Use THIS Secret Tactic of the 1% to Make Your EX Chase YOU (Communication that Attracts)
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2023
- Use this secret tactic of the 1% to make your ex chase you
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Flowers never chase bees. Flowers attract. Be the most vibrant, beautiful flower you admire and sit back bask in the sun and just glow and grow. The best bees know where to find you. Don’t chase. Attract.
❤ that
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Thank you I needed to hear that. It helps shift my perspective in a multitude of ways. Thanks for sharing it😊
Yep I’ve done exactly that he wants to come back he’s meeting up with me tomorrow he wants to help with some stuff with the home we own. I’m amicable he always contacts me but I set my boundaries very clear.
We both said we loved each other, we hugged we just hang out it didn’t feel awkward at all time heals I’m no longer in the negative energy anymore.
He’s a caring guy he’s walking the talk but I’m very cautious of what he does. He regrets leaving me no cheating he realised after he left that I was the one he needed all along
God is guiding me on the right path that I need to be
Ty bby I needed that😢
If you've healed and moved on, dont rekindle things with an ex.
They're probably broke and heavily burdened.
Exactly that’s why I don’t watch all these youtube videos cause it is what it is leave it at that
I met someone that’s even better with actual goals and accomplishments… When I started not to chase or care I found a beautiful woman who is attractive and attracted to me. An ex is an ex for a reason!
Really good analogy on dating interest and sales. Don't get desperate for an outcome, improve your offer and promote it to the audience who wants it
I just want to thank you for sharing all your knowledge.
Thank you so much. I had that experience as well. I worked in sales and I was always the one people asked for help because I always just tried to find the product they were looking for and they came back for more advice.
Please make a video on the steps to take after no contact but your not exactly in a relationship yet.
Wooow! Masterful analogy!
This sales analogy was perfect!
Exactly! His analogy puts difficult times into basic common sense for those with a hurting heart ❤
Always appreciate your content
Love the analogy!!❤❤
Thank you for this coach. God bless you always
This is your best work!
Amazing video, perfect analogy 🙌 ur gooood
You got a way with words 🙌👏 another great video thank you
Great analogy
uuuhh, I think you just hit 100k subscribers on UA-cam today, congratulations :)
I hope I can get through this.these past 2 nights we had sex and it was beautiful but leaves me so hurt in the morning knowing it wasn't about love from them, it was just hormones, I love them so much but I'm having a really hard time with no contact we've lived together for 25 years and neither of us really have any were to go. Please pray for us and our family. I'm a mess and it's affecting my job and everything in our lives. I'm so scared for the future. Please pray for me. Thank you for your thoughts.
* him or her? I pray things work out for you 🙏🏼❤️
@@fiae2897 the profile pic is the love of my life. We never married but we have to kids together. I'm the man of the house. And she is leaving me. My whole heart belongs to her. I've never felt this kind of pain and I not sure I'm going to make it through this. I can't function, eat,sleep or cope.ive tried everything I can and she won't give me a chance to work on it anymore. I really hope she gives me some hope but it's not working.
@@rachelhaley4265I’ll pray for you tonight my friend. I’m in a similar situation, it’s easily thee hardest thing I’ve been faced with in a while. Best of luck, if you get her back, do EVERYTHING RIGHT.
Stop interacting with her and give her a reason to want to come back to you for her own interest instead of your's or your past relationship.
Be in her shoes: she left because she thought she can find better. Be better in order to make her want to be with you.
I will pray for you too. I have been in that washing machine too. I know how it feels.
@rachelhaley4265
I suggest Prof couple's counselling or meditation if you haven't done so already. .
You can get through this with proper guidance and prayer. Don't give up.🙏🏼❤️
Facts. Most of us that do well in self-help/dating have sales backgrounds. The rules and processes are identical. The concept of "interest level" comes from sales, first coined by the late Doc Love - a former car salesman turned author.
My ex girlfriend has been texting me for the past few months. Matter of fact she text on every holiday since March.
