I made notes as I watched so I'm just going to go through my list. 1. Shopping for my hobby IS my shopping problem. The feeling of "Oh, if I just have x thing, THEN I'll be happy / better / prepared." The meme about "buying craft supplies & using craft supplies are two different hobbies" is very very true. 2. I know exactly what you mean about the "itch" to buy. I'll go for weeks with no issues & then a switch flips & suddenly I MUST purchase whatever or I'll go mad. And then it fades & I'm left with "why did I buy this? why do I have this?" 3. Sometimes losing interest in something doesn't mean it was a fixation per se. I think the answer to the question "would I pick this up again?" is a better indicator of whether or not it was a fleeting interest. My moods & mental health go through cycles and I'll set something aside for months at a time. That doesn't mean I don't love it anymore, it's just that I don't have the bandwidth for it right now. And that's not everything, some things truly are "Eh, that was fun, I'm done with it now" but some things are just "this time of year is tough & NOTHING sounds engaging so I'm going to give myself grace & see if I feel like coming back to this later". 4. On the topic of setting things aside & picking them up again - that can be difficult, too. Give yourself permission to take a break without feeling like you've given up completely & give yourself permission to pick something up again, even if it's been ages. 5. Hobbies I've picked up in the last few years - junk journaling (which was a great way to repurpose all of my old 'I'm totally going to take up scrapbooking one day' supplies), machine sewing, embroidery, and slow stitching. I found a video series of a slow stich project a week (see: k3n clothtales). She mostly uses scrap fabric & scrap threads you have available. It doesn't require buying a bunch of NEW stuff if you have literally any cloth in your home (old clothes, sheets, etc), a needle, & thread. In fact, she encourages that over making purchases if you can. Those videos have helped with the "I need to shop to buy the perfect thing for this" feelings because the POINT is to use up what you have. They're just mindful little projects exploring different sewing styles on a very small scale. 6. Check your local libraries, museums, botanical gardens, etc to see if they offer any continuing education type courses or lectures, etc. Some will cost money but some are free and they let you meet other interested people in your area & help you get a sense of if you're interested in a topic - or they help you learn more about a topic you're already interested in. 7. IF you can afford it and IF the thing truly brings you joy - do it. My husband loves gardening. From planning his beds to planting to maintenance to harvesting. He adores every part of it. Every day at lunch during the summer he'll go out for 15-30 minutes to "pet his plants" (my phrase, not his). It was not cheap to set everything up. It's not particularly cheap to maintain. It's nice going out to grab a cucumber instead of having to go to the store but the return on investment is not there EXCEPT in the amount of sheer joy he gets from the hobby. THAT is worth every penny spent. Apparently I have many Thoughts and Feelings re: hobbies. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
I think my comment is similar to yours, so many creative hobbies that I've bought supplies for then lost interest in. Some I cycle back to, like cross stitch, sewing, adult colouring, painting, drawing and knitting. But others, polymer clay, jewellery, lino cutting, needle felting, to name a few, I have not gone back to and don't feel the need to! But I bought the stuff at the time 🙈 There's levels to it too! If you get further along in adult colouring books, there's fancy pencils, alcohol markers, pastels, gel pens, watercolour markers, plus all the different books! It's so hard to keep it basic sometimes, but honestly Shawna does keep me grounded at times when it comes to this 😂
this is such a wonderful comment that I'm pinning it! I think your question of "would I pick this back up" can be really helpful to consider if something is a fixation or a hobby. Because you're right sometimes interests change because interests change or it's not right for this moment. Other times it's a fixation. Also, I definitely appreciate your first point about how one's shopping problem can be their hobby. In this case, it's not really about the hobby. You've said a lot more wonderful things here, so thank you!
@@shawnaripari can I just say I love how appreciative you are of other people's experiences, both in your videos and in your comments sections ... it's a breath of fresh air.
one thing to be careful of- using hobbies as an excuse to over-consume/shop. I recently got into perfume and scent chemistry, and I have to fight the urge to buy more aroma chemicals rather than actually making stuff with what I already have. I think its similar to the thing where you trick yourself into feeling you've been productive when you buy planners and stationary.
Definitely came here to say the same. I am a die hard skier and see soooo many people who spent thousands of dollars on gear just to try the sport when they don't even know if they like it. They could have just rented the boots, skis, and poles from the hill and borrowed gloves and snow pants from a friend. We even rent snowpants!!!!! If you are trying a new sport, RENT. Don't buy anything until you know you love it. And don't fall into the trap of thinking the most expensive equipment is the best. I bought a used gravel bike a couple of years back because I LOOOOVE biking (my main summer hobby). That bike has become my main transport in spring, summer, and fall. But she ain't fancy. No carbon. Entry-level components. Start with something modest. Don't splash out.
I probably have too many hobbies lol. The main one is cosplay, which kind of ties a lot of the other ones together. I love learning new skills and techniques depending on the costume I want to make. It's not a cheap hobby though, and there's a real temptation to buy various materials and tools just to try them out. I have learned to pace myself and buy things as needed, not just because they seem cool. I also do amateur astronomy, hiking, and video games.
I love the library! It can give the same high as shopping because you can grab almost as many books as you can carry. All you gotta do is bring them back and then you can get more books! And it forces you to read the books you got
@@SkyeSoleil Sometimes I get too ambitious about how much I can read and I return a book unread but the nice thing about the library is there's nothing to lose. Library is life. 🥹
I dabble in a lot of things for the same reason. I'd make a couple of things and then move onto other things because it looses it's novelty. I have been told by people that my handmade gifts were so good that I could sell them however even if I enjoy making things, having to mass produce them takes the fun out of a hobby. I've learned the accept that my hobbies last for a month or two and then I move onto something else.
Social media is so bad because lots of hobbies have a shopping stage and if you don't want haul content the algo ignores your interests. Like knitting and crochet pushes yard hoarder content. Sewing pushes fabric and pattern hauls. Etc etc
That's true -- as someone who knits, I totally understand the draw of buying gorgeous new yarn that you don't have a plan for yet. BUT the difference in satisfaction between fondling that pretty yarn versus wearing that hat you completed?! It's so fantastic to be able to *make* something.
@@shawnaripariit really sucks how much the world around us wants to milk us for our money. And thinking how kids and teens are sorrounded by this all the time too.... It's very concerning
Absolutely. I cross stitch and bead. And someone said somewhere, that there is the hobby itself and the hobby of buying the things for the hobby. Social media does not help in anyway. Even with budgeting videos. A lot of budgeters have etsy shops. Yes some of the stuff is cheap but that's an issue because it's hard to not buy all the cheap things. I have a hard time with shopping in general, so even though I love youtube I have to stop watching. Otherwise I want to spend on everything I see.
A tip for my fellow readers, get a library card from your local library! Libraries offer free services including physical, audio and ebooks and I have found that it helps me to check out the books and read them first before I decide to buy or put them on my wishlist.
One of my favorite activities for when i'm low energy or bummed out is taking a good look at my house plants and seeing what's changed. It goesnt sound like much, but it can be really rewarding to intentionally observe them. Ive noticed new leaves, new shoots, leaves turning different directions. It helps me look for good things and gives me a better understanding of my plants needs and growth cycles. And it doesnt cost a thing!
I’ve been drawing, reading, playing video games, watching UA-cam and walking. I’ve found that dabbling in different hobbies has helped reduce my spending, and helped with my mental health. I’ve recently relapsed with BED so having distractions from food is helping a lot. We can do it, fam 👏
I was talking with some friends the other day about your videos and I ended up telling them "You can't replace the hole in your soul that's supposed to have community in it with single use plastic" And you know I think that holds pretty well
I'm currently learning a new language to curb my shopping habits, whenever I feel the urge I go on the app and start doing some language exercises, so far it has been helping 👍
this might be a biased take as i am a literature major (a drop-out but that's not important), but reading anything absolutely IS a productive hobby!! you don't have to be actively learning or studying for reading to be productive, just reading novels of any kind is very productive for your literacy skills! you have to practice literacy kind of like a muscle, and reading is crucial in that. so there's no non-productive reading; all of it is amazing and you should definitely keep it up
I read a lot of trashy romance novels, and you know what? You're right! Reading deeply into even a "trash" genre really makes you aware of the details in execution, things like character dynamics and plot structure and how authors handle them.
Not just literacy but also your brain gets trained! So people argue with literacy and then trash on "lower" genres (which you didn't but I wanted to point the misconception out that many have) but reading in itself stimulates the brain in a favorable way. So much better for you than watching shows or endless scrolling so it's a double win.
I got into adult coloring in 2020 , it's very relaxing and fun but I had to stop watching content about it bc it turn out to be lots of hauls and excessive buying coloring books, the prices of some of these pencils are over $100 . I ended up buying more than what is necessary to start, so now I'm just doing it but not buying anymore stuff. I also love to read but I don't buy physical books i read them from Kindle unlimited. Your videos are so helpful , thank you :)
@@ana7177 so relatable! I stopped using instagram for that reason. I'm very susceptible to that FOMO. Seeing a cool coloring book, or nice new fountain pen ink made me want to buy more and more. I probably have enough to last me for life 🫣 Finding the right content to watch is hard. Really making an effort now to use what I have.
I really enjoy journaling. There is a huge journaling community on UA-cam. Problem is, seeing what other people are using can be tempting for me to get the exact same thing 😅 I’ve just sort through all my supplies and decided that it’s more than enough for my way of journaling. I can do with just a notebook and pen because I enjoy doodling on the page much more than using pre-printed stickers and washi.
I love journaling too! I just wish I had some sort of social component the way shopping does. I try to take my journal out to parks and that sort of thing but it’s still not something other people can really participate in 😂
@ Definitely. I also wish I had friends who are into this. Imagine doing an exchange journal of some sort with all the journaling loving friends. That would be so much fun. I‘ve heard about offline events for stationary lovers, but I don’t think there’s anything special in my city. Traveling to other places could be expensive. And there is another problem: it would be so much harder to NOT buy anything from the conventions 😅 It would be basically impossible IMO. I mean, if I had invested that much time and energy to get there, I would find a million excuses to bring things home even when I don’t have a use for them. It’s a vibe and I will certainly be sucked in.
@ I don’t even need for my friends to get involved; just some way to journal while having low stakes positive human interaction! Part of the fun of shopping for me is making g breezy small talk with sales associates and other shoppers.
I've learned that shopping is not the only form of consumption. Reading books, watching movies, and doom scrolling are also examples of consumption which makes shopping such a normalized, slippery slope. The opposite of consumption is creation. When I find myself in a slump, I usually haven't created in sometime. Creation can take many forms like baking, sewing, painting, jewelry making, etc. I believe it is healthy to consume in moderation (and that we are designed to appreciate/want things), but we must find that healthy balance of giving and taking As always, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
For me, the opposite of shopping is creating but also socialzation. That doesn't sound intuitive but I've never once in my entire life spent time with friends or a boyfriend and been like "man, I'd rather be shopping right now". Both creating and spending time with people is fulfilling on such a deep level that it can make you feel amazing even longer than the duration of said things themselves and that's that we need to go for if we want to stop that shopping and guilt cycle. In the end, it's always about trying to fill a void inside ourselves but there are healther outlets for that.
