Be strong for your kids man. I lost my parents at age of six. Life changed. I went through hell i never get education. But i have survived 30yrs +without parents. Iam doing good. Building your home. Brother your kids needs your more.
@@josephmaina-vm1lc but depression is sickness which choses no age why judge him as if he is normal yet it's not stress? That's why end of depression many ends life coz they see everything useless
Tell this guy need to Mature up, I lost both of my parents and had nothing and i had only cleared form 4, i had 4 siblings behind me, and no one cared about us, my relatives and non. I went back sat down nikajiita mkutano, and i decided where to start. Now our Last born amemaliza shule na anapiga hustle,after 20 yrs So tell this you man to go back aachane na pombe na ajiite mkutano la sivyo apewe viboko like my area chief did to me. And he will move somewhere
This woman is going through alot more than the man,if this man dsnt change,atakufa ju ya pombe and the woman shud leave him koz he claims he dsnt need help he shud be left alone ndio atajua wazazi hawatarudi and he has a life to live
This is a goood, great woman. People younger than this man have lost parents and pulled through. We grief differently, but we don't have to go this route of pombe. 😢
How can you give up in life...this man is lazy....there are many who have lost their parents,many have been left by their wives,we have burried our children and what matters is to value your life to live long for our loved one and those whom we matter to them.... please man just man up and don't let your children suffer they need a fatherly love
After listening to the lady's story, I can't blame her. Sometimes life can push us to extremes, and while we may seek help from friends and family, our efforts may not be forthcoming, as some will just "advise" you and tell you that it's well, or they'll "pray" for you. If I were the lady, I'd just pack and go back home and start all over again, hata kama ni kufanya vibarua as she awaits njia zifunguke. Maybe akitoweka ndio this guy will come back to his senses na aachane au apunguze huu ulevi, coz if she's doing everything then this guy won't change at all.
Huyu jamaa ni mjinga sana eti hataki usaidizi na hana kitu na ulevi tu ya ujinga! He's still depressed still thinks that the dead parent's will one day wake up and come to help him! How!? Ye should man up bro
At some point in life you cant advice a grown man, let this woman focus on herself and the kids. She can go back home and work hard rather than stay in the slum and suffer. People will always talk, but will never help you
Huyu mwanaume ako na ujinga saaaana,I am also a total orphan,Our parents died long time ago leaving us with younger siblings we are taking care of. Now my younger sis doing her fourth form and last born bro he's in grade 6.
May the lady get all the help she needs so as to shape the future of those young ones. I hope she equally knows the level shes willing to go while exposing the kids to alcoholism in the name of love for a selfish person like this who sees no sacrifice she makes😱💔💔
Lakini kama ball ni ya Victor please usiwekelee your man, he already has too much to handle... I hope he shall get help. All his old friends and family members should come together and try save a life
Wewe sema family members and friends,have raised my siblings since age 16 lastborn cleared heights I then went back to studies have never seen any intervention for extended family neither friends of my late Dad. Landing in to depression is sickness which needs treatment in special way I don't blame this man at all we heal differently, solution of this woman is not to cheat you can earn on other ways
Bro your parents are gone and we understand your pain, but life must continue, you aren't a kid you're a full grown man, achana na pombe jitafutie maisha bro, focus on building your family.
This woman is really trying mehn.....a man loosing your parents doesnt men you shouldn't support your family....kulewa inasaidia nini surely and yet you have children....hata haujali watoto wako wanakuonaje.....and the excuse ni aty wife hakuulizia mbona unalewa...as a mother she has to do anything to cover up the shit to the children.....mom please move and start afresh huyu ni mtu hajielewi...
@@MATTHEWNGATIA-jd1pkTrue. Plus atafua manguo kiasi gani in her condition? Enough to feed 5 people, pay school fees and pay rent🤔 And its not like ata hiyo kazi ya kufua is readily available everyday throughout the day..
These man anakuwa petty sasa kuna watu wako total ophans .....awache excuse z wazazi at atry kukimbia majukumu yake n hiyo ety wazazi what we are still strong struggling to maintain our families with pain but we thank God for the far believing one day we will meet ....pombe will not help my friends future matters alot
J know it is painful to lose the both parents and grief can be very challenging however you still need to put yourself together and live for your family.....your parents where they are will be happier when you remain a responsible son. Right now the family is exposed very badly.