Side note, she has been a new relationship for over a year. 😂
A few days ago, she called me. During our conversation I asked her was her relationship serious. She responded, yes. However she didn't wanted to discuss her relationship or the women that I'm dating. I'm thinking, you are in a serious relationship but you call and text ME!!🤔🤣
We continued to have small talk. Before we hung up, she said, "I would like to have coffee with you ONE DAY."
🤣🤣
I think she is ridiculous.🤣🤣
So awesome it works for me
Thank You 😄😄😄😄😄😄😄😄
Well he knows I don't chase so he knows & he still ain't reach out only time he do wen it's bout our child
My ex broke no contact today and apologized, we talked for a bit and she said “maybe one day we can get back cool” ill just take that as never
Good Morning 🌸✨✨✨✨🌺💐
Don't waste your time on no contact, she will never come back.
I work in sales. The easiest are when they call in, are in serious need.
Could you make a video about a situation where the customer has tried the product briefly (no relationship) but has not decided yet if he fully wants it and is stuck in thinking about the situation since forever... 😉
My ex came back after 7 weeks of Semi no contact, we have a long distance relationship..
He wanted to meet and we set a date to meet two weeks after. Then he started love boming me and started saying all the things that made my gooefull and happy i was sure we could fix this now!! i bombed him back atleast somewhat, tried to hold back a little, we did this for a week and then suddenly he pullsback again he now doesnt want to meet or and have a realationship at all, he wants «single time» but he wants to be friends....wondering if i failed this scenario and should have been more resistant, or its just him being a scared avoidant 🤔 But realy broken mu heart aces to see him and fix us dont understand at all..
I was calling , texting & begging for two months after the break up . Is it to late to go NC? And have an effect
What if she ask for space but still text you should you respond or be in no contact?
My ex reached out to me over the span of two weeks. One week after the break up and the week after that. However, the conversations go no where. I match their tone and I don’t over sell at all. All I’m asked is how I’m doing and I’ll as the same and really that’s it. I asked about their business and they never responded. Why are they even reaching out if they don’t really wanna talk to me?
So is there any coming back if you did chase a bit , just a bit aggressively? I did this weekend and then i watched this video, but what if i already messed it up by acting desperate? Can i still fix it?
The no contact Lowkey working but he hit me up saying he doesn't want to fight
Im a salesman for 80 plus design companies. The number one rule is don't be needy
💯. Spoken like a true salesman. Haha thanks for sharing your thoughts
@blacademic Hey just like relationships don't be needy! Love the content brotha. I was in a 3 month with someone i really liked and i projected my future to much on her rather than just being in the moment and having fun. She ended it last friday so in the process of trying to attract her back. I wasnt needy towards her nor did i chase at all, i simply thanked her for her time and left the door open if she wanted to try again. Maybe ill get lucky idk but i better start learning my own advice haha
Yoooooo I’m straight tweaking out, I cannot do this silence on top of being blocked. I’m boutta try to call, I feel like if I just sit back and do nothing while being blocked, it’s definitely wraps🤦🏽♂️
She broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago. We have an 11 month old together. She already has a boyfriend and told me that she doesnt want to be friends anymore. I only cal her to see my son but for some reason she is always upset with me. What do i do?
My partner and I have separated after 27 years of marriage. She is willing to do a counseling call with you, and she wants me to do a call with you, note she wants us to do call separately. Would a call like this be worthwhile and possibly have the ability to change the trajectory of our relationship, she is stating that there is no way that we will stay married right now?
Coach is a genius ….i like the sales philosophy 🙌🙌
Can you make a video on if you should take an ex back after they’ve tried a new relationship and then come back?
I was just gonna ask the same thing because me and my ex broke up June 3rd and was into another relationship by June 18th with a new woman after a 20yr friendship and 3yr relationship he chose to be with the new woman and didnt feel our relationship wasnt worth fighting but yet he steady inboxing me love songs and reel messages about love and relationships after i been in no contact with him for a whole month
Here’s the thing guys. You have to know this emotional cheating via text or phone calls with someone occurs first then the physical body is the last thing to leave. Not all but most already have a replacement lined up before breaking off a relationship. The question you should be asking is why are you willing to get back with someone who has been getting laid by someone else.
please make a video on how to communicate when Ex come back after ghosting or no contact
Please do this
I do have a question…are you single?