I’ve really struggled to have the hobby activity as the hobby and not the shopping for the hobby if that makes sense. Trying to stop the shopping cycle instead of just jumping shopping mediums is so hard. I think this is seen in how many beauty and makeup people are branching out different areas like fragrance specifically. The marketing to make us feel like we need the latest makeup, skincare, haircare, fragrance, accessories, bags etc definitely doesn’t help this shopping creep either.
Definitely feel you on this. It can even feel like our spending on makeup (as an example) has gone down but you're still spending money, it's just shifted. Now you're buying perfume or earrings
I sang as a child and teen, we mostly did chamber choir. And when I didn't have the time anymore I told myself t wasn't so bad because I can always sing, I don't have to go anywhere to do it. Went back to singing at 40 for voice lessons. I'm not interested in going back to choir, but I do enjoy singing and finding out all I can do with my voice.
I remember you talking about this in an older video but I need to insist on finding a hobby that doesn't drive the need to shop to enjoy your experience otherwise that's maybe another way to pass time rather than something you get fulfillment from 😊
The biggest impact my mom’s shopping problem has had is that she can never just leave the house because she ALWAYS has packages being delivered and she doesn’t want them to sit on her porch because she’s worried someone will steal them. So instead of visiting her children/grandchildren or meeting up with people, she’s stuck at home waiting for packages. It’s so sad to me.
That sounds like a dystopian nightmare! I don't know where you guys live but at least in Germany you can pick certain dates for your deliveries sometimes. Maybe encourage her to try i so she can have at least occassional days "off" and go see people? But if she's really that deep into a shopping addiction, she might not even want to have it any other way :( gosh, I'm sorry you're losing her to this.
I love to read or crochet in the winter months and hike, camp, and kayak in the warmer months. I have a pretty stressful job and I found out pretty early on how important it was to have those hobbies that give me time to recharge 💕
I have also gotten back into reading post the college era that ruined the joy, but I am most proud of sticking it out this time and becoming proficient at crocheting. I have made some beautiful and amazing things that make people really happy and that’s the important part. I get to give them away and I love seeing the joy that I created for those people
I think an activity to be considered a hobby must be active, hence I don’t consider just “watching tv” a hobby. I personally prefer creative hobbies, activities that lead you to have a final result. Mine is journaling, memory keeping and scrapbooking and while it can become an expensive hobby you can also manage to have nice things and at the same time remain on a budget. For instance, I love Christmas time and decorating all my December pages in a festive way and Christmas stationary is probably one of the most expensive. I don’t have infinite money and to bypass this problem I decided to use supermarkets and stores catalogs to decorate my pages. You don’t know just how many things you can get from those and most of the time I prefer to decorate a page with a Christmas tree I cut out from a flyer instead of buying dedicated card stock or stickers. I get all the fun in analysing the catalogs, imagining how I could use certain images, fussy cutting everything on top remaining on a budget 😂. So yes, I think creative hobbies are superior!!!
I lost a pregnancy a few weeks ago and i spent a lot of money because it felt like oh this will make my life so much better. And i really regret it especially because i was doing so good at saving money
I'm sorry for your passed little one ❤ please don't beat yourself up for the shopping, you can get back on track. It may have served as a helpful distraction, but you caught it so now you can redirect it. Be gentle with yourself 😊
One of my hobbies is mending, which means I can reuse my clothes even after most people would have had disposed of them. I also had most of the supplies at home already, and only had to buy a second hand sewing machine, meaning that after some time it's like negative shopping: I've made my money back by not needing to buy any clothes lol
Mending is one of my hobbies too! Even when it's time to donate still good stuff that my kids outgrow, i check for holes in pockets that need to be fixed or little spots where a zipper snagged. Makes me feel better to donate things that people don't feel like it's trash
Great topic to discuss! Thanks for the video! I live in Washington state. Nature here is fabulous. Camping and hiking is a must and I like it so much. But I wanted to do something besides sitting by the campfire or going through the mountains. I guess I got a little bored at some point.😅 My dad used to be a great fisherman, and my grandmother liked mushroom hunting and taught me how when I was a kid. So I picked up these two hobbies. I learned so much about rivers and lakes, different places where I can hunt for specific fish or mushrooms. I became so familiar with surrounding areas. I see things that others don’t. Once I was in a park with a river. I learned it was a salmon spawn season and noticed about ten big ones swimming and jumping out of the water. I stopped and looked. Other people were passing by me with no idea what was happening in that river that day. And I felt the connection with nature that I never had before .
i’ve recently gotten back in to knitting and crochet, but something i’ve noticed in the online/community part is just how much people use it as an excuse to over-consume. influencers will talk about how they have 500+ patterns they want to do, or show their extensive yarn stash and get rid of some just to buy more (would make a great video topic), so it’s important to remember not to fall i to that trap, and if you’re learning you really o l’y need the bare essentials: a few colours of yarn, a single yarn needle, and 1-2 hook/knitting needle sizes
After grad school I had no idea what I liked it to do for fun outside of watching TV and going outside for walks (and even walking came out of a need for sanity during COVID lockdown). Since then I've taken up running, reading, baking/cooking/ trying new recipes, I think those are my main ones. I also watch the intentionally/ as part of a fandom, I try to watch shows in real time and have watch parties or interact with the subreddit.
I switch between hobbies but the last couple of years it's been houseplants, reading, puzzles, walking (with my dog), working out (with weights in the gym or yoga at home). I also have decluttered a lot and I still watch a lot of UA-cam. The only downside to many hobbies, is that you can go overboard really easy with buying stuff. Here is how I do it with my hobbies; -on some things, I make a decision once. For example: for my dog I researched for a good harness and got him 1. He has 1 harness, 1 collar, a long leash and a short leash and only a handful of toys. Only if something breaks, I can buy a new one. -I use a lot of "container concept" (Dana K Whites no mess decluttering method helped a lot). So I choose a container where that hobby has to fit. So for my dog, that is a few hooks on the coatrack and a little cubby for his food and snacks. For my puzzles, that is a drawer in my living room where if it's full, that's it. So in practice that means when I've done all the puzzles, I look on marketplace and often I can trade them with people who have theirs for sale. With plants, I also use the container method a lot. Plants can only go in the window, once those places are full, or they outgrow them, I sell them/give them to friends. During the pandemic I sold cuttings, which helped me get back some the money I spent on them (and pots for them). For reading, I have a €10 subscription where I can read unlimited books per month. (Kobo plus) or get huge discounts on books that are not included in the subscription. Oh and for working out I also use the container concept. I work out 3 times a week, so I only have 3 outfits and 2 warmup jackets, one pair of shoes for weightlifting and one for walking.
I’ve started getting into hobbies, but I limit myself to only buy basics with the hobby. So a few months ago I got into crochet so I brought some hooks, stitch markers, needles, eyes (I’m making amigurumi) and only yarn for what I’m going to make. I’ve been into reading for a few years and I kept buying books. My social media was covered with book hauls and people showing off shelves full of books (mostly unread) which was fueling my ‘need’ to buy books. However I’ve changed my mindset when it comes to buying books and I don’t see it as a positive thing buying books and not reading them. I think book tok, bookstagram etc has fuelled overconsumption of books and seem to focus on having as many books as possible and the aesthetic of books/reading and less on the actual books. Now I buy a lot less books and buy as and when I need a book to read.
I started really getting into diamond painting in 2021. But then started following all of the channels and buying from all of the companies. Now I've found a good group that is trying to cut back on the consumerism aspect, but some of these companies make it really hard to say no when they discontinue stuff with no warning. 😅 Still working on it, but your channel is one of the ones helping me think about what I really need/want.
my favorite hobbies: video games, reading, paint by numbers, designing and putting together beaded bracelets, and occasionally building lego sets. those still require shopping sometimes, but i look for sales and deals. my switch has so many games bookmarked for when they are discounted. haven't bought a full priced game since i got my switch... in 2020.
for me, my hobby is journaling/scrapbooking. i have a built up a decent collection of stickers, washi tapes, craft paper, etc but i use those supplies EVERY week for 8+ years. it wasnt cheap to build this collection but i get so much joy from crafting, making custom birthday cards for my friends and stuff. at this point i dont buy new supplies because i have become eager to use up what i already own 🌷🌷🥰🥰
I love this video, i always think that having other interests that dont involve the acquisition of material objects keeps me from thinking about or desiring to shop 99% of the time. The youtube channel Not Buying It (which I think you would love if you havent checked it out yet) has a really great contemplative video on avoiding the potential spending trap of hobbies with communities that encourage shopping, it's called "The Terrible Spiral of Consumption Communities" and i really recommend it. Theres a lot of overlap in your channels' interests there.
I recently decided that instead of comsume I want to create. And this decision completely changed the way I look at things. I used to be on a constant mode of looking for the decor for my house (mostly posters and paintings). And now I'm taking art classes and one of my goals to put my own artwork on the walls. So when I find another cute poster, I'm like: I can paint myself! Of course I not very skilled enough yet, but it's fun and challenging. Also I prepare for Christmas by making my own tree toys. They look so cute and I love them much more then just another piece of made in china decor. Also, Shauna, thank you for you videos. They really changed the way I shop Recently I was at a store and fount super cute winter coat. It was pricey , but look so cute on me. At thirst I thought; I Love it and I can afgord it. But them I was like: girl, nut you already have a winter coat. It's totally fine,it looks good on you. Yeag, I get that ypu sre kind of yired of it, but you rsally don't need another one. Better save this money and buy yourself summer shoes, cause you don't have any
Crocheting, video games and reading have been my go-to hobbies over the years, but all three of them definitely fall into issues of purchase stages. Shopping my stash has been so good for my creativity re: crocheting, it's so fun to create things trying to pair together items I can't find projects for because of their color or size.
Education and learning are huge for me in my hobbies. I do mixed media art journalling and I sew - there is always so much more to practice and learn - classes to take and patterns to try
My hobby right now is to make things with what I already have on hand! So fun to make something exciting without spending a cent and clearing out scraps. So far it's been a lot of wood projects since someone in the neighborhood threw away their scrap wood. But if you're crafty, I highly recommend paper mache or needle point. Very cheap crafts with lots of possibilities and a simple set of supplies.
My hobby is painting with watercolors. But I have to say it envolves lot of shopping for supplies. Just few moments ago I ordered small sketchbooks so I can bring them with me all the time. Painting and drawing is so much fun. It helps me to endure countles hours in waiting rooms. I can draw quick gestural drawings, of people with just ballpoint pen and a simle 1€ sketchbook. But for more serious painting in a studio you can spend days in research of literature, materials, tools, techniques. But I am sorry to say it involves a lot of shopping too. But I give myself a monthly budget and manage to stay within the budget.
I am currently trying to find new hobbies and I am struggling with wanting to explore hobbies without buying too much stuff related to the hobby (mostly craft activities) and also not making more stuff than I need (my old hobbies that no longer bring me joy due to some traumatic life events were sewing, knitting, and soap making). Focusing on daily activities as hobbies like cooking, reading, and hiking is reframing my idea of how to enjoy life without needing/generating too much stuff.
True. When I’m super busy I don’t really shop, just because I don’t have the time. Also, you look super pretty in todays video! Love the hair and makeup look!
