it’s even attested in the Holy Bible, see: Acts 16, Acts 18, Proverbs 31, and Judges 4-5; in addition men also played a part in raising good mannered/disciplined children as well, see: Colossians 3, 1 Timothy 3, and Hebrews 12. ------ The whole idea that women or most women should be housewives or only do house chores and be stay at home moms, as well as the sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy, are very novel 20th Century wealthy Western World/Global North worldviews built on a massive economic boom in a mid-sized segment of that era where only one income was enough for the median (majority White) middle-class family to live comfortably on in the United States. The housewife lifestyle did not work for most people in pre-20th century societies nor does it work for the median (largely low-income to middle-class) family in the 21st Century both in wealthy developed countries and especially in poor developing countries, neither of which can live comfortably on or in most cases can’t even survive only on one income. Parents that have the opportunity (through being wealthy, having a higher wage per hour/making enough money part-time than most make working full-time, etc.) or desire to become stay at home mothers or mothers and fathers that have the ability to cut their hours of work to spend time with their children should do so but the whole idea that most women need to be housewives is a very out of touch, very wealthy upper-middle class to upper-class suburbanite worldview and a very classist/unrealistic expectation many people can’t live up to. I also don’t agree with the radical feminists that shame women who want to be stay at home moms in order to give their children specialized attention to their upbringing, nor the macho toxic masculinity crowed that promotes the idea that fathers should only have a absent or distant relationship with their children, or demonize men who are stay at home fathers because of disabilities or bc t/wife has a higher salary. -- Historically and conservatively, women have always worked in family businesses when most jobs both men and women worked in were “mom and pop shops” or in agriculture and farming. In many of these historical/ancient/pre-modern/pre-industrial jobs, women most of the time didn’t work in the fields doing hard manual labor, but they still did work, helped out their families (along side their husbands if married), created, bought and sold goods, and provided services - this is even attested to in the Holy Bible, see: Acts 16, Acts 18, Proverbs 31, and Judges 4-5; men also played a part in raising good mannered/disciplined children as well, see: Colossians 3, 1 Timothy 3, and Hebrews 12. The sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy is an unbiblical worldview that emerged or gained traction in the 20th Century and is being parroted by political conservatives today in the modern era. - In Western World/Global North countries during the 20th Century, these societies transitioned from agrarian societies into the industrial era where the manufacturing industry grew in a way that everyone ended up working, getting disfigured, and maimed in factories, including small children; then after child labor laws and occupational safety laws were created child labor decreased somewhat, and after an economic boom a typical middle class family was able to send the husband/father to work in a factory, have the children receive formal education, and the wife/mother stay at home and do housework. Later on a women’s ability to work was temporary re-instated during World War I & World War II, when women had to work when men went off to war. Then into the modern era women were let back into the workforce as economic difficulties started to arise and a single income was insufficient for a typical middle class family. Then as things progressed and started to transition from a manufacturing-based economy to a service industry-based economy with more hospitality service and white-collar professional service work taking its place, more and more women gained access to a lot of the same jobs men had and were comfortable working those jobs because of how less labor-intensive it was in contrast to the more labor-intensive blue-collar manufacturing and manual labor work that was common in the Early-to-Mid 20th Century. - In a lot of poor developing countries, many of which are still agrarian, some of which only recently transitioned into a manufacturing industry-based economy, & within most typical low-income to middle-class families, women have always been working, creating goods, and providing services, most aren’t stay at home moms (even though many but not all may still have less rights and have very little decision-making authority over their own lives nor have their equal worth to their husbands recognized). In many of these societies in both developing countries and developed countries, a single income isn’t enough for the median family, they desperately need the wife, along side the husband, to work for money and gain income, many people who can afford to have one stay at home parent are part of the wealthy few. -------- Lawyers aren’t a good representation of how the general workforce works, especially for women. The whole thing about women lawyers leaving the legal field when they marry men lawyers, is based off of the issue that the legal field is one of the most toxic fields to work in within the white-collar segment of the workforce where work-life balance is nonexistent and where a typical full-time job is about 80-90 hours per week (part-time is around 40 hr/week); this is in contrast to other traditional white-collar fields where a typical full-time job is 40 hours per week. No wonder many female lawyers leave the workforce when they marry another lawyer; but then again most lawyers in general (both male and female) leave the legal field within 5 years of starting because they can’t handle the stress of the job anymore so they end up in adjacent non-lawyer jobs with normal working hours that are interested in hiring law school-educated people to augment their non-law-educated staff like Human Resources (HR), Regulatory Compliance, Labor Relations, Communications, etc. Even some male lawyers who get married to other lawyers (to female lawyers) let alone female lawyers in the same situation, who’ve already made partner/don’t care about making partner or don’t care about stagnating in their career in Big Law/the stigma associated with it are going to cut down their work hours to part-time status so they can spend time with their family; while others are going to go for less stressful legal careers with manageable working hours like working as in-house counsel or in public interest law.