Bro is doing no contact on your comment 😂
Pls make a video on what exactly to do after they reach out to us?? And what if they have dated someone in this NC time.
If you want them take them back, don’t be too eager though, and make that decision if you wanna be with someone who has tried elsewhere and is now making you a backup option. Best of luck and healing my friend
My ex has it built into her mind that guys should always be the ones chasing, never the girls. Lol good luck to me.
She’s right unless she cheated on you
after 2 weeks no contact I made a harmless instagram post of me hanging out with my guy friends “no girls” in the night club environment as soon as my ex gf saw the post she unfriended and unfollowed me but “kept me on Snapchat” an hour after this happened she came to my house to return a handmade gift I got her during the relationship “excuse was she can’t bare to look at it anymore” she also said you’ve been partying a lot I’ve seen. I was calm, positive and short convo ending with “if you ever want to talk then you know where I am” :) - any advice what to do now ? Did I do wrong ? Do I fix it?
LOL, I'm dead
I'm going through this currently, allow her to reach out to you one more time, then talk to her
Gonna be honest, that’s a good sign. She still cares a lot and is scared that you’re going to move on fast. She blocked you because seeing you triggered her, which means you actually mean a lot to her in some way still. Someone once said “the opposite of love isn’t hate but indifference.” She couldn’t hid how much she cared about you in that moment and acted on it.
I might know what she’s going through because I did the same thing recently. My Ex Boyfriend broke up with back in March. About a month ago, I broke no contact by asking him him to go to a movie with me (it was a film that we both were excited to see before our relationship ended). After he rejected me, I basically freaked out and got all of the stuff I had around my house that he gave/made for me and drove to his apartment and dropped it off to him. I acted mad, but the truth is I was really hurt. I felt like I hated him but that couldn’t be further from the truth, I was greatly upset that it seemed like he was moving in without me.
I’d say stay in no contact. Obviously I’m no psychic but honestly I feel like if she feels this strongly, it’s only a matter of time before she either reaches out to you again to apologize or you can reach her and she’ll be glad to hear from you.
You never talk about what If they never reach out? What if that person misses you but is to stubborn and prideful to initiate first contact? Maybe they wait for you to initiate contact so they know you are still interested ?!?
All of this is nice, but if they never reach out, they never become a warm sale. Just a cold one that found (using your analogy) a better deal with a competitor. Nothing you can do about that, except find other customers.
Sucks tho, when you think about it, when someone leaves a relationship, it means they don't want it anymore. How may time have you missed or came back to something you didnt want anymore? 0 / 100
Need some text advice for when they do text hey how are you? I responded with hi! And I’m good! But didn’t ask back .. didn’t want to appear too interested…
If it was me, I would have responded with no response. Remember, you don’t owe him anything. Not even a thought. Responding sends smoke signals that you still think about him. To make sure this doesn’t happen again, forward his calls automatically to vm. Easy breezy.
Yes, but he says to not ignore just be indifferent
This is perfect. Don't worry.
sir I am ready afraid will he come back or not because I am block for everywhere and he likes all the pic of that girl which I don't like and I think he has something with her but he tell his friends that everything is okay between us and even say meet uuh after holidays what all that mean his actions and words are not matching.. i really want him back but not in way he treat me ..
it's about 15 days I try nothing to contact him chase him but I feel overwhelmed is he never come back on his own .
Hi Coach
So my gf broke up with me like 2 weeks ago and i texted her alot in paragraphs and all and contacted mutual friends as well to check on her, which eventually made things worse and now she blocked me…so I started no contact but yesterday she unblocked me but haven’t texted me yet, I’m waiting for her to text me first. There are certain chances she might get back right? Because she literally used to love me so much and i took her for granted a little bit and she lost feelings for me.😢
I feel for you. My heart is broken and I'm a mess, I going through the same thing and don't know how I'm going to get through this. I'll pray for you.god bless you and everyone else going through this.