As much as I feel for this lady, cheating is never a solution..it brings even more bad luck..you either decide to trust GOD for a break through,or move on
Despite the man needs help but I feel he's being too petty, he's not the only one to loose a parent, i lost both my parents and brothers ended up being alone subjected to poverty nd all the challenges. But not in my life I would give an excuse of not focusing on my life just because I don't have any family. I understand its not easy but a man has to be a man.
From my own Experiences ,I was chairman of walevi . But my wife used fast for me and introduced me to church. Sahii Pombe nikama sumu kwangu. Pray Over Altars of Drunkardnes.
Pliz, let no one cast a stone to this lady.... Downfall kama YA Mawe inaleta kutojielewa.... N anybody showing signs of lending a helping hand....can manipulate her..... Let's pray that God intervenes ...
So boss it means you don't love and value your children..hawa wakitrseka ni WEWE watakulaumu cz wewe ulifunzwa with your parents.. they had their life you look ahead na wako WACHA ujinga eti you lost the loved one wewe wamekuacha UKO mzee na Bibi na watoto kuna yatima waliachwa wakiwa wadogo... so are they coming to employe you cz still mourning them.. madam if he okay how is saying move just a bit life imechpe..atakutafuta
Depression is real steve fanya Mambo, let's help this man before it get on another let. I silute the lady so far so good she stick for her marriage.kongoi missing
I can see people commenting who know nothing about depression and mental breakdown. Praying for depression it can't help this is not spiritual. Forcing and locking him up for rehab
This guy gave up long time ago n left every bit of responsibility, parental-figure and hope to his wife. It's only this lady to take a super woman stand. We've delt with swayed men like this n it's so draining, u might die too n leave ua kids alone if u r not careful.
Mnabembeleza nini ?? Si mtu ampee rat n rat uone hawezi kunywa, he is just excusing rubbish ,kwani wake ndio walikua wazazi kuliko wa wengine? I cannot reason with anyone endangering kids in his selfishness akwende nahuko!
Huyu jamaa ananeed help he is depressed..he also need prayers. Devil is at work mbona wazazi walipata accident wakikam kucelebrate their success then immediately kijana akaanza kulewa evil spirit at work to destroy this family
Depression is real & this guy needs help but he seems he has just decided he doesn't need help just to escape his responsibilities. Man up & take up your responsibilities. As I said last time no matter how many times you said there was nothing going on with you & victor there's no husband or man can believe that, men nowadays never give money to women without something in return. It will be hard for him to accept your help cause in his mind he sees he can't accept help from other men.
A wrongly raised man. Parents, we should raise children in a way that they should know life still has meaning without parents. The lady must also come out of that realm of I want us to go back to how we were to raise our children together. Let the lady send the man to a rehab and then let her go back to her parents, and re-strategize on how to begin life afresh. Life always has second chance, but you must work on your mindset.
The guy needs help he's depressed Guys need to understand where he's coming from He was working before n the parents were coming to celebrate his promotion Dude accept you need help
Huyu dada mwenye amekalia kiti moto anaitwa shifra na tuliishi na yy ploti moja na akabeba uncle socks zangu na bag alikuwa dame (bibi)ya beshte yangu bahati kayole
but u man do u know there are people out there struggling without parents near them ,then u think ur parents dying that was the end of life yet u have a family ,get together and face life u man otherwise u will go down.
Huyu jamaa apige moyo konde vitu hii ni changamoto ya maisha ndio kupoteza wazazi hutokea na ilipangwa tu hivyo, amebaatika ako na mke na watoto si ahurumie watoto wake na apambane na maisha
From all these conversations these is what I can say 1.the guy need to accept that yes the parents passed...and he can pick himself for the sake of the kids 2. The woman loves the guy if she was not in love she could have leave long ago 3. For victor yes he might be helping but he might have been taking advantage of the situation 4.this guy needs to be sat down and be counselled 5.if he can go back to work the better or find other things to keep him busy
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Be strong for your kids man. I lost my parents at age of six. Life changed. I went through hell i never get education. But i have survived 30yrs +without parents. Iam doing good. Building your home. Brother your kids needs your more.