Thank you for doing this interview! It was exactly what I needed to hear as I’m transitioning from being a working woman to a stay at home mom. God bless you 🙏🏼
@Nicole-ck9ss Oh i understand the point but That is not always the reality . People are still human and that plays a part in what happens in people's home. What God wants for us is not always man's choice. Marriage is work not pie in the sky, even when you love God.
Ive been eyeing this video ever since it came out and had intense pushback to watch it and today i just watched it and she spoke right to my heart. Im in a season of small children and staying home and i think i might have pushed my husband into a dark time for him because of the way we speak to each other (it began with me) im very rude (also how i was raised watching my parents talk to each other) and i realize its wrong but its breaking my heart to know i married a bright, cheerful, humorous man, and i made him into a person who doubts everything and lost confidence. Thank you for this conversation. ❤🥺
I always wanted to be a stay at home mom my whole life and I wish we would have tried harder to make it happen. However, I thank God every day that at least I didn’t have to put my son in daycare ever because his grandmothers were so able and willing to help us. I missed a lot of special first moments with him but at least he was with family in his primary years. I thought I would never be able to be a stay at home mother but after Covid God made it possible for me to work from home permanently and I could not be more grateful. ❤
This was so good! I only wish I heard this stuff 25-30 yrs ago as a young married woman and now divorced❤😢😊but I will share this with my adult children!
I'm going to have to hit the replay on this video over and over again. So much wisdom and genuine common sense. This is valuable ❤ Thank you to both of you for this tremendous information and insight.
Absolutely love this talk. Thank you for speaking to both us men and women 🙏 I needed to hear this, the world needs to hear this. I'm 37 and yet still not married, but hopefully soon to be. Not knowing Christ led me astray for many years, finding the Lord took me back to right path. Thank you Lord for showing the way, for being the way. We need to bring the value of family back!
I NEVER comment on videos till this one. I have been so afraid of the idea of being a mother, and I've chalked it up to my health issues. I relate strongly to Lisa as a person, and to her upbringing. I realize I've been afraid of being as absent and cold as my mom was, and hurting my future kids in the process. I'm sitting here in tears talking to God about it. Thank you for this video, both of you.
I appreciate such a profound insight from a woman’s perspective. “A woman is to submit to her husband and a man is to lay down his life for his wife.” For all the women reading this, it’s important for you to understand that you are more powerful than us men, so God has commanded you to control such power through submission. This doesn’t not mean that you’re weak, it means that you’re wise and aligning with God’s divine order. It’s impossible to love and honor your husbands outside of submission, while it’s impossible to love our wives without sacrifice. Nevertheless, men are task with a much higher assignment and that is to lay our lives down for our wives. This is the highest level of sacrifice. Please remember this whenever the enemy tries to talk you out of submission. Laying one’s life down is a much higher sacrifice than submission.
I never realized how analytical Ruslan is, however, seeing Lisa out on young different influencers channels is SO IMPORTANT, cuz we NEED spiritual mamas spreading truth to next generations!
I stumbled across an interview with Suzanne Venker, who wrote a book about this exact discussion and gives great, practical tips for younger women on how to build your life around your career and plan for the long game with being a mother. It's a great read for Gen Z.
Ruslan I suggest that the picture of the girl behind “the future is female” would be more accurate as a representation of the video rather than the photo that was supposed to empower the woman to work while the men were out in war (Rosie the riveter)
Great interview ❤!!! As a millennial mom of 2, I’ve always longed to be a stay at home mom. 😢 unfortunately that opportunity has not been made available to my home. Ladies, there’s a beauty that comes from being home with your children and taking care of your husband.
Motherhood being the fulfillment of woman's very being, her feminine fully expressed, like a flower fully unfolded...and they tore it up by the roots and through it away.
And if you were a sahm you'd probably have longings for something different. Many sahm do. Seek contentment and the Father's will and guidance in all circumstances. That is the point.
@@ryanl1293 "Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it" is the command to *both* man and woman. Creativity expressed in raising family amd meaningful work is the inherent drive of both men and women given by our Creator in whose image we were both made.
Got married at 18. We lost half our income when I quit work after child #2 @ age 23. Hubby was active military. Rough times but by God's Grace we made it through. I washed diapers, shopped yard sales & went to different stores for the grocery sales & Got rid of the 2nd car. Prayed alot...
Whilst I agree totally with all you've said, I'm sitting here crying because my wife & I at 60 are renters & both work as cleaners. We love God serve as cleaners at church.
