I find taking them outside works great for us too. My son isn't 2 yet, but he was a very fussy baby. Once spring hit, we went for walks, and played at the park more. His personality changed so much just going outside for an hour or 2 a day.
I'm passionate about parenting so here are what I know and have not put all into practice because my girl is 13 months and some I have because my brother was 14 years younger. In case it helps: 1) Don't - I think it's very psychological with the "Don'ts". Like if I say "Don't think about a pink elephant." and you are most likely to do. It's good to tell them what they should do instead, like what you said. For example, instead of saying don't touch the glasses in the departmental store, I'll say let's keep our hands by our sides. 2) Sharing - I think just like us adults, sometimes we don't want to share our "toys" UNTIL we are done. I think it is great when a child CHOOSES to share instead of MADE to share because then there is less drama and it's genuine. I think saying to the child wanting the toy, "You can play with it when he/she is done playing with it.". It takes pressure off the child who is playing with it and more likely, they will give it up sooner. 3) Punishment - I understand that when they freak out, it is because they themselves are overwhelmed or maybe in your case, imitating baby 😆 so saying they should go aside (instead of locked in a room) but being open if they want a hug (IN MY OPINION), may be a better option so they don't feel like they are not loved when they freak out. - NO JUDGEMENTS because I am not there yet! Just what I hope to do 😊 4) Positive reinforcement - This one is something I did a lot with my brother when he was young but there is a down side to it. We don't want them doing things to please us. Whether eating or drawing.. so the cheering part..I'm not sure heheh Maybe something like "I'm glad you are enjoying your meal." takes the pressure off to eat to please and at the same time showing our authentic feelings. Well, that was long and only possible with my 13 month old napping on my back in the carrier. So, I hope this helps you and anyone reading! Mamas! You rock! 😄
I have a 2.5 year old and I just hear Janet Lansbury's "no bad kids" again and again (it's an audio book about 3 h long 🙈😂) but I love her practical advice and I just think it works great with my daughter who has really gotten big into tantrums in the last 3 weeks.. and I am pregnant with a baby boy in November so it has been hard. That's why I searched for some help how to handle these big emotions.. it's basically no punishment but firm rules and natural consequences and that stuff. "If you throw food, your meaning you're done and meal time is over". "If you won't put on your pyjamas now I won't have time for a book/play whatever so I am gonna help now." This kind of stuff. Helped me a lot. The best Tipp for me personally was to react before I am annoyed. Because it is much easier to be calm and collected when I am not already upset and trying to give her the 3. warning and she just ignores me or keeps doing (or not doing) whatever she or I wants. So I give her one or two options (you want to put on this jacket or that) and than a warning what will happen if it's going on like this (we have to go outside with the dog. I will get dressed and choose a jacket for you if you don't choose one now) and then I follow threw and put her in her clothes 😂🙈 before I waited and waited and waited for her to be ready.. almost 1 or 1.5 hours sometimes. Now she melted down 2 weeks everyday before going with the dog and now it's fine. She knows we go either way. And it's much more fun without crying the whole time. Hope that helps.. ❤️💕 love from Austria
it sounds like you're nailing it tbh. All the things you describe really align with most gentle parenting (non-punitive based) approaches, the only differences being I think most gentle parenting don't isolate the child but considering you're getting on his level and explaining the boundary to him first and this is working for you I'd say keep going. Same for the feeding approach as well. Such a good role model for mums out there!
I was going to write the same comment. We do therapeutic parenting due to our children’s situation and it sounds a lot like what you do except the timeout 😊
All you had to say was amazing !! I'm that kind of mom too figure it out as we go but happy to hear advice especially thru UA-cam from other moms like you!
“He’s the KINDEST tiger” omg 😂🥰 this endorsement of Daniel Tiger was so pure & already spoke to me even though I haven’t given birth to our little boy yet.
Wow. Wilson sounds exactly like my son! he's 2 and 2 months. And the way we discipline is exactly as you've mentioned in this vid. It works for us so we're happy. Totally agree with taking him out to the park or for a walk, he comes back calm and a totally different kid. Lol
OH MY GOD... The WIGGLES! I find myself having to spell it out to hubby because if I don't, my almost two-year-old will grab the remote and ask for the little blighters. Why haven't they made any new episodes? Are there therapy groups for Wiggles-dependency?
My little boy is not 2 yet but ooof the tantrums are HERE!!! I agree about the food…that’s actually a great reminder because we are not good at snacks around here and I think 99% of the time he would love one😂
Super loved this video! It was absolutely helpful for me, even if my son is only 14 months old, but I feel like he is already is in his " terrific two" phase. 🤭 🤭
My 10 month old throws fits. He is very hard headed already. He will listen to me say no and do it. I spank him when I’ve told him a few times and he seems not to care 🙄 my husband and I have another on the way and I would love to teach him more about listening to mommy. I’ll keep in mind more snacks.
I don't think 10 months old can truly understand the word no. They are still brand new to the world and trying to understand boundaries and test things. They have no idea the concept of danger or that things can break. So I would think that punishment of any form but especially physical punishment for that would not be appropriate. Maybe better to just say a firm "No" and distract or show him what he CAN do might help him to learn better
Awesome vlog ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️spanking with wooden spoon 🥄 works well ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️do. The. Parenting tag. On UA-cam 2021. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️parenting tag. UA-cam ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I find taking them outside works great for us too. My son isn't 2 yet, but he was a very fussy baby. Once spring hit, we went for walks, and played at the park more. His personality changed so much just going outside for an hour or 2 a day.
I'm passionate about parenting so here are what I know and have not put all into practice because my girl is 13 months and some I have because my brother was 14 years younger. In case it helps:
1) Don't - I think it's very psychological with the "Don'ts". Like if I say "Don't think about a pink elephant." and you are most likely to do. It's good to tell them what they should do instead, like what you said. For example, instead of saying don't touch the glasses in the departmental store, I'll say let's keep our hands by our sides.