Bro your wife has stuck her neck for you all through. lighting don't struck twice be careful 🙏
He should think of how to raise his family hata anaeza rudi ushago thats where we go to replan the game atleast huko shule ni cheaper na hulipi rent
Huyu dem aende ushago ajipange vle life itakuwa.aache huyu looser. Akae without anything to lose
STEONG kitu gani..this is a weak man using that excuse..Bure kabisa
Wish i could give this woman a job😢 BMS lets number i pay for her hata rent ya 3months
Sure 😢
I want to pay for 1 month too, tupewe number ya dame
aki
Bless you sana
The lady is an actor not married and no kids
This time I’m standing with the lady coz it’s not fair the man yes he lost parents but he has kids too that need him drinking won’t solve anything
Huyu jamaa ni upuzi TU I lost my parents kitambo..huyu jamaa alikua mamaz boy
@@titusCharliemusyokiukiwa mamas boy i
Unafikiria kila mtu ni hivo. Your problem is not his problem. Dont mock a man who is down
He's down, and wants to stay down. This is a selfish man.
Huyu Jamaa ana utoto.....at this age you still talk and depend on dead parents yet you have kids!!!!?????
Depression bro, he needs rehabilitation
Akuna yatima kwanzia 35 uyu Bado ako Na utoto Sisi tuliachwa tukiwa wadogo Na hutijiitii mayatima😂😂
Ameniboo saana .. anasema he doesn't even care and he has nothing to loose
@@josephmaina-vm1lc😂😂😂😂bwana na ni mzee
@@josephmaina-vm1lc but depression is sickness which choses no age why judge him as if he is normal yet it's not stress?
That's why end of depression many ends life coz they see everything useless
The guy is depressed wooiii and the gal loves him
Haki
True,then some women here wanasema amuache,the guy ako dipressed,he needs help 100%
True this guy is seriously sick I really feel for the children.
Lesson don't marry a mama's boy
I salute this lady ingekuwa mwingine angeenda kitambo
Ata angekua ametafta mbabaz 😮
This is a very sick man. He is very selfish in his sickness as well.
True
You don't understand depression
So Dunia isimame juu wazazi walikufa?
Eish...akwende huko
Tell this guy need to Mature up,
I lost both of my parents and had nothing and i had only cleared form 4, i had 4 siblings behind me, and no one cared about us, my relatives and non.
I went back sat down nikajiita mkutano, and i decided where to start.
Now our Last born amemaliza shule na anapiga hustle,after 20 yrs
So tell this you man to go back aachane na pombe na ajiite mkutano la sivyo apewe viboko like my area chief did to me.
And he will move somewhere
Bwana nkt
Story of our life,My younger sister Yuko Form 4 now na last born boy Yuko grade 6.Awacha ujinga na yeye ni mwanaume mkubwa
Proud of all of you 💪🏿
This woman is going through alot more than the man,if this man dsnt change,atakufa ju ya pombe and the woman shud leave him koz he claims he dsnt need help he shud be left alone ndio atajua wazazi hawatarudi and he has a life to live
You lost your parents,we are sorry......but why do you want your kids to also lose their parents coz of your own behavior???
He needs counseling and rehabilitation
True👌👌👍
Imagine...this guy is an idiot you can't solve greave with alcohol and neglecting your kids who look up to you as their God
This lady has a good heart, some counsellors pls come up and support. This lady loves this guy and she talks to him with a lot of respect...
It reaches a point that you have to let go and focus on your life and the kids....
This is a goood, great woman.
People younger than this man have lost parents and pulled through. We grief differently, but we don't have to go this route of pombe. 😢
Never compare anyone when it comes to death it hit differently....wish this man anaweza pata counselling ......hes depressed
He's lazy,,like alikuwa anategemea wazazi sana
@janenjenga8906 that's why I said we grief differently dear.
This man needs help, and he has to be strong. God will open your way where kids are involved 🙏.
How can you give up in life...this man is lazy....there are many who have lost their parents,many have been left by their wives,we have burried our children and what matters is to value your life to live long for our loved one and those whom we matter to them.... please man just man up and don't let your children suffer they need a fatherly love
All i can say is that the guy is in denial haamini wazazi wake walikufa... hope they find a solution to their problems
After listening to the lady's story, I can't blame her.
Sometimes life can push us to extremes, and while we may seek help from friends and family, our efforts may not be forthcoming, as some will just "advise" you and tell you that it's well, or they'll "pray" for you.