@profluxury
I have had the same situation
I also did something bad with ex
She hasn’t unblocked me yet
How much time did it take to unblock you?
@@syedabbashusaintm1041 after 2 weeks, but she haven’t texted me yet, maybe she’s waiting for me to notice and waiting for me to reach out to her. But I’ll wait for her to text me first. I know she’s curious and wants to know what I’m upto.
But i will suggest you to maintain no contact and let her reach out to you, if she gets anxious she will definitely unblock you and reach you out, i pray for the best. Rest focus on yourself and divert your mind brother
Wait, if u haven't texted her, how do u know that u r unblocked? Doesn't makes sense.
@@babyluvjr I was watching reels and all of a sudden saw her name in the share list, which indicates that she’s unblocked me now
Will she be back after a month of dating? We dated each other end of March. Broke up end of may. Tried to beg her on the 12th june, bombarded messages all in 1 day, the rest are no contact or whatsoever. Please help. 😢
I don’t think so, only 2 months of being together? That just shows you weren’t a match
When I last saw her, she kept on crying and she pulled me away from buying cigarette. This was in the middle of June
@@jacho801 I don’t know man sounds like you really need to meet up and make things clear
Important question: won't no contact make dismissive avoidants even more anxious? Okay..so I get the whole "giving them space and freedom, make them miss you etc." thing. But since DA's are hurt and afraid of abandoment...won't NC trigger them even more? Since you could leave so easily, exclude them (...) after begging and all those nice words?
Maybe someone has had experience with that.
(asking as a dumpee of a DA, ended on good terms, two weeks since break up, two weeks of no contact)
You should actually be doing no contact to move on completely. Whatever the dismissive avoidant goes through during that period should be none of your business. I’m a dumpee of a DA (dumped me twice!) and trust me, the sooner you go through the pain and detach from them (which will happen very slowly but surely), the better for you. No contact only works if you are genuinely trying to let go, not trying to use it as a strategy to get them back. Let go! When you genuinely start letting go, that’s when their dismissive avoidant radar picks up the frequency that they are genuinely about to lose someone and boy do they hate that.
@@egwuekwechima4463 yes, you're absolutley right! I'm actually starting to realize that our relationship really wasn't all that and started to detacht myself. He still means a lot to me and it's still hard to let go...especially since the letting go part scares me a lot. I know it's a long process and I'm allowing myself to feel all the emotions and to heal properly
@@julias.567 That’s the spirit. Give your body time to detox itself of the attachment causing you this intense hurt and anxiety. Your brain knows how to get to you and will try all sorts of logical and desperate tricks to convince you to break no contact but you must resist because no amount of logic, reasoning or closure is going to change the reality that this person didn’t value you enough. It may not seem like it right now but guess what, you WILL slowly move on from your ex to the point that you won’t even ever want to get back even they come back begging. So, whenever you’re feeling down, remember that people have successfully gotten over their ex, so it IS possible and if they could, you are also strong enough to. You are attractive, valuable and worthy and you best believe it.
@@egwuekwechima4463 Thank you so much for your kind words! And I really know that I will get over him bc when I think about my last ex, how hurt I was...and now? nothing...I don't miss him, don't hate him, I just don't care anymore.
With my current ex it's a bit different bc we don have a long, special story but that doesn't mean that I won't get over it!
Thank you again, wishing you the best
This actually works and then I blocked him because I dont want him back. He's a narcissist and because I blocked him, he started calling me, I seen the blocked call ans called him back, unblocked him and then he started sending me pictures of us together to remind me of us. Then proceeds to tell me, he doesn't want to get back together, he just realized i blocked him and wanted to remind me of us. Sick!!!!
Gross the way they mess around
@@adelante3938 yes it is.
At least you had the decency to call back and possibly work on things. He’s crappy for doing you like that, if mine called me back and was willing to work, I’d move mountains for her Forsure. Best of luck and healing my friend
I liked to listening to you, ...but I don't have no interest in him...wink..