Hobbies helped me out of my depression. It was super hard, and there were a few weeks of kind of making myself go through the motions, but even if you just try a little it can help. Keep fighting the good fight, depression is tough but you are tougher
Been an avid reader since I was a child, an hr or 2 daily reading, podcasts on current affairs and yes my fav ie gardening. Planning for it, getting compost and soils, flowers, looking at various yt videos... Its just soo satisfying to see your plants get new leaves. Looking at healthy roots, trimming repotting .. oh and buying a few exotic plants and pots if I save up and dont indulge in ordering food online😂
Firstly, love your content. It was a hard pill to swallow that Shopping is currently my #1 hobby because of all of the micro task and skills it requires so I’m looking at those things and seeing how it can be applied to something that is more tangible and sustainable. Even with the best intention to start a hobby, I get stuck in the phase of ‘I need the best tools, the ideal space to do this, etc’ and then I stay there in that loop of collecting then abandoning (also+ my neurospicy folks know how that shiny thing syndrome is) and never even actually begin to do the hobby. I think for people who have this experience, investing in a IRL class is a great option because it usually gives you the access to the space & materials as well as an instructor and community to hold you accountable/encourage to practicing/completing projects (also potential to swap/barter/trade).
I love crocheting! whenever I get the itch to shop, I find some project to do. I have a great time watching tv and crocheting or listening to audiobooks and crocheting and I get something new at the end! I wanted to shop for a fruit bowl, I made a fruit hammock, I wanted to shop for a sweater, I made a sweater! it takes away longer than shopping to get the "reward" but I love everything that I've made and take such care of it, it is so worth it. not even to mention that having to work more for a sweater, for example, slows down the whole process and I end up enjoying it much more and for much longer than if I had bought it on a whim and got tired of it within the week! highly recommend :) There is always the problem of buying too much yarn - but having the certainty and the mindset of buying yarn specific for 1 project, finishing it to then buy more is great! and I never get yarn online. I figure out what kind I will need and then ask my partner to drive me to Michael's - he hates spending longer than 10 minutes in a store so I just have enough time to grab what I need and leave lol
I've been a crochet girlie for the past 2 years, I'm loving it and it's taken over any second of free time I have xD It does have a constant buying component to it though, since you need the yarn to do projects... I'm working on that aspect, trying to figure out what size stash I'm comfortable with and what my budget for yarn should be
Thanks Shawna, well put. I have managed to keep cooking as my hobby and passion for life, thank goodness. I have also been sewing since I was young so can pick up things from the repairs basket if I'm bored. Having a no-buy year and facing up to my addiction, it's been really interesting to re-expose myself to one of my biggest triggers which is shopping with my mum. She always used shopping as a way to celebrate, commiserate, say sorry, say thank you etc. Now if she takes me shopping for my birthday, I have a very clear list of something I've actually been holding off and haven't been able to splurge on like a decent pair of boots or high quality bras and swimwear that will last for years. I don't want to aimlessly shop and mindlessly consume just because it's on someone else's credit card.
I have 3 hobbies right now. I knit, read, and am training to walk a half marathon. The reading is old, the walking is new, and the knitting has come back into my life after a long hiatus. It is hard to not buy too many books or balls of yarn! I do enjoy all three hobbies as well as on line communities or podcasts for each one. I knit and read every day, and walk 3 days per week. My daughter grew up so now I have more time to spend on fun.
It wasn’t until recently that I became aware that I didn’t have any hobbies that I consistently did. I think shopping is a way to both get the dopamine hit but also numb out all the feelings ( at least for me) I’m not sure if anyone else has encountered this but I’ve struggled with hobbies because of the feelings you get when you are doing something you enjoy ( I’m not sure if that makes sense). Something I’m learning as I work on my shopping problem is how to identify my feelings and not just try to numb everything out with shopping. I also am starting to read again and I highly recommend the Meade mishaps series by Kimberly lemming. I’m currently reading the count of monte cristo- it’s one I’ve always wanted to read and also I’m not a fast reader so my hope is that the more I give to reading the more I can give myself time to just be. Lovely video as always!!!
I appreciate the sentiment behind your video, one needs to be careful about what type of hobby they have. Do you buy your books? or do you use the library? Do you get them on Amazon, and therefore are buying them? I know people who have hundreds and hundreds of books, some read some for the 'next read' . If you are crafting, you get into all of the stuff you need and then want for your crafting can become extremely expensive as well.
As a neurodivergent who deep dives heavily into my hobbies and nerdy interests im always faschinated by people who claim they cant have one or dont have one. I make cosplays, i read manga and webtoons (we even have a bookclub for it) i make jams, I play and run tabletop games. And ofcourse videogames. I never knew people turned to shopping to alleviate boredom. But i know shopping as a stress response i know i often browse steam or the playstation shop when im sad, when brain does that i go the grindiest game I have and play to distract myself until the emotions settle and the shopping itch disappears. Has been very helpful.
One thing that I do once I get the urge to shop is looking at financial literacy videos. It helps me get back on a better perspective. This is a hack that I recommend to everyone. I use to crave a lot too, especially sushi. So what I do is eat cucumbers instead, as craving sushi might mean that your liver is overheating. Whenever I crave something, I look for the possible meaning and alternative that I can find on my kitchen to eat instead. Hope this helps others!
I like to think of myself as creative, so I have a lot of artsy hobbies. Ones i always cycle back to are counted cross stitch, colouring (adult colourong books in pencil), painting (mainly gouache), knitting, sewing (making clothes). Recently started watching Studson Studios and Crossing Crafts on youtube and got into the idea of miniatures! So cool to watch. I struggle with picking up fixations that don't hold my interest long term. I tried lino printing, polymer clay, jewlery making (very lightly), needle felting, crochet (still want to come back to this) i wanted to try wax melt making, bath bombs etc but when you realise just how much cost goes into picking up some of these hobbies, there must be an end point and I think I'm good with 3 main ones. On another note, I made the mistake of getting rid of all my colouring books, i think i kept 1? And then, I cycled back around to it a year or 2 later, I re-bought (second hand) all the books I'd donated plus bought more! I know I will get to them so I will not de-clutter them again, but sometimes it's hard to differentiate a long-term hobby from a fixation as you say. Oh, I even had a book fixation a few years ago... I so badly wanted to be a reader. I bought so many books (from watching booksandlala) read a few but then just lost the interest, especially when realising mine and her tastes aren't the same and I didn't want to give my spare time to a hobby that didn't create something at the end. I know that's silly, I know reading is very important and a great hobby to have. Just while i have young kids as a SAHM, I don't want to prioritise reading over my other interests. If I'm into a book, I get so fixated on finishing that I neglect my other duties. 😅
My issue is when I get a new hobby (mostly related to crafting of some kind) , I want to get the best possible must have things for it to avoid spending money again and again, this way I end up spending quiet much.. 😅 But those things do serve me well. This sometimes makes me feel guilt of spending (I used to do impulse buying earlier). I think I am reaching the other end where I am feeling guilty about even the good long term purchases. Can you please make a video on how to get out ouf this feeling, how to not feel guilty about spending on good quality things.
Even hobbies have a shopping component and watching content about it can give people serious FOMO and incentivise them to spend more. I've been in booktube and bullet journal communities for years, and I've spent so much money comparing myself with other people's bookshelves and bullet journal supplies. 10 years ago I would use my library for 90% of my reading, but falling into booktube rabbit hole I now have a full bookshelf of almost 100 books that I bought (granted they're all books I enjoyed and classics I reread but still) because I wanted to have my own library. The same with bullet journaling. In the beginning, I would use the cheapest notebooks or basic pens, but now I'm really picky and I never use notebooks below 120gsm page thickness (and those are on the more expensive side). BUT it's way more fulfilling hobby than just shopping as a hobby. Having a hobby-oriented shopping habit it's directed at something and you're productive more than just shopping for shopping's sake and chasing dopamine.
Being an adhd girly can make having hobbies, while also trying to not over-consume, so extra difficult. I’ve had wayyyy too many moments of “if i get into this then i have to buy all this stuff to do it!” Arguably the worst was bullet journaling, because a lot of content creators really push the aggressive collection of supplies. My favorite hobbies that I’ve collected are junk journaling, reading (exclusively through a library), and house plants. I totally have struggled with wanting to buy a ton of plants and such, but to me I get the most joy from just learning about plants and taking good care of the 9 that I own. I love so many of your videos, but this one I think I enjoyed even more than usual. I would love to hear you talk more about the concept of contentment🩷
I have worked in luxury retail for 8 years (both Bloomingdales and Nordstrom on the resume). I used to shop so much because believe it or not the employee discounts are amazing and started out as a really good college job. I think I was a shopaholic - luckily I found Poshmark and sold about $12k over the years but I was shopping a lot and making a lot all on commission (before shopping online was big if you can imagine).. transitioning out of that lifestyle especially with it all around you is hard… what made me stop was making the hobby I guess to travel abroad once a year which I e done every year since 2015 except for in Covid and this year although booked due to a pretty decent injury from a car accident. If not a hobby perhaps higher goals than material things or atleast investment material items (automatic watches - not battery watches, gold, good furniture) but maybe like hiking and using the urge to buy things when you reach milestones for your hobby such as new hiking gear each step of the way like those cute vests or shoes… also men do appreciate women with hobbies tn at as we do for them… hope maybe some of that is helpful!
I enjoy experimenting with coffees & different brew methods, but there’s only so much coffee a girl can drink. It can also get expensive. I gave up piano completely about 10 years ago, recently I’ve been playing again and kind of having to relearn but it’s coming back to me. But I discovered recently that music makes me really happy so I’m trying to lean into the musical instruments I have access to and singing
Gaming is my hobby. Most games nowadays offer so many features you can purchase (like those gacha games), but I find I have a strong sense of control over my spending on games. Maybe because I know I can be good at it without spending a lot.
I just had an “Aha moment.” So I took myself off FB after the election bc it became a bit toxic. I already deleted IG off my phone, and I was wondering why I haven’t felt the desire to shop. I’ve been writing more and working on my college classes.
(I'm not diagnosed, but I suspect I have ADHD). The fixation aspect is the most difficult for me. Ive never been able to sustain a hobby for longer than 2 months 😢 It's something I'm trying to accept about myself/stay aware of. I try not to get involved in hobbies that involve buying lots of special supplies because I inevitably will lose interest and end up with a bunch of junk I dont want anymore.
This is a wonderful thing to know about yourself and gives you something to consider when trying something new. I can relate to what you're saying because I also fixate a lot, and have also taken to enjoying fixations that are free and then moving on.
Writing. Drawing. I also crochet and knit and book bind, but those all have a shopping component for supplies. Drawing and writing can be done in any cheap af notebook.
I have outdoor hobbies, but those also tend to be expensive hobbies cause I have to drive far for it and buy gear (hiking and skiing). I can also only do those on the weekends. 😢
Im a writer! I’m also a K-pop stan and it has a huge collection community/aspect, and I definitely see the overconsumption and shopping addiction triggers there. Entertainment companies picked up on it and keep releasing more and more stuff, to the point where it’s simply becoming ridiculous. Typical things to collect are albums (usually big groups have 2-4 versions with different concepts) and photocards, and I love all of it, but luckily I’m stingy enough not to buy mindlessly. Sometimes I just need the serotonin, but I always make sure to only spend money I have for it, and actually skipped joining group orders now because I didn’t (and there’s always so much leftover, that I know I’ll find everything for pretty cheap afterwards).