Great conversation!!! I'm 44, married 22 years, with 4 kids, already teens and young adults. I totally agree with what Mrs Bevere said. Motherhood is a godly assignment and I feel so blessed to have gone against the culture to stay at home and raise my children! They are my pride and joy. They all have a love for God which I think is partly the blessing of pursuing God's will as a family! God's way is the best!🙌🏼🤍🔥
You know something I don’t ever see mentioned outside of the redpill/Manosphere is that women also are lacking understanding. I don’t like the way those redpill guys are so negative on women but they at least touch on the fact that women are just as lost right now as men are. As a Christian man I have a hard time finding a good woman even when they are Christians. Society today has made everyone put themselves at the center and even Christians focus on themselves and what they can get instead of what they can do for others.
At 20 I had my first child and worked for the first 6 months and then I stopped working. Over the years I had gotten a lot of backlash from my husbands parents for not working. Now 7 years later, we have had 2 kids and one angel baby and I couldn’t be prouder to be at home raising my kids something I wanted to do differently then what I had growing up not having my parents around instead of my grandparents.
Best video I’ve seen on this channel in a good while. Excellent guest and commentary!! I have some of JB’s books, he’s intense guy. Love their combined work, I’m going to be paying attention to their journey a bit more, now. This is the first (On RKD) I’ve seen her at all. Well done!!
Thank you for reminding us that submitting to your husband is not the equivalent of being a door. In addition you talked about the big head of the house and needing to love his wife as Christ love Church. So many times that part is left out.
Lisa quotes a scripture from Jeremiah 33:22 “How long wilt thou go about, O thou backsliding daughter? for the LORD hath created a new thing in the earth, A woman shall compass a man.“
Not all women who have careers choose it over getting married and having children. BTW, 27,000 a year in the early 1980s is equivalent to 100,000 a year in 2024.
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I’ve been praying for another book and God sure delivered 🥰💃🏾 Ask and you shall receive ♥️ Thank you for having her on to share the truth among the distractions of the enemy.
Great interview 🔥🔥🔥🔥
I worked part time at a daycare during college; my peers and I watched this little girl take her first steps. While it was neat to see her do that, I thought, "We shouldn't be the ones to see her take her first steps....that joy belongs to the parents." I felt sad the rest of the day that they didn't get to witness that, and this was back in the day before phones with cameras, so that special moment for the mother (and father) was lost forever. I promised myself that if I ever had children, they would not be raised in a daycare, because time like that is way too precious to be spent with people they'll probably never see again.
I've seen lots of first steps. I just didn't say anything. As long as they think they saw it then it's still theirs.
I decided not to have kids because I knew I would have to work the rest of my life and miss those moments. 47 now and have worked since I was 13 with little time off. That being said my husband and I have worked with kids throughout our whole marriage and I ended up with the most amazing borrowed daughter ever. I couldn’t be more happy about it. Now that I’m older I’m realizing that we Americans have way too much stuff. We don’t need all the crap that we buy.
@@dltay4263 I stayed at home and kept all of my friends kids while they worked and that afforded me to stay home with my own all of these children learn to play music because I used to pull out the pots and pans and let them beat on them two of them become nurses like me including my daughter and niece those first years are so incredibly precious and as I'm in my late 40s now I realize the most important thing I ever did was help raise my friend's kids and to stay home with mine when they were little
@CharityPatterson-ck9tt America is materialistic. There is a massive problem with being self-absorbed.
My daughter is 1.5 and goes to daycare 3 days a week. When she was home she was very cautious about letting go of my fingers to walk on her own. But at daycare she was fine doing it by herself. She took her first steps without help at daycare. But it took about 3 more weeks before she would let go of my fingers at home, if I tried setting her up by herself she’d just plop down and crawl. And I was like, your teachers send me videos I know you can do it! But that’s okay, she just wanted mamma’s help for a little while longer ❤.
The wild thing is women want to do all the things men can do, but completely ignore that women can do the one thing man can't.
you mean carry a baby? well if women were honored for that instead of being seen as "baby machine" or property in the past, feminism would not have even started. so it's on the men lol. women will take pride and joy in bearing a baby if men (esp. the one who got her pregnant) appreciate, understand her sacrifice and honor them. Men say things like "she was built for it" etc. and don't see her hard work in carrying a human. so women started believing that they need to go into the career world to prove their worth to men or show they are better than men. it is sad truly and unfortunately men seeing women as less and not honoring her womb enough is the reason. I mean have you seen Afghanistan? I feel like throwing up hearing about those men.
@MMJ501 I'm a man and I see it like God does, it is on MEN! We lost our connection to God AND, like Adam, we abdicated our authority and headship FAR too often! The church is A JOKE in teaching in this area as well...in short, WE gave space to the enemy!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@MMJ501 I cringed at this reply. The entire conversation in this video and the entire message provided around men and women in the Bible is that both bear responsibility and both have to fulfill their individual responsibility to allow the other to do their job at their best. The amount of selfishness that I hear in these arguments actually disgusts me. Take responsibility for yourself before putting blame elsewhere and this applies to EVERYONE. Men and women alike.