If I were the lady, I'd just pack and go back home and start all over again, hata kama ni kufanya vibarua as she awaits njia zifunguke.
Maybe akitoweka ndio this guy will come back to his senses na aachane au apunguze huu ulevi, coz if she's doing everything then this guy won't change at all.
Walai shida ni mbaya..aki i feel for this lady 😢😢😢
I thank the lady for not leaving this guy coz now help is on the way, Bora tu, the guy akubali ako na shida n truly speaking they will rise again....
True
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I now agree with obina that many men have depression 😢😢😢 women are warriors 😢😢😢
Hata kama ni depression naye pia ako too much.hajali family
Huyu jamaa ni mjinga sana eti hataki usaidizi na hana kitu na ulevi tu ya ujinga! He's still depressed still thinks that the dead parent's will one day wake up and come to help him! How!? Ye should man up bro
I don't know how much you know about life.
This is shock, mental breakdown and depression not being stupid.
U have a good woman been drunk won't solve anything be strong
Stevo ,hyu jamaa apelekwa kwa rehab cha nguvu.
At some point in life you cant advice a grown man, let this woman focus on herself and the kids. She can go back home and work hard rather than stay in the slum and suffer. People will always talk, but will never help you
He is a looser I lost my Booth loved parents during COVID-19
and am still strong working hard to support my family
Uu ni mums boy na wanachokesha sana.
Na huyo mama amefanya mistake ya kupata mimba.
This man is depressed but life must go on! God have mercy on this family
Huyu mwanaume ako na ujinga saaaana,I am also a total orphan,Our parents died long time ago leaving us with younger siblings we are taking care of.
Now my younger sis doing her fourth form and last born bro he's in grade 6.
Thank God you lost your parents ukiwa mkubwa!wengine wetu tulikua wadogo n we grew up no matter wat.huyu ni uvivu akonae
nimwoga ajikaze kama mwanaume
May the lady get all the help she needs so as to shape the future of those young ones. I hope she equally knows the level shes willing to go while exposing the kids to alcoholism in the name of love for a selfish person like this who sees no sacrifice she makes😱💔💔
Lakini kama ball ni ya Victor please usiwekelee your man, he already has too much to handle... I hope he shall get help. All his old friends and family members should come together and try save a life
Wewe sema family members and friends,have raised my siblings since age 16 lastborn cleared heights I then went back to studies have never seen any intervention for extended family neither friends of my late Dad.
Landing in to depression is sickness which needs treatment in special way I don't blame this man at all we heal differently, solution of this woman is not to cheat you can earn on other ways
Family and old friends might not help from experience but we can contribute for him aende rehab
This guy is so selfish and this woman should be supported ajijenge mwenyewe coz this is a mammies boy ndio maana ataki kumove on
Kindly BMS connect the lady to any job plz I know you have very many friends
Bro your parents are gone and we understand your pain, but life must continue, you aren't a kid you're a full grown man, achana na pombe jitafutie maisha bro, focus on building your family.
Huyu jamaa ni ajikubali ako chini ata mimi time ya covid nilishuka hadi zero na saa hii niko juu....mungu siku zote
This woman is really trying mehn.....a man loosing your parents doesnt men you shouldn't support your family....kulewa inasaidia nini surely and yet you have children....hata haujali watoto wako wanakuonaje.....and the excuse ni aty wife hakuulizia mbona unalewa...as a mother she has to do anything to cover up the shit to the children.....mom please move and start afresh huyu ni mtu hajielewi...
Mtoto ako kwa tumbo niwa Victor , huyu wife awachabe na Victor afuemanguo akilea mungu atanuonekania
Don't judge your fellow lady, she only looked for a shoulder to lean on
@@MATTHEWNGATIA-jd1pkTrue. Plus atafua manguo kiasi gani in her condition? Enough to feed 5 people, pay school fees and pay rent🤔
And its not like ata hiyo kazi ya kufua is readily available everyday throughout the day..
Volume ya follow ups is always low........ama it's my gadget with issues?