Hear me out, shopping can definitely be an a hobby. It can even be a career. It’s about restraint, balance, and having a clear plan. Some people hate shopping but they still need clothes, furniture, food, etc. That’s where the pros come in. Some people make a living doing instacart or working as a stylist. Maybe you’re on a tight budget and need to find the best price on everything. That means hours/days/weeks searching out just the right item. I personally love the challenge of tracking down niche items and I’ve had people ask me to find items for them too. It’s the thrill of the hunt for me. Finding a dress worn by an extra in a ten year old movie for example. Or there was a necklace worn in a tv show someone online wanted. She’d looked for over a year, I found it in an afternoon. I love it! So shopping is fine. It’s the unrestrained buying without a plan that’s an issue.
Great listening I have seen some videos with people shopping to the extreme I think to myself how do they afford this it baffles me I think online shopping hasn't helped extreme shopping I went into the store to pick up bodywash and some food for a family member and yes I saw some pretty nail polish it was tempting not to buy a bottle but I have 2 bottles at home
At first I thought it was about shopping for hobby items, and I was like, oh no, she's finally calling me out big time! But no, I can still sit through that one quietly pretending that I'm not drowning in fabric and sewing accessories I accumulated when I got into sewing during the pandemic. Shhhh.
I personally never had much issues with shopping... Until corona. I had to move cities right when it started and I got put into a position where I got stuck in a small apartment without being able to meet anyone, and my family was literally on the other side of the world. I started to shop, but also get aggressive with space optimization because that gave me a sense of control and momentum, a way to get novelty into my space. Unfortunately it's a bad habit that persists for now
I’m just starting this video but I feel like hobbies and shopping kind of go together - almost every hobby is pay to play to some degree so I’m not sure shopping is a hobby so much so as the hobby needs to be shopped for in order to participate? I’m not saying over consume, but it seems naive / impossible to not buy a single thing in order to have hobbies, unless that hobby is something like walking (even then - good shoes!)
I think my point is - shopping (for clothes) was a hobby for me for many years, and I’m now deciding I want to have other hobbies (like reading, journaling, sewing) and these hobbies sometimes require buying at least one thing to be able to do it. So because the hobby involves shopping it just seems like I’m adding more shit to the pile of shopping even though it’s for a different reason and it just feels gross so I give up on having and pursuing hobbies. Sigh
@@Aleatoire9 Reading could be free with a library card (unless you’re like me and all your local libraries are in another language 😅). Journaling can be done with a $1 notebook with a regular pen (or even pencil). Try it free or REALLY cheap to see if you like it. I think reading is probably the easier to manage hobby here, because journaling is also a slippery slope with an entire rabbit hole at the bottom of it. And as for sewing…personally I’m doing everything by hand with just needles and threads. But it is very slow and I totally understand why people want to invest in a sewing machine (could get expensive really quick though. I’ve seen people with lots of different machines for different purposes. Even get them secondhand it’s still an investment/commitment).
Hi, I feel that you can learn from reading if you choose books that are about things you do not know about. Even some fictional books are based around topics that can challenge your thoughts or feelings. One example is jodi picoults books like my sisters keeper. What would you do if it was you? I agree that scrolling and shopping are not great. Fab video that highlights the time spent on a hobby that makes me broke. Still buy books but always secondhand or swap with others.
If your a person with problem shopping or just want a hobby that little to zero cost. Rock collecting, Journaling, finger knitting cheap yarn only. Calligraphy start cost can be 10 dollars or less. Depending where you purchase. Quarter collection by state and dates. This is a good hobby if you spend physical cash and get change back. Coloring books from 5 below. Making slime. Diy puzzles you can buy uncovered puzzled and print your favorite photos and glue the whole thing should be under 10 dollars. They usedbti be 4.50 for everything in 2018. Diy stickers with masking tape color pencils or makeres paper less then 5 dollars. Learning code is 100% free all you need is a cell phone, tablet or laptop Ribbon flowers ribbon cost less the 1 dollars needle and thread and UA-cam
diamond painting, zombie books, sf books, I want to lear latin, etymology is fascinating to me, my biggest hobby though is my dog, I don't know if that is a hobby, but I taught myself to do haircut on her to save money and really love to take her for long walk
I have original stuff that I consider to be more akin to "work," but I'm in the midst of full-blown fan fiction writing joy. So I consider fanfic a hobby. I had written myself into a corner on my original work and I didn't come back to it for years, but then I got an entire series full of ideas watching the Mandalorian. So I'm working on my insanely romantically indulgent (and racy) Mando romance called Aldor's Eye right now. I'm almost done with Part II of Book I (because this thing is gonna be epic). It's nice to write without restraint, which is why I consider the fanfic a hobby. I also do a lot of junk journaling, sometimes cross-stitch, and I make all my own fragrances and skin care. But I will echo a few of the other comments. It's super easy to get into massive consumer insanity with things like junk journaling and cross stitch. Also DIY'ing skin care can be expensive too. (Although it's way cheaper than buying my skincare in the long run.) I've finally made myself stop buying, and now focus on using my massive collection of supplies.
Ok this is NOT a call out all, but when you said, so sincerely, that there were times you only had $12 in your bank account I chuckled. Specifically because I am chronically broke and living paycheck to paycheck with massive credit card debt due to poor financial decisions made by me and my husband. I had $1 in my account for like the 5 days leading up to payday 🙃 So on the one hand I’m like girl $12?? That’s a Starbucks on my way to work lmao. But on the other hand, yeah I get it. It is extremely rough when you literally have no safety net. I get that that’s the takeaway here, I just find it kind of funny from the perspective of someone with $1 in their bank account 😹
I couldn't help but notice your beautiful sweater and earrings. Do you mind sharing where you got them just *in case* I need to shop for these items. 😉😆 Jokes aside, great video!
I shop as a hobby and it is fulfilling. but i'm big into thrifting and I like finding unique things and I'm a tricky size, so that would be why.I'm a fashion girlie. nxt year I'm gonna try a low buy year. I'm out of school, all debt is paid off, and I've reached a level with my sewing that I can start making my own clothes. Ive got a list of at least 4 costumes and outfits I wanna make. I chose a low buy year bcuz I go to comic book conventions and I'm gonna want to buy stuff there.
As others pointed out it's disappointing how many hobbies have been linked if not been taking over by hauls and shopping encouragement. As someone that really loves make up and have loved it long before beauty gurus took their first steps out of the cave into the sun I hate it. I love GRWMs and tutorials and I even enjoy faves and make up news BUT I hate that everything is starting from the assumption that I have money I urgently want to get rid of 🙄
I have been taking beginner dance classes with one of my friends. As a kid I really enjoyed skiing, but it's too expensive of a hobby for me to participate in right now.
When I went on a no buy earlier this yeah I threw myself into ballet because I desperately needed a distraction… only to end up spending $60 on classes each week.
Writing community doesn't exist. Everyone is so competitive and selfcentered... so, no. It is sad most of the hobbies can lead to more consumerism, a lot of fandoms, for example, mesure your fan quality in terms of the quantity of items related to the topic you get. So... you actually need to be pretty mindful.
I’ve had to learn that I just despise making things with a passion. I run tabletop games and take ballet classes, but I spend a great deal of money on buying those classes and leotards and new pointe shoes. I have yet to find another hobby besides shopping that gets me out of the house, can be done last minute and pretty much any time, and has the social element of interacting with other people. I go to museums but there’s no interaction with others, and honestly I love having something tangible at the end of the day that serves as something to show for my efforts.
@@lexiemartin8669 ohhh a library is a good option! They do so much more then just books! Get to know the librarians, use the public computers, etc. check with your library first, but mine lets us bring closed drinks into the building. Sometimes you just gotta strike up the conversation first, as most people aren't for a variety of rasons. Don't be scared! Plus you get to take a book, and if they to different project "classes" you'll be able to take a thing home.
@ thank you for the suggestion; I’m actually getting my masters in library studies! Sadly my closest library is only open 9-5 M-F, which is when I’m working. I’ve tried going into other locations on a Saturday and striking up a conversation, but people look at me like I have two heads, or they’re irritated I’m there. The classes all tend to be about social services or childcare, which, while important for the community, are not relevant to me.
I also wish it got my body moving more. When I’m shopping, I’m basically on an extended walk through cute neighborhoods in my city. I get to get dressed up, take the time to do my hair and makeup, and move from place to place, chatting with people while I’m there, stopping for snacks or lunch. I get to feel special and important when I’m in stores, and because I’m doing something entirely unproductive, it feels luxurious. I get to interact with salespeople, other shoppers, people at cafes… and the more positive interactions I have, and the more I buy, the more sparkly I feel. I’ve been trying for a year now to find something that gives me a sparkly feeling and haven’t found anything yet. I was on a no buy for the first half of 2024 but then I fell off the wagon hard because without that sparkle, nothing seemed to really have a point. Don’t get me wrong, I love playing dnd with my friends online, and writing and ballet, but nothing else has made me feel sparkly.
@@lexiemartin8669 Gosh, I feel you on that wanting to get your body moving and looking cute part of shopping. I had to quit nearly ALL my hobbies due to a sudden chronic illness a couple of years ago. Earlier I had started minimalism which made me so miserable after getting ill because I had lost the hobbies but also wouldn't allow myself to really find new ones to do at home since they'd need equipment. Now I'm a bit more relaxed with buying stuff and have a few at home hobbies but I so dearly miss the active and social aspect of my sporty hobbies. Now I can choose between going for a walk in the same nighborhood every single day or to go (window) shopping. From a dopamine perspective, the choice is quite obvious... I think I could overcome this phase of high shopping if I had more friends who were willing to spend time but sadly no.
@ fully agree on the friends thing. All of my friends are online. I work three jobs while getting my masters, all of which revolve around serving other people in some way. I don’t have a romantic partner. I’m not lonely, but I lack pretty much any external validation. So far, the only way I’ve found to get that external validation is shipping.
I made notes as I watched so I'm just going to go through my list.
1. Shopping for my hobby IS my shopping problem. The feeling of "Oh, if I just have x thing, THEN I'll be happy / better / prepared." The meme about "buying craft supplies & using craft supplies are two different hobbies" is very very true.
2. I know exactly what you mean about the "itch" to buy. I'll go for weeks with no issues & then a switch flips & suddenly I MUST purchase whatever or I'll go mad. And then it fades & I'm left with "why did I buy this? why do I have this?"
3. Sometimes losing interest in something doesn't mean it was a fixation per se. I think the answer to the question "would I pick this up again?" is a better indicator of whether or not it was a fleeting interest. My moods & mental health go through cycles and I'll set something aside for months at a time. That doesn't mean I don't love it anymore, it's just that I don't have the bandwidth for it right now. And that's not everything, some things truly are "Eh, that was fun, I'm done with it now" but some things are just "this time of year is tough & NOTHING sounds engaging so I'm going to give myself grace & see if I feel like coming back to this later".
4. On the topic of setting things aside & picking them up again - that can be difficult, too. Give yourself permission to take a break without feeling like you've given up completely & give yourself permission to pick something up again, even if it's been ages.
5. Hobbies I've picked up in the last few years - junk journaling (which was a great way to repurpose all of my old 'I'm totally going to take up scrapbooking one day' supplies), machine sewing, embroidery, and slow stitching. I found a video series of a slow stich project a week (see: k3n clothtales). She mostly uses scrap fabric & scrap threads you have available. It doesn't require buying a bunch of NEW stuff if you have literally any cloth in your home (old clothes, sheets, etc), a needle, & thread. In fact, she encourages that over making purchases if you can. Those videos have helped with the "I need to shop to buy the perfect thing for this" feelings because the POINT is to use up what you have. They're just mindful little projects exploring different sewing styles on a very small scale.