@@CCD_106thank you for taking ownership. Men can literally flip the dynamic by stepping up and honoring women for their inherent value. As a woman who has a job, family will always be #1
@@xXWyTeBreaDXxno looks like you are struggling with understanding how men are initiators of a relationship, aka the head. Hope you heal ✌️
As a stay at home mom- FORMER working woman, I will say this.
It CAN be done.
You location, your home, you lifestyle are all things that CAN be changed. Maybe your career has to change.
But I would give all of those things for the opportunity to be home with my children. You never get that back.
“A legacy is a life worth repeating” ❤🔥🔥🔥
Deeper still
I am a single guy and this was the marriage counseling i needed to hear.
We need to be transformational, a husband to my wife and not a father to my wife, etc, etc.
I was blessed to be a stay at home mom to 3 kids. We were tight on $$$ but had a super supportive family on both sides. Very thankful for those years 🎉❤
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I got to stay home for the first few years of my kid's lives. I'm so truly grateful
Bought feminist lies for decades, but God, rich in mercy, is restoring the years the locusts have eaten ❤
Raising my son alone, partially because of this, 100% because of the adversary. We didnt have Christ.
Now i do!!! Keep Jesus Christ 1st! ❤❤❤
Enjoy your Gid given femininity and the gentle strength we have as women.
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I can relate 😢
@@laurabutler7498 Yes, the Almighty is a redeeming God. I’m so glad you have been enlightened to follow His way. Blessings upon blessing to you and the generations that will come from your obedience.💕
Love this for you! ❤
This woman is a virtuous woman. She understands her position so eloquently. Her spirit is so polite and humble. Continue to align with the will of YHWH/GOD in your life. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 such a beautiful soul .
I’m a professional and entrepreneur black woman and if I could have stayed home for a few years while my child was young I would. I much have rather raised my kid than a daycare.
Man, as a working mother, this was so good for me to here, we CAN NOT have it all at the same time. And we ARE NOT meant to carry all that load on our own.
Women in the Bible times had servants and extended families. Collaborators are so critical to a successful home & family.
I was and am so grateful to have the chance to quit college once my first was born- my husband supported me finishing my education but when I saw my son for the first time I couldn’t bare to voluntarily leave him with someone else. And we were in a small one bedroom basement apartment- but we made it work and were happy ❤
“It’s a yoke to you; it’s a mantle to John.” -Holy Spirit
Hallelujah!!
Lisa is incredible. She came and spoke at my church in Austin (LifeFamily) not to long ago. Powerful speaker and like an old football coach, she had me and quite a few of us ready to run through a wall if she told us too.
I cannot listen to Lisa Bevere without getting emotional. Sooooooo good. Thank you Ruslan.
Broooooo she is fireeee🔥🔥🔥🔥. Her family is blessed!!
I am very blessed to be able to stay Home. My mother work a lot and was never home with us. She was single mother and I thank the good Lord that he made a way for me to always be able to stay home. I worked for a year and it was hard because my
Husband traveled a lot. We ended moving out of state because my husband did not want to live in Texas anymore so I quit my good job and told the Lord you are going to meet all our needs and make a way for us. And here I am living in a beautiful home blessed beyond words! It’s been a journey but along the Lord fully trusting him!
I've been home with kids for a little over 18 years now. It is different challenges than going out to work, but so rewarding. When the children leave us, I will be sad for me, but they know I want them to be independent and praise God with their lives, and I will eventually find a job.
Thank you for this conversation. I stay home and homeschool my three children. Finances are always tight and such a struggle but this conversation was an encouragement to keep going!
The right thing in the wrong season is the wrong thing!!! Yessss!!!
Ruslan, that line at 3:50 where you said you and your wife dated before getting married for 4 years but it was 3 years too long is so good! I’m going to use it from now on. Hubby and I dated for 5 years (4 years too long) and we have been married now for 28 years. 🙏🏻
Some people want racism, sexism, bigotry, etc to end. Some are just waiting their turn. This was a very good episode; I love how God has been using the Bevere family. Pray for their spiritual protection.
I'm so grateful God has revealed this to me and my husband and I have given up a lot to have me stay at home with the kids and God is truly faithful and gives you more than you need if you're willing to submit it to him. It's so beautiful to have a marriage and family that aligns with how God has designed it to be.
@nadineclaye5046 same here, we gave up all the costly trips and all the new stuff we bought second-hand almost always. And it is worth it!!
@lisagill7968 that's amazing to hear, yes definitely so worth it. I'm sure there will be a time to do some of those things again one day!
My wife used to work, worked her way into management in a big factory around where we live making more money than most men around us. After my mom and her dad died she ended up taking the summer off because her dad took care of our children while we worked. She loves being home now.
I thought there was something wrong with me that all I ever wanted was to be a mother. Now I'm mad that society pushed me to feel that way. Still looking for my husband..