No even me i struggle to hear Follow ups
Try Bluetooth or earphones
Remember Gachagua is watching you brother is writing and deleting 😂😂😂😂😂😂
These man anakuwa petty sasa kuna watu wako total ophans .....awache excuse z wazazi at atry kukimbia majukumu yake n hiyo ety wazazi what we are still strong struggling to maintain our families with pain but we thank God for the far believing one day we will meet ....pombe will not help my friends future matters alot
J know it is painful to lose the both parents and grief can be very challenging however you still need to put yourself together and live for your family.....your parents where they are will be happier when you remain a responsible son.
Right now the family is exposed very badly.
As much as I feel for this lady, cheating is never a solution..it brings even more bad luck..you either decide to trust GOD for a break through,or move on
Despite the man needs help but I feel he's being too petty, he's not the only one to loose a parent, i lost both my parents and brothers ended up being alone subjected to poverty nd all the challenges. But not in my life I would give an excuse of not focusing on my life just because I don't have any family. I understand its not easy but a man has to be a man.
From my own Experiences ,I was chairman of walevi . But my wife used fast for me and introduced me to church. Sahii Pombe nikama sumu kwangu. Pray Over Altars of Drunkardnes.
My friend he was never a drunkard before, this is shock, mental breakdown and depression.
some men need to mature bado uko kwa past life must continue mtoto wa mama.unasaidika aje na kichwa ngumu.kweerrraa
This is not normal ni uchawi
l know the pain i lost by dad & he was my everything wueh nilijirealize 6 yrs later may God come thru for him....
Even if you are going through hard times, it's not good to be sleeping with men out there,, it's good to know your worth, I can't judge but ......
Pliz, let no one cast a stone to this lady.... Downfall kama YA Mawe inaleta kutojielewa.... N anybody showing signs of lending a helping hand....can manipulate her..... Let's pray that God intervenes ...
I was orphaned at 18.....this man is a fooooooooooooooool......akwende na huko
Nugu kapsaaaaa
Wewe mama jitoe ulee watoto wako utaanza kuwa wewe single mother wako wengi huku nnje masingle mother
So boss it means you don't love and value your children..hawa wakitrseka ni WEWE watakulaumu cz wewe ulifunzwa with your parents.. they had their life you look ahead na wako WACHA ujinga eti you lost the loved one wewe wamekuacha UKO mzee na Bibi na watoto kuna yatima waliachwa wakiwa wadogo... so are they coming to employe you cz still mourning them.. madam if he okay how is saying move just a bit life imechpe..atakutafuta
In Life Anything can happen so for therefore human must ready for anything ,This Man needs to know with parents or not Life must go on
seems like he was depending on his parents fully....nothing like depresssion here
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If the vacancy is still there, I can work as a driver too
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he is in denial and depressed he needs alot of help but pia awache ujinga akubalikusadika
Team sisi kwa sisi.....comrades family......lets support these lady......drop her namba......
Nimewafeel wote 😢 they are suffering and they need help, especially this man needs some advice.
Depression is real steve fanya Mambo, let's help this man before it get on another let. I silute the lady so far so good she stick for her marriage.kongoi missing
Be strong for the kids mama. The man He's leaving in denial.
Madam.....stop watering a dead flower and and start your life afresh because of the children!... just wake up from that deep sleep!.
I can see people commenting who know nothing about depression and mental breakdown.
Praying for depression it can't help this is not spiritual.
Forcing and locking him up for rehab
"Filisika ujue tabia ya mkeo" nilisoma kwa lorry ya shonde
Lori ya... 😂
This guy gave up long time ago n left every bit of responsibility, parental-figure and hope to his wife. It's only this lady to take a super woman stand. We've delt with swayed men like this n it's so draining, u might die too n leave ua kids alone if u r not careful.
Mnabembeleza nini ?? Si mtu ampee rat n rat uone hawezi kunywa, he is just excusing rubbish ,kwani wake ndio walikua wazazi kuliko wa wengine? I cannot reason with anyone endangering kids in his selfishness akwende nahuko!