6. Check your local libraries, museums, botanical gardens, etc to see if they offer any continuing education type courses or lectures, etc. Some will cost money but some are free and they let you meet other interested people in your area & help you get a sense of if you're interested in a topic - or they help you learn more about a topic you're already interested in.
7. IF you can afford it and IF the thing truly brings you joy - do it. My husband loves gardening. From planning his beds to planting to maintenance to harvesting. He adores every part of it. Every day at lunch during the summer he'll go out for 15-30 minutes to "pet his plants" (my phrase, not his). It was not cheap to set everything up. It's not particularly cheap to maintain. It's nice going out to grab a cucumber instead of having to go to the store but the return on investment is not there EXCEPT in the amount of sheer joy he gets from the hobby. THAT is worth every penny spent.
Apparently I have many Thoughts and Feelings re: hobbies. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
I loved your Ted Talk. I related to it too much at points haha
I think my comment is similar to yours, so many creative hobbies that I've bought supplies for then lost interest in. Some I cycle back to, like cross stitch, sewing, adult colouring, painting, drawing and knitting. But others, polymer clay, jewellery, lino cutting, needle felting, to name a few, I have not gone back to and don't feel the need to! But I bought the stuff at the time 🙈
There's levels to it too! If you get further along in adult colouring books, there's fancy pencils, alcohol markers, pastels, gel pens, watercolour markers, plus all the different books! It's so hard to keep it basic sometimes, but honestly Shawna does keep me grounded at times when it comes to this 😂
this is such a wonderful comment that I'm pinning it! I think your question of "would I pick this back up" can be really helpful to consider if something is a fixation or a hobby. Because you're right sometimes interests change because interests change or it's not right for this moment. Other times it's a fixation. Also, I definitely appreciate your first point about how one's shopping problem can be their hobby. In this case, it's not really about the hobby. You've said a lot more wonderful things here, so thank you!
@@shawnaripari can I just say I love how appreciative you are of other people's experiences, both in your videos and in your comments sections ... it's a breath of fresh air.
one thing to be careful of- using hobbies as an excuse to over-consume/shop. I recently got into perfume and scent chemistry, and I have to fight the urge to buy more aroma chemicals rather than actually making stuff with what I already have. I think its similar to the thing where you trick yourself into feeling you've been productive when you buy planners and stationary.
Yes! We can get enticed to buying more things because it's a way to engage with our hobby or interest
Definitely came here to say the same. I am a die hard skier and see soooo many people who spent thousands of dollars on gear just to try the sport when they don't even know if they like it. They could have just rented the boots, skis, and poles from the hill and borrowed gloves and snow pants from a friend. We even rent snowpants!!!!! If you are trying a new sport, RENT. Don't buy anything until you know you love it. And don't fall into the trap of thinking the most expensive equipment is the best. I bought a used gravel bike a couple of years back because I LOOOOVE biking (my main summer hobby). That bike has become my main transport in spring, summer, and fall. But she ain't fancy. No carbon. Entry-level components. Start with something modest. Don't splash out.
I probably have too many hobbies lol. The main one is cosplay, which kind of ties a lot of the other ones together. I love learning new skills and techniques depending on the costume I want to make. It's not a cheap hobby though, and there's a real temptation to buy various materials and tools just to try them out. I have learned to pace myself and buy things as needed, not just because they seem cool. I also do amateur astronomy, hiking, and video games.
As a member of the knitting community I can concur we are awful for this!
@@internetfox what a bomb interest, the heck?? So cool
Reading library books is the hobby I’ve found that distracts me from shopping and is free.
@@EmmaHacker-kj9un same!!! I’ve really gotten back into reading over this past year, and the library! It’s like i forgot it was there???
This is the reminder I needed! I bought a Kindle a year ago specifically to use Libby.
I love the library! It can give the same high as shopping because you can grab almost as many books as you can carry. All you gotta do is bring them back and then you can get more books!
And it forces you to read the books you got
@@SkyeSoleil Sometimes I get too ambitious about how much I can read and I return a book unread but the nice thing about the library is there's nothing to lose. Library is life. 🥹
@@EmmaHacker-kj9un Me too!!
Ive always wanted a hobby, but i have the attention span of a breath mint. Thats why shopping WAS so easy to fall in to. Great video, as always 🎉
This is such an interesting observation and I don't think you're alone with that
@@SimplyKatieWalks BREATH MINT
I dabble in a lot of things for the same reason. I'd make a couple of things and then move onto other things because it looses it's novelty. I have been told by people that my handmade gifts were so good that I could sell them however even if I enjoy making things, having to mass produce them takes the fun out of a hobby. I've learned the accept that my hobbies last for a month or two and then I move onto something else.
@geekelly000 i started junk journaling. That way I don't have to buy anything. And then I won't feel bad when I get tired of it.
😂Can we form a club?
Social media is so bad because lots of hobbies have a shopping stage and if you don't want haul content the algo ignores your interests. Like knitting and crochet pushes yard hoarder content. Sewing pushes fabric and pattern hauls. Etc etc
That's true -- as someone who knits, I totally understand the draw of buying gorgeous new yarn that you don't have a plan for yet. BUT the difference in satisfaction between fondling that pretty yarn versus wearing that hat you completed?! It's so fantastic to be able to *make* something.
Yes definitely, I got into adult coloring and it's the same , coloring hauls and excessive buying books and supplies
This is a great point. You as a viewer have to do a lot of work to find the right content if you don't want hauls or consumer driven content
@@shawnaripariit really sucks how much the world around us wants to milk us for our money. And thinking how kids and teens are sorrounded by this all the time too.... It's very concerning
Absolutely. I cross stitch and bead. And someone said somewhere, that there is the hobby itself and the hobby of buying the things for the hobby. Social media does not help in anyway. Even with budgeting videos. A lot of budgeters have etsy shops. Yes some of the stuff is cheap but that's an issue because it's hard to not buy all the cheap things. I have a hard time with shopping in general, so even though I love youtube I have to stop watching. Otherwise I want to spend on everything I see.
A tip for my fellow readers, get a library card from your local library! Libraries offer free services including physical, audio and ebooks and I have found that it helps me to check out the books and read them first before I decide to buy or put them on my wishlist.
One of my favorite activities for when i'm low energy or bummed out is taking a good look at my house plants and seeing what's changed.
It goesnt sound like much, but it can be really rewarding to intentionally observe them. Ive noticed new leaves, new shoots, leaves turning different directions.
It helps me look for good things and gives me a better understanding of my plants needs and growth cycles. And it doesnt cost a thing!
thank you for sharing something that works for you!
I’ve been drawing, reading, playing video games, watching UA-cam and walking. I’ve found that dabbling in different hobbies has helped reduce my spending, and helped with my mental health. I’ve recently relapsed with BED so having distractions from food is helping a lot. We can do it, fam 👏
THIS HAIRCUT ON YOU! SO. CUTE.
I was talking with some friends the other day about your videos and I ended up telling them
"You can't replace the hole in your soul that's supposed to have community in it with single use plastic"
And you know I think that holds pretty well
So true
I'm currently learning a new language to curb my shopping habits, whenever I feel the urge I go on the app and start doing some language exercises, so far it has been helping 👍
ouuuu this is a wonderful idea
this might be a biased take as i am a literature major (a drop-out but that's not important), but reading anything absolutely IS a productive hobby!! you don't have to be actively learning or studying for reading to be productive, just reading novels of any kind is very productive for your literacy skills! you have to practice literacy kind of like a muscle, and reading is crucial in that. so there's no non-productive reading; all of it is amazing and you should definitely keep it up
@@palasiksivain yes, I agree! Reading is also amazing for encouraging empathy and grappling with philosophical concepts.
I read a lot of trashy romance novels, and you know what? You're right! Reading deeply into even a "trash" genre really makes you aware of the details in execution, things like character dynamics and plot structure and how authors handle them.
Not just literacy but also your brain gets trained! So people argue with literacy and then trash on "lower" genres (which you didn't but I wanted to point the misconception out that many have) but reading in itself stimulates the brain in a favorable way. So much better for you than watching shows or endless scrolling so it's a double win.
I love knitting and I started up sourdough making two years ago. Both make me feel like an old lady, and I love it😊
I got into adult coloring in 2020 , it's very relaxing and fun but I had to stop watching content about it bc it turn out to be lots of hauls and excessive buying coloring books, the prices of some of these pencils are over $100 . I ended up buying more than what is necessary to start, so now I'm just doing it but not buying anymore stuff. I also love to read but I don't buy physical books i read them from Kindle unlimited. Your videos are so helpful , thank you :)
@@ana7177 so relatable! I stopped using instagram for that reason. I'm very susceptible to that FOMO. Seeing a cool coloring book, or nice new fountain pen ink made me want to buy more and more. I probably have enough to last me for life 🫣 Finding the right content to watch is hard. Really making an effort now to use what I have.
I really enjoy journaling. There is a huge journaling community on UA-cam. Problem is, seeing what other people are using can be tempting for me to get the exact same thing 😅
I’ve just sort through all my supplies and decided that it’s more than enough for my way of journaling. I can do with just a notebook and pen because I enjoy doodling on the page much more than using pre-printed stickers and washi.
I love journaling too! I just wish I had some sort of social component the way shopping does. I try to take my journal out to parks and that sort of thing but it’s still not something other people can really participate in 😂
@ Definitely. I also wish I had friends who are into this. Imagine doing an exchange journal of some sort with all the journaling loving friends. That would be so much fun.
I‘ve heard about offline events for stationary lovers, but I don’t think there’s anything special in my city. Traveling to other places could be expensive. And there is another problem: it would be so much harder to NOT buy anything from the conventions 😅 It would be basically impossible IMO. I mean, if I had invested that much time and energy to get there, I would find a million excuses to bring things home even when I don’t have a use for them. It’s a vibe and I will certainly be sucked in.
@ I don’t even need for my friends to get involved; just some way to journal while having low stakes positive human interaction! Part of the fun of shopping for me is making g breezy small talk with sales associates and other shoppers.
I've learned that shopping is not the only form of consumption. Reading books, watching movies, and doom scrolling are also examples of consumption which makes shopping such a normalized, slippery slope. The opposite of consumption is creation. When I find myself in a slump, I usually haven't created in sometime. Creation can take many forms like baking, sewing, painting, jewelry making, etc.
I believe it is healthy to consume in moderation (and that we are designed to appreciate/want things), but we must find that healthy balance of giving and taking
As always, thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
For me, the opposite of shopping is creating but also socialzation. That doesn't sound intuitive but I've never once in my entire life spent time with friends or a boyfriend and been like "man, I'd rather be shopping right now". Both creating and spending time with people is fulfilling on such a deep level that it can make you feel amazing even longer than the duration of said things themselves and that's that we need to go for if we want to stop that shopping and guilt cycle. In the end, it's always about trying to fill a void inside ourselves but there are healther outlets for that.
Love the haircut queen very cute on you!!! 💝💝
I’ve really struggled to have the hobby activity as the hobby and not the shopping for the hobby if that makes sense. Trying to stop the shopping cycle instead of just jumping shopping mediums is so hard. I think this is seen in how many beauty and makeup people are branching out different areas like fragrance specifically. The marketing to make us feel like we need the latest makeup, skincare, haircare, fragrance, accessories, bags etc definitely doesn’t help this shopping creep either.