If you don’t mind me asking what do you think is making the search so difficult? I’m a Christian man and I feel excluded everywhere it feels knowing a female perspective would be helpful.
So much truth in this. I hadn’t realised how enculturated I had been regarding being a woman who was working towards being something amazing careerwise. It took a lot of being broken and coming to the Word again and again to get to the point of realising that my children were the best thing I could have ever done. Seeing my teenage son serving at the altar and smiling at me is the pinnacle of ‘achievement’.
This is one of your best videos. As a mom and a mom to boys this hit me. I believe this hit so many people are so many levels. Things that need to be said and addressed. I love how engaging and uplifting yo are ruslan. Keep doing what you’re doing!
the wisdom and knowledge spoken in this interview cannot be over emphasized. such an empowering video.
It's beautiful bringing your babies up, 👶 all of it... and certainly once The Lord has called you..hallelujah.. our identity us in Him.. woa
Had my 1st child and had 18 months of ppd. It hit me one day trying to work full time, 4 hour commute then taking care of a baby and a home while my husband traveled for work weeks at a time 16 hr days, this whole thing I am doing is a lie. I can't do it all and at the same time. I was so resentful , bitter and miserable watching someone else raise my kid and see her firsts. I got laid off a couple months later and had to be a sahm. Outside of the day I gave my heart and my life to Christ, the day my ppd lifted when I was free to be with her all day❤
That is awesome. However ppd hits sahm too.
This conversation should’ve been much longer on here. So good!!
This is so so good. My mother was an angry feminist; Bashing her sons, and encouraging me to
" treat men the way the had treated women" "own your sexuality" . She told me the only thing men had to offer was a seed. I ended up having 3 sons, with 3 dads. And without even trying, I instilled in them that they were unnecessary. I never SAID the things my mother did, but I lived it out in front of them.
God forgive me, and help me repair my sons.
@@ladonnawhite9140 you are amazing for acknowledging this and trying to correct this. Ask your sons for forgiveness and even as grown men, constantly remind them how valuable they are!
Ruslan…there is nothing wrong with what you said. God’s truth hurts those who willfully want to live in darkness. Please count it joy and please God not men ❤
You don't have to label or claim to know the feelings or motives of ppl who may disagree with something. How prideful.
I’m 24, my wife is 27, 9 month old daughter. Both work full time, both always exhausted, bills drown us at times. My Wife makes more, has all the insurance/ benefits. My wife led me to Christ as well lol. Literally sounds like the same marriage she describes. I want this for my family and I know God does too but this feels quite impossible.
Well maybe you shouldn't listen to vain doctrines and traditions of men. You sound fine to me. God has blessed you with what you need and can handle yet and this is a case where you will know by the fruits of the teaching if it's of God or not. Why are you inspired to seek what has not being given to you and envy some ideal that is not reality?
The words of the Lord is that you should not be anxious and you should be content and give thanks. There is no such thing as the Lord direction you to make more money than your wife, or for your wife to be jobless and sit at home all day, or that your should be the sole provider or your wrong. That is man's tradition and there ability to stretch the word to justify it. It's not about femism, the Lord led you to your helper who has already done the best and most important work of leading you to Christ and now your current situation is His ordination and provision for your family to grow. Instead of looking at someone's version of an ideal that doesn't even fit your reality and frankly is a stretch Biblically, be content with what you have, praise the Lord, thank Him and continue to work with what He has given you. At the right time and with the right leading Gid will direct where you will go and guide your path. Remember , this is why you have the Spirit of God and why you do not need to be tossed around by anyone's ideas or teaching. Instead judge if a thought , idea or anxiety is based on someone else's idea ex. This video, or from the enemy through the flesh expressed in the natural ego, or from Christ. If it's from Christ, I doubt you will be wishing for what you don't have Instead of being content and praising the Lord for what you do have.
Do not even listen to my point, you have the Spirit of God and especially in your personal matters and life, He will lead you and He never leads you where the result is lack of contentment in what you have been blesses with already.
She got you young bro. Gotta take a lil vacation or break for time for yourself. Working hard you deserve it.
The sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy is an unbiblical worldview that emerged or gained traction in the 20th Century and is being parroted by political conservatives today in the modern era. Women have also played a part in the workforce, helped out their families (along side their husbands if married), created, bought and sold goods, and provided services it’s even attested in the Holy Bible, see: Acts 16, Acts 18, Proverbs 31, and Judges 4-5; in addition men also played a part in raising good mannered/disciplined children as well, see: Colossians 3, 1 Timothy 3, and Hebrews 12.