Unapata aje ball Na hizo issues zote hata wewe
alisahau kudunga sindano jamaa akapanda mbegu
Huyu jamaa awache ujinga kwani yy ndio wakwanza kupoteza both parents? Nkt
Pia ss wengine hatuna both parents and we are strong for our familys
Huyu jamaa ananeed help he is depressed..he also need prayers. Devil is at work mbona wazazi walipata accident wakikam kucelebrate their success then immediately kijana akaanza kulewa evil spirit at work to destroy this family
But women surely….love and marriage is important but when you have to sacrifice your kids for a man… that’s bad parenting… it’s not heroic…
The guys is so depressed,,, honestly,,,,BMS do something else to her,, she's passing ahard situation
Depression is real & this guy needs help but he seems he has just decided he doesn't need help just to escape his responsibilities. Man up & take up your responsibilities. As I said last time no matter how many times you said there was nothing going on with you & victor there's no husband or man can believe that, men nowadays never give money to women without something in return. It will be hard for him to accept your help cause in his mind he sees he can't accept help from other men.
A wrongly raised man. Parents, we should raise children in a way that they should know life still has meaning without parents. The lady must also come out of that realm of I want us to go back to how we were to raise our children together. Let the lady send the man to a rehab and then let her go back to her parents, and re-strategize on how to begin life afresh. Life always has second chance, but you must work on your mindset.
Bro is behaving as though he's the first man to experience loss in this world.
Pick up yourself and move man!
Uyu ni pombe alipenda,so ni excuse ya kwenda kuishi kwa mng'etho
so this man want want his kids to loose him as well 💔💔💔💔 history repeats itself 😭😭😭😭
I can't never with his man if his calming his happy with his life, his lying and lazy 😂😂😂😂😂
The guy needs help he's depressed
Guys need to understand where he's coming from
He was working before n the parents were coming to celebrate his promotion
Dude accept you need help
BMS, please give us an Mpesa number/ Till that we can send support to this family.
Huyu dada mwenye amekalia kiti moto anaitwa shifra na tuliishi na yy ploti moja na akabeba uncle socks zangu na bag alikuwa dame (bibi)ya beshte yangu bahati kayole
This script is the same na ile ilikuwa kitambo...mpaka exack words kwa follow up
I just feel this couples manze hii ni dipression uyu jamaa ako nayo Mungu awafanyie wepesi inshaa Allah
man up na uwache ujinga man parents hulenga ata their son akiloose job ama wakiwajail so don't loose your family juu ya depression za ujinga
@Obinna please come through for a fellow man. This guy is depressed
This man is using his parents death as an excuse. Children are left orphans and survive. Huyu ni burden tu to the wife and children.
The guy needs serious help, Maybe rehab to heal and overcome alcohol. I stand with the lady.
Maybe uyu jamaa alimalizwa na rafiki tyme yenye alikua na job, na pesa
The guy has a week personality, watu wmepitia mengi lakini you don't make it worse when bad things happen to you.
but u man do u know there are people out there struggling without parents near them ,then u think ur parents dying that was the end of life yet u have a family ,get together and face life u man otherwise u will go down.
I can't blame any of them. Man is in denial, while the woman was pushed to the wall. Both can be helped and build their family.
Uyu mwanaume apple apelekwe mathare depression is real 😢😢😢
Huyu sasa ashikwe apewe viboko na afungiwe miezi mbili ata reform
Though this guy is in depression he is ain't fair to his wife n kids....why can't he accept help
I would advise this woman to let go leave this man alone and concentrate on your life and kids this man cannot be helped.
This guy he is really a empty puckt. He needs counseling for better him,
You frustrating your wife so much she's tried for you but you don't want to change that's being so selfish
The woman should pack up and leave this guy. Maybe then, he may wake up.
The man ana kiburi yet his family is suffering. Yeye bora amelewa haoni shida, i really feel for his family!
Huyu jamaa apige moyo konde vitu hii ni changamoto ya maisha ndio kupoteza wazazi hutokea na ilipangwa tu hivyo, amebaatika ako na mke na watoto si ahurumie watoto wake na apambane na maisha
This man is so stupid,i loosed my parents wen i was in class 3 and now im the person who iam.Loosing parents doest mean you loose focus in ur life.
Hapo kuna shinda ,mtafutie counselor,
From all these conversations these is what I can say
1.the guy need to accept that yes the parents passed...and he can pick himself for the sake of the kids
2. The woman loves the guy if she was not in love she could have leave long ago
3. For victor yes he might be helping but he might have been taking advantage of the situation
4.this guy needs to be sat down and be counselled
5.if he can go back to work the better or find other things to keep him busy
We judged the lady ,she cheated to feed the kids
This man should grow up,heal and move on