Definitely feel you on this. It can even feel like our spending on makeup (as an example) has gone down but you're still spending money, it's just shifted. Now you're buying perfume or earrings
God it’s so hard. I love my ballet classes, but you know what’s even more fun? Buying pretty leotards and skirts. It’s so bad.
I sang as a child and teen, we mostly did chamber choir. And when I didn't have the time anymore I told myself t wasn't so bad because I can always sing, I don't have to go anywhere to do it.
Went back to singing at 40 for voice lessons. I'm not interested in going back to choir, but I do enjoy singing and finding out all I can do with my voice.
I remember you talking about this in an older video but I need to insist on finding a hobby that doesn't drive the need to shop to enjoy your experience otherwise that's maybe another way to pass time rather than something you get fulfillment from 😊
I agree that hobbies can become spending traps and it is important to set boundaries on hobby spending
The biggest impact my mom’s shopping problem has had is that she can never just leave the house because she ALWAYS has packages being delivered and she doesn’t want them to sit on her porch because she’s worried someone will steal them. So instead of visiting her children/grandchildren or meeting up with people, she’s stuck at home waiting for packages. It’s so sad to me.
That sounds like a dystopian nightmare! I don't know where you guys live but at least in Germany you can pick certain dates for your deliveries sometimes. Maybe encourage her to try i so she can have at least occassional days "off" and go see people? But if she's really that deep into a shopping addiction, she might not even want to have it any other way :( gosh, I'm sorry you're losing her to this.
I love to read or crochet in the winter months and hike, camp, and kayak in the warmer months.
I have a pretty stressful job and I found out pretty early on how important it was to have those hobbies that give me time to recharge 💕
I have also gotten back into reading post the college era that ruined the joy, but I am most proud of sticking it out this time and becoming proficient at crocheting. I have made some beautiful and amazing things that make people really happy and that’s the important part. I get to give them away and I love seeing the joy that I created for those people
I think an activity to be considered a hobby must be active, hence I don’t consider just “watching tv” a hobby. I personally prefer creative hobbies, activities that lead you to have a final result. Mine is journaling, memory keeping and scrapbooking and while it can become an expensive hobby you can also manage to have nice things and at the same time remain on a budget. For instance, I love Christmas time and decorating all my December pages in a festive way and Christmas stationary is probably one of the most expensive. I don’t have infinite money and to bypass this problem I decided to use supermarkets and stores catalogs to decorate my pages. You don’t know just how many things you can get from those and most of the time I prefer to decorate a page with a Christmas tree I cut out from a flyer instead of buying dedicated card stock or stickers. I get all the fun in analysing the catalogs, imagining how I could use certain images, fussy cutting everything on top remaining on a budget 😂. So yes, I think creative hobbies are superior!!!
I lost a pregnancy a few weeks ago and i spent a lot of money because it felt like oh this will make my life so much better. And i really regret it especially because i was doing so good at saving money
I'm sorry for your passed little one ❤ please don't beat yourself up for the shopping, you can get back on track. It may have served as a helpful distraction, but you caught it so now you can redirect it. Be gentle with yourself 😊
@@hannahschriever7976 I'm really sorry for your loss. ❤
That sweater ❤❤❤ what a dreamy find!
One of my hobbies is mending, which means I can reuse my clothes even after most people would have had disposed of them. I also had most of the supplies at home already, and only had to buy a second hand sewing machine, meaning that after some time it's like negative shopping: I've made my money back by not needing to buy any clothes lol
Mending is one of my hobbies too! Even when it's time to donate still good stuff that my kids outgrow, i check for holes in pockets that need to be fixed or little spots where a zipper snagged. Makes me feel better to donate things that people don't feel like it's trash
@annettestewart7903 that is awesome and very thoughtful
Great topic to discuss! Thanks for the video!
I live in Washington state. Nature here is fabulous. Camping and hiking is a must and I like it so much. But I wanted to do something besides sitting by the campfire or going through the mountains. I guess I got a little bored at some point.😅
My dad used to be a great fisherman, and my grandmother liked mushroom hunting and taught me how when I was a kid. So I picked up these two hobbies.
I learned so much about rivers and lakes, different places where I can hunt for specific fish or mushrooms. I became so familiar with surrounding areas. I see things that others don’t.
Once I was in a park with a river. I learned it was a salmon spawn season and noticed about ten big ones swimming and jumping out of the water. I stopped and looked. Other people were passing by me with no idea what was happening in that river that day. And I felt the connection with nature that I never had before .
i’ve recently gotten back in to knitting and crochet, but something i’ve noticed in the online/community part is just how much people use it as an excuse to over-consume. influencers will talk about how they have 500+ patterns they want to do, or show their extensive yarn stash and get rid of some just to buy more (would make a great video topic), so it’s important to remember not to fall i to that trap, and if you’re learning you really o l’y need the bare essentials: a few colours of yarn, a single yarn needle, and 1-2 hook/knitting needle sizes
After grad school I had no idea what I liked it to do for fun outside of watching TV and going outside for walks (and even walking came out of a need for sanity during COVID lockdown). Since then I've taken up running, reading, baking/cooking/ trying new recipes, I think those are my main ones. I also watch the intentionally/ as part of a fandom, I try to watch shows in real time and have watch parties or interact with the subreddit.
Yoga and pilates for me. Also cooking/baking and researching new recipes to try ☺ just need to be mindful not to overspend on ingredients
I switch between hobbies but the last couple of years it's been houseplants, reading, puzzles, walking (with my dog), working out (with weights in the gym or yoga at home). I also have decluttered a lot and I still watch a lot of UA-cam.
The only downside to many hobbies, is that you can go overboard really easy with buying stuff. Here is how I do it with my hobbies;
-on some things, I make a decision once. For example: for my dog I researched for a good harness and got him 1. He has 1 harness, 1 collar, a long leash and a short leash and only a handful of toys. Only if something breaks, I can buy a new one.
-I use a lot of "container concept" (Dana K Whites no mess decluttering method helped a lot). So I choose a container where that hobby has to fit. So for my dog, that is a few hooks on the coatrack and a little cubby for his food and snacks. For my puzzles, that is a drawer in my living room where if it's full, that's it. So in practice that means when I've done all the puzzles, I look on marketplace and often I can trade them with people who have theirs for sale.
With plants, I also use the container method a lot. Plants can only go in the window, once those places are full, or they outgrow them, I sell them/give them to friends. During the pandemic I sold cuttings, which helped me get back some the money I spent on them (and pots for them).
For reading, I have a €10 subscription where I can read unlimited books per month. (Kobo plus) or get huge discounts on books that are not included in the subscription.
Oh and for working out I also use the container concept. I work out 3 times a week, so I only have 3 outfits and 2 warmup jackets, one pair of shoes for weightlifting and one for walking.
I’ve started getting into hobbies, but I limit myself to only buy basics with the hobby. So a few months ago I got into crochet so I brought some hooks, stitch markers, needles, eyes (I’m making amigurumi) and only yarn for what I’m going to make.
I’ve been into reading for a few years and I kept buying books. My social media was covered with book hauls and people showing off shelves full of books (mostly unread) which was fueling my ‘need’ to buy books. However I’ve changed my mindset when it comes to buying books and I don’t see it as a positive thing buying books and not reading them. I think book tok, bookstagram etc has fuelled overconsumption of books and seem to focus on having as many books as possible and the aesthetic of books/reading and less on the actual books. Now I buy a lot less books and buy as and when I need a book to read.
I started really getting into diamond painting in 2021. But then started following all of the channels and buying from all of the companies. Now I've found a good group that is trying to cut back on the consumerism aspect, but some of these companies make it really hard to say no when they discontinue stuff with no warning. 😅 Still working on it, but your channel is one of the ones helping me think about what I really need/want.
my favorite hobbies: video games, reading, paint by numbers, designing and putting together beaded bracelets, and occasionally building lego sets. those still require shopping sometimes, but i look for sales and deals. my switch has so many games bookmarked for when they are discounted. haven't bought a full priced game since i got my switch... in 2020.
for me, my hobby is journaling/scrapbooking. i have a built up a decent collection of stickers, washi tapes, craft paper, etc but i use those supplies EVERY week for 8+ years. it wasnt cheap to build this collection but i get so much joy from crafting, making custom birthday cards for my friends and stuff. at this point i dont buy new supplies because i have become eager to use up what i already own 🌷🌷🥰🥰
I love this video, i always think that having other interests that dont involve the acquisition of material objects keeps me from thinking about or desiring to shop 99% of the time. The youtube channel Not Buying It (which I think you would love if you havent checked it out yet) has a really great contemplative video on avoiding the potential spending trap of hobbies with communities that encourage shopping, it's called "The Terrible Spiral of Consumption Communities" and i really recommend it. Theres a lot of overlap in your channels' interests there.
I recently decided that instead of comsume I want to create. And this decision completely changed the way I look at things. I used to be on a constant mode of looking for the decor for my house (mostly posters and paintings). And now I'm taking art classes and one of my goals to put my own artwork on the walls. So when I find another cute poster, I'm like: I can paint myself! Of course I not very skilled enough yet, but it's fun and challenging. Also I prepare for Christmas by making my own tree toys. They look so cute and I love them much more then just another piece of made in china decor.
Also, Shauna, thank you for you videos. They really changed the way I shop
Recently I was at a store and fount super cute winter coat. It was pricey , but look so cute on me. At thirst I thought; I Love it and I can afgord it. But them I was like: girl, nut you already have a winter coat. It's totally fine,it looks good on you. Yeag, I get that ypu sre kind of yired of it, but you rsally don't need another one. Better save this money and buy yourself summer shoes, cause you don't have any
Crocheting, video games and reading have been my go-to hobbies over the years, but all three of them definitely fall into issues of purchase stages.
Shopping my stash has been so good for my creativity re: crocheting, it's so fun to create things trying to pair together items I can't find projects for because of their color or size.
Education and learning are huge for me in my hobbies. I do mixed media art journalling and I sew - there is always so much more to practice and learn - classes to take and patterns to try
My hobby right now is to make things with what I already have on hand! So fun to make something exciting without spending a cent and clearing out scraps. So far it's been a lot of wood projects since someone in the neighborhood threw away their scrap wood. But if you're crafty, I highly recommend paper mache or needle point. Very cheap crafts with lots of possibilities and a simple set of supplies.
My hobby is painting with watercolors. But I have to say it envolves lot of shopping for supplies. Just few moments ago I ordered small sketchbooks so I can bring them with me all the time. Painting and drawing is so much fun. It helps me to endure countles hours in waiting rooms. I can draw quick gestural drawings, of people with just ballpoint pen and a simle 1€ sketchbook. But for more serious painting in a studio you can spend days in research of literature, materials, tools, techniques. But I am sorry to say it involves a lot of shopping too. But I give myself a monthly budget and manage to stay within the budget.
I am currently trying to find new hobbies and I am struggling with wanting to explore hobbies without buying too much stuff related to the hobby (mostly craft activities) and also not making more stuff than I need (my old hobbies that no longer bring me joy due to some traumatic life events were sewing, knitting, and soap making). Focusing on daily activities as hobbies like cooking, reading, and hiking is reframing my idea of how to enjoy life without needing/generating too much stuff.
True. When I’m super busy I don’t really shop, just because I don’t have the time. Also, you look super pretty in todays video! Love the hair and makeup look!