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The whole idea that women or most women should be housewives or only do house chores and be stay at home moms, as well as the sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy, are very novel 20th Century wealthy Western World/Global North worldviews built on a massive economic boom in a mid-sized segment of that era where only one income was enough for the median (majority White) middle-class family to live comfortably on in the United States. The housewife lifestyle did not work for most people in pre-20th century societies nor does it work for the median (largely low-income to middle-class) family in the 21st Century both in wealthy developed countries and especially in poor developing countries, neither of which can live comfortably on or in most cases can’t even survive only on one income. Parents that have the opportunity (through being wealthy, having a higher wage per hour/making enough money part-time than most make working full-time, etc.) or desire to become stay at home mothers or mothers and fathers that have the ability to cut their hours of work to spend time with their children should do so but the whole idea that most women need to be housewives is a very out of touch, very wealthy upper-middle class to upper-class suburbanite worldview and a very classist/unrealistic expectation many people can’t live up to. I also don’t agree with the radical feminists that shame women who want to be stay at home moms in order to give their children specialized attention to their upbringing, nor the macho toxic masculinity crowed that promotes the idea that fathers should only have a absent or distant relationship with their children, or demonize men who are stay at home fathers because of disabilities or bc t/wife has a higher salary.
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Historically and conservatively, women have always worked in family businesses when most jobs both men and women worked in were “mom and pop shops” or in agriculture and farming. In many of these historical/ancient/pre-modern/pre-industrial jobs, women most of the time didn’t work in the fields doing hard manual labor, but they still did work, helped out their families (along side their husbands if married), created, bought and sold goods, and provided services - this is even attested to in the Holy Bible, see: Acts 16, Acts 18, Proverbs 31, and Judges 4-5; men also played a part in raising good mannered/disciplined children as well, see: Colossians 3, 1 Timothy 3, and Hebrews 12. The sole “breadwinner” and sole “child-rearer” dichotomy is an unbiblical worldview that emerged or gained traction in the 20th Century and is being parroted by political conservatives today in the modern era.
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In Western World/Global North countries during the 20th Century, these societies transitioned from agrarian societies into the industrial era where the manufacturing industry grew in a way that everyone ended up working, getting disfigured, and maimed in factories, including small children; then after child labor laws and occupational safety laws were created child labor decreased somewhat, and after an economic boom a typical middle class family was able to send the husband/father to work in a factory, have the children receive formal education, and the wife/mother stay at home and do housework. Later on a women’s ability to work was temporary re-instated during World War I & World War II, when women had to work when men went off to war. Then into the modern era women were let back into the workforce as economic difficulties started to arise and a single income was insufficient for a typical middle class family. Then as things progressed and started to transition from a manufacturing-based economy to a service industry-based economy with more hospitality service and white-collar professional service work taking its place, more and more women gained access to a lot of the same jobs men had and were comfortable working those jobs because of how less labor-intensive it was in contrast to the more labor-intensive blue-collar manufacturing and manual labor work that was common in the Early-to-Mid 20th Century.
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In a lot of poor developing countries, many of which are still agrarian, some of which only recently transitioned into a manufacturing industry-based economy, & within most typical low-income to middle-class families, women have always been working, creating goods, and providing services, most aren’t stay at home moms (even though many but not all may still have less rights and have very little decision-making authority over their own lives nor have their equal worth to their husbands recognized).
In many of these societies in both developing countries and developed countries, a single income isn’t enough for the median family, they desperately need the wife, along side the husband, to work for money and gain income, many people who can afford to have one stay at home parent are part of the wealthy few.
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Lawyers aren’t a good representation of how the general workforce works, especially for women. The whole thing about women lawyers leaving the legal field when they marry men lawyers, is based off of the issue that the legal field is one of the most toxic fields to work in within the white-collar segment of the workforce where work-life balance is nonexistent and where a typical full-time job is about 80-90 hours per week (part-time is around 40 hr/week); this is in contrast to other traditional white-collar fields where a typical full-time job is 40 hours per week. No wonder many female lawyers leave the workforce when they marry another lawyer; but then again most lawyers in general (both male and female) leave the legal field within 5 years of starting because they can’t handle the stress of the job anymore so they end up in adjacent non-lawyer jobs with normal working hours that are interested in hiring law school-educated people to augment their non-law-educated staff like Human Resources (HR), Regulatory Compliance, Labor Relations, Communications, etc. Even some male lawyers who get married to other lawyers (to female lawyers) let alone female lawyers in the same situation, who’ve already made partner/don’t care about making partner or don’t care about stagnating in their career in Big Law/the stigma associated with it are going to cut down their work hours to part-time status so they can spend time with their family; while others are going to go for less stressful legal careers with manageable working hours like working as in-house counsel or in public interest law.
It’s a blessing that y’all both work let alone she make more don’t feel insecure it’s not a sin for her to work
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Not every woman that "misses the window" of marriage and motherhood did so by choice or for a career.
Exactly! Someone minister to this please.
They did miss it by choice for sure!
Explain?❤
God doesn't call everyone to get married.
If you choose to fornicate that is a sin. If you choose to chase a career before parenthood and marriage don't have sex until your ready to marry.