2) Sharing - I think just like us adults, sometimes we don't want to share our "toys" UNTIL we are done. I think it is great when a child CHOOSES to share instead of MADE to share because then there is less drama and it's genuine. I think saying to the child wanting the toy, "You can play with it when he/she is done playing with it.". It takes pressure off the child who is playing with it and more likely, they will give it up sooner.
3) Punishment - I understand that when they freak out, it is because they themselves are overwhelmed or maybe in your case, imitating baby 😆 so saying they should go aside (instead of locked in a room) but being open if they want a hug (IN MY OPINION), may be a better option so they don't feel like they are not loved when they freak out. - NO JUDGEMENTS because I am not there yet! Just what I hope to do 😊
4) Positive reinforcement - This one is something I did a lot with my brother when he was young but there is a down side to it. We don't want them doing things to please us. Whether eating or drawing.. so the cheering part..I'm not sure heheh Maybe something like "I'm glad you are enjoying your meal." takes the pressure off to eat to please and at the same time showing our authentic feelings.
Well, that was long and only possible with my 13 month old napping on my back in the carrier. So, I hope this helps you and anyone reading! Mamas! You rock! 😄
This is all really good thank you ❤️
@@jess_hover 😊😘
really awesome parenting advice, thank you!
I have a 2.5 year old and I just hear Janet Lansbury's "no bad kids" again and again (it's an audio book about 3 h long 🙈😂) but I love her practical advice and I just think it works great with my daughter who has really gotten big into tantrums in the last 3 weeks.. and I am pregnant with a baby boy in November so it has been hard. That's why I searched for some help how to handle these big emotions.. it's basically no punishment but firm rules and natural consequences and that stuff. "If you throw food, your meaning you're done and meal time is over". "If you won't put on your pyjamas now I won't have time for a book/play whatever so I am gonna help now." This kind of stuff. Helped me a lot. The best Tipp for me personally was to react before I am annoyed. Because it is much easier to be calm and collected when I am not already upset and trying to give her the 3. warning and she just ignores me or keeps doing (or not doing) whatever she or I wants. So I give her one or two options (you want to put on this jacket or that) and than a warning what will happen if it's going on like this (we have to go outside with the dog. I will get dressed and choose a jacket for you if you don't choose one now) and then I follow threw and put her in her clothes 😂🙈 before I waited and waited and waited for her to be ready.. almost 1 or 1.5 hours sometimes. Now she melted down 2 weeks everyday before going with the dog and now it's fine. She knows we go either way. And it's much more fun without crying the whole time.
Hope that helps.. ❤️💕 love from Austria
Thanks for sharing your tips!
it sounds like you're nailing it tbh. All the things you describe really align with most gentle parenting (non-punitive based) approaches, the only differences being I think most gentle parenting don't isolate the child but considering you're getting on his level and explaining the boundary to him first and this is working for you I'd say keep going. Same for the feeding approach as well. Such a good role model for mums out there!
Thank you so much ❤️ I’ll consider that!
I was going to write the same comment. We do therapeutic parenting due to our children’s situation and it sounds a lot like what you do except the timeout 😊
All you had to say was amazing !! I'm that kind of mom too figure it out as we go but happy to hear advice especially thru UA-cam from other moms like you!
“He’s the KINDEST tiger” omg 😂🥰 this endorsement of Daniel Tiger was so pure & already spoke to me even though I haven’t given birth to our little boy yet.
Hahaha i am a huge fan 🐯
Thanks for keeping it real
My husband gets suuuper hangry. Like shouty angry in the hour until dinner. I’ve noticed our son is similar 😂
Wow. Wilson sounds exactly like my son! he's 2 and 2 months. And the way we discipline is exactly as you've mentioned in this vid. It works for us so we're happy. Totally agree with taking him out to the park or for a walk, he comes back calm and a totally different kid. Lol
This is very helpful❤️ Love your parenting strategies and thank you for the tv show recommendations!
Ahh my son just turned two! I relate to so much of this and your style. 💛
OH MY GOD... The WIGGLES! I find myself having to spell it out to hubby because if I don't, my almost two-year-old will grab the remote and ask for the little blighters. Why haven't they made any new episodes? Are there therapy groups for Wiggles-dependency?
Thank you Jess!! ❤️
My little boy is not 2 yet but ooof the tantrums are HERE!!! I agree about the food…that’s actually a great reminder because we are not good at snacks around here and I think 99% of the time he would love one😂
Really helpful! Thanks for the tips 😄 I definitely need more parenting advice lol
Super loved this video! It was absolutely helpful for me, even if my son is only 14 months old, but I feel like he is already is in his " terrific two" phase. 🤭 🤭
Jess; definition of sarcasm but funny af lol
Love your living room 😉
“RUN” i thought of that more than once but for myself lol jk.
3 was way more difficult for all 3 of my kids than 2 ever was. I’ve never understood “the terrible twos”
My 10 month old throws fits. He is very hard headed already. He will listen to me say no and do it. I spank him when I’ve told him a few times and he seems not to care 🙄 my husband and I have another on the way and I would love to teach him more about listening to mommy. I’ll keep in mind more snacks.
I don't think 10 months old can truly understand the word no. They are still brand new to the world and trying to understand boundaries and test things. They have no idea the concept of danger or that things can break. So I would think that punishment of any form but especially physical punishment for that would not be appropriate. Maybe better to just say a firm "No" and distract or show him what he CAN do might help him to learn better
Awesome vlog ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️spanking with wooden spoon 🥄 works well ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️do. The. Parenting tag. On UA-cam 2021. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️parenting tag. UA-cam ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️