Shawna, girl, I hear you, but ✨depression✨ lol
same girl same 😅
Hobbies helped me out of my depression. It was super hard, and there were a few weeks of kind of making myself go through the motions, but even if you just try a little it can help.
Keep fighting the good fight, depression is tough but you are tougher
@@ellieamorous4372sounds like it would be worth it. Thank you!
The serotonin monster (my brain) is STARVINGGG 😂
Been an avid reader since I was a child, an hr or 2 daily reading, podcasts on current affairs and yes my fav ie gardening. Planning for it, getting compost and soils, flowers, looking at various yt videos... Its just soo satisfying to see your plants get new leaves. Looking at healthy roots, trimming repotting .. oh and buying a few exotic plants and pots if I save up and dont indulge in ordering food online😂
Firstly, love your content. It was a hard pill to swallow that Shopping is currently my #1 hobby because of all of the micro task and skills it requires so I’m looking at those things and seeing how it can be applied to something that is more tangible and sustainable. Even with the best intention to start a hobby, I get stuck in the phase of ‘I need the best tools, the ideal space to do this, etc’ and then I stay there in that loop of collecting then abandoning (also+ my neurospicy folks know how that shiny thing syndrome is) and never even actually begin to do the hobby. I think for people who have this experience, investing in a IRL class is a great option because it usually gives you the access to the space & materials as well as an instructor and community to hold you accountable/encourage to practicing/completing projects (also potential to swap/barter/trade).
This is absolutely a wonderful suggestion as you're totally right that shopping can creep into hobbies quickly
I love crocheting! whenever I get the itch to shop, I find some project to do. I have a great time watching tv and crocheting or listening to audiobooks and crocheting and I get something new at the end! I wanted to shop for a fruit bowl, I made a fruit hammock, I wanted to shop for a sweater, I made a sweater! it takes away longer than shopping to get the "reward" but I love everything that I've made and take such care of it, it is so worth it. not even to mention that having to work more for a sweater, for example, slows down the whole process and I end up enjoying it much more and for much longer than if I had bought it on a whim and got tired of it within the week! highly recommend :)
There is always the problem of buying too much yarn - but having the certainty and the mindset of buying yarn specific for 1 project, finishing it to then buy more is great! and I never get yarn online. I figure out what kind I will need and then ask my partner to drive me to Michael's - he hates spending longer than 10 minutes in a store so I just have enough time to grab what I need and leave lol
I've been a crochet girlie for the past 2 years, I'm loving it and it's taken over any second of free time I have xD It does have a constant buying component to it though, since you need the yarn to do projects... I'm working on that aspect, trying to figure out what size stash I'm comfortable with and what my budget for yarn should be
Thanks Shawna, well put. I have managed to keep cooking as my hobby and passion for life, thank goodness. I have also been sewing since I was young so can pick up things from the repairs basket if I'm bored.
Having a no-buy year and facing up to my addiction, it's been really interesting to re-expose myself to one of my biggest triggers which is shopping with my mum. She always used shopping as a way to celebrate, commiserate, say sorry, say thank you etc. Now if she takes me shopping for my birthday, I have a very clear list of something I've actually been holding off and haven't been able to splurge on like a decent pair of boots or high quality bras and swimwear that will last for years. I don't want to aimlessly shop and mindlessly consume just because it's on someone else's credit card.
This sounds like wonderful progress! Congratulations 🎉
I’ve been hearing about dopamine menus lately, and I would love to hear you talk about those!
I have 3 hobbies right now. I knit, read, and am training to walk a half marathon. The reading is old, the walking is new, and the knitting has come back into my life after a long hiatus. It is hard to not buy too many books or balls of yarn! I do enjoy all three hobbies as well as on line communities or podcasts for each one. I knit and read every day, and walk 3 days per week. My daughter grew up so now I have more time to spend on fun.
It wasn’t until recently that I became aware that I didn’t have any hobbies that I consistently did. I think shopping is a way to both get the dopamine hit but also numb out all the feelings ( at least for me) I’m not sure if anyone else has encountered this but I’ve struggled with hobbies because of the feelings you get when you are doing something you enjoy ( I’m not sure if that makes sense). Something I’m learning as I work on my shopping problem is how to identify my feelings and not just try to numb everything out with shopping. I also am starting to read again and I highly recommend the Meade mishaps series by Kimberly lemming. I’m currently reading the count of monte cristo- it’s one I’ve always wanted to read and also I’m not a fast reader so my hope is that the more I give to reading the more I can give myself time to just be. Lovely video as always!!!
I appreciate the sentiment behind your video, one needs to be careful about what type of hobby they have. Do you buy your books? or do you use the library? Do you get them on Amazon, and therefore are buying them? I know people who have hundreds and hundreds of books, some read some for the 'next read' . If you are crafting, you get into all of the stuff you need and then want for your crafting can become extremely expensive as well.
Yes, you're totally right that shopping can creep into hobbies
As a neurodivergent who deep dives heavily into my hobbies and nerdy interests im always faschinated by people who claim they cant have one or dont have one.
I make cosplays, i read manga and webtoons (we even have a bookclub for it) i make jams, I play and run tabletop games. And ofcourse videogames.
I never knew people turned to shopping to alleviate boredom. But i know shopping as a stress response i know i often browse steam or the playstation shop when im sad, when brain does that i go the grindiest game I have and play to distract myself until the emotions settle and the shopping itch disappears. Has been very helpful.
One thing that I do once I get the urge to shop is looking at financial literacy videos. It helps me get back on a better perspective. This is a hack that I recommend to everyone.
I use to crave a lot too, especially sushi. So what I do is eat cucumbers instead, as craving sushi might mean that your liver is overheating. Whenever I crave something, I look for the possible meaning and alternative that I can find on my kitchen to eat instead.
Hope this helps others!
I like to think of myself as creative, so I have a lot of artsy hobbies. Ones i always cycle back to are counted cross stitch, colouring (adult colourong books in pencil), painting (mainly gouache), knitting, sewing (making clothes).
Recently started watching Studson Studios and Crossing Crafts on youtube and got into the idea of miniatures! So cool to watch.
I struggle with picking up fixations that don't hold my interest long term. I tried lino printing, polymer clay, jewlery making (very lightly), needle felting, crochet (still want to come back to this) i wanted to try wax melt making, bath bombs etc but when you realise just how much cost goes into picking up some of these hobbies, there must be an end point and I think I'm good with 3 main ones.
On another note, I made the mistake of getting rid of all my colouring books, i think i kept 1? And then, I cycled back around to it a year or 2 later, I re-bought (second hand) all the books I'd donated plus bought more! I know I will get to them so I will not de-clutter them again, but sometimes it's hard to differentiate a long-term hobby from a fixation as you say.
Oh, I even had a book fixation a few years ago... I so badly wanted to be a reader. I bought so many books (from watching booksandlala) read a few but then just lost the interest, especially when realising mine and her tastes aren't the same and I didn't want to give my spare time to a hobby that didn't create something at the end. I know that's silly, I know reading is very important and a great hobby to have. Just while i have young kids as a SAHM, I don't want to prioritise reading over my other interests. If I'm into a book, I get so fixated on finishing that I neglect my other duties. 😅
My issue is when I get a new hobby (mostly related to crafting of some kind) , I want to get the best possible must have things for it to avoid spending money again and again, this way I end up spending quiet much.. 😅
But those things do serve me well. This sometimes makes me feel guilt of spending (I used to do impulse buying earlier).
I think I am reaching the other end where I am feeling guilty about even the good long term purchases. Can you please make a video on how to get out ouf this feeling, how to not feel guilty about spending on good quality things.
Doing stuff for others eg taking oldies shopping, or their errands also gets the focus off ourselves.
Even hobbies have a shopping component and watching content about it can give people serious FOMO and incentivise them to spend more. I've been in booktube and bullet journal communities for years, and I've spent so much money comparing myself with other people's bookshelves and bullet journal supplies.
10 years ago I would use my library for 90% of my reading, but falling into booktube rabbit hole I now have a full bookshelf of almost 100 books that I bought (granted they're all books I enjoyed and classics I reread but still) because I wanted to have my own library. The same with bullet journaling. In the beginning, I would use the cheapest notebooks or basic pens, but now I'm really picky and I never use notebooks below 120gsm page thickness (and those are on the more expensive side).
BUT it's way more fulfilling hobby than just shopping as a hobby. Having a hobby-oriented shopping habit it's directed at something and you're productive more than just shopping for shopping's sake and chasing dopamine.
Being an adhd girly can make having hobbies, while also trying to not over-consume, so extra difficult. I’ve had wayyyy too many moments of “if i get into this then i have to buy all this stuff to do it!” Arguably the worst was bullet journaling, because a lot of content creators really push the aggressive collection of supplies. My favorite hobbies that I’ve collected are junk journaling, reading (exclusively through a library), and house plants. I totally have struggled with wanting to buy a ton of plants and such, but to me I get the most joy from just learning about plants and taking good care of the 9 that I own.
I love so many of your videos, but this one I think I enjoyed even more than usual. I would love to hear you talk more about the concept of contentment🩷
I have worked in luxury retail for 8 years (both Bloomingdales and Nordstrom on the resume). I used to shop so much because believe it or not the employee discounts are amazing and started out as a really good college job. I think I was a shopaholic - luckily I found Poshmark and sold about $12k over the years but I was shopping a lot and making a lot all on commission (before shopping online was big if you can imagine).. transitioning out of that lifestyle especially with it all around you is hard… what made me stop was making the hobby I guess to travel abroad once a year which I e done every year since 2015 except for in Covid and this year although booked due to a pretty decent injury from a car accident. If not a hobby perhaps higher goals than material things or atleast investment material items (automatic watches - not battery watches, gold, good furniture) but maybe like hiking and using the urge to buy things when you reach milestones for your hobby such as new hiking gear each step of the way like those cute vests or shoes… also men do appreciate women with hobbies tn at as we do for them… hope maybe some of that is helpful!
This was such a good video, super insightful and helpful to know that I'm not alone and dealing with the struggles of shopping as a hobby.
I loved the video! I recently started knitting but my great love are books.
I enjoy experimenting with coffees & different brew methods, but there’s only so much coffee a girl can drink. It can also get expensive. I gave up piano completely about 10 years ago, recently I’ve been playing again and kind of having to relearn but it’s coming back to me. But I discovered recently that music makes me really happy so I’m trying to lean into the musical instruments I have access to and singing
Gaming is my hobby. Most games nowadays offer so many features you can purchase (like those gacha games), but I find I have a strong sense of control over my spending on games. Maybe because I know I can be good at it without spending a lot.
Just clicked on and your haircut looks AMAZING!!!! :) love your videos Shawna :)
I just had an “Aha moment.” So I took myself off FB after the election bc it became a bit toxic. I already deleted IG off my phone, and I was wondering why I haven’t felt the desire to shop. I’ve been writing more and working on my college classes.
(I'm not diagnosed, but I suspect I have ADHD). The fixation aspect is the most difficult for me. Ive never been able to sustain a hobby for longer than 2 months 😢 It's something I'm trying to accept about myself/stay aware of. I try not to get involved in hobbies that involve buying lots of special supplies because I inevitably will lose interest and end up with a bunch of junk I dont want anymore.
This is a wonderful thing to know about yourself and gives you something to consider when trying something new. I can relate to what you're saying because I also fixate a lot, and have also taken to enjoying fixations that are free and then moving on.
woah never been this early. perfect timing! your videos are great to watch while i clean :)
My primary hobby is UA-cam but you have to go premium or the ads will send you over the edge.