Love this Powerful segment!
Thank you for doing this interview! It was exactly what I needed to hear as I’m transitioning from being a working woman to a stay at home mom. God bless you 🙏🏼
Finally!!! John & Lisa are a 'power couple' :) ... I hope you get to feature a talk with John soon also.
So good ❤😊 I could hear The Holy Spirit speaking through her ❤
What works in your home may not work in someone else's home.
Same. I would like this idealistic family but that's not always what you get
But the point is that many desire this and it’s because God put that desire there. And if we trust in Him then He gives us the desires of our hearts.
@Nicole-ck9ss
Oh i understand the point but That is not always the reality . People are still human and that plays a part in what happens in people's home. What God wants for us is not always man's choice. Marriage is work not pie in the sky, even when you love God.
Yes! Proverbs 31 is a acrostic poem and describes seasons. Thanks for this! More wise and blessed for watching. 😊 In Yahushua Holy Name!
Ive been eyeing this video ever since it came out and had intense pushback to watch it and today i just watched it and she spoke right to my heart. Im in a season of small children and staying home and i think i might have pushed my husband into a dark time for him because of the way we speak to each other (it began with me) im very rude (also how i was raised watching my parents talk to each other) and i realize its wrong but its breaking my heart to know i married a bright, cheerful, humorous man, and i made him into a person who doubts everything and lost confidence. Thank you for this conversation. ❤🥺
This has been one of my favorite videos so far! I had to comment and say it has been very enlightening and encouraging. Thank you for sharing
It's crazy that my wife and I were talking about the seasonality of parenting only today!!
I always wanted to be a stay at home mom my whole life and I wish we would have tried harder to make it happen. However, I thank God every day that at least I didn’t have to put my son in daycare ever because his grandmothers were so able and willing to help us. I missed a lot of special first moments with him but at least he was with family in his primary years. I thought I would never be able to be a stay at home mother but after Covid God made it possible for me to work from home permanently and I could not be more grateful. ❤
I love this. We need more community as opposed to shaming women. And blah blah blah feminsts blah blah. Good job momma!
This was so good! I only wish I heard this stuff 25-30 yrs ago as a young married woman and now divorced❤😢😊but I will share this with my adult children!
This a very richful conversation. Worth listening. Insightful for all watching.
This woman of God!!🔥🔥🔥Love the encouragement in the end!
She was dropping gems 💎
I'm going to have to hit the replay on this video over and over again. So much wisdom and genuine common sense. This is valuable ❤ Thank you to both of you for this tremendous information and insight.
what a WOMAN! Love it. Thank you for this
I love what she said about the seasons - that the current season prepares me for the next season.
Thank you for this uplifting conversation!!! Many good points made!!!
Absolutely love this talk. Thank you for speaking to both us men and women 🙏 I needed to hear this, the world needs to hear this.
I'm 37 and yet still not married, but hopefully soon to be. Not knowing Christ led me astray for many years, finding the Lord took me back to right path.
Thank you Lord for showing the way, for being the way. We need to bring the value of family back!
I NEVER comment on videos till this one.
I have been so afraid of the idea of being a mother, and I've chalked it up to my health issues.
I relate strongly to Lisa as a person, and to her upbringing.
I realize I've been afraid of being as absent and cold as my mom was, and hurting my future kids in the process.
I'm sitting here in tears talking to God about it. Thank you for this video, both of you.
this was beautiful, hope this message gets to everyone that needs to hear this
I am so blessed by this message! Thank you for this exchange.
This show with Lisa Bevere as a guess was absolutely amazing! Thank you!
That Isaiah prayer over her boys 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. I felt like she was talking to me. So powerful for parents to speak this over their children.
This is such a great interview ❤ thank you
Love Sister Lisa and Brother John
Their family, their ministry and their hearts
Sometimes moms have to be both mom n dads,same way with single dads. I applause them parents n the love God enables them the heart n energy
I appreciate such a profound insight from a woman’s perspective. “A woman is to submit to her husband and a man is to lay down his life for his wife.” For all the women reading this, it’s important for you to understand that you are more powerful than us men, so God has commanded you to control such power through submission. This doesn’t not mean that you’re weak, it means that you’re wise and aligning with God’s divine order. It’s impossible to love and honor your husbands outside of submission, while it’s impossible to love our wives without sacrifice. Nevertheless, men are task with a much higher assignment and that is to lay our lives down for our wives. This is the highest level of sacrifice. Please remember this whenever the enemy tries to talk you out of submission. Laying one’s life down is a much higher sacrifice than submission.
I never realized how analytical Ruslan is, however, seeing Lisa out on young different influencers channels is SO IMPORTANT, cuz we NEED spiritual mamas spreading truth to next generations!
I stumbled across an interview with Suzanne Venker, who wrote a book about this exact discussion and gives great, practical tips for younger women on how to build your life around your career and plan for the long game with being a mother. It's a great read for Gen Z.
