12 Rules for Confident Living | DAN MUNRO
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
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Face your fears. Express yourself with radical honesty. Practice minimalism. These are just some of the rules you can follow every week to ensure you become more confident over time.
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Loved these confidence rules man. What stood out to me the most was the example you gave in Rule #10 "Slow and Patient". Ever since elementary school, I remember always "rushing to school". Through high school, college, and even professionally to work TO THIS DAY, I continue to rush to my destination . The thing is, I don't arrive late (~99% of the time), but it's just that I get caught up "maximizing" my time at home before I'm off to school or work. I usually end up arriving at my destination about 1-3 minutes early, but I literally run out of my car (if need be) and to my destination in order to make it barely on time.
I want to make not rushing a regular confidence rule to follow (as I see the value of not stressing myself out with thinking I have more than I can handle). However, in rare "I'm running late" instances, I would probably rush to work if I need to out of respect for my boss, coworkers, and customers/patients.
Yeah give slowness a try mate. You'll be amazed at how much more productive you are when can think things through and turn off the autopilot that rushing requires.
As for running late - you'd be amazed at how uneffective rushing is - it usually just compounds the issue (e.g. making further mistakes) when going calmly would take the exact same amount of time
Hey dan... The rule of confrontations. I am actually intimated to do it. I have heard about it a lot from your videos that I have seen before. And I've tried it out and socially speaking it has worked wonderfully for me. I feel much respected by others and people usually dont mess with me unnecessarily. Even that change of behaviour(with a few other things combined) has made me popular in the girls in my new college class. But whenever situations appear when I have to be confrontational... I do it and I stand up for myself. But as soon as I say anything my heart beat rises and I am kinda afraid of how the person am confronting might react. And this fear lingers on in many other aspects of my life. People see a good visible change in me on outwards and I also feel that I've improved. But i don't feel satisfied. Like I am always stuck in something like analysis paralysis of what is right and what is wrong. I sometimes I think I'll do whatever I feel is right. And sometimes I could be wrong about it... But i am afraid of doing what I want... I feel doing something thats wrong makes me look like a bully or a selfish a$$hole. And i am living my life inside my head because of this self over analysis(or thats what im calling it). So if u could pls help me with identifying my problem or if u could recommend me any of your course that might help me in this regard will be really appreciated.
Hey mate, I'm happy to read your comment because it shows that you are doing the right things for you. Your only real problem is that you measure how you FEEL more than WHAT YOU DO, and this measurement makes you think you've failed in some way. My heartrate still rises when I confront someone. That's not a failure! It might always be like that!
I think you have an issue with "shame" - you judge yourself negatively and take away the reward from your good behaviour. I recommend checking out my Shamelessness course. Email me dan@brojo.org and I'll give you free trial access to the course to see if it will help you
@@brojoDan Hey man! Thanks for the reply. "You measure how you feel more than what you do". U couldn't be any more precise. I couldn't understand this thing by myself. I wish I had the capability to understand what's the issue (fundamentally) the way u understand it. Regardless... I too realised I had some shame issue (when I saw one of your UA-cam videos on shame) and I have also joined your course on Udemy. And I have completed the course's major part. Maybe I need to start over the course again and do it seriously.
U have been a big help to me...
Thanks a lot 🙏
Yeah it's hard to see it yourself, easier to see it from the outside. I suggest you set up a measurement process (e.g. journalling) and you ONLY measure your actions, and how they align with your values. You don't even record thoughts and feelings. Train yourself to measure what is real integrity in behaviour rather than measuring fleeting thoughts and feelings in your head
@@brojoDan I think that would work. Thank you.
Isn't the meditation you are describing the religion of self? Is that not what carefully looking at it, it turn out to be?
Rule 12: "If everyone reacts badly to you then just let them go you don't need them". If EVERYONE is reacting badly to you no matter how much you think you are "being yourself" you are doing something wrong to push others away. Humans are social creatures, we do in fact need others and social isolation can be very damaging to our mental health and well being.
Hey dude. You respond negatively to every video I make, without exception. Maybe this isn't the right channel for you to follow. Critique is one thing, but you obviously just don't like my stuff. That's cool, really, and if my views aren't aligned with yours maybe find someone else to watch. Your comments are tiring me out.
@@brojoDan I haven't actually commented on many of your videos, a couple could come across as critical yes. I've liked a few of them and in general like your content. I do get irritated when you use hyperbolic language though which for someone who cares about truth and honesty like I do is perhaps something to be aware of.
Ah yes, I mis-typed that, it should say "every video you comment on" - not every video I make.
If you can't forgive grammatical errors and the use of hyperbolic expression etc, my content will continue to annoy you. That's how I like to talk and I struggle to express myself sometimes, so it's unlikely to change anytime soon. I always hope people will be able to see past my flaws and hear the underlying message clearly, but that's not always within my abilities.
I recommend switching to one of the following channels, where the speakers are more articulate and experienced than I am:
- ua-cam.com/users/masterlock77
- ua-cam.com/users/samharrisorg
- ua-cam.com/channels/nYMOamNKLGVlJgRUbamveA.html