Writing. Drawing.
I also crochet and knit and book bind, but those all have a shopping component for supplies. Drawing and writing can be done in any cheap af notebook.
I just went back to coloring and really enjoyed it
I have outdoor hobbies, but those also tend to be expensive hobbies cause I have to drive far for it and buy gear (hiking and skiing). I can also only do those on the weekends. 😢
I love puzzles!
Im a writer! I’m also a K-pop stan and it has a huge collection community/aspect, and I definitely see the overconsumption and shopping addiction triggers there. Entertainment companies picked up on it and keep releasing more and more stuff, to the point where it’s simply becoming ridiculous. Typical things to collect are albums (usually big groups have 2-4 versions with different concepts) and photocards, and I love all of it, but luckily I’m stingy enough not to buy mindlessly. Sometimes I just need the serotonin, but I always make sure to only spend money I have for it, and actually skipped joining group orders now because I didn’t (and there’s always so much leftover, that I know I’ll find everything for pretty cheap afterwards).
Hear me out, shopping can definitely be an a hobby. It can even be a career. It’s about restraint, balance, and having a clear plan. Some people hate shopping but they still need clothes, furniture, food, etc. That’s where the pros come in. Some people make a living doing instacart or working as a stylist. Maybe you’re on a tight budget and need to find the best price on everything. That means hours/days/weeks searching out just the right item. I personally love the challenge of tracking down niche items and I’ve had people ask me to find items for them too. It’s the thrill of the hunt for me. Finding a dress worn by an extra in a ten year old movie for example. Or there was a necklace worn in a tv show someone online wanted. She’d looked for over a year, I found it in an afternoon. I love it! So shopping is fine. It’s the unrestrained buying without a plan that’s an issue.
Great listening I have seen some videos with people shopping to the extreme I think to myself how do they afford this it baffles me I think online shopping hasn't helped extreme shopping I went into the store to pick up bodywash and some food for a family member and yes I saw some pretty nail polish it was tempting not to buy a bottle but I have 2 bottles at home
Love the fresh hair! ❤
Love the new sweater!!
At first I thought it was about shopping for hobby items, and I was like, oh no, she's finally calling me out big time! But no, I can still sit through that one quietly pretending that I'm not drowning in fabric and sewing accessories I accumulated when I got into sewing during the pandemic. Shhhh.
I personally never had much issues with shopping... Until corona. I had to move cities right when it started and I got put into a position where I got stuck in a small apartment without being able to meet anyone, and my family was literally on the other side of the world. I started to shop, but also get aggressive with space optimization because that gave me a sense of control and momentum, a way to get novelty into my space. Unfortunately it's a bad habit that persists for now
I’m just starting this video but I feel like hobbies and shopping kind of go together - almost every hobby is pay to play to some degree so I’m not sure shopping is a hobby so much so as the hobby needs to be shopped for in order to participate? I’m not saying over consume, but it seems naive / impossible to not buy a single thing in order to have hobbies, unless that hobby is something like walking (even then - good shoes!)
I think my point is - shopping (for clothes) was a hobby for me for many years, and I’m now deciding I want to have other hobbies (like reading, journaling, sewing) and these hobbies sometimes require buying at least one thing to be able to do it. So because the hobby involves shopping it just seems like I’m adding more shit to the pile of shopping even though it’s for a different reason and it just feels gross so I give up on having and pursuing hobbies. Sigh
@@Aleatoire9 Reading could be free with a library card (unless you’re like me and all your local libraries are in another language 😅). Journaling can be done with a $1 notebook with a regular pen (or even pencil). Try it free or REALLY cheap to see if you like it.
I think reading is probably the easier to manage hobby here, because journaling is also a slippery slope with an entire rabbit hole at the bottom of it. And as for sewing…personally I’m doing everything by hand with just needles and threads. But it is very slow and I totally understand why people want to invest in a sewing machine (could get expensive really quick though. I’ve seen people with lots of different machines for different purposes. Even get them secondhand it’s still an investment/commitment).
Yes, I feel like the only low shopping hobbies are (some) sports or reading if you can limit yourself to your library, libby and KU.
I love, love, love your hair!
your videos keep getting better and better 👏👏
Hi, I feel that you can learn from reading if you choose books that are about things you do not know about. Even some fictional books are based around topics that can challenge your thoughts or feelings. One example is jodi picoults books like my sisters keeper. What would you do if it was you?
I agree that scrolling and shopping are not great. Fab video that highlights the time spent on a hobby that makes me broke. Still buy books but always secondhand or swap with others.
If your a person with problem shopping or just want a hobby that little to zero cost. Rock collecting, Journaling, finger knitting cheap yarn only. Calligraphy start cost can be 10 dollars or less. Depending where you purchase. Quarter collection by state and dates. This is a good hobby if you spend physical cash and get change back. Coloring books from 5 below. Making slime. Diy puzzles you can buy uncovered puzzled and print your favorite photos and glue the whole thing should be under 10 dollars. They usedbti be 4.50 for everything in 2018. Diy stickers with masking tape color pencils or makeres paper less then 5 dollars. Learning code is 100% free all you need is a cell phone, tablet or laptop
Ribbon flowers ribbon cost less the 1 dollars needle and thread and UA-cam
diamond painting, zombie books, sf books, I want to lear latin, etymology is fascinating to me, my biggest hobby though is my dog, I don't know if that is a hobby, but I taught myself to do haircut on her to save money and really love to take her for long walk
I have original stuff that I consider to be more akin to "work," but I'm in the midst of full-blown fan fiction writing joy. So I consider fanfic a hobby. I had written myself into a corner on my original work and I didn't come back to it for years, but then I got an entire series full of ideas watching the Mandalorian. So I'm working on my insanely romantically indulgent (and racy) Mando romance called Aldor's Eye right now. I'm almost done with Part II of Book I (because this thing is gonna be epic). It's nice to write without restraint, which is why I consider the fanfic a hobby. I also do a lot of junk journaling, sometimes cross-stitch, and I make all my own fragrances and skin care.
But I will echo a few of the other comments. It's super easy to get into massive consumer insanity with things like junk journaling and cross stitch. Also DIY'ing skin care can be expensive too. (Although it's way cheaper than buying my skincare in the long run.) I've finally made myself stop buying, and now focus on using my massive collection of supplies.
Ok this is NOT a call out all, but when you said, so sincerely, that there were times you only had $12 in your bank account I chuckled. Specifically because I am chronically broke and living paycheck to paycheck with massive credit card debt due to poor financial decisions made by me and my husband.
I had $1 in my account for like the 5 days leading up to payday 🙃
So on the one hand I’m like girl $12?? That’s a Starbucks on my way to work lmao. But on the other hand, yeah I get it. It is extremely rough when you literally have no safety net. I get that that’s the takeaway here, I just find it kind of funny from the perspective of someone with $1 in their bank account 😹
would love to see some reading/book content 🙏❤️
Hobby lobby!! The irony! Lol
Love the camera angle!
I couldn't help but notice your beautiful sweater and earrings. Do you mind sharing where you got them just *in case* I need to shop for these items. 😉😆 Jokes aside, great video!
I shop as a hobby and it is fulfilling. but i'm big into thrifting and I like finding unique things and I'm a tricky size, so that would be why.I'm a fashion girlie. nxt year I'm gonna try a low buy year. I'm out of school, all debt is paid off, and I've reached a level with my sewing that I can start making my own clothes. Ive got a list of at least 4 costumes and outfits I wanna make. I chose a low buy year bcuz I go to comic book conventions and I'm gonna want to buy stuff there.
As others pointed out it's disappointing how many hobbies have been linked if not been taking over by hauls and shopping encouragement. As someone that really loves make up and have loved it long before beauty gurus took their first steps out of the cave into the sun I hate it. I love GRWMs and tutorials and I even enjoy faves and make up news BUT I hate that everything is starting from the assumption that I have money I urgently want to get rid of 🙄
I have been taking beginner dance classes with one of my friends. As a kid I really enjoyed skiing, but it's too expensive of a hobby for me to participate in right now.
When I went on a no buy earlier this yeah I threw myself into ballet because I desperately needed a distraction… only to end up spending $60 on classes each week.
"Reading is not a productive hobby" Yes it is! It's incredibly good for your brain! 🧠
Writing community doesn't exist. Everyone is so competitive and selfcentered... so, no. It is sad most of the hobbies can lead to more consumerism, a lot of fandoms, for example, mesure your fan quality in terms of the quantity of items related to the topic you get. So... you actually need to be pretty mindful.
I’ve had to learn that I just despise making things with a passion. I run tabletop games and take ballet classes, but I spend a great deal of money on buying those classes and leotards and new pointe shoes.
I have yet to find another hobby besides shopping that gets me out of the house, can be done last minute and pretty much any time, and has the social element of interacting with other people. I go to museums but there’s no interaction with others, and honestly I love having something tangible at the end of the day that serves as something to show for my efforts.
@@lexiemartin8669 ohhh a library is a good option! They do so much more then just books! Get to know the librarians, use the public computers, etc. check with your library first, but mine lets us bring closed drinks into the building. Sometimes you just gotta strike up the conversation first, as most people aren't for a variety of rasons. Don't be scared! Plus you get to take a book, and if they to different project "classes" you'll be able to take a thing home.
@ thank you for the suggestion; I’m actually getting my masters in library studies!
Sadly my closest library is only open 9-5 M-F, which is when I’m working. I’ve tried going into other locations on a Saturday and striking up a conversation, but people look at me like I have two heads, or they’re irritated I’m there.
The classes all tend to be about social services or childcare, which, while important for the community, are not relevant to me.
I also wish it got my body moving more. When I’m shopping, I’m basically on an extended walk through cute neighborhoods in my city. I get to get dressed up, take the time to do my hair and makeup, and move from place to place, chatting with people while I’m there, stopping for snacks or lunch. I get to feel special and important when I’m in stores, and because I’m doing something entirely unproductive, it feels luxurious. I get to interact with salespeople, other shoppers, people at cafes… and the more positive interactions I have, and the more I buy, the more sparkly I feel.
I’ve been trying for a year now to find something that gives me a sparkly feeling and haven’t found anything yet. I was on a no buy for the first half of 2024 but then I fell off the wagon hard because without that sparkle, nothing seemed to really have a point.
Don’t get me wrong, I love playing dnd with my friends online, and writing and ballet, but nothing else has made me feel sparkly.
@@lexiemartin8669 Gosh, I feel you on that wanting to get your body moving and looking cute part of shopping. I had to quit nearly ALL my hobbies due to a sudden chronic illness a couple of years ago. Earlier I had started minimalism which made me so miserable after getting ill because I had lost the hobbies but also wouldn't allow myself to really find new ones to do at home since they'd need equipment.
Now I'm a bit more relaxed with buying stuff and have a few at home hobbies but I so dearly miss the active and social aspect of my sporty hobbies. Now I can choose between going for a walk in the same nighborhood every single day or to go (window) shopping. From a dopamine perspective, the choice is quite obvious... I think I could overcome this phase of high shopping if I had more friends who were willing to spend time but sadly no.
@ fully agree on the friends thing. All of my friends are online. I work three jobs while getting my masters, all of which revolve around serving other people in some way. I don’t have a romantic partner. I’m not lonely, but I lack pretty much any external validation. So far, the only way I’ve found to get that external validation is shipping.