@@rebeccamatthias4749 love Suzanne Venker!
“It is a yoke to you and a mantle to him” my God🔥🔥🔥
Deeper still
Amen! Love this! So much truth that needs to be spoken ❤🎉
Ruslan I suggest that the picture of the girl behind “the future is female” would be more accurate as a representation of the video rather than the photo that was supposed to empower the woman to work while the men were out in war (Rosie the riveter)
🙋♀️ Beans & Rice, Scrambled eggs, tuna melts, that was our life too. ❤ I was able to be 90% home. So thankful ❤
Soooo funny!! I have her audiobook on my phone right now. Love her.
I like that line [God] gave them to me . I am taking care of them
Love this interview so much!! Saw Lisa at a women’s conference years ago. So glad I watched!! ❤❤❤
Once you own something it no longer owns you❤
Omg Lisa Bevere 🔥🔥
Great interview ❤!!! As a millennial mom of 2, I’ve always longed to be a stay at home mom. 😢 unfortunately that opportunity has not been made available to my home. Ladies, there’s a beauty that comes from being home with your children and taking care of your husband.
Motherhood being the fulfillment of woman's very being, her feminine fully expressed, like a flower fully unfolded...and they tore it up by the roots and through it away.
And if you were a sahm you'd probably have longings for something different. Many sahm do. Seek contentment and the Father's will and guidance in all circumstances. That is the point.
@@ryanl1293 "Be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it" is the command to *both* man and woman. Creativity expressed in raising family amd meaningful work is the inherent drive of both men and women given by our Creator in whose image we were both made.
Got married at 18. We lost half our income when I quit work after child #2 @ age 23. Hubby was active military. Rough times but by God's Grace we made it through. I washed diapers, shopped yard sales & went to different stores for the grocery sales & Got rid of the 2nd car. Prayed alot...
This is such a great message. Loved the interview.
Whilst I agree totally with all you've said, I'm sitting here crying because my wife & I at 60 are renters & both work as cleaners.
We love God serve as cleaners at church.
10:18 $27,000 in 1987 is $75,000 today. This was her poverty line
Great conversation!!!
I'm 44, married 22 years, with 4 kids, already teens and young adults.
I totally agree with what Mrs Bevere said.
Motherhood is a godly assignment and I feel so blessed to have gone against the culture to stay at home and raise my children!
They are my pride and joy.
They all have a love for God which I think is partly the blessing of pursuing God's will as a family!
God's way is the best!🙌🏼🤍🔥
Stay at home mom for 10 yrs. Best thing I ever did!
You know something I don’t ever see mentioned outside of the redpill/Manosphere is that women also are lacking understanding. I don’t like the way those redpill guys are so negative on women but they at least touch on the fact that women are just as lost right now as men are. As a Christian man I have a hard time finding a good woman even when they are Christians. Society today has made everyone put themselves at the center and even Christians focus on themselves and what they can get instead of what they can do for others.
Amazing! Please do more interviews like this🙏🔥
I love me some Lisa Bevere!!! Just ordered her book.
This episode is so good 🔥 love Lisa
Love your healing
I needed this interview. So timely. Thank you for highlighting her Ruslan. Blessings from New York.
At 20 I had my first child and worked for the first 6 months and then I stopped working. Over the years I had gotten a lot of backlash from my husbands parents for not working. Now 7 years later, we have had 2 kids and one angel baby and I couldn’t be prouder to be at home raising my kids something I wanted to do differently then what I had growing up not having my parents around instead of my grandparents.
much could be said in response to this very well said and wonderful exchange.
but instead, i’ll just say…
*Hear Hear* & *Amen!*
The spirit of fear was the pandemic during 2020. Praise God for this message! To God be the glory!
This episode blessed me so much!!! ❤
Could not agree more with your explanation of the Barbie Movie.
One of the best things I’ve ever watched.
This video blessed me! Amen
Best video I’ve seen on this channel in a good while. Excellent guest and commentary!! I have some of JB’s books, he’s intense guy. Love their combined work, I’m going to be paying attention to their journey a bit more, now. This is the first (On RKD) I’ve seen her at all. Well done!!
Thank you for reminding us that submitting to your husband is not the equivalent of being a door. In addition you talked about the big head of the house and needing to love his wife as Christ love Church. So many times that part is left out.
Lisa quotes a scripture from Jeremiah 33:22 “How long wilt thou go about, O thou backsliding daughter? for the LORD hath created a new thing in the earth, A woman shall compass a man.“
@@jennb1245 it’s actually Jeremiah 31:22! I was struggling to find it myself 😅
This is because the men were beaten so badly and it was meant as an insult on top.
I love her!
Not all women who have careers choose it over getting married and having children. BTW, 27,000 a year in the early 1980s is equivalent to 100,000 a year